This is the most mind-changing ted talk I've ever seen. She answered all my intrusive thinking, habit, and behavior. Years by years all the voices inside me control me but watching this I start to raise my awareness and take action. I hope 5 years from now, the future of healed version of me will see this comment and be proud of how far I've grown and heal.
My Inner voice keeps me limiting myself, by saying that you can't do it, it's not for you, you are too late or too early etc. I used to listen to them and missed many of the opportunities thinking that i am not potentially enough, but ended up watching people who are less potential than me grabbing those opportunities. I am not aware of these self-deceivers. I believed that the inner voice tells always me what is right for me. Today I came to know the reality of these deceivers. From today I am going to push myself harder, and not going to listen about what deceivers say. Thanks for bringing me out of this misconception.
5 Archetypes of Inner Deceiver and How to Overcome Them Classic deceiver - the inability to acknowledge anything positive about yourself • Call yourself out and practice psychological distancing, which allows you to think more rationally The victimizer - thinking that the universe is conspiring against you, fills your mind with excuses • Practice cognitive shifting, focus more on what you can do and what you can change Misguided protector - protects you from possible risks of failure by keeping you paralyzed from making actions, keeps you safe but stuck • What's the worst that could happen realistically? Just do it, take action. The ringmaster - the unhealthy drive to keep going because you feel guilty when you stop; it's a toxic productivity, the unfulfilling treadmill of achievement addiction • Stop wearing busy as a badge of honor. Change your narrative. Set healthy boundaries. The neglector - seeking validation by prioritizing the needs of others more than your own; drives you to give more than your capacity • Realize that your value is not linked to how others view you
same here bro🥲🥲.My life was just a mess but since a month ago I get to know all these things by myself and I am practicing to overcome them and now I'm feeling better but I think there are lot more things I need to know😔its really painful when you do all these things alone by yourself.
@@Maryam-om7gt I don't really see it as a painful experience mainly because of the reward of learning (self growth). It means everything to me. Yet, this doesn't overlook the fact that it does get hard sometimes but it's always fun to deal with it. Kudos to you for how far you've come and wishing you the best on your journey of becoming the best version of yourself. Just remember what your going through is a new phase and just don't see it is a form of existential crisis.🥳
Everytime I have to watch her videos many times.. first two times watch,, I concentrate only how beautiful she is!! then two times how beautifully she is speaking ..next two times her English and thoughts 😂😂. Lots of love....God bless you.
Inner Deceivers ------------------------- 2:40 ~The classic judge~ Judges you and blames you for things outside your control, prevents you to learn from failure 3:33 ~ The victimizer~ Fills mind with excuses and decreases willpower 4:10 ~The misguided protector~ Tries to protect you from failures by keeping you paralized 4:59 ~The ringmaster~ Creates a trade mill of achivement addiction, which never brings satisfaction, creates productivity guilt on your mind Solutions- 1.choose not to listen. 2.take responsibility of things within your control. 3. Donot hear to misguided protector. 4.remind yourself of your qualities,the value you add to the life of others.
I appreciate the way Shade Zahrai has put forward her point. I may add here that if one is able to control the flood of thoughts and ideas emerging in mind, one can very well decide about actions to be taken which help growth in professional life. Everything emerges in mind and if one is able to win mind, one can win the world.
This women is preaching!🥺🙏🏻 I’ve been stuck in my life in general, academic career, job, and every decisions I make. Since I’m a Christian, later I found out through my faith that I was stuck because of listening to this voices in my head, which in this video are called deceivers and in the Bible are called Satan. These voices are not truly you, but they live inside of you. This video tells you to change the narrative and speak to your deceivers and take action. Biblically I learned that I need to change my focus and listen to the voice of God (change the narrative) and act upon God’s promises (take action, faith without works is dead). Overall, this video was an eye opener 🥺 and gave name to what I’ve been figuring out. Made everyone te clear. Thank you for this video
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 Recognizing *and overcoming inner obstacles like self-doubt and criticism is crucial for personal growth and success.* 02:28 There *are five common inner "deceivers": the judge, victimizer, misguided protector, ringmaster, and neglector, each impacting thoughts and actions differently.* 06:56 Using *third-person self-talk can help distance oneself from these inner critics, empowering rational thinking over emotional influence.* 10:59 Overcoming *these inner critics involves taking action, challenging limiting beliefs, valuing oneself beyond achievements, setting boundaries, and not seeking approval at the expense of personal authenticity.* 13:00 Embracing *one's higher nature, motivated by excellence, service, love, and courage, while consistently practicing mindfulness, leads to transcending inner limitations for a more fulfilling life.* Made with HARPA AI
i am 15 and yes i have faced every archetype she explained and yes they are making me so insecure and i am so grateful for youtube to recommend me this video when i terribly needed it
Recently I think 2-3 days ago all of sudden I got her video while I was scrolling RUclips & trust me since then I'm addicted to her eternal beauty more than her lectures. I'm in love with her & wishing I got such a beautiful lady in my life. Her lectures are also very informative & adds value to millions of viewers.
"First time i feel freedom from inner and it was pleasure for me to listen . these are moments of inner felicity and happiness,also proud to listen the true guide."
