How to make a high masking autistic go crazy
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- Опубликовано: 6 авг 2024
- Why are autistic people frequently overwhelmed? The short answer is that the world is a very overstimulating and overwhelming place. From understanding why changes in routines and small talk bother me to hearing about my body's physical reaction to sudden noises, Debby tripping, and chewing sounds, here are some everyday moments that can lead to major stress and sensory overload for my autistic brain. But why do these things bother my brain? Here's to understanding all that is happening within the autistic brain at all times - and these things add a little too much to what my brain is attempting to process.
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00:00 - Intro & No. 1: Jolts while walking
01:13 - No. 2: "How're you doing?"
03:23 - No. 3: Sudden noises
04:43 - No. 4: Changes to routines
06:05 - No. 5: Small talk
08:03 - No. 6: When people move my things
08:58 - No. 7: When I lose something
10:12 - No. 8: Food sounds
11:12 - No. 9 & 10: Temperatures
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One of the biggest things that drives me crazy is a significant difference in the audio volumes of music/sounds vs dialogue in movies, tv, or videos. I hate hate hate hate the sudden burst of loudness and I hate having to adjust and re-adjust my device volume to accommodate it.
Oh yes! This! And why does the background music have to be so loud at the same time they are talking???you can’t hear what the actors are saying!
3 different browsers all different volume levels FB plays to loud and YT cant decide what volume it wants to be. I'ts like ffs just bloody make it all the same level.
oh my gosh yes. I can’t stand that I feel like I need to keep adjusting the volume the entire movie or show. I don’t want to have to keep the remote in my hand, I just want to relax
So trueee!!! Unnecessary inefficient stress-inducing😆
Not to mention that different tv shows on the same streaming service present different audio levels
Finally, someone who gets the, “how are you?” trigger. I could cry right now. If only I could afford an ASD evaluation.
My friend would answer with just nonsense vowels. Since they don't really care about the answer, they act comprehendingly and move on.
I'm gonna try that lol@@raleighsmalls4653
Self diagnoses is valid
I’d love to see a T shirt that said “Don’t ask me how I am if all you want to hear is “Fine “
Noise cancelling headphones and earbuds made my life so much more liveable. People do not understand that noises as simple as eating can have such a devastating impact on those of us that are sensitive.
I'm desperate to be able to use these but I have persistent ear infections. And I wear glasses so full headphones hurt.
@@DharleneValedaI have over ear headphones and these helps me in some places and I think it's ok to combine with glasses. I use them on public transport.
I can not navigated walking without hearing. When I walk I have to have free ears after my burnout otherwise It feels like the pavement is shaped like waves 🤷🏻♀️
Over ear is bigger then on ear.
if I don’t use Airpods on public transportation I am just constantly angry and stressed out with anyone making any sound or talking way too. There’s no reason to talk as loud as people do.
If there’s a screaming child or baby, I sometimes have to straight up get off the bus or train regardless of what I try to do.
I HATE whistling. That’s probably my number one.
"If I'm walking, and someone honks their horn, I elevate suddenly. 16 feet in the air. That hurts because I'm not supposed to be 16 feet in the air. That hurts my knees. And my back. And my brain. And my butt."
1. Same. 2. You've got my favorite style of deadpan humor.
BEING INTERRUPTED! Having to suddenly pull my brain out of what I'm focused on and focus on something else while trying not to forget where I was up to with the original task - it feels taxing
Light glare, sunlight, lights that shine at you.... literally hurts
I too have a long list of things:
When people make a whistly sound everytime they pronounce the letter "s" 😖
When people sniff in their own mucus.
Ambulances 😵💫
Itchy clothes and labels.
Lose threads hanging from clothes and touching me.
Food that has bugger texture 🤢
Sticky or slimy feeling in my hands.
Someone whispering in my ear.
Feeling cold.
Feeling hot.
Neon lights
Car lights.
Lights in general.
Sudden volume changes on TV.
"How are you doing? "
"What have you done today? " (People checking on my productivity)
When people tell me to do a chore their way.
When people ask me to wait for an indefinite amount of time.
When people tell me to do something just because.
When people don't take "no" for an answer (I feel forced to please everybody)
When I am expected to be in a party for an indefinite ound of time without knowing what we will do all that time.
When people speak shouting over each other.
When people ask me something and then don't listen to the answer or interrupt it.
Funerals
When someone touches me with wet hands
When someone touches my husband too much 😅
When someone stares at my eyes when they talk to me, or holds my hand or is too close to my face while speaking
Sudden phone calls from an unknown number, or anyone.
Texts
Whatsapp chats
Someone visiting unexpectedly
When the plan changes several times
And the list continues
Ditto! 😜
The S Whitsle is so relatable. One time I had to watch a presentation at school, and I hate to sit directly under the speaker. Not only was it too loud, but the s Whitsle was less of a whitsle and more of a screech. 😢
Yes!
All of these things^^^^
1:13 My go-to phrase that works for just about any context is to reply with, “As good as I could given the circumstances.”
mine is, "It could be worse."
I always reply with "good" or "fine" as I've found that anything else tends to get a follow-up question that I don't want to answer. Also, I don't ask them back, that usually ends the conversation.
I hate when automatic toilets flush while I’m still on them…it fills me with rage. People chewing next to me is nails on a chalkboard. Cafeterias, loud restaurants, and the low hum of ac units in big buildings that permeate through every wall drive me crazy. Testing environments are a nightmare because you can hear the ticking clock, the pencils scratching against the papers, tapping of feet or pens, the slightest cough or sneeze or sniffle. Ad interruptions make me want to throw my phone and people driving really really close to my bumper fills me with annoyance and anxiety.
OMG!! I HATE when people ask me how I am doing. You are so right about that!!! And small talk senseless chit chat is the WORST!!
"Lighter fluid" got me to choke on a cookie.
Yes!!! Lighter fluid is so true!
So happy to hear that I am not the only one considering murder when there are loud sudden sounds!
And I heard so often that autistic people run rather hot - but for me personally, I am always freezing and can only think about the temperature when it is not exactly at my preferred range. That has ruined many experiences for me!
Love the videos, keep 'em coming :)
Yeah same when I'm too cold, well specific things like the middle of my nose being cold, and also if I'm wearing too thin pants and I'm feeling the wind and stuff too much in the cold. But the heat is worse, I won't b comfortable in the cold but in the heat I can barely b held accountable for my actions lol. When I'm too hot there's no touching allowed and also go away lol
Yes. I get so cold. People with their air conditioners on set at 68 when it’s 100 outside. I’m wearing a jacket at the grocery store in August. It’s like temperature whiplash.
@@saragoltz1191 yes totally agree, I need to bring extra clothes to deal with air conditioning
I'm with you guys. Feeling cold, especially if I can't do anything about it and I can't leave is just painful. It makes me grumpy, then angry and completely drained. I couldn't connect the dots before, but as I learn about your experiences my eyes open. Too much heat also makes me useless and totally apathetic.
