I took the advice and said HI to someone with a huge smile on my face. She got a shock because i said it so loud, then just looked without responding, so i kept smiling as hard as i could and kept staring at her. She said she would call the police
I was a very social child, I was pretty popular at school too because I could easily hold a conversation with anyone and got along with everyone. As I got older I sort of lost that social ability. I'm not anti social, I can talk to people. Indeed I find it easier talking to strangers than some family members! But I'm working on getting my old social skills back and thankfully I succeeded. How? The only way I can explain it is: Learn not to care, learn not to be nervous, learn not to be afraid of silences and just let conversations flow naturally. Humans are social creatures, just let it come naturally. You are what you imagine yourself to be, so imagine yourself as social and talkative.
I have the same story,too!!!! But the difference is that I haven't yet suceeded in getting back that social ability, but ur comment made me feel that I'm not alone, I'm pretty sure, I'll get that back, soon... thnx, man!!
it will come, don't worry. Its also important not to blame social awkwardness only on yourself, it could be the other person who has the social issue and not you. It takes two to have a conversation. Your certainly not alone, every single person alive has had social awkwardness in their lives, everyone, from celebrities to politicians, everyone!
1. Just do it 2. Skip small talk, ask personal questions 3. There is no room for negativity, instead find the things in common 4. Give a honest unique compliment 5. Ask for a simple opinion 6. Be present, eye-contact 7. Remember their details (Name/place etc)
+phill kelly Yes, it's true. I made that comment in a 'reminder' form, I should have added that her speech is nice and worth listening to the other details she mentioned. Of course, you can attach/remove key points depending on who you are :) Cheers!
1.) Not motivated 2.) Do onto others. I don't like personal questions from strangers so I won't ask them 3.) always room for negativity 4.) no 5.) no 6.) no. People who stare at me put in the "i want to punch you in the face" mode. 7.) see #1
I''ll save you 15 minutes. This is what contained in this video: 1.Say hello, 2.Ask personal questions, 3.Find commonalities,, 4.Give unique compliments, 5.ask for simple opinions, 6.Pay attention(Be in the moment), 7.Remember names.
1. First word is a flood gate (3:33) 2. Skip the small talk (5:20) 3. Find the Me-Too (7:33) 4. Pay a unique compliment (8:45) 5. Ask for an opinion (10:19) 6. Be Present (11:41) 7. Names, Places, Animals, Things (12:40) Some Important points: just start the conversation, dive right in, pay attention, make them feel valued, and find commonality and discussion topics by asking about opinions and me-too's.
"A conversation is like reading a book, you can turn to any page you want. You can flip to you favorite chapter, you can read as long as you want and you can read what you want. And every person trust me is a really good book." Wow
This intriguing video serves as a poignant reminder of the heartache I've been enduring since my 7 year relationship came to an end 3 months ago. My cherished partner, the love of my life, made the difficult decision to part ways, leaving me consumed by thoughts of him. Despite my earnest attempts to win him back, I find myself facing frustration and an overwhelming sense of emptiness, unable to envision a life without his presence. Despite my efforts to move on , I'm compelled to confess my lingering feelings and longing for him here .
I found myself in a comparable predicament when my 4 year relationship came to an end. I exhausted every avenue to reunite with her, eventually turning to a spiritual advisor for guidance, whose intervention bring us back.
Releasing the grip on someone dear is always tough, but in my scenario, I was fortunate to have the counsel of a spiritual guide who preserved my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Is it weird that I'm more comfortable with talking to strangers than the people I know? I just feel their judgment won't affect me at all and therefore I can be myself around them since there is a very low probability of us meeting again.
I can approach strangers and talk to them but I don't know how to approach with acquaintances whom i rarely talk to/didn't have the chance to talk personally, it becomes really awkward
Me trying to make a conversation : Me: hi Her:hi Me: how are you Her: good and u Me: good .30 second silence.. -how are you now Edit: the fact that I’ve certainly communicated with 1,100 people because I cannot communicate with people🤝
I recommend watching through the whole thing, but. 1. First word floodgates (3:33) "Once you've said the first word, everything just flows." 2. Skip the small talk. (5:20) Ask personal questions. Be bold, and you might be surprised how much someone might share. Asking about family might help elicit response. The lady gives a neat tip, and a neat story at (6:27) 3. Me - too's (7:34) Don't start with negatives. Start the conversation on the same side. 4. Pay a unique compliment. (8:45) Someone may forget what you say or how you look, but they would never forget how you made them feel. There are words and compliments that people are immune to. Avoid them and pay a genuine, unique compliment. 5. Ask for an opinion. (10:19) Ask generic questions like "what's your last movie and how did you find it?" instead of "what do you think about how this affects the oil prices?" That is the difference between generic conversations and exam questions. And when someone gives you an opinion, really listen; listen to listen, don't listen to reply. 6. Be present. (11:40) Don't look at your phone etc. Make eye contact. You literally feel the conversation. 7. Name, place, animal, thing (12:42) Remember their name. It's really important. Say it back to them. Places they want to go to. Their pets names, their children's names.
1. The first-word flood gates 2. Skip the small talk 3. Find me toos 4. Pay a unique compliment 5. Ask for an opinion 6. Be present 7. Name, Place, Animal, Thing
I watched this video 2 years ago as an introvert to know how to initiate convos and it was very impactful, now here I am in present watching it again as an extrovert, just to understand what an extrovert is doing wrong while talking and I must say this video can be watched from both perspectives. 😊
fun fact: I was in the audience of this ted talk. when she told us to stick our head and tell the person next to us "hi!",there was a man sitting right next to me. we had an awkward laugh and said our hellos and learned each other's names. after 3 years of dating, we are now married for 4 years :) so yeah, go ahead and meet strangers.
She seems sincerely passionate about being there on the stage. She's not there just for the money. she wants to genuinely inspire people and share her ideas to others. That is beautiful. I really respect that. I'am now offically a fan of her.
Everyone in the comments needs to stop being so harsh and kinda racist, I'm from rural England and I can understand what she is saying. She clearly speaks English fluently and is speaking very clearly, she just has a lovely Indian accent to top it off. So shhh. Loved this TED talk.. ❤
Thats no indian accent you should listen what they actually sound like, this is a normal and 100 times better accent plus nobody that i have seen is being racist infact everyone is saying she is soo hot, she is sexy, she looks cute etc etc.
what to do when someone have stammer prob... I want to get out of it.... I want to be a artist, public speaker, RJ type. I've all qualities to do everything... but stammer will ruin my life n carrer...
She is proof of what she preaches. When she first comes on stage, I thought her pretty but her bubbly personality came out, and the longer she spoke the more attractive she becomes. Not surprised at the taxi driver"s proposal.
Bubbly personality? I would love to see how she respond to someone who she runs into who is really boring and always complains and tells the same story over and over again. I would love to know how she would handle that business. The more attractive and wealthy you become, the harder it gets to have a deep conversation with everybody.
@@belindajardim3145 first of all I seriously hope you're not serious, also I have to ask are you Portuguese? Cause your name looks very Portuguese to me.
