Eu olho minhas fotos de quando eu tinha 19 anos e penso a mesma coisa. Na época eu morria de vergonha nas fotos, hoje eu vejo fotos de 2019, 2020, etc e nem me importo com a minha antiga aparência. Mesmo assim, ainda tenho dificuldade de registrar momentos que daqui um ano, eu olharia e sentiria uma lembrança boa.
1- You are used to see your REFLECTION 2- You may not resonated with how you are being portraited 3- You hyper-focus on your insecurities ( stomach, chin, etc). 4- You are putting unrealistic expectations on photography and your body 5- You have been taught that some angles are better than others
If we only read the dot points we really would ‘miss the deeper meaning’ and not gain a new understanding with what she teaches here… please people find the time to watch especially if you see yourself I negative light, photos or not…
I'm actually crying right now thinking about all of the times I passed up being in photos because I thought I looked bad. I was so focused on how the future would see me I forgot to live for and enjoy the moment. Thank you for opening my eyes.
My friends put immense pressure on me to take group photos, and I almost always look terrible compared to everyone else. I came into this talk thinking you would be providing tips on how to improve my angles, lol. Instead, you've instilled a new found sense of confidence and evidence based analysis of the hows and whys of feeling not photogenic. Moving forward, I will try my best to ignore trying to look good and just live in the moment and feel good when having my pictures taken. Thank you! Edit: I'm just dropping in to add that I took your advice and wow, it really was what I was lacking! Everyone is impressed with how my pictures are coming out now! I hosted a bridal shower for my sister, and knowing I'd be in the spotlight I just rolled with it and relaxed during pictures, they turned out AMAZING!! I will say that it helps tremendously to be in good company too. Ever since I had a falling out with some not so great friends this past month, I've never felt better, and it definitely shows!
To me, being in group photos remind me that I belong, that I am part of a group of friends and that I was present. It took me a while, but I got there.
I clicked on this thinking it would be some superficial talk on better angles, postures, lighting, etc. What a wake-up call. This is worth a listen. I've never enjoyed generically posing for photos, selfies, etc. and I'm really uninterested in seeing people's carefully curated generic selfies. I think they're boring and only capture a fraction of who we are. I do wish we would all take more candid shots of our friends in interesting and fun moments. I know I enjoyed seeing myself more in those types of photos. Some of the best photos to me are when we don't really know we're being photographed...not to encourage the pervy peeping toms out there, but you know what I mean.
The issue is no one clicks my photos I'm a dude. But I have literally 2photos since 2018 that are the best where I'm completely unaware if there's a camera
I've just turned 57. I'm chronically ill. I got divorced in 2016 and haven't really dolled myself up since. I also put in significant weight. 2 years ago i started losing weight quickly that pointed to illness. Now I'm saggy and wrinkly. But, I'm not dead yet, so I finally bought some cute clothes and makeup. It's fun. I forgot.
Sending you good thoughts. I am 54 and gained 60lbs over the past decade and have been hiding from everyone. Time to get some nice clothes and get back to interacting. We can both do this!
Well done! 👏 🥳 Do it for YOU, as my Nana taught me; ‘It’s none of my business what others think or say about me! I know who I am and I sleep just fine.’! She was a wise woman who blessed this earth for 96 years and my life for 50 of those. 💚🍀
Holy wow! When I first clicked on this video and went straight to comments and started reading that everyone is crying watching this.. I’m like.. crying??! Why crying??? About half way through video, I’m crying as well lol. What a beautiful video. Thank you
I once said to my mom that I find Miranda Kerr to be the most beautiful woman in the world. And she responded, to me you are the most beautiful woman in the world. Touches me to this day.
My late mother stopped me in my tracks as a moody teen I used to hate anyone looking at me funny , I said to my mum what are they looking at ? And my mum said maybe they’re looking at how beautiful you are . I never thought about the former way I viewed myself.
Brilliant! This woman is brilliant at what she does! And I wish I could thank her. I have hated my picture being taken, since I put on weight years ago, simply because I cannot look perfect. After watching this video, I realize that I still look perfect, perfectly me!
Body changes can be hard because our bodies change at a faster rate than our mind does, so sometimes it's like our insides don't match what we see on the outside - but we are just what we are and that is lovely
I’ve been feeling so bad about my appearance lately. I just stumbled across this video and I’m so glad I did. I really believe God wanted me to see this so I can feel better about my self worth…..🙏🏾😇
🔍 Main points: 🌍 We often think we look bad in photos, but it's not about how we actually look. 🤖 Reasons we feel this way: 1. 🔁 Seeing our reverse image is unfamiliar. 2. 🎭 Photos may not align with how we want to be portrayed. 3. 🔍 We hyperfocus on our insecurities. 4. 🤷♀️ We have unrealistic expectations of photography and bodies. 5. 📸 We judge certain angles as "better" than others. 🙌 We should embrace all angles and moments captured, as they're simply different documentations of our amazing lives.
