Story 1...go back to work! Take your time finding the job that fits the perfect schedule you had, just negotiate your start time or time off to fit the kids' summer. If if being a SAHM isn't your dream, DON'T DO IT! The double standard is insane and befriending people just because they're connected through my partner's work was my personal hell.
This!!! I have never found the SAHM thing to be fulfilling. My career fulfills me. I don't love my kids any less, just can't spend all day with them. Also, I LOVE WHAT I DO. So if u don't want to, don't stay home. Even if ur hubs loves it...!
I definitely agree all though I will say that I do know quite a few women who “ never wanted to be a stay at home Mom” I think one of them told me she would rather cut off her own arm( this was before she had her own kids. In her defense we were working at a fast food restaurant and sometimes the parents and kids that would come through was fing wild.) BUT they tested it out and they ended up loving it. It’s definitely not something that is for all women. I had the opportunity to stay home too and I was torn because I so badly wanted to but I also Truly LOVE my job. I’m a support staff for people with high functioning disability and I’ve all the people I was supporting at the time were people I had been support for more than 5 years by the time I had our daughter. I took a full 6 months off and around when my PTO I had saved and my leave payments my work provided I decided to go back part time. The schedule super flexible and all together I just love everything about it. It was a little rocky for awhile but having a break from kids can be good because sometimes we adults need our own “ timeouts” if you will to either just be by ourselves or be with other adults if that makes sense hopefully. I think she should take a break from doing it all and just focus on herself , and her family. If she decides oh shit I love this cool and if she isn’t hyped about it then definitely find something that works. I don’t know if the amount of working hours was listed but I didn’t catch them maybe she could find something simple with less hours or something like that. Either way it’s so adorable how excited her kids are especially “ it’s going to be the best summer ever” to me says they want/need more time with one or both of their parents. If Dads always at work that means that even when Mom is home Mom is busy and if she’s anything like me that means she may think that she’s connecting and spending time with the kids and maybe she she truly is but if you are focus on other things like cleaning, pre planning for the next day, making food lunches and dinners you are spending time with the kids but you aren’t spending invested time with just the kids. Just because we can do multiple things at once doesn’t mean we always should.
1st story: my dad worked for a company for 22 years and was laid off when the company went out of business abruptly. He was unemployed for a few months and began baking everyday? I had never seen my dad bake before, I say this bc I think In those moments it’s easy to get depressed and feel less than but you have a new opportunity to find/try out new hobbies and find new things you enjoy especially time with the kids 😊 I was so worried about my dad who was a workaholic before he was laid off but those few months gave him time to find joy in something he had never done before but always had an interest in ❤
Story 5: Get his hormone levels checked pronto. My husband went through similar issues, turns out low testosterone and high estrogen was to blame. Also with your partners mental health > depression can have a significant impact on sex drive. Also any medication he’s on for his ADHD may be playing a part here too. He needs medical care and mental health care and some time for his body to sort itself out. It won’t be an overnight fix but there’s hope
100% agree with your comment, I'm a sexologist and my first thoughts were the meds he's taking (physiological factor) and his performance anxiety (psychological factor) low testosterone and high estrogen will also affect erection.
I love when Matt comes on! But I have got to say, the moment I noticed the Shasta using the phone as a coaster it was the only thing I could focus on 😂😂😂 I was waiting for it to be a casualty the whole time 😅
Story 2: yes age probably has something to do with it, but for example, my dad’s 73 years old and has had businesses his entire life, he would never attack an employee for this. He didn’t even did this to employees who didn’t show up to work for being hung over, yes, they wouldn’t get payed for that day and a little advice about responsibilities but that’s it.
The “uncle Justin” them doing that on their own made me “AWWW” out loud so loud my dog was concerned 😂🥰 that’s so sweet! I love that for you guys ❤ one of my fave couples ❤
First story- mom should become a paraeducator! They are desperately needed and she could work during the school year and have summers off with her kids. ☺️
For the past couple with the low sex drive. I would have his testosterone tested. Low T is very common among men and not always talked about. There are many things he can do to boost his T levels and if it’s really low then they can give you hormones to help. Just like women, men need to care for their hormone health too! It’s not uncommon for a man to reach a certain age or struggle with this. Sometimes it’s physical and not mental!
