Don't Believe Everything You Think | Lauren Weinstein | TEDxPaloAlto
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- Опубликовано: 4 июн 2018
- Lauren Weinstein delivers an inspiring TEDxPaloAlto talk on how to break free from limiting beliefs.
Lauren Weinstein is a lecturer at the Stanford Graduate School of Business, teaching one of the most popular classes there-The Essentials of Strategic Communication. In addition to her work at the Business School, she has served as a guest lecturer and skills coach for Stanford Law School, the Stanford undergraduate program and the Stanford d.school.
In addition to her work at Stanford, Lauren is the founder of Resonate Coaching. As the principal at Resonate, Lauren works with clients ranging from TED speakers to start-up founders to high-level executives, helping them achieve more powerful public speaking and interpersonal communication skills.
Prior to her current work, Lauren served as a communication strategist for high level teams at Fortune 500 companies and worked with Santa Clara County in their mediation and communication skills training program.
Lauren received her J.D. from Stanford Law School and her B.A. in psychology from Stanford University. She’s also a certified leadership development coach through the Coaches Training Institute.
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I have this title tattooed on my body; "Don't Believe Everything You Think." It was the catalyst for a shift in my thinking and therefore my direction in life. Understanding this simple phrase pushed me to fight those nagging negative thoughts that crowded my mind to the point that all other thoughts were fleeting and fragile. This moment can be good, this day can be good, you can make progress, you can find the answers, you can take that trip, you can move, you can change. Good luck, you got this!
Thanks Dalton 😊 I’m glad to hear you have positively made progress with your own thoughts. I am starting to do the same as I want, more than anything, not to limit my own experience of life as I have until now. Best wishes to you and thanks for sharing
You should have included her face on your tattoo it would look better
@@ronaldcaliva5004 thank you 🙏🏼
Maybe u should tattooed it in ur brain insteeds of on ur body
I completely agree with everything you said, Dalton, and I'm certain that your tattoo sparks conversations that help others find this spectacular Ted Talk.
"What you are is the result of what you have thought" - Buddha
Buddha is dead....read the Gospel of Jesus - Matthew, Mark Luke and John..and u will be free.
@@shiningstar3312 Jesus is dead. Read the gospel of your inner self to be free lol
Jesus is a human, he lives and dies.
Mohammad is dead also.
But Allah - the god of the prophets Jesus and Mohammad - is alive and will never die.
Read the Quraan.
They take their priests and their anchorites to be their lords in derogation of Allah, and (they take as their Lord) Christ the son of Mary; yet they were commanded to worship but One Allah. there is no god but He. Praise and glory to Him: (Far is He) from having the partners they associate (with Him). [31 At-Taubah]
Muhammad is no more than an apostle: many Were the apostle that passed away before him. If he died or were slain, will ye then Turn back on your heels? If any did turn back on his heels, not the least harm will he do to Allah. but Allah (on the other hand) will swiftly reward those who (serve Him) with gratitude. [144 Al-Imran]
@@user-dw3lw5gb3t i'm with you
One person walks into a bar and believes the teachings of Buddha, another walks into a bar and believes Jesus is the only way to be saved, another walks into a bar and believes in Allah alone. Each of the 3 is convinced their view is the right view. The video they watch on TV in the bar is about breaking the chains of limited thinking and ideas, yet the old ropes still chain them into separateness when there's only one, not three, and the ropes are imagined.
Almost started crying by the end. I really needed to hear these words. I've been dealing with a low self-esteem and sabotaging myself throughout my entire life which didn't allow me to become the person i want to be. I thought it was impossible. Her words give me hope, especially hope in myself. Thank you so much.
I feel you so deeply and further more I relate with you so much coz I have just realized that I never knew about myself only recently that I started going on the journey of self discovery that I'm realizing that having a low self esteem let alone self sabotaging behaviors. I'd like to know how far are you on this journey as it's been a year since you wrote this. Thank you
@@shilahkoech4641 I can also relate to you
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Usually i listen ted talks when i want to sleep but this one woke me up!