Thank you so much!! I’m married to a photographer, and hate being photographed. I never take selphies or post pics of myself online. Don’t like the way I look. And you have succeeded in changing the way I feel ❤
@@galiaweiss4328 we all understand exactly what you mean even if what you said wasn't exactly what you meant. I sure what you could have meant was I don't like the way I look in photographs... And not that you don't actually like yourself (which is how I read that - I might be wrong) but I THINK THIS WOMAN HAS HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD! I'll bet your photographer partner thinks you are beautiful. I'll bet he/she tell you that you're beautiful when you say "yuck" when you're shown your photo. I'll bet we all feel that way. Could we be skinnier, have a perfect smile/teeth/hair, the perfect little nose, sculpted eyebrows probably but personally I'd love to be happier with what I already have not what will never be. I wish we could see ourselves through the eyes of our loved ones!!
@@acornhomestead3575she said she doesn't like the way she looks. Not the same as "I don't like myself" at all. I don't like the way I look neither and I absolutely love myself.
I cried. Thank you. I will think about everything you said here every time I have to look at my face and body and reckon with the signs of aging. It's not just about photos. It's also about self and body image generally. That's why I cried. I realized I needed a message to try to do battle with the shame and avoidance I experience lately when I look in the mirror, or take a selfie. Thanks, Teri.
My youngest child (first to be married) is getting married next weekend. This talk, that I just found by accident (there are no accidents 😉💖✨), will change my entire weekend. Thank you so much!!
My wife and I are professional photographers with literally 100s of sessions under our belts, and we saw this and paused it before she started talking and tried to guess what she was going to talk about. We assumed it would be another lesson on lenses, angles, lighting etc. So wrong and though 3 of the 5 were things we talk to clients about during our sessions, there were a couple that I had to think about and remember. Nicely done.
This hit me like a silver bullet straight to the heart! I am bigger than most of my friends and since I’ve gained all this weight, I haven’t wanted to be in pictures. I’m ashamed to see myself and compare myself to them. I’m also a lactation nurse and the part about babies looking at you from the bad angle struck a chord. Truth is, I haven’t had much self love because my self image is so low. Thank you for framing it in a different way for me.
A friend and I were recently talking about a similar concept after I took a beautiful candid photo and my friend thought it was awful. I explained why it was so beautiful. Now when we take pictures of each other we talk about why we see the beauty. It's very much changed my perspective.
My mom who has advanced dementia would rip up photos 😢. She HATED photos of herself. I wish she could have seen this. Now her pics are all we have of her incredible life. Love this talk! Thank you for it.
I look absolutely hideous in almost all the photos of me at my daughter’s wedding. I’m so delighted that she and her husband were the brightest and purest light.. All of the pictures of them were stunning , the absolute plan for the day…… but I hate almost all the pictures of me from the day…. However, you are making me reconsider my point.
Those last five minutes in particular were truly beautiful. Thank you for sharing such a profound and lovely way to look at this. I’ve never heard it explained this way before. Thank you 🙏
Teri, your passion for what you do is so moving. You are dismantling society’s unrealistic beauty standards and helping others (not just female-identifying) that we have the power as a society to strengthen our confidence within ourselves. Your words will have a ripple effect. Thank you for pouring your heart into others. ❤
I don’t like my photos, nitpicking on presumed flaws and imperfections. As I got older, I look at my old selfies and photos from each decade I was surprised how beautiful I looked. I began to embrace my perceived flaws and imperfections. I also study my features, angles, lighting, postures to make improvement especially in group photos. I practice by taking selfies. I practice makeup to make over my face. I exercise to be fit and lean. I pay attention to how I dress to show my confidence and best light. I do what I can to enjoy here and now.
Yip , I realised a few years back I was being incredibly selfish refusing to be in photos. When you are looking at people you love you just want to remember the moment with them, you really only care that there were there
I totally cried at the end. I mean, im the type that can cry over a sad dog commercial, but still that was a good lesson for me. I've been a hair stylist for 20 years & we are all so self conscious of ourselves. I wish we could see ourselves like the people that love us do! ❤
This is such an important message! I have fallen victim to feeling the pressure to look a certain way (What we do in this society -- especially to women and girls!). My late husband (foreshadowing) used to say we should have a professional portrait taken of our family. I would always say "I'm working on losing some weight right now -- I'll schedule it when I feel better about how I look." Yes, you guessed it -- he died quite suddenly and unexpectedly at the age of 41. I never did schedule the portrait and that is something I will always regret. I do have a few snapshots of us with our two kids but boy, I wish I had done what he asked -- just for my kids alone. Women, get in the picture. Don't wait.
This tugs at all my mortal heart strings, what a wonderful perspective on photography and portraits especially. The doctor called you need some pictures of yourself!