I’m not quite as sensitive but there are some tings…
Doorbell ringing (or knocking) or the telephone ringing makes me jump out of skin, children squealing makes me want to murder them (laughing and playing is OK just not squealing), smacking lips eaters and eaters who say “yum”, “mmmmm” etc. make me want to be sick, dropping something startles me. I hate when I can hear my husband laugh but I can’t ear what he’s laughing at. He’s a laugh out loud guy (I’m not unless it’s hilarious). Hearing him laugh is sadly annoying!
With regard to being too hot… not me. I’m too cold. I have read that autistic people have problems with temperature regulation and it can go either way or both ways. It takes me forever to get warm enough.
The “how are you” thing took me forever not to treat as a serious question. I’ve learned to say “fine” and shut up but it hard, especially if I know the person.
I watch a lot of funny stuff, and I laugh internally a lot at that stuff. Your videos, including this one, make me burst into laughter, like out loud, often.
I’m sorry the world is so dumb and annoying and alarming, but thank you for putting these videos together. They bring me lots of joy and a sense of camaraderie. ❤
I got in a lot of trouble as a kid because I lost it one day and yelled at a family member for chewing too loud at the table. I also can't stand the sound of silverware scraping against plates or bowls.
This, all of this! I bought a Spotify subscription once to be able to drown out the sound of this lady at work that would eat at her desk and make the most loud and obnoxious smacking sounds with her lips while she chewed with her mouth open. It makes me angry just thinking about it lol. And i think by now my family is able to recognize the glare that I give when they are making scraping or clanking noises with the silverware against our ceramic bowls and plates. Even worse is the sound of someone scraping silverware against their teeth…
I would have told the lady that loud chewing noises make my body shlumpy and that always leads to farts.
If she didn’t stop, I’d fart on her food. And then find a new job.
Yeah!! Sometimes it just builds and becomes too much. So we yell because we are overwhelmed and it sucks. And then we get in trouble. That sucks too.
@@ChrisandDebby it’s okay, she actually left the company, and I later transferred to a different department to take on a better paying position, and after the pandemic, we all work remotely.
One Of The Things I Hate The Most Is The Sound Of Cardboard. And I Feel Dirty If My Fingernails Scratch A Piece Of Cardboard
I am absolutely speechless.... you have identified me, all of my hidden traits. By point 8 it was like "omg". A light has gone on in my life. But "Autistic"? Really? As i live my lovely lonely life, i just thought i was from another planet, a special advanced form of humanoid. I still do believe it.
I had a "1 word" spelling error here. Of course i had to correct it, it was screaming at me. Things must be in correct order.
What my ASD discovery has been doing, among other things, is to give me, as it were, a "pass," an incredibly liberating deeply internal psycho-emotional pass at long last, for a lifetime's worth of the most natural, involuntary, intrinsically personal responses, instincts, intolerances, aversions, revulsions, fascinations, delights, thoroughly transfixing or utterly repellent stimuli that I'd labored for a lifetime under the complex that they were all somehow infantile at best, pathological at worst (you know, like suddenly being physically arrested walking along the street with friends by the glorious olfactory assault of a massive lilac tree in full bloom and simply being gutted, yes, eviscerated, at the notion that ANYBODY could just walk by this, NOT NOTICE (?! 😳) and not get why you just HAVE to stop and...MELD with this experience RIGHT NOW---I mean, are they all CRAZY? WHAT could be more important than THIS and RIGHT NOW?). Countless facets of my inner life, and my lifelong perplexity over it, and embarrassment and shame at somehow not being as genuinely "developed" mentally or emotionally as others, have just clicked into place, and it's all, all, all...O.K. Is there any way to ever really put it into words what that MEANS?
So wonderfully put! I feel the same. 💗
@@saragoltz1191 Thank you, Sara!
I love the smell of lilacs!
God bless you, this is EPIC 😭🙏🏼❤️🔥 Can I get an "IT ME!!!" 🙌🏼👏🏼
100% Agree!
I only like small talk with my mom. She’s just a really pleasant soothing person to talk to, and she seems genuinely interested in comparing our weather, since we live in different states, and there is no emotional charge that I have to navigate. Super nice, super calming, definitely get dopamine from that.
With any other person on the planet, no thank you.
Lighter fluid release from " small talk" exactly 💯
So grateful for RUclips recommending this channel! Thank you!
Do. Not. Whistle. In. Public!! Even if you can carry a tune! Not everyone around you should be held captive.
😂😂😂 It’s horrible!! But… What about in the song Sitting on the Dock of the Bay? I don’t mind it there.
I do it all the time. Loud. Guess you‘re happy to hear that I live in Europe.
@@ChrisandDebbyI think my dad used whistling to stim.
YEP can't do whistling. No thankems
@ChrisandDebby it's good in the right context 👌 👍
I hate it when somebody chews and talks at the same time! 😡 also, when someone sharply taps on my arm and shoulder to get my attention. The thing I hate the most (especially since Covid) is when someone in line at the store stands really close to me and I can feel their breath! SHYYYYY!
Did you sleep well ? I hate this question every morning !
My neighbour's favorite game is slamming his car's doors. It sounds like his car has 20 doors, at least, nightmare !
People showing photos of their kids (with those damned smartphones, they always have thousands of them in their pocket).
People in waiting rooms playing with the sound on.
People kissing to say Hello AND Goodbye.
Eating and drinking too hot or too cold.
People asking if I'm fine every 5 minutes when my face don't show emotions.
Movies/TV series with flashlights directed straight to the camera (and my eyes).
Neon colours.
The doorbell, I'll have a heart attack because of it, some day.
The list could be much longer, but these are the first few things that came to my mind. Great video !
Yeah that doesn't seem the best for a question. What will they say if u just say shitty? Lol. Seems potentially a bit awkward
“Did you sleep well?” 🤣🤣🤣
Never. The answer is not at all, never in my life have I slept well. Hate that question too. My husband feels it’s like saying “good morning, I care about how you slept” I am just reminded of the horrible night I just had.
@@saragoltz1191 That's it !
@@saragoltz1191 yeah if I haven't slept well I will say, if I've had a dream I'll start going into detail, because obviously what would b more interesting than that lol. Maybe the way I act actually trains people to stop asking certain questions lol
@@heedmydemands I never remember my dreams
ALL OF THESE THINGS. People around me don't understand that hearing them chew = RAGE. And sudden loud noises make me feel like I'm having a heart attack. And most fragrances give me a headache. And small talk is physically painful. Typicals think I'm a high-maintenance weirdo.
I used to hate small talk but now I like it. I don't know when and how this changed but now I can appreciate the opportunity to connect with people on a surface level. And I'm suddenly able to answer how're you doing? false or on the surface.
