My ex called me everyday for at least an hour and he still cheated the entire relationship. Ladies, watch out for the “perfect” and “too good to be true” man too.
They're out there to! Keep that third open, they're trying you and if you give them room...they will play the game on you and with you. If the connection is deep, you'll know if he's being true or not. That feeling we women get does not stir us wrong! Don't ignore it💯
Ladies, please don’t sit on the phone for six hours with a man. That’s how you end up disclosing your life story and leave no mystery. Cut the conversation short about 30 minutes or so and let him plan a proper date to talk in person if he wants to know more about you. If he’s interested he’ll plan more dates and want to see you more in person. Remember guys are also visual don’t get too caught up in talking on the phone he should make actually seeing you a priority.
Lisa, I admire that but what the above initial comment gave off was playing games, not being natural, of course we need to form boundaries, for everyone we interact with. I don't believe in giving all to someone that's not committed to I either.
I had a guy call me, FaceTime me, and even gave me the password to his phone, and he still entertained women. I had a man who was an abuser with anger issues blow up my phone. Truthfully only God knows the true intent of a man's motives. As long as God confirms that this is a man of God, and he is your husband, don't worry about the extra stuff.
God never lets his children be deceived. But sometimes we dismiss what he is trying to show us. I can say that every man that was no good I knew deep down that he was full of bs. I’m not impressed by words or a man blowing up my phone. Taking my time and abstaining from sex has helped me to quickly discern a man’s character and true intention.
LC Jones yes i agree with this. Practicing celibacy for me has changed my life. I don’t even entertain foolishness and i began to attract different types of men. We definitely miss all the signs jumping in bed with ppl.
I’m a texter, i will literally send paragraphs for days. But i met this new man and he isn’t a texter at all. He’ll respond to my texts but he always picks up the phone to respond first. Next thing i know two months in and some phone calls are 2-3 hours long. Our dates are 4-6 hour long conversation. I never thought i would meet a man who talks as much as me!!😂😂 thank you Jesus
Fay Marie But how would you know? A man with bad intentions can love bomb the hell out of you until he has you hooked. That can be months or years. A narcissist will give and give until you get hooked. Lady’s till should take heed and listen to intuition.
Exactly! I totally agree with you. Some people can't be told anything and wonder why they are repeating the same things every year. You don't know everything smh.
It’s a reason why God says “be quick to listen, slow to speak”. Men who are not serious won’t be consistent. They start off strong but it doesn’t last especially if you’re not giving them sex. And if they’re not serious the convo is shallow, they have limited time to see you in person and they prefer to meet at your or his house instead of going out on dates. It’s really not that complicated if you take time to discern a man’s true intentions.
A man that's interested will have patients for you and with you.... he's interested in knowing who you are, and willing to accept your flaws, he's a listener, he's consistent, and he's willing to devote himself whole- hearted (No exceptions).......
@@KeepTheFaith00 Its not that they lack patience (because they will be patient enough to butter up a female he knows will give it up so he will wait awhile and put the mack on her to get them draws) What it is is that there's too many females giving it up easily and there's no need for him to take time to WANT to know about a female (especially if he's feeling horny) Its like, "if he's hungry, why work hard to buy the filet mignon when he can just easily grab a steak 'um sandwich to satiate his hunger and go about his business".
My ex-husband (we’re divorced now) use to call me everyday & still cheated on me. I believe he use to call me to make sure I wasn’t doing anything cause he was out there hoeing around
Yup my ex was like that also. Call hisself checking in uh huh to see where I'm at so he can move how he wanted with his community penise self. Smdh trust they watching these videos to too hone in on their game. It's crazy how dudes go out of their way & waste their time & a woman's for a 1 night stand. You have dudes that will waste up to a year smdh
Don't return his calls or texts. And see how long he will keep trying to seek you out. Answer a few time, but always keep it short. Never give all of your time even if you're truly interested.
vidaholmes I be doing that and he’ll either pop up at my house or call my phone or text me. I try to ignore this dude for days he wouldn’t let me lol. I’ll even wait to see if he’ll text me first before I text him normally he’ll text me first then I start texting. Cause he a man wants you he’ll come chasing
STOP thinking on the surface now ladies...it's NOT just the IDEA of him calling...what is included n those conversations ALSO matters...IF he is not making plans and following thru on building then therein lies the red flags...a narcissist or a predator will only see wht they can get from u so pay ATTENTION to the type of talk he talking...
Chevaun yes. Sometimes we point the finger too much at the men and a lot of these things are happening because we allowed it. This grown man is not speaking about men calling your phone talking about nothing. He is talking about men who courts women and is intentional about what they want in their life. Most times we know exactly when these men are wasting our time. We need to acknowledge that
TiffanyB TV I didn’t want to say it but so true. We (women) have to be accountable and admit that we allowed our time to be wasted and allowed a man to use/manipulate us. Men can only do what we allow them to do. Also sometimes these men are calling and not talking about anything of substance and women still entertain them. There are always red flags but most women ignore them and then later get mad because they feel the man used or manipulated them. But truthfully you should be mad at yourself then reflect so you won’t repeat the same mistakes with a different man. Sometimes I cringe at the finger pointing at men because it makes women look stupid like we are so naive that we can’t discern when a man is preying on us.
Ladies... holding a conversation with a man on the phone for an hour or more does NOT mean tell your life story to him. Women must practice ACTIVE LISTENING!!! As TG shared in this video, we allow our minds to wander and start fantasizing. My father told me this many years ago.... keep a notebook and jot down key things the man shares. Whether it is 30,60,90,120,180 365 days of communication, pay attention to the pattern. Has his story changed? Many of us women are selfish and self absorbed. We want him to pursue us, Court us, focus on us, that we are not studying his character. We are focused on did he fit our criteria, we missed out on very important details of getting to know him in those beginning stages.
Nowadays nothing is a guaranteed sign you just have to leave it to God and stand by him and just know “What’s done in the dark will come to light” sooner than later 🤷🏽♀️
I told one dude that I don't plan on having sex before marriage and that was the last time I heard from him. That will tell you how much they are into you.
