Speaking from both personal experience and first-hand views of others, I agree 100% that a man just needs to leave. Nobody ... NOBODY ... has your back on this. The authorities, society and government will always believe the woman over you. You will lose. Just leave. Don't worry about or feel sorry for their back story. You cannot change it or fix them. Your only choice is whether to let her weaponized the legal system to destroy you ... or leave.
This is good advice as long as you don't have kids with them, and they aren't your siblings - in either of those cases you're never getting away. I went full no-contact with my sister in 1994. She still stalks me in 2024
Sadly, women tend to get away with abuse... I've met quite a few abusive women... Which made me see from the outside what I NEVER wanted to become. Sadly, after being in a toxic relationship for so long, I started to take on abusive habits, but after realizing how sick the situation was, I did my best to try to get back to who I was, before any bad habits were permanent... .
I had a very very mentally ill girlfriend who was also abusive. Needles to say, she lied to her cousins that it was the other way around, I got so drunk one day that I couldn't talk or move because I was so depressed from losing the abuser. They wrapped their belts like brassknuckles around their wrists and beat the shit out of my face.
Kenny, thank you for shinning a light on this issue. I personally went through years of escalating verbal and mental abuse untill it turned physical, after several instances of physical abuse, i told her that the next time i would involve the police, she laughed. At last when i did, the cops at first saw me as the aggressor. Later she lied to the police about it being the first and only time sge raised a hand towards me. I broke down to see her better than though demener shatter when made to answer for her abuse. I nade it out, 5 months ago, in therapy for a year and a galf, and am doing much better. Stay safe, and stay strong.
Control and domination. The verbally abusive individual wants to control and dominate. Thank you for this excellent, excellent topic!!! Patricia Evans has so many awesome books!!! Abuse is a great topic!! It’s tough, but it’s very important to raise our awareness and be able to pinpoint these things in others when we see it, when we hear it, or when we take notice of it to make sure we stay free and clear from it. The older I get the more I realize and understand just how little people actually care about other people. It’s a very sad society we live in.
Interesting point you make. I love what Kennynsays often people do what makes sense to them And we are all broken and wounded first by the indelible wounds by our perfectly imperfect parents then intimate partners who come along later. We are not in a position to assign blame and shame others as though we are perfect. This way, as much easier to have Grace with myself and others without judging other people.
@@basromd Patricia Evans writes about the verbally abusive individual being controlling and dominating in her book, “The Verbally Abusive Relationship.” The abuser lives in a completely different realm. Absolutely! No one is perfect, but on that same vein, people can choose to change. People can choose to change their abusive ways. Many, many abusers choose not to. It’s the easier route to take. Changing involves work and a concerted effort, a lot of people are lazy and that’s the truth. A lot of people are just fine with who they are, and it’s sad. I will judge an abuser and I will judge someone who very clearly needs help, but is choosing not to change. It’s harsh, but it’s a reality I’ve seen in many people. There are all sorts of 12 step programs out there for those who need it the most. 💝
I'm listening to see if I'm verbally abusive. I was previously abused and I've gotten a bit less tolerant, and I want to make sureI'm not repeating the behavior.
The first time I asked my sister why why abused me, she said, "Because you were born" The second time I asked her, she said, "Dad abuses me. I abuse you. YOU abuse Mum" I didn't abuse my mother. Maxine did - Mum used me as a human shield. Dad abused everybody except my older sister Robin, who was the Golden Child
@@ashton1952 No, her response has per se nothing to do with entitlement or narcissistic traits. To treat someone badly requires someone who allows to be treated badly. Since he chose to put up with it rather than put her in her place or show her the door to let her know she overstepped and violated his boundaries, it was just plain truth, she did what she did because she could. And, mind you, one having weak or none boundaries at all will in and of itself force the other developing abusive secondary psychopathic/narcissistic traits despite not being a narcissist by default. It's almost an invitation to be abused just by providing a non-boundary environment due to having no boundaries. In a different environment with a man having boundaries, the very same woman may have (without prior therapy or else) a healthy, loving, respectful relationship.
Unfortunately modern society paints a picture defining a perfect man and woman. If someone is not perfect they are disposable. The root of the problem is the ego, thinking you are right but forgetting to look at yourself.
As someone who (due to my own insanity) has been with many borderline women I couldn't agree more with the part about not being able to own their own feelings. They outsource their regulation to a fantasy version of you and when it doesn't line up with reality, there's hell to pay.
@clown7169 Yep, Idealization. And they quickly expect you to take the responsibility for their happiness. IDk if my ex was a borderline, or a narc, but that what she did to me too. When She saw that I wasn't perfect, her sudden devaluation of me hit me like a speeding truck. I didn't stick around, I just left the relationship without a word. The first 3mos. after leaving her, I struggled with guilt over abandoning her, But after educating myself on cluster B, I finally realized that her feelings were her responsibility, it was never mine. The freedom I felt after that was mind blowing. I sincerely hope You got away. Congrats if You did. My heart goes out to You.
Best way to figure this out. Does it always seem like everything is peaceful and harmonious on you're own or with others but that one person makes you feel awful, drained and guilty. All that toxisity and negatively is not you, it them. People who are abusive should never be in close bonded relationships at all, they need therapy and if not, why should they have the comfort of everything you have to offer, just to make you sick and unhappy. Trauma should not be an excuse for abuse. The more someone looks vulnerable and uses excuses to get away with abuse the more dangerous they are to in many different ways..Abuse is more than just physical, its all different mind games and behaviours, that become overwhelming.
Men as well as women need to take responsibility for getting involved with someone who is abusive, they didn't adhere to the red flags they saw along the way. Yes, they were there!
Unfortunately, as well versed in red flags as you may be... I personally stand as testimony as someone that was oblivious to what boundaries even were until last year, or the whole redpill genre, or what narcissism really was, etc... already, I'm too well versed for my liking... No one gets involved with overtly abusive to them people on a first date... And covert, without knowing anything, can take many years before it even occurs that something's not quite right...
One time with my ex, we were watching the Mandalorian. I was adding my own commentary and my ex asked me to be quiet (which I did) A short time later, she started doing the exact same thing. I told her be quiet and shooshed her while being a smartass. Her response was “Do you want me to put cyanide in your food.” In a very confrontational manner. I left after that But like a dumbass, I came back almost two months. I’m now out for good.
Thank you for this video, it reminds me of something that a psychologist on RUclips named Dr John Delony says “behavior is a language”. You can always tell how someone is by their behavior.
