“Why 90% of Relationships FAIL!” - Divorce Lawyer on Lies, Cheating, and Love | James Sexton

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    0:00 - Intro
    2:54 - The WORST Divorce Case James Has Ever Worked On
    8:49 - James Sexton on Becoming a Divorce Lawyer
    13:05 - The Power of Being 100% Supportive to Your Spouse
    18:35 - The Impact of Social Media on Divorce and Self-Comparison
    25:54 - Why MOST Relationships FAIL
    38:29 - The Question You NEED to Ask Yourself Before Getting Married
    42:07 - Understanding Child Support & Marriage Laws
    46:20 - Why EVERYONE Should Have a Prenup
    1:00:15 - There is No GOOD or BAD Person in a Divorce
    1:05:14 - CHEATING
    1:13:44 - The Key to Keeping a Marriage Alive and Spicy
    1:18:14 - How to Be Seen as a “The Hero” in Your Relationship
    1:21:22 - How Modern Dating Culture Affects Relationships
    1:33:28 - Using Positive Psychological Manipulation for Better Relationships
    1:37:14 - Deep Questions to Improve Your Relationship
    1:41:25 - Heartbreaking Divorce Cases
    1:44:48 - A Good Divorce Lawyer is Worth A LOT
    1:57:20 - The Most INSANE Prenup Clause That Held Up in Court
    2:05:22 - Do Opposites Really Attract?
    2:06:53 - Closing Thoughts
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Комментарии • 916

  • @banterouspineapple5178
    @banterouspineapple5178 4 месяца назад +732

    "practically everyone is in a relationship" Thanks for rubbing it my face Graham 😭

  • @nat7891
    @nat7891 3 месяца назад +88

    This guy is so insightful, real, and actually HAS life experiences. He is blunt and honest. I can listen to him talk all day!

    • @justmyopinion9883
      @justmyopinion9883 3 месяца назад +3

      Same here. I’m binge watching his videos tonight.

    • @dannywholuv
      @dannywholuv 19 дней назад

      With a face like yours, id listen to you all day too

    • @wLBlue
      @wLBlue 11 дней назад

      ​@@dannywholuvdude

    • @kimf5948
      @kimf5948 6 дней назад

      Me too!!

  • @lukescapee1234
    @lukescapee1234 4 месяца назад +401

    My wife and I turned this episode on in the background today and ended up watching all 2 hours because of how invested we were! Never heard of James before, but he seems to have lots of wisdom, and a great speaker.

    • @josuereyes-vega2743
      @josuereyes-vega2743 4 месяца назад +17

      Definitely check out the softwhite underbelly episode!

    • @anisenkrill6179
      @anisenkrill6179 4 месяца назад

      @@josuereyes-vega2743 His Rational Male interview was better than SWU or Lex.

    • @ew2645
      @ew2645 4 месяца назад +8

      I highly recommend reading his first book.

    • @tonydiesel3444
      @tonydiesel3444 3 месяца назад

      Married oh my God marriage of suicide most marriages end at 9 years

    • @AlongSamXiong
      @AlongSamXiong 3 месяца назад

      @@tonydiesel3444SX as

  • @user-dw7zi1ms6s
    @user-dw7zi1ms6s 4 месяца назад +205

    Proud Father! I am always amazed this is my son and extremely proud of what a caring human being he is.

    • @ivanamicimici
      @ivanamicimici 3 месяца назад +11

      He is an awesome story teller.
      Hopefully you are now in a good place and he's keeping it down for you with the grandkids and everything. Keep going,one day at a time.

    • @susandurrant6357
      @susandurrant6357 3 месяца назад +7

      He's a Star ✨✨✨✨✨

    • @alaalfa8839
      @alaalfa8839 Месяц назад

      they mean 90 percent a year or lifetime?
      or 90 percent per person
      they may split, but it doesnt mean the relationhip was failure completelly.
      the person just decides to have new model, because of boredom.
      Its like saying I ate my favorite food 500 times in ten years, i loved it,
      but 95 percent of it ws failure..
      Just because the time passed, it doesnt mean it was a failure to eat the favorite food.
      Subconscious mind is 90 percent negative,
      conscious mind works 5 percent a day but is 100 percent positive.
      The relationships are not faiulre, but not learning any lesson from previous relationship
      and repeating same mistakes is failure.

    • @pranzobagsbymaryloupalazzo3727
      @pranzobagsbymaryloupalazzo3727 19 дней назад

      He’s awesome, smart
      and so interesting ❤

  • @HindsightFPV
    @HindsightFPV 4 месяца назад +452

    3 failed long-term relationships here and I can say this man is ON POINT with everything he's saying.

    • @Boosted_aj
      @Boosted_aj 4 месяца назад +25

      There’s a constant variable there

    • @HindsightFPV
      @HindsightFPV 4 месяца назад +38

      @@Boosted_aj lol tell me something I haven't already realized.

    • @BlaziNTrades
      @BlaziNTrades 4 месяца назад +3

      ​@@Boosted_ajoxymoronic much

    • @joeyfarino9657
      @joeyfarino9657 4 месяца назад

      100%!!!!