Biggie said it best...."isn't this great, your flight leaves at 8....her flight lands at 9, my game just rewinds". If somebody wanna mess around, they gone do it real slick....REGARDLESS 🤷🏽♀️
Just recently, and I mean within last 48 hours we talked and texted all day long. BUT he is not a follower of Jesus Christ. We parted ways last night. I will not date a man who does not have respect for Jesus.
Lady Shenna did you have a conversation about religion with him or invite him to service. I totally understand there should be no missionary dating. But did you have a deeper convo?
@@Chanel5-q5o He asked me what was I looking for in a man. I answered and I stated I want a man that believes in Jesus and have a relationship with him. He stated "that was not him". He does not believe and has no interested in knowing Jesus. To make matters worse he did not tip the waitress when we went to dinner. I had to leave the tip.
@@Chanel5-q5o We were at dinner and he asked what was I looking for in a man. I did not state my whole list but I stated I want a man that believes in Jesus and have a relationship with Lord Jesus Christ. He stated "That is not him". He has no intentions in believing or getting to know Jesus. So I stated the relationship is not going to work for me. To make matters worse. He did not tip the waitress. I had to leave the tip.
Lady Shenna just curious because my pastor told church how he met wife . Basically, said he introduced her to Christ on third date, but was ready to put her down, if she said no thank you. Totally feel you, though
ALL FACTS!! I was dating a man talked to him everyday from the day we met; also video chat as well. He said all the right things, committment ready, talking about walking down the aisle. I did begin to notice his emphasis on moving in, I had already stated to him that I was not going to live with any man I was not married to. Long story short on a thursday we spoke clicking on all cylinders; the next day I text, called, video nothing until I asked was everything ok. He video called me. My intuition kicked in, so it took me a few days to process then I addressed it. Ultimately I ended it. Basically as Tony stated he had placed me on this pedestal and HE NEEDED ME! He lived with his 2 brothers!! I guess he knew he would not be able to sway me when it came to living with me....oh well, I got out in time.
Yes, the guy from another country who wanted a green card wanted to talk to me for hours everyday. He was full of Sh*t too! Be careful when he is lovebombing you ladies. That's a red flag.
You will never know! It's so many people who thought they knew and ended up in jail, divorced, and flatlined. This world is run by Witches and Warlocks and there's too many people straddling the fence trust no one except for the Lord! He's the only person that really wants to love you💙🙏🏾
I see where you're going Bro, but like others have mentioned most guys nowadays will "love bomb" you. In my experience you get full attention from the new guy phone calls & texts EVERY SINGLE DAY for about 2-3 weeks. Usually they can't keep up that level of attention & consistency any longer than that & they start slipping. After that you'll see the real inconsistency with them & that they're full of 💩. They're hope is that they've buttered you up enough to smash or at the very least start chasing/calling them & they pull back. Game recognize game tho. 😎
You're right. I think if he's able to keep up the phone calls, messages and seeing you on a regular basis for an extended period, then he's a keeper. Over time the fake ones will fade away.
True but if you listen to Tony he also advises to keep your legs closed. Most men love bomb you so they have sex and get you emotionally attached. Once they see that the daily phone calls and sweet words doesn’t open your legs then they fade away. Men who aren’t serious have zero patience. They move on to the next woman.
I don’t agree with talking for hours. I’ve had men do that and that’s how they tried to go about only getting sex. If a man is interested you shouldn’t have to ask it wouldn’t even be a question. Look at what he does for you, his character and how much he invests financially as well.
That’s not what he is talking about. He’s saying if a guy is into you he would invest his time. You would be able to tell if he’s shady or not by talking to him/getting to know him
i got from this vid. That even if you see him alot when you are apart he still takes time to call and message you. In the beginning its hard to judge his motives but all will be revealed with a little time.
The next time I meet a guy, I'm telling him UP FRONT, that I WILL NOT text him conversations and I DO NOT accept texting as a form of communication--PERIOD! Let's see how fast he takes off running! 🏃
I needed to hear this. I was getting ready to mess up because I just started talking to a gentleman that I’m attracted to about a month ago and he calls me every day. It’s been a little overwhelming and I thought maybe something was wrong. Thank you Tony so much for sharing this.
Dating today vs dating 12 years ago is VERY different due to social media. If it was 12 years ago, we'd be having hour long conversations because that was the only means of communication.
The caveat to all of this is do you want to talk to him that much as well. We focus so much on what a guy is doing to show interest but how have we decided we are interested? I don't have to talk every day or night but the quality of the conversation is what I am going to remember.
There's a lot of game playing going on and unfortunately social media encourages it and changed courting rules. I love a man who calls and converses with me daily. My man used to call me at 7 am EVERY morning and talk to me until 8 am during my morning commute. It never felt clingy, desperate, etc. We had random, meaningful conversations.
I remember a guy gave me about 4 hrs a day.. it was wonderful 😍 but then he married my next door neighbor... I didn't even know he knew her... but I always wondered what he did with the other 20 hrs of the day lmbo sometimes being a player takes time.. he was consistent.... with everyone lol
I love your videos!! I’m currently binge watching all of them. I used to watch your videos when I was in high school and now as I’m getting older (I will currently be 23 in 6 days.) I definitely want more for myself and to meet the man God has for me because I always tend to attract “grown boys “ 😂🤣. I am bettering myself and I just stopped by to drop a comment and to say I appreciate your work and thank you for helping all of us!
There are men who do all that to make us think he’s interested and still ain’t good. I cut them short, telling them I’m busy as don’t want my time being wasted anymore.
I have time to talk to a "Godly Man" for a hour or more a day. We can talk about our day, our goals, God, etc. I have no problem seeing him everyday on facetime and times in person when our schedules allow us to in person. If I have not seen his face for 3 days and neither one of us are on a business trip or caring for our ill family member 24/7 then there is a problem. We will have to set boundaries not to intimately touch but holding hands (as long as we want) and hugging (not too long) is fine. I would love to be courted by a Godly Man as I am a Woman of God who is ready. Thank you Tony for your expertise, God bless*
I hear no lies. No effort and ACTIONS = no relationship. Daily conversations should show that he is all about what actions he can DO. 1 hour of small talk and bragging about himself or on generalities is not valuable and is enabling him. He should be actively trying to understand his woman and finding out what he can DO.
