I'm only 58 seconds into your video, but already feeling calmer. I got VERY triggered by emailing a therapist to ask about next steps to talk about RTS. I believed I was doing something wrong. Just watching your intro has me feeling validated and a lot more grounded. I'm gonna watch the rest of your video, and then probably check out the course. All the best.
I can relate to that 100%, have been trapped in those destructive thought patterns & terrors for so long. Thanks for another mighty helpful video. When I see your example, I feel hopeful that I can heal more.
Thank you so much, Angel. I love what you said at the end, “when you’re brain is set up to believe everything is attacking you”.. that statement helped me realize why I always feel like I’m anticipating something to occur.. Can you make a video on religious trauma and spiritual warfare? ♥️
@@AngelDeSantis Thank you, Angel! I mostly want to understand how spiritual entities affect our mind and body, for example how does ones mind and body react when repetitively told spirits are around you since childhood or prophecies you’re supposedly part of.?
I can so relate to this. This is exactly how my Jehovah’s Witness husband treats me. If I do anything different from the way he would do it, he goes straight to attacking my character, my values and my worth as a wife. He will accuse me of feelings and thoughts I never had, like telling me that I don’t want to cooperate with him or that I am disobedient. I have really bad anxiety.
I'm so sorry to hear he treats you that way. I know the feeling. I hope the relationship dynamic changes or you can walk away from it. No one deserves to be treated that way. Sending support !
Please read Lundy Bancrofts book "Why Does He Do That?" It details why abusive men do what they do, and why it's so hard to get an abuser to reform. You can find the pdf for free online. On a personal note - start putting money away somewhere he doesn't know about, so you have just-in-case money (abuse escalates), and get your personal documents in order. (Getting them replaced can be a pain in the butt.)
You've got a Beautiful Soul Angel and your helping out so many people who are in great pain.I wish I could help you back as you've helped me cope with my traumas and finding ways to change my ways of thinking and seeing things. Thank you Angel , Much Love.
So thankful for you, as a young teen the amount of fear I had instilled in me was unnatural & delusional to think the stress it causes us to live in smh. Your videos are really helpful & reassuring.
I am stunned. I can't find the words to articulate what I am thinking. I am so sorry that you were brought up that way. Listening to your explanation of how they believe, brought a lot of memories back to me when I was around my very religious extended family. You explained it so well. I knew they were very dysfunctional. I did not know at the time it was because of their religious beliefs. I only figured a lot of things out after they came back into my life 17 years later. You just opened my eyes that they had been brought up that way their whole life. My father who was their uncle, was an atheist. The only one in the family. My Dad had a talk with me when I was very young, and said I'll let you decide. I was never indoctrinated. He did tell me why he was an atheist, and left it at that. After hearing you, I am in shock. You just explained a lot of how they came back into my life and made it hell. I have watched a lot of videos, this one helped me understand even MORE of how sick I find religion. Thank you so much!! I am very happy to hear that you have left that life and choose to be healthy. I agree with you, in an earlier video, that whatever religion anyone chooses is right for them. No one should be forced. It should be a choice. (Sorry, this was so long)
Thank you for your comment. I'm glad you weren't indoctrinated and had the chance to choose your belief system and that you were able to connect some dots after watching this video! Thank you for being here!!
@@AngelDeSantis Looking forward to next weeks video that you mentioned below. I have connected the dots around 5 years ago, they gaslight me. Your video made me connect that all of them have been "Very religious" all their life. (I didn't know this) Our Grandparents were preacher's and they were all close to them. I wasn't, my Dad kept the grandparents away from me. They were not good people.
Hi I am so grateful to have found you on RUclips. I was born in the same cult ( the family) after leaving the cult,my mental conditioning led me to a relationship with an extremely controlling and abusive narcissist. I normalized his control and abuse cause it was what I was used to. I have complex ptsd and now that I am free from the cult and him I have started my healing journey. Your videos are amazing they resonate so much with what I have always felt but never been able to put into words. Thanks so much. ❤️
Your videos are like a breath of fresh air. It's comforting to know I'm not the only one who struggles with thoughts like these. I have similar religious traumas and many of them came back to life after my last relationship. Your videos help me reaffirm that I did myself a service removing myself from that situation. I'm a single Father, my children are my world!! I know my heart, my intentions, and my depth of intelligence. Thank you for posting videos that help a person regain a rational, self loving perspective. Fear is such a crippling, self defeating, illogical emotion.
