Things They Don't Tell You About Living Alone
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- Опубликовано: 18 дек 2021
- When you started living alone, no one told you that life was complicated. You will feel overwhelmed, and bored, and tired. But gradually you will fall in love with living alone, because you will be freer, and you will be more responsible for yourself.
Whether you're moving out, or you've been living alone for a while, I hope you have fun in your life.
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"I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone." - RobinWilliams
SO TRUE!!
Nah, it’s being sentenced to a lifetime of loneliness after losing a soulmate.
@@kaydens6964 facts
This one hits deep.
Hits hard
Someone once said being alone is dangerous because once you see how peaceful and quiet it is you’ll never wanna talk/deal with anyone again.
That's a good thing, that means no drama and BS.
@@josiahjacinto4156 fr
It’s kind of the opposite too though. Once you reclaim your personal time you have more energy for being around and dealing with other people.
@@josiahjacinto4156if you think talking to someone/ dealing with them only causes drama and bs then which ppl were you around 💀
Yet you wrote a comment here
The “worst” thing about living alone is that you probably won’t go back living with anyone anymore 😂
It is such peaceful and joyful
Very good point, unless it's someone very special?
😂
Agree
It is excellent for introverts like me 😂.
I so hate people writing without punctuations, so selfish
Living alone is awsome. No drama and knowing everything is done in your own time. Spread out in the bed. Eat whatever i choose. No needing to worry about getting in the bathroom. House always clean. The list goes on
That Entire Part! FACTS! 💯🪬🕉️🙏🏾
100 %🌼🌿 happiness comes from within yourself
- After finishing long toxic relationship -
True freedom is real independence no worries about anything but taking care of everything yourself. Just be your own person no-one to hold you back from being the person that you really want to be. No pressure to be something you are not comfortable with;☯️🧘🏻♀️👍🏻☺️ The purest form of hakuna matata. Sure there'll be challenges and obstacles but at least you decide how to conquer the everyday. You learn who you really are by yourself no strings attached to stunt your growth as a fully free person.🙆🏻♀️
You don't have to worry about having to cook for someone all day and doing things for everyone else but yourself. You're less stressed and could enjoy the peace and quiet. You can keep your place nice and neat because you don't have to worry about someone always messing it up.
@hadassah-rcy88 true that 💯
Honestly it’s a privilege not having to talk constantly. Silence has no price.
Yes. I can literally read a whole book the entire day and be happy, zero interactions is bliss
Especially if it's someone with single minded interest that is in no way comparable to your wide range of interests
In today's economy the privilege is being able to afford living alone
Don't exaggerate. @@semekiizuio
Actually, for me it’s the privilege TO constantly talk. I talk to myself all the time, and now I can do it without disturbing anyone or leaking secrets
The biggest problem with living alone is that it's not affordable for most people
EXACTLY
I have never lived with anybody in my life, save my parents when I was a child. It was hard at first, but not tremendously until I got my current job. I even work completely alone and go weeks without seeing humans, save on television. It is not bad, like doctors say.
@bobsacamano7653 Well, biggest problem with living is that it's not affordable for most people to take medical care, education, eat, have their hair cut and get things what they want. If I say these things does not sounds weird to you? Life does not give you everything, things need to be achieved. It's not a problem, it's a challenge. Your needs has value and you have to provide the cost.
Facts!
That's exactly the opposite, when you are alone you have no family or children to feed. That means you can enjoy all your money on your self.
The longer you get used to your life being yours, you start becoming very guarded about bringing people into your space. People can be nosey, they can steal things, they can cause a lot of trouble you don't need. Be cautious who you allow into your world. Your peace of mind is priceless.
That's true. My landlord is like that. Extremely nosey. Constantly finds excuses to come into my house, and then insists on looking into every room. At times he even sent people who demanded to look into my closets and cabinets. My stalker has broken in, killed my beloved cat, and rummaged through my belongings. What is it with people that they just HAVE to cause pain and suffering, and sniff through other people's belongings? And he stole too - oh gosh, my entire jewelry collection, model train engines (the expensive ones, not toys)... he stole it all, and then smashed up my classic car.
Why is everyone so keen on sniffing through my things?
I hate living alone, but would never be able to trust anyone enough to live with after all that!
I'm especially guarded about family coming into my space, because they like to treat me like I'm twenty, when I'm sixty-one. They expect me to follow their directions as if I have no mind.
Isn't that living in fear?
@@adamhughes4442 No. It's called being cautious about your safety, your surroundings. Everyone should know what actions to take in certain incidents, to live safely, especially when they live alone.
@@gracealexandre3381"What actions to take in certain incidents"
What does this have to do with choosing to live alone?
There are times I wish I had someone to share my life with, but there are a lot more times when I am glad I am alone.
Same here
exactly.
So im not crazy 😂
the same for me
@@ForGlory1who knows, I guess you’re the best judge of that, but living alone doesn’t exempt you from being crazy 🤷🏽♀️
Over 60 years ago, my mom told me a person has to be able to live alone without being lonely before they look for a mate. Good sound advise even today.
If you want a mate....pay the rent for the weekend.
I🙂 already have two mates, ME🤠, and MYSELF😎. We don't need anyone else to ruin our lives. ME🤠, MYSELF😎, and I🙂; we make a great team together!!
How’s that working out?
@@watitduful It's working out terrific! It's Heaven on Earth!
So the only time you should look for a mate is when they have nothing to offer you? Why would you look at all if they'll never be of value to you?
Just take care of 2 things:
- Don't leave the stove on.
- Don't forget the keys.
Yes. You can't allow yourself to be dipsy-doodle if you live alone ...otherwise you could get in bother rather fast. Try to make backup plans for certain eventualities (leaving a spare key with somebody you trust is a good one.) But then keep your wits about you. However, it's a good idea to develop that skill anyway; it's not fair to dump dipsy behaviour on the person you live with either.
I left the gas stove on twice the same day 😮
Once heating up oil in a frying pan for breakfast , then in the evening boiling cloves in water to make tea .
Both times , I was distracted by something on utube or my tablet .
Thankfully , both times I remembered in time to save a mini catastrophe , that may have turned into a major one .
That's definitely one drawback of living alone . 🤔
You can report sick if you leave the keys home 😅
Well I’m married and my spouse has left the stove on and left the wallet and his keys in the car a few times.
-Don't forget to put on some clothes before going outside (optional)
My worst regret was moving back in with family
Now I feel drained 😢 and sad all the time. Can’t even have a lone moment, no peace, when your silent it becomes a problem. Living alone is the best way to grow and figure out who you really are
So true!
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I know exactly the feeling, I'm going through same right now. No privacy. You can't even be yourself, but must live as per their rules. It's like that when God made you different from your family members. We are literally the black sheep!
But God knows how I like who I am. Though it hurts, really bad, but I'm glad, He made me differently. 😊 Wish you strength and courage each day. And always Trust in God, no matter what ❤
100% living with family geta draining
This entire video sounds like pure heaven. Peace, quiet, no forced conversations. For introverts and people who enjoy alone time, living alone is the most beautiful thing on earth.
Being alone and being lonely are 2 entirely different things.
How?
