@@matthewforte5341 A fair point, I agree. It's probably not P.C, but in regards to the character of people, I remember a saying, "scum floats to the top". Choose carefully. I'm an older person, I say that from experience.
Social Media is the devil IMO. I'm 62, had an opportunity to retire so I did. I live simply, modestly and aside from a few animals... Alone. Be a good neighbor, embrace the peace, read and create things. ✌️
I'm 55 and I don't have one single friend. 25 years ago I got married and the wife chased all my friends away. Everyone was a loser to her. Fast forward she divorced me and left me with nothing and no one. Now as an older man in this bizzaro world its impossible to make a real connection with a man or a woman. Authenticity seems to be a thing of the past.
@@stevenr6874 A year older than me. I agree, even 1 good friend is hard to come by. Most people, whether they know it or not, have "Fair weather friends". There are, what sounds like, a lot of good people, leaving comments in this video in general.
that's the sad part,... YOU HAVE NO TRUE FRIENDS... I speak from personal experience... I HELPED MYSELF...Now I have a Lone Wolf Mentality.. IDGAF about other people... I picked myself up when I was at my lowest. No One will Help U other than Yourself...
Everything has become so superficial. Nobody wants to grow a positive friendship anymore. People only care about what you can do for them, and what you only have to offer. It's all just business, no real connections.
Not disagreeing with your post, but there are a lot of good people still in the world. I'll admit, they are hard to find, but they are there. Wishing you luck and don't give up.
Yea we are in a narcissism epidemic, there's even a book on it. And all my friendships and relationships of any kind have been one sided. I always was the one making calls, making plans, etc. And they always ended up only associating with me because it benefited them in some way and I got sick of it.
It seems that the character of those supposed "fair weather friends", was lacking. That isn't surprising. As I have lived a life as a "social reject", I can only hope you are able to find good friends. Only a suggestion, but perhaps social clubs may be a good place to start.
I got tired of friends using me. I also got tired of only doing activities that my friends wanted to do. No friend has ever asked me what I wanted to do. Nowadays I just don’t have time for the time suck that are friends. I need to focus on my wellbeing first.
We live in a largely disassociative environment. Older people in particular can be mentors to younger generations. Much knowledge and experience is lost, when it isn't transferred. As an older person, I can associate with what you say.
Not true. Riding with my mate to get our motorbikes worked on tomorrow, 2 hours away. That will be our only transaction, apart from a few beers and a feed while we’re waiting. You need to live in the country to have real connections. There’s a solid small group of us. None of us have UNsocial media, which is important … 😎
I am old enough to remember growing up in 80s through to the 90s. Society was so different back then. People were so sociable, I could walk into a Pub or Night Club back then on my own, and be invited to an after party or back to someone's house to chill. And dating back then was effortless, girls use to look forward to meeting up for a date, and ghosting never happend. I think society started to change back in the late 2000s. I am 50 now, and I work the Doors over the weekends in Pubs and Clubs, I have noticed young people stay amongst their own group, and rearly talk to other people. And it even rarer to see girls leaving with boys at the end of the night, unless they are a couple. That never happened back in my day, everyone was leaving with someone and heading back for bedroom fun... It's like the new generation of youth ain't having sex.. 😮
@@fthunte1982 All good points. I think, due to phones ect. The arts of conversation and social ability, have been lost in general over time. I'm 54 myself, and I've seen it happen over the years.
I full heartily agree with you brother ,everything you said is 100%true and it made me realise that not having anyone in my life family or friends isn't such a bad thing after all. Thank you.👍👍👍
When my Dad passed in 2012, I had NO friends help me through it. Both sides of my family turned on me like rabid dogs!!! I didn't only lose my Dad, I lost EVERYONE!!! It took years to get through that. But I did; ALONE! Today I'm so use to the quiet, I don't want anything or anyone disturbing me. I don't even have a pet!!! I hate going to the grocery store, because of the noise!!! I'm over the loss. I'm fine with no one around. It took awhile to get use to it, but I did.
It's refreshing to hear a younger man speak with knowledge, truth, and wisdom! Good job! I have [almost] no friends that are actually real friends! It's been that way all my life (I'm 71 years old)! Welcome to reality! Of course, I've been called an "asshole" at various times? Perhaps, It's my sparkling personality!?!
@@reallifechangingtruth7679 I'm also an older person. I've been told, I'm very direct, blunt ect. So, I appreciate you not sugar coating. I would like to give the benefit of life knowledge and experience to younger men, that is, if they would listen.
It started way sooner than that. I got that impression and feeling back in 2000 when FB started. People stopped carring and seemed so hollow face to face, but online were totally opposite
Yeah, I agree with everything mentioned. I grew up in the 80's and values are not the same as what I grew to respect. The last real friends I had was when I was in the Army. There was no social media and there wasn't this constant posturing and competing with each other. The jealousy thing is real. But I'm in my early 50's now, and I shed all that BS.
Especially when most people are broke and irresponsible and want you to be that way also. Having a chill cookout isn’t cool anymore. Gotta go see and be seen for the Instagram…yuck.