Story 2: I think they owe it to everyone involved to have a conversation. None of them know *exactly* how the dad will react. He may be really open about an honest and direct conversation, or he may be a dick about it. The thing is, they don’t know unless they try to talk with him. And if they don’t want to have a convo with him, then yes - just leave.
story #5: have him get checked for testosterone levels. my relationship ended up this way as well and it turns out he had low t. being on t didn't completely solve the problem but figuring out what time in the day he has the most energy and participating in his love language helps.
for story two… i’ve been in ALMOST car accidents where everyone was fine and literally nothing happened that kept me awake all night! that shit is SCARY
for the first story: I think there's a lot of pressure on women specifically to "do it all" that isn't necessarily present with men. I get how with society's pressures it can feel like you "need" to do everything to be successful. Honestly, I think success comes from what works for you and what makes you happy. If being a stay-at home mom is your thing, great! If not, that's totally fine too. I would say not to push yourself too much just because society tells you that you need to fit a certain "perfect mom" mold.
Why is no one talking about story 3?! That is so wild to me. I would go no/low contact so fast. The parents just want to make their relationships everyone else's problem and shove it down everyone's throat. Holy cow! They definitely are trying to prove something to themselves. Yikes
The sex thing is hard. As someone who has struggled immensely with this and lost relationships due to it, being questioned about it and pressured makes it so much worse. It’s so hard to work on and maybe there could be other options laid out like the wife being able to go outside the home or something? Sometimes people just don’t want to have sex. Also she is upset because it’s not more than once a week? He’s probably struggling so much to do just that.
Story #4: this exact situation has happened to me so many times giving my daughter’s clothes to people on Facebook for free. They turn around and sell them for way more than they should. I will only ever donate them to used clothes stores now. It enrages me when this happens.
Story 5: I’m really surprised how much they are putting this all on the guy over performance anxiety when the OP also clearly has body image issues post-ED recovery (which does one ever actually fully recover from ED-related issues?). I could see OP using sex for body confidence and that’s not healthy either. We are getting one perspective over intimacy issues where OP has revealed how much pressure this guy is under and we don’t know how delicately they are really approaching that pressure. I agree with Morgan’s comment about intimate activity that doesn’t involve sex. OP didn’t give enough info on the rest of their affection levels.
I think if I had given a parent a bassinet and they sold it after using it for money I would be happy they got more out of it and that another family would be using it too... that's like a double gift 😂😂😂 I gave them the gift and they also get money on top of the gift 🎉
Breaking the glass ceiling at work! Maybe success stories in work advancement! been struggling with these things currently. Sending love from San Diego! Love watching this podcast. Hope everyone is doing well! ❤
For story 5 the low libido could be due to the adhd medication or the depression, I struggle with both as well and i go through bouts of super high libido and then its like it's completely nonexistent, i think he should definitely talk to whoever is prescribing the adhd medication about it and see what they think, ik a lot of the time ssri's and adhd meds can cause that
Story 5: He should get his hormones checked. My husband had a similar issue and it turned out to be due to low testosterone. This happens a lot and men don't tend to go to a doctor when they're feeling off but I made him and being put on T helped with so many other little things like overall mood and sleep!
Story 4 really struck me. I used to give all of kinds of things away to people in need and never had an issue with someone turning around and selling without them asking me and those people needed the money. If it was something I couldn't use, I really mostly said ok. But I LENT my cousin a bassinet that my great grandfather HAND MADE and it was passed down to me. No relation to her. She turned around and sold it a week after I said she could borrow it. I was furious and honestly haven't spoken to her since. She has never apologized or even tried to get it back. She knew it was a family heirloom, she just didn't care. She sold it for $25. It broke my heart and even worse, my daughter's heart. She knew it was supposed to go to her and she was devastated when she found out. I get the "piss on it rule" and generally do follow it. I also say "money lent is money spent" because I've loaned money to family and never been paid back. And right now when I desperately need help, crickets. No one even acknowledged us at Christmas. They all had a huge "family" Christmas, including my brother and sister and their families and we weren't even invited. It sucks but it is what it is.
I remember the stripper story. Matt pissed me off so much that I stop watching the episode and til this day didn’t watch it to the end. To say someone is “insecure” because he doesn’t like his fiancé having the genitals of a male stripper in her face is actually crazy.