    • @deborahcurtis1385
      @deborahcurtis1385 4 месяца назад +3

      Except that he uses juvenile terms about very adult situations.
      Why say he felt 'icky' about smashing a client on the other side who simply hired a lawyer who didn't know his way around the law of evidence?
      He felt uncomfortable about it because what he did was enrich himself where he saw disadvantage.
      At the same time he's congratulating hinself on recommending clients not proceed with divorce and seek counselling, or avoid the court system and use mediators. So why did he not pull back from personal enrichment there?
      It troubles him enough to mention it, but not enough to unpack it fully because he knows he erred in that decision.
      It's not about what you can get away with, it's about what is ethical.
      By using a juvenile term 'icky' he's distancing himself. He knows that what he did is not really moral regardless of what he says about the rule of law, simply because as he admits, his client was simply more cashed up.
      That is brutal. So let's save the icky and similar terms for where they belong. In teenagers' TikTok or Instagram responses.

  • @RoseWater20
    @RoseWater20 4 месяца назад +91

    As a married woman and stay at home mom to two children I feel very seen… didn’t expect it to be by a divorce lawyer either.

    • @JavierPwns
      @JavierPwns 3 месяца назад +2

      Oh no, divorce lawyer tempting women into divorce!

    • @imahorseygal1
      @imahorseygal1 Месяц назад

      Same🙏🏻❤️

    • @GUITARTIME2024
      @GUITARTIME2024 29 дней назад +3

      Number 1 way to keep your husband: tell him you appreciate him, give him space as needed, and be a vixen in bed. I'm a dude. It's pretty simple.

    • @wtfdtreats
      @wtfdtreats 16 дней назад +1

      @@JavierPwns As if they need to be tempted anyway, it's their *biology* that's the problem.

    • @Hunter-2689
      @Hunter-2689 10 дней назад

      ​@wtfdtreats most divorces are cuz of adultery and according to men themselves, monogamy goes against their biology. So men aren't capable of marriage which at its core is a monogamous relationship. According to your logic marriage goes against the nature of men and women.

  • @michaelmansour6326
    @michaelmansour6326 4 месяца назад +198

    Many many great points here!! At 49 with some ups and downs with my wife for 26 years we found that a weekly "talk time" is crucial to keep thing going the right direction and getting better. We keep it short and 1) "Thank" the other for something they did that week. 2) "Sorry" for for something we did that week. 3) I will "try to" do something better or different this week. It is not a argument match. We don't go off on many items. Keep cool. Stay positive. End in a good place

    • @tammiepulley7167
      @tammiepulley7167 4 месяца назад +6

      Thanks Michael. Good on you for having regular talk time. This should be “socialized” into the area of “what’s expected “ into the language of a marriage similar to how many people discuss sex in the realm of what’s expected in a marriage. Change the dialogue people.

    • @Becky_Cal
      @Becky_Cal 4 месяца назад +3

      Excellent practice and idea!! 🙌

    • @geo865833
      @geo865833 3 месяца назад +2

      This is very good, thanks for sharing. All the best to both of you!

    • @redhead8777
      @redhead8777 3 месяца назад +2

      If you can possibly see your partner as a member of your team rather than a member of the other team the dynamic changes! However, There is NO room for dishonesty or cheating EVER - those two things are out of the bounds and cannot be changed/fixed. Divorce is legal but it is wrong and Hurts everyone involved around you Especially children. The future legal & relationship troubles are an issue most don't think about either! Just sayin!

    • @alaalfa8839
      @alaalfa8839 Месяц назад

      I just saw a meme graphic about "strong independent" women working in restaurant being hated by boss, instead of working as a mother, that is loved by whole family.
      It seems like people dont realize many things... How you want to make companies to hire only men,
      its impossible.
      Women go to work,.....to pay taxes, get social benefits, and not be woried about getting retirement money....... Therefore they are supposed to chose a school, to find a job.....They dont want to end up in some homeless home, or something like that......Its just option to get a school,a nd after schoool get a job.
      Goverment would say she is not contributing to society, if she will just make babies.....and as some doctor says many women suffer from infertility, partially because they dont spend enough time in nature, they are only in interiors, shopping centers, houses, jobs, cars and rarely go out exercising..... by the way if woman gets bored, she is annoying to hersefa nd everybody.
      Women love hobbies....and they want to turn their hobbes into some job, or part time job, to not feel bored or stuck and anxious about future..She doesnt want to exhaust her husband and drag the money only from him....and make him so tired and overworked, that he has no time "for love making or spending time together, because the bosses dont tolerate from him to work less hours or less products, bosses are basically anew form of a dictator who puts more work on the workers than they are able to do sometimes, because the material is shity or th equimpment breaks down etc. She knows he has enough work, anyway...so she wants to contribute as well.
      ........We can not expect the companies to hire only the men....There are not as many men on planet Earth to get all the jobs that are required. ....So men and women should find common language, in order to raise healthy kids and also .....if they dont find a common language, then the artificial intelligence will steal all the jobs, includding the most creative ones....Sam Vaknin explained that the Artificial intelligence is acting like a narcissists do... It steals jobs, it pretends empathy and it spreads misinformation and fake data, the same way as narcissists do. He thinks the government should block it in some way. He is right..... So no wonder that the trend of arguments is so high on Tik Tok, and on social media about gender and race and sexuality etc.....Its probably created superficially, and increased by AI, because as Sam Vaknin says AI spreads Fake data and misinformation.....Artificial intelligence increases the level of algorithm that suits the needs of Artificial Intelligence...rather than the needs of human beings.

