A little tip. Although when asking ur friends what they like about past events if you’re too vague they might also answer vaguely. for example instead of “did you like bowling” you could ask about whether they liked the people you went with, what’s their thoughts about that alley, how was the food. From this even if you only went to one event you get enough info as if you went to multiple hope this helps
absolutely, great idea to throw in those kinds of things in your casual conversation afterwards. some friends will outright tell you they enjoyed it or didn't too.
My gf had to go to the US to study, and I wanted to cheer her up, but didn't know exactly what to get her and an Amazon gift card was an extremely dry gift (for this context). So I made a virtual treasure hunt with several cryptography techniques (and some bespoke dorky riddles) then delivered her the first clue anonymously, leading to a note and a gift card. She called to include me, and getting to watch her joyfully sleuthing through the clues I peppered around the internet was a fortunate bonus for me. I think I cooked with this one. Edit: I also made sure the first clue let her know the timeframe she has to do this activity, and made it long enough so she can do it on her own time, but didnt reveal what the treasure was.
I really want to thank you for all the videos you've made. They're pretty much the only videos I have downloaded through RUclips Premium and I always listen to them to and from work because they've genuinely been such a big help with things I've struggled with for a long time. Thank you so much for all of the videos and help you've given not just to me, but to countless others too.
Finally someone that thinks movies are a terrible place for a first date. I’ve never been on a date before but I always thought going to see a movie is stupid, but my friends who actually go on dates disagree saying it’s great.
Movies are great if you both love horror or the specific genre of the movie. We form great emotional bonds when we're experiencing the same emotions as another person, but only if you're both feeling the same way about it, so it doesn't always work.
@@normifiedI think movies could be a great date idea if it isn’t the only thing that’s gonna happen on that date, if you go see a movie and then go for dinner or go do something else then you may have a lot of things to talk about, that’s how I see it but some people go see a move and nothing else and that In my opinion may be a bad date (sorry if what I just wrote makes no sense, I’ve never been even close to a date so I could just be spitting out nonsense and my English is pretty bad too)
What a great video, so simple but so open to any type of person instead of a guide or rules. Remembered of a video called "How to invite friends to hang out in a polite and cool way", that basically says to already have an activity you're going to, avoiding being clingy or inconvenient if they don't want to go, keeping low pressure and easier to accept, and to already set a time and place, so you don't have to ask if they are available, avoiding being nosy and also making it easier to accept. So in general good to keep it low pressure, it's good to have an engaging activity to know each other better and if they can't it's good to know when they're mostly available
if you're a uni student honestly just join a club that has a dedicated club room, I went through 2~ years of a 99% empty social life due to studying to get into a uni, dealing with a gap year, etc. right after covid screwing over my entire HS life and uni has been the greates breath of fresh air in years. Although I've been making do with a friend group I secured in the first couple of weeks for the first year, whenever they had plans come up, or got dissolved, or forgot eachother due to schedule differences, I'd get extremely demotivated. However, now that I joined a couple of clubs, I just go there whenever I'm alone and the remainder of my day is free and I hang out with lots of people regardless of when or where or to do what, because everyone else is there for that reason too.
I’d love to hear what RUclipsrs/videos have inspired you to make content like you do. Hearing this perspective has helped me a whole lot recently and I hope you keep striving to make this content!
Sometimes you could even skip the planning. Just go where there are people. A pub, a coffee/breakfast place, a park. If someone else meets your eyes and doesn't look away, but smiles maybe, that's an opportunity to chat.
I feel like a movie date could work only if you allow time bsfore and after the date to talk and get to know them. I took my currect gf now to a movie for our first date and it was something that we both mentioned before we even went out. I took the date as an opportunity to borh get to know her but to also just get comfortable being right next to her and comfortable with silences(we've also been dating for over a year now)
I have given up on trying to invite people long ago, waste of time and sanity. Now I do everything alone, which is great because I can decide I want to go on a hike the next day and just do it, no people to ask and who will answer me after a week, no people who accept on the condition that other people need to be there, no people who accept but arrive late, no people who accept but walk so slowly they make the hike take twice as long. I'm just done with all that crap.
You’re a bit late on this one. Unfortunately I already had a bangin get together with my friends. Legitimately could not have gone better, the stars aligned. It’s like everything I subconsciously wanted to happen happened even though I didn’t plan it that way
@@tappajaav What do you do when finding that company is tough? For example, living in a country where drinking culture is huge and the majority of the people not engaged with it are of a religious background that doesn't align with your other values/beliefs.
