How Repressed Emotions Make Us Sick
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- Опубликовано: 9 апр 2024
- The most curious and hazardous feature of the way we’re built lies in the difficulty we have registering what we actually feel.
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“The most curious and hazardous feature of the way we’re built lies in the difficulty we have registering what we actually feel. Our vast and strange minds get filled with thoughts that go unsifted and with feelings we don’t have the courage to look at. We might be angry or sad while lacking any active awareness that we are so. Or guilty or envious without any grasp of what is at play behind a thin psychological curtain. And we remain unconscious - always - because we are resistant to ideas that threaten our sense of calm, our self-image and our gratifying illusions about ourselves. We surely can’t be angry because we’re kind people who couldn’t feel negatively about a beloved elderly relative. Or we can’t be sad at not being invited to the party because we don’t care about trivial, social matters. And it isn’t possible that we are envious because we aren’t people to covet others’ advantages…”
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It's not lack of courage--many of us don't know how to access our feelings because it was never safe to, so we have to learn
Very true. And even after learning, it can still be very difficult for those who haven't been allowed to express or process their feelings in the past.
@@fe3613 exactly - we learn to repress as an instinct for survival, which is what the narrator is telling is, albeit in a dull flat way
Access our emotions ?? What the hell does this mean ?
Most people don't have time, by the time life finishes making it's constant demands and we finally find ourself. We have to crash course it like uni when we're young. Or we have to wait until we're retired.
So true Colette Lee 😢
Hope the person who needs this video finds it.
I think that’d be everyone
good news, I did.
Thank you i did
I certainly did.
i did
This video should be translated and showed everywhere: at the bus stop, inside a mall, in cinemas before watching a movie. There’s so much unnecessary and unaware pain in the world just because no one has ever taught us the importance of doing inner work.
Yes. But they dont alow us to translate it.
I agree this should be paramount
@@vega306 I tried, I translated dozens of their video on Croatian. They didn't want to accept it, waiting for comunity to do so, which nobody wanted and then RUclips canceled those contributions of community and all translations got lost.
What would doing the inner work look like? Actionable tips would be helpful. Thanks
Absolutely yessss
Mum passed away, wife had divorced me, new girlfriend dumped me, boss bossed me - and I never grieved, raged, revolted or fought out of embarrassment. Until depression hit me big time.
I feel your pain. 💔
My father just passed away, and it has me thinking about things in my life that I just go along to get along with.
@@Leo-mr1qz Thank you, I'm still struggling to accept my pain as it's too big to handle.
Wives tend to divorce if you have a girlfriend lel
i’m happy for the wife wtf is this
@@muramasasedge5443 Thanks for the helpful advice. It had been a sequence, after the wife there was a girlfriend. These things also happen, sometimes.
“Even if you try to bottle it all up... it all comes out somehow.”
-Basil (omori 2020)🌻
day 89738923783727283771382 of not taking a dump (its starting to get to me)
@@burndandelions317 Way to be unable to take the situation seriously.
@@burndandelions317 cmon man thats rookie numbers, im on day 9961135380973920573095235532523 of not taking a dump get on my level
🍉x8 so it forms a full watermelon
@@enderguardian7443 you are either an omori fan because I get the watermelon reference or the watermelon coincidentally fits
After my dad passed l flew home and had the worst lower back pain. After l went to the chiropractor he barely manipulated it and l had the worst sharp pain ever and l started to sob uncontrollably. He felt so bad he thought he hurt me. After l had that good cry, my back began to heal. I truly believe our emotions are held in different parts of our bodies and my grief at my dad’s passing manifested in my lower back.
Look into the 7 chakras with an open mind please
hey regardless please dont go to chiropractors, they genuinely arent an evidence based practice! please go to a physio in the future. for your own safety
Chiropractic is a sham but whatever you think helps you I guess
@@saltiestsiren not all of them. The ones who are only there for a paycheck yes absolutely but some people genuinely need chiropractic care due to serious and intense pain
@@sprixxcy9495or go to one with a good reputation. Chiropractors CAN help as long as they aren't the greedy kind and actually do their jobs instead of shifting you a bit and forcing you to come back forever.
Medical student here- this is so so true. For anyone wondering about it's scientific basis, I recommend you to read gut brain axis in depth.
I'm a med student aswell, is there a certain book you would reccomend? Thanks!
Thank you
@@nightmode95gut & psychology syndrome by Natasha Campbell Mcbride
Yeah but don't tell ladies who've got endometriosis that it's psychological! Why? Cos you can't see a thing on MRIs!
@@missophelie3781 endo actually has a LOT to do with gut health. Theres emerging research on this topic.
I also have endo and working on gut health has improved my condition.
I feel so unsafe. I have to stay on alert on the time. I am tired. I am getting bitter, pessimistic, unlively, and pretentious all the same time. Tired of popping in painkillers every single day. I wish I could leave everything and go to the mountains or something.
Talk to someone. A younger neglected, or hurt current part of you must be honored. I really hope you are able to find free resources or find a suitable therapist.
@@tobyokoi0909 yes I can talk to a friend may be. Can’t afford therapy. I earn bare minimum to survive. I also study alongside in hope of a better future. Thank you for taking time out to reply. I wish a good life for you my friend.
