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This works most of the time. Then you get with someone who depends on you to make them love themselves. True love is loving your whole self first and then loving everyone else.
People don’t realize how important emotional intelligence and empathy can be when talking to another human. I think we assume that everyone is very one dimensional, unlike ourselves who are very complex and have various needs. People are not as shallow as we think. Btw, thanks for the great content as always! You were a big inspiration for starting my own channel.
Of course, you can't make assumptions if you don't really get to know someone which is not seen on the outside surface. It's all about being brave, exploring and openness or open mindedness, vulnerability and trusting. One size doesn't fit all which is true for both men and women. There's much more to a person that makes them unique. I tend to look at a lot of good in people but while keeping it real of course cause nobody's perfect but that doesn't mean they can't be amazing once you sense a connection and get to know someone better. Who knows you might even find you have more things in common than you would've thought. But making false assumptions and judgments right at the start or in any way never helps anybody. There are many different women out there as well so I don't get this whole it's all just the same idea even if you've had some similar experiences doesn't mean it can't be different. Although there's a lot involved with a relationship and a good relationship is not as easy or common as some might think. Sometimes it's better to reach a better place yourself first and then attract someone and be happy with instead of just depending on somebody as a need to try and fix an unfulfilled feeling.
@Los Fromla Because, sadly, most "ugly people" are very uncomfortable with themselves and it shows. It's that, I think, what puts other people off and not merely their physical appearance.
Los Fromla I don’t know man, there are plenty of average and ugly looking dudes with girlfriends out there. Which studies are you referring to? Do you have a link?
It’s funny cause in that sentence he was referring to them as being beautiful/sexy. What he meant to say is despite of their “good looks”. It’s so amusing how one same sentence can convey two opposing meanings 🤭
Yes and no. The objectively attractive people will most likely to be treated more nicely, but that’s it, they are being treated nicely just because of their appearances. Their accomplishments might be diminished because of their appearances.
@The Most Hated Idiot On The Internet Good question. It depends on the gender gender of people you are talking about. Because men and women see things differently. So what were their genders?
@The Most Hated Idiot On The Internet Something is missing in this story. Beautiful women won't go for a guy who has nothing going on for him, especially if his looks and self-esteem are subpar. Financial situation?
Even though hotness is an important aspect of relationships, it's definitely not everything. Intelligence, charisma, emotional maturity, communication skills and healthy values are key for a successful and long term relationship.
but how do you get to prove and show that you have these qualities if you are rejected because of the appearance or not just, but of the insecurities or anxiety you face? People have no longer patience. We are living on fast forward.
@@MihaiPocol99 You can't help it no matter how good looking or ugly you are there will be others who think you are attractive or plain ugly. You can't make others perceive you as attractive except with wealth when it comes to guys and for girls by becoming more fertile. Imagine Facebook CEO with no money, no girl even would look at him except girls who think they can't get a better guy. Women who think they are not good looking if manage to bag a good looking guy, they will do everything possible to keep him around. Attractiveness is solely nature's dominion. There is evidence all around but people just act like idiots saying shallow things like communication, intelligence, emotional maturity blah blah make someone attractive. I say bollocks.
The majority of us clicked because we’re self-conscious. Well, one step to becoming bomb-shell sexy is to be confident. So, put a smile on your rad face and have a rockin’ day.
Emotional maturity, intelligence, kindness, compassion, good conversationalist and good soul is what matters the most regardless of the gender, I wish more people would start paying more attention to their emotional growth and building good moral character than spending hours in gym and showing off their physical or monetarily assets.
@@HeyitsBri_ hi! I didn't say the things in my original comment to get likes, this is what I genuinely believe, practice and want. I am forever single and struggling to find someone with emotional maturity and not full of vanity, I don't want a man with good biceps, I want a man who is greatful for what he has, works hard for what he wants and helpful to people in need.
Why not both? I'd say it's healthy to care for your body, just as it's healthy to work on your mind and soul. Mens sana in corpore sano! (Not to say that disabled people can't have a healthy mind and soul! Care for YOUR body.)
@@kilian5239 hi I agree with you it would be great to have both. But let's face that is asking too much from one person also let's face it chances are too many people are looking for that hence less chance of us ever finding someone who has got it all.
@@mimipaul7002 true! No one got it ALL. (No one!) Expecting perfection is highly unrealistic, even from yourself. But I think it's possible to reach and maintain a certain, "good enough" standard in a number of areas of one's life, including mental and physical wellbeing. That's what I'm personally striving for. To be more specific: I've been a very sedentary and fitness-averse person for most of my teen years. Now, that I've implemented a bodyweight fitness routine I do from home which takes about 4h a week and take the bike whenever I can, I feel way better in my body. The reduced stress and better sleep definitely also benefits my mental health. (Add the gained strength, endurance and overall physical health - as well as physical attractiveness - and it's a no-brainer!) Although: I won't ever be a powerlifter, a gymnastic, a modern dancer etc. - but I'm at a "good enough" level of physical fitness, considering my circumstances.
@@kilian5239 that's a good approach really but I have a question what is a modern dancer though? I don't know what that is. I live in a place where nowadays physical beauty is far more important and that is frustrating people should be physically fit for their well-being not for looks that's what I meant by my comments really.
Sad potato and No One you are beautiful! No way, he is just asking you how you show up and ask you be truthful with yourself. Your RUclips names say a lot. I think you two are perfect for each other...if your both single you should inquire. 🥰😍🤣
@@4everu984 .... Lol ... Didn't think our names would be sad too .... That aside thanks for trying to cheer us up .... I am quite happy with myself actually .....totally meant that as a joke
Im just saying that its a fact that there is such thing as correct tonge posture and correct breathing it has been proven multiple times. And it does make a person more attractive if the have correct tongue posture and correct breathing. But of course what kind of person you are matters a lot as well
Dogee I your low iq is reflected in the fact that you don’t understand how this meme works. Learn to read before you accuse others of having low iq babe 😘
This channel always succeeds in cleansing my built-up toxicity from the mass culture that we are exposed through media and people who internalized it. Mental qualities matter more than competitive material factors (such as wealth, looks, being fashionable etc.) for each and every one of us.
@Dogee I it's written there no obvious use-perheaps meaning that, from a scientific perspective, it's not clear how it works. Also- it's not clear that he is refering to beauty as in beautiful women or beauty in general - a tree, a sunset, a story.
silvervixen007 hardly it's always the outer appeal. I never think the idea of sexiness can inscribe within it the idea of soul. they are two distinct concepts looks may or may not be the predominant factor while considering a person sexy; but the concept of sexiness will never extend to the idea of soul. Much too sombre and complex to fit in a first view appeal of someone.
@Josip I've never seen a Jason Mamoa movie but I read about Gandhi, Albert Schweizer, Aurelius, Camus, Sartre, Nietzsche etc. Ok, I wasn't wet but Jason Mamoa also leaves me dry
@Josip there is something wrong with you when you can't even imagine this; many good looking people look very empty(and their mind set orbits always around the gym, how good they look and how much money they want to make and this is not attractive - btw I am not saying that all of them are) - my experience is that I fall in love with personalities who show empathy, are interested in being a kind person, being creative and so on. I also noticed when other females talked about a man they called "hot" or "cute" I couldn't see it bc he seemed f. e. shallow to me - and this turns me off. There are also women who are not interested in a masuculin man. That is a fact. For me this is too much, they look like a caricature of a man to me. I don't say that they should not care for their health but you can stay active by being active, walking, not always taking a car etc. I also been very irritated when females were saying "oh, he's so cute!!!" and screaming. To me there is also two kinds of good looking: the good looking one and the shallow good looking who is a big turn off. And the ones who look good not in a shallow way can also leave me cold.
What if you get trauma induced psychosis caused by family and made worse by bad therapists, acquaintances? Does it mean you have no value until you find a way to heal?
Unfortunately, what hurts is finding someone attractive and connecting with them, sharing your vulnerabilities and thoughts, while also hearing theirs, giving them your trust and heart, to only be abandoned and hurt in the end. The complete 180 of the feeling with them and without almost feels like your thoughts are only dreams, like its not real. Sorry just been oof'd in the heart recently.
