kids ACT like adults because they want to be TREATED like adults
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- Опубликовано: 13 сен 2024
- So we all see the many videos and real-life encounters of children acting in an older manner right? And a lot of it could come from how influential social media is, and the fact that parents are a lot more lenient on their children, so they don't give them too much discipline or structure, so the kids end up doing whatever they please, not realizing the harm that may come with trying to grow too fast. Those are the most common conversations that come up for this topic, which of course are great conversations to have, but what if we're missing an element? Children tend to not be taken seriously and are often looked down on as they navigate through life. However, when they see adults getting respect, they might think, "If I act like an adult, maybe I'll get that respect too!" So they wear tons of make-up and do lots of skincare, they dress a lot more maturely, are hyper-obsessed with their bodies, (both young boys and girls), and lots of other things they take an interest in. In this video, I present an element of this conversation that we might be looking over, in terms of what else really drives a child to want to act more grown, and that it might be the fact that they just want respect. What do you guys think?
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Guyyys I need ur input pls tell me if in this video the mic quality is better or worse than my last videos(or just tell me if the quality sounds okay).
I'm tryna make due with what I got rn I'll try to invest in a mic by school time 🙏🏽
to me it sounds fine, Idk about compared to your last vid though
it's worse that before I think, but I don't really mind it.
it sounds pretty good
It sounds a bit more grainy than before
it’s better than mine, so it’s good lol
Children get insulted because they act like kids and it's apparently "cringe" but when they try to act like adults they still get made fun of.
exactly not to mention older generations straight up bullying younger gens for something they literally can’t control (when theyre literally born 💀)
@@littleleah310 fr like every gen bullies newer ones but this time it's gone way too far like at this point it's not just being rude it's being cruel
true and also im tired of these vids saying us teen girls are trying to be adult women, I cant change my attractive body
When I was younger I was trying to talk like an adult because no one respected me, but I still look like a child? I'm pretty smart but UNTIL I look like an adult no one will respect me
@@SassyNymphetExactly. I can't cut off my breasts for you, weird ass middle aged people harassing me!! And schools coming after girls for having a tight shirt or something. Brother, womens' clothing is meant to objectify us. It's not our fault. Like, being curvy, thicker, or plus sized and then getting dresscoded for the little shi is crazy. Don't men make womens' clothes?? F off. I'm being so fr. Those people need to f themselves.
Its ironic how gen z said they would be the first to "break the cycle" making fun of new generations but here we are.
Gen z is just the same as all the hundred generations that came before
@@MrBrineplays_and so is gen alpha 💀 the cycle is never gonna be broken lol it’s inevitable atp. This has been going on for centuries
At least there is other gen z calling gen z out
Ikr
I hate that so much
I promised myself to break the cycle, everyone else I know did too
But now here all of them are, making fun of "Skibidi rizz" and "Sephora ten year olds" as if we never had weird slang or trends
Instead of recognising the toxic (and honestly traumatizing) situation gen alpha is in, gen z is just making it worse 🤦🏻
Your the first person i've seen who understands it. Most parents don't care about their child's feelings and every mistake equates in violence. Everything children say is dismissed as "they're only kids". Children want to look like adults because adults are the only respected group, people are just too much of control freaks and parents are just too blinded by wanting to 'protect' and have power over their kids that they just ignore the clear signs that what they are doing only hurts their child both phisically and mentally.
Thank you!
Most parents do care about their children so saying that is a bit of an generalization right there honestly
@@assassin8636it’s not generalizing if it’s true
You're*
@@nyxv33 doesn't mean they are right
I remember seeing a TikTok like “when you’re five years old and you finally work up the courage to say something and all the adults start laughing and you don’t know why so you just leave and never talk about it again” and the comments were filled with people talking about out being belittled or made fun of by parents, teachers and adults in general in their childhood. I think it shows how much it sticks with someone. The worst part of it is not understanding why they’re laughing. People say that “it’s just because it’s cute” but the kid doesn’t know that. They think you’re making fun of them, because what they said wasn’t meant to be a joke. They wanted to be taken seriously, with respect. All humans want respect. So do kids. It’s the exact same thing as being bullied or laughed at in school.
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exactly!!
This being laughed at is why I didn't speak until I was almost 4, and barely spoke around people after that. Talking, or trying to talk, made people make fun of me, so I didn't.
why do people say ‘gen alpha is the worst generation’ when it’s literally a cycle of the older generations hating the newest 💀
We're never breaking out of this cycle. 💀 I think it's the innate fear of the unknown
Honestly I’ve embraced it. But I’m just realizing that next generations are preyed on by previous ones. All the brain rot influcted on children wasnt made by them so why hate them for it? Still hate it ngl
FR😭 and they like hate on everything Gen Alpha does, like romanticizing 2020/the pandemic WHEN WE LITERALLY ROMANTICIZED THE VICTORIAN AND MEDIEVAL ERAS??? AND THOSE WERE WORSE THAN THE PANDEMIC-
Plus, it’s stupid to act like EVERY single gen alpha is a Sephora/skibidi toilet iPad kid. For example, my younger cousin plays fortnite a lot, and does KINDA exhibit iPad kid behaviors, but he also loves nature, and bugs, and stuff. And I have a friend who’s gen alpha and doesn’t have any social media except for *Scratch.* Being young is not a monolith.
@@Kamrynidk fr i’m gen alpha myself and i use it for my hobbies like animating and drawing it’s not only brainrot i also like math and science too
you’re the only adult who gets it. i’m 17 and ever since i was 12, i realized very quickly that if i acted my age, adults weren’t going to listen to me. i became a teenager during 2020 when police brutality was on the rise and anytime i tried to speak out about something, all i heard was “you’re 13 what do you know?” so i stopped acting 13 because all i wanted was basic respect.
Honestly! Whenever people have a bad take, the immediate response is to call them a kid (new flash! Adults can have bad takes too). Other social media platforms like r/im14andthisisdeep definitely make it worse. For some reason, a lot of adults don't understand that me being inexperienced compared to adults, does not mean I don't know anything and can't have valid opinions on a topic.
As a 23 year old who heard the same thing back at 13 when I started involving myself in deeper topics, I vow to never forget. Looking back at some things I tried to say, many of them still hold true to what I would say today, even though it was instantly discarded back then without being given the benefit of actual listening.
@@Kathidelicit really sucks when your a kid bc no one will listen to you unless you become an adult in a few years,my username is something that I love and do in my free time but my family (only my bestie cousins and Lil bro know about it) doesn’t get it and thinks I probably got it from my old social books
THANK YOU. It's absolutely infuriating how some people whine and complain about "sephora kids" and such despite the same people complaining constantly harassing obvious children from doing childish things like pretending to be animals.
Agreed! I mean, goodness, when I was 14-15 years old, kids my age were doing that already to kids younger than them. Like, I knew someone who literally said, "Also, there are these two kids on my block who are trying to dig to China in their backyard, so maybe pray for them too." (We were doing prayer requests at my church's middle school ministry.) In my head, I was like, "Um....They're kids? They're gonna have imaginations? Like...let's just let kids be kids and have fun instead of acting like there's something wrong with them."
