I didn't feel harshness coming from you not even once. Sometimes when I'm listening and resonating with what you're saying the way you look into the camera I feel like we're actually having a conversation. It's a little odd but yet comforting. Keep up the good work I'm learning all kinds of stuff!
Thank you Kenny for being so honest and open with all your hurt. It takes courage. Your book… it saved me. Everyone needs to get it and read it. It was months of therapy all rolled into one book. You are a treasure.
I just found you today! I've listened to several videos and am loving them. I'm going through divorce (28 yrs of marriage) , death (suicide)of my father, and had to place my Mom into a nursing home. Quite a lot over the last two years. What you're saying makes sense. I know we carry so much pain and expectations from our childhood into our adult relationships. I'll keep listening! Thank you 💕
Boy I can sure see where I was manipulative and how I also kept score..... Unconsciously I was thinking I was doing but I can see my whole life riddled through this whole thing.....thank you Kenny, it's hard to swallow,but it truth and freeing
I love your “direct harshness” this is how I communicate as well. I’ve been told many times I need to be “softer”. I usually just say I don’t sugarcoat things just get to the point…..
The relationship do's were just as illuminating as the don''t's. And your discussion and explanation of your own imperfections imparts courage and allowed me to hear more of the message. Thanks for this great video Kenny.
Awesome talk. So glad I stumbled on your messages. Boy you hit so many of my issues. 2 divorces and now I’m learning. Thanks Kenny. Love your setting on background too.
He is an excellent dresser. Coming from an Italian there's no better compliment to be had. I actually found him because of the way he dressed but what he speaks on.....another level of beauty. Honest direct and vulnerability keeps me here
Thank so much for sharing your topics with us 💯 Since I've walked away from all their TOXIC Behavior. That was the most hardest thing that I had Done in my lifetime! I've found PEACE & HAPPINESS IN MY LIFE 💖✌💖 😊
I love your humility Kenny and your delivery. I’m 73 and interested in what you have to say, even if I don’t always agree with everything. One of the best life lessons is after all to learn to agree to disagree - right? I’ve had an interesting life with many life lessons especially as I have been married three times to three totally different partners. I wish I could have had access to your life lessons when I was young but of course there were no podcasts, videos, social media and the like. People are so lucky these days to have access to so much knowledge at their fingertips. I shall watch all of your pods with great interest - thank you for your inherent kindness.
Bro, dude, you were spot on. That last paragraph you expressed was pure help gold. I have to write it down. My life is no example of my putting the healthy rel boundaries in action. My boundaries are swiss cheese, and they fold like a wet cardboard box the second anyone gives me attention and time.
I love your honesty and the way you present yourself. You get your point across kindly. If you're ever blunt, you immediately catch yourself and follow up with compassion. That's so cool because it makes you human instead of robotic. I also love how you share your own experiences. It makes advice easier to accept.
Thank you a much. Have been doing a lot of work on myself, however… I’m dating a man and I have found myself described in some of the don’t list. I am extremely afraid of saying no and placing boundaries I am a yes person when in a romantic relationship. It is painful to realize how much I have put up with to feel love and accepted. I’m am so happy I found your channel. I’m now optimistic that I can love myself in this current relationship or open to the possibility that it may be I the next. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your experience. I wish you the best Kenny!!
Wow Kenny ! Thank you for your vulnerability at the end exclaiming why you may come across kind of harsh sometimes. You are seriously amazing!!! Gd bless you and I’m so grateful for you! ❤
Mr. Weiss, you have helped me so much with your wise videos. I have a successful relationship with my avoidant partner. After 3 years, he is saying “I love you,” MORE THAN ONCE! I didn’t think it would ever happen, but that was okay because, thanks to you, I understood why he was so emotionally distant. I love him too!
Hello! I've very recently found you. I have just ordered your second book. Your perspective is very interesting indeed. I like how you focus on how its all about us at the end of the day. A friend one told me..."everytime we point our finger at another, 3 of our fingers are pointing back at us!"