The thing is, physical appearance is what will determine if the person wants to do anything with your beautiful soul during the initial encounter. I mean, tinder for instance. It only takes a second or two to either swipe left or right. If the person is attractive, then we scroll down and read the person's profile and see if we can be more interested. If not, we swipe left after one second, not giving a shit about the person's personality.
@Josip That's the point if the app becomes a market for nudes and you sign up for the app it says a lot about what you want... And it says a lot about most of the people using the app there's a reason some apps are known to create successful relationship while others are known for hookups and catfishing. And to the rest of your comment so what you're telling me is women are human and care about physical attraction? What's your point lol of course the initial attraction is important but not to the extent that It is for men, women aren't as visually stimulated that doeent mean they don't care what the guy looks like they just don't like to focus on that aspect becuase again the looks aren't what stimulate them, but yes it plays a part.
@Josip I'm not going in circles with you, you are all over this comment section passionately arguing and refusing to see others points becuase you already think you know every thing there is to know about this topic. You're obviously bitter so I'll leave you to continue spamming this comment section.
Never take anyone for granted if you are truly loved by that person, never underestimate them or make them feel anyless than a priority in your life!!❤ don't make the mistakes that I did and lose someone so perfect.
I'm at this point at which I don't know whether I'm loved or being taken for granted. When my SO is there, like physically next to me, I feel so appreciated and loved but as soon as there's physical distance, it's like he doesn't even care. I ran away from home a couple weeks prior cuz I had an argument with my mum, my dad's in the hospital and I had a breakdown cuz it was all too much, I told my SO and he hasn't tried to talk to me in three days, didn't even ask how either my dad or I were doing and when I told him about all that, it felt like he didn't really hear me On a spectrum of care it's always one way or the other, so... unbalanced. I'm rambling, I'm sorry, this is just making me feel sad today
@@rubyrootless7324 I think that you should definetley consider moving on. Its obvious that he doesnt view you or your family as a priority in his life, I know you probabley have a very stong connection with him and feel like you cant do any better than him but trust me you can. You deserve to have someone care about your problems and be there for you whether your face to face or not.
@@crookedroots4000 I think I'll have to tell him that this is an issue I consider breaking up over if it doesn't change in a way that both parties can agree on. Thank you for your advice. It really made me feel better to be listened to, kind person out there
I think we are attracted to people who have qualities that we lack. So a shy person may like a more confident person. A serious person may be drawn towards a more playful person. If you're feeling overwhelmed by life you may be drawn towards someone who stands up for themselves but if you keep rushing through life you may admire a reflective, studious type. This theory of attraction assumes that we keep wanting to balance and enrich our approach to life.
Want to be attractive to others? Cultivate your character and your passion. If that is your focus, you will have success in every aspect of your life. You become a person that you respect, and you are respectful of others. You view life with a sense of adventure and appreciation. You appreciate others, but you do not need them. In this sense, you are not compelled to impress others, neither are you seeking to be impressed. You just are, and if someone else adds to your life, great. If not, your life is still great! You are already, continually, cultivating the life you seek. It is this, that makes you attractive to others. And it is that level of self-awareness, that establishes a connection with others. You attract that energy into your life. You recognize it, and are drawn to it. You do not let others dictate how you think or feel. Your goal is to be YOUR best self! That dude who flipped you off at the traffic light? He has no personal connection to you, so you place no value on his gesture. It does not affect you, and you remain unresponsive to his conduct. You determine how you react. You exhibit your character. A person like this, is attractive to others. He will undoubtedly meet his match.
So often I find that ‘intelligent’ communicators of love and attraction speak of physical attraction as if it’s completely unnecessary and even counterproductive. That if only the emotional connection is there the physical connection will surely be also. This is simply not the case and these ‘intelligent’ communicators would do well to teach people how to be more attractive so that when a person finds someone with whom THEY want to be romantically involved with the feeling is more likely to be mutual and a relationship can progress. I’m so sick of the physical attraction of a romantic partner being discounted and thrown aside. Emotional connection is absolutely important but it is absolutely not a replacement.
Agreed. It is actually quite shallow for people to dissociate themselves from physicalities in dating during conversations and do not have the wherewithal to input their physical preferences.
@Rosemary Terra not what I’m referring to. If people care about being attracted to their partner the assumption is that they’re looking for a ‘Kim Kardshian’ or someone on the cover of a magazine. The ‘Velma’s and Shaggy’s’ are still attracted to each other and wanna have sex based partly on a physical drive. The idea that because committed love is supposedly the only thing that really matters and that physical attraction can just be thrown by the wayside is just not true. Anyone who dates knows that if they’re dating someone they’re not attracted to physically then there’s something important that’s missing. So caring about being physically attracted to your partner isn’t shallow or placing an unrealistic ideal like Kim kardashian on them.
You can acquire all of these traits that "make" you attractive to a wider-range of people, you can have a polished body that opens you up to more people. I feel like when we develop ourselves, we emotionally open more people up to ourselves, but we don't open ourselves up to them. You might acquire the body that spicy senorita has wanted to see on you for years now, but was it worth the effort? You can't acquire unconditional love by creating the conditions, you need to find someone who loves you for who you are. Practicality-wise, you can't keep up an act forever and your body will always change, it's not loving of yourself to develop these "attractive" traits when the most attractive trait to the one person you actually need is to simply be yourself emotionally. I think that's the point, it's not that we have to ignore practically or the realities of biology and psychology; we need to learn how to set those aside so that we ourselves can experience what feels like an organic interaction with people. We're not going to attract everyone with our true, inner-selves. That's the point, though. We don't want to just attract someone, I feel like we want to attract someone with the things we possess naturally and without effort so that we can feel like we're loved unconditionally.
This resonates with me. My weight yo yo's and the last two partners I have had expressed distaste when I put on weight (by the way I'm not even overweight I'm just not skinny or toned when I'm at my biggest). I felt so let down that was even an issue to those people- that my looks specifically my weight had been THAT big a deal breaker... Anyone else had these experiences ?
@@louisecoope6581 There's a line to where you're overweight to the point where it affects yourself. We're biologically designed to put on weight to an extent, as fat is just "excess energy" no fat at all is just as unhealthy as an overweight body. I feel like it's proper to expect your partner to look good. (Coming from me, a guy who body-builds and has noticeable muscles) but there is a line to where you're encouraging your partner to be unhealthy for the sake of visual pleasure. I feel it's selfish of a partner to expect your body to change when it's not even unhealthy. I personally like chunky and big bodies in my girls, but I would not encourage her to be fat. Her health is more important to me than simply having more cushion to my pushin' Those experiences are very common, we have expectations for our partners that can fluctuate (Familiar term?) and when we fluctuate outside of our partner's needs, it feels like an attack on them I feel. I think from an individual perspective you should have opinions and the ability to voice them constructively and lovingly while also not expecting them to change. Love for the most part comes from within I feel, when you can't love a person in any shape or form they're in I think that's a view on yourself. Because ultimately, you should both come together for the truth and the truth is, unless they're in an unhealthy state, there's nothing wrong with their body.
The problem with your comment is you think unconditional love exists. Making yourself more attractive is the only logical answer, as it opens you up to choice, rather than being damned to the only person who finds you redeemable
I feel quite vulnerable after watching this. It's like this videos described my inner self and it's quite frankly frightening and liberating knowing there are others like me.
No mention of humour? Humour can be incredibly attractive, it can transmute a tense situation into a bonding moment. It also tells you so much about a person’s character: Self-deprecating, dark, witty, silly, awkward bad jokes (possibly nerves).
@@zuzkajulka show me a banana with a great personality that matches what this video was talking about. Know why bananas don't have those qualities? Genes.
Face, Race, and Height will determine how attractive you are initially. As in a man with a bad personality that looks good won't suffer as much as an unattractive man with a good personality when trying to stage dates, enter relationships, etc.
Disagree. Stupid beauty is also ugly. Sex is only a part of relationship. You can think of it in terms of health: yours "Face, Race, and Height" say me something about one part of your genes, your mental abilities and emotional intelligence say me something about other part of your genes. My genes of height want genes of intelligence. Maybe for your genes height and symmetry are now more important, I can imagine that, but please not overgeneralize.
