Think before you speak, hacking the secret of communication | Catherine Molloy | TEDxEnniskillen

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  • Опубликовано: 24 ноя 2024

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  • @smyrnasstory
    @smyrnasstory Год назад +160

    “Thoughtless speech is like the stabs of a sword, but the tongue of the wise is a healing”

  • @shelaghbrennand348
    @shelaghbrennand348 2 года назад +44

    This is brilliant. It seems such a simple thing to do - conscientiously communicate - but clearly it’s not! Catherine delivered such an important message so perfectly.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 2 года назад +2

      Appreciate 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️agree
      If it was simple communicating wouldn't still be the number 1 most needed skill !

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Год назад +1

      Yes such a little thing that makes a big difference ❤

    • @khanyisamatebese4051
      @khanyisamatebese4051 4 месяца назад +1

      Mmm😊

  • @VikkiSpeller-w8y
    @VikkiSpeller-w8y Год назад +9

    Thank you, Catherine, for highlighting the importance of conscious communication and sharing your story and knowledge. I value your insights and appreciate you bringing awareness to such an important subject that impacts us all.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Год назад +2

      Thank you Vikki . Yes being aware of our self talk mixed with our non verbal can make all the difference ❤.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Месяц назад

  • @brightsideperspectives991
    @brightsideperspectives991 Год назад +4

    “The response is everything.“

  • @demipaterson
    @demipaterson 2 года назад +13

    Such fantastic information, I love the power of three!

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 2 года назад +1

      Thanks Demi ! 😊 the power of 3 The tools we've all been given!

  • @orvilleraposo7760
    @orvilleraposo7760 Год назад +6

    We must be aware of the unconscious, that which is outside our consciousness because unconscious thoughts emotions behaviors attitudes biases inclinations cause us to trip. We can be mindful only when we are conscious of the unconscious, that which is outside of our consciousness, all that is automatic and conditioned like our reflex actions anger and our very nature... Once we become conscious of the unconscious we can become mindful and conscious and aware.. And live deliberately.. Consciously.. Mindfully.. With awareness and translate that into conscious communication

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 11 месяцев назад +1

      Wow, you nailed that ❤😊 an aussie expression 👏... you got that right !

  • @moseshmoses5074
    @moseshmoses5074 10 месяцев назад +5

    thank you, I thought I was just going crazy. I've always thought of communication in the same manner. I am glad I've found this video.❤

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 9 месяцев назад +1

      You're so right ✅️ miscommunication does drive you crazy 🤪 😮😊... so glad it resonated x thank you for sharing.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Месяц назад

      I'm glad you watched it too!

  • @rosminazuchri9090
    @rosminazuchri9090 Год назад +7

    I am Rossy. This vidio very interesting n.helpful to learn communication in English. Thanks

    • @FelixManthi
      @FelixManthi 4 месяца назад

      Yes I agree with you ross its wonderfull

  • @prakashkumaroneworld
    @prakashkumaroneworld 2 года назад +11

    Catherine , this is amazing stuff. knowingly or unknowingly we are a victim of mis-communication or missing the context of conscious communication. Thank for bringing such an important aspect of daily life. I truly agree conscious communication brings domino effect and high productivity. Once again thank you.

  • @couplevibes__
    @couplevibes__ 17 дней назад +1

    Thank you ❤

  • @HassanYounes-official
    @HassanYounes-official Год назад +1

    Great TEDx talk...Very relevant to our times.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Год назад +1

      Yes, when we make up stories for others, it often ends in confusion... always best to check in! 😊

  • @Roberto_wisdomworld
    @Roberto_wisdomworld Год назад +1

    Amazing speech Cath ❤🙌 thank you for sharing your wisdom🙏🙏🌺💝

  • @bredamccaguemotivationalsp6732
    @bredamccaguemotivationalsp6732 2 года назад +2

    Brilliant TedX Catherine 🌟🌟🙌🙌

  • @kimberlykane7065
    @kimberlykane7065 Год назад +7

    Like being in a bad therapy session this Ted talk

    • @maggiemaynard6199
      @maggiemaynard6199 9 месяцев назад +3

      She's got the right ideas but could present it better. The intro story went on for too long...

