THE SECRETS THE NARCISSIST HIDES FROM PEOPLE

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Комментарии • 709

  • @theclanofone
    @theclanofone 5 месяцев назад +4

    In a very toxic relationship for 2 years. Took 3 years to revover. As i felt comfortable in my situation in life, the wife entered. I saw her cracked mask before we were ever involved. I said dont get involved. She made advances, i sidesteped... we didn't talk a while... then ahe struck. Too perfect. The finalization is in waiting. Thank you Andrew for your content.

  • @artluvr6170
    @artluvr6170 Год назад +245

    When I met my narcissist, I literally had no idea people could be like this. I was perfect prey. Makes me sick 🤢

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +11

      💯💯💯

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Год назад +20

      Art, you're not alone. He was loaded with money, yet he acted so poor. 👹

    • @artluvr6170
      @artluvr6170 Год назад +8

      @@jannlewandowski5540 Disgusting. It’s Joe by the way. 😁

    • @cc1k435
      @cc1k435 Год назад +17

      We ALL are susceptible to narcissists, either from having been raised by one so that it's somehow a familiar feeling, or else never having encountered such a person at all. Either way, when the term finally crosses your path, it hits like a ton of bricks. 😮

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Год назад +5

      @@artluvr6170 Sorry. JOE! 😉

  • @lynnfincham6839
    @lynnfincham6839 Год назад +17

    Lies! Triangulation!
    Lies !
    Gaslighting !
    Lies…. But when you discover the truth why it is so, it’s ugly

  • @BelleOfAmherst
    @BelleOfAmherst Год назад +153

    Narcissists thrive on secrets, not genuine connections.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +10

      💯💯💯

    • @BelleOfAmherst
      @BelleOfAmherst Год назад +4

      @@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone🙏🏼😌

    • @kat-75
      @kat-75 Год назад +6

      When u know a narcissist is around YOU should consider enjoying secrets too! 😊

    • @cc1k435
      @cc1k435 Год назад +4

      A very sneaky kind of people, for sure. 😮

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад +4

      Don't play their game.

  • @lynnfincham6839
    @lynnfincham6839 Год назад +17

    I absolutely Find gaslighting and triangulation the lowest form of communication

  • @lourdesecheverria6209
    @lourdesecheverria6209 Год назад +83

    Good evening to all. I am reading some of the post and I felt the urgency to remind everyone here, that we do NOT need to contact the narcissist after a hoover or any attempt from them to reconnect to "tell them to stop" , or to say "we don't care anymore"...please don't. Is a trap and when we respond we have fallen into it. Blessings to all!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +4

      😌🙌💯

    • @SunshineDawn7
      @SunshineDawn7 Год назад +2

      Thank you ! So true ! Amen 🙏🙏❤❤

    • @elberethfw
      @elberethfw Год назад +3

      Yes you're absolutely right.
      There were several times that I tried to give both the narcissist and myself closure...but each time, he'd come back (apparently to pack his things) to my place and he didn't pack...he stayed, against my will. He'd use my pity and compassion to wheedle a day or two but wouldn't leave. He just planted himself and recommenced extracting my finances and energy.
      So dangerous. So toxic.
      Peace be with us all now. Huge thanks to Andrew and his community.
      Namaste ❤🙏🏻💕🕊🌠🌺

    • @SunshineDawn7
      @SunshineDawn7 Год назад +1

      @@elberethfw ☮☮💖💖🙏🙏

    • @Nothingbutlovehere369
      @Nothingbutlovehere369 Год назад

      ❤❤❤

  • @BeautifulJoy54321
    @BeautifulJoy54321 7 месяцев назад +5

    They are evil 😈 it took me 27 years to get enough strength and courage to leave by the grace of God 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @An-ux2fq
    @An-ux2fq Год назад +80

    I moved to the other side of the country, married and started a business with the narc. I left a year ago and lost everything. Rock bottom! But I survived, found a nice house and just returned from a wonderful holiday with my daughter in the mountains. I am happy! I live an easy, quiet life now and I am still working on myself. Thank you Andrew for your lifesaving videos. I watch them every day as from April 7 2022. 🙏 ❤

  • @sylviateo7084
    @sylviateo7084 Год назад +8

    I like the fact you said that “they are not fully developed”. That is so true!