I agree. As a man if you´re far too below the average threshold you may come up with the most inspiring, positive and multifaceted personlity and have no success. It is true that for long-term fullfilment emotional intelligence, maturity and delaying gratification are key. The point is, however, that an ever larger growing part of the population may never encounter situations in which they may be forced to prove the latter since they are disqualified right from the get-go. Average man still have chances to lock it but will have to be very confident and resistant since their long list of perceived and experienced rejections has been growing for quite some time as well.
When women say "men", they are excluding short men from the conversation as much as men exclude fat/ugly women when they talk about "women." There you go. Now you can better understand the opposite sex.
Met a woman who found men attractive for what they had to offer during the time being. Once she bonded and grew bored, she dumped them. She had never been the dumpee. Ego plays a big part in how some individuals seek partners. Even females can seem preditorial and selfish.
Of everything I hate about my childhood, the way I was raised unloved and uncared for, what I hate the most and cannot absolutely forgive is the fact that the people that should have made me feel good about myself, made me feel completely and utterly unattractive and impossibile to have charm.
“We could learn to pay as much, if not more, attention to the foundations of an exciting mindset.” “The real turn on is never just a well polished body, but always and primordially, well fashioned soul” Well said ♡
It's cheesy and fundamentally false. Humans as sexual beings are most definitely attracted to something more to do with this physical world, not the soul. A beautiful soul is not going to get a man hard/woman wet if you're 400 pounds.
For about 10 minutes in my 20s, I was what you would call "hot." For most of my life I'd been a little overweight so after losing the weight & becoming "hot," I entered a different world and it was, for me anyway, an ugly one. Women would often be nasty to me, and it seemed like there was always a man in my face whenever I went out in public, trying to smooth talk or lay his hands on me. I couldn't confide in anyone but my then-husband about the issues I was having because no one thinks of "hotness" as a problem! It opened my eyes, made me realize that physical attractiveness can actually be a hindrance and an impediment, especially to forming relationships. Maybe if one is born "hot" they don't have these issues because they grow up with a different perspective, but being suddenly thrusted into the "hot chick" world, I felt out-of-my-depths and lonely. Luckily I don't have this problem anymore! ;)
This is a beautiful little daydream, and I'd probably be irresistable if it really worked like this. But as others have said, the truth is obviously totally different.
What’s wrong with you guys????? Stop speaking bad about yourselves and man up The world sees you the way you see yourself Everyone has their own uniqueness Dress well Speak well Do things that build up your confidence Get out of your comfort zone Meet new people Etc Cmon guys you can do it Believe in yourself 😃😎
when she/he tells you, "i begin to love myself more when you are nearby" , it's the single most honest and loving compliment that can ever be made for you by him/her.
Fix your POSTURE as soon as you WAKE UP with a few stretch moves ~ and you’ll instantly LOOK attractive. Promise! 😆 Do it daily, minimum 3 weeks, until it becomes a habit. 😂
What another person does is a reflection of their own inner world and troubles; projecting another's actions to be the fault of someone else is hardly ethical nor factual.
I disagree, I think they are confusing sex and love, for me they go along together but for most people you don´t need to love someone to have sex with therefore physical appearance and the biological factors prevail over the psychological ones. Now if you are going to love someone yes, who they are is the most attractive part of it and the real turn-on is definitely their being.
I love this! I don't think I'm physically attractive. However, I am always surprised that I get attention. I can 100% identify with the sexy traits that aren't physical. It's made me see myself a little differently.
Ya just be confident bro, I agree. Even if you’re 5’2 balding and fat people will love you for your confidence! Especially girls! Don’t forget to be charismatic too!
I'm a rebel. I consider what the media calls a 10, a 7 and what the media calls a 7, a 10. Just look at my gf. You told me that she's a 7, but she's a 69420.
I have tried to date unattractive people with all the good qualities but couldn't get past their looks. I've also dated good looking people and couldn't get past their narcissistic & immature nature.
If there is ONE thing I have learned about humanity....it's that "attraction" is contagious. People are only ever attracted to people who are seen as attractive to someone else. That's how people determine value. "Well does anyone else like them? No? Then I'm not attracted to them either. Yes? Then I am attracted to them very much." This phenomenon is exactly why women find men more attractive after finding out they are married. And there are a lot of studies to back this up. Kinda crazy. And also sad. Because humans are literally insane.
Not me. It feels trashy to even have a crush on someone taken. Some girls want to be a sidepiece, other girls do not. I also like attractive people & have a certain taste. Some people agree, some don't but it doesn't sway my opinion. I have dated "ugly" ones who looked cute to me. The "you can do better" comment was used on me a lot.
Mrinalini Sud i mean they’re not claiming to bring new research. A lot of videos on RUclips are just bringing knowledge to people they might not have known. Also it’s free lmaoo
I doubt anyone finds Kanye attractive (other than Kanye) Kim had just already been with every other celebrity and professional athlete and he was the one who put a RAAAANG on it
I’m brought up as a Filipino and catholic, was taught by my parents and family that other religion like Islam is bad. That I should pick a Filipina to date, someone who is submissive and Catholic and cute. Fuck all that, I’m dating a gorgeous and intelligent Muslim girl, who’s not at all submissive. She’s one of the most intelligent person I’ve come across, way more intelligent than me. I want someone who I can be with. All her tiny imperfections make her more beautiful in my eyes.
I’m sorry but your channel is more and more doing wrong titles. Here you’re asking : « what makes a person attractive ? ». However here you’re giving a list of things that should be considered in attraction, a list of stuff that generally needs more than just a look. In fact, you’re just giving a list of items to seduce a person on the long term or what can seduce people who are watching your videos. Nevertheless you know that it’s not the case of most people in the society. It’s great to give hope to others, but lying to them isn’t. Because what you think or what we think isn’t what most of society think. During the intro you criticise the vision that society is giving to us, but the fact is that we’re living in this society and most people are raised in it. It’s kinda rare to have that kind of thinking and you definitely know it. This video explains to you how to be attractive to one particular person for you (which is the most important), but definitely not to most people
I used to be anxious and depressed cuz of my low self-eestem and physical complexes but somehow I went through a period when I met people who appreciated me enough and the beauty in me despite my negativity. It was like a fairy tale though it ended like a nightmare. After a few years, I became more mature, I became aware of all my fears, I'm trying to overcome my situation, accepting what I cannot change, I became more confident, but now I feel more and more the alienation , the alienation that crushes my existence. I feel more and more like I am lonley and I cannot approach anyone physically and emotionally, I do not know how yet. Even though I'm more attractive than in the past.
People seek safety unless they feel safe alone than they seek meaning. If you are insecure you look for someone to take care of you if you are confident you look for someone to take care of. Unless you pretend to be confident, than you act like an a-hole.
I wish that was true.. but if checked against reality that construct of beautiful ideas falls apart fast and hard. It's all about looks, your body and the confidence to play the game. Your soul can be garbage, yet you'll get everything from life you can wish for. Example: Belle Delphine. On the other hand you can have a beautiful soul and nobody will ever be attracted to you. Example: Schopenhauer.
Ugh, finally someone actually being realistic. In this world, there are plenty of instances where the quality of your soul doesn't matter. Sometimes kind people just get the short end of the stick, but no one is willing to admit that for some reason.
We get attracted to well fashioned soul!!!! All points explained are strikingly true but may be the physical attractiveness was more influenced by movies?
No. The ultimate goal of life is to satisfy yourself. People's affirmations is one of the ways you can go about it. You should not do it all the time, though.
Even though if you think you are ugly, the most important thing in relationship isn't about appearance, but it is about the time and memory that You have spent and Made with her, and those are something that Made a thing what we called love
Thank you School of Life for shedding your wisdom again with us. You definitely help me deal with my waywardness - on a daily basis, which is awesome - and get to know myself better. I will save in my mind the last sentence, considering that I find it tremendously alined with my way of thinking: "The real turn on is never just a well-polished body but, always and primordially, a well-fashioned soul. 💙
i kinda agree on this and kinda dont. If you focus to much on the emotional part you run high risks of getting friendzoned. Your level of attraction will be so intense that a lot of girls will be scared at how easily you can pick up at their vulnerabilities and have them open up their deepest fears and regrets. They will love you, but they will be scared of loving you more, as they will be scared of losing themselves in your words and support and they will also be scared that they cannot do the same for you making them feel bad. So try to also focus on the physical part too. A little bit of mundane talk is also necessary.
