I'm an extreme introvert (Fi-Ni) who also has social anxiety. For my first six months of college I just went all-out with the "blast-play" thing, because I figured, "if I just stick myself into enough experiences and social situations I'll inevitably become more confident and purposeful". Big mistake, it backfired and I was left feeling utterly drained and demoralized. So after that fiasco, now for the first time in my life I'm finally just letting myself free-coast, and I'm not gonna let anyone pressure me into pressuring myself, haha.
To maximize your external function's potential you need to charge up your dominant primary function. As an introvert spend lots of time daily on things that fuel your introverted feeling. Write about your feelings. Listen to music privately. Anything that personally fuels you inside. Do this every day and you will find you have much more to offer others socially.
I'm in the same boat as you, (Ni-Fi) except I started working in a factory immediately after highschool because my social anxiety couldn't take anymore school so college wasn't an option. I've burnt myself out several times in the past year trying to be in "extroverted mode" for long periods of time. 😔
As a Consume Sleep, this makes me wonder- do Play people have the opposite reality? They can’t reflect on themselves because it’s draining, so they really do have to go out and play with the tribe all day before they have the energy to try and be more introverted?
same here! ive found that if I prioritize my fi and what I want to do and really let myself know that my fi matters to me more in the moment than what others think of me i am able to break free from that social anxiety and the anxiety on doing things almost completely
I'm a 52-year old female and I TOTALLY AGREE with the Carl Jung quote. I literally feel like I am just getting started with what I am really meant to be doing, well maybe about 5 years ago, so mid-40s I figured it out (mostly) and really started focusing on it. I actually started focusing on it in my mid-to-late-thirties but was unable to do much towards my goal due to financial constraints. It's only as I'm older that I've had the resources (somewhat) to really start getting some traction. It's truly amazing just how much life can blossom in mid-life. I love it!
“Give yourself permission to have your decade of wandering in the wilderness” Okay so the question becomes, how to wander? By setting goals, picking people you look up to and use them as duct-tape templates for how to live, invest in the future version of you that has stuff sorted out, and just play the long game, where the meaning and the rewarding contribution happens in a couple of decades from now. (23 y.o.) Sounds good enough to get started! 👍🏼
After 3 layoffs in a row, I decided to start over in my mid 40's with my own business. It's taking forever, and I have to remind myself that it took me years to get to where I was in the corporate world, so I can't expect to have that kind of success in something new after just a few years. But at least now, I'm doing something that is perfect for me, vs before when I was doing something the tribe valued.
Same here. I'm early 40s and see that I'm starting my life, feeling I'm just now a proper 21 year old. But it is also true that I do not regret that research/learning phase: I could have stayed in med school but would come to regret that choice at this age. I needed all this time to consider other paths.
LOL... 39 yr old INTJ here. The "51% not a shithead" line is perfect. I'm about to turn 40, and it's only recently that I've felt like I can actually do something worthwhile without blowing the whole thing to smithereens with some sort of fuck up that I didn't see coming. Working on 52%.
Wow. Great advice. I definitely think the pressure to be successful at young age has gotten worse as more teens/20’s make it big on social media. If I recall correctly, there didn’t seem to be this many young performers/successes before the 1980’s.
Holy shit. I'm 22 and I thought I was shit for being nowhere/only starting out. Turns out, I still have a few more years. Good, I was starting to get stressed. Btw, I'm pretty sure I have play as a demon. What do?
I have play as a savior and I was in the same boat when I was 22 two years ago. Now at 24 I'm kind of starting to figure out ways to get my shit together. I would say don't be afraid to "throw shit at the wall" and fail, because that will make you wiser and you'll learn even more strategies along the way. Good luck!
In the meantime, how do I (Blast either third or last) deal with people Blast or Play first who are trying to kickstart me but are actually just wearing me out? Like my boss.
So, I think I'm an INTP Sleep-Consume or Consume-Sleep, I've no real troubles expanding energy, I don't give up if it doesn't work for 30 min (well, not like school/college work was complicated enough for nothing to work to be a problem for me), it's more that I get lost in the possibilities/get distracted. Like I will explore option 1, 2 and 3 of the work at the same time , take them "far enough" before making my choice. Ie, overthinking it. So yeah, not too little energy, too much energy is the problem, as I don't really give up on that stuff if I say I will do it. I agree with the part at 1:30, tho. I guess I'm a C/S/B(P) Ti/Ne.
I'm a Ni/Se INFJ. I'm amazed by people who "know" who they are before 40. Reminds me of a quote by F. Scott Fitzgerald (via Good Reads via Google "wait. who the frick said that" search): "Youth is a dream, a form of chemical madness." 40 years of observing, *doing* , & scrutiny... And, I must say: Yep > Nope. (Edit: I just realized, after re-reading my comment, that it reads like an AA &/or NA meeting intro 😂)
That sounds like wasting those precious 10 years. Like, "oh it's hard, I'll give myself more time", then you're dead. This approach scares me because what if I didn't need to give myself 10 years, and it was all just wasted basically?