@@iridoscyclitis You keep looking, or find people whose drinking overlaps with activities you find desirable, and learn to tolerate the obligatory drunken dummies as a necessary evil
He basically became mr planner for everybody....bs honestly I don't want to be everybody's tour planner .... Reminds me of a girl I dated where it as just going out every single weekend to some far off location...she didn't like me she liked me being her tour guide ...
your arson group seems a little bit loose, unprofessional and such, so its probably a gang which just forms together to do the hit and then disband or lay dormant i would personally much rather set up an organized group (mafia) for activities that also generate profit beyond just lighting stuff on fire. i mean, it even adds a meaning to your arson, as you can take out opponents in the criminal world! and i think that meaningful moments are memorable moments. additionally, having so much trust on your members of your group fosters trust within the group, strenghtening the bond overall, i dont have much experience in the criminal world, and if i had i for certain reasons wouldnt tell you
This sounds a lot like min-maxing the challenge of relationships. This is idiotic. The reasons I don't spend as much time with friends as I'd like is because 1) we're all adults with busy schedules, so people are either too tired to do something after work or already have their one slot a week for activities filled out and 2) are all introverts who love nothing more than to be cozy at home. Add to this that we all live in different cities, so there's no spontaneous meet up, you gotta get dressed, go outside and take part in public transportation and street traffic. Making friends is really easy as long as you are a place where there are people and talk to some people. In my friend group, I'm the sole person holding it together and suggesting meet ups and I'm not even that social. And as for dates, going on three a week with a different person means you're very unsuccessful. And if it's with the same small number of people and you haven't gotten romantically engaged with them after some time, you're not dating, you've got a friendship. That's if you're in the 15% of men who even get a first date to begin with
A little tip. Although when asking ur friends what they like about past events if you’re too vague they might also answer vaguely. for example instead of “did you like bowling” you could ask about whether they liked the people you went with, what’s their thoughts about that alley, how was the food. From this even if you only went to one event you get enough info as if you went to multiple hope this helps
absolutely, great idea to throw in those kinds of things in your casual conversation afterwards. some friends will outright tell you they enjoyed it or didn't too.
My gf had to go to the US to study, and I wanted to cheer her up, but didn't know exactly what to get her and an Amazon gift card was an extremely dry gift (for this context). So I made a virtual treasure hunt with several cryptography techniques (and some bespoke dorky riddles) then delivered her the first clue anonymously, leading to a note and a gift card. She called to include me, and getting to watch her joyfully sleuthing through the clues I peppered around the internet was a fortunate bonus for me. I think I cooked with this one.
Edit: I also made sure the first clue let her know the timeframe she has to do this activity, and made it long enough so she can do it on her own time, but didnt reveal what the treasure was.
holy shit how do you stand up with a brain so huge, writing this down
I really want to thank you for all the videos you've made. They're pretty much the only videos I have downloaded through RUclips Premium and I always listen to them to and from work because they've genuinely been such a big help with things I've struggled with for a long time.
Thank you so much for all of the videos and help you've given not just to me, but to countless others too.
Finally someone that thinks movies are a terrible place for a first date. I’ve never been on a date before but I always thought going to see a movie is stupid, but my friends who actually go on dates disagree saying it’s great.
Movies are great if you both love horror or the specific genre of the movie. We form great emotional bonds when we're experiencing the same emotions as another person, but only if you're both feeling the same way about it, so it doesn't always work.
@@normifiedI think movies could be a great date idea if it isn’t the only thing that’s gonna happen on that date, if you go see a movie and then go for dinner or go do something else then you may have a lot of things to talk about, that’s how I see it but some people go see a move and nothing else and that In my opinion may be a bad date (sorry if what I just wrote makes no sense, I’ve never been even close to a date so I could just be spitting out nonsense and my English is pretty bad too)
Anyone who actually dates knows movies are terrible FIRST dates.
@@Dionizy8 Let this be the last day you apologize about your 'pretty bad English'
Are you 16 or why did you never go on a date before
Those who add value to the lives of others are blessed in kind. Good video.
absolutely, adding value to the lives of others is a good extension of yourself, but remember that you're important as well!
Clutch, I’m going to a restaurant with friends in 50 minutes
How is it?
update?
Leave the restaurant
Guys he died :(
Dang that restaurant must be open 24/7
What a great video, so simple but so open to any type of person instead of a guide or rules. Remembered of a video called "How to invite friends to hang out in a polite and cool way", that basically says to already have an activity you're going to, avoiding being clingy or inconvenient if they don't want to go, keeping low pressure and easier to accept, and to already set a time and place, so you don't have to ask if they are available, avoiding being nosy and also making it easier to accept. So in general good to keep it low pressure, it's good to have an engaging activity to know each other better and if they can't it's good to know when they're mostly available
I hope you friends appreciate you. It'S really nice to hear how much effort and thought you put in you get together :)
brinyheart you don't know how much i love your videos and how much it has helped me. please keep making them
if you're a uni student honestly just join a club that has a dedicated club room, I went through 2~ years of a 99% empty social life due to studying to get into a uni, dealing with a gap year, etc. right after covid screwing over my entire HS life and uni has been the greates breath of fresh air in years.
Although I've been making do with a friend group I secured in the first couple of weeks for the first year, whenever they had plans come up, or got dissolved, or forgot eachother due to schedule differences, I'd get extremely demotivated.