1. A sense to f slightly being at odds with mainstream society 2. an unshockable nature 3. A tension between good and bad 4. Vigor and impatience 5. Kindness
Yes, it's exciting to find beauty that is not obvious and many a time we are far more atracted to somebodies way of being rather than their looks. But we musn't go the other way and denigrate beauty, trying to mark it as shallow, cheap or whatever we can come up with. Apreciate whatever you like about yourself and about others b it the way somebody looks or mooves or the way somebody talks or feels, there is no line , idon't think.
I wonder if it'd be possible to have a video on the subject of compatibility. I've observed that a person may be considered physically attractive, have some or all of the qualities mentioned in what is considered truly attractive but still have a very difficult time finding someone. I've wondered why that may be ... I may be wrong but perhaps they seek others who aren't compatible for them. I think at one point or another in our lives we all seek a partner who is not compatible with us but we love them anyways. It would be great to dive deeper into this subject and why we do so or how we can seek compatible people. Thanks so much! :]
True that, I had given up long ago; I had try a few times with people from different background but girls are girls 😶 I'm not seeking anymore, good for me that I don't feel lonely even without such partners
Way too complex explanation. Better to make it more simple and standardized. Using a Complex approach doesn’t necessarily means content is meaningful and knowledgeable..
If you wish you find something attractive about someone, you will. But you must want to find it. Appearances are ok, but do they help you see the world differently? Do they light you up inside? Are they interested in getting to know what you like and WHY you like it?
Lol wait but then how do assholes and douche bags get so many girls id partners are just turned on by people who are nice and care emotionally? those people dont get the girls only the few. no but really this video is pretty accurate deep down
"Good sex promises to feel like something of a conspiracy against everybody else." Gorgeous! I had to write that down. And also thank you for this reply to the trend of pseudo-scientific over-simplifications, trying to explain every aspect of love and sexuality with bizarre and reductive biologisms.
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Being around my age, not being Jabba the Hutt, not being a tiger, being female, having long hair, and y'know, being able to communicate with males.
Kindness,love,empathy
Confident, humorous, and similar interests. Is kind and has empathy
Someone who handsome and light color skin.
Empathy and selflessness
Honestly this guy could make an hour long video talking about toilet rolls and I would watch it fully, his voice is so calming 😂
You seem to have too much time at your hand.
Literal Bang I really do 😂
“What people don’t underSTAND about toilet rolls are the fact that... while yes we may use them to wipe our filthy assholes, cleaning them of shit and bile, they can ALSO be used as tissues; and even, for the mischievous type, as a pretend telescope. Although it is mostly children who do this, someone with an intense connection to their childhood glee and playfulness can be seen as a desirable companion...”
katie robertson ngl I don’t understand this video
Hahaa...Yea me too. 😄
His voice is extremely smooth and sweet like honey. I could listen him talking all day. 😊😆
“Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.”
Murphy's law
Lol 😂
Impressive analogy
oh my god
Incredible!
Be someone that makes people fall in love with who they become in your presence, that is true attraction
I like this advice!
Harshvardhan Deusecar love this 😊
This works most of the time. Then you get with someone who depends on you to make them love themselves. True love is loving your whole self first and then loving everyone else.
dude... youre wrong lol
No that is made up romantic notion, reality is nothing like that
This guy knows all the synonyms in the dictionary for any word.
People don’t realize how important emotional intelligence and empathy can be when talking to another human. I think we assume that everyone is very one dimensional, unlike ourselves who are very complex and have various needs.
People are not as shallow as we think.
Btw, thanks for the great content as always! You were a big inspiration for starting my own channel.
Of course, you can't make assumptions if you don't really get to know someone which is not seen on the outside surface.
It's all about being brave, exploring and openness or open mindedness, vulnerability and trusting.
One size doesn't fit all which is true for both men and women. There's much more to a person that makes them unique. I tend to look at a lot of good in people but while keeping it real of course cause nobody's perfect but that doesn't mean they can't be amazing once you sense a connection and get to know someone better. Who knows you might even find you have more things in common than you would've thought.
But making false assumptions and judgments right at the start or in any way never helps anybody. There are many different women out there as well so I don't get this whole it's all just the same idea even if you've had some similar experiences doesn't mean it can't be different. Although there's a lot involved with a relationship and a good relationship is not as easy or common as some might think.
Sometimes it's better to reach a better place yourself first and then attract someone and be happy with instead of just depending on somebody as a need to try and fix an unfulfilled feeling.
this is so true. Relationships require much empathy.
@Los Fromla Because, sadly, most "ugly people" are very uncomfortable with themselves and it shows. It's that, I think, what puts other people off and not merely their physical appearance.
@Los Fromla This is true overall - everyone is attracted to pretty people. Males, as you say, are not exactly beating down ugly women's doors, either.
Los Fromla I don’t know man, there are plenty of average and ugly looking dudes with girlfriends out there. Which studies are you referring to? Do you have a link?
2:05
"Despite the raw facts of their appearance."
That's the nicest way I've ever heard of being called ugly
It’s funny cause in that sentence he was referring to them as being beautiful/sexy. What he meant to say is despite of their “good looks”. It’s so amusing how one same sentence can convey two opposing meanings 🤭
"disproportionate" maybe?
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FACT: Objectively attractive people have an advantage in this society.
Yes and no. The objectively attractive people will most likely to be treated more nicely, but that’s it, they are being treated nicely just because of their appearances. Their accomplishments might be diminished because of their appearances.
Yeah but, so what?
This truth makes a lot of people uncomfortable.
Marty D there are no objectively attractive people. Everyone is unattractive to someone. Each person has different tastes
Ying Li there are no objectively attractive people. Attractiveness is subjective.
If I had a dollar for every woman who found me unattractive, I would eventually become attractive.
lol
Damn.
Same. I could retire early lol
Hahahah
Man oh man
Men and women perceive attraction differently.
The outer may attract people but the inner is what will keep them around.
@The Most Hated Idiot On The Internet 'it' is confidence and self esteem
@The Most Hated Idiot On The Internet Good question. It depends on the gender gender of people you are talking about. Because men and women see things differently. So what were their genders?
@The Most Hated Idiot On The Internet Something is missing in this story. Beautiful women won't go for a guy who has nothing going on for him, especially if his looks and self-esteem are subpar. Financial situation?
@@TheManOnTheStreetOMG no it's not about being confident or self-steem, it's about accepting your flaws and being true to yourself.
Exactly. Looks not only your partners but yourself as well has an expiry date. What will keep couples together aint the looks but what you are.
Even though hotness is an important aspect of relationships, it's definitely not everything. Intelligence, charisma, emotional maturity, communication skills and healthy values are key for a successful and long term relationship.
Communication is the #1 key
@@gart1456 Wanted to say the same, about to puke.
but how do you get to prove and show that you have these qualities if you are rejected because of the appearance or not just, but of the insecurities or anxiety you face? People have no longer patience. We are living on fast forward.
@@MihaiPocol99 You can't help it no matter how good looking or ugly you are there will be others who think you are attractive or plain ugly. You can't make others perceive you as attractive except with wealth when it comes to guys and for girls by becoming more fertile. Imagine Facebook CEO with no money, no girl even would look at him except girls who think they can't get a better guy. Women who think they are not good looking if manage to bag a good looking guy, they will do everything possible to keep him around. Attractiveness is solely nature's dominion. There is evidence all around but people just act like idiots saying shallow things like communication, intelligence, emotional maturity blah blah make someone attractive. I say bollocks.
@@realdemigod4339 So in a nutshell, what do you say is that these qualities are irrelevant compared to biological attraction?
The majority of us clicked because we’re self-conscious. Well, one step to becoming bomb-shell sexy is to be confident. So, put a smile on your rad face and have a rockin’ day.
This comment made smile :) How simple I am!