Please stay hopefull that there are still good people out there! If that is the reason you are getting bitter. Hope helps me out with that. Also just looking specifically for kindness around me. Also, about your pain, have you heard of 'the medical medium'? This book has helped me out with some health issues, so because of that I recommend it to everyone. Goodluck stranger!
Go to the mountains, for real! You might have to go to the doctor first, but go to the mountains ❤❤❤
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This comment section is so healing. I've been working on the hurt from a lost friendship a decade ago in therapy. People have always questioned why I care and can't just flip a switch and move on. However, I've always felt that a lot of people are dealing with things that they avoid and don't want to talk about and that it shows up in their lives in many other ways.
I've got free when I started to not be embarrassed about feelings.
Let's feel, and feel it fully with our whole heart.
Let's love without be afraid of being hurt.
damn this is kinda what i needed. im trying to move on from a situationship that happened some time ago and i always asked myself why do i process it for so long when most people stop caring after a week or a month. from observing my friends and other ppl i came to the conclusion that they don’t- it just becomes embarrassing to show that you’re still processing it but it comes back in different ways
I get stuck on relationships that don't work out because I want to understand why it didn't, and although sometimes that can bring some good clarity, sometimes it drives you crazy. It is so disheartening that my brain can comprehend the path to peace but not locate it. I try to remind myself that it's just one modest step at a time, not the entire journey today. Peace and love to you! 😊❤
@agnesg woah, this is exactly how I felt. I still remember when I had the realization that my logic and emotion didn't matter, that my brain was still ruminating and hurting over that broken relationship and I couldn't simply move on. 💔
How do you find good therapists? I'm poor so I feel like I've wasted money on therapy because they seem to only take money and not help me
This is fascinating. I developed brain inflammation after a period of huge stress where I was suppressing my true feelings about a situation for two years. I partially lost my eyesight and got headaches, and the inflammation spread to both sides of my brain. The body keeps the score.
I suffered sever chest pain and back pain for almost 2 years out of chronic anxiety and boredom. I was a highly functional depressed employee for 3 years until I realized that my pain is psychosomatic.
Did it go away ?
Stress tends to exacerbate any kind of autoimmune issues. MS flares are notoriously triggered by stress. Stress can be physiological or emotional or physical. That much is scientific. But we can’t eliminate all stress, besides, even positive stresses can do that.
And absolutely if we don’t deal with things in a healthy way, and are continually subjected to emotional stress, it’s going to weaken your entire immune system, which is highly influenced by your autonomic stress responses.
The body gives warning signs beforehand though, but we choose to ignore it unfortunately until it’s too late.
Listen to your body!
Speedy recovery! 🙏 I had something similar with the brain, but also seizures and hyperacusis developed driven by stress. Taken 7 months to fully recover thanks to docs! But changing my whole life and most importantly illuminated those stress triggers that caused it. It's a tough journey but do trust your docs and the bright happy future you have ahead 😊 Take care ❤
I've dealt with abuse and drama and loss all my life by burying it deep down and moving on because I had to be strong for everyone in my life. At 51 I started having full blown anxiety attacks (sweaty palms, people talking sounding like bees far off or in a tunnel, tunnel vision and the desire to just be alone, not around anyone) Once again true to my nature, I view this as a weakness and try to hide this by withdrawing from everyone except work. At 56 I am now having nightmares, insomniac, physical health issues, grinding my teeth in my sleep, even sleep paralysis. All due to never taken care of my issues and shoving them down. It isn't a weakness dealing with your mental issues, I wish someone would have told me this and let me know true weakness is not allowing yourself to heal and get help in the beginning. If anyone is reading this and feels hurt, less than or dealing with loss, get help. You are worth it now and future you is depending on it. Blessings to all.
Sadly I have all those same issues and ailments too, teeth grinding, can't sleep, anxiety trembling, awful thoughts, OCD the list goes on, CPTSD, I have the issues
@@andrewrees8749Please find resources in your area, mental health professional, a group, Clergy, even putting your feelings in writing. You are not alone and are worth happiness and sleep :), Get a night teeth guard to keep from chipping your teeth or biting the inside of your mouth during rough nights. Good Luck to you, I truly wish you all the best in this crazy journey we call life.
Thanks
Thank you for posting this comment. I am 42, I feel all of these things. I am afraid I am going to walk away from everything I love just because I cannot deal with the emotions I’m overwhelmed with from repressing pain. Only one time in my life I was successful for a one year period of ridding myself of the past emotions rising up. Your comment makes me feel I might have hope to deal with these things head on. I know I’m not blameless, my situation has caused me to use my emotions and inability to cope with them to hurt others as well.
The time to let go and restart is now. As i cannot physically or emotionally continue without sleep.
Thank you.
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My ex wife made me physically ill with digestive issues. Once divorced, all symptoms were gone
Glad you feel better. Here’s hoping you find some good people to support you.
At the age of 16, I started growing random white hair. My mom plucked one hair and it was alternating between black and white. It ranged in centimeters. Almost like it was following patterns of stressful and good periods in my life.
I've noticed strands of my hair turning white during extreme stress. And when I feel better, it can fully revert back. That was when I realized the way my body worked together with my mind
I've been in the same boat for twenty five years on my second marriage,the first one too.