That is really a spiritual enemy. And they speak into our ear. You can't see them. The unseen is really real. But you are getting closer. Daughter of God I see you will believe soon! Don't stop dreaming cause God put those dreams in you! Love you sister!
Shade you are so young but so positive and practical . At 55 I learnt so many strategies to Live a good life . Pl carry on because you are doing it so well .
I'm so happy you found the talk of value Surabhi. I always say that age is irrelevant - it's all about your openness and willingness to grow, which you clearly have in spades. More power to you, and thank you for the very kind words. 🙏
I wish i hear all these when i was in my teens, but it’s never too late to start. Thank you for breaking down into such succinct explanation. Quality work.
Eloquent speaker educating with so much power. Spoken at a limited time with limitless teachings in her content. Thank you so much for the profound input that broadens one's thoughts.
believe it or not but she is the reason that I got a job in a reputed company with senior profile, followed her instruction and listened to her carefully. Thank you Shade..... god bless you.
Shadé~ how fortunate I feel to have You popping up on my feed today. I immediately became a big fan and am really astounded to see a living proof of a beautiful soul as Yours that is ever evolving in all areas of Your life ❤️🙏🏻 Not only a super smart Woman with immense beautiful appearance but also a super kind soul with immense beautiful inner world ❤️🙏🏻 God bless You 🙏🏻
She is the most deductive person about the inner and the outer world about the person and always has a nearly perfect solution for nearly each of those. Her even small talks have a billion meanings. I really love her preparedness for the hardworking research she does before giving a talk. Thank you so much Shadei and the Ted agency
Found this video in 2024, can highly relate with all of it, and I have spent years dealing with my deceivers it and the game is still ON and would have been great I would came across this video years before. Leaving this comment so that one fine day my healed limitless, confident and powerful version would see this and smile back at me, appreciate me for not giving up. and be proud of me for figuring out that things are not my fault, I deserve to take more power and space, not play victim in my own head and not fearing judgments and most importantly healing. I know future me is proud and super successful. Rooting all myways to her she deserves so much more and beyond. 🧿😇🥰🥳🌟
I watched this today and I will start translating and putting it into practice. I hope it will work and take me out of the obsessive prison of self. I'm leaving this comment as a premise for my change and growth towards this self-awareness. Thank you so much for this life-changing presentation. 9/5/2023
This golden nugget of information should be taught in school instead of dates and places of wars. Wish i could act on it. Ok, i promise to myself i will act on it from this moment on and when i read this comment again in future i will be limitless as the speaker said, even if its 10% better, i will be glad. I have all 5 archetypes but victimizer and protector are dominant. There i acknowledged. First step. Thankyou again miss. God Bless you.
The smile that you constantly have in your face through out the video just gave one positive feel while watching. It doesn't mean that you are overdoing . You constantly maintain it in a consistent way . I just learnt from you.
WOW. I think I realized all of these deceivers at different point of time in myself, as well as others. Once there was a time I failed an exam. There was nothing worse that had happened till then in my life, but somewhere I felt as if this is the worst that could've happened. What to fear now? What stopping me now? Going back again and again to the subject I failed, telling myself everday how much I'm growing to love my life. Letting any regret go and making space for encouraging myself to get over this self-deception I gave myself in lockdown. I took the control of my life and stopped Media, Internet, Music, News, etc. Honestly, I became the best version of myself.
Astonishing explanation you get to the point there is no self confident, no productivity, no progress within self doubt and self deception. You are the only one who responsible for the personality you will become. Success is something you attract and do not to pursue and regret
Judge - awareness:call wrong thougts out Victimiser redirect attention on what you can control Overprotector - what might realisticly happen? Make process goal, take unperfect action Ring master - value what you already are, what you bring to others without beeing busy Neglector - dont allow outer opinions affect how you feel and how you act. Dont try to please over your true nature, but you can serve if you feel like it Expressing excellence, confidence, beeing of service , creativity,courage,love, justice- positive motivations
This juxtaposition between the protector and the ringmaster is is a very nice, clear and memorable aid. The 'ringmaster' in particular is a new idea for me. I have been viewing your short tiktok videos for some time now. It is not surprising that you have been successful since you come across with the ideal combination of warmth and proficiency, by virtue of your subject mastery, excellent voice tone and physical beauty. Very interesting however that you mention experiencing your own self doubts despite all this.
Oh my God !!! What a great talk. None of the present day Spiritual Gurus can give us this theory which is applicable from our childhood. Actually children should have been taught this shifting of mindset from an early stage on wards. Be yourself..Who is Shade Zahrai ? First time listening to her talk..
Shadé is such a tremendous gift for us! I'm really happy to live in the same time as her. Everthing what this powerful woman says is worth gold. Love you Shadé .. you always encourage me and enhance me with your positive energy 🌹
I usually don't pay attention to talks like these,for my concentration is weak.But in Ur case-I am really amazed. First U have a beautiful voice and even more beautiful face.And every word you say is like rain drops in the desert.Just craving to hear more.U are a complete package of "Beauty with Brains". Whatever U say is nothing new coz there are many who have said the same before but the way U put it across with soo much love and purpose to serve is all that makes the difference. God bless you.