😸 likewise stranger
Very true too❤️👍
Eva Reese *cries in male shyness*
And the rest are confident but the best always look to improve themselves in every way possible
Emotional maturity, intelligence, kindness, compassion, good conversationalist and good soul is what matters the most regardless of the gender, I wish more people would start paying more attention to their emotional growth and building good moral character than spending hours in gym and showing off their physical or monetarily assets.
@@HeyitsBri_ hi! I didn't say the things in my original comment to get likes, this is what I genuinely believe, practice and want. I am forever single and struggling to find someone with emotional maturity and not full of vanity, I don't want a man with good biceps, I want a man who is greatful for what he has, works hard for what he wants and helpful to people in need.
Why not both? I'd say it's healthy to care for your body, just as it's healthy to work on your mind and soul. Mens sana in corpore sano! (Not to say that disabled people can't have a healthy mind and soul! Care for YOUR body.)
@@kilian5239 hi I agree with you it would be great to have both. But let's face that is asking too much from one person also let's face it chances are too many people are looking for that hence less chance of us ever finding someone who has got it all.
@@mimipaul7002 true! No one got it ALL. (No one!) Expecting perfection is highly unrealistic, even from yourself.
But I think it's possible to reach and maintain a certain, "good enough" standard in a number of areas of one's life, including mental and physical wellbeing. That's what I'm personally striving for.
To be more specific: I've been a very sedentary and fitness-averse person for most of my teen years. Now, that I've implemented a bodyweight fitness routine I do from home which takes about 4h a week and take the bike whenever I can, I feel way better in my body. The reduced stress and better sleep definitely also benefits my mental health. (Add the gained strength, endurance and overall physical health - as well as physical attractiveness - and it's a no-brainer!)
Although: I won't ever be a powerlifter, a gymnastic, a modern dancer etc. - but I'm at a "good enough" level of physical fitness, considering my circumstances.
@@kilian5239 that's a good approach really but I have a question what is a modern dancer though? I don't know what that is. I live in a place where nowadays physical beauty is far more important and that is frustrating people should be physically fit for their well-being not for looks that's what I meant by my comments really.
I too, expose my internal organs when I love someone.
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😂😂😂🤣🤣
Naughty cupboard for you my friend lol
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you give them your ultrasonography images right? because that's what i do too!
is this a personal attack or something?
I felt that too
Ahh the pain
Sad potato and No One you are beautiful! No way, he is just asking you how you show up and ask you be truthful with yourself. Your RUclips names say a lot. I think you two are perfect for each other...if your both single you should inquire. 🥰😍🤣
@@4everu984 Hey! How are you?
@@4everu984 .... Lol ... Didn't think our names would be sad too .... That aside thanks for trying to cheer us up ....
I am quite happy with myself actually .....totally meant that as a joke
Remember guys...you’re not ugly, you’re just poor😀
You got a good sense of humor? You ever done stand up?
Bruh being attractive has nothin to do with money
@@lovepeaceisneverguaranteed7385 It does bro.
I Like RUclips. Lol 😂 you ain’t met no golddiggers yet 🤔
@@awakenthegreatnesswithin Poor him.loll ( I like YOutube. )
Nobody:
Incels: tongue posture and nose to mouth ratio
LMAOOOWJANHFHJWJSK. Losers
Im just saying that its a fact that there is such thing as correct tonge posture and correct breathing it has been proven multiple times.
And it does make a person more attractive if the have correct tongue posture and correct breathing.
But of course what kind of person you are matters a lot as well
Dogee I your low iq is reflected in the fact that you don’t understand how this meme works. Learn to read before you accuse others of having low iq babe 😘
@Dogee I if black women are the least desirable then why tf i got men of all races wanting me? You: *surprise pikachu face*
@@moda-vi don't worry he is reflecting his sad and terrible love life on us lol
This channel always succeeds in cleansing my built-up toxicity from the mass culture that we are exposed through media and people who internalized it. Mental qualities matter more than competitive material factors (such as wealth, looks, being fashionable etc.) for each and every one of us.
Beauty has no obvious use; nor is there any clear cultural necessity for it. Yet civilization could not do without it.
-Sigmund Freud
Dogee I Absolutely agree with you. Have not bothered to fact check it, but if he said it, he clearly doesn’t understand the human mating dance.
I guess he doesn't know biology then
If everyone was beautiful how would we know beauty?
@Dogee I it's written there no obvious use-perheaps meaning that, from a scientific perspective, it's not clear how it works. Also- it's not clear that he is refering to beauty as in beautiful women or beauty in general - a tree, a sunset, a story.
“Sick Man Fraud” ~ alternate spelling of his name and theories. 😂😆
The real turn on is never just a well polished body but always and primordially, well fashioned soul
silvervixen007 hardly it's always the outer appeal. I never think the idea of sexiness can inscribe within it the idea of soul. they are two distinct concepts looks may or may not be the predominant factor while considering a person sexy; but the concept of sexiness will never extend to the idea of soul. Much too sombre and complex to fit in a first view appeal of someone.
@Josip I've never seen a Jason Mamoa movie but I read about Gandhi, Albert Schweizer, Aurelius, Camus, Sartre, Nietzsche etc. Ok, I wasn't wet but Jason Mamoa also leaves me dry
@Josip there is something wrong with you when you can't even imagine this; many good looking people look very empty(and their mind set orbits always around the gym, how good they look and how much money they want to make and this is not attractive - btw I am not saying that all of them are) - my experience is that I fall in love with personalities who show empathy, are interested in being a kind person, being creative and so on. I also noticed when other females talked about a man they called "hot" or "cute" I couldn't see it bc he seemed f. e. shallow to me - and this turns me off. There are also women who are not interested in a masuculin man. That is a fact. For me this is too much, they look like a caricature of a man to me. I don't say that they should not care for their health but you can stay active by being active, walking, not always taking a car etc.
I also been very irritated when females were saying "oh, he's so cute!!!" and screaming. To me there is also two kinds of good looking: the good looking one and the shallow good looking who is a big turn off. And the ones who look good not in a shallow way can also leave me cold.
What if you get trauma induced psychosis caused by family and made worse by bad therapists, acquaintances? Does it mean you have no value until you find a way to heal?
Amazingly i am more attractive at 57 than at 27..lol i am more emotionally happier.
Unfortunately, what hurts is finding someone attractive and connecting with them, sharing your vulnerabilities and thoughts, while also hearing theirs, giving them your trust and heart, to only be abandoned and hurt in the end. The complete 180 of the feeling with them and without almost feels like your thoughts are only dreams, like its not real.
Sorry just been oof'd in the heart recently.
Hey! How are you?
@@sarcasmbanega5997 I'm okay. Learning to just live with it and live my life and if she comes back in some capacity, we'll see.
Avvura You’ll get through this, wish you good health and future. Take care! :)
Yeah, me too. Found my human and then we fell out of love slowly and excruciatingly.
@@ghosted1662 Dopamine is a hell of a drug lol
The thing is, physical appearance is what will determine if the person wants to do anything with your beautiful soul during the initial encounter. I mean, tinder for instance. It only takes a second or two to either swipe left or right. If the person is attractive, then we scroll down and read the person's profile and see if we can be more interested. If not, we swipe left after one second, not giving a shit about the person's personality.
A pic and profile info speak tons about you, don't forget that!
If you’re going in Tinder to find a soulmate I have some bad news for you.
@Josip
Wrong on so many levels. What the app was designed for says a lot about the people using it.
@Josip
That's the point if the app becomes a market for nudes and you sign up for the app it says a lot about what you want... And it says a lot about most of the people using the app there's a reason some apps are known to create successful relationship while others are known for hookups and catfishing.
And to the rest of your comment so what you're telling me is women are human and care about physical attraction? What's your point lol of course the initial attraction is important but not to the extent that It is for men, women aren't as visually stimulated that doeent mean they don't care what the guy looks like they just don't like to focus on that aspect becuase again the looks aren't what stimulate them, but yes it plays a part.
@Josip
I'm not going in circles with you, you are all over this comment section passionately arguing and refusing to see others points becuase you already think you know every thing there is to know about this topic. You're obviously bitter so I'll leave you to continue spamming this comment section.
I AM NOT LONELY I AM STRONG I NEED NO ONE
(cries in corner)
Never take anyone for granted if you are truly loved by that person, never underestimate them or make them feel anyless than a priority in your life!!❤ don't make the mistakes that I did and lose someone so perfect.