How to establish connections with people through conversation (not necessarily just with strangers): 1. Dare to begin, dare to say the first words 2. Skip small talks, focus on what's really interesting 3. Draw on the common ground 4. Make genuine unique compliments 5. Get people to share what they think about something, listen to listen 6. Don't multitask, be there, be in the conversation 7. Remember what you two talked about **1st big takeaway: "people can forget what you say, what you do, but they will never forget how you make them feel" **2nd big takeaway: look at them in the eye **3rd big takeaway: every person is a really good book, you just have to figure out which to read next instead of only skimming the titles
1. first word floods gate 2. skip small talks 3. me-toos 4. unique compliment 5. ask for their opinion 6. be present --> eyes contact 7. name, place, animal, thing Her speech was great, thank you Malavika
Wonderful tips, thanks a ton. And I will definitely use them, it is much appreciated from an introvert person like me. Thanks!! 1. The first word flood gates 2. Skip the small talk 3. Find the me too 4. Pay an unique compliment 5. Ask for an opinion 6. Be present 7. Name, place animal thing
She has a point. When I am trying to improve my conversational skills, I listen to the radio daily. Listening to people who do it for a living improves the listeners skills and sort of gives you a role model of how to listen and talk
thats really awful, but i think thats a good reason forma not to go ahead with that person, i think that means she lets her boyfrien to control her or that she is egocentric
Let's appreciate the way she delivered the speech so eloquently and flawlessly with a beautiful smile on her face in the entire video and unfailingly making people laugh with her good sense of humor. Just slayed it effortlessly🌟 Thanks for the likes
Things I learnt from this:- 1. Just ask questions what you want. What's the worst thing can happen? 2. Skip small talk and ask personal questions (you will be surprised how much people are willing to share if you ask them) 3. Find the "me too"s 4. Give a compliment (mostly on what thinks they give efforts in for example makeup) 5. Listen to their answers and add your opinion or thoughts about it. 6. Make eye contact (see one eye at a time and move the the other afterwards) 7. After they say their name say their name (for example - hi paul!)
@@codeinout9438 That means when someone says something try to relate to it. For example your friend said I hate coffee and you too actually hate it so you say me too! This can help you be likable too as well as it can start another conversation too like your likes, dislikes, etc
I am watching this because I am so bad at conversations that I act cold so people won’t want to talk to me. I do that to avoid awkwardness. I hate awkwardness. It makes me feel intimidated! Ughhh.
This woman is just beautiful. Her inner beauty is reflected in her face and smile. I Loved every single tip! Thank you Malavika Varadan for open our eyes.
You are not fascinated from her inner beauty - she did her hair, she doesn't have the indian nose, you probably liked her partial awkwardnes and so on.. What I'm trying to say is that if you are not aware of how judgemental you are naturaly, then you need to investigate the subject.
What I love about this is that she didn't target an audience with the mindset that they were insufficient in some way to explain their difficulties communicating with strangers. She just focused on teaching how to converse from the perspective of making it better no matter what your background. That demonstrates a high level of emotional intelligence.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 📚 Conversations are like links that form a World Wide Web connecting us to strangers. They define who we are as a human race. 02:20 🗣️ Starting a conversation with a stranger requires enthusiasm, positivity, and a simple greeting like "Hi" or "Hello." 03:26 💬 Skip small talk and ask personal questions to create a deeper connection with the other person. 06:42 😄 Pay unique and genuine compliments instead of using common words that people have become immune to. 08:47 🤝 Find common ground with the other person to make them feel comfortable and engaged in the conversation. 10:23 🤔 Ask for the other person's opinion on something generic to open up a two-way street of communication. 12:01 👀 Be fully present and make eye contact to establish a deeper connection and show genuine interest in the conversation. 13:01 📝 Remember and use the other person's name and other details about them to show care and investment in the conversation. Summary by HARPA AI 🧬
I have been using these seven steps for over 60 years and it has worked for me. I have met some lifelong friends and my wife because of them. thanks for sharing them.
💌A conversation is like reading a book. You can turn to any page you want . You can flip to your favourite chapter. You can read as long as you want. And you can read what you want. And every person, trust me, is a really good book.💚🌳🙏
she’s absolutely captivating. what a phenomenal TED talk given by a clearly beautiful and kind woman, oozing with charisma from her accent to her hefty and valuable material. genius!
The awkward part is step 2, where she is suggesting you just ask people random questions. Do you like lizards!?!??! What's your favorite color??? Dogs or cats? What's your deepest life goal??! That just seems so childish to me. And awkward that they are just fishing for some kind of connection, it's borderline obsessive. Especially if this conversation is happening at the water cooler or printer. There are special situations where interviewing someone is not awkward, but not every day.
@@dt_99 just not as good as i would wish for lol. By the way, idk if this would be too much information, but here you go..i have a similar surname as yours, Gurupriya Takkar is my full name. Haha we got a me too topic here( not exactly me too).
How would be your reaction if the answer was "I don't want to take any side cause I don't have enough information and experience with this conflict to make my views as objective as possible", and when this person wasn't neither from Palestine nor from Israel?
@@Amaroq09 I would be happy! That’s the exact kind of woman I would love to have. I personally have developed my own opinion on what I believe is right, but it took me a hot minute as well.
@@Amaroq09 I don't judge people on what they believe, it's more on why they believe it. Too many people these days are just reciting everything they hear without putting any individual thought into it.
this is so helpful. Being an introvert, I usually find it very difficult to talk to people. These pointers are a great roadmap to talking to people. Thanks so much
all of us can have a conversation with ourselves. but when ourselves start the conversation we escape by doing any thing or talking with people , because we did`t have enough bravery to face ourselves!
Obviously I've not listened, but have read your comments. Totally agree with you, too many people want to talk about themselves all the time, just one way traffic.
Story of my life, whenever i got a lot that i want to talk about i kinda feel guilty but...Then i remember that i listen to hours and hours of endless drama of my friends' lives.
this woman speaks to my soul. the meaning and motivation behind this talk have fueled my social life over the past year and it has totally changed my perspective on other people in the best way. take the time to speak to people, truly hear them. it's so worth it.
Came form an ig reel...she is totally amazing the way she tells her experience the way she understands the genuine problems of the person. Through this video I learned many things...like how u can put efforts during a conversation where u are lacking of words... mastering conversation is a great skill
Within 15 minutes she solved all the problems I was having in communication, which I spent time watching many youtube videos to be able to improve but couldn't until after watching this video I realized out many things. Thanks you so much!!!