What I have problems with. Sudden slow wispering 😱 I have noticed this where a slow wispering voice is cut in to a pod out of the blue at random places. It's to the point that I have contacted the pod makers and asked them to remove this. Without any luck unfortunately. 😉
Light is a big problem too. Sharp lights from cars is really bothering me. It's like someone is pointing two big spotlights into my brain!
Crowds walking chaotic at public transport hubs is hard in itself and at that point when some is approaching me to sell something 🤯
When I am walking from A to B and there is a slow moving group across my optimum path.
My gosh, this entire video shows my day to day life since ALWAYS😭
Everything you mentioned in this video is waaaayyyyyy too accurate. It's almost as if I'm hearing myself talk during your video.. Thank you so so much! It helps so fricking much to hear all of this and to feel like I'm actually not absolutely insane with what I'm experiencing...
(Actually crying with what you're describing because I feel EXACTLY the same way!)
Nope! You’re not insane! It’s just a little bit tough being autistic. It’s such a relief when you find out there are lots of others out there going through similar experiences 😊😊
I’m really glad my videos are helping you. We gotta do everything we can to support each other.
I relate to all except the popcorn and cereal. I love both and actually just really love crunchy things in general.
Just stumbled upon your channel. I like it here. My brain can't stand food that is not the appropriate temperature to it's liking. I cannot eat food cold that my brain perceives needs to be warm/hot or vice versa. For example why do people eat cold hard boiled eggs? Or cold raw fish.. Uargh! I am with you on the chewing thing, it makes me want to rip my own and the other persons face off. Also here is finally a person that shares my love of chilly temperatures. I don't understand why everyone insists on making all the places too hot. My mother in law always calls me an 'arctic creature' because I like to stand outside in middle European winter while wearing 'only' a T-shirt and a cardigan. Also by now I get really frustrated by people asking me if I am not cold the way I am dressed. Dude I am 41 years old, please believe that I know how to dress for my own comfort!
Welcome!! I’m with you all the way. They used to call me a polar bear. I love the cold. 🥶🥶
Omg I finally know of someone else that has issues with hot/cold foods. If it's supposed to be hot then I can't eat it cold and vs versa. Ppl around me just doesn't understand that.
Hilarious ....honestly. Living with autism can be so funny when we are challenged.....if you don't laugh you'd cry as we say. It's good to see the humorous side of our daily lives. I share quite a few of the same triggers too, but also hate it when they change the format on tv or phone apps....most discombobulating and I will not shut up about it to any poor soul who happens to be around. Recently grieving the loss of the frog on frog weather app....where is he and what have they done with him?? I hope he's just been retired and is well. 🐸
Also spelling mistakes and punctuation errors such as apostrophe abuse are just too much and make me grind my teeth 😂.
Hahaha I can totally relate with the frog thing!! I get so annoyed when efficiency levels especially change on anything - like changes in my apps, but also changes in speed signs. I hate seeing barriers and fences going up by roads, houses and schools. My partner would get annoyed at how I would start semi-ranting about it every time we drove past. But also, if something changed for the better i would be equally appreciative lol. It's all feels very visceral.
I hate hearing someone else's music. Those boom cars in the city are the worst, with the heavy bass blasting. And just the fact that some people are even able to play their music that loud for all to hear and not feel badly about what they're inflicting on others amazes and infuriates me.
I often wish cars never had radios at all. What a difference it is when I ask for a “quiet” hour of long journeys. We can chat together or sleep with the lovely low hum of the road and it’s wonderful.
Oh my gosh! The way you described the “How are you doing “ is EXACTLY, almost word for word, how I describe my utter hatred for this question! Sometimes when I just can’t even mask and someone asks me that question, I treat it as though they burped and just don’t draw attention to it. Pretend nothing happened!
I have SO MANY THINGS that drive me absolutely insane but there are some that are very consistent.
I hate it when people walk or ride a bike on the wrong side of the road. I live in Finland, we have right side traffic. So while I'm walking or cycling on the right side of the road WHY THE *BEEP* are you in my way??
In a similar manner, some dog walkers are just a bane of my existence. The human might actually be on the right side but the dog is on the other side and the leash is a fricking clothesline across the road. Just... whyyyyy?
Also, people who stop to chit-chat in the middle of the street with no care in the world about the other people who might actually want to use the said street for moving their body from point A to point B.
At work, I tend to be really anal about rules we have so when I see them being broken or just blatantly ignored, my brain has... issues. To understand why. The rules are there for a reason. I just... why? Why? WHY?
When I take the bus, I always hope no one sits next to me. Not because I get anxious by their presence per se but because more often than not, some part of their body touches me ever so slightly and... hnnnnngggh. No. I don't like it. It feels so uncomfortable. And then I start overthinking the whole thing like can I move my leg so they don't touch anymore or would that be rude or or or... And usually I just end up sitting there doing nothing to make myself feel more at ease and just freak the crap out the rest of the ride.
1. Relatives or co-workers who just talk. Randomly. Every ten minutes or so.
I can't hear you and still do whatever I'm doing, and now I can't do whatever I was doing. Unless I completely ignore you.
2. DON'T MOVE MY STUFF or ask ME to move it because I remembered where I first put it and put it there for a reason and after it's moved I will never find it again and it's probably important and I probably need it for taxes or to drive legally or something. It's EXTREMEMLY stressful for me to even think about those kinds of things, for even a few seconds, and now I'm totally f***ed because I haven't been able to do something I needed to do that was already nearly impossible to me and you just made it completely impossible. And now I'm going to get lectured about it. Or get tickets. Or fines. Or write-ups at work.
Packaging plastic sounds -> one of my worst nightmare 👹
Like you the "how are you?" and small talks that usualy go with it.
Sudden noise and constant background noise (like fridge and tic tac of a clock or AC...).
When someone touch me without asking if they can.
The sound of people breathing near my ears (like I physicaly can't sleep with someone in the same bed because of that and the body heat they have (I think I can sleep with a vampire at least 😂)) .
When someone interupt me to say or ask something and when I try to return to what I was doing they ask or say something else to me, like now I always wait a few minutes before re focusing. (and even like that that happen sometimes)
When I can't eat what I was planning to eat (spoiled food, changing meal plan from my family, closed restaurants, someone already ate what I wanted to eat...).
Temperature like you said, like when it's hot it's like my brain is like a camputer without cooling device it just goes on overheat and every little thing that can bothers me is tenfold, I can't even bear my own touch 🥲
They're other things but I will stop at that 😅
I relate to most of the things on this list. 5 Other Things That Drive My AuDHD Brain Crazy:
1. People who talk on their cellphone in a restaurant - especially on speaker phone - or listen to internet videos with the sound on. You are not just an annoying distraction, but you are being a nuisance to literally every other person within earshot.
2. Nonsensical behavior by strangers, especially in situations where I can't even ask why they are doing what they are doing. Drivers who stop their car at the line, then keep creeping forward like it will somehow change the light sooner or give them a meaningful head start. People who walk/jog in the street when there's a perfectly good sidewalk clearly visible five feet away from them.