Good morning from theUK. Now that is interesting. The fact that you have replied. Did you personally reply or was it a member of your 'team'? If in fact you have one? I am really big on replying if I receive a msg from someone, its very important to me. Even if someone replies with 'pls dont msg me again.' If I dont take that on board and continue to msg and then that person does not reply, fair enough. I really am quite fascinated by your content Kenny, if I may address you by your name, quite fascinated. For as long as I can remember I have been telling my 3 sons when discussing the bully/victim dynamic, that both parties are at play here...BOTH. In my extensive research and copious amount of watching videos/podcasts etc I havent until YOU seen/heard someone talking about BOTH sides as you clearly do. Your 'self deception/self denial ' running themes ON THE MONEY. I have progressed on my own journey to this place and it is FASCINATING. Thank you very much. Much love :)
Your kind of honesty is not harsh it's what it takes to get through to us that are in denial !!!! When my husband went into alcohol rehab in the 1980's i was telling the intake person everything he did (of course) and she quietly listened and when I was finished she quietly asked me ". Do you drink too? " I said yes but not like he does. She then set off a bomb in my realizations she said " ...and you allowed him to do all of this to you and you were sober ". I literally felt like my whole body had been connected to an electrical line ! I was finally awake ! Ya got to get their attention !!!!
I’m so glad you changed your mind and you’re still here, doing so much good. I appreciate that you’re honest, direct, and relatable. You’re very wise. I think you’re more of an expert than any mental health professional I’ve ever heard. I’ve been studying psychology for years and you surprise me with new and important things all the time! You’re awesome, Kenny.
Yeeesss. You do a great job. This is all correct, after awareness and after this painful seeing and feelings and after healing, life is much improving….fully agree! And you get immun to abuse as well, you even see the helplessness and sadness behind their aggressions and blamings….and you see the lack of own boundaries and your own self betrayal. Bravo, I find you communicate that difficult topic very well!
OMG!!! I am so grateful to see your videos. They are helping in my road to recovery. Just about everything you talk about is what I am intending to fix in my life. I will continue to see your eye opening and insightful videos. Thank you so much for doing what you do for people like us💚
I have listened to several of your videos and think you are a great communicator. I bought your book and look forward to doing the work for my healing.
That was so awesome 👏 You are not unkind. Hope you know that I can feel your compassion and love in your words. Thank you so much for sharing your heart!
Dear Kenny, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for being a voice in the wilderness that my life journey sorely needed. Reluctantly starting the work. Ordered your book. Thanks for the life raft.
You are so welcome. Here are a couple more resources to help you on your journey. The first is a link to my free online magazine site it’s filled with solutions to help you www.thegreatnessuniversity.com/
And here is a link to my master class, your journey to Marshall Mastery. I now give that out for free to help people start their journey. thegreatnessu.com/p/your-journey-to-emotional-mastery
Dear Kenny, you are so right. We are with you. 🙂 Your kindness can been seen and heard already. Thank so much. 🙂❤️ Breaking my codependency for 2 years, yes, it is journey - and it's worth it. 🙂 Have a nice day! 🙂
Ordered your book. Thank you for sharing your hard-earned wisdom. Although im already far along on the journey to myself, your way of communicating the issues is very very helpful on the last few miles.
Half this info is spot on for me, I am still dealing with these things, crying over them, and realizing I need to keep working on these things! My biggest issue right now is believing that I am lovable. I have several affirmations lists to work on daily, but the truth is, I still believe I am far from lovable. Thank you for your videos, they are helping a lot!! Need to find the crux to the false belief so that I can be free from it.
And I can’t blame my parents, I know they grew up in abusive homes in the Name of Jesus, and my grandparents fell upon hard times growing up, it’s generational.
@@masteringfibromyalgia it’s never about blaming parents it’s about getting into reality that because we are human and therefore imperfect, our parents make mistakes and those mistakes leave wounds in us.
I appreciate your help and your candor. Very informative. I thought about this and your correct. Thank you for being able to share even against the scrutiny of others. Stay strong knowing your helping . From Montana with much love.
Another great video. Candid and honest. If you watch yourself you will see the two tones of speech you have. The "aggressive" and then the calm and collected which is more kind and loving. As a speaker, you are gentle and caring. You are elegant like gabor mate. I think because you are so honest about yourself that it garners trust from those who are seeking out how to heal. Your videos are heartfelt and that's what makes them connective as well as resonating. Great videos great demonstration of vulnerability and honesty. And that's what we all need from eachother 🥰
Thanks for your directness, some of us need it because that's how we are ourselves ... don't pussy-foot with us (lol!). Thanks also for putting what I already knew and was questioning into perspective and for providing a framework. Onward and upward 🙃
Oh....Kenny Weiss....what are you doing? I see you totally different.....strange ?¿ Strange Good... whatever it is....your doing,with your looks, It's looking.....WIESS.... WOW !!! it's your.... journey too. Crying 😂 again....Thank You for being here with me...❤️🩹 I feel privileged and Lucky for being here see you on yours as well
Thank you for being so passionate, it rings true. There are so many parallels in my life to yours and to so many that I see about me. It's so relieving to know that it's not only me, not only my parents who were traumatized, it's literally everyone! I've looked back, gotten help, and have taken responsibility over my life and now I am moving forward; it's made all the difference! You should make a podcast on online dating dos and don'ts as it is the wild west out there.
