Hi I'm 29, married, have PCOS, and am now Type 2 diabetic. I have been struggling with infertility for years now with no luck. Its a hard road. I understand wanting to be the one to experience pregnancy. Honestly it's a grieving process that may last a long long time. With PCOS the hard part isn't just carrying the child during first trimester but rather having mature eggs. It's so frustrating having a body that doesn't function the way we want it to. Just know you're not alone. There are many of us out there ♥️ I agree with Morgan about therapy. It will give you some coping mechanism. Sending love to you.
Hi, I’m a 30 year old woman with PCOS as well. Was diagnosed when I was 19 years old. Been with my partner since I was 18. Started to try when I was about 21. Still till this day I haven’t been pregnant and it is the biggest void in my life. I’m a dog mom to 4 furr babies and if I didn’t have them I have no idea where I’d be mentally. But still have hope I’ll have my miracle baby some day. Stay strong ❤
I'm 28 and got diagnosed with PCOS last year when we started trying. It has been a rough journey and related to the story a lot. I feel really thankful that my husband has been my rock. Not having an empathic partner can make everything that comes with infertility so much. Baby dust for everyone ✨✨✨
@@TwoHotTakesMorgan, i hope you take some of your own advice and listeners advice, as well. It seems like PCOS is a newer diagnosis for you. Be gentle with yourself, but also feel your feelings! This diagnosis is daunting and it’s ok to grieve for the pregnancy process you thought you would have. Reddit has great support groups for individuals with PCOS and for those trying to conceive with PCOS. I’ve been struggling with PCOS infertility for over a year now. Infertility can feel so so lonely, but it’s most important to remember you are not alone. Your journey just looks different than others. Love always ❤️
just adopt. you’re not struggling with anything, the world is showing you your selfish. you dont want to do something good and raise a life to have the best it can you just want to pass down your bloodline like some 1800s weirdo. the amount of us who would kill to be infertile and you’re here crying over it when you can still become a parent easily .
Story 3: OP you don't have to leave your home. If ypur husband wants to see his parents, he has to go see them. They are aholes. Your husband needs to say something. I agree with Morgan. Your husband needs to stand up for you. Your child shouldn't see or hear how they treat you.
i just started the video but I wanted to say that Morgan is always gorgeous, but I love the chill beautiful vibe that she has. That is an amazing beautiful woman. Just a reminder
In story 3 he needs to step up, my mom had the same issue with my grandparents since the beginning, they did;t want my parents to get married and they sabotaged their wedding venue; we lived a country away for more than 10 years but when we moved back to Mexico they started bothering her. My dad put his feet down and told them that if they were treating her like that they were treating him that way and we had no contact for 6 years, they understood and we finally started a relationship with them.
Mexican listener here! I had hope I could catch you guys on the Orlando/Miami show this summer while being on the Disney College Program (so so excited)...sadly by the time I get to the US, you guys would have already wrapped the THT tour up. Guess it will be on another time....anyways, love you THT & FKS fam
Story 4. I agree with Jerry. I watched my mom take her last breath last month. I could almost feel her spirit leave her body and I was just there with her body. It brought me comfort to know she was ok.
Story 1: I have PCOS, and I had type 2 diabetes. I found a fertility book that really helped me. The best thing that I realised from the book that the stress I was putting onto myself to get pregnant was preventing myself from getting pregnant. I stopped stressing, added in fun exercise, and diet change My periods got better, weight was coming off, and I was happier. Inwas pregnant in 3 months. I am not saying that it will be that quick for anyone, but I am saying that changing that stress plays a huge part in our bodies.
Would love to know the book title if you don’t mind sharing. Been dealing with pcos since I was 15. 33 years old now and thinking about potentially starting a family soon.
I struggled with infertility and went through all of those feelings. They are rough. We ended up adopting and once my son was placed in my arms all of that pain went away.
My husband struggled with intense fear of death also now would have panic attacks whenever he thought about it. He’s been in therapy for years now and sometimes still struggles, but something that helped him so much was EMDR therapy. I would highly highly suggest looking into it for anyone that deals with fears or trauma.
Story 4: I can give a few prespectives/angles on this. I lost a partner young at age 21, he was 19. It was the hardest thing I had to do. I picked myself back up and my husband came back into my life as we lost touch, we were just friends. We have been together over 20 years. We have have 2 children. I had undiagnosed mental issues with my first as I terrified all the time that my partner or daughter would pass. Luckily, I worked through that after two years. Second baby, I had severe PND that was diagnosed and treated. Please seek help as you shouldn't have to go through this alone. Talking about it with a therapist is helpful. I find mentally focusing on things I am grateful for and trying to see the positives when I am having a dark depressing moment helps. Or asking for a hug from my loved one or watching something I find funny even if it is a RUclips short. I am sending you lots of positive healing vibes.
Thank you for this input as the advice given did not resonate with me and Morgan seems to be going through it just as much as myself. I’m 31 and I’ve had death anxiety for maybe 10 years. Nothing in particular brought it on as I’ve always been obsessed with ghost stories, goth aesthetic, etc. I want to be the boss of it rather than the other way around and without therapy idk if there is anything someone could say that would truly fix it. But knowing there are people in the community like yourself helps. It is debilitating.
I’m feeling so unbelievably overwhelmed as I moved houses for the first time in 10 yrs with 3 cats. So this episode is really going to calm my anxiety for a little while
For anyone dealing with death anxiety, I highly recommend watching videos by Ask a Mortician, Caitlin Doughty. She has helped relieve my death anxiety so much.
Story 2: They boyfriend has some deep abandonment issues that’s allowing him to let his mother rule his life. He needs to get some therapy and he needs to set boundaries. If he won’t then you need to make whatever choice that you think you’ll be happy with 10 years down the road.
Story #4 Jerry, you and I share something in common. I lost my Dad at 31. And I too had a private moment with my Father before the viewing and it was clear to my that this body I was looking at was only my Dads vessel. His soul was what made him him. Morgan, If you kinda know you should try out meds, I recommend getting on them. I don’t know how I would have pulled through losing my Dad with out already being on them.
Story 1: I don't think the issue for OP is that the child isn't going to be hers biologically if she can't carry herself. It sounds like the plan was already to have one that is biologically hers and one that is biologically her partner's anyway, and that the issue is NOT the child "not being hers" if she doesn't carry. She wants the experience of pregnancy, so experiencing it "through her girlfriend" is not going to be the same. I think she needs to talk to people who have had similar struggles because it sounds like she's not getting the empathy or understanding from people in her life, including her partner. Having children and loving them all the same regardless of where they come from is just one part of the equation if she really wants to have the actual experience of pregnancy.
