How Could You? Part VI: Dehumanization and Blame

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  • Опубликовано: 3 дек 2024
  • Today, I’d like to share with you what blame does to both spouses after infidelity. I’ll explain more about why blame is used by the unfaithful more than any other response mechanism and how this type of blame affects the betrayed in life altering ways.
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Комментарии • 12

  • @leighjohnston3750
    @leighjohnston3750 4 года назад +10

    Thank you for all you guys do. You don't know how much your work helps those of us who are going through this agonizing process right now. These videos have become my go-to for comfort, learning and guidance. as well as my unfaithful partner's.

  • @michelenesvetlik123
    @michelenesvetlik123 4 года назад +7

    Thankyou so very much for this particular series! This is the one thing i find myself falling back to when i get caught in my emotions, or in my head. I ask myself this question! I ask him this question! Especially because i was so careful when i was seeking a life partner. My father married six times, i knew i wanted my marriage to be one! When after ten amazing years together my spouse did the things i bet my life on he wouldnt, he couldnt,so i believed. I find myself coming back to this question. These videos have been so helpful in understanding what is possible, why this was possible, what he may have been thinking and acting upon. I am in no way free from my part in the mess, but he has been unable to communicate his reasons. This series has me less frustrated faced with the " i dont knows" i keep receiving from him. You guys are a blessing and i couldnt be more thankful, thank you! Its so hard to move on from the pain when there's no understanding. Blessings to you all!

  • @rangermike6651
    @rangermike6651 5 месяцев назад

    This series has been so helpful for my mental health. Thank you. 🙏🏼

  • @RvRestoration
    @RvRestoration Год назад +5

    WHAT? Most of us betrayed have NEVER done anything remotely close to the unfaithful and to share is jsut trying to BE HEARD. If the unfaithful takes it as condemnation its because THEY have issues with accountability. NOT THE BETRAYED. Always an excuse for unfaithfuls to get away with what they do repeatedly and cuddle them for being shear evil. Total two faced there

  • @el8792
    @el8792 Год назад +3

    Interesting enough my soon to be ex-husband has told me I am controlling and manipulative which is why he can no longer be with me, and our marriage is irreparable. About a month after him moving out I have pieced all of his lies with phone records that he's been having an affair for over 2 years!!!

  • @brightpage1020
    @brightpage1020 3 года назад +2

    Dehumanization is such a big thing right now, especially with the warfare in the air, both international as well as spiritual.
    Love your point that to dismiss someone who does us wrong as a narcissist is also dehumanizing and reducing them to an object. Great point. Much needed right now.

  • @bryanfrench8671
    @bryanfrench8671 4 года назад

    Wayne, you are such a great speaker, helped me so much at emsw in June of 2019...he helped our group and help us through some of this awful pain that us unfaithful have done..thank you ar for what you guys do ..I watch all new and research alot of old videos. Thanks

  • @mfawls9624
    @mfawls9624 3 года назад +3

    So as her husband I get that her resentments could allow her to dehumanize me. My question is does the unfaithful also dehumanize the rest of the family? She has all kinds of anger at me, I had it for her and so she cheated. That's at least understandable, but what about her actions effects on the kids; how does that get rationalized?

  • @dayoftheidealist
    @dayoftheidealist 4 года назад

    This was an amazing talk. Thank you. Very helpful.

  • @jerryanddiannedennison5644
    @jerryanddiannedennison5644 Год назад

    Absolutely spot on true!

  • @danielperez247
    @danielperez247 3 года назад

    I know I'm late to this my spouse cried separation and that was the justification for their affairs.

  • @AceHardy
    @AceHardy 4 года назад

    📙💯