3. Trying to figure out how to converse with restaurant employees. Yeah, sometimes it's "take my order, check if I need a refill, and otherwise leave me along with my book." But if I go to a restaurant regularly (as a person who likes to eat the same things over and over again is wont to do) and the server/cashier/whomever there frequently seems friendly (and I observe they are chatty with other regulars) I just don't know how to engage with them, especially given the constraints of not interfering with them doing their job. It's peak over-intellectualizing social interaction.
4. Corollary to "How are you?" is "So what have you been up to lately?" or "So what have you been working on?" At any given moment I have like ten things going on and it's difficult to very abruptly and unexpectedly grab hold of one. Besides, while I find most of them fascinating, the person who asked me will not find most of the interesting.
5. Making phone calls, especially to strangers, that involve too much uncertainty. (Thankfully, something I rarely have to do nowadays.) It's about the closest I ever come to autistic shutdown or a panic attack. One of the more extreme examples is in hindsight, probably my earliest memory of autistic behavior. I had been invited to a birthday party by a classmate and didn't know what to get for a gift. My mom suggested I call my classmate's house and ask his mom for gift ideas. I was completely overwhelmed by that idea, until my mom wrote out a very simple list of steps.
I completely relate to the suddenness and type of sounds, it is just like me. It’s lonely. I am always told to stop being so dramatic. I had no control in having a fright and gasping from it… and feeling like a stick is knocking my eardrum with heavy pressure. I don’t understand their reaction to my being shocked or surprised by noise. When others have a fright I just ask if they are ok… not tell them off for having a fright. I I feel the sound in my brain like a rope has wrapped around it, hours later. I don’t know why my family don’t show compassion for these things, but they just don’t. I love them and know they love me, but this is a very lonely corner of my life, which affects all the other corners really.
Those things. Also, haircuts. I cut my own hair from the time I was 12 until I was 28. And it wasn't some easy buzz cut. I setup 360 degree mirrors and sat on the sink. That also sucks because it makes a mess. But what is worse is when you go somewhere to pay someone to cut your hair and people make too much noise and they stink and you have to wait... then this person is touching your head and maybe they stink... and then, you get like half a second to see if it is okay for before they kick you out. Finally, you get home... and you find out how they screwed up and you have to fix it anyways. I found someone who has cut my hair, by appointment, on a schedule, for 5 years now. It is great until I have to alter the schedule. I went 3 months without going to get my haircut. I finally got it cut yesterday and it was bothering me so much it prevented me from getting really important things done.
Also, my wife was giving me strange looks at your issues... because... yeah, I do almost all of them. She also has this sort of magic trick where she makes everything that she eats crunchy... soup is crunchy... and screw popcorn so much... it is like an entire fleet of alien ships arrived with some futuristic amplification system to beam popcorn chewing noises into my brain to try and melt it. And yes... 65F is the best maximum temperature ever... unless it is outside in the sun... then 55F is better.
So, my air conditioner failed last summer in July. I was so pissed. I went and learned everything about HVAC and got my EPA 608 certification so I could handle refrigerants so I could replace it myself. And I bought an extra one, just in case. But, I replaced it with a heat pump which has been awesome at handling this winter weather, too.
Yes about the haircuts!!! And so much of what you said - always enjoy reading your comments but the part about your wife making everything crunchy 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Also about how you handled the AC issue - that is really impressive!!! We are like twins with the ideal temperatures too
I don't like having my hair touched at all but came to endure it in my commitment to being a fake blonde. It's awful tho.
Similarly to your AC story I have considered going to hair school just so I can do it myself without damaging the crap out of my hair... but that'd be all I could get out of it because I dislike touching other folks hair just as much as I dislike having my own hair touched! Disembodied hair is not very okay with me.
Same!!! All of 10 of these!!! I’m forwarding this immediately to my family! So glad to have found your channel 🤗
Yay - Thank you! Glad to have you here too!
I've learned that movie theatres aren't pleasant for me, but I love movies and want to go out sometimes. So i wear earplugs to subdue the insane volume level, and go to a theatre which has extending sofa chairs and blankets to curl up and snuggle, which makes the experience on balance worth it :)
Visually, I also get bothered by seeing vehicles or concrete outside my window. It feels like it causes some kind of catatonia in my brain. Also, plain walls in a house make me feel numb - I need art on walls, and something for my eyes and brain to engage in - I don't need to fidget with my hands, but I suspect it's the same need manifesting visually. I feel so soothed and happy when there's good art on a wall or a japanese garden outside a window.
Soundwise, i hate going to restaurants with echoey floors and structures - I find it so hard to concentrate with all the sounds from people and cutlery and walking and music all echo-chambering against each other - it feels painful. I love going to the rare, soft-floored restaurant where sounds are contained at their own tables.
There were some works being done along my usual dog walking route the other day that involved them digging up the pavement, so I had to follow a little fenced pedestrian walkway instead. The STRESS that gripped me. It really invoked in me that scene in A Bug's Life where a leaf falls into the marching line and the ant screams out "I'M LOST!" and has to be gently coached around it.
It definitely didn't help that I had to forego my glasses for the dog walk (the reason being twofold; one, to avoid eye contact and/or recognising people I know, and two, because with my over-ear headphones for listening to one song on repeat, which is essential, it's too much pressure around the ear area). I walk at night to avoid people and noise, and I couldn't see how far along the route the temporary pedestrian path went on for, or even clearly see where it started, which stressed me out even more - despite the fact it wasn't even a radical departure from the usual route.
In other news, my university and my GP have recommended an autism/ADHD assessment. First appointment is in a month!
I've literally cried laughing reading your comment as I resonate so much with your ponts. For example, I'm supposed to wear varifocal glasses but don't much of the time as I prefer the world blurry! 😂
Just noticed I spelt points wrong...ironic as that's a personal trigger 😅.
Number 1 is so incredibly relatable. I have a friend, and he easily screams (high pitched as well...) -when something falls in my or his home, and oh boy, he knows he better suck it up.🤨 It startles the crap out of me!😮💨😅
Loud talkers, eating at restaurants because of the noises and the waiting, small talk (the worst), being surprised by someone walking in the room, people chewing with mouth open. Just a few.
Oop yep I don't like when talking volume is louder than necessary!
When i ask a " how are you doing?" I am actually interested in the answer. If I'm in a quiet mood, I'll just say "hi" to acknowledge person's presence.
This is so relatable! Thank you for this wonderful adventure of a video!
Ohhhhh I absolutely hate being asked "how are you doing?" as well! I simply don't answer anymore, unless I know the person who is asking (because I know they do actually care).
And also the awkward expectation of asking them in return 😅
"Don't ask me how I'm doing. It's none of your business how I'm doing." This needs to be a t-shirt.