I know Morgan means well but I’m like of tired of her resorting to Seeing a mental professional any time the story had to do with someone’s emotions. Not everyone can access a healthcare professional or feels resolve from talking to a stranger. We’re all just trying to figure this out, but there are internal works you can do with yourself to help. For example, magnesium helped me have less anxiety, which intern made me have less intrusive thoughts so that’s an affordable non internal option
On story number one: I have a close friend that has PCOS and has had so many struggles with it, has had a few surgeries because of it, almost lost an ovary, and was told she'd never be able to have children. She was devastated, but she now has three children of her own. She did suffer a couple of miscarriages, but after those she went on to have three beautiful children! I don't know if she did anything to help but either way she was still able still have her babies! I hope that the same thing will happen for the OP in the story. I also hope that her partner will start understanding and being more empathetic to her feelings. I agree with Morgan on taking a different approach and asking her how she would feel if it was her that was told she would potentially never have children. It might change her perspective and help her to see where her gf is coming from and show a lot more sympathy towards her gf's feelings and grief over not being able to have children.
As someone that deals with the same fear as the writer in story #4, I have some advice that has really helped me! When you start feeling nervous that you or your loved ones will go too soon, remind yourself that you are fearing the loss of the wonderful things that you have right NOW. We are robbing ourselves of beautiful times with our favorite people by not living in the present. Instead of fearing the future, fear losing guaranteed time with the person that's sitting right in front of you. Focus on making memories, making connections, and fully living your life ❤
Did Morgan just say Mucinex helps infertility ? Did she screw up words again. I'm not just a nurse I went through infertility for 5 years Mucinex????????? Metformin. This makes no sense. And to the listener don't give up hope. Through dozens of procedures and medications and heartbreak and loss I finally got pregnant with twins. Their names are Jamie and . Their names are Jamie and Nicholas and they . Their names are Jamie and Nicholas and they are 16 now. So don't ever give up hopeThere doesn't waste to get pregnant Does dozens of ways to just get children Truly understand The feeling you're going through. You're a woman, it's 1 of your jobs You feel like you're a failure at it It's just a god has a It's just that god has a different plan for you. All I Can say Can say is infertility sucks. If your partner is not going to be supportive then you should look for 1 that is. I'm sorry but this is a huge thing that you need. Is someone to lean on. Especially the person that's going through it with you. Anyway just 1 let you know you are not alone by any means.. Good luck, I wish you the best I hope you get what you want Morgan please clarify the home Mucinex thing. It's freaking me out. There's no way Mucinex can help you get pregnant. That is the most comical thing I've ever heard
I can sooo relate on the death fear story! I used to have literal panic attacks about it where I would just sit and stare into space frozen with fear thinking about it! I’ve come to terms with it a bit more but most the time that’s just from being busy with my family/work/enjoying life ect that I just push it to the back of my mind! I think it became more real to me when my grandma passed suddenly a few years ago! She was battling cancer however she was generally okay and fighting it when she got admitted to hospital then only lived two days and passed! Made me think how fragile life truly is BUT this also has made me become less anxious as it’s made me realise how much time I waste worrying about little things when I could be pushing myself to do the things I love and be grateful for being alive everyday! But it is very scary because we don’t know what is past death! I think that’s why I am spiritual and believe in an after life more for comfort!
Story 5: I completely agree with everything you guys said! One thing I told my fiancé when we discussed proposing was I didn’t want anyone but him knowing that he was going to propose! I know how our friends and family are and they most definitely would’ve let it slip. Sometimes without even meaning to and I wanted us to be the ones telling our loved ones and friends together! I wish I would’ve recorded their reactions but I truly loved how he went about it! The only ones that truly knew he was proposing was his mom because he shipped the ring to her house so I wouldn’t accidentally open it and his grandma because she was the one recording, he proposed on our trip visiting her.
I had pcos and was told I wouldn't be able to have children I went off the pill and it took me 2 months with my first and 1 with my second doctors don't know everything
Story 4: I have been through something similar with the fear of death and I have some good news for you: you like yourself! You like your life and your experiences. You don’t want it to slip through your fingers and honestly that’s a good thing. We are all on this earth for such a short period of time and the fact you fear it ending means you’re living a fulfilling and beautiful life. Enrich yourself in it and just live in the moment. You only get to be you once.
Just gonna throw this out there.... I've been in construction for 20+ years. Including removing and replacing carpet, installing new hardwood and tile floors as well as sanding, staining and refinishing hardwood floors. Floors are my biggest fortè, followed by drywall, spackling and painting. I would be more than happy to take a vacation and come help. I do live in Pa, so I would need to drive to you. But hey, if you provide a rental car, place for us to stay, along with the materials, pizza and beer/water, I'll bring my crew (myself and my daughter. Lol) and do it for free. YES...That would be an amazing vacation for us. ❤ Ps- I've been trying to write in but every time I try, with all of the information, it turns out to be a novel. That being said, rather than read it on the podcast, would you consider reading and maybe just emailing your advice?? Thank you for all of your amazing advice from day 1. Ps-did I miss the March "tea" session?? Also....happy belated birthday Morgan!! Did you actually turn 30? Or did you do what I do and start celebrating the anniversary of my 29th birthday? 😂 I'm currently 29 on the 11th chapter. Or 29 with 11 years experience. LOL See...novel comment...sorry!!!