So hey I went to school in NM with a guy that has your same name.
after a big heartbreak, i've been sick and tiresome with severe shoulder pain.
just when i've been pondering how my mental health might be causing adverse effects on my physical health... this pops up😂
guess my shoulder is screaming at me to let go of that avoidant bastard
Broken heart can lead us to die. Hence with some old people couples, when one dies, the other one often dies soon after.
Or maybe your shoulders are telling you that it was ok that you cared about him once upon a time, because you only wanted to be loved too.
Just a thought.
It's probably shoulder pain you get from carrying all the load of the relationship 😂
check out the free audiobook "Healing Back Pain" it cured me of chronic pain and now I help people get rid of theirs, good luck
going through the same thing rn except its endless bouts of anxiety and insomnia:,)
God, its like these mental health channels can read our minds when they upload
Thinking the same thing, Randomly got their notification and was like okay here we go .
Either that ...or the human experience is just universal and we might not be as unique as we think we are.😅
@@TerrorTerrosExactly
I was just thinking of the possibility that my prolonged unusual stomach problems might be related to my anxiety and then this video shows up
Literally just got done throwing up from a panic attack..
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is dr.porass.
I grew up in a toxic familiy system. Emotions were never save or really allowed to have, especially not negative ones.
I am so out of touch with them.
I'm struggling with severe debilitating mental health issues and I seriously doubt that I will ever be able to overcame all these scars.
It is so crucial to teach children how to deal with their emotions in a healthy way.
Great video.
I'm rooting for you, dear! You're much stronger than you think, I'm sure of it.
@@neann6 Thanks, that's nice of you to say
@@mangantasy289 Not just saying it, I believe it wholeheartedly. You can do it 💕
@@neann6 We'll see. I don't have much hope left after so many years and so little perspective. Maybe when I can overcome my severe depression. There's so many issues I have to work on.
@@mangantasy289 I can't imagine all you're going through, but let's take it one day at a time💕
A few years back, Dr. Suzanne O'Sullivan wrote a book called 'It' s all in your head'. Wise and insightful book about psychosomatic illnesses. Interesting she says that nowadays, food is blamed for our tiredness, bloating etc etc. Even the sanest and most balanced of us suffer with psychosomatic pain but we deny it so much. Fascinates me as to why? It's so human for psychological pain to be felt as physical pain but we don't want to believe it.
I do believe food plays a big part. Yet I simultaneously also feel that our minds might even play just that little bit more.
Maybe a 40/60 ratio of food/mind when it comes to what affects our health. But food also affects our mindset. And our mindset affects what food we eat so it's all kind interlinked
Because there's no easy way to measure someone else's mind.
As more research is being done on functional cognitive disorders as well as gut health in relation to our well-being, this argument is moving towards more psychologists agreeing that psychological pain/distress is intrinsically linked with physical pain/issues. I suppose denial may stem from stigmas around mental health?
@@tigerkahlua1609interestingly new research has suggested that the gut seems to have its own sort of consciousness, acting almost like a 2nd brain; affecting our decision making, hormones, and mood among other things
Always suppressed my emotions, now I’m dealing with lots of somatisations and depression. In life you will pay the price of everything, sooner or later.
i am 21 only, i was a happy kid once i dont remember much honestly, but then my dad drinking and mom shouting and their daily fighting police neighbours showing up at my house at 3 am at night somehow affected me i guess , i had a lot of bullying and a little sexual harrasment, verbal abuse?? i really dont care about it much honestly , life is tough , but like.i stay alone dont have any group of friends nobody with me , completely alone people say i need therapy some people who i got close to a very little bit , and they also say i need someone to take care of me. i honestly think sitting in a room talking about emotions isnt going to do, do anything . or idk i never knew what its like to be at peace my entire life i was just going through shit!! even in school and even at home .Well i sometimes ...i feel like i will go mad sooner , something inside me keeps telling me that .
@@chillvibes71 the same situation with me too buddy except my dad died when I was 9
@@chillvibes71 Therapy doesn’t just have to be talking about your feelings, although in my experience that can help more than you might expect. There’s therapies like EMDR that help encode traumatic memories like normal memories so they don’t cause so much disruption, there’s therapies that will look at things like your family systems and social supports. There’s a lot of options! It does take time to find a therapist that knows how to work with you but it is possible :)
This is definitely crazy, but it's true. When I'm anxious before a big exam, my stomach gets very upset. Last time, I was so anxious the week of, that the night of my sinuses swelled up and I became 99% congested. I couldn't breath through my nose even a little, but there was no mucus in my nose. Then when I got my heartbroken, I knew I experienced that heartbreak in my mind but I physically 💔 felt it in my heart. My heart physically ached at the loss of the relationship.
i have been anxious enough to start feeling sick. it was confusing at first but slowly I've been able to tell the difference between sick sick and anxiety sick
“Our hearts want a chance to say sorry.” I felt this! ❤💔
"Meegraines" kinda hurt, but it was also funny.
Laughter good medicine...
right?
LMAO I was looking for a comment that addressed that
Hahaha I heard that & I was wondering if anyone else was gonna say something about that or not 😅😅
Meegraines for your apparaytus
I started therapy on monday for this very thing. Thank you ❤
Good luck with your journey 😊
Even if it lasts a long time, continue with therapy. If you don't feel confident with a psychologist, you can try another. You're intelligent, not everyone dares to go to therapy. 🪴
Good luck ❤
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good luck!! i start mine thursday im looking forward to it a lot☺️
I developed high blood pressure from too much stress of being my father's caretaker. I also have a very strong fibromyalgia that flares up all the time I face a problem in my life. I had a childhood that didn't allow me to express my feelings, so my body learned to bottle up every feeling. I had my first panic attack when I was only 10.
