The science of attraction - Dawn Maslar
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- Опубликовано: 7 май 2014
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Romantic chemistry is all about warm, gooey feelings that gush from the deepest depths of the heart...right? Not quite. Actually, the real boss behind attraction is your brain, which runs through a very quick, very complex series of calculations when assessing a potential partner. Dawn Maslar explores how our five senses contribute to this mating game, citing some pretty wild studies along the way.
Lesson by Dawn Maslar, animation by TOGETHER.
*talks to crush*
Me: I hope his nose liked my pheromones
😂😂I will be impressed if someone approaches like that
😂
XD
🤣😂😅
same!
Lesson: girls, if you wanna attract a guy remember to wear the same shirt 3 days in a row while ovulating
Ok
But females only ovulate one day, and the ovule is dead after 24 hours.
And y is dat?
pissicutza09 mine last for 2 days instead of 1 so does that mean I have super eggs
probably my "super power"...imagine if there was an actual power like that
Favour Olufemi But how do you know it lastef for two days? o.O
People: Love comes from the heart.
Brain: Am i a joke to you?
well said :D
hahahahahahahaha
Lol
Frenzel Diongzon after seeing this video lmao Bc it’s soooooo tru
It’s a saying
"long lustrous hair or scar free skin"
Me: then explain to me why I'm still attracted to Zuko
LOLOL i had a crush on him when i was little whaaattt
I mean though you just destroyed that argument with facts
Facts
fellow bender... eeEEEEEEE
Hmm.... Maybe it's his voice tho...
The more I warch TED the more i think I'm a psychopath.
+George Szweden LOL. explain?
+George Szweden Time to seek help then
I felt the same way after this video 😂 I'm not often attracted to someone. Actualy haven't been in a year I guess. I guess there's something wrong with me haha!
same .
*slides back into the Asexual corner*
A LOT of people here are completely forgetting that attraction is much more complicated than this. No matter how perfect a person might be to me scientifically, if they start insulting me then I'm not going to be attracted to them.
+David Perrier 😂
David Perrier 😂😂😂💀💀
actually this video is very misleading. pheromones are the least important component in human attraction. they don't want to show you the real data because that will hurt alot of feelings
what's the real data or where can i find it
What if they make garlic bread? Good quality garlic bread.
The formula of attaction is F=G((m1*m2)/r^2), where G is gravitational constant, m1 and m2 are masses of the object and r is the distance between them.
It seems universal gravitation formula👀
It seems universal gravitation formula 👀
Sophomore year Physics helped me understand and chuckle😄
I get gravitational force.... Causes an attraction between two celestial bodies mahd guy 😂
That means I should gain weight to attract people 😂😂
I explained this to my girlfriend, she now thinks that I'm an emotionless, hearless and feelingless human being. Thank you science.
no problem, Karman.
You probably break with your girlfriend, girls hates man in love.
Should have given her hot coffee smh
@@demutrudu6106 LMFAO 😭😭💀💀
😂😂
actually that makes it even more romantic ! knowing that not only my eyes or heart are falling in love but also my nose and immune system did too 😍
***** 😂😂 but still romantic
Same tbh. Just because it's a series of chemicals doesn't make it any less magical.
Aw that's a cute way to put it
Also, I heard that most people can live a life without romance and can still be happy. But most of the time, if someone doesn't have any platonic friends in their life, it can effect them really bad mentally; much worse than living a life without a romantic partner. In today's world, less people are dating and getting married now, and they seem to be more happy being single rather than being in romantic relationship with someone.
Also, You're going to have a much deeper spoken understanding and connection with your best friend than you are with a romantic partner or spouse.
So those are other reasons why romantic love isn't real or special, while platonic love is.
And also, it seems that fathers usually hate it whenever their daughter gets a boyfriend (even if the boyfriend is a good guy), and it seems that they often hate the idea of their daughter dating, and many fathers seem against the idea of their daughters dating. There are even shirts made for daughters that say "I'M NOT ALLOWED TO EVER DATE" and shirts made for fathers that say "DADS AGAINST DAUGHTERS DATING".