@@redroversk maybe its a goal, to grow into a man. Would you know of that? Not by the sound of it just now. Knocking other men down for wanting to be fit is what makes the weak men you keep complaining about. Just take a swig of the good old Canund Rum.
It's always been said that if when you die, you have one or two close friends. Then you have done far better than most people. People who've lived in the same place all their lives have better chances at this. Those of us who do not have very few opportunities to build what was growing up. This is life, as soyciety continues to divide and compartmentalize itself, it will get worse before it ever gets better. What would better be in that future?? Loneliness will always be a thing. How one deals with it will be a measure to judge by
I don't have anyone, and divorce caused major issues in my life that left me with trust issues and a fear of relationships, and I've had to work hard to get back on my feet. I'm used to be the one trying to make connections. No one would contact me to say hello or say, "Would you like to?" So I just stopped. I just got on with work, and i do long hours. When I get home, I just want to chill out before I have to go to work and repeat. I've grown to like the peace and quiet of my life
Same exact situation here, thank you for writing your story. I went back to work, peaceful now, a bit lonely at times, I try to keep a purpose and continue hobbies. Best to you 👍👍
The problem: everybody thinks like that…everybody thinks their friends are not calling them…its always them “calling”...its a vicious circle. Some people are introverted…but not bad.
@ depends how you define social media, choosing to watch videos and listen to music on you tube is not the social media where you post pictures of your breakfast hoping that your pretend friends will give you likes.
I have one real friend, which I've discovered is two more than most men have. Most men I've known are bullies and cowards. Self respect and honourable behaviour are rarities in this world.
I had two 'friends' come to visit and have an almost free holiday. One ripped me off for 300€ and left over night without word. And the other stitched me for nearly a grand and a half. With that and the divorce years ago, one child who won't talk at all, an ex who stole 10s of thousands, etc etc I want to be alone. It is so much safer. Even my own mother has now told me she didn't want me as a son and is giving her property to a woman i don't know because she wantef a daughter. People are evil.
I’m sorry to hear about all that brother. I have had my share of betrayal over the years which is probably why I live a life of solitude with limited contact with others. I find peace in it. I hang out at the cigar lounge occasionally and have conversations with acquaintances but do not hang out with anyone outside of that. I wish you the best in your life and hope you have peace on your own.
@@alexpervanoglu7420 A sad run man. I've have my own horror story. Point is you aren't alone. There are a lot of "Self centred", A.H's around, that's for sure. There are also, a lot of good character people around, just gotta find em.
Spot on...to be honest I have old uni friends I dont even contact...and to be honest no male friends....it's all transactional....lots mates when you do things for them....but when you put yourself first....they go
I actually lost my best friend just this year back in August when I found out that he got married without me and any other of his friends at his wedding. It definitely tore me apart, but I learned a valuable lesson.
One neighbourly family on my street used to bribe me with food, so they would give me a meal (that I never asked for) then act like I owe them a favour (eg a DIY job, a lift, some groceries) also they hardly visited my house ( which they were jealous of & when they did they were grabby & helped themselves to things), but they always expected me to visit their house then they would ambush me with gaslighting & patronising & disapproving, as I sat there eating ( eating is when we are most vulnerable ), whenever I asked them for a favour they pulled rank & declined my request, when I was moving they watched me packing but never offered to help, this Xmas I’m expected to sit & watch their bickering again, we’ll see….
I find the whole thing fascinating how we lose friends between elementary school to Middle school then finally High School; hell even the college people we be-friended are gone.
I have 3 friends. 1 wife. 1 son. 1 dog. That’s as good as it gets. Trust me. You don’t have time for more. Own my home. Own our business. Got my health. Minimalist outlook and practice. Work out. Enjoy beer.
Friendship takes work, and extra energy, and can be difficult when you work a lot trying to not be homeless lol, also introversion plays a part along with the invention of texting and posting that seems to replace irl meet-ups. The world can sometimes feel un-accommodating, especially economically, even when your not materialistic and not trying to impress or keep up with wealth lifestyles
I think for me understanding that most people have essentially nothing you need is the beginning of being able to play with them, and just have a good time. While you believe the contrary you will be stressed and unhappy around them
77 and a lot of my friends have either moved far away, or have passed away. I live with my younger brother and we talk now and again. Our families are too busy or again moved away and we don't see them. We don't do the coffee shops or donut shops, so not tied into the local seniors groups. We are alone, but not lonely. Getting on with our lives and MGTOW. Both of us are divorced 30+ years, and decided it was not worth the effort to try again. Life is good, and we have our peace...
I would better prefer an enemy to a false 'friend'. If your enemy is intelligent enough, has some integrity, there is a chance to come to an agreement, and to stop hostility. This will not make you friends, but at least you both may be certain that no one of you will back stab the other. A fair deal. A treaty. Mutual respect. False 'friends' much worse. I had some. Both enemies and false 'friends'.