I love it for real! It really made me emotional, especially remembering your father. I also lost my father and he doesn't have the most "perfect" photos in the world, but it's perfect because they are his special moments, especially the ones I was with. Thanks for teaching me
When you said that about our kids and pets looking up at us and loving us anyway I freaking lost it. Then when you showed the photos of your dad, I sobbed loudly. My mom passed in May, she was only 58, and she had many insecurities, but i treasure the pictures that i have of her. Your message has been received, and i thank you for it. Imma go forth and conquer my life!
You actually changed my view of myself, with which I’ve struggled for over 40 YEARS in just MINUTES. Thank you from the bottom of my double chin and perfectly asymmetrical face. ☺️🙏🏻❤️
I've always been plagued by this. What an insightful and touching video. Got choked up when she got to her dad. My dad passed away 23 years ago (way too young) and I wish I had more photos of him.
TO ALL WOMEN... PSA: I'm a 50 (something) year old woman and looking back at old pics, I think, "I thought I was so chubby back then!" Today, what I wouldn't give to have that body again... (sigh) Then again, at this age, I've never felt so good, confident and comfortable in my skin! I rock my body, soul and life, all the way around! ✌️ You will, one day, too! ❤️
I am so sorry for your loss! Thank you for leaving this comment, because it made me think. I feel exactly like your mom, but now I see the perspective of a child. I think my boys will appreciate having more pictures of their mom and from our happy time together.
Mir liefen am Ende des Videos Tränen der Erleichterung über die Wangen.....Danke für die Erkenntnise💋 After looking this video,tears of relief ran down to my cheeks...thank You for my "new angel to look at me"!❤
Fabulous talk Teri! I've been following you on Insta for awhile and appreciate your perspective - both as a photographer and as a person. When I saw your post about negative feedback from this talk I had to come see what the fuss was about. No surprises here - it is real, relatable and refreshing. I loved it. And needed to hear it. Thanks so much!
At the end of this talk I sat at my desk with tears in my eyes and applauded. I"m going to go back to all those moments in time when I thought I looked so bad and remember where I was, and who I was with, and what I was doing. I'll focus on that from now on. Thank you for this wonderful message.
God led me here. I had a photo taken of me and immediately said I don’t like. So, I’m going to flip and speak the beauty God placed on me and in me. Thank you for posting. Beautiful you and beautiful us.
Teri, thank you for showing me how beautiful I am ❤ I now view myself in photos completely differently. I am not trying to look like anything besides this awesome woman I’ve always been. Thank you so so much ❤
I have watched this talk several times. And this is the first time I actually did the exercise of taking 2 photos, with morning bed-head, no less. And I loved the first shot, hated the second shot. And BAM, what she says about the view kids and pups have of us. Because both are always drawn to me. Little kids smile and laugh, and dogs drag their owners across the street to say Hi. 'My energy, I guess,' I always said. Did tears spontaneously glisten & fall. Yes, they did. Thank You, Teri.
I find myself at a loss to identify the precise moment that sparked this overwhelming wave of emotion, but I am now in tears, unable to stem the flow. It feels as though I am grappling with a profound realization-a cascade of insecurities, disappointments, and cherished memories. I am haunted by the absence of loved ones who are no longer with me, and I am acutely aware that, one day, those who remain may only hold onto my image. My heart aches with the hope that they will remember me fondly, with warmth and affection.
What a brilliant speaker... I was in tears at the end. She's so right .... how we think about ourselves, influences how we view ourselves in images. And when all is said and done, that image represents just a fraction of a second, which we then take out of context as representative of the whole. Definitely food for thought.
How we appear, how our posts might be read or viewed, how people may react when we say how we feel....in a way a lot many instances are like being photographed. The talk was truly inspiring❤
Just want to say thank you for the wake up call !! I will still have a hard time liking photos of me BUT I now know how to look at them differently. I have work to do on me and I will get to a better understanding of me and what's going on in my life.
Beautiful. Thank you. After my last photo shoot for my website, I got the proofs back and IMMEDIATELY hired a personal trainer. I don't regret getting back in shape, but I do regret feeling like I needed to do it because I hated the way I looked in photos.
Beautiful message! Your talk has illuminated my thoughts, modeled how to use compassionate curiosity, and reminded me of what’s really important. Thank-you for sharing your wisdom and experience with the world. ❤️
Teri, your authenticity is inspiring. Thank you so much for this talk. Although there are a few unenlightened comments, I believe that you are making an invaluable contribution toward the devolution of toxic body image culture.
Great talk!!! Yes maybe the the title is disappointing because it wasn't the reality of the video, but the reality itself is so beautiful and has so much positivity that people are missing out on just because of focusing on the title( just like the photos😉).
This was great. Thank you. I'm the person behind the camera at any event because that really is where I love to be. After watching this I'm going to try and come out from behind the camera more in the future.
WOW GIRLFRIEND!! I just turned 50 & agonised over wanting to look good in our family photo because.. you know it.. "I get Bell's Palsy" in any/every picture ever taken of me. I just realised, THANKS TO YOU, that this has become a running family joke & the challenge for a 'good one' & the laughter that follows is that actually what I love most. THANK YOU! You're amazing 👏 ✌️🇦🇺
@Teri Starting at 11:17, it really hit me: "Did all of your accomplishments and achievements disappear?" and on through how your family sees you. Thank you. These were some much-needed words!