@@Irfaanrasheed0310 just because ur alone doesn’t necessarily mean ur lonely
@@Irfaanrasheed0310 ever take a shit? thats alone not lonely
I always preach this. Being alone can be so beautiful.
and being lonely is pure aids
As an adult, I've lived with family, lived with roommates, been married, and lived alone. The best by far is living alone. I've never found it lonely. I've found it freeing.
We enter this world alone and leave it alone.
It can be both. Freeing and lonely aren't mutually exclusive things.
I agree, had over 9 roommates in a 7 year period. It’s been two months now. Still hard sometimes, but think of all the crap I put up with.
It's all about how do you treat yourself 🤝🏻
@@josiane2005 als die 2005 in je naam iets betekent, ben jij nog niet eens meerderjarig. In dat geval maak je je druk over dingen die je nog niet hebt meegemaakt.
Uit ervaring met meerdere situaties bij zowel mezelf als anderen heb ik een wijze raad voor je: zoek iemand van het andere geslacht die jou aanvult en die jij aanvult, ga pas samenleven wanneer je bent getrouwd, erken dat verliefdheid een gevoel is en dat liefde veel verder gaat dan dat (maar ook iets is waar je in moet investeren).
Iedereen in mijn omgeving die naar bovenstaande leeft, is daar gelukkiger mee dan degenen die andere routes kozen.
Mensen die beweren liever alleen te zijn, vormen de uitzondering. Die mensen hebben dikwijls of een trauma, of een mentale stoornis zoals autisme, waardoor ze meer moeite hebben om met iemand samen te leven. Voor die minderheid is het inderdaad (in elk geval op korte termijn) beter om alleen te zijn.
When I was living with my family it's the loneliest I have ever felt. Now that I've been living alone I feel so much better and enjoy my own company.
Living together with people you can't stand anymore, is hell and worse than loneliness. When you live together with other people, and you are doing something for yourself, focusing on yourself, these people might even call you egocentric and a bad person. People judge you, only for caring about yourself and your own balance, and mental health. Finally being alone can be such a relief.
I'm actually living like this, since I've started my diet to get my health better my parents specially have taken it personally, every time that I decline every food that they offer to me they get pissed off even tho they know that I'm having health issues. It's the same every time that I decide to put my mental health first or even my pet's health. It definitely keeps getting harder to live like this, specially when you're working on your discipline and you live with people that doesn't have it.
Anyone who's had as many bad roommates as I've had values living alone. When I finally did it, it was a relief after I let go of the control they had exacted. What I mean is that I had been so affected by that, that I had trouble moving to doing whatever I felt I needed to be doing at the time, instead of hearing their opinions in my head still. I got over it.
Had to learn all this. My tips:
- cook for the week and keep it stored in separate containers. You'll only have to heat it up when you get home.
- learn to fix things in your home yourself. It will put your focus on something good and improve your self-esteem long term
- find friends that can go to the pub/cafe with you after work at least once a week. I know it's difficult to make friends, but it's a skill we all have to learn 😢
- start enjoying music again. Start following new releases from artists/styles you like. A home with music playing is not so lonely anymore
- enjoy all the good parts
And get creative! Write that novel. Paint that painting. Learn a craft. You've got the space & time for it.
Cool. I've been thinking of trying that out for a while now (cooking for the week).
Thank you
@@dms-f16tbh i wanna make a manga that becomes an anime, only problem i don't live in japan for it to become a Manga... And ain't that financially well
1. No. Better buy groceries for half a week but plan to cook something different every day or every second day. Eating same stuff all the time will get boring quickly. There is too many recipes to try and improve. Food 3-7 days old or even next day is not as tasty as freshly made one with fresh ingredients.
2. You can't learn how to fix something if it's not broken. You will learn once you break things or things break on their own with time. You can't focus on that and learning that in theory when it can occur in two years is useless as you can forget how to do it and won't use it in practice.
3. You can make friends in many places, best look for group online and try to join some events that are suitable for newcomers. I never liked drinking coffee, specially going out just to do that so I bet I am not the only one.
4. Or just listen to music you listened to 10 or 20 years ago. There are so many artists and music online that you won't be able to listen to everything even if you spend life on it anyway.
Living alone is not lonely, it’s freedom and independency. You feel like a grown adult
But, ur alone!! It's not healthy
I know that all too well.
I have been healthier than ever since I started living alone, the more people contact you have the more likely it is that you will get sick. I used to get sick every winter from being around people at work. If you have a good relationship that's great for you, but there are too many people that are married and miserable, not for me, I'm happy alone.
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@@user-pb1ic7pi9cif that’s the case then it’s much better being unhealthy than wasting your time on fake narcissistic people who use you for their entertainment play thing.
@@user-pb1ic7pi9c being dependent on others too much is unhealthy too.
Don’t forget the things they don’t tell you about living alone are some of the best things to find out on your own. This is my first time living alone and I’m only just 2.5 months in. I learned so much about myself just in such a little timespan. If you are single with no kids, LIVE ALONE and give yourself time to figure out what you like and what you don’t. It’s worth it! It can get boring but IT’S WORTH IT!!!!
How do I deal with the constant fight or flight I get when I think about living by myself? It feels like due to that feeling, I won't be able to persist with it.
@@gunnervin you might feel like that when you first move in but that feeling goes away quickly. You’ll adapt to living alone and if you ever feel too lonely, just get out the house and meet up with friends or loved ones.
Growing up with six siblings, I rarely had the chance to stay home alone. But as I've grown older, I've come to appreciate the tranquility of solitude and the freedom to do as I please. I'm now content with living alone and accepting that it may be my reality for the rest of my life.
Living on my own is the best thing to happen to me; I woke up smiling for MONTHS. MONTHS. No stress, no compromise, no having to worry about others….no yelling, no fighting, no belittling….it’s awesome.
I had mixed feelings at first because managing my own finances was hard, pulling myself out of bed was a struggle, etc. But at some point even when I was alone doing nothing in my own dorm I felt calmer than when I did nothing living in my parents’ house. Even when the house was quiet I had this feeling that someone would be mad out of nowhere. Even when everything is calm I hated that there was practically no boundaries set on opening doors. My mom randomly barging in gave me anxiety. Living alone did wonders for my mental health.
I'm not giving it up for nothing. It's noisy enough listening to other people's mess. I can just focus on me. And realize that it's actually ok. I'm watching divorced women find their freedom within themselves and are so happy. Very inspiring in today's climate to chill with ones own self without stress or worry. Feels really awesome. More should try it. Maybe one day it'll be trendy to be emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually healthy. Until this I'll just do it alone for now. Peaceful either way🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿💕💖♥️💚
@@Enoxificatti Yeah man. I still live alone but I go to parties and do university stuff. It’s great.
Living alone may be great, but only if you're healthy. Imagine living alone, and then you break a leg and can't walk for half a year. Or imagine living alone, and then you have a sudden heart attack and no one is there to help you. Yes, if you're 20-30 years old then living alone may seem fine. But if you're older then there's a chance that you will not only live alone but also die alone, in your own piss and shit, and nobody will be there for you at that moment. Though, for some people this may be a fair trade.
@@Redistributable if rather this be my outcome than be around people trying to abuse me to make themselves happy.