About the whole kids pretending to be animals, are you speaking about therians and that stuff? Because that is something completely different
@@The_Therian_Ivy No, I think they were talking about kids just using their imagination. Not about therians and stuff. Like, when I was a kid, for some reason I liked to pretend I was a cat and try to catch bubbles. It sounds so weird now 😂, but I enjoyed it as a kid.
@Kathryn_Tomlinson Yeah thats what I thought lol. I just wanted to ask. Also, who doesn’t like playing with bubbles, nothing wrong with that
@@The_Therian_Ivy Right? Who doesn't? Bubbles are awesome ⚪️
People should talk about adultcentrism more. Adults (and I mean adults in general: teachers, parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, and the childfree) often dismiss children's feelings. I believe the low empathy adults have for kids in this society is genuinely concerning. Other species recognize children are the future and they must be protected, they might be annoying or disobedient at times but they HAVE TIME to grow up and correct their mistakes.
I hate to be that person but...they're just kids lol let them be kids, discipline without violence is possible.
I agree w you ❤
This. People wonder why teenagers think adults are apathetic a-holes. Because adults are jerks at times, and even when they realize they are jerks, many think so highly of themselves and so lowly of children that they don’t apologize.
@@INDIGO_BABY-xj5de right! They think because they are older that they can treat younger people like garbage and still think they’re good people.
Exactly! And then my family wonders why I don’t talk to them
@@INDIGO_BABY-xj5deFr..
YES. THANK YOU. FINALLY. Nobody takes kids seriously, and we aren’t allowed to do anything, so what are we supposed to do? Whenever I try telling people this it just goes through their heads completely.
That's so true, we're always told what to do like give us some independance like other kids as well 😭
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MUSHROOM FANNNN
I went on the childfree reddit once out of curiousity… the amount of people who disrepect children & mothers is INSANE 😨
yea it's become a trend to hate on kids and not even in the joking way anymore, like it's an ACTUAL hatred for kids and it's like if u don't like kids that fine and understandable but acting is if they're literal demons of this world is just stupid bruh u were a kid once too 💀 but now since it's a trend it's become normalized and ppl think it's okay to disrespect them just because everyone else does it
Ngl but they do give me the vibes that they would try to defend anf justify child ab*se
This is literally why I acted "mature for my age". It was never in a sexual way (showing cleavage, adding makeup, dressing to get adult male attention), but in a practical way (emotional control, doing most tasks independantly including cooking, cleaning, addressing wounds, doing work, etc.). I liked the respect I was granted for acting like an adult. I already felt immensely disconnected from other children my age because of my then-undiagnosed autism, so I saw no benefit of "acting my age" because every preconceived motion about how children should act or spend their time felt confining and arbitrary (just like how restricting what adults should enjoy or what adulthood is like is similarly arbitrary and stupid). I felt free to be left alone and have fun exploring the world on my own terms, rather than smothered in a stifling way or being forced to put up with children being mean to me by adults forcing me to spend more time with them against my will (expecting my patience with their bullsh*t would change my bullies' sadistic tendencies).
No cuz I really relate to this, I always enjoyed being told I’m mature for my age and tried to act older but not in the traditional way, but by focusing on school and getting good grades, trying to be smarter and smarter. It was always frustrating when people would tell me that I’m too young to know or see something, and I often felt like an adult in a kids body as silly as it sounds. And I can also relate to the professionals around me suspecting that I might be autistic.
I feel this cause as I kid all I wanted was to not be told my privacy didn’t matter or my own self isn’t even me and it’s my parents. That I couldn’t get a hair cut or even dress in clothes that fit me and clothes that weren’t from when I was in elementary school
I hate to bring gender into this cuz it might start a bunch of arguments, but I've also noticed how this affects boys vs girls. Girls are expected to be the more "mature" gender and are treated like grown women when they're still kids. So every little thing they do is being scrutinized. Whereas boys are allowed to get away with everything because "they're still maturing!!!".
True girls have always been treated older but not given any respect at the same time. It's true that girls do mature before boys do but they shouldn't be treated like adults.
@xPinkie-piexfr
My whole entire family says the girls should be a šIàvè to the boys (not really but they say that you should work and clean after them no matter what) and it’s so sick and tiring cuz the boys will probably grow up to be Andrew Tate
This is why autistic girls learn quicker to hide their symptoms. Which leads to them not being taken seriously from professionals. Autistic boys are allowed to show their symptoms, because "boys will be boys" but meanwhile, girls have to behave more soft and women-like. :(
@@novreetosdoritosthey shouldn’t be treated like adults as in having the same responsibilities but they should at least be taken seriously like adults are. Regardless of gender
The title is spot on. The only reason why I wanted to act more grown when I was younger (I'm 16 now, so still not an adult, but a lot older than when I wanted to act grown) is because of how little respect I was given without putting on that act.
Thanks for making this video, and I hope it reaches more people.
On a related note to this, I believe it was my pama (non-binary parent) who once said to me that it would be better if instead of dumping kids legal rights and responsibilities onto them all at once at the age of 18, it would be better to spread those mile stones out across their teenage years. Because the way the law works right now makes it so kids and teens have functionally no autonomy over their lives until they turn 18, at which point they will (and probably already have) made a lot of stupid decisions because they went from having zero respect and responsibilities to a ton. I should probably also mention that the reason I bring up the law a lot in this comment is because my pama studied law in grad school, which was the context in which this comment came up.
Similar to the Middle Ages. At 12 you were an adult, but a full adult at 21. I wish it was similar.
I think that’s really smart honestly! It would definitely help them adjust to all the responsibilities of growing up
screaming at "pama" white people are insane
Honestly, that’s a brilliant idea. Why isn’t this more of a part of this discourse?
And each year in school, teachers can teach them about their new responsibility. Teens would actually remember because it isnt 3 years until they can do it, its like 1
No because like let's talk about it. Adults be so quick to chastise kids for acting their ages saying that they need to"grow up"or how"they're being cringe" but notice how when kids don't want to act their age suddenly it turns into"oh they're trying to be fast and grown"or"they need to stay in a child's place" but some of you guys need to understand that Y'ALL CAN'T HAVE YOUR CAKE AND EAT IT TOO!
*_contradiction_*
@@FirstnameLastname-jd4uq yea some adults really contradict themselves 🤣
I'm a teenager right now in high school, and my father treats me like I can't have an opinion (he even says I can't have personal space even though I hate physical touch) yet he says "you're an adult" and that I "should act like one". Am I an adult, or a toddler?
@@greenneko8020 exactly like parents like this needs to get it through their head but you can't have your cake and eat it too you can't be mad at your children telling them to grow up when they're acting their age. But, when they're in a hurry to grow up it's a problem too?
I,m happy that I was not so busy trying to grow up faster like these poor children. Kids deserve respect and it is hard when many adults forget what it was like to be a kid wanting respect and kindness.
Fr this makes me glad my parents treat me how they wanna be treated with respect and they give me responsibilities
I wanted to grow up so bad so I can move out I had a okay childhood a lot of bad memories I try to not remember but I tried to have fun especially when I left home and went to school goin to school and outside was my freedom and got to get my true self instead of hiding myself
It’s just that parents see their 11 year old child as a 8 year old when they are closer to 13 than 8. No way you’ve never heard of "Respect adults when they talk!" but you probably never heard alot "respect *people* when they talk!" That’s why they are giving themselves the right to be on their iPad all the time,talking like they want and getting a shit ton of skin care.