SHE JUST SUMMARIZED DALE CARNEGIES PRINCIPLES with her added experience IN A SIMPLE AND CHARISMATIC WAY BUT IT WAS very EFFECTIVE.. HERE ARE 7 PRINCIPLES::::::1.)listen to the convo without interupting the convo 2.) be intrested nd talk in terms of their interest 3.) start with a smile :) 4.)never criticize 5.)do sincere appreciation and, always be lavish praise.. dont flatter 6.)talk to increase their self importance 7.)remember their names with correct pronounciation
Here is the summary for someone who is busy. 1:Just say hi, hello. Don't hesitate. 2:Ask open-ended questions like, where are you from? ○ You have got a really nice name. What's the meaning of your name? ○ What do you do? ○ Have you ever been to this place before? § How often do you come here? 3:Find the Me-toos • Try to find what is the common thing between you and the other person. ○ Step into that common ground and start talking. 4:Pay a Unique Compliment • People will forget what you do, what you say but they will never forget how you made them feel. • Go out and give someone a nice full compliment. ○ So, I have this belief about a "compliment immunity meter", and it comes from this experience I had when I met this gorgeous supermodel. § And I look at her and I say, "Wow! You are beautiful!" § And there is no reaction on her face. § And I think to myself, "How?" § That's when I realized, she is immune to the word "beautiful." § She's probably heard it a hundred thousand times today. • Try and construct a compliment that's unique and genuine, and you don't have to lie. 5:Ask for an Opinion • All of us have opinions; trust me. • And we all want them to be heard and everybody wants validation. ○ So go on and ask for an opinion, and that's when you open up a two-way street. ○ That is when the real communication begins, ○ and you will be surprised how much you can pick up about a person just by asking their opinion on something pretty generic. • Here's a mistake that some people make. ○ They ask your opinion about something really difficult. ○ It feels almost intimidating. • Somewhere in a room, full of very well-informed people, and someone was to come up to me and say, "So what do you think about the way the oil prices have affected the real estate market in Dubai?" I feel a bit cornered. ○ I feel like I might fail, and this is an examination, and that's the lesson. ○ Nobody needs to fail at a first-time conversation. • Just ask something simple. ○ Keep it generic. ○ How do you like your coffee? When did you watch your last movie? What did you think of it? And when somebody gives you their opinion: really listen. ○ Don't listen to reply. ○ Listen to listen. • There's a difference. 6:Be present. ○ Just be wholeheartedly present, just be there. ○ And - oh! - my favourite part: make eye contact. ○ Trust me, eye contact is where all the magic happens. ○ You can feel the conversation. ○ And trust me, when you are looking at someone in the eye, nine out of ten times, they will not dare look away, right? (Laughter) Now, if only I could look into the eyes of 1.6 million people, I would not have to worry about you guys tuning out during the ad breaks. 7:Name, place, animal, thing. ○ Do you remember that game? Remember the little details about a person. ○ Remember their name. • It's so important. • It's awful when you meet someone for the 18th time, and you say, "You must be Paul, no Peter. • Something with the P and it ends with ..." It's terrible. • remember someone's name and say it back to them. • You have no idea how important you're making them feel, and that's not the only detail. • Remember all the other details as well. • The places they like to go to, the places they've been to, the places they want to go to, their pet's names. • How have their pet's been feeling lately? The things they like. • Remember their children's names, that's such a winner. • Remember their wife's names, their girlfriend's names.
Summary of the 7 Ways: 1. The first word flood gates - open the conversation with a simple Hi/Hey/Hello (positivity) - talk to strangers, the worst is they won’t talk to you but they are not talking to you until you try 2. Skip the small talk - ask questions where people want to talk about - really personal questions / where you come from (where does your family life) 3. Find the “Me too” - find something to agree on with the other person, something in common 4. Pay a unique compliment - make them feel special and make them a nice full compliment something which is not general (you are beautiful - instead “I’ve never seen so beautiful blue eyes ever before” or “I love your smile”) 5. Ask for their opinions - ask about the opinion about some generic thing, nothing too specific 6. Be present - focus on what the other person is saying, do not let your thoughts fly away 7. Name, Place, Animal, Thing - Game, Remember the name of a person - as well as Places they like, animals they have and things they like
I tried this today at the bus stop and started a convo with someone who ive never spoke to I had to just push myself to say what i wanted to say then I realised how easy it was
After watching this talk, I have looked at myself and discovered something about myself. I am good at making conversations with strangers. But, when it comes to seeking help or asking for an opportunity, I act like mute. All of sudden, my super introverted nature kicks in. I start thinking, how they will react! I guess, now I know how to overcome that. Thanks Malavika ❤
@@im_a_stain7874 Haha, after this video I of course couldn’t remember. I just had more fun, and I wasn’t so typically scared or awkward. Reading body language is also helpful too. Once you step into this, you’ll want to learn more about personalities, being a better listener, etc.
A summary for myself Just start the conversation, it will find the flow Be present, make eye contact Remember their name, place, animal... Give out unique compliments Reduce the small talk and ask deeper if not genuine questions Find Mee tooo's, not dissimilarities Ask for their opinion, about simple questions This is the best video on conversation skills Thanks a lot Malavika !
Seven ways : 1. First Flood Gate - Start with smile and 'Hello' 2. Skip Small talk - Try to talk about personal things 3.Find me-toos - Common thing 4. A compliment - People always remember how you make them feel 5. Ask for Opinion or Suggestions 6. Attention - Be present in conversation 7. Name, place, animal - Remember Name their place With these ways you can have a beautiful conversation with people sitting beside you, behind you or walking along with you❤
I love the analogy that people are like books, filled with stories to tell. I'm always so worried what everyone is thinking about me that sometimes I forget to really be present in conversations. I end up missing out on so many amazing stories and experiences because of my anxieties but this actually makes me want to talk to strangers. Amazing job!
Hey there! 😊 I watched Malavika's TEDx talk, and it was truly fantastic! Her insights on building connections through common ground and genuine compliments are so valuable. It's a great reminder to approach conversations with positivity and curiosity. I appreciate you sharing this gem; it's something I'll definitely keep in mind. Thanks a buddy! 🌟
She has such a pleasant way to express her thoughts, such a powerful and positive energy. I loved this talk. I have always loved starting conversations with strangers, these tips are very useful!
A hi from an introvert to all introverts:)
Hey dear :)
Hiiii
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I'm an ambivert. Hi.
Hi😄
After watching this I started a conversation with an stranger and he is still taking to me, now I am searching for how to stop the conversation😅😂
Btw nice question. The end is always remembered weather its good or bad. Things happned before doesn't matter if you have f ed up in end. Lol
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@@TheEnglishOpedia funny isn't it...😆😆
@@Abdul-Farooq yup 🤣😂🤣😂
I took the advice and said HI to someone with a huge smile on my face. She got a shock because i said it so loud, then just looked without responding, so i kept smiling as hard as i could and kept staring at her.
She said she would call the police
humudu maybe the way you talked with her scared her , because nowadays many terrible things happen and most women don't feel safe
wait... maybe because you didn't smile with the forehead?
now i'm laughing and sad too
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I was a very social child, I was pretty popular at school too because I could easily hold a conversation with anyone and got along with everyone. As I got older I sort of lost that social ability. I'm not anti social, I can talk to people. Indeed I find it easier talking to strangers than some family members! But I'm working on getting my old social skills back and thankfully I succeeded. How? The only way I can explain it is: Learn not to care, learn not to be nervous, learn not to be afraid of silences and just let conversations flow naturally. Humans are social creatures, just let it come naturally. You are what you imagine yourself to be, so imagine yourself as social and talkative.
dude u just opened my eyes, the part where you said you are what you imagine to be really hit me
I have the same story,too!!!! But the difference is that I haven't yet suceeded in getting back that social ability, but ur comment made me feel that I'm not alone, I'm pretty sure, I'll get that back, soon... thnx, man!!