Love and respect ❤️🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻❤️
I'm sorry for all this pain you're facing yet I hope you notice how strong you really are. If you ever feel like starting a journey towards feeling better I wish you to give yourself lots of love, compassion and patience. As someone that has lived repressing everything ever since I can remember, there will be many bumps on the road yet, You CAN do it! Lots of love, ❤
Knowing the “WHAT” is good thing, but without the “HOW” it’s useless and sometimes frustrating 😞
If you really feel that you can just "continue and see what happens " you are not yet in a very bad mental situation. That's at least my expérience with mood issues.
Everyone's specific "how" will be different depending upon the emotions they have bottled up and the events in their lives that influenced those emotions. The most broad "how" that I can provide is to take time in solitude to look within yourself for your own answers, and to have patience with yourself on that journey. These videos likely can't give you the answers you need, but their thought-provoking messages can still be fantastic resources for guiding yourself through the journey toward discovering your own answers.
What i find frustrating is that sometimes you are dependant on somebody else. You know what you need but it takes tine. Yet your body doesnt give you a break. You keep waking up at night or keep the tight shoulders. You say Yes! I know! We want this or that, but its not available right now!
@@Me265024 what’s that saying… You can’t plant an apple tree today and expect apples on it tomorrow. Yes it takes time but the more you get it the more things clear up and present themselves sooner. Keep asking questions of your body in quiet time. That’s called prayer. And then listen for answers. You your spirit runs your own machine body.
Well, he did offer a morsel. Ask your body what it’s feeling. It’s part of meditation. Sometimes if you just sit on the spot long enough just trying to pull the feeling out From behind the discomfort or pain, you will experience and memory linked to that. As part meditation, part awareness, using with some people call prayer, again listening to the prayer for answers. We can just put out there OK universe how does this work/show me please. And get ready❤️
i was pressured to get good grades(like full marks) in my finals. it become a daily thing to remind me about my grades, i was expected to study all day stuck in room. i started dreading studying, the pressure was getting to me. i had headaches, i puked all the time, no appetite and intense fear of failure.
this sort of physical reaction ended up manifesting even now. whenever my emotions get too intense, i experience headaches, coughing and puking with this sick feeling in my stomach.
I was alexithymic for most of my life. Moved out on my own when I was 24 and finally had the opportunity to start honestly examining my life. It’s been a couple hard years of cognitive behavioral therapy, shadow work, etc but it really does make all the difference.
Did you find shadow work useful?
The Body Keeps The Score ❤
Waking the Tiger 🥰
This vid is valid. My boss was toxic. She always overwork the good employee and simply ignore the unresponsible employee free from their daily duties. She even gave the unresponsible employee's unfinished job to them. I hate this unfairness, but i cant manage to complain because this boss has anger management issue and i dont want to make a fuss in the office. I said nothing for 3 damn years and then that monday morning i couldn't get up from my bed. The back of my head spinning like crazy and my heartbeat slowed down. I was screaming for help and my husband take me to emergency unit. I even got MRI but there's nothing wrong. Finally decided to leave that toxic manager and now i never got that kind of headache again.
as a follower of Jesus Christ, this is so important to understand. we have to be able to confront these hidden roots of bitterness in order to get better & love better-to love at the capacity we were made for. thank you for this video ❤️
Better understanding of how our psychology impacts our physiology and body will be the modern medical challenge. I hope the Western medical model can adjust to this necessary perspective shift.
It has in the Netherlands atleast, I can’t speak for the rest. We have PMT - Psycho Motoric Therapy, which makes patients understand the dynamic of psychology vs the body.
Where is the research to back this up tho? Can we trust this without research?
Hormones ... they are able to penetrate any cells or organs. Western medicine mostly focused on various organ systems without looking at our body as a more complex system
My friend who like esoteric and alternative medicine told me about this relation of mental problems and body pain. Its already a thing in old chinese (or maybe japenese) medicine knowledge. I think the west consider this pseudo science, what surprise me to see this video.
@@augusto7681 to be fair, it is pseudo science if there is no scientific research backing it up. If there is research tho then it’s real science. For example, homeopathy has been shown thru research to not be effective. Is there research behind this? I get that stress hormones do have a causal relationship with illness due to inflammation, but this video seems so specific about anger in the back and fear in the stomach that I’d need to see real research to believe it
When I need some psychological assistance, I come here. Sometime I wish they can make a longer video about these topics. My ultimate psychotherapist “ The School of life”.
I've been dealing much more closely with my emotions in the past years, and my body feels great (again).
This is so true.
This is the bitter truth that I have been running from for years.
I am only 25 years old, yet my brown hair has already begun growing in uneven white patches in my beard and mustache over the last 2 years. The thinning and whitening of my beard has been spreading painfully slow, but I know it’s from the mental stress of my unspoken problems that I cannot bring myself to deal with. The trauma I faced as a child has beaten me down to the point that I do not have the courage to face myself, and the things I know I should do. I indefinitely suppress and postpone the actions I know I should take while distracting myself with school and self-gratification. I never thought I’d end up so broken and hopeless.
