My autistic ass thought I finally figured out how to talk to groups, then I realised that there is literally no pattern to follow, so I just gave up and decided to go with the flow, and I hate the fact it worked because it’s so dumb and illogical
Some advice as a lifelong introvert who’s finally developing a social life at 25- if you feel that you’re an awkward person, try to embrace it as part of your personality/inner self instead of negatively succumbing to it. It sounds counterintuitive, but I found that over time I felt so much less self-conscious and anxious about my social idiosyncrasies when I accepted those traits it as part of myself instead of trying to hide or fight them. Ironically it made me much much less awkward and more confident as a person Not to say I’m like totally free and cured of social anxiety or anything now but the mindset readjustment really helped me feel more capable at achieving a social life.
I had a similar experience, being wracked with anxiety over my awkawrdness; I realised the reason why I feel so terrible is because of my empathetic nature and me giving the other person a "bad time" because of my awkwardness... This was around the same time I was learning to not be a door mat and I realised that all of my anxiety was because I was worried what the other person thought. Then I thought fuck that they can take it or leave it type of deal.. and I've almost never dealt with said anxiety since
To your point about making others feel included, I find I make my role in the group to be making sure everyone feels like they’re equally important. When I notice someone being really quiet, I’ll prompt them to see if they have something to add. When I notice someone getting talked over, I make sure I keep listening even when the group carries on without us. I know what it’s like to feel like no one cares or listens, so I make it a point to be clear that, even if no one else is paying g attention, I am. Sometimes that means I do less talking, that I’m not the center of attention. But I have made so many lasting friendships just by showing empathy to the ones that need it, and I get to watch their confidence grow as they learn to speak up for themselves, to think of what they say as important.
thank you for this, every social gathering needs people like you. I'm also making an effort to include everyone in conversation and become the person I needed when I was younger.
As an autistic woman: Thank you, man. You don't know how much you're helping me going to the hardest part in my neurodivergency: Fitting in. Your videos are extremely useful.
That point about letting go when your ”amazing quip or point” misses its entrance is so valuable. I’m very extroverted and enjoy group settings the most. The attitude that you pointed out correlates to so many people I know who often get upset over how a social interaction went in a group setting and often blame others for not listening/taking everyone into account and why they are withdrawn. Then they often bring up as an example a situation where they ”missed the entrance” because everyone was speaking too much, too loud or switched subjects. Then they start to sulk after that, bringing the mood down and making it even harder for others to engage with them because they start stonewalling. The thing is, there is constantly stuff I want to say but I just don’t get around to, because it didn’t fit the flow of the convo and that’s okay. If I wanted everyone to hear every sinlge thought of mine uninterrupted I would start a solo podcast. The idea that the group should somehow always sense and read minds when someone has ”such a good point” without them making a clear effort to bring it up and just kind of waiting that someone tosses the ball straight into their arms is not something I subscribe to or think is realistic. Granted, this is a bit harshly worded. I do think it is very valuable to make space for several types of personalities and ask questions and read others. But in the end it is not others responsibility to communicate for you and the stuff that others do actually verbalize is equally as important and valuable.
The problem for me is, I kind of understand the importance of letting go of your talking point when the chance is gone, but if my talking point is going to be regularly thrown away and is not that important to begin with, then what's the point of speaking? I don't understand that part.
I think one of the best ways, and my favourite, to make sure that everyone is heard in a group conversation if is someone begins talking about something, but people don't seem to hear them, I turn towards them before they start to do that fade talking thing, so that they get to continue with what they are talking about and not feel awkward about being cut off. works every time
A friendly reminder for everyone. Introvert does not mean anti-social. Introvert mean you lose energy through social interaction and regain it by spending time alone. If you want to be an extrovert. I tell you from my own experience. Not talking with people will hurt much more. If I spend 2 days without talking to anyone I start feeling bad.
right! I used to think I was an introvert, but socialisation was only draining because I sucked at it and that made me stress. I love talking to people and learning about them, but it's not always easy putting these skills into practice.