You know what would actually help men is the second their mates that they grew up with got a sniff of fanny didnt ditch you for months at a time ! Especially when you grow up with them and the girls in your friendship circle! Soon as relationships and marriage - nothing till birthdays and Xmas where we pretend to still be as close 😂
To be honest, why friends? I have only three friends. We dont go on beer, or party. One is the teacher on piano, second is oldschool mechanic of oldtimer cars and motorcycles, and third is car lover. I dont need more friends. Friends what use you for his profit, is not friend. If he never help you, its selfish bastard. My character for many years was and is lonely wolf. And its good for me, because many people (exactly womens) they are think, when I am alone, lonely, they said "OMG you living like old man in somewhere forest, its so sad, but you are looser". No. I said "Be lonely, alone doesnt mean I am unhappy. I am happy, because I will not feel alone/lonely". Who doesnt like quiet, and be lonely, its sick person.
I know a dude for 25 years. We were friend since kindergarden, we go to the same elementary school and middle school. Even later we our roads splits, we still was in touch. Then he got married. His wife told me right to the face that she dont like me and dont want me around. Last time I heard something from him was 2 years ago. I hope he is happy atleast.
From personal experience. A red flag of a false 'friend'. He comes with useless favours you never asked about. He comes with cheap useless gifts you never asked either. Manipulation. This person tries to implant into you a feeling of embarrassment to refuse him when he (soon) will ask of you something important.
I don't like people anymore, it's been too many times where people use me. Sadly I guess one projects these vibes outward, but it's more than that, I've tried to find people in the real, they don't exist.
I had many friends going into my 20s, i now have 3 friends going into my 40s. My friends cannot be bullies, domineering, racist, or misogynist. They cant use me as entertainment or a novelty because im kind and have interesting things to say that they secretly think are foolish. I have dignity and self respect and will be treated as such, and that is how i treat others. So i cant be around someone as a friend unless they respect me and have my respect.
I have a female friend I work with. She is married. A very wonderful person who will do what she can for anyone else. Her husband knows about our friendship and it is purely platonic.
Shame: no one wants to look desperate for company Obligation: No one wants to feel obligated to anyone for anything. Fear: getting to close means that person can stab you.
This is what is destroying society. All you need is your wallet? What a fool. We need EACH OTHER. The light don't come on because of anything you did. Nor the water. Not the food.
Yet you have to pay for all of the things you just stated. The light, water and food.....Is your so called friends going to provide your grown self that free of charge? Your wallet is your friend.
Apart from my mom, dad and my late dog whom i had for 13 years who are my everything, and of course my God Jesus who is my ultimate everything, I got 2 best friends, one we are best friends for 17 years, we are both only children and we literally only had each other, The other we been best friends for 13 years and we served the army together, he was my sergeant, i was his corporal, Those 2 are my brothers really, and i don't need anyone else, I got 2 more good friends, who are straightforward and do not like bullsh*t just like me, I got my inner circle, and i don't want anything else, I am always alone though, i love the solitude, And like Al Capone once said "Be careful who you call friends, I'd rather have 4 quarters than 100 pennies."
Women can have sex and not worry about being forced to support a child. Men can't. Discrimination based on sex is illegal. Let women abort and don't force men to pay for kids they never wanted. Everyone deserves a choice after conception. Not just women.
True people have become more selfish. I have 2 really genuine mutual friends. I have known them for a long time. Now it's not that we see each other every week. However, I am sure that if 1 calls the other for help, the other will be there. That's already proven. The rest are people I know, common interests...and there's a bound, but not sure if’they will be there in case of an emergency.
When it came to my old group of mates i always told them dont bother me at home!😂 i will come seee them. Im bit of introvert lol my old group of mates turn their back on me in the end anyways. Especially my best mate. I notice after i started out achieving him he became bitter. Then i suddenly loss my old man in may 2015 to a heart attack. I found him in our shed, to this day it deeply effects me. I often dream about my old man. He was nicknamed by ones who loved him "wanker of a dutchman " as he loved taking the piss out of people and he expexted you to dish it back to him but if u didnt he would take the piss even harder. My old man also had a heart of gold, he was a big teddy bear and would be there to help anyone that needed it. All my mates including my best mate attended his funeral and wake. They all said to me to reach out if i ever needed some support. A coupl months after things started turning really sour between me and a girl id been seeing on and off for couples of years So i reached out to my mates, specifically my best mate but to my surprise only having door slammed in my face. I was some what baffled🤷♂️. Turns out this chick had been hanging out with my mates while i was flat out dealing with all that comes with a family membrr passing away. She was spewing false accusations that i was committing DV against her. Truth is it was her who suddenly became violent and abusive after i unknowingly uncovered by asking her for help that she was lying and cheating on a bf she kept secret. She didnt want her dirty littlw secret out so she destroyed me and my life and my so called mates beleived her with out hesitation!😂 my mates didnt even like her Cause she had an out of control little girl. Her relationship with her little girl was bad! She had no idea how to deal with her little girl and so i helped her and by the time she fkd me over and threw me out of their lives her little girl was well behaved and they had a great relationship. My best mate pulled me aside at one event and told me if a baby sitter couldnt be sortrd for the little girl then dont bring em, i told him to get fkd!😂 but yeh they instantly beleived her lies and sided with her🤷♂️😏. My mates never even made an attempt to get myside of the story🤷♂️🤣. My best mate definitely ddint like seeing me start to succeed more then him so must have been so satisfying for him to see me eventually have a complete emotional and mental breakdown not to long after. But shit happens im bsck on my feet and quite happy sticking to myself these days. Well i do have my many dogs!😁 and im still in the family home my old man built back in 1995👍. I still sleep in my childhood bedroom😂👍
bullshit. I have lots of friends. I was married for 20 years and been divorced for 20 years. I get together at least 3 times a week with friends for coffee, lunch or dinner, golf, sailing, and guys night out every Friday at our local sports bar.
