Did I seriously have to find this video after going through infatuation, compassionate love, and heartbreak? This would have been really helpful back in February when we first confessed feelings for each other. But even though the heartbreak hurt so much, I would do it all over again.
Likewise. Always good to keep ur chin up and view every love as a learning experience (which seems like what you've done) and have fun along the way. It's heartbreaking 4 sure but as my mom always said "sometimes nothing heals but time always will."
I already confessed like two days ago to my lover and I am so happy she felt the same way. Since then, I’ve felt like a completely changed human being and my brain seems to have like altered in a way. I’m so glad that I found this video, so I know what is really going on with me.
Unfortunately, it usually doesn’t. We often make the same mistakes, and also, learning about something only makes us a fractionally more logical. But maybe in a very very small way, you’ll have that clarity.
I have a friend (who is the most logical person I know) in a toxic relationship. It's not that he doesn't know he's being illogical. He knows but it's still a struggle to let go. I understand him because I've been in his shoes as well. It's one thing to know but at the end of the day humans are emotional beings and so Knowing and feeling are two different things.
I love how you guys are not only focusing on the scientific side of everything, but now also exploring the complexity of human emotions, nature, and how we navigate through life. It is important to gain knowledge about the physical world. At the same time, shining some light onto human behaviors, what make us who we are and our ways of thinking is, from my point of view, at equal significance. Really hope to see more videos like this. Keep up the good work guys. Regards.
I don't think the romantic type of love is special. And I am started to think that the romantic type of love isn't real. I mean about more than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, while most platonic best friends remain friends until death. I think that having a platonic best friend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. Having someone who's like a sibling to you is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse. Also, you are more likely to be much more closer to someone who's like a brother or sister to you than you would be with a romantic partner or spouse.
as a 19 year old who just entered stage 1 for the first time, I just hatefully love this video for its honesty PS: hoping that it lasts though EDIT: Its been 3 months and while our love was on an exponential growth a few days ago the first tremors creeped into the relationship, something I was theoretically but not emotionally prepared for. I wonder what the future holds... EDIT2: its been a year together and we had a sweet little anniversary celebration. I don't think I've ever matured as much as I've matured in this year ever before in my life. Everytime, I feel I've reached the pinnacle of my love for her and boy does is just keep surging ahead faster. She's no longer a date, she's family
I feel really terrible after my first heartbreak during adolescence, but I find it rewarding to learn all the faults I made... Still hurtful to think back about the memories, but they're all in the past. I should let them forever be the past...
Being a 20 year old and feeling the emotional pain of heartbreak is agonizing. It's the hardest truth of life "you may love a person but the other person doesn't share the same emotion" accept it and find the one who loves you and accept you the way you are .
@Amazonbattery Bliss, like everything is right in the world. You'll feel "drunk" with happiness, and you'll feel energized, excited, and there will be this warm feeling in your body that is unmistakable. Make sure that the other person is respectful of you, never hurts you or treats you like you're less than. If that happens, reevaluate and move on. Good luck. Alfred Lord Tennyson, the great poet, wrote, _Tis better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all._ Keep your heart open.
Absolutely adore the changes in animation style through the video and color palette, along with the story used to educate ^ ^ Very informational and beautifully made
@@catdogmousecheese I'm pretty sure that during the "planner moments", the people are 3D which some 2D effects over top, and the setting around them is 2D.
I had a whirlwind relationship with a girl. It was as passionate as humanly possible. We shunned the rest of the world as we loved and quarreled. Family included. We broke up after 2 years. it was excruciating to be without her, but a blanket of toxic selfishness coated our once loving relationship. 5 years later. I met her on a chance encounter and it was an absolute whirlwind like before.Because of the sins of the past, It was more challenging this time around, but we managed to pull through. Our time apart made me realize that I have always loved her. Even when we were apart, i still loved her. Selfishness just got in the way. I just Hope that everyone gets the same chance as we did.
stages of falling in love: 1. infatuation/passionate love (excessively daydreaming about someone and wanting to spend more time with them - and last for a few months) 2. attachment/ compassionate love (start to observe and know the downfalls of our partner and cope with them or against them)
I remember when my girlfriend and I first broke up, it was especially painful because it wasn't out of an argument but rather because she was afraid her parents would disapprove of it. At least now I'm glad it happened, like developing immunity to an illness.
i love this animation so much. And i love that at the end of rollercoaster ride, which represents his experience and journey of love, his partner wasn’t there anymore on the ride, instead of looking very depressed, he looks back and smile. As if he has learned and move on. Knowing he’ll be okay
I can’t thank you guys enough for this beautiful animation. It’s helping me figure myself out and how I love the people around me by explaining things in a rational way. It’s a thousand times better than someone saying, “oh, you’ll know when you’re in love”, because I don’t know if it’s that or not.