Active recall notes + implementation notes: 1. Group conversations are chaotic by nature; Be present with conversation and get out of your own head 2. Active listening; make others feel heard 3. Stop trying to like and impress and become a team player; include others and keep the conversation alive
if you are young and have trouble socially, just know that these skills will come naturally with time. as a teen i really struggled w this stuff but as an adult it’s all become so much easier just bc i’ve had more time to practice! you are not as awkward as you probably think lol :)
I agree groups are chaotic and listening in order to have a more team focused conversation is a great way to be more engaged and feel good in a group. Just be carful what group you are a part of, some people love when you do this and can have no regard for doing it for you, learn to recognize who these people are, give them a few chances and if the pattern doesn’t change, then change the environment and groups you join Trying to change the people/person does not work
I appreciate your videos. I used to be much more social and empathetic, and your videos are reminding me about what I loved about being that empathetic
This video is also helping me realise what I've lost (well I knew that I lost what I prided myself to be, myself, But I didn't know the specifics/clarifications about it and stuff. And my head has deteriorated so it would be much harder for me to think and realise stuff without an outside source, this video is such a good help)
As a therapist, I want to say that your content is extremely helpful and approachable! You're setting very realistic expectations and handing out consistently helpful strategies for people in need, and I'm sure it makes a difference. Keep up the good work!
4:40 THIS is true humility, this is the exact thing I’ve been found to be the definition of humility and it’s definitely not about putting yourself down like the world would have you think
im actually pretty extroverted one on one but when it comes to groups im terrified, "military strategic battlefield" is very relatable. but i think this vid really helped with it
For me groups are just more chaotic than 1 on 1. That usually means my brain gets fried in a way where I don't talk much anyway which ironically leads to me being a good listener. Still though the best I can muster is interacting with two people at most and only for a couple of hours before my brain gets so fried that I can't talk at all and need to rest. Still, most of the time I have fun.
And that's totally ok. I have days where I can survive a group of up to ten people and feel comfortable but then the next day I can barely have a conversation with two. Everyone's different and energy fluctuates, especially in regard to introverts and groups, however this video seems pretty useful as a general application for when you DO have the energy.
@@austin-m8r-w6d I'd like to have more energy though. Often I'm already drained fully because of work and barely interact with others for weeks until I have enough energy to do that again. Often when more than 2 people talk I get so confused that I can't follow the discussion or topic at hand at all.
man this really shows that sometimes you just have to change your attitude and not your entire personality for people to „like“ you in conversation i struggle with this a lot to be honest used to be bullied for my interests that's why i would hide them but you should really just be authentic and really listen to others as well because others usually notice when you're uncomfortable so if you just change your attitude from i have to be like this and this so they like me to i just want to have fun it really might just do something for you!! and i think that's just what I will try!!
Being a team player is the greatest social skill a person can learn. Bring everyone up and be the support. it’s very low pressure, everyone will appreciate you and it’s VERY satisfying when done well. Learn to get gratification not from your own success but from watching the people you helped succeed. Getting credit and attention is overrated and chasing it will lead to dissatisfaction. Instead be the support, helping along the way never expecting any credit.
I love your videos and all the bits that you do along the way dude, it’s funny and the knowledge is so bite sized that you can’t not take it in and easily digest it. It’s perfect. Thank you x
hell yeah! these are all the things i’ve learned through out the start of my 20s, it’s actually crazy how much easy if you just don’t feel the need to get messages across. just soak everyone’s yapping in and have fun. if there’s a pocket and things align, chip in.
i just watched through your whole catalog of videos, and i gotta say: 10/10 stuff my man. you have an ability to effectively communicate daunting topics to people in a casual way. Thanks for your videos man, and keep it up!
Coincidental, after watched 2 videos from you then suddenly another new video comes out few seconds ago surprised me lmao. Though, thank you for your simple explanation and guideline for me to start learning about active listening.
This video is exactly what I need! I'm invited to go to a big birthday party this very day and there will be a lot of people I don't know this time around
The real problem is when the group don't want to include you, you are an intruder for them. They don't know you, and they don't want to know you. Or if they do, they discover you are really different and weird, and it's better for everyone if you are out of the group. I've been through this so many times I gave up. There's no way to achieve new friends today.