Id be like OOPS...i need that stuff i gave u back on accident haha seems shitty like they dont want used stuff? ...maybe they too rich for hand me downs
Story 5 I'm a sexologist, so I see these type of situations often. Certain medications can affect libido and certain adhd medication are part of those look it up, it could explain the decrease in desire. It could of fueled his performance anxiety and anxiety is a "boner killer" it affects your nervous system and makes it really hard to reach an erection and / or keep it. The fact that you mentionned being intimate more often before (before the meds??) He could sense that he's not doing his part like he used to which again fuels the performance anxiety. He himself talks and apologize for his performance which he thinks is lacking. Getting viagra or other similar meds are not a good solution if you're not talking about the performance anxiety it's going to fuel it more and make him think he can only perform with these meds. I really encourage you two to go to a sex therapist (sexologist) together to deal with the situation and heal. Maybe I am a bit biased towards my profession, but not just any regular therapist will be able to help you through all that, a sexologist is more knowledgeable on issues of relationship, intimacy, and sexual fonctions. ❤ hope y'all can get to a better situation together
6:08 it can be difficult but I promise as long as you enjoy your kids you will be glad to have a summer for even more with your children. Do extra activities. You are not less than. This happens to so many amazing people. I promise in many years when you’re close to the end of your life you won’t be like damn I truly regret that one summer I got to spend all day every day with my kids. If you thought you were connected before you guys will be even more connected during/after the summer. Soon they will be “too cool” and older and off with their friends.
When you give people hand me downs I never expect them back Obviously if I Wanted to keep them for another child I would have kept them in storage. Most people were either See if someone else wants them or then donate them. But I don't Want them back. I'm trying to declutter heads giving you my clothes. Now something like a crib or a high chair it a different story. I had lent my sister-in-law my crib. I was done using it I wasn't using it anymore children, but it still my crib. I paid for it. Well I saw my crib while I marketplace and that was selling it. Now that's not acceptable. You wanna sell it for me great give me the money. But you're not gonna get a free crib and then make money off of a crib that I bought She didn't even grasp What I was saying. So she gave it back to me. And then honestly I gave it to donation. But she had a huge fight with me over it . She didn't talk to me for like a year. Am I in the right?
I avoid being out after bar close since forever even ehen i went to bars lol theres idiots out there and most times being out late isnt great xuz thats when all the skeevy people are out depending on area. Not her fault but perhaps try to not be on roads when drunks are typically out. I had my apt burn...had to go in work and people were shocked how i didnt show that i just lost everything including my cat....ik we all handle shit diff but thats why dont work for fam ha
I feel for the guy in story 5. I take Ritalin for my adhd and it killed my sex drive. I used to have a very high drive and it’s gone. Lubrication is also a problem now. It’s frustrating to explain to people I’m dating, at least they are married and know eachothers bodies. They can work through it!!
Story 5: Depression lowers libido. If you need sex more, there are sex toys that you can pleasure yourself. He needs counselling now. If he is unwilling to get counselling at all, then you have to decide if you are willing tonstay in a relationship where you want to stay in a relationship where a partner is choosing not get help.
Can we just say, Bravo Matt for stepping up to the plate on this one. There were some curveballs within these stories for sure, and I was left stumped but I feel like you took a calm approach and generated some thoughtful suggestions. Well done
For the episode ideas maybe pet based stories like the adoption and foster story that they neglected the older dog 🐕 it could be lightly based like the issues are happening and someone is spending more time with the family pet
1st story. You could look to volunteer in your community? Often local theatres needs behind the scenes, or you could look to support the community at your kids school
the second story hits close to home. in 2019 i was at a house party where a shooting happened within 30 ft in front of me, and in the rush to get out, i was trampled. this obviously led me to PTSD which severely affected me mentally, and it ended up being the catalyst to a really bad mental health spiral for me. i haven't been able to hold a job and i moved back home in the beginning of 2021 where I've done really well with my healing and have actively been getting help for both my mental and physical health. all that to say, my boomer grandpa has not stopped giving me grief over the fact that i am not working/contributing financially to the household, despite me doing 95% of the household upkeep and pulling my weight in other ways to help support my family while I'm living at home. he doesn't ask my mom (his daughter) how I'm doing progress-wise with my healing, he asks if I've gotten back to work. because i haven't been to war, why am i dealing with ptsd? that's his thought process. (he went to war and thinks he came out fine🙃) to the OP of the second story, family doesn't need to understand how what you've been through has affected you, but they do need to /RESPECT/ how what you've been through has affected you and act accordingly. if they cant even show you that basic decency, limit contact as much as you are comfortable doing. you can explain your situation to them in 50 different ways and they still won't get it, because they are already resolute with their mindset. i wish you much luck in your healing OP 💗
I recently lost my mother that I never got the chance to get close to and I would love to hear some similar stories from people who also lost a parent they never got to get a chance to get close to. She was an addict when I was 1-3 that ended with her losing custody of myself and my brother. I spent my childhood wanting a connection with her and with therapy the past few years, I tried to reconnect with hopes of the future, only to have her pass within a few months this past year. I understand its a specific situation but I feel very lonely with my specific grief and would love to hear if there are more people out there dealing with similar issues and if there is anything to help moving forward.