You are so welcome. Thank you for the suggestion. It would be a pretty short video though..I would just say, it's a waste fo time. don't even get on the sites or apps. ;-)
Dang it, you're right. Fabulous video, thank you, Kenny. You are not too direct, it makes me, at least, take the message deeper in. More passionate and therefore better effect on the listener.
OMG!!! I'm crying and feel.... everything is going to be okay.🥲 You are one of a kind Kenny Weiss !!! perfectly Imperfect... it's changing my life....to perfectly Imperfect 😭 I still have lots to do,but it's..... making me feel like I've collected some tools....to lead me down the road that I wanna call my own Journey and I'm feeling like enjoying the SHIT outta it...LOL
It is isn't it.....feels good.... GREAT even. I have put alot of me behind what I thought I wanted, And thought I couldn't live without,and came to a realization after your video.... I don't think it is love....I don't think I even know what healthy love feels like. It's the lonely me that has retried 3 x in a 5-6 yr span, going back on 3 different ocations thinking that it's not that bad, he's worth it.... that is just enabling him to disrespect....not only me but himself as well(. He would never see it in that way....not only self sabotaging but feeling like life is being pulled from my own existence. How could I let this happen to me... Crazy shit !!! So I think I'm finally seeing the insanity of the relation that was. Thanks to your words....it doesn't hurt me like it did. I've never felt like taking my own life ever....my dog helped me alot too... with the lonely~ness. So I feel I need to check into your monthly fee for some of your insite on what or why I've brought a very tramatic event in my life recently.
@@christineablair5887 Sounds like you’ve done some great soul-searching and acquired some really good awareness. I’d be honored to help you if you decide to join the monthly private group.
I haven't felt like this in a long while....I put my own shit on the way back burner, I can't blame him for the feelings of worthless,not good enough, not loveable.. I put that in my head. WOW WTF!?! Well I have to say I feel finally I'm stepping past the repeating of insanity. Thank You Sooo much, I'm honored to have you in my VERY OWN perfectly Imperfect journey. 💋
What if you start your relationship with all the “do’s” ( after healing from a narrasist ) but you realize you’ve now married someone that lies over ridiculous things ? All my “do’s” have now raced back to “ don’t” . It’s so frustrating.
Thank you ! I ordered it ,looking forward to reading your journey..i believe it can open doors for me..this emotional road has been a jig saw puzzle to me ...tx again .im also a subscriber to your channel
I am not so sure if it's true what he says. That the partner is not responsible for meeting your needs and wants. What else should someone do for a relationship than meeting some of the needs and wants of the partner?! What is the reason to be in a relationship with a specific person other than being able to meet some of their needs and wants? I had an agreement with my ex, that he would do certain things in the relationship. He wanted three children, I gave birth to three children, he promised he would do some chores and spend some time with the children, than he doesn't do it at all. I asked him why he doesn't participate, he told me he didn't know it would be so much work. I was completely not only left alone, but he finally attempted to destroy me so he could look as the better parent to the children.
Looks like someone better be in perfect mental health to even start looking for a relationship. The only thing is, if someone was perfect, they wouldn’t need anyone. 🤔
When we do and don't really want to but feel guilty for not doing so to do it..what does that mean I think my parents have a crappy relationship and l see so much of me doing the same ..l hate it ... is there a way to get more information... lm limited in funds I feel l do and want that back and still don't get it lm so upset ....
I understand. I have a ton of resources on my website for people of all types of financial backgrounds. Why don't you check it out and see which one works best for you? kennyweiss.net/
Don't be too modest Kenny. You have nothing to apologise about. I want hard facts and not to be handled with kid gloves. Apart from what you share you are turning out to be my fashion icon Kenny.