Loved this. I noticed that when I look at old pics of myself, that I never put out because I thought I looked horrible in them, fact is, I looked awesome. Fast forward and even with that knowledge, I'm still very judgmental of my self though now I tell myself that in ten or more years, I'll look back and love the pic.
Teri Hofford is an amazing, talented photographer and this is a great presentation on self-image. I'm a professional photographer much more comfortable behind than in front of the lens and I have to get my portrait taken next week. I needed to hear this message :-)
I so wasn’t expecting this to be this good - especially as I’m really into/ knowledgable about photography. Showing her dad brought me to tears. Wonderful.
Sometimes I think I look bad in a photo but after a year I look back at the same photo and I think I looked good in the photo.
Eu olho minhas fotos de quando eu tinha 19 anos e penso a mesma coisa. Na época eu morria de vergonha nas fotos, hoje eu vejo fotos de 2019, 2020, etc e nem me importo com a minha antiga aparência. Mesmo assim, ainda tenho dificuldade de registrar momentos que daqui um ano, eu olharia e sentiria uma lembrança boa.
True!
so true
Same!
That's because you've grown old in the meantime and you like the way you looked then!!
Anybody else cry a little at the end? 😭
Thank you for the wake-up call, Teri.
Cried a lot in the end. Started at the second selfie, lost it at her dad's photos
A happy yes!!
Yes, took me by surprise despite seeing your message first 🙂
Me
@@fionacuskelly730exactly the same
1- You are used to see your REFLECTION
2- You may not resonated with how you are being portraited
3- You hyper-focus on your insecurities ( stomach, chin, etc).
4- You are putting unrealistic expectations on photography and your body
5- You have been taught that some angles are better than others
Ty for makin that organized and more comprehensible.
If we only read the dot points we really would ‘miss the deeper meaning’ and not gain a new understanding with what she teaches here… please people find the time to watch especially if you see yourself I negative light, photos or not…
Thank you!
6- You actually look bad in real life too so it reflects on the photo.
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I'm actually crying right now thinking about all of the times I passed up being in photos because I thought I looked bad. I was so focused on how the future would see me I forgot to live for and enjoy the moment. Thank you for opening my eyes.
My pleasure! It's why I do it 🤩
My friends put immense pressure on me to take group photos, and I almost always look terrible compared to everyone else. I came into this talk thinking you would be providing tips on how to improve my angles, lol. Instead, you've instilled a new found sense of confidence and evidence based analysis of the hows and whys of feeling not photogenic. Moving forward, I will try my best to ignore trying to look good and just live in the moment and feel good when having my pictures taken. Thank you!
Edit: I'm just dropping in to add that I took your advice and wow, it really was what I was lacking! Everyone is impressed with how my pictures are coming out now! I hosted a bridal shower for my sister, and knowing I'd be in the spotlight I just rolled with it and relaxed during pictures, they turned out AMAZING!! I will say that it helps tremendously to be in good company too. Ever since I had a falling out with some not so great friends this past month, I've never felt better, and it definitely shows!
Yaaaaassss. This is why I do this!!
@@TeriHoffordoh that's youu! ❤
So well said!
@@nextfitness22 thank you!
To me, being in group photos remind me that I belong, that I am part of a group of friends and that I was present. It took me a while, but I got there.
I clicked on this thinking it would be some superficial talk on better angles, postures, lighting, etc. What a wake-up call. This is worth a listen. I've never enjoyed generically posing for photos, selfies, etc. and I'm really uninterested in seeing people's carefully curated generic selfies. I think they're boring and only capture a fraction of who we are. I do wish we would all take more candid shots of our friends in interesting and fun moments. I know I enjoyed seeing myself more in those types of photos. Some of the best photos to me are when we don't really know we're being photographed...not to encourage the pervy peeping toms out there, but you know what I mean.
thank you so much!
Same!!
The issue is no one clicks my photos I'm a dude.
But I have literally 2photos since 2018 that are the best where I'm completely unaware if there's a camera
Really?! It was exactly what I thought it would be.
Me too!
I've just turned 57. I'm chronically ill. I got divorced in 2016 and haven't really dolled myself up since. I also put in significant weight. 2 years ago i started losing weight quickly that pointed to illness. Now I'm saggy and wrinkly. But, I'm not dead yet, so I finally bought some cute clothes and makeup. It's fun. I forgot.
I'm happy to hear that you're learning to have fun again
Sending you good thoughts. I am 54 and gained 60lbs over the past decade and have been hiding from everyone. Time to get some nice clothes and get back to interacting. We can both do this!
Well done! 👏 🥳 Do it for YOU, as my Nana taught me; ‘It’s none of my business what others think or say about me! I know who I am and I sleep just fine.’! She was a wise woman who blessed this earth for 96 years and my life for 50 of those. 💚🍀
@@Sorchia56 "Do it for you" is a good one to remember
Good for you!!!!