Exactly cause being a kid most of the time means sit down,shut up, do as I say, and I can do almost whatever I want to u and u can’t do anything and if u try I’ll punish you and when u hit double digits suddenly you’re expected to act like an adult while being treated like a kid which leads to us seen as either “too grown” or “too childish”
this
I’m so glad you talked about this. As a kid/teen I remember wishing away my childhood just so that I could have a shred of respect. I remember having to hide a lot in my room or just not be seen by parents or other adults so that they wouldn’t dump their negativity on me.
I get treated like i am subhuman by my teachers. They would yell and scream for no reason and get mad when we asked them to stop.
i have 3 younger siblings, i teach them to say please and thank you and reward them with a “thank you” or “good job” or a high five when they are doing something right so they know that’s it’s good. it’s not that hard and it honestly makes me feel better, also.
That's great! Reading this really made me think about my you get brother and how I should understand that he is a human being an innocent one who has just been brought to this world a little clueless just like I was at one point. He doesn't understand the things that I perceive and that is okay because I'll help him find out what works for him.
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When I was younger, I had always thought that the older I got, the more elders, especially my parents, would respect me. Years came and went, and nothing has ever changed. Every time I thought I had reached the age were older people would start to respect me people still thought I was just a dumb kid. I'm 16 now, and I've learned to just except the fact that as I age, the bar for being seen as a human will just keep going up, never letting me finally reach it.
Idk how to be taken seriously. But I can't change the way they think or act. When I tell my parents bout my ideas or my life it's like they're humouring me. I'd like to have a convo as an equal for once.
Although, I think it's more important to gain respect from people you actually want to be like.
Some ppl don’t respect those below the age of majority (18 typically) bc of the (stupid) association that lower responsibilities compared to adults means lower intelligence in comparison. Some extend that further to anyone they perceive as “young” (20s or even 30s).
Which is to say, my dad showed me more respect when I moved out at 18 - I know a lot of friends whose parents are still very controlling even tho we are all in our early 20s bc they still live with their parents. But there are parents/people out there who do treat children with the respect that any person ought to have, it’s just not that common yet unfortunately. Change is occurring but it is slow, and non-existent in some (many) areas
I also believe it stems from age shaming children on the internet get bullied just because of the year they are born in
People give you more respect the older you get. So don't blame me if I don't want to be a kid anymore. I'm 17 years old now and the way my family talks to me now is way different than when I was 12.
THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH. we act grown because when we’re to childish we get bullied and when we’re not and acting grown we get bullied. i will never understand why older gen’s care so much about other people.
This is what the kids next door feared and tried to warn us about
THIS!!! This video is super spot on! I noticed this when I was younger. I feel like it’s really obvious with young girls too. I feel like it puts young people in danger. For girls, their interests are often ridiculed (regardless of how traditionally masculine or feminine the activities are). So they just start to imitate adult woman. And the media constantly shows images of adult women in suggestive or explicit situations. So they often feel that they need to be like these women to be respected (ignoring the context of why these women were in suggestive or sexually explicit things in the first place). I think this is why so many groomers (male or female) can get their victims by saying “you’re so mature for your age”.
As an ipad kid, I agree! Kids do not need a million skin care items. I just use noxema and that’s it, I’ve never been to Sephora once (I’ve been to ulta but that’s only because my mom was going and I only went there once). Parents NEED to start taking more control in their child’s life. I’ve seen 7 year olds walking around with a phone doing TikTok’s, I’m 13, I don’t have a phone, and not allowed to have TikTok. Kids under 10 do not need their own device/ social media.
ipad kid life is a slippery slope, i was in the sameish boat as u at my age. if ur spending a lot of time online regardless it’s better to try and kick that habit now so that you won’t have to later. i wish i did :,)
Well, um, I completely agree. Thank you for even saying this out loud. My parents do have a very big role in my life, but these kids just need respect. And need to go and play outside, go to a Park, learn about art, pick up some hobbies. These parents should be just giving them an advice by the age of 10 when I was 11 I think I got my iPhone. Was I mature enough for a phone? No, not at all. But I still have it and it’s the same when I’ve been using for years. But sometimes being chronically online is such a terrible thing I mean, you know how much fucking RUclipsr drama I’ve had to see about one of my favorite people on the web at one point. Two of them were one of them literally said that it was true and the other one defended himself and it was false. I don’t think kids have to literally make a decision about who side are they on? Because if you’re chronically online, you have to make your own case.
It sucks, I hate that more and more kids have to become iPad kids because I was like that, but at least I had the ability to go hang out with my friends.
Honestly the problem is that, especially in the US, many parents are more interested in controlling gender identity/gender expression over qualitative improvements to their child's life.
agree with everything BUT i feel like as soon as children prove that they can actually process danger and exercise caution a phone is so helpful. i got a phone when i was pretty young (8) but it was mainly for safety. i would use it to tell my mom i was home after school, to text friends over the weekend, to send emails to my teachers when i was absent, to do schoolwork at home, etc. the world is really dangerous nowadays, so it’s important to have something to help keep you safe.
I think it’s _fine_ to give a school-aged child a phone of some sort strictly for safety and practical use, i.e. keeping in contact with family and friends and such. But it HAS to be regulated and that child should not be allowed to download social media of any kind until they’re at least legally old enough to manage social media accounts. Even then it should be monitored, perhaps not constant hovering and heavy restriction, but a young child or teen shouldn’t be allowed to be on the internet with zero surveillance. That’s how kids get traumatized, exposed to upsetting or even explicit content, and groomed. It is the parent’s responsibility to keep their children out of harm and I understand not all parents have that ability all the time but that’s why you set up preparations and failsafes before there’s a chance of something going awry. We were all taught about stranger danger but I think it’s easy to forget about that online, because well, a child can’t really tell whether the person behind the screen is the same old man that would offer them candy at a park. And that’s not something they typically consider unless properly instilled in them. Growing up on the internet had a horrible impact on my growth and maturity and it’s something I wish was regulated more. Parents don’t always have a choice. Sometimes the quick screen fix is their only option until they get better resources. But there’s a way to go about that.
As a young person myself, I do understand the wanting to be treated like an adult. On the internet, as long as you don't reveal your age, you're treated like an adult. Life as someone whose brain isn't completely rotted but still too young to be taken super seriously by adults 100% of the time, it's difficult to mke your opinion or feelings known. But to everybody wishing that this stage of their life is over, wishing to grow up, and acting grown up, I give you this advice: don't be like Susan from Narnia, don't spend your early life wishing to be one age and then the rest trying to stay that way. Stay in Narnia, don't lose sight of the fact that these are the best years of our lives.
It really doesn’t help how so many people shit on Gen alpha
I'm 17.
Your good kids and even if people from older generations say that you're horrible understand every generation has been told the same. It's not your fault and as you grow older you'll see your some people from your generation say the same about others you don't have to be one of those people.