I love living alone. No drama is the main reason. It's a freedom ,to get to know yourself , be yourself,and love yourself. It's actually priceless.
I would agree. Doing what I want whenever I want. Living with someone is definitely NOT worth it. Learn that "no man can live without a woman" (Oh , And gays don't exist ?) is just propaganda and you'll enjoy it like heck !
Living alone is ok. The only problem you have anyone to help you fix things. I lived at home till I was 30. I never had any privacy and couldn't do things I wanted to do. My mother had problem with me staying up late. When I didn't have a tv to watch I would stay up from 11:00pm to about 4:00am reading. My mother would holler "turn out the light , shelly ". She would be asleep pm the couch. It was the only time could get any time to myself.
She would murmur it out half asleep again. She did it mostly to be annoying. Now I can stay up no matter what. It's been 35 years. I wished things had been different so I could have had more than this , but I go out and associate without being questioned, and having to argue about things when I come home.
When people do it needlessly that is what creates friction and they don't get along.
With me I'm happy with my animals and tv , washer. 😉
@@kokodjamba6657 I know not everyone wants to be alone. If that is not good you should have not be alone. Now do I am not totally alone have friends that live around me. We're not too associates unless we are outside and talk a little. I try not to disturb the other tenanates.
I am not against anyone wanting company.
@@kokodjamba6657 I am 69 and happy and content.
Yeah can't wait to move out one day
Love being alone.
I have lived alone a few times in my 20s. I felt weird and had anxiety being alone, for the most part. I bring friends over and get roommates to help with things around the house and to talk, cook, interact. I would go into despair or depression living alone, I thought there was something wrong with me.
Living alone is not for everyone
I agree that living alone isn't for everyone. I tried a controlled experiment of that with house and pet sitting for a couple that my Dad used to work with. That was years ago. It wasn't fun. I was lonely and anxious the entire time. I can't afford to move out of my parents' house and am unlikely to do so even if I could.
I live alone but not by choice. I'm frightened most of the time - scared of the dark so have to leave several lights on at night, scared when I get nightmares. A lot of people have taken advantage of me being alone. I've had a lot of abuse. It's shown me that people cannot be trusted.
Yeap well it's the opposite for us introverts we get that anxiety by being surrounded by people for me I can be ok living with one person if the person isn't toxic negative and tries to throw his negativy on me 😅
This video is aimed at younger people…studies show that older people die earlier if they’re alone. Humans are social and familial beings.
I was alone since I was born. I never had friends due to I was an outcast in schools. I grown up without any social circle beyond my parents and brother.
In the beggining I didn't minded. Books and music kept my company most of the time. But now, I want social connections so bad that it's hurts.
I want friends who with I can go here and there, and able to talk to.
I want to have a family as well, but I have no luck on that one either.
I really like to be alone when I feel I need it. But be lonley is the worst. It kinda eat you from inside makes you bitter, more depressed...
the fact you are alone because there is no one who you can talk to or hanging out is painful.
Everyone are on internet nowdays rather outside in nature. People became more and more isolated from each other. Some people are okay with that, but the majority aren't.
Living alone is WONDERFUL. I've been living alone for 10 years now and I can't imagine ever living with others again. It's so relaxing and quiet. No noise no drama.
What a luxury , happy life
Amen.
Can't wait, hopefully in 4 months I'll be there too, buying first home, been housesharing and dealing with housemates for far too long now.
Thanks, it gives me hope
I definitely enjoy my own space and can even sometimes go a whole day without saying anything verbally, but I also worry eventually what kind of person I might become, if I don’t spend my life with other people outside of work, let alone a partner or lover to live with. There’s the difference I guess between how you feel in the moment, and how you believe you will feel in the future and how you look back on your past. I feel in many ways, it’s almost like ticking something of a bucket list to make sure you’ve at least lived with people once, rather than not having done so at all. Kind of like love. That’s where I am right now.
We are all different people though, and if it works for some people not to live with others ever again, then that is entirely their choice in the long run.
It’s quiet, it’s clean, no fight, no noise, your space your rules.
❤❤❤
Yes especially the clean part
Until you realize it's your choice and your decision. Sure you have friends, a family to sometimes talk to, but when its absolute solitude with no interaction, it does become a mental problem
@@Mark3nd want some interaction, go out and enjoy your friends. You don’t have to be a lone to have mental problems, so many now living with their families that already have that.
@@Mark3nd Tell me you're an extrovert without telling me you're an extrovert 🙄
I luv ❤️ it.....
living alone doesnt mean loneliness but total independency in life..for me, peaceful and no drama makes me happy
Living alone was the most fulfilling, happy and spiritually whole time of my entire life. 🤗❤️
After a couple of toxic relationships I’ve found out that living alone is ideal for me. No nagging, no headaches, no drama, no financial strain
👌🏻👌🏻
Exactly! Especially the no nagging part lol
🙏ya. Live and let live🙏
I can imagine that being true for many people. Who knows, that might be my fate eventually, even though we make our own. Although I would’ve thought in many cases financially, you would be better off living with other people. Housemates being just one of them.
I wish you luck in finding the right spouse, I also agree about the nagging part lol.
The perfect life is based on:
1- Enjoying your work.
2- Having enough money.
3- Living a life you enjoy.
4- Sharing part of what you are and have with the people you chose to.
Travel
this
I hope to get there some day
@@tiffanykim2773 u will if u try your hardest wish u all the best
"having enough money" you say this so nonchalant as if its on the same playing field as forcing yourself to exercise. We live in a disgusting world where money is valued more than human life and simply "having money" is not that easy. Sometimes impossible.
Living alone is PEACE ❤
As long as you have enough money, living alone is a bliss
Living alone has its pros and cons, but it's also a chance for personal growth and self-discovery. Embrace this chapter of your life and make the most of it!
Love this advice ❤
So true
It's likely the final chapter for a good deal of humans' lives.
I've spent my early twenties learning fighting games. They are so fun, made me learned to accept defeats and learn from it, no regret.
I have lived alone since the end of November 2004. I do not think I will ever cohabitate with anybody ever again. The freedom, independence, self-reliance, resourcefulness, and free time, is incredible! I have had no friends since the 8th of August at 18:34. There was a short four month adjustment period. But, I doubt I will ever be social again. The benefits of being social do not come close to the vast amounts of negatives that come along with being social. As for social isolation, the benefits are enormous and the negatives are actually very little. One does not know true freedom and peace until you live alone. If you have no friends nor acquaintances, that freedom and peace becomes near magical!
I'm pretty introverted and honestly. There's nothing better than living alone. What they don't tell you is how quiet everything is. I love how I can control the energy and vibe of my place.
So true. There is this quote from Jane Erye I really love: "I care for myself. The more solitary, the more friendless, the more unsustained I am, the more I will respect myself."
Now that my husband is in a 6” x 6” x 8” box on the hearth, things are much quieter, and the cats are happier because they don’t get stepped on as much. He was 6’ 8 3/4” tall. He did most of the cooking after my rheumatoid arthritis got really bad. It got better, but he still cooked. I don’t cook, because I hate cleaning up the mess that results. I have to ask a friend when some chore needs a ladder, though.