  • @hulamei3117
    @hulamei3117 2 года назад +4

    Needed this !

  • @beverleyhenderson5956
    @beverleyhenderson5956 2 года назад +3

    Amazing, thank you!!

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 2 года назад

      Glad you enjoyed! Looking for more win wins in life x

  • @ekene626
    @ekene626 Год назад +7

    Love the story, but why would tensing up, make someone upset.

  • @deena_annmarie
    @deena_annmarie 3 месяца назад +3

    We need Tam Kaur up here.

  • @bestar__8954
    @bestar__8954 3 месяца назад +1

    It's a good stage to learn English and phrases...I really want to speak but I can't ...so I attend all seminar of tedx

    • @Shaziya-yh4ly
      @Shaziya-yh4ly 11 дней назад

      Is it helping u? Did it improve

    • @bestar__8954
      @bestar__8954 9 дней назад

      @Shaziya-yh4ly yes it is so helpful for me and now I can speak more better

    • @Shaziya-yh4ly
      @Shaziya-yh4ly 9 дней назад

      @bestar__8954 did u suggest something to me , like on what I really focus on

  • @Sammy0187
    @Sammy0187 5 месяцев назад +2

    Got into a huge fight with 2 of my friends and I really need this 😅

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 4 месяца назад

      Sorry to hear that ... amazing how quickly we can miscommunicate.

  • @antandshell
    @antandshell 7 месяцев назад +3

    "Would you like to change lanes " is still a trigger. Let him drive, he doesn't want your help.

    • @Svemol
      @Svemol 4 месяца назад +1

      If a person is worked-up anything might act as a trigger.

    • @May-ob8oq
      @May-ob8oq 2 месяца назад

      That why both needs to be able to communicate well.

  • @lanhuongnguyen9988
    @lanhuongnguyen9988 Год назад +1

    Thank you so much❤❤❤❤

  • @MondayMorningActivation
    @MondayMorningActivation 2 года назад +2

    Great content. Always learning from your content.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 2 года назад +1

      Thank you.... like is a wonderful lesson! Xxx

  • @JanaSzIsBasicGlitch
    @JanaSzIsBasicGlitch 6 месяцев назад +1

    Yep... Gonna need that one.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Месяц назад

      Yes, unfortunately, we all make up stories every day!

  • @LarryP248
    @LarryP248 Год назад +7

    The content here is extraordinary. Reading a book on the same subject was a transformative experience for me. "Mindful Mastery: Living Intentionally in a Chaotic World" by Kyle Ash

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 11 месяцев назад

      That's awesome thank you for sharing.
      My book was traditionally published with international rights being sold to UK and they made it business book of the year in 2018. The Million Dollar Handshake. If you get a chance to read it I hope you enjoy it ! 😊

  • @clementosea.8294
    @clementosea.8294 Год назад +1

    An interesting topic this is, and was well presented.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Год назад +1

      Appreciate how easily we miscommunicate. The number one problem in all businesses and life. Just bringing some consciousness to our own language. Thank you

  • @transelite
    @transelite 2 года назад +2

    love it!

  • @SDMNKhan
    @SDMNKhan 3 месяца назад +2

    This says the what, but where is the how? Specially under extreme pressure?