Shadé never disappoints, she phrases things so concisely and meaningfully! I came here as soon as I saw her name. I think my strongest deceiver is the misguided protector - I'll be making an effort to live out of love rather than out of fear, and giving myself permission to take action even when it feels scary ❤
Wow! Thanks for this inspiring talk. The world is full of internal and external decievers. Make your mind you own field of plantation and plant only what you would like to harvest
Excellent thoughts. Isn't judge in your case is conscience? Self-compassion is another point. Then intent-impact gap, a source of anxiety. Beautiful people with beautiful thoughts add fragrance to the Gold. May God bless you.
A very impactful presentation of what we all experience privately but is manifested in our behavior, I can relate to what you shared. Shade Zahrai Thank you.
Thank you Shade for this message. Very clearly explained. It would be great to have a program of small daily practices for people to master their mindset or cultivate awareness, as these concepts take time to sink in properly. Really happy to see how your desire to serve others has blossomed so much particularly in the last 2 years. God bless.
She's amazing and I tell everyone about her. The program that helped me ingrained these small positive habits was Positive Intelligence by Shirzad Chamine. Hope it helps.
oh god.....how this splendid actionable valuable speech helped me now...i will write..last 10 days these inner players playing football in my mind to joining a distance pg course. graduated 15 yrs ago now at aging 45 mind wishes to go for a pg.. the socalled all players for last 10 days tried almost successful to not join same. this video poppedup now, i decided now to kick all these players out and just going to join the course right now.. That is the impact of this great ladys magnific words to me perso....god bless her continue giving such god gifted knowledge wisdom to impact change affected people... By the way the course i choose also psychology!! thank u for this great speech once more.
Shade spent more time to talk about our negative inner voices instead of spending more time talking about our higher, beautiful, precious, powerful inner , higher self which is how God created us to be in His image. What she said is no different than the other negative voices criticizing us, not lifting us up. We know too much what hold us back in life! Shade needs to encourage us, praise us, lift us up, teach us to recognize our true beautiful nature, how to love, accept ourselves and to forgive ourselves unconditionally. That will help us recognize our powerful,, beautiful soul.. The teacher focus on what is wrong with us more than what is GOOD in us!
I love it! So glad that I had a chance to watch someone explain me to me. The video almost put me in the mindset of a sermon but from a different perspective. This was great. I love how she took the time to show how we could be limiting ourselves. Then gave us tools that could help us see ourselves as limitless. Exceptional!
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 🧠 *Understanding Limiting Beliefs* - Recognizing the impact of limiting beliefs on personal growth and success, - Identifying common inner deceivers that hinder potential, - Importance of awareness and strategies to overcome limiting beliefs. 02:28 🗣️ *Five Inner Deceivers* - Description of five common inner deceivers: the classic judge, the victimizer, the misguided protector, the ringmaster, and the neglector, - How childhood experiences shape the development of inner deceivers, - The detrimental effects of allowing inner deceivers to control thoughts and behaviors. 06:56 🚫 *Overcoming Inner Deceivers* - Techniques to challenge and overcome inner deceivers, including psychological distancing and cognitive shifting, - Personal anecdotes illustrating the impact of inner deceivers and the power of taking action, - Emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and proactive strategies for growth. Made with HARPA AI
After knowing our attitude and life is shaped so much by our experiences growing up, I feel really grateful that I had the parents that I have. Who imposed none of their opinions on me, literally, never judged me. Basically, I was a kid with parents as guardians, and observerves who just let me do my way through ( I sometimes got slapped as well 😅, it's all a good memory) Thank you very much Mum and Dad for what you did and didn't do. ❤
This has been a great video to watch. So eye opening and inspirational. I have been long tormented and I could recognized each of the 5 deceivers in my mind. This change in mindset inspires me to confront my deceivers and escape from the prison of the self. Thank YOU, Shade. I am grateful for running into your channel. You are doing great work!
This is so wonderful to hear Sebastian! Self-awareness and identifying these deceivers is a wonderful first step. Wishing you all the best on your journey of growth and healing, and thank you for the beautiful words 🙏🙏
I recognize my archetypes and want to change my mind set so bad but as I think about them another archetype is creating a doubt in my mind. God help me to overcome that archetype that sucks the energy out of me.
Yes I can't be any greatful for finding this video and for seeing the light at the end of the tunnel with the knowledge you are sharing to the world. Thank you!
@shadé this is so amazing. You always did it. I inspired a lot.. Thank you for so much empowering, I really feel this way, I love it more. I remember how you started when pandemic arrived and you brought a big impact to our community, to our lives and even to all over the worlds. You are so incredible.
Great video. After listening to you I feel like I am having all 5 deceivers in my mind with various degrees of impact on my behavior. But I am really Thankful to you for making this video.
00:07 Overcoming self-doubt is key to unlocking limitless potential 02:00 Identifying and subduing inner deceivers for a limitless mindset 03:52 Identify and overcome the three inner voices that hold you back. 05:41 Neglectors prioritize others' needs, leading to burnout. 07:28 Take control of your focus and personal power 09:02 Make the process the goal, not perfection 10:44 Overcoming codependency and acknowledging self-worth is crucial for personal growth. 12:26 We can break free from the prison of self and operate from our higher, limitless nature. Crafted by Merlin AI.
