Understanding A Man - How to Handle Insecurity and Trust Issues
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- Опубликовано: 1 окт 2024
- When your significant other tells you that they have insecurity and trust issues, what do you do? Watch this video for tips of how to break up or break through these challenges.
I needed this because I’m dealing with someone with severe trust issues. I’m going to take a step back because it’s affecting my mental health. Everything you said is spot on especially about watching me to make the right moves to make him feel insecure or help out with trust issues.
4 yrs later after you post this, the msg was definitely meant for ME! Thank you 🙏!
Good to hear
I mentioned counseling but he stated he didn’t want anyone in his business. So I feel like he doesn’t want to change honestly.
There are multiple reasons why some men are uncomfortable with any coaching or counseling services. Most were taught that counseling makes you a weaker man. Im normally approached by wives or girlfriends for my services. There are several additional possible reasons but there is a common thread of why men don't normally communicate on intimate matters of the heart. Not making an excuse as we need to do better. I just want you to understand it's about you AND what he may have learned from society throughout his life. And sometimes you have to navigate through that.
An intimate relationship with someone can be one of the biggest emotional, financial, and business decisions that you ever make in life. It is a set up for failure if a man/woman does not remain in counsel.
Needed to hear this frfr
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other.
Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.
Women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind-hearted, more peaceful, more patient, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way.
Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men.
Most women like to do affectionate things with their female friends like cuddling with them and holding their hands and be touchy-feely towards each other, while most men would never do affectionate things with their male friends (especially not cuddling with them or holding their hands or be touchy-feely towards each other). Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends.
There's alot to unpack in your question/response but my first response is that it sounds like you(assuming you are a woman) may not have experienced the right man in an intimate relationship therefore your thoughts are that we are not affectionate. I am a physical touch love language person so I am extremely affectionate. People have to do their due diligence when meeting a potential mate and ensure that their values are congruent. A physical touch person cannot make a quality time person touch them more if that other person is not willing to adapt to the love necessary to sustain the relationship a.k.a you can't change someone that does not want to change.
Regarding your thoughts on the attributes of women vs. men, I will agree that some of what you said is correct. Why? Because estrogen is higher in a women and that hormone causes you to communicate, nurture, sensitive, patient, etc... Conversely, you also worry more, have anxiety, make decisions on emotions vs. logic more, have a "mommy brain" that can impede your intimate relationship more, etc... But the majority of this is God's design and a man balances out your biological challenges as a woman balances out a man's biological challenges.
Additionally, you are correct that most of the current men are lacking in emotional intelligence. It is culturally driven for men to disconnect from their emotions. Why? The goal was to make us stronger by not being in touch with our feelings. Be Ford tough. Don't cry. Dont express ourselves, etc... in hopes that we would then grow up strong and build a strong family. The challenge with that is that when we meet you(woman), and love you, we then don't understand how to love, how to be emotionally connected to you, etc... and that can lead to challenges in a relationship. However, when you meet a man that is emotionally intelligent and self aware, and connect that with the values that are congruent with yours, that becomes a healthy relationship that is unstoppable and far beyond any other relationship.
This is great advice! Great video
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This was a powerful and clarifying video. Thank you
Thank you!
I love this! I really needed to hear this! I've been dating a guy for a few months and we already act like boyfriend and girlfriend so I asked him why we aren't and he said he has trust issues. I've been trying to figure out what I can and need to do about it and this helped a lot. Thank you!
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Thanks for this bro. It didn't fall on deaf ears. The scary part is this reflected my situation right now.