How to Spot a Narcissist Signs to Watch For

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  • Опубликовано: 25 июл 2024
  • In this video, I delve into the telltale signs of a narcissist to help you recognize and identify this personality type.
    From their grandiose sense of self-importance to their lack of empathy, I list the key traits to watch for.
    Understanding these behaviors can protect yourself from potential harm and navigate relationships more effectively.
    Stay tuned to learn how to spot a narcissist in your life.
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Комментарии • 232

  • @olivierfaber8478
    @olivierfaber8478 19 дней назад +42

    My oldest brother is a narcist, so much damage.Blocked all his social media and now his phone number. Always contacted me if he needed something than i was useful, always bullying and wanted attention .. Get rid of these creeps people even if it''s family !

  • @MJ-qb5ph
    @MJ-qb5ph 19 дней назад +39

    No curiousity no empathy disdain passive aggressive arrogance

  • @cleonadooley8479
    @cleonadooley8479 19 дней назад +28

    I never knew from one moment to the next which direction he was going to come from. His accusations, lies, temper. He was exhausting.

  • @louisea6109
    @louisea6109 20 дней назад +32

    So, leaving is the only option. I get it. Thank you.

  • @sasdon8
    @sasdon8 19 дней назад +10

    I’m going to make myself a priority--whatever that looks like. I will find a way to rise above this

  • @Krista-rt9ww
    @Krista-rt9ww 20 дней назад +20

    Thank you Kenny! I didn’t realize what a victim I was playing. After listening to this, I really had to examine MY part, and my part was staying with them.

  • @enduringhope6859
    @enduringhope6859 20 дней назад +19

    68 years old l.
    Still susceptible to narcissists.
    Learning.
    Great video. Thank you.

    • @TaeglicheNarzisst
      @TaeglicheNarzisst 20 дней назад +2

      Change your frequency. The radio station you emit communication from. Change yourself. Focus on yourself. Maybe you have done it already, then my apologies. 💛

    • @dutchman6533
      @dutchman6533 20 дней назад +1

      Try living with a narcissist with a traumatic brain injury from meningitis!

    • @debbysteelebsn2987
      @debbysteelebsn2987 19 дней назад

      I think I need to get help. I have left, but the communication hasn’t completely stopped. I am trying, but a lot of my things are still at the house. He wants me to get all of my things out. I am 68 yrs old, recent removal of my C5 with previous shoulder surgery. I am still healing. He stole all my money. I can’t afford to hire someone. I am awaiting judge to decide. The biggest pain is I really loved this man. He threw me out like I was trash. I did nothing. Now he is begging me back. No WAY!

  • @Torgo-and-the-Lucifer-Cat
    @Torgo-and-the-Lucifer-Cat 7 дней назад +3

    Thanks. Had to deal with one that fit all this criteria; wanted to be in charge, blame others for his mistakes, outright lies, superiority, etc. "I don't care about what you think" would enrage him. ❤

  • @jojo1960uk
    @jojo1960uk 20 дней назад +18

    Oh my gosh... did that ever hit home. The bit about the childhood wounds. Then the letting go, it was the hardest part for me, and countering the lingering confusion. Thank you so much. I'm only months into freedom and still fighting attempts to hoover me back in, but you have helped me so much today. ❤

  • @donnabailey566
    @donnabailey566 19 дней назад +29

    I am 76 years old, and I have had a lot of narcissists in my life. I couldn't figure out why I was attracting so many. I was in therapy for approximately 7 years, with 3 different therapists. The first one told me that my family background was one of the worst she'd ever heard of in her practice, so it makes sense that I continued to bring these demons into my life, because both of my parents were narcissists. Her diagnosis of my family was validating. I was also married to a monster of a man, who love bombed me into the relationship. I managed to get a divorce and I detached myself from both of my parents. I didn't attend either of their funerals. I have become more and more savvy about who I choose to be in my life, and listening to this video was extremely helpful. When you're used to not getting your emotional needs met, it's hard to practice self care. Nevertheless, I'm much healthier than I used to be. What's particularly difficult for me to do is to not feel shame about the crappy treatment I allowed in the past. Playing the victim allows me to make excuses for not accomplishing the goals I want to achieve. It's allowing me to procrastinate on building a new life for myself. I'm determined to move forward in order to live up to my potential as a writer and a human being. I spend too much time in the past, which keeps me stuck. Thank you so much for your words of wisdom.