  • @HaveANiceDayDude
    @HaveANiceDayDude 4 месяца назад +93

    Wtf how have I listened to this guy for almost 2 full interviews before he mentions he has a book!!! Impressed by the humility and definitely going to read it

    • @JavierPwns
      @JavierPwns 3 месяца назад +3

      You weren’t paying attention at the beginning then, he mentioned in the first few minutes his book he wrote in 2019

    • @vtmegrad98
      @vtmegrad98 3 месяца назад +1

      @@JavierPwns He's pretty clearly referring to having seen James on the Soft White Underbelly and Lex Friedman interviews, where James does not mention his books.

    • @vtmegrad98
      @vtmegrad98 3 месяца назад +1

      Books. plural.

    • @jameswu2351
      @jameswu2351 Месяц назад

      @@JavierPwns I think you might have misread, misunderstood, and mistaken. The two full interviews were from other podcasts.

    • @pamschmith4606
      @pamschmith4606 16 дней назад

      Actually, he has 2 books.

  • @BeeTimesTwo
    @BeeTimesTwo 4 месяца назад +147

    This is a master class in marriage, relationships, and culture. Love listening to him. You can tell from his logic and passion while speaking what he does for a living. Such an interesting interview.

    • @deborahcurtis1385
      @deborahcurtis1385 4 месяца назад

      He's also capable of being a real @hole and he knows it.

  • @DavidDOquendo
    @DavidDOquendo 4 месяца назад +90

    Sexton is a great dude through-and-through. I’ve known him for 10 plus years, and have met very few people that were as enlightened, transparent and knowledgeable as James.

  • @aaronsiebold114
    @aaronsiebold114 4 месяца назад +102

    Poor Jack and Graham look petrified realizing they can’t absolutely control cheating

    • @christopherhernandez3909
      @christopherhernandez3909 4 месяца назад +5

      😂😂 wtf

    • @georgesontag2192
      @georgesontag2192 3 месяца назад +3

      They know divorce will take most of their hard earned money.

    • @rachaelgoldstein6134
      @rachaelgoldstein6134 3 месяца назад

      Stephan graham has a prenup.

    • @bellaluce7088
      @bellaluce7088 Месяц назад +3

      Sexton talks about cheating like a man who's already given himself permission to go off his diet. But knowing about *some* things doesn't make you an expert on ALL things, & cake doesn't just fall from the sky! 😂 If you're a sex addict, serial cheater, or have literal damage to your frontal lobes, don't promise monogamy. For those WANT to stay faithful, stay out of bakeries!

    • @31Sunshine
      @31Sunshine 2 дня назад

      ​@@bellaluce7088 People go into marriage thinking they will be faithful.
      It's usually the men that are looking into the bakery window wanting something different & delicious!

  • @paulfaulkner2855
    @paulfaulkner2855 4 месяца назад +141

    Graham is now 100% sold on getting a Prenup, he's just scheduled the uncomfortable conversation.

    • @misa5941
      @misa5941 4 месяца назад +18

      He got one ages ago. They did a video about it.

    • @Mama2CDHsurvivor
      @Mama2CDHsurvivor 4 месяца назад +7

      Prenups should be required to get married.

    • @whitesamurai
      @whitesamurai 3 месяца назад +1

      Trump had one as well. But it didn't stop him from paying more than the agreement.
      Idk much about Graham. But can he afford better lawyers than Trump?

  • @jcnlaw
    @jcnlaw 4 месяца назад +112

    Fellow experienced divorce lawyer here (Pennsylvania and New Jersey). Great video counselor!

    • @kl7514
      @kl7514 4 месяца назад +3

      What do us young men do older timer? This modern world seems f#@cked

    • @ruschev2
      @ruschev2 4 месяца назад

      It's easy, just don't get married especially to a modern westernized woman. ​@@kl7514

    • @piper67890able
      @piper67890able Месяц назад +1

      @@kl7514 you be normal lol. just be fucking normal. James said i plain english that you can't just blame women or men. Marriages end for all kind of reasons, she might file for it but it's his fault because he already left. Or she files it cause he cheated but they haven't had sex for years. Be a normal guy and date a normal girl that you actually like and understand that if you can't have hard conversations with her, she might not be the one.
      If she has the emotional intelligence of a child and you think that shit is cute as a GF but act surprised 10 years down the line that she still acts that way, you chose wrong. It's that simple. If you believe dating is to find a wife, tell her that on date 1. That'll filter out all the people that aren't looking for serious relationships. Have the finance and child talk early on in the relationship. If she's on the same page easy win, now you are dating your potential wife. If not, dump her and move on.

