what to do when moving to a new city alone

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  • Опубликовано: 18 мар 2023
  • In this video I am talking about the sturggles of moving to a new city alone. I discuss the ways to be okay from days 1 to month 3 to a few years. Moving to a new city is really tough and especially when you dont know anybody. With these tips hopefully you can see that it is hard for most!
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  • @makaylafriend
    @makaylafriend Месяц назад +11

    I’m moving somewhere new in about a month and it’s to start my dream career. I just had a small cry session because I have social anxiety and really struggle with making new friendships that aren’t just surface level (cause I’m scared of actually being vulnerable with people). I want to have real friends but it’s so hard for me to just be real with others. This video made me feel a little better. Thank you!

  • @notequalto5179
    @notequalto5179 Год назад +170

    Healthy relationships typically take some time to build. So it's totally okay if you don't have a deep friendship or romantic relationship until much later after you've moved.

    • @MaureenBlanco
      @MaureenBlanco Год назад

      how long?

    • @notequalto5179
      @notequalto5179 Год назад +7

      @@MaureenBlanco there's not really a definite amount of time. Deeper friendships take a few months to build I've found. Of course, it can depend on a lot of things. But it certainly won't happen overnight.

  • @Akanchwua
    @Akanchwua 4 месяца назад +39

    Fucking HELL I needed this video. I moved to a completely new city on my own almost 3 months ago and I'm having a complete crisis and it feels like everything is falling apart......so glad I found this. Everything you said is true, the fun has worn off, reality is setting in. Have minimal money and feel like.....wtaf am I doing. Thank you thank you thank you

    • @rachelann8275
      @rachelann8275 16 часов назад

      are you doing better now?

    • @Akanchwua
      @Akanchwua 12 часов назад

      @@rachelann8275 omg thank you for asking

  • @leticiaissa3449
    @leticiaissa3449 Год назад +64

    I remember a few months ago commenting on one of your videos how I felt like i wasn't enjoying studying abroad as much as I thought I would. 2 months later, I can definitley say that I don't feel that way anymore as I did. I'm leaving in a month or so to go back to my homecountry, and although I will be coming back after the summer, a part of me is sad that I am leaving even if it's for 4 months. Funny how just a few months can change your perspective on living abroad.

  • @jenessam.hernandez4331
    @jenessam.hernandez4331 10 месяцев назад +32

    I just moved to a new place alone and learning so much about so many things! I kind of missed the ball on this one in my 20s and now finally doing it in my 30s. This new place is so beautiful and excited for what the future holds. ✨

    • @tr1ckster726
      @tr1ckster726 9 месяцев назад +2

      Hey I am in my 30s too. I quit my job and was going to move last October, and then I just... Stayed. It has been eating away at me for the last year. It's like I said I was going to do something, and then I didn't do it! I know I HAVE to do it though.

    • @jenessam.hernandez4331
      @jenessam.hernandez4331 9 месяцев назад +1

      I recommend doing it! Of course, ensure you have a job and finances in order but it’s so rewarding. I have really been loving it and going to move to another new city in December. It’s okay to be alone and you learn so much about yourself. I totally understand how you must feel. Why don’t you try booking an Air BnB in the area you are interested in for 2-3 months to get a feel for it. That way you can get a better understanding of what it’s like for you. I wish you all the luck!

  • @MultiMarlene12
    @MultiMarlene12 16 дней назад +2

    I moved 3 hours away from my hometown for school and the first 3 months were so hard and I would say school distracted me from feeling homesick. Now its been 3 years and I’m done with school so I started feeling homesick again but I am just now getting more comfortable living here, making friends , going to church, going to therapy 😊 its hard but doable!!!

  • @ramune_flowers
    @ramune_flowers 9 месяцев назад +15

    I‘m in the 4th month abroad now and I’m struggling so hard. Thanks for the calming video.

  • @ngoquynhbopj
    @ngoquynhbopj Год назад +7

    Love when you deal with the frighten of studying abroad and being alone in such a direct and honest way. I also gonna study abroad this Aug and your videos make me less frightened about going to a new country with tons of new things and stresses. ❤❤❤

  • @jakelennon6057
    @jakelennon6057 Год назад +5

    What a beautiful soul :) Thankyou for taking the time to articulate so well a difficult time in people's lives and giving people understanding, support and action plans, bravo :)

  • @joshuaherring1711
    @joshuaherring1711 6 месяцев назад +5

    As a person that restarted/moved 4 times so far, these are great tips!

