Usually gets kind people taken advantage of tbh.. plants are plants.. humans are (for starters) manipulative, murderous, antagonistic, narcissistic, stubborn, ignorant, abusive, genocidal maniacs.. should I continue the list of what a plant cannot do?..
1. Don't be together 24/7 2. Keep putting effort in your relationship 3. Lower your voice when angry, say things in a nice way, speak from your perspective, use physical touch to calm, use validation 4. Keep a running list of green flags 5. Don't stop taking care of yourself and the relationship 6. It's a two-way street :)
@@Psych2go I haven't found just one secret. Taking time to know each other is key. What makes the other happy, angry, upset and making sure their emotional needs are met. A sink full of dishes is his biggest pet peeve for example- so I prioritize making sure dishes are done. I don't like socks on the floor, so he prioritizes making sure he puts them in the hamper. It's all about give and take. Not holding minor faults against the other is huge. Did he leave his socks on the floor? I put them in the hamper myself without making a big deal about it. Not nit picking the small stuff. Respect is huge, especially in a disagreement. Yelling and name calling never help the situation, but it's important to always find your way back to each other after an altercation. Forgive and Forget. There are no "Well that one time YOU..." in our arguments. We spend A LOT of time together, but it is nice to have a day away too- like your video said. What helps us the most I think, is being like minded- we want the same things in life, and have similar goals. It feels like we're working together for everything, instead of separately. Sorry for the long response, I couldn't think of just one thing that was important that I've learned in 8 years of marriage :D
@@laceystonerock6609 After studying (mainly man, women and dating)psychology by myself for some years, your explanation makes alot of sense. You have got yourself a high value man also. I hope everyone would be mentally that healthy that they can build rare relationship like yours. Hope you reach your goals.
@~Pink Care Bear~ it's normal in the sense that you can disagree with your partner and sometimes based on emotions in that moment it can get heated BUT that is up to the 2 individuals in the argument or disagreement. It doesn't mean allow your partner to be abusive while having the disagreement because then your not really in a healthy relationship. Once that person crosses the line you enable them to continue. Speaking from experience by being married for almost 5 years. My husband and I disagree allllll the time but we don't allow it to get out of hands and apologize to each other even if we haven't said anything offensive, but because we understand that it's not that serious we can move on and be crazy about each other anyways.
"The notion that all couples fight is somewhat toxic and sets a low standard for how romantic partners should treat each other." 👏👏👏👏👏 THIS RIGHT HERE!!! I'm so sick of seeing people settle for this very reason. Fighting all the time it's not normal!
While fighting all the isn't great, I don't think that's what people are saying. People can't agree on everything and it is normal to disagree with your partner. It's how the couple handles it that matters. If someone has a disagreement that's not a sign that the relationship is flawed.
@@CLAIRE-_-. Disagreements are bound to happen. I'm not denying that. But you can disagree with your partner in a respectable manor. How couples handle differences of opinion is important. I see fighting as a transition away from a discussion and into heated, angry, and disrespectful actions, including yelling. Your brain function is significantly impaired when you're angry so when fighting happens you're not getting anything productive out of those instances. It's better to take a break, cool down, and try to come back with a level head. Those are the times when you can actually discuss a problem with the intention of fixing it, instead of possibly playing the blame game and not listening to what your partner has to say.
That already exists, it’s called a bottle of Jack Daniels at 12 at night, when you should probably be going to sleep, but you know what fuck it, fuck work.
Does the honeymoon phase have to end? ... Get clear about what you're looking for - fast. ... Make time for yourself. ... Create some ground rules for arguing. ... Plan monthly outings. ... Learn each other's love language. ... Make plans with friends and family. ... Plan a trip.
This is exactly how my partner and I handled our relationship. Our only failing was actually getting each other to open up about our problems because we never wanted to bother each other with our 'small' problems. It works beautifully, and after experiencing it I'm quite tired of romance movies that pay no homage to it, haha.
@@Founderschannel123 This is just my own experience. You can find people who will hold your hand just about anywhere, but finding someone who will do everything they can to support you through life isn't something I'd recommend you rush through. Be honest with yourself about what you're looking for: A long-term, loving partnership or someone who you can enjoy the company of for just the time being. Engage in things that make you feel fulfilled, and the people you meet while living an honest life will see that and want to come along for the ride. Waiting to find someone who honors you as you would honor them, even if it takes a decade, isn't mandatory, but you're setting yourself up to be with someone that will make you truly happy and help you grow.
Ive been with my husband for 4 years and we are still in the honey moon phase because of all of this. We dont even argue, we may disagree but we always talk it out and come to a middle ground💜
That is really good to hear😊 Could you say please two things? If the middle ground is accomplished imidiately, or might take sometimes a day or two. And if you ever experienced extreme emotions, as the video says, (obviously except happiness🤭) like anger, jealousy and so on It would be really helpful. Thanks!
@@thetreatment498 when we have a disagreement, we will normally approach the other and say "Hey can we talk? Something happened to upset me and id like to straighten it out please." we will immediately both sit down, unless we're busy then we make time to talk later, and whoever has to speak, has the floor and we promised each other no matter how small something may seem to you, its always BIG to the other person so we listen and respect whatever it is the other person has to say and we correct the problem. If the problem cannot be solved, which has not happened yet and i hope it never does 🤣, we agreed to not raise our voices at each other, give each other space as needed and revisit the situation. If a middle ground cannot be found we said we would just agree to disagree. But NEVER when it comes to my partners feelings💜 his peace of mind is my peace of mind and vice versa💜 We try to keep good vibes in the house at all times💜
@@thetreatment498 as for the extreme emotions, yes we both have experienced extreme anger but its always towards other people🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 its weird how well we get along, my husband is definitely my best friend, we're into the same things and we often feel the same about everything and it just makes everything so comfortable and happy💜 i know things cant be perfect 24/7 but when you have great open communication they often very close to it.
Here it is important to realize that you cannot change or improve another person. You cannot take someone who appears charming and talented, but who cannot seem to function very well, and turn them into a functioning person. Young women make this mistake all the time, particularly, thinking they are going to rehabilitate the young man. 'Oh, with her guidance, this young man will become productive and responsible and effective.' Do not make this mistake. It is an immense waste of your time. You cannot change or improve another person. That is what they must do for themselves. This quote is from: *The New Message for Young People* by *Marshall Vian Summers*
It's so true thanks to mentioning that. I wasted six years of my life like that and I wish (even if I don't regret this experience and the lessons I've learned overall) that someone told me that before...
My case must be rare then. I've been in a long distance relationship for 9 years. We fought in the beginning, but things just healed as it went along. We're happy now, and can't wait to close the gap.
@@esma124 You mean how...? Wow. Well. I'm not sure how to explain it. I think in the beginning we both suffered from anxiety & depression from our situation. We were in fear of trying, & failing. It would cause motivation issues with us both. But we loved each other. I also was still unstable from my last relationship (was also long distance, broke up after 5 years), so we'd get into arguments over dumb things, most of it cuz of my own mental state. I've had a few breakdowns...felt like I fell into a dark hole every time. A few years later, a friend of mine pushed me to try & get welfare, food stamps, & join a job program. Once I got a job, & he finished college with a job, I started recovering, & just like that, our fighting just came to an end. Sometimes, when you're struggling, all you have to do is push to change your situation, even something small, for it to get better.
ive been dating my girlfriend for 5 years. We never really left honey moon phase. have we had some tougher times? yes but the main thing that weve done is talk about everything, listen and put work into improving ourselves and the relationship. The hard work we put in to improve ends up giving us a very harmonious and wonderful relationship. we spend hours together and it doesnt even feel like it. I can agree that distance helps alot!