    • @kl7514
      @kl7514 Месяц назад

      @@piper67890able you're coping hard, 80% of divorces are initiated by women lol, and with modern swipe dating they have 1000's of simps ready to be the cleanup guy lol

  • @tenorsaxy3567
    @tenorsaxy3567 4 месяца назад +12

    “I’m gonna die, you’re gonna die, we’re all gonna die. You can see that in 2 ways, you can be terrified of it or you can see it as an invitation to live your life.” 8:15

  • @larryrobx
    @larryrobx 3 месяца назад +17

    @1:09:45 "The line between good and evil runs not through states, nor between classes, nor between political parties either - but right through every human heart." (Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn)

  • @user-xg2vy3ri6r
    @user-xg2vy3ri6r 8 дней назад +2

    I'm generally not a fan of lawyers but bravo to this man. Pragmatic and speaks the truth on so many fronts. Protect him at all costs.

  • @chrisgood2go
    @chrisgood2go 4 месяца назад +59

    "I think I learned a lot about... you know, about that you can disagree with someone and they're not your enemy, you know that you can love someone and disagree with their point of view"
    If only more of us knew this.

    • @MarcosRodrigues-zg6nz
      @MarcosRodrigues-zg6nz 2 месяца назад +2

      my wife is an evangelical church devote sort of person, and i am an existentialist by default, so to say. And we both disagree deeply on the existence of the old testimony God. Still, it is kept only as a matter of intellectual investment.
      Kida rare.
      We also deeply disagree on what life is about.
      We're both professors, and we love each other in despite of our differences.

  • @jackiestaatz4752
    @jackiestaatz4752 3 месяца назад +25

    James Sexton reminds me of my favorite college professor. I could listen for hours and learn so much out of a conversation! The lessons learned come so easily when he talks.

  • @Fromaddicttoentrepreneur
    @Fromaddicttoentrepreneur 3 месяца назад +10

    When he said that he can tell when a couple is going to get divorced just by the way that they talk to each other and by the way that they talk about each other when they're not together. ❤love this. It's so true!

  • @ski7301
    @ski7301 4 месяца назад +52

    This guy actually had some really wise and intuitive words to say about not just love but all social life. Really great! I’m gonna be thinking a lot about what he said on how America is a culture that pushes everything to the extreme

  • @cory8080
    @cory8080 4 месяца назад +28

    This guy has been my favorite guest on pods and I'm a single dude. Always feels like he brings something I can carry into the future.

  • @drake5308
    @drake5308 2 месяца назад +4

    I could listen to this guy for hours❤ so insightful.
    The best part is he doesn't blame any gender. Always a balanced opinion . I guess this comes from his upbringing. James, your parents did a massively impressive job in raising you. Kudos❤

  • @ziggamalay
    @ziggamalay 4 месяца назад +79

    This is the best episode on this channel in recent history. This is the reality of marriage not the over sensationalized hellscape red pill pushes. It comes down to your relationship.

    • @ljjdsee
      @ljjdsee 4 месяца назад

      I agree.

    • @phantom3827
      @phantom3827 4 месяца назад

      No one is saying all marriages work out without issue. The same reason sex should be reserved for after marriage, if the major issues are worked out before even thinking about living together, chances of success (imo) are going to be arguably much greater. It’s not about perfection or being right, it’s about increasing the odds of survival for the relationship. And, how much emotional work the couple wants to put into it.

    • @ljjdsee
      @ljjdsee 4 месяца назад +2

      @@phantom3827 You are correct, sir, no one is saying that. I agree that its better if major issues are dealt with before getting married, but issues arise throughtout a marriage, even major ones!

    • @piper67890able
      @piper67890able Месяц назад

      @@phantom3827 why wait to find out sex until after marriage. If your wife is into bondage and bdsm and you aren't your marriage will fail. She will not be fufilled and will constantly dream about the what if. If he likes some kinky shit and she's just down for standard positions same thing. That's important. Sex is as much a part of the relationship as finances or children.

    • @phantom3827
      @phantom3827 Месяц назад

      @@piper67890able I agree it’s one of the pillars in a relationship. And all those details can be discussed before becoming intimate. I’m not saying it will work flawlessly, the hope is, these things can be discovered before a couple gets too involved. Might help things from getting too messy. And yes, these things could be discovered even a decade into a marriage. The most important thing in my eyes, is to talk through these situations, and not be too dismissive of your partners desires and dreams.

  • @Kondwani_simwanza
    @Kondwani_simwanza 4 месяца назад +29

    I love listening to this guy, He is so intelligent and real. He is a great lawyer, I also search for videos of him talking on the internet

  • @michaelmeiser3276
    @michaelmeiser3276 4 месяца назад +143

    Dont rush into marriage, and once married, remember your vows and that it is not about you as an individual anymore.
    You can work through almost anything when you work as a team.

    • @Clementine202
      @Clementine202 4 месяца назад +3

      Very well put!

    • @stevenraz8756
      @stevenraz8756 4 месяца назад +9

      Sometimes you are the only teamplayer

    • @ohsweetmystery
      @ohsweetmystery 4 месяца назад +3

      @@stevenraz8756Then it is time to leave.