Hi there, hope you have a great day yourself.! Thank you for that powerful message . You are 100% on the money with this shite going on now days . Eric Clapton wrote a song " Nobody Know You When You Down and Out" is that ring a bell? . I have really strong belive that you need rellay extra careful on yourself first but then on all these Dark Triad Psyhopaths, Tik Tok Narcissist and Machiavellians . All what you need is a peace in your live and thats real value, a cat, a dog, six strings on your aul guitar maybe. Go to your gym get jacked talk to real people you meet in real life .
I somewhat disagree because while I certainly think you should make good connections with good people, I also think that once you see people's true colors you can meet them where they are. If they are an ah then you can be an ah back. Sometimes your life is more fun with some ah in your life than without him. You just have to understand that they are an ah and treat them as such. When all is said and done a lot (perhaps a majority) of people are ah, and cutting off most of humanity could lead to boredom
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If you are a good person you will be used by others. People mistake kindness for weakness and will take advantage of you.
Who is weaker, the merciful man or the sadist?. People can choose to have good morals. In my humble opinion, that actually makes them stronger.
They get one chance to have a good friend. They mess it up then they can starve
@@matthewforte5341 A fair point, I agree. It's probably not P.C, but in regards to the character of people, I remember a saying, "scum floats to the top". Choose carefully. I'm an older person, I say that from experience.
Absolutely
IMO selfishly preying on the vulnerability of anyone is the worst kind of weakness.
No woman and no friends or family and it’s not that bad u learn to just accept it, life goes on regardless.
Social Media is the devil IMO. I'm 62, had an opportunity to retire so I did. I live simply, modestly and aside from a few animals... Alone. Be a good neighbor, embrace the peace, read and create things. ✌️
@@jozeleznick589 Ah, I envy you the peaceful, simple life. Good work.
I retired at 63. Same reason
@@jozeleznick589 how many chicks you smashed at your current age ?
@@nicktan4530 I don't bother. They present far more liability than they're worth.
I'm 55 and I don't have one single friend. 25 years ago I got married and the wife chased all my friends away. Everyone was a loser to her. Fast forward she divorced me and left me with nothing and no one. Now as an older man in this bizzaro world its impossible to make a real connection with a man or a woman. Authenticity seems to be a thing of the past.
@@stevenr6874 That sounds like my situation to the T except the Mrs hasn’t run away YET
I like the 'YET' 😂 Fingers crossed right?
@@stevenr6874 A year older than me. I agree, even 1 good friend is hard to come by. Most people, whether they know it or not, have "Fair weather friends". There are, what sounds like, a lot of good people, leaving comments in this video in general.
Most friendships don't last beyond seven and a half years anyway, (they've done studies on that), so you lost nothing.
Boy can I relate to that 100%
You will find out who your true friends are when you fall on hard times.
Facts 👍
That's when I found out I didn't have any real friends. They call when they're in need.
Nobody
that's the sad part,... YOU HAVE NO TRUE FRIENDS... I speak from personal experience... I HELPED MYSELF...Now I have a Lone Wolf Mentality.. IDGAF about other people... I picked myself up when I was at my lowest.
No One will Help U other than Yourself...
That's right
Everything has become so superficial. Nobody wants to grow a positive friendship anymore. People only care about what you can do for them, and what you only have to offer. It's all just business, no real connections.
Not disagreeing with your post, but there are a lot of good people still in the world. I'll admit, they are hard to find, but they are there. Wishing you luck and don't give up.
@lancebarnes3970 True. However I just don't take this too seriously anymore than I used to in the past, it is what it is. I don't hate people for it.
@@ryanwing5785 A good attitude, in my opinion. Also, many current problems aren't actually new. People are rediscovering them.
It's gatekeeping everything only for the popular kids and conformists.
narcissism at its finest. me me me me, mine, take from you.
Yea we are in a narcissism epidemic, there's even a book on it. And all my friendships and relationships of any kind have been one sided. I always was the one making calls, making plans, etc. And they always ended up only associating with me because it benefited them in some way and I got sick of it.
Same
Yep
It seems that the character of those supposed "fair weather friends", was lacking. That isn't surprising. As I have lived a life as a "social reject", I can only hope you are able to find good friends. Only a suggestion, but perhaps social clubs may be a good place to start.
Almost like a period of 2 weeks
...into 3 years....
and what better way to divide any population, than using narcissism to do it?
I got tired of friends using me. I also got tired of only doing activities that my friends wanted to do. No friend has ever asked me what I wanted to do. Nowadays I just don’t have time for the time suck that are friends. I need to focus on my wellbeing first.