    • @Andrea-HeIsKing
      @Andrea-HeIsKing 19 дней назад +4

      That was a great comment and I have a parallel story. I'm encouraged by you because I'm 57 and sad I wasted so much time in toxic crap but you at 76 are focused on a new life. Great example you are.❤

    • @donnabailey566
      @donnabailey566 19 дней назад +2

      @@Andrea-HeIsKing What I'm good at is walking away from toxic relationships, but this video has helped me with learning how to avoid these demons in the first place. I'm committed to my personal growth until the day I die. This is an ongoing process.

    • @susanlovesjava4961
      @susanlovesjava4961 3 дня назад +1

      I think we think of our past when it concerns abusive behavior because there is some part of our mind trying to make sense of what happened. I think we unfortunately have to accept we will never know what goes on in their mind and how they knowingly chose to behave.

    • @misspanda4177
      @misspanda4177 8 часов назад

      I appreciate how sincere You are, when You speak about playing the victim and procrastination. Respect 👍🏼❤️.

  • @allans7281
    @allans7281 19 дней назад +9

    Great video very chilling because you’re so 100% correct
    Yep I dated a narcissist for nine months big nightmare people stay away from these type of people learn the symptoms and the red flags
    We have the ultimate power like you talk about we determine who’s in our life don’t be naïve don’t be taken for a ride don’t be manipulated understand who you’re with and what’s real and what’s not!! take control of your life!! no relationship is better than a bad one
    Don’t be a victim!!!
    🌈❤

  • @jewely9757
    @jewely9757 19 дней назад +5

    I’m 70. This was the best content I’ve seen on narcissism. I started at birth with a malignant narcissist mother and enabling stepfather. Had this information been available in my early life, it would have helped me so much!! I wandered alone, married narcissistic men, trying to understand my life with no understanding of anything. Counselors did even know this stuff! Bless you, sir. The more we are educated, the better chance we have of getting better. ❤ I think I’m still hurting, even now, because I retreat to being alone. I trust no one. Life has shown me that I’m the only one I can count on. I don’t want it to be that way but it is the truth that that is how I am.

    • @katray7452
      @katray7452 18 дней назад

      I mirror everything you said exactly. I used to feel I could not trust people again, but I realized the fact that I really have so much love to give and it is not being reciprocated by these people in my life. They've proved it time and time again. Yeah, they throw you a bone every once in a while, but their true intent will always be shallow, fake and hurtful. I deserve more and so do you. Our power is in our ability to genuinely love.

  • @iamcomanche9184
    @iamcomanche9184 10 дней назад +5

    you know you're being gaslit when you start a conversation or indulge in one and just asking yourself "wtf did I even bother, what is even happening" You have to get out, lowering your expectations and trying to cope is a death sentence. They will run you ragged-

  • @codrake784
    @codrake784 19 дней назад +10

    With this situation, it saddens me deeply because I have witnessed the dynamics in three (3) generations as it is inherited. Yes, the trouble and damage it has caused, it is very overwhelming. It took me ages to finally realize that my father had it, my sibling has it and only recently i discovered that one of the adult children displays the trait quite profoundly. It took me ages to finally realize and recover from the turmoil that I experienced when growing up. It was hard, bloody hard.

  • @hallelujah969
    @hallelujah969 9 часов назад +1

    My mother fits this, and I’m pretty sure she is a covert narcissist. It’s 😢, and I now realize that not only does she not love me, she never has and isn’t even capable to love me the way most parents love their children.

  • @barkerbikepirate4916
    @barkerbikepirate4916 19 дней назад +7

    I love how you hold everyone responsible in a relationship. I have always done so too, in my mind. There is a reason why I keep attracting and being attracted to the same type of toxic person. And I need to learn more about MY part that I play in these relationships in order to heal and change my thinking. Learning about narcissism is only fighting half or less of the real battle for a more happy life.
    The victim role is counterproductive to personal growth.
    Your channel is the only one I've found that thinks like I do: what was my role and why? How can I recognize and take responsibility for my toxic patterns that I keep repeating to my own detriment?

  • @kaycevanveer212
    @kaycevanveer212 19 дней назад +10

    Yessss! The tilt of her head and that smirk on her face. That's my mom anytime she finally pushes me to frustration. I'm INFJ...I can read faces. My family sucks.

    • @petergerritgroen3157
      @petergerritgroen3157 22 часа назад

      Ich befasse mich seit 40 Jahre mit Anglitzdiagnostik und nonverbaler Körpersprache.
      Hilft enorm.
      Und pass auf bei kurzen breiten Daumen.

  • @shaftwood
    @shaftwood 19 дней назад +5

    They do something hurtful, and they see it in you, and you can see and feel how much they enjoy it. Get out. Perfectly said.