How does one not have blame for parents and know how to get better l hate my child hood ... l want to do better ... alot of don't l don't like on myself at all
I think you would really benefit from my masterclass, Your Journey to Emotional Mastery. It's where I teach people the skills to master their worst day cycles. Here's the link if this seems like something you'd be interested in- thegreatnessu.com/p/the-complete-emotional-mastery-method
I just came across this video and these resources do interest me now, and I am planing to get some of them. I hope that you have found solutions. My thoughts are that anyone whose mind is constantly working on past relationships are free to leave the person/s, for however long or far they need to go to become strong and independent. Two examples came to mind from scripture. For a grown woman, Psalm 45:10 and for a grown man, Genesis 2:24. Something I heard about this life is to look at it as a classroom, not a courtroom. I can think of some parents as more like ill, mean, poor, or uneducated teachers, who have acted more like judges rather than patient teachers which is their responsibility and privilege. They are all teachers nonetheless. However, as an adult I don't have to stay in that classroom or courtroom (internally or externally). I can go to other "classrooms" to learn what I need. Most parents are doing their best, even if it is really bad. "Father forgive them; for they know not what they do." (Luke 23:34) Jesus Christ kept himself free internally by praying and forgiving while he was being nailed unjustly to a cross. He committed everything toxic and unjust to God. He is our only perfect example. Jesus has the only perfect Father, and He has a perfect plan for our redemption, through Christ His only begotten Son, centered on His cross and payment for our sins and shortcomings by His perfect blood. God sees it all. If we believe, we follow His example by picking up our own cross daily. One of the toughest situations (crosses) is when a child needing tender love and good guidance is getting the opposite, especially if it is purposeful harm. Sometimes the parent means to teach humility, but it is hard to receive because of the illness, impatience, and imperfections of the parent, and the hypocrisy. Parents who do not care how their children turn out or who are purposefully turning out evil people are around too. To be lead astray and become evil and unforgiving intentionally through bad parenting has damnable consequences for parents (Matthew 18:6) and for children (Matthew 6:15). Forgiveness is something we ask from God the Father because only He can forgive and pardon. Understand that forgiveness does not mean accepting or enabling evil. Forgiveness does not mean pardon. Forgiveness through goodwill to self and others brings freedom not new burdens. Forgiveness means coming to terms with the harm done and then moving forward in a better way, no longer acting the part of victim. Unforgiveness leads to damnation because it does so much more harm to the unforgiving person, making him/her worse, etc. We need perseverance in prayer for people. Even from hypocrites, it is possible to look back and be thankful for any good they taught, but leave the bad examples out so that it doesn't become part of us (Matthew 23:3). "In your patience possess ye your souls."(Luke 21:19)
I didn't feel harshness coming from you not even once. Sometimes when I'm listening and resonating with what you're saying the way you look into the camera I feel like we're actually having a conversation. It's a little odd but yet comforting. Keep up the good work I'm learning all kinds of stuff!
That is good to hear. I try my hardest to feel as though I am having a conversation with each individual viewer.
Thank you Kenny for being so honest and open with all your hurt. It takes courage. Your book… it saved me. Everyone needs to get it and read it. It was months of therapy all rolled into one book. You are a treasure.
Thank you so much! Happy to hear your journey is improving. ;-)
Yes ,I could never understand,why I relieved my childhood trauma over and over again, 😢
I just found you today! I've listened to several videos and am loving them. I'm going through divorce (28 yrs of marriage) , death (suicide)of my father, and had to place my Mom into a nursing home. Quite a lot over the last two years. What you're saying makes sense. I know we carry so much pain and expectations from our childhood into our adult relationships. I'll keep listening! Thank you 💕
Boy I can sure see where I was manipulative and how I also kept score..... Unconsciously I was thinking I was doing but I can see my whole life riddled through this whole thing.....thank you Kenny, it's hard to swallow,but it truth and freeing
I love your “direct harshness” this is how I communicate as well. I’ve been told many times I need to be “softer”. I usually just say I don’t sugarcoat things just get to the point…..
The relationship do's were just as illuminating as the don''t's. And your discussion and explanation of your own imperfections imparts courage and allowed me to hear more of the message. Thanks for this great video Kenny.
Awesome talk. So glad I stumbled on your messages. Boy you hit so many of my issues. 2 divorces and now I’m learning. Thanks Kenny.
Love your setting on background too.
Happy to hear it helped you. ;-)
Thank you so much for your videos! Not harsh, but passionate. I’ve learned a lot.
Thanks for sharing these helpful insights. And love the colors!