That is heartbreaking. Growing up in a house like that must have been so difficult for you. im so sorry. Nobody deserves to have a childhood like that. I don’t have much advice. But I want you to know that I hope you get the advice you deserve❤️
I love how its new year new dad! We got a step dad yall! 😂 jk 😅
lol 😂it is true and it is nice to hear his perspective too!
I like the idea of adding to the cast of fathers who know a thing or two- very cool!
Thr story 2, that father inlaw would not welcomed in my home until he deeply apologized. And meant it.
Story 1...go back to work! Take your time finding the job that fits the perfect schedule you had, just negotiate your start time or time off to fit the kids' summer. If if being a SAHM isn't your dream, DON'T DO IT! The double standard is insane and befriending people just because they're connected through my partner's work was my personal hell.
This!!! I have never found the SAHM thing to be fulfilling. My career fulfills me. I don't love my kids any less, just can't spend all day with them. Also, I LOVE WHAT I DO. So if u don't want to, don't stay home. Even if ur hubs loves it...!
I definitely agree all though I will say that I do know quite a few women who “ never wanted to be a stay at home Mom” I think one of them told me she would rather cut off her own arm( this was before she had her own kids. In her defense we were working at a fast food restaurant and sometimes the parents and kids that would come through was fing wild.) BUT they tested it out and they ended up loving it. It’s definitely not something that is for all women. I had the opportunity to stay home too and I was torn because I so badly wanted to but I also Truly LOVE my job. I’m a support staff for people with high functioning disability and I’ve all the people I was supporting at the time were people I had been support for more than 5 years by the time I had our daughter. I took a full 6 months off and around when my PTO I had saved and my leave payments my work provided I decided to go back part time. The schedule super flexible and all together I just love everything about it. It was a little rocky for awhile but having a break from kids can be good because sometimes we adults need our own “ timeouts” if you will to either just be by ourselves or be with other adults if that makes sense hopefully. I think she should take a break from doing it all and just focus on herself , and her family. If she decides oh shit I love this cool and if she isn’t hyped about it then definitely find something that works. I don’t know if the amount of working hours was listed but I didn’t catch them maybe she could find something simple with less hours or something like that. Either way it’s so adorable how excited her kids are especially “ it’s going to be the best summer ever” to me says they want/need more time with one or both of their parents. If Dads always at work that means that even when Mom is home Mom is busy and if she’s anything like me that means she may think that she’s connecting and spending time with the kids and maybe she she truly is but if you are focus on other things like cleaning, pre planning for the next day, making food lunches and dinners you are spending time with the kids but you aren’t spending invested time with just the kids. Just because we can do multiple things at once doesn’t mean we always should.
1st story: my dad worked for a company for 22 years and was laid off when the company went out of business abruptly. He was unemployed for a few months and began baking everyday? I had never seen my dad bake before, I say this bc I think In those moments it’s easy to get depressed and feel less than but you have a new opportunity to find/try out new hobbies and find new things you enjoy especially time with the kids 😊 I was so worried about my dad who was a workaholic before he was laid off but those few months gave him time to find joy in something he had never done before but always had an interest in ❤
Story 5: Get his hormone levels checked pronto. My husband went through similar issues, turns out low testosterone and high estrogen was to blame. Also with your partners mental health > depression can have a significant impact on sex drive. Also any medication he’s on for his ADHD may be playing a part here too. He needs medical care and mental health care and some time for his body to sort itself out. It won’t be an overnight fix but there’s hope
100% agree with your comment, I'm a sexologist and my first thoughts were the meds he's taking (physiological factor) and his performance anxiety (psychological factor) low testosterone and high estrogen will also affect erection.