    • @mljohnson7192
      @mljohnson7192 4 месяца назад +4

      I totally rushed into my marriage. We married the month after we met. Been over 10 years and he’s the best husband. We’re actually doing better than couples we know that didn’t rush to marry.

    • @stevenraz8756
      @stevenraz8756 4 месяца назад

      You would be the lottery winner, but not the exception, I was married happily for at least 15 years@@mljohnson7192

  • @raiderprty
    @raiderprty 4 месяца назад +19

    At first, I found myself wondering why I was listening to an episode with a divorce lawyer. I ended up really enjoying it and found a lot of great points that apply to a good relationship.

  • @JavierTijuana
    @JavierTijuana 3 месяца назад +4

    "I don't think people do evil things 'cause they're evil, I think they mistake it for happiness". That's a thing to give a thought or two. Kudos to Jimmy Sexton and the interviewers, I work as a forensic psychologist mainly in custody cases and always learn a lot with his interviews.

  • @Advent0re
    @Advent0re Месяц назад +2

    He is so practical and clearheaded that it brings me peace to listen to him.

  • @landonmillett4717
    @landonmillett4717 4 месяца назад +17

    What you’re describing at the beginning about the hatred and wanting to destroy the other person is people with cluster B personalities. These people aren’t human and they do not think and feel like a normal healthy person who knows how to truly love. Many will never understand unless you truly witness it. I feel like most people would be dumbfounded if they knew how these people actually operate and that they truly exist in this world.

    • @chipsteve
      @chipsteve 4 месяца назад

      A skyrocketing number of women are Cluster B, social media & dating apps & birth control & SSRIs have broken them irrevocably. They're Post-Human.

  • @MarksmanSpecialist
    @MarksmanSpecialist 4 месяца назад +81

    i am a relationship virgin and in my 30s. I have so much fears about bad relationship, divorces, loss of assets and future, but wow what a good 2 hour conversation to reevaluate how I view relationships and expectations

    • @stevenraz8756
      @stevenraz8756 4 месяца назад +16

      You never jumped in, out of fear... life is too short, just try, life is too short....

    • @ap23z
      @ap23z 4 месяца назад +11

      Can’t live your life on hold. It goes too quick. Get a prenup/postnup

    • @Ehlaar
      @Ehlaar 4 месяца назад +12

      Proceed with caution and discuss expectations. Leave no stone unturned.

    • @brucerowe2895
      @brucerowe2895 4 месяца назад +5

      Usually what you think about comes, true. Think more positive, and think of the kind of life you want.

    • @lifeasweknowit530
      @lifeasweknowit530 4 месяца назад +3

      Love is a scary thing but it is also an amazing thing you should give it a go haha

  • @jorgerios8472
    @jorgerios8472 3 месяца назад +4

    7yrs married and it was sexless. Everything I did nothing ever came of it. When I asked her she would tell me she didn’t know,but she said she loved me. I had to leave and when I left all I got was how I betrayed her. Needless to say while the divorce was going on within 2 weeks she was talking again back with her ex. Just wish she would have told me the truth instead of wasting my time. Think that’s where the hatred comes from a divorce is the time I will not get back. But life goes on.

  • @robynhorton7199
    @robynhorton7199 4 дня назад

    Dr Phil could not have spoke this more eloquently! Thank you for the insights, the realness, and the wisdom. Your life experience as a divorce attorney speaks volumes and truth!
    brilliant man!

  • @fernaureason7150
    @fernaureason7150 4 месяца назад +32

    "Comparison is the thief of joy" Damn, that was good!

    • @jaredmello
      @jaredmello 2 месяца назад +2

      Teddy Roosevelt said that

  • @mrz9900
    @mrz9900 4 месяца назад +76

    I LOVE JAMES. Thank you. I've been waiting for more podcasts of him.

  • @kendallstark4302
    @kendallstark4302 3 месяца назад +2

    I first heard of James Sexton on The Financial Diet a few years ago, and now I've heard him on SWU, Lex Fridman, and here. Every single interview with him has impressed me to no end, and I feel I've learned something about my own marriage. I could listen to him all day.

  • @user-tg5lu9gc1s
    @user-tg5lu9gc1s 2 месяца назад +2

    Wisest lawyer infact a human being i've ever seen. So much knowledge and wisdom in every word he speak.

  • @3210vca
    @3210vca 2 месяца назад +4

    My gosh!!!!!!!!!!! That divorce lawyer is unbelievably, impossibly, devastatingly handsome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • @WhiteGhost21
      @WhiteGhost21 2 месяца назад +1

      and still wasn't good enough for a woman. nor was Brad Pitt.