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I thought I was the only one
@@mauraanning3580 me too!
Powerful speech.
Who all here to learn english.....or only listening.
DUDE.......... DUDE!!!!!!!! I needed so much to hear this. I felt like she was talking to me directly into my eyes. DAMN!!! Thank you so much for this, I feel I can make myself stronger and free from these imaginary ropes.
Read the Gospel...and be free.
@@shiningstar3312 I actually did not listen towhat says, cos of how beautiful she is
@@entelektuel.yolculuk are you a moron
She's not a dude! Nor are a lot of people making comment's here.
Man, that was powerful! We all have two lifes. The second one starts when you realize you only have one. I’m also struggling with a wrong believe system.
If i believe its easy to undo beliefs that dont serve my growth ..will it become truth? Ive found its not been so far.
@@eyerealeyezd9238 Read The Gospel of Jesus and u will be free.....imagine....Jesus says we will be able to do greater things than even He had done.....healing entire villages f their maladies, turning water into wine/unfermented of course, ..raising the dead to life.....wow...that is possible when our ropes are removed.
Powerful words yourself in your comment.......i life... love it
@@mariefearon627 that's Confucius
If there's one person that could hold you back, it's yourself. Once you get this, you can start breaking the chains or ropes you have placed on yourself and live the life you want. There may be failures, criticism, etc. but as long as you believe in yourself, there's nothing you couldn't do. Just go do it. Break the habit of being passive to active, if you don't change, you'll just continue be living the life that you'll feel unhappy and bored with.
“‘ What makes us so amazing as children is that we live in a world before ropes.
In a world before “what’s known”, when there is “what’s possible”.
In a world before “I can’t”, when there is “how could I?”.
In a world before falling and staying down, when we fall and get right up again-undeterred.
In a world in which nothing is holding us back from our full capacity.
I hope this is a seed for you, that gets you to question what you’ve previously accepted as true. That makes you more aware of your ropes, that helps you see they were always yours to break.
No matter who you are or where you are in this moment, there is a life that you can be living if you break your ropes.
You get there one new thought at a time. One new action at a time.
Until one day, you find yourself in a new reality.”
Lauren Weinstein
How beautyful is that?
The most powerful TED talk I've ever seen! I really needed to hear this since most of us -if not all- have the same elephant story. It took me so long to find this video, however, after watching this, i have reached half of the other reality path. Therefore, I am grateful!! god bless whoever is reading my comment:)
God bless you
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You give me hope that one day I can overcome all my negative thoughts
Thank you
I second that emotion. @Nesma
Currently at this stage in my life it is extremely difficult and my mind (I guess is the culprit) is damaging and I need a new reality
This is powerfully true, our childhood remains within us, and we are told to stop being that fearless person and do as society tells you is 'right', and lose who you are...this is great! I am an undergraduate in Psychology, and I am slowly becoming the fearless, fun, and the daring girl I once was--trying to remove all the trauma and bad thoughts that follow me daily throughout my life.
@Emon Emongoc Fear is because you had a bad experience or you expect something bad to happen. In both cases you should neglect these thoughts and keep it going! The future is made of endless possibilities. It is yours to choose.
Amanda Dudley I totally understand.
Adrian NICULESCU-FAIDA yes. Yes. But somehow it’s hard right now.
I just use cannabis . Not as much though gotta respect the plant and moderate usage.
So much trueness in her voice and expression. I can literally see in her eyes that she is sharing her real-life experience not a made-up story for the sake of TALK. Thank you for sharing!
Yes ! You are spot on with that perception ! This is so very good. I'm going to try to share this one with my teenage grandchildren.
U r beautiful. ..
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The best motivated TED talk ever. And she is so beautiful.
You mean she is beauty from inside!
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The elephant analogy really helped me see some of my underlying issues, at 19 here I am worrying about the same insecurities I had in middle school, that people will think I’m awkward and there is a huge focus on my lack of social skills. But I’m older now, I can be better at making by friends, forming deep connections and stop telling my self I can’t.