Some guys say they are interested but their actions do not say the same and I thought maybe I was bugging but I’m not. They do not call, they barely text but they are interested. I’m like in who? !?!
My ex husband stayed on the phone with me for hours when we started. We will talk until we fall asleep. But he ended up cheating, treating me like trash. Now I don't even want to spend 30 minutes on the phone with the person I'm dating rn. So to be honest, only God can reveal the real intention of a man. Pray about it. ask for signs
First time I hear THE TRUTH and STRAIGHT TO THE POINT ! IN ONE SESSION! AMEN! BROTHER ! Ladies don't be deceived or distracted REMEMBER the devil is the father of lies and comes disguised as a angel of light ! PRAISE the LORD🙏 for the TRUTH ! 💖THANK YOU ! 👏
I believe it's the quality of the conversation and when having that conversation looking for hints to find out. Not just having a conversation for fun but to know more who he/she is. There are people who will have long conversation but majority of the conversation is disagreeing or flirting.
So true! The insincere man who wanted to talk to me for hours every day used that time to lovebomb me, not really wanting to get to know me or have a constructive conversation.
The only females falling for the "hello beautiful/gorgeous" and "good morning" texts are teenage girls lol Tony us grown women have been caught on to the foolery.
Sir I left 6yr relationship that I broke off with my fiance because he got someone pregnant. I've been watching your videos all the way from beautiful Papua New Guinea. You have given me so much insight into building a G-Dly relationship and I am on my way to a better and a new me firstly. Thank you so much G-D bless you and your beautiful family.
Man I’ve had a guy that would talk to me for hours on the phone but never wanted to see me or spend physical time with me ...he was wasting my time when i would complain about us not spending time together he’d always bring up work and school but on his off days it’s “i chilled today” “i went to a birthday party” ...my last response was “oh ok” BLOCKEDT
Thank you for making this video. Phone communication is one of my requirements and the men I meet keep telling me I’m asking for too much. They’ll start off calling every day consistently for at least an hour then it will change and as soon as I inquire why, I’m tripping, asking for too much, men don’t operate like that. All of the excuses when it was so effortless in the beginning. My first thought is of course something changed and interest is lost. I have to have communication I’m not a texter and when I don’t accept the change from talking everyday consistently to now just texting they disappear. I was starting to think I should just accept how people communicate today. I’m so happy your videos found me!
Never knew you were the one who actually came up with the 90-day rule. I always thought Steve Harvey came up with that. This was great info Tony. I enjoyed the video
1:28 I agree with you, being contacted by a man every day isn't creepy. What's creepy is when a coworker is messaging you during every nightshift at work to tell you how good you look... you work in an area where you cant even see him so youre wondering where the heck he's looking at you from. Ya, that happened to me. He even asked me to come over at 4 am to get in his hot tub. I straight up said Im not looking for sex. I was not interested in him, I only gave him my number because he asked me in front of my coworkers and I didn't want to embarrass him by declining.
Responding to what you said about talking on the phone everyday, I have my own business,he has his own business and we don't get to talk everyday and it doesn't bother me, when we have time its alright.
Hi! I just started watching you recently.. I can only share the other peoples opinions! You are the only real and authentic dating coach on RUclips! Someone, who talks about reality, as it is. Thanks, Tony!
I 💯 agree with this because I wasn’t ready to be in a relationship either because I had a job and other financial set backs that caused a lot of stress and depression in my life; but I acted accordingly because I was being truthful. He claimed he wanted to see how things would flow, so we talked on the phone and texted back and forth a lot in the beginning and continued to do so over a year. He was not completely honest about his relationship status, but by the time we consummated our relationship physically he was out of the relationship he had not been fully truthful about, yet acting angry because I’m not responding and doing for him like I’m his woman. The point is men can just be so dishonest and you just don’t always know what’s true with them and what isn’t. Then they get mad when or if they get played the same way even when I was honest.🤷🏽♀️
Love everyone of these videos. Wish I had them in my 20s. But going fwd. Also you know a man is interested when we don't have to question if he is. He makes it known* sigh....I'm ready to stay single...have been for 2 yrs. Not looking just hugely improved me. If it happens great, if not I'm great...but these videos are life changing. .Tony if you see this, you are truly helping women and men, and saving weeks, mths, yrs, lifetimes of future heartbreak. Also are helping us to heal. Completely amazing person you are...taking your own struggles, lessons, triumphs and passing on the knowledge ensuring good comes from it. Wasn't in vain- i mean obviously-it helped you in your life but you are selfless in helping us. You are immensely appreciated.
" WHEN A MAN WANTS U HE WILL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR U! " NO MATTER WHAT! LADIES: " BE QUICK TO LISTEN! AND " SLOW TO SPEAK!" THIS IS THE ONLY WAY U KNOW IF A MAN IS SERIOUS!" PAY ATTENTION ALWAYS! THANK U! TONY LOOKIN FORWARD TO MORE! 😊🙏
I've been talking to this man 4 a month .we talk every day, on the phone. I was there 4 Him when He got sick.,Were connecting Remember we haven't been on our 1st.date .yet.,were making plans this weekend which is my Birthday. Ladies "even men you'll know when it's Real or BS. Its will Flow so easy.😊
Yep, when my husband was courting me we had a standing phone date when we weren’t together. Of course we were flexible with plans but we made it a priority. That man did not miss his appts with me either! There are men who will do it !!!
This is true I met a good man couple days ago and he called me yesterday and we talked for 1 hr exactly and I enjoyed talking to him I didn't even realize we talked that long he asked alot about me and I asked him things about him I really enjoyed our conversation!
NOT IF THAT MAN IS A DEPENDENT, got to get on his feet before he can carry anything!!! Those guys should be FRIEND ZONED (convo @ Bay ONLY) or dismissed QUICKLY (no disrespect) 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 ... He is ALL over it!!! THOROUGH & matching it with the WORD not the WORLD!!! This is a BLESSING Thank You for sharing.
I,m not sure if i want him to call me often my ex calls me and four other woman consistently for over two years and i thought it was only me. Even husband material men do the same, only God knows nowadays so many deceitful men our there..
Agreed. ... A man that is into you will never leave you alone so that another man will have your time. but if we are not in a relationship I do not let a man keep me up at night just talking..We must go out and date..