However, now that I joined a couple of clubs, I just go there whenever I'm alone and the remainder of my day is free and I hang out with lots of people regardless of when or where or to do what, because everyone else is there for that reason too.
hiding gifts is honestly a great idea
I love the cute art style and the funny small details like the gif or the “dialogue”. Awesome stuff brinyheart 💥
I recently started university and your advice means so much and is so helpful, thank you very much.
this came a day late omg you are so helpful but I had all my friends cancel on my dinner last night! this is the best youtube channel
I’d love to hear what RUclipsrs/videos have inspired you to make content like you do. Hearing this perspective has helped me a whole lot recently and I hope you keep striving to make this content!
Never let anyone have the power to change your mood
Not even comedians?
that sounds sad...
Sounds lonely
Just ask if people want to do something, and tcha tcha, do it!
the chocolate thing is fire
Sometimes you could even skip the planning. Just go where there are people. A pub, a coffee/breakfast place, a park. If someone else meets your eyes and doesn't look away, but smiles maybe, that's an opportunity to chat.
Your videos have helped me a lot! Thanks for the content!
I feel like a movie date could work only if you allow time bsfore and after the date to talk and get to know them. I took my currect gf now to a movie for our first date and it was something that we both mentioned before we even went out. I took the date as an opportunity to borh get to know her but to also just get comfortable being right next to her and comfortable with silences(we've also been dating for over a year now)
Thanks for this video, this applies to just about everyone
Hey man. Im a big fan of your vids thanks for your help.
Can't believe I had most of this in mind beforehand, thank you man, now I have more confidence in myself
bro this guy is a god
Wow, I realize now we are such different people.
I have given up on trying to invite people long ago, waste of time and sanity. Now I do everything alone, which is great because I can decide I want to go on a hike the next day and just do it, no people to ask and who will answer me after a week, no people who accept on the condition that other people need to be there, no people who accept but arrive late, no people who accept but walk so slowly they make the hike take twice as long. I'm just done with all that crap.
Donne let other people's opinions surpass your innerwish.
-Steve Jobs
Real friends will always be there for you, no matter their occupation
Damn I’m really early. Anyway hope you all have an awesome day lads :) ❤
love your work 😄 . just been wondering what aspect ratio you use 🙏
love you bro
This is helpful
Bring the right friends... So not me, got it.
You’re a bit late on this one. Unfortunately I already had a bangin get together with my friends. Legitimately could not have gone better, the stars aligned. It’s like everything I subconsciously wanted to happen happened even though I didn’t plan it that way
I wonder what does one do if one does not like drinking? Where I live I see people's idea of having fun is always getting drunk.
Then you seek company that shares your sentiment towards alcohol.
@@tappajaav What do you do when finding that company is tough? For example, living in a country where drinking culture is huge and the majority of the people not engaged with it are of a religious background that doesn't align with your other values/beliefs.
@@iridoscyclitis You keep looking, or find people whose drinking overlaps with activities you find desirable, and learn to tolerate the obligatory drunken dummies as a necessary evil
I have 0 friends and I don't know if at this age I have time to change that most of my time goes on simply making it to ends meet.
He basically became mr planner for everybody....bs honestly I don't want to be everybody's tour planner ....
Reminds me of a girl I dated where it as just going out every single weekend to some far off location...she didn't like me she liked me being her tour guide ...
How to meet new people? Everyone seems so distant.
(:
another vid
your arson group seems a little bit loose, unprofessional and such, so its probably a gang which just forms together to do the hit and then disband or lay dormant
i would personally much rather set up an organized group (mafia) for activities that also generate profit beyond just lighting stuff on fire. i mean, it even adds a meaning to your arson, as you can take out opponents in the criminal world! and i think that meaningful moments are memorable moments. additionally, having so much trust on your members of your group fosters trust within the group, strenghtening the bond
overall, i dont have much experience in the criminal world, and if i had i for certain reasons wouldnt tell you
familair
Try ice-skating, thank me later ( and yes try to be touchy ) 😊
This sounds a lot like min-maxing the challenge of relationships. This is idiotic. The reasons I don't spend as much time with friends as I'd like is because 1) we're all adults with busy schedules, so people are either too tired to do something after work or already have their one slot a week for activities filled out and 2) are all introverts who love nothing more than to be cozy at home. Add to this that we all live in different cities, so there's no spontaneous meet up, you gotta get dressed, go outside and take part in public transportation and street traffic. Making friends is really easy as long as you are a place where there are people and talk to some people. In my friend group, I'm the sole person holding it together and suggesting meet ups and I'm not even that social.
And as for dates, going on three a week with a different person means you're very unsuccessful. And if it's with the same small number of people and you haven't gotten romantically engaged with them after some time, you're not dating, you've got a friendship. That's if you're in the 15% of men who even get a first date to begin with