Why do we love? A philosophical inquiry - Skye C. Cleary
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- Опубликовано: 4 июн 2024
- Does romantic love have a purpose? Explore five intriguing philosophical perspectives on why we love.
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Ah, romantic love; beautiful and intoxicating, heart-breaking and soul-crushing... often all at the same time! If romantic love has a purpose, neither science nor psychology has discovered it yet - but over the course of history, some of our most respected philosophers have put forward some intriguing theories. Skye C. Cleary outlines five of these philosophical perspectives on why we love.
Lesson by Skye C. Cleary, animation by Avi Ofer.
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"love is the power you give someone to destroy you but trusting them not to"
Love is a form stronger then metal,
Yet softer then Cotton.
Love is sweeter then Honey,
Yet sour like lemon.
🎶Maybe there’s a God above but all I ever learned from love is how to shoot at someone who out drew you🎶 from Hallelujah by Leonard Cohen
Well said
I think that's mummification
True
All the singles out there ...give a high five..🖐️
(Wait what 8.6K likes, damn!!)
I'm here🖐
Take 5
Take hi 20 🙌👣
Yeah here✋✋
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Huge respect for the animators team of ted! You are great guys!
Vo to thik h....mgr tukk to ni bna kuch video k 😂😂😂😂
That's what distracts us from the speaker.
“To love without condition, to talk without intention, to give without reason, care without expectation, that's the spirit of true love.”
- Shri Krishna
It is impossible to love without condition
Then it is impossible to Love for ya : )
Has any mother loved her child for condition ? : )
Has any child loved her mother under any condition : )
Have you heard the tale of Radha-Krishna love story ? : )
There are so many examples n evidence of unconditional love...
@@nitishsharma7545 Nah, I don't think so.
The mother loves her kid because it is "her kid" .(human babies are very dependent on mothers, so it could be a trick of the nature, for the survival of the baby)
If you weren't your mother's kid she won't be loving you, so of course there's a reason why mother loves her child and vice versa.
In that way I think there really isn't any selfless acts, we always do something hoping for something greater. We love hoping to get love back or simply because loving a particular person or thing makes us happy, so you see, all of it really is selfish.
We help people because helping people make us happy, we do things for ourselves, we try to make ourselves happy.
@@karthikaanilkumara1423 see there are mothers too who even kill her child by her own , just like if u have seen a recent case of bangluru women...on the other hand there are step moms and and there are so many relations in which one love other regardless of their Blood relation...
I personally do have a lots of love for kids regardless of they are my own blood line or not...
It's all depends on how ur heart is filled, if it is filled with generousity and kindness (basically vinamrta) u heart n soul is open for love regardless of selfishness : )
Aage bhai tumhara perspective : )
But as far as I know this world such type of TRUE LOVE do exist ...
@Keshav Agarwal The love we are talking about in this video is between couples not parents and children.
“Love tricks us into having babies”.... guess my parents got tricked.
ImJustA Human same with their parents I guess
Don’t think of like that
But how do u explain couples that don't wanna have babies ;-;
Yeah mine too
That's very chemistry biology outlook.
Nothing spiritual enlightenment about that kinda love.
If u have all luxurious stuff unlimited good food clothes shelter cars video games gold Diamonds rubies etc to last next 10 generations without moving an inch from ur recliner.
Will u go out to discover gravity or moon or mars? Unless u r bored with the money.
Got obesity& diabetes, from eating non-stop or something
Do you really have time to ask what's the purpose of the life?
Unless u got too much free time on ur hands.
Pain & Suffering are cut & clarity to diamond in rough that we are.
Does one need love to be "happy"?
Or
Simply self-realisation & acceptance
There are Asexual people out there.
Do they not need love & friendship or are they buddha on way to nirvana?
It's a deep question can be debated over thousands of books & philosophies across time.
This comment section is too small to debate here
Why do we feel affection for unhuman things, or even fictional characters??
+Ric Lew
yeah also as in anime characters and the like
I don't know if you would call it affection exactly :P
Sworn to Secrecy
Well, english isnt my first language, but it seems like a reasonably appropriate word :{
Empathy. We impose our consciousness on other people and things and think of what it feels like from their perspective. We then empathize with them and feel feelings.
because all humans have a character? so even if the character never was in real life, he or she FEELS like someone who existed. All humans we meet have characters.
I agree with the last idea.... friendship is much more important than anything else 🌼
I agree :) friendship
friendship isn't love - it's capitalizing on someone else
Nope, family is more important....well that's my opinion of course
being aromantic made this video and some of the pilosophies feel quite weird and actually painful to hear. Especially the "love makes us whole" thing. So I absolutely agree: Friendship is the key!!
@@annanas.arts1404 I don't believe love makes us whole though - love isn't food. It's food that makes someone whole - it encompasses their body. Love is a concept, like money. It's like saying money makes you whole. It doesn't.
Well love isn't only about just kissing, hugging and emotional attachment! There are so many love languages, you just don't love a person, you can love a place, memory, the way your dog licked you lovingly, the smile after you get you see your family, a flashback when you see your long lost friend, the sense of peace when you're out in nature, a warmth feeling when someone really makes sense to you, a sunny feeling, hiding in the shadow of your mother when you're afraid, reading a phenomenal book, seeing a beautiful sky with someone or even just staring at the moon! Everything is Love, love is everything.