Yep, you are what you imagine yourself to be. Your mind is very powerful, use it to your advantage! you can be whoever you want to be!
it will come, don't worry. Its also important not to blame social awkwardness only on yourself, it could be the other person who has the social issue and not you. It takes two to have a conversation. Your certainly not alone, every single person alive has had social awkwardness in their lives, everyone, from celebrities to politicians, everyone!
Same!!!
1. Just do it
2. Skip small talk, ask personal questions
3. There is no room for negativity, instead find the things in common
4. Give a honest unique compliment
5. Ask for a simple opinion
6. Be present, eye-contact
7. Remember their details (Name/place etc)
+Arti, Correct, but in reality, people are uniquely complex. Connection is an art, not a process with a-how-to list.
+phill kelly Yes, it's true. I made that comment in a 'reminder' form, I should have added that her speech is nice and worth listening to the other details she mentioned. Of course, you can attach/remove key points depending on who you are :) Cheers!
Thanks lol
up you go
1.) Not motivated
2.) Do onto others. I don't like personal questions from strangers so I won't ask them
3.) always room for negativity
4.) no
5.) no
6.) no. People who stare at me put in the "i want to punch you in the face" mode.
7.) see #1
I''ll save you 15 minutes.
This is what contained in this video:
1.Say hello,
2.Ask personal questions,
3.Find commonalities,,
4.Give unique compliments,
5.ask for simple opinions,
6.Pay attention(Be in the moment),
7.Remember names.
Yup that's an accurate summary.
psycho Hahah she bored me a lot. This comment saved my 15 minutes. Thank you so much.
+Kashish Shah ... lolzz that was spot on. ..(y)
psycho thank you... because she was going on and on and on and oooooon.
Wish I had seen this 14 minutes earlier :/
“ppl forget what you do, what you say but never forget what you make them feel” that’s a such lesson
Wow...never heard hat before😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 🤡
@@DJK-cq2uy Wow.. you're smarter than evrybody else 😮😮🎉🎉
@@jodekoje 🤡
1. First word is a flood gate (3:33)
2. Skip the small talk (5:20)
3. Find the Me-Too (7:33)
4. Pay a unique compliment (8:45)
5. Ask for an opinion (10:19)
6. Be Present (11:41)
7. Names, Places, Animals, Things (12:40)
Some Important points: just start the conversation, dive right in, pay attention, make them feel valued, and find commonality and discussion topics by asking about opinions and me-too's.
Doing gods work!
Thank you!
Thank you!
Your effort it's helped us to understand the content more clearly thanks 🙏
Awesome.
Shame they don't put this on every RUclips list.
Thanks for doing the work.
I love how she speaks so smooth without any hesitation.Speaking is a SKILL.
its a speech but yea shes good
How to speak fluently English language
LOL you don't know RADIO CITY 101?
she is the radio host
she obviuosly sppeaks while in sleep too
bas kar my girl
speaking is a SKILL DURR
"A conversation is like reading a book, you can turn to any page you want. You can flip to you favorite chapter, you can read as long as you want and you can read what you want. And every person trust me is a really good book." Wow
I like this metaphor
man
not true. I cannot flip to my favourite chapter and not olways I can read as long as I want
Lol @@KlauduniaL07
the taxi conversation is exactly what i try to avoid. sounds horrific
This intriguing video serves as a poignant reminder of the heartache I've been enduring since my 7 year relationship came to an end 3 months ago. My cherished partner, the love of my life, made the difficult decision to part ways, leaving me consumed by thoughts of him. Despite my earnest attempts to win him back, I find myself facing frustration and an overwhelming sense of emptiness, unable to envision a life without his presence. Despite my efforts to move on , I'm compelled to confess my lingering feelings and longing for him here .
I found myself in a comparable predicament when my 4 year relationship came to an end. I exhausted every avenue to reunite with her, eventually turning to a spiritual advisor for guidance, whose intervention bring us back.
How did you manage to connect with a spiritual counselor, and what's the process for me to reach out to her?
Releasing the grip on someone dear is always tough, but in my scenario, I was fortunate to have the counsel of a spiritual guide who preserved my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I'm thankful for this guidance. I'll immediately search for her online.
Is it weird that I'm more comfortable with talking to strangers than the people I know? I just feel their judgment won't affect me at all and therefore I can be myself around them since there is a very low probability of us meeting again.
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OMG I feel the same exact way. Glad to know that I am not alone.
I just say things that I have never say to my friends to someone I met on Internet
Wow I want to develop this skill😂
I can approach strangers and talk to them but I don't know how to approach with acquaintances whom i rarely talk to/didn't have the chance to talk personally, it becomes really awkward
Her - Eye contact is where all the magic happens.
Me - eyes contact is where all the awkwardness starts 😂
True 😂😂
Very true
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Honestly it’s more awkward when you don’t look someone I’m the eye when you talk to them
Me trying to make a conversation :
Me: hi
Her:hi
Me: how are you
Her: good and u
Me: good
.30 second silence..
-how are you now
Edit: the fact that I’ve certainly communicated with 1,100 people because I cannot communicate with people🤝
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I love you
That line "conversation can make war, conversation can make peace" respect mam❤❤🇧🇩
I recommend watching through the whole thing, but.
1. First word floodgates (3:33)
"Once you've said the first word, everything just flows."
2. Skip the small talk. (5:20)
Ask personal questions. Be bold, and you might be surprised how much someone might share.
Asking about family might help elicit response.
The lady gives a neat tip, and a neat story at (6:27)
3. Me - too's (7:34)
Don't start with negatives. Start the conversation on the same side.
4. Pay a unique compliment. (8:45)
Someone may forget what you say or how you look, but they would never forget how you made them feel.
There are words and compliments that people are immune to.
Avoid them and pay a genuine, unique compliment.
5. Ask for an opinion. (10:19)
Ask generic questions like "what's your last movie and how did you find it?" instead of "what do you think about how this affects the oil prices?"
That is the difference between generic conversations and exam questions.
And when someone gives you an opinion, really listen; listen to listen, don't listen to reply.
6. Be present. (11:40)
Don't look at your phone etc.
Make eye contact. You literally feel the conversation.
7. Name, place, animal, thing (12:42)
Remember their name. It's really important. Say it back to them. Places they want to go to. Their pets names, their children's names.
Thank you for this-- I needed a summary
Thank you for the summary!
Thanks for the summary! Now I don't really have to watch the video haha
i think this very important
You're the hero that RUclips needs.
1. The first-word flood gates
2. Skip the small talk
3. Find me toos
4. Pay a unique compliment
5. Ask for an opinion
6. Be present
7. Name, Place, Animal, Thing
not very helpful without context
Thank you Bro. !
Thanks
I was searching for it..thanks bro
Thnx
Her : hey werent we in the same school?