Tony telling the truth about getting to know a person my co-worker was dating this Man just because he was Fine and drove a Porsche SUV he waited until she went to work and moved her right out of her 4 bedroom house. I'm from Houston Texas recently moved to Los Angeles these Men out here are Scammers like I've never seen before y'all better STAY WOKE!
I believe ever single word that u say.....u never go wrong on ur message....I want to personally thank u i appreciate ur wisdom and knowledge u give to us women... May god continue to bless u and ur family.
Thank you Tony for this video also. I just started talking to this guy and a red flag went up and I cut it off ASAP. He was not calling at all but text me. I even asked him to call me and he didn’t. I stopped all communication with him. Keep doing these video for ladies like me who don’t play games and have no time for nonsense or game playing. I know my love language and my top 2 are Quality Time and Acts of Service.
Keep him as is, ex. I find that in the winter seasons exes, acquitances, frenz wit benefit, etc luv 2 come check on u. No noo nooo. Keep ya distance. The door is close. Do not knock...
I am a texter. I do not like to talk on the phone at all. I have been chatting it up with a guy that we text 95% of the time. He is consistent and we text everyday throughout the day. He works internationally but our conversations are consistent. His answers and convo are spontaneous, definitely not copy and paste. If I want to talk on the phone he will do it and has done it, if I want to Skype or face time, it is not a problem and we have. I understand what Tony is saying about texting but for some it does work. We plan to meet in the next few weeks and be able to talk face to face.
I agree with your message. I've always heard that it's a forever committment to learn your spouse. Never stop learning and listening to who they are. Everything goes in stages and we change and adapt to what life throws at us and it's always better with our bestfriends ( husbands/wives) there talking through it all.
Tony you used to be a player because you’ve already said that and you are so on point I listen to all your videos and that’s why you have so much knowledge because you were that guy so when you’re talking I’m listening and I give you your kudos for changing your ways your wife is a blessed woman to have a good man like yourself
My ex called me everyday for at least an hour and he still cheated the entire relationship. Ladies, watch out for the “perfect” and “too good to be true” man too.
Wow
Yes "God told me to not expect a man to be perfect."
They're out there to! Keep that third open, they're trying you and if you give them room...they will play the game on you and with you. If the connection is deep, you'll know if he's being true or not. That feeling we women get does not stir us wrong! Don't ignore it💯
FatCuteCats thank you! Exactly.
That talking me nun I'ma do I was thinking the samething
Ladies, please don’t sit on the phone for six hours with a man. That’s how you end up disclosing your life story and leave no mystery. Cut the conversation short about 30 minutes or so and let him plan a proper date to talk in person if he wants to know more about you. If he’s interested he’ll plan more dates and want to see you more in person. Remember guys are also visual don’t get too caught up in talking on the phone he should make actually seeing you a priority.
Hello this is true
How long do you plan on being mysterious?
Lisa, so what makes you think he won't leave you after the mystery goes away???
Lisa, I admire that but what the above initial comment gave off was playing games, not being natural, of course we need to form boundaries, for everyone we interact with. I don't believe in giving all to someone that's not committed to I either.
Lisa, wow, thank you for sharing this, I'm a clueless 27yr old, I appreciate the wisdom ❤
Keep your legs closed to see how interested he really is
Period
Yes.
caramel kissez 👏🏽👏🏽
I've been saying and doing that for the last five yrs..!!
Real talk!!
Sometimes..... a man who is preying on you will give you all the time in the world to get what he wants also!!!!!
francis jenkins Exactly! Especially narcissist. They will manipulate you so good.
Exactly....💯💯✔
So true
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Yes those are narcissists and its calles love bombing!!! Run.
I had a guy call me, FaceTime me, and even gave me the password to his phone, and he still entertained women. I had a man who was an abuser with anger issues blow up my phone. Truthfully only God knows the true intent of a man's motives. As long as God confirms that this is a man of God, and he is your husband, don't worry about the extra stuff.
FACTS
Agreed
Yes time will tell if he's the man for you🙏
God never lets his children be deceived. But sometimes we dismiss what he is trying to show us. I can say that every man that was no good I knew deep down that he was full of bs. I’m not impressed by words or a man blowing up my phone. Taking my time and abstaining from sex has helped me to quickly discern a man’s character and true intention.
LC Jones yes i agree with this. Practicing celibacy for me has changed my life. I don’t even entertain foolishness and i began to attract different types of men. We definitely miss all the signs jumping in bed with ppl.
I’m a texter, i will literally send paragraphs for days. But i met this new man and he isn’t a texter at all. He’ll respond to my texts but he always picks up the phone to respond first. Next thing i know two months in and some phone calls are 2-3 hours long. Our dates are 4-6 hour long conversation. I never thought i would meet a man who talks as much as me!!😂😂 thank you Jesus
I agree with this, same.
Blessings, I'm happy for you!
Wow amazing 🤩
This amazing ❤️
Niccole Moody thank you love 💕
A predator will do the same.. Take heed lady’s. Trust your instincts.
Yes!
👏🏽amen sis!
That's why he said it does not count if the man is dependent and needs something from you.
Stand by firm boundaries and enforce them. They will not be interested.
Fay Marie But how would you know? A man with bad intentions can love bomb the hell out of you until he has you hooked. That can be months or years. A narcissist will give and give until you get hooked. Lady’s till should take heed and listen to intuition.
If a guy wants you he’ll stick around.
Plain & Simple
Only a man can tell you how a man thinks.. Lord help us women to listen and listen well..🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Exactly! I totally agree with you. Some people can't be told anything and wonder why they are repeating the same things every year. You don't know everything smh.
Amen
EXACTLY
I agree. I'm listening now!
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It’s a reason why God says “be quick to listen, slow to speak”. Men who are not serious won’t be consistent. They start off strong but it doesn’t last especially if you’re not giving them sex. And if they’re not serious the convo is shallow, they have limited time to see you in person and they prefer to meet at your or his house instead of going out on dates. It’s really not that complicated if you take time to discern a man’s true intentions.
Well said .and all truth 👊
LC Jones “And if they’re not serious the convo is shallow, limited time to see you in person and prefer to meet at your house or his house”--👈🏾🙌🏾💅🏾💯‼️
Tiffany Moore Good for you!