Aww true shit; I lose her a few years ago, I'm never gonna find someone like her
@@tyrannde6392 It's so hard man. I don't think I'll ever connect with someone the way I did with my ex!!😢
I'm at this point at which I don't know whether I'm loved or being taken for granted.
When my SO is there, like physically next to me, I feel so appreciated and loved but as soon as there's physical distance, it's like he doesn't even care. I ran away from home a couple weeks prior cuz I had an argument with my mum, my dad's in the hospital and I had a breakdown cuz it was all too much, I told my SO and he hasn't tried to talk to me in three days, didn't even ask how either my dad or I were doing and when I told him about all that, it felt like he didn't really hear me
On a spectrum of care it's always one way or the other, so... unbalanced.
I'm rambling, I'm sorry, this is just making me feel sad today
@@rubyrootless7324 I think that you should definetley consider moving on. Its obvious that he doesnt view you or your family as a priority in his life, I know you probabley have a very stong connection with him and feel like you cant do any better than him but trust me you can. You deserve to have someone care about your problems and be there for you whether your face to face or not.
@@crookedroots4000 I think I'll have to tell him that this is an issue I consider breaking up over if it doesn't change in a way that both parties can agree on.
Thank you for your advice. It really made me feel better to be listened to, kind person out there
10 years ago: Dressing like you are well put together is attractive
*Now: Homeless Yeezy fit*
Signals of fertility and resistance to disease
Daniel Iles - Small Business just because you don’t understand style doesn’t mean you’re right.
Lmaoooo
Derelicte!
Still is attractive
I think a genuine smile on your face makes you 10 times more attractive instantly
PastelTessa: Amen!
maybe 100 times more attractive.
It never fails. To the point where need to stop smiling as much..
Agreed. Not super useful as advice, though.
not when you don t have teeth
I think we are attracted to people who have qualities that we lack. So a shy person may like a more confident person. A serious person may be drawn towards a more playful person. If you're feeling overwhelmed by life you may be drawn towards someone who stands up for themselves but if you keep rushing through life you may admire a reflective, studious type. This theory of attraction assumes that we keep wanting to balance and enrich our approach to life.
That is so very true! They say opposites attract and our diffrences balance each other out.
Want to be attractive to others? Cultivate your character and your passion. If that is your focus, you will have success in every aspect of your life.
You become a person that you respect, and you are respectful of others. You view life with a sense of adventure and appreciation. You appreciate others, but you do not need them. In this sense, you are not compelled to impress others, neither are you seeking to be impressed. You just are, and if someone else adds to your life, great. If not, your life is still great! You are already, continually, cultivating the life you seek.
It is this, that makes you attractive to others. And it is that level of self-awareness, that establishes a connection with others. You attract that energy into your life. You recognize it, and are drawn to it.
You do not let others dictate how you think or feel. Your goal is to be YOUR best self! That dude who flipped you off at the traffic light? He has no personal connection to you, so you place no value on his gesture. It does not affect you, and you remain unresponsive to his conduct. You determine how you react. You exhibit your character.
A person like this, is attractive to others. He will undoubtedly meet his match.
Lies.
So often I find that ‘intelligent’ communicators of love and attraction speak of physical attraction as if it’s completely unnecessary and even counterproductive. That if only the emotional connection is there the physical connection will surely be also. This is simply not the case and these ‘intelligent’ communicators would do well to teach people how to be more attractive so that when a person finds someone with whom THEY want to be romantically involved with the feeling is more likely to be mutual and a relationship can progress. I’m so sick of the physical attraction of a romantic partner being discounted and thrown aside. Emotional connection is absolutely important but it is absolutely not a replacement.
Agreed. It is actually quite shallow for people to dissociate themselves from physicalities in dating during conversations and do not have the wherewithal to input their physical preferences.
@Rosemary Terra not what I’m referring to. If people care about being attracted to their partner the assumption is that they’re looking for a ‘Kim Kardshian’ or someone on the cover of a magazine. The ‘Velma’s and Shaggy’s’ are still attracted to each other and wanna have sex based partly on a physical drive. The idea that because committed love is supposedly the only thing that really matters and that physical attraction can just be thrown by the wayside is just not true. Anyone who dates knows that if they’re dating someone they’re not attracted to physically then there’s something important that’s missing. So caring about being physically attracted to your partner isn’t shallow or placing an unrealistic ideal like Kim kardashian on them.
You can acquire all of these traits that "make" you attractive to a wider-range of people, you can have a polished body that opens you up to more people. I feel like when we develop ourselves, we emotionally open more people up to ourselves, but we don't open ourselves up to them. You might acquire the body that spicy senorita has wanted to see on you for years now, but was it worth the effort? You can't acquire unconditional love by creating the conditions, you need to find someone who loves you for who you are. Practicality-wise, you can't keep up an act forever and your body will always change, it's not loving of yourself to develop these "attractive" traits when the most attractive trait to the one person you actually need is to simply be yourself emotionally.
I think that's the point, it's not that we have to ignore practically or the realities of biology and psychology; we need to learn how to set those aside so that we ourselves can experience what feels like an organic interaction with people. We're not going to attract everyone with our true, inner-selves. That's the point, though. We don't want to just attract someone, I feel like we want to attract someone with the things we possess naturally and without effort so that we can feel like we're loved unconditionally.
This resonates with me. My weight yo yo's and the last two partners I have had expressed distaste when I put on weight (by the way I'm not even overweight I'm just not skinny or toned when I'm at my biggest). I felt so let down that was even an issue to those people- that my looks specifically my weight had been THAT big a deal breaker... Anyone else had these experiences ?
@@louisecoope6581 There's a line to where you're overweight to the point where it affects yourself. We're biologically designed to put on weight to an extent, as fat is just "excess energy" no fat at all is just as unhealthy as an overweight body.
I feel like it's proper to expect your partner to look good. (Coming from me, a guy who body-builds and has noticeable muscles) but there is a line to where you're encouraging your partner to be unhealthy for the sake of visual pleasure. I feel it's selfish of a partner to expect your body to change when it's not even unhealthy.
I personally like chunky and big bodies in my girls, but I would not encourage her to be fat. Her health is more important to me than simply having more cushion to my pushin'
Those experiences are very common, we have expectations for our partners that can fluctuate (Familiar term?) and when we fluctuate outside of our partner's needs, it feels like an attack on them I feel.
I think from an individual perspective you should have opinions and the ability to voice them constructively and lovingly while also not expecting them to change. Love for the most part comes from within I feel, when you can't love a person in any shape or form they're in I think that's a view on yourself. Because ultimately, you should both come together for the truth and the truth is, unless they're in an unhealthy state, there's nothing wrong with their body.
The problem with your comment is you think unconditional love exists. Making yourself more attractive is the only logical answer, as it opens you up to choice, rather than being damned to the only person who finds you redeemable
I feel quite vulnerable after watching this. It's like this videos described my inner self and it's quite frankly frightening and liberating knowing there are others like me.
well we're the same species, humans suck
No mention of humour? Humour can be incredibly attractive, it can transmute a tense situation into a bonding moment. It also tells you so much about a person’s character:
Self-deprecating, dark, witty, silly, awkward bad jokes (possibly nerves).
i agree. taking everything seriously and not being able to 'play' because of ego or something is definitely a turn off.
The distance between these videos and reality is at least a few light years
Lol no kidding.
More than few light years 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Be the change you wish to see in the world!
(and just date enlightened people from the comments section)
I really miss ur philosophers and political theories series . But good video thanks
lol welp
Yeah lol
2:45 Damn I did not expect TENTACLE PORN
And @6:00, one is *handcuffed* to a bedpost!
But people still do cheat no matter how fulfilling you are
All it takes is one moment of weakness out of thousands.
I did and it was the worst mistake of my life
Yes they do and then it is ruined . It can never go back to the way it was
@@joycejnn well it shouldn't be. In fact one should never try to go back in this scenario
yes, but the cheater had the problem not the one who's been cheated on (not too sure if this is correct English)
*Short answer*
Genes.