💯💯💯👍👍👍
@@sophierobinson2738 are you really happier with your husband dead he took care of you from what you say
@@coryburns9161 I no longer have someone much larger and stronger than I am having seizures and being a totally different, abusive person for up to 2 weeks after. No medications helped, and he wouldn't take them after a while, anyway. I lost my precious kitty that suffered wobbly cat syndrome because he put him outside and he vanished. (I suspect a neighbor shot him.) I told him over and over that Puff could not go outside, that he was not able to run from a threat. I don't have to change the bedding every other day or week because he had seizures and didn't come out of it to get to the bathroom. It's nice to just change them because it's time. I don't have to clean up urine off the floor because he thought the corner, the fireplace, the sofa, was the bathroom. Yes, he took care of me a good bit of the time. But, I think my RA was much worse because of my constant worry for him--he also drank at times, and once when drunk, he broke the foot board of our 4-poster bed because he grabbed the post when he was falling and the foot board split in half. He pulled a corner shelf of knick-knacks over on himself, twice. He had a seizure at the top of the 15 steps to our front door and rolled down them. He laid his face open on the cement steps in the back when he had a seizure. He had a seizure at church and it frightened the children there (good teaching moment, though). The constant worry did not help me at all. I'm more peaceful, if not exactly happier. There are things that I read or see that make me think "Mike would really like that". But, I'm no longer in constant, full-body pain from stress, either.
Started living alone thru no choice of my own, but have found I love it after adjusting. Being the captain of the ship after living 50+ w/o that is amazingly fun!
It's wonderful. I lived alone from age 31-47. I moved in with family to make sure my mom has someone with her and I miss living alone. I've thought about moving but my brother isn't here as often as I am (I work at home now). I'm not sure she'd have someone when needed if I did that. But I miss not having to clean up after a grown man and having things just...stay where I put them last. Also really tired of the slamming doors all day when I'm trying to work. Yeah, I really miss living by myself.
Living alone turned out to be the biggest blessing of my life!! you have no idea how much potential you have!
It's much more difficult living with others than living alone. I love it!
Rightly so, as Schopanhauer put it "A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free"
After living alone for years, I can honestly say that living with someone else would be difficult after all this time. I like to go places without answering to someone and just be free.
I know.. I miss it a lot lately!!
IKR
Of course its so much better living alone than living with toxic people
As someone with social anxiety, living alone was the best decision. It’s like I finally started living
I'm the same way
I can't wait for it
I'm sorry
Once you realize just how deeply anxiety impacts, hinders, and damages you, anything that alleviates it will bring such relief. Unfortunately, anything that irritates the anxiety is going to become more noticeable once you start figuring out how to find peace.
That will only make it worse though. Especially when you get out. But I dont really know what that is so meh.
I love living alone, I can't wait to retire so I can do more things, like working on my paintings, sewing, crocheting.
I've discovered freedom, peace, and pure bliss in the solitude of living alone.
I absolutely love it! ❤
Me too..🥰
It’s okay to live alone but it’s not okay to be lonely.
Why isn’t it okay to be lonely? There’s nothing I can do about it.
Disagree it’s not okay it shows your weak
@@UhKimbozeyeah there is something you can do about it... Go out, do something you've never done before, join a club, do a new hobby, join a gym. There's a lot of stuff you can do to overcome loneliness.
Being lonely is nothing but a signal that you are doing everything correctly to keep yourself safe, healthy, and self-reliant. Being social has far more negatives than positives. I have had nobody in my life since 8 August 2000 at 18:34. I do not even have coworkers on my shift nor acquaintances. I go weeks without seeing humans, save on television. My life is nearly magical because of all I have gained by just forgetting the false indoctrination that humans must be social to be happy and successful. I am both happy and successful and have no resemblance to any social existence at all. This semi-anonymous RUclips rant is the closest thing I have to being social and it is just a video sharing site that invites comments. I use it to practice written English. Try social isolation. You will not believe how good it can be.
@@indridcold8433Going weeks without any human interaction seems dangerous to me. Something bad might happen to you and no one would notice for weeks maybe even months... Even though people can suck sometimes, I generally think people need each other, and we should compromise to some extent on some things. Maybe find people who suck/annoy you the least lol. But that's just my opinion
As a student who lived alone for 3 months by now, I can tell it's the best thing ever. Nobody who tells you what to do, nobody who's making noise, no arguments... just a peaceful life. I love it
Same
I have lived alone for 6 yrs. I'm 18😔
me too, I've lived alone for 8 years and i definitively wanna be like this all my life
I'll start living alone from today
I hate people in my space because they suck the life out of you. You don't know who they are and never will.
i’m turning 18 this year and it’s scary but it had to happen at some point and i’m glad i live in a generation where we are more guided and have videos like these to guide us as many before didn’t have anything like this, i’m excited as i’m entering a new chapter in my life and although i won’t be living alone yet, i will at some point and that is scary and challenging but as a person i will grow and that’s the only part i should think about ❤
I have lived alone for 13 years now. I am about as happy as I have ever been. Living alone is actually really awesome. it's what you make it. I may live alone, but I am not lonely.
This video is soo true. I miss living by myself, I felt calmer, happier and had the freedom to do whatever i wanted, which lead to my productivity and creativity improving. Now that I'm back at my parents house (due to family matters), I don't feel free and dont enjoy staying with others as much. Funny things is that I'm less productive , creative and not as happy compared to when I lived alone.
Very true! I’m back to living w my mom and siblings for a bit and if I wanna read a book I can’t it’s almost never quiet or if I feel like crying I can’t cry without my mom asking what’s wrong lol (which isn’t a bad thing) point is I miss living alone it was just me and my dog and I have my solitude can’t wait till I have my own place again.
What happened to stop living alone
agree with you 100% on productivity.
I agree, i can’t do so much stuff around others than I’d do alone, and besides that I dunno why, but when I’m around others full time, I get extremely lonely, but when I’m alone I feel complete...
You're cool
I can only speak for myself. In my early 20's, I had a hard time living alone. Always felt I should be married and start a family. I struggled to find a wife, I felt rejected by many, I was in a bad place mentally. Alcohol abuse, loneliness does not mix. I hit a low point. Some years later, I cleaned up, realizing what was happening to me was making me strong. Never been married to this day, now soon to be 47 years old. I grew to appreciate being on my own, a lone wolf. Got to keep busy, chase success to build wealth, find a hobby. I avoid laying around at home. I pump weights at the gym, I work on restoring my 1985 Chevy Camaro Z/28 I just bought recently. Love working on old classic cars. You have to enjoy your own company. I'm very happy with my life.
you'll be my age soon.
I have a 1985 Corvette, my profile picture. But 29 years atm.
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It’s great to hear that you’ve been doing well for yourself since then. As a 24-year-old man who most likely won’t ever have a wife and kids unless life leads me to a woman who’d be willing to be with a man like myself, I feel more comfortable knowing that people like yourself are out there and living happily. As an introvert, I’ve never really had an issue with being alone most of the time, and I certainly believe that the lone wolf mentality is such a strong attribute to have. I aspire to be like you when I get to that age, and knowing that it’s possible to make it on your own is all the motivation I need to do it myself. From one lone wolf to another, I thank you for this!