  • @sweetwater2128
    @sweetwater2128 18 дней назад +3

    Thank you. I am a 29 year old male living with my parents. My mother is a hopelessly addicted fool to my dad's narcissistic abuse dating back to way before my birth. I am currently at a stage where I am trying to gather enough money to get out on my own in a studio apartment somewhere on the west coast. The damage, manipulation, disrespect, hurt, confusion and many other things experienced in a narcissistic household truly are devastating. It is incredibly hard to explain to others what it is lie if they have not experienced it.

  • @carolynmalek3202
    @carolynmalek3202 12 дней назад +2

    Thanks for the great information. I find that part of the recovery from all the ego-bashing is to become skilled at recognising narcissists, and if avoidance is impossible (a family member) , learn to predict their head games and outwit them.

  • @JoshuaTrinityWolf-dc4up
    @JoshuaTrinityWolf-dc4up 19 дней назад +6

    I love repeating myself 3 times because the Narciccist is in thier head.I spent 25 years working in behaviour Modification and brain damaged people.The psychology I learned in College was kindergarden compared to this mind blowing educational video.THANK YOU for your service to save people from the monsters.Knowledge is power.

  • @compassionateperspective8656
    @compassionateperspective8656 19 дней назад +6

    I’m currently learning how to meet my own needs and all the needs of my children, due to the partners I chose. Staying in the reality that it’s %100 my responsibility and is an opportunity to learn and grow. If a need is met, that I did not provide or manage it’s a bonus!!
    The counter parenting and the gaslighting is still hard. I’m still learning how to navigate that.

  • @inkajessy8640
    @inkajessy8640 19 дней назад +6

    Take the big E, go no contact before he destroys you. I discarded a narcissist and I felt a big relief, a liberation on my part. He still tries to connect thru text messages but I don’t give him the right for information. I just simply reply with an emoticon.

  • @robynetaylor6605
    @robynetaylor6605 19 дней назад +4

    Once I understood and I was working on getting out, I started doing things that would trigger the Narc. It kept him in a perpetual state of irritation. It drove him away long enough to give me some peace. I never felt safe, and I wasn’t, but it gave me space. It only took a few months away to start healing (hands stop shaking, inability to sleep, panic attacks and facial ticks, profuse apologizing) all stopped.

  • @larshesthaven5828
    @larshesthaven5828 12 часов назад +1

    You have learned the hard way kenny and have become wiser being with a narc fooling you for some time but learning from it..and it includes me.. we live and learn

  • @liciacanada7527
    @liciacanada7527 19 дней назад +3

    Your words totally confirms what I’ve been searching about this! I’m already separated for 6 months and taking care of myself with help through therapy and seeking comfort and healing through Scriptures ….thank you very much for your help

  • @katrinthode2867
    @katrinthode2867 19 дней назад +3

    Hi Kenny, thanks for a frank talk 🦜. My sign with narcs was ALWAYS that I couldn't breath anymore 😮. Bless you 🙏

  • @dagb7271
    @dagb7271 14 дней назад +2

    Thanks for this video. 9:24 The narcissist can also start recording conversations to use against you when needed. That’s reactive abuse and quite a bad thing.

  • @SounduSleep
    @SounduSleep 19 дней назад +7

    They often call themselves empaths or claim to have a special intuitive gift or supernatural power. A lot of pseudo spiritual new-agers are narcs.

    • @katray7452
      @katray7452 18 дней назад

      If I visualize the person I want to be with it would be a monk.

    • @Johnny_Ayers
      @Johnny_Ayers 13 дней назад

      ​@@katray7452OK

  • @SounduSleep
    @SounduSleep 19 дней назад +4

    you can't have a conversation with them without them trying to come across as superior no matter the subject or their knowledge.

  • @Daw231
    @Daw231 18 дней назад +1

    Kenny, glad you’ve been a part of this journey! Locked in on my hobbies and career. Dating a peaceful person! And will keep taking responsibility for myself and my actions. Thank you!

  • @EasyRussianLessons
    @EasyRussianLessons 20 дней назад +108

    You want to see narcissists in action? Go to any local Christian church and join their ministry in some capacity. Will blow your mind! My only question is, why does God allow narcissists to run churches... Very strange. Any input on that will be appreciated.

    • @liana2136
      @liana2136 20 дней назад +8

      So very true.

    • @CatladyActionFigure
      @CatladyActionFigure 20 дней назад +17

      Not always but often. I'm sure equally true of other religions also.

    • @inkajessy8640
      @inkajessy8640 19 дней назад +20

      Not only in Christian churches. They are very present in any other religious subgroups or cults.