Your incredible comment made my day. Well said! :)
@@sharmisharmila2945 I'm so glad I could make an effort to make somebody's day:) , I hope you smile today x
@@asr4405 thank you :) Wish you the same too!
Great explaination :)
Wow!
Plato: love makes us whole, again
Schopenhauer: love tricks us into having babies
Russel: love is escape from our loneliness
Buddha: love is a misleading affliction
de Beauvoir: love lets us reach beyond ourselves
Detached Laconian I like the last one. We may even care about that person more than ourselves. A way to be less selfish and to share lives
Love is must,love isn't lust.
Cool
All of them are so realistic.
Tag yourself. I'm Schopenhauer 🙆♀️
"Loving authentically is more like a great friendship, lovers support each other in discovering themselves, reaching ahead of themselves and enriching their lives and the world, together!!"
Happy aroace noises
I agree👏👏
I think Beauvoir was a genius in thinking about it, for me it was clearly the best answer :)
BUT why why do i need to love someone or why do i love someone ?????
we'll find out
The animation in every videos requires an Oscar.
Well, I mean...
*mumbles something about bigger perspective and actual Academy Award categories*
As a buddhist, I was never taught THAT but THIS.
True love is never supposed to bring suffering. It's against the very nature but ATTACHMENT, oh boy! It definitely does. These are ,from the surface, looks the same but in reality, they are absolutely opposite. One is the cause of suffering and other is the eternal happiness.
Define true love
There is a small part what the Buddha said. Then it gives wrong meaning. According to my knowledge of Buddhism love also a bond in mind (not a physical).bonds gives us a suffering. Therefore you have to omit in mind all things not to suffering (not physically).As an example you imagine lose your wear which you more like and wear which you don’t want. Then you more suffer about wear which you more like than other wear, Because Bond between you and wear which you more like wear is bigger than other one. All things are changing every year every minute even every second. (But most things we cannot sense in second, but we can sense it in year most probably).That’s the reality. Then surely we have to suffer, if we have a bond in mind.as an example 50 years later our face is being old. We suffer about it, if we have a bond in mind for it (If you have not omitted bonds at that moment, otherwise not). Nirwana awabodha (video say it enlignment. awabodha is like a understanding) is the maximum happiness in every moment. Simply if we destroy our bonds in mind (not physically), we never suffer for anything. They understood reality. But he said though you don’t love, you do maître. It’s also like a love, but haven’t any bond in mind. However person who got nirwana awabodha, do not hate anyone any things. (They have no bonds, they have no to get anything, they understood (not knew) all things are changing, they understood reality) (Reality is another subject. I will simply explain it. We sense the world by mainly six organs-eyes, nose…when we look a guy, we cannot see his skeleton. But x ray machine can do it. We only sense the world by six main organs. We cannot sense infrared also. Then if we don’t get nirwana awabodha, we cannot understand reality).mostly I may not be able to give right idea that what I need to give, specially right words I want to give my idea may not be put and I cannot tell more, Though I want tell. Cause I do not know English very well. I also know very very small things about Buddhism. (Actually it’s not a religion. religion also a bond).sometimes It might be wrong, because I do not get nirwana awabodha. Then study and practice it. And I wish u all to get nirwana awabodha and spend the life without suffering. Thank you.
What if I met someone I really loved and I was really happy and then I was the one who messed up and lost that person. How am I supposed to get over the pain? Why am I feeling pain? Why does everything feel different now that they're gone? It's like loosing a huge peice of myself. I don't feel just attached I feel nothing but love
@@LiLiotL uh.. I have a general approach which anyone can adopt which is to meditate, journaling and stuff like that. See meditation calms you down and has mannnyyy... benefits. Meditation teaches us not to get carried away with our thoughts. You might be reminiscing about the pleasant moments you've had with the person. I even used to do so coz it is so entertaining. But that's what the cause of your pain. The more you think of that person, more you'll fall into the trap. Meditation will give you a new direction. It will teach you to let go of your thoughts nd live the present moment. And you can practice journaling. In this, you have to write down your thoughts on a piece of paper. Journaling has the power to stop away your thoughts. Just dump your emotions into a paper and that'll lessen your reaction to the thought significantly and you'll feel better. For meditation I'll recommend you the medito app.
That actually makes a whole lot of sense
Me trying to find an excuse not to confess to my crush.
Idil Ahmed you can do it, if you still like them
cmon do it!
@@thecowknownaspablo735 alot of thinking before doing the confession, do i really like her, do i the best for her? do i really can make her happy? will her be happy with me? why me? why her? why this life? what about someone else? is there any excuse? is this true love? do we know what would happen if she say yes? lol alot alot of question
do it. its better to regret something you did than regret something you didn’t do
If you don't do it you'll regret it
If you do it you'll have hindsight
Love is your brain's addiction to the positive chemicals another person causes your brain to make. Relationships get closer and closer the more you trust someone, and someone you love is someone you trust the most, someone who knows your weaknesses but chooses not to hurt you with them. That develops a deep form of trust which in turn gives your brain positive chemicals that it becomes addicted to, making you want to be around that person all the time, and increase the chance of survival of both parties, and their offspring. Love is evolutionarily advantageous.
Perfect 👌👌👌
And if you're breaking up, it feels like a cold withdrawel (sorry if I'm not describing it right, english isn't my first language, i mean an addict who is suddenly of his/her drugs) the chemical reaction is the same like an addict
Have fun with that information 😊
Amy C. Well said.
perfect!