Wonderful talk! Been a fan of you, Shadé ever since I started following you on Instagram (definitely recommend it to everyone). I've shared your clips with friends, and they have seen the benefits following your simple but life-changing advice. I will strongly encourage you to write a book about the same, so that I can reference all the points at once (going through videos is a bit time consuming). Keep up the amazing work, you have no idea how many lives you touch by simply being you.
Such a great way to rethink how we see the narrative with oneself 1. The classic judge: Inability to acknowledge anything positive 2. The victimizer: Everything bad happens 3. The misguided protector: Keeping you paralyzed, safe & stuck 4. The ringmaster: Productivity guilt; never be good enough 5. The neglector: Seek approval/validation by prioritizing others' need
This video is eye opening for all because every person suffer in these kind of protector in everyday . I am feel very lucky after see the video . This is true knowledge , every person should know the knowledge for that they solve there inner problems. I am a kind of person who think very much in all work . But now I decided I do my work for making me true spirit , I want growth in my life . Thanks so much ma'am I am also intermediate English Lerner if I do any mistake in the comment i beg pardon from all . Thanks God Thanks my parents and my brother
Really liked how it was developed. And totally agree on the first step of having awareness. Without it nothing will change, even if someone tells you, all comes from within. Really enjoyed the talk. I think a have a couple of those, and funny enough I had already identified one "deceiver" about a month ago, but did not know how it was called (lol) or if I was crazy, and even less how to change that. So, thank you! ;) Worth the watch.
You're definitely not crazy Stefy! :) I'm so happy you found value in the talk, and I hope the guidance will help you transform your relationship with any lurking 'deceivers' in future. 🙏
Mam you are a gem...an extraordinary person who has finally solved all my confusion from childhood till 39 years. All the 5 inner deceivers have a good grip on my mind, I'm just becoming aware of this fact, now to decouple from these inner deceivers will take how long ....I don't know, but I'll try to fight Mam...Thanks again for bringing out this clarity of mindsets (limited and limitless)
"If you let others perception of you dictate your behavior, you will never grow as a person"
Masterpiece! Great one ❤
Truly Great one!
This is the most mind-changing ted talk I've ever seen. She answered all my intrusive thinking, habit, and behavior. Years by years all the voices inside me control me but watching this I start to raise my awareness and take action. I hope 5 years from now, the future of healed version of me will see this comment and be proud of how far I've grown and heal.
Yeah i think so.
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Have you improved yourself after this video?
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I could listen to her all day. Her voice is so soothing! ❤
Eye-opening speech. I had to listen to Shaďe keeping my eyes closed and keeping my ears open.
I need to rewatch this video again. And I'm gonna focus on her words and speech too, the next time.
lol
Ufff , that means u focus on her beauty in the first time right😂😂😂 , but her words are way more beautiful than her👍👍
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@@mnr6445 💯%!
It's hard to focus on the words she is a beautiful lady.
""When you prison yourself,You are limited.When you break them Your thoughts become limitless,You become limitless """Great speech Shade Zahrai...❤️
How. To do that, that's not easy
I always feel in everything i can't do this, and also people many times critize me for everything
It's mind vs mind. Choose the right from the wrong mindset. Know your instincts
And thanks for articulating all the insights you gathered, you are God sent ❤️
I totally agree with you. I really love her all videos
My Inner voice keeps me limiting myself, by saying that you can't do it, it's not for you, you are too late or too early etc. I used to listen to them and missed many of the opportunities thinking that i am not potentially enough, but ended up watching people who are less potential than me grabbing those opportunities. I am not aware of these self-deceivers. I believed that the inner voice tells always me what is right for me. Today I came to know the reality of these deceivers. From today I am going to push myself harder, and not going to listen about what deceivers say. Thanks for bringing me out of this misconception.
The beauty of Shade's speech is to say more in less, less time and less words. Ever word is calculated
5 Archetypes of Inner Deceiver and How to Overcome Them
Classic deceiver - the inability to acknowledge anything positive about yourself
• Call yourself out and practice psychological distancing, which allows you to think more rationally
The victimizer - thinking that the universe is conspiring against you, fills your mind with excuses
• Practice cognitive shifting, focus more on what you can do and what you can change
Misguided protector - protects you from possible risks of failure by keeping you paralyzed from making actions, keeps you safe but stuck
• What's the worst that could happen realistically? Just do it, take action.
The ringmaster - the unhealthy drive to keep going because you feel guilty when you stop; it's a toxic productivity, the unfulfilling treadmill of achievement addiction
• Stop wearing busy as a badge of honor. Change your narrative. Set healthy boundaries.
The neglector - seeking validation by prioritizing the needs of others more than your own; drives you to give more than your capacity
• Realize that your value is not linked to how others view you
Thank you
Thank you I was also not understand ing her pronounciation
Great job you did 👍
Thank youuu
Thanks
It’s literally funny how it took me years to learn this via self experimentation and she put everything in this video. This video is a goldmine. 🔥
If you are over 40, you get this kind of wisdom from life own experiences.
The same thing that you perceived diff in 20s,30s.