Another incredible content. Your videos are vey relatable, easy to understand and apply. It'd be so helpful to many of your viewers if you made a video on discipline, consistency and (hence) productivity. I hope you do make one soon. ☺️
Damn, if this video had existed when I was in my awkward phase it'd save me so much trouble of learning all of this myself lmao. To add to this video, I have an experience that shows how important it is to make people in the group feel heard. Back when I was still trying to fit in with a group, I remembered that I felt so annoyed when people cut me off in conversations even when they didn't intend to. Knowing this, when I saw someone getting cut off while talking in the group, I started asking that person to finish the sentence when I found the opportunity. I did this everytime I was in that group, and over time, people started telling me that I was kinda and fun to be around with. Moreover, people in that group started to become more aware when they cut someone off, they paid more attention to what other people are speaking, and some of them even started doing what I did. There were so many positive changes to the group just because people get asked to repeat themselves when they get cut off in conversations
Thank you, even tho it seems like ordinary things, somehow i didn't though of it. I realised that everyone cares about themselves, about their insides, that's why i felt more confident, more of a listener...
Im so glad i found your channel. I definitely need to read some of the books you did on the subject and bring this up to my therapist. I feel im pretty decent at active listening, its asking questions and such that i feel suck at overall.
I actually ily bro Genuine first hand experience, with such staggering amount of thought put into it Is harder to come by, and for someone (well actually, me) to actually fully realise to take the information into action is even rarer than that (Cuz tbh all my life I've found information that's useful but I don't take it into action, I just get lazy and just scroll onto the next video, and the next, etc But now I'm at a point in my life that I actually rlly need this info implemented now, this video came at the most perfect of times! Maybe actually thinking abt the info will make me realise more to take the valuable information I learn in the future lol, I hope)
Once u come by a info u want , try going deeper find more details and learn more about it, only then can u rly understand and make a smart decision you will be comfortable with
It's really weird, but I have mild to moderate social anxiety and active listening made me feel like being in a constant fire. Now I know it's all about validation ;D
It's so hard for me to go with the flow, though. :/ I can let go of things I might want to add, but I have trouble letting go of some thoughts that others evoke in me. And in groups, people just keep talking and these thoughts keep piling up and I don't have enought time to "solve" them (think about them enough that I can let go of them), so it doesn't take very long for me to get overwhelmed and completely drained. The only way I found that works for me in letting go of the thoughts is just giving up on everything (that's usually what happens when I'm very socially drained); not really caring or thinking too deeply about what others say (just taking a mental note of the provided information and not analysing it or forming an opinion about it like I usually do), ignoring what they say if I have to process something first, rarely ever talking myself and/or taking lots of bathroom breaks to mentally rest. But either way, I don't like this (getting overwhelmed from thinking too much, or not really listening and therefore not thinking as much).
So what you're telling me is that your goal is to bring everyone up and to actively listen? That's great! I'll try to use this whenever I have to talk to someone :D
DUDE , your videos are cool and every video is showing my own reflection , I glad that i found you ,.. You have cleared my doubts and you just got a new sub , looking for more videos ..
i subscribed like a couple of hours ago. was drinking and watching your videos and taking notes, your stuff is super helpful man. glad i got to get to this upload so early!
I have a question as an introvert myself. Do you ever feel weird or ashamed of having anxiety or being an introvert as a boy? In my country, it is standard for boys to be the fun guys who talk and get along with anyone and can make friends anywhere they go, so I really wanted to know how you made yourself feel good or ok about yourself.