I realized a month ago that the reason why I couldn't establish any romantic relationship since I broke up with my first and last relationship in 2015 was because I have already fallen for a good friend back in 2014. However, due to a lot of personal reasons, I could not confess my feelings. Fast forward to 2023, after an unexpected incident, I finally realized and accepted that the reason I could not seem to find the one for me is because I have already found her, but the realization came too late. She has been in a healthy relationship for almost 4 years. I'm experiencing all 3 stages, but mainly the 1st and 3rd, at the same time. It's heartbreaking to live through regret.
Last year I went not through my first, but my worst heartbreak so far. Now this video was recommended as I am falling for someone new again. I hope that I have learned from my past experiences and that this time it won't devastate me as much, but whatever comes, I will be enjoying my infatuation for as long as it lasts.
@@michaelcurley7002 Ted-ed tends to put a lot of political messaging in their animations and delete the comments that criticize or conflict with their beliefs.
I already confessed like two days ago to my lover and I am so happy she felt the same way. Since then, I’ve felt like a completely changed human being and my brain seems to have like altered in a way. I’m so glad that I found this video, so I know what is really going on with me.
I am so thankful to you for the usage of that beautiful homoromantic animated clip. It reminds me I’m valid, everything mentioned applies to me just as well, and it’ll be fine eventually.
Worthy to mention, though, that falling in love is all that chemical activity right before the attachment level of a relationship, and that the attachment level, if successfully passed, is the indication of true love (not just falling in love). This has a lot to do with how the definition of love has been getting ambiguated, specially through the western culture.
i honestly agree. the infatuation stage is really just your brain in need of that dopamine(not saying that it is 100% of the time) However, once you get into that stage and you learn about their strengths, weaknesses, and what they truly are and STILL accepting them, you truly are in love.
I really agree with this. It's frustrating that culturally we aren't more specific about distinguishing falling in love VS true love/compassionate love. Especially for young kids who are just starting to experience these emotions, we aren't giving them a good framework to interpret how they are feeling. To them a swashbuckling romance is true love despite the fact it could be (and often is) toxic.
Love is something that tored up my heart into pieces 2 years ago . But I gradually accepted it as a heart-wreching is inenvitable when you had a connection with a careless man.
I want to fall in love. I'm tired of spending all my time being sad and alone, being desperate and lonely. Things are hard right now but yeah let's hope for the best. Everyone deserves the love that they give back don't they?
well I think its important to make a distinction between deserving love and deserving the love you give back everyone deserves to be loved, but you shouldn't love with the expectation to receive something in return
@@bellezavudd that's definitely true, but I think OP means they want that kind of companionship in which they WONT feel sad and alone. As in, specifically.
Is no one going to appreciate the fact ted-ed decided to use an LGBTQ+ example? Props to representation Edit: Y’all are fighting it out in the replies…thanks for the 800 likes ♥
My last heartbreak broke me from ever wanting to fall in love again. There really isn't true moving on for me. I'm on good terms with my ex and he's still a friend, so it's not because I didn't get closure. But because I don't ever want to go through that pain again. I'd rather be dead.
Last two years was my first heartbreak of my first wlw relationship. And all the stages this video showed was literally what exactly I've been through as long as I'm healed. See this, I just open my mind that yeah, not only me feel this kind of way, and trust myself that I will find another one someday.
I dated a girl and obviously didn't go well. Soon after, she found a new boy, my friend, who was infinitely better than me I basically just listened to a band I liked (Keane) because most of their songs are breakup songs. Then one day, I woke up, heard a song titled 'Watch How You Go', and it made me open my eyes that at least I wish her well in her life with her new boyfriend, and I don't care anymore, I moved on. I sent the song to her, and said thank you. I don't think she understands what I meant though.
I love how beautifully this is put, social and visual media really makes love a confusing thing where ur not sure whether what u have is love or not, in the end i feel, its the intensity of the heartbreak that tells.
I feel like the main reason why people can only have relationships that last only a few months is that they crave that addictive feeling of being in love and when that feeling fades, they feel like they lost interest in their partner. This causes people to have problems maintaining long-term relationships because they need to feel "high off of love"
Thank you, this is just the video I needed. It's been 3 weeks since the most amazing love I've ever known came to an end because my partner wanted to break up. I don't think she doesn't love me anymore, I think adulthood is hard and past trauma is difficult to overcome. But understanding it doesn't make it painless. I think about her often, and passionately. I wish everyone in the same situation a lot of strength. I know you need it, friend.