Thank you and you are welcome
He is an excellent dresser. Coming from an Italian there's no better compliment to be had. I actually found him because of the way he dressed but what he speaks on.....another level of beauty. Honest direct and vulnerability keeps me here
Thank so much for sharing your topics with us 💯 Since I've walked away from all their TOXIC Behavior. That was the most hardest thing that I had Done in my lifetime! I've found PEACE & HAPPINESS IN MY LIFE 💖✌💖 😊
I love your humility Kenny and your delivery. I’m 73 and interested in what you have to say, even if I don’t always agree with everything. One of the best life lessons is after all to learn to agree to disagree - right? I’ve had an interesting life with many life lessons especially as I have been married three times to three totally different partners. I wish I could have had access to your life lessons when I was young but of course there were no podcasts, videos, social media and the like. People are so lucky these days to have access to so much knowledge at their fingertips. I shall watch all of your pods with great interest - thank you for your inherent kindness.
Bro, dude, you were spot on. That last paragraph you expressed was pure help gold. I have to write it down. My life is no example of my putting the healthy rel boundaries in action. My boundaries are swiss cheese, and they fold like a wet cardboard box the second anyone gives me attention and time.
I love your honesty and the way you present yourself. You get your point across kindly. If you're ever blunt, you immediately catch yourself and follow up with compassion. That's so cool because it makes you human instead of robotic. I also love how you share your own experiences. It makes advice easier to accept.
Thank you
Day 10 since ghosting the ex. I'm done staring at the problem and ready to admire the solution. Thank you for focusing on what's important.
Thank you a much. Have been doing a lot of work on myself, however… I’m dating a man and I have found myself described in some of the don’t list. I am extremely afraid of saying no and placing boundaries I am a yes person when in a romantic relationship. It is painful to realize how much I have put up with to feel love and accepted. I’m am so happy I found your channel. I’m now optimistic that I can love myself in this current relationship or open to the possibility that it may be I the next. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your experience. I wish you the best Kenny!!
Wow Kenny ! Thank you for your vulnerability at the end exclaiming why you may come across kind of harsh sometimes. You are seriously amazing!!! Gd bless you and I’m so grateful for you! ❤
Mr. Weiss, you have helped me so much with your wise videos. I have a successful relationship with my avoidant partner. After 3 years, he is saying “I love you,” MORE THAN ONCE! I didn’t think it would ever happen, but that was okay because, thanks to you, I understood why he was so emotionally distant. I love him too!
Great job!
Hello! I've very recently found you. I have just ordered your second book. Your perspective is very interesting indeed. I like how you focus on how its all about us at the end of the day. A friend one told me..."everytime we point our finger at another, 3 of our fingers are pointing back at us!"
Good morning from theUK. Now that is interesting. The fact that you have replied. Did you personally reply or was it a member of your 'team'? If in fact you have one? I am really big on replying if I receive a msg from someone, its very important to me. Even if someone replies with 'pls dont msg me again.' If I dont take that on board and continue to msg and then that person does not reply, fair enough. I really am quite fascinated by your content Kenny, if I may address you by your name, quite fascinated. For as long as I can remember I have been telling my 3 sons when discussing the bully/victim dynamic, that both parties are at play here...BOTH. In my extensive research and copious amount of watching videos/podcasts etc I havent until YOU seen/heard someone talking about BOTH sides as you clearly do. Your 'self deception/self denial ' running themes ON THE MONEY. I have progressed on my own journey to this place and it is FASCINATING. Thank you very much. Much love :)
Your kind of honesty is not harsh it's what it takes to get through to us that are in denial !!!!
When my husband went into alcohol rehab in the 1980's i was telling the intake person everything he did (of course) and she quietly listened and when I was finished she quietly asked me ". Do you drink too? " I said yes but not like he does. She then set off a bomb in my realizations she said " ...and you allowed him to do all of this to you and you were sober ". I literally felt like my whole body had been connected to an electrical line !
I was finally awake !
Ya got to get their attention !!!!
By the way he passed away 2 years ago with well over 30 years of sobriety ❤️
Beautifully said 👏👏 thank you for sharing
Dang it, you’re right! Lol, I don’t find you harsh at all! And it’s important that we admit our failures and accept them as they are.
It has been my experience that’s the only way to find peace
Your heart is in the right place. You are a tremendous teacher mostly because you also walked the path of abuse
Thank you
Great stuff, Kenny. I so appreciate your authenticity.
I appreciate that!
Thank you, for your podcast. It really hit home. You hit on every point.