Even if that's true, it's kinda boring. We love people who are dead. Where's my evolutionary advantage in that? It couldn't be the only reason for Love.
Simone's idea makes a lot of sense. I feel most people, once they get into their first committed relationships forget their purpose and their goals in life and center all their attention on their partner, making it all the more painful when a break up occurs
the first person that can love you is literally yourself.
I dont know how people love themselves. Like why and how?
i dont love myself, but i adore that guy in my mirror, oh so handsome.
@@jesusvera7941 that is also love
Or maybe it's literally your parents?
@@shawarmageddonit not all people have a loving and caring parents tho.. but if ur parents love u then yes, love them more cause they deserves it :)
What is love?
Baby don't hurt me
Don't hurt me
No more
That's what love is, yall
Northern Deer You are my favorite person.
Ina/이나 YAY!
Northern Deer lool 😂
I thought in this song at the same time I've seen this video as well
haha I remember the song XD ok bye because I have only 1% of battery lol goodnight
Love, but don't fall in love ,
Most things that fall break.
Isn't loving someone and falling in love with someone the same thing?
Ok that was pretty clever
It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. In my opinion you should always take that leap to fall in love (although try and do it with a good person who will treat you right etc) because even if it ends in pain that means you lived life more vividly and you had that unique human experience. There is value in feeling pain too. Also, there’s a good chance you will feel amazing too. Idk, it’s hard for me to completely explain what I’m trying to say but my point is that I would much rather feel everything in life than nothing (which on a separate note is an affliction I actually really do have as I have BPD- borderline, not bipolar- and as a result feel every emotion 5000x more intensely than normal people-and still I would rather feel it all than nothing). Our lives are so short, why not take risks. Like yes, take calculated risks, but I think it’s crazy to never fall in love (although the way you and I are defining love might be different because my definition of love is caring deeply about someone and being in love = romantic love)
@@Qwerty-jc3so Not entirely, for example you love your mother but you have not fallen in love with her isn't it?
@@openup8886 ohh got it
I've never fallen in love yet but
"The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved; loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves."
-Victor Hugo
I think I agree with Russel that love is there to help us escape in our loneliness because us, human, seek connection
This is probably the cutest ted-ed video ever made
Yes
Right!!!
This is not "love" not even "true love", this is "unhealthy attachment". If you need someone to feel complete, for fear of feeling and being alone, to not feel depressed and to make you happy, then you would never find it this way. You need to look within yourself and seek healing from your past, your hurt, your pain and your loss and for the first time, discover the love of self. It's okay, you are already complete, you are already loved, you are already enough and true happiness is found within. Only then you are ready to experience "true love" where someone ADDS to these things which you already have and not provide the things you think you lack (attachment).
In the end, should your lover choose to leave, you won't feel incomplete, you won't feel unloved and you won't fall apart because before you met them you were already complete, you were already loved and happy from the very start. True love conquers all.
Thank you for sharing! Personally I've experienced something similar and I see I'm ready.
@@hasanathasan4651 you're welcome and all the best
That was the best comment in this section
_I feel personally attacked-_
Can you plz send me your sapp number
0:00 - intro
(that animation at the beginning is just very lovely and funny ❤)
0:46 - love makes us whole, again | plato (427-347 BCE)
1:31 - love tricks us into having babies | schopenhauer (1788-1880)
(very pessimistic view and yeah, seems he really does need a hug 😂 2:11)
2:13 - love is an escape from our loneliness | russell (1872-1970)
2:53 - love is a misleading affliction | buddha (~6th-2th century BCE)
4:20 - love let's us reach beyond ourselves | beauvoir (1908-1986)
(this was too wholesome ❤)
5:13 - end
(that end was really meaningful and heartfelt, it almost made me cry)
beautiful animation (as always) and music. i really appreciate the inclusivity in the animation ❤
thank youu
Yo, thanks
very well structured comment
There is a small part what the Buddha said. Then it gives wrong meaning. According to my knowledge of Buddhism love also a bond in mind (not a physical).bonds gives us a suffering. Therefore you have to omit in mind all things not to suffering (not physically).As an example you imagine lose your wear which you more like and wear which you don’t want. Then you more suffer about wear which you more like than other wear, Because Bond between you and wear which you more like wear is bigger than other one. All things are changing every year every minute even every second. (But most things we cannot sense in second, but we can sense it in year most probably).That’s the reality. Then surely we have to suffer, if we have a bond in mind.as an example 50 years later our face is being old. We suffer about it, if we have a bond in mind for it (If you have not omitted bonds at that moment, otherwise not). Nirwana awabodha (video say it enlignment. awabodha is like a understanding) is the maximum happiness in every moment. Simply if we destroy our bonds in mind (not physically), we never suffer for anything. They understood reality. But he said though you don’t love, you do maître. It’s also like a love, but haven’t any bond in mind. However person who got nirwana awabodha, do not hate anyone any things. (They have no bonds, they have no to get anything, they understood (not knew) all things are changing, they understood reality) (Reality is another subject. I will simply explain it. We sense the world by mainly six organs-eyes, nose…when we look a guy, we cannot see his skeleton. But x ray machine can do it. We only sense the world by six main organs. We cannot sense infrared also. Then if we don’t get nirwana awabodha, we cannot understand reality).mostly I may not be able to give right idea that what I need to give, specially right words I want to give my idea may not be put and I cannot tell more, Though I want tell. Cause I do not know English very well. I also know very very small things about Buddhism. (Actually it’s not a religion. religion also a bond).sometimes It might be wrong, because I do not get nirwana awabodha. Then study and practice it. And I wish u all to get nirwana awabodha and spend the life without suffering. Thank you.