Omg, love your humor! New to channel and thoroughly enjoying it. So many things you explain resonate with me. What about difficulty with filling out forms, writing resumes, etc, and talking on the phone? Ugh, paralyzing.
Thank you so much Chris for talking about your experience .Sensory issues can ruin someone’s life and there is so much shame connected when Neurotypicals write it off as bad behavior .I spent years in mental hospital and got shamed for not acting normal
Sometimes the end of social event goodbye rituals just seem so pointless, especially if you're going to be seeing the same people in a day or week. I've just sighed, turned and left; without saying anything to anyone. I once put labels on the outside of the cabinets and drawers; so others would know where to put things. I have trouble on both sides of the temperature range, then I'll just walk outside in summer clothes; when it's 45º out. Oh, and I feel all these things you mentioned.
Oh those long drawn out goodbyes are maddening
Irish good-bye is a tried and true method! Let them wonder! Or they may not even notice! Good for them! 😂
I’m from Slovakia. When we ask “How are you doing?” we expect an answer. Any answer is valid: you can give one-word answers like “fine”, or “bad”, but you can also complain, show off, or infodump about how are you actually doing.
I cringe when I get this “question” in English, because it's not a question anymore, just (for me) a weird way to say hello.
Debbie tripping probably gets to you because she is your rock.
I have an entire paragraph in my book about 'how are you' I think we all hate it😂
The things that bother me especially are certain cleaning supplies and perfumes. Gasoline. Fabulosa (the purple all-purpose cleaner) is especially awful.
Sock seams touching my toes the wrong way. Uncomfortable underwear.
Vacuum cleaners. The clock ticking at night. Neighbors playing loud video games at night. Old fashioned alarms and old fashioned telephone rings are so jarring. Many other noises.
Some of my earliest memories are of being inconsolable over the sock seams touching my toes and not being able to tell my mom what was bothering me cuz I didn't know how to talk yet
She finally figured it out and I have a tender memory of her cutting the edges off the seams so they wouldn't press my toes ♡
@@lotus_puppy oh that's wonderful!
You’re not annoyed that she tripped, you’re worried she could’ve hurt herself. That frustration you feel is there so you don’t have to actually feel the worry about her falling over, the pain of knowing your loved one may have gotten severely injured.
Hope this helps!
I share your tripping distress. Despite my not feeling pain very well I am terrified about a loved one hurting themselves. So wife or kids tripping results in huge over reaction and thoughts of emergency rooms or shifting of the earths axis. So response is anxiety even anger when it should be concern and compassion. My "Debbie" (we call her Tracy) may actually floor me one day, post stumble.
Do you have Mirror Touch Synesthesia? That first one seems like it could be related to that. Or it could be somatic empathy. I've looked into both and I'm unsure which I have, maybe both or neither. I have misophonia, so a lot of sounds trigger me; mouth sounds, pens clicking, keyboards clacking, squeaky anything. So many sounds. The really big one tho is people having and expressing feelings/emotions around me, that's a major trigger for me (which I know is ridiculous, and I've been working on it). Plans changing at the last minute is another big one. Smells. So many bad smells. Textures of clothes. Food textures as well. The look of food. The smell of food.
Omg me too - can NOT block out odors, regardless of situation! I revert to a very small child who hasn't learned manners enough to not make a face & keep quiet about it (I'm a 50 something Nana & know better, let alone having masked my entire life)
people who jingle their effing KEYS in their pockets. or coins.
That squishy looks like a big booger! It's a big NOOOOOOOOO LOL
I have all the things you listed. I just thought of this. Something that really triggers me is when people park their car with the wheel turned left or right, so that the tires do not line up with the car. If hurts me to see a parked vehicle with the front wheels angled out one way or the other….
Another insightful video!
Most of these don't drive my ADD brain too crazy, except for the room temperature. I get irritable and can't sleep if it's too hot. Yet, I love my food, drinks, and showers HOT.
Asking and answering 'How are you?' feels good to me, and I don't mind small talk and even enjoy it at times, but I won't initiate it unless I really like the person. 😂
Chris, you hit on everyone of the things that make my brain crazy. It's been so long since I heard someone talk about things I could relate to so much that I cried through a lot of this video. I think about the unexpected loud noise and think of my wife dropping a pan or plate or something and I almost jump 10 feet and immediately curse and my wife gets upset at me, like why did I have to curse at her. First of all I didn't curse at her, but it doesn't matter to her and can start an argument. I wish she could just understand more about certain things that bother me like all the ones in this video and just accept that is the way I am. Is it so hard to not move things in the bathroom of mine, even if she has to clean, can we put it back in the same place. It wasn't fun when we had cleaning people for awhile when my wife was recuperating from surgery. They put things in all sorts of places and I had to figure that all out and drove me nuts. Luckily that was short lived. Now I know why I love colder weather places like Boston, Massachusetts. I live in Miami, Florida and hate the hot weather we have most year round. When I finally experienced cold weather I was invigorated and wanted to get there and walk and I lost weight and was healthier. Unfortunately our families are in Miami, so who knows if we can ever move to Boston. We have visited Boston and during Winter because I like that time of year. I also hate the small talk and I look at How are you doing? as small talk because it's what you do when you meet someone you know, at least a little. Of course I would love to tell them how I actually feel, but I know they don't want to hear that. They just want I am doing fine and that's it. George Carlin had a joke about that interaction. He would say a person is not fine. Your hairline might be fine or whatever. You might just say I getting well on thank you. George Carlin made me laugh because of his complaints part of the show. Like people who pay for gum with a credit card instead of cash. So many others. I think he could relate to us. Anyway, thanks so much for posting this video, Chris. Really made me feel seen and understood. Take care and Much Love. ❤🤗😎
Hearing people chewing makes me homicidal. I thought I was the only one who feels this way. As I child my parents would send me to my room because I would yell at my sister all the time because I could hear her chewing. They told me I was being “melodramatic” and that I was making trouble.
I apparently have a hypersensitivity to loud noises and cannot filter out externous noises if I am quiet. I can't avoid other people's conversations as they talk in my general vicinity above ambient room noise, and they get annoyed at me when I interject because my brain won't stop processing their words. They also get annoyed at me when I am hyper focused because they think i am aware of them and deliberately ignoring them or treat me as someone who shouldn't be trusted with certain responsibilities. It's also weird when I do the same behaviours to get their attention and they get startled. Out of the list Chris gave, I have the same mental and emotional reactions to items 3-9 but none or far less a physiological reaction. To me, cereal crunches are perceptionally and bizarrely fascinating, unless I am about to fall into a focused state.
🤣🤣🤣, the how are you doing bit, so funny 🤣.
Taken me a while to get used to you (new content, new person 😮😮), but appreciate your humour and intelligence, my own is similar.