This is an amazing video that gives a rational explanation to irrational process of falling in or out of love that most people don't get. It's natural and it needs to happen, i love how your channel is able to explain many things in under 10 min. Nice job and keep being awsome
What happens with the brain chemistry when the relationship lasts? What are the later stages? How do big life changes - moving in together, getting a pet, having a child, growing old together - affect your brain and your perception of the relationship? How is the grief different when a partner dies of old age, or in childbirth, or if there's cheating after years of commitment? What causes the "7-Year Itch"? I have so many more questions!
i dont know which phase i m in but am still having the same strong feelings for him during our first weeks even now although its been 10 months together❤ it feels like the very first day
I was eleven. I knew the heartbreak phase would happen before anything even began. I didn't go through infatuation long. I saw her faults, and loved her for them. I always saved her favorite chair for her in the library even though it would put her farther away from me. I watched her from afar and quietly appreciated the moments when she went up and talked to me, or held my hand, or pressed her face to mine. And then, one day, I looked at her and realized that it felt like home. A place where I belonged. Where I fit. This is doomed, but I can still hope. I can still enjoy the feeling of being in love. Because if there's one mistake I won't make, it's being so desperate to get out of love, so afraid of heartbreak, that I don't let myself feel. I'm running headfirst into pain with no regrets.
They called "love at first sight" in literature :) I also think that eye contact for the first time is vastly effective to falling in love with somebody :)
I agree, eye contact can be so powerful. I saw a guy at work a few months ago and thought he was cute but didn’t think much else of him. It wasn’t until we made eye contact for the first time that I fell in love, and to this day every time we make eye contact I feel the same, but I’m too nervous to ask him out 😅
Now, i can successfully call those things I love - You're my Dopamine. Also thanks Ted-Ed for voicing and bringing out the issue. Lots of people die because of rejection and unable to accept the situation. It may help them to reconsider it and giving life another chance, accepting life as it is.
I CAN RELATE SO MUCH TO THIS. Almost the same story in this video. He is a soccer player and yes I supported him on those times. We usually had chat before on a daily basis sending goodnight messages
Hello, TED-Ed I want to make a request, can you make a video about the maladaptive daydreaming disorder? I have been very fond of it and I want to learn more about it, about its symptoms, how it is caused, and much more, it would be great if you can do it. Thanks a lot if you see this!!!
Fantastic video. I watch when I was a bit drunk, just made my girl sad and felt really terrible, but I still can feel it. Thanks for making it. And if my girl can read this cmt, I just wanna say I just think for her, all the time. I love her so much.
You should tell her. Please don't build some hopes up that your girl will read this comment. Say it to her instead. She will appreciate that more than reading this comment on RUclips.
@@AkaneTendo yah I did tell her. Fortunately, we just misunderstood each other a little bit. We're okay now. Thanks guys for caring about me - really don't think sbd will reply to my cmt
You are loved and cherished. You have nothing to fear. There is nothing you can do wrong. If I had to boil this entire message down to one sentence, it would run this way: You are loved. And if I had to boil it down further, to just one word, it would (of course) be, simply: Love.
@@SierNotsruht A thousand years is but an instant. There's nothing new, nothing different; same pattern over and over. The same clouds, same music, the same things I felt an hour or an eternity ago. There's nothing here for me now, nothing at all. Now I remember, this happened to me before. This is why I left. You have begun to find your answers. Although it will seem difficult the rewards will be great. Exercise your human mind as fully as possible knowing that it is only an exercise. Build beautiful artifacts, solve problems, explore the secrets of the physical universe, savor the input from all the senses, filled with joy and sorrow and laughter, empathy, compassion, and tote the emotional memory in your travel bag. I remember where I came from, and how I became human, why I hung around, and now my final departure's scheduled. This way out, escaping velocity. Not just eternity, but Infinity.
As a 16 year old who was deeply in love and then in heartbreak, the feeling was so agonizing. But learnin the actual biological reasons help me feel much better in understnding things in a logical sense instead of emotionally taking things forward.
This is a rewarding video that not only providing us numerous useful aspects of science but also exploring the complexity of human emotions. Anyway, it's something cool
So getting over a breakup is just the brain's struggle in forgetting the old source of dopamine and finding new source of dopamine. Fascinating.