Thing is, you are going to be 10 years older in 10 years anyway, whether you start making changes or not. Better to start and to have made some progress in 10 years than to remain stuck and still be in the same position (or worse) in a decade's time. If you find it hard to start things by nature, saying, 'Oh that's too long to give myself!' can also be a form of resistance to getting started, upside-down as that sounds. I'm speaking from experience...
Blast isn't always good, i just spend a good hour trying to blast solve a problem that i was using the wrong tools for (trying to do js stuff with php), and i was looking for information online with my blast, so i was googleing things, clicking on the first website and just copying the code and getting more and more angry that nothing worked. So if you needed more evidence it's about balancing the different animals, here it is :) oh yea, i'm reading a book currently where i'm pretty sure all the stuff i'm trying to do (blast) has best practice examples, so i should really just read that instead of trying to blast my way through it all.
How does what Dave says before 1:40 connect to what he says after 1:40? I'm missing the connection between how this advise is targeted to help really introverted types with low blast. Is the advise to not force yourself to use blast as much, take your time, and don't feel obligated to force yourself to get stuff started and finished really fast because it'll just end up draining you?
I’m an ENFP with CS/P(B). Ne is my strongest function, as my lead Savior function, but both of my Savior animals have Fi, while only one of them has Ne.
Using the information in your videos*, I have found it extremely difficult to narrow my type down. I have a channel, give it a watch if you get the time to maybe help me out.
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I turned 38 and i finally feel i have it together. All functions are on and I have blind spot awareness.
Wow...
You probably dont
@@jerenmyers9608 definitely don't I agree. Peacocking
@@samwilcox10 jumping to conclusions whilst barely knowing even the basic gist of someone’s situation. genius move.
@@user-el6my6vi7p it was a joke fam. Talk about jumping to conclusions lol
I'm an extreme introvert (Fi-Ni) who also has social anxiety. For my first six months of college I just went all-out with the "blast-play" thing, because I figured, "if I just stick myself into enough experiences and social situations I'll inevitably become more confident and purposeful". Big mistake, it backfired and I was left feeling utterly drained and demoralized.
So after that fiasco, now for the first time in my life I'm finally just letting myself free-coast, and I'm not gonna let anyone pressure me into pressuring myself, haha.
To maximize your external function's potential you need to charge up your dominant primary function. As an introvert spend lots of time daily on things that fuel your introverted feeling. Write about your feelings. Listen to music privately. Anything that personally fuels you inside. Do this every day and you will find you have much more to offer others socially.
I'm in the same boat as you, (Ni-Fi) except I started working in a factory immediately after highschool because my social anxiety couldn't take anymore school so college wasn't an option. I've burnt myself out several times in the past year trying to be in "extroverted mode" for long periods of time. 😔
As a Consume Sleep, this makes me wonder- do Play people have the opposite reality? They can’t reflect on themselves because it’s draining, so they really do have to go out and play with the tribe all day before they have the energy to try and be more introverted?
same here! ive found that if I prioritize my fi and what I want to do and really let myself know that my fi matters to me more in the moment than what others think of me i am able to break free from that social anxiety and the anxiety on doing things almost completely
I'm not 40 and yes... the Carl Jung is so on point.. it's comical.
I'm a 52-year old female and I TOTALLY AGREE with the Carl Jung quote. I literally feel like I am just getting started with what I am really meant to be doing, well maybe about 5 years ago, so mid-40s I figured it out (mostly) and really started focusing on it. I actually started focusing on it in my mid-to-late-thirties but was unable to do much towards my goal due to financial constraints. It's only as I'm older that I've had the resources (somewhat) to really start getting some traction. It's truly amazing just how much life can blossom in mid-life. I love it!
im constantly getting wiser but tired making it feel useless
Same
“Give yourself permission to have your decade of wandering in the wilderness”
Okay so the question becomes, how to wander? By setting goals, picking people you look up to and use them as duct-tape templates for how to live, invest in the future version of you that has stuff sorted out, and just play the long game, where the meaning and the rewarding contribution happens in a couple of decades from now. (23 y.o.)
Sounds good enough to get started! 👍🏼
Sounds like a good plan to me.
What about 4 decades
After 3 layoffs in a row, I decided to start over in my mid 40's with my own business. It's taking forever, and I have to remind myself that it took me years to get to where I was in the corporate world, so I can't expect to have that kind of success in something new after just a few years. But at least now, I'm doing something that is perfect for me, vs before when I was doing something the tribe valued.
Same here. I'm early 40s and see that I'm starting my life, feeling I'm just now a proper 21 year old. But it is also true that I do not regret that research/learning phase: I could have stayed in med school but would come to regret that choice at this age. I needed all this time to consider other paths.
LOL... 39 yr old INTJ here. The "51% not a shithead" line is perfect. I'm about to turn 40, and it's only recently that I've felt like I can actually do something worthwhile without blowing the whole thing to smithereens with some sort of fuck up that I didn't see coming. Working on 52%.
Wow. Great advice. I definitely think the pressure to be successful at young age has gotten worse as more teens/20’s make it big on social media. If I recall correctly, there didn’t seem to be this many young performers/successes before the 1980’s.