  • @user-oc7vv4ch3j
    @user-oc7vv4ch3j Месяц назад +3

    Im 30. Barley 30 minutes into this video and frustrated and disappointed with myself. I was dating someone for 2 years. I swore i saw my life with him. Married. Kids. Happy, beautiful life. And i ruined it. I was ungrateful. Unappreciative. And let the world and lives and comments of others get in my head. Lead my thoughts down a path of what if. I straight loved him without really knowing how to. And i cheated feeling alone and looking into everything he didn't do instead of looking and thanking everything he did do... i know i can't fix it. I know its over. I cant get over the fact of what i did. I lost the love of my life.... and i deserve to not ever get him back

    • @user-qi5ey8lh4u
      @user-qi5ey8lh4u 21 день назад

      WOW!!! ... Guess what?: You have learnt something VERY valuable at a young age some people NEVER learn or admit to! ... To be SOOO insightful, and absolutely take responsibility for your loss!?! ... You need to Forgive and Accept
      BestAlways
      MsL

  • @saw727
    @saw727 Месяц назад +3

    Hurt people, hurt people. Good talk

  • @anthonybenzinga7759
    @anthonybenzinga7759 4 месяца назад +51

    I was married for 28 we got an amicable divorce with no attorney she had a large 401k and I had a lot of properties and we did not take nothing from and we're still good friends

    • @dreamerspringswalks
      @dreamerspringswalks 4 месяца назад +6

      why did you guys get divorced then?

    • @Camaral24
      @Camaral24 4 месяца назад +19

      @@dreamerspringswalksit’s possible to love someone and be kind to them while recognizing you are no longer compatible as romantic partners.

    • @briantruck2284
      @briantruck2284 4 месяца назад +2

      Sounds good

  • @danielj3010
    @danielj3010 4 месяца назад +75

    The interview we all wanted!

  • @alicia9099
    @alicia9099 4 месяца назад +27

    Thanks for having James on. I can't get enough of him!!!!!! Wish he was an attorney talking like this in '97 when I needed him 😅

    • @stevel121
      @stevel121 4 месяца назад

      You wouldn't have been able to afford him 😢

  • @markoDhex
    @markoDhex 4 месяца назад +38

    32 years old male - 2 failed long term relationships - Been single for a year - Getting a girl(s) is not hard for me, but I no longer have the heart to commit fully again, so I'm exiting this market and choosing peace. It's better to have loved to have never loved at all. 🤷🏻‍♂

    • @moviesynopsis001
      @moviesynopsis001 4 месяца назад +4

      I dont know about that, alot of men I know who have had terrible relationships and experienced agonising break ups and heart break either commited suicide or are on whatever drugs they can find to mask the pain. Alot of guys I know who just stayed long term bachelors seem to be doing fine mentally and physically.

    • @itsonlyagame4033
      @itsonlyagame4033 3 месяца назад +1

      There are exceptions to the rule, but if you want to then this is a reason to pursue it again. Loneliness is associated with a higher risk of premature death from all other causes including cancer and heart disease. Maybe now it feels hopeless but I think you should think of your future self and you may find someone who feels just as hopeless about finding a man 😉

    • @moviesynopsis001
      @moviesynopsis001 3 месяца назад

      @@itsonlyagame4033 They count loneliness as having no close friends also. So theoretically you could live like Leonardo Dicaprio with no permanent long term partner for life but alot of close friends and be fine. The people who lived the longest were rich men with friends but no partner btw.

  • @SomeBody-ce3gq
    @SomeBody-ce3gq 4 месяца назад +44

    It was nice of Enrique Iglesias to take the time to interview James Sexton

  • @BastianHelena
    @BastianHelena 4 месяца назад +8

    Before I met my husband, I had my own house, a good job, and so on. I still have all those things, but believe me, I am counting down the days until I get pregnant and become a stay at home mom. That’s what we both want, and that’s the plan we are aiming towards.

    • @Madi-ls5uu
      @Madi-ls5uu 4 месяца назад +2

      I was the same. I owned a condo and had a corporate job. I am about to have my second son 18 months after the first. It has led to a lot of conflict being SAHM and caring for our child.

    • @godpilled9077
      @godpilled9077 22 дня назад

      Things will get rocky when the dynamic changes.

  • @UnveilingTheEssenceOfWisdom
    @UnveilingTheEssenceOfWisdom 3 месяца назад +6

    This dude is extremely wise

  • @ThePathOfLeastResistanc
    @ThePathOfLeastResistanc 4 месяца назад +10

    Divorced in 2012, been completely single and loving it, since 2017.

  • @christopherduncan803
    @christopherduncan803 4 месяца назад +8

    I've not seen every episode but. I nominate this to be an all-time top 5 on RUclips and I'm going to recommend this to people who are getting married or divorced to watch this.

  • @MarcoAshford
    @MarcoAshford 4 месяца назад +4

    It’s like gram knows what’s hot on RUclips. I just got pushed to watch this guy’s videos and you guys have him on. This channel is magical

  • @demontoaster5670
    @demontoaster5670 4 месяца назад +30

    26:36 The things you fall in love with will be the things that make you fall out of love. I heard that probably 10 years ago, and it was a driving force in how I went about choosing a partner.
    Love is hard work, it's non stop daily grinding that you do to *strive* for true love with someone. The boring pieces of advice truly are the most important as they are the easiest to forget.

    • @nightfighter7452
      @nightfighter7452 2 месяца назад +2

      Y'all make relationships sound so painful. Like what's the point😂

  • @blainoink6118
    @blainoink6118 4 месяца назад +2

    Fantastic. The conversations continue to be some of the best on RUclips. I look forward to Sundays now just to watch these episodes.