ThankU! This is not exactly what you meant. But I was born into a violent family, and mother & sister were especially physically violent. Father was emotionally violent, but not with his hands. Both parents redeemed themselves, humbled themselves, apologized, became good friends. Mother did throw herself into therapy, transformed. The sister, alas, descended into alcoholism, remains embittered & violent. I went no contact. I don't want to stop being compassionate. I forgive everything. But that doesn't mean I am safe. I cannot pairbond, remain chronically single. Glad I'm old
Thank you for sharing this awareness. Your work is sacred. We as men need to reclaim our balls. With that said, we truly need to understand femininity to nourish it with our strong, disciplined, courageous, integral masculine selves.
i lived through it for 40 years ! i Thought i could help her, i could replace the hate she indured with love and she would blossom into a loving person… HA ! if your in a abusive relationship ?? RUN !!!!) …. it will never get better.. and thank you Kenny for posting this information.. men need to hear this
Hep, hep. Hooray! I finally hear the other shoe drop. 8:39 Reacting adversely to anything that a partner deviates from the fantasy of that partner in the abuser's mind fits the profile of a narcissist. Immature and dysregulated. Like getting up the wrong of the bed every morning and asking why the other person appears so grumpy. Unloading their own burdening baggage they didn't know they were carrying. It's such a relief my mind wasn't playing tricks on me about her pettiness on everything that came under discussion. There was a boogeyman under every rock along her path. Setting up more robust boundaries helped tremendously after working it out from my shadow self.
This is beautifully presented. The depthful acknowledgement of complexities, the pacing, the male/female polarity examined without bias, the beautiful soothing voice, the knowledge, wisdom and sincerity. This is what a genuine Healer sounds like❤
I am an exception to what you said. I am female. I had a childhood where I was abandoned, abused, neglected, and bullied on multiple sides and in multiple ways. I had no idea what narcissistic abuse was, so I was doomed to repeat it. I did need to shut down my emotions just to survive. I had a lot of anger, and what I sense was non-verbal "baby rage" from incidents that happened before I could talk about my feelings. I had very little support or recognition from the adults around me. I was overly aggressive and resented what men got to do that I couldn't. My mother physically abandoned me and my siblings. My father emotionally and socially abandoned me while living under the same roof. When I was a teen, I was moved to a foster home that was an entire narcissistic family system, with the mother as the head narc. They "did for" and "talked at" me physically, verbally and socially, but emotionally starving me at the same time and not valuing the real me. One sibling in particular was a bully. All of that made me into a person who could not get in touch with or verbalize my thoughts and feelings. I was verbally abusive, controlling, and critical of others. I met and married a very sweet man, who still treated me well. I didn’t treat him as well. I was abusive to him, and in some ways caused him to become a shell of himself. Over the 36 years we have been married, I slowly was able to unpack what had happened to me and start healing. I was still pretty abusive until the last several years. I'd blame him a lot, even when it wasn't his fault. I realized I was not being good to him and started apologizing to him for my behavior as I got in touch with my feelings more and more. I didn’t know anything about narcissism or narcissistic abuse until I started learning about it in June 2023. Since then, I have devoured a lot of RUclips videos and read lots of articles in order to understand what was going on. I realize I have experienced lots of narcissistic abuse from others my whole life (I just turned 60). As I have gotten rid of the shame and blame others heaped on me, I was able to stop shaming and blaming others. I've had some major "life earthquakes" that have forced me to break. These times there has been a lot of "forced alone time" to think about things and hear myself and God without interruptions from outside life. I don't think I would be where I am without these times of being broken. I have repented of my own narcissism and verbal abuse of others before God. I have repented to my husband and to my younger sister (who also was a foster kid like me). I continue to "walk out" my repentance and become a nicer person little by little. I still have a lot of healing to do. The next layer to tackle is emotional and physical neglect of my home, household, and the rest of my life, which is a result of being deeply neglected myself. I still feel pretty numb in this area. Hubby and I are still together. We both are working on our own baggage. I'm glad I was able to come out of this and get to where I am.
There's always exceptions... And good for you for being one of those exceptions... Serious question, given you are the exception, and must be an exception for a reason... If you care to answer, thank you in advanced... If it's too personal or you just don't feel like sharing, no apologies needed... What did it take to make you see yourself in a way whereas you wanted to stop being abusive?
A few yrs ago, I got away from a manipulative, abusive woman. It was very subtle at first, so I didn't recognize the red flags. But thanks to one of my longest standing friends, my eyes were opened, I stayed with her for another month or 2, and her shaming language, manipulation, and lies became so obvious that was all I got from her every time I spoke to her. after 4mos, I was sick of her BS & just ghosted her.
@@scproductions9878 Thanks! I'm glad I cut & ran as early on as I did. At that point, I stopped caring what she thought of me. She was twisted & depraved, so her opinion of me didn't mean a damn thing to me anymore. If she hated me, then I knew it was because I stood by my principles & held onto my integrity. I knew she would never accept who I was anyway. And I refuse to ever take on the responsibility of her happiness, or her emotional stability. I've celebrated leaving her many times since. And 2 yrs later, it still hasn't gotten old😆😆😆
Very interesting and inspiring, thank you! And it is definitely the only viable option for people who suffered from abusive individuals to get help and get the correct treatment. Many people however don't know how exactly should they look for help, meaning that it's not that obvious to find the right specialist and the right treatment for their specific case and their specific personality. It would be great to learn how an average person having no profound or even superficial understanding of psychology could start their journey on the path of recovery.
After reading the title of this post, it reminded me of this poor Poor man by the name of Richard Spencer who lived in the UK. He was abused at times quite viciously by his wife who just happened to work in the police force in England. And this happened for 20 damned horrible and miserable years. And if memory doesn’t fail me here, the only reason eventually Richard got the help and justice he needed was a fellow work colleague of his somehow came across some video evidence of what was happening to Richard. And this colleague got in contact with the police and turned over the evidence of the abuse. If that work colleague hadn’t have stepped in, heaven knows how Richard would be faring now… Yes women can “loose their soul” but so can men. Childhood trauma and abuse can screw up both sexes equally. I don’t say this to excuse women. In fact there’s almost just as many female narcissists in the world today as men…… ⚛️☮️🌏
I had the same abusive upbringing as both my abusive sisters. My brother walked in front of a speeding train in 1991. He got it worse than al the rest of us. No - women who are abusive didn't get worse abuse growing up than men. Often they had to endure far less - my eldest sister was the Golden Child - she was the only member of the family who didn't get beat up - that didn't stop her from being an abusive liar - and it also didn't stop her from plying me with drugs, grooming me and attempting to SA me when I was 14. You give these women way too much sympathy
Yes women also are not perfect and abusive.. 😅 !!! And need help. I think its a Mother figure complex.. some mothers are very cruel but still the children can't call her out ... and often society ..family, friends will protect the mother saying but its your mother...