  • @jennifernewton4637
    @jennifernewton4637 Год назад +74

    They lie about EVERYTHING! They’re CONSTANTLY playing the victim. 🙄 Just assume if their mouth is moving, they’re lying. 😛 The lush that’s staying with us is a _perfect_ example of this 🫢🫢🫢 Sorry Andrew, you know I don’t sugarcoat 🤭 Hope you’re having a great day, handsome! Enjoy your evening/ night everyone!!! Love you guys!!! 🩷💜🩷💜🩷💜🩷💜🩷💜

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +5

      😌🙌🙏😊

    • @gratefultobehere
      @gratefultobehere Год назад +4

      The lush passed her breathalyzer to remain? I thought that was a new standard to be put in place after her driving under the influence shenanigan. I guess I won’t sugarcoat it either. Out with her. ❤❤❤

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 Год назад +4

      @@gratefultobehere 😬 Darn it Chelsea I can’t believe I didn’t think about that! Welp… new rule!!! 🙌🙌🙌😂

    • @gratefultobehere
      @gratefultobehere Год назад +3

      @@jennifernewton4637 I mean, hotel 🏨 Newton needs to revamp policies. Amending anytime sounds good to me (especially if you’re housing winos 🍷). 🤭❤️🙏

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 Год назад +5

      @@gratefultobehere Haha… I AIN’T Motel 6, and I WON’T leave a light on for her 🤭🤭🤭😈

  • @sheilaking1300
    @sheilaking1300 Год назад +29

    Oh yes, that was me. People pleaser, low boundaries, ignored red flags, I was a pushover, I was grade A fuel. Three years on, still getting the education. It’s great when you understand and laugh at the aha moments.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +1

      😌🙏🙌

    • @joshuaanzalone2060
      @joshuaanzalone2060 Год назад +2

      Sheila I was grade A too,unfortunately but never again will I be her doormat. NEVERRRRR AGAIN

    • @sheilaking1300
      @sheilaking1300 Год назад +3

      Hi Joshua, sorry you went through it too. The good thing is we are survivors and now thrivers, we never knew we had so much strength. I’m the third version of myself, life is good. Regards from Shropshire England.

    • @joycehogan6861
      @joycehogan6861 4 месяца назад +1

      Don't feel bad it took me 20 years. Now I've got a college degree in narcs😂😂😂 wishing got you the best

  • @izawaniek2568
    @izawaniek2568 Год назад +12

    Narcisists are like zombies and vampires - they need others to drain their blood from them. They need others to provide all kinds of services for them - the most important one being pumping up their fragile egos and their false self and false reality. Thank you Andrew❤

  • @adventureswithwolfdogs2110
    @adventureswithwolfdogs2110 Год назад +22

    It’s gotta be a miserable life to be a narcissist

  • @lilyzara1581
    @lilyzara1581 Год назад +17

    You are so right about them being children trapped in adult bodies. The way my ex behaved was like watching a kid throwing a tantrum. He would scream, punch his face, repeat things over and over again, mock you. One time he got under the covers and kicked and screamed. It was so shocking for me to watch, and I had never seen that from a full grown man.

    • @dawnkikong637
      @dawnkikong637 Год назад

      Wow.😮🤣

    • @leannewalsh5339
      @leannewalsh5339 3 месяца назад

      A freind visited me as they were concerned for me as the guy I was seeing was manipulating me now I know he is a narcissist
      What a performance yes we had all drank alcohol The narcissist started doing push ups then rubbing his belly & staring at my friend that is a big man said why is he doing that I said he is insulting you
      I can lol now not then I am grateful to be educating myself on narcissists & have gone no contact life is calmer now without his drama 😂🎉

  • @jannlewandowski5540
    @jannlewandowski5540 Год назад +23

    Hi Andrew! Boy, I could go on and on. Secret #1- His work. He NEVER told me what he made, even when we/I wanted to plan the venue, choose wedding rings, etc..His past? He had none! At least that's what he told me. I knew NOTHING about him. He didn't have one friend. He was even alone when I met him. I was with 2 gfriends. All I knew was he worked as an accountant somewhere. I felt that he didn't make much, so I paid for dinner. He dressed as though he was not too affluent. Long story short, he made TWICE as much as me, he saved his money, and owned 2 vehicles including a Lexus. It was garaged kept. He married 2 weeks after I left him to a RICH woman..
    When you love someone, you are so blinded! HE WAS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE!
    Great topic Andrew ❤❤❤

  • @GoldFeather123
    @GoldFeather123 2 месяца назад +1

    My 88 yr old mother is just now learning what I have been through with the X Narc I was with. She has told me that at the end of his life he will answer for it. She has encouraged me to move forward and heal.