  • @samuelsparling878
    @samuelsparling878 4 месяца назад +8

    Love you guys, great guest this week. Thanks for sharing!

  • @InReality33
    @InReality33 4 месяца назад +8

    I have to say... this is so entertaining and engaging. Not only is he informed and insightful, he is hilarious! And the poise and raw intelligence of the hosts is appreciated as always. Great show!

  • @sarahhunter2352
    @sarahhunter2352 Месяц назад +2

    This was a fantastic interview guys! I couldn't stop watching. I can see why James is such a good attorney - he is a master with words.

  • @nathanielhoward1498
    @nathanielhoward1498 4 месяца назад +4

    I really really really like this guy. Very practical but also good hearted.

  • @b-rare
    @b-rare 4 месяца назад +12

    He explains things well. Means he really understands what he does and has lots of experience. Great guest

  • @MsCristina38
    @MsCristina38 4 месяца назад +4

    He’s great to listen to. So many good nuggets. Very helpful.

  • @ThreePinkButtons
    @ThreePinkButtons 4 месяца назад +2

    Wow!! What an amazing conversation. So glad this stumbled upon my feed. We have a lot to learn about ourselves and our relationships!

  • @aquilinaciamacco2410
    @aquilinaciamacco2410 5 дней назад

    I could listen to this guy 24/7 without ceasing. Excellent speaker. Very intensely interesting interview.

  • @anthonybenzinga7759
    @anthonybenzinga7759 4 месяца назад +8

    Great podcast guys another job well done 👍👍

  • @nathanielhoward1498
    @nathanielhoward1498 4 месяца назад +12

    Yo, this moment is golden. I’m at the 1:15:00 point an dit blows me away how the older man is mentoring the young guys on how to make relationships work and they are giving him their full attention even though I detect moments of resistance to certain things, they are really listening and learning. These grown young men are smitten with their impromptu mentor and it’s life goals.

  • @beccathering7035
    @beccathering7035 4 месяца назад

    Loved this podcast! So informative and interesting. Thank you!

  • @christeenrenay22
    @christeenrenay22 4 месяца назад +16

    Love James sexton. I think I’ve seen like 6 podcast episodes with him lol so glad I subbed literally yesterday

  • @user-xg6wg5jw6j
    @user-xg6wg5jw6j 4 месяца назад +14

    Love love love this man and his way of articulating relationships. Thank you 🙌🏻

  • @nancysewell6670
    @nancysewell6670 4 месяца назад +4

    Listening to this should be required for couples heading towards marriage. It might save a lot of grief

  • @kathleenpage8148
    @kathleenpage8148 4 месяца назад +2

    This was super interesting!! Great conversation.
    Thank you. ❤️

  • @Elementorandmore
    @Elementorandmore 4 месяца назад +10

    Incredible! He is spot on and such a STUD.

  • @annemccon2144
    @annemccon2144 4 месяца назад +20

    You guys keep killing it with these guests and your questions!
    Love that you asked him stuff he hasn’t been asked before, especially considering all the interviews he’s done

  • @mediokritet
    @mediokritet 4 месяца назад +4

    This was incredibly informative. Thank you

  • @HLTrds
    @HLTrds 3 месяца назад +2

    You guys, this is n awesome podcast!!! Thanks for having a podcast watched you forever!!

  • @jjwarner465
    @jjwarner465 4 месяца назад +8

    Such a real life episode guys! I'm going through a break up so maybe this hit home differently because of that but this is life plain and simple

  • @rosebt9343
    @rosebt9343 4 месяца назад +12

    This guy is pure gold!!

  • @anthonyflores9336
    @anthonyflores9336 3 месяца назад +6

    You were great on Lex’s podcast. You were even better here!!! The insights you give and metaphors you share are just so powerful. Thank you.

  • @jasonlebrun5474
    @jasonlebrun5474 3 месяца назад

    What a wonderful talk about so much in a short amount of time.
    Do yourself a favor, and watch this. Watch this today. Right now. It's fantastic.
    Thank you for the wonderful talk.
    Jason

  • @joseluna5934
    @joseluna5934 4 месяца назад +2

    Wow
    Amazing lawyer
    Very helpful full podcast
    Thanks guys!

  • @dallasdevries9421
    @dallasdevries9421 4 месяца назад +10

    James is a captivating guest on every pod he has been on. You guys kept it fresh despite all of his other appearances.

    • @LowkeyLukeDnB
      @LowkeyLukeDnB 2 месяца назад

      I was pleasantly surprised at how James said a load of things he hadn't said on his other recent pods.

  • @larrysmith2608
    @larrysmith2608 4 месяца назад +6

    one of the best podcasts!

  • @brookes1911
    @brookes1911 4 месяца назад

    Super interesting conversation, thanks guys!

  • @CsMuia
    @CsMuia 2 месяца назад +2

    Truth is, People just need to have deep intimate talks about there feelings, wants and needs. Listening to James makes me realise that what we lack is communication skills and more often fail to speak the truth in love. Honesty and being authentic is becoming rare, a lot of people live fake lives. In my experience, the lack of affection and gratitude stands out as one of the reason why someone would feel unsatisfied in a relationship. If someone doesn't see or appreciate your worth, then it usually makes it difficult for them to see the value your bring or present in the relationship.
    Love is definitely a beautiful thing. Just don't waste it on someone who doesn't feel the say way towards you.