    • @tepe6340
      @tepe6340 19 дней назад +36

      Well it's in the bible warning us about wolf in sheep's clothing. You can see the wolves by their fruit. Tare and wheat are together ❤️

    • @CatladyActionFigure
      @CatladyActionFigure 19 дней назад

      @@tepe6340 Excellent response

  • @barbaraoztas3686
    @barbaraoztas3686 16 дней назад +1

    Thank you so, so much... this video is definitely the best I have ever listened to. I have been trying to cope with the different features you mentionned for years and I will go with your advices so I can save and upgrade whatever is left in me... thank you again and again. All the best, barbara

  • @99northernlands99
    @99northernlands99 19 дней назад +2

    Many thanks for your guidance, Kenny!

  • @dk5755
    @dk5755 19 дней назад +3

    OMG - I got shivers down my spine when my ex came up to me the moment I was driving away for good. He leaned into my car window and told me he ran into his 2nd ex-wife that very day. He had a huge smile on his face with a look of enjoyment mixed with superiority as his eyes glinted and said with enthusiasm that she was toothless and homeless and actually asked him for money. He felt like he had won! His first ex-wife died of cancer a few years back, and he has even wished for me to end up dead at my own hands or his.

    • @FaithfulandTrue949
      @FaithfulandTrue949 19 дней назад +4

      The devil is a liar, enjoy your new chapter, you are free 👏🏻👏🏻❤️🕊🙏🏻

  • @WolfRoss
    @WolfRoss 16 дней назад +2

    I remember when we were both grown and my sister started to confess to me all of the things she did to me. I turned to her and said, "You mean you didn't know that I knew what you were doing?" It has been 25 years and she still has not spoken to me.

  • @jeannestrauss946
    @jeannestrauss946 3 дня назад +1

    That was awesome! Thank you!❤🎉

  • @amandaball353
    @amandaball353 19 дней назад +1

    Excellent video Kenny!!👏🏻👍🏻

  • @colbysandholzer6110
    @colbysandholzer6110 18 дней назад

    Thank you! Please keep educating us.

  • @ruebenbrown2409
    @ruebenbrown2409 20 дней назад +7

    thanks for sharing

  • @Torgo-and-the-Lucifer-Cat
    @Torgo-and-the-Lucifer-Cat 6 дней назад +2

    And I'll add: the one I had to deal with was worse than basil from "faulty towers"...😅

  • @alonzomosley7
    @alonzomosley7 13 дней назад +1

    This is absolutely excellent I can’t believe you covered all aspects really well done .😊

  • @debral9651
    @debral9651 20 дней назад +4

    Im really lucky to have a kind and empathetic husband. Sometimes he doesnt hear things I say or loses focus. But his heart is always in tune and patient. I notice the difference after dating people in the past, one whom was narcissistic.
    I think my husband may have adhd or some attention deficicit that sneaks up on him at times. Hes a genuine loving and consistant person. Just struggles with focus, and he did at school too.

    • @AlanMcBride-yw6in
      @AlanMcBride-yw6in 18 дней назад +2

      It's nice to hear you speak kindly of your loving husband.😊

  • @TaeglicheNarzisst
    @TaeglicheNarzisst 20 дней назад +2

    Amazing insights and 100 Percent true. Thank you so much! You are a true empath. 🧡

  • @ecysmith6652
    @ecysmith6652 20 дней назад +5

    I am in the process of recovering but I need professional help, which I will search for, as soon as my grandson gets back to school because now, I care for him. At the moment, I have to deal with siblings who I believe are narcissists. They are very intrusive in my life and I generally fall for their antics and, later on, I realize I have shared too much information about my life with them. I believe their “genius” comes from demonic inputs that they use in order to cause distress in others. After I talk to them, I experience exhaustion and confusion and I am often questioning my actions, my abilities, and my sense of purpose and of common sense and decency. It has been a life long quest for self awareness. To change myself into a person who God intend for me.

    • @spaideman7850
      @spaideman7850 19 дней назад +1

      I literally 'no contact' with my two malignant narcissist from my old family. tons of peace for me after that, however they relentlessly smear campaign me among my relatives and friends. however i don't really care because I feel that any relatives that simply believe their words without checking, don't deserve to be my relatives.

  • @user-gw6rj7fb7q
    @user-gw6rj7fb7q 7 дней назад +1

    I’m about 3mo since my divorce from a narcissist. This video made me laugh (at the truths), made me cry (at the truths), and validated what I knew…it WAS grandiose of me to think I could change him. What a dumbass I was. I did do exactly what you said…I tried to turn it around and make SOMETHING about me…which just made him worse. I finally had to end it.