5:00 exactly what I want in life. I'm thinking I'm aromantic for a while too but not sure (never had a crush or whatsoever) . A true best friend/soulmate seems to be the best person to have.
I've thought about love often. There are many different types of love we feel, so there is not one definition of it. However, I like to think that you love someone when you desire someone's happiness even more than your own.
I read somewhere that true love is an act of submission, to let go of your self which would be an otherworldly experience with someone who feels the same, but is an incredibly risky endeavour with chances of losing touch with yourself and suffering in pain. In a way, Love is an adventure, and there's no adventure without uncertainty.
Having experienced both its emotional high and lows, I'm slightly intimidated, but always in awe at its power.
I think we shouldn't leave out love for our selves. Like everyone we love, we ourselves need to be loved, respected and cared for. Please look after yourself, take care of your body and mind and treat it with the love it deserves.
love this comment!
Love has an only meaning, is when you feel fine with your life, don't want anything, your feelings are more intense, like sadness for someone, wars, injustices, suffer, but at the same time you are more stronger to keep going. You act with kindess but not for wanting some reward, you do good things without thinking you're doing them, it's something that emerges naturally. You accept everyonen as they are, animals, plants and humans. You feel the world and you as one.
Beautifully penned. Thank you for this comment :)
Well said❤️
Love is samarpan....
perhaps love... is like a resting place, a shelter from the storm...
Ander Scorpio Love is like other contracts which you shouldn't break unspoken rules otherwise you couldn't keep it anymore.Love is never pure like anyone thought.
Ander Scorpio or maybe it is the storm
It exists to give you comfort. It is there to keep you warm.
Ander Scorpio or perhaps it is the storm.. Depends how you look at it.
Nah...Love is A Cancer that will make u lose ur mind
Love is really confusing. Some people fall in love easily but then there are also people that don’t fall in love at all or only very rarely. Maybe it depends on our personal life. If someone feels lonely or sees no point in life they fall in love more quickly. If someone’s already happy and has a lot of people that care about them, they might not see a reason for having another person that cares about them. Or maybe it depends on our feelings and their sensitivity. If someone’s very emotional they might fall in love more quickly than a person that is less emotional. Maybe Plato is right and we feel whole when we‘re in love. Maybe Schopenhauer is right and love tricks us into having baby’s. The other theories could be the truth of love as well. Love has so many meanings and reasons, it doesn’t make sense. Love is something good but also something awful. Yet we fall in love. Maybe it’s nature.
Yeah is true have not fall in love or have a crush since 5 years now
Very wise
@@K__kelly me too&i felt strange😂
🎉🎉🎉🎉
I think love is a compliment. You don't need it to be happy, and some don't like them, but if it works out for you, they can make you extremely happy and can stick with you forever.
1:10 So that's where that whole "you're my other half" thing came from, I always wondered where that started I guess it started with Plato
Bryan Lugo same🙌
what do the birds know about wind, what do the fish know about water, and what do human know about love...
love is an evolved responce to promote grouping of people for survival. humans are social creatures and desire acceptance and affection. Social creatures have this evolutionary advantage of numbers. We are naturally drawn to others and desire acceptance and affection because they are biological and social signs of safty. If you are accepted into a group the likelihood of that group being attacked and the likelihood that you are the one eaten are both dropped. Having the affection between group members makes the group more likely to fight together rather than leaving the group member to die. There are clear evolutionary advantages to love. love as we know it today being between romantic lovers developed much later, but as social creatures it makes sence that we continue to search for intimacy with others (especially the opposite gender for reproductive advantages). in the harsh structure of todays society many people do not have their social needs met and suffer from chronic loneliness that leads to pathological problems. many seek to remedy that by searching for romantic partners to fill up on our recommended amout of love. finding a partner would theoretically provide a more permanent source of affection and acceptance that we desire and need to feel safe and happy. love is a evolutionarily developed chemical reaction to promote the safty of the human experiencing it, nothing more.
Dara Bounds
what happens if I love my pencils?
zhonlino they are a useful tool. Great for stabing out the eyes of a tiger. You will survive if you bring your beloved pensils.
Dara Bounds sound romantics hahahaha
thanks for the answer btw hahaha
zhonlino lol nothin is as romantic than almost dying and using your beloved to kill an animal
Agree with last idea. Love lets us explore certain parts of ourselves that we would not know without. Loving a hobby or a favorite food is not the same as loving your romantic partner. Love makes us feel connected. I don’t think love is just to procreate or supposed to make us whole or is going to lead to suffering. A lot of couples love without having kids. You’re supposed to feel whole and happy before you’re in a relationship. Healthy love isn’t going to make you suffer unless you lose that person, but think about if you both live to old age together, then that’s not the issue. Love makes us do things we don’t usually do.
"Thought we might never know why we fall in love, we can be certain that it will be an emotional rollercoaster ride. It's scary and exhilarating. It makes us suffer and makes us soar. May be we lose ourselves, may be we find ourselves. It might be heartbreaking or it might just be the best thing in life..."
With me, love is all of them!