Me : yeah..
5 mins of awkward silence
Me: so what school were you in?
Hahaha. I'm lauhging out loud and I'm in the Library. Eish.
😂😂omg that really made me laugh
so funny
this comment did sweeten up my day, thank you.. so good
@@xhosawithinga 😂😂😂🤦♀🤣🤣🤣
I watched this video 2 years ago as an introvert to know how to initiate convos and it was very impactful, now here I am in present watching it again as an extrovert, just to understand what an extrovert is doing wrong while talking and I must say this video can be watched from both perspectives. 😊
her public speaking abilities are amazing. its as if she is talking to you individually in a conversation
Right
yes
Fr
That's exactly what the TEDx organizers teach you, if you want to give a talk.
@@amigalemming their thoughts are amazing! they are really helping us.
Her enthusiasm about every stranger just being a wealth of knowledge and new experience has lessened my social anxiety a lot. Thank you.
True
u are shutup
@@preetpatel2186 woah
Well, that is in fact true, when you happen to be a highly attractive woman.
@@connorfrankston5548 that's what i was thinking: how these techniques would go for other demographics...
"Make the eye contact"
Introvert have left the chat
i love to make eye contact :)
Me too 😓
Haha damn
Otaku spotted..
Shelter
*Sociopaths have left chat*
fun fact: I was in the audience of this ted talk. when she told us to stick our head and tell the person next to us "hi!",there was a man sitting right next to me. we had an awkward laugh and said our hellos and learned each other's names.
after 3 years of dating, we are now married for 4 years :) so yeah, go ahead and meet strangers.
wow !!!! " what starts with hello and ends up with marriage proposal"..........................................true words i headr ...
@@maashakumbhari-r4i yeah i lied that did not happen lmao
@@cagla3360 hello 😉
@@stoice10 bro💀
@@mystificcreation4093 🤭🤫
She seems sincerely passionate about being there on the stage. She's not there just for the money. she wants to genuinely inspire people and share her ideas to others. That is beautiful. I really respect that. I'am now offically a fan of her.
👍
Admit it you just fancy her! :)
nigefal Yea well, that too.
i agree
i agree
Everyone in the comments needs to stop being so harsh and kinda racist, I'm from rural England and I can understand what she is saying. She clearly speaks English fluently and is speaking very clearly, she just has a lovely Indian accent to top it off. So shhh. Loved this TED talk.. ❤
Thats no indian accent you should listen what they actually sound like, this is a normal and 100 times better accent plus nobody that i have seen is being racist infact everyone is saying she is soo hot, she is sexy, she looks cute etc etc.
you are right...
Lovely is the least. I fell in love with her voice and accent.
truth
+Anonymous User Lol you sound ignorant ! I am indian and that is an indian accent
You live on earth too?! We have so much in common.
I'm from the same galaxy dude!
Me too from same earth👍😀
And that's how I met your mother kids.. 🤣🤣😂
😂😂
sumit mirpuri 💀💀💀
it's my 6th YEAR watching this multiple times every year, and I AM in love with how she explains it with so much enthusiasm
what to do when someone have stammer prob... I want to get out of it.... I want to be a artist, public speaker, RJ type.
I've all qualities to do everything... but stammer will ruin my life n carrer...
@@beyourself7085simple! Just be confident and BE YOURSELF
She is proof of what she preaches. When she first comes on stage, I thought her pretty but her bubbly personality came out, and the longer she spoke the more attractive she becomes. Not surprised at the taxi driver"s proposal.
Man you are just nailed it. Had the same note.
was going to write the exact same comment
my point exactly
Bubbly personality? I would love to see how she respond to someone who she runs into who is really boring and always complains and tells the same story over and over again. I would love to know how she would handle that business. The more attractive and wealthy you become, the harder it gets to have a deep conversation with everybody.
Absolutely right, th more she engages with u th more u like her 🥰
I've heard somewhere, "A stranger is a friend you haven't met yet."
Or... Your... Next victim....
@@ipapergrey6654 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🙈
if he/she's a friend so how he/she is a stranger??
@@ipapergrey6654 😂😂
@Joey M true😂👀
You know you're confident when no one laughs at your joke so you do it yourself 😂
Simply Sookie 😂😂
Simply Sookie Haha
Simply Sooki
Simply Sookie my little pony
Simply Sookie Bhimrao
Her enthousiasm is contagious: she has made me smile during all the video
x2
"Me too" so let's start a conversation 🙂😂
Me2
@@uniqueandspecial Okay, what do you want to talk about?
Yes indeed 😍a beautiful person in and out
"Every single person in your life was once a stranger to you" - Including your parents and siblings!
确实
@@shikang6525 Do you know Hbomberguy,
i wonder?
My parents r now deceased and my 3 siblings r now my enemies
@@belindajardim3145 first of all I seriously hope you're not serious, also I have to ask are you Portuguese? Cause your name looks very Portuguese to me.
Exactly
How to establish connections with people through conversation (not necessarily just with strangers):
1. Dare to begin, dare to say the first words
2. Skip small talks, focus on what's really interesting
3. Draw on the common ground
4. Make genuine unique compliments
5. Get people to share what they think about something, listen to listen
6. Don't multitask, be there, be in the conversation
7. Remember what you two talked about
**1st big takeaway: "people can forget what you say, what you do, but they will never forget how you make them feel"
**2nd big takeaway: look at them in the eye
**3rd big takeaway: every person is a really good book, you just have to figure out which to read next instead of only skimming the titles
Thanks ❤️
Thanks man
Just the comment I was looking for
@@sunilalimbu1594 me too
Tq
✨"what's the worst that could happen? they won't talk to you? they don't talk to you now!" ✨
1. Say hi
2. Ask personal questions
3. Find me too’s
4. Pay a genuine compliment
5. Get an opinion
6. Be present
7. Name place animal thing
Thank you sir, you just save my (un)valuable time
@@sayidrayhan5442 😔
Thank you for summarizing 👍
Thanks man
Her: Ask personal questions!
Me: So... what is your bank card number?
🤣🤣
😂😂😂
😂😂😂
Let me know when you ask them.....after then i will ask their atm pin🤣🤣
Me: "abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz. Annnd, what's your social security number?"
I love how when she smiles - it is preceded with her eyes starting to sparkle then followed with a HUGE warm smile.
1. first word floods gate
2. skip small talks
3. me-toos
4. unique compliment
5. ask for their opinion
6. be present --> eyes contact
7. name, place, animal, thing
Her speech was great, thank you Malavika
How can I talk English fluently
Thanh Nhã Nguyễn Lê
Thanks presentation is too long
this is not engaging omg
Skip small talk by asking a personal question
Thanh Nhã Nguyễn Lê
I love her she's a genius. And very glamorous ayeeeee.
“Conversation can make war ,conversation can make peace “
This line ♥️♥️
Her tips on finding common ground and giving real compliments totally make sense. It's a cool reminder to be positive and curious in every convo.