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My autistic ass thought I finally figured out how to talk to groups, then I realised that there is literally no pattern to follow, so I just gave up and decided to go with the flow, and I hate the fact it worked because it’s so dumb and illogical
Good to know
My perfectionist ass literally thought that you just need to be a certain way (a certain personality) to talk in groups
Thankfully,not really
@@4kach24 lol
you're genuinely so real for this
@@4kach24I thought you mostly had to be loud or make good jokes or talk a lot to everyone to feel or be included but I guess actually not
Some advice as a lifelong introvert who’s finally developing a social life at 25- if you feel that you’re an awkward person, try to embrace it as part of your personality/inner self instead of negatively succumbing to it. It sounds counterintuitive, but I found that over time I felt so much less self-conscious and anxious about my social idiosyncrasies when I accepted those traits it as part of myself instead of trying to hide or fight them. Ironically it made me much much less awkward and more confident as a person
Not to say I’m like totally free and cured of social anxiety or anything now but the mindset readjustment really helped me feel more capable at achieving a social life.
So, pretty much, just be yourself and accept the parts you feel negatively about within yourself
@@fulududeBingo! Or in other words, be authentic to yourself.
The more I leaned into being weird and awkward, the more liked and popular I became lol
I had a similar experience, being wracked with anxiety over my awkawrdness; I realised the reason why I feel so terrible is because of my empathetic nature and me giving the other person a "bad time" because of my awkwardness... This was around the same time I was learning to not be a door mat and I realised that all of my anxiety was because I was worried what the other person thought. Then I thought fuck that they can take it or leave it type of deal.. and I've almost never dealt with said anxiety since
same here, crazy all you have to do is talk to people and chill
College is abt to start and this man is coming in so clutch rn
fr bro, it's the same for me too
Yeah school year’s about to start and I really want to glow up socially this year
i envy you lil bro i wish i was about to start college
2018 Brady
Ikr
To your point about making others feel included, I find I make my role in the group to be making sure everyone feels like they’re equally important.
When I notice someone being really quiet, I’ll prompt them to see if they have something to add. When I notice someone getting talked over, I make sure I keep listening even when the group carries on without us.
I know what it’s like to feel like no one cares or listens, so I make it a point to be clear that, even if no one else is paying g attention, I am.
Sometimes that means I do less talking, that I’m not the center of attention. But I have made so many lasting friendships just by showing empathy to the ones that need it, and I get to watch their confidence grow as they learn to speak up for themselves, to think of what they say as important.
thank you for this, every social gathering needs people like you. I'm also making an effort to include everyone in conversation and become the person I needed when I was younger.
As an autistic woman: Thank you, man. You don't know how much you're helping me going to the hardest part in my neurodivergency: Fitting in. Your videos are extremely useful.
That point about letting go when your ”amazing quip or point” misses its entrance is so valuable. I’m very extroverted and enjoy group settings the most. The attitude that you pointed out correlates to so many people I know who often get upset over how a social interaction went in a group setting and often blame others for not listening/taking everyone into account and why they are withdrawn. Then they often bring up as an example a situation where they ”missed the entrance” because everyone was speaking too much, too loud or switched subjects. Then they start to sulk after that, bringing the mood down and making it even harder for others to engage with them because they start stonewalling. The thing is, there is constantly stuff I want to say but I just don’t get around to, because it didn’t fit the flow of the convo and that’s okay. If I wanted everyone to hear every sinlge thought of mine uninterrupted I would start a solo podcast. The idea that the group should somehow always sense and read minds when someone has ”such a good point” without them making a clear effort to bring it up and just kind of waiting that someone tosses the ball straight into their arms is not something I subscribe to or think is realistic. Granted, this is a bit harshly worded. I do think it is very valuable to make space for several types of personalities and ask questions and read others. But in the end it is not others responsibility to communicate for you and the stuff that others do actually verbalize is equally as important and valuable.
The problem for me is, I kind of understand the importance of letting go of your talking point when the chance is gone, but if my talking point is going to be regularly thrown away and is not that important to begin with, then what's the point of speaking? I don't understand that part.
I think one of the best ways, and my favourite, to make sure that everyone is heard in a group conversation if is someone begins talking about something, but people don't seem to hear them, I turn towards them before they start to do that fade talking thing, so that they get to continue with what they are talking about and not feel awkward about being cut off. works every time
i do this too!!
@@Imaweirdnormalist hell yeah! keep it up! some day I hope someone does that for me
@@21Aster I'm sure someone will! I learned this from someone else, so you're bound to teach someone the same way!!