Holy wow! When I first clicked on this video and went straight to comments and started reading that everyone is crying watching this.. I’m like.. crying??! Why crying??? About half way through video, I’m crying as well lol. What a beautiful video. Thank you
I was, too. This was the best suggested video I’ve had in a long time. I had no idea how much I needed to watch this. ❤🥹
Me too 😢
Same. She got me around 11 min in.
What a precious beautiful girl..BEST SPEAKER I HAVE HEARD IN A VERY LONG TIME….why aren’t you on tv???? Thankyou
Thank you so much! Working towards it ❤❤❤
@@TeriHofford❤
I once said to my mom that I find Miranda Kerr to be the most beautiful woman in the world. And she responded, to me you are the most beautiful woman in the world. Touches me to this day.
Lovely Mum x
My late mother stopped me in my tracks as a moody teen I used to hate anyone looking at me funny , I said to my mum what are they looking at ? And my mum said maybe they’re looking at how beautiful you are . I never thought about the former way I viewed myself.
That is beautiful!❤
I love that so much.
And can we all just start to appreciate how beautiful regular people really are?
so sweet:)))
That is so sweet! Mum's like these help little girls grow into confident women. That is so needed now a days.
Brilliant! This woman is brilliant at what she does! And I wish I could thank her. I have hated my picture being taken, since I put on weight years ago, simply because I cannot look perfect. After watching this video, I realize that I still look perfect, perfectly me!
🙌 Yes!! ❤
Body changes can be hard because our bodies change at a faster rate than our mind does, so sometimes it's like our insides don't match what we see on the outside - but we are just what we are and that is lovely
yes! im crying!
I’ve been feeling so bad about my appearance lately. I just stumbled across this video and I’m so glad I did. I really believe God wanted me to see this so I can feel better about my self worth…..🙏🏾😇
🔍 Main points:
🌍 We often think we look bad in photos, but it's not about how we actually look.
🤖 Reasons we feel this way:
1. 🔁 Seeing our reverse image is unfamiliar.
2. 🎭 Photos may not align with how we want to be portrayed.
3. 🔍 We hyperfocus on our insecurities.
4. 🤷♀️ We have unrealistic expectations of photography and bodies.
5. 📸 We judge certain angles as "better" than others.
🙌 We should embrace all angles and moments captured, as they're simply different documentations of our amazing lives.
Love this summary ❤❤❤
Thank you 😊
Beautiful. Thank you 🥰
6. Don't use filters! No explanation needed, I hope.
I have a lop sided smile that looks awful in a photo. So I don't smile, which makes me look like a mean old woman!
Thank you so much!! I’m married to a photographer, and hate being photographed. I never take selphies or post pics of myself online. Don’t like the way I look. And you have succeeded in changing the way I feel ❤
@@galiaweiss4328 we all understand exactly what you mean even if what you said wasn't exactly what you meant. I sure what you could have meant was I don't like the way I look in photographs... And not that you don't actually like yourself (which is how I read that - I might be wrong) but I THINK THIS WOMAN HAS HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD! I'll bet your photographer partner thinks you are beautiful. I'll bet he/she tell you that you're beautiful when you say "yuck" when you're shown your photo. I'll bet we all feel that way.
Could we be skinnier, have a perfect smile/teeth/hair, the perfect little nose, sculpted eyebrows probably but personally I'd love to be happier with what I already have not what will never be. I wish we could see ourselves through the eyes of our loved ones!!
@@acornhomestead3575she said she doesn't like the way she looks. Not the same as "I don't like myself" at all. I don't like the way I look neither and I absolutely love myself.
don't pheel bad when taking selphies
This cool, but the way you spelled selfies 😆
This makes me SO happy! You so deserve to be photographed and your partner will love to show you your magic ✨
I cried. Thank you. I will think about everything you said here every time I have to look at my face and body and reckon with the signs of aging. It's not just about photos. It's also about self and body image generally. That's why I cried. I realized I needed a message to try to do battle with the shame and avoidance I experience lately when I look in the mirror, or take a selfie. Thanks, Teri.
My pleasure
Well my insecurity as a dude is my 5'7 height . Misaligned Front upper teeth (I can't smile in photos)
My glasses
My skinny body frame
Ditto to it all, made me cry too. I’m having a hard time with my new aging looks.
I love your eyes 👁 👁
@@TeriHoffordtysm ❤
Well wow. Best Ted Talk I have seen in a long time. She was amazing and absolutely brilliant.
LOVE THIS MESSSGE ❤️❤️❤️! Just take the damn photo and remember the good times had with friends and family.
My youngest child (first to be married) is getting married next weekend. This talk, that I just found by accident (there are no accidents 😉💖✨), will change my entire weekend. Thank you so much!!