Thanks for listening
I’m so glad you changed your mind and you’re still here, doing so much good. I appreciate that you’re honest, direct, and relatable. You’re very wise. I think you’re more of an expert than any mental health professional I’ve ever heard. I’ve been studying psychology for years and you surprise me with new and important things all the time! You’re awesome, Kenny.
I’m happy I’m still here as well. And thank you so much for the compliments. Warm portly I’m glad that you learn things that help you😁
Yeeesss. You do a great job. This is all correct, after awareness and after this painful seeing and feelings and after healing, life is much improving….fully agree! And you get immun to abuse as well, you even see the helplessness and sadness behind their aggressions and blamings….and you see the lack of own boundaries and your own self betrayal. Bravo, I find you communicate that difficult topic very well!
Thank you for your most helpful insight, and taking the time to share it.
Glad it was helpful!
OMG!!! I am so grateful to see your videos. They are helping in my road to recovery. Just about everything you talk about is what I am intending to fix in my life. I will continue to see your eye opening and insightful videos. Thank you so much for doing what you do for people like us💚
You’re welcome 😁
I have listened to several of your videos and think you are a great communicator. I bought your book and look forward to doing the work for my healing.
Thank you, Patricia!
That was so awesome 👏
You are not unkind. Hope you know that I can feel your compassion and love in your words. Thank you so much for sharing your heart!
Happy to help!
Dear Kenny, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for being a voice in the wilderness that my life journey sorely needed. Reluctantly starting the work. Ordered your book. Thanks for the life raft.
You are so welcome. Here are a couple more resources to help you on your journey. The first is a link to my free online magazine site it’s filled with solutions to help you
www.thegreatnessuniversity.com/
And here is a link to my master class, your journey to Marshall Mastery. I now give that out for free to help people start their journey.
thegreatnessu.com/p/your-journey-to-emotional-mastery
I find this very interesting, my first marriage was definitely in the 10 don’t and my now wife and I are definitely in the 10 do’s, result = happy.
Dear Kenny, you are so right. We are with you. 🙂 Your kindness can been seen and heard already. Thank so much. 🙂❤️
Breaking my codependency for 2 years, yes, it is journey - and it's worth it. 🙂
Have a nice day! 🙂
Congratulations 👏👏🎉
@@kennyweiss Thank you so much and thank you for your work. 🙏🙂 I appreciate it o lot.🙂
@@tynaturkova361 you bet😁
@@kennyweiss 😁👍
Im really appreciating your channel! Thank you!
Not unkind at all! Amazing!
Ordered your book. Thank you for sharing your hard-earned wisdom. Although im already far along on the journey to myself, your way of communicating the issues is very very helpful on the last few miles.
Wonderful! When it arrives and you get a chance to read it, I'd be happy to hear about your experience. :)
Half this info is spot on for me, I am still dealing with these things, crying over them, and realizing I need to keep working on these things! My biggest issue right now is believing that I am lovable. I have several affirmations lists to work on daily, but the truth is, I still believe I am far from lovable. Thank you for your videos, they are helping a lot!! Need to find the crux to the false belief so that I can be free from it.
And I can’t blame my parents, I know they grew up in abusive homes in the Name of Jesus, and my grandparents fell upon hard times growing up, it’s generational.
You’re welcome
@@masteringfibromyalgia it’s never about blaming parents it’s about getting into reality that because we are human and therefore imperfect, our parents make mistakes and those mistakes leave wounds in us.
You’re a genius! Thank you for sharing your wisdom! May we all learn and live this guides. ❤️❤️❤️
I definitely need to work on my trust issues and overall worldview for sure 😔
I appreciate your help and your candor. Very informative. I thought about this and your correct. Thank you for being able to share even against the scrutiny of others. Stay strong knowing your helping . From Montana with much love.
You are so welcome
Another great video. Candid and honest.
If you watch yourself you will see the two tones of speech you have. The "aggressive" and then the calm and collected which is more kind and loving. As a speaker, you are gentle and caring. You are elegant like gabor mate.
I think because you are so honest about yourself that it garners trust from those who are seeking out how to heal.
Your videos are heartfelt and that's what makes them connective as well as resonating.
Great videos great demonstration of vulnerability and honesty. And that's what we all need from eachother 🥰
Thank you and more importantly I’m glad you benefited
Thanks for your directness, some of us need it because that's how we are ourselves ... don't pussy-foot with us (lol!). Thanks also for putting what I already knew and was questioning into perspective and for providing a framework. Onward and upward 🙃
You’re welcome
Oh....Kenny Weiss....what are you doing? I see you totally different.....strange ?¿
Strange Good... whatever it is....your doing,with your looks, It's looking.....WIESS.... WOW !!! it's your.... journey too. Crying 😂 again....Thank You for being here with me...❤️🩹
I feel privileged and Lucky for being here see you on yours as well
💡🙏🎉💍🧲😶🌫️
Thank you so much Mr. Weiss you have saved my relationship.