Alone isn't lonely with the right mindset, something that thankfully fell into place with age
Once you get older it gets purely transactional.
Friends = associates/affiliates...unfortunately
We live in a largely disassociative environment. Older people in particular can be mentors to younger generations. Much knowledge and experience is lost, when it isn't transferred. As an older person, I can associate with what you say.
Not true. Riding with my mate to get our motorbikes worked on tomorrow, 2 hours away. That will be our only transaction, apart from a few beers and a feed while we’re waiting. You need to live in the country to have real connections. There’s a solid small group of us. None of us have UNsocial media, which is important … 😎
I am old enough to remember growing up in 80s through to the 90s. Society was so different back then. People were so sociable, I could walk into a Pub or Night Club back then on my own, and be invited to an after party or back to someone's house to chill.
And dating back then was effortless, girls use to look forward to meeting up for a date, and ghosting never happend. I think society started to change back in the late 2000s.
I am 50 now, and I work the Doors over the weekends in Pubs and Clubs, I have noticed young people stay amongst their own group, and rearly talk to other people. And it even rarer to see girls leaving with boys at the end of the night, unless they are a couple. That never happened back in my day, everyone was leaving with someone and heading back for bedroom fun... It's like the new generation of youth ain't having sex.. 😮
Pls check data. Contemporary young men are having halved testosterone.
60% aren't having sex
Good point. Feels awkward at the club now. There is no community, only clicks.
@@fthunte1982 All good points. I think, due to phones ect. The arts of conversation and social ability, have been lost in general over time. I'm 54 myself, and I've seen it happen over the years.
@@PassionateSpirit88 Face to face socialising is becoming rare in western societies.
I full heartily agree with you brother ,everything you said is 100%true and it made me realise that not having anyone in my life family or friends isn't such a bad thing after all. Thank you.👍👍👍
I have only one true friend and I'm very grateful for that.
When my Dad passed in 2012, I had NO friends help me through it. Both sides of my family turned on me like rabid dogs!!!
I didn't only lose my Dad, I lost EVERYONE!!!
It took years to get through that. But I did; ALONE!
Today I'm so use to the quiet, I don't want anything or anyone disturbing me. I don't even have a pet!!! I hate going to the grocery store, because of the noise!!!
I'm over the loss. I'm fine with no one around. It took awhile to get use to it, but I did.
It's refreshing to hear a younger man speak with knowledge, truth, and wisdom! Good job! I have [almost] no friends that are actually real friends! It's been that way all my life (I'm 71 years old)! Welcome to reality! Of course, I've been called an "asshole" at various times? Perhaps, It's my sparkling personality!?!
@@reallifechangingtruth7679 I'm also an older person. I've been told, I'm very direct, blunt ect. So, I appreciate you not sugar coating. I would like to give the benefit of life knowledge and experience to younger men, that is, if they would listen.
i have that same kind of sparkling personality. its called reality.
It started way sooner than that. I got that impression and feeling back in 2000 when FB started. People stopped carring and seemed so hollow face to face, but online were totally opposite
Yeah, I agree with everything mentioned. I grew up in the 80's and values are not the same as what I grew to respect. The last real friends I had was when I was in the Army. There was no social media and there wasn't this constant posturing and competing with each other. The jealousy thing is real. But I'm in my early 50's now, and I shed all that BS.
Same here. Mid 40s. Social media has destroyed Western society
It's expensive to have friends as an adult.
Especially when most people are broke and irresponsible and want you to be that way also. Having a chill cookout isn’t cool anymore. Gotta go see and be seen for the Instagram…yuck.
Friends are for young people and children. When you're older, these "friendships" become increasingly transactional.
My so-called friends are marks and they suck as human beings. I am the most genuine person around and every one have been taking me for granted
Not evreyone is like this than god , there are still good ones out there
Yeah,skid-marks lol
"I'm not narcissistic"
*avatar pic is him flexing his biceps*
@@redroversk maybe its a goal, to grow into a man. Would you know of that? Not by the sound of it just now. Knocking other men down for wanting to be fit is what makes the weak men you keep complaining about. Just take a swig of the good old Canund Rum.
Great video!
Yes, the wallet is the most reliable friend these days realistically.
It's always been said that if when you die, you have one or two close friends. Then you have done far better than most people. People who've lived in the same place all their lives have better chances at this. Those of us who do not have very few opportunities to build what was growing up. This is life, as soyciety continues to divide and compartmentalize itself, it will get worse before it ever gets better. What would better be in that future?? Loneliness will always be a thing. How one deals with it will be a measure to judge by
I don't have friends, and it's for a reason. I don't want friends. Is that so hard to understand.
I'm the exact 💯 same my friend
Same here being alone is not so bad if anything it’s pretty great actually
i get it.
Me too, let's be friends about it.
I don't have anyone, and divorce caused major issues in my life that left me with trust issues and a fear of relationships, and I've had to work hard to get back on my feet. I'm used to be the one trying to make connections. No one would contact me to say hello or say, "Would you like to?" So I just stopped. I just got on with work, and i do long hours. When I get home, I just want to chill out before I have to go to work and repeat. I've grown to like the peace and quiet of my life
Same exact situation here, thank you for writing your story. I went back to work, peaceful now, a bit lonely at times, I try to keep a purpose and continue hobbies. Best to you 👍👍
@chrisretired5379 all the best.