It's like jumping from coke to weeb
It's the brain's transition from loving someone else to loving yourself
Sounds good 😅
This comment gave me more insight than the video
Or Dr Pepper to mr PIBb
Ted-Ed really made us emotionally invested in this man’s life. 😩😩😩 Netflix series when? 😳
I was over here hurt😢! Then happy and now feeling like how do we move on from here, geesh, I need chocolate now
Pixar-level emotional rollercoaster. He even looks like me lmao
@@patrickjarvis631 yes, I had to check it😂
@@patrickjarvis631 exactly, 😂
Why those emojis tho-
This was an award-winning animated short on its own. TedEd, you always raise your own bar.
No replies? But yes I definitely agree
DON'T READ MY NAME!
What's the name of the short film?
that's g*y 🤮🤬
@yashatwal5922 all. In mm no no job n . Mm JJ in j
“But what is grief, if not love persevering?”
-Vision
Beautiful video Ted -ed! ❤️
Love that quote, thank you for sharing! 💓
Meaning ?
@@sanatanipandit1166 The loss of the lover doesn't mean the loss of love
Did I seriously have to find this video after going through infatuation, compassionate love, and heartbreak? This would have been really helpful back in February when we first confessed feelings for each other.
But even though the heartbreak hurt so much, I would do it all over again.
i would too
Likewise. Always good to keep ur chin up and view every love as a learning experience (which seems like what you've done) and have fun along the way. It's heartbreaking 4 sure but as my mom always said "sometimes nothing heals but time always will."
How would you have avoided it? Just asking
I already confessed like two days ago to my lover and I am so happy she felt the same way. Since then, I’ve felt like a completely changed human being and my brain seems to have like altered in a way. I’m so glad that I found this video, so I know what is really going on with me.
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I hope having an understanding of how my brain functions can help me be more logical in future, and avoid toxic relationships.
pray to dream Bread Man.... pray to dream
Unfortunately, it usually doesn’t. We often make the same mistakes, and also, learning about something only makes us a fractionally more logical. But maybe in a very very small way, you’ll have that clarity.
@@syedbasiljaved6201 All true. But now, thanks to this video, you'll know the life you have, is the one you have chosen for yourself...
Well played agenda in animations lol love of two bulls and you just have to accept and admit the distorted morals 😂😂😂
I have a friend (who is the most logical person I know) in a toxic relationship. It's not that he doesn't know he's being illogical. He knows but it's still a struggle to let go.
I understand him because I've been in his shoes as well. It's one thing to know but at the end of the day humans are emotional beings and so Knowing and feeling are two different things.
Not a single ted-ed video is lesser than the other. They keep improving and teaching something new every time. ❤️
777 likes!! i don't wanna ruin it😩 but you’re definitely right!!❤
But if they kept improving, wouldn't the old one be lesser than the new one? 😜
I love how you guys are not only focusing on the scientific side of everything, but now also exploring the complexity of human emotions, nature, and how we navigate through life. It is important to gain knowledge about the physical world. At the same time, shining some light onto human behaviors, what make us who we are and our ways of thinking is, from my point of view, at equal significance. Really hope to see more videos like this. Keep up the good work guys. Regards.
I'm doing this because I'm confused why I feel this way I can't stop smiling and at random points I cry happy tears
I don't think the romantic type of love is special. And I am started to think that the romantic type of love isn't real. I mean about more than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, while most platonic best friends remain friends until death.
I think that having a platonic best friend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. Having someone who's like a sibling to you is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse. Also, you are more likely to be much more closer to someone who's like a brother or sister to you than you would be with a romantic partner or spouse.
Imagine being a research participant for this and the doc just says "Alright, so now we're going to look at some pictures of your ex."
😂 this comment has me rolling
as a 19 year old who just entered stage 1 for the first time, I just hatefully love this video for its honesty
PS: hoping that it lasts though
EDIT: Its been 3 months and while our love was on an exponential growth a few days ago the first tremors creeped into the relationship, something I was theoretically but not emotionally prepared for. I wonder what the future holds...
EDIT2: its been a year together and we had a sweet little anniversary celebration. I don't think I've ever matured as much as I've matured in this year ever before in my life.
Everytime, I feel I've reached the pinnacle of my love for her and boy does is just keep surging ahead faster. She's no longer a date, she's family
Good luck on your journey mate
I hope so too 💗
Just don't let the trust go between you both good luck for ur journey 🫶🏻
I wish you luck!
It won’t last. Reply when it ends.
I feel really terrible after my first heartbreak during adolescence, but I find it rewarding to learn all the faults I made...