So,the conclusion is we should quite 😜
Plot twist she walks off stage and never talks to anyone that whole day
Hahaha
lol funny
😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Cha Robertson 😂😂😂
This video >>>>>>>>>>> my whole one month learning of soft skills classes
It's surprising how nobody is saying anything about how cute she speaks
And looks
She's indian barbie. But honestly at least the first few minutes I think she's talking to an empty room.
Exactly! She was enthusiastic and energetic and actually that looks so cute!! Idk why so many people got bored from that
cheryl sparkz you lucked up shoot your shot 🏀
Exactly
I really like how she presented her speech and her energy was so contagious. She's also pretty
She's a cool 7
@@alive14ever you're a socially-illiterate 2
I really wish she was my friend. Whatever she taught makes you so loveble as she is
body and face expressions and attitude really enlightens a person
"Every person in your life was once a stranger"
Family has left the chat
When u were born,even dey wer a stranger 🤔😂
@@gavtipor7394 nah not your mother cause you stayed in her womb for nearly a year so it would be pretty weird to call her a stranger
Except for family ofcourse duhhhh!!!!!
Maybe you're adopted 🙂😂
@@AshutoshPandey-eq9xq 😂😂😂
Wonderful tips, thanks a ton.
And I will definitely use them, it is much appreciated from an introvert person like me.
Thanks!!
1. The first word flood gates
2. Skip the small talk
3. Find the me too
4. Pay an unique compliment
5. Ask for an opinion
6. Be present
7. Name, place animal thing
Definitely one day I will share my SUCCESS story on this stage ....
Thank you ❣️ soo much for all your support and blessings 🙏....
Q\\
Sure i wil be there listening to u
@@pranavdwivedi3962 me too
@@pranavdwivedi3962 me to
The Problem Is That The Stranger Is Not Watching This Video!!
She has a point. When I am trying to improve my conversational skills, I listen to the radio daily. Listening to people who do it for a living improves the listeners skills and sort of gives you a role model of how to listen and talk
Malavika Varadan... really gifted person with regard to such communications, giving such a good speech and so effectively communicating the topic
Pritesh Thakker where are you from?? :p
I am from Mumbai
thank u
For what?
The way she speaks... Just OMG 😱 so, smooth and energetic 🎉. She completely an enchanter ❤😂.
Me trying to become a better person after quarantine:
Edit : ive become a bit better! My skin also cleared so I kinda had a mini glow up
Yeah! Same here 😊
Yoo
That is a very smart move! Keep it up and you will succeed!👍
Same
Gundham's Eyeliner lol same
how do i proceed after she says "i have a boyfriend" ?
damarh walk to the next one
thats really awful, but i think thats a good reason forma not to go ahead with that person, i think that means she lets her boyfrien to control her or that she is egocentric
damarha6 may be with "you need a better one"
Say its ok i am not the jealous type
+L CC lol
Let's appreciate the way she delivered the speech so eloquently and flawlessly with a beautiful smile on her face in the entire video and unfailingly making people laugh with her good sense of humor. Just slayed it effortlessly🌟
Thanks for the likes
All these attributes make it MUCH easier to start a conversation. 😃
Things I learnt from this:-
1. Just ask questions what you want. What's the worst thing can happen?
2. Skip small talk and ask personal questions (you will be surprised how much people are willing to share if you ask them)
3. Find the "me too"s
4. Give a compliment (mostly on what thinks they give efforts in for example makeup)
5. Listen to their answers and add your opinion or thoughts about it.
6. Make eye contact (see one eye at a time and move the the other afterwards)
7. After they say their name say their name (for example - hi paul!)
What is Mee too's
@@codeinout9438 That means when someone says something try to relate to it. For example your friend said I hate coffee and you too actually hate it so you say me too! This can help you be likable too as well as it can start another conversation too like your likes, dislikes, etc
I am watching this because I am so bad at conversations that I act cold so people won’t want to talk to me. I do that to avoid awkwardness. I hate awkwardness. It makes me feel intimidated! Ughhh.
exactly the same as me
Same..
Me too! Damn it
Can’t even hold conversations since I feel like I can’t add or contribute to them. Just makes me tense :(
We have a lot in common
This woman is just beautiful. Her inner beauty is reflected in her face and smile.
I Loved every single tip! Thank you Malavika Varadan for open our eyes.
ohh :o
welcome to india
I agree, but u are more beautiful, i guess :)
Zulqarnain sorry? How could you say that or predict that?😉
You are not fascinated from her inner beauty - she did her hair, she doesn't have the indian nose, you probably liked her partial awkwardnes and so on.. What I'm trying to say is that if you are not aware of how judgemental you are naturaly, then you need to investigate the subject.
What I love about this is that she didn't target an audience with the mindset that they were insufficient in some way to explain their difficulties communicating with strangers. She just focused on teaching how to converse from the perspective of making it better no matter what your background. That demonstrates a high level of emotional intelligence.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 📚 Conversations are like links that form a World Wide Web connecting us to strangers. They define who we are as a human race.
02:20 🗣️ Starting a conversation with a stranger requires enthusiasm, positivity, and a simple greeting like "Hi" or "Hello."
03:26 💬 Skip small talk and ask personal questions to create a deeper connection with the other person.
06:42 😄 Pay unique and genuine compliments instead of using common words that people have become immune to.
08:47 🤝 Find common ground with the other person to make them feel comfortable and engaged in the conversation.
10:23 🤔 Ask for the other person's opinion on something generic to open up a two-way street of communication.
12:01 👀 Be fully present and make eye contact to establish a deeper connection and show genuine interest in the conversation.
13:01 📝 Remember and use the other person's name and other details about them to show care and investment in the conversation.
Summary by HARPA AI 🧬
Thanks a lot for writing this amazing conclusion, you made for this loving TED Talk! God Bless You because no one like you on this planet Earth!
Wow, probably the best Comment Bot ever on youtube!
Thank you So MuCh Harpa AI! :)
I have been using these seven steps for over 60 years and it has worked for me. I have met some lifelong friends and my wife because of them. thanks for sharing them.
+Shedrick Sanders I don't believe you
+guineapig55555 hahahahahahaah
+Malaise yea srsly lol
Despite the upload being on Jan. 11th 2016...
are you a time traveler
He means that he has been using these ideas before there was a video created talking about them.
Are you an idiot?
💌A conversation is like reading a book.
You can turn to any page you want .
You can flip to your favourite chapter.
You can read as long as you want.
And you can read what you want.
And every person, trust me, is a really good book.💚🌳🙏
Thanks a lot
This is the thing which i was searching in comment section 😂
Thanks alot
I don't care
she's amazing
i'd let her marry my son but i dont have one and im not even married
Batool wh- what? wait.. what?? my brain cant process this.
Permission denied :D
I would marry her myself! ...if I wasn't married already :D Such a charming person.
Batool lmaooooooo
wut?..
she’s absolutely captivating. what a phenomenal TED talk given by a clearly beautiful and kind woman, oozing with charisma from her accent to her hefty and valuable material. genius!