  • @stormwalker321
    @stormwalker321 16 дней назад +1

    thanks Kenny for the great podcast!

  • @Biocretion
    @Biocretion День назад +1

    You are a wonderful teacher, sir. Love your content!

  • @user-ze5uo7rm8e
    @user-ze5uo7rm8e 17 дней назад +1

    So true! Love you Kenni! As a perfectly imperfect person I still ask what I did wrong….but thank you for this! ❤

  • @wiktorpiechota2327
    @wiktorpiechota2327 6 дней назад +1

    I GOT SMACKED across my head by my mother for failing to see a spire of a church where I had had my baptism . She was showing me the place thru a window of an accelerating train we were on. I was 8 yrs old and struck with how unjust it was. Later I got used to such treatment. She said something that in free translation for Polish would be " you damn blind crow/chicken".

  • @wiktorpiechota2327
    @wiktorpiechota2327 6 дней назад +1

    thank you Kenny

  • @sanjaypaul9159
    @sanjaypaul9159 18 дней назад

    Lovely video! I am on my way!

  • @angelaapruzzese6682
    @angelaapruzzese6682 18 дней назад

    POOR THING IM GLAD YOUR OUT
    I REALLY APPRECIATE YOUR VIDEOS KNOWLEDGE AND PERSONALITY THANKYOU KENNY YOU ALWAYS LOOK NICE

  • @stevebruce1235
    @stevebruce1235 18 дней назад +1

    I so appreciate you kenny

  • @user-bk3qi4tf4n
    @user-bk3qi4tf4n 19 дней назад +2

    You are so right there monsters no empathy get off on your pain can’t cry etc and the silent treatments and brutal discard😢I’m aware now of the part I played I feel as thow I had no idea what this was I kept searching online I enabled him in a sense by being unaware of how hard I tried to get his love sad

  • @spaideman7850
    @spaideman7850 19 дней назад +2

    agree, i have one malignant and one covert narc in my old family, they always think they are rich and famous despite empty pocket$. Looks, dress, type of cars, 'face value' are the most important to them. they will test every border, when you get angry their favorite line is 'i'm just joking, why are you so petty?'. gaslighting and triangulation are common, their temper could easily explode whenever they didn't get what they want, just like a toddler. In rare family restaurant gathering, they could say things like 'these food looks so cheap, are they for human consumption?' and threw big tantrum when the waiter is slow to serve them.

  • @jjbud3124
    @jjbud3124 18 дней назад +2

    I don't know why, but I have an inborn instinct about people. I'm in my 80's. There are some people I just get a vibe about and just don't get involved with any more than necessary. Anyone who was too nice or tried to love bomb me immediately made me suspicious. I'm interested in the subject because of certain things going on today. I'm guessing that if your parents raised you with respect and instilled self-esteem you will not become a victim of a narcissist?

  • @angelaapruzzese6682
    @angelaapruzzese6682 18 дней назад

    THANKYOU DEAR KENNY FOR YOU YOUR VIDEOS KNOWLEDGE WISDOM AND PERSONALITY SORRY YOU WENT THRU THAT BUT IM GLAD YOUR OUT

  • @LynnsYouTube
    @LynnsYouTube 20 дней назад +5

    Love the painting behind you. Could you show us the whole thing sometime?

  • @sharonhearne5014
    @sharonhearne5014 18 дней назад +1

    I am healing and have done so after he died; I don’t believe I would fall into the same trap again. I regret the difficult and somewhat wasted years and grasp my part in the long and challenging marriage.

  • @DWSP101
    @DWSP101 19 дней назад +2

    I think we also have to state this. Everybody has narcissistic tendencies me. I definitely have what looks like a narcissistic tendency, but I am not a narcissist, especially if you have mind blindness which that’s directly related to a ASD trait for all levels of ASD blindness looks a lot like narcissism. I’ve studied these two topics for freaking forever and even have firsthand personal experience in the subject.

    • @katray7452
      @katray7452 18 дней назад

      You are so correct. Science has found that the brain of these people is not wired correctly. The fact we all have egos is evident, but they have a disordered ego.