Still hurtful to think back about the memories, but they're all in the past. I should let them forever be the past...
Well said my friend
Learn from your faults and theirs we are humans don’t become a monster
You are vietnamese, right :>>?
It hurts, still does
Especially when you have to ask "am i just that, that much in the end?"
Why don't you, then?
Love is like a rose; It's both happy and painful at the same time.
There's a Turkish saying: The one who loves a rose must also endure its thorns.
@@Rowosehip wow!
Yup. There's a reason it represents romance
every rose has a thorn
@@Rowosehip cool, but did i ask?
jk im not toxic or bad or anything
Being a 20 year old and feeling the emotional pain of heartbreak is agonizing. It's the hardest truth of life "you may love a person but the other person doesn't share the same emotion" accept it and find the one who loves you and accept you the way you are .
Love with family is true... Love with opposite gender is false... It's only lust... Only this you must know, and you are set free!
This is true i feel you i've been there
@@happyandhappyonly yeah bro great idea lol
@@shubhmishra66 wtf
@@shubhmishra66love for family isn’t true either it’s obligation to them because they are consider blood. There is no true love imo.
Oh my god, the feeling of falling in love is wow - it’s one of the best feelings. Never give up.
It is the best feeling in the world..love is everything
What does love feel like? Im curious
@Amazonbattery Bliss, like everything is right in the world. You'll feel "drunk" with happiness, and you'll feel energized, excited, and there will be this warm feeling in your body that is unmistakable.
Make sure that the other person is respectful of you, never hurts you or treats you like you're less than. If that happens, reevaluate and move on.
Good luck.
Alfred Lord Tennyson, the great poet, wrote, _Tis better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all._
Keep your heart open.
@@natbb9 ty
WHY IS THIS SO CUTE? this love story NEEDS to become a book series or something
heartstopper exists :)
@@cherryblossom1339 omg i just realized all the parallels this has to heartstopper
@@bookgirlie444omg ikrr
"CUTE"???
Frfr
Absolutely adore the changes in animation style through the video and color palette, along with the story used to educate ^ ^
Very informational and beautifully made
What I want to know is how does this animation look 2-D and 3-D at the same time?! Doesn't that defy physics?! Are these animators gods?!
@@catdogmousecheese I'm pretty sure that during the "planner moments", the people are 3D which some 2D effects over top, and the setting around them is 2D.
I had a whirlwind relationship with a girl. It was as passionate as humanly possible. We shunned the rest of the world as we loved and quarreled. Family included.
We broke up after 2 years. it was excruciating to be without her, but a blanket of toxic selfishness coated our once loving relationship.
5 years later. I met her on a chance encounter and it was an absolute whirlwind like before.Because of the sins of the past, It was more challenging this time around, but we managed to pull through.
Our time apart made me realize that I have always loved her. Even when we were apart, i still loved her. Selfishness just got in the way.
I just Hope that everyone gets the same chance as we did.
How long have you been together now?
Thats good for you, man
What a chance
Damn good for you man
Bro when update??
stages of falling in love:
1. infatuation/passionate love (excessively daydreaming about someone and wanting to spend more time with them - and last for a few months)
2. attachment/ compassionate love (start to observe and know the downfalls of our partner and cope with them or against them)
Almost shed a tear for when the guy was longing for his man after the breakup 😢♥️
I remember when my girlfriend and I first broke up, it was especially painful because it wasn't out of an argument but rather because she was afraid her parents would disapprove of it. At least now I'm glad it happened, like developing immunity to an illness.
Mine was also not out of an argument , We broke up happily , but afterwards it had hurt me so much
I understand the video wanted to explain the brain activity of a heartbroken person but their break up made me so sad 😭😭😭
Noone cares noone loved u
@@almaraimilk7805 aww, we still love you, sweetie! even if you rather be mad and hateful.
EXACTLY i was rooting for them : (((
The animation and story board were so cool! I loved his journal entries tho it made me sad when they broke up :'(
When I watched this video, I saw hope and the brighter future for anybody who belongs to my community
This is not enough I need a whole series with these two OCs!!
i love this animation so much. And i love that at the end of rollercoaster ride, which represents his experience and journey of love, his partner wasn’t there anymore on the ride, instead of looking very depressed, he looks back and smile. As if he has learned and move on. Knowing he’ll be okay
Why was I actually invested in their story
I can’t thank you guys enough for this beautiful animation. It’s helping me figure myself out and how I love the people around me by explaining things in a rational way. It’s a thousand times better than someone saying, “oh, you’ll know when you’re in love”, because I don’t know if it’s that or not.