A friendly reminder for everyone. Introvert does not mean anti-social.
Introvert mean you lose energy through social interaction and regain it by spending time alone.
If you want to be an extrovert. I tell you from my own experience. Not talking with people will hurt much more. If I spend 2 days without talking to anyone I start feeling bad.
im 50/50 on the introvert extrovert scale and i try to make sure i talk to at least someone daily
That’s not even what the word anti-social means. Asocial is the word you’re looking for.
right! I used to think I was an introvert, but socialisation was only draining because I sucked at it and that made me stress. I love talking to people and learning about them, but it's not always easy putting these skills into practice.
I Appreciate how your videos make me a better person
Active recall notes + implementation notes:
1. Group conversations are chaotic by nature; Be present with conversation and get out of your own head
2. Active listening; make others feel heard
3. Stop trying to like and impress and become a team player; include others and keep the conversation alive
I read No. 2 as "make others feel hard" and it just changed my brain chemistry
@@grreguss 🤨📸
The first RUclipsr I'm actually trying out and trying to improve on
Ty bro socializing in groups takes too much energy 😭
I love that RUclips is pushing your Content, you deserve it.
if you are young and have trouble socially, just know that these skills will come naturally with time. as a teen i really struggled w this stuff but as an adult it’s all become so much easier just bc i’ve had more time to practice! you are not as awkward as you probably think lol :)
I agree groups are chaotic and listening in order to have a more team focused conversation is a great way to be more engaged and feel good in a group.
Just be carful what group you are a part of, some people love when you do this and can have no regard for doing it for you, learn to recognize who these people are, give them a few chances and if the pattern doesn’t change, then change the environment and groups you join
Trying to change the people/person does not work
I appreciate your videos. I used to be much more social and empathetic, and your videos are reminding me about what I loved about being that empathetic
This video is also helping me realise what I've lost (well I knew that I lost what I prided myself to be, myself,
But I didn't know the specifics/clarifications about it and stuff. And my head has deteriorated so it would be much harder for me to think and realise stuff without an outside source, this video is such a good help)
As a therapist, I want to say that your content is extremely helpful and approachable! You're setting very realistic expectations and handing out consistently helpful strategies for people in need, and I'm sure it makes a difference. Keep up the good work!
4:40 THIS is true humility, this is the exact thing I’ve been found to be the definition of humility and it’s definitely not about putting yourself down like the world would have you think
"The Introverts have already breached our defenses. It could be me, it could be you, it could be anyone among us and we wouldn’t know."
im actually pretty extroverted one on one but when it comes to groups im terrified, "military strategic battlefield" is very relatable. but i think this vid really helped with it
this might be one of the hidden youtube gems i just came across at 3 am. thank you my brother❤
I was so happy to realize that this is what I do most of the time
this just came at the perfect time and moment
For me groups are just more chaotic than 1 on 1. That usually means my brain gets fried in a way where I don't talk much anyway which ironically leads to me being a good listener. Still though the best I can muster is interacting with two people at most and only for a couple of hours before my brain gets so fried that I can't talk at all and need to rest. Still, most of the time I have fun.
And that's totally ok. I have days where I can survive a group of up to ten people and feel comfortable but then the next day I can barely have a conversation with two. Everyone's different and energy fluctuates, especially in regard to introverts and groups, however this video seems pretty useful as a general application for when you DO have the energy.
@@austin-m8r-w6d I'd like to have more energy though. Often I'm already drained fully because of work and barely interact with others for weeks until I have enough energy to do that again. Often when more than 2 people talk I get so confused that I can't follow the discussion or topic at hand at all.
man this really shows that sometimes you just have to change your attitude and not your entire personality for people to „like“ you in conversation
i struggle with this a lot to be honest
used to be bullied for my interests that's why i would hide them
but you should really just be authentic and really listen to others as well
because others usually notice when you're uncomfortable so if you just
change your attitude from i have to be like this and this so they like me
to i just want to have fun it really might just do something for you!!
and i think that's just what I will try!!
Being a team player is the greatest social skill a person can learn. Bring everyone up and be the support. it’s very low pressure, everyone will appreciate you and it’s VERY satisfying when done well.