  • @annbolton5626
    @annbolton5626 18 дней назад +1

    Ditto! 💯 Excellent explanations! Thank you! This Dark subject is brighten up by your bright attractive clothing style ⭐ 🥰 and usually the background is just as Bright 🌞🎉 🌻. Bring the light 🕯️ into the dark 🌑 💯 Take Responsible for your life! No excuses! Freedom is Self Care! 🎶 🎵

  • @MsGeelan
    @MsGeelan 13 дней назад +1

    Excellent

  • @fakename8856
    @fakename8856 20 дней назад +7

    Kenny can you please do a video on the ploys Covert Narcissists use to get supply? My mom is a CNPD and she pretends to be “the victim” of radio frequencies such as 5g & WiFi which she claims are harmful radiation (they made up this fake “condition” called “electromagnetic sensitivity”). I am an electrical engineer and have tried explaining what ionizing vs non-ionizing radios means but because I am her scapegoat she assumes she knows more about radio frequencies than an actual elect engineer who worlds with radios and radar (I work on ships as an ETO). She also claims to be “the victim” of condensation trails from turbine aircraft which she calls ‘Chemtrails’. She also claims gravity isn’t real and earth is flat in an attempt to get attention from absolutely anyone who will argue with her. My father (her scapegoat before she divorced him) is a physicist so mom tried convincing everyone earth is flat and gravity is fake and my dad is a silly physicist. In addition to CNPD and also has a lot of signs of BPD. We are mostly estranged.

    • @fakename8856
      @fakename8856 20 дней назад

      Mom is such an extreme Covert Narcissist that one of the ploys she uses is pretending to be a “sovereign citizen” which means she believes our laws don’t apply to her because of her entitlement. SovCits are dangerous Covert Narcissists who should be avoided (or imprisoned) at all costs.

    • @jimstenlund6017
      @jimstenlund6017 20 дней назад +2

      Interesting, paranoia and narcissism go hand-hand, as the grandiosity/self importance lend to feelings of ‘they’re out to get me’ ( like I’m THAT important/know SO much that ‘they’ should be concerned ). I’d recommend watching Sam Vaknin’s videos on this topic; he takes a very academic approach, sounds like you might appreciate that.

    • @jimstenlund6017
      @jimstenlund6017 20 дней назад

      @@user-vj2sn7vv5s Deep/sincere conversations with narcissists should be avoided; keep it shallow and don’t expect much/anything in the form of empathy from a true NPD.

  • @bostonjackson9384
    @bostonjackson9384 4 дня назад +1

    #13- Moral superiority: at least with my narc partner, she always has to feel like she is morally superior to me. This can mean verbally putting me down, making snide comments, and/or comparing me to others that she percieves to be immoral people i.e., "you're just like your mother, a hater".... again, she says things like this as a means to make herself feel morally superior to me,.

  • @EmotionalJustice000
    @EmotionalJustice000 19 дней назад +1

    You answered my question earlier meeting my own needs MYSELF. Right there accountability 101 self love self control and regulating my emotions in situations where in fact i am dealing with the same people who i have been avoiding theoughout my own healing and forgiveness of self by being Narcissistic. 🤯i guess what i found discouraging was many opinions of narccisists and psychosocial personality disorders that are deemed incurable. I believe anyone can change if they really see how theybe hurt and affected the lives of their loved ones. I expected my family to listen to the same excuses for self.sabotaging thinking these were personal.attacks when i can see clearly that productige criticism and or realising and seeing your actions affect others and self this is very serious and can create big health problems along with many a failed relationships. If i had this support in the past Thankyou i am trying my best. Patience is key at this point in ky healing journey along with empathy for others mistakes including my own not ecluslding and playing victim just knowing the difference between the both. Amen Kenny

  • @user-px8ug4cw2d
    @user-px8ug4cw2d 18 дней назад

    Thank you

  • @xrpfuturist901
    @xrpfuturist901 19 дней назад +2

    14:35 he was spot on why I am doing this research lol

  • @mamushterefe8213
    @mamushterefe8213 19 дней назад +1

    waaw, I wish I have known this a few years ago

  • @JazG.-po5mv
    @JazG.-po5mv 17 дней назад +1

    I didn’t start looking into this until I was discarded and she got into a new relationship in a week.

  • @bettydoughtery3920
    @bettydoughtery3920 19 дней назад +2

    Right on the money

  • @angelaapruzzese6682
    @angelaapruzzese6682 18 дней назад

    IM GONNA TRY AND CARE FOR MYSELF COS MY WHOLE LIFE I PUT OTHERS FIRST ALL THE TIME
    THANKYOU SO MUCH FOR BEING YOU FROM ANGELA

  • @angelaapruzzese6682
    @angelaapruzzese6682 18 дней назад

    IVE HAD MALIGNANT NARCS ALL MY LIFE AND THE HURT THEY CAUSED IS AND WAS BEYOND REPAIR

  • @Ursaminor31
    @Ursaminor31 15 дней назад

    It started with the mother- and trained me for every friendship encounter and relationship in my life. I realize I was trained to subjugate myself because of her abuse. They never change, leave, and live a life for you

  • @asdf9890
    @asdf9890 16 дней назад +2

    Welp, you described my coworker to a T. Been looking for a new job!