I personally don't think I'm good for kids I haven't really had a childhood or teenhood however we were all young children who needed someone who understood things better to give us a pat on the back and encouragement.
Telling children that they’re in the best years of their lives is a horrible thing to do. It’s going to lead to them trying to maximise their productivity, tearing their mental health to shreds. Or perhaps I’m just troubled? Either way, don’t say that.
@@miggle2784 Well, what _I_, a teen myself, mean is that our childhood is the years where we are can mess around and _kids_, and that these are the years where we are supposed to go out and have _fun_, not be stressed out. I am not maxing out my productivity, I'm simply trying to spend, for example, this summer, in an enjoyable way. School, I feel, puts too much pressure on us, causing many, including myself, to be anxious and depressed. It's important ot remmber that we have many, many years of that ahead of us, and that our childhood, while only 18 years long, are the best years of our lives, because of the fact that kids can do a great deal more than adults can, especially for the physically able. We have the oppurtunity to learn a great deal of things, and we have the oppurtunity to truly enjoy ourselves. These our the best years of our lives because they are the years where we have the least amount of responsibility. I'm rambling on now so thanks for coming to my tedtalk I guess
Certainly not the best years of many peoples’ lives. For some, adulthood is the first time they’re able to find any refuge from abuse. Yes, you have much less responsibility as a child, but you also have very little autonomy and you’re dismissed and treated as if you’re subhuman.
I love this video so much, I’m surprised other people haven’t brought this up more. Children are fully autonomous people despite not being fully developed yet, of course they’re going to want respect rather than to be belittled. It feels like most discussions about this view children as a blank box that only reflects their environment and other figures rather than understanding they have underlying beliefs for doing so. This is exactly why I acted “mature for my age” when I was younger, I felt a lack of autonomy from something I couldn’t control so I shaped myself to act and speak more grown. I’m so glad you brought this up, great video!
The title is so relatable, I’m 13 and sick of being treated like a toddler
as someone in their 20s, it's mostly because we see kids as, well, kids. parents more so than others- i mean in their eyes you're still their little baby. i felt the same as you while growing up, but then realized i really was just a kid that should have been treated as so.
i'm not saying you shouldn't be respected or that you're inferior- nothing like that. it's just that you're still young- you just became a teenager, and i understand both sides. a lot of times we perceive acts/words from parents as too controlling as kids, but after growing up we realize they do this to try to help us grow as kids. as the video said, we can't treat kids the same as adults because they simply don't understand what it's like to be one. it's much, much more complex than the internet/other adults make it out to be towards kids.
lastly, as a kid please don't go about saying your age on the internet. many bad adults will try to take advantage of that.
As a parent who was badly damaged by the internet at around age 11, I have to agree with @@DPlumes
When you are a tween/teen, your biology is pushing you to emulate adults because you are becoming one yourself, but seeing the wrong content at the wrong time in development can legitimately cause long term damage to your way of thinking and feeling.
Ex:
1. my cousin found a bunch of gross p3do content in a box in the woods during the 80s, when he was around 9 years old. He then went on to reenact those photos on other kids for years before any authority figure found out about that damned box and the damage it did. 😣
2. I wanted to be cool so bad when I was around 11, but I kept getting bullied for being so easy to mess with, so I thought I'd make sure that I never flinched again by finding the worst gore I could online, which led me to a site filled with gruesome photos and videos of real people dying in the most horrific ways. That then led me down a path that made me see the absolute worst things humanity has done to itself. This radicalized me for years and almost led to me becoming a school shooter in my mid teens. Luckily, people noticed and got me help, but it could have been an absolute nightmare.
Please know that there are very good reasons for caution when it comes to limiting children's internet access, and limiting the internet access to children.
I'm not justifying anything that's been done to you, for the record. Just giving a couple of explanations for why we have to be so careful. Right now, you feel plenty old enough because this is the oldest you've been, but those of us with a couple decades of experience know the worst that can happen is so much worse than a young'n could ever really imagine. Please, be safe and defer to experience where you can. It'll save you thousands of dollars on your therapy bills and/or lawyer fees in the future. ❤
As someone born in 2010 people born in 2008 and 2007 always treat me like that and make me feel inferior :(
I’m not thirteen, but I remember going to the doctor and them asking me a question. I answered ‘occasionally.’ Not a big word, pretty normal for a 13 year old. She goes, quote, “Why that’s a big word now isn’t it?”
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Dude. I was 13, not 5.
@@Edahs_exists I’m that age currently and people around me have always been absolutely stunned that I know and use “big words” (basically anything over like, 6 letters long) and can understand more adult topics (what political parties are or whatever) without being confused. They’ve raved on about how precocious and mature I am for my age since I was probably 6-7 years old. Despite this I’m not allowed any autonomy of my own, because they’re not used to children understanding them when they speak normally - but they don’t actually recognize them as capable of free thought. I quickly learned that there’s a certain quota of Time Being Alive that you have to meet in order for anyone over like, 5 years older than you to see you as a person, and not just… mmm, something like a speaking dog. It’s frustrating. You’re clever for having awareness or a basic vocabulary but you don’t get the right to an intellect until you’re 25. I understand children and teens are nowhere near the level of adults and should not be treated that way. That is not what I ask - I just ask to be respected. A little. By someone.
Reminder to people to please not complain about thirteen year olds having opinions.
Thirteen yr old isn’t a child..?
@@BlasroiseIm 13 and people still treat me like a child
@@Blasroiseas an adult, I can tell you many adults consider teens to be children too. Legally, as well as socially. Kind of in the middle where they’re expected to know better but not expected to know enough for others to take them seriously when they have an unexpected opinion
Haven’t even watched the video, but just based off the title you are 100% correct. It’s insane how much I have to do to get respect sometimes all because I’m not of the legal age. And it worries me because I *know* I’m going to grow up and get treated like an adult and not know how to handle it because, haha funny thing, if you’re infantilized all your life you have no clue how to handle being treated like a normal human.
Damn, my mom always used to tell me that she didn't need to respect me as a kid. Like, it was a one way thing where I respect her and don't get the same respect back, or close to the same amount 😖 Plus, she would be hypocritical and accused me of doing things she's guilty of herself 😡 but thanks for discussing this, it was very informative! ❤ (sorry for over sharing 🙃, and for the excessive emojis)
@Sad_PaperBag I completely get what ur saying, there's a lot of parents who feel that way where it's like "you HAVE to respect me because I'm ur parent but not the other way around" and to me that never fully resonated with me. As an adult now, I've seen things from both perspectives, and while I absolutely think it's important to respect the people who raise you and take care of u, it's definitely a two way street. thanks for sharing ur experience!
... I don't know how to describe it, but the fact that i already feel like my childhood is over, even though it technically still continues is terrifying.
People just bullied kids for being kids to the point that being a regular child is cringe now (apparently).
I think I'm happy that someone actually covered all of this.
not a gen alpha but i’m a youngest child. my thoughts are often shut down by my parents or they talk over me and i don’t do or say anything because im a biggg people pleaser. i’ll tell my mom that she talked over me and she’d say that she, “didn’t know i was talking” or, “doesn’t remember that.” then she’ll say, “i’m sorry.” and she’ll precede to do it again. ty for talking abt this topic.