Still watching this despite being in a 13 years in a relationship and married for 9 years...and that PASSION really works💕 Stay flirty to your husband/wife no matter how old you are or how busy you are. Make it your daily PRIORITY to make time for TALKING, cuddling/kissing EVERYDAY!
I always feel like the people I dated leave the honeymoon phase so fast. I never feel like I leave it. I cant wait to be with someone who experiences love the way I do.
"The notion that all couples fight is somewhat toxic and sets a low standard for how romantic partners should treat each other...it may be common but we should not simply accept it because it is common. We should be working to prevent it." THIS AD INFINITUM 🖤🖤🦇🖤🖤🦇🖤🖤
Hey Psych2Go-ers and remember just simply put - a healthy relationship is one where both partners are sharing something together - not a relationship where one partner is constantly extracting something from the other. Stay healthy and good luck 😊
Unfortunately my job has taken a major toll on my relationship to the point that my boyfriend and I separated recently. We've been together for nearly two years, and all of that consisted of us never physically meeting because we live in different countries with strict laws surrounding the pandemic. I can't quit my job because I need money, but I genuinely loved this man. I just needed a space to vent.
i'm honestly surprised my partner and I are applying this without us even knowing that it is actually backed by psychology HAHAHA I guess all that's left is for us to keep these up. We're at our 3rd year together now and we still feel like we're at the honeymoon phase although with the pandemic, our careers are giving us more headaches and so much stress. But we're pulling through.
hey, i would like to know your opinion about "sorry i have to focus on my college first" or such things because it's such a lazy reason for not maintaining relationships.
My husband and I have been together for 11 years and have never had one fight. The relationship was extraordinary since the beginning, but I am even happier now that we have spent years together and know each other better. We are on the honeymoon phase and have been even through illness, unemployment, stressful situations like competitive exams and moving several times… empathy, patience, tolerance really go a long way. Explaining to your parnter why you are having a rough day and seeking some comfort (by cuddling for example) is way healthier than nagging at him/her BECAUSE you are having a rough day. Your relationship is a precious thing and you need to treat it and your partner as such.
I love my boyfriend very much, and he's been going through a hard time for a while. I understand it, and I'm trying my best to support him. I just wish he understood how awful I feel not getting compliments or random acts of affection from him. We've been together for 4 years and I feel he forgets too often. 😢
I definitely would talk to him about your feelings, and if he still doesn’t make an effort, you may have to let him go. It’s sad, but we can’t change others. You deserve the best!
I understand this, however I'm an autistic girl in a relationship with an adhd boy. He's bound to forget. I'm bound to forget too. We both screw up a lot but still make it work because we both knew what we were getting ourselves into.
Thanks for all the replies! I did talk to my boyfriend, it was a long and hard talk. In the end he decided he would make a schedule for affection. It's not ideal as random acts of affection are preferable, but he's making an effort. He genuinely wants to make me happy and scheduled or not I enjoy the affection. So in the end, it's all good ❤️
1. Idealization 1:39 2. (if you want to it ain't a point) Devaluation 2:13 3. Passion 2:26 4. Lack of Arguments 3:19 There isn't any more points categorized as seperate sooo
It's normal with ANY KIND of relationship TO fight if there's a reason to be fighting. It's how you communicate during and after that matters! Learning conflict management skills is important to every relationship, and everyone has had a different upbringing and has different ways they express bitter feelings. One needs to set clear boundaries while also listening with an open heart about how they've hurt others and plan ahead how to avoid similar situations in the future. Show you WANT to improve. Over time, any sort of early fighting will diminish as you get comfortable with one another and trust eachother to listen. Even so, there will always still be situations that are too niche or specific to learn anything from as they'll never come up again and all you can do in those situations is apologize. Just don't let yourself fall into a relationship where you're the only one doing all of the work to smooth things over. If the other person is bottling instead of communicating, not apologizing, or not actively asking what they could improve on... you need to sit down and seriously question how long that relationship is going to last.
Something else I noticed that helps with keeping the passion going in a relationship (that goes along w this video) is seeking your partner's attention/validation, and wanting to impress them, and wanting them to notice the things you do. My husband will do the dishes and if I don't notice he will point it out to me like ".. did you notice I did the dishes before you came home? 🙃" I think that's an important thing to have, because it motivates the other person to want to return the good deed. When you stop seeking that positive attention from them I think it's a sign you should value their attention more.
I remember at the beginning of my relationship my boyfriend had extremely bad trust issues due to Ex’s cheating on them and thus always wanted to know what I was doing and wearing. (Which I told) because of this we ended up arguing a lot. When I told him I wanted to break up BECAUSE of the fighting. (Like asking what was the point of dating me if he didn’t trust ) He changed for the better. He trusted me more, opened up more. And now we are really happy together almost 1 1/2 years now 😁 Like I could Gush bout how amazing he is 😂😂
As someone who is struggling now in a relationship and has to face sad facts and sad reality...thank you for this video❤Makes me feel that I deserve better.
My husband and I do everything together and most of our time is spent together, we work together and of course live and sleep together, we're best friends and most of the time people think we're siblings🤣 we adore each other though. We have been together for almost 6years. We have both changed alot since we were young but honestly I loved being able to grow up with and watch him change and mature and grow as an individual as well as blossoming our relationship:) were thinking about having children soon, but nothing is rushed. Take your time with your partner, if something is making you uncomfortable or upset, SAY SOMETHING!! if you feel unhappy, SAY SOMETHING!! Communication and trust is the most important thing in a relationship.
I try to keep the passion going but it doesn’t help when the other person doesn’t want to do anything. You can’t even tell them about your day because they’re in their own world. You feel more lonely in a relationship like this than being single…
@@sucharitaMCK They were all about each other. My Grampa brought Gramma coffee in bed every morning. So sweet. They did little things like that for each other constantly. They did most things together, including lots of charity type work. They just treasured each other. Having a front row seat was instructive.
Personally, I don't like arguing or fighting with a partner. I much rather a calm discussion and trying to find some middle ground. Though this has led to a couple women saying that I was too sensitive.
@@Jenavee26 that's what my therapist said too. Still, it eats at me. All I want is to love someone, i don't ask for the same intensity in return. Just looking for one person who can bear me, preferably for the rest of my days. Though I know that's a lot to ask, especially considering the thing I am.
@@Resident--a you're not a "thing". Keep your head up man, don't underestimate yourself okay ? It's okay being sensitive and I'd say wanting to discusss things instead of arguing, I think that it's more matureness than anything
@@Resident--a Maybe you are sensitive and that's a beautiful thing ^^ You deserve to be loved. You know the saying (no matter how corny it sounds it's still true): love yourself first. Easier said than done, but possible. Good luck 💚💚💚
Wow, it's kind of been flipped for me. I didn't have any extreme idealization or crazy passion at first, just an interest in getting to know him better. About 6 months in is when I really started to think he was amazing-but nowhere near how wonderful he is now, 4 years later. We're very logical in disagreements by fighting the problem rather than each other so I guess I just got lucky!
I think it is very possible to have a continuous honeymoon phase with both people really having both feet in the lifetime commitment that they are making and don't let hurt feelings or misunderstandings fester, be open, honest,, and have faith in each other's love. Thank you for the video!
Trust each other that everything is done with good intentions. It will keep disagreements peaceful and you will feel safe to talk about anything, because you both know you are never set out to hurt each other.
My boyfriend and I are a year and a half in and it still feels new and fresh like every time we see each other! Being in our early to mid twenty's, I'm glad that we are still going on very strong. One or two arguments, but have all worked out. We give each other plenty of compliments and our passion for each other is still very strong. Don't give up hope everyone I truly believe in all of you
How are things going for you guys now? Does it still feel new and fresh? Im currently going thru a bit of a depression and i'm feelin like i'm loosing the love i once had, with the girl who is literally the love of my life, and i would really love to get the feelings i once had, back..