  • @youtubefan44
    @youtubefan44 Год назад +5

    You are so comforting and relatable basically thank you for existing :-)

  • @rebeccasrandomness3045
    @rebeccasrandomness3045 Год назад +3

    These are some great tips and I love that you are so openly sharing from your experiences

  • @cariwalker7549
    @cariwalker7549 Год назад +9

    I’m 32 and have always lived with my mom and so has my brother. Right now I’m living with my mom, my brother, his wife and 2 kids, and my sister-in-law’s niece. It’s hard. It’s really hard. And I hate my job and there isn’t anything to do in my town because it’s going downhill. So I’m planning on trying to get a new job in a city about an hour and a half away and getting my own place. The reason I am choosing this specific city is because I do have family there. I have aunts and uncles and cousins there that used to live in my hometown but moved years ago and who I only saw on thanksgiving and Christmas until they got married and had kids and then there was wedding and baby showers and birthdays. But still, I don’t have much of a relationship with them as I wish I did. But I wanted to move somewhere new away from my current stress where I don’t know anyone except for a handful of family members. Currently in the process of looking for a job now! Wish me luck! 😁👍🏻 hoping to get closer to my family while living there and make at least 1 close friend and maybe date. I know it’s gonna be so scary but I’m also excited at the same time. So many pros and cons of me staying in my hometown but moving out and getting a new job or getting completely out of my comfort zone and trying new things

  • @heartfillialucy2041
    @heartfillialucy2041 11 месяцев назад +3

    Watching your videos really makes me feel like it is not just me who feels this way. It is a big move and for a couple of days I have been in constant emotion rollercoaster of feeling excited but also crisis 😂😂

  • @summer5779
    @summer5779 3 месяца назад +1

    Seriously needed to hear this. Thank you for posting

  • @CallMeSummers
    @CallMeSummers 3 месяца назад +1

    Earned a sub! Needed this advice, got offered a job in the East Coast. Gonna be alone in a new city, keep it up!

  • @bubblegumplop9511
    @bubblegumplop9511 10 месяцев назад +4

    I was having an existential crisis a while back since i'm moving away from home for med school and I could not be more terrified, but watching this video really helped calm me down. I can't thank you enough for this

  • @misosoupbaby
    @misosoupbaby Год назад

    Thank you for making this!! 🥹

  • @udays6170
    @udays6170 Год назад +2

    I scrolled down to look at the comments, which is when I realised that this video was posted a couple of hours ago! I'm moving to the US soon, really excited :)

  • @oliviaremak7071
    @oliviaremak7071 2 месяца назад

    This has been so reassuring for me! I’m doing a major cross country move totally by myself to a new city for school where I know NO ONE and I’ve been so anxious about it.

  • @jpg.
    @jpg. Год назад +1

    I appreciate this video. I am about to graduate from university and move to a new city all by myself. I am excited about the opportunity but am certainly anxious about how I will meet new people. I worked this past summer in a different city all by myself, however I wasn’t too worried about it as I was coming back to school where my girlfriend, friends and family were. Now I don’t have the comfort of knowing that it is temporary, so I am worried. Hopefully I can use some of these suggestions and can make it through haha.

  • @Insert_Smiley29
    @Insert_Smiley29 3 месяца назад

    Thanks for the video! I’ve struggled with isolation most of my teen years and I didn’t do great in school, but now I’m looking into LA film school which is all the way in California (I’m a Wisconsin girly)- but I’m really pushing for this because it’s something I really really wanna do but it’s just so intimidating! ❤

  • @viiyaxyz
    @viiyaxyz Год назад

    I'm about to move to Malaysia for University all on my own so I've just been mentally preparing myself for whatever I will face. And get as many tips n advice so thank you sm for this video it helped :)

  • @Unique247official
    @Unique247official 3 месяца назад

    This exactly what I been needing to do excited it’s coming close, to get away from the toxicity in my hometown

  • @hannahpeeples6737
    @hannahpeeples6737 Год назад +6

    I'm studying abroad at the University of Edinburgh this fall and was just worried about loneliness and these concepts yesterday! Thank you!

  • @photoniccannon2117
    @photoniccannon2117 9 месяцев назад

    Your personality is A+, made my day 😂

  • @BenTheBot
    @BenTheBot Год назад +7

    Thank you for this video. Moving to an entirely different state in a couple days, and I’m very excited but also kind of nervous to be in a place where I have no connections. It’s gonna be all about making new friends, lol

    • @dumpsta-divrr365
      @dumpsta-divrr365 Год назад +1

      Good luck ben!!

    • @BenTheBot
      @BenTheBot Год назад +1

      @@dumpsta-divrr365 Thank you!! I’ve been in Atlanta for 6 days now and it’s been great so far!