My wife and I are professional photographers with literally 100s of sessions under our belts, and we saw this and paused it before she started talking and tried to guess what she was going to talk about. We assumed it would be another lesson on lenses, angles, lighting etc. So wrong and though 3 of the 5 were things we talk to clients about during our sessions, there were a couple that I had to think about and remember.
Nicely done.
This hit me like a silver bullet straight to the heart! I am bigger than most of my friends and since I’ve gained all this weight, I haven’t wanted to be in pictures. I’m ashamed to see myself and compare myself to them. I’m also a lactation nurse and the part about babies looking at you from the bad angle struck a chord. Truth is, I haven’t had much self love because my self image is so low. Thank you for framing it in a different way for me.
You are welcome! You deserve love 💕 keep choosing love for yourself daily 😘 especially when it's the hardest
A friend and I were recently talking about a similar concept after I took a beautiful candid photo and my friend thought it was awful. I explained why it was so beautiful. Now when we take pictures of each other we talk about why we see the beauty. It's very much changed my perspective.
that's awesome! :D
My mom who has advanced dementia would rip up photos 😢. She HATED photos of herself. I wish she could have seen this. Now her pics are all we have of her incredible life. Love this talk! Thank you for it.
I’m going to listen to this anytime I need a good reminder that I am worthy. Thank you Teri for this. ❤
my pleasure
How you look in a photo shouldn’t determine your worth. 😂. Work on the inside and the outside will fall into place in a photo
11:54 I was not prepared for how true this statement is. Made me emotional
Thank you for watching!
@@TeriHofford thank you for speaking!
Wow. Heart awakening and eye opening.❤
What a powerful message ! I cried little at the end, who else did?
I look absolutely hideous in almost all the photos of me at my daughter’s wedding.
I’m so delighted that she and her husband were the brightest and purest light.. All of the pictures of them were stunning , the absolute plan for the day…… but I hate almost all the pictures of me from the day…. However, you are making me reconsider my point.
Oh yes. This video was a gift.
Me too
This was amazing, such a profound message in less than 13:42 minutes 🤩👏🏻🥰
I wish everyone would listen to this TED talk
Those last five minutes in particular were truly beautiful. Thank you for sharing such a profound and lovely way to look at this. I’ve never heard it explained this way before. Thank you 🙏
You are so welcome!!
Teri, your passion for what you do is so moving. You are dismantling society’s unrealistic beauty standards and helping others (not just female-identifying) that we have the power as a society to strengthen our confidence within ourselves. Your words will have a ripple effect. Thank you for pouring your heart into others. ❤
Thank you so much!!
I don’t like my photos, nitpicking on presumed flaws and imperfections. As I got older, I look at my old selfies and photos from each decade I was surprised how beautiful I looked. I began to embrace my perceived flaws and imperfections. I also study my features, angles, lighting, postures to make improvement especially in group photos. I practice by taking selfies. I practice makeup to make over my face. I exercise to be fit and lean. I pay attention to how I dress to show my confidence and best light. I do what I can to enjoy here and now.
This is my favorite TED talk. What a beautiful soul!
thank you so much!
As a mother who has struggled with photos of herself since having kids, the last part got me. Thank you for this talk!
Yip , I realised a few years back I was being incredibly selfish refusing to be in photos. When you are looking at people you love you just want to remember the moment with them, you really only care that there were there
Thank you. I hated photos of me. I did what you suggested and now feel happier. Thank you again, you are awesome ❤
That's fantastic!! ❤❤❤
I totally cried at the end. I mean, im the type that can cry over a sad dog commercial, but still that was a good lesson for me. I've been a hair stylist for 20 years & we are all so self conscious of ourselves. I wish we could see ourselves like the people that love us do! ❤
This is such an important message! I have fallen victim to feeling the pressure to look a certain way (What we do in this society -- especially to women and girls!). My late husband (foreshadowing) used to say we should have a professional portrait taken of our family. I would always say "I'm working on losing some weight right now -- I'll schedule it when I feel better about how I look." Yes, you guessed it -- he died quite suddenly and unexpectedly at the age of 41. I never did schedule the portrait and that is something I will always regret. I do have a few snapshots of us with our two kids but boy, I wish I had done what he asked -- just for my kids alone. Women, get in the picture. Don't wait.
I'm so sorry for your loss ❤❤❤
Teri is just so amazing! I LOVED her speech! The ending made me tear up!
This tugs at all my mortal heart strings, what a wonderful perspective on photography and portraits especially. The doctor called you need some pictures of yourself!
Thank you for reminding us to see ourselves with more kindness. ❤
My pleasure ❤❤❤
I have a big birthday coming up and I really needed to hear this. Be kind to yourselves.
Hope your birthday is/was delightful and full of beautiful memories!!