As someone who was previously in an abusive relationship and is now in the most healthy marriage, this video really shows the essentials to a long lasting relationship and if its toxic you can feel it and get out because someone is willing to put the work in to keep you ❤
These are awesome - I just entered my first relationship in over 10 years, and I just texted my partner how good of a girlfriend they were, that I loved how cheerful, honest, and supportive they were. I know I would feel smitten if I were given those words, so hey, so what if it's up to us to get the ball rolling? Good luck everyone ~
@SweetChick10101 I’m so glad you mentioned anxious attachment style. I always struggled with that but after being in my first healthy relationship, it’s been really eye opening. My boyfriend lives in another state at the moment and there’s not a doubt in my mind about our relationship. It’s the best feeling ever 🥰
I really hope it’s possible to get back to the honeymoon stage. We were in it for about five years but the last year has been hard because my fiancé and I were both going through some difficult personal situations + pandemic made things harder. During that time we became quite distant and Fiancé told me he felt like I was more like a friend, but that he didn’t want to feel that way. Six months later we are much happier and I definitely feel like we’re heading back toward the honeymoon phase! After watching this video I realised it’s mainly the passion now that we need to work on. I hope I’m not just being naive in thinking we can be like this again. I love him so much and I want us both to have the best relationship we possibly can.
My boyfriend and I are about 8 months into dating and even though we’re not even close to marriage like you, I was wondering what you did to keep the passion going? Recently it’s been feeling a little dull. I don’t know exactly how to explain it but it’s been eating away at me and Im trying so hard to fix it. I know I love him so much and I don’t wanna lose him but I just feel something is missing. Idk if it’s something I need to do or something he needs to do but I just wanna get back into the honeymoon phase. I know he loves me but he’s not doing the same stuff he used to like sending me compliments as we’re saying goodnight, making moves on me, or just knowing what we should have planned for dates. I think he’s getting complacent and I feel like I’m putting in more work into our relationship. Could you please give me some tips?
Beautiful video and adorable illustration 😌 I'm not married but have been in my relationship for 6 years. It's definitely important to remember there are different seasons when you will feel really close to your partner and some you will feel far away. But if you both feel too much distance, you have to do the work to pursue each other again. It's important not to act like children who want the other person to just meet all their needs. A real mature relationship is where you communicate your needs and sometimes put the others needs before yours. Communication without antagonizing the other person is the real key to arguing. Most arguments are not just "disagreeing" on a particular topic, but someone is not getting their needs met and depending on the other person to come through. The other person cannot or will not always come through. I think we also get comfortable in saying things or being brutally honest about our partner. There are other people in our life we would "protect" from these truths if they cannot plainly see something they need to change. But for some reason we let it all out to our partner because we "think they can handle it" and they know we are not being malicious. I'm actually learning sometimes we just need to let our partners be instead of criticizing or controlling them. If there is a change that needs to be made, it can be brought up once or twice, then it's up to the other person to put in the work to change, and maybe we need to change our perspective sometimes. These are some of the things that cause arguments or sore feelings in my relationship. As a person that not only used to idealize my partner, but also idealizes the life I could or "should" have with them, I have been smacked with reality. And learned to have peace that everything will work out in God's timing.
This also might help, and especially with arguments. The 5 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz The First Agreement - BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD. The Second Agreement - DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY. The Third Agreement - DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS. The Fourth Agreement - ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST. The Fifth Agreement - BE SKEPTICAL, BUT LEARN TO LISTEN.
This was a really refreshing video to watch about the simple things a couple can do for each other. I hardly comment on RUclips videos but I had to say something here. I’ve just started dating again after a year and a half of being single and I’m a parent to a toddler. This video was perfect for me to watch at this chapter of my life, thank you 🙏🏾.
Personal rant bc I don’t have someone to talk to about this *** Been with my boyfriend for only about a month and a half now, and we had been flirting intensely for months before. Now I’m already starting to sense something different… I’m just constantly scared that I’m doing something wrong or I’ve changed because it’s not the same as it was. I don’t think I give him butterflies the way I used to, it feels like even though I pour so much passion into my words, even though I tell him how much I love him constantly, he doesn’t do the same… he points out how pretty other men are more than he does for me. I think he’s trying, or I really hope he is, but I have no idea because he has absolutely no idea how to communicate. My biggest fear, the fear that he’s falling out of love , that I don’t make him as happy as I did, that I’m not good enough is constantly plaguing my mind now. I wish we could talk, but he doesn’t know how to, he can’t express his emotions the way I can. It would be easier to just let go, but I love him too much for that. I love him way, way too much. UPDATE I’m writing this to give some of ya’ll hope! Me and my boyfriend are doing great now, it was scary moving out of the initial honeymoon faze and we still have a lot to learn and get used to, but my fears from a couple weeks have gotten much easier to handle. Sometimes it gets better guys, much love
My husband and I are still in the honeymoon phase and we have been together for 3 years (: we both don't see it ending anytime soon! We love each other and excite each other so much and it grows more and more everyday 💗💗💗
4:06 me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over two years and we never had an argument. *our* definition of arguing is yelling / screaming , mockery , lack of empathy and name calling. before we even got together , *we* established those boundaries with eachother and we’ve kept to it since. we had a few disagreements and there have definitely been times we’ve pissed eachother off, but instead of lashing out on eachother, we take a breather and talk about it when we’re both ready. i belied the saying “ all couples argue “ is toxic , because it’s completely avoidable if both parties calm themselves down and listen. establish boundaries *before the argument* that work for the *BOTH* of you, listen and understand their frustrations and you’ll see a dramatic change in your relationship. :)
Thank you for pointing out the "all couples fight" generalization. And that it's good to not fight too often and it's good to try and keep it minimal. People really made it sound inevitable that things would get ugly at some point(s). That's scary. I know it's impossible not to have disagreements but I really don't wanna fight with my partner. We're both really emotional and sensitive and also big on communicating and working things out. The haunting thought of us somehow inevitablly having a huge fallout was in the back of my mind lurkinnng. Thank you.
Me watching this after my nearly decade long relationship just ended in flames: "ah this will be good info for 10 years down the line when I can trust again"
@@shaunnathanson6905 Long story short my high school sweetheart and fiance ran off with my good friend. Now they live in my old apt together and are gonna be moving cities in a few months. Shits been rough but we do what we can to survive.
I know it's grim and lonely right now, but I know that you will find someone who will love you, and treat you with the respect you deserve in a relationship. Focus on yourself, love yourself, and everything else will fall into place when you least expect it.
@@lousassle4704 i am so sorry that happened to you. That must be sp hard when you spent so long with someone. I know I'm just some stranger on the internet, but i really do wish you all the healing and good going forward
We are a new couple, 7 months and not a single argument. We've had rough spots and we've struggled through negative emotions and habits and the like. But we never argued. We talked. And I would say we are 100% still in the honeymoon phase. Spent 3 hours just talking about our relationship and how much we love each other.