"Friendship" is more heavily based on opportunism. Hence, not worthwhile if they prioritize this.
The Bible warns us not to be unequally yoked
@thestoicpath- yoked?? What has chicken eggs got to do with it??
The problem: everybody thinks like that…everybody thinks their friends are not calling them…its always them “calling”...its a vicious circle.
Some people are introverted…but not bad.
All true...to much competition jealousy instead of joy and laughter
I have 5 friends, that's plenty. Don't use social media.
This is also social media lol
@ depends how you define social media, choosing to watch videos and listen to music on you tube is not the social media where you post pictures of your breakfast hoping that your pretend friends will give you likes.
I have one real friend, which I've discovered is two more than most men have. Most men I've known are bullies and cowards. Self respect and honourable behaviour are rarities in this world.
I had two 'friends' come to visit and have an almost free holiday.
One ripped me off for 300€ and left over night without word.
And the other stitched me for nearly a grand and a half.
With that and the divorce years ago, one child who won't talk at all, an ex who stole 10s of thousands, etc etc I want to be alone. It is so much safer.
Even my own mother has now told me she didn't want me as a son and is giving her property to a woman i don't know because she wantef a daughter.
People are evil.
I’m sorry to hear about all that brother. I have had my share of betrayal over the years which is probably why I live a life of solitude with limited contact with others. I find peace in it. I hang out at the cigar lounge occasionally and have conversations with acquaintances but do not hang out with anyone outside of that. I wish you the best in your life and hope you have peace on your own.
@@adamrocks19 The cigar lounge thing sounds pretty cool. I'm betting you could have good conversations from time to time.
@@alexpervanoglu7420 A sad run man. I've have my own horror story. Point is you aren't alone. There are a lot of "Self centred", A.H's around, that's for sure. There are also, a lot of good character people around, just gotta find em.
@@lancebarnes3970 yea man it’s not too bad. There are a lot of good gentlemen there that are like minded to hang with.
@adamrocks19 Wish, there was something like that, where I live. Count yourself lucky.
I like being on my own ..i do not feel lonely i feel connected to nature
Spot on...to be honest I have old uni friends I dont even contact...and to be honest no male friends....it's all transactional....lots mates when you do things for them....but when you put yourself first....they go
I actually lost my best friend just this year back in August when I found out that he got married without me and any other of his friends at his wedding. It definitely tore me apart, but I learned a valuable lesson.
One neighbourly family on my street used to bribe me with food, so they would give me a meal (that I never asked for) then act like I owe them a favour (eg a DIY job, a lift, some groceries) also they hardly visited my house ( which they were jealous of & when they did they were grabby & helped themselves to things), but they always expected me to visit their house then they would ambush me with gaslighting & patronising & disapproving, as I sat there eating ( eating is when we are most vulnerable ), whenever I asked them for a favour they pulled rank & declined my request, when I was moving they watched me packing but never offered to help, this Xmas I’m expected to sit & watch their bickering again, we’ll see….
I've been screwed over since the second I was born ...by my family friends God and government
same here. i just use the forgive, forget, and delete those from your life that do you wrong.
same
I find the whole thing fascinating how we lose friends between elementary school to Middle school then finally High School; hell even the college people we be-friended are gone.
My circle is a dot and thats fine by me
I have zero friends outside the internet
Am a Neet That is relaxing
Love is Death so Alone is a blessing
I have one friend but we don't see each other much cuz we're on different paths in life but I'm not trying to make new ones either so I'm good
I have 3 friends.
1 wife.
1 son.
1 dog.
That’s as good as it gets. Trust me. You don’t have time for more.
Own my home.
Own our business.
Got my health.
Minimalist outlook and practice.
Work out.
Enjoy beer.
Friendship takes work, and extra energy, and can be difficult when you work a lot trying to not be homeless lol, also introversion plays a part along with the invention of texting and posting that seems to replace irl meet-ups. The world can sometimes feel un-accommodating, especially economically, even when your not materialistic and not trying to impress or keep up with wealth lifestyles
I think for me understanding that most people have essentially nothing you need is the beginning of being able to play with them, and just have a good time. While you believe the contrary you will be stressed and unhappy around them
77 and a lot of my friends have either moved far away, or have passed away. I live with my younger brother and we talk now and again. Our families are too busy or again moved away and we don't see them. We don't do the coffee shops or donut shops, so not tied into the local seniors groups.
We are alone, but not lonely. Getting on with our lives and MGTOW. Both of us are divorced 30+ years, and decided it was not worth the effort to try again. Life is good, and we have our peace...
Everything is temporary and disposable. If you want to have friends you have to be a good friend to others
Dude. Most of that applies to women now and their popularity contest bullshit that means so much to them.
I would better prefer an enemy to a false 'friend'.
If your enemy is intelligent enough, has some integrity, there is a chance to come to an agreement, and to stop hostility.
This will not make you friends, but at least you both may be certain that no one of you will back stab the other.