@@BetheChange80 I don’t think you have to be over 40 for that, but surely, I understand your point in relating experience, time and wisdom.
same here bro🥲🥲.My life was just a mess but since a month ago I get to know all these things by myself and I am practicing to overcome them and now I'm feeling better but I think there are lot more things I need to know😔its really painful when you do all these things alone by yourself.
@@Maryam-om7gt I don't really see it as a painful experience mainly because of the reward of learning (self growth). It means everything to me.
Yet, this doesn't overlook the fact that it does get hard sometimes but it's always fun to deal with it.
Kudos to you for how far you've come and wishing you the best on your journey of becoming the best version of yourself.
Just remember what your going through is a new phase and just don't see it is a form of existential crisis.🥳
@@pathikdesai5853 thanks
Everytime I have to watch her videos many times.. first two times watch,, I concentrate only how beautiful she is!! then two times how beautifully she is speaking
..next two times her English and thoughts 😂😂. Lots of love....God bless you.
Me also!!!
Me also definitely...😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂😂
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Inner Deceivers
-------------------------
2:40 ~The classic judge~
Judges you and blames you for things outside your control, prevents you to learn from failure
3:33 ~ The victimizer~
Fills mind with excuses and decreases willpower
4:10 ~The misguided protector~
Tries to protect you from failures by keeping you paralized
4:59 ~The ringmaster~
Creates a trade mill of achivement addiction, which never brings satisfaction, creates productivity guilt on your mind
Solutions-
1.choose not to listen.
2.take responsibility of things within your control.
3. Donot hear to misguided protector.
4.remind yourself of your qualities,the value you add to the life of others.
Don't make perfection, be consistent and be open to growth.
"When you ruminate on past failures with an unforgiving lens." Awesome quotable quote. A reality many people have to deal with. Thank you.
❤❤🥰🥰
Could you explain this quote for me plz😢I'm have presentation tomorrow I didn't get it's meaning
I appreciate the way Shade Zahrai has put forward her point. I may add here that if one is able to control the flood of thoughts and ideas emerging in mind, one can very well decide about actions to be taken which help growth in professional life. Everything emerges in mind and if one is able to win mind, one can win the world.
This women is preaching!🥺🙏🏻 I’ve been stuck in my life in general, academic career, job, and every decisions I make. Since I’m a Christian, later I found out through my faith that I was stuck because of listening to this voices in my head, which in this video are called deceivers and in the Bible are called Satan. These voices are not truly you, but they live inside of you. This video tells you to change the narrative and speak to your deceivers and take action. Biblically I learned that I need to change my focus and listen to the voice of God (change the narrative) and act upon God’s promises (take action, faith without works is dead).
Overall, this video was an eye opener 🥺 and gave name to what I’ve been figuring out. Made everyone te clear. Thank you for this video
Good
Mam , see through their minds
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 Recognizing *and overcoming inner obstacles like self-doubt and criticism is crucial for personal growth and success.*
02:28 There *are five common inner "deceivers": the judge, victimizer, misguided protector, ringmaster, and neglector, each impacting thoughts and actions differently.*
06:56 Using *third-person self-talk can help distance oneself from these inner critics, empowering rational thinking over emotional influence.*
10:59 Overcoming *these inner critics involves taking action, challenging limiting beliefs, valuing oneself beyond achievements, setting boundaries, and not seeking approval at the expense of personal authenticity.*
13:00 Embracing *one's higher nature, motivated by excellence, service, love, and courage, while consistently practicing mindfulness, leads to transcending inner limitations for a more fulfilling life.*
Made with HARPA AI
Shukran Habibty. I love you so much and appreciate the wisdom your sharing. ❤. Thank you 🙏🏻
this video has changed my life, everything that's wrong with me and why and how do I fix it...eternally grateful for this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She's too beauty. I live in Brazil, I'm watching this video to learn English, now I think I will learn with this amazing girl.
i am 15 and yes i have faced every archetype she explained and yes they are making me so insecure and i am so grateful for youtube to recommend me this video when i terribly needed it
Her pronunciations are very good. She speaks with great confidence.
14 mins of Shade's tedx speech felt like an audible podcast
Recently I think 2-3 days ago all of sudden I got her video while I was scrolling RUclips & trust me since then I'm addicted to her eternal beauty more than her lectures.
I'm in love with her & wishing I got such a beautiful lady in my life.
Her lectures are also very informative & adds value to millions of viewers.
"First time i feel freedom from inner and it was pleasure for me to listen . these are moments of inner felicity and happiness,also proud to listen the true guide."
That is really a spiritual enemy. And they speak into our ear. You can't see them. The unseen is really real. But you are getting closer. Daughter of God I see you will believe soon! Don't stop dreaming cause God put those dreams in you! Love you sister!
I find it extremely interesting. We all encounter these obstacles but do not recognize them. Thank you for describing the same.
Shade you are so young but so positive and practical . At 55 I learnt so many strategies to
Live a good life . Pl carry on because you are doing it so well .
I'm so happy you found the talk of value Surabhi. I always say that age is irrelevant - it's all about your openness and willingness to grow, which you clearly have in spades. More power to you, and thank you for the very kind words. 🙏
Right 👍
I wish i hear all these when i was in my teens, but it’s never too late to start. Thank you for breaking down into such succinct explanation. Quality work.
The struggle is real, it's better late than never.
Same here...