Robin D. Yes it’s hard. I know a few women who settled because they didn’t think a better man was out there.
I agree
A man that's interested will have patients for you and with you.... he's interested in knowing who you are, and willing to accept your flaws, he's a listener, he's consistent, and he's willing to devote himself whole- hearted (No exceptions).......
Yes!! 💯 All of this. A lot of them lack patience smh
@@KeepTheFaith00
Its not that they lack patience (because they will be patient enough to butter up a female he knows will give it up so he will wait awhile and put the mack on her to get them draws)
What it is is that there's too many females giving it up easily and there's no need for him to take time to WANT to know about a female (especially if he's feeling horny)
Its like, "if he's hungry, why work hard to buy the filet mignon when he can just easily grab a steak 'um sandwich to satiate his hunger and go about his business".
@@curli-lettey4319 That's true too! Men are gonna do what they want. Whatever 1 woman is not willing to do, he can find elsewhere. It is what it is
👏👏👏 EXACTLY!!!
What took him fifteen minutes to explain only took you a few minutes thank you...
My ex-husband (we’re divorced now) use to call me everyday & still cheated on me. I believe he use to call me to make sure I wasn’t doing anything cause he was out there hoeing around
@Bighearted Sunshine im really sorry
facts!!!
Hoeing 🤣🤣
Yup my ex was like that also. Call hisself checking in uh huh to see where I'm at so he can move how he wanted with his community penise self. Smdh trust they watching these videos to too hone in on their game. It's crazy how dudes go out of their way & waste their time & a woman's for a 1 night stand. You have dudes that will waste up to a year smdh
Exactly...💯💯
Don't return his calls or texts. And see how long he will keep trying to seek you out. Answer a few time, but always keep it short. Never give all of your time even if you're truly interested.
vidaholmes hehaheha I’m going through that I’m not available although I’m not that busy either.
@@veeoby3364 It's playing smart. Play the game or get played lol
vidaholmes I be doing that and he’ll either pop up at my house or call my phone or text me. I try to ignore this dude for days he wouldn’t let me lol. I’ll even wait to see if he’ll text me first before I text him normally he’ll text me first then I start texting. Cause he a man wants you he’ll come chasing
@@veeoby3364 exactly
So play games 🤔 ok
STOP thinking on the surface now ladies...it's NOT just the IDEA of him calling...what is included n those conversations ALSO matters...IF he is not making plans and following thru on building then therein lies the red flags...a narcissist or a predator will only see wht they can get from u so pay ATTENTION to the type of talk he talking...
Exactly!
Chevaun yes. Sometimes we point the finger too much at the men and a lot of these things are happening because we allowed it. This grown man is not speaking about men calling your phone talking about nothing. He is talking about men who courts women and is intentional about what they want in their life. Most times we know exactly when these men are wasting our time. We need to acknowledge that
@@AllThingsTiffanyTV RIGHT!! U get IT! U gotta b open but stay focused!
TiffanyB TV I didn’t want to say it but so true. We (women) have to be accountable and admit that we allowed our time to be wasted and allowed a man to use/manipulate us. Men can only do what we allow them to do. Also sometimes these men are calling and not talking about anything of substance and women still entertain them. There are always red flags but most women ignore them and then later get mad because they feel the man used or manipulated them. But truthfully you should be mad at yourself then reflect so you won’t repeat the same mistakes with a different man. Sometimes I cringe at the finger pointing at men because it makes women look stupid like we are so naive that we can’t discern when a man is preying on us.
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I am sitting here literally emotional. I am doing some real self-reflection today. I know I'm better than what i have been receiving.
Ladies... holding a conversation with a man on the phone for an hour or more does NOT mean tell your life story to him. Women must practice ACTIVE LISTENING!!! As TG shared in this video, we allow our minds to wander and start fantasizing. My father told me this many years ago.... keep a notebook and jot down key things the man shares. Whether it is 30,60,90,120,180 365 days of communication, pay attention to the pattern. Has his story changed?
Many of us women are selfish and self absorbed. We want him to pursue us, Court us, focus on us, that we are not studying his character. We are focused on did he fit our criteria, we missed out on very important details of getting to know him in those beginning stages.
Keeping yourself pure, not having sex with keep you safe and sober minded. His actions speak, don't be fooled by Disney talk
Glory HalleluYah
Nowadays nothing is a guaranteed sign you just have to leave it to God and stand by him and just know “What’s done in the dark will come to light” sooner than later 🤷🏽♀️
Right
I told one dude that I don't plan on having sex before marriage and that was the last time I heard from him. That will tell you how much they are into you.
"Good Morning Beautiful" means nothing. Time spent with conversation is meaningful.
damn.. not you got me thinking.. that is the text i get
I wish men would be more creative ☺
Time spent in person.. in conversation is even better. Body language is priceless.
Men only think that good morning beautiful text is doing something. Most of us women are already hip to that. It doesn’t mean anything.
Facts‼️
What is the response to those texts, just curious
Biggie said it best...."isn't this great, your flight leaves at 8....her flight lands at 9, my game just rewinds". If somebody wanna mess around, they gone do it real slick....REGARDLESS 🤷🏽♀️
Never realized what he was actually saying smh
Texting doesn't mean nothing you are exactly right I text ppl cause I don't want to talk
Me too
The woman is the prize, she's more than a dime.
Truth.
I don’t abt that nowadays dudes will call u everyday and talk all day and still not want you
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I agree it goes both ways for sure
Just recently, and I mean within last 48 hours we talked and texted all day long. BUT he is not a follower of Jesus Christ. We parted ways last night. I will not date a man who does not have respect for Jesus.
Lady Shenna did you have a conversation about religion with him or invite him to service. I totally understand there should be no missionary dating. But did you have a deeper convo?
@@Chanel5-q5o He asked me what was I looking for in a man. I answered and I stated I want a man that believes in Jesus and have a relationship with him. He stated "that was not him". He does not believe and has no interested in knowing Jesus. To make matters worse he did not tip the waitress when we went to dinner. I had to leave the tip.