The animation and drawing style in this one is just amazing. I love the tips as well and will try my best to make use of them in my relationship. We're already doing quite a bit of them, but we are also in the beginning of our relationship, so this will be more important in the long run :)
This channel has helped me greatly understand what went wrong in my 6 year relationship. Not only what I did wrong but what he did as well. Sometimes I wish he was still around so I could introduce him to this channel. Might help him to be a better person even if just a little bit. 👍
I believe it. I was very skeptical in my youth. It's rare, but hopefully that changes. Def keep trying to impress in cute ways, learn their love language. And so agree with laughter and "would I speak this way to xyz" SO IMPORTANT. Don't mistake comfort and rudeness. Dont be rude/too blunt because you're comfortable they'll probably stay (which could be subconscious btw) and be like, "Pff, can't you accept my honesty?" Also, "You're too sensitive" are the magical breakup words eventually or just the murdering of passion at least. Try, "I don't understand, can you tell me why you're feeling this way?" Y'know, unless you bend over backwards and walk on eggshells and they're never happy and always hurt...they might have anxiety or trauma. Or they're manipulative. But often, people just get hurt and need a little reassurance. ^^ Balance. ⚖️
I agree! I’ve been married 4 years and that’s the only issue in our relationship. Any dates we go on, I plan. My husband hasn’t taken me on a date in years. I’ve talked to him about it and I see him attempting to plan something but he hasn’t followed through. 😔 I don’t want to nag him about taking me out because I feel like that will have the opposite result of what I want. I’ve bought date outfits in different seasons hoping he would take me somewhere and the tags just stay on until I plan something. It sucks because my love language is quality time. I like to spend that time doing activities not just sitting at home watching movies. That’s fine here and there but not every time. I don’t want gifts, I don’t even need words of affirmation. Just plan something to show you want to spend time with me. Sorry, I wrote a novel lol.
Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years. What’s funny is we’re way more passionate now and loving. then the honeymoon phase was. We’re better way better now.
Me and my partner have known each other for 4 and a half years, we became closer as friends and a relationship developed in the most natural way…. We have never rushed anything and respect each other’s independence. I think that’s why we’re still happy spending time with each other, cos we still have the playful friendship side :)
honestly, i really needed this video. i’ve found myself to be getting complacent in my three year long relationship, and i admit i’ve been a bit cold to my boyfriend lately. i’m going to take this advice and revitalize our relationship and let him know how much he means to me. thank you so much!
Honestly, cherish your single years lol. I’m married and have a 2 year old and sometimes, I really want space lol 😂. I’m lucky if I get to go to the grocery store by myself in peace lol. Your time will come, I promise! Just focus on now and cherish your time now! 💕
I love this video. With my ex, he wasn't willing to put in the emotional work to be a good partner. He was so emotionally unavailable and even cold at times. All I wanted was to love and relate to him. But he wasn't willing to make himself vulnerable and meet me halfway. This caused a huge rift in our marriage and I had to end it. I had to love myself more and decide I deserved better.
It's not about perfection, it's about good vibes! Working on the relationship is a journey, where the magic is not in the destination like a shiny beach_but the excitement of the drive on the highway with the scenery with the speed and rush of the wind, etc, or stopping for a snack at a rest stop! The road Less travelled as you navigate with a map! It's energy whereby the good vibes takes teamwork✌️
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In your experience or opinion, what's the reasonable timeframe honeymoon phrase lasts for?
Hello thanks for the video ❤
I won’t have honeymoon 😂
Welp... I’ll keep this for when I find someone........
Yup I’m keeping this until my grave
That one person who disliked is worse than a Karen
Thank u psych2go. Your animation is getting excellent
“If speaking kindly to plants helps them grow, imagine what speaking kindly to humans can do.” ✨🌱
That is why I talk to my plants at school
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My classmates think its weird
Actually I was talking to human suddenly there coconut tree on his head now I am here to blame you XD
Cute.
that doesn’t help them grow-
Usually gets kind people taken advantage of tbh.. plants are plants.. humans are (for starters) manipulative, murderous, antagonistic, narcissistic, stubborn, ignorant, abusive, genocidal maniacs.. should I continue the list of what a plant cannot do?..
My parents are in their 50s and they still act like teen-agers in love. So yeah it is possible for those people who are wondering
that’s adorable
Yay
How long have they been together? And when did they get together?
@@kokokronch2922 they got together when they were 27 (they married almost immediately) so they've been together for more than 36 years now.
... You sure neither ever cheated???
damn... Your grandparents are lucky...
1. Don't be together 24/7
2. Keep putting effort in your relationship
3. Lower your voice when angry, say things in a nice way, speak from your perspective, use physical touch to calm, use validation
4. Keep a running list of green flags
5. Don't stop taking care of yourself and the relationship
6. It's a two-way street :)
Thank you 😊
@talori5417 It's been 2 months how's it going?
@@talori5417still together?
Me watching this after almost 8 years of marriage realizing we're still in the honeymoon phase
That’s good to know :) what’s your secret ?
@@Psych2go I haven't found just one secret. Taking time to know each other is key. What makes the other happy, angry, upset and making sure their emotional needs are met. A sink full of dishes is his biggest pet peeve for example- so I prioritize making sure dishes are done. I don't like socks on the floor, so he prioritizes making sure he puts them in the hamper. It's all about give and take. Not holding minor faults against the other is huge. Did he leave his socks on the floor? I put them in the hamper myself without making a big deal about it. Not nit picking the small stuff. Respect is huge, especially in a disagreement. Yelling and name calling never help the situation, but it's important to always find your way back to each other after an altercation. Forgive and Forget. There are no "Well that one time YOU..." in our arguments. We spend A LOT of time together, but it is nice to have a day away too- like your video said. What helps us the most I think, is being like minded- we want the same things in life, and have similar goals. It feels like we're working together for everything, instead of separately. Sorry for the long response, I couldn't think of just one thing that was important that I've learned in 8 years of marriage :D
@@laceystonerock6609 After studying (mainly man, women and dating)psychology by myself for some years, your explanation makes alot of sense. You have got yourself a high value man also. I hope everyone would be mentally that healthy that they can build rare relationship like yours. Hope you reach your goals.
@@laceystonerock6609 Thank you so much for sharing your story, Lacey! ❤️
@@laceystonerock6609 ty so much for sharing Lacey 🤍
Couples disagree, and it is possible to disagree with someone in a healthy way. Don’t speak over your partner, scream, interrupt or name call.
@~Pink Care Bear~ it's normal in the sense that you can disagree with your partner and sometimes based on emotions in that moment it can get heated BUT that is up to the 2 individuals in the argument or disagreement. It doesn't mean allow your partner to be abusive while having the disagreement because then your not really in a healthy relationship. Once that person crosses the line you enable them to continue.
Speaking from experience by being married for almost 5 years. My husband and I disagree allllll the time but we don't allow it to get out of hands and apologize to each other even if we haven't said anything offensive, but because we understand that it's not that serious we can move on and be crazy about each other anyways.
That requires an amazing amount of self consciousness and repression. NOt sure that can always be avoided. I mean the yelling part.
Exactly
Exactly
My single ass watching this at 2am eating crackers:
Niceeeeeee!
Lol
I’ll just leave this Reply here :-)
@@Psych2go pfft this reply is so sarcastic
@@_fsg_ get over it. It's quite obvious psych2go is just being adorable.
Same..
"The notion that all couples fight is somewhat toxic and sets a low standard for how romantic partners should treat each other." 👏👏👏👏👏 THIS RIGHT HERE!!! I'm so sick of seeing people settle for this very reason. Fighting all the time it's not normal!
While fighting all the isn't great, I don't think that's what people are saying. People can't agree on everything and it is normal to disagree with your partner. It's how the couple handles it that matters. If someone has a disagreement that's not a sign that the relationship is flawed.
@@CLAIRE-_-. Disagreements are bound to happen. I'm not denying that. But you can disagree with your partner in a respectable manor. How couples handle differences of opinion is important. I see fighting as a transition away from a discussion and into heated, angry, and disrespectful actions, including yelling. Your brain function is significantly impaired when you're angry so when fighting happens you're not getting anything productive out of those instances. It's better to take a break, cool down, and try to come back with a level head. Those are the times when you can actually discuss a problem with the intention of fixing it, instead of possibly playing the blame game and not listening to what your partner has to say.