  • @wiktorpiechota2327
    @wiktorpiechota2327 5 дней назад +1

    My father on the other hand was / still is as he is alive / a pharmacist who thinks he knows everything about medicine and related subjects when his knowledge is superficial at best and completely unprofessional / I can see thru this as I am a practicing medical doctor/. He also speaks about what he read about e.g. Putin or Biden in a way hinting that he had talked to them personally. He poses as an insider in every possible field : politics, religion, history, warfare, and what have you,

  • @liana2136
    @liana2136 20 дней назад +4

    Is there such a thing as religious grandiosity? Boasting about where they are guaranteed to go in the afterlife, because of their "beliefs"? That is something I see in my mother (however, following a fundamental teaching like the golden rule is too much for her).

    • @AlanMcBride-yw6in
      @AlanMcBride-yw6in 18 дней назад +1

      My understanding is genuine spirituality requires humility in the face of the depths and far reaches of the visible universe.
      What to speak of the invisible subtle worlds beyond Material vision.
      Boasting about such matters is horribly childish.

  • @AA-cb7dz
    @AA-cb7dz 17 дней назад +2

    They gaslight you the first time you meet them.

  • @concerned_2023
    @concerned_2023 19 дней назад +2

    Just come to Canada.

  • @user-nq9ks2st5g
    @user-nq9ks2st5g 11 дней назад +1

    Wow everything fits. I was starting to feel like job in the Bible.

  • @AllanI3374
    @AllanI3374 18 дней назад

    3:50 Here's a thought.... A sane person would make sure they had your attention before making such an announcement!
    Another HUGE sign.

  • @barbpace-lamb
    @barbpace-lamb 20 дней назад +9

    my narc was jealous of the dog….attempted to get into arguments daily…yuk

    • @annbolton5626
      @annbolton5626 18 дней назад

      Understand 💯. Jealous of my relationship with our children and pets. It's because they do not have the capacity to love like we do.

  • @sfloris9
    @sfloris9 18 дней назад

    Thank you! I am getting OUT!!!! I just did it….🎉

  • @randybrinkman-do4xf
    @randybrinkman-do4xf 19 дней назад +1

    I recently met someone , I was surprised I had some fond feelings for them , it was as I am turning a corner it seems , and I discovered I trust myself understand my capabilities, a relationship with this person ? No ! Narcisstic, No ! They are dismissive avoidant however , very gentle , they obviously have feelings for me authentic ones not feigned , but they let their gaurd down a little and there is the reaction , they shut down , and get distant , change how I feel about them no ! The relationship dynamic yes ! Boundaries, I will remain kind supportive but know a serious relationship with them , that would be a very lonely place , and I have needs and banking on potential? Look at the national deficit? I know she is doing the best she can do ! For her sake I pray she has a breakthrough, for my sake I will remain realistic! Her trust issues are not mine their with her , and hers ! What attracted me ? She has a calm and gentle spirit in the midst of struggle not a hurtful bone in her body ! A beautiful soul ! And this world is not kind to them !

  • @micahsabio6602
    @micahsabio6602 14 дней назад +1

    Thank you for sharing this information, I have been trying to figure out if am a covert narcissist or just narcissistic personality person, is there a video of sort for myself to watch and know??
    I want to know so I don’t hurt anyone but at the same time don’t confuse people for actually being asshole to me

  • @tatianaa.3694
    @tatianaa.3694 19 дней назад +1

    It's very hard when you suspect but you are not completaly sure they are. In my xperience I began to have toxic behaviors too because I was trying to protect myself, but now I don't know if he was just responding to my behavior or was the other way around. I really feel a lot of remorse because.... what if he's not a narcissist and only a childish person?? 😕 I suspect he is a vulnerable narcissist but again, I'm not sure and it's the hardest.

  • @christinehillebrand3667
    @christinehillebrand3667 20 дней назад +5

    Due to my opinion, there is no reason to feel ashamed for your reaction at the announcement of the pregnancy. What kind of woman tells such a holy gift at the breakfast table between the newspapers ?! She has made a trivial and brutal experience out of that. A normal woman creates a sacred moment for that announcement with candlelight or at an intimate beautiful moment. Please don`t find excuses for her stupid behavior.

    • @liana2136
      @liana2136 20 дней назад +2

      My thought exactly! Her timing was terrible.