morgan i’m curious, how did you realize you were pre diabetic? i’m curious because it runs in my family & i’ve been tested like 1 times every year for the last 2 years and they said i was okay.. always paranoid about it tho!! would love to know more
Ok sorry...I'm literally commenting as I watch. Story number 3 really hit home and struck a nerve with me. I (29 with with 11 years experience F) ended up getting really sick again in 2017 and had to move back in with my dad and his wife. My ex and I split up in 2016. And I need a heart transplant so it's not something the doctors really want me to be alone for long periods of time. My dad's wife and I got along really well in the beginning. She is Vietnamese and has been in the US for about 20 years now. And it was ME who busted MY ass every day for over 8 months just to get her visa approved because it was during the aftermath of 9/11. She's not a mail order bride (or I'd gladly ship her ass back...and quite frankly might still frankly might still so. Lol) Anyway....she hates me and hates my daughter and hates even more that her and I are living here. She's tried multiple times to get us to leave. Disability is a fixed income and mine is less than $700/month. There is ZERO chance I would be able to live on my own for that, let alone with a teenage daughter. "She doesn't have any of her own kids so she doesn't understand." Or "She was raised differently and she doesn't understand." Or "Just ignore it" are three of my dads top favorite phrases. He stands up for her 100% of the time. She's blamed some of the craziest shit SHE HAS DONE on us to draw a wedge between us. And after being here for 6 or so years, if I had the money, I would move in a heartbeat. Even though the house is legally mine because my dad turned the deed over to me about 5 years after they got married...."just in case." He didn't want my daughter and I to lose OUR house. She has given him the "she goes or I go" ultimatum 6 times in 6 years and every single time, I leave. NOT because he asks me to or chooses her over me but because I love him too much to put him in a situation so unfair. So instead since I can't go to work. I do everything I can around the house. And we live on a farm so I take care of the sheepies. Nothing I ever do is good enough. She tells everyone that I'm just lazy and don't want to work. If I could go back to work, I would do it in a heartbeat. Because disability is a fucking joke. And since she hates me and hates my daughter and I living here, she does everything she can to make our lives a living hell. I don't even leave my bedroom a majority of the time if my daughter isn't home. She's tried multiple times to get us to leave. Pulled some crazy ass stunts and accuses us of stealing the stupidest things. (Paper towels, a bottle of lysol, a soup pot, etc) Disability is a fixed income and mine is less than $700/month. There is ZERO chance I would be able to live on my own for that, let alone with a teenage daughter. "She doesn't have any of her own kids so she doesn't understand." Or "She was raised differently and she doesn't understand." Or "Just ignore it" are three of my dads top favorite phrases. He stands up for her 100% of the time. She's blamed some of the craziest shit SHE HAS DONE on us to draw a wedge between us. And after being here for 6 or so years, if I had the money, I would move in a heartbeat. Even though the house is legally mine because my dad turned the deed over to me about 5 years after they got married...."just in case." He didn't want my daughter and I to lose OUR house. She has given him the "she goes or I go" ultimatum 6 times in 6 years and every single time, I leave. NOT because he asks me to or chooses her over me but because I love him too much to put him in a situation like that. My daughter turns 16 on May 31st and we've been planning her party forever. Her dad decided he wants nothing to do with it. (Because our daughter doesn't want his girlfriend there) so he backed out on helping with the cost. And when my dad's wife found out he was going to help cover it, she lost her shit and now it's all on me. All because this woman hates me because of a joke my dad made on Oct 26, 2011. I will never forget that day. We were talking about wills and stuff and my dad said he doesn't need a will because when he dies, everything goes to me except for the $100 in their savings account. AS A JOKE. We were all laughing when he said it. He said he was just kidding. But from that day on, she has treated us like total shit. We don't even feel welcome in OUR HOME anymore. 😔
First story: I am 1 of 3 children born to a woman who had pcos in the 90s. They told her she was infertile and did a lot of testing. Don't think it is impossible
Story 4: OCD is 1 in 4 women!! The obsession over death is a very very VERY common OCD obsession. Please look into the possibility of OCD! It sounds like you’re stuck in the cycle of rumination.
I have PCOS and am pre diabetic also have endometriosis. However I would like to say that though it may be hard to get pregnant it may not mean it’s impossible or that you are for sure infertile. It’s just a possibility. See a reproductive endocrinologist, follow diet (glucose goddess is very helpful) and exercise. I have been blessed with two children, had risks and complications with both including GD. The pregnacies one was with help from reproductive endocrinologist and other just happened naturally. Also it does take way longer to get pregnant when you are stressed and anxious, my personal experience maybe due to the hormones. I know this may just be my experience but just wanted to share that there is hope for others in similar situations.
Story 4: I have this same issue for as long as I can remember, even back into middle school years. I lost a lot of grandparents young so maybe that’s where it stems from. It would get worse when I was busy and stressed and was debilitating almost even when I would try and reframe and remind myself of rationale. I was diagnosed with anxiety, depression, ocd a little over a year ago. I was in therapy for a few years before I decided to see a psychiatrist, I was doing reallly well with just therapy for a while until life just got so crazy that I couldn’t cope on my own anymore. Getting medicated changed my life for the better. I weaned off my meds and am doing really well, I haven’t had those obsessive thoughts come back yet and other patterns/ things I used to obsess over don’t carry the same weight. Hopefully stays that way. I wish you luck and send love! You’re not alone!! ❤
The fear of death story hits home for me…everyday of my life I think of me/my family dying several times. It gives me panic attacks at night and it genuinely sucks…thank you Jerry for talking about this story calmly and honestly. I was nervous I would have to skip this one at work today.
i think about death all the time. more times per day than i can even count. i'm 57 and my husband and i have 3 sons... 23, 31 & 32. i was an abused kid and so was my husband. we decided to break that cycle and we did. our boys are smart, funny, kind, higher educated smartasses in the best kind of way. we talk every day and they are all 3 good friend.. thick as thieves actually. losing my Mom hurt me so badly that i can't put it into words. but the thing is, even though my father was the main abuser, my Mom abused me and my siblings too.. and it STILL hurt horribly to lose her. i literally hit the floor when she took her last breath, i passed tf out. i didn't when my father died but, as evil as he was.. i still sat there and held that man's hand as he took his last breath when i swear to anyone who bothers to read this, he didn't deserve me being there. i did it mostly for me and i don't miss him at all. but, i miss my Mom every single day, all day and it's been 7 years now since she died. my issue with death is this: as bad as it hurt me to lose my Mom, i think it's going to hurt my kids worse to lose me. i feel like i set them up to be devastated. i literally feel guilty that i'm going to die one day. i have crohns disease and severe osteoarthritis and i walk with 2 canes after having hiked the Smokies with my kids their entire lives. we fished, kayaked, and sat in the woods on a log and watched bears live their lives. we've had more incredible experiences together than 100 parents will ever have with their kids. we've stood on more mountaintops and watched the sun rise over the Smokies than 1000 people will ever experience in their lives. we're from Townsend, Tennessee right in the Smokies and we used the park to our full advantage as parents. we've just really had some incredibly fun times together. and now i know that it's all going to make it worse when i'm gone and i don't think i'll live to be an old person. my lack of mobility now certainly isn't setting myself up to be an old lady. i'm 57. i've already had a heart attack. i'd say i've got 10-15 years top which puts my youngest in his 30's when i go. i'm not afraid of death itself, i'm afraid of why my death will do to my boys. my oldest 2 are married, my oldest and his wife are expecting a baby, and my middle son and his wife have a 10yr old which my son adopted. my DIL was a young Mom and my grandson was actually adopted by us all... we all worship the ground that kid walks on. they're trying to get pregnant now. my youngest doesn't plan on having kids so, at least he won't sit around wishing i'd known his kids. oh and, i'm gonna hurt my grandson too... me and my husband do all the same things with him that we did with our kids. you'll never meet a 10yr old today who sees as many sunrises on mountaintops as he does. while i could still hike, i got his feet on the AT with me when he was just 5 years old. he's also sat in the woods with me and watched Momma bears take care of their babies. i'm a wildlife and landscape photographer and i've taught him how to shoot just like i taught my kids. i used the earth to get close to my kids and now every time they see a sunrise when i'm gone, it's going to hurt them. i drive myself crazy with it. i'm not looking for advice. i don't even know why i sat here and typed this.