@@allyson186 I agree with you whole heartedly on that!! :)
My partner made the choice to stop idealizing and consyantly haraung me, does that count
there's a difference between fighting and fighting all the time lmao
nuance is a thing
me, watching this, with no relationships ever happening and being possibly aro: *interesting*
S a m e
Relatable.
same
aro? Ur an arrow :D
Lmao,me too
Ok but why's no one talking about the art style? It's so damn satisfying.
IKRRR
I think this youtube channel is the most safest place ever especially for an introvert❤️🦋
Definitely agree as an introvert
This!
Agreed
Yes!!
Yep
if I could bottle up the feelings you have during the honeymoon phase, I would. ITS SUCH A GREAT FEELING
Hmmmm...I kinda challenge that a bit. I believe in balance between all the qualities of the honeymoon phase.
That already exists, it’s called a bottle of Jack Daniels at 12 at night, when you should probably be going to sleep, but you know what fuck it, fuck work.
I'll buy ten of these. Sound better than gamergirl bathwater.
It's called MDA
It's called ecstasy. Try it.
Does the honeymoon phase have to end? ...
Get clear about what you're looking for - fast. ...
Make time for yourself. ...
Create some ground rules for arguing. ...
Plan monthly outings. ...
Learn each other's love language. ...
Make plans with friends and family. ...
Plan a trip.
This is exactly how my partner and I handled our relationship. Our only failing was actually getting each other to open up about our problems because we never wanted to bother each other with our 'small' problems.
It works beautifully, and after experiencing it I'm quite tired of romance movies that pay no homage to it, haha.
your comment is perfect it doesnt have to end and the points you came up to are 👏
@@RyuuRider wow lucky you
@@RyuuRider finding a girlfriend is like 1/million for me its sooo rare😥and even if i had one it wouldnt last forever🙁
@@Founderschannel123 This is just my own experience.
You can find people who will hold your hand just about anywhere, but finding someone who will do everything they can to support you through life isn't something I'd recommend you rush through.
Be honest with yourself about what you're looking for: A long-term, loving partnership or someone who you can enjoy the company of for just the time being.
Engage in things that make you feel fulfilled, and the people you meet while living an honest life will see that and want to come along for the ride.
Waiting to find someone who honors you as you would honor them, even if it takes a decade, isn't mandatory, but you're setting yourself up to be with someone that will make you truly happy and help you grow.
It’s important to have both a friendship and passion.
Ive been with my husband for 4 years and we are still in the honey moon phase because of all of this. We dont even argue, we may disagree but we always talk it out and come to a middle ground💜
What a beautiful story! Thanks for sharing! - Cindy
That is really good to hear😊
Could you say please two things?
If the middle ground is accomplished imidiately, or might take sometimes a day or two. And if you ever experienced extreme emotions, as the video says, (obviously except happiness🤭) like anger, jealousy and so on
It would be really helpful. Thanks!
I wish my parents are like that because they somtimes argue and shouting horrible things at each other instead of talking things through
@@thetreatment498 when we have a disagreement, we will normally approach the other and say "Hey can we talk? Something happened to upset me and id like to straighten it out please." we will immediately both sit down, unless we're busy then we make time to talk later, and whoever has to speak, has the floor and we promised each other no matter how small something may seem to you, its always BIG to the other person so we listen and respect whatever it is the other person has to say and we correct the problem.
If the problem cannot be solved, which has not happened yet and i hope it never does 🤣, we agreed to not raise our voices at each other, give each other space as needed and revisit the situation. If a middle ground cannot be found we said we would just agree to disagree. But NEVER when it comes to my partners feelings💜 his peace of mind is my peace of mind and vice versa💜
We try to keep good vibes in the house at all times💜
@@thetreatment498 as for the extreme emotions, yes we both have experienced extreme anger but its always towards other people🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 its weird how well we get along, my husband is definitely my best friend, we're into the same things and we often feel the same about everything and it just makes everything so comfortable and happy💜 i know things cant be perfect 24/7 but when you have great open communication they often very close to it.
Here it is important to realize that you cannot change or improve another person. You cannot take someone who appears charming and talented, but who cannot seem to function very well, and turn them into a functioning person. Young women make this mistake all the time, particularly, thinking they are going to rehabilitate the young man. 'Oh, with her guidance, this young man will become productive and responsible and effective.' Do not make this mistake. It is an immense waste of your time. You cannot change or improve another person. That is what they must do for themselves.
This quote is from: *The New Message for Young People* by *Marshall Vian Summers*
Thank you, E K.
thank you
It's so true thanks to mentioning that. I wasted six years of my life like that and I wish (even if I don't regret this experience and the lessons I've learned overall) that someone told me that before...
My case must be rare then. I've been in a long distance relationship for 9 years. We fought in the beginning, but things just healed as it went along. We're happy now, and can't wait to close the gap.
That can happen sometimes. I love that for you, BTW. 😊❤
How did you do ?
@@esma124 How did I do...? Well, if this answers your question, we are currently saving up to move in together. But first, vacation!
@@JazzTheChameleon congrats !! But i mean how did you do for keeping your relationship this way
@@esma124 You mean how...? Wow. Well. I'm not sure how to explain it. I think in the beginning we both suffered from anxiety & depression from our situation. We were in fear of trying, & failing. It would cause motivation issues with us both. But we loved each other. I also was still unstable from my last relationship (was also long distance, broke up after 5 years), so we'd get into arguments over dumb things, most of it cuz of my own mental state. I've had a few breakdowns...felt like I fell into a dark hole every time. A few years later, a friend of mine pushed me to try & get welfare, food stamps, & join a job program. Once I got a job, & he finished college with a job, I started recovering, & just like that, our fighting just came to an end.
Sometimes, when you're struggling, all you have to do is push to change your situation, even something small, for it to get better.
I love how you don't assign a particular gender to these little characters. Helps me, as a lesbian, see me and my girl
As a lesbian, i also call my girl... my girl lol
I feel the sake :)
That’s gross asf
@@o_KishiI don’t see how it’s gross
Yessss
To everyone who's reading this: you're cool and adorable stay safe
and ur the sweetest
@@sillycatsayshi tysm! 🤍
Awww thankyou so much. Your are cute 🧡
aww thanks
@@flamingaish tysm! 🤍
ive been dating my girlfriend for 5 years. We never really left honey moon phase. have we had some tougher times? yes but the main thing that weve done is talk about everything, listen and put work into improving ourselves and the relationship. The hard work we put in to improve ends up giving us a very harmonious and wonderful relationship. we spend hours together and it doesnt even feel like it. I can agree that distance helps alot!
Still watching this despite being in a 13 years in a relationship and married for 9 years...and that PASSION really works💕 Stay flirty to your husband/wife no matter how old you are or how busy you are. Make it your daily PRIORITY to make time for TALKING, cuddling/kissing EVERYDAY!
I always feel like the people I dated leave the honeymoon phase so fast. I never feel like I leave it. I cant wait to be with someone who experiences love the way I do.
same
"The notion that all couples fight is somewhat toxic and sets a low standard for how romantic partners should treat each other...it may be common but we should not simply accept it because it is common. We should be working to prevent it."
THIS AD INFINITUM
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The art is really cute :0
Thank you so much! Rina is amazing! One of our newest member on the team :) - Cindy
Agreed. I love all the insiders planted.