  • @carin5767
    @carin5767 Год назад +2

    Spot on!! Every single word! You're my inspiration when I doubt myself❤

  • @jill4268
    @jill4268 Год назад +10

    Victims Frauds and All the stuff about their bad childhood etc
    Of course they did
    Professional victims
    And you are so correct it's such a disgusting card they play
    They wanted to relocate and had me move in
    They deserve all the evil twisted back to them‼️

  • @jacklimcortez7660
    @jacklimcortez7660 Год назад +3

    TRUE TRUE TRUE Thanks Looking back I see that ☹️ Now I understand Even with friends I am healing and using my energy is get well physically mentally and emotionally ❤️🙏🙏😁🙏🦋

  • @julieseee
    @julieseee Год назад +10

    Nothing is worse than the fear of fear itself, step out and see what the world truly has to offer, you owe this to yourself xx

  • @jmfewwfvhu
    @jmfewwfvhu Год назад +11

    Andrew😊 six months I’ve been watching you. Wouldn’t have made it this far without your guidance.
    THANK YOU
    🌲 ❤ 🌳 ❤ Love you Andrew ❤❤

  • @maried7776
    @maried7776 Год назад +10

    They’d drive a saint insane🌬 Hi Andrew & all 😉✌🏼💜

  • @marietjiestapelberg8230
    @marietjiestapelberg8230 Год назад +12

    💯 They live secret lifes their whole lifes....that is the reason why you need to remove yourself from their circle because they will keep you there to use and abuse because they won't give you closure as well..

  • @SewDiva5691
    @SewDiva5691 Год назад +42

    My ex narc boyfriend didn’t take rejection well. I moved out of my apartment and lived in a different location. It got Scary when he came to my old apartment banging so hard on the door I thought he was going break open the door. I called the police right away. When the police came he was gone. Ex narc boyfriend was sweet at first until the mask fell off. Be safe everyone! Thank you, Andrew for having our back! Namaste🙏🙏🙏

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +6

      😌💯🙏😇🙌

    • @janetroberts5140
      @janetroberts5140 Год назад +6

      You are now blessed in you Best, better life!!!❤🎉😊

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Год назад +6

      SewDiva56, when my narcs mask fell off, I couldn't believe how UGLY he looked! That's why I call them MONSTERS!

    • @SunshineDawn7
      @SunshineDawn7 Год назад +3

      Yes ! Be careful people ! My ex Narc used to track me down and drag me home physically and he literally broke the door down ! It is best to be around other people when you leave just to be safe ! Stay safe ! Great comment ! ❤❤🙏🙏

    • @joshuaanzalone2060
      @joshuaanzalone2060 Год назад

      @@jannlewandowski5540 that they are jan,they are evil demons

  • @ditris69
    @ditris69 Год назад +18

    When I first met him, I was doing fantastic on my own. Then I met him, relocated, got married last year and I started to catch on some behavior patterns that I've seen before. Since then I've left and he says that he's going to get help. I really hope that he does but I can't can't help him. I suffer with PTSD from being with another for 17 years. I can't go through it again

  • @plumduff3303
    @plumduff3303 3 месяца назад +2

    She told me how hard her life was...how broke how difficult...reality was so different she had many men, loads of money and a large house...she was a crook

  • @stefaniadiamond
    @stefaniadiamond Год назад +12

    Secrets so they can keep their lies straight

  • @lanie-ok
    @lanie-ok Год назад +26

    Spot on as usual! Thank you. You help us enormously by realising it wasn't our fault. They are liars and heartless parasites. Thank God for being free. Would rather live in my car, as I did for a while when I finally fled!

  • @janet4513
    @janet4513 Год назад +2

    Thank you Andrew!! 🙏God Bless 💕

  • @sharinaharrison4276
    @sharinaharrison4276 Год назад +14

    I am finally fully detached from the narcissist I was with for 13 years which was on and off because he constantly ghosted me throughout those years and also used the silent treatment for weeks at a time I am so appreciative for these videos They give me so much clarity and understanding and I will never waste my time energy effort and love on a narcissist now that I am fully aware that they exist Before my ex I never knew these evil wicked individuals existed Now I know and I am awakened

  • @Truthteller1s
    @Truthteller1s Год назад +17

    Thanks so much for speaking truth and encouraging others. It's day 115 without the toxic narcissist. Trust me people it gets so much easier. God reveals things that you never even considered every day. This makes your healing so much better. Hang in there. You will be so much better for it. Don't fall for the hoovers.