Her English is so pleasing to listen to. She sounds so clear and persuasive!
Eloquent speaker educating with so much power. Spoken at a limited time with limitless teachings in her content. Thank you so much for the profound input that broadens one's thoughts.
believe it or not but she is the reason that I got a job in a reputed company with senior profile, followed her instruction and listened to her carefully.
Thank you Shade.....
god bless you.
Shadé~ how fortunate I feel to have You popping up on my feed today. I immediately became a big fan and am really astounded to see a living proof of a beautiful soul as Yours that is ever evolving in all areas of Your life ❤️🙏🏻 Not only a super smart Woman with immense beautiful appearance but also a super kind soul with immense beautiful inner world ❤️🙏🏻 God bless You 🙏🏻
I'm so grateful you're here! Thank you for your very generous words Sheyda - I'm so happy you find value in what I share. Bless you! 🙏
Can you please give me her Instagram
@@ShadeZahrai Ms shade I want to follow you
She is the most deductive person about the inner and the outer world about the person and always has a nearly perfect solution for nearly each of those.
Her even small talks have a billion meanings.
I really love her preparedness for the hardworking research she does before giving a talk.
Thank you so much Shadei and the Ted agency
Found this video in 2024, can highly relate with all of it, and I have spent years dealing with my deceivers it and the game is still ON and would have been great I would came across this video years before. Leaving this comment so that one fine day my healed limitless, confident and powerful version would see this and smile back at me, appreciate me for not giving up. and be proud of me for figuring out that things are not my fault, I deserve to take more power and space, not play victim in my own head and not fearing judgments and most importantly healing. I know future me is proud and super successful. Rooting all myways to her she deserves so much more and beyond. 🧿😇🥰🥳🌟
Don't forget to add meditation, journaling, prayer and time to reflect ask you confront the voices. Well said Shadé
I watched this today and I will start translating and putting it into practice. I hope it will work and take me out of the obsessive prison of self. I'm leaving this comment as a premise for my change and growth towards this self-awareness. Thank you so much for this life-changing presentation. 9/5/2023
I wish you good luck and pray for your better life.
How's it going, mate?
This golden nugget of information should be taught in school instead of dates and places of wars. Wish i could act on it. Ok, i promise to myself i will act on it from this moment on and when i read this comment again in future i will be limitless as the speaker said, even if its 10% better, i will be glad. I have all 5 archetypes but victimizer and protector are dominant. There i acknowledged. First step. Thankyou again miss. God Bless you.
The smile that you constantly have in your face through out the video just gave one positive feel while watching. It doesn't mean that you are overdoing . You constantly maintain it in a consistent way . I just learnt from you.
WOW. I think I realized all of these deceivers at different point of time in myself, as well as others. Once there was a time I failed an exam. There was nothing worse that had happened till then in my life, but somewhere I felt as if this is the worst that could've happened. What to fear now? What stopping me now? Going back again and again to the subject I failed, telling myself everday how much I'm growing to love my life. Letting any regret go and making space for encouraging myself to get over this self-deception I gave myself in lockdown. I took the control of my life and stopped Media, Internet, Music, News, etc. Honestly, I became the best version of myself.
Astonishing explanation you get to the point there is no self confident, no productivity, no progress within self doubt and self deception. You are the only one who responsible for the personality you will become. Success is something you attract and do not to pursue and regret
I watch and imitate this video twice everyday to improve the level of my speaking. You are just amazing. Can't praise you enough @Shadézahrai.
You should write a book about it with practical solutions.. Wonderful observation!!
Thank you ☺️
Judge - awareness:call wrong thougts out
Victimiser redirect attention on what you can control
Overprotector - what might realisticly happen? Make process goal, take unperfect action
Ring master - value what you already are, what you bring to others without beeing busy
Neglector - dont allow outer opinions affect how you feel and how you act. Dont try to please over your true nature, but you can serve if you feel like it
Expressing excellence, confidence, beeing of service , creativity,courage,love, justice- positive motivations
This juxtaposition between the protector and the ringmaster is is a very nice, clear and memorable aid. The 'ringmaster' in particular is a new idea for me.
I have been viewing your short tiktok videos for some time now. It is not surprising that you have been successful since you come across with the ideal combination of warmth and proficiency, by virtue of your subject mastery, excellent voice tone and physical beauty.
Very interesting however that you mention experiencing your own self doubts despite all this.
Oh my God !!! What a great talk. None of the present day Spiritual Gurus can give us this theory which is applicable from our childhood. Actually children should have been taught this shifting of mindset from an early stage on wards. Be yourself..Who is Shade Zahrai ? First time listening to her talk..
Shadé is such a tremendous gift for us! I'm really happy to live in the same time as her. Everthing what this powerful woman says is worth gold. Love you Shadé .. you always encourage me and enhance me with your positive energy 🌹
What a beautiful comment! Thank you for your very kind words Dr Seven 🙏
I usually don't pay attention to talks like these,for my concentration is weak.But in Ur case-I am really amazed.
First U have a beautiful voice and even more beautiful face.And every word you say is like rain drops in the desert.Just craving to hear more.U are a complete package of "Beauty with Brains".