I love what you are sharing here Angel! Stay strong :) “We suffer more often in imagination than in reality.” - Seneca “Sometimes people don't want to hear the truth, because they don't want their illusions destroyed.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche
Thank you Angel, i am beyond grateful for what you do and that you offer yourself and your deep insight to others. This episode is extremely useful for me as I suffer from anxiety disorder and knowing that it is actually possible to disengage with the anxious thoughts patterns and tips on how to do it gives me strength
So thankful for your videos!!! The fear all the time. This makes sense to me, changing my thinking and pausing is what I want to learn more. It’s hard and painful but I see it’s possible ✨✨🦋
"I just believed what I need to believe in order to not get beatings. It didn't work; I got them anyway". This is the crux. No amount of compliance can stop the abuse.
Hi angel hope you OK.wow you giving us all this free advice from the kindness of your heart.what a special women you are.all our love to you from windy England
Hope you're doing okay. Very helpful video! I could relate to a lot of this. I grew up in a super strict and devout catholic household. Now I am in my mid 30's, and am a very strong atheist. Love ya! Best of luck to you! 🖤🖤🖤👉😎🤘👈
Is it common to end up with chronic exhaustion from constant hypervigilance and anxiety plus a myriad of other psychological stressors? I mean like it's hard to get out of bed with out perscription stimulants. Theres also the "Brain Fog". Any info would be appreciated.
Yes, I can cover this next week about the hyper vigilance that comes from constantly feeling like you’re under attack. Please keep giving yourself permission to rest. It will get easier 🙏🏼
You just about told my story on how anything bad happens it’s the devil, anyone that is in the religious thinking blames the devil for EVERYTHING !!!! How about owning up to what the truth is and that’s life happens good bad in between it’s life. Nothing more !!! I can’t stand religious, or religion I hate it !!! And I know I need to heal from that and I’m trying.
Great video. I love everything that you are explaining. Makes perfect sense and very informative. Please continue what you are doing to help us with our challenges after leaving a very high controlled group. You are a 💎 gem. You should seriously be very proud of yourself!!!!!
I can't even speak up the word death or funeral without feeling disgust mixed with high levels of anxiety. Anyways I wanted to share that. I dont kwon if anyone else has this fear as well-
Have you ever thought of creating a free facebook group? Perhaps your people can share their journeys with one another and what worked or didn't work for them? I send you all much love and respect ♥️🌹♥️
I'm growing up in a similar situation, my mother who has trauma never tried to heal or work on it rather she turned to religion and worshipping God like crazy. I hate it, I hate doing those empty rituals and being told that God will magically fix things in my life, etc.
Has any one had the effect of having a weighed down feeling on the back of your neck and shoulders from Trauma and anxiety? Usually in uncomfortable environments but some times all the time as well? Let me know.
I was raised in a narcissistic family religious cult like and suffer from religious trauma and rules and control and abuse and suffer from trauma complex PTSD
Awww I' am very sorry for what you have went through sweet doll, but guess what? If you could here my horror story your mouth would open. can we somehow become friends?
Can you even imagine what it was like for a preteen growing up in a Coersive Control Group that was based on Totalist Ideology? Answer: It was a Sadistic Experience. That's what it was like every damn day for years and no one came to our rescue. No one!
That line you say, "religiously abusive environments need to keep you confused". So accurate!!
“Make sure that how you think makes you feel good” is especially important
My internal dialogue is that of a prudish demanding slave-driver😮
I'm only 58 seconds into your video, but already feeling calmer. I got VERY triggered by emailing a therapist to ask about next steps to talk about RTS. I believed I was doing something wrong. Just watching your intro has me feeling validated and a lot more grounded. I'm gonna watch the rest of your video, and then probably check out the course. All the best.
I can relate to that 100%, have been trapped in those destructive thought patterns & terrors for so long. Thanks for another mighty helpful video. When I see your example, I feel hopeful that I can heal more.
Thank you!! I am so glad to hear you feel hopeful ! Please keep fighting for yourself!
I am your subscriber from India..I too victim of trauma. Your videos helped me. This is my channel to help others.. This is my anti Conversion channel
Hi!! I’m thankful you are here! I hope it’s helpful!
Thank you so much, Angel. I love what you said at the end, “when you’re brain is set up to believe everything is attacking you”.. that statement helped me realize why I always feel like I’m anticipating something to occur.. Can you make a video on religious trauma and spiritual warfare? ♥️
Yes I can do that for next week! Thank you for suggesting it!