I often think of the mistreatment of children and disabled people through the same lens. The justification for both can be very similar e.g. that they are inherently less capable/less valuable in society/deserve less autonomy. In both incapability is seen as an excuse to violate autonomy, so see it as a fundamental misconception that effects both groups.
I absolutely tried to act more like an adult as a kid. But not being on social media meant that I only had the adults in my life to model myself after - and luckily most of them were pretty good role models (and the ones that weren't I had the awareness to do my best not to be like). I have a feeling that prior generations were similar, and really that main difference with the current generation is the rise of social media.
i’m 15 and i want to be an adult so that men won’t sexualize me anymore, it’s happened too many times for me to ignore it. i just wanna escape.
being an adult is not going to change being sexualised, sorry. it must be an awful experience though, I hope you're alright
Unfortunately women and girls will be sexualized regardless of age, there's really no escape
I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through that. No grown man should EVER be sexualizing you. You should let your family know so you can have more protection.
Men will always sexualize women for no matter what unless you become an elderly woman. That's literally the only type of woman that probably won't be sexualized by men.
There is always going to be someone that says something, regardless of your age. The most you can do is to stay safe out there. Perhaps you can carry pepper spray or a pepper spray necklace?
I completely understand why everyone is telling other people how old they are in the comments but please be careful sharing your age. There are some really creepy people on the internet (as I'm sure most of us know) that very much care about how old you are. Please please PLEASE minimize the information you share about yourself when discussing this topic.
yea I agree I'm surprised at how many 12 to 13 year olds are in my comments idk if my videos are the best for ya demographic 😅 but I'm glad you guys like my videos! But yea definitely be careful about giving certain info guys stay safe! ❤
Super digusting that kids are WANTING to become older. Before u say that its their fault its clearly the parents problem that they are consuming content related to grown up stuff they shouldent worry about till puberty.now we have kids having skin care and hot shorts.i am a late gen alpha and im glad i was infuenced by cable tv,spongebop,books and good parents.
SPEAK YOUR SHIT!!!!!! 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🙏🙏🙏🙏 UR TRUTHING SO HARD HERE
You’re speaking facts brother
Doesn’t late gen alpha mean recently born? Do you mean early gen alpha/late gen Z?
You mean early gen alpha because if you're a late gen alpha then that would mean you were born recently
If we want this generation to improve’ making fun of them or making jokes about them is only going to make them angrier and more confused
Side note: if I were a parent I would just give them a TV remote and a couple good shows to watch
coming from a young teen and chronic twitter user, i wanna say you hit the nail on the head with your points on this video. (slightly off-topic rant ahead) a controversial take i have is that adults drastically underestimate not only the capabilities of kids, but also what they can handle. the way the internet views teens on the internet is largely a viewpoint based on collective trauma - the kids who got traumatized at an early age by the internet grew up to be the voices we hear on the daily. and don't get me wrong, i'm not victim blaming, but i feel like the people who are tryna "protect me from the bad guys" are causing me more turmoil than the actual content they're "protecting" me from. when i say that i can handle sexually explicit material/graphic depictions of violence, that's not me tryna act "mature" for my age, it's that my age IS OF THE MATURITY TO HANDLE THESE TOPICS. this is the age demographic where i want to explore my identity, and i know for a damn fact i'm not acting out of my league for it. this is why i STRONGLY advocate for sex education k-12, especially in the age of the internet. people are so averse to kids and teens learning about themselves because schools never gave us the environment to learn about it in a healthy way, so they demonize these talks among minors online, because they're correct in the fact that the internet is not a space for education. the patterns of instability are so tightly weaved into eachother, i can only hope we get more progressive in the future.
on a more personal note, i've genuinely sent myself into breakdowns on the fact that my entire perception of reality is confined by some tofu-like organ in my head, one that's controlled by sporadic chemical reactions and unstable hormonal fluctuations; that i constantly surround myself around people who are more "mature" than me, and i simply Do Not Have The Mental Capacity to be on their level. i want to grow up because i don't want to be an ANIMAL. a DOG. i don't want to be confined to this ever-morphing flesh that i'm forever tethered to. it's all just one cruel joke. as if i'm a dog that only has the Mental Capacity to understand its biological limitations. a dog who's only smart enough to know it'll never be a human. my entire existence is some sick joke it feels like, and i'm starting to get tired of playing the waiting game. i really just want my dogbrain to finish developing if it means getting a sliver of autonomy over myself.
edit: i guess i should note that i'm aroace (aromantic + asexual), so my opinions on these topics differ from societal norms.
as a tween, this is the most true thing ever.
SAMEE, although I am extremely self aware and don't rly act like an adult, but as a tween I definitely know to much
This is why I like being on the internet so much, because no one knows your age they don't treat you like you're "just a kid." It's so freeing to be respected
I think a huge part of it is the online culture of mocking kids for being kids. You have this loud minority of people who genuinely despise kids making their voices known, plus people constantly mocking and dunking on kids for being kids. Like, the girl who said the record player was inside the vinyl sleeve got so many disgusting comments- from r threats to people saying they wanted to bash her teeth in. Why on God's green Earth would anyone want to be subjected to that? So kids act older in an attempt to skirt the hate.
PLUS, any actions that aren't deemed as 'socially acceptable' to adults is considered weird, even if it's socially acceptable for kids. Kids are loud and messy. They yell and act spoiled. Because they're kids (obviously there are some exceptions, but 99% of the time, the 10 year old isn't a narcissistic, manipulative abuser). Sometimes I feel like I'm living in an AITA anti-child post.
Thank you *SO MUCH* for saying the quiet part out loud! My parents were mostly authoritarian with a touch of strict. Right now at 21 turning 22, I’m doing the hard work of learning: autonomy, self-empowerment, and my worth. All of that is being done with the help of family therapy/counselling.
I have this friend where she said she wanted to grow up faster because nobody takes her vents seriously and every time she wants to vent one person pulls out the “me too” then starts venting I hate it sm as the mom friend
I relate to your friend, whenever I try to vent my friends on roblox they tell me their lives are worse so what ever I'm venting about doesn't matter :(
@@AlisonsgachaverseI think everyone has a lot of collected trauma so when one person brings something that resonates with what they’ve been carrying, they want to all collectively off-shoulder the weight. It would be best practice for ppl to at least wait their turn and acknowledge that everyone’s lives suck in their own ways and that we can be supportive and listen to others without talking over them.
I’m neurodivergent and know a lot of ppl from the community struggle with not interrupting others or not talking excessively or some other social norm. In addition, sharing our related experiences is how we show empathy for other’s struggles and share advice ( by telling the things we did in response to the shared conflict), even tho that in an improper way or timing is viewed as being obnoxious or trying to shut down the other person, which is not that person’s intent. If the person that’s interrupting the convo doesn’t get the hint to wait for their turn to talk after being called out on it, then I think it’s safe to assume that they don’t want to listen to you, period, and you’re better off venting to someone else that actually does care about you.