Brothers also tend to act the same way that fathers do whenever their sister gets a boyfriend (even if the boyfriend is a good guy). It seems brothers (like fathers) hate the idea of their sisters dating.
So it seems that most fathers don't ever want their daughters to find love and be in a romantic relationship with someone, and it also seems that most brothers don't ever want their sisters to find love and be in a romantic relationship with someone.
So those could also be other reasons why the concept of romantic relationships isn't a good thing because of how protective fathers and brothers tend to be whenever their daughter or sister dates someone.
Better practice my high-pitched breathy voice then...
That's so insanely clever and witty. Absolutely impressive, comedy platinum right here.
Liusila kind of explain why girls talk to me with batman voice
Elit Gunz
They just haven't gotten the "high-pitched" part right yet! Or maybe you find yourself in the wrong type of a bar too often...
+Liusila HA
Liusila LMAO
i never liked this boy in my class before but one day i had to pass this worksheet to him and he said 'thankyou'. and for some reason i just started swooning over him after that moment
actually the fact that romance is so scientific is beautiful because your entire body is part of this. It's like every part of your body is in tandem with your thoughts
my thoughts exactly
There are studies being done that our thoughts and memories can be stored throughout our body.
@@fartpotatoeskinda like a soul ❤️
Never mind about personality then
LFCzeppelin8 the video talks about attraction, not falling in love.
mcatv she could be ur mother
LFCzeppelin8 That’s the more psychological than physiological part.
i think this means by appearence soley. like first impressions i guess.
Looks make us fall in love, personality makes us stay in love.
How do you explain that many people tend to be attracted to those who are not attracted in return?
Confirmation bias.
So after watching the video, you came to the conclusion that if you're attracted to Angelina Jolie for instance, then Angelina should be attracted to you?!
Aero, great question! My research shows that attraction is complex. We are attracted to both opposites and familiar at the same time. For example, someone needs to be familiar enough that we feel comfortable, yet at the same time we are naturally repulsed when someone is too close - such as the MHC molecules. Those factors can cause finding a suitable match challenging.
DawnMaslarTV
Hi!
Do you have any papers published, based on your own research?
Altay Hunter
True. :)
And some other interesting cognitive biases that might come along for that ride:
Attentional bias, mere exposure effect, bandwagon effect, focalism, backfire effect, physical attractiveness stereotyping, selective perception, halo-effect, projection bias, etc. :P
"Enhances your Memory"
Me: Imma get a boyfriend soon so I can memorize Math Equations
Lol
Kiss when you study an equation
When the teacher says to pick a partner and you and your best friend be like: 1:15
moriweem hahah
Lol
Definitely a better love story than TWILIGHT.
lol
hahaha I liked that story
+kokjong son 2010 wants their joke back
paranormal activity was a better love story than twilight
Twilight is awesome
even science proves that looks matters! FML
I know right...
viiviian chin at least my voice is okay lol
You go for the looks then stay for the personality.
Was there ever any doubt?
Yes, they do
It's funny because it's often looked down upon, or perhaps not taken as seriously (even by me), but by this logic the purest relationships would actually be one's that start online or even more through anonymous site based interaction, as if a relationship forms only through an exchange of words, it means attraction is based fully on and through personality aspects, and no other depreciating factors. What a time to be alive.
funny isnt it
Well that doesn't need this logic to make sense. I've been telling people this for ages.
That depends on what the definition of “pure,” really is ...
no u cld fall in love with the idea of someone though
No, smell is too important. Remember, most of it goes on below conscious level. You need actual physical presence. Plenty of online romances have died the moment the two people sat next to each other irl.
"Try to remember that your entire body is playing matchmaker" - it's nice to know that my brain isn't the only responsible for my attraction to self destruction.
