1. Are they the most important person to you? 2. Do you get along? 3. Do you completely trust him/her? 4. Do you yearn for a formal lover? 5. Are you willing to do whatever it takes? You’re welcome 😉
Top 5 signs you’re not ready: 1. Are they the most important person in your life? 2. Do you really get along? Do you argue a lot? 3. Do you completely trust your fiancé? 4. Do you still yearn for a former lover/old flame? 5. Are you willing to do whatever it takes to have a beautiful and successful marriage?
I am 22 years, just graduated University and have been single for 6 years now and saved.. And there's this guy who is asking for my hand in marriage. I hardly know him, except that he is a widower, and we from different nations. I don't love him nor feel anything towards him. But I almost got trapped in his idea bcoz I felt sorry for him. After watching this and a lot of thinking I decided NO. Thank you
Redeemed Mahlangu YESS DON'T DO IT IF GOD DOESN'T SAY ANYTHING IN YOUR HEART!!! I've been asked several times from quality men and I prayed and God said nothing so I didn't move and wind up finding out later why God said no, their motives were always wrong. I give God praise for the holy spirit
Your story is vary similar to mine that recently happened to me. I'm 21 and single and this guy from Algeria contacted me online and tried to get me to marry him! I barely knew him and he didn't know me well enough to make that decision and it became very clear that he had an agenda when I talked about it to my parents. He was an expert manipulator to try to get what he wanted by making me feel sorry for him with his "sob story" of how his poor "situation" was and all that. He even got me to send him money because I felt sorry for him. I later found out he was lying about "needing" money for college stuff and it was all just so he could play on my emotions and get me to "like" him. (I'm a very caring person who likes to help those in need) Needles to say I got out of that situation before anything really bad could happen and I would have been very hurt if I didn't get out. I've heard of these guys who are looking for young woman to marry them so they can move to the USA to gain citizenship in the US. The sad thing is that they later dump (or even abuse in some cases) their new "wife" soon afterwards because they never really "loved" you in the first place. Sad but true.
Don't do it, Don't do it, Don't do it, Don't do it, Don't do it, You will know when it is right, your gut is telling you what you need to do. Listen to your gut and your instinct.
Dang after watching this, I know that I’m ready to marry my partner. I guess I’m just scared of being tied down. I’m a free spirit and love moving and traveling around the world. After getting married I’ll have to consider my husbands goals/dreams before packing up and moving across the world. But I know no other person means more than him. Thanks so much for sharing your points
I'm getting married this year ,I'm 22 and this is the best advice, thank you Neil much Rev.Ken . This has really helped me ,at least I have an idea of questions to ask myself
This was fun for me I am SO ready according to this vid 😁 but we're waiting it out for financial stability and just enjoying our lives as boyfriend and girlfriend before we feel like the time's right. Thank you so much this was so helpful!
if i cant trust the gal im with then it defeats the whole purpose of even being with that person. if i go ahead and marry her, then i make the same mistake Robert Deniro made in Casino
Watching this because I nervous about getting married next week. But answering every question honestly does show me that I am very ready. I am just nervous about all our family members with their own opinions, but I don't doubt my partner's and my trustful relationship nor our ability to communicate for a second.
1. You must have total, responsible physical, emotional and sexual control. A woman that can seduce you is a nightmare on elm street. You are a nightmare on elm street if you have seduced her. 2. You must have dignity ( the common sense to make a living and take care of all the financial aspects of being a self sufficient adult). This means having a good job, or preferably your own small, growing and thriving business. 3. You must love what you know is intuitively and morally right in your heart, live from it, and defend it at all costs. A man that does not put what is right first above everything and EVERYONE else is useless to everyone they are in contact with. 4.You must have already built your own nest and are prepared to share it with a family. 5. You must want to have a family to care for, be patient, kind and strong for because you knew how to love the people in the family you grew up in properly.