Note that what I said above only applies to comments like, “me too, [shares personal experience]” and not really for “oh yeah? Well I have it worse bc [shares personal experience]” kind of comments. This is because the latter, saying someone else has it worse, has clearer phrasing to indicate that they don’t think the original person venting has an “actual problem,” unlike themselves (which ofc is untrue, bc a problem is a problem no matter how big or small it may seem). There are definitely ppl who can’t phrase words in a non-offensive way to save their lives, but I think it is also fair if you don’t want to share a personal thing w someone that you do not trust will take you seriously or give you the space and time to express yourself as needed/wanted. Positive relationships, regardless of type (familial, friendship, romantic partnership) are a two-way/multi-way street
@@cameronschyuder9034 my friends on roblox are the "my lifes worse" people
My parents are on this weird seesaw of Authoritarian and Permissive parenting. Like- they let me do whatever until I broke a rule or didn’t listen.
I’m lucky my parents were authorive (mixture of an authoritarian and permissive) basically, any great authority figure needs to be gentle…but firm. You need a nice balance. Anyway, great video
I look 10- and I’m 14… my ‘skincare routine’ consists of: water on face if I feel like it andI dress Modestly. My sister on the other hand: looks older than me and is MUCH YOUNGER than me. She has a skin care routine, she wears VERY revealing clothes… its horrible
Yea, it's definitely a lot for such young girls, when ur older of course I think it's perfectly fine to explore different styles and makeup, but too young can just mess with ur self esteem and body image
@@Kaysajayeah, and I feel like most of society is pushing it towards us, for instance people have started gifting me inappropriate (in my opinion)clothes, makeup and skin care.
@Left969 definitely take ur time, that's the best advice I could give. Trust me, being an adult is cool and all, but it's also stressful and mentally exhausting, enjoy ur childhood for as LONG as u can lol
Nothing wrong with skincare. My acne was raging when I was 12. My forehead acne was so horrible that people would randomly give me skincare advice. I’m turning 18 next month and my acne calmed down a bit. Some people need skincare
@@kookooartstudio8363 oh trust me- she doesn’t. She has the most perfect skin EVER
Asa person born in the line between gen alpha and gen z (2010), this is so accurate! I've seen a lot of people of my age living the Lifestyle of an adult, loosing their time as a child/teenanger in the rocess. I've always been 'too mature' and even when that has helped me to be heard, it just isnt enough. All we want its to be heard, respected and treated as sentient human beings with our own valid opinions and points of view
Maybe that way we wouldn't feel pushed to grow up to be noticed
That was a pretty good harmony in the intro
I think its cuz most adults treat children with very low respect, so when children see that adults are all this and allat and get respected, they wanna act like them because, you know, they are also human beings? They also want respect? So when those kids grow up and become teenagers, they dont wanna talk to their family, (mostly parents and grandparents) because they keep judging them all the time
I'm a parent. I was abused so badly to the point that my siblings and I were taken away from our mom. I don't believe in beating my child, call it what you want but gentle parenting is just a word for GOOD parents
Maybe stop talking to kids in weird high pitched squeaky tone as if theyre dogs. People think theyre being fun and nice but its kinda just talking to the kids like they're dumb. There shouldnt be a massive difference in your tone of voice between speaking to adults vs children
I volunteer at a summer camp with mostly 5th/6th graders and the amount of times I’ve been told “I like that you don’t talk to me like I’m a baby” is CRAZY. With very little kids (2/3ish) it might come out naturally but once they hit like 5 or 6 you gotta drop the puppy voice
Maybe that explains my growing apathy towards the world’s problems. It seems like no one will take me seriously, as if when you’re knowledgeable you’re expendable and just another tool. Your ideas are meaningless in the face of problems people are aware of, yet never do anything, never trying to come up with a new solution. Sometimes I wonder if the children of today are blinded by the seemingly mass incompetence of the world around them
Another thing that you might add, is the fact that some families let their young, teenager or sometimes even preteen children take care of their youngest siblings, cousins and even nephews like they're their own.
Of course your child doesn't act like a kid when you put the burden of parenthood on their shoulders.
Don't get me wrong, I am a part of the teenager demographic myself, and I take care of my family's kids, but that's because they know that THEY are the parents, I only babysit and I love it, but againg that's because and don't have to do so 24/7 'cuz they're not MY children.
I've had and still have so many friends and known colleagues that have to clean the entire house, make breakfast, lunch and dinner for the whole family, take care of the little kids and sometimes the grandparents every day, and where are the parents? Doing nothing, and many cases there's one parent that stays at home while the other works.
I dont know if this is normal everywhere, but here in south America it is so normalized, and it's sad, these parents don't want/like being parents.
As just someone who only acts a litttttttle bit more mature for her age, i can tell you that we just want to be respected and treated normally (well, some of us do.) I cannot guarantee this is the situation for all children acting like adults, but thats my opinion and reasoning.
As a child, I am genuinely afraid to be myself in public or school because it’s going to be considered cringy and weird. I have made different personalities almost to have in public but in reality I love doing things that are “cringy”. Acting more mature like an adult brings be respect and makes more people like me
Thank you for this! Im pretty sure this all stems from insecurity and just wanting respect! Every kid wanted to grow up, but gen alpha is the generation that wants it the most due to being bullied because of what their generation wants to do that's "childish". So they end up acting like a teenager, its sad but it's their parents fault. Most of the time its because their parents are not giving them respect. Its not their fault. Plus, its just the cycle of the newest generation being hated on and bullied by the older generations.
I’m Gen alpha or whatever but it’s kinda scary to open a comment section with a person who’s obviously the same age or lower as me and then it’s filled with threats, and hate, and it’s probably Gen z or also Gen alpha but still, their talking to a kid and I don’t think they notice that
you'll b ok, generations just fail to protect & understand the next generation. back then gen z talked about how they're the most understanding & will b a good mentor to the young ones but does the exact same shit that boomers did to us
my sister had a beautiful way of putting it, something along the lines of 'children experience all of the same complex thoughts and emotions that adults do; the only difference is, they're learning to understand or articulate those thoughts/feelings for the first time.'
never doubt that children have the same depth of thought and emotion as you do just because they don't know how to express themselves yet. go ahead and treat children as though their thoughts/feelings are trivial; they'll believe you. and they'll internalize it, and spend the rest of their lives getting sad and frustrated at their inability to communicate because of their deeper inability to understand their own feelings- which seem 'trivial,' and not worth understanding, because that's the only thing they learned during their critical phase of development. i think it's accurate to say it's the very point where the vast majority of mental health issues begin to take shape.
I’m 15 and I “act grown” but it’s more because I realized the world I really live in and I don’t want to be ill-prepared for being on my own. I picked up extra responsibilities and learned skills to help me in my adulthood and when I asked my mom to be a little less smothering she blew up at me saying I was disrespectful for asking for “space”
shes dumb slow
As a 15 year old, whenever I get into arguments on the internet, specifically instagram because insta is just such an amazing and kind space people will genuinely listen to me and try to see my points and argue back, but once they take a look at my bio and see my age, that’s all they say. “You’re 15, sit down kid”. Like how come we were good until my age came to play (Mind you my age wouldn’t have affected my argument)
Glad someone is emotionally intelligent to understand it
I'm still a child and I don't wanna be treated like an adult, because I'm NOT an adult! Simple. I know being a child is annoying/unfair to a lot of us because we get a lot less (like our parents tell us what to do). But we should enjoy childhood before we become adults because... life is hard.