@@Chanel5-q5o We were at dinner and he asked what was I looking for in a man. I did not state my whole list but I stated I want a man that believes in Jesus and have a relationship with Lord Jesus Christ. He stated "That is not him". He has no intentions in believing or getting to know Jesus. So I stated the relationship is not going to work for me. To make matters worse. He did not tip the waitress. I had to leave the tip.
Lady Shenna just curious because my pastor told church how he met wife . Basically, said he introduced her to Christ on third date, but was ready to put her down, if she said no thank you. Totally feel you, though
Lady Shenna good for you. You obeyed Christ🙌🏾🙏🏾💕
Wow that’s really opened my eyes ... I’m guilty of fantasizing when I receive that “hello beautiful” the morning
Sis don't! That's a general text. He has to give more than that! I'm learning too
ALL FACTS!! I was dating a man talked to him everyday from the day we met; also video chat as well. He said all the right things, committment ready, talking about walking down the aisle. I did begin to notice his emphasis on moving in, I had already stated to him that I was not going to live with any man I was not married to. Long story short on a thursday we spoke clicking on all cylinders; the next day I text, called, video nothing until I asked was everything ok. He video called me. My intuition kicked in, so it took me a few days to process then I addressed it. Ultimately I ended it. Basically as Tony stated he had placed me on this pedestal and HE NEEDED ME! He lived with his 2 brothers!! I guess he knew he would not be able to sway me when it came to living with me....oh well, I got out in time.
Wow, glad you got outta there sister 🙌. That man was straight preying on you - what a mess!
Yes, the guy from another country who wanted a green card wanted to talk to me for hours everyday. He was full of Sh*t too! Be careful when he is lovebombing you ladies. That's a red flag.
Ladies if a man is truly interested he will call you everyday and talk NOT text with you for at least an hour! Thanks Mr. Gaskins
You will never know! It's so many people who thought they knew and ended up in jail, divorced, and flatlined. This world is run by Witches and Warlocks and there's too many people straddling the fence trust no one except for the Lord! He's the only person that really wants to love you💙🙏🏾
So true. The Most High is consistent and not a man that He should lie - Numbers 23:19. A man who lacks transparency is a big put-off for me.
🙏🏾🙏🏾 yes
Dam why is dating so complicated 😒I can’t be bothered lol looks like I’m gonna be single cause I don’t got time for the games
True 🙏😆😆
I see where you're going Bro, but like others have mentioned most guys nowadays will "love bomb" you. In my experience you get full attention from the new guy phone calls & texts EVERY SINGLE DAY for about 2-3 weeks. Usually they can't keep up that level of attention & consistency any longer than that & they start slipping. After that you'll see the real inconsistency with them & that they're full of 💩. They're hope is that they've buttered you up enough to smash or at the very least start chasing/calling them & they pull back. Game recognize game tho. 😎
You're right. I think if he's able to keep up the phone calls, messages and seeing you on a regular basis for an extended period, then he's a keeper. Over time the fake ones will fade away.
Game recognize game 🔥
True but if you listen to Tony he also advises to keep your legs closed. Most men love bomb you so they have sex and get you emotionally attached. Once they see that the daily phone calls and sweet words doesn’t open your legs then they fade away. Men who aren’t serious have zero patience. They move on to the next woman.
Then don’t let them smash....
@@lcjones4682 i agree.💯
If it's not meant to be then it's okay to move on with your life there's interesting man out there
I think my king has found me! He is all you've said plus some. But time will tell, for now I'm soaking up all he is offering.
I need some good news girl... are y’all still together? I need some hope😩
So how did it work out? Any updates?
I don’t agree with talking for hours. I’ve had men do that and that’s how they tried to go about only getting sex. If a man is interested you shouldn’t have to ask it wouldn’t even be a question. Look at what he does for you, his character and how much he invests financially as well.
I agree. If they invest financially they may be serious. Maybe.
@Robin D. so true
That’s not what he is talking about. He’s saying if a guy is into you he would invest his time. You would be able to tell if he’s shady or not by talking to him/getting to know him
@@cherylferebee5272 Yea maybe. If he has it to give then it really doesn't mean a thing. It's 50/50.
Agree💯
i got from this vid. That even if you see him alot when you are apart he still takes time to call and message you. In the beginning its hard to judge his motives but all will be revealed with a little time.
Text is NOT real. Talk or FaceTime me. Come see me. Period.
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How about you come see me? 🤷♂️
@@josejohnhalindogo8336you’re the man!! you’re the hunter. PERIOD
The next time I meet a guy, I'm telling him UP FRONT, that I WILL NOT text him conversations and I DO NOT accept texting as a form of communication--PERIOD! Let's see how fast he takes off running! 🏃
Lol
Lmbo 🤣🤣 that’s right
@Jo Jo It's true! 😁
@Jo Jo Lol! 😁
Why is love so hard? 😂 this makes me feel like I should never fall in love
same here.. its hard sis.....thats why Jordan Sparks sings its a battlefield
Yes anything you do in life is hard. But have met the right person at the right time.
I needed to hear this. I was getting ready to mess up because I just started talking to a gentleman that I’m attracted to about a month ago and he calls me every day. It’s been a little overwhelming and I thought maybe something was wrong. Thank you Tony so much for sharing this.
Can’t deny I love talking to the guy I like everyday. So now it’ll be mandatory for my standards
Dating today vs dating 12 years ago is VERY different due to social media. If it was 12 years ago, we'd be having hour long conversations because that was the only means of communication.
The caveat to all of this is do you want to talk to him that much as well. We focus so much on what a guy is doing to show interest but how have we decided we are interested? I don't have to talk every day or night but the quality of the conversation is what I am going to remember.
There's a lot of game playing going on and unfortunately social media encourages it and changed courting rules. I love a man who calls and converses with me daily. My man used to call me at 7 am EVERY morning and talk to me until 8 am during my morning commute. It never felt clingy, desperate, etc. We had random, meaningful conversations.