I’ve been with my bf for over a year and this video made me so happy❤️ we are going to wait until after college (i have 2ish years left) but this video helped me verify that i definitely want to marry him and am ready to whenever we decide the time is right
I've been married for 18 years...rough first 7 years...now really happy, but this is THE BEST ADVICE IVE EVER HEARD...I wish parents would talk to their children more before marriage
I respect your way of thoughts ...its just the bare facts to be gone through before a person tie -up with another soul ...we should have pure, free mindsets...These 5 thoughts are out of my boundary walls of building a new life...and I believe that I'm ready for a new life with all its colours by accepting the reality...and if practically it's impossible then its just my fate to remain as soulmates for life long...
1. Are they the most important person in your life? Are they your best friend? 2. Do you really get along? or always fight along and get frustrated? 3. Do you completely trust your fiance? 4. Do you still carry your ex lover? 5. Are you willing to take whatever it takes? Or are you gonna take it as all about "me" and only "me".
I am 18, and me and my fiancé (20) have been together for 4 years. We are waiting till I graduate college (I’ll be about 21) to actually get married. So that’ll be about a 6 year relationship
I am an emotionally unstable person, but my partner knows this and loves me anyways. I'm never really quite when I go through periods of insecurities, depression or mood flips. I always try my best to talk things out even tho Hes not much of a talker. Me and him have a opposites attract type of bond, he is the calm to my fire. But through all my mental problems I fight becuase I see he's worth it, I'm the type of person who loves toxic men, he's the polar opposite. Hes good for me and I am for him, I will always have the swirling thoughts and fears rolling inside of my head but when it boils down to it I will always crack down and get It figured out becuase I know the problem is with myself and even tho he .ca fix it, him just existing beside me is enough.
I just got engaged and I already took the ring off. I am not emotionally connected to him. I closed off when he hold my hands or when I kissed him on the lips. Am petrified of the physical part of our marriage. Am not yearning for no body. I was married before and I had the same fears I went through with the wedding and was miserable for the 6 yrs it lasted. He is a great guy. He believes he loves me and will be a great lover and husband, a great father to my daughter. yet I know am going to either hurt him or be miserable trying to make him happy.
I am *so* ready to get married. 7 months ago, before meeting my boyfriend, I would've never believed these words would some day come out of my mouth. Life can give wonderful surprises.
People that say they arent ready will sometimes be together forever, some people that say they have no doubts about their relationship will eventually break up. This is a high level assessment tool, and it's not even as black and white as "if you're not sure dont". It depends why you're not sure! Fear can be a liar, and mean you miss out on something amazing because someone had unfounded fears based on nothing. Sometimes its telling you the truth, and you need to put the brakes on. Trust yourself, own your decisions win or lose.
the biggest thing women have done to me that destroyed my trust in them when they lied about having feelings for me. you know, when they put on an act to get what they want? yeah.... if that happens enough times women wonder why we dont take them seriously anymore
My ex from 11 years. Coming back. I knew him very well. We can talk and laugh all night. He loves me and I want to help him fix his life as he was devastated from her ex wife. And make life together
I thought you are saint before i read that you are Rev Ken Thank u for your divine tips ,yes honesty ,sacrifice .endurance of hardship of life ,true happy marriage is you can look at your partner and feel what they are going through and act upon to ease and make it better . This is for both lazy woman /man do not get married ,it is a lot of on going effort to make marriage it is responsibility of both couple to create and invent harmony I would see filing an application mind ,heart ,body ,and soul match and must be at the end of the list if all match sex will be divine and perfect and will last forever ,NO ULTERIOR MOTIVE or hidden agenda (sex scandal crime) is sin in all laws .
Good question to ask yourself before getting engaged: is marriage what i want, or is it what's best for my s.o.? These questions in this are good for before you get engaged. Engagement means preparing for marriage because the intent for marriage is already there. Here's another good question: is my love for the other person an emotion, or a decision? The idea of emotional love being a basis for marriage is a foreign concept to marriage. This video leaves out every important factor to consider when considering marriage.
How about, Do you have unresolved unforgiveness issues in your heart towards others? You must know how to forgive and forgive quickly without holding grudges against your partner. This is foundational to any couple having a good marriage for a life time.