"There is no fury in hell as a rejected woman", in my limited experience a woman can be abusive without being abused first, simply a rejection will do. 9:36 Strong words, I would chose another wording, they are fractured with self/soul in Jekyll-and-Hyde situation, at moments it surfaces but the trauma/resentment takes the best of them quickly. I believe these cases are bipolar not schizophrenia. Very heavy energy.
I loved this video. I’m a woman and have had only one abusive relationship with a man and it was quite obvious. But with my mother and beginning in childhood I’ve encountered situations with women “friends” where the “abuse” was much subtler, more manipulative, kinda ambiguous, hard to put my finger on. There are incredible women out there, I know, as I’m getting to know specific ones (like kindred spirits) at very deep levels now. But there is a different type of woman nature I’ve noticed where they are more tribal, gossipy, group think, jealousy motivated (I’m guessing by their actions), vindictive, smear campaigners, etc. It’s very confusing because they can be so nice to your face, but you sense something’s not right. I just try to trust my body & instincts now. I want to be around harmonious, open-minded, interesting & deep people. This was an important video. Best wishes to all the men out there dealing with women like this. There are kind women out there who are quite emotionally available, are deeply introspective and who have integrity when it comes to how to treat people.
Being a man, I'm sure it seems like abusive women don't improve, but you have cognitive bias. I've seen several women stop being verbally abusive after extensive therapy and work. Neither abusive men or women are very likely to change even if they say they will. I empathize with your situation and there is a double standard for men, but saying women are less likely to change is divisive and serves no one. If you are being abused, you need to protect yourself and stop worrying about whether the other person will change. They're not worried about you. Men or women. Thank you for speaking about this, it doesn't get talked about enough. 💖
@danielkaiser8971 I'm sorry you're hurting, but I haven't done anything to you. This is a great example of you showing the projecting and abusive behavior you're condemning. Thank you for the example and the test on my own emotional resources. I genuinely hope you heal. As I rise, as you rise, we all rise. 💖
@@methodmuse Can you cite your sources? The gentleman who made the video studied this topic so I'm more inclined to agree with him, but if you can back up your claims please do
... EEEERRRRY... Your intro clearly described what l experienced many times through the years!!!... I'd just be sitting on the couch in the living room relaxing and watching TV... and, without any form of instigation, my wife at the time would come running in yelling and screaming, then immediately start physically attacking me. I NEVER fought back!!! I would immediately grab her shoulders, look deep into her eyes and yell out her name. These rages would last minutes. At the time, I weighted over 200 lbs and stand 5'10" tall, while my wife was 5'6" and only weighed about 100lbs... BUT, her rage was so deep and angry, it took all of my strength to hold her back... it was if I was holding back a 200+ Ib man!!! Also, while she was in these Narcissistic Rage states, her eyes would be glazed over and black. She would also be in a zombie-like state, disconnected from her body! There were many of these rages during our 23 year marriage which ended in 2018. It wasn't until later in 2018 that I finally learned what I was experiencing all of those years... NARCISSISTIC RAGE!!! Also, it had occurred to me in 2018, we NEVER EVER discussed these violent rages! I concluded that the reason we never discussed her attacks is because she never remembered them! It is also important to note that we NEVER did drugs, NEVER drank alcohol, etc... Also, I was NEVER physically, psychologically, nor emotionally abusive in any form towards her! I learned later in 2018 that she was diagnosed as Bi-polar back in 2015... in which she NEVER told me!!! I later learned in 2018, as a child, my wife had a very traumatic and violent childhood at the hands of a violent, abusive, alcoholic father that had disowned her from birth because she was a female!... Very important information that was withheld from me during our 23 year relarionship!
I have this from my man but I also know women that there are this way like this. I have worked with women that are. My father was like this to my Mother and myself and I have had friends treat in the same way. I am realizing that it can be anyone. And I keep trying to remember to stop giving so hard that just gets treated with no respect which hurts but I know now these people are just lost souls. And it makes them feel better to demorilize and degrade which is just very sad. I prefer to not be that way. No matter the hurt. And you are helping. Thank you
My first thought on the example of the man cooking dinner and his wife looking at the mail. when you're with an abuser you know if you walk in the door and they are cooking dinner. You better praise, ask to help right away or hell to pay. Wish I didn't know that.
As abusive woman myself, it is possible to change if the woman actively looks for help. I have been in therapy for 4 years and I’m already so much better and less abusive.
It's true, we need to listen, learn and understand from the men's side too. I am open to making sure I'm not nagging too much, to accusational, reactive etc (I come from complex childhood trauma which I still endure from father). This is complex for me though as I am with a partner with some narcissistic traits eg; his deceptive actions are all justified, blamed back on my mistrust issues or any uncomfortable situations I observe, question I'm told, didn't happen, not true and so on. So I question everything I'm feeling.
I was abused by a woman, verbally and physically, and I was a person who abused her. I changed but she didn't. Thank you for video. PS It's funny but she looked almost exactly as a woman on preview 😅
Do you have any videos about woman leaders in business with narcisstistic spectrum or full of anger and sarcasm in communication especially to other woman /but sometimes men as well.
I know a couple who went from the wife being verbally abusive to her hitting him once he was in a nursing home. It happens. Get out of the marriage while you are still healthy.
This is important stuff that needs to be said. It seems like abuse by women is becoming epidemic in our society, which I believe is a contributing factor in things like lower marriage rates and the MGTOW movement, among other social issues. What a sad commentary on our society, that we have gotten to this place.
Some women don't abuse by direct aggression...that is a masculine way. No, they abuse by belittling, rejecting, ignoring, abandoning, disrespecting, manipulating, withholding communication, withholding affection, withholding sex etc... and when the man finally gets angry, she tells everyone he is abusive!