@@AngelDeSantis Thank you, Angel! I mostly want to understand how spiritual entities affect our mind and body, for example how does ones mind and body react when repetitively told spirits are around you since childhood or prophecies you’re supposedly part of.?
I can so relate to this. This is exactly how my Jehovah’s Witness husband treats me. If I do anything different from the way he would do it, he goes straight to attacking my character, my values and my worth as a wife. He will accuse me of feelings and thoughts I never had, like telling me that I don’t want to cooperate with him or that I am disobedient. I have really bad anxiety.
I'm so sorry to hear he treats you that way. I know the feeling. I hope the relationship dynamic changes or you can walk away from it. No one deserves to be treated that way. Sending support !
uh, leave him 👍
Please read Lundy Bancrofts book "Why Does He Do That?" It details why abusive men do what they do, and why it's so hard to get an abuser to reform. You can find the pdf for free online.
On a personal note - start putting money away somewhere he doesn't know about, so you have just-in-case money (abuse escalates), and get your personal documents in order. (Getting them replaced can be a pain in the butt.)
You've got a Beautiful Soul Angel and your helping out so many people who are in great pain.I wish I could help you back as you've helped me cope with my traumas and finding ways to change my ways of thinking and seeing things. Thank you Angel , Much Love.
Thank you so much!
Oh how I would love to talk to you and compare our lives and true stories.
So thankful for you, as a young teen the amount of fear I had instilled in me was unnatural & delusional to think the stress it causes us to live in smh. Your videos are really helpful & reassuring.
That is so extremely horrible. I am so sorry you had to go through all of that. You did not deserve that horrific treatment 😔
I am stunned. I can't find the words to articulate what I am thinking. I am so sorry that you were brought up that way. Listening to your explanation of how they believe, brought a lot of memories back to me when I was around my very religious extended family. You explained it so well. I knew they were very dysfunctional. I did not know at the time it was because of their religious beliefs. I only figured a lot of things out after they came back into my life 17 years later. You just opened my eyes that they had been brought up that way their whole life. My father who was their uncle, was an atheist. The only one in the family. My Dad had a talk with me when I was very young, and said I'll let you decide. I was never indoctrinated. He did tell me why he was an atheist,
and left it at that. After hearing you, I am in shock. You just explained a lot of how they came back into my life and made it hell.
I have watched a lot of videos, this one helped me understand even MORE of how sick I find religion. Thank you so much!!
I am very happy to hear that you have left that life and choose to be healthy.
I agree with you, in an earlier video, that whatever religion anyone chooses is right for them. No one should be forced. It should be a choice. (Sorry, this was so long)
Thank you for your comment. I'm glad you weren't indoctrinated and had the chance to choose your belief system and that you were able to connect some dots after watching this video! Thank you for being here!!
@@AngelDeSantis Looking forward to next weeks video that you mentioned below.
I have connected the dots around 5 years ago, they gaslight me. Your video made me connect that all of them have been "Very religious" all their life. (I didn't know this) Our Grandparents were preacher's and they were all close to them. I wasn't, my Dad kept the grandparents away from me. They were not good people.
Hi I am so grateful to have found you on RUclips. I was born in the same cult ( the family) after leaving the cult,my mental conditioning led me to a relationship with an extremely controlling and abusive narcissist. I normalized his control and abuse cause it was what I was used to. I have complex ptsd and now that I am free from the cult and him I have started my healing journey. Your videos are amazing they resonate so much with what I have always felt but never been able to put into words. Thanks so much. ❤️
Your videos are like a breath of fresh air. It's comforting to know I'm not the only one who struggles with thoughts like these. I have similar religious traumas and many of them came back to life after my last relationship. Your videos help me reaffirm that I did myself a service removing myself from that situation. I'm a single Father, my children are my world!! I know my heart, my intentions, and my depth of intelligence. Thank you for posting videos that help a person regain a rational, self loving perspective. Fear is such a crippling, self defeating, illogical emotion.
Good for you for saving your children from that life! Your children have a wonderful father.
I have no idea why, but I've been watching your videos, and I cannot stop crying
Make sure that the way you think makes you feel good. I’ve always needed to hear that, thank you!!
I love what you are sharing here Angel! Stay strong :)
“We suffer more often in imagination than in reality.” - Seneca
“Sometimes people don't want to hear the truth, because they don't want their illusions destroyed.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche
Many thanks for this upload! Anxiety is devastating but we can fight it!