@@brock_decoy70 no problem. I appreciate your words. Thank you. Stay strong in this crazy world.
I'm an introverted person and I'd rather be alone than have fake friends or enemies. That's the worst-case scenario.
"Achieve your goals first, spend time in nature. Less talk is more." 🙂🤞
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Agree less talking is much better than getting judge & lecture ask thousand question then reply them I feel like my energy get drain
Finally found my tribe...i love you guys , this proves we are actually not alone at all.
As an adult, I always lived alone… until I got a cat. Best relationship I have ever had.
I may need a couple of cats. But need a retirement home first. May be in another 5 years.
Right there with you!! Get a 2nd cat bc they are so fun to watch when they play n snuggle together and it’s a such a peaceful, relaxed feeling. 😊
Yeah cats are more fun than people
Hi from Hawaii. Living alone for 13 years now. Animals are great so is gardening and being with nature. This world is changing. People are becoming cold as the Bible predicted. Sending you peace!
@@main2333the Bible never mentioned cold people
As the child of a narcissistic mother who never respected my privacy, kept judging/criticizing everything I did and demanding my attention whenever she felt like it - living alone was the first time I felt completely safe in my own home and was able to actually relax.
Oh i can relate to this. Except both my parents are narcissists and I'm still stuck with them 😢
@@HailZodYou're not the only one who's stuck. I feel your pain. Do you have a plan? A way out?
Well done, keep going
My mother would go through my room looking for anything hidden, even my trash bin.
True. Find ur own way bro. Cheers
I can say I'm a very social person but I love living alone ! I enjoy the silence, I don't have to talk to someone when I come home from work, I can cook and eat what I want and when I want etc. . And yes, I once lived together with one some of my ex bfs so I know the difference 😅.
The beginning of wisdom is to find who you are. And that's easier when you are alone. I am alone for 18 years in a row. The less I talk, the more I discover the divine ocean inside me. Everything I need is inside me already. Nothing from outside will bring me true happinness. Meditation is the way to go.
As a man in my 40s, divorced, no kids, not many friends. Living alone sucks. Living alone in my 20s was great, now, not so much. I can see if you have a satisfying social circle, living alone might be great, but being alone most or all of the time is not good for most people.
This is what's not being talked about more often, Im in my late 20's and growing up I always thought living alone would be great and Im sure will be! But only in your 20's and early 30's. No one talks about what happens after that, what happens when you continue this path alone. Humans are meant to socialize, one or another, doesnt have to be an extroverted energy but the thought of having someone to communicate is important.
I can understand that if you're an extrovert (or missiing your kids regardless), but for introverts, forced socialization all day at work and then at home would be incredibly draining with not opportunity to recuperate. I'll take a few friends over an unrelentingly nagging wife anytime.
@@mattn9349 exactly, you just said it: "a few friends".. but what happens when you even have no friends?? being 100% alone, with no friends, family or a partner, simply sucks. We humans are not evolved to be in complete isolation, we're pack animals, we're social beings, no matter if you have 2 friends or 200.. we need people. No wonder most elders who live very lonely are always grumpy. And there are lots of studies that show that have a lonely life is very bad for your health. Not only mental, but physical. Some studies have shown that being very lonely is as bad as smoking 3 packs of cigarrettes a day. Lonely people die early, have more diseases, commits suic!d3 more often. Being an introvert is not the same as being lonely, but most people confuse those things. Its ok to be introvert.. being lonely isn't
@@carlgonzalez3337 There's also the fact they can end up alone BECAUSE they were grumpy even before being old.
@@mattn9349 You can find someone that matches your life style. So you can be intimate and open without feeling like your significant other is a mosquito of some sort. If you chose to be a parent then that's your duty as a father to be there for your kids. I don't think anyone can truly live without "time alone", that just sounds unrealistic & unhealthy.
I love living alone, no messes that aren't mine, no one eating my food, no menial small talk, not caring about accidentally waking someone up 🥰
That’s sad you need a wife a family that is the only thing that will bring true happiness
@@ZUCCCC333 happiness comes from within all I need is hoes 💀
@@ZUCCCC333True happiness comes from within. You cannot be truly happy with others if you are not first happy with yourself and who you are ❤
@@ZUCCCC333no, YOU need all that. Stop projecting on other peoples happiness in solitude.
Just say you dont like your own company and stop trying to project that on others.
Being alone is like free dive without a guidance. U could be feel free, but it can drowned you. Take a good care of yourself, because no one is there.
I'm currently a sophomore in college, set to graduate in '26, and yet I feel terrified about the aspect of getting my first apartment in possibly a new state. I don't quite feel like an adult yet, but the thought of having relative freedom is comforting
It'll be okay❤
All things happen in their time, sweetie. Do not distress yourself with imaginings but do enjoy your aspirations and plans. Luck!!
Being alone is a blessing, this is how you build character. The amount of BS you consume in the name of friendship, relationships, and society is something that destroys your true self. Stay alone, you will know the meaning of life. This is my 22nd year of being alone, but not lonely.
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I was in a toxic relationship for years, finally divorced and now I am enjoying all the perks highlighted here in the video 🙋🏻♀️
I feel so free🥰 and can spend more time with family and friends 😍
I can practice self care and put myself first ❤️
You are never alone unless you don't allow the Spirit to be within your soul. Open and ask for Him to enter and allow Him in!
Truest statement. There are too many distractions and influence nowadays it's hard to know who we are and what we want. Got to go back to the monk/cavemen mindset.
I really love this perspective of being alone. Never thought this way. Kudos
Loneliness only happens when you spend your alone time wishing you were with other people.
That's the truth
Exactly I see it as a win. I’ll hangout with friends and family but it’s always nice to come home to your own space it’s freedom
@@ryans413 yeess freedom!
How anyone can be alone with God in the same room really makes no sense to me. ❤
@@gracealexandre3381 Even so, I still miss people and experience bitter loneliness. But I know God has as well. Even experiencing my own hurts acknowledging someone else is out there, who knows me, I have never felt utterly and completely alone. I'm thankful for that because things could be a lot different coming from a different perspective.
Living alone is awesome. Happiest times of my life were having a place all to myself. I miss it.
I've been living alone for two years and I hate every second of it. Life's joys and hard ships are meant to be shared.
That's a sign that you probably aren't very intouch with yourself. (Which isnt an insult. Before you get defensive) you may not really know who *you* are. You're likely bored on your own, bcs everything you're doing is not actually interesting or more importantly, motivating/inspiring to you. When you find your passion, you'll enjoy doing them alone. You may even prefer them alone.
Sadly most people never seem to find those passions. But from my experience with others, it's usually bcs they don't actually try to look
@@phased3941Could be they just enjoy company though, people like different things.
@oddtherapy8919 Yeah, I was just expressing a potential
Too true. I have worked in geriatric care. The loners will learn with time the wisdom in compromise and sharing one's life, the joy and the pain. Unfortunately, their dotage is the time when this realisation usually dawns on them and then only because they need constant help and attention to survive. Later life is going to be horrendously difficult for many loners. Even for those who marry etc there are no guarantees, but being a loner makes things exponentially worse.
@@phased3941 or they're just an extrovert.