Nope
Benito Mastrangelo hahahaha end of video lol
Spot the incel
And money
@@zuzkajulka show me a banana with a great personality that matches what this video was talking about. Know why bananas don't have those qualities? Genes.
Face, Race, and Height will determine how attractive you are initially. As in a man with a bad personality that looks good won't suffer as much as an unattractive man with a good personality when trying to stage dates, enter relationships, etc.
Disagree. Stupid beauty is also ugly. Sex is only a part of relationship. You can think of it in terms of health: yours "Face, Race, and Height" say me something about one part of your genes, your mental abilities and emotional intelligence say me something about other part of your genes. My genes of height want genes of intelligence. Maybe for your genes height and symmetry are now more important, I can imagine that, but please not overgeneralize.
I agree. As a man if you´re far too below the average threshold you may come up with the most inspiring, positive and multifaceted personlity and have no success. It is true that for long-term fullfilment emotional intelligence, maturity and delaying gratification are key. The point is, however, that an ever larger growing part of the population may never encounter situations in which they may be forced to prove the latter since they are disqualified right from the get-go.
Average man still have chances to lock it but will have to be very confident and resistant since their long list of perceived and experienced rejections has been growing for quite some time as well.
did he just say that race determines attractiveness
oh no
he is racist
When women say "men", they are excluding short men from the conversation as much as men exclude fat/ugly women when they talk about "women."
There you go. Now you can better understand the opposite sex.
@Josip Damn I'm short sadly. 5'5 😔. But it doesn't fucking matter fuck em
Considerably early, time to mention I upload waffles every day
Waffle Daily looks nice 👌😎
Do you do gluten free waffles?
You didn't.
at 47 I only just discovered waffles, I have become enlightened
You’re slacking, you haven’t posted in two days.
That was not just a video. That was poetry.. Beatiful message.
What we see on tv, print, or social media trashes us what “supposed to be” attractive unfortunately.
Met a woman who found men attractive for what they had to offer during the time being. Once she bonded and grew bored, she dumped them. She had never been the dumpee. Ego plays a big part in how some individuals seek partners. Even females can seem preditorial and selfish.
Of everything I hate about my childhood, the way I was raised unloved and uncared for, what I hate the most and cannot absolutely forgive is the fact that the people that should have made me feel good about myself, made me feel completely and utterly unattractive and impossibile to have charm.
“We could learn to pay as much, if not more, attention to the foundations of an exciting mindset.”
“The real turn on is never just a well polished body, but always and primordially, well fashioned soul”
Well said ♡
It's cheesy and fundamentally false. Humans as sexual beings are most definitely attracted to something more to do with this physical world, not the soul. A beautiful soul is not going to get a man hard/woman wet if you're 400 pounds.
For about 10 minutes in my 20s, I was what you would call "hot." For most of my life I'd been a little overweight so after losing the weight & becoming "hot," I entered a different world and it was, for me anyway, an ugly one. Women would often be nasty to me, and it seemed like there was always a man in my face whenever I went out in public, trying to smooth talk or lay his hands on me. I couldn't confide in anyone but my then-husband about the issues I was having because no one thinks of "hotness" as a problem! It opened my eyes, made me realize that physical attractiveness can actually be a hindrance and an impediment, especially to forming relationships. Maybe if one is born "hot" they don't have these issues because they grow up with a different perspective, but being suddenly thrusted into the "hot chick" world, I felt out-of-my-depths and lonely. Luckily I don't have this problem anymore! ;)
This is a beautiful little daydream, and I'd probably be irresistable if it really worked like this. But as others have said, the truth is obviously totally different.
TLDR; Don't be born ugly.
shouldnt it be called tldw?
@@nikand8121 TL;DR comments
You want to know what makes a person attractive? Just look at me.
I can show you what DOESN’T make a person attractive
Same here
Mood lmfao
Lol count me in
What’s wrong with you guys?????
Stop speaking bad about yourselves and man up
The world sees you the way you see yourself
Everyone has their own uniqueness
Dress well
Speak well
Do things that build up your confidence
Get out of your comfort zone
Meet new people
Etc
Cmon guys you can do it
Believe in yourself 😃😎
Awaken The Greatness Within
It’s called “self-deprecation jokes are funny to Gen Z”
when she/he tells you, "i begin to love myself more when you are nearby" , it's the single most honest and loving compliment that can ever be made for you by him/her.
If you are watching this video, possibly you think you are unattractive person.
Me too
Yep
yeah
Fix your POSTURE as soon as you WAKE UP with a few stretch moves ~ and you’ll instantly LOOK attractive. Promise! 😆 Do it daily, minimum 3 weeks, until it becomes a habit. 😂
so basically this is just the long version of the russian guy that got asked what's the most important part of a woman and he answered "soul."
Jay-Z can cheat on Beyonce with "Betty with the good hair", so I know it's not about the look, success, drive, confidence and so on...
jay z is hella rich. thats your answer
What another person does is a reflection of their own inner world and troubles; projecting another's actions to be the fault of someone else is hardly ethical nor factual.
Jay-Z was the one who cheated. So it's not about beyonce being good-looking, successful and confident
He had esteem issues, bad childhood
I disagree, I think they are confusing sex and love, for me they go along together but for most people you don´t need to love someone to have sex with therefore physical appearance and the biological factors prevail over the psychological ones.
Now if you are going to love someone yes, who they are is the most attractive part of it and the real turn-on is definitely their being.
8 Minutes later, my question is 'What makes a person attractive?'
Mr Colemore it’s all listed clearly in the video!! Watch again!
Starts at 3:30
I love this! I don't think I'm physically attractive. However, I am always surprised that I get attention. I can 100% identify with the sexy traits that aren't physical. It's made me see myself a little differently.
Ya just be confident bro, I agree. Even if you’re 5’2 balding and fat people will love you for your confidence! Especially girls! Don’t forget to be charismatic too!
lmao. normies are so fucking delusional.
I'm a rebel. I consider what the media calls a 10, a 7 and what the media calls a 7, a 10.
Just look at my gf. You told me that she's a 7, but she's a 69420.
@Los Fromla Nope. She's like what, 40 kilos? She's 12 by the way. Don't scream pedophile just yet, I'm 12...
@Los Fromla idk really, give me pictures and I'll just rate
For me, it has always been about great conversation and about challenging me intellectually 😊
@Dogee I You're on fire today man lmao
Yeah it's always conver$$$$$ation
Mmmm.. so let's begin do you believe in soul and God ?😁
@@MohdZaheeruddins bruh
Mohammed Zaheeruddin wow that’s so deep bro
I’ve been wondering about this particular question lately, impressive tracking SoL!
This video describes the direct opposite of sexy, someone 'safe' that people settle for, before cheating on them with a bad boy/girl.
It’s the emotional intelligence that I find the most attractive trait in a person
I have tried to date unattractive people with all the good qualities but couldn't get past their looks. I've also dated good looking people and couldn't get past their narcissistic & immature nature.
If there is ONE thing I have learned about humanity....it's that "attraction" is contagious. People are only ever attracted to people who are seen as attractive to someone else. That's how people determine value. "Well does anyone else like them? No? Then I'm not attracted to them either. Yes? Then I am attracted to them very much." This phenomenon is exactly why women find men more attractive after finding out they are married. And there are a lot of studies to back this up. Kinda crazy. And also sad. Because humans are literally insane.
Not me. It feels trashy to even have a crush on someone taken. Some girls want to be a sidepiece, other girls do not.
I also like attractive people & have a certain taste. Some people agree, some don't but it doesn't sway my opinion. I have dated "ugly" ones who looked cute to me. The "you can do better" comment was used on me a lot.
Here's a simple test: Are they kindly towards insects? If they are-they're keepers. . . If the opposite-they're of the herd.
I sometimes squish insects sometimes help them get out of windows, toilets or from watery places and so on, so...? Am I keeper or the other one? :D
wtvr go make out with some spiders
The title is misleading. Also, now all your videos just sing the same tone. There's no new research. Just old information in new bottles.
Mrinalini Sud i mean they’re not claiming to bring new research. A lot of videos on RUclips are just bringing knowledge to people they might not have known. Also it’s free lmaoo
Do you know what makes a person attractive though?