You are so very welcome :)
I love your color scheme!
Thank you for being so passionate, it rings true. There are so many parallels in my life to yours and to so many that I see about me. It's so relieving to know that it's not only me, not only my parents who were traumatized, it's literally everyone! I've looked back, gotten help, and have taken responsibility over my life and now I am moving forward; it's made all the difference!
You should make a podcast on online dating dos and don'ts as it is the wild west out there.
You are so welcome. Thank you for the suggestion. It would be a pretty short video though..I would just say, it's a waste fo time. don't even get on the sites or apps. ;-)
@@kennyweiss I'm coming to that very same conclusion, but what alternatives should one pursue?
That You can be yourself 👍🏻
The first ten !
Boy did that ever sound like me !! More lessons to learn!!
Love this! Thank you :)
You're so welcome!
Dang it, you're right. Fabulous video, thank you, Kenny. You are not too direct, it makes me, at least, take the message deeper in. More passionate and therefore better effect on the listener.
Thanks Hildur, I am happy it works for you and more importantly, helped you
Thank you for sharing, I am enjoying your discussions. Learning more and more about myself. You are inspiring. Thank you. 😊
You are so welcome Kim. I’m happy to hear that you’re learning so much about yourself. :-)
Kenny you are lovely with your words, the way you say it with kindness. Listen o dr Wolfe he harsh
I haven't understood in the last part what is it that we should do, please?
I like direct! Thank so much for this!
You are so welcome!
On the second Do, what if a partner had no fear of betrayal until they got betrayed? Is that when negotiable n non negotiables come in
Wonderful words
Pure Brilliance
This could possibly be exactly what happened to Cheslie Kryst. So sad. You have a beautiful home, by the way!
Thank you 😁
OMG!!! I'm crying and feel.... everything is going to be okay.🥲
You are one of a kind Kenny Weiss !!! perfectly Imperfect... it's changing my life....to perfectly Imperfect 😭
I still have lots to do,but it's..... making me feel like I've collected some tools....to lead me down the road that I wanna call my own Journey and I'm feeling like enjoying the SHIT outta it...LOL
I’m happy you’re learning to accept ALL of you. That is the journey 😁
It is isn't it.....feels good.... GREAT even. I have put alot of me behind what I thought I wanted, And thought I couldn't live without,and came to a realization after your video.... I don't think it is love....I don't think I even know what healthy love feels like. It's the lonely me that has retried 3 x in a 5-6 yr span, going back on 3 different ocations thinking that it's not that bad, he's worth it.... that is just enabling him to disrespect....not only me but himself as well(. He would never see it in that way....not only self sabotaging but feeling like life is being pulled from my own existence. How could I let this happen to me... Crazy shit !!!
So I think I'm finally seeing the insanity of the relation that was. Thanks to your words....it doesn't hurt me like it did. I've never felt like taking my own life ever....my dog helped me alot too... with the lonely~ness.
So I feel I need to check into your monthly fee for some of your insite on what or why I've brought a very tramatic event in my life recently.
@@christineablair5887 Sounds like you’ve done some great soul-searching and acquired some really good awareness. I’d be honored to help you if you decide to join the monthly private group.
I haven't felt like this in a long while....I put my own shit on the way back burner, I can't blame him for the feelings of worthless,not good enough, not loveable.. I put that in my head. WOW WTF!?! Well I have to say I feel finally I'm stepping past the repeating of insanity. Thank You Sooo much, I'm honored to have you in my VERY OWN perfectly Imperfect journey. 💋
What if you start your relationship with all the “do’s” ( after healing from a narrasist ) but you realize you’ve now married someone that lies over ridiculous things ? All my “do’s” have now raced back to “ don’t” . It’s so frustrating.
I’m sad to hear that you’re in that situation
I only hear truth. Nothing else.
What's the push to have to have an intimate partner? When it seems a lot of us aren't ready for it.
Whats the name of your book..?