For extrovert people, living alone is a nightmare. For introvert people, living alone is like a holiday 😄
NOT true. I flew the world on business and interfaced with high level decision makers; I was a total extrovert, I had no choice.
I retired 18 yrs. ago and I have no use for those times. I am now alone at peace and no need for those deceivers.
Introvert over here 😁
ya that's not true
Introverts can be more independent than extroverts. We don't constantly need people or external stimuli to be remotely alive
@@jaygupta1477 cap 🧢
Living alone is a blessing especially if you have ever lived with worrisome and annoying people before gaining the freedom to be yourself.
Agree,living with my parents was so stressfull because of my father,the day I started living alone were the most peacefull days of my life.
Living alone is a blessing and so peaceful
It can be very beautiful and satisfying to live on your own - other people will think your lonely but your not - your contented
And God is with you always
I feel sorry for people that can't be alone and have to always be around someone else. I m fine being alone and will never change.
True, I think they're an extrovert, they're always surrounded by a lot of friends, noise, and family. But for an introvert, it'll be easy to live alone, it may be hard sometimes but introverts can cope with loneliness coz they used to it.
Same
i never live alone ...and wondering how it feels like and if i can survive being one
@@justsomeone6099 I absolutely despise noise, especially just from people who are loud. Do extroverts like that?
@@mysteryuser7062 I think they are unable to consume life without having noise in it - guess they are afraid of what they will find if the noise of social stress goes away.
I feel bad for the people who have never gotten to live alone, at least for a few months. You learn a lot about yourself doing it. Your habits, your hobbies, how you fill up your space. Everyone deserves the opportunity to peacefully nest and truly take that introspective dive.
I'm 17 but i desparately want to live alone because i geting third to live with so many people i always wanted to live alone 🤍
@@master_cave I hope you will be able to. I choose to believe the opportunity will present itself right when you need it
@@DyxoXinoro thank you so much for console___but if you don't mind can you give me some tips for living alone if you don't mind then
@@master_cave most of the advice I would give is already in the above video, but there's a couple things I wish it touched on more: moving pains, and loneliness. When you first move into a new space, things will feel unfamiliar at first. And living in an unfamiliar space can have detrimental effects to your mood. Though once you start nesting and making it your own, that feeling does start going away. And with loneliness, you can either do what I did and embrace it to try and turn the whole ordeal into somethinv meditative, or look for excuses to leave the house. But you will have to look for them. Work, groceries, and other adult responsibilities may be the only reasons to leave the house some days, and spending too much time at home isn't good for you, so looking for excuses to leave the house becomes a skill you have to develop over time like cooking, cleaning, and repair. But how much time around the house is too much, and how much you'll resist excuses to leave, is different for everyone. So there will be some trial and error in figuring out what the right balance is for you.
I've always loved living alone as i function better as a person. i dont think i could ever live in the same space as someone else ever again
I've lived alone before and it was enjoyable, but some difficult times nobody tells you about: being sick or injured
As someone who migrated to a big city for employment, I absolutely enjoyed the time I lived alone. And it is so addictive. From the household chores, to maintaining a diet, doing free hand exercises, playing video games, sleeping at will..overall I was independent! Every person at one point in life should experience this. You become aware of your being instead of just existing.. I regret that I did not travel solo in the weekends. Like I mentioned, I loved being indoors. :)
Gonna do it in a month. I needed to hear that, thank you.
I live alone now and I've never been "existing not living" that much
I hate it
Experiencing it right now in university and it feels really good to be alone but too much loneliness sucks and at one point I feel desperate to meet someone and talk
This. 109% this. It is amazingly freeing and I’m shocked how few people actually get to experience it.
You moved into a big city?! Wow! Kudos to you. I did downtown Chicago; lasted 1 year. Couldn't take the hustle, bustle and NOISE! Ironically the people on the street would interact with me; here in Smallville USA. People almost never return my hi... Social niceties! Of course it is in the south.
I love living alone. I can't imagine having someone in my space anymore. It's so relaxing.
It's comments like this that reinforce that I am NOT selfish no longer being a service dog to others.
I'm only responsible to my God Almighty, my fur ball canine and me.
As I write this there is peace and tranquility all around me; I am free to be me without infringements.
@@mikejohn0088 you said it better than I. ❤
The feeling is just building up. We are humans after all.
Same, bro. I don't ever want a roommate. Single occupancy people unite!
@@mikejohn0088 you sound like you've had an abusive relationship, an abusive childhood, trouble in maintaining your boundaries, or a combination of the above.
You don't need to let that decide your current life. Good people exist.
I'm not an adult, i'm still in highschool but since last year i began living alone and it does feel lonely at times but i started doing other things such as cleaning, cooking, drawing and reading to distract my mind from that lonliness and it worked now when i come home i feel calm knowing i can do things i enjoy
Love living alone..so peaceful..❤
I love living alone. I clean the bathroom and days later, it's still clean. No matter how bad a day I have, my home is always a peaceful refuge. I leave a lamp and the classical radio station on when I leave, so when I come home, I walk into a nice warm inviting home. Doesn't hurt to have a little furry friend too.
I’m married and with a kid. Used to live alone in my little house. I honestly like either way. Living alone is great. Living with a good person is great. But it sucks living with a bad person. I’ve experienced all three in my life.
They say if you're running, you're running away from something or running towards something. Living alone is walking.
OP 100% agree
Agreed its torture living with a bad / negative person. Yikes.
Bingo!
I live alone but I am not lonely. I am sociable and make friends easily. I sometimes have people over when I want to. I like having fun with other people and then going back home to have peace and quiet.
@@antonboludo8886 key phrase 'when I want to'. That's what I like too amongst other things. Nice.
I used to dream about living alone in a small apartment, basically a man cave. Now I have that and its everything I dreamed of and more. I see my family and nieces and nephews all the time. They come hang out and sleep over. But if I dont want to get out of bed for a whole wknd I can with no guilt or drama. I love being a solitary animal
As someone once said: "You can be alone but you need not be lonely"! 😊
I'm 38, single my whole life, and I've been living alone since age 24. I must say even when I was living with my family I've always enjoyed being alone. When I was a kid, my teachers would ask my parents if I was okay and why I didn't socialize with other kids. Now that I'm an adult I socialize when I have to, but the time I'm happiest is when I'm alone. There's so much to create and learn. Living alone is not boring, it's just not for everyone. I guess the bottom line is you do what makes you happy while helping others along the way.
Right lol!
I have the same tendency to want to be alone even as a child. I find most people not interesting.
Yup❤😊
❤ your story, thank you
Socializing with other humans tends to drain me, unless that person is of a high vibration. So I'm best on my own. I don't have to worry about pleasing others or take on their traumas or expose them to my traumas.
I lived on my own through 7 years of college in a different city.
What dreads me the most about living alone is not "loneliness" but its when you get sick. I get sick often (fever, stomach issue, cold, atshma) and waking up weak, alone, with 39°c fever in the middle of the night is pure torture.
There are times when I thought "tonight I will die, alone, right here, right now, because of this damn fever". Having no one to take care of you when sick is a nightmare.
Live alone, yes, go and have those freedom, but don't forget to have emrgency contact (a family or friend) you can count on 24H.