I doubt anyone finds Kanye attractive (other than Kanye) Kim had just already been with every other celebrity and professional athlete and he was the one who put a RAAAANG on it
You'd be surprised
@@omar8634 lol fair enough
I found Kanye extremely good looking and I m a straight guy. But i would go gay for him and I m not joking. I really find him sexy as hell
Surely, many think him attractive. And surely, many think him a complete jackass.
You are mixing sexual arousal with love... I usually like tsol videos but this one might confuse even more people.
I’m brought up as a Filipino and catholic, was taught by my parents and family that other religion like Islam is bad. That I should pick a Filipina to date, someone who is submissive and Catholic and cute.
Fuck all that, I’m dating a gorgeous and intelligent Muslim girl, who’s not at all submissive. She’s one of the most intelligent person I’ve come across, way more intelligent than me. I want someone who I can be with. All her tiny imperfections make her more beautiful in my eyes.
The most attractive to the individual is who they would prefer a future with
I’m sorry but your channel is more and more doing wrong titles. Here you’re asking : « what makes a person attractive ? ». However here you’re giving a list of things that should be considered in attraction, a list of stuff that generally needs more than just a look. In fact, you’re just giving a list of items to seduce a person on the long term or what can seduce people who are watching your videos. Nevertheless you know that it’s not the case of most people in the society. It’s great to give hope to others, but lying to them isn’t. Because what you think or what we think isn’t what most of society think. During the intro you criticise the vision that society is giving to us, but the fact is that we’re living in this society and most people are raised in it. It’s kinda rare to have that kind of thinking and you definitely know it. This video explains to you how to be attractive to one particular person for you (which is the most important), but definitely not to most people
Thrue!! Narsisisty people are more attractive in today society.
I used to be anxious and depressed cuz of my low self-eestem and physical complexes but somehow I went through a period when I met people who appreciated me enough and the beauty in me despite my negativity. It was like a fairy tale though it ended like a nightmare. After a few years, I became more mature, I became aware of all my fears, I'm trying to overcome my situation, accepting what I cannot change, I became more confident, but now I feel more and more the alienation , the alienation that crushes my existence. I feel more and more like I am lonley and I cannot approach anyone physically and emotionally, I do not know how yet. Even though I'm more attractive than in the past.
How did it end like a nightmare?! This was a very interesting read even though it's just a comment lol
People seek safety unless they feel safe alone than they seek meaning. If you are insecure you look for someone to take care of you if you are confident you look for someone to take care of. Unless you pretend to be confident, than you act like an a-hole.
NoCultist truest statement
I come here to get smarter and improve my language. Thank you, skool of liyef.
I wish that was true.. but if checked against reality that construct of beautiful ideas falls apart fast and hard. It's all about looks, your body and the confidence to play the game.
Your soul can be garbage, yet you'll get everything from life you can wish for. Example: Belle Delphine.
On the other hand you can have a beautiful soul and nobody will ever be attracted to you. Example: Schopenhauer.
Ugh, finally someone actually being realistic. In this world, there are plenty of instances where the quality of your soul doesn't matter. Sometimes kind people just get the short end of the stick, but no one is willing to admit that for some reason.
We get attracted to well fashioned soul!!!! All points explained are strikingly true but may be the physical attractiveness was more influenced by movies?
As far as I'm concerned the libido is the cruelest joke that Nature ever played on the human being.
The libido? Why do you say that?
@@Message4theMassesbyMarcie Nature forces on me a need to have sex. It's the most inconvenient need that I know. I can do without that need.
This is like everyone is born to impress everyone. Is that the ultimate goal of life?
No. The ultimate goal of life is to satisfy yourself. People's affirmations is one of the ways you can go about it. You should not do it all the time, though.
You've done it again, put up a video that sparks so much emotional intelligence. Truly beautiful! Thank you!
Y'all are spreading some Disney lies. There are so many people with beautiful souls who spend their lives alone.
Inner city emotional dysregulation is not identity, it's subculture trauma.
@@m2pozad I find this sort of bullshit language really unattractive.
Even though if you think you are ugly, the most important thing in relationship isn't about appearance, but it is about the time and memory that You have spent and Made with her, and those are something that Made a thing what we called love
I kinda have to agree. You'll remember the other person not for they look, but how they made you feel.
This was suggested to me while I was watching Margot Robbie interview. That RUclips algorithm.
Good Point.. but Looks, Money, Status and Youth, Beauty, Fertility - Wake up. Weakness & Being Nice is not valued in this evil system.
Thank you School of Life for shedding your wisdom again with us. You definitely help me deal with my waywardness - on a daily basis, which is awesome - and get to know myself better. I will save in my mind the last sentence, considering that I find it tremendously alined with my way of thinking: "The real turn on is never just a well-polished body but, always and primordially, a well-fashioned soul. 💙
"Good sex promises like a feel of conspiracy." I remembered the novel 1984 when I heard this.
Your looks make you attractive, that's it. That's the sad truth.
Initially. But there has to be more than that
@Mice Elf not necessarily. It depends on who you date. What if you are both broke?
@Mice Elf SMV?
@Mice Elf prices, market value. Maybe things will get better when you stop treating women like a commodity
i kinda agree on this and kinda dont. If you focus to much on the emotional part you run high risks of getting friendzoned. Your level of attraction will be so intense that a lot of girls will be scared at how easily you can pick up at their vulnerabilities and have them open up their deepest fears and regrets. They will love you, but they will be scared of loving you more, as they will be scared of losing themselves in your words and support and they will also be scared that they cannot do the same for you making them feel bad. So try to also focus on the physical part too. A little bit of mundane talk is also necessary.
In my circle, we know it as "second look beauty". Attitude of life & manner of converse contributes to this category.
1. A sense to f slightly being at odds with mainstream society 2. an unshockable nature 3. A tension between good and bad 4. Vigor and impatience 5. Kindness
Money.
Underrated
It's the root of all evil.
.. Maybe not, but maybe.
Yes, it's exciting to find beauty that is not obvious and many a time we are far more atracted to somebodies way of being rather than their looks. But we musn't go the other way and denigrate beauty, trying to mark it as shallow, cheap or whatever we can come up with. Apreciate whatever you like about yourself and about others b it the way somebody looks or mooves or the way somebody talks or feels, there is no line , idon't think.
I wonder if it'd be possible to have a video on the subject of compatibility.
I've observed that a person may be considered physically attractive, have some or all of the qualities mentioned in what is considered truly attractive but still have a very difficult time finding someone. I've wondered why that may be ... I may be wrong but perhaps they seek others who aren't compatible for them. I think at one point or another in our lives we all seek a partner who is not compatible with us but we love them anyways. It would be great to dive deeper into this subject and why we do so or how we can seek compatible people. Thanks so much! :]
True that, I had given up long ago; I had try a few times with people from different background but girls are girls 😶 I'm not seeking anymore, good for me that I don't feel lonely even without such partners
Opposite attracts. If you find someone who likes what you like and does what you want you will find that person boring.
Way too complex explanation. Better to make it more simple and standardized.
Using a Complex approach doesn’t necessarily means content is meaningful and knowledgeable..
If you wish you find something attractive about someone, you will. But you must want to find it. Appearances are ok, but do they help you see the world differently? Do they light you up inside? Are they interested in getting to know what you like and WHY you like it?
The art is disturbing af
Kanye West? Hmmm okay 🙄🙄 thank u next
Lol wait but then how do assholes and douche bags get so many girls id partners are just turned on by people who are nice and care emotionally? those people dont get the girls only the few. no but really this video is pretty accurate deep down
The hability to use one's body as a true expression of the soul, regardless of social conventions.
"Good sex promises to feel like something of a conspiracy against everybody else." Gorgeous! I had to write that down. And also thank you for this reply to the trend of pseudo-scientific over-simplifications, trying to explain every aspect of love and sexuality with bizarre and reductive biologisms.
Can u 🥺 please explain that line??
“You’re not ugly, society is”. Used to be my favorite quote when I was depressed
Josip I think so. But lately my insecurities seem to be getting worse... so maybe not
Based on your profile pic you're beautiful!
You're good looking what u insecure about
Raquel Reya quit fucking social media
It might make you feel better that you aren't the problem, but everyone else is, but it is probably not the truth. Also, you are apart of society.