"Love is messy and horrible and selfish ...and bold." -Ellie Chu
great movie
Wtt
Doesn't make any sense and why yeah love is messed up and all but without it we can't respect or have affection with other people you meet and greet
@@jbarral6509 watch the movie "the half of it." the quote is from there. You need the context for it.
Selfishness and love are exact opposite of each other.
If there's Selfishness, there can't be love.
And if there's love, there's no place for Selfishness.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Amazing
Hardly.. That's just wishful thinking..or a non romantic kind of love..
scrawny2brawny: What's your occupation? I think you are a writer.
scrawny2brawny I've a strong feeling I've read the Urdu translation of this poem some days ago.
please tell me who's the poet. you or someone else
Afia Imtiaz I think this is not a poem. where are you from?
To anyone who reads this:
There is no limit for your dreams and your happiness.Just don't let yourself down and Always be a fan of yours.
Uplift your energy level,whether or not everything is all right.
make time for your mental health and bring peace to your seconds.
You are the one who can do anything you imagine💪🏼Keep it up and remember how amazing you are❤
I love the quote that goes like this -
"Loving someone deeply gives you courage while being loved by someone gives you strength" ❤❤❤
Provided you know the difference! ✨
"Loving someone give you courage while being loved by someone hives you strength"
"They say that the world was built for two, only worth living if somebody is loving you."
- Lana Del Rey
"You make me feel special" God Jihyo (TWICE), 2019.
That song is my fav
@@choutzuyu8915 yesss goddess Jihyoo
Wish it was true.
That makes life worse
Schopenhauer, are you ok buddy? wanna talk about your feelings?
That's why he became a philosopher lol to talk all about his feelings
Nah, that's just that brutally cold German logic for you. He's right too, btw. When the same states of affection are observed in other animals we conclude it's an evolutionary trait. We humans like to lie to ourselves when it comes to discussing our own emotions, as if they aren't also a production of natural selection.
I swear he makes me sad. All the ideas I've read from him were very depressing. I wonder if he was depressed himself, perhaps?
The truth is unacceptable
Isn't
@@rachelledjordjevic there's a reason hes called a Pessimist..
Love is not only a feeling or passion we have towards a other human or a hobby. Love is what holds us together, as an individual, a community and humanity. It connects us unconsciously with every stranger, friend, animal, all living being we meet, even if we only walk on by not consciously noticing each other. Some people feel this love stronger than others, which comes from the ego, the ego which covers the love what is living inside of us, which misleads a person of demonstrating false wishes or sense of life and self. The ego is build out of lies, protecting a person of hurtful memories and his past, burying the self somewhere we can only discover again by allowing to look in ourselves why we are so unhappy and in what way our ego leads us to things (patterns of relationships, distructive behavior...) that we actually don't really want to do to us. We have to trust our core, the love we all(!!!) have deep inside of us, that it never intends us to hurt us but to help us going through the painful things, so we can learn from them, making our ego smaller and the trust to ourselves stronger. Love shows us who we really are. Love goes beyond death. We are all part of this love, this energy. We love because it destroys the illusions we live in and gives us the chance to let us live our true selfs and making other people alert of their ego, so they become also more of their true selfs. Thats the purpose of a relationship, because the more you and your partner are getting more yourself, the better you get to know love itself and are able to love even more.
When I was younger, the first philosophy inspired my crushes in a weird way. I used to look for people similar to me in many ways-- height, intrests, athletic ability-- because I wanted to be sure we could conjoin easier. Now, I realise the last philosophy is more realistic. No one will be able to complete you, that's why love is companionship.
I think we care about being loved more than loving someone else because it makes us feel important.
Or finding the right person and not working to be the right person
u both are true that's why keep my imagination to myself.
Yesss this is my favourite animator on this channel
yes !! hes awesome
I agree! :")
+Jellymoon who is the animator?
+Madeline Brigit Avi Ofer, it says it in the description.
+Sung Frost SPAMMER
I think Love is simply a feeling, no different from happiness, sadness, etc.
What we long for is relationships, a connection. And from that, we can feel love.
Separating love as a feeling to a relationship makes things much more clearer.
Just love the chorus
"Loving you is a losing game"
And then I focused on things that were worthy to be focused 😄😄
1. Love makes us whole again. - Plato
2. Love tricks us into having babies. - Schopenhauer
3. Love is an escape from our loneliness. - Russell
4. Love is a misleading affliction. - Buddha
5. Love lets us reach beyond ourselves. - Beauvoir
Buddist Philosophy is correct
I'll go with buddha!
All of the above because I can't choose one of them
Buddha is most hurtful one, i guess that means the right one
Your work is appreciated!! ✨✨
This is my girlfriend's observation - "They each hold the theory that there is only one reason for love. Each person thinks they're right with their understandings.
They should look at it from a different perspective. Because there isn't just one type of love. Or rather not one type of romantic love. Therefore there is no specific reason for love, as each one holds a different meaning and reasoning for that romantic love.
1. There is infatuation. An unrealistic love. Where one imagines their life with another being, and they value that ones life too highly. It's a short lived love.
2. There's love for affection. Whether it be physical affection or emotional affection. It's the most common form of love in society. Where one craves something from another being to satisfy their true desire for life which they currently lack in life. Such as sex, romance, friendship, a family, trust, etc.
Loves like those are very common. Which usually end in false hope or separation. As what they were seeking had been fulfilled, yet there was nothing else holding them together besides the things they wanted from each other. They should have looked at the person for who they were, instead of what they desired from them.