There are all kinds of love in this world but never the same love twice
~ F.Scott Fitzgerald
For someone who's never fallen in love, I totally love this video ❤
I realized a month ago that the reason why I couldn't establish any romantic relationship since I broke up with my first and last relationship in 2015 was because I have already fallen for a good friend back in 2014. However, due to a lot of personal reasons, I could not confess my feelings. Fast forward to 2023, after an unexpected incident, I finally realized and accepted that the reason I could not seem to find the one for me is because I have already found her, but the realization came too late. She has been in a healthy relationship for almost 4 years.
I'm experiencing all 3 stages, but mainly the 1st and 3rd, at the same time. It's heartbreaking to live through regret.
she was not meant to be your.
you will find the person who is meant to be yours In sha Allah
Omg, I love the way you build up this video's characters. The animation is so cute!
Dude! While everyone is on about the content of the video, I'm like, THE FRIGGING ANIMATION!!!!!!! Another level man!
In the infactuation stage now.. I always HATE the fact that this ends. It just feels soooo good!!!!
Last year I went not through my first, but my worst heartbreak so far. Now this video was recommended as I am falling for someone new again. I hope that I have learned from my past experiences and that this time it won't devastate me as much, but whatever comes, I will be enjoying my infatuation for as long as it lasts.
Pretty sure they are deleting comments
Why
@@michaelcurley7002 Ted-ed tends to put a lot of political messaging in their animations and delete the comments that criticize or conflict with their beliefs.
@@stayysilver so they do just about what anyone does, got it.
What do you mean with political beliefs?@@stayysilver
I really love how Ted Ed used a timeline in the video. Makes it more investing.
Romantic love is two persons who are willing to be together and love each other no matter what kind of hardship is ahead.❤
I already confessed like two days ago to my lover and I am so happy she felt the same way. Since then, I’ve felt like a completely changed human being and my brain seems to have like altered in a way. I’m so glad that I found this video, so I know what is really going on with me.
thank you for this, going thru a breakup ain’t easy at all 🥺😭
This animation style FUCKS. Like for real, I fell in love. Simply incredible
I improve my English everyday because Ted-ed makes beautiful and animation videos and it doesn't see bore. It helps me to increase best vocabulary.
Listen to metal
I am so thankful to you for the usage of that beautiful homoromantic animated clip. It reminds me I’m valid, everything mentioned applies to me just as well, and it’ll be fine eventually.
Worthy to mention, though, that falling in love is all that chemical activity right before the attachment level of a relationship, and that the attachment level, if successfully passed, is the indication of true love (not just falling in love). This has a lot to do with how the definition of love has been getting ambiguated, specially through the western culture.
i honestly agree. the infatuation stage is really just your brain in need of that dopamine(not saying that it is 100% of the time) However, once you get into that stage and you learn about their strengths, weaknesses, and what they truly are and STILL accepting them, you truly are in love.
What's anon mean ?
@@auun2101 anonymous :)
I really agree with this. It's frustrating that culturally we aren't more specific about distinguishing falling in love VS true love/compassionate love. Especially for young kids who are just starting to experience these emotions, we aren't giving them a good framework to interpret how they are feeling. To them a swashbuckling romance is true love despite the fact it could be (and often is) toxic.
Love is something that tored up my heart into pieces 2 years ago
. But I gradually accepted it as a heart-wreching is inenvitable when you had a connection with a careless man.
I almost cried at the end. He started the roller coaster with the guy but he was alone in the finish line.😢😢😢
I want to fall in love. I'm tired of spending all my time being sad and alone, being desperate and lonely. Things are hard right now but yeah let's hope for the best. Everyone deserves the love that they give back don't they?
well I think its important to make a distinction between deserving love and deserving the love you give back
everyone deserves to be loved, but you shouldn't love with the expectation to receive something in return
@@timeme5460 Absolutely.
Falling in love is no guarantee that a person wont be sad and alone.
@@bellezavudd that's definitely true, but I think OP means they want that kind of companionship in which they WONT feel sad and alone. As in, specifically.
Jesus ❤
Is no one going to appreciate the fact ted-ed decided to use an LGBTQ+ example? Props to representation
Edit: Y’all are fighting it out in the replies…thanks for the 800 likes ♥
Noticed that. That's a beautiful way of explainin ❤
APPRECIATE? Y'ALL NEED HELP LOL
I hv shared it with u all of my community frnds
@@kh41245 Cry us a river 🤣 mad cause we’re on top
No one should care ot appreciate it. If people do care about that stuff, the hate and missunderstanding will continue
My last heartbreak broke me from ever wanting to fall in love again. There really isn't true moving on for me. I'm on good terms with my ex and he's still a friend, so it's not because I didn't get closure. But because I don't ever want to go through that pain again. I'd rather be dead.
what is your opinion now?