Whatever U say is nothing new coz there are many who have said the same before but the way U put it across with soo much love and purpose to serve is all that makes the difference.
God bless you.
What a speech, full of energy remarkable. She discussed mind deceiving that stop us from every thing we want to perfom.
I watched this, and it seems to me the one I wanted so long. Her confidence can change lives
Incredibly well spoken and broke down all the points in a very clear and concise manner. Bravo, this was a great video!
True.your face radiates with self confidence,and positivity.I Love and immensely respect you ma'am.
Shadé never disappoints, she phrases things so concisely and meaningfully! I came here as soon as I saw her name. I think my strongest deceiver is the misguided protector - I'll be making an effort to live out of love rather than out of fear, and giving myself permission to take action even when it feels scary ❤
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I must have to rewatch it!
Her expressions are so extraordinary that,
I couldn't focused on her words 😮
Cognitive shifting, -where I am where I have to go and that's the thing I have to do for. Excellence love creativity courage service
Wow! Thanks for this inspiring talk. The world is full of internal and external decievers. Make your mind you own field of plantation and plant only what you would like to harvest
The most profound yet simple illustration of the psyche movements within each one of us
Excellent thoughts. Isn't judge in your case is conscience? Self-compassion is another point. Then intent-impact gap, a source of anxiety. Beautiful people with beautiful thoughts add fragrance to the Gold. May God bless you.
Thanks for articulating your thoughts it might be a crutch for someone to hold on to. Your energy is uplifting. Big love 💜
🎯💎🏆 Great insightful & fruitful video 🏆💎🎯
लोकः समस्ताः सुखिनो भवन्तु
( May all beings lead prosperous life )
I love how she elaborates each voices and helps to get over them. It helped me reconsider how I react to my thoughts and make decisions. 😊😊
I was looking at his eyes and smile the whole time. The more I see him, the more I am impressed.💙💙💙💙
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A very impactful presentation of what we all experience privately but is manifested in our behavior, I can relate to what you shared. Shade Zahrai Thank you.
"make process the goal" best advice ever. Thank you for remaining Positive!!!
Thank you Shade for this message. Very clearly explained. It would be great to have a program of small daily practices for people to master their mindset or cultivate awareness, as these concepts take time to sink in properly. Really happy to see how your desire to serve others has blossomed so much particularly in the last 2 years. God bless.
She's amazing and I tell everyone about her. The program that helped me ingrained these small positive habits was Positive Intelligence by Shirzad Chamine. Hope it helps.
oh god.....how this splendid actionable valuable speech helped me now...i will write..last 10 days these inner players playing football in my mind to joining a distance pg course. graduated 15 yrs ago now at aging 45 mind wishes to go for a pg..
the socalled all players for last 10 days tried almost successful to not join same.
this video poppedup now, i decided now to kick all these players out and just going to join the course right now..
That is the impact of this great ladys magnific words to me perso....god bless her continue giving such god gifted knowledge wisdom to impact change affected people...
By the way the course i choose also psychology!!
thank u for this great speech once more.
joined my ma course today aft got motiv your video.thanks
This is a really eye-opener talk, it's so relatable and i guess it really deserves all the veiws, thank you so much shadé for this one ♡
she is one of the best content creators across internet
Undoubtedly one of the best talks i’ve heard so far! 👏🏻
Shade spent more time to talk about our negative inner voices instead of spending more time talking about our higher, beautiful, precious, powerful inner , higher self which is how God created us to be in His image. What she said is no different than the other negative voices criticizing us, not lifting us up. We know too much what hold us back in life! Shade needs to encourage us, praise us, lift us up, teach us to recognize our true beautiful nature, how to love, accept ourselves and to forgive ourselves unconditionally. That will help us recognize our powerful,, beautiful soul.. The teacher focus on what is wrong with us more than what is GOOD in us!
I love it! So glad that I had a chance to watch someone explain me to me. The video almost put me in the mindset of a sermon but from a different perspective. This was great. I love how she took the time to show how we could be limiting ourselves. Then gave us tools that could help us see ourselves as limitless. Exceptional!
I am making this a sermon. Very good analysis
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🧠 *Understanding Limiting Beliefs*
- Recognizing the impact of limiting beliefs on personal growth and success,
- Identifying common inner deceivers that hinder potential,
- Importance of awareness and strategies to overcome limiting beliefs.
02:28 🗣️ *Five Inner Deceivers*
- Description of five common inner deceivers: the classic judge, the victimizer, the misguided protector, the ringmaster, and the neglector,
- How childhood experiences shape the development of inner deceivers,
- The detrimental effects of allowing inner deceivers to control thoughts and behaviors.
06:56 🚫 *Overcoming Inner Deceivers*
- Techniques to challenge and overcome inner deceivers, including psychological distancing and cognitive shifting,
- Personal anecdotes illustrating the impact of inner deceivers and the power of taking action,
- Emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and proactive strategies for growth.
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"True spirit of service"
After knowing our attitude and life is shaped so much by our experiences growing up, I feel really grateful that I had the parents that I have. Who imposed none of their opinions on me, literally, never judged me. Basically, I was a kid with parents as guardians, and observerves who just let me do my way through ( I sometimes got slapped as well 😅, it's all a good memory)
Thank you very much Mum and Dad for what you did and didn't do. ❤
5 most common archetypes:-
1. Classic Judge
2. Victimizer
3. Ringmaster
4. Misguided Protector
5. The Neglector
Thank you for summarizing🥰
You are beautiful, 75% confidence gained
You are rich, 20% confidence gained.