I have a fear of choking. It did not really manifest itself like a phobia, I think, before, but I always lived with someone so far, never being alone for more than a few days.
And... In those days, such fears did start to take a bit of a toll. I was very careful and conscious when I ate and drank, I double-checked if every window and door were properly locked, etc.
Also, I am pretty strict about playful things such as tickling or even just hugging when I eat or drink. Let me swallow everything and stop, then we can be close and goof around. Because I genuinely am afraid that I will choke on something.
And yes, when I am sick, I tend to rely on others for help, and ready to do so for them if they are sick, because it feels fair and a right thing to do.
But when I am alone and sick - yes, this is horrible. So far I was never so sick that I would die if somebody would not help me. But I am afraid if such day would come and I won't be able to call the emergency services or open the door for them.
If I need to be alone, I can say so and stay with my PC/laptop/smartphone in my room. It is fine. Not all of my interests align with the interests of people I live with or friends with.
But that is totally different from being completely alone in a home and knowing noone comes from work at the evening or something.
Getting sick alone is terrible. Keep a bottle of sugary drink next to your bed. If you are sick, you cannot get out of bed and eat for several hours, you may begin hypoglycemia. This is a dangerous condition when your blood glucose levels drop dramatically. If you have a fever, glucose in your body is consumed especially quickly. It is enough to take a couple of sips of a sweet drink every hour. Also talk about hypoglycemia prevention with your doctor if you have diabetes.
Be careful and read the information on the bottle. If it is a sweet drink, but without sugar, it will not prevent hypoglycemia and may improve the condition.
@@drakewarrior1013 Если у тебя боязнь задохнуться, попроси у терапевта в поликлинике направление в аллерго-респераторный центр к пульманологу. Тебе нужно сдать анализы. Может быть твой страх имеет основание - у тебя аллергия или астма. От этого существуют лекарства. И купи домой маленький кислородный баллон с маской и оксипульсометр, чтобы проверять на сколько твоя кровь насыщена кислородом. Либо носи смарт часы с функцией проверки крови на насыщение кислородом. Вместо того, чтобы бояться, лучше своими глазами в цифрах видеть, что с тобой всё в порядке, тебе ничего не угрожает организм полон кислорода. Даже если тебе реально станет плохо, можно надеть кислородную маску и у тебя будет несколько минут, чтобы позвонить в больницу или родным, либо друзьям, соседям.
@@UserUser-in6ig спасибо за советы. Я предполагаю, что это от нескольких случаев в детстве, когда рвота попадала мне в нос и я около минуты в худшем случае ощущал, что не могу сделать вдох, и не мог об этом сказать никак. Каким-то образом я в тех случаях откашлялся всё же. Но страх остался.
@@drakewarrior1013 Это было давно, зачем на этой неприятности зацикливаться? Смерть от рвоты - относительно редкое явление и чаще случается у малышей или у стариков в маразме, либо у конченых пьяниц. Я в университете когда учился видел статистику. Вы же к этим категориям не относитесь?
Если боитесь внезапной рвоты, купите метаклопромид в таблетках или уколах и держите дома в аптечке. Это недорого. Если чувствуете, что поступает, примите препарат, он быстро подавляет рвоту, тормозя рвотный центр в голове. Но вообще, с таким вопросом лучше у невролога проконсультироваться и у гастроэнтеролога. Не бойтесь по врачам пройтись, больно не сделают. Сейчас с этим просто: запишитесь, обследуетесь, если не нравится лечение или боитесь процедуру - пишете отказ и до свидания. Никто сейчас насильно лечить не будет.
Being alone can be a benefit in that your life is much simpler with no complexity. It's your life, there is no need to mind others ❤️
I've always been alone and I can tell you right now. It's like living in my own personal hell
Please find the right person to share your life with.
I love, love, love living alone! I left my husband at age 25 and am still living alone at age 73. There was no "learning" to live alone; it was everything I wanted. Sure, I had to do everything, make every decision, but that was the best part - my decision, my repair, my mowed lawn, my furniture, my job, my income, my freedom. It's been a satisfying life, even if challenging.
You'll die alone 😔
@@shadowtail4063 Is that supposed to be a bad thing? It's you who are afraid of anything alone, not me.
Had neighbors who died alone. One in the bathtub another hung herself. It took a week to find either of them because no one checked on them. The smell caused a wellfare check from the police. If you have animals they'll start to eat your corpse.
@@shadowtail4063 If I'm dead I won't care. I've determined that living alone is worth the trade off of vulnerability for peace and freedom. My grandmother lived alone in her house after her husband died, as many, many widows do, until she was 89 years old when I took her in until she died. I was 28 years old and it was not easy to do, but I wouldn't have had it any other way.
i just don't feel like marrying anyone now, will i regret it later ?
Living with low vibrational people or energetically mismatched people is wayyyyy worse than living alone. I’m living this now. Other people’s energy can be vampirism. I think there is a grieving process of letting go of dependency on others.
Facts it’s the adjusting to life by yourself tho … but I agree can definitely share energy with the wrong people
100% other peoples energy can suck the effing LIFE out of you. I just moved out of a house with absolute narcissist energy draining monsters and got out of a toxic relationship. I’m realizing the “grieving process” of letting go of dependency on others… I’m 23 and have NEVER been alone before and it’s quite terrifying. 2 days in and I’m a nervous wreck everyday!😅
Yes it's so much worse. I know it for a fact. I can't wait to live by myself :(
this is so true i wanna move out as soon as possible
I agree, my roommates are trash. I thought being trapped with my family sucked, but this is piss.
I'm both surprised and not surprised by how many want this life. I thought I was antisocial for making this life my dream. 😂 But it is my life's goal. To sustain this lifestyle forever till I die. Just me and my cozy home.
I just can't comprehend why so many people is afraid of lonelyness, I've been a loner my whole life and I enjoy it so much, even when I decide to socialize a little, I am always eager to get to my little hiding spot at the end of the day.
Been living alone for 2 years now. At first it was tough as I was a very lazy person. Slowly I learnt to cook, do the laundry and keep the house clean. Now I really enjoy my time at home.
You turned from astro boy to astro man 🌌🚀👽
Who did that stuff before for you?
@@machida58 me
I’m happy for you Astro, keep up. I’m moving out soon too and I’m excited.
@@Myphor2003 All the very best 👍
Living alone was the greatest thing that ever happened to me
Im so sick of living with people who doesnt even try to understand me
I set out a boy to return a man..what an adventure
Me too.
Lucky you that's my dream
@@jenni446 Yes indeed and People who got nothing to do with you! It is a waste of time! Sadly it happened to me many times.
I lived alone for 9 years and I miss it dearly, now I’m in a house full of people 😢😢…I take advantage when everyone’s gone
As an introvert I absolutely love it its your own space of freedom no one there to bother you I feel free when coming home from work and into my own space. You can do what you want when you want. Want to watch a movie at 3am you can want to listen to music loudly you can want to keep the place clean you can. Want to invite friends or family over you can you can do whatever you like.
That is not lonely...If you have all of that...