  • @mostHigh23
    @mostHigh23 Год назад +3

    I'm not even talkin about his secrets I found a whole bunch of s*** out later

  • @guymcmullan9297
    @guymcmullan9297 Год назад +10

    I just watched this go down, it's tragic to the victims around, witch craft with evil intentions 🚬💀🐓

  • @flowerpower4944
    @flowerpower4944 Год назад +6

    We were polar opposites completely, like Chalk and Cheese, 🌟🌺🌼

  • @wayneelliott1180
    @wayneelliott1180 Год назад +5

    I had to laugh when you were describing the phone call to the narc suddenly appearing with a name you don't recognise, old school friend etc. My narc - early in the piece - invited me for dinner. Almost before I could sit down, she called some supply on her mobile and talked and talked and talked - like I wasn't there. She'd stop every now and say 'Sorry, won't be long,' then go off on another line of babble. I got the impression the other person was trying to end the call but she wouldn't let her. Eventually, I got up and walked out. Went home. She texted and called for hours after and I ignored all of them. Probably the most manipulative - and cunning - person I have ever met.

  • @joannejohnson7006
    @joannejohnson7006 7 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you Andrew 😊

  • @F417H
    @F417H Год назад +3

    Aquaseafoamshame is right, Blessings Andrew. Merci 🌹

  • @garykeating4964
    @garykeating4964 Год назад +2

    Thank you Andrew for your help 🙏 👍

  • @sanjmalik6282
    @sanjmalik6282 Год назад +16

    They lead double life, truth only comes out after they leave and you connect all the dots.

  • @violetgypsie
    @violetgypsie Год назад +12

    One of your most succinct videos yet Andrew. Your personal growth is evident. May God continue to bless you and all of us who have been through this labyrinth.

  • @sherryslilark
    @sherryslilark Год назад +11

    Doing great now without the Narc.

  • @lisamariesmith3610
    @lisamariesmith3610 Год назад +6

    Mine always said things were on a need to know basis with every one but I didn’t think it applied to me. How naive I was. When your a not a deceitful person you don’t believe the one you love is. Mind scrambling.

  • @jornfox3545
    @jornfox3545 Год назад +12

    Good solution, needed this.

  • @HealerWarrior101
    @HealerWarrior101 Год назад +3

    Their life is all secrets hidden behind a mask.

  • @marylamb56
    @marylamb56 Год назад +4

    Thanks so much Andrew! I tried to be polite 🙃

  • @AlexaCBrown
    @AlexaCBrown Год назад +21

    One of the many blessings, is that I found your channel... And another, is that seven years ago, my toxic narcissistic "sister", stopped speaking to me. In the past 49 years prior, I would always call... this time I embraced her being gone. She literally gave me one of the greatest gifts, without even knowing it.
    Namaste, and love to you and yours from me and my beautiful family 🌅🙏💝🌅💌

  • @sylviaamodeo7090
    @sylviaamodeo7090 Год назад +3

    I just keep saying,,,,,,,Wow, wow.
    Waited too long for the Peace with me now!

  • @bettysmith1012
    @bettysmith1012 Год назад +5

    It's such a lonely process to recover from. Nobody understands or like you said Andrew, wants to hear it. I wish this on no one!!

  • @nevinhall2853
    @nevinhall2853 Год назад +2

    ✨Golden Nuggets✨

  • @kimhumiston2686
    @kimhumiston2686 Год назад +1

    Excellent point that the narcissist NEEDS their victim(s). We are their fuel to make themselves feel better, stronger, powerful, all the while draining us. NOT ANYMORE, THANKS TO CHANNELS LIKE YOURS! Thanks Andrew!

  • @mrt1957
    @mrt1957 Год назад +16

    11 years, I got zapped so hard, I have so much evidence and I could shame her amongst her peers. But I know I just need to move on and realize the lesson learned.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +3

      😌😌💯

    • @artluvr6170
      @artluvr6170 Год назад +5

      I know the feeling, but it is best to avoid any interaction with them or their friends. ANY energy you direct toward them is interpreted as them still having control of you, which they love.

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад +3

      The best revenge is to have a good life!🌻

    • @mrt1957
      @mrt1957 Год назад

      @@emilywilson7308 I will count this as lesson learned, I am not the only narcissist int the world, certainly not the best.

  • @mariebonet8521
    @mariebonet8521 9 месяцев назад +1

    He would hold intimacy from me for long periods of time. I would feel so hurt by this. He would see me beat myself up about this, He didn't care. He wanted to lower my self esteem. However, I had to be ready whenever he wanted sex. Very emotionally selfish beings. Your right Andrew, the amount of lies / secrets were unbelievable and never ending.