It is vital to raise the future generations with self-respect and confidence so that they don’t have to experience the pain and slow death of emotional suppression cultivated by the trauma that we accumulated as children.
Love your children, love others, and end the cycle.
I resonate with your comment.
Thank you for sharing that.
@@FridoGrahnify Of course. I know I’m not the only one.
what happens when awareness becomes a form of its own repression? Constant existential crises can become crippling.
it's a way of living
I’m about to turn 18 and I never realized that my issues were manifesting into real physical symptoms. When I was in elementary I faced a lot of social outcasting and exclusion (I was the only asian student) and physical/emotional abuse from my parents. I started being paranoid of everything and started seeing shadows and white figures at night, like someone’s always watching me and every move I made, intending to harm me. It was so bad I had insomnia every night 2nd-6th grade. I found friends online that were willing to listen to my issues and my problems slowly subsided after getting things off my chest. I’m still friends with them 4 years later! The hallucinations halted and only appear every now and then, and I can sleep normally now.
“If this could speak, what would it want to tell me”
I love this!! Such a simple yet eyes opening practice to be in tune with yourself💜💜
Yep, so very true and I am an example for this video - extensive health issues of the last year, as underlying problems were not addressed for a while. Our bodies is a microcosm of hormones, starts with cortisol and then it imbalances prolactin, parasympathetic nervous system, etc. It's like a domino effect. Do look after yourselves people and don't neglect those negative emotions or situations roots for those ❤
This is putting the horse before the cart. You talk about emotions and feelings as if they are some ethereal thing. Your emotions are 100% physical in every possible way. You don't feel stressed or feel happy, you ARE stressed and you ARE happy. They are physical states of the human body. There is never a point where your emotions are something less than a wholesale engagement of your entire physical self. They are responses in your body to real physical processes. Consciousness is always lagging behind the emotion, experiencing it, but never creates an emotion. When you feel something, that is just you becoming aware of the physical process that has already occurred in your body.
Beautifully said.
Lovely sounding fiction: “Consciousness….. never creates emotion”??
So conscious recognition of information someone you love has died? Remembering a time when you were afraid? When we’re dreaming and the body is inert we don’t feel sadness or fear?
I fully accept that many emotions are sub conscious or arise from physical stimulus but not exclusively. You can absolutely consciously generate emotion.
I agree somewhat, I think some emotions are more physical than others. I like to think of them as existing in their own separate space somewhere within us, and we either shine light on that space or keep it dark via the contents of our minds and lives.
"I have become, and I am becoming."
I think you got your idiom backwards there....
I work at a high volume restaurant and Ive never seen any coworkers show real emotion. At work I’m routinely on the verge of tears, panic attacks and rage outbursts but have to to hide it so customers and staff aren’t brought down. Showing emotions is a privilege.
When The Body Says No by Dr. Gabor Mate details this nicely.
What RUclips video is one that is best please?
Uploaded when I needed it the most. Whenever I try to repress my feelings my mind won't leave me alone until I've resolved my emotions. I would always feel so annoyed with myself for not being able to focus on my work whenever I felt emotional, but now I know this is an amazing mechanism, and I feel happier than ever now after listening to myself again. Thank you so much! :)
I saw an ex girlfriend from 25 years ago. My first true love. I have had many relationships since. I felt sick in my stomach and lost my appetite for a week.
Did she see you too? Or did you guys pretend not remember each other?
@@pineapple365 We said hello and some very short small talk.
Happened to me too, it's nice to know I'm not alone at that. Hope you feel better
Same here
being confronted with your past is so hard :(
I often find the videos of the school of life theoretical to a certain extent. But for those who say that this video doesn't have a practical side, I disagree. The message at the end is a direct invitation to fulfill suppressed needs for rest, departure from a relationship or a lifestyle, or liberation from certain imposed or self imposed barriers. I think that's valuable.
I spent a year getting the flu every single month, even twice a month. I had migraines every single day too. Felt heart palpitations, my hair started falling out, my body trembled, couldn't sleep... I went to many doctors trying to find an answer. Later this year, my body let me know by making me incredibly sad and unable to wake up every day. Thats when I decided to reach a psychiatrist. Turns out it was anxiety and depression I wasn't completely aware of. Along with therapy, everything's getting better. If you're going through the same thing, you're not alone ❤
i will never forget the horror of panic attacks. my doctor told me that my body is reacting to what's happening in my thoughts. i was sent to the hospital for all kinds of tests and guess what, i was totally fine. i went to therapy and im ok today. sometimes i still forget to take a break and sort my thoughts and a little bit of physical discomfort comes back to me. but then i remember i have some thoughts to unpack and that helps
I do agree that not dealing with our emotions can get trapped in our bodies; but I think this framework is a thine line to walk. Reducing ailments and disabilities to the responsibility of the individual is ableist. And there are people who are disabled in their bodies not because of any neglect of their own but because that is how their body is. This framework of “work on yourself and your body will feel better” is helpful in some circumstances-but also necessary to consider the ableist implications
I agree. But the title is about how repressed emotions can make us sick, excluding other factors. Of course sickness does not necessarily stem from suppressed emotions but other factors such as injuries, genetics, etc. I think the video is just to shed light onto one under looked factor that may lead to sickness and disease.😅
Who said disabilities???? Of course this doesn't extend to disabilities! That's a completely different ballpark! /nm
To offer a different perspective: in the part where the narrator talks about how we kind of need to help ourselves with these pains, I saw it as a presentation of an unfortunate truth. He starts with how doctors seldom ask the right questions, which is a fact, even if definitely not a good one. Of course, go to a doctor! If it IS a physical issue you'll need physical help! But if it's not, you may need to learn how to help yourself, because sadly no one else is probably going to. :(
My father passed away this past Friday at the age of 75. I have been feeling such a sense of heaviness in my body. My abdominal pain came back, I'm getting headaches, fatigued. I said my goodbyes, but for some reason, it feels that I didn't say enough to him before he passed. 💔
Sorry for you loss. It's surely a tough time for you. You can definitely work it out with time. Stay strong.