Edit: I came back 6 days later and never realised how many likes my comment got. I was thinking of deleting it... thanks yall.
@@tiniest.baby.froggy yeah!!! That;s another thing people think adults shouldn't like "childish things" like videos game because they "mature" and "too old for it" when in reality you should be able to enjoy what you enjoy
@@tiniest.baby.froggy yup!
Please be careful when sharing your age!!
@@AShortDork yeah dw
@@AShortDork I'll edit it out, thank you for warning me :)
“I look 17 but I’m 15” girl you look ELEVEN.
There are so many people who will completely dismiss something just becaues they find out a kid made it
As a, now, teen and I literally only have this app, but you are completely correct, and unrestricted access to internet caused a lot of my mental issues, and having that, which I had unrestricted access and it has caused some, like 10%, of my mental issues, and insecurities, but luckily I’ve found a much better and more appropriate side of the internet with more appropriate like stuff, art helped me, and I’ve learned to build myself up and have a hit of thicker skin on the internet, and my parents still think of me as a small child as if I’m some 5 years old and my parents act like this tbh, my parents have also caused a bunch of my mental issues and school, I appreciate you talking about this
YES FINALLY SOMEONE GETS US!!! All we want is to be treated equally with respect and for people to support us! Tysm for explaining! Although it should have been obvious...😅 Us kids are always treated lesser, like we're dumb dolls who can't do anything. It's honestly sad, we just want to be understood... :(
I cannot emphasize enough how important this is! I spent so much of my childhood so preoccupied with being taken seriously by adults, that I always prioritized that over just enjoying the benefits of being a kid. I had a feeling at the time that id regret it, but at 24 I actually don't regret that. It wasn't my fault that adults weren't taking me seriously, I deserved to at least feel respected and understood and worthy. Now I get the opportunity to treat my inner child with respect and dignity, but I wish I didn't have to
As I child, I can confirm. Being talked down to and called stupid and brain rotted for things we watch that won’t make our future at all worse, fucking sucks. I’d rather be respected
Also we are WAY smarter than you think
@@thepetekidyt True, there are some gems in this generation, but to everyone else, they're diamonds in the rough. I always think for a second before disagreeing with a child, or anyone for that matter. All those insults you mentioned ("stupid", "brainrotted") are just Ad Hominem and don’t prove anything against you, so you can call someone out for their illogical fallacy; I've done it and gotten *genuine* arguments out of people instead of "Older = Smarter"
@@cyantheepic2869 true
there's people who are 15 who look like they are in their early 20s and there's 15-year-olds who look like they are 12 or 14, i am one of them
if i act like my age, i’ll get made fun of
if i don’t, i’ll get made fun of
Uninvolved parents, in my opinion, are the worst reason why a child grows up too fast. In my own experience, I had to learn to cook, clean, had to do my own shopping, etc. Of course, every child has to learn this eventually, but it shouldn't be a necessity because their parents should do it for them.
As a gen z of 06 I used to want to be an adult when I was like in elementary I used to tell my dad I wanted to tell my dad I want to be an an adult,but he told me to enjoy what you have around you while your a child because as you keep growing it’ll get complicated. I’m currently in high school and I still have my plushies,scooter & albums..we may just misunderstood by feelings
Parents not trusting their kids ever and not showing them respect will make them grow up to not trust themselves which is such a dangerous path to go down.
Parents really need to realize kids need balance. They need to grow up humble but not completely untrustable
As someone who is around a lot of kids of different ages I actually agree that the kids are only acting older for respect, the 10yr loves makeup and wants real makeup, but she's the only one of 6 (4 girls) that wants natural looks in makeup, and she's also generally the least respected despite not being the youngest (atleast from peers) and none of the other kids but me really act like adults, and I was literally forced into being a caretaker for four years, and am 16, pretty much all the kids act like kids and they're all respected, 13yr spends her time playing videogames with friends, 12yr spends his time learning about little things in botw, 10yr (the outlier) spends her time hanging out with friends and playing roblox, 6yr spends her time playing outside, & 2yr still refuses to talk, which might be bc he's mentally challenged, might be bc he's given everything he needs without talking, or might be bc he's a little punk who thinks its funny
I was born into an abusive family in a 3rd world country. Being a child is like being property. Youll be fine if your owner is nice, but if your owner is abusive, no one will or can help you.
Parents can do anything to their children without consequences if theyre rich enough. I remember trying to leave my abusive mom and being driven back home by the POLICE even tho i had bruises and blood in my hands from her pushing me to the ground.
I realised at 17 that i was trapped and no one would help me. I nearly planned to kill my mother just so i could leave. I decided against it and have been leeching off of her till i can leave.
Im 19. I never want to be a child EVER again. I am much more free as an adult. Im happy to have responsibility and power over my life.
I was adultified as a child but never allowed to partake in any responsibilities, only made to feel guilty about being a child not doing anything.
Fuck childhood, i wish i had the option to grow up quicker so i couldve been more comfortable with responsibilities, instead of rushing through learning from 17-18. I didn't have a damn moment to feel 'like a kid' and i wish i couldve just been respected and finally recognized as a human then.
But no. I had to wait till i was 18 to be seen as human. And i resent every single asshole responsible for my oppression.
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no. it's my snack.
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@PIXELBYTEN I'll send u a strand but no more than that. The food prices are way too high I can't afford to starve 🙄
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this comment reminds me of one time i saw a girl with wavy blonde hair that reminded me of ramen and it made me crave ramen (my username checks out)
Im still a teen(gen z) uh with adhd, but after reading the comments about how people close to my age and younger have felt the need to mature or "are mature" is always so hard for me to comprehend, because i have siblings younger than me who are more mature and im the oldest, ive never really felt the need to want to be an adult out of fear it could ruin my own childish nature or my own personal growth. Maybe its because i have adhd i am this way but its always a strange battle from both sides of being mature or too childish my sisters who are pretty mature i have admiration for i think its amazing although sometimes i think people mistake maturity for assertiveness, so i guess what im trying to say is that ive always been a calm person not to assertive but i know how to state judgment and solve conflict as an older sister i do get more respect from others than my younger siblings because im older and therefore hold more responsibility. But because im not assertive like my siblings, my views, thoughts, or ideas get overlooked or are not heard. But for my sisters who are assertive, although younger, their views, ideas do not get looked over because of their assertiveness. The reason i state this is because i think it's important that parents teach their children this at a younger age rather than an older age. For me (eldest) my parents werent so lenient with me because im the oldest so i lacked assertiveness but for my siblings who had a lenient environment were able to be assertive because of thier freedom and the lack of judgment they had to recieve. I just think its important for parents to give a bit of leniency in their relationship with their children. Most of the time, it gives more strength in character to use their own judgment. Now my parents would tell me "figure it out" but then would tell me to "always ask" or " you dont need to think when I've already told you what to do ". Thays very confusing for the child and contradicting so i jsut ask for parent not to do this dont be so strict where you dont give you child the judgment to think on thier own but dont just leave them hanging. Allow them to ask question but decide wh a ys the best decisions are by their own viewpoints. Sorry if this did not make sense, and for the rant, I just hope this helps 🪷
I love how kids are trying to act like adults, and being successful if I do say so myself, but then we see so many adults acting like children. (Mostly in RUclips comment sections.) But noooo, it's obvious that *we're* the immature ones just because of the fact that we're young.