  • @johnalexander4513
    @johnalexander4513 Год назад +30

    It is my opinion that it is IMPOSSIBLE for a narcissist to become a normal loving and empathic human being. Andrew calls the narcissist “people” but many professionals refer to them as “creatures” not people. In ALL my searches and research I have yet to find 1 person who experienced a true narcissist, and had to go NO CONTACT on the creature for the myriad reasons Andrew speaks of here, and, then got hoovered or reeled back in by the narcissist, and found their narcissist a changed being of genuine love and affection. They are what they are through and through.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +3

      😌🙏🙌

    • @dubaiedge
      @dubaiedge Год назад +1

      They're missing something in the head 🧠

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад +6

      We have to face the facts. They are not able to become enlightened.

    • @leviwhite3553
      @leviwhite3553 Год назад +6

      A true narcissist. What led me down the rabbit hole years ago was my encounter with one. She believed that she was descended from werewolves and that her father was some biker who had these supernatural powers. She was the queen of the Lykins and just waiting for her biker prince.
      That is a true narcissist. Grandiose and so self serving that we are just pawns to them. Shiny objects on the road to glorification of self.
      Even after that individual I allowed narcissistic people in. Somehow someway I told myself they weren't. Until now. When I have realized I'm a magnet to them and have to change how I am and how I attract people.
      It gives me hope that not many have met a true narcissist. I can remember that relationship crystal clear and the details are so fantastical from beginning to end that I can barely vocalize it.

    • @bobbarker1798
      @bobbarker1798 Год назад +3

      "Creatures", good one!

  • @nicolagrimmer100
    @nicolagrimmer100 Год назад +4

    SPOT ON AS ALWAYS JUST BRILLIANT ❤

  • @briettasonlen1208
    @briettasonlen1208 Год назад +6

    Perfect...thanks

  • @shirleymorneau6409
    @shirleymorneau6409 Год назад +29

    This hits home big time. Every single thing you said. Forty-eight and a half years. But blocked now. 11 months ago. Thank you, Andrew, for your videos. They have helped me through this so much this last year.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +4

      Welcome 😌💯🙏💪🙌

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад +4

      Wow! I was with mine for 40 years... Unreal, isn't it?

    • @stoneymorris5366
      @stoneymorris5366 Год назад +2

      32 yrs! My eyes were opened .... congratulations to us friend! We escaped from a cult with a bright future ahead.

  • @marybarton5651
    @marybarton5651 Год назад +18

    Great video, Andrew. Drama makes me physically ill... don't want it, don't need it... it has been a busy day, and I am going to put my feet up and relax... maybe curl up with a good book, open the window when it cools down outside and listen to my new purple butterfly windchime jingle in the summer breeze.😊

  • @mariasewell3825
    @mariasewell3825 Год назад +10

    Yes, the one that I was married to 15 years ago he looked like he was hiding from someone. He was safe with me for for 11 years, but I have no idea about the help. He was a toxic narcissistic I never even heard the word before my entire life I was I was not from the street so I have no idea what I was in until I realize that something is this man didn’t know how to love me and you give me nothing for 11 years and he didn’t work for 11 years so it was time for me to divorce him. I blocked him 34 years ago now so I don’t miss him. I’m glad he’s out of my life now I can move on and take care of me myself and I and love myself more.

  • @mostHigh23
    @mostHigh23 Год назад +3

    My secrets are things people have told me but I will not divulge😊

  • @AI1983-r1k
    @AI1983-r1k Год назад +2

    Golden ,again and again...couldn't be a better video. Again one that is absolutely important to watch in my opinion.

  • @malapersad7310
    @malapersad7310 Год назад +36

    Good evening Andrew. So true. He first started out as being bisexual, then he was sexually abused as a child, then other women used and abused him. I fell for all the victim stories to my own detriment. Then later on found out he is full gay. I always felt so sorry for that individual only to find out I was praying and wishing well to an evil entity. Everyday I ask myself how did I allow this person to hurt, deceived, betrayed me and then discarded me like garbage. Now he is all over showing off the new shiny object. Thanks Andrew. God bless you

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +5

      💯🙏😌

    • @martyvirtue4051
      @martyvirtue4051 Год назад

      All male narcs are gays as well. They aren’t in for the sex. They are in for the supply no matter who gives it to them.

    • @MaryFlavor_kanini
      @MaryFlavor_kanini Год назад +4

      Andrew, can tell us from what I have read read or heard from other people, most Narcissists men can be gay. Mine also exhibited such signs
      obsessed with buying inner wears, attempting anal sex a habit I had not seen, asking me to shave and kiss his privates, unending mouth sores. I refused all these. Am a Christian, wedded in church so I moved out of his bedroom and am living celibate. Hoping to leave him end of this year.