1. Hi
2. Ask personal question
3. Me-toos
4. Compliment
5. Ask for opinion
6. Full heartedly present
7. Remember their details
The awkward part is step 2, where she is suggesting you just ask people random questions. Do you like lizards!?!??! What's your favorite color??? Dogs or cats? What's your deepest life goal??! That just seems so childish to me. And awkward that they are just fishing for some kind of connection, it's borderline obsessive. Especially if this conversation is happening at the water cooler or printer. There are special situations where interviewing someone is not awkward, but not every day.
You care too much about "awkward". Every new conversation with a stranger is awkward, embrace it.
me irl half an hour later - What is your name? I forgot....
iwdyv
That was so good and motivational when se said "what starts with Hello and ends up with marriage proposal."😂☺
Exactly haha
It’s a warning
Really it was a good time to watching it
"and every day we meet so many strangers"
I'm in my room all-day
Hey! You could meet a stranger online.. Just like now 🙂
@@gurupriya8726 yes. Internet has made it a cakewalk nowadays. Hi Guru Priya!
@@dt_99 Hello friend!! How are you doing?
@@gurupriya8726 I am doing good. How are you?
@@dt_99 just not as good as i would wish for lol. By the way, idk if this would be too much information, but here you go..i have a similar surname as yours, Gurupriya Takkar is my full name. Haha we got a me too topic here( not exactly me too).
Conversation can make war ,conversation can make peace “
This line are just wow amazing
Wow...never heard that before 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🎉😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂at 😂😂😂😂
I started off with a negative outlook about this tedtalk but as I continued listening I captured the sincerity and truth of her message.
"Don't listen to reply, listen to listen"!
+modern geek me too.. interesting.
the same
“Ask for an opinion”
Me: approaches girl
Also me: *what is your opinion on the Israel-Palestine conflict?*
I don’t see the problem in asking that you gotta be sure
How would be your reaction if the answer was "I don't want to take any side cause I don't have enough information and experience with this conflict to make my views as objective as possible", and when this person wasn't neither from Palestine nor from Israel?
@@Amaroq09 I would be happy! That’s the exact kind of woman I would love to have. I personally have developed my own opinion on what I believe is right, but it took me a hot minute as well.
@@Amaroq09 I don't judge people on what they believe, it's more on why they believe it. Too many people these days are just reciting everything they hear without putting any individual thought into it.
Israel-Palestine Conflict ✖️
Israel Genocide ✔️
We all Introverts need to watch this video
Manjistha Rawat right
"If you're an interested introvert, be an interesting extrovert. If you're an interesting extrovert, be an interested introvert." - Tom Hopkins
I am an introvert
agreed
lol ikr
this is so helpful. Being an introvert, I usually find it very difficult to talk to people. These pointers are a great roadmap to talking to people. Thanks so much
I can't even have a decent conversation with myself!
HAHAHA!! I feel you, man.
It's hard, maybe ask better questions or try mediation to quieten your mind
hahahaha, funny
all of us can have a conversation with ourselves. but when ourselves start the conversation we escape by doing any thing or talking with people , because we did`t have enough bravery to face ourselves!
+liffeyb im liking that .
The thing about being a good listener is that they often disregard the fact that you want to be listened to too..
but that's good too, b/c I didn't want to talk in the first place
I feel you..lol
Obviously I've not listened, but have read your comments. Totally agree with you, too many people want to talk about themselves all the time, just one way traffic.
YES
Story of my life, whenever i got a lot that i want to talk about i kinda feel guilty but...Then i remember that i listen to hours and hours of endless drama of my friends' lives.
"Don't listen to replay, listen to listen". Really good.
I always thought of it as, don’t listen to reply but listen to understand! :)
Anshul Arora that’s the right version. Don’t listen to reply
Lily Tomlin observed that there are two parts to a conversation: talking and waiting to talk.
How I understand don't listen to reply is, do not prepare your next sentence while the other person is talking but pay attention first.
Great note
Malavika Varadan! We have heard this a thousand times, but your talk was a breath of fresh air!
this woman speaks to my soul. the meaning and motivation behind this talk have fueled my social life over the past year and it has totally changed my perspective on other people in the best way. take the time to speak to people, truly hear them. it's so worth it.
Rose Roberts, wellcome real life, enjoy it, have a great time.
Regards, Oscar from Spain.
“don’t multitask” while reading comments.. lol my bad
Nice one!
Superhit
that's very good
She’s such an enthusiastic speaker .
Thank you so much for 170 likes!!!
It’s like she’s having a conversation with us...
Get it?
100th like
Yeah, but.. get to the point. Haha
Came form an ig reel...she is totally amazing the way she tells her experience the way she understands the genuine problems of the person. Through this video I learned many things...like how u can put efforts during a conversation where u are lacking of words... mastering conversation is a great skill
Came from the same reel ✌️
Within 15 minutes she solved all the problems I was having in communication, which I spent time watching many youtube videos to be able to improve but couldn't until after watching this video I realized out many things. Thanks you so much!!!
SHE JUST SUMMARIZED DALE CARNEGIES PRINCIPLES with her added experience IN A SIMPLE AND CHARISMATIC WAY BUT IT WAS very EFFECTIVE.. HERE ARE 7 PRINCIPLES::::::1.)listen to the convo without interupting the convo
2.) be intrested nd talk in terms of their interest
3.) start with a smile :)
4.)never criticize
5.)do sincere appreciation and, always be lavish praise.. dont flatter
6.)talk to increase their self importance
7.)remember their names with correct pronounciation
this girl has a great personality and energy no wonder she works on radio, great she found her place in the world
Here is the summary for someone who is busy.
1:Just say hi, hello. Don't hesitate.
2:Ask open-ended questions like, where are you from?
○ You have got a really nice name. What's the meaning of your name?
○ What do you do?
○ Have you ever been to this place before?
§ How often do you come here?
3:Find the Me-toos
• Try to find what is the common thing between you and the other person.
○ Step into that common ground and start talking.
4:Pay a Unique Compliment
• People will forget what you do, what you say but they will never forget how you made them feel.
• Go out and give someone a nice full compliment.
○ So, I have this belief about a "compliment immunity meter", and it comes from this experience I had when I met this gorgeous supermodel.
§ And I look at her and I say, "Wow! You are beautiful!"
§ And there is no reaction on her face.
§ And I think to myself, "How?"
§ That's when I realized, she is immune to the word "beautiful."
§ She's probably heard it a hundred thousand times today.
• Try and construct a compliment that's unique and genuine, and you don't have to lie.
5:Ask for an Opinion
• All of us have opinions; trust me.
• And we all want them to be heard and everybody wants validation.
○ So go on and ask for an opinion, and that's when you open up a two-way street.
○ That is when the real communication begins,
○ and you will be surprised how much you can pick up about a person just by asking their opinion on something pretty generic.
• Here's a mistake that some people make.
○ They ask your opinion about something really difficult.
○ It feels almost intimidating.
• Somewhere in a room, full of very well-informed people, and someone was to come up to me and say, "So what do you think about the way the oil prices have affected the real estate market in Dubai?" I feel a bit cornered.
○ I feel like I might fail, and this is an examination, and that's the lesson.