3. Then there's true love. A love for another beings self. Where one has grown attached to a person that interest them in a way no one has before. It's doesn't necessarily have to be a relationship love. Which would be a love to be with someone, (love for affection). Rather you just love the person for being who they are, and what they bring to the world. You want them to be happy in life. You seek no gain from them, but rather want them to excel in life and their dreams. You look at the way they treat people, their life goals, and how they see the world through their eyes.
Of course true love can lead to a relationship. Nothing is needed from the relationship or sought out. It's love for knowing this person exists in your life and that you're sharing it with them, together.
To sum it up; True love is when you love somebody for who they are and what they bring to the world, not for how they make you feel.
These are the three most likely types of loves. There are others in between these types. Of course with each of these it doesn't have to be for both partners or non-partners. For example one could feel infatuation, while one feels love for affection.
They weren't all talking about the same type of love in the video. Rather different loves, and the reasonings for those types of loves. Though they made it seem like they were all arguing on one specific love. Which is why in my belief they were all right and wrong with their findings." - isn't she smart and wise?
+Vinay Krishna -- this is great and exactly my sentiments. The interesting thing is when you end up with all three types of love with one person. The journey from #1 to #3 is intoxicating.
That mature kind of love is the best kind of love there is. Something I truly cherish.
Funny, I had a relationship that was like exactly like 3. but it still didn't end up well.
Vinay Krishna your girlfriend's thought is so accurate
Found this very helpful, really close to how I observe love.
Marry your girlfriend
Plato's theory is perfect and explains the nostalgic feeling of missing someone but not knowing who
Can we appreciate just how perfect the animation of this video is. So wholesome :')
None of these define love. I guess love is really a mystery.
the love itself is a ancient thing. nobody knows nowaday
I meditated for 2 h and ended up in crying seeing my child born, my eternalized flesh, and the person I decided to eternilize with.
As a wise man once said " We know little about love. Love is like a pear. A pear is sweet an has a shape. Try to define a pear's shape.
Love is a series of biochemical reactions taking place in the brain, we know this for a fact and pretending it is anything more or less than that is foolish
i like simone’s definition
C.S. Lewis reflected on all these perspectives in his Four Loves, including this reversal of the common naturalist explanation:
"Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art.... It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival."
Wow love this
Friendship is necessary, ask some gangs for example.
I'm glad with this TED content, love it. The music, illustration, information... anyone can see how much time and work should've take. Thank you so much ❤️
Love is not a feeling that we can understand or know the truth of, we just enjoy feeling it
A curious game; the only winning move is not to play.
ticuti0302 When has the loveless person ever been the winner
Games are not about winning.
@@steampunkastronaut7081 ; But in the end, someone or something always does lol
@@maxonite Bro some of the greatest physicists and philosophers were massive virgins and they're gonna be remembered for a lot longer than you will after you're dead
@@konan8353 I would rather be loved and forgotten than unloved and remembered
I've never been in a relationship before but love seems very magical! I'm currently crushing on someone, let's hope that works out well
Its been a year bro I need answers
Awwww you’re so sweet my heart swells ❤️
@@ahmadnawaz2001 yes . Wait what happened to him?
it's been 2 years bruh! tell us!
Did it work out😂😂😂, the world needs to know !
This is one of the best advice you can ever have........ Love a person, but never ever get attached
Is it all we need? Do we need at all?
This line is just amazing
00:28 why are the sperms kissing? This confuses me.
😂
+AJ Mira-ato Huh, guess it doesn't really work that way..
and then there's 4. They need to procreate too - greater numbers - greater probability that one successfully makes that 'arduous journey'...
brotherly love?
I think they're gay m8
love is the worst feeling i've ever experienced.
explain that pls
+Richtiger Kevi, Falscher Kevin hahaha
but it is also the best
+Steven Eddings Love is the best feeling you've ever experienced. It's betrayal, or loneliness, or lamentations that were the worst.
Bad day?
I watched this video together with my boyfriend months ago and we recently broke up. I don’t know how to start living again now that he’s gone, I can never move on from him and I hate myself because my heart and mind tells me that it’s either him or I stay single forever. I love you so much, Syd and I’ll be waiting for u even if it takes me a lifetime
"love reach us beyond ourselves" I will agree with this.. I mean that's why most relationship fail because the other person doesn't make you much less of a better version of you.. some ended up on wrong people that can be toxic to them without noticing.. cause if love fails and desires are gone what is left is friendship.. without being friends and when love and desire was gone the tendency is there will be conflict between two parties. that's why most relationship ended in shambles .
we love when we feel lonely, when we love we feel lonely at the end
True.
But love is not suppose to be like that.
People want to have someone nowadays that's all.They feel lonely and they think that they will get rid of this loneliness by having someone which is false.They want someone to fit into that empty hole and they tried and tried countless of time to fit someone in it and eventually fail.The thing is that they want don't love to love but to get rid of their loneliness.So yeah of course they will feel lonely.The reason why people feel lonely is that they don't think of themselves as interesting or lovable so when they engaged in a new relationship they will find themselves interesting in someone's else eyes but then as time goes by this interest will decrease..not because this person don't find them interesting anymore but they,themselves start to think like this again.That's why people said in order to love you should love yourself first.Befriend yourself first.Your greatest enemy and friend will always be yourself.