    • @melodysanquist4834
      @melodysanquist4834 20 дней назад +1

      Thank you for this video ❤❤❤

    • @CopingwithGrattitude
      @CopingwithGrattitude 19 дней назад

      Hitting him in jest is one thing but if she really struck him she took it as an opportunity to abuse him. She should have laughed at his reaction because he clearly didn’t hear her.

  • @shoaibfarid8987
    @shoaibfarid8987 19 дней назад +2

    For our sake, there has been so much said and written about narcs during the decade yet there seems hardly any notable evidence about them coming forward seeking help.

    • @pkp6791
      @pkp6791 19 дней назад

      That is part of the problem with narcissists. They see nothing wrong with how they behave. They last 5 min in therapy. Once the therapist tries to direct them to addressing their issues, they tend to leave- then disparage the therapist. Narcissism is pretty much unfixable.

  • @leslirauch1305
    @leslirauch1305 19 дней назад +2

    Marriage of 44 yrs
    3kids and totally isolated
    He bought a house in Idaho
    I live In CA
    I have been abandoned for 450 days here for last 3 yrs of him being in ID
    Need a support group to restore my life!!! Please help

  • @jamesloy9255
    @jamesloy9255 15 дней назад +1

    I was abandoned by my mother at birth. My father and grandmother took me. @ one year later my parents reconciled. I joined my family at that time. My date of birth was four days before my older sister’s first birthday. I rocked myself to sleep and

    • @jamesloy9255
      @jamesloy9255 15 дней назад +1

      Disassociated at a very young age. My pain is deep seated.rewiring my brain is a daunting prospect.

  • @PeterFry-z5b
    @PeterFry-z5b 19 дней назад +1

    Hi I'm a mom of an adult daughter narcissist. I'm basically daisy her soon to be year old draught while still trying to help her . gave up my entire control

  • @DWSP101
    @DWSP101 19 дней назад +2

    OK, I got a partner that’s a borderline. There’s a shit ton of overlap with narcissism and borderlines, especially when it comes to the verbal aspect. Any tips on how to handle a borderline because it sounds a lot like narcissism too only differences borderlines have some areas of genuine, good they just unfortunately can’t regulate the emotional responses and they’re all all over the place.

    • @petergerritgroen3157
      @petergerritgroen3157 22 часа назад

      Himmel hoch jauchzend ,zu tode betrübt, das ist Borderline,
      Steckt immer eine andere Krankheit da hinter.

  • @genjarus2782
    @genjarus2782 18 дней назад +1

    Thank you very, very much. I was right that is not normal. 🙏🙏
    I have a question, please. After relationship with a Narcissist, is it any possibility other person to become narcissist? Thank you again 🙏

  • @CharMinsky
    @CharMinsky 16 дней назад +1

    Trying and turning. Then he spoils everything. God has decided that I keep going. It’s exhausting.

  • @chizkiyahukabas7078
    @chizkiyahukabas7078 16 дней назад +1

    Hi Kenny I'm autistic and have been in several relationships that were exactly as you described I was diagnosed late in life and don't have friends or healthy family members no parents I'm messaging you because I don't know where to gain a starting point now I'm so messed up, if you have any suggestions please help.

  • @cheriybarra2557
    @cheriybarra2557 8 дней назад +1

    Can they really change if they are in therapy and want to change ?

  • @debrabrown9120
    @debrabrown9120 19 дней назад +1

    I have a new PRED

  • @thenickening
    @thenickening 8 дней назад +1

    whats it like being a covert narcissist with a channel about narcissism?

  • @carparthero
    @carparthero 18 дней назад +1

    4 questions to ask when you are unsure about someone who is currently involved in your life.
    assuming you are treating said person in good faith, the way you would want to be treated:
    1) what value do you bring to my life?
    2) if the situation was reversed, would you do as much if not even half for me, of what i have done and/or would do for you?
    3) if i stayed to myself, what would i miss about you?
    4) how do i feel when i am around you. do you make my life better or worse?
    if you have to ask these questions to yourself about the person in question, that's a serious big red flag.
    if you have these questions out loud to the other person in question, that's likely the beginning of the end of the situationship.
    cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁

  • @makeitstop9344
    @makeitstop9344 18 дней назад

    At the end of a 30 year marriage with a narrcassist…..I apologized sincerely to him for painting him in my heart and mind as someone he could never measure up to. I actually apologized to him for doing an injustice to him. I walked away with less hurt this way. The man I loved I had “ invented “ The man I invented, the man I wanted him to be , he could never be. Nobody held a gun to my head. I stayed in the relationship believing my own delusion. I take full responsibility for that. I forgave him…….he had no response.