Weird to think how everyone freaks out about death in there 20s but here I am completely at peace because I went through that phase from at 6-14 years old. I’d have frequent panic attacks about oblivion :’) I was an odd kid.
Story 1: I have PCOS, endometriosis and was told at 18 years old that I could not have children. It was never going to be in the cards for me. I was even put on a birth control pill to help manage my hormones. At 22 years old (while on birth control) I got pregnant! Even if a doctor tells you that you are infertile that does not mean it’s the honest to god truth!
Story number 5! Hi my finance proposed to me in his parents living room on a random Tuesday night surrounded by our family when we had a family dinner night. That is something I will remember for the rest of my life how special it was.
Death is the only thing in life that is certain, so we must make certain that we complete our lives to the fullest as much as we possibly can... in other words we have a "life jar" and we have to fill it with as many things that we love as we can, stuff it full, so no matter how full it is by our end we can look at our jar and say "Look at all these things and places I loved, these people I loved" :)
Story 1 there's a couple on tiktok that the husband is a chef and created a meal plan to help heal his wife's body so they could have babies and I think they have had 2 now
Story #4: I struggled with the anxiety of death for as long as I can remember. It wasn’t until that I truly grasped onto my faith in God that helped ease my worries regarding death. I have peace and reassurance in knowing that when it is my time to leave this earth, I will enter into heaven and be reunited with my love ones who have gone before me and eventually will see my loved ones who I left behind. Of course there are still moments where I fear the uncertainty of death, but I am able to bring those feeling straight to God in prayer and find this beautiful peace and reassurance that flows over me. I know faith is not for everyone and I don’t want to force it on you OP, or anyone else in this comment section, but I just felt the need to share something that eases my worries. I hope and pray that you find something that helps ease your anxieties and your fears!
I wish I could believe in god again sometimes. But I know it’s a cop out answer to a question that cannot be answered as there is nothing after death that can be proven yet.
Hey Morgan, last year I was confronted with death in a way that I never experienced before (I don’t live in my home country and had a close friend from the same home country pass away suddenly with no family around and had to deal with paperwork, hard decision making, delivering the news to loved ones etc - I was only 27!). I spiraled for a while with so many thoughts that I won’t get into detail but what you said in this video resonated with it. My therapist (bless that woman!) recommended me a book that changed my life!!! It’s called The top 5 regrets of the dying by Bronnie Ware. Don’t let the name scare you! It’s a wholesome true story and super easy to read. Hope it helps with your journey ❤
For the first story. Get a second opinion to start and also know that with time you will come to term with it but only after you've tried everything. And there are so many treatments and options nowadays. I went through 2 ivf transfers and have to use donor eggs because I too can't have my own biological child. But def get a second opinion it took me 3 different doctors to find the actual problem and some were not even right
My dad suddenly passed away 4 years ago when i was 14, since then, I've been terrified of dying, or any other people i love dying. But to grieve is to have loved and im grateful for all the memories i have. honestly, it's a miracle any of us are even here at all. we should just enjoy every moment we can instead of thinking about what's to come. All we can control is now
For the death one, I’m terrified of death but one day I watched a video of a man who spoke about how he had died for a couple of minutes. He said death is beautiful and it’s something he is happy all of us are able to experience one day. He said death is like a neighbor who comes over to knock on your door to ask for some cookies but every time he comes and knocks, He happens to not be home. except one day he will be home and the neighbor will knock on the door and ask for some cookies, and he might just invite the neighbor inside his home
Hear me out..... FKS does an episode of write ins from THT without telling Jerry. All the staff do an anonymous one about their life & we can only guess who. Imagine Ale's stalker write in story lol
Story one- i have Endometriosis and have had a pregnancy loss. Trying again post laparoscopy now. I do not allow myself much feeling and worry of infertility yet. I haven’t tried anything fertility wise yet and it can be a long process to heal. Don’t be sad yet. Life is beautiful regardless. Even if it is different than what we expect. Its okay to grieve other plans. Just dont grieve yet. Im sorry your partner doesn’t understand though. Thats gotta be really tough.
Hi I'm 29, married, have PCOS, and am now Type 2 diabetic. I have been struggling with infertility for years now with no luck. Its a hard road. I understand wanting to be the one to experience pregnancy. Honestly it's a grieving process that may last a long long time. With PCOS the hard part isn't just carrying the child during first trimester but rather having mature eggs. It's so frustrating having a body that doesn't function the way we want it to. Just know you're not alone. There are many of us out there ♥️ I agree with Morgan about therapy. It will give you some coping mechanism. Sending love to you.