    • @playdate8827
      @playdate8827 Год назад +1

      @@BenTheBotmade new friends?

    • @kyleekroh2181
      @kyleekroh2181 5 месяцев назад

      Update?

  • @laily1981
    @laily1981 Год назад +2

    Watching this from France where i am currently studying abroad! Thanks for the tips :) I agree that the first week can be the hardest, I remember being very homesick but once school started and I made some friends I felt much better.

  • @ravely9784
    @ravely9784 8 дней назад

    I'm moving across the country next week for a new job and i'm scared. I had an experience moving abroad before but that has been a while and it was only for one year. thanks for making this video

  • @Lonebadger567
    @Lonebadger567 Год назад +4

    Thanks for sharing. Thinking about moving to Nashville to pursue a music career. The thought of it is scary and exciting at the same time. But I feel burnt out in my hometown and I need to go after my passion and purpose.

    • @pansexualdickhaver6878
      @pansexualdickhaver6878 Год назад

      As a born and raised nashvillian, we welcome you,friend. We have a ton of out of towners moving here so should be pretty easy to find people to become cool with that relate to your experience. And there’s obv plenty of places to perform your music lol if you have any questions on the city,feel free to ask

    • @facelesssinger2134
      @facelesssinger2134 5 месяцев назад

      I live in Nashville, it's mostly connects that'll get you far. There is wayyy to many homeless here and it's depressing

  • @mebjones83
    @mebjones83 10 месяцев назад

    Great video! “Or maybe your normal, and that’s fine.” 🤣

  • @user-pe3by3bc4e
    @user-pe3by3bc4e 5 месяцев назад

    Moved to the US. Really appreciate this as I am in the questioning week. 😢

  • @TheApothecary_
    @TheApothecary_ 9 месяцев назад

    You are not alone !

  • @Kolia_1959
    @Kolia_1959 Год назад +4

    I'm a Colombian exchange student in Indonesia for 1 year, I'm in my 6th month, and I'm feeling like shit with myself. I watched full two of your videos and, I don't know why, but they make me feel less worse. Thanks, maybe I'll watch the others. :)

  • @Trooperos90
    @Trooperos90 2 месяца назад

    Awesome vid and personality;) u are so unique.

  • @SungHatonn0
    @SungHatonn0 2 месяца назад

    Thank you 💙🙏🏽

  • @seeco1017
    @seeco1017 Год назад +2

    Needed this, moving to Portland Oregon tomorrow and I am anxiousss

  • @lokitori2542
    @lokitori2542 Год назад +1

    I ❤love you already when I hear you said
    “50% of the problems can be solved with a good night sleep and a sandwich 🥪 “ 😂

  • @RickyPetersen
    @RickyPetersen 10 месяцев назад +1

    That beans egg bread combo is crazy lol

  • @AnlStarDestroyer
    @AnlStarDestroyer Год назад +1

    I’m actually moving to DC next month and I’m terrified. I’m scared of losing my current friends and not making new ones there and so many other things

  • @Foxuniverso
    @Foxuniverso Год назад +1

    Lately ive bwen feeling a bit down by things in my life and i consider at times moving to a small town. My fam is not up for it, and i dont even have a plan lol. But when i actually think about it i feel relaxed but when i visualize my life there and how it'll be with new friends and stuff, idk why, but i feel pretty anxious. Id miss where i live now pretty badly tbh...

  • @emiliapaul1916
    @emiliapaul1916 11 месяцев назад

    I moved to a new city for the first time in my life and ofc the first time is the biggest because I moved abroad. I moved to live with my long distance boyfriend (and to go to uni) so I had a built-in best friend who already lived here for a year and took care of all the stressful things (he even found me a job). I’ve been here for 1,5 month and he went back to our home country to visit family and I stayed here. Alone. Without any friends. I feel so alone but the thought that I am going to meet people once the academic year starts makes me hopeful in all of the moments when I go insane for a second and think that it’s going to be like this for the rest of my life.

  • @bp3108
    @bp3108 Год назад +4

    Hello,
    Move abroad for a short time. I am from Ecuador, South America. The fact that I move to Japan was a total cultural change. Want to remind everyone how strong and brave we are to move far from home. It is okay to feel all this emotions and you are no alone. I can tell you that it is hard, but as a phrase I like to repeat rain it is not permanent and sun will always comes up. Best advice if you feel any emotion start to learn to feel the emotion and let it go. Do not keep the emotions in you because some of them will get together and one day explode. Also there are always good people that will help you and show you that kindness still exist and that will help you through your journey.