A fair deal. A treaty. Mutual respect.
False 'friends' much worse.
I had some.
Both enemies and false 'friends'.
You know what would actually help men is the second their mates that they grew up with got a sniff of fanny didnt ditch you for months at a time ! Especially when you grow up with them and the girls in your friendship circle! Soon as relationships and marriage - nothing till birthdays and Xmas where we pretend to still be as close 😂
Yeah, your opening statement describe my cousins with respect to narcissism
You mean people that use you no thank you !
Friends with benefits... seem to be the only type of friends people look for.
To be honest, why friends? I have only three friends. We dont go on beer, or party. One is the teacher on piano, second is oldschool mechanic of oldtimer cars and motorcycles, and third is car lover. I dont need more friends. Friends what use you for his profit, is not friend. If he never help you, its selfish bastard. My character for many years was and is lonely wolf. And its good for me, because many people (exactly womens) they are think, when I am alone, lonely, they said "OMG you living like old man in somewhere forest, its so sad, but you are looser". No. I said "Be lonely, alone doesnt mean I am unhappy. I am happy, because I will not feel alone/lonely". Who doesnt like quiet, and be lonely, its sick person.
I think everyone is so busy now that we don't have time for each other! Life is too expensive for most of us.
I know a dude for 25 years. We were friend since kindergarden, we go to the same elementary school and middle school. Even later we our roads splits, we still was in touch. Then he got married. His wife told me right to the face that she dont like me and dont want me around. Last time I heard something from him was 2 years ago. I hope he is happy atleast.
MONK MODE TO $$$$
FOCUS FOCUS FOCUS
EVERY WAKING MOMENT.
THEN GET YOUR PASSPORT AND TRAVEL ALONE WITH THE WIND IN YOUR POCKET.
I haven't had friends for the past forty years and at 71 nothing has changed, most will suck the life out of you given the chance.
From personal experience.
A red flag of a false 'friend'.
He comes with useless favours you never asked about.
He comes with cheap useless gifts you never asked either.
Manipulation. This person tries to implant into you a feeling of embarrassment to refuse him when he (soon) will ask of you something important.
First video I've seen you in man. I've not watched RUclips in a while. Nice to put a face to the name/channel. Thank you for all of your content.
I appreciate that!
haven't seen a real friendship since the early 2000s.
Great video
Thanks for the visit
All of my child hood friends are gone.
I don't like people anymore, it's been too many times where people use me. Sadly I guess one projects these vibes outward, but it's more than that, I've tried to find people in the real, they don't exist.
I had many friends going into my 20s, i now have 3 friends going into my 40s. My friends cannot be bullies, domineering, racist, or misogynist. They cant use me as entertainment or a novelty because im kind and have interesting things to say that they secretly think are foolish. I have dignity and self respect and will be treated as such, and that is how i treat others. So i cant be around someone as a friend unless they respect me and have my respect.
A friend will betray you faster then an enemy. People see kindness as a weakness and will walk all over you if you try to be. Screw them.
I'm 62 and have many friends. I would say about 20 for sure proven, life long, trustworthy friends and some are even women.
I have a female friend I work with. She is married. A very wonderful person who will do what she can for anyone else. Her husband knows about our friendship and it is purely platonic.
Used to think (in youth) this what you're describing was isolated to certain societies/countries or to commercial capital cities...
The weak have inherited the earth… 🌍 🥴
it takes something bad to happen, to bring out the truth in people. the good times are easy.
Friends now a days are people who would steal from you then help you look for what's stolen once you discover it.....
I have a inner circle close friends and family the rest are associates of whom i will be polite and courteous but that is as far as it will go.
I give as good as I get,fool me once,shame on you,fool me twice, shame on me! That's it!
I know a lot of people because my line of work. However, that said , im a bit of a lone wolf & wouldn't change it for no one.
Shame: no one wants to look desperate for company
Obligation: No one wants to feel obligated to anyone for anything.
Fear: getting to close means that person can stab you.
Succinct and precise
This is what is destroying society. All you need is your wallet? What a fool. We need EACH OTHER. The light don't come on because of anything you did. Nor the water. Not the food.
Yet you have to pay for all of the things you just stated. The light, water and food.....Is your so called friends going to provide your grown self that free of charge?
Your wallet is your friend.
I don't agree with the notions that we shouldn't make friends, but yeah, it is pretty tough right now to have network of genuine people in our circle.
Spot on. Kudos
Thank you kindly
Apart from my mom, dad and my late dog whom i had for 13 years who are my everything, and of course my God Jesus who is my ultimate everything,
I got 2 best friends, one we are best friends for 17 years, we are both only children and we literally only had each other,
The other we been best friends for 13 years and we served the army together, he was my sergeant, i was his corporal,
Those 2 are my brothers really, and i don't need anyone else,
I got 2 more good friends, who are straightforward and do not like bullsh*t just like me,
I got my inner circle, and i don't want anything else,
I am always alone though, i love the solitude,
And like Al Capone once said
"Be careful who you call friends, I'd rather have 4 quarters than 100 pennies."