  • @kazukisaita8111
    @kazukisaita8111 Год назад +5

    Sorry I didn’t exactly get what she wanted to tell me because of my English, Could anyone tell me the main point of this Ted talk briefly if it’s possible 🙏
    As far as I know, before taking action, people might as well think second thoughts so that we can take away the miscommunication

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Год назад +8

      Hello 👋
      we react before we speak ... if we think about the action we just did ...eg the talk and me leaning back ... then used our words to match eg. Do you need to change lanes? ...Then you would decrease the amt of miscommunication you have in life. You see what we think isn't always right ! We need to be more conscious in the present . 🎁

    • @kazukisaita8111
      @kazukisaita8111 Год назад +2

      @@catherinemolloy1
      Thank you for your help!! It’s pretty much straightforward and good examples! I truly appreciate it

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Год назад +5

      @@kazukisaita8111 miscommunication is the number one biggest problem in all businesses and housholds today . Yet the solution is simple. We need to be present /conscious of our actions and think about our responses in the moment. Thank you for your response:)

    • @LLMTECHSTORIES
      @LLMTECHSTORIES Год назад +1

      ​@@catherinemolloy1 thank you for this video, conscious communication. How do I practice this? Should I prepare myself before hand? Or just before doing any action, think. How to put this into practice daily? 13:53

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Год назад

      Yes, it's about being present and conscious of our thoughts, which domino into actions and words. Sometimes, we need to explain our actions so as to not confuse the other person !

  • @IfechiCrowned
    @IfechiCrowned 11 месяцев назад

    hmnnn!!! Bravo 👏🏼 @Catherine for your presentation dear., yet in my opinion, WE are Not D Same individually. 1st Some pple will spite at U or even frown when u Smile at them, some will totally decide to go opposite just Nevis they are wired that Way. U making an excuse for yr husbands inability to have communicated his concern in a more gentle ñ verbal way rather than a smack ñ also communicating certain morales to a certain demographic may turn out to be a new schooling on yr Psyche altogether Nevis of Cultural beliefs but A BIG tHANKS to U for I did Learn somethings from yr Talk maam

  • @kirankumar-hg5fd
    @kirankumar-hg5fd 2 года назад +1

    Just loved it😍

  • @garybriandoherty7299
    @garybriandoherty7299 2 года назад +1

    Love it

  • @YasminYoruba
    @YasminYoruba Год назад +2

    I think so intellectually but I can’t say what it is I am thinking 😢

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Год назад

      Interesting isn't it ... One part of our commuication is just being aware of our micro expressions, and what we are thinking to help avoid miscommunication , however, you may find writing it out first will help you when delivering what it is you want to say. x

  • @adnangan7639
    @adnangan7639 7 месяцев назад +1

    terimakasih bu atas ilmunya

  • @1minute.everyday923
    @1minute.everyday923 10 месяцев назад +2

    JESUS LOVES YOU ALL ❤️

  • @kimanhh999
    @kimanhh999 6 месяцев назад +1

    Good share

  • @Linda-s1Linda_39
    @Linda-s1Linda_39 4 месяца назад

    Let's play the refund game - details and anticipated actions edition

  • @CB19087
    @CB19087 Год назад +3

    My communication is a mess. I've used humour all my life to avoid showing up authentically. Sometimes I say things that sound abusive and I think why? Why did you say that??

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Год назад +2

      Wow that’s great that you know this ❤ first step to being more conscious and present is understanding you. I know it's not easy, but practice will get you there. Cheering you on 🎉

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Месяц назад +1

      Yes I think that's why I started studying NLP and body language to become more present and conscious of my responses x

    • @CB19087
      @CB19087 Месяц назад +1

      @@catherinemolloy1 blast from the past! My communication is much better!

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Месяц назад +1

      @CB19087 wow 👏 ... I know it's the little things right ✅️ 😌

    • @CB19087
      @CB19087 Месяц назад

      @catherinemolloy1 self awareness helps! 😊

  • @ibeshkhadka
    @ibeshkhadka 6 месяцев назад +1

    Don't just assume what they want to say from their behaviour communicate properly...!