Good stuff dude. 😎
I had a college professor inadvertently teach me how to weaponize small talk. He said that every conversation about the weather is doomed to fail, so when I want to get out of a conversation (small talk or not) sometimes I turn it to the weather. Works over half the time I'd say. 😂
Changing your patter to talk about the squishy cube sent me over the edge of not important discussion. But agree with all.
I'm with you on temperature. I've no aircon and hate summer, even Irish summers can be a bit warm for me. Thankfully living in Ireland, moderate in so many ways, so perfect from Mid Sept - June, depending on summer weather, maybe all summer. I love a nice cool summer that the rest of the country hates.
I hate people touching me. I mean I go to the doctor / dentist, I know there's an element of touch, that's fine. But no sneaking up on me. And no random touching, grabbing of arms, etc... Tactile people are my nemesis. I'm fine with my husband but he knows to warn me and no sudden moves. Even within that certain touch is fine one day and not another and he knows that.
Chewing doesn’t seem to bother me probably because there’s never anyone that close but it’s those people eating a yogurt in the office and scraping repeatedly the little bits of yogurt on the side of the cup drives me nuts! Ringing phones that go on forever, one time was at a doctors office and it was ten min of ringing I went into the office and picked it up and it was just a robo call but at least it stopped! Idling diesel engines are the worst as I can feel the vibration in my chest. Construction nearby is just as bad as it includes the back up beeping; god forbid pile driving!
Also basketball bouncing in my driveway, I can actually develop a rage with that one. My kid used to be on a basketball team that practiced at an indoor volleyball place, went to one practice or game and the sound bouncing off the 30ft high ceiling of 12 kids bouncing basketballs, I thought I was going to expire on the spot, never went again and of course no one knew I was autistic including me so I was just that weird mom! Don’t get me started on my super sensitive nose, I can really lose it on that!
LOL i have answered stranger's office phones like that. Shocks the hell out of bystanders.
I have a list of things that bother my autistic brain. I hate people moving my stuff. Anyone who wants to talk to me while I'm watching TV or trying to sleep. Music that is so loud that you can't hear the person you're sitting next to! Sudden loud noises like a person dropping a load of pots and pans. Thunderstorms really stresses me out!
The stuff that hurts my autistic brain are rooms with no windows, 😳screeching fire alarms, 🫨my husband’s cologne, 😣crowded elevators, nose bleeds in stadiums 😑restaurants playing the music too freaking loud, eye contact from people that aren’t my immediate family, 🫣people walking 🚶🏻♀️ behind me, being cold , being alone, 😢new places and changing what I’m used to without my permission like my cell phone… it drives me crazy and I have almost broken it not realizing it during a meltdown over it. 😡
I’m with you on all of these, except I love my wife’s perfume (but I get to help her choose). If there’s someone walking behind me, I’ll stop and pretend I’m confused about something until they pass. I’ll leave a restaurant if it’s too loud. There’s so many things, but once you know what they are, you can create a pretty good environment for yourself. I’m still working on it!
Do you ever travel to new places? Like different countries? That’s challenging for me, but I really like it and my wife helps a lot.
@@ChrisandDebby thank you so much for your reply! I have missed out on important events like my daughters wedding in Europe because I couldn’t bare to be in the air for ten hours. I don’t know how I will ever make it up to her but flying and airports are one of my fears so ya traveling to new places just depends on a few things. 🥹
I hate when people whistle, the sound of a piano key after it’s been hit (not the music it generates but the sounds made from pushing on the key and it returning to its normal position), when I have something the same way at a restaurant and a new waiter tells me the kitchen can’t do that (why, why not now when they did it before, etc), brake lights at night, sooo many things!
Holy hell! Sudden noises and my neighbors fed into my special interest of coding. Causing me to invest in a number of microphones to echo locate loud noises above me with a bunch of Python and such. Moving to a new apartment and had to get one on the top floor or without above neighbors.
Thank you, I can relate to many of your comments. 😂love it.
Sudden loud noises drive me crazy and not only that, it hurts , it really hurts emotionally and physically!!! The same is true with listening people eat. I am very sensitive with electricity noise, there are some outlets in which you can hear a slight bzzz 😵💫 ohhhh and cotton balls, I just can't touch them, they are a sphincter clencher for me.
Yes!! I’m with you on all of these!!
People that call me when they're driving... after I've repeatedly asked them not to. Beyond effing rude & disrespectful. WTF! All I can hear is everything going on in their background. I find it too loud, very distracting & irritating; usually I just hang up. Oh, sorry!
I want my coffee served at a temperature that I can drink it at. NOT 900 degrees. I hate waiting 30 minutes for it to cool down.
I randomly stumbled upon your Channel and I must say, I've never related to anything more in my life 😂. The irrational anger about these things, I relate so hard. Small talk releasing lighter fluid 😂😂😂
I laughed soooo much during that video cuz i totally get things and i have thought so many of the things you said. 😂 It's totally real stuff. Thank you so much!! My mom eating popcorn, ppl setting their car alarms, things dropping, ppl coughing, smells, when traffic isn't going right, so many sounds, light at night, the temp being too hot or too cold, etc, etc. There are other ppl out there like me!!!
Oh yes!! This stuff is real!😂😂 It’s so much more fun when you can laugh about it and share it with other people. I’m really glad you liked the video!!
So I don't notice chewing at a restaurant so much, but my spouse and I share a home office and when it's quiet and he decides to have lunch. Ahhhhh! I hate sudden loud noises or sudden volume changes. (I love my son and he's luck he's cute.) I am the weird one who will absolutely talk about the weather with you. But that's because it is relevant. I grew up with folks that were farmers and worry about how the weather was going to effect that years crops is totally valid. I also now talk about it as I was planning on going on a walk, but it's supposed to storm so now I'm planning on curling up on the couch and listening to the storm.
I remember being scared to go around corners in school because every time there'd be a person around the corner.
The person rounding a corner was enough to jump scare me
Bright lights, loud noise, small noises when it's silent, heavy breathers, loud chewing, wool, clothing tags, small talk, "stingy" smells usually syntetic perfumes in soaps or cosmetics, messy or cluttered environments, several people talking at the same time, mushy or overcooked food, give me something to bite ...
Still don't know if I have ASD, but sudden emotion shifts in my surrounding make me furious. For example: Me, my wife and kids and my father-in-law were sitting on a lake. It was a sunny day, but we had a neat shadow we could sit in. I was speaking with my son, when suddenly a woman appeared and let her dog play in the water. My father-in-law, did not like that and began arguing with that woman. I did not notice anything, neither the women nor the dog, nor my father-in-law, since I was focused on the talk with my son. The woman must have been pissed about my father i law and yelled at him. That I noticed instantly, and it flipped a switch inside of me in an instance. All her anger flooded me and got thrown back to her, multiplied. Ironically, I was shouting at her, that she should stop being so negative in an instance. It did not help 😉 Everyone was mad at me because I was really loud and aggressive. Not proud of the situation, but I could not stop it.
other people's angry voices instantly give me fight-flight-freeze response. I've learned to control my reactive behavior, but my inside feelings are Way Up There.