😢😢 I think strongly that she has been abused when she was young And emotion hard to get rid off Although there is no more contact thank god, it were 4 years in hell. At the end, I asked her straight up, what do you feel? What goes on in your head? What do you think? And she looked me in the eyes, you could see the hate and anger, and she simply said, I hate feelings. Yes, it is heartbreaking. But this is a dangerous person, indeed. Very abusive and not only verbally
I have experienced racial abuse... But with men I guess it was a case of ignorance or 'banter' Both of which could be dealt with and indeed on occasion we became mates... The worst abuse was from 2 girls.. It was a two faced sneering form of abuse... That actually caused hurt and confusion BTW I am not black This was white on white
Could it be that a woman that abuses her mate doesn’t respect him or her? Also she is a bully and has used force to get her way and/or survive. It’s better for the mate to leave because sooner or later, she will destroy her mate rather than risk exposing her vulnerability.
Kenny, is there any definition of abuse? It is actually very difficult to say what is abuse and what is not. F ex when I feel abused and defend my boundaries (correctly, in my opinion), people often react as if THEY have been attacked. Confusing!
There are degrees and nuance to everything said in this video, take it with a grain of salt. Sarcasm can be funny, but only when the recipient is amused. Many women won't understand sarcasm so be sensible, however the women that do, really can get a kick out of it. Humor is playful, so is love.
Hello, if you have a question about a situation you are currently going through, you can submit it to "Ask Kenny a Question" and I will respond with a personalized video with my thoughts and advice. :) direct.me/l/7nqH
I have received verbal abuse from my ex bf and his mom. He threatened to kill me two times if I cheated on him. In our last fight I threw it in his face and he said to me ' do you really think I would go to jail for you?' He was so, so rude. He called me a moron in our last fight. I told him to not speak to me like that ever again. I left him, never to return. He said to me 'I won't chase after you'. He sent me a WhatsApp text the next day, sort of apologizing. I did not respond. The next day he sent an audio message. I did not respond. I went away on vacation for two months. I am much calmer and at peace. He will not return to my life. I will not allow it.
Good for him. He will be much happier now, without you. No man needs a woman who is always fighting with him, and thinking it’s acceptable to cheat on him.
@kennyweiss maybe it's just me, but... I refuse to believe that women can't change at all.... There must be a way that even a covert passive aggressive narcissist woman, would come to some rock bottom or see the light, whereas they would want to shift gears... What would that look like?
Whether a woman or a man, most narcissists do not see that what they are doing is wrong, and that is the reason they do not seek help/change. If a narcissist wants to change, they first must accept what they are doing is wrong and seek help. Hope this helps paint the picture 💜
@kennyweiss yeah... It does certainly paint a picture... Their not seeing what they're doing as wrong = no chance in "needing" to change... Thank you for what you do 🌹
True, usually people who use it are at the very least insecure, it's a symptom of that. A secure person would use irony to be funny rather than using words that hurt, which is the intention behind sarcasm.
@@Ross_Embossedlol aw. I'm not laughing at your brother's situation, but your comment was funny. If she acts like this while claiming to know Jesus, and isn't repentant, then she doesn't know Him as well as she claims.
Yesterday afternoon I just witnessed a woman abusing her approximately 5 to 6-year-old boy in a parking lot. I heard the boy crying out as he was running across the parking lot he fell down. Obviously hurt himself and was in a state of severe distress crying. And then he got up changed his direction because he was trying to catch up to his mom who was already in the car and driving away. The woman gets out of the car and starts yelling at him ordering him to get into the car and at first he refused because he seemed terrified and confused. Instead of her consoling him she berated and threatened him and I was sick inside. All he needed was a hug and to be reassured it was okay for him to be who he is. I wanted to say something so badly. It was so obvious how she was passing down her childhood trauma. I'm still feeling sick inside knowing that Innocent child's future is thoroughly corrupted. It made my skin crawl. Now we have an epidemic of single moms who operate this way. Obsessed with control and disconnected from their femininity. It's a very disturbing social trend and it's spreading like wildfire. In the mouse Utopia experiments, the final stages are obvious when The offspring become victimized enmass
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There ARE abusive women and Thanks for sharing this. ❤
No wayyy
Yes!!! There are DEFINITELY verbally abusive women!!
Yes. My mother was one. Shaped my whole adult life.
Speaking from both personal experience and first-hand views of others, I agree 100% that a man just needs to leave. Nobody ... NOBODY ... has your back on this. The authorities, society and government will always believe the woman over you. You will lose. Just leave. Don't worry about or feel sorry for their back story. You cannot change it or fix them. Your only choice is whether to let her weaponized the legal system to destroy you ... or leave.
Sad but true. Took me awhile to accept…NO ONE WAS COMING TO SAVE ME. Just had to walk.
@@TJ-015 I did too brother
This is good advice as long as you don't have kids with them, and they aren't your siblings - in either of those cases you're never getting away.
I went full no-contact with my sister in 1994. She still stalks me in 2024
@@IanM-id8or That must be rough. Hearing experiences like yours makes me glad I don't have anymore siblings.
Sadly, women tend to get away with abuse...
I've met quite a few abusive women... Which made me see from the outside what I NEVER wanted to become.
Sadly, after being in a toxic relationship for so long, I started to take on abusive habits, but after realizing how sick the situation was, I did my best to try to get back to who I was, before any bad habits were permanent... .
I had a very very mentally ill girlfriend who was also abusive.
Needles to say, she lied to her cousins that it was the other way around, I got so drunk one day that I couldn't talk or move because I was so depressed from losing the abuser. They wrapped their belts like brassknuckles around their wrists and beat the shit out of my face.
@@PaTrick-cf6ev im sorry to hear that.. women can be cold, ruthless scumbags, who take advantage of societal norms
Kenny, thank you for shinning a light on this issue.
I personally went through years of escalating verbal and mental abuse untill it turned physical, after several instances of physical abuse, i told her that the next time i would involve the police, she laughed.
At last when i did, the cops at first saw me as the aggressor.
Later she lied to the police about it being the first and only time sge raised a hand towards me. I broke down to see her better than though demener shatter when made to answer for her abuse. I nade it out, 5 months ago, in therapy for a year and a galf, and am doing much better. Stay safe, and stay strong.
Control and domination. The verbally abusive individual wants to control and dominate. Thank you for this excellent, excellent topic!!! Patricia Evans has so many awesome books!!! Abuse is a great topic!! It’s tough, but it’s very important to raise our awareness and be able to pinpoint these things in others when we see it, when we hear it, or when we take notice of it to make sure we stay free and clear from it.
The older I get the more I realize and understand just how little people actually care about other people. It’s a very sad society we live in.
Interesting point you make. I love what Kennynsays often people do what makes sense to them And we are all broken and wounded first by the indelible wounds by our perfectly imperfect parents then intimate partners who come along later.