Your Journey To Success. Here is the amazon link. www.amazon.com/Your-Journey-Success-Answers-Discover-ebook/dp/B078JKSYPJ
Thank you ! I ordered it ,looking forward to reading your journey..i believe it can open doors for me..this emotional road has been a jig saw puzzle to me ...tx again .im also a subscriber to your channel
Thank you for your support!
I am not so sure if it's true what he says. That the partner is not responsible for meeting your needs and wants. What else should someone do for a relationship than meeting some of the needs and wants of the partner?!
What is the reason to be in a relationship with a specific person other than being able to meet some of their needs and wants?
I had an agreement with my ex, that he would do certain things in the relationship. He wanted three children, I gave birth to three children, he promised he would do some chores and spend some time with the children, than he doesn't do it at all. I asked him why he doesn't participate, he told me he didn't know it would be so much work.
I was completely not only left alone, but he finally attempted to destroy me so he could look as the better parent to the children.
I don't think that you are harsh... I prefer that you are straight forward... How else can we learn?
I have a real serious question???? I need help with!!!
I will try my best to answer it.
I enjoy your color palette.
FYI, I expect sex/intimacy and I can't give that to myself. 💎
Looks like someone better be in perfect mental health to even start looking for a relationship. The only thing is, if someone was perfect, they wouldn’t need anyone. 🤔
TRUTH
When we do and don't really want to but feel guilty for not doing so to do it..what does that mean
I think my parents have a crappy relationship and l see so much of me doing the same ..l hate it ... is there a way to get more information... lm limited in funds
I feel l do and want that back and still don't get it lm so upset ....
I understand. I have a ton of resources on my website for people of all types of financial backgrounds. Why don't you check it out and see which one works best for you? kennyweiss.net/
The second ten-are not
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Don't be too modest Kenny. You have nothing to apologise about. I want hard facts and not to be handled with kid gloves. Apart from what you share you are turning out to be my fashion icon Kenny.
How does one not have blame for parents and know how to get better l hate my child hood ... l want to do better ... alot of don't l don't like on myself at all
I think you would really benefit from my masterclass, Your Journey to Emotional Mastery. It's where I teach people the skills to master their worst day cycles. Here's the link if this seems like something you'd be interested in- thegreatnessu.com/p/the-complete-emotional-mastery-method
I just came across this video and these resources do interest me now, and I am planing to get some of them. I hope that you have found solutions. My thoughts are that anyone whose mind is constantly working on past relationships are free to leave the person/s, for however long or far they need to go to become strong and independent. Two examples came to mind from scripture. For a grown woman, Psalm 45:10 and for a grown man, Genesis 2:24. Something I heard about this life is to look at it as a classroom, not a courtroom. I can think of some parents as more like ill, mean, poor, or uneducated teachers, who have acted more like judges rather than patient teachers which is their responsibility and privilege. They are all teachers nonetheless. However, as an adult I don't have to stay in that classroom or courtroom (internally or externally). I can go to other "classrooms" to learn what I need. Most parents are doing their best, even if it is really bad. "Father forgive them; for they know not what they do." (Luke 23:34) Jesus Christ kept himself free internally by praying and forgiving while he was being nailed unjustly to a cross. He committed everything toxic and unjust to God. He is our only perfect example. Jesus has the only perfect Father, and He has a perfect plan for our redemption, through Christ His only begotten Son, centered on His cross and payment for our sins and shortcomings by His perfect blood. God sees it all. If we believe, we follow His example by picking up our own cross daily. One of the toughest situations (crosses) is when a child needing tender love and good guidance is getting the opposite, especially if it is purposeful harm. Sometimes the parent means to teach humility, but it is hard to receive because of the illness, impatience, and imperfections of the parent, and the hypocrisy. Parents who do not care how their children turn out or who are purposefully turning out evil people are around too. To be lead astray and become evil and unforgiving intentionally through bad parenting has damnable consequences for parents (Matthew 18:6) and for children (Matthew 6:15). Forgiveness is something we ask from God the Father because only He can forgive and pardon. Understand that forgiveness does not mean accepting or enabling evil. Forgiveness does not mean pardon. Forgiveness through goodwill to self and others brings freedom not new burdens. Forgiveness means coming to terms with the harm done and then moving forward in a better way, no longer acting the part of victim. Unforgiveness leads to damnation because it does so much more harm to the unforgiving person, making him/her worse, etc. We need perseverance in prayer for people. Even from hypocrites, it is possible to look back and be thankful for any good they taught, but leave the bad examples out so that it doesn't become part of us (Matthew 23:3). "In your patience possess ye your souls."(Luke 21:19)