Sometimes making the decision to watch something this long delivers dividends, this delivered way more than I expected.. Thank you..
Timothy Ramsey The idea of lack iz absolute illusion. There iz no evidence whatsoever to support yet people still look at life through a filter of lack and limitation that develops an impoverished mindset. A lack of evidence iz not evidence for lack.
Time iz also an illusion we socially agree upon and therefore created something of value that doesn’t actually exist. If you even think you have time you likely experience a lot more psychological suffering than you are even aware of and the stress, frustration, and limitations you experience that are thoughts that revolve around the illusion of time. You don’t have to watch any video, you choose to. So do you realize by looking at the play time on a video doesn’t make much sense, you can stop watching whenever you want and come back to it later or choose to never finish watching it. You’re not limited in any sense and the only limitations and lack you ever experience iz of your very own making. You are just as capable of choosing to experience the reality of infinite abundance.
Exactly what i thought. Its long and seems boring but hold on thru the beginning. But its really good stuff.
"What you are is the result of what you have thought" - Buddha
DUDE.......... DUDE!!!!!!!! I needed so much to hear this. I felt like she was talking to me directly into my eyes. DAMN!!! Thank you so much for this, I feel I can make myself stronger and free from these imaginary ropes.
The way she described her life sounds like she was describing my life. This was very powerful.
She had me at the elephant story 🍫🌸
This video helped me realise how much I’ve held myself back based on false beliefs and assumptions of myself and others
I croed so bad cause i can relate to everything she said. I literally stoped living at age 6. I held back my self in everything i did.
Thank you for sharing this. You saved my life ❤️
Same here. Its nice to know we are not alone.
Mubarak.....she did not tell us how to do it.......Read the Gospels of JESUS.....Matthew, Mark, Like and John.....JESUS said if we are filled with His Spirit we will do greater miracles than He did.....imagine.....feeding 5 thousand with 2 fish and 5 loaves or raising someone from the dead or healing entire villages of disease or calming the storm.....wow....just imagine.....just believe....I do......we could do it thru JESUS living in and thru us...be blessed.
@@shiningstar3312 But im Atheist
@@shiningstar3312 Im reading " The Magic Of Believing" and its helping me
That comment of I had jobs where I hoped to get sick to stay home really rang true with me. I used to get upset that I didn’t have a great example in my life for what a path to success looks like but knew I just was giving myself an excuse for failure.
This is the most powerful TED talk I’ve listened to. And I’ve listened to a lot. Her message....absolutely amazing. Thank you Lauren for sharing this message with the world
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When I was young my mom used to lock me up at home, I so much wanted to go out to play with my friends, but now that i am free in the world, I still have the tendency to lock myself up. I need to make big efforts to break this invisible rope.
I was so bold when I was young, but then I became so timid because on the tv it shows a girl is more lovely when she is shy. I miss my bold self. This tomboy me.
I was once a mentor of somebody, until she totally stole my whole business. Now I have chance to start a similar relationship with another person. I tell myself it will work well, we can find a way to do only good for each other.
Share 10% of your Income to Social/Spiritual charity. Invest in Karma as well.
*CRITICAL TIP* Also, keep in mind. Along with beliefs, are feelings. Our actions will drag our feelings along 'kicking and screaming if need be'. As you work to change your self beliefs, interact with the world as if your beliefs, feelings and actions are in harmony. Actions are all we 100% control right now. You will succeed!
This is possibly the most powerful speech I’ve ever heard. The opportunities are limitless...
😢the story of my life. Now in my 40s I have been trying to break some ropes by learning how I’m made psychologically. Wish I heard this speech before, but A good friend has been trying to tell me that my beliefs are what’s holding me back. I’ve been deny it and so have been sabotaging myself. I guess maybe I’m ready to accept it and break free. It’s not easy to break through a lifetime of conditioning and imposed beliefs. 😞
Someone told me "Look AT your thoughts, not THROUGH them".... powerful difference.