  • @iCANT_BELIEVE_YOU_SAID_THAT
    @iCANT_BELIEVE_YOU_SAID_THAT 4 месяца назад +4

    I'm new to this Channel. What a great guest. He's one of the few people you can listen to for hours. As for the hosts: A+ for not interrupting the guest like other hosts do.

  • @Akinzo
    @Akinzo 4 месяца назад +6

    I could listen to James sexton all day. Always says the real stuff that people are afraid to be. These are traits I aspire to have as a human

  • @kseniiaskliarova9374
    @kseniiaskliarova9374 4 месяца назад

    Absolutely loved this episode. Never heard of the guest before but he’s got such an interesting perspective on things

  • @user-qg6zg1xc3g
    @user-qg6zg1xc3g 4 месяца назад

    I think you are spot on and I’ve watched several of your videos over the years.

  • @maxhdez2847
    @maxhdez2847 4 месяца назад +20

    Wow. What a podcast!! Opened my eyes big time. Thanks boys

    • @maxhdez2847
      @maxhdez2847 4 месяца назад +1

      The way this guy explains things just makes me wanna listen to everything he has to say.

  • @VorticyHP
    @VorticyHP 4 месяца назад +4

    Jack is a very creative guy, i can see him there the whole time scratching his chin, coming up with ideas and questions to ask

  • @JV-ms1tt
    @JV-ms1tt 4 месяца назад +2

    What a wonderful guest. Very informative. I love his perspective. Everyone should listen to this episode. ❤

  • @cindyjones233
    @cindyjones233 3 месяца назад +2

    I have six kids- it was the same with all six- they got a little crossways with me before leaving for college. It had to be like that or we could never have let them go. He is wise. It didn’t take him six kids to figure it out.

  • @paulfaulkner2855
    @paulfaulkner2855 4 месяца назад +40

    Always get a Prenup, even if you haven't made any money yet. Not having one keeps people in unhappy marriages more than anything thing else, speaking from experience..

    • @moonknight4053
      @moonknight4053 4 месяца назад +1

      Wait u can do that if u don’t get a lot?

  • @darleneatkinson3906
    @darleneatkinson3906 4 месяца назад +8

    James, Graham, Jack great video, I have a youngest brother who stay with me ever since the death of my older brother, he said ask me no questions and I'll tell you no lies, sometimes we argue over dumbest stuff, But I feel obligated to look after him since lot of our family members died. He was youngest in the family; I do my best to be kind and thoughtful of his situation so listening to this video was so helpful. Thank you all 3 for uploading this video.

    • @mysteriousu5528
      @mysteriousu5528 4 месяца назад +3

      That's very sweet of you. Hope you both grow together harmoniously and contribute to one another for many years.

  • @volatilenomad9854
    @volatilenomad9854 4 месяца назад +2

    This interview is gold man, cheers!

  • @Queluhhh
    @Queluhhh 4 дня назад

    what an awesome guest. really love his insight

  • @elanafelberg1733
    @elanafelberg1733 4 месяца назад +12

    Iced Coffee Hour I commend on having these amazing discussions. I actually had no idea who James Sexton was until I listened to this podcast and it was one of the best things I ever listened to in my life. Keep bringing more content like this!

    • @wandat7275
      @wandat7275 4 месяца назад +2

      Watch the Soft White Underbelly episode with him on it. Ever since I watched it, I couldn’t get enough of him.

  • @outofthehouse1586
    @outofthehouse1586 4 месяца назад +30

    I recently watched The Iced Coffee Hour Podcast with the Jason and Brett Oppenheim and Graham briefly mentioned Jason Sexton and I was frantically looking for the podcast with you all 🤣 SO HAPPY to see you all spoke and to see it uploaded today. Thank you in advance, I know this is going to be good!!!!

  • @jacoblloyd2573
    @jacoblloyd2573 4 месяца назад +4

    The W T F Media studio was really nice and I always appreciate the better backgrounds when I am looking back at your earlier podcast episodes.

  • @HelloWorld19995
    @HelloWorld19995 4 месяца назад

    I HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS!!! I loved this episode one of my favorites

  • @mjones9714
    @mjones9714 3 месяца назад +2

    New to this channel
    Great interview/conversation. James is so intelligent and skilled in what he does. Love his insight on relationships and human psychology. So refreshing and honest! 💯

  • @HH_Julius
    @HH_Julius 4 месяца назад +4

    I've heard Jim speak on 3 or 4 podcasts now and I STILL agree with at least 90% of what he's saying

  • @PappaMustafa
    @PappaMustafa 3 месяца назад +4

    I freaking love this guy! Saved my marriage

  • @okokok3987
    @okokok3987 14 дней назад

    This man is awesome! Great valuable lessons. You explained important points so eloquently. Thank you for sharing your insights!

  • @LowkeyLukeDnB
    @LowkeyLukeDnB 2 месяца назад +2

    great podcast thanks guys. I can't get enough of James Sexton 👌