Living with yourself makes you or breaks you
I think its breaking me. I hope i get to a point where i feel 5he second half of this video
When the video says at the end. One day you need to learn to live by yourself. Does she mean you eventually need to literally live by yourself or does she mean eventually you need to learn how to handle your own responsibilities without having to constantly ask other people for help?
@@zk527 I think it depends on people whether you move out on your own you must learn to live alone or a job requires you to relocate and live out of the bounds of your social circle and setting or even if you have roomates they will move on eventually thus you are left alone even with a spouse or partner if you seperate or one of them dies you must face the void and live alone most likely though unless you die earlier in your home alone most will probably not end up alone as facilities tend to take the elderly and put them in nursing homes etc or family does it or the government once they decide you are incapable of making decisions and will be crammed with a bunch of nurses and strangers you don't know so most likely unless there are other factoring circumstances many of us may not die vicinity wise at least alone maybe in spirit but majority of the time someone will be watching and waiting to collect the body once the final breath is drawn if not eventually someone will uncover you and remember for a short moment you were alive and move on and forget you so that they may live before the inevitable promise of death comes for them to.
It depends on personality more than anything else. Some people are just ill-adapted to the ‘demands’ of independent living whoever they are but people high in extraversion (as sturdy as they might otherwise be) have a hard time being by themselves and trying to enjoy their own company without getting bored because they actively-draw energy from the people around them and often think there’s something inherently-wrong with people who actually choose to ride solo. That’s their loss.
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Having an animal companion makes a huge difference! I had daily conversations with my cat all the time, with us talking purely in “Meows”
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That’s a good point. I live with one other person but we have very different schedules so don’t see all that much of each other, very rarely would spend the day together but are sometimes in the house together on completely separate floors doing our own thing. I totally prefer this to being completely alone because it scares me to have no one else around and I can get quite paranoid. I think last time I was at home all evening from the early afternoon with just the pets and I ended up locking myself in the small bathroom toilet because it felt just safer to have only a locked door and no windows. It just feels safer to have a trusted companion in the house with me and I won’t go to bed without them having returned to the house, no matter how late that may be. Regardless, the alone time is nice because I don’t really care too much about what the pets think about my music taste and dancing😂
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Hahaha I am doing the same we developed our meow language
As an only child living alone hasn't been a real issue. Deal with enough people @ work..peace & quiet of living alone is a blessing 😁
I lived alone before for 2 years. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. No noise, no complaints, no fighting and no emotional baggage of others. It's hard to pay everything yourself but it is freedom. I was never lonely since I was a very social person. Online and offline. It's good for your mental health. People can be a nuisance without a doubt and you will get lonely when times get rough. Those time will pass. I wish I could do it again but times changed. I accept myself living with others again due to financial problems. Just work it out somehow and it will be fine.
This video is so healing. Lost both of my parents and when I lost my best friend aka my mom, life was so tough at the beginning. I had no sibling so home was the last place I want to be in. But now I’m loving it so much , I’m taking charge of my life and destiny. Learning to cook on my own, fixing things alone and enjoy the quietness at home. Of course there are times when I wish I have someone to talk to before going to bed, I learnt that we can’t have best of both worlds. I’ve learnt to speak up, ask for strangers help like how to pick a broccoli, an elderly grandma taught me how (blessed) etc. 😊 I now live with my 1.5yo dog and can’t be more grateful for her presence. I truly believe that people whom are okay to live alone are tougher individuals. Less reliant or expectations of others. I do get envious of my peers whom still have their parents to rely on such as fixing broken stuff or furniture, or always having a piping hot or cooked meal on the table waiting for them after work. Then again, I reminded myself that I’m learning independence at a younger age (Asian kid) so things may turn out better for me when I’m older after being forced to toughen up at a younger age. But a word of advice, please speak up and ask for help when needed. Helplessness kills. And you’ll be surprised how many genuine people are willing to help. You are not alone. ❤
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Wonderful advice Priscilla. Best wishes.
@@eddiegalon3714 best wishes to you too 😊
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me too. although i lost my mom when i was 30, i was always her little girl when she was around. we were best friends and i'm an introvert and refuse/can't really connect with other people. she was the best cook and i blame her for ruining my diet every time LOL. we enjoyed each other's presence the most. watching tv together, go for a night drive, shopping, and when the electricity's gone, i would play the guitar and she would sing the songs. i miss her so damn much. at first i was struggling to exist. but im learning everyday how to exist without her. being busy with work and games make it livable. btw i dont have siblings too so i know how lonely you feel. i miss her and sometimes i would talk to myself about our memories together because only me and her knew them. and nobody else care to listen anyway. and it became a comfort to me as though i was talking to her like always.
I've lived alone most of my life. The hardest part has been when a family member has died and I didn't get the emotional support of a significant other. People think I can cope with anything because I have lived on my own so much but sometimes it's really hard.
We are with u mate, im sorry for ur lose 🙏
Been there, done that.
I know it is *hug*
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Yes or when you have a serious illness
I love the quiet. I love my dog. I have been in relationships nonstop ever since I was a teenager. As a consequence I missed out on spending some time by myself. I love the change of pace and the opportunity to choose how to shape my life.
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I am living alone for the first time at the age of 38. It really is an experience I think everyone should go through. I feel like I'm more in touch with myself than I ever have been. More at peace.
You touch yourself more than ever? 😂
This is so true lol. I'm currently 23 and moved three hours away from home and started living alone last year. I learned a lot about myself for sure. Despite some of the super rough spots I've traveled through in my life since moving alone, at least I know I'm not crazy and just genuinely had a severe disorder affecting my life this whole time (was diagnosed w/ bipolar II). But realizing these things has created immense benefits, and I'm thankful to have been able to find these answers so early in life.
Living alone is also quite peaceful, so long as your neighbors don't try to start crap lol. I live in a one bedroom one bathroom apartment a lot of my neighbors are just random single people around my age... you'd think we'd all socialize or something, but nah. Sadly that hasn't happened lmao, and some of the people here are just as heavily avoidant of other people as me HAHAHA
Was about to agree but do dogs and cats count as still living alone? 😅 Cause then technically I have never lived alone and never will. Could never live without a furry roommate.
Also 38 and living alone for the first time. Getting used to it slowly.
True. I think everyone should go on vacation by themselves too. Extremely relaxing.
This. This is what I dream about everyday, and someday I hope I'll find myself as happy as this little animated girl :)
I dreamt of this every, where I almost got close to getting alone I got a herniated disc... I live in constant pain and I can't lift more than 5kg alone.
Me too
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You have no idea on what you are wishing... Enjoy your life while you live with other people, living alone is nothing close to what this video shows. Some days will get bad, really bad.
@@sillafeafea7766 I know the process of getting there will be hard, but I'm willing to risk it for the feeling of having my own place in where I call home. A place where I feel comfort in and will always have the things I need the most.
Every woman who lives alone should learn basic DIY and maintenance skills. I live alone and I love it.
I think it's all down to what you want. I lived alone for years before I met my now wife and I absolutely loved it. Now however I have my wife, little boy and little girl and cannot imagine a house without the laughing and playing, thankfully I've enjoyed both sides of life and really appreciate where I am now. Whatever makes you happy, everyone have a fantastic Christmas. Alone or with friends and/or family. All of the very best 💙
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Lucky you