○ Nobody needs to fail at a first-time conversation.
• Just ask something simple.
○ Keep it generic.
○ How do you like your coffee? When did you watch your last movie? What did you think of it? And when somebody gives you their opinion: really listen.
○ Don't listen to reply.
○ Listen to listen.
• There's a difference.
6:Be present.
○ Just be wholeheartedly present, just be there.
○ And - oh! - my favourite part: make eye contact.
○ Trust me, eye contact is where all the magic happens.
○ You can feel the conversation.
○ And trust me, when you are looking at someone in the eye, nine out of ten times, they will not dare look away, right? (Laughter) Now, if only I could look into the eyes of 1.6 million people, I would not have to worry about you guys tuning out during the ad breaks.
7:Name, place, animal, thing.
○ Do you remember that game? Remember the little details about a person.
○ Remember their name.
• It's so important.
• It's awful when you meet someone for the 18th time, and you say, "You must be Paul, no Peter.
• Something with the P and it ends with ..." It's terrible.
• remember someone's name and say it back to them.
• You have no idea how important you're making them feel, and that's not the only detail.
• Remember all the other details as well.
• The places they like to go to, the places they've been to, the places they want to go to, their pet's names.
• How have their pet's been feeling lately? The things they like.
• Remember their children's names, that's such a winner.
• Remember their wife's names, their girlfriend's names.
That's my man!
Bro
😢😭 thanks ma man
@@vqw7454 thanks
What a brainstorming effort 🔥👍
Summary of the 7 Ways:
1. The first word flood gates - open the conversation with a simple Hi/Hey/Hello (positivity) - talk to strangers, the worst is they won’t talk to you but they are not talking to you until you try
2. Skip the small talk - ask questions where people want to talk about - really personal questions / where you come from (where does your family life)
3. Find the “Me too” - find something to agree on with the other person, something in common
4. Pay a unique compliment - make them feel special and make them a nice full compliment something which is not general (you are beautiful - instead “I’ve never seen so beautiful blue eyes ever before” or “I love your smile”)
5. Ask for their opinions - ask about the opinion about some generic thing, nothing too specific
6. Be present - focus on what the other person is saying, do not let your thoughts fly away
7. Name, Place, Animal, Thing - Game, Remember the name of a person - as well as Places they like, animals they have and things they like
Superb review
Me: I like how when you smile, your nose smiles and your whole being smiles
Her: I have to go.....
Ampwich 😂😂😂😂😂
Me: wait wait I'll keep you company.
Her: (running away now)
LMAO
😂😂😂😂😂😂
That makes her feel weird about me
I tried this today at the bus stop and started a convo with someone who ive never spoke to
I had to just push myself to say what i wanted to say then I realised how easy it was
That is so amazing, did you have a full conversation with them?? like did it work out well?
what I learned from her, "don't listen to reply, listen to listen". Thank you Mam!
when she said "turn to the person next to you and say hi," I turned and said hi to my empty room
Died laughing on this.
Hahaha
Tommorow is my exam and i am watchings 7 ways to start a conversation wowwwwwww 😃
You can socialize with the teacher to convince them to bump up your grade
Lol
@@SrikanthYadavAppala my exam went great thnx to this video...
@@Davidandrawes7 damnnnn.......
@S G it was fab 😄
Damn tough crowd no one laughed when she said world wide web lololololz
I know right! I was cracking up!
I instantly went to comments when she said it 😂
that is because they don´t know what the world wide web is
plot twist their aint no crowd
Probably crowd mic is not there
After watching this talk, I have looked at myself and discovered something about myself. I am good at making conversations with strangers. But, when it comes to seeking help or asking for an opportunity, I act like mute. All of sudden, my super introverted nature kicks in. I start thinking, how they will react! I guess, now I know how to overcome that. Thanks Malavika ❤
same problem is with me
that too easily
*The Problem Is That The Stranger Is Not Watching This Video!!*
im actually
im actually
Well, me too!
Me 2
I'm
I saw this 4 years ago... and I’m completely different. Can’t believe this is the video that actually helped me
What was the first conversation like
@@im_a_stain7874 Haha, after this video I of course couldn’t remember. I just had more fun, and I wasn’t so typically scared or awkward. Reading body language is also helpful too. Once you step into this, you’ll want to learn more about personalities, being a better listener, etc.
@@juliananavia2498 damn it's like unlocking new abilities in life
"What starts with a hello can end with a marriage proposal"
And THAT is a warning !
I dont think it's a good thing
"What starts with a hello can end with a sword fight or sniper shot"
"can end with a marriage proposal" that means she said No, lol
@@nahulseyon54 hello there
General Kenobi!
A summary for myself
Just start the conversation, it will find the flow
Be present, make eye contact
Remember their name, place, animal...
Give out unique compliments
Reduce the small talk and ask deeper if not genuine questions
Find Mee tooo's, not dissimilarities
Ask for their opinion, about simple questions
This is the best video on conversation skills
Thanks a lot Malavika !
"Where do you come from and where does your family live?"
"I come from here and my family lives here."
The end.
😂
😅
conversation must be built from both sides. If the other side is too reluctant, it is almost the end no matter how much we try
i just loved how energetic and positive she was. she actually made me laugh :)
you breathe oxygen too?! we have SO much in common.
Roberto Vera that’s funny
and you.. BLINK ? Oh mY gOd I'm seriously shocked right now..
Roberto Vera I am gonna use this line. Thank you 😀
That will be my opener!
Lmao😆😆😆..yea me too. Thats pretty unique.
Seven ways :
1. First Flood Gate - Start with smile and 'Hello'
2. Skip Small talk - Try to talk about personal things
3.Find me-toos - Common thing
4. A compliment - People always remember how you make them feel
5. Ask for Opinion or Suggestions
6. Attention - Be present in conversation
7. Name, place, animal - Remember Name their place
With these ways you can have a beautiful conversation with people sitting beside you, behind you or walking along with you❤
I love the analogy that people are like books, filled with stories to tell. I'm always so worried what everyone is thinking about me that sometimes I forget to really be present in conversations. I end up missing out on so many amazing stories and experiences because of my anxieties but this actually makes me want to talk to strangers. Amazing job!
Hi Sophia! Richie from Ghana.
agree!
I feel this way too
😢
Hey there! 😊 I watched Malavika's TEDx talk, and it was truly fantastic! Her insights on building connections through common ground and genuine compliments are so valuable. It's a great reminder to approach conversations with positivity and curiosity. I appreciate you sharing this gem; it's something I'll definitely keep in mind. Thanks a buddy! 🌟
She has such a pleasant way to express her thoughts, such a powerful and positive energy. I loved this talk. I have always loved starting conversations with strangers, these tips are very useful!
"A conversation is an adventure." More like an anxiety-riddled obstacle course.. hence why I am here lol.
My thoughts exactly. Talking to strangers is more like a sweaty, panic rising and possible bad outcome for an introvert specially.
Small talk is like kryptonite. #IntrovertProblems
can I have a convemesation with you?
Sounds very spot on 😂😂🤣
what is she files a rape case for just started talking to her