@@Veteransolo You sound like a "Sigma". Being content in life, is definitely underrated.
I am a guy and I have friends. But, I live in a rural area.
I had [ friends ] as long as they could use me for moving or something else, when I needed help they were busy , so I quit being used .
Women can have sex and not worry about being forced to support a child. Men can't. Discrimination based on sex is illegal. Let women abort and don't force men to pay for kids they never wanted. Everyone deserves a choice after conception. Not just women.
Well you cant force man to pay anyway
@tonyp.bahama9368 Yes you can. It's the law. If he doesn't pay he goes to jail.
Brother it is just me in my life, as "it" is just you in yours. Do you know what? Other people have experiences in their lives too.
Yeah, that always going to him reminds me of my best friend of the time. :/
Always was a war even betwen males..
I'm lucky i have lots of cousins in my town. We don't have the same imterests/hobbies (Im the outlier) but they are loyal.
True people have become more selfish. I have 2 really genuine mutual friends. I have known them for a long time. Now it's not that we see each other every week. However, I am sure that if 1 calls the other for help, the other will be there. That's already proven. The rest are people I know, common interests...and there's a bound, but not sure if’they will be there in case of an emergency.
ive gotten rid of the ' takers ' and only have 1 friend left . unfortunately im left without a weed connection . LOL . i didnt see that coming .
what do you think caused this "selfish culture" change?
When it came to my old group of mates i always told them dont bother me at home!😂 i will come seee them. Im bit of introvert lol my old group of mates turn their back on me in the end anyways. Especially my best mate. I notice after i started out achieving him he became bitter. Then i suddenly loss my old man in may 2015 to a heart attack. I found him in our shed, to this day it deeply effects me. I often dream about my old man. He was nicknamed by ones who loved him "wanker of a dutchman " as he loved taking the piss out of people and he expexted you to dish it back to him but if u didnt he would take the piss even harder. My old man also had a heart of gold, he was a big teddy bear and would be there to help anyone that needed it. All my mates including my best mate attended his funeral and wake. They all said to me to reach out if i ever needed some support. A coupl months after things started turning really sour between me and a girl id been seeing on and off for couples of years So i reached out to my mates, specifically my best mate but to my surprise only having door slammed in my face. I was some what baffled🤷♂️. Turns out this chick had been hanging out with my mates while i was flat out dealing with all that comes with a family membrr passing away. She was spewing false accusations that i was committing DV against her. Truth is it was her who suddenly became violent and abusive after i unknowingly uncovered by asking her for help that she was lying and cheating on a bf she kept secret. She didnt want her dirty littlw secret out so she destroyed me and my life and my so called mates beleived her with out hesitation!😂 my mates didnt even like her Cause she had an out of control little girl. Her relationship with her little girl was bad! She had no idea how to deal with her little girl and so i helped her and by the time she fkd me over and threw me out of their lives her little girl was well behaved and they had a great relationship. My best mate pulled me aside at one event and told me if a baby sitter couldnt be sortrd for the little girl then dont bring em, i told him to get fkd!😂 but yeh they instantly beleived her lies and sided with her🤷♂️😏. My mates never even made an attempt to get myside of the story🤷♂️🤣. My best mate definitely ddint like seeing me start to succeed more then him so must have been so satisfying for him to see me eventually have a complete emotional and mental breakdown not to long after. But shit happens im bsck on my feet and quite happy sticking to myself these days. Well i do have my many dogs!😁 and im still in the family home my old man built back in 1995👍. I still sleep in my childhood bedroom😂👍
So true every word ,im 63 no dating not interested and 2 friends only.
Go outside and touch grass, they said. Goes outside and finds that there is no grass to touch outside.
I have so much friends , Ima 'bout to suggest a new translation to an oxford dictionary 😂
bullshit. I have lots of friends. I was married for 20 years and been divorced for 20 years. I get together at least 3 times a week with friends for coffee, lunch or dinner, golf, sailing, and guys night out every Friday at our local sports bar.
Fine by me.
I have 5 good friends, thats it
Music is a collaboration..but now folks play with themselves on computer..get involved in sports or clubs..my married friends are in lockdown ?
Hi there, hope you have a great day yourself.! Thank you for that powerful message . You are 100% on the money with this shite going on now days .
Eric Clapton wrote a song " Nobody Know You When You Down and Out" is that ring a bell? . I have really strong belive that you need rellay extra careful on yourself first but then on all these Dark Triad Psyhopaths, Tik Tok Narcissist and Machiavellians .
All what you need is a peace in your live and thats real value, a cat, a dog, six strings on your aul guitar maybe. Go to your gym get jacked talk to real people you meet in real life .
You are perfectly describing a psychopath in this video.
When you are married. Stop drinking. And do your job good at work. Then you will see who your true friends are. I have 2 friends. That is it.
I somewhat disagree because while I certainly think you should make good connections with good people, I also think that once you see people's true colors you can meet them where they are. If they are an ah then you can be an ah back. Sometimes your life is more fun with some ah in your life than without him. You just have to understand that they are an ah and treat them as such. When all is said and done a lot (perhaps a majority) of people are ah, and cutting off most of humanity could lead to boredom