💜💜💜 I plan to marry my boyfriend after college. But our no. 1 priority is our parents. Maybe its because we’re filipino? (filipino’s are a lot more closer to their family) or most asians? 🤔🤔🤔
I trust God and God don't make mistakes when he brings the right person to your life my parents argue everyday and they been together over 40 yrs so I don't believe that part about fighting
I love someone and we are in relationship, but I don't know if he wants marriage.. Is it ok to marry someone else who you don't love just because you want kids? I'm 29 and I really don't have a nerve to wait for 1,2 or more years to see if he wants marriage and kids ... Is it ok to marry someone who wants it, but I don't love him, I just want someone by my side and that stability of having husband at home raising children. It's painful for me to watch others kids..and I'm working at kindergarten
Agree with all these except #1. "If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters--yes, even their own life--such a person cannot be my disciple." Luke 14:26. Jesus should always be first in our lives. All the other signs are really on point though.
Rachael L God is always 1st, but I think Rev is alluding to Human beings. Some people while married have to keep running to their sisters or mum. I know someone who is married and she told her husband that her mum is 1st in her life. There is already a problem you see. It could be putting a best friend b4 a spouse.
If marriage was perfect everyone will be jumping to it. Marriage is hard work. Ups and downs. Is accepting the other person the way they are. Meaning you cannot try to change them or expect for them to change 4 u
There are tings I don’t agree with this video, but specially: I think the person you get married should be one of the most important persons in your life, but not necessarily THE most important. The most important person in your life should always be you. In cases if you have children, they would probably be the most important persons.
We are the main characters of our own lives, and our relationship to ourselves is of course the most inportant. That means we should love ourselves first, because other relationships are not going to fix our unhappiness or lack of love within us. None of that means being selfish. In relationship/marriage 2 people should work together as a team, and if we feel like we are more interested in our own good than the other person's, then we don't understand what marriage means - and definitely should not get into it. Ultimately marriage is spiritual practice, in which both individuals should strive to learn from each other and grown into better people, together.
1. Are they the most important person to you?
2. Do you get along?
3. Do you completely trust him/her?
4. Do you yearn for a formal lover?
5. Are you willing to do whatever it takes?
You’re welcome 😉
you're a life saver. i really didn't wanna go through every question to be repeated 5 times like the first one. that was awful.
😉
I would add one thing. Do I respect the person I want to marry.
Amen.
That's right.
Top 5 signs you’re not ready:
1. Are they the most important person in your life?
2. Do you really get along? Do you argue a lot?
3. Do you completely trust your fiancé?
4. Do you still yearn for a former lover/old flame?
5. Are you willing to do whatever it takes to have a beautiful and successful marriage?
Thank you. You saved me the trouble.
Thanks. You saved me some minutes 😊
What if I am the most important person in my life?
i love you for this list
Thank you, no longer getting married tomorrow
I am 22 years, just graduated University and have been single for 6 years now and saved.. And there's this guy who is asking for my hand in marriage. I hardly know him, except that he is a widower, and we from different nations. I don't love him nor feel anything towards him. But I almost got trapped in his idea bcoz I felt sorry for him. After watching this and a lot of thinking I decided NO. Thank you
You almost married somebody you felt sorry for? Such a saint, thank you for considering such a sacrifice...
Redeemed Mahlangu YESS DON'T DO IT IF GOD DOESN'T SAY ANYTHING IN YOUR HEART!!! I've been asked several times from quality men and I prayed and God said nothing so I didn't move and wind up finding out later why God said no, their motives were always wrong. I give God praise for the holy spirit
Your story is vary similar to mine that recently happened to me. I'm 21 and single and this guy from Algeria contacted me online and tried to get me to marry him! I barely knew him and he didn't know me well enough to make that decision and it became very clear that he had an agenda when I talked about it to my parents.
He was an expert manipulator to try to get what he wanted by making me feel sorry for him with his "sob story" of how his poor "situation" was and all that. He even got me to send him money because I felt sorry for him. I later found out he was lying about "needing" money for college stuff and it was all just so he could play on my emotions and get me to "like" him. (I'm a very caring person who likes to help those in need)
Needles to say I got out of that situation before anything really bad could happen and I would have been very hurt if I didn't get out.
I've heard of these guys who are looking for young woman to marry them so they can move to the USA to gain citizenship in the US. The sad thing is that they later dump (or even abuse in some cases) their new "wife" soon afterwards because they never really "loved" you in the first place. Sad but true.