Thank you so much for sharing
Hi, I’m a 30 year old woman with PCOS as well. Was diagnosed when I was 19 years old. Been with my partner since I was 18. Started to try when I was about 21. Still till this day I haven’t been pregnant and it is the biggest void in my life. I’m a dog mom to 4 furr babies and if I didn’t have them I have no idea where I’d be mentally. But still have hope I’ll have my miracle baby some day. Stay strong ❤
I'm 28 and got diagnosed with PCOS last year when we started trying. It has been a rough journey and related to the story a lot. I feel really thankful that my husband has been my rock. Not having an empathic partner can make everything that comes with infertility so much. Baby dust for everyone ✨✨✨
@@TwoHotTakesMorgan, i hope you take some of your own advice and listeners advice, as well. It seems like PCOS is a newer diagnosis for you. Be gentle with yourself, but also feel your feelings! This diagnosis is daunting and it’s ok to grieve for the pregnancy process you thought you would have. Reddit has great support groups for individuals with PCOS and for those trying to conceive with PCOS. I’ve been struggling with PCOS infertility for over a year now. Infertility can feel so so lonely, but it’s most important to remember you are not alone. Your journey just looks different than others. Love always ❤️
just adopt. you’re not struggling with anything, the world is showing you your selfish. you dont want to do something good and raise a life to have the best it can you just want to pass down your bloodline like some 1800s weirdo. the amount of us who would kill to be infertile and you’re here crying over it when you can still become a parent easily .
Story 3: OP you don't have to leave your home. If ypur husband wants to see his parents, he has to go see them. They are aholes. Your husband needs to say something. I agree with Morgan. Your husband needs to stand up for you. Your child shouldn't see or hear how they treat you.
i just started the video but I wanted to say that Morgan is always gorgeous, but I love the chill beautiful vibe that she has. That is an amazing beautiful woman. Just a reminder
Jerry is such a poet! “This is not even the full chapter. This is just the prologue to your life before you even get into chapter one.”
One of his best metaphors for sure , I agree!
In story 3 he needs to step up, my mom had the same issue with my grandparents since the beginning, they did;t want my parents to get married and they sabotaged their wedding venue; we lived a country away for more than 10 years but when we moved back to Mexico they started bothering her.
My dad put his feet down and told them that if they were treating her like that they were treating him that way and we had no contact for 6 years, they understood and we finally started a relationship with them.
Mexican listener here! I had hope I could catch you guys on the Orlando/Miami show this summer while being on the Disney College Program (so so excited)...sadly by the time I get to the US, you guys would have already wrapped the THT tour up. Guess it will be on another time....anyways, love you THT & FKS fam
Story 4. I agree with Jerry. I watched my mom take her last breath last month. I could almost feel her spirit leave her body and I was just there with her body. It brought me comfort to know she was ok.
Story 1: I have PCOS, and I had type 2 diabetes. I found a fertility book that really helped me. The best thing that I realised from the book that the stress I was putting onto myself to get pregnant was preventing myself from getting pregnant. I stopped stressing, added in fun exercise, and diet change My periods got better, weight was coming off, and I was happier. Inwas pregnant in 3 months. I am not saying that it will be that quick for anyone, but I am saying that changing that stress plays a huge part in our bodies.
That high cortisol is so bad for us.
Would love to know the book title if you don’t mind sharing. Been dealing with pcos since I was 15. 33 years old now and thinking about potentially starting a family soon.
@Dahewitt90 Sorry, I can't remember the title. I gave it to another person needing it, and Amazon doesn't go back 15 years.
@@ivylovesrunning no worries!
I struggled with infertility and went through all of those feelings. They are rough. We ended up adopting and once my son was placed in my arms all of that pain went away.
My husband struggled with intense fear of death also now would have panic attacks whenever he thought about it. He’s been in therapy for years now and sometimes still struggles, but something that helped him so much was EMDR therapy. I would highly highly suggest looking into it for anyone that deals with fears or trauma.
Story 4: I can give a few prespectives/angles on this. I lost a partner young at age 21, he was 19. It was the hardest thing I had to do. I picked myself back up and my husband came back into my life as we lost touch, we were just friends. We have been together over 20 years. We have have 2 children. I had undiagnosed mental issues with my first as I terrified all the time that my partner or daughter would pass. Luckily, I worked through that after two years. Second baby, I had severe PND that was diagnosed and treated. Please seek help as you shouldn't have to go through this alone. Talking about it with a therapist is helpful. I find mentally focusing on things I am grateful for and trying to see the positives when I am having a dark depressing moment helps. Or asking for a hug from my loved one or watching something I find funny even if it is a RUclips short. I am sending you lots of positive healing vibes.
Thank you for this input as the advice given did not resonate with me and Morgan seems to be going through it just as much as myself. I’m 31 and I’ve had death anxiety for maybe 10 years. Nothing in particular brought it on as I’ve always been obsessed with ghost stories, goth aesthetic, etc. I want to be the boss of it rather than the other way around and without therapy idk if there is anything someone could say that would truly fix it. But knowing there are people in the community like yourself helps. It is debilitating.
Story 4: if this came on suddenly and this close to giving birth, consider talking to someone about PPD / PPA.
“You don’t nickel and dime life” yessss - awesome Morgan!!!! 🤌🏼
Morgan I feel for you every time you cry thinking about losing Jerry, It's so refreshing to know that I'm not alone in it
I love being early, never been THIS early tho 🤭💖 love y’all!
Concerning Story 3: "I will not make myself smaller to become more digestible for you, you can choke".
Morgan is radiating this episode ❤
I’m feeling so unbelievably overwhelmed as I moved houses for the first time in 10 yrs with 3 cats. So this episode is really going to calm my anxiety for a little while
I wish you could do a show in Missouri. 😢
For anyone dealing with death anxiety, I highly recommend watching videos by Ask a Mortician, Caitlin Doughty. She has helped relieve my death anxiety so much.
Deathling ❤❤❤. Love Caitlin
Story 2: They boyfriend has some deep abandonment issues that’s allowing him to let his mother rule his life. He needs to get some therapy and he needs to set boundaries. If he won’t then you need to make whatever choice that you think you’ll be happy with 10 years down the road.
Story #4
Jerry, you and I share something in common. I lost my Dad at 31. And I too had a private moment with my Father before the viewing and it was clear to my that this body I was looking at was only my Dads vessel. His soul was what made him him.
Morgan,
If you kinda know you should try out meds, I recommend getting on them. I don’t know how I would have pulled through losing my Dad with out already being on them.
I started watching it at 11 minutes and was the 11th comment and this is the 111 podcast. This is insane!!!
Weird, i heard Jerry say it was the 111th episode, then I looked and there were 11 likes. Omg and now I have 11%battery left 😂❤
Story 1: I don't think the issue for OP is that the child isn't going to be hers biologically if she can't carry herself. It sounds like the plan was already to have one that is biologically hers and one that is biologically her partner's anyway, and that the issue is NOT the child "not being hers" if she doesn't carry. She wants the experience of pregnancy, so experiencing it "through her girlfriend" is not going to be the same. I think she needs to talk to people who have had similar struggles because it sounds like she's not getting the empathy or understanding from people in her life, including her partner. Having children and loving them all the same regardless of where they come from is just one part of the equation if she really wants to have the actual experience of pregnancy.