I remember a guy gave me about 4 hrs a day.. it was wonderful 😍 but then he married my next door neighbor... I didn't even know he knew her... but I always wondered what he did with the other 20 hrs of the day lmbo sometimes being a player takes time.. he was consistent.... with everyone lol
@@LisaLisaCJ I wish I could make this up
You never saw him hanging out with the next door neighbor or anything? Did you know her? Did she ever see yous together? Geesh! 😱
I love your videos!! I’m currently binge watching all of them. I used to watch your videos when I was in high school and now as I’m getting older (I will currently be 23 in 6 days.) I definitely want more for myself and to meet the man God has for me because I always tend to attract “grown boys “ 😂🤣. I am bettering myself and I just stopped by to drop a comment and to say I appreciate your work and thank you for helping all of us!
I agree and believe in this 100%. And this works! Not only are you getting to know him.... you're moving forward together/building.
I love it❤️
There are men who do all that to make us think he’s interested and still ain’t good. I cut them short, telling them I’m busy as don’t want my time being wasted anymore.
Mr. Gaskins, I really appreciate you and your sage words!
I have time to talk to a "Godly Man" for a hour or more a day. We can talk about our day, our goals, God, etc. I have no problem seeing him everyday on facetime and times in person when our schedules allow us to in person. If I have not seen his face for 3 days and neither one of us are on a business trip or caring for our ill family member 24/7 then there is a problem. We will have to set boundaries not to intimately touch but holding hands (as long as we want) and hugging (not too long) is fine. I would love to be courted by a Godly Man as I am a Woman of God who is ready. Thank you Tony for your expertise, God bless*
I hear no lies.
No effort and ACTIONS = no relationship.
Daily conversations should show that he is all about what actions he can DO.
1 hour of small talk and bragging about himself or on generalities is not valuable and is enabling him. He should be actively trying to understand his woman and finding out what he can DO.
Oowee that point about fantasizing in between time struck a cord 😳
Sure did.🙄
Some guys say they are interested but their actions do not say the same and I thought maybe I was bugging but I’m not. They do not call, they barely text but they are interested. I’m like in who? !?!
In you being available to put out when they wanna.
My ex husband stayed on the phone with me for hours when we started. We will talk until we fall asleep. But he ended up cheating, treating me like trash. Now I don't even want to spend 30 minutes on the phone with the person I'm dating rn. So to be honest, only God can reveal the real intention of a man. Pray about it. ask for signs
First time I hear THE TRUTH and STRAIGHT TO THE POINT ! IN ONE SESSION! AMEN! BROTHER ! Ladies don't be deceived or distracted REMEMBER the devil is the father of lies and comes disguised as a angel of light ! PRAISE the LORD🙏 for the TRUTH ! 💖THANK YOU ! 👏
Thank you Tony with your analogy of “a nickel trying to get a dime”. Wow so much truth in that!!!
I believe it's the quality of the conversation and when having that conversation looking for hints to find out. Not just having a conversation for fun but to know more who he/she is. There are people who will have long conversation but majority of the conversation is disagreeing or flirting.
So true! The insincere man who wanted to talk to me for hours every day used that time to lovebomb me, not really wanting to get to know me or have a constructive conversation.
The only females falling for the "hello beautiful/gorgeous" and "good morning" texts are teenage girls lol Tony us grown women have been caught on to the foolery.
oH nooo, not all lol
What if he says after a night of you know
Sir I left 6yr relationship that I broke off with my fiance because he got someone pregnant. I've been watching your videos all the way from beautiful Papua New Guinea. You have given me so much insight into building a G-Dly relationship and I am on my way to a better and a new me firstly. Thank you so much G-D bless you and your beautiful family.
Man I’ve had a guy that would talk to me for hours on the phone but never wanted to see me or spend physical time with me ...he was wasting my time when i would complain about us not spending time together he’d always bring up work and school but on his off days it’s “i chilled today” “i went to a birthday party” ...my last response was “oh ok” BLOCKEDT
D Goshay yup he does.
This is great advice makes me feel alot better about the choices I'm thinking I should make .
I needed this! I'm not ready to date at all thanks!! and God bless!
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽I got it! No questions. This is crystal clear!
Thank you for making this video. Phone communication is one of my requirements and the men I meet keep telling me I’m asking for too much. They’ll start off calling every day consistently for at least an hour then it will change and as soon as I inquire why, I’m tripping, asking for too much, men don’t operate like that. All of the excuses when it was so effortless in the beginning. My first thought is of course something changed and interest is lost. I have to have communication I’m not a texter and when I don’t accept the change from talking everyday consistently to now just texting they disappear. I was starting to think I should just accept how people communicate today. I’m so happy your videos found me!
Never knew you were the one who actually came up with the 90-day rule. I always thought Steve Harvey came up with that. This was great info Tony. I enjoyed the video
1:28 I agree with you, being contacted by a man every day isn't creepy. What's creepy is when a coworker is messaging you during every nightshift at work to tell you how good you look... you work in an area where you cant even see him so youre wondering where the heck he's looking at you from. Ya, that happened to me. He even asked me to come over at 4 am to get in his hot tub. I straight up said Im not looking for sex. I was not interested in him, I only gave him my number because he asked me in front of my coworkers and I didn't want to embarrass him by declining.
Responding to what you said about talking on the phone everyday, I have my own business,he has his own business and we don't get to talk everyday and it doesn't bother me, when we have time its alright.
Hi! I just started watching you recently.. I can only share the other peoples opinions! You are the only real and authentic dating coach on RUclips! Someone, who talks about reality, as it is. Thanks, Tony!
THANK YOU FOR THIS, I AGREE, IM TIRED OF THE TEXTING MYSELF N I STOP TEXTING COMPLETELY.
I 💯 agree with this because I wasn’t ready to be in a relationship either because I had a job and other financial set backs that caused a lot of stress and depression in my life; but I acted accordingly because I was being truthful. He claimed he wanted to see how things would flow, so we talked on the phone and texted back and forth a lot in the beginning and continued to do so over a year. He was not completely honest about his relationship status, but by the time we consummated our relationship physically he was out of the relationship he had not been fully truthful about, yet acting angry because I’m not responding and doing for him like I’m his woman. The point is men can just be so dishonest and you just don’t always know what’s true with them and what isn’t. Then they get mad when or if they get played the same way even when I was honest.🤷🏽♀️
Love everyone of these videos. Wish I had them in my 20s. But going fwd.