Hey Psych2Go-ers and remember just simply put - a healthy relationship is one where both partners are sharing something together - not a relationship where one partner is constantly extracting something from the other. Stay healthy and good luck 😊
Unfortunately my job has taken a major toll on my relationship to the point that my boyfriend and I separated recently. We've been together for nearly two years, and all of that consisted of us never physically meeting because we live in different countries with strict laws surrounding the pandemic. I can't quit my job because I need money, but I genuinely loved this man. I just needed a space to vent.
i'm honestly surprised my partner and I are applying this without us even knowing that it is actually backed by psychology HAHAHA I guess all that's left is for us to keep these up. We're at our 3rd year together now and we still feel like we're at the honeymoon phase although with the pandemic, our careers are giving us more headaches and so much stress. But we're pulling through.
Press onward !
hey, i would like to know your opinion about "sorry i have to focus on my college first" or such things because it's such a lazy reason for not maintaining relationships.
@@nabiwachouagred
I've been with my fiance for almost 7 years and I still get butterflies around him and love spending time with him 💕
My husband and I have been together for 11 years and have never had one fight. The relationship was extraordinary since the beginning, but I am even happier now that we have spent years together and know each other better. We are on the honeymoon phase and have been even through illness, unemployment, stressful situations like competitive exams and moving several times… empathy, patience, tolerance really go a long way. Explaining to your parnter why you are having a rough day and seeking some comfort (by cuddling for example) is way healthier than nagging at him/her BECAUSE you are having a rough day. Your relationship is a precious thing and you need to treat it and your partner as such.
I love my boyfriend very much, and he's been going through a hard time for a while. I understand it, and I'm trying my best to support him. I just wish he understood how awful I feel not getting compliments or random acts of affection from him. We've been together for 4 years and I feel he forgets too often. 😢
Then you should probably tell him how u feel he can’t know if u don’t say
Try talking to him and telling him how you feel might bring you guys closer
Hope it works out for u
I definitely would talk to him about your feelings, and if he still doesn’t make an effort, you may have to let him go. It’s sad, but we can’t change others. You deserve the best!
I understand this, however I'm an autistic girl in a relationship with an adhd boy. He's bound to forget. I'm bound to forget too. We both screw up a lot but still make it work because we both knew what we were getting ourselves into.
Thanks for all the replies! I did talk to my boyfriend, it was a long and hard talk. In the end he decided he would make a schedule for affection. It's not ideal as random acts of affection are preferable, but he's making an effort. He genuinely wants to make me happy and scheduled or not I enjoy the affection. So in the end, it's all good ❤️
Most helpful for me was using the "I" word more often when addressing an issue in a relationship.
still don't know the person with the green leaf on their head but there my favorite person with flowers on their head
Chrysanthemum
Person with leaf on their head has gotten me through a lot
Hi time traveller
Me too
@@user-tr3jw1df6q thats the name of that person?
1. Idealization 1:39
2. (if you want to it ain't a point) Devaluation 2:13
3. Passion 2:26
4. Lack of Arguments 3:19
There isn't any more points categorized as seperate sooo
This is my old account
Hi time travellers
thank you, time traveller
19 months into a relationship and the honeymoon phase is still going strong. Distance has been a huge factor in it.
Put things back where you first looked for them, not where you found them.
That’s genius, thank you
It's normal with ANY KIND of relationship TO fight if there's a reason to be fighting. It's how you communicate during and after that matters!
Learning conflict management skills is important to every relationship, and everyone has had a different upbringing and has different ways they express bitter feelings. One needs to set clear boundaries while also listening with an open heart about how they've hurt others and plan ahead how to avoid similar situations in the future. Show you WANT to improve. Over time, any sort of early fighting will diminish as you get comfortable with one another and trust eachother to listen. Even so, there will always still be situations that are too niche or specific to learn anything from as they'll never come up again and all you can do in those situations is apologize.
Just don't let yourself fall into a relationship where you're the only one doing all of the work to smooth things over. If the other person is bottling instead of communicating, not apologizing, or not actively asking what they could improve on... you need to sit down and seriously question how long that relationship is going to last.
If they’re right for u, it’ll be natural and not forced regardless of what anyone says.
okay I'm both happy this topic is being covered AND the video being mesmerizing like I can't look away its so amazing
Thank you so much!!
Something else I noticed that helps with keeping the passion going in a relationship (that goes along w this video) is seeking your partner's attention/validation, and wanting to impress them, and wanting them to notice the things you do. My husband will do the dishes and if I don't notice he will point it out to me like ".. did you notice I did the dishes before you came home? 🙃" I think that's an important thing to have, because it motivates the other person to want to return the good deed. When you stop seeking that positive attention from them I think it's a sign you should value their attention more.
I remember at the beginning of my relationship my boyfriend had extremely bad trust issues due to Ex’s cheating on them and thus always wanted to know what I was doing and wearing. (Which I told) because of this we ended up arguing a lot. When I told him I wanted to break up BECAUSE of the fighting. (Like asking what was the point of dating me if he didn’t trust ) He changed for the better. He trusted me more, opened up more. And now we are really happy together almost 1 1/2 years now 😁
Like I could Gush bout how amazing he is 😂😂
aww thats amazing💕
@@CrystalSkies_9 thank you 😂 I really couldn’t help myself his helped me a lot with me own mental struggles 😁
@@helloyoungones1678 that good to hear
I hope things will go even better than they already are for you!!!!
@@CrystalSkies_9 thank you and I hope you have a wonderful life as well 😁
@@helloyoungones1678 thanks🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍
As someone who is struggling now in a relationship and has to face sad facts and sad reality...thank you for this video❤Makes me feel that I deserve better.
My husband and I do everything together and most of our time is spent together, we work together and of course live and sleep together, we're best friends and most of the time people think we're siblings🤣 we adore each other though. We have been together for almost 6years. We have both changed alot since we were young but honestly I loved being able to grow up with and watch him change and mature and grow as an individual as well as blossoming our relationship:) were thinking about having children soon, but nothing is rushed. Take your time with your partner, if something is making you uncomfortable or upset, SAY SOMETHING!! if you feel unhappy, SAY SOMETHING!! Communication and trust is the most important thing in a relationship.
I try to keep the passion going but it doesn’t help when the other person doesn’t want to do anything. You can’t even tell them about your day because they’re in their own world. You feel more lonely in a relationship like this than being single…
Never take your partner for granted. Once you do that, you relationship will start going down the hill.
Yes! So absolutely true! Thanks for sharing!
yes
Me, a high school student: Information is Information
My grandparents were a couple of teenagers in love until they died in their 80s. Lifegoals!
Wow, would love to hear more about them 😄
@@sucharitaMCK They were all about each other. My Grampa brought Gramma coffee in bed every morning. So sweet. They did little things like that for each other constantly. They did most things together, including lots of charity type work. They just treasured each other. Having a front row seat was instructive.
THIS ANIMATOR HAS SUCH A CUTE ART STYLE AAA
Personally, I don't like arguing or fighting with a partner. I much rather a calm discussion and trying to find some middle ground.
Though this has led to a couple women saying that I was too sensitive.
Maybe they're insensitive, and because they are so, they don't realize it for themselves
@@Jenavee26 that's what my therapist said too. Still, it eats at me. All I want is to love someone, i don't ask for the same intensity in return. Just looking for one person who can bear me, preferably for the rest of my days. Though I know that's a lot to ask, especially considering the thing I am.
@@Resident--a you're not a "thing". Keep your head up man, don't underestimate yourself okay ? It's okay being sensitive and I'd say wanting to discusss things instead of arguing, I think that it's more matureness than anything
@@Resident--a Maybe you are sensitive and that's a beautiful thing ^^
You deserve to be loved. You know the saying (no matter how corny it sounds it's still true):
love yourself first. Easier said than done, but possible.