We are not in a position to assign blame and shame others as though we are perfect.
This way, as much easier to have Grace with myself and others without judging other people.
@@basromd Patricia Evans writes about the verbally abusive individual being controlling and dominating in her book, “The Verbally Abusive Relationship.” The abuser lives in a completely different realm. Absolutely! No one is perfect, but on that same vein, people can choose to change. People can choose to change their abusive ways. Many, many abusers choose not to. It’s the easier route to take. Changing involves work and a concerted effort, a lot of people are lazy and that’s the truth. A lot of people are just fine with who they are, and it’s sad. I will judge an abuser and I will judge someone who very clearly needs help, but is choosing not to change. It’s harsh, but it’s a reality I’ve seen in many people. There are all sorts of 12 step programs out there for those who need it the most. 💝
I'm listening to see if I'm verbally abusive. I was previously abused and I've gotten a bit less tolerant, and I want to make sureI'm not repeating the behavior.
When I asked my ex wife why she was treating me so badly, she replied because I can.
Entitled.. a narc trait
That is what she thought 😆
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The first time I asked my sister why why abused me, she said, "Because you were born"
The second time I asked her, she said, "Dad abuses me. I abuse you. YOU abuse Mum"
I didn't abuse my mother. Maxine did - Mum used me as a human shield. Dad abused everybody except my older sister Robin, who was the Golden Child
@@ashton1952 No, her response has per se nothing to do with entitlement or narcissistic traits. To treat someone badly requires someone who allows to be treated badly. Since he chose to put up with it rather than put her in her place or show her the door to let her know she overstepped and violated his boundaries, it was just plain truth, she did what she did because she could. And, mind you, one having weak or none boundaries at all will in and of itself force the other developing abusive secondary psychopathic/narcissistic traits despite not being a narcissist by default. It's almost an invitation to be abused just by providing a non-boundary environment due to having no boundaries. In a different environment with a man having boundaries, the very same woman may have (without prior therapy or else) a healthy, loving, respectful relationship.
Unfortunately modern society paints a picture defining a perfect man and woman. If someone is not perfect they are disposable. The root of the problem is the ego, thinking you are right but forgetting to look at yourself.
As someone who (due to my own insanity) has been with many borderline women I couldn't agree more with the part about not being able to own their own feelings. They outsource their regulation to a fantasy version of you and when it doesn't line up with reality, there's hell to pay.
@clown7169 Yep, Idealization. And they quickly expect you to take the responsibility for their happiness. IDk if my ex was a borderline, or a narc, but that what she did to me too. When She saw that I wasn't perfect, her sudden devaluation of me hit me like a speeding truck. I didn't stick around, I just left the relationship without a word. The first 3mos. after leaving her, I struggled with guilt over abandoning her, But after educating myself on cluster B, I finally realized that her feelings were her responsibility, it was never mine. The freedom I felt after that was mind blowing. I sincerely hope You got away. Congrats if You did. My heart goes out to You.
Best way to figure this out. Does it always seem like everything is peaceful and harmonious on you're own or with others but that one person makes you feel awful, drained and guilty. All that toxisity and negatively is not you, it them. People who are abusive should never be in close bonded relationships at all, they need therapy and if not, why should they have the comfort of everything you have to offer, just to make you sick and unhappy. Trauma should not be an excuse for abuse. The more someone looks vulnerable and uses excuses to get away with abuse the more dangerous they are to in many different ways..Abuse is more than just physical, its all different mind games and behaviours, that become overwhelming.
Sadly I had a violent brother because of a violent mother. Behind many an abusive male stands a disturbed mother.
Men as well as women need to take responsibility for getting involved with someone who is abusive, they didn't adhere to the red flags they saw along the way. Yes, they were there!
Unfortunately, as well versed in red flags as you may be... I personally stand as testimony as someone that was oblivious to what boundaries even were until last year, or the whole redpill genre, or what narcissism really was, etc... already, I'm too well versed for my liking... No one gets involved with overtly abusive to them people on a first date... And covert, without knowing anything, can take many years before it even occurs that something's not quite right...
One time with my ex, we were watching the Mandalorian. I was adding my own commentary and my ex asked me to be quiet (which I did) A short time later, she started doing the exact same thing. I told her be quiet and shooshed her while being a smartass. Her response was “Do you want me to put cyanide in your food.” In a very confrontational manner. I left after that But like a dumbass, I came back almost two months. I’m now out for good.
Can't help but wonder if women divorcing men spike their food in the hope of getting a bigger payout if he tests positive during the process
Thank you for this video, it reminds me of something that a psychologist on RUclips named Dr John Delony says “behavior is a language”. You can always tell how someone is by their behavior.
The Federal Government pays for the men to go to jail, not the female.
Sarcasm may be one of the most aggressive, passive aggressive tactics available.
ThankU! This is not exactly what you meant. But I was born into a violent family, and mother & sister were especially physically violent. Father was emotionally violent, but not with his hands.
Both parents redeemed themselves, humbled themselves, apologized, became good friends. Mother did throw herself into therapy, transformed. The sister, alas, descended into alcoholism, remains embittered & violent. I went no contact.
I don't want to stop being compassionate. I forgive everything. But that doesn't mean I am safe. I cannot pairbond, remain chronically single. Glad I'm old
The wickedness of covert narcissist
Thank you for sharing this awareness. Your work is sacred. We as men need to reclaim our balls. With that said, we truly need to understand femininity to nourish it with our strong, disciplined, courageous, integral masculine selves.
i lived through it for 40 years ! i Thought i could help her, i could replace the hate she indured with love and she would blossom into a loving person… HA ! if your in a abusive relationship ?? RUN !!!!) …. it will never get better.. and thank you Kenny for posting this information.. men need to hear this
Hope you are well! I enjoy your videos. Watching this now. Stay safe and take care!
Thank you for this video, seen guy friends and male family members go through this kind of thing.
Hep, hep. Hooray! I finally hear the other shoe drop.
8:39 Reacting adversely to anything that a partner deviates from the fantasy of that partner in the abuser's mind fits the profile of a narcissist. Immature and dysregulated. Like getting up the wrong of the bed every morning and asking why the other person appears so grumpy. Unloading their own burdening baggage they didn't know they were carrying.
It's such a relief my mind wasn't playing tricks on me about her pettiness on everything that came under discussion. There was a boogeyman under every rock along her path. Setting up more robust boundaries helped tremendously after working it out from my shadow self.