    • @Inesamon21
      @Inesamon21 Год назад +1

      You are free now. Free to shine and give your love to yourself. Free from deception.

    • @concernedcitizen7697
      @concernedcitizen7697 Год назад +1

      they are masters at their craft I am thankful to be free

  • @Tertietert
    @Tertietert Год назад +2

    You are so spot on. I am right in the middle of it, now.

  • @rosemoon698
    @rosemoon698 Год назад +8

    Andrew everything you're saying here is exactly what I experienced. Except this guy never asked me for money. He literally spent so much money on me that I was constantly asking him why he was doing it because I have my own job and made pretty good money myself. Besides all of that, once he told me," you have to work for me, you can't just have me". I wish I had stopped seeing him then but I didn't. I did for a few weeks. In the end, after 2 years of me no contacting him every time I got annoyed with him... sometimes for weeks at a time, thinking I had this all under control, I'll tell you a few of the scary things I discovered about him. This guy literally was not even who his ID said he was. He was born in another country with a completely different name. He told me he had sexually assaulted a little female cousin of his more than once, but he was only 8 at the time. So I attributed this to lack of adult supervision. In the end, the last few times I was with him, he intentionally hurt me sexually. I didn't realize that it was intentional until he said some very shocking things which I won't mention. The last time I was with him, I discovered he had been involved with multiple local prostitutes and online sexual encounters, even trying to buy a female. Yes, buy her. I have gone no contact, moved, got rid of the phone I had and even getting a different vehicle. He had tracking devices on my vehicle and phone, that he purchased. There is a lot more. But this is very lengthy. I can't even believe I let this creep of a man manipulate me. I was doing great before I met him. Just like you said. At least I'm doing ok now. I'm very afraid for any women he gets involved with. But I can't help them. He seems to good to be true.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +2

      😌😌🙏

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад +3

      Rose, what a nightmare! God bless you as you heal from this monster!🌹

    • @Hatbox948
      @Hatbox948 Год назад

      My God, this was extreme. I'd have been so stressed out. Hopefully you're okay and safe now.

    • @allesgut8506
      @allesgut8506 Год назад +1

      "--you have to work for me .." were you aware, that he is a pimp - to that time ? Good that you found out, at least lateron, and much better: you got very far away. - These people are surely dangerous creeps. - These liars are all a waste of time.
      Thank you for sharing that info. - I wish you God's protection , always. Stay safe

  • @robin2319
    @robin2319 Год назад +6

    Good morning 🌞 thanks for video ❤

  • @elizabethflorez2372
    @elizabethflorez2372 Год назад +1

    So true . These minions always have secrets.

  • @fainitesbarley2245
    @fainitesbarley2245 Год назад +3

    When I look back I realise everything was manipulative. Nothing was normal. There was always an underlying agenda.
    Hence the confusion and anxiety. And this was just a friend.

  • @jill4268
    @jill4268 Год назад +3

    This is such an in depth excellent video and should be watched
    Because WTH happens after that mask falls off
    These people are soooo disgusting
    GREAT VIDEO
    THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS AND SHARING
    THEY THINK A LOT OF PEOPLE WONT FIGURE THEM OUT BUT THERE ARE SOME WISE PEOPLE OUT THERE

  • @DJ-le5lo
    @DJ-le5lo Год назад +4

    After 36 yrs my spouse told me.."I am not the person you think I am"
    🤨 Spouse like a coward just disappeared....no contact (I am pleased).Lots of belongings disappeared as well.
    Andrew knows who & what these empty creatures masquerading as healthy mentally stable individuals.
    I am amazed how much he knows ABT their behaviour! Great help you are Andrew💯. 🙏 Thank you

  • @ladiebugs
    @ladiebugs Год назад +4

    Narcissists love secrets. Another great video, Andrew. Thanks♡

  • @BrianFrederick-fx2bd
    @BrianFrederick-fx2bd Год назад +1

    They just had come by recently a place to stay, and they leave again. I'm not the holiday inn!!

  • @christinelawrence4315
    @christinelawrence4315 Год назад +9

    Thank you so much Andrew for your insightful recounts regarding the narcissist. Even though I still have "my days" I know that I'm powering ahead in positivity .. you are SO RIGHT!! HE needed me more than I needed him. The best money that I ever spent was dropping a cheque to my lawyer saying "get the divorce over and done with"!!! Very liberating... We are the beautiful ones that "got away" and they know it .. they will never have the beautiful kind hearted loving partner that was us EVER AGAIN!!!