@@alokkumar5123 Same thing. My ex and I don't speak anymore, but yeah, I still am good on all that
Last two years was my first heartbreak of my first wlw relationship. And all the stages this video showed was literally what exactly I've been through as long as I'm healed. See this, I just open my mind that yeah, not only me feel this kind of way, and trust myself that I will find another one someday.
I watched this video when everything just started and now I'm watching it again with tears in my eyes
I dated a girl and obviously didn't go well. Soon after, she found a new boy, my friend, who was infinitely better than me
I basically just listened to a band I liked (Keane) because most of their songs are breakup songs. Then one day, I woke up, heard a song titled 'Watch How You Go', and it made me open my eyes that at least I wish her well in her life with her new boyfriend, and I don't care anymore, I moved on.
I sent the song to her, and said thank you. I don't think she understands what I meant though.
I love how beautifully this is put, social and visual media really makes love a confusing thing where ur not sure whether what u have is love or not, in the end i feel, its the intensity of the heartbreak that tells.
I feel like the main reason why people can only have relationships that last only a few months is that they crave that addictive feeling of being in love and when that feeling fades, they feel like they lost interest in their partner. This causes people to have problems maintaining long-term relationships because they need to feel "high off of love"
Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
Thank you, this is just the video I needed. It's been 3 weeks since the most amazing love I've ever known came to an end because my partner wanted to break up. I don't think she doesn't love me anymore, I think adulthood is hard and past trauma is difficult to overcome. But understanding it doesn't make it painless. I think about her often, and passionately.
I wish everyone in the same situation a lot of strength. I know you need it, friend.
This is an amazing video that gives a rational explanation to irrational process of falling in or out of love that most people don't get. It's natural and it needs to happen, i love how your channel is able to explain many things in under 10 min. Nice job and keep being awsome
okay ted-ed definitely left us hanging, crying for ep 2
i really felt that after love heartbreaks and healing, i got matured and grow more.
What happens with the brain chemistry when the relationship lasts? What are the later stages? How do big life changes - moving in together, getting a pet, having a child, growing old together - affect your brain and your perception of the relationship? How is the grief different when a partner dies of old age, or in childbirth, or if there's cheating after years of commitment? What causes the "7-Year Itch"? I have so many more questions!
i dont know which phase i m in but am still having the same strong feelings for him during our first weeks even now although its been 10 months together❤ it feels like the very first day
the animation is so awesome!! they killed it fr
i also love how the colors in the guy’s bedroom is rainbow :)
The journey from first spark to last tear… damn that was deep!
The animation was absolutely calming.
Loved everything about the video
I was eleven. I knew the heartbreak phase would happen before anything even began.
I didn't go through infatuation long. I saw her faults, and loved her for them.
I always saved her favorite chair for her in the library even though it would put her farther away from me. I watched her from afar and quietly appreciated the moments when she went up and talked to me, or held my hand, or pressed her face to mine.
And then, one day, I looked at her and realized that it felt like home. A place where I belonged. Where I fit.
This is doomed, but I can still hope. I can still enjoy the feeling of being in love. Because if there's one mistake I won't make, it's being so desperate to get out of love, so afraid of heartbreak, that I don't let myself feel.
I'm running headfirst into pain with no regrets.
the guy ending the rollercoaster on his own 🥲
Lucky are those who experienced love ❤️
Love will be unexpectedly waiting for you during Your Path of life
Love, unlike matter or energy, is of an infinite supply in the universe.
They called "love at first sight" in literature :)
I also think that eye contact for the first time is vastly effective to falling in love with somebody :)
I agree, eye contact can be so powerful.
I saw a guy at work a few months ago and thought he was cute but didn’t think much else of him. It wasn’t until we made eye contact for the first time that I fell in love, and to this day every time we make eye contact I feel the same, but I’m too nervous to ask him out 😅
Now, i can successfully call those things I love - You're my Dopamine. Also thanks Ted-Ed for voicing and bringing out the issue. Lots of people die because of rejection and unable to accept the situation. It may help them to reconsider it and giving life another chance, accepting life as it is.
i love how teded just illustrates fallin in love by bringing 2 men. thats so sweet
I was really down these couple of days and this video made me cheer up. That quote by Maya Angelou at the start is gold 💕
The research is beautifully animated and expertly summarized. Also, Good Luck to anyone looking for love nearing the end of 2022 and into 2023.