Good luck 💚💚💚
Listen, you're a golden guy, don't let some b****es tell you otherwise😊
Wow, it's kind of been flipped for me. I didn't have any extreme idealization or crazy passion at first, just an interest in getting to know him better. About 6 months in is when I really started to think he was amazing-but nowhere near how wonderful he is now, 4 years later. We're very logical in disagreements by fighting the problem rather than each other so I guess I just got lucky!
Me and my girlfriend watched this together and im ready to put in all the effort they do uwu im so ready for the best relationship of my life
That’s so sweet 🥰
Bro said “uwu” you 100% got cheated on
I think it is very possible to have a continuous honeymoon phase with both people really having both feet in the lifetime commitment that they are making and don't let hurt feelings or misunderstandings fester, be open, honest,, and have faith in each other's love. Thank you for the video!
Thank you for this collab! ☺️
No problem :) Thank you for collaborating with us!
Be busy with hobbies, family and friends. sounds like just a healthy relationship
I have been married for 12 years and my marriage is fine, but I'm going to incorporate these tips right now. Thank you for this video
Trust each other that everything is done with good intentions. It will keep disagreements peaceful and you will feel safe to talk about anything, because you both know you are never set out to hurt each other.
My boyfriend and I are a year and a half in and it still feels new and fresh like every time we see each other! Being in our early to mid twenty's, I'm glad that we are still going on very strong. One or two arguments, but have all worked out. We give each other plenty of compliments and our passion for each other is still very strong. Don't give up hope everyone I truly believe in all of you
How are things going for you guys now? Does it still feel new and fresh? Im currently going thru a bit of a depression and i'm feelin like i'm loosing the love i once had, with the girl who is literally the love of my life, and i would really love to get the feelings i once had, back..
One year is still the honeymoon phase, if you're out before one year I say the relationship won't work
@@WilliamJayG2 you should first work on yourself, only by accepting yourself you can love someone else
As someone who was previously in an abusive relationship and is now in the most healthy marriage, this video really shows the essentials to a long lasting relationship and if its toxic you can feel it and get out because someone is willing to put the work in to keep you ❤
7:57 Good explained video + Kimetsu no Yaiba and One Punch Man reference = ⭐p e r f e c t i o n⭐
Same here 😁
STUNNING ART STYLE WITH THIS ONE!
These are awesome - I just entered my first relationship in over 10 years, and I just texted my partner how good of a girlfriend they were, that I loved how cheerful, honest, and supportive they were. I know I would feel smitten if I were given those words, so hey, so what if it's up to us to get the ball rolling? Good luck everyone ~
ive never been in a relationship so the fact that there’s a moment where the butterflies go away is really sad to me
You will one day and when you do it will be the most wonderful feeling in the world
Having distance scares me. do i have separation anxiety? why am i so scared that they will lose interest, even though i know they love me so much?
@@liamrenaud2347 why 😳
I have the same issue.
It’s inevitable if they find someone they find more intriguing. That spark w someone doesnt come often but when it does, it’s magical.
@SweetChick10101 I’m so glad you mentioned anxious attachment style. I always struggled with that but after being in my first healthy relationship, it’s been really eye opening. My boyfriend lives in another state at the moment and there’s not a doubt in my mind about our relationship. It’s the best feeling ever 🥰
I would recommend individual counseling for yourself. Maybe there are some unresolved traumas in your past? Best of luck to you! 💕
I really hope it’s possible to get back to the honeymoon stage. We were in it for about five years but the last year has been hard because my fiancé and I were both going through some difficult personal situations + pandemic made things harder. During that time we became quite distant and Fiancé told me he felt like I was more like a friend, but that he didn’t want to feel that way.
Six months later we are much happier and I definitely feel like we’re heading back toward the honeymoon phase! After watching this video I realised it’s mainly the passion now that we need to work on.
I hope I’m not just being naive in thinking we can be like this again. I love him so much and I want us both to have the best relationship we possibly can.
My boyfriend and I are about 8 months into dating and even though we’re not even close to marriage like you, I was wondering what you did to keep the passion going? Recently it’s been feeling a little dull. I don’t know exactly how to explain it but it’s been eating away at me and Im trying so hard to fix it. I know I love him so much and I don’t wanna lose him but I just feel something is missing. Idk if it’s something I need to do or something he needs to do but I just wanna get back into the honeymoon phase. I know he loves me but he’s not doing the same stuff he used to like sending me compliments as we’re saying goodnight, making moves on me, or just knowing what we should have planned for dates. I think he’s getting complacent and I feel like I’m putting in more work into our relationship. Could you please give me some tips?
@@bean6725how's it going now?
I feel that you can go in and out of this phase, I’m back in it after one year with my boyfriend (: things are wonderful. Communication is key
Beautiful video and adorable illustration 😌 I'm not married but have been in my relationship for 6 years. It's definitely important to remember there are different seasons when you will feel really close to your partner and some you will feel far away. But if you both feel too much distance, you have to do the work to pursue each other again. It's important not to act like children who want the other person to just meet all their needs. A real mature relationship is where you communicate your needs and sometimes put the others needs before yours. Communication without antagonizing the other person is the real key to arguing. Most arguments are not just "disagreeing" on a particular topic, but someone is not getting their needs met and depending on the other person to come through. The other person cannot or will not always come through.
I think we also get comfortable in saying things or being brutally honest about our partner. There are other people in our life we would "protect" from these truths if they cannot plainly see something they need to change. But for some reason we let it all out to our partner because we "think they can handle it" and they know we are not being malicious. I'm actually learning sometimes we just need to let our partners be instead of criticizing or controlling them. If there is a change that needs to be made, it can be brought up once or twice, then it's up to the other person to put in the work to change, and maybe we need to change our perspective sometimes.
These are some of the things that cause arguments or sore feelings in my relationship. As a person that not only used to idealize my partner, but also idealizes the life I could or "should" have with them, I have been smacked with reality. And learned to have peace that everything will work out in God's timing.
THE ART IS JUST SO CUTEE I CAN'T
This also might help, and especially with arguments.
The 5 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
The First Agreement - BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD.
The Second Agreement - DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY.
The Third Agreement - DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS.
The Fourth Agreement - ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST.
The Fifth Agreement - BE SKEPTICAL, BUT LEARN TO LISTEN.
This was a really refreshing video to watch about the simple things a couple can do for each other. I hardly comment on RUclips videos but I had to say something here. I’ve just started dating again after a year and a half of being single and I’m a parent to a toddler. This video was perfect for me to watch at this chapter of my life, thank you 🙏🏾.
I'm not even in a relationship and I'm watching this at 3:35am taking mental notes.
This is surely gonna help me and my girl to have an everlasting relationship like we always dream of ^w^
imagine being in a relationship
couldnt be me
Good Luck bud
@@flohwalzer you'll find that special someone eventually, it's just a matter of time ;3
@@Asgretalos thanks pal
I recommend learning your girl's love language. Knowing someone's love language can help a lot
Personal rant bc I don’t have someone to talk to about this ***
Been with my boyfriend for only about a month and a half now, and we had been flirting intensely for months before. Now I’m already starting to sense something different… I’m just constantly scared that I’m doing something wrong or I’ve changed because it’s not the same as it was. I don’t think I give him butterflies the way I used to, it feels like even though I pour so much passion into my words, even though I tell him how much I love him constantly, he doesn’t do the same… he points out how pretty other men are more than he does for me. I think he’s trying, or I really hope he is, but I have no idea because he has absolutely no idea how to communicate. My biggest fear, the fear that he’s falling out of love , that I don’t make him as happy as I did, that I’m not good enough is constantly plaguing my mind now. I wish we could talk, but he doesn’t know how to, he can’t express his emotions the way I can. It would be easier to just let go, but I love him too much for that. I love him way, way too much.