  • @WhiteWolfBlackStar
    @WhiteWolfBlackStar Год назад +7

    Calm and beautiful. Healthy, happy prosperous and thriving on all levels! Exactly what I need
    Let them live in their own filth and chaos! I’m exhausted with being exploited!
    Pay what you owe and let me go!

  • @kathleencondit1660
    @kathleencondit1660 Год назад +7

    Never have wanted people to tell me their secrets that I was not to repeat to someone else. Secrets are a heavy burden to carry. It is often an ugly energy. I've said to people over the years, no, please don't tell me your secrets. I'd rather be around a blunt person than a secretive one. Thank you.

  • @nanaof6angels
    @nanaof6angels Год назад +4

    Yes everything you said is true!!!

  • @marioncoffin-eq5jk
    @marioncoffin-eq5jk Год назад +1

    Thank you Andrew All this is not imagination such alot from the coward and bully exhausting wouldn't wish this treatment on any one

  • @jak9483
    @jak9483 Год назад +9

    This was amazing. Thank you.

  • @LifeWithPunky
    @LifeWithPunky Год назад +2

    Even when he had the Best in that category!

  • @Crave88evarC
    @Crave88evarC Год назад +3

    Your channel has helped me tremendously. I cannot thank you enough.
    I was discarded and was soon to know I meant nothing really. In just three months she future faked me. Lovebombed me and all this just to end it just like that. It was like being hit by a truck. She was never invested and that hurt me so much.

  • @jocelienjimenez9821
    @jocelienjimenez9821 Год назад +9

    L❤VE YOURE CONTENT IT'S VERY USEFUL THANK YOU ANDREW NAMASTE MY FRIEND✌❤👍❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @lailaa6662
    @lailaa6662 Год назад +1

    Spot on..the narc sneakily spoke highly of one ex.. but played the victim about another.. he had kids with both.. he’s had so many exes but these two are the main ones as he had kids (all adults now) with them and maintained contact with them.. except the one he played victim with.. no contact with her..he said she had another man lined up quickly and that she kept the child from him.. after learning about narcissism I now realise she probably went through the narc cycle too.. it’s odd.. for many years he would say bad stuff about her.. but then in recent years he said oh we got along fine it was her family that were annoying.. the story always changes with a narc! Can’t keep things straight! Over the years I have watched him constantly change .. his passions change and I now realise it’s also due to the type of supply he gets..
    I stupidly called him out a few months ago when he told me to leave and I packed my things and almost left but was hoovered back in.. before the Hoover, I said do you know you’re a narcissist and he said “do you know what a narcissist is? They only care about themselves, I do what I do for the animals because I care about them”.. he doesn’t realise he is a hoarder and a narc.. that I know of.. but I feel that he knows what he’s doing sometimes.. and Andrew always says they know.. many people say they know what they’re doing .. sigh.. Andrew is right.. there is no point in calling them out.. getting the education on this channel and making a plan is better.
    I never get enough sleep and I’m always rushing when I’m outside and feeling guilty if I have to go out.. i need to go out to get stuff though! I’m relieved to finally have some time today to sit and watch these videos right now, before more work is piled onto me again.
    Before the relationship I was doing well mentally and physically.. but I was very lonely.. now during the relationship I’ve slowly deteriorated starting with anxiety attacks soon after the relationship.. and now it’s 15 years later and my anxiety is worse and I struggle with eating and ocd..this last part started a few years ago and only gets worse due to the environment here.
    Thank you for this powerful video.. it’s helped me reflect and I learn even more when I read the other comments.

  • @papichampagnio
    @papichampagnio Год назад +17

    You are so correct man. I am now in my 3rd phase and I am hitting the gym with a wrath and vengeance I have never had before. Everything feels like its back to normal and my finances are back to normal, about to become even better. This whole time, I tricked myself into thinking I needed her when in reality, I was doing all these things on my own already. Thank you so much for your insight. You are a godsend my friend. All the best.

  • @janetgd
    @janetgd Год назад +4

    I got the hoover 2 days ago. Thanks to your channel I spotted it for what it was. I survived it.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад

      💪😇🙌🙏

    • @fainitesbarley2245
      @fainitesbarley2245 Год назад +1

      Well done!

    • @janetgd
      @janetgd Год назад

      And the weirdest part was he phoned when I was on a date. Literally as I sat down with a person with good energy. I had blocked him so he'd left a message. Don't know how that worked but he did work in IT security and I know there are workarounds to any system.