I love it for real! It really made me emotional, especially remembering your father. I also lost my father and he doesn't have the most "perfect" photos in the world, but it's perfect because they are his special moments, especially the ones I was with. Thanks for teaching me
My pleasure and I am sorry for your loss
When you said that about our kids and pets looking up at us and loving us anyway I freaking lost it. Then when you showed the photos of your dad, I sobbed loudly. My mom passed in May, she was only 58, and she had many insecurities, but i treasure the pictures that i have of her. Your message has been received, and i thank you for it. Imma go forth and conquer my life!
I'm sorry for your loss - This is why I do it!❤❤❤
I have a 7 months old baby and this video made me cry. So beautiful. Thank you 🙌♥️✨
You are so welcome ❤❤ that beautiful baby will be grateful you are in photos ❤
You actually changed my view of myself, with which I’ve struggled for over 40 YEARS in just MINUTES. Thank you from the bottom of my double chin and perfectly asymmetrical face. ☺️🙏🏻❤️
I really needed this, it’s not just about photos… it’s reality check
Interesting😍🤩 i wish we could have more people like her. These days, people hide their true selves behind the beautiful photos they take.
Women are different shapes and sizes and that’s what’s perfect! Exceptional presentation with a loving ending!
I've always been plagued by this. What an insightful and touching video. Got choked up when she got to her dad. My dad passed away 23 years ago (way too young) and I wish I had more photos of him.
TO ALL WOMEN...
PSA: I'm a 50 (something) year old woman and looking back at old pics, I think, "I thought I was so chubby back then!"
Today, what I wouldn't give to have that body again...
(sigh)
Then again, at this age, I've never felt so good, confident and comfortable in my skin! I rock my body, soul and life, all the way around! ✌️ You will, one day, too! ❤️
For now I won’t be afraid of cameras no matter what for my self and my kids! Thank you for much ❤
They will be so grateful!❤
Was not expecting to cry. What a beautiful message.
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This woman is so inspiring. What a great talk!
Im reveling in that low angle right now…this was so fantastic, Terri! Thank You!!
a video I never KNEW I NEEDED to watch. Beautifully said!
Thanks so much!!
@@TeriHofford thank YOU Teri! 🥰🫶🏽
Lady, ya made me cry. Thank you 🙏🏽✨❤️ you and this message are just beautiful.
Thank you so much 😘😘😘
Realising that our loved ones see us as picture 2 most of the time was a real brain popper. Thank youuu for this lesson!!
You are very welcome!!
that ending made me cry. Wonderful woman.
Best TED talk ever. ❤👏🇬🇧
As a short person looking up often, I want to confirm: you are beautiful 😊
4'11" in the house🙋♀️
Short is in. ❤🎉
This is a delightful comment ❤❤❤❤
You are amazing! Thank you for being you and helping fill the world with more love and beauty.
This is beautiful. Thank you. I spent years avoiding photos. Now I say, yep, that is how i look.
i lost my mum 2 years ago and i have barely any photos of her because she hated having her picture taken
Ah. I take pictures with my kids, even though I hate taking photos. I am so so sorry.
I'm so sorry for your loss and the loss of those memories ❤
I am so sorry for your loss!
Thank you for leaving this comment, because it made me think. I feel exactly like your mom, but now I see the perspective of a child. I think my boys will appreciate having more pictures of their mom and from our happy time together.
I'm sorry for your loss❤
I'm that mom too, but trying to do better in the future to leave something for my daughters.
Mir liefen am Ende des Videos Tränen der Erleichterung über die Wangen.....Danke für die Erkenntnise💋
After looking this video,tears of relief ran down to my cheeks...thank You for my "new angel to look at me"!❤
Fabulous talk Teri! I've been following you on Insta for awhile and appreciate your perspective - both as a photographer and as a person. When I saw your post about negative feedback from this talk I had to come see what the fuss was about. No surprises here - it is real, relatable and refreshing. I loved it. And needed to hear it. Thanks so much!
At the end of this talk I sat at my desk with tears in my eyes and applauded. I"m going to go back to all those moments in time when I thought I looked so bad and remember where I was, and who I was with, and what I was doing. I'll focus on that from now on. Thank you for this wonderful message.
God led me here. I had a photo taken of me and immediately said I don’t like. So, I’m going to flip and speak the beauty God placed on me and in me. Thank you for posting. Beautiful you and beautiful us.
Yessss!! I'm glad this found you when you needed it❤❤❤
"You are worth being photographed." What a powerful statement! That was an emotional statement.💕💕
Brilliant angle of self confidence. Going on my best TEDx Talks playlist. X
Thank you so much and I am honoured
Thank you so much for reminding us that we are worthy no matter how we look.
Teri, thank you for showing me how beautiful I am ❤ I now view myself in photos completely differently. I am not trying to look like anything besides this awesome woman I’ve always been. Thank you so so much ❤
My pleasure my friend ❤❤❤
I have watched this talk several times. And this is the first time I actually did the exercise of taking 2 photos, with morning bed-head, no less. And I loved the first shot, hated the second shot. And BAM, what she says about the view kids and pups have of us. Because both are always drawn to me. Little kids smile and laugh, and dogs drag their owners across the street to say Hi. 'My energy, I guess,' I always said. Did tears spontaneously glisten & fall. Yes, they did. Thank You, Teri.