How does Jerry feel with Matt coming in trying to take his title of our dad?? 😂
I love when Matt comes on! But I have got to say, the moment I noticed the Shasta using the phone as a coaster it was the only thing I could focus on 😂😂😂 I was waiting for it to be a casualty the whole time 😅
Love and marriage, love and marriage. They go together like a horse and carriage 🎶
Story 2: yes age probably has something to do with it, but for example, my dad’s 73 years old and has had businesses his entire life, he would never attack an employee for this. He didn’t even did this to employees who didn’t show up to work for being hung over, yes, they wouldn’t get payed for that day and a little advice about responsibilities but that’s it.
The “uncle Justin” them doing that on their own made me “AWWW” out loud so loud my dog was concerned 😂🥰 that’s so sweet! I love that for you guys ❤ one of my fave couples ❤
First story- mom should become a paraeducator! They are desperately needed and she could work during the school year and have summers off with her kids. ☺️
story 2: that father in law would never step foot in my house ever again. i hope the sister leaves and finds a better working environment.
Theme suggestions:
1. Quarter Life Crisis
2. Teenage Angst
3. True Love or Infatuation
4. Upper Class-ic Struggles
For the past couple with the low sex drive. I would have his testosterone tested. Low T is very common among men and not always talked about. There are many things he can do to boost his T levels and if it’s really low then they can give you hormones to help. Just like women, men need to care for their hormone health too! It’s not uncommon for a man to reach a certain age or struggle with this. Sometimes it’s physical and not mental!
I loved that mat was here but isn’t this more a tht ep then?😅
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Story 2: I think they owe it to everyone involved to have a conversation. None of them know *exactly* how the dad will react. He may be really open about an honest and direct conversation, or he may be a dick about it. The thing is, they don’t know unless they try to talk with him. And if they don’t want to have a convo with him, then yes - just leave.
story #5: have him get checked for testosterone levels. my relationship ended up this way as well and it turns out he had low t. being on t didn't completely solve the problem but figuring out what time in the day he has the most energy and participating in his love language helps.
Matt was born on my daughter's birthday ! Same year and everything ❤️
for story two… i’ve been in ALMOST car accidents where everyone was fine and literally nothing happened that kept me awake all night! that shit is SCARY
for the first story: I think there's a lot of pressure on women specifically to "do it all" that isn't necessarily present with men. I get how with society's pressures it can feel like you "need" to do everything to be successful. Honestly, I think success comes from what works for you and what makes you happy. If being a stay-at home mom is your thing, great! If not, that's totally fine too. I would say not to push yourself too much just because society tells you that you need to fit a certain "perfect mom" mold.
Story 1: what wasn't mentioned is it could be difficult to gt work after not working for several years
Why is no one talking about story 3?! That is so wild to me. I would go no/low contact so fast. The parents just want to make their relationships everyone else's problem and shove it down everyone's throat. Holy cow! They definitely are trying to prove something to themselves. Yikes
Just when I needed a new episode! Happy new year team!!!!
The sex thing is hard. As someone who has struggled immensely with this and lost relationships due to it, being questioned about it and pressured makes it so much worse. It’s so hard to work on and maybe there could be other options laid out like the wife being able to go outside the home or something? Sometimes people just don’t want to have sex. Also she is upset because it’s not more than once a week? He’s probably struggling so much to do just that.
Aww Matt did so well!! This was a fun lil change up! 👏🏼😄 Gave some solid advice!
Story #4: this exact situation has happened to me so many times giving my daughter’s clothes to people on Facebook for free. They turn around and sell them for way more than they should. I will only ever donate them to used clothes stores now. It enrages me when this happens.
Okay Jerry is not the dad today. I'll watch it😅✌
Story 5: I’m really surprised how much they are putting this all on the guy over performance anxiety when the OP also clearly has body image issues post-ED recovery (which does one ever actually fully recover from ED-related issues?). I could see OP using sex for body confidence and that’s not healthy either.
We are getting one perspective over intimacy issues where OP has revealed how much pressure this guy is under and we don’t know how delicately they are really approaching that pressure.
I agree with Morgan’s comment about intimate activity that doesn’t involve sex. OP didn’t give enough info on the rest of their affection levels.