This is beautifully presented. The depthful acknowledgement of complexities, the pacing, the male/female polarity examined without bias, the beautiful soothing voice, the knowledge, wisdom and sincerity. This is what a genuine Healer sounds like❤
Glad you enjoyed it!
I am an exception to what you said. I am female.
I had a childhood where I was abandoned, abused, neglected, and bullied on multiple sides and in multiple ways. I had no idea what narcissistic abuse was, so I was doomed to repeat it.
I did need to shut down my emotions just to survive. I had a lot of anger, and what I sense was non-verbal "baby rage" from incidents that happened before I could talk about my feelings. I had very little support or recognition from the adults around me. I was overly aggressive and resented what men got to do that I couldn't.
My mother physically abandoned me and my siblings. My father emotionally and socially abandoned me while living under the same roof.
When I was a teen, I was moved to a foster home that was an entire narcissistic family system, with the mother as the head narc. They "did for" and "talked at" me physically, verbally and socially, but emotionally starving me at the same time and not valuing the real me. One sibling in particular was a bully.
All of that made me into a person who could not get in touch with or verbalize my thoughts and feelings. I was verbally abusive, controlling, and critical of others.
I met and married a very sweet man, who still treated me well. I didn’t treat him as well. I was abusive to him, and in some ways caused him to become a shell of himself.
Over the 36 years we have been married, I slowly was able to unpack what had happened to me and start healing. I was still pretty abusive until the last several years. I'd blame him a lot, even when it wasn't his fault. I realized I was not being good to him and started apologizing to him for my behavior as I got in touch with my feelings more and more.
I didn’t know anything about narcissism or narcissistic abuse until I started learning about it in June 2023. Since then, I have devoured a lot of RUclips videos and read lots of articles in order to understand what was going on. I realize I have experienced lots of narcissistic abuse from others my whole life (I just turned 60). As I have gotten rid of the shame and blame others heaped on me, I was able to stop shaming and blaming others.
I've had some major "life earthquakes" that have forced me to break. These times there has been a lot of "forced alone time" to think about things and hear myself and God without interruptions from outside life. I don't think I would be where I am without these times of being broken.
I have repented of my own narcissism and verbal abuse of others before God. I have repented to my husband and to my younger sister (who also was a foster kid like me). I continue to "walk out" my repentance and become a nicer person little by little.
I still have a lot of healing to do. The next layer to tackle is emotional and physical neglect of my home, household, and the rest of my life, which is a result of being deeply neglected myself. I still feel pretty numb in this area.
Hubby and I are still together. We both are working on our own baggage. I'm glad I was able to come out of this and get to where I am.
There's always exceptions... And good for you for being one of those exceptions... Serious question, given you are the exception, and must be an exception for a reason... If you care to answer, thank you in advanced... If it's too personal or you just don't feel like sharing, no apologies needed... What did it take to make you see yourself in a way whereas you wanted to stop being abusive?
A few yrs ago, I got away from a manipulative, abusive woman. It was very subtle at first, so I didn't recognize the red flags. But thanks to one of my longest standing friends, my eyes were opened, I stayed with her for another month or 2, and her shaming language, manipulation, and lies became so obvious that was all I got from her every time I spoke to her. after 4mos, I was sick of her BS & just ghosted her.
Good shit!! Now get yourself a steak a good drink and a cigar. You mu friend have seen the inner ugly.
@@scproductions9878 Thanks! I'm glad I cut & ran as early on as I did. At that point, I stopped caring what she thought of me. She was twisted & depraved, so her opinion of me didn't mean a damn thing to me anymore. If she hated me, then I knew it was because I stood by my principles & held onto my integrity. I knew she would never accept who I was anyway. And I refuse to ever take on the responsibility of her happiness, or her emotional stability. I've celebrated leaving her many times since. And 2 yrs later, it still hasn't gotten old😆😆😆
Excellent work, Kenny! Many thanks!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Makes sense... Explains a lot. Thanks for the topic.
Very interesting and inspiring, thank you! And it is definitely the only viable option for people who suffered from abusive individuals to get help and get the correct treatment.
Many people however don't know how exactly should they look for help, meaning that it's not that obvious to find the right specialist and the right treatment for their specific case and their specific personality.
It would be great to learn how an average person having no profound or even superficial understanding of psychology could start their journey on the path of recovery.
After reading the title of this post, it reminded me of this poor Poor man by the name of Richard Spencer who lived in the UK. He was abused at times quite viciously by his wife who just happened to work in the police force in England. And this happened for 20 damned horrible and miserable years. And if memory doesn’t fail me here, the only reason eventually Richard got the help and justice he needed was a fellow work colleague of his somehow came across some video evidence of what was happening to Richard. And this colleague got in contact with the police and turned over the evidence of the abuse. If that work colleague hadn’t have stepped in, heaven knows how Richard would be faring now… Yes women can “loose their soul” but so can men. Childhood trauma and abuse can screw up both sexes equally. I don’t say this to excuse women. In fact there’s almost just as many female narcissists in the world today as men…… ⚛️☮️🌏
I had the same abusive upbringing as both my abusive sisters. My brother walked in front of a speeding train in 1991. He got it worse than al the rest of us.
No - women who are abusive didn't get worse abuse growing up than men. Often they had to endure far less - my eldest sister was the Golden Child - she was the only member of the family who didn't get beat up - that didn't stop her from being an abusive liar - and it also didn't stop her from plying me with drugs, grooming me and attempting to SA me when I was 14.
You give these women way too much sympathy
They make great pillars of the community and gossips 😂
Yes women also are not perfect and abusive.. 😅 !!! And need help.
I think its a Mother figure complex.. some mothers are very cruel but still the children can't call her out ... and often society ..family, friends will protect the mother saying but its your mother...
I have a narcissistic mother and mother in law.
I have a narc DIL
"There is no fury in hell as a rejected woman", in my limited experience a woman can be abusive without being abused first, simply a rejection will do.
9:36 Strong words, I would chose another wording, they are fractured with self/soul in Jekyll-and-Hyde situation, at moments it surfaces but the trauma/resentment takes the best of them quickly. I believe these cases are bipolar not schizophrenia.
Very heavy energy.