Age ≠ Level of Maturity
Edit: I'm one of those "kids" that acts like an adult. Maybe not "adult" specifically, but definitely more mature. Except, I can't exactly do what all the other girls do, where they not only act but also *look* 17-18 when they're actually 14-15. I'm the exact opposite. I'm almost 18 and (according to random strangers at work) I look like I'm 13-14.
thank you... someone who finally understands...
I’m so glad you understand-as a 12 year old and whatever generation I’m in- people don’t get that not all kids in this generation are just doing this to skip childhood. They want respect. But adults overlook this and treat 11 year olds like they are 7- and some people who call Sephora ten year olds “b*tches” and completely forgetting those are children they are talking about. Children who don’t know better. Some kids don’t know better and some are just rude- that doesn’t mean every gen alpha is this way and should be stereotyped as annoying. Idk what I am- born in 2012, but either way it doesn’t matter. Not every gen alpha is rude, not every gen alpha has a 30 step skincare routine- but some do. Some do because they feel insecure, people forget that kids have insecurities too or might even wanna fit in and feel left out. Gen alpha shouldn’t be stereotyped as annoying or trying to move onto adulthood too quick by just wearing makeup, because it might be something deeper than that which is overlooked. There’s genuinely sweet gen alphas but people always assume all them are rude and trash up Sephora’s which is sad.
I've literally been thinking about this, you're speaking my mind fr
Gen z hating on gen alpha for liking “brainrot” and calling them childish as if the MLG memes were never a thing, and then get mad when gen alpha tries to act two times their age as if they didn’t BULLY them into acting that way
THANK YOU, they want to be treated like adults, because they want respect. I think it's sad that gen alphas lives are being aired out on the internet but that's the people they look up to.
I really like your take in this subject. Most people just fear monger and belitters the kids. I apreciate that you dont do that.❤ 😊
I'm a younger person myself, and being respectful to adults, having manners, just being a good person, and being a "non-rebellious teenager" helps. I've had teachers who enjoyed my company and realized I can and do have a say in things, and get respect back, even if they realize I'm there to learn and I don't know everything.
I think I also might've grown up "too fast" because of trauma-related subjects, too. I still feel so disrespected sometimes, and so I still strive to be more mature. I get positive comments on being mature and teachers thinking I'm in older grades than I am.
Being "adult" is more about the actions and not the presentation. Yes, the presentation helps (when it's in moderation, not having a billion skincare products), but the act of taking care of yourself and being honorable and humble is certainly a thing (like I do take care of my skin to look presentable, as said, in moderation). I think some younger kids confuse this. And I am a kid, because I make stupid mistakes, like I once got into a fight and put in detention, that's what makes me a kid.
And I'm trying to become a better, more mature person to get more respect, even if sadly not receiving it from peers. And I'm doing it more as a thing for myself, too, and having individuality and independence can make you seem more mature.
These children confuse being an adult as doing things what adults do, such as skincare routines, spending money at expensive shops, and et cetera. Because yes! Children have a more simplistic way of thinking. When being "mature" and "adult" is having the emotional maturity to talk things out properly and handle responsibility and promises, it's being honorable in your actions and words, and generally more about the mentality. That's what gets you treated as more of an adult. Same as an adult can be "immature" and "childish" by not doing these things. And these actions (such as skincare and spending money for example) being related to adults, is because they "take care of themself and try to look more presentable" = skincare, "having responsibility of handling money properly" = spending money at expensive shops. It's a little dumbed down but that's pretty much how kids see things. And "playing with toys" = "not having enough maturity to spend your life doing more proper things", as an adult for example, so that's why adults playing with toys is seen as immature. Dumbing down complex things and making dumb things complex.
And still, it's sad to see my peers get treated so improperly, and not be taken into accountability for their actions and being treated with so much disrespect.
(Sorry for the rant, I just think this topic is so interesting and doesn't get talked about a lot-)
I have always been told I was a ‘wise soul’ whatever that means. Important adult figures in my life have always treated me as if I were already an adult. I don’t want to be an adult, I want to be a kid, but how am I supposed to when I’m 13 and people treat me like I can legally drink?
Yeah, I'm young (still in highschool) and one of my teachers call edme "kid" in a message, like dude, I'm a teen. Talk to me in a way that understands that I'm not as developed and have less experience and knowledge, but doesn't patronise me. I understand that we aren't exactly equals, but I'd prefer to not be condescended to. At this point I just expect figures of authority to patronise me if I even do anything remotely "immature", so I try my best to be competent and function well in the very stressful school environment without ever asking for help (not very healthy, I know).
Go preach! So many people online just kinda hate kids and hey I get that they can be annoying and I'm not that great with kids either but they're just trying to figure things out too and we shouldn't treat them as if they're lesser or not worthy of respect. Like I see it on the internet all the time where when someone comments something stupid or weird, everyone is like 'oh you must be a 14 year old who doesn't know any better' or 'where are your parents, you must be like 13 max' and it's so patronizing sometimes? Especially cause they are plenty of ADULTS who act that way but everyone always assumes it's the kid who's acting that way. I hope that people eventually understand that being an adult doesn't make you superior and we always make fun of children for being 'immature' when really so many adults are still freaking immature and do plenty of things way worse than any kid even thinks of doing.
The whole “I hate that I can be subjected to a 14 year old’s opinion” or “you’re probably 13/14” from older gen z or millennials wondering why kids are acting out and trying to be older than they are as if they’re not ridiculed for acting their age then being mad when they try to act mature. Kids aren’t allowed to d anything without being shamed or made fun of or patronized and then people wonder why kids are having rebellious phases
Couldn’t have said it better myself to be honest
So many children are shamed out of being themselves , no one understands how essential socialization is when youre literally a developing child forming all your first core memories , your values, your moral compass and opinions.. for the people who bully kids , its just another day. theres no consequences to their psychology, for kids. its literally something theyre going to look back on as nostalgic .. one of their first memories!! kids should be allowed to like “cringey” things, and act “cringey”, and be “stupid”.
because when they are shamed out of it. they try to look for a way to stop being shamed.. they want others to like them :( and if the cool people bullying them like hyper consumerist skin care and revealing clothes and makeup, they’re going to feel pressured to get into it so they can stop being treated like they’re insignificant
unrelated but you're very pretty
YESSS! As a kid, NO ONE is taking me seriously. I’m trying to act mature, I’m trying to be a worthy person so they can give me some respect. I just wanna be validated and acknowledged!!
from experience, the same adults who tell you to ‘appreciate your youth’ and sh1t are the same ones who make fun of you and belittle you for being a certain age. its so creepy and annoying how adults will project their mistakes onto you and act like you are exactly like them.
these same adults will hate kids for being ‘cringe’ and ‘annoying’ but offer no constructive criticism or advice. they just want to mindlessly hate because its easier than remembering and healing from their own mistakes