OK LETS KISS SOMEONE TO SEE WHAT HAPPENS
+Emily Ocean Your profile picture matches in perfectly.
GamerRusith both comments got even number of likes o.o
kiss kim lip
So this is why TWICE's Sana is always kissing the members (and other girls too) lol
Orbits everywhere i go
Cries because I'm a girl with short hair and acne Fml lol
+Vicki Z. I bet you're still pretty just the way you are :)
+Roadkill lol
+Roadkill This comment is so cringeworthy. Why do people try to make others feel better even though they make the situation worse? Someone give me a loaded gun quick.
TacoMasters Association I'm sorry if my comment made you cringe but how did that make the situation worse?
+Isabella Atkins 👌👌👌
"your entire body is playing matchmaker to try to figure out if that beautiful stranger is right for you"
“Men prefer high-pitched breathy voices…”
Meanwhile me: [insert Morgan Freeman voice here]
Can we hear about the science behind homosexual attraction and asexual... non-attraction?
Kangenshi,
Researchers are just starting to look into neuroscience of this. I would expect some interesting findings in the next few years.
I'm lesbian and can feel my senses tingling if I am near an attractive woman,my ex girlfriend whom I had a great passion with always said she noticed my pupils dilate and eyes go shiny when she looked at me.
g0phuckyourself why thank my fellow moron with an odd name... Any animal that displays such behavior is due to hormonal changes and or pheromone of the opposite sex detected on the same sex...
Stine Newton What's completely unnatural is to be that stupid. If you want to revert to the era of living in the "jungle male n female", as you put it, then by all means, go live in the Amazon, away from technology, cities, vehicles, and everything else outside of the realm of the perfectly ideal "jungle male n female". Attraction is not simply limited to primal instincts. Numerous factors, including societal and cultural upbringings, personality, interests, intelligence, success, feelings of security, and much more play into attraction. You act like people just go around fucking each other and hope that a baby eventually pops out and homosexual individuals expect the same thing to happen.
Stine Newton
Where and how did I exactly did I "learn" my homosexual behavior,when I grew up surrounded my heterosexuals?
dont you just love when most all scientific evidence (and personal experience) backs your insecurities associated with your poor skin complexion.
Well... selective breeding will most certainly kill you off then... brilliant
It's way more complicated than portrayed in the video.
Looks are the short term part of attraction and you can do without them. The long-term and way more important part is your compatibility in terms of personality.
My boyfriend didn't notice me romantically when we first met because of my terrible skin. But because we have a lot in common, we quickly became best friends until that turned into something else.
If you stay true to your values and your personality, one day the right person will come along and they will fall for you, no matter your looks.
When you like someone a lot, their apperance doesn't matter. The personality shines through. 💕
I bet u smell good though lol
it's more like a generalization I believe, it doesn't apply to everyone in the same way. people who I deemed attractive were not conventionally good looking once I got to know them i was like" huh he looks nice". I don't have the drive to be in romantic relationships nor do I seem to be physically attracted to others as much as other people do(crushes and all of that) but once I encounter a personality that is nice then I perceive their overall image as such. I doubt I'm the only one as other commenters said similar things...so yeah don't worry too much about it
great presentation on the physiological processes of attraction. can't help but nod to every aspect of the senses' reactions. but of course, it's more than physiological, it's also psychological! :)
All i can say is who ever was narrating this got one of the most comforting voice I've ever heard.
all these Yellow Submarine characters creepy as'f
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Josh Miller jeremy ❤️
Josh Miller Yessssss
Indeed.
Damn that’s what I’m saying
I was already in love with my boyfriend before we kissed. We were crazy attracted to each other. I can't imagine that I possibly wouldn't have liked him after we kissed. I don' think that would've have been possible with the chemistry we already had. The funny thing is people have said we look alike. We're even of different ethnicities. 5 years later and I love him more than life.
u still together ?