Just brilliant Ma'am.... May I tell you that, you have accomplished a great mission !!!
I find myself at a loss to identify the precise moment that sparked this overwhelming wave of emotion, but I am now in tears, unable to stem the flow.
It feels as though I am grappling with a profound realization-a cascade of insecurities, disappointments, and cherished memories. I am haunted by the absence of loved ones who are no longer with me, and I am acutely aware that, one day, those who remain may only hold onto my image. My heart aches with the hope that they will remember me fondly, with warmth and affection.
Beautiful lady. Beautiful talk. A lesson worth hearing and remembering.
Thank you so much ❤❤❤
What a brilliant speaker... I was in tears at the end. She's so right .... how we think about ourselves, influences how we view ourselves in images. And when all is said and done, that image represents just a fraction of a second, which we then take out of context as representative of the whole. Definitely food for thought.
Very inspiring and so true. I believe everyone is beautiful in their own unique way, especially when they are beautiful inside.
How we appear, how our posts might be read or viewed, how people may react when we say how we feel....in a way a lot many instances are like being photographed.
The talk was truly inspiring❤
Just want to say thank you for the wake up call !! I will still have a hard time liking photos of me BUT I now know how to look at them differently. I have work to do on me and I will get to a better understanding of me and what's going on in my life.
I hope you let yourself be seen now ❤❤❤
Beautiful. Thank you. After my last photo shoot for my website, I got the proofs back and IMMEDIATELY hired a personal trainer. I don't regret getting back in shape, but I do regret feeling like I needed to do it because I hated the way I looked in photos.
LOVED this talk! It’s a state of mind. Beautifully articulated and perspective shifting. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏼
You are so incredible Teri! I LOVE HEARING YOU SPEAK. You make the world such a better place and help us have better minds.
Beautiful message! Your talk has illuminated my thoughts, modeled how to use compassionate curiosity, and reminded me of what’s really important. Thank-you for sharing your wisdom and experience with the world. ❤️
Teri, your authenticity is inspiring. Thank you so much for this talk. Although there are a few unenlightened comments, I believe that you are making an invaluable contribution toward the devolution of toxic body image culture.
Great talk!!! Yes maybe the the title is disappointing because it wasn't the reality of the video, but the reality itself is so beautiful and has so much positivity that people are missing out on just because of focusing on the title( just like the photos😉).
This was great. Thank you. I'm the person behind the camera at any event because that really is where I love to be. After watching this I'm going to try and come out from behind the camera more in the future.
Yes let yourself be seeeeen! You deserve it!?
WOW GIRLFRIEND!! I just turned 50 & agonised over wanting to look good in our family photo because.. you know it.. "I get Bell's Palsy" in any/every picture ever taken of me. I just realised, THANKS TO YOU, that this has become a running family joke & the challenge for a 'good one' & the laughter that follows is that actually what I love most. THANK YOU! You're amazing 👏 ✌️🇦🇺
My pleasure ❤❤❤
@Teri Starting at 11:17, it really hit me: "Did all of your accomplishments and achievements disappear?" and on through how your family sees you. Thank you. These were some much-needed words!
So proud of you Teri, you continue to do such incredible things!! This brought a tear to my eye. Much needed reminder ❤
Thank you for setting me free, you are so beautiful and talented. Much love 🙏🏼🩷🩷
Gosh she made me cry when she shared about her dad :(
Loved this. I noticed that when I look at old pics of myself, that I never put out because I thought I looked horrible in them, fact is, I looked awesome. Fast forward and even with that knowledge, I'm still very judgmental of my self though now I tell myself that in ten or more years, I'll look back and love the pic.
Yes exaaaactly!!
Thank you! I was brought to tears, with the reference to how our loved ones see us the most. ❤ Thank you for that.
You are amazing, you have no idea how much this message impacts people, thank you.
This made me cry, what a beautiful insight, sending to all my children 😊
I have been watching Ted talks for years and this has to be in my favourite top 2 (this being 1!) you are all amazing and this woman is exquisite!
Wow! Thank you so much!! I appreciate it!
This was really really good! Great message and the delivery was natural and engaging. Loved it!
Wonderful talk! Thank you!
I was a bit surprised not to hear the #1 thing that gets me: the fake smile! Or being all stiff and "posing" awkwardly
there were more than 5 reasons, but I had to to cut em short for the time limit lolol! Thank you for watching and your lovely comment
The photography of Teri is wildly beautiful. And this was certainly a message I needed.
Teri Hofford is an amazing, talented photographer and this is a great presentation on self-image. I'm a professional photographer much more comfortable behind than in front of the lens and I have to get my portrait taken next week. I needed to hear this message :-)
I so wasn’t expecting this to be this good - especially as I’m really into/ knowledgable about photography. Showing her dad brought me to tears. Wonderful.
That made me tear up. Nicely done.