I've been struggled a lot with over thinking and staying myself in negative beliefs. This talk was good medicine for me to help take off the headset and see all the possibilities that I keep from myself. Thank you so much
One of the best TEDx talks i've ever watched. This should be required viewing by every self-help/motivational group out there.
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Absolutely. Easily one of the best.
The best Ted talk I've listened until now. I can relate to almost everything she spoke about.
how can someone's life experience sound exactly like your present state of being?
Lauren Weinstein's experience is so me. only difference is the character played in her story is a man in mine.
thanks for sharing .
your speech is food for thought.
I listen to her everday to make myself much much much stronger! Hopefully, I will be able to find myself in a completely new reality one day!
How she acts, reacts, and gets into emphasizing some sentences that we must know saving to our brains is enchanted. Honestly, this skills should have to be implemented to all of motivational speakers round the world.
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This goes down as one of the BEST TEDx talks out there!
Fell in love with this woman! Such a powerful female role model, essential to our world.
Me too! She is very beautiful and insightful
The best TED talk, hands down. I was touched and deeply moved.
Most of the time you don't think, rather thinking happens and you're aware of it.
WOW, this were a big inspiration for me to break my ropes,
few months ago I wasn't even writing a comment on things I like.
Maybe it is another small step... but for me it's the part of the change to say thank you, to be thankful for what I recieve.
Thank you!
Powerfully true! The scar experiement is so mind-blowing. I knew our thoughts can have a significant impact on us, but just not know it would be so strong. Thinking of the relationships I have, no wonder they all fall into the same pattern. It's not because I continue to meet the same kind of people; it's because I wear the same headset. What are my scars rn? Not pretty enough, my English is not good enough, my writing is not good enough.......Actually no one has ever said this to me, and these are all just my self-talk, and perhaps, the scars that I think I'm wearing but in reality they are not on my face at all. Thank you for this great talk!
I hope everything goes great for you
Thank you very much 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏, this is the best video I ever see in ted talks, your words give me strength and faith to break and let go of so many restrictions and live freely, empowered and live in the moment. I definitely will Watch it many times. 🌼💚💙💛💕BIG LOVE.
Give that lady a medal...!!! Wow...!!!
This talk deserves more views.
To those interested in going deeper, Id highly recommend the book "The Magic of Believing" by Claude Bristol
Thanks! I checked it out and it and his other book TNT are only 99cents on Kindle. For that price it's well worth buying just to give it a shot. But it sounds like a great book.
Read the Gospels of Jesus..u will break that rope...imagine feeding 5 thousand people with 2 fish and 5 loaves ...or healing entire villages from all maladies/disease...or raising someone from the dead...wow....just imagine...JESUS promises that we could become conduits of these miracles..I believe.
I always feels so weird when people say. When I was a child I was free, then ... I had anxiety with strong psychosomatic symptoms since I was 2 years old and possibly younger. So whenever you want to become like you were as a child, remember that having a "before" to look towards is a luxury many of us don't have.
I can relate, my childhood wasn't something I want to relive. I guess her story can be stronger if it emphasize on the curiosity and openness itself rather than give those qualities to childhood only.
As she said... don't believe everything... you're being told. Check various different sources, even the ones that you don't like, and develop critical thinking. Your thinking.
@Laura Santos God is not a source.
This book is really easy to read with very approachable language. But there is so so much more than that and it truly grabs your attention. Honestly, I wasn’t too compelled to try out the exercise at first but once I actually did try I was just amazed by the results. I guess it really depends on whether you put what you’ve read into action or not - and of course I DEFINITELY suggest you to. I did as the author told me to do and kept a journal for about a week and I saw real change. I’ve always identified myself as an introvert and this book allowed me to realize that I really don’t have to push myself to become more extroverted. I feel like I am dealing with my existing as well as new relationships much better. A MASSIVE THANK YOU to Anderson.
@@tmi1096 What book you talking about here? I would love to read it too.
@@dendiwijaya2603"kit for emotional stability" google it
I u r still thinking this way .