@@listsign6121 Thank you for your kind & supportive words. 💜
Maybe you are in the first steps of the very painful process of grief, which is so overwhelming and hard. I lost a close person recently and it changed me for a while. Very heavy feeling of loss. And loosing a parent is very profound - I have lost both. It’s hard to get through, but my experience is that you become a somewhat different person who can better deal with the fact that it hurts. It’s a stage of growing up and it’s good if you can get support from others who have gone through it. Take it easy when you can. Sending hugs.
@maeandbob Thank you for your kind and profound words. 💜 I appreciate that you took the time out of your morning to tell a stranger your wisdom. 😇
Take care❣️
Sorry for your loss ❤ it's hard to see someone go, more so when it's someone as close as a parent. Deep down your Dad still did know how much you loved him, even if you feel that not enough was said. It's never enough really and grief is a journey. Take care and cherish the memories of your father ❤
Hah... the ol' mind body connection, my familiar friend.
... no matter how much I acknowledge the grief of losing people I care about, still I grieve
shake hands with grief, welcome her in, for she lives with you now. pull her a chair at the table and offer her comfort. she is love. and she will walk with you now, picefully.if you let her. its form donna ashworth. grief is not gonna get away. we have to accept and live with it.
I've been diagnosed with FunctionalNeurologicalDisorder this year (was mis-diagnosed with cervical dystonia a few years ago) ... and this video makes perfect sense to me ...
My doctor told me i have high blood pressure when nope, i have decades of anxiety and OCD...started working on myself a few years ago, bp dropped, funny how that works.
how do you work on it?
Became fully sober, started jogging, began facing my fears rather than running away from them, gave up pop/soda, started meditating. I refuse to start taking pills from a doctor to make my problems magically go away.
@@zell6108 congratulations on getting there. Keep up!
i thought i found the love of my life, my literal soul mate. i can attest that after a breakup with suppressed emotions can lead to heart issues. i’m currently seeing a cardiologist for my heart, i going for an echo after having to use an mcot for 30 days.
please take care of yourself people because in the end that’s all you really have.
This was one of the key lessons I learned when becoming an NLP coach. well done for sharing this life changing secret
This was a lifesaving video, one I needed to hear. My 17yo son actually shared it with me. As a parent, wife and daughter I have much to learn. Grateful for my son that is teaching me and grateful to you for your content.
Wow this actually made me cry. I definitely need a release
This is absolutely true. I have been through all of this and ended in depression and hospitalized. They forced me, through the therapy process, to finally look into myself and face all my anxieties, fears, emotional pains and things that dwelled for decades in me. And what happened is just what is described in this video. I was in so much pain and different health issues in less than a year and all of that is almost gone in some 5 months. So I would really invite everyone to take this video very seriously and do the work as suggested in it. Thank you very much for sharing these informations ❤❤❤
This channel is a bliss , each video is a big solution put forward in simple words . Thank you Alain and team 💙
This is exactly one of the principles homoeopathy works on...we don't only ask the patient about their symptoms physically but also how it started ..the events that took place before the symptoms appeared... I'm so glad people around the world are now considering this concept
So glad to find someone who talks about how homeopathy works! My Dad is a homoeopathy practitioner for 30 years now. He shares such concepts with me all the time :D
Been in therapy and on medication for severe unremitting mental illness for twenty-five years. Never tried to repress or suppress anything emotionally, always been upfront with my feelings, but at age 41 my body is broken. I am more sick and depressed than ever before and I've decided to stop treatment. I'm tired of fighting every day for a lost cause. I'm tired of working so hard to feel like garbage anyway. I wish I hadn't wasted my entire adult life on remedies that never actually helped.
Sorry to hear that...Try to read The journey by Brandon Bray or better still get it on audible so you listen to the meditation at the end, it helped my massively. Hope it helps :)
Beautifully and simply said - simple enough for someone just coming to terms with this idea but thought provoking enough for those of us that have already began to explore it.
All I can say is that this video is spot on and it reflects my own experience. As an adult, I have this feeling of needing to keep going no matter what. It was easier in school and university to take a break and focus on mental health. Now I have a family which means I need to constantly keep an eye on other people’s happiness and I have a demanding job where I am expected to perform. My impression is that when I was younger, we would share negative feelings more commonly with friends and those friends would open up more easily to me as well, but now people just say “I’m doing fine” and these honest conversations don’t happen anymore. It is as if people think they must have it together because they are grown ups now.
This video is a major blessing for me; especially today. Thank you!!!
Thank you. You are most welcome.
I am sorry self.