Also you know a man is interested when we don't have to question if he is. He makes it known* sigh....I'm ready to stay single...have been for 2 yrs. Not looking just hugely improved me. If it happens great, if not I'm great...but these videos are life changing. .Tony if you see this, you are truly helping women and men, and saving weeks, mths, yrs, lifetimes of future heartbreak. Also are helping us to heal. Completely amazing person you are...taking your own struggles, lessons, triumphs and passing on the knowledge ensuring good comes from it. Wasn't in vain- i mean obviously-it helped you in your life but you are selfless in helping us. You are immensely appreciated.
" WHEN A MAN WANTS U HE WILL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR U! " NO MATTER WHAT! LADIES: " BE QUICK TO LISTEN! AND " SLOW TO SPEAK!" THIS IS THE ONLY WAY U KNOW IF A MAN IS SERIOUS!" PAY ATTENTION ALWAYS! THANK U! TONY LOOKIN FORWARD TO MORE! 😊🙏
Me I have one solution which help us wowen .1 .walk in love but don't fall in love. 2 .Never open your legs before committing period.
I've been talking to this man 4 a month .we talk every day, on the phone. I was there 4 Him when He got sick.,Were connecting
Remember we haven't been on our 1st.date .yet.,were making plans this weekend which is my Birthday. Ladies "even men you'll know when it's Real or BS. Its will Flow so easy.😊
Yep, when my husband was courting me we had a standing phone date when we weren’t together.
Of course we were flexible with plans but we made it a priority. That man did not miss his appts with me either!
There are men who will do it !!!
That's how you know he is reliable. If he is able to do this he will be able to do other things as well.
Oh my God. I’ve never heard as good a teaching as this. Thank you 🙏🏾
Mr. Gaskins, I LOVE it when you keep it REAL, keeping on speaking the truth because you are saving someone life.....
A man can call you everyday and is toxic...narcissists do that so not because a man like or chases you does not mean he is good for you!
This is true I met a good man couple days ago and he called me yesterday and we talked for 1 hr exactly and I enjoyed talking to him I didn't even realize we talked that long he asked alot about me and I asked him things about him I really enjoyed our conversation!
Be careful what you tell him. He could be a narcissist!
@@patriciajones8467 he's not sweetie he's a good man I know the difference but thanks anyway!
NOT IF THAT MAN IS A DEPENDENT, got to get on his feet before he can carry anything!!! Those guys should be FRIEND ZONED (convo @ Bay ONLY) or dismissed QUICKLY (no disrespect) 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 ... He is ALL over it!!! THOROUGH & matching it with the WORD not the WORLD!!! This is a BLESSING Thank You for sharing.
I,m not sure if i want him to call me often my ex calls me and four other woman consistently for over two years and i thought it was only me. Even husband material men do the same, only God knows nowadays so many deceitful men our there..
Agreed. ... A man that is into you will never leave you alone so that another man will have your time. but if we are not in a relationship I do not let a man keep me up at night just talking..We must go out and date..
I’m going to store this in my memory bank.
Man.... You are about to change woman's lives. So real GREAT advice 💯❤️🙌🏽
This is a word!! To God be the glory! Keep up the great videos Tony.
I agree. I stay on the phone for hours without giving too much information and remaining a mystery. Gotta take control.
Tony telling the truth about getting to know a person my co-worker was dating this Man just because he was Fine and drove a Porsche SUV he waited until she went to work and moved her right out of her 4 bedroom house. I'm from Houston Texas recently moved to Los Angeles these Men out here are Scammers like I've never seen before y'all better STAY WOKE!
@Jessie Jay wait what?! Moved her out?
Dusty ass dudes stealing furniture now.?! Lord commeth now- we need deliverance
@@go_off_Sis Yes she went to work at 8a.m left him asleep in the bed at her House by Lunch time all her stuff was gone except the Damn Dog
@gravity736 stole every thing inside her home Furniture,Clothes, Bags Shoes etc.
I believe ever single word that u say.....u never go wrong on ur message....I want to personally thank u i appreciate ur wisdom and knowledge u give to us women... May god continue to bless u and ur family.
Powerful Information. Grateful to finally have connected with you. Your Humor IS AMAZING..Glad you are being YOURSELF. God bless you and your family .
Thank you Tony for this video also. I just started talking to this guy and a red flag went up and I cut it off ASAP. He was not calling at all but text me. I even asked him to call me and he didn’t. I stopped all communication with him. Keep doing these video for ladies like me who don’t play games and have no time for nonsense or game playing. I know my love language and my top 2 are Quality Time and Acts of Service.
My ex is coming around without an invitation and I'm not interested, I'm good
It's cuffing season..they are all making a circle. Don't be surprised if he offers something you actually want. Stay strong.
Keep him as is, ex. I find that in the winter seasons exes, acquitances, frenz wit benefit, etc luv 2 come check on u. No noo nooo. Keep ya distance. The door is close. Do not knock...
@@KmaloneY601 I agree with uu ty have a great day good vibes all day
@@aminah761 😄
I am a texter. I do not like to talk on the phone at all. I have been chatting it up with a guy that we text 95% of the time. He is consistent and we text everyday throughout the day. He works internationally but our conversations are consistent. His answers and convo are spontaneous, definitely not copy and paste. If I want to talk on the phone he will do it and has done it, if I want to Skype or face time, it is not a problem and we have. I understand what Tony is saying about texting but for some it does work. We plan to meet in the next few weeks and be able to talk face to face.
Him calling YOU...or She calls him?....I feel HE is INTERESTED when HE makes the move....HE should call😉
I appreciate you more than you know Tony❤ Be blessed ❤
Ladies .... He's telling you the truth!!!!
I agree with your message. I've always heard that it's a forever committment to learn your spouse. Never stop learning and listening to who they are. Everything goes in stages and we change and adapt to what life throws at us and it's always better with our bestfriends ( husbands/wives) there talking through it all.
Needed this bc I was wondering if the guy I talk to is into me and this confirms what I thought
Tony you used to be a player because you’ve already said that and you are so on point I listen to all your videos and that’s why you have so much knowledge because you were that guy so when you’re talking I’m listening and I give you your kudos for changing your ways your wife is a blessed woman to have a good man like yourself
I am blessed, be blessed one and all.
Men are no longer accustomed to working putting in the effort stepping up 1st