Have u ever read the quràan .
The book written by god of islam ??
Or u r following what have have been told .
So uplifting and liberating.
Why don't they teach this in schools!
Thank you so much. I love this so much. I appreciate this because I have felt so many negative thoughts come to me and I truly believe they were circumstantial. I don’t do anything wrong and I still get discriminated against, beat up, scarred, etc. I’m a good person. I prove it time and time again but yet I feel I am treated horribly. But I believe in good. I’m a good person and I will spend the rest of my life proving it.
This resonates with my soul - currently struggling with these beliefs myself. I hope you find peace soon ... soon enough.
You explained perfectly what I've been through for years 😭
Excellent way to explain this topic. Thank you, Lauren
Excellent presentation.
Thank You. You reminded me of when I was a little boy and there were no strings. You reminded me of my first Kiss in grade 2 at school, under the stair case. A very happy little boy. Then I remember grade 3, the mean teacher and then all of the ropes. @ 61 years old, I have been working on cutting off those ropes and it is working. My Biggest rope was ALCOHOL, it is GONE. I am learning how to Love that little BOY again and it started with LOUISE HAY'S inspirational talks on RUclips. I also learned from Mel Robbins, Bren'e Brown, Wayne Dyer, Moojiji and many more. Thank You again
Great for you keep going
That description of what happened to that little elephant brought tears to my eyes…this is my older’s sister story and to some extent, mine. Life’s uncertainties, difficulties and disappointments tied a lot of what we were when we were small..our family went through a LOT when we were growing up and we lacked resilience to deal with it ….
Where I am in my life at the moment, is a crossroads, I felt like Lauren was talking directly to me from the start, no TED Talk has ever resonated or hit home as hard at this one. We are all searching for our passion and purpose, but we can't hold the ropes from the past any longer, they have been a noose for too long! Be strong everyone, take one day at a time, be kind to yourself and others and believe in YOURself always
The best Ted talk
Hands down the best Ted Talk I’ve ever heard!
In a couple weeks, I move away from the area where I grew up. Today I made a huge mistake, doubted my abilities to be able to follow through moving to a brand new state, and then I found this video. Now I understand why I felt the way I did today, and most importantly, I am CONFIDENT that I am going in the right direction. Each day since I made the decision to move I've felt more alive, in her words, "ropes.. broken"
How's it going for you? Hope all is well.
Love this! Amazing message, very meaningful and well-expressed 🙏
Her message was absolutely amazing!
very powerful, and relevant talk.
You reminded me of what I used to know a long, long time ago. Thanks so much.
Powerful ideas, Simple Words
Powerful words, Simple ideas
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So powerful, thank you for sharing and for all that you do Lauren
This is pretty much the TED talk that resonates with me the most. The elephant analogy is very effective. Thanks!
One of the best Ted talks I've ever heard. Very inspiring
yooo why did this just make me cry???
Oh my god what a talk ! Im gonna listen to this everyday from now on
I always come back every now and then plus share. Such a blessing👏🏽🙏🏽💯
One of the most powerful TED talks I've heard recently. Amazing talk. Will use the advice here
Break the ropes. Such impressive and motivative
She was describing me. Jesus help me to break off the ropes, the headsets, and false reality. I am liberated!
Please read about Islamic religion
We as Muslims believe in Jesus as a worshiper prophet and that Allah (the only God) is the creator and the Lord of the world and we ask help and guidance from him only . Islam is a religion of peace
I wish guidance for you 😄
As Muslims we witness that no god except Allah and Mohammad(the last of the prophets) is a messenger of Allah
@@AhmedMohamed-oe8cv yes Please give your advice to ISIS,Taliban,bagdadi,Jaish,Lashkar e toiba,boko haram,Tehrek e Taliban ..