Could also be female with NPD
Sounds like my ex
I loved this video. I’m a woman and have had only one abusive relationship with a man and it was quite obvious. But with my mother and beginning in childhood I’ve encountered situations with women “friends” where the “abuse”
was much subtler, more manipulative, kinda ambiguous, hard to put my finger on. There are incredible women out there, I know, as I’m getting to know specific ones (like kindred spirits) at very deep levels now. But there is a different type of woman nature I’ve noticed where they are more tribal, gossipy, group think, jealousy motivated (I’m guessing by their actions), vindictive, smear campaigners, etc. It’s very confusing because they can be so nice to your face, but you sense something’s not right.
I just try to trust my body & instincts now. I want to be around harmonious, open-minded, interesting & deep people. This was an important video. Best wishes to all the men out there dealing with women like this. There are kind women out there who are quite emotionally available, are deeply introspective and who have integrity when it comes to how to treat people.
Relationships also include the workplace! Their sarcasm and "jokes" are toxic!
Gentleman, Stop worshipping lust. Get to know the woman well in all sort of stressful situations. Ladies, do the same and stop settling.
I've been abused by women and men.
Being a man, I'm sure it seems like abusive women don't improve, but you have cognitive bias. I've seen several women stop being verbally abusive after extensive therapy and work. Neither abusive men or women are very likely to change even if they say they will. I empathize with your situation and there is a double standard for men, but saying women are less likely to change is divisive and serves no one. If you are being abused, you need to protect yourself and stop worrying about whether the other person will change. They're not worried about you. Men or women. Thank you for speaking about this, it doesn't get talked about enough. 💖
Cite your sources, I don't think you want to believe the truth. I'm going to call you Cleopatra, Queen of Denial.
@danielkaiser8971 I'm sorry you're hurting, but I haven't done anything to you. This is a great example of you showing the projecting and abusive behavior you're condemning. Thank you for the example and the test on my own emotional resources. I genuinely hope you heal. As I rise, as you rise, we all rise. 💖
@@danielkaiser8971this is a great example of an attack. Why are you speaking to a total stranger in this way? It's totally unnecessary.
@@methodmuse Can you cite your sources? The gentleman who made the video studied this topic so I'm more inclined to agree with him, but if you can back up your claims please do
@@healmyrootshardly, he just doesn't agree with the person's opinion and has his own and is surely allowed to express it 🤷🏼♀️
... EEEERRRRY... Your intro clearly described what l experienced many times through the years!!!... I'd just be sitting on the couch in the living room relaxing and watching TV... and, without any form of instigation, my wife at the time would come running in yelling and screaming, then immediately start physically attacking me. I NEVER fought back!!! I would immediately grab her shoulders, look deep into her eyes and yell out her name. These rages would last minutes. At the time, I weighted over 200 lbs and stand 5'10" tall, while my wife was 5'6" and only weighed about 100lbs... BUT, her rage was so deep and angry, it took all of my strength to hold her back... it was if I was holding back a 200+ Ib man!!! Also, while she was in these Narcissistic Rage states, her eyes would be glazed over and black. She would also be in a zombie-like state, disconnected from her body!
There were many of these rages during our 23 year marriage which ended in 2018. It wasn't until later in 2018 that I finally learned what I was experiencing all of those years... NARCISSISTIC RAGE!!! Also, it had occurred to me in 2018, we NEVER EVER discussed these violent rages! I concluded that the reason we never discussed her attacks is because she never remembered them! It is also important to note that we NEVER did drugs, NEVER drank alcohol, etc... Also, I was NEVER physically, psychologically, nor emotionally abusive in any form towards her! I learned later in 2018 that she was diagnosed as Bi-polar back in 2015... in which she NEVER told me!!!
I later learned in 2018, as a child, my wife had a very traumatic and violent childhood at the hands of a violent, abusive, alcoholic father that had disowned her from birth because she was a female!... Very important information that was withheld from me during our 23 year relarionship!
She was possibly demon possessed.
@@gregorylatta8159 … no… She’s Bi-polar and what I experienced was Narcissistic Rage… as a result of being Bi-polar.
Narcissist have the 7 evil spirits Christ removed from Mary Magdalen@gregorylatta8159
Wonderfull jobb Thank you Kenny
Thank you to give us a voice
Love the pink, Kenny! You look sharp! 😀👍🏼
"That's heartbreaking"
maybe that's why I am attracted to broken women who have been emotionally neglected and turn out damaged.
I have this from my man but I also know women that there are this way like this. I have worked with women that are. My father was like this to my Mother and myself and I have had friends treat in the same way. I am realizing that it can be anyone. And I keep trying to remember to stop giving so hard that just gets treated with no respect which hurts but I know now these people are just lost souls. And it makes them feel better to demorilize and degrade which is just very sad. I prefer to not be that way. No matter the hurt. And you are helping. Thank you
Wow! This was powerful 😢
Thanks for this video
You're welcome!
100% true in every culture
a subject that needs big awareness
Sarcasm is pure toxicity. I run from anyone who exhibits sarcasm, very telling of who they are. Narcissistic behavior is evil.
💯 The sword swings BOTH ways.
My first thought on the example of the man cooking dinner and his wife looking at the mail. when you're with an abuser you know if you walk in the door and they are cooking dinner. You better praise, ask to help right away or hell to pay. Wish I didn't know that.
As abusive woman myself, it is possible to change if the woman actively looks for help. I have been in therapy for 4 years and I’m already so much better and less abusive.
Great video!
It's true, we need to listen, learn and understand from the men's side too. I am open to making sure I'm not nagging too much, to accusational, reactive etc (I come from complex childhood trauma which I still endure from father). This is complex for me though as I am with a partner with some narcissistic traits eg; his deceptive actions are all justified, blamed back on my mistrust issues or any uncomfortable situations I observe, question I'm told, didn't happen, not true and so on. So I question everything I'm feeling.
I was abused by a woman, verbally and physically, and I was a person who abused her. I changed but she didn't. Thank you for video.
PS It's funny but she looked almost exactly as a woman on preview 😅
Raised by them then married one. I was use to what she was doing as being the norm that I didn't see the signs that sreamed "RUN!!!!".
My father was to me as you're describing abusive women as being.
Do you have any videos about woman leaders in business with narcisstistic spectrum or full of anger and sarcasm in communication especially to other woman /but sometimes men as well.
Thanks Kenny
Your pink suit is definitely cool:)
welcome back to back to back (to back)
Well defined
I know a couple who went from the wife being verbally abusive to her hitting him once he was in a nursing home. It happens. Get out of the marriage while you are still healthy.