I know Morgan means well but I’m like of tired of her resorting to
Seeing a mental professional any time the story had to do with someone’s emotions.
Not everyone can access a healthcare professional or feels resolve from talking to a stranger. We’re all just trying to figure this out, but there are internal works you can do with yourself to help. For example, magnesium helped me have less anxiety, which intern made me have less intrusive thoughts so that’s an affordable non internal option
On story number one: I have a close friend that has PCOS and has had so many struggles with it, has had a few surgeries because of it, almost lost an ovary, and was told she'd never be able to have children. She was devastated, but she now has three children of her own. She did suffer a couple of miscarriages, but after those she went on to have three beautiful children! I don't know if she did anything to help but either way she was still able still have her babies! I hope that the same thing will happen for the OP in the story. I also hope that her partner will start understanding and being more empathetic to her feelings. I agree with Morgan on taking a different approach and asking her how she would feel if it was her that was told she would potentially never have children. It might change her perspective and help her to see where her gf is coming from and show a lot more sympathy towards her gf's feelings and grief over not being able to have children.
As someone that deals with the same fear as the writer in story #4, I have some advice that has really helped me!
When you start feeling nervous that you or your loved ones will go too soon, remind yourself that you are fearing the loss of the wonderful things that you have right NOW. We are robbing ourselves of beautiful times with our favorite people by not living in the present. Instead of fearing the future, fear losing guaranteed time with the person that's sitting right in front of you. Focus on making memories, making connections, and fully living your life ❤
Did Morgan just say Mucinex helps infertility ? Did she screw up words again. I'm not just a nurse I went through infertility for 5 years Mucinex????????? Metformin. This makes no sense. And to the listener don't give up hope. Through dozens of procedures and medications and heartbreak and loss I finally got pregnant with twins. Their names are Jamie and . Their names are Jamie and Nicholas and they . Their names are Jamie and Nicholas and they are 16 now. So don't ever give up hopeThere doesn't waste to get pregnant Does dozens of ways to just get children Truly understand The feeling you're going through. You're a woman, it's 1 of your jobs You feel like you're a failure at it It's just a god has a It's just that god has a different plan for you. All I Can say Can say is infertility sucks. If your partner is not going to be supportive then you should look for 1 that is. I'm sorry but this is a huge thing that you need. Is someone to lean on. Especially the person that's going through it with you. Anyway just 1 let you know you are not alone by any means.. Good luck, I wish you the best I hope you get what you want Morgan please clarify the home Mucinex thing. It's freaking me out. There's no way Mucinex can help you get pregnant. That is the most comical thing I've ever heard
no it’s true! People take mucinex to get pregnant and it works 🤷🏼♀️
I can sooo relate on the death fear story! I used to have literal panic attacks about it where I would just sit and stare into space frozen with fear thinking about it! I’ve come to terms with it a bit more but most the time that’s just from being busy with my family/work/enjoying life ect that I just push it to the back of my mind! I think it became more real to me when my grandma passed suddenly a few years ago! She was battling cancer however she was generally okay and fighting it when she got admitted to hospital then only lived two days and passed! Made me think how fragile life truly is BUT this also has made me become less anxious as it’s made me realise how much time I waste worrying about little things when I could be pushing myself to do the things I love and be grateful for being alive everyday! But it is very scary because we don’t know what is past death! I think that’s why I am spiritual and believe in an after life more for comfort!
Story 5: I completely agree with everything you guys said! One thing I told my fiancé when we discussed proposing was I didn’t want anyone but him knowing that he was going to propose! I know how our friends and family are and they most definitely would’ve let it slip. Sometimes without even meaning to and I wanted us to be the ones telling our loved ones and friends together! I wish I would’ve recorded their reactions but I truly loved how he went about it! The only ones that truly knew he was proposing was his mom because he shipped the ring to her house so I wouldn’t accidentally open it and his grandma because she was the one recording, he proposed on our trip visiting her.
I had pcos and was told I wouldn't be able to have children I went off the pill and it took me 2 months with my first and 1 with my second doctors don't know everything
Bawling over story #4 I think about it all the time, especially when driving. It terrifies me. 😢
I cried too. When Morgan’s voice cracked I was done. 😢
Story 4: I have been through something similar with the fear of death and I have some good news for you: you like yourself! You like your life and your experiences. You don’t want it to slip through your fingers and honestly that’s a good thing. We are all on this earth for such a short period of time and the fact you fear it ending means you’re living a fulfilling and beautiful life. Enrich yourself in it and just live in the moment. You only get to be you once.
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Just gonna throw this out there....
I've been in construction for 20+ years. Including removing and replacing carpet, installing new hardwood and tile floors as well as sanding, staining and refinishing hardwood floors. Floors are my biggest fortè, followed by drywall, spackling and painting.
I would be more than happy to take a vacation and come help. I do live in Pa, so I would need to drive to you. But hey, if you provide a rental car, place for us to stay, along with the materials, pizza and beer/water, I'll bring my crew (myself and my daughter. Lol) and do it for free. YES...That would be an amazing vacation for us. ❤
Ps- I've been trying to write in but every time I try, with all of the information, it turns out to be a novel. That being said, rather than read it on the podcast, would you consider reading and maybe just emailing your advice?? Thank you for all of your amazing advice from day 1.
Ps-did I miss the March "tea" session??
Also....happy belated birthday Morgan!! Did you actually turn 30? Or did you do what I do and start celebrating the anniversary of my 29th birthday? 😂 I'm currently 29 on the 11th chapter. Or 29 with 11 years experience. LOL
See...novel comment...sorry!!!
morgan i’m curious, how did you realize you were pre diabetic? i’m curious because it runs in my family & i’ve been tested like 1 times every year for the last 2 years and they said i was okay.. always paranoid about it tho!! would love to know more
Got blood work done and my A1C was in that range. Then really started tracking with a glucose device
Ok sorry...I'm literally commenting as I watch. Story number 3 really hit home and struck a nerve with me.
I (29 with with 11 years experience F) ended up getting really sick again in 2017 and had to move back in with my dad and his wife. My ex and I split up in 2016. And I need a heart transplant so it's not something the doctors really want me to be alone for long periods of time.