Learn to get gratification not from your own success but from watching the people you helped succeed. Getting credit and attention is overrated and chasing it will lead to dissatisfaction. Instead be the support, helping along the way never expecting any credit.
I love your videos and all the bits that you do along the way dude, it’s funny and the knowledge is so bite sized that you can’t not take it in and easily digest it. It’s perfect. Thank you x
Your vids have given me so much knowledge on how to be a better person, genuinely cannot thank you enough for it man
Glad I stumbled upon this hidden gem of a channel and a person.
This feels like the ultimate vulgarisation of stuff I’m seeing on other channels like charisma on command.
Makes it easier to share it around :)
Bro really used the archaic definition of vulgar 😂☝️
school's about to continue and youtube recommends me your videos such a perfect timing- we're saved-
these are such good tips
Thanks from the bottom of my heart
Short answer: drink alcohol
xddd so truee man oh my god
Soothing music. amazing voice. You get your point across. To top it all off, the video is just 5 minutes!
hell yeah! these are all the things i’ve learned through out the start of my 20s, it’s actually crazy how much easy if you just don’t feel the need to get messages across. just soak everyone’s yapping in and have fun. if there’s a pocket and things align, chip in.
the vibes is what makes a group convo, not the content per se, just chillax and help give off a good vibe
i just watched through your whole catalog of videos, and i gotta say: 10/10 stuff my man. you have an ability to effectively communicate daunting topics to people in a casual way. Thanks for your videos man, and keep it up!
I'm an extrovert with social anxiety and this video was great, thank you genuinely!
Coincidental, after watched 2 videos from you then suddenly another new video comes out few seconds ago surprised me lmao. Though, thank you for your simple explanation and guideline for me to start learning about active listening.
School year's about to start and this guy has already taught me more social skills than social studies. Discord server when?
These vids are always so fire 🔥
This video is exactly what I need! I'm invited to go to a big birthday party this very day and there will be a lot of people I don't know this time around
this advice is so good, some things i realized about social situations concerning groups are in this video
im an introvert and I enjoyed this video
Thank you brinyheart :) i really love your videos and how they are short but still pack so much useful stuff :) thank you.
The real problem is when the group don't want to include you, you are an intruder for them. They don't know you, and they don't want to know you. Or if they do, they discover you are really different and weird, and it's better for everyone if you are out of the group.
I've been through this so many times I gave up. There's no way to achieve new friends today.
Another incredible content.
Your videos are vey relatable, easy to understand and apply. It'd be so helpful to many of your viewers if you made a video on discipline, consistency and (hence) productivity. I hope you do make one soon. ☺️
Damn, if this video had existed when I was in my awkward phase it'd save me so much trouble of learning all of this myself lmao.
To add to this video, I have an experience that shows how important it is to make people in the group feel heard. Back when I was still trying to fit in with a group, I remembered that I felt so annoyed when people cut me off in conversations even when they didn't intend to. Knowing this, when I saw someone getting cut off while talking in the group, I started asking that person to finish the sentence when I found the opportunity. I did this everytime I was in that group, and over time, people started telling me that I was kinda and fun to be around with. Moreover, people in that group started to become more aware when they cut someone off, they paid more attention to what other people are speaking, and some of them even started doing what I did. There were so many positive changes to the group just because people get asked to repeat themselves when they get cut off in conversations
these are really fun to watch
Thank you, even tho it seems like ordinary things, somehow i didn't though of it.
I realised that everyone cares about themselves, about their insides, that's why i felt more confident, more of a listener...
Im so glad i found your channel. I definitely need to read some of the books you did on the subject and bring this up to my therapist. I feel im pretty decent at active listening, its asking questions and such that i feel suck at overall.