I ❤️how every ted-ed video is soo different in terms of animation style and colour pallets ..it's like channel is collection of animation types..
Even before I've started watching, I knew it wasn't going to be a normal straight couple shown.
I have so many questions about life, so TED-Ed is here for all of us, Thank you TED-Ed!
Can we also appreciate how good the animation is !!!
This video also shows me how addictive we are to phones. Just even a message ping can cause us to stop everything else to check that message.
I love the way ted just make this video animation to be a love between to man. That makes it more special to me
Nope it makes it worse
You suck@@Doit357
I CAN RELATE SO MUCH TO THIS. Almost the same story in this video. He is a soccer player and yes I supported him on those times. We usually had chat before on a daily basis sending goodnight messages
ted ed is stalking you
@@RickrollFoot 😂
Hello, TED-Ed I want to make a request, can you make a video about the maladaptive daydreaming disorder? I have been very fond of it and I want to learn more about it, about its symptoms, how it is caused, and much more, it would be great if you can do it. Thanks a lot if you see this!!!
yessss
Do one about those of us who don't feel infatuation as acutely as others!
Yes, ace spectrum representation is much needed as we're basically invisible nowadays
5:30 undoubtedly one of the toughest post-breakup moment
‘The loss of love is the most abject pain’, Frankl. 😢
Nooo I was so invested I forgot it's a Ted Ed video 😭
I thought their relationship will keep getting wholesome..I feel sad
Fantastic video. I watch when I was a bit drunk, just made my girl sad and felt really terrible, but I still can feel it. Thanks for making it.
And if my girl can read this cmt, I just wanna say I just think for her, all the time. I love her so much.
Don't tell us - tell her!
You should tell her. Please don't build some hopes up that your girl will read this comment. Say it to her instead. She will appreciate that more than reading this comment on RUclips.
@@AkaneTendo yah I did tell her. Fortunately, we just misunderstood each other a little bit. We're okay now. Thanks guys for caring about me - really don't think sbd will reply to my cmt
IM CRYING THIS IS SO CUTE
A story telling masterpiece.
This channel is a Gem 💎
You are loved and cherished. You have nothing to fear. There is nothing you can do wrong. If I had to boil this entire message down to one sentence, it would run this way: You are loved. And if I had to boil it down further, to just one word, it would (of course) be, simply: Love.
All of those things are untrue buddy
@@SierNotsruht
A thousand years is but an instant. There's nothing new, nothing different; same pattern over and over. The same clouds, same music, the same things I felt an hour or an eternity ago. There's nothing here for me now, nothing at all. Now I remember, this happened to me before. This is why I left. You have begun to find your answers. Although it will seem difficult the rewards will be great. Exercise your human mind as fully as possible knowing that it is only an exercise. Build beautiful artifacts, solve problems, explore the secrets of the physical universe, savor the input from all the senses, filled with joy and sorrow and laughter, empathy, compassion, and tote the emotional memory in your travel bag. I remember where I came from, and how I became human, why I hung around, and now my final departure's scheduled. This way out, escaping velocity. Not just eternity, but Infinity.
Attraction is temporary, so it breaks, mends, breaks :)
The animation and the story board are top notch! I feel like watching my ownself in that video lol 😂❤
I've never seen a drawn animation in this style look so tridimensional, I can't understand what gives it this depth effect
I think it might be a style where they record actual footage and trace over it
@@duckydoombringer9206 so a rotoscope?
This video is truly beautiful... The animation is on a level of its own for sure✨
It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loves at all...
Who would understand this better than me
This video was an absolute work of art! Ted Ed you have done it again
As a 16 year old who was deeply in love and then in heartbreak, the feeling was so agonizing. But learnin the actual biological reasons help me feel much better in understnding things in a logical sense instead of emotionally taking things forward.
The animation in this video is top-tiered. ❤
I agree
Break up makes me afraid to fall in love 🥺
You are not alone bruv
It worth it in hindsight
Wouldn't you rather have loved and lost than not have loved at all?
I forgot the last time i fell in love
Man this visualization. Pixar level Creation 🤩🤩
This is a rewarding video that not only providing us numerous useful aspects of science but also exploring the complexity of human emotions. Anyway, it's something cool
Great video, it made me cry a little actually, seeing two boys in the story, beautiful. Thank you for the representation. 🏳️🌈❤