@@gpss4990 Islam is an innocent from any terrorist actions as Islam is a religion of peace my brother 🙂
@@gpss4990 some terrorist groups use name of Islam to deform it
Thank you soo much for this speech! All what I needed to hear! Thank you!!! 😊
James Arthur wrote a beautiful song called ''You'' with the lyrics that say: You were in the wilderness, looking for your own purpose, and you became a butterfly, I knew you always would. Cause they would throwing the sticks and stones, but words can never break your bones, you just spread your wings and fly, I knew you always would, there's nothing wrong with being YOU. Such a powerful speech!
Fantastic talk, especially the last 30 seconds.👊
15:07 ..The best designs came only after multiple failed attempts..! Nice talk about learned helplessness and false believes!
Wow! This was beautiful to watch..filled with courage an drive. Absolutely amazing.
I’ve been on a Ted Talk marathon since December 17 2021, and this one hit me hard cause I feel just like that, and we don’t realize as a society how every little decision our parents make affects a child for their whole life and then they are just going through life listening to the judgy annoying protective ego and living with fear daily, instead of proving it wrong and saying “see? It wasn’t that bad”. I used to be afraid to have children cause i felt like we came to this world to suffer, but now i know i would be a great mother BECAUSE i would teach her about emotions, and people responding through their own fears, and if it’s too late for me to completely learn to ignore the voice, i would make damn sure my child learns.
EVERY LITTLE EMOTION and THOUGHT we have, is a learned reaction. 😯🤯
The words! So powerfully explained and said. I loved the stories and all the examples! 👏👏👏
Thank you for sharing your powerful journey of breaking free from self-imposed limitations. Your words remind us of the transformative power in questioning our own beliefs and embracing the possibilities ahead. Truly inspiring and thought-provoking!
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This talk should have been at least one million viewed.
Amazing. Thank you. I was in need of that right now.
What a powerful lecture! Hit me right between the eyes. Thank you.
Officially The Most Identifiable TED talk I've heard all year...at least for me😏
This video is " FOR ME!"
You are incredibly brave and I join you on this journey right now 😊💗
This teb talk is the one! I just started to listen to teb talks about a week and a half ago. Caught on to some good ones but this one really knew me. I was able to place myself into the talk on ever point. This one took me over. It was planted!
i can totally relate and connect to her talk! She has a point. I am currently in a phase of life where this talk has enlightened me and guided me and helped me, Thanks to her and to Allah for helping me find this video.
I was a heartworm positive shelter dog with a behavioral disorder. Now, I'm a celebrity spokes-dog with 13,000 Facebook followers. Believe in yourself. Rocket yourself to the Rescue!
Her message is soo amazing!❤️
I admire what she learned and realized along her journey and sharing it to the world. Having a voice is so powerful that it can change a life
I'm so glad I came across this talk and stood listening to it starting till the end. More power to you!
Beautiful speech 👏 I will work on raising my voice. Thank you.
Wow ! This is one of the best TEDx I've ever seen before. I also had similar bad thoughts I trusted about myself and my future, but I'm certain that this talk will drive my life path to a new way forever. I would like to give many thanks to Mrs. Weinstein to had the courage to share her background with us. Her analyses are so relevant that It brings me the courage to change my beliefs and to be back on my feet even if am not perfect.
Wish you all the best and happiness!
Her talk brought me to tears. I felt like she was talking to me.
Thank you Lauren! your talk was like breathing fresh air, really inspirational, you are amazing!
I love this! This just blessed my life....
I cannot stop crying. Thank you so much for your powerful and fearless messages that reached to us strongly.
thanks a lot ,you can not imagine what your word will help me in my life and will change it indeed.
Thank you ! I loved every minute of your speech thank you for being vulnerable
Fascinante tu historia Lauren, muchas lecciones compartidas, muchas gracias!
Stumbled upon this talk and it lifted my spirits. :)
That is my life! After this lecture I am going to start breaking the ropes. Thnak you!
I will never forget this talk. Thank you.
This ted talk has been popping up in my recommendations and only today had I the courage to click on it.
It was very eye opening. A lot of things I can relate to.
I hope I can be more confident to speak with a louder voice and cut all the ropes that ties me down. And I hope you do too.
Thank you for this ted talk!