    • @horseconfused
      @horseconfused 8 месяцев назад

      I am Ecuadorian too, and i also happen to be moving to Japan
      I am so close to my family and already have mental issues so I’m scared for my future self when i move, im going to Osaka institute of Fashion for 4 years and possibly permanently afterwards…
      Me da mucho miedo porque yo me conozco y yo sé que definitivamente me voy a deprimir pero tengo que estar preparada para eso porque, bueno mi sueño desde chiquita era mudarme a Japón, no sé cual es tu caso amigo pero, a pesar de todo esto, yo sé que lo lograre, y en cambio, tú también lo lograrás.
      Abrazos

  • @joanna3083
    @joanna3083 8 месяцев назад

    Hi I'm just in the 3 months crisis and wow thanks I just feel I really needed normalization of unknown cause I have similar striving for perfect figured out life. Haha I was lookinng for super specific adivices but having fun, sleep and good sadwinth may help

  • @amandabrandt3471
    @amandabrandt3471 11 месяцев назад +9

    it's so true that if you have your basic needs like sleep and nutrition covered, you're so much better equipped to exist in an entirely new place

  • @Nahimana.219
    @Nahimana.219 9 месяцев назад

    Interesting how I came across this video, because I’m fresh out of the military, back in cosmetology school and plan on moving from Georgia to Texas, I have family there but I’ve never met any of them so I’m technically going to move there along

  • @user-ex8qq3ts6m
    @user-ex8qq3ts6m 10 месяцев назад

    I'm looking forward c🎉

  • @shatakshipandey8014
    @shatakshipandey8014 3 дня назад

    I am moving 3 days away from my hometown to another state. It's an entirely different culture . And I am only 17. I am moving out alone for college.

  • @user-jf4bq8bw5n
    @user-jf4bq8bw5n 11 месяцев назад

    We’re alike in so many ways

  • @mirandasara104
    @mirandasara104 4 месяца назад

    It's one of those days. I just moved across the country

  • @wendyortiz736
    @wendyortiz736 Год назад

    Thanks

  • @nataliemores
    @nataliemores 2 месяца назад

    i thought there was a bug on your wall ....but it was on my computer screen

  • @elainegozum6360
    @elainegozum6360 11 месяцев назад

    hi, I'm thinking about transferring in another county, but like how, like how do I survive? for example, I don't have that much money, and I want to apply for a job.

    • @elainegozum6360
      @elainegozum6360 11 месяцев назад

      I'm 17, turning 18 next yr and I'm trynna run away lmao

  • @AryendraMakesMusic
    @AryendraMakesMusic 4 месяца назад

    you are literally me

  • @walou3917
    @walou3917 Год назад

    i wanna move but dont have a car, should i get one in my current state or wait till i get to where im moving and get it in that state? (plan on leasing)

    • @EmpathAwaken
      @EmpathAwaken 3 месяца назад

      Get it in the state you're moving to because you will have to pay for your plates and registration twice if you get it in your current state. Also, when are you moving?

  • @coznow
    @coznow Год назад +1

    I'm moving to a new city for grad school this fall and I'm so scared I'm not going to make any friends :( I don't know a single person there

  • @Akanchwua
    @Akanchwua 4 месяца назад

    P.s please come to Bristol so we can hang out :))))))

  • @jiemanoshyoung5415
    @jiemanoshyoung5415 Год назад

    I think humen really need to social,but not staying in alone.

  • @LittlePilangton
    @LittlePilangton 4 месяца назад

    WELL I'M ABOUT TO MOVE TO EUROPE WITH A SCHOLARSHIP ! i might be tiny scared because i have to get ready 😭

  • @melisatel
    @melisatel Год назад

    ♡♡♡

  • @user-ex8qq3ts6m
    @user-ex8qq3ts6m 10 месяцев назад

    🎉❤

  • @Axel1Axel2Axel
    @Axel1Axel2Axel 2 месяца назад

    all ive taken from this is that you really like sandwhiches

  • @akshathag8526
    @akshathag8526 11 месяцев назад

    Cheryl crow

  • @Korre84
    @Korre84 10 месяцев назад

    Charleston?! No no no. You "visit" Charleston. You LIVE in Columbia or Greenville and you VISIT Charleston from time to time.

  • @haggle196
    @haggle196 Месяц назад +2

    go to the church and socialize brev

  • @TheChoice2121
    @TheChoice2121 Год назад +2

    Someone likes sandwiches

  • @musselmanmedia5236
    @musselmanmedia5236 7 месяцев назад +1

    girls can move to a new city and get a bf within a month.....

    • @Embearr
      @Embearr 4 месяца назад +2

      we’re not trying to get murdered