Don't do it, Don't do it, Don't do it, Don't do it, Don't do it,
You will know when it is right, your gut is telling you what you need to do. Listen to your gut and your instinct.
Redeemed Mahlangu where you from
All set to call off my wedding now
Swathi C M V did you do it??
Swathi C M V 🤣
Swathi C M V great
Swathi C M V I justed died laughing😂😂 I thank you !
Me too
I'm a guy, engaged, I feel like your talking to me direct, I found it helpful and I'm 90 sure I can't marry this woman
Google Mgtow!
1 yr later... Did you?
Same situation
Arab girl are not marriable anyway😂
Dang after watching this, I know that I’m ready to marry my partner. I guess I’m just scared of being tied down. I’m a free spirit and love moving and traveling around the world. After getting married I’ll have to consider my husbands goals/dreams before packing up and moving across the world. But I know no other person means more than him. Thanks so much for sharing your points
What did u later do
Did u marry him?
I have been single and celibate for a while and I plan to remain like this till I find the right one.
You can trust in so much but marriage is going to be always a risk. People change.
Man, this was epic real talk! Thanks!!
Wow. spot on. I love this. You just saved a soul.
Thank you! You have literally given me pre marital counseling at its finest!🙏 Awesome channel
This is very helpful! Thanks for sharing.
This is an amazing video. You made realize I am ready. Thank you!
I wish I could give this video two thumbs up, excellent information
thank you this helped me
I'm getting married this year ,I'm 22 and this is the best advice, thank you Neil much Rev.Ken . This has really helped me ,at least I have an idea of questions to ask myself
Wow! You kept it all the way REAL in this video! I was surprised at how real you were. Good stuff! Thanks for the video.
thanks for your advice, very useful video
This was fun for me I am SO ready according to this vid 😁 but we're waiting it out for financial stability and just enjoying our lives as boyfriend and girlfriend before we feel like the time's right. Thank you so much this was so helpful!
I got married when I was 18, BIGGEST MISTAKE of my life!!!
Brandy Newswanger are you still married
should have waited til your 30!
What happened in the marriage?
why i am 29 and i was dying ti get narried at 19 ! im still single :(
allot of women's stories, either they do it too early, too late(single)e, or divorce.
Solid stuff my brother...especial trust issue
Brilliant advice.
Excellent, very honest video... You summed it up well. Especially that part about trust... Trust is so important.. the
Great advice. Thank you ❤️
Damn man. Excellent video. Very well done.
Great information and tips, full of wisdom and common sense!
thanks i needed this..
You're a great speaker! 👏👏👏
Thankyou for this vid, I am 23 and I absolutely 100%-ready to get married to my boyfriend =) God bless 💕
How did it go?
Way to young… wait until your 33
Thank you so much. I really appreciate it
29 nvr married n hearin this now is so helpful👌
A few years younger and same
Yes, yes, yes, yes, and yes. Thank you for this video! I enjoyed watching it.
Thank u for the video..very concise and helpful.
This was a good video!
if i cant trust the gal im with then it defeats the whole purpose of even being with that person. if i go ahead and marry her, then i make the same mistake Robert Deniro made in Casino
That was good advice!
Excellent advice
Watching this because I nervous about getting married next week. But answering every question honestly does show me that I am very ready. I am just nervous about all our family members with their own opinions, but I don't doubt my partner's and my trustful relationship nor our ability to communicate for a second.
Thank you for this tips.Very useful for our life 🙂
1. You must have total, responsible physical, emotional and sexual control. A woman that can seduce you is a nightmare on elm street. You are a nightmare on elm street if you have seduced her.
2. You must have dignity ( the common sense to make a living and take care of all the financial aspects of being a self sufficient adult). This means having a good job, or preferably your own small, growing and thriving business.
3. You must love what you know is intuitively and morally right in your heart, live from it, and defend it at all costs. A man that does not put what is right first above everything and EVERYONE else is useless to everyone they are in contact with.
4.You must have already built your own nest and are prepared to share it with a family.
5. You must want to have a family to care for, be patient, kind and strong for because you knew how to love the people in the family you grew up in properly.