Some of these reasons are very valid but I disagree with a number. Call me naive but I believe love exists not to fulfill our own needs or wants but to empower each other. I think that love is a very selfless act, when you truly love someone you love them for who they are, not for what they do for you. For example, I feel that if you love someone because they love you, because they're kind to you, that's more of you trying to preserve yourself isn't it? Or trying to escape loneliness? Of course there's nothing wrong with it, it's perfectly fine to love oneself.
But if two individuals truly love each other, and try to empower each other, I think that it would be amazing. Not just romantically, but in terms of friendship and family, or love for an object, or interest is fine too. Love is when you devote yourself to others, I don't think it should be about self. And I don't think it's very logical as well (heck I don't think love is meant to be logical), how or why we love etc but that's what makes it interesting ;) Humans are made flawed and different. On our own we are weak but when we have others we love, and we love each other, we are stronger. We can compensate for what each other lacks, and when we devote ourselves to something other than us is when we see more of the world's beauty and the things that are larger in life, instead of always focusing on ourselves or our problems.
Yes I am terribly naive. I know this kind of pure love probably doesn't exist but I feel that it's an ideal we should work towards. We might not achieve it but we will still become better people if we adopt such thinking. Of course there's a lot of risk involved, heartbreak is always painful (maybe you're always giving but never taking) so it's better to do it with caution:D
Maybe because I'm relatively young so I view it this way, but it would be really great to find someone with the same thoughts as me!
Love has taken a different shape these days in our society, but as you said - it's not about focusing on ourselves, it is about giving from ourselves, not preserving the self (although a person doesn't love if he doesn't have that love to give from within himself in the first place), accepting one another, wanting for one another to flourish and to be the best possible version of themselves.
Erich Fromm put it nicely:
Immature love says - I love you because I need you. Mature love says - I need you because I love you.
In my humble honest opinion, you are far from being naive. An explorer of human nature is what you are :D Your comment is the most lucid, realistic and truthful description of love I have read in these comments.
Love is definitely illogical sometimes, sometimes painful, sometimes wonderful. But it is a part of human existence.. it's a lesson, enriching experience if we look at things outside of the box of our ego.
Love thyself, for you are a droplet
in the sea of sameness.
Love the other as thyself for the world is
the extension of your heart.
I'm so glad someone thinks the same way I do! ^^ Your reply is really poetic and beautiful. That's really rare nowadays indeed! Not many people are able to adopt such perspective sadly, but imagine if everyone were to strive for it - there would be more of building each other up instead of putting each other down. :) I should be the one humbled by your opinion though haha, I'm sure there's much more to love that can be explored :-) Thank you anyway!
Oh my God, this is the best comment I have ever read on YT. It's very nice to know that there are people that think like me, altrough I'm not quite able to put it in words (eapecially english words. sorry english speakers ;) ). Yeah I think you're very close to the definition of true/ideal love. And u know what? I can even find some of those things in my love :)))) So thank you for proving me that we're not alone with our imagination about love ;) (and sorry if i made mistakes in my english)
Eilid you are an interesting person
Agree
Love is emotion that is a gift, a natural feeling we need to experience in our life here on earth. It will enrich our life’s journey, finding our true authentic self!
To me, loving someone is to be trapped!
Once I fell in love with a girl, then I can't stop loving her though she never loved me... 💔
I tried so many times to forget her, not to love her but I failed! Sometimes I hate her but never love her less. It seems I'm in a trap & there is absolutely no way to get myself out from that!
"love is nature tricking us into procreation" *laughs in homoromantic asexual*
Lol same... except for that asexual part😈
Yup!
Biggest mood
lol
any factory has its defected products (and the thing is, sometimes defected products just so happen to be better than the standard)
Damn... that last line "Do you dare to find out?"
My dad broke my heart and now it has strengthened my belief that a human being should "Love and trust no one except oneself". I still care for him tho I'm not sure if I still love him. As of now, my cat is the only thing in the whole wide world that makes me happy and loved.
Loneliness always wants to destroy love. To make one think that everyone or yourself is terrible and that relationships of any kind are impossible. It takes the defiance of one's comforting pain to have the opportunity for love.
Love is the strongest feeling possible…
It can make you the happiest person in the world, but it can also destroy you
2:52 when he raised his eyebrows 😂
lmao🤣✨
Ooh ooh 😜
I enjoyed this video very much. I didn't enjoy the comment section, though. I wish people wouldn't make assertions about love or speak ill of love because they've had bad experiences. Love is a very important human endeavour and I'm blessed to be part it.
Jay Fayza Amen
Love may be important but don't think bad of someone speaking bad because of personal experiences. One day you may or may not feel the same. After all love does truly make you blind. I've been in love once and had my heart broken. I do hope to find true love again and I've tried but there's so much disrespect out there these days it's almost impossible. Much luck to everyone though
Thank You.
"I'm blessed to be a part of it". Well, dear, I don't think you get to say anything for people who don't have that in their lives (yet).
I love the reference to Norwegian wood at the end it’s one of the first books I read this summer and it’s so heartbreaking and it really pulls you in
Love is like having a cookie, don't give it all to someone you share half of it so that both of you can enjoy and savour it!
Let's say :it's the best channel to introduce topics so smoothly and in a fun way
I've never fallen in love.
good, stay away from it. It destroys you when things don't work out
+Jonathan De La Paz Once
+Prem Tamang try MDMA
Me neither. I resist it at all costs LOL
+Prem Tamang love is confusing i swear
Love has 2 basic forms, connection and relation, including a great amount of values in each one.