You have confidence on camera 5% confidence gained period.
I'm so grateful for having found this TED talk! Thanks for the advice Shadé!! I'll start working on everything you mentioned ❤
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This has been a great video to watch. So eye opening and inspirational. I have been long tormented and I could recognized each of the 5 deceivers in my mind. This change in mindset inspires me to confront my deceivers and escape from the prison of the self. Thank YOU, Shade. I am grateful for running into your channel. You are doing great work!
This is so wonderful to hear Sebastian! Self-awareness and identifying these deceivers is a wonderful first step. Wishing you all the best on your journey of growth and healing, and thank you for the beautiful words 🙏🙏
I recognize my archetypes and want to change my mind set so bad but as I think about them another archetype is creating a doubt in my mind. God help me to overcome that archetype that sucks the energy out of me.
Yes I can't be any greatful for finding this video and for seeing the light at the end of the tunnel with the knowledge you are sharing to the world. Thank you!
Shade show me the way. She is the light at the end of the tunnel 🕯️ Thank you ❤️
Very clearly explained. An eye opener. Will implement this in my life
Couldn't get enough understanding so I was thinking to watch it again, the realise Ring Master is active. I will watch again when I feel exhausted.
@shadé this is so amazing. You always did it. I inspired a lot.. Thank you for so much empowering, I really feel this way, I love it more. I remember how you started when pandemic arrived and you brought a big impact to our community, to our lives and even to all over the worlds. You are so incredible.
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Thanks Shade ma'am for giving me important knowledge. You are so nice. No word enough to praise you. You are a nice women
Sorry for the irrelevant note, but your beauty is beyond description
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I think the same 😊
Great video. After listening to you I feel like I am having all 5 deceivers in my mind with various degrees of impact on my behavior.
But I am really Thankful to you for making this video.
One of the best videos i have ever watched and its really fascinating and motivating .
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00:07 Overcoming self-doubt is key to unlocking limitless potential
02:00 Identifying and subduing inner deceivers for a limitless mindset
03:52 Identify and overcome the three inner voices that hold you back.
05:41 Neglectors prioritize others' needs, leading to burnout.
07:28 Take control of your focus and personal power
09:02 Make the process the goal, not perfection
10:44 Overcoming codependency and acknowledging self-worth is crucial for personal growth.
12:26 We can break free from the prison of self and operate from our higher, limitless nature.
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Wonderful talk! Been a fan of you, Shadé ever since I started following you on Instagram (definitely recommend it to everyone). I've shared your clips with friends, and they have seen the benefits following your simple but life-changing advice.
I will strongly encourage you to write a book about the same, so that I can reference all the points at once (going through videos is a bit time consuming). Keep up the amazing work, you have no idea how many lives you touch by simply being you.
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I'm still wondering how did she manage to put so much in just a 15min talk. It's so on point
Such a great way to rethink how we see the narrative with oneself
1. The classic judge: Inability to acknowledge anything positive
2. The victimizer: Everything bad happens
3. The misguided protector: Keeping you paralyzed, safe & stuck
4. The ringmaster: Productivity guilt; never be good enough
5. The neglector: Seek approval/validation by prioritizing others' need
This video is eye opening for all because every person suffer in these kind of protector in everyday . I am feel very lucky after see the video . This is true knowledge , every person should know the knowledge for that they solve there inner problems. I am a kind of person who think very much in all work . But now I decided I do my work for making me true spirit , I want growth in my life .
Thanks so much ma'am
I am also intermediate English Lerner if I do any mistake in the comment i beg pardon from all .
Thanks God
Thanks my parents and my brother
What a fantastic speaker and practical content, bravo!
Absolutely brilliant. 🎉🎉🎉👏👏👏
I'd love to hear more about this. Incredibly helpful 👌
Yes I agree 👍
I'm gonna copy paste the transcript in MS Word and rehearse what she's said. Incredible content.
Truly an eye opener
You always speak about very significant points. May God bless you and your family. Amen!
Really liked how it was developed. And totally agree on the first step of having awareness. Without it nothing will change, even if someone tells you, all comes from within. Really enjoyed the talk. I think a have a couple of those, and funny enough I had already identified one "deceiver" about a month ago, but did not know how it was called (lol) or if I was crazy, and even less how to change that. So, thank you! ;) Worth the watch.
You're definitely not crazy Stefy! :) I'm so happy you found value in the talk, and I hope the guidance will help you transform your relationship with any lurking 'deceivers' in future. 🙏
Mam you are a gem...an extraordinary person who has finally solved all my confusion from childhood till 39 years. All the 5 inner deceivers have a good grip on my mind, I'm just becoming aware of this fact, now to decouple from these inner deceivers will take how long ....I don't know, but I'll try to fight Mam...Thanks again for bringing out this clarity of mindsets (limited and limitless)
Loved this! Thank you Shadé.
Such a beauty that it’s hard to focus on what she’s saying, so I’ll listen to this again but won’t look on the video