Yes we can! And we are 💪🏼
Thank you. Keep pushing.
Thank you for your support 🙏🏼 I appreciate you!
Thanks Lovely Angel, for Being such a Wonderful Human Being and Sharing Your Light into this World and Helping it Make a Better Place. Lots of Love.
Julie!! Thank you 💕🙏🏼
Thank you Angel, i am beyond grateful for what you do and that you offer yourself and your deep insight to others. This episode is extremely useful for me as I suffer from anxiety disorder and knowing that it is actually possible to disengage with the anxious thoughts patterns and tips on how to do it gives me strength
It’s possible! It’s difficult at first, but so it everything ! You’ve got this, keep going and it’ll work! 🙌🏼
So thankful for your videos!!! The fear all the time. This makes sense to me, changing my thinking and pausing is what I want to learn more. It’s hard and painful but I see it’s possible ✨✨🦋
this spoke to me 100%
"I just believed what I need to believe in order to not get beatings. It didn't work; I got them anyway". This is the crux. No amount of compliance can stop the abuse.
Hi angel hope you OK.wow you giving us all this free advice from the kindness of your heart.what a special women you are.all our love to you from windy England
Hope you're doing okay. Very helpful video! I could relate to a lot of this. I grew up in a super strict and devout catholic household. Now I am in my mid 30's, and am a very strong atheist. Love ya! Best of luck to you! 🖤🖤🖤👉😎🤘👈
Is it common to end up with chronic exhaustion from constant hypervigilance and anxiety plus a myriad of other psychological stressors? I mean like it's hard to get out of bed with out perscription stimulants. Theres also the "Brain Fog". Any info would be appreciated.
Yes, I can cover this next week about the hyper vigilance that comes from constantly feeling like you’re under attack. Please keep giving yourself permission to rest. It will get easier 🙏🏼
I was around Christians that totally ruined my lkife. I have been living in fear for far too long,
Thank you so much
You've very welcome! :)
You just about told my story on how anything bad happens it’s the devil, anyone that is in the religious thinking blames the devil for EVERYTHING !!!! How about owning up to what the truth is and that’s life happens good bad in between it’s life. Nothing more !!! I can’t stand religious, or religion I hate it !!! And I know I need to heal from that and I’m trying.
Great video. I love everything that you are explaining. Makes perfect sense and very informative. Please continue what you are doing to help us with our challenges after leaving a very high controlled group. You are a 💎 gem. You should seriously be very proud of yourself!!!!!
Thank you so much Tammy. I do feel very proud of myself :) Continuing to do my best, as we all are! Thank you for watching!
Thankyou so much
I can't even speak up the word death or funeral without feeling disgust mixed with high levels of anxiety. Anyways I wanted to share that. I dont kwon if anyone else has this fear as well-
Have you ever thought of creating a free facebook group? Perhaps your people can share their journeys with one another and what worked or didn't work for them?
I send you all much love and respect ♥️🌹♥️
That's true! I haven't thought of that, I try to create that here and hopefully you've found some useful stuff!
The recent weird weather is causing anxiety
I'm growing up in a similar situation, my mother who has trauma never tried to heal or work on it rather she turned to religion and worshipping God like crazy. I hate it, I hate doing those empty rituals and being told that God will magically fix things in my life, etc.
Has any one had the effect of having a weighed down feeling on the back of your neck and shoulders from Trauma and anxiety? Usually in uncomfortable environments but some times all the time as well? Let me know.
I was raised in a narcissistic family religious cult like and suffer from religious trauma and rules and control and abuse and suffer from trauma complex PTSD
I have been gaslighted like ths for a long time.
Voice vibration on your videos are irritating for some reason, but I love your content.
It seems like anyone wearing cologne in a cult would get flamed for being proud or vain or some other capital offense.
Obviously that's the signal that satan has entered the building... someone trying to smell good 😂
Awww I' am very sorry for what you have went through sweet doll, but guess what? If you could here my horror story your mouth would open. can we somehow become friends?
this is literally me😭
Me too!! We got this though!
So pretty. Great makeup, pretty without being a whore. My background was in fundamentalist xtianity- the worst thing about it is the mind control😢
You were beaten for something so damn as that? What’s up with these crazy religious nuts? Thank you for sharing
I can never repay you for everything
Can you even imagine what it was like for a preteen growing up in a Coersive Control Group that was based on Totalist Ideology?
Answer:
It was a Sadistic Experience. That's what it was like every damn day for years and no one came to our rescue. No one!