Connection
...is the feeling of completion that comes from everything different than oneself, it is adventure, exploration and fear with excitement for the unknown. It is the yin-yang. It allows us to accept change and open ourselves to risk with courage, out of our comfort zone, in order to learn something new or find a good match of friend or lover. It is the exploration of the unknown that actually forms the image of who we are, differentiating it from the environment, shaping the unique idea we have about ourselves.
Relation
...opposingly, is the feeling of being similar, verifying and validating yourself through common traits, beliefs or even states which could relate to objects, such as stillness of a sea, growth of a plant, grounding of a tree etc. which can actually relate to your own mental or physical state.
You know what, the smile that comes in a grandpa watching his grandson is priceless and same for the baby
LOVE can be defined as an intense feeling of affection with no limits or conditions for a person.
I think love is one of the most important feeling that everyone in their life should experience. It's overwhelming and exhausting at same time. I'm just happy that i had experienced it.
the way you guys animated this video is so creative big ups to the visual team
This is the most calming video I've ever seen on this topic. The Enlightenment of the love is more beautifully explained in simple yet captivating words. TED-ed always gives best information. 🤩🤩
1:33 Believe me, my husband and I love and support echother becoming a better person each day and we don't have children.
Love is something that is infinite like the soul. True love has no Possessiveness, no obsession, no jealousy, no fear, no anguish, no pride, no trust issues. These words may seem out of the world but this kind of love is the true love. This makes a person immortal among people's hearts. A fixed definition for love is impossible. We rarely fall in love.. there's this attraction of the external beauty that withers away with time. Very few people are able to love truely.
I love that last definition of what it means to love
you guys are really great in narrating these concepts
That final note is absolutely correct. If you give your entire life to love, it will lead to anger and hostility and distance. Become your own person! Support eachother in becoming who you truly are and love eachother throughcit all
Who else is single on Valentines Day!!!
+Hassan Nabil me :D...I will be single for the next 5 years
Tapio Pakkanen lol i guess me too :P
Great! :P
I think I don't have enough time for it. I'm studying. What about you?
Tapio Pakkanen mee to really :P i am in 11th grade .. its tough really , tomorrow is my chemistry exam !!
Oh 11th grade..wow! almost finished school.
I finished school 1 1/2 year. So, I'm in the univ. :D.
Are u from India, aren't u?
going back again to my favorite ted-ed video
"We love to quench our physical and psychological desires." Even though all the explanations of the question "why we love" contained truth to some extent, my understanding of why we love is closer to Bertrand Russel's explanation. People tend to feel lonely at some point in their lives because of the enormous sizes of our never-ending universe and world. Loving someone protects us and cures loneliness because finding someone who shares similar thoughts, feelings, and attitudes makes you feel that you are not lonely; you are noticed, loved, accepted, and admired. You know that you can share the path of your life not alone but with someone you trust. However, I agree that love is not only about positive emotions, it can hurt, but I think people become whole with living both positive and negative emotions. And I think, love does not need a definition and it cannot be defined precisely. Everyone has their own perception of it and there is no right or wrong.
Not everyone is destined to find love. It's how the world goes round
Not everyone is destined to die. 😀
I think it's kinda the ultimate powerful feeling we have, which has the power to distort our perception, and make us do seemingly impossible things.
The world is rude, rough, tough.
Being in love softens the reality we see, to be happy even when we're ruined.
It gives us the courage and reason to do seemingly impossible things.
Also, most importantly, it makes us care about things and people other than ourselves, increasing our social bond.
True, it gives us pain. I probably got the most pain from the persons I loved, but if I get a chance to change the past, I won't change a single thing.
My thought is love is something that we strive to achieve because that emotion is so powerful for the human experience that it is integral for all humans to experience at least once in their lives. The next biggest emotion people have is the absence of love and that is also very powerful
tbh in the end, love is an emotion like joy and sadness which is also sometimes causes an emotion and sometimes emotions cause it. that's what makes it special
"Love is the longing to find a soulmate who will make us whole again."
*Dead Space flashback*
Have you been called by the Marker?
My opinion on the love subject is different, I believe it's all what your mind focus on for example a scientist fall in love with science because most of the time he or she ponder on science, a writer or novelist falls in love with writing, and a phylosopher falls in love with phylosophy so it's all your focus decide which thing you wanna fall in love with. if you think about a particular girl the whole time it's certain you are gonna fall for her so it's just a focus of your mind which plays role in developing love.
Love is never the same for anybody ,from these philosophers to common people ❤ thats why everybody has their own definition.
Last lines are so pure Sir!!!
Such a lively speech.
Why do we feel our heart jumping when we see someone we love ?
aya cardiac arrest
aya same thought hereeew
Cardiac arrest 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Cardiac unrest
aya it's not your heart that jumps, it's your brain that produces dopamine and engages your body in a feeling that is similar to the fight-or-flight feeling, hence sweaty palms, heart rate increases, and a butterfly feeling
Love is more than what we perceive. Its eternal and is painted everywhere in different forms, shapes, colors, scriptures, writings, speeches and ourselves. All we need to do is to pause, reflect and gain consciousness.
Great explanation
The first 20 seconds were a real rollercoaster
simon de bevoiur..
that guy changed so many lives watching this vid.
living by the line: loves like friendship, authentic. improve each other like great friends.. wow.