About sensory overload, specifically noise. Here's a paradox that is perfectly illustrative. My right ear is effectively deaf--sure, hears the faintest bit but for all intents and purposes deaf. My left ear works pretty well, thank God. I do have a hearing aid for my right ear but don't always wear it. So setting aside sounds pointedly coming at me from the left or right, I'm hearing the ambient noise at generally 50%. This would eliminate about half my noise-sensitivity, right? Oh-ho-ho, no-o-o.... The sensitivity isn't purely about volume (though that absolutely plays a role), as much as it's about the quality, texture, pitch and what I might call the "intrusiveness" of a noise.Yesterday I was in an echoey sort of hall trying to talk to a few ladiies when some men began putting chairs away a few feet from us. They dragged the chairs across the floor with a sudden piercing screech that threw my body into instant cringe-and-duck mode, as if bullets were flying my way. They either didn't see this or didn't care because they just kept on doing it and my brain was instantly shutting down and checking out. The ladies I was talking to, while they perceived the noise and registered a mild annoyance, weren't anything remotely like as jolted by it. Indeed, they seemed to think we could just keep chatting as if nothing was happening. Which was unfathomable to me. There was ZERO way I could sustain this conversation with THAT going on. This again was one of the "Am I the extraterrestrial or are they?!" moments. Thankfully another fellow in the hall recognized I was ready to go catatonic over this and he told the other guys to cut it out. That indescribable relief of release from the torture, it's like a glass of cool water after crawling across the Mojave, yet nobody around seems to have even the foggiest notion what you've just gone through. Yes, indeed, "stranger on a strange planet...."
This reminded me of a minor event that happened last week. Debby was opening a package of some goodies she ordered for her office. I could hear the sound of styrofoam being rubbed all the way from my office. It wasn’t loud, but the type of sound was like a knife being stabbed through my eyeballs puncturing deep into my brain. I couldn’t focus on my work. I shut my office door, but could still hear the sound ever so faintly. Luckily, the noise didn’t last long so I didn’t have to say anything to Debby. But it wasn’t a good sound.
This comment is great and I think I’m going to make a video about it! Thanks for your always very insightful and humorous stories.
@@ChrisandDebby 🙂
Yes, it definitely doesn't have to be volume. The annoying part is huge also. And what annoys one doesn't necessarily annoy another person. I don't hate nails on a chalkboard. A football game on TV would bother me more.
Undiagnosed at more than half a century but I can relate to the irritating sounds of chairs scraping on the floor, unpacking styrofoam (even if it is my package) among other sounds. Recently, pouring rain on the umbrella I was carrying was surprisingly irritating. A gentle to moderate rain is poetic & enjoyable. Yrs ago my young daughter & I left our theater seats of a Batman movie not 5 mins in- the sound effects were really UnNecCesSariLy LoUd. She had covered her ears & I was in total agreement. No one else seem disturbed in the least. The movie theater wouldn't refund our tickets but gave us game tokens that my daughter was thrilled to use while we waited for others that sat thru the movie in different seats. I cannot fathom how ppl's hearing is not harmed in that environment. A friend called me & after initial greetings, I pressed, "You still haven't gotten that firealarm fixed". She said I am the only one who seems to mind. I find it difficult to chat for long with that beeping in the background, especially knowing a simple battery can fix that. I told her if I had to hire some kid in her building change out the battery I would.
I would love to see a vid on irritating sounds. I could give you a list of smells- 1. pollen from the white flowers of the "pee-pee" tree or "asshole" tree as someone else calls it. I have walked way around it to avoid its' offending stink & risk of headache; 2. Blacktop being poured into potholes/the street or a driveway within a block or so; 3. Charcoal grill chemicals (I will skip the food cooked over them too early!! Food refusals might be another funny vid.); 4. Patchouli & some earthy smells are repulsive & if my clothes absorb it from the furniture when it was left by someone else, I get very annoyed as I "suffer" thru wearing something I did not choose to wear. My sister & my hairdresser know that I will not subject myself to be close to it if I smell it & will distance myself, refusing an embrace from my sister or a hair appt. They have been told & witnessed my mood change by these oils (I left someone's house after they used geranium oil, another 1 can be ylangylang); 5. I can walk past a building & know if it has a huge mold problem & I cannot understand how it is not a noticeable public health issue, putting all the nearby houses & ppl at risk??; 6. Cleaning products, I usu don't even go in the laundry detergent aisle, esp now that I can order laundry cleaning washer sheets online; 7. CooKing Oils when they are used- I avoid places that have that nasty re-used oil or expired smell. If a place offends my nose, my nose has no problem telling my mouth to say, "Sorry, I have to leave." If I have to endure offensive odors, the annoyance intensifies & I gotta get outta dodge, & may need a shower & time to shift my mood/energy/focus to a re-regulated status. [Sidenote- my childhood was full of overstimulation with tv/radio always on, parents that smoked, children from mom babysitting, overuse of lysol spray.. I think my parents had their share of autistic/adhd traits without knowing it & I am recognizing them more & more with your vids. Wow! & tho I am enjoying the special interest of your vids, I am trying not to overwhelm others with infodumping- its like a kid being excited about the surprise party for someone & not being able to tell anyone- HaHaHa!!! What revelations are being discovered!! Thank you so much!!
Fellow ASD/ADHDer here, diagnosed at 46. I LOVE my Nee-Doh cube! It goes everywhere with me now 😂 Thanks for the great content!
And it's a yes to most of your list for me. I have pretty major sensory processing issues. As I type this, I'm currently wearing sunglasses inside my home 🤪
Omg that temperature thing is me! My house is currently on 65° with a fan on full blast in my face. 70 is too hot. When its too warm, i get "stiff" and angry. I rotate in the bed like a rotisserie chicken until i can get the temp down.
Haha love the rotisserie chicken part 🤣🤣🤣 an accurate description of what I do too!!!
There is a hair sticking out behind your right ear and as soon as I saw it, I couldn't hear you anymore. It was just a hair sticking out and some dude babbling in the background. But uh, great video! Oh and number 8, ALWAYS NUMBER 8! Just thinking about it activates the recording in my head of everyone I've ever heard chewing and now I want to cry and flip my desk.
It's not a hair...it's the bizarre lighting behind him... don't watch...just listen 😂
I've always felt like an alien, even among other weirdos, because it isn't the chewing sounds that bother me, or even the scrapping sounds. It's the robot noises: beeps, bloops, bells, chimes, alarms, ringtones, etc. I hate it and I despise the kind of person who wallows in it.