I’m surprised this video has relatively few views. This video is the most helpful one so far
I actually ily bro
Genuine first hand experience, with such staggering amount of thought put into it
Is harder to come by, and for someone (well actually, me) to actually fully realise to take the information into action is even rarer than that
(Cuz tbh all my life I've found information that's useful but I don't take it into action, I just get lazy and just scroll onto the next video, and the next, etc
But now I'm at a point in my life that I actually rlly need this info implemented now, this video came at the most perfect of times! Maybe actually thinking abt the info will make me realise more to take the valuable information I learn in the future lol, I hope)
Soz if stuff I wrote don't make sense, these days I just rlly can't function as well
Once u come by a info u want , try going deeper find more details and learn more about it, only then can u rly understand and make a smart decision you will be comfortable with
you're a king. please keep uploading, your content is life changing
You keep on reassuring us you will be back next week. It makes me anxious.
It’s okay to stand out chat and be different
It's really weird, but I have mild to moderate social anxiety and active listening made me feel like being in a constant fire. Now I know it's all about validation ;D
these videos rock man
It's so hard for me to go with the flow, though. :/ I can let go of things I might want to add, but I have trouble letting go of some thoughts that others evoke in me. And in groups, people just keep talking and these thoughts keep piling up and I don't have enought time to "solve" them (think about them enough that I can let go of them), so it doesn't take very long for me to get overwhelmed and completely drained.
The only way I found that works for me in letting go of the thoughts is just giving up on everything (that's usually what happens when I'm very socially drained); not really caring or thinking too deeply about what others say (just taking a mental note of the provided information and not analysing it or forming an opinion about it like I usually do), ignoring what they say if I have to process something first, rarely ever talking myself and/or taking lots of bathroom breaks to mentally rest.
But either way, I don't like this (getting overwhelmed from thinking too much, or not really listening and therefore not thinking as much).
Yoooo active listening back at it again!
Yesssss brainyheart made a new vid
These videos are so fun to watch while i learn more
Thanks.
this is a very good youtuber. He deserves our subs
So what you're telling me is that your goal is to bring everyone up and to actively listen? That's great! I'll try to use this whenever I have to talk to someone :D
Great video!
Could you make a video about the art of conversation? I personally struggle with talking to people i just met and don’t know much about.
thanks for making this video, it really helps!
THE KING RETURNS
im acc obsessed w your videos, you give great advice while being entertaining, keep it up man💪
Bro, you know at least a couple people that searched up this video video are because I am
Thank you, I’m going to be a college freshman in less than two weeks
DUDE , your videos are cool and every video is showing my own reflection , I glad that i found you ,.. You have cleared my doubts and you just got a new sub , looking for more videos ..
This channel is just how to be a good person tutorial
Can't wait for Brinyheart to have his own community with inside jokes and memes. He deserves that level of YT success
bro your goated this vids are great to the point and helpful
Watching this on a CRT like brinyheart intended
yo boi you gained 43k subscirbers! lots of love genuine info
only us, introverted ravenclaws, look up mental strategies and formulas to be more socially normal
Can't watch the vid now, but I cannot let it not be promoted by RUclips algorithms!
brinyheart, you are awesome ^-^
thank you briny
i subscribed like a couple of hours ago. was drinking and watching your videos and taking notes, your stuff is super helpful man. glad i got to get to this upload so early!
thanks!
Thank you for another great video. I always enjoy your uploads
I really love these videos. I just wish they had more examples. Like the last point in this is explains, but not demonstrated.
Thank you n See you!
Thanks for the help, always!
Please make highly details video on how therapists listen, with many points and examples, just like your previous video but more details. Thank you
your videos are really good
i love watching them
subscribing for more
I needed this man
0:50 yep, it also doesn’t even mean you’re less good with people.
i’m an extrovert, which just means i love being around people and i’m still shy
Great video as always
I can converse with a group no problem as long as there arent more than 4 or 5 people present. Past that I get overwhelmed and check out.
Bro writes guides for the real life
thanks brinyheart.
Thanks man 👍
Thank you
New fav channel
I have a question as an introvert myself. Do you ever feel weird or ashamed of having anxiety or being an introvert as a boy? In my country, it is standard for boys to be the fun guys who talk and get along with anyone and can make friends anywhere they go, so I really wanted to know how you made yourself feel good or ok about yourself.
30 Seconds ago is crazy, but I remember ur profile picture had good vids sooo