Hey Ken are you a movie buff?? I saw your poster is behind you on the wall, had to ask
Thank you
I have trust issues after my childhood parents getting divorced.. it’s not easy me trust anyone fully
You just confirmed that I am dating the right person in my life!
I got married at 15. My wife was 13. We are still together 24 years later with two beautiful children!
Congratulations. That is refreshing to hear.
I’ve been with my bf for over a year and this video made me so happy❤️ we are going to wait until after college (i have 2ish years left) but this video helped me verify that i definitely want to marry him and am ready to whenever we decide the time is right
Very nice... Thanks very much
I've been married for 18 years...rough first 7 years...now really happy, but this is THE BEST ADVICE IVE EVER HEARD...I wish parents would talk to their children more before marriage
I respect your way of thoughts ...its just the bare facts to be gone through before a person tie -up with another soul ...we should have pure, free mindsets...These 5 thoughts are out of my boundary walls of building a new life...and I believe that I'm ready for a new life with all its colours by accepting the reality...and if practically it's impossible then its just my fate to remain as soulmates for life long...
I have listened to your advice like a father to a son
Wow, glad I m watching this now
Great questions to ask !!!! Prepare harder for marriage rather than ur wedding plus Watch Myles munroe marriage videos too ....
He has it figured out.
Good content.
1. Are they the most important person in your life? Are they your best friend?
2. Do you really get along? or always fight along and get frustrated?
3. Do you completely trust your fiance?
4. Do you still carry your ex lover?
5. Are you willing to take whatever it takes? Or are you gonna take it as all about "me" and only "me".
I am doomed. I dont like body odor or bad breath lol i will die alone.
Lol
very insightful!
I'm 23. And thinking of getting married. Do you think I should do it??
I am 18, and me and my fiancé (20) have been together for 4 years. We are waiting till I graduate college (I’ll be about 21) to actually get married. So that’ll be about a 6 year relationship
all of the 5 are me but i'm forced to get married cuz im arab
so what. fuck marriage
I am an emotionally unstable person, but my partner knows this and loves me anyways. I'm never really quite when I go through periods of insecurities, depression or mood flips. I always try my best to talk things out even tho Hes not much of a talker. Me and him have a opposites attract type of bond, he is the calm to my fire. But through all my mental problems I fight becuase I see he's worth it, I'm the type of person who loves toxic men, he's the polar opposite. Hes good for me and I am for him, I will always have the swirling thoughts and fears rolling inside of my head but when it boils down to it I will always crack down and get It figured out becuase I know the problem is with myself and even tho he .ca fix it, him just existing beside me is enough.
He makes poor choices.
Toxic. Sounds not good for security.
ur one cool guy
I could have listen to this before my stupid arrange marriage.. now again single.. ha ha
I just got engaged and I already took the ring off. I am not emotionally connected to him. I closed off when he hold my hands or when I kissed him on the lips. Am petrified of the physical part of our marriage. Am not yearning for no body.
I was married before and I had the same fears I went through with the wedding and was miserable for the 6 yrs it lasted.
He is a great guy. He believes he loves me and will be a great lover and husband, a great father to my daughter. yet I know am going to either hurt him or be miserable trying to make him happy.
Maybe your asexual?
I am *so* ready to get married. 7 months ago, before meeting my boyfriend, I would've never believed these words would some day come out of my mouth.
Life can give wonderful surprises.
hah! #3 shouldve been #1!
People that say they arent ready will sometimes be together forever, some people that say they have no doubts about their relationship will eventually break up. This is a high level assessment tool, and it's not even as black and white as "if you're not sure dont". It depends why you're not sure! Fear can be a liar, and mean you miss out on something amazing because someone had unfounded fears based on nothing. Sometimes its telling you the truth, and you need to put the brakes on. Trust yourself, own your decisions win or lose.
the biggest thing women have done to me that destroyed my trust in them when they lied about having feelings for me. you know, when they put on an act to get what they want? yeah.... if that happens enough times women wonder why we dont take them seriously anymore
yep, true
I hope you make more videos someday
My ex from 11 years. Coming back. I knew him very well. We can talk and laugh all night. He loves me and I want to help him fix his life as he was devastated from her ex wife. And make life together
I thought you are saint before i read that you are Rev Ken Thank u for your divine tips ,yes honesty ,sacrifice .endurance of hardship of life ,true happy marriage is you can look at your partner and feel what they are going through and act upon to ease and make it better .