I think if I had given a parent a bassinet and they sold it after using it for money I would be happy they got more out of it and that another family would be using it too... that's like a double gift 😂😂😂 I gave them the gift and they also get money on top of the gift 🎉
Breaking the glass ceiling at work! Maybe success stories in work advancement! been struggling with these things currently. Sending love from San Diego! Love watching this podcast. Hope everyone is doing well! ❤
For story 5 the low libido could be due to the adhd medication or the depression, I struggle with both as well and i go through bouts of super high libido and then its like it's completely nonexistent, i think he should definitely talk to whoever is prescribing the adhd medication about it and see what they think, ik a lot of the time ssri's and adhd meds can cause that
Story 5: He should get his hormones checked. My husband had a similar issue and it turned out to be due to low testosterone. This happens a lot and men don't tend to go to a doctor when they're feeling off but I made him and being put on T helped with so many other little things like overall mood and sleep!
Story 2 he doesn't need to understand, he needs to accept and stfu and mind his own business. This isn't how you talk to employees let alone family.
You guys were great !
The best thing for clothing is to give it to someone who will use it. Dont donate to Goodwill, they send tons of textile waste to the landfill.
matt had great insights, i loved this episode !
Story 4 really struck me. I used to give all of kinds of things away to people in need and never had an issue with someone turning around and selling without them asking me and those people needed the money. If it was something I couldn't use, I really mostly said ok. But I LENT my cousin a bassinet that my great grandfather HAND MADE and it was passed down to me. No relation to her. She turned around and sold it a week after I said she could borrow it. I was furious and honestly haven't spoken to her since. She has never apologized or even tried to get it back. She knew it was a family heirloom, she just didn't care. She sold it for $25. It broke my heart and even worse, my daughter's heart. She knew it was supposed to go to her and she was devastated when she found out. I get the "piss on it rule" and generally do follow it. I also say "money lent is money spent" because I've loaned money to family and never been paid back. And right now when I desperately need help, crickets. No one even acknowledged us at Christmas. They all had a huge "family" Christmas, including my brother and sister and their families and we weren't even invited. It sucks but it is what it is.
I remember the stripper story. Matt pissed me off so much that I stop watching the episode and til this day didn’t watch it to the end. To say someone is “insecure” because he doesn’t like his fiancé having the genitals of a male stripper in her face is actually crazy.
Ah! Morgan and Matt look so much alike!
Lol
Id be like OOPS...i need that stuff i gave u back on accident haha seems shitty like they dont want used stuff? ...maybe they too rich for hand me downs
Story 5 I'm a sexologist, so I see these type of situations often. Certain medications can affect libido and certain adhd medication are part of those look it up, it could explain the decrease in desire. It could of fueled his performance anxiety and anxiety is a "boner killer" it affects your nervous system and makes it really hard to reach an erection and / or keep it. The fact that you mentionned being intimate more often before (before the meds??) He could sense that he's not doing his part like he used to which again fuels the performance anxiety. He himself talks and apologize for his performance which he thinks is lacking. Getting viagra or other similar meds are not a good solution if you're not talking about the performance anxiety it's going to fuel it more and make him think he can only perform with these meds. I really encourage you two to go to a sex therapist (sexologist) together to deal with the situation and heal. Maybe I am a bit biased towards my profession, but not just any regular therapist will be able to help you through all that, a sexologist is more knowledgeable on issues of relationship, intimacy, and sexual fonctions. ❤ hope y'all can get to a better situation together
6:08 it can be difficult but I promise as long as you enjoy your kids you will be glad to have a summer for even more with your children. Do extra activities. You are not less than. This happens to so many amazing people. I promise in many years when you’re close to the end of your life you won’t be like damn I truly regret that one summer I got to spend all day every day with my kids. If you thought you were connected before you guys will be even more connected during/after the summer. Soon they will be “too cool” and older and off with their friends.
When you give people hand me downs I never expect them back Obviously if I Wanted to keep them for another child I would have kept them in storage. Most people were either See if someone else wants them or then donate them. But I don't Want them back. I'm trying to declutter heads giving you my clothes. Now something like a crib or a high chair it a different story. I had lent my sister-in-law my crib. I was done using it I wasn't using it anymore children, but it still my crib. I paid for it. Well I saw my crib while I marketplace and that was selling it. Now that's not acceptable. You wanna sell it for me great give me the money. But you're not gonna get a free crib and then make money off of a crib that I bought She didn't even grasp What I was saying. So she gave it back to me. And then honestly I gave it to donation. But she had a huge fight with me over it . She didn't talk to me for like a year. Am I in the right?