  • @laurareap128
    @laurareap128 Год назад +3

    Thank you Andrew, another great video. Full of wisdom, tips and encouragement. I hope everyone on the channel is healing and living their best life. Thank you. 🙏🥰🤗🥳💖

  • @jeanne5371
    @jeanne5371 Год назад +2

    Fantastic video Andrew! I subconsciously must have known this all along! I was his lover and mother all rolled in one. Yes, the adult child needed ME!

  • @hibbertsh
    @hibbertsh Год назад +1

    Thanks Andrew, this session was so very much enlightening, I have reached my happy faze, and gladly rid of this piece of crap... I never want to see this creature again. Everything you said, I was nodding my head 😊

  • @rapstar4575
    @rapstar4575 Год назад +3

    Spot on ❤🎉

  • @hokuponopono4415
    @hokuponopono4415 Год назад +12

    Thanks Andrew. Im so exhausted from my dads narcissistic full on personality while i carerake him as he becomes more angry with dementia. I fear for my future. I keep snapping at bay. I dont mean a sharp repramand either...😢

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +1

      Welcome 😌🙏💯🙏

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад

      I took care of my narc Mother-in-law for 2 years and I wanted to kill her! I started looking into nursing homes and she was so mad about it that she moved out to live with another relative. Happiest day of my life!

  • @mostHigh23
    @mostHigh23 Год назад +6

    You're definitely right Andrew. They do need people. My daughter said she was with her father one day. The car was breaking down. But she said he had to ride past the park just so people can see him in his classic car. Lmao 😂🤣

  • @lindasapiecha2515
    @lindasapiecha2515 Год назад +3

    Oh yes and he accussed of things He was doing

    • @jennyboryca
      @jennyboryca Год назад +1

      All the time what a rollercoaster last thing I said to him as I’m done with your ride I’m gonna walk this one out

  • @adventureswithwolfdogs2110
    @adventureswithwolfdogs2110 Год назад +4

    I thought in the beginning it was me but the one time I asked him “why he never supported me”he laphed..HE LAPHED..that’s when I knew

  • @mostHigh23
    @mostHigh23 Год назад +6

    That's me reactive abuse😅. And you're right Andrew. The trauma bond is the hardest😢

  • @Be_brave_and_true
    @Be_brave_and_true Год назад +4

    Thank you Andrew, you have helped me so much!

  • @kathleendubois7128
    @kathleendubois7128 Год назад +5

    Thank you Andrew. You are completely correct. We appreciate the education you are giving us and knowing other people have experienced the same betrayal and deception. It does seem like the very end of the world but one can move on and away from a Narcissist, just keep your eyes and your mind focused in the opposite direction and you WILL BREAK FREE

  • @Virninia-b9f
    @Virninia-b9f Год назад +2

    Thank you Andrew a lots. I am a widower , I been married for 30 years and been married in healthy relationship. Unfortunately I lost my husband . After being on my own I started a relationship with a person, who is probably a narcist. Its so confusing and draining emocional relationship. I never, ever had any understanding about narcisism. But now iam in toxic relationship. That person critisizw me ,putting me down, shouts at me if I have a different understanding or twisting information. I never experience that before. My friends don't understand how I got in that unhelthy relationship. After being so much respect and valued by my husband , now iam constantly being critisized. I am watching all your videos and it help me to understand that is toxic relationship. Now iam trying to get out of that strange and draining relationship Thank you so much for your videos. That information is very usefull for me

  • @malapersad7310
    @malapersad7310 Год назад +6

    That is also true. Was doing good before them. He never one day cared about. But took from me. Before I met that evil I never used to cry. Lo and behold I críed almost everyday for two years. With prayers and your help Andrew I am healing. Thank again

  • @gina1280
    @gina1280 Год назад +1

    I definitely became reactive while with the narc and looking back, I looked like a crazy person to outsiders...haha luckily my true friends (very few but worth their weight in gold) knew something was off. Every day with out the narc is an improvement even if I do still have moments of pain and sadness.... I would rather be me than them.

  • @celestapalmer1161
    @celestapalmer1161 Год назад +2

    Best channel I have been on. Thank you.

  • @Bianca-sw5id
    @Bianca-sw5id Год назад +1

    Isn't it devastating how nothing in life is as good as it seems Long Term 🥺🥺🥺 , we don't expect life to be easy Andrew 🥰 , we just don't need to be watching out for the narcissistists who can be contagious 🥴🥴

  • @blessed162
    @blessed162 Год назад +1

    Andrew every word is the absolute truth, I realise it now. I was just to naive to identify the problem.

  • @rubyjet9513
    @rubyjet9513 Год назад +10

    Hello Andrew and everyone ❤️ !
    I wish everyone a nice day☀️, night or morning.