I feel sorry for not speaking up early with the things I carried. My mom, I don’t know if she really cared with my mental health. I can’t remember good memories when in my childhood and I can only remember my suffering and anxiety attacks during my adolescence stage.
Yes she did comfort me with words but until now, she can’t understand me or the way I perceive things.
Sometimes, I blame her for not saying to me that what I’m feeling back then was normal because of hormonal change.
🙁😕
I have mentioned this very thing to several people. I do wish that this was common knowledge. And the endless solutions towards healing, forgiving and detaching an endless conversation.
this is absolutely vital that this goes viral and people learn about this! the medical field espically need to tap into this! i came off my anti depressants because i knew i could sort it out myself. love x
Thanks for putting these videos that everyone can relate too and wants to understand better.
Over recent years I've noticed how after an extreme bout of stress, say a few weeks of worry/anxiety and burnout i inevitably have a breakdown where i cry and let it all out, I talk about it.
The following week I get a horrendous "flu" where I'm pretty much bedridden for days.
I don't believe that this is "flu", I believe this is my body's way of detoxing and ridding itself of the bad energy that has been allowed to move.
i’m 23 and realised about all of this by myself about a year ago. So much have changed from then on and I literally wanted to d** from all that was going on through my head. Today I can’t say it was easy, but for sure worth it, since finally i’m starting to feel calmed after so many years of unconscious suffering, even though this past year has been the worst of my life for understanding all of my emotions. Don’t be scared to feel, pain can be beautiful once you faced it and realized how strong you’ve become. No dru** no doctors no therapist will help you until you start to know yourself, so stop distracting your mind and get your sh** together. It’s never too late
True!! I know someone who was aggravated because of her father, she developed tics after… there is no cure for it but only management. How devastating is the effect of anger, frustration, rage, and other emotions being felt all at once. Especially in kids
Once my boyfriend of 2 years broke up w me and straight away got in a relationship with my best friend. After this I got so I'll out of nowhere and for about a week I could not stop being sick, headaches all the time and overall just awful. I thought it was the situation that made me this way but I was never sure how. This has explained it so well thank you!
This is so insightful. I need to read that book The Body Keeps the Score because I have a feeling mine is holding a lot of stuff I need to look at and resolve.
Thank you for this video! I always knew how damaging it was when others told me to just forget and "forgive" all the things that really affected me. Even nurse told me to just forget. It was detrimental😢
This was so awakening and beautifully worded. Thank you. Really.
So many ways I have yet to show myself compassion. The journey to learning how to be/find a better friend to/in me promises to be long. Worth every step tho.
Yeah the true nature of psychosomaticization I believe is more complex than we currently comprehend, but mind is certainly embodied somatically in addition to neurologically.
After getting my heart broken by my first love, I went through years of extreme emotional agony. However, slowly but surely I was able to move on-- at least I thought I did. Instead of acknowledging my negative emotions, I started repressing them through distractions or basically gaslighting my brain into thinking, "I shouldn't be sad/angry anymore." Every situation where I sensed that I would feel something negative, my instinct was to always go flight-mode. Presently, I've subjected myself into having a calm persona, and a lot of people wonder why I rarely express emotion or why I'm emotionally distant at times. They don't know that I've ended up numbing my sense of emotional empathy which makes it extremely difficult to understand the current emotion I'm going through. A lot of people wish that they could remove the pain in their hearts, but being empty is also a very lonely and bleak experience.
yo im having this exact problem rn. after my situationship ended i felt literally nothing at all except being angry a little bit+ i didn’t have time to process it because it was summer and stuff was happening all the time
but due to several attempts from this person to come back over the course of a few months+ the emotions finally hitting, i feel like im processing the situation for too long and i tend to stop myself from thinking about it because of this thought that „my time to grieve has passed, i should move on already”. i don’t wanna make myself miserable and let myself ruminate about the situation, but i also don’t want to repress emotions and i can’t rlly grasp what to do
I talk about this a lot with my patients. This is an EXCELLENT video. I will start sharing with others.
This is become more and more evident to me. I think this is the next 50yrs of research - proving the inextricable link between mind, body, and soul.
Meegraines ? Is that really how it’s pronounced in UK?
By the way, we shouldn’t also leave people with the impression that all illnesses are the result of repressed emotions. Went through that too with doctors who wouldn’t listen to me. They didn’t know me before the pain so they blamed it on my depression instead of blaming my depression on the pain. I was filtering out a lot of pain. Women tend to do that or we wouldn’t make it month-to-month. And once they actually did surgery, I was fine for a few years until the spinal arthritis caught up with me. Yeah, none of us had perfect childhoods but some of us actually didn’t pay attention to the physical hurts we sustained and later on down the road those manifest joint damage. or maybe we were involved in an activity that did so chronically and we didn’t realize it because we had all those youthful hormones covering for us.
Yes, that is how they say it.
I'm from the UK and yes unfortunately that's how people pronounce it however it the American way as it sounds better!
THANK YOU, amen. sometimes things really are that simple. my feet don’t constantly hurt because i’m repressing some terrible inner feelings, they hurt cause i stand on a concrete floor all day 40hrs/week lmao
John Sarno and many, many others have been saying (and helping people heal) with this insight for years.
The psych is the immaterial will conscience and consciousness. The psych controls the body through the will (consciousness) and the autonomic nervous system through the conscience. When the will acts contrary to the conscience, adrenaline and over a period of time shuts down the circulation in various organs producing pain and excessive cortisone weakens muscles and the immune system and alters sugar balance amongst other things.