UPDATE
I’m writing this to give some of ya’ll hope! Me and my boyfriend are doing great now, it was scary moving out of the initial honeymoon faze and we still have a lot to learn and get used to, but my fears from a couple weeks have gotten much easier to handle. Sometimes it gets better guys, much love
My husband and I are still in the honeymoon phase and we have been together for 3 years (: we both don't see it ending anytime soon! We love each other and excite each other so much and it grows more and more everyday 💗💗💗
I've been with my girlfriend for 5 years and get still get so excited everyday when she comes home. This is a very useful video. Nice tips, thanks!
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me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over two years and we never had an argument. *our* definition of arguing is yelling / screaming , mockery , lack of empathy and name calling. before we even got together , *we* established those boundaries with eachother and we’ve kept to it since. we had a few disagreements and there have definitely been times we’ve pissed eachother off, but instead of lashing out on eachother, we take a breather and talk about it when we’re both ready. i belied the saying “ all couples argue “ is toxic , because it’s completely avoidable if both parties calm themselves down and listen.
establish boundaries *before the argument* that work for the *BOTH* of you, listen and understand their frustrations and you’ll see a dramatic change in your relationship. :)
Love is not the butterflies in your stomach. It's the willingness to stay together after the butterflies die.
OH MY GOD THE ART STYLE IS SO CUUUUTE!!
Exactly
8 months in and we’re still in the honeymoon phase, we almost fought once but fixed it with communication
I heard that a lot but...1 year is still honeymoon phase
Thank you for pointing out the "all couples fight" generalization. And that it's good to not fight too often and it's good to try and keep it minimal. People really made it sound inevitable that things would get ugly at some point(s). That's scary. I know it's impossible not to have disagreements but I really don't wanna fight with my partner. We're both really emotional and sensitive and also big on communicating and working things out. The haunting thought of us somehow inevitablly having a huge fallout was in the back of my mind lurkinnng. Thank you.
Me watching this after my nearly decade long relationship just ended in flames: "ah this will be good info for 10 years down the line when I can trust again"
What happened mate?
@@shaunnathanson6905 Long story short my high school sweetheart and fiance ran off with my good friend. Now they live in my old apt together and are gonna be moving cities in a few months. Shits been rough but we do what we can to survive.
@@lousassle4704 sorry man no one desvies that kind of pain you will meet the right woman one day like I have never give up hope God bless you man!
I know it's grim and lonely right now, but I know that you will find someone who will love you, and treat you with the respect you deserve in a relationship. Focus on yourself, love yourself, and everything else will fall into place when you least expect it.
@@lousassle4704 i am so sorry that happened to you. That must be sp hard when you spent so long with someone.
I know I'm just some stranger on the internet, but i really do wish you all the healing and good going forward
People say they can time travel in fact they just have a early access to time
This comment made my day.
Thx
I love the fact you guys broke the myth that every couple fight. Thank you!
This video is just perfect, the topic, the great audio, her voice is so relaxing , the design is soooo pretty! One of my favourites
We are a new couple, 7 months and not a single argument. We've had rough spots and we've struggled through negative emotions and habits and the like. But we never argued. We talked. And I would say we are 100% still in the honeymoon phase. Spent 3 hours just talking about our relationship and how much we love each other.
The animation and drawing style in this one is just amazing. I love the tips as well and will try my best to make use of them in my relationship. We're already doing quite a bit of them, but we are also in the beginning of our relationship, so this will be more important in the long run :)
It's been more than 8 years and we are still and always going to be in a honeymoon phase 🤭iam grateful
This channel has helped me greatly understand what went wrong in my 6 year relationship. Not only what I did wrong but what he did as well. Sometimes I wish he was still around so I could introduce him to this channel. Might help him to be a better person even if just a little bit. 👍
I've been watching Ana's and Psych to go videos for months, so nice to see this collaboration!
I believe it. I was very skeptical in my youth. It's rare, but hopefully that changes. Def keep trying to impress in cute ways, learn their love language. And so agree with laughter and "would I speak this way to xyz" SO IMPORTANT.
Don't mistake comfort and rudeness. Dont be rude/too blunt because you're comfortable they'll probably stay (which could be subconscious btw) and be like, "Pff, can't you accept my honesty?" Also, "You're too sensitive" are the magical breakup words eventually or just the murdering of passion at least. Try, "I don't understand, can you tell me why you're feeling this way?" Y'know, unless you bend over backwards and walk on eggshells and they're never happy and always hurt...they might have anxiety or trauma. Or they're manipulative. But often, people just get hurt and need a little reassurance. ^^ Balance. ⚖️
Stay loving and playful and go on fun outings. Never stop dating.
I agree! I’ve been married 4 years and that’s the only issue in our relationship. Any dates we go on, I plan. My husband hasn’t taken me on a date in years. I’ve talked to him about it and I see him attempting to plan something but he hasn’t followed through. 😔 I don’t want to nag him about taking me out because I feel like that will have the opposite result of what I want. I’ve bought date outfits in different seasons hoping he would take me somewhere and the tags just stay on until I plan something. It sucks because my love language is quality time. I like to spend that time doing activities not just sitting at home watching movies. That’s fine here and there but not every time. I don’t want gifts, I don’t even need words of affirmation. Just plan something to show you want to spend time with me. Sorry, I wrote a novel lol.
Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years. What’s funny is we’re way more passionate now and loving. then the honeymoon phase was. We’re better way better now.
I would say my current relationship is still in a honey moon phase we've been together for 4 years will be 5 in October
Samee, we celebrate our 5th anniversary in july🥺
Btw i'm happy for u two❤️
Me and my partner have known each other for 4 and a half years, we became closer as friends and a relationship developed in the most natural way…. We have never rushed anything and respect each other’s independence. I think that’s why we’re still happy spending time with each other, cos we still have the playful friendship side :)
Thank you so much, im going to share this with my girlfriend because we're growing distant
honestly, i really needed this video. i’ve found myself to be getting complacent in my three year long relationship, and i admit i’ve been a bit cold to my boyfriend lately. i’m going to take this advice and revitalize our relationship and let him know how much he means to me. thank you so much!
These tips can go for any relationship. Not just romantic.
The thumbnail and the first 19 seconds of the video makes the honeymoon phase very literal.😊
Why am I watching this 😭 It just makes me sad about being single
Ya know?
You should wait...
I’ve been waiting for 6 years for someone to come back
I promise you'll find yours
In the meantime, we wait
I know how you feel. But these videos help me get ready when my chance comes. Yours will come to.
Honestly, cherish your single years lol. I’m married and have a 2 year old and sometimes, I really want space lol 😂. I’m lucky if I get to go to the grocery store by myself in peace lol.
Your time will come, I promise! Just focus on now and cherish your time now! 💕
I love this video. With my ex, he wasn't willing to put in the emotional work to be a good partner. He was so emotionally unavailable and even cold at times. All I wanted was to love and relate to him. But he wasn't willing to make himself vulnerable and meet me halfway. This caused a huge rift in our marriage and I had to end it. I had to love myself more and decide I deserved better.
The animation is SO awesome, 99999/10
Thank you!! Would you like to see more? :D
It's not about perfection, it's about good vibes! Working on the relationship is a journey, where the magic is not in the destination like a shiny beach_but the excitement of the drive on the highway with the scenery with the speed and rush of the wind, etc, or stopping for a snack at a rest stop! The road Less travelled as you navigate with a map! It's energy whereby the good vibes takes teamwork✌️