I avoid being out after bar close since forever even ehen i went to bars lol theres idiots out there and most times being out late isnt great xuz thats when all the skeevy people are out depending on area. Not her fault but perhaps try to not be on roads when drunks are typically out. I had my apt burn...had to go in work and people were shocked how i didnt show that i just lost everything including my cat....ik we all handle shit diff but thats why dont work for fam ha
I feel for the guy in story 5. I take Ritalin for my adhd and it killed my sex drive. I used to have a very high drive and it’s gone. Lubrication is also a problem now. It’s frustrating to explain to people I’m dating, at least they are married and know eachothers bodies. They can work through it!!
I was immediately so confused 😅😅😅
Story 5: Depression lowers libido. If you need sex more, there are sex toys that you can pleasure yourself. He needs counselling now. If he is unwilling to get counselling at all, then you have to decide if you are willing tonstay in a relationship where you want to stay in a relationship where a partner is choosing not get help.
I love Matt being on but isnt this Jerry’s show? Plz don’t replace him :( pre record for us next time
I love when u guys have Matt & Amy on any of the podcasts🥰💕 they’re amazing✨ & give the best advice🙌🏻
Can we just say, Bravo Matt for stepping up to the plate on this one. There were some curveballs within these stories for sure, and I was left stumped but I feel like you took a calm approach and generated some thoughtful suggestions. Well done
I never got the notification for this one!.
For the episode ideas maybe pet based stories like the adoption and foster story that they neglected the older dog 🐕 it could be lightly based like the issues are happening and someone is spending more time with the family pet
1st story. You could look to volunteer in your community? Often local theatres needs behind the scenes, or you could look to support the community at your kids school
I gave my cousin a hand me down Michael Kors bag as a birthday gift once & she posted it for sale on Facebook like a week later. I was so pissed.
Oooh you guys should include other fathers on as guests, maybe some of Jerry's friends
great episode! excited to hear their podcast too. 🙌🏻
Miss Jerry and his energy...
You didn’t like Matt on this episode …
Rude.
Okay this is crazy because I just got married on the 31st!
Can’t wait to see you guys in Charlotte ❤ it’s gonna be my valentine date!
the second story hits close to home. in 2019 i was at a house party where a shooting happened within 30 ft in front of me, and in the rush to get out, i was trampled. this obviously led me to PTSD which severely affected me mentally, and it ended up being the catalyst to a really bad mental health spiral for me. i haven't been able to hold a job and i moved back home in the beginning of 2021 where I've done really well with my healing and have actively been getting help for both my mental and physical health.
all that to say, my boomer grandpa has not stopped giving me grief over the fact that i am not working/contributing financially to the household, despite me doing 95% of the household upkeep and pulling my weight in other ways to help support my family while I'm living at home. he doesn't ask my mom (his daughter) how I'm doing progress-wise with my healing, he asks if I've gotten back to work. because i haven't been to war, why am i dealing with ptsd? that's his thought process. (he went to war and thinks he came out fine🙃)
to the OP of the second story, family doesn't need to understand how what you've been through has affected you, but they do need to /RESPECT/ how what you've been through has affected you and act accordingly. if they cant even show you that basic decency, limit contact as much as you are comfortable doing. you can explain your situation to them in 50 different ways and they still won't get it, because they are already resolute with their mindset.
i wish you much luck in your healing OP 💗
I loved Morgan’s brother’s response to story 5
October 10th is my birthday! 🎉
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Woooohooooo I'm early for onceeee!
I recently lost my mother that I never got the chance to get close to and I would love to hear some similar stories from people who also lost a parent they never got to get a chance to get close to. She was an addict when I was 1-3 that ended with her losing custody of myself and my brother. I spent my childhood wanting a connection with her and with therapy the past few years, I tried to reconnect with hopes of the future, only to have her pass within a few months this past year.
I understand its a specific situation but I feel very lonely with my specific grief and would love to hear if there are more people out there dealing with similar issues and if there is anything to help moving forward.
That is heartbreaking. Growing up in a house like that must have been so difficult for you.
im so sorry. Nobody deserves to have a childhood like that. I don’t have much advice. But I want you to know that I hope you get the advice you deserve❤️