For me it was around 29-30 that the blast chapter began in my life. Up until that point it was sleep mode (Ni Fi)
Thank you so much for this video. I really needed this.
Develop your two demon functions and you will have a great life!
Holy shit. I'm 22 and I thought I was shit for being nowhere/only starting out. Turns out, I still have a few more years. Good, I was starting to get stressed.
Btw, I'm pretty sure I have play as a demon. What do?
I have play as a savior and I was in the same boat when I was 22 two years ago. Now at 24 I'm kind of starting to figure out ways to get my shit together. I would say don't be afraid to "throw shit at the wall" and fail, because that will make you wiser and you'll learn even more strategies along the way. Good luck!
that infographic made me feel good
This is such a good video
In the meantime, how do I (Blast either third or last) deal with people Blast or Play first who are trying to kickstart me but are actually just wearing me out? Like my boss.
Have you found anything?
So, I think I'm an INTP Sleep-Consume or Consume-Sleep, I've no real troubles expanding energy, I don't give up if it doesn't work for 30 min (well, not like school/college work was complicated enough for nothing to work to be a problem for me), it's more that I get lost in the possibilities/get distracted.
Like I will explore option 1, 2 and 3 of the work at the same time , take them "far enough" before making my choice. Ie, overthinking it.
So yeah, not too little energy, too much energy is the problem, as I don't really give up on that stuff if I say I will do it. I agree with the part at 1:30, tho.
I guess I'm a C/S/B(P) Ti/Ne.
I'm a Ni/Se INFJ.
I'm amazed by people who "know" who they are before 40.
Reminds me of a quote by F. Scott Fitzgerald (via Good Reads via Google "wait. who the frick said that" search):
"Youth is a dream, a form of chemical madness."
40 years of observing, *doing* , & scrutiny...
And, I must say:
Yep > Nope.
(Edit: I just realized, after re-reading my comment, that it reads like an AA &/or NA meeting intro 😂)
So how is this different than being ENFJ?
Isn't it impossible to be ni se?
I thought you needed 1 savior observer and 1 savior decider
I don’t even know what I’m doing twelve hours from now and you’re asking me to plan ten years in advance...hmmm
School work band not easy and I feel overwhelmed thankfully I work alone but I'm not used to being involved in this much stuff.
That sounds like wasting those precious 10 years. Like, "oh it's hard, I'll give myself more time", then you're dead.
This approach scares me because what if I didn't need to give myself 10 years, and it was all just wasted basically?
agree with you, dont really think this is good advice
Thing is, you are going to be 10 years older in 10 years anyway, whether you start making changes or not. Better to start and to have made some progress in 10 years than to remain stuck and still be in the same position (or worse) in a decade's time. If you find it hard to start things by nature, saying, 'Oh that's too long to give myself!' can also be a form of resistance to getting started, upside-down as that sounds. I'm speaking from experience...
@@Equinox1.5 I know this rings true and I hate it because it’s so right 😣 -Blast last
This is good for Blast 3rd people as I perceive myself to be
Thanks, coach (Dave)!
(ISTP)
Wait so INTP has Si+Fe blast? Weirdest combo ever. Is that how INTPs teach, by reliying on factual information and values/being nice?
Malcolm X, MLK, Jesus, all nobodys until their 30s.
Well... Obviously, blast isn't my inferior function...lol. Probably: blast>consume, Lmao. Have a nice day.☮🧡🎶
Ohhhh, so that's why even if my friend is ENTP she's really introverted
Blast isn't always good, i just spend a good hour trying to blast solve a problem that i was using the wrong tools for (trying to do js stuff with php), and i was looking for information online with my blast, so i was googleing things, clicking on the first website and just copying the code and getting more and more angry that nothing worked.
So if you needed more evidence it's about balancing the different animals, here it is :)
oh yea, i'm reading a book currently where i'm pretty sure all the stuff i'm trying to do (blast) has best practice examples, so i should really just read that instead of trying to blast my way through it all.
How does what Dave says before 1:40 connect to what he says after 1:40? I'm missing the connection between how this advise is targeted to help really introverted types with low blast. Is the advise to not force yourself to use blast as much, take your time, and don't feel obligated to force yourself to get stuff started and finished really fast because it'll just end up draining you?
Yes.
Flounderf*ck!
oh man
Not sure my exact type but it seems it has to be one with play and blast low, that's all i know lol
C (MASCULINE)/ P/ S/ B Here.
Why does NeTi have stronger sleep than play? Isn't Ne the strongest function?
Look up the table at 0:21
I’m an ENFP with CS/P(B). Ne is my strongest function, as my lead Savior function, but both of my Savior animals have Fi, while only one of them has Ne.
This is disappointing to hear, I won't lie. It sounds a bit like "wait until middle age to start being successful and truly living life."
yes and that is not how the life process works, unless one is a robotic socially conditioned slave.
First!
Using the information in your videos*, I have found it extremely difficult to narrow my type down. I have a channel, give it a watch if you get the time to maybe help me out.
Any luck