@Thanos teaaa also how tf did you get tsars lol
Let me guess rich average looking white man and poor pretty immigrant Asian chick 😒😂
U guys still together? 😁
So did he cheat on you? That's why you aren't replying anymore.
This is by far the most interesting TED-Ed video that I had watched.
2:16
So. . . you're telling me men prefer women with voices like Dolores Umbridge's
Hem Hem
i love the animation style of his video. reminds me of schoolhouse rock or suburban harmony
Rinoa Super-Genius the yellow submarine from the Beatles
Pavo gaming/Tru moo 47 I wasn’t the only one who thought that!
looks like yellow submarine
Appreciate the vid but I am very conscious of the heteronormativity at play here.
Hetero is normal, in the sense that it's statistically dominant. So what's the problem?
This is about the science of reproductive attraction. That requires a male and a female.
Before I said something akin to "Theres nothing wrong with homosexuality or bisexuality but its not normal"
I edited it when my understanding of the topic changed. "Normality" is not the majority.
I 100% understand your point here, and I think I unintentionally spread a kind of homophobia thats popular on the internet.
In the end, everybody likes what they like.
MsDinoGal The title of the video is the science of attraction. Not the science of reproductive attraction, nor any other particular sort of attraction.
Love the 70's vibe! Great video as usual :)
Attraction is not love.
***** No it isn't. Love is a deep affection that you do manually. You only choose to show affection to someone. This is why a lot of people break up or divorce as their view on love is warped & think it is only attraction which can only last so long. Once that attraction is over you need to show affection that will keep a bond between both of you which you YOURSELF need to do. Love isn't automatic. Only you choose to love. This is the same with emotions which are mostly manual but sometimes automatic. But you need to choose to stay happy. But that is happiness. So stay happy & show affection to everyone (^-^)
***** Well of course it is something which you have to train. As I have as well. (^^)
Agreed, Sophie.
Attraction is the starting point. It doesn't have to be *physical* attraction, though.
It would be interesting to analyze how a bisexual mind reacts to the stimuli. I like certain types of women and certain types of men, so how does it work?.
more or less what i was thinking, not to mention what does this say about Asexual people?
As an asexual myself,I have no desire to engage in sexual intercourse, to me it is no different than sneezing or your leg jerking when something hits your knee
Oh, I've been wondering for some time, how do you know you're asexual? Do you feel nothing when your partner touches or kisses you, no emotion, no physical desire at all? What is the romantic world like to asexuals?
pissicutza09 While im not asexual i feel it might be worth noting that Romantics and sexuality are two separate things, you can be romantically attracted to someone without wanting sex.
Physical contact of any sort in a relationship can feel good for both parties and both may want it but asexuality just means that the person may not feel the sexual desire for other people.
Or you can be aromantic asexual where you simply wish for companionship. its a spectrum.
Garrsus So then what do you call a person who is attracted to the opposite sex, and does want Physical Contact, but not to the point of sexual intercourse? Is it just called being abstinent forever?
I just wanna say I loved the animation in this. It's stellar
the human characters are creepy tho
looks like a scene from yellow submarine
+waawamellon looks like a scene from power puff girls
+pcakes It's great. Sometimes it lookes kinda creepy though ._.
+Guillermo Ortíz Im pretty sure :39 is the no where man
Also, when people are in love, it is easy for them to ignore all the bad traits of that person and focus on only the good ones. That's why people tend to ignore the red flags when they're in love. Their guiders(Parents/siblings/guardians) can easily tell if that person is good for you but being in love, you tend to ignore what they're saying. So, PLEASE PLEASE, Listen to your parents if they say "I don't think he/she is good for you." Ask for reasons and please listen to them..
Dunno about the rest of ya'll, but as an advocate of the sciences, I think this explanation amplifies the romance rather than making it seem cold or stoic
I'm glad that it was mentioned at the beginning that attraction starts with the eyes and that's cultural/socially determined.