My dad's wife and I got along really well in the beginning.
She is Vietnamese and has been in the US for about 20 years now. And it was ME who busted MY ass every day for over 8 months just to get her visa approved because it was during the aftermath of 9/11. She's not a mail order bride (or I'd gladly ship her ass back...and quite frankly might still frankly might still so. Lol)
Anyway....she hates me and hates my daughter and hates even more that her and I are living here. She's tried multiple times to get us to leave. Disability is a fixed income and mine is less than $700/month. There is ZERO chance I would be able to live on my own for that, let alone with a teenage daughter.
"She doesn't have any of her own kids so she doesn't understand." Or "She was raised differently and she doesn't understand." Or "Just ignore it" are three of my dads top favorite phrases. He stands up for her 100% of the time. She's blamed some of the craziest shit SHE HAS DONE on us to draw a wedge between us. And after being here for 6 or so years, if I had the money, I would move in a heartbeat. Even though the house is legally mine because my dad turned the deed over to me about 5 years after they got married...."just in case." He didn't want my daughter and I to lose OUR house. She has given him the "she goes or I go" ultimatum 6 times in 6 years and every single time, I leave. NOT because he asks me to or chooses her over me but because I love him too much to put him in a situation so unfair.
So instead since I can't go to work. I do everything I can around the house. And we live on a farm so I take care of the sheepies. Nothing I ever do is good enough. She tells everyone that I'm just lazy and don't want to work. If I could go back to work, I would do it in a heartbeat. Because disability is a fucking joke. And since she hates me and hates my daughter and I living here, she does everything she can to make our lives a living hell. I don't even leave my bedroom a majority of the time if my daughter isn't home. She's tried multiple times to get us to leave. Pulled some crazy ass stunts and accuses us of stealing the stupidest things. (Paper towels, a bottle of lysol, a soup pot, etc)
Disability is a fixed income and mine is less than $700/month. There is ZERO chance I would be able to live on my own for that, let alone with a teenage daughter.
"She doesn't have any of her own kids so she doesn't understand." Or "She was raised differently and she doesn't understand." Or "Just ignore it" are three of my dads top favorite phrases. He stands up for her 100% of the time. She's blamed some of the craziest shit SHE HAS DONE on us to draw a wedge between us. And after being here for 6 or so years, if I had the money, I would move in a heartbeat. Even though the house is legally mine because my dad turned the deed over to me about 5 years after they got married...."just in case." He didn't want my daughter and I to lose OUR house. She has given him the "she goes or I go" ultimatum 6 times in 6 years and every single time, I leave. NOT because he asks me to or chooses her over me but because I love him too much to put him in a situation like that.
My daughter turns 16 on May 31st and we've been planning her party forever. Her dad decided he wants nothing to do with it. (Because our daughter doesn't want his girlfriend there) so he backed out on helping with the cost. And when my dad's wife found out he was going to help cover it, she lost her shit and now it's all on me. All because this woman hates me because of a joke my dad made on Oct 26, 2011. I will never forget that day. We were talking about wills and stuff and my dad said he doesn't need a will because when he dies, everything goes to me except for the $100 in their savings account. AS A JOKE. We were all laughing when he said it. He said he was just kidding. But from that day on, she has treated us like total shit. We don't even feel welcome in OUR HOME anymore. 😔
First story: I am 1 of 3 children born to a woman who had pcos in the 90s. They told her she was infertile and did a lot of testing. Don't think it is impossible
Story 4: OCD is 1 in 4 women!! The obsession over death is a very very VERY common OCD obsession. Please look into the possibility of OCD! It sounds like you’re stuck in the cycle of rumination.
I have PCOS and am pre diabetic also have endometriosis. However I would like to say that though it may be hard to get pregnant it may not mean it’s impossible or that you are for sure infertile. It’s just a possibility. See a reproductive endocrinologist, follow diet (glucose goddess is very helpful) and exercise. I have been blessed with two children, had risks and complications with both including GD. The pregnacies one was with help from reproductive endocrinologist and other just happened naturally. Also it does take way longer to get pregnant when you are stressed and anxious, my personal experience maybe due to the hormones. I know this may just be my experience but just wanted to share that there is hope for others in similar situations.
Story 4: I have this same issue for as long as I can remember, even back into middle school years. I lost a lot of grandparents young so maybe that’s where it stems from. It would get worse when I was busy and stressed and was debilitating almost even when I would try and reframe and remind myself of rationale. I was diagnosed with anxiety, depression, ocd a little over a year ago. I was in therapy for a few years before I decided to see a psychiatrist, I was doing reallly well with just therapy for a while until life just got so crazy that I couldn’t cope on my own anymore. Getting medicated changed my life for the better. I weaned off my meds and am doing really well, I haven’t had those obsessive thoughts come back yet and other patterns/ things I used to obsess over don’t carry the same weight. Hopefully stays that way. I wish you luck and send love! You’re not alone!! ❤
The fear of death story hits home for me…everyday of my life I think of me/my family dying several times. It gives me panic attacks at night and it genuinely sucks…thank you Jerry for talking about this story calmly and honestly. I was nervous I would have to skip this one at work today.