I didn't search this up nor has my watched videos ever been related to this... but this is exactly what I needed..
That's why therapists are needed there has to be an awareness spread for this everywhere in the world
The unprocessed emotions get stuck in the body (lymphatic system). After all, emotions create chemical reactions (micro expressions). Anger is stored in the jaw and liver, sadness in the diaphragm, etc. And can be released.
Repressed emotions make us sick because it's internalized. The more we bottle up everything, the more contents get spilled out of it. An open wound with blood dripping out of it.
Videos like this always make me cry cause how relatable they are 😞
My parents are sick from avoiding meaningful discussion, conflict resolution. And refuse to take personal responsibility for their actions. Years of disrespect and neglect have taken a toll on their health and wellbeing.
I think this picks up on a really common trait of doctors in that they’re often completely emotionally unavailable.
Beings of pure logic and intelligence fixing visible problems only, therefore your unexplained pain is dismissed.
However, I have found psychiatrists can detect more hidden issues by thinking to ask about the patient’s home life and stressors.
Doctors just have good memories to repeat what they have been told at universities. For the most part they can't think for themselves, as seen with the Convid scam.
If you're ever feeling overwhelmed by emotions, try focusing on the different pieces that led to 'one' emotion. For example, Anxiety is often the culmination of worry, nervousness and fear of the future. Anger is usually bottled up frustration, annoyance and passive-agression.
This way, you can better understand where exactly these feelings are coming from, and when you realise the root of the problem, well, it's simpler to focus on solutions rather than finding yourself in a mix of unspoken things. Plus, it always helps to talk about it.
@@SeemaGupta-yk1br if it makes you feel guilty, it has little to do with you. The person you’re talking to simply doesn’t hold the emotional space needed for your conversations. Maybe try speaking about it with someone you’re more comfortable with.
If you still feel guilty about it, then look back to all the times during your childhood where you felt denied.
Maybe consider exploring this through therapy?
@@SeemaGupta-yk1br No problem! Good luck.
This couldn't be more true. I'm a chi nei tsang practitioner, and the emotions held in the gut are immense. They are so impactful on peoples mental and physical health. We have to do so much more to help ourselves overcome the trauma and emotion stored there even after we think "we're past it".
Watching this just getting over a migraine but still feeling generally unwell. Started crying 10 seconds in out of nowhere when i thought I was otherwise fine a few moments before. Crazy.
Immune system went down. Got severely sick.
Be better soon.
Still the video doesn't explain the biological process that takes place when a feeling makes us sick...
That wasn’t the point 😅
@@karlapaz7172 when a video is titled "how repressed emotions make us sick", I expect it to explain how.
@michaelvandeborne9382 me too. I'm doing research on this, that's why I'm here 😅
Once I find out more I'll link it here for you
You can look up the book "When the body says no", i think it might have a good answer to what you're looking for.
@kimhanoistudio Oh, ok! Will look it up right now. Thank you for adding to my research! Will metion you on the "Agradecimentos" (Thanks/acknowledgments in portugueses)
As soon as my mom died I felt extremely stressed and lost. I ended up getting facial paralysis. This video is so true and how our emotions affect the body isn’t studied enough.
Definitely would have loved to see this video when I was 14. I'm glad such videos exist now. It's great to hear that from time to time
amazing video
So poetic and giving much needed answers
Alain, I so needed this. How can I thank you enough for your eloquence and insight?
This is why getting sober from pot is so difficult for me too many repressed emotions
@@jonnyguitar747 12 step groups aren't my thing I've got a different support group that works on things like meditation and self awareness not the victim mentality to the substance.
The main two things I got from 12 step, which I found to be good for me at the time, were the concept of day at a time - saved me a lot - and learning to accept things the way they are and not trying to change things you can’t. The religious side of the program was not a good fit for me, but in my experience it was not forced on me.
@@mapleext agreed that and that it’s a fight I can’t take for granted any day is key difference between those that struggle and succeed.
Any good book recommendation regarding the relation between our emotional problems and our body symptoms?
John Sarno dedicated his life to the subject. He wrote several books about it 🙂
Read - The Body Keeps the Score - it’s a lot about PTSD but it is also about how the whole system is tied together and the body is not separate from mind. And strategies that you can use to understand all of this better.
Look up TMS books, it's essentially what's being talked about here. The Way Out by Alan Gordon, The Great Pain Deception by Steve Ozanich, The Mindbody Prescription by Dr John Sarno. It's pretty much all derivative of Sarno's work and research, but it's absolutely life changing if you're struggling
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I too felt it often why my thoughts are coming down from my mental health to my physical health.So true. I expect a video with some more better solution of this.
This is very true I been like 2 years disabled for this stuff in plenty parts of my body, still dealing with it today, wish me luck ya all.
While I think this is a powerful idea that has a lot of truth to it, I think it’s important to remember that having pain and being ill is usually to an extent just bad luck. If you take this too literally I’m worried that some people will blame themselves (or others) for being ill, because they have ignored emotional issues that are the ‘real’ cause of the problem. Doctors might not have all the answers, but they can often still help you. Also I think that often you cannot say if a problem is in your mind or in the body, because the two cannot be separated.
There are different types of illnesses, colds vs. neurological disorders