"Scar free skin" gutted
😭
Me staring at my acne scars at the mirror
Bro I have a scar cutting through my left eyebrow so my left eyebrow is split apart a little bit fml
Many people actually find scars attractive
*about to propose*
WAIT
*gives hot cup of coffee*
There! No way to fail now!
Loved the animation and explanation!!
3:35 "Because I took your pulse. Elevated. Your pupils dilated." Anyone?
+Ice Cream Very elementary
yaas
OMFG YES
YES YES YES IRENE
Haha.. It certainly wasn't just you!
I can only imagine what the people facing that study were told.
"Okay, I need you to smell this shirt really well, and then spit in this vial. Wait, where are you going? Of course this is a real test!"
I've seen it in bbc program 🤣they were actually awkward looking
The person who spoke in this ted talk has a very pleasing voice to listen to
can we take a second to appreciate this channel and the animators
My limbs are cold as fck
+Daniel Ortega thank you!
Daniel Ortega yey
I remember when I walked with this girl I was really attracted to it felt like the world was fading out around us and it was just us two.. now I know why lol. I wonder whether it's a mutual feeling, like when you have that tunnel vision the other person does so too. I remember when we talked she seemed to completely ignore her friends around us.
I don't find this idea cold .
Knowing this makes me feel that emotions are so real and practical ....
This was one of the best videos I've seen in RUclips for the past 5 years.
Good job 👏🏻
Thank you
Pop
I double dare you to smell my t-shirt 😂😂😂
Those animations are a bit creepy >.
no!
rotfl i thought I was the only one
iJAARS Ya don't say. #Yadontsay
iJAARS they're pissing me off and making me uncomfortable..
Dominic Guye where do i sign up to punch on you? ahahahaha
This animation is outstanding
this is such a lovely video
how do you explain long distance relationship, have never met but they fall in love?
They are talking about general sexual attraction, correlated with the instinct to reproduce and continue the genetic line; not love, an intimate emotional connection with another person.
but there is still a sexual attraction in distance relationships right? so, any kind of sexual attraction like for example your favorite idol who you've never met but boy u wanna get under the sheets
well that's illusion. although your sense of sight and sound is obviously agreeing and you very well may be attracted to the person irl if you knew them, since your body has no other way of percieving the person then your mind eventually just focuses on that specifically without having to sense anything else. so long story short, if you met the said person irl you may not be attracted to them at all or you may want to fuck them right then and there because you're so attracted to them that any other qualities you couldnt experience before are making your body act like it's in overdrive
then the person is delusional and fell in love with the image of the person he/she has of the other. since your dp's an anime character, i'm thinking this might be a personal question.
JARED you are judging someone from a profile pic that never bothered to change it in years
Loved this! So informative
You got it Zoey Arielle!
Haven't I see you somewhere before?
It wasn't for thots tho
this is my favourite video on the internet
that artwork though, what the heck...I don't know why but it made me think of hippies
My crush isn't attractive but super funny and we're good friends
Sugar Plum Queen I love that 😍 I feel u 100 on that
"She has a great personality"
Sophia Sengco nice
Damn youre a Queen fan! Thats cool!
@@partlycloudy2526 after he reads your reply: *starts crying*
I'm going to wear the same shirt 3 days in a row now! Thanks for the tip!!!
It gave the clarity and real knowledge of attraction instead of mere philosophies.
With help of this video,I would be able to handle attraction
I liked the ending speech. That was nice. :).
Mate, your videos are so awesome, can't get enough of this. Such a good work ! keep going.
with just one word:PERFECT
Man this JUST happened to me - as clinical as the description may be the FEELING is STILL LIFE-ALTERING.
eyoo is it still happening to u?
i feel high binge watching all these videos from TED-Ed
So if someone is asexual, does that mean that their body just doesn't run these tests, or do they just not get attracted by any of these factors, plain and simple? And as for those who fall in love mainly based on personality, what is the science behind that? o:
+LilyToon Asexual people either don't run these tests or don't respond to them. It varies from person to person, depending on their genetics and other conditions.