i think about death all the time. more times per day than i can even count. i'm 57 and my husband and i have 3 sons... 23, 31 & 32. i was an abused kid and so was my husband. we decided to break that cycle and we did. our boys are smart, funny, kind, higher educated smartasses in the best kind of way. we talk every day and they are all 3 good friend.. thick as thieves actually. losing my Mom hurt me so badly that i can't put it into words. but the thing is, even though my father was the main abuser, my Mom abused me and my siblings too.. and it STILL hurt horribly to lose her. i literally hit the floor when she took her last breath, i passed tf out. i didn't when my father died but, as evil as he was.. i still sat there and held that man's hand as he took his last breath when i swear to anyone who bothers to read this, he didn't deserve me being there. i did it mostly for me and i don't miss him at all. but, i miss my Mom every single day, all day and it's been 7 years now since she died. my issue with death is this: as bad as it hurt me to lose my Mom, i think it's going to hurt my kids worse to lose me. i feel like i set them up to be devastated. i literally feel guilty that i'm going to die one day. i have crohns disease and severe osteoarthritis and i walk with 2 canes after having hiked the Smokies with my kids their entire lives. we fished, kayaked, and sat in the woods on a log and watched bears live their lives. we've had more incredible experiences together than 100 parents will ever have with their kids. we've stood on more mountaintops and watched the sun rise over the Smokies than 1000 people will ever experience in their lives. we're from Townsend, Tennessee right in the Smokies and we used the park to our full advantage as parents. we've just really had some incredibly fun times together. and now i know that it's all going to make it worse when i'm gone and i don't think i'll live to be an old person. my lack of mobility now certainly isn't setting myself up to be an old lady. i'm 57. i've already had a heart attack. i'd say i've got 10-15 years top which puts my youngest in his 30's when i go. i'm not afraid of death itself, i'm afraid of why my death will do to my boys. my oldest 2 are married, my oldest and his wife are expecting a baby, and my middle son and his wife have a 10yr old which my son adopted. my DIL was a young Mom and my grandson was actually adopted by us all... we all worship the ground that kid walks on. they're trying to get pregnant now. my youngest doesn't plan on having kids so, at least he won't sit around wishing i'd known his kids. oh and, i'm gonna hurt my grandson too... me and my husband do all the same things with him that we did with our kids. you'll never meet a 10yr old today who sees as many sunrises on mountaintops as he does. while i could still hike, i got his feet on the AT with me when he was just 5 years old. he's also sat in the woods with me and watched Momma bears take care of their babies. i'm a wildlife and landscape photographer and i've taught him how to shoot just like i taught my kids. i used the earth to get close to my kids and now every time they see a sunrise when i'm gone, it's going to hurt them. i drive myself crazy with it. i'm not looking for advice. i don't even know why i sat here and typed this.
Weird to think how everyone freaks out about death in there 20s but here I am completely at peace because I went through that phase from at 6-14 years old. I’d have frequent panic attacks about oblivion :’) I was an odd kid.
Story 1: I have PCOS, endometriosis and was told at 18 years old that I could not have children. It was never going to be in the cards for me. I was even put on a birth control pill to help manage my hormones. At 22 years old (while on birth control) I got pregnant! Even if a doctor tells you that you are infertile that does not mean it’s the honest to god truth!
Story number 5! Hi my finance proposed to me in his parents living room on a random Tuesday night surrounded by our family when we had a family dinner night. That is something I will remember for the rest of my life how special it was.
Death is the only thing in life that is certain, so we must make certain that we complete our lives to the fullest as much as we possibly can... in other words we have a "life jar" and we have to fill it with as many things that we love as we can, stuff it full, so no matter how full it is by our end we can look at our jar and say "Look at all these things and places I loved, these people I loved" :)
Be careful using Lume I got contact dermatitis from it
Doesn’t work for me either. Not powerful enough :( smells good then becomes slimy.
2nd comment, love y’all!
Story 1 there's a couple on tiktok that the husband is a chef and created a meal plan to help heal his wife's body so they could have babies and I think they have had 2 now
If he can't pay for the proposal trip, how are the gonna pay for the wedding? Maybe plan a cheaper engagement and safe up for the honeymoon
this upload made my night!!
I’d be upset if I paid for my proposal trip as well 😂
Oh man, I miss my dad! 😭 you guys are so awesome! 🫶🏼 I also think about death way too much.😩
On the third story, the husband cut ties with the family, you just didn't pay attention when you read the story
And going on the pill for a while helped get my pcos and endometriosis helped
Happy 111 ❤️🎉
Story #4: I struggled with the anxiety of death for as long as I can remember. It wasn’t until that I truly grasped onto my faith in God that helped ease my worries regarding death. I have peace and reassurance in knowing that when it is my time to leave this earth, I will enter into heaven and be reunited with my love ones who have gone before me and eventually will see my loved ones who I left behind. Of course there are still moments where I fear the uncertainty of death, but I am able to bring those feeling straight to God in prayer and find this beautiful peace and reassurance that flows over me. I know faith is not for everyone and I don’t want to force it on you OP, or anyone else in this comment section, but I just felt the need to share something that eases my worries. I hope and pray that you find something that helps ease your anxieties and your fears!
I wish I could believe in god again sometimes. But I know it’s a cop out answer to a question that cannot be answered as there is nothing after death that can be proven yet.
Hey Morgan, last year I was confronted with death in a way that I never experienced before (I don’t live in my home country and had a close friend from the same home country pass away suddenly with no family around and had to deal with paperwork, hard decision making, delivering the news to loved ones etc - I was only 27!). I spiraled for a while with so many thoughts that I won’t get into detail but what you said in this video resonated with it. My therapist (bless that woman!) recommended me a book that changed my life!!! It’s called The top 5 regrets of the dying by Bronnie Ware. Don’t let the name scare you! It’s a wholesome true story and super easy to read. Hope it helps with your journey ❤
For the first story. Get a second opinion to start and also know that with time you will come to term with it but only after you've tried everything. And there are so many treatments and options nowadays. I went through 2 ivf transfers and have to use donor eggs because I too can't have my own biological child. But def get a second opinion it took me 3 different doctors to find the actual problem and some were not even right
My dad suddenly passed away 4 years ago when i was 14, since then, I've been terrified of dying, or any other people i love dying. But to grieve is to have loved and im grateful for all the memories i have. honestly, it's a miracle any of us are even here at all. we should just enjoy every moment we can instead of thinking about what's to come. All we can control is now
For the death one, I’m terrified of death but one day I watched a video of a man who spoke about how he had died for a couple of minutes. He said death is beautiful and it’s something he is happy all of us are able to experience one day. He said death is like a neighbor who comes over to knock on your door to ask for some cookies but every time he comes and knocks, He happens to not be home. except one day he will be home and the neighbor will knock on the door and ask for some cookies, and he might just invite the neighbor inside his home
Hear me out..... FKS does an episode of write ins from THT without telling Jerry. All the staff do an anonymous one about their life & we can only guess who. Imagine Ale's stalker write in story lol
Story one- i have Endometriosis and have had a pregnancy loss. Trying again post laparoscopy now. I do not allow myself much feeling and worry of infertility yet. I haven’t tried anything fertility wise yet and it can be a long process to heal. Don’t be sad yet. Life is beautiful regardless. Even if it is different than what we expect. Its okay to grieve other plans. Just dont grieve yet. Im sorry your partner doesn’t understand though. Thats gotta be really tough.
Is that her dad
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Shut up Jerry! What are you even saying ?? Morgan Cut him off Sometimes he babbles about not nothing or himself Sorry