This is for both lazy woman /man do not get married ,it is a lot of on going effort to make marriage it is responsibility of both couple to create and invent harmony I would see filing an application mind ,heart ,body ,and soul match and must be at the end of the list if all match sex will be divine and perfect and will last forever ,NO ULTERIOR MOTIVE or hidden agenda (sex scandal crime) is sin in all laws .
Good question to ask yourself before getting engaged: is marriage what i want, or is it what's best for my s.o.?
These questions in this are good for before you get engaged. Engagement means preparing for marriage because the intent for marriage is already there.
Here's another good question: is my love for the other person an emotion, or a decision? The idea of emotional love being a basis for marriage is a foreign concept to marriage.
This video leaves out every important factor to consider when considering marriage.
What if you have an identical twin sister?
I hope everyone that said they were 100% ready to get married are still married TO this DAY. God bless 🙏🏾
#3 got me.....
Beautiful 👍🏻
Yes i really trust my PRINCE
Everytime I go to this video, I become wiser to the ways of the world.
I trying to rush into things myself my parents trying tell me not to rush into things take my time
Gostei muito, tudo a ver.
I thought this was going to be a helpful video for me, but all it did was make me realize how single I still am...
If that's the case then it's helpful...at least you found out on time.
Great advice. Wish I would have had this about 15 years ago.
I thought i was ready.. now im not sure...
Buddy’s over here describing unicorns
I was broken heart one year ago. I will save this video and give it to the next my future husband.
I cancel my wedding made the right decision
Well I am ready for this marriage.
You should never trust a spouse %100
How about, Do you have unresolved unforgiveness issues in your heart towards others? You must know how to forgive and forgive quickly without holding grudges against your partner. This is foundational to any couple having a good marriage for a life time.
💜💜💜 I plan to marry my boyfriend after college. But our no. 1 priority is our parents. Maybe its because we’re filipino?
(filipino’s are a lot more closer to their family) or most asians?
🤔🤔🤔
Or#6 my wife isn't even born yet 😀
I trust God and God don't make mistakes when he brings the right person to your life my parents argue everyday and they been together over 40 yrs so I don't believe that part about fighting
These are signs that SHOULD be common sense. Sadly, too many people don't think about these things, which is why so many marriages end in divorce.
I love someone and we are in relationship, but I don't know if he wants marriage.. Is it ok to marry someone else who you don't love just because you want kids? I'm 29 and I really don't have a nerve to wait for 1,2 or more years to see if he wants marriage and kids ... Is it ok to marry someone who wants it, but I don't love him, I just want someone by my side and that stability of having husband at home raising children. It's painful for me to watch others kids..and I'm working at kindergarten
There is no fiancé more important then my parents
Agree with all these except #1. "If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters--yes, even their own life--such a person cannot be my disciple." Luke 14:26. Jesus should always be first in our lives. All the other signs are really on point though.
Rachael L
God is always 1st, but I think Rev is alluding to Human beings. Some people while married have to keep running to their sisters or mum. I know someone who is married and she told her husband that her mum is 1st in her life. There is already a problem you see. It could be putting a best friend b4 a spouse.
I am with Rachel L
If marriage was perfect everyone will be jumping to it. Marriage is hard work. Ups and downs. Is accepting the other person the way they are. Meaning you cannot try to change them or expect for them to change 4 u
There are tings I don’t agree with this video, but specially: I think the person you get married should be one of the most important persons in your life, but not necessarily THE most important. The most important person in your life should always be you. In cases if you have children, they would probably be the most important persons.
Claudia Chiari that would.make you selfish
We are the main characters of our own lives, and our relationship to ourselves is of course the most inportant. That means we should love ourselves first, because other relationships are not going to fix our unhappiness or lack of love within us. None of that means being selfish. In relationship/marriage 2 people should work together as a team, and if we feel like we are more interested in our own good than the other person's, then we don't understand what marriage means - and definitely should not get into it. Ultimately marriage is spiritual practice, in which both individuals should strive to learn from each other and grown into better people, together.