  • @SumitGupta-so3jv
    @SumitGupta-so3jv 2 года назад +2

    Good

  • @TreasureAnniembachu
    @TreasureAnniembachu 6 месяцев назад +1

    bro this is literally me

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Месяц назад

      It is everyone if they are honest ! 😅 Miscommunication the biggest problem in all businesses and relationships. The stories in our head !

  • @vlogons
    @vlogons Год назад +1

    how can i improve my English any body can talme. because I'm learning English language...

    • @smirkfanta5535
      @smirkfanta5535 Год назад +1

      1. Watch movies
      2. Read books
      3. PRACTICE speaking with someone
      And the third point is the most important

  • @JeffGoldberg-bx2tv
    @JeffGoldberg-bx2tv 10 месяцев назад +6

    She just kept repeating herself for 14 minutes

    • @MobileZoneel
      @MobileZoneel 8 месяцев назад

      She share her own experience with us and i think it's best ever in ted talk

    • @risimahlongwani1103
      @risimahlongwani1103 8 месяцев назад +1

      Fr she was just yapping for the first 10mins

  • @shahidrafique6253
    @shahidrafique6253 Месяц назад

    please please please don't put random images in between it can distract some people..

    • @boiski9356
      @boiski9356 18 дней назад

      It ain’t that bad, and if you are listening correctly the images amplify the conversations anyway

    • @shahidrafique6253
      @shahidrafique6253 17 дней назад

      @boiski9356 Idk but i felt extremely distracted by these images

  • @OCREJECT
    @OCREJECT 18 дней назад

    5:15

  • @MichaelSkinner-e9j
    @MichaelSkinner-e9j 2 месяца назад

    I don’t believe in hacking communication mechanically, but I think people can be more eloquent with ther spoken word.
    Honesty is just part and parcel to human relationships.
    If someone is continually dishonest and withholds information, that’s a serious problem

  • @travisarmour8709
    @travisarmour8709 10 месяцев назад +2

    pretty basic stuff, not sure why all the praise here - are people generally this naive about this stuff?

  • @gami195
    @gami195 2 года назад +7

    Wasted 14 minutes of my life, not a good talk.

  • @ottomaan1186
    @ottomaan1186 Год назад

    you dont need ted for whining about the personal stuff. primitive

  • @shaileshyerekar9746
    @shaileshyerekar9746 6 месяцев назад +1

    Ye kaisi eng h sab mere sir ke upar se gaya😂

    • @Floraxx031
      @Floraxx031 Месяц назад

      Start with a light english conversations.... 😊

  • @SJT929496
    @SJT929496 Год назад +7

    She seems like she’s in an abusive relationship if she knows her husband is mad by how hot he is. He went off on her for nothing and she blames herself which is classic victim mentality.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Год назад +3

      Interesting point. Everyone has energy language, and not a lot of people tune into it. As an expert in the field, I read this well. Communication is the number one biggest problem on the planet. So I took this small example to show you how quickly you miscommunicate through making up incorrect stories for each other. If you can take that away maybe you can make a difference with your family friends and teams. 45% of marriages end in divorce 90% of these are registered due to miscommunication.

    • @GretchenV95
      @GretchenV95 Год назад

      Especially after that many years of marriage? Surely he’d understand her habits and body language by this point. 😅

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Год назад +1

      Now you know why there is so much miscommunication people react in a nano second before they consciously think. That is the point of this. To stop and bring more consciousness to your life. Communication is the key to business and life successes and failures!

  • @CourtneyW-jr6fx
    @CourtneyW-jr6fx Год назад

    In the words of the Bush famuly wouldnt be pertinent Mac

  • @lizalove91
    @lizalove91 2 месяца назад

    Wait I’m sorry your husband hit you hard in the arm?? Wtaf that’s what we should be talking about??

    • @May-ob8oq
      @May-ob8oq 2 месяца назад

      Wait where did that happend?

  • @user-ko2tu3ss3o
    @user-ko2tu3ss3o 2 года назад +4

    Boring. And the cause of much 2nd hand embarrassment.