Our Ashkenazi Buddy Kenny Weiss:)
The Pink Suit is (Cool)
It’s looks good man…
So true
This is important stuff that needs to be said. It seems like abuse by women is becoming epidemic in our society, which I believe is a contributing factor in things like lower marriage rates and the MGTOW movement, among other social issues.
What a sad commentary on our society, that we have gotten to this place.
Dr. Weiss. Do you think that 'a sometimes feeling of emptiness' is a common trait in such abusive women?
I'm sorry to tell you, but Weiss is not a doctor! He has no education beyond high school.
Some women don't abuse by direct aggression...that is a masculine way. No, they abuse by belittling, rejecting, ignoring, abandoning, disrespecting, manipulating, withholding communication, withholding affection, withholding sex etc... and when the man finally gets angry, she tells everyone he is abusive!
very good
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I think strongly that she has been abused when she was young
And emotion hard to get rid off
Although there is no more contact thank god, it were 4 years in hell. At the end, I asked her straight up, what do you feel? What goes on in your head? What do you think?
And she looked me in the eyes, you could see the hate and anger, and she simply said, I hate feelings. Yes, it is heartbreaking. But this is a dangerous person, indeed. Very abusive and not only verbally
I am stuck in this position.
Leave faster!
I have experienced racial abuse...
But with men I guess it was a case of ignorance or 'banter'
Both of which could be dealt with and indeed on occasion we became mates...
The worst abuse was from 2 girls..
It was a two faced sneering form of abuse...
That actually caused hurt and confusion
BTW
I am not black
This was white on white
Could it be that a woman that abuses her mate doesn’t respect him or her? Also she is a bully and has used force to get her way and/or survive. It’s better for the mate to leave because sooner or later, she will destroy her mate rather than risk exposing her vulnerability.
A lot of young women now are very masculine because it’s popular and they’re spoiled, not abused. But they dish out a lot of abuse
It seems this issue needs to stop dividing itself between male/ female. It's a TYPE!
You can't go to court house and file a restraining order on abusive women why because those clerks will try their best not to
this is my mom and I have cptsd. I still love her anyway. Is there no hope?
Abuse comes in all shapes, sizes, races, colours, sexes and genders.
Abuse begets abuse, break the cycle today.
Kenny, is there any definition of abuse? It is actually very difficult to say what is abuse and what is not. F ex when I feel abused and defend my boundaries (correctly, in my opinion), people often react as if THEY have been attacked. Confusing!
There are degrees and nuance to everything said in this video, take it with a grain of salt.
Sarcasm can be funny, but only when the recipient is amused. Many women won't understand sarcasm so be sensible, however the women that do, really can get a kick out of it. Humor is playful, so is love.
FYI, we've done NOTHING in the reverse. It's considered taboo.
They say sticks and stones?
Hello, I'm asking for help. I would like to share my case with you, doc. I'm not desperate but is important.
Hello, if you have a question about a situation you are currently going through, you can submit it to "Ask Kenny a Question" and I will respond with a personalized video with my thoughts and advice. :)
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My 90 yo dad is tormented by his second wife. Please get out early because your old age will be hell on earth.
I was thrown in jail because of an absolute lie that she told the police. Many of the women are narcissists.
I have received verbal abuse from my ex bf and his mom. He threatened to kill me two times if I cheated on him. In our last fight I threw it in his face and he said to me ' do you really think I would go to jail for you?' He was so, so rude. He called me a moron in our last fight. I told him to not speak to me like that ever again. I left him, never to return. He said to me 'I won't chase after you'. He sent me a WhatsApp text the next day, sort of apologizing. I did not respond. The next day he sent an audio message. I did not respond. I went away on vacation for two months. I am much calmer and at peace. He will not return to my life. I will not allow it.
Sorry you suffered, thx for sharing, but somewhat irrelevant in this specific video's topic
Good for him. He will be much happier now, without you. No man needs a woman who is always fighting with him, and thinking it’s acceptable to cheat on him.
I knew I was being verbally abused by my sister by what she screamed at me while she punched me and kicked me
MGTOW
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@kennyweiss maybe it's just me, but... I refuse to believe that women can't change at all.... There must be a way that even a covert passive aggressive narcissist woman, would come to some rock bottom or see the light, whereas they would want to shift gears... What would that look like?
Whether a woman or a man, most narcissists do not see that what they are doing is wrong, and that is the reason they do not seek help/change. If a narcissist wants to change, they first must accept what they are doing is wrong and seek help. Hope this helps paint the picture 💜
@kennyweiss yeah... It does certainly paint a picture... Their not seeing what they're doing as wrong = no chance in "needing" to change... Thank you for what you do 🌹
Disagree on your sarcasm point........like everything it depends on the situation/intent and tone
True, usually people who use it are at the very least insecure, it's a symptom of that. A secure person would use irony to be funny rather than using words that hurt, which is the intention behind sarcasm.
I think thats where a figure like Jesus Christ can heal this type of women and restore her soul. ❤
Not my twin brother's wife... She's "Born Again" and even w Jesus physically living in her heart, he has turned the other cheek ON HER!
@@Ross_Embossedlol aw. I'm not laughing at your brother's situation, but your comment was funny.
If she acts like this while claiming to know Jesus, and isn't repentant, then she doesn't know Him as well as she claims.
@Testify you can take a horse to the water, but you can't make it drink
She would have to allow Jesus to do that. God does not force people to change.
Advocate, great suits, Kenny, are you an INFJ?? :P
women abuse women too, mothers, sisters
Yesterday afternoon I just witnessed a woman abusing her approximately 5 to 6-year-old boy in a parking lot. I heard the boy crying out as he was running across the parking lot he fell down. Obviously hurt himself and was in a state of severe distress crying. And then he got up changed his direction because he was trying to catch up to his mom who was already in the car and driving away. The woman gets out of the car and starts yelling at him ordering him to get into the car and at first he refused because he seemed terrified and confused. Instead of her consoling him she berated and threatened him and I was sick inside. All he needed was a hug and to be reassured it was okay for him to be who he is. I wanted to say something so badly. It was so obvious how she was passing down her childhood trauma. I'm still feeling sick inside knowing that Innocent child's future is thoroughly corrupted. It made my skin crawl. Now we have an epidemic of single moms who operate this way. Obsessed with control and disconnected from their femininity. It's a very disturbing social trend and it's spreading like wildfire. In the mouse Utopia experiments, the final stages are obvious when The offspring become victimized enmass
I had a female professor once who wouldn't let us wear hats in class. She was an abuser. I am not joking.
🌴this shit happening already many many YEARs 🪓🪓🪓