As for those who fall in love based on personality, they still very much run these tests---this science is merely for sexual and reproductive purposes---but human beings (as well as certain animals) also run additional tests to determine if the person/being they're interacting with is a candidate for a lifelong mate. It takes a while to run these tests, and they take place on both the cognitive and subconscious level, which is why it's generally a good idea to have been seeing a person for a while before considering dropping the question.
***** Thank you for the answer! It definitely answered my questions very well!
Aesuxals (most) still feel love and aesthic atraction (someone lookin hot), however they simply have no disire to have intercourse. That is why ace dating sites exist.
+LilyToon Fall in love =/= attraction
Myself being an Asexual i can say i do run these test but when it comes down to the sex part it's just like simply no attraction at all, also it depends on the person too.
such a great video!
This is unique and engaging. A book I read with similar scope was also one-of-a-kind. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
this is so beautiful. thank you
It's true. The first kiss is very important in deciding if you are attracted to someone initially and want to continue a relationship with them. I was initially attracted to someone but as soon as they started initiating kissing me I was turned off completely. I had never felt that before in my life. I was so confused.
What does it means by wide formant spacing voice?
slow?
idk tho...
it means, pretending to have mental blocks and stuttering often when speaking to guys. try it!
JARED is it something like marilyn monroe? 😂
why grammar is?
Formants are acoustical properties of the voice. They are certain frequencies (the scientific term for "pitch") that resonate with our vocal tract (the space between our mouth and voice box) when we speak. You could say that they are certain frequencies that get a boost in intensity (i.e. volume) when we shape our mouths in different ways and our ability to detect them allows us to recognize different vowels. Look up spectrogram images of formants and you'll see them. The video is talking about a kind of speech that makes these formants space apart widely rather than cluster together. Does this help?
The Best narrator ever
Next thing I know I'm down a rabbit hole watching 30 of these in a row
I actually really like this. It's frustrating being attracted to someone you know you don't actually like and so it's like now I understand that a little more and don't feel as bad about it. Still sucks sometimes but my brain is just doing it's job I guess.
One time there was this guy that would always make me laugh and we have so much in common
What a great video !
I love this narrators voice
This is really interesting, but I'd love to know why some people find different people attractive (I like someone someone that most of my friends think is unattractive), and also how this all works for lgbt individuals.
3:39 Lol I wanted to press "space" to split and eat all those blobs
Lol
Lovely video !!
Thanks
"People never forget their first kiss."
Me, who was drunk at that time: well budy, what was your name again? 🙂
I find this to be just as poetic as the "warm sensation in the heart" explanation of love.
I swear I'm slowly turning into a sociopath
I've just finish my Immunology course and we did learn about MHC molecules, but in a totally different context :D
Amazing. Keep uploading
the experiment with the hot and iced coffee can't be cited as evidence. as psychology students we actually tried replicating it in fourth semester and as other replications before us, found no connection between physical warmth and perception of strangers. The original set up wasn't clearly described too, so who knows what they measured
As an asexual, who wouldn't know attraction if it hit me in the face, this video was very helpful. Now I'll know if attraction ever hits me in the face!
Great one !
this helped a lot for some reason
"while women prefer men with lower-pitched voices"
me who falls in love with any guy who has a cute, adorable high pitched giggle:
👁👄👁
Came here to say this
You could put a psychedelic disco song to this vid and it'd match perfectly. Kudos to the animator (TOGETHER)! *thumbs up!*
Great animations
That "Pupils dilate" part animation scared tf out of me lol
Maybe it's good that we are more "cold and scientific" in our understanding of love than romantic - placing unrealistic expectations on one person
Shit im scared now
I'm fascinated by the wisdom and depth in this piece. A book with similar subjects sparked a journey of personal and intellectual growth. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
This made me kinda happy