I laughed very hard! I really enjoyed your video. Being extra sensitive sucks,
Heat.....horrible, not so much of an issue now as work from home a lot, but sitting in a roasting hot office in office clothes, tight, unyielding, nightmarish. Other things too, going into a department store in winter and being forced to have a jet of hot air pushed down your neck as you go through the doors, or the hairdresser insisting on using a hot hairdryer....heeeeeelp meeee! 🤣
You are hilarious, such an awesome way to explain this. So clear actually, I really resonate 🌪 🙂🙃😁
😂😂😂 thanks for this!!
I loathe the “How are you doing?” question (unless it’s being asked by a close friend). During the time when we knew my husband was dying I was asked that over and over and over. It made me want to scream! So I started asking a question in return that I use to this day. When someone asks how I’m doing my response is, “Do you want the socially acceptable answer or do you want the truth?” The vast majority of the time people would opt for the socially acceptable answer. To which I’d say, “I’m fine.” and walk away. When someone opted for truth they’d get everything that needed out of my head.
As for temperature I had to laugh until I cried as you spoke. In my opinion there is absolutely no excuse for it ever to be more than 65 degrees. More than that and there better be air conditioning and I will do whatever it takes to avoid going outside. Indoors and more than 65? NO NO NO…I can’t do it. It makes me want to jump out of my own skin.
Mingling is my worst nightmare. I used to give speeches in front of audiences that sometimes were very small and others quite large. Giving the speeches never phased me. Having to attempt to wade through the crowd to leave afterwards, being randomly touched and/hugged by complete strangers was awful. And while I appreciated that they had kind words to say or wanted to share their own story it was beyond overwhelming and often I couldn’t even hear what they were saying over the loud thoughts in my head trying to plot my escape. Didn’t even want to be in the building afterwards, needed open space, air movement, and no one around to speak to me for awhile. Even when mingling is needed in smaller, easier (Ha!) situations it’s still a big NO for me. One of the pastors (retired now) of my church used to open services by ordering everyone to change seats, hug whoever is behind us, or cross the room and talk to someone a stranger. 😵💫😵💫😵💫 Nope, I stayed right where I was and gritted my teeth until everyone was settled down again.
Thank you for sharing your 10. It really helps to know that other people have similar struggles.
OMG that's what Vancouver looks like? It's beautiful! I would probably hate it there, but it is beautiful. Looks like something from the future.
Vancouver is a beautiful place, but I didn’t like it very much. It’s not an autistic friendly city. Lots of sirens and homeless people approaching you and lots of drugs and everything smells like weed and urine. It’s also the only city I’ve been yelled at for feeding pigeons. I love pigeons. I was really disappointed in Vancouver and will never go back.
Technology that will not work has me dissolving into a angry toddler
I have always always always HATED, " how are you doing?"
Car HORNS ARE HORRIBLE!
I love your transparency
Strange! I can't STAND touching squishy things (no 7.) What I DO like is rolling a spiky little rubber ball between my hands. For the rest, I'm exactly the same as you, except maybe the sounds of popcorn or other crunchy stuff. But the popping of chewing gum bubbles drive me NUTS. I enjoyed this video a lot!!
For me the sound the spoon makes as they put it down thru the milk and cereal into the bowl. I have no words.
Certain scents fill my soul with rage where i want, no need, to break everything with in reach even if it's a person's face while screaming as loud as possible. They aren't even unpleasant scents. Fabric softener is a big one. When i can't find my keys, my brain instantly says "you're trapped and you'll never get out". Makes zero sense but my brain doesn't care about logic it's too busy panicking that it's trapped for all eternity. 😢
Pretty much everything on this list. 🤣My neighbors drive me crazy too by dropping things. I thought it was just me.
I really loved your comment about taking in everything around that the temperature of the food is not something you register, I can identify with that. And leftovers, yup always cold, why reheat something which need to go to burn you mouth temperature to be safely reheated when you can eat it cold! I’m with you.
Not so much on the ambient temperature, I have Reynard’s syndrome so the warmer the better for me, however, 36oC-38oC disgusting! When my outside is the temperature of my insides… ugh, I want to die!
Food sounds don't bother me, but I can't stand certain frequencies. The bathroom fan in my previous house, the sound of my pet rabbit sneezing repeatedly, the noise my fish's aquarium filter makes when the cartridge needs to be changed.
Oh my god. The whole 'how are you' and then the panic attack due to being forced to take a different route driving are the most relateable things ever. Except I got to work drenched in sweat, noticibly shaking. Get to work and someone asks me what happened. I told them, publically, and the whole office errupted in laughter.
It was not funny AT ALl. That memory is very much cemented in my brain. No one gets it (unless theyre like you). It really wasnt funny. At all.
Anyways, thanks for reading and I love watching your videos, Chris. You are one of the most relatable autistics I've found.
Btw you are why I have a needoh cube and have been threatened to hide it because other people love it, one wants to cut it open. I told them go buy another and ill watch. Not mine
That’s so weird because people have laughed at my horror stories too. So I don’t share them as often unless I want to make others laugh. Kind of crazy.
The Nee Dohs are very special for me because they’ve helped me through a lot of tough situations. I ordered some of the gum drops and am excited to see what those are like. They are supposed to be a bit smaller and easier to carry.
Really glad you like my videos! I enjoy making them and love reading all the comments, messages, and emails.
@@ChrisandDebby ohhh do let us know what you think of the gum drops!! I've been curious about that and the gummy bear they also make -- do they feel like the cube? Also it's so lovely to chat to you. Thank you again for personally responding. Looking forward to new content. ☺️
I just recently discovered your RUclips channel and love it! A couple of the things that absolutely drive me nuts is when someone burps out loud. I actually get mad. I cant stand hearing burps. Another one is kissing sounds. Like for example if I'm watching TV and there is a couple kissing and they are making those kissing noises it drives me nuts and I dont even like to watch them kiss. I look away. When I've been in relationships I love kissing. Just cant stand the sounds peoole make kissing and don't like to watch other people kiss either. I do have sound sensitivity as well so maybe it's cause of that.
Ooh yes, some smells drive me absolutely crazy. The ones you mentioned actually made my skin hurt just from imagining it 😱
It’s possible you might have misophonia! We have a video coming soon about it so check back soon - and thanks for the nice words and for being here!
People clapping near me. It hurts and its jarring
I have a friend with dispraxia. He trips so often and each trip is like a drip in a cup already close to overflowing. This friend is also my carer... So we go damn near everywhere together 😂😅
I wouldn't say I hate the "how are you" question... But then I also always answer it honestly so it's trained people to stop asking it unless they want to know.
Sudden loud noises have always been a thing for me. So much so before I got the autism diagnosis, I. Was diagnosed with an over active startle response and globophobia (fear of balloons). The "startle response" being the cause of my globophobia. Fireworks was something I had to build tolerance to. A car backfiring would have me in tears. Thunderstorms may as well have been literal hell.... Yeah, sudden sound is bad
I was going to write much more with my experiences. But the adds broke rhe comment box and deleted it all and now I'm just... Yeah, feeling a bit crazy