My husband told me a month in that he wanted to marry me. We’d had an argument about something, and once things calmed down, I apologized for my tone and language, but not for my stance. I remember saying, “I don’t think that I’m wrong for my position on this, but I am wrong for the way I expressed my position and I apologize. I don’t want you speaking to me a certain way, and so I have no business speaking to you a certain way.” His response was, “I’m marrying you.” We’ve been together for 18 years 😂
I agree I think you know it’s a persons for you or not in the beginning and their words and actions tell you everything you need to know they say they’re gonna do something I gotta do it
“Dating is like laying concrete. If you allow everyone to walk on it when it’s drying all the footprints are on it.” Powerful. Asking God to block any unnecessary footprints that could cause damage, stagnate or extend the foundation poured out for me. Intentionality is what God has spoken to me.
I don't get the analogy. Dating, not sleeping around, is helpful for your lasting relationship in the long wrong. You need the different experiences to grow and learn and be the best partner for your husband or wife.
@@lhut5622 Not everybody is meant to be in your life. I seek God in everything, even those trying to date me. Some people have evil and unintentional interest in being with people. If it is not of God to have that individual in my life, then I don’t want it. Why put myself through unnecessary things when God s already saying no. Yes, I believe that some relationships will teach us some things but we must be intentional in asking God first, if that person is supposed to be there for a reason then allow it and if not then block it.
@@KidFromQueens Not true a lot of men today don’t have a real clue about what a healthy relationship looks like and is then when they lose a good woman because they were looking for perfection they try to get her back and she no longer wants to be in a toxic situation.
I have one who's LL is the same. He loves to hear them positives but refuses to deal with the upsets. And as far as meeting my needs... Not outside of how they fit into his.
That’s likely a problem with how the man is treating his wife. Women are reciprocal; Whatever you sow, you reap. Women will become cheerleaders for a man who uses his energy, time and strength to lovingly and wisely lead the home. Anomalies are accounted for.
This is honestly highly valued for most men. Some call it stroking his ego but it's truly speaking to the king in him.. Women don't often understand how far this goes with a man. It shows you see us for more than what we can do, but who we are and are willing to support the vision God has given us..
I love how he talks about his Wife! I grew up with her in Nebraska. She has alway been anointed. She walked with God her WHOLE life. Thank you for sharing this.
Another reason GOD created Women. I refer to my Wife as a Queen 👸🏾. The reason GOD created Queens is to remind Men that they are Kings. Queens Also Tell Kings When They're Wrong. A Wise King Always Listens To His Queen. 🧐🙏🏽
Thank you! I can't wait to call the right person my King. Remember, as in the game of chess. The King is most protected but the Queen is most powerful. I want to keep my King in his position of power. He earned it. He deserves it!
@@kingalphaman9735 thank you. Talkin bout how women were made to tend to men. Rubs me the wrong way without mentioning how men were created to tend to women.
What a lot of men fail to realize….. You can’t expect her to address you as a King while you treat her like she’s any other woman on the streets VS. a queen
It's not about men or women, it's about HUMAN, PEOPLE respecting each other but somehow doing the simplest thing like being kind to each other is so hard for anyone to do or grasp..
Men treat you accordingly. If You think you are giving men advice about something they don't know you are mistaken. Every man know this but if you are aren't that the man isnot going to treat you like that.
I think it’s partly because he used to be a rapper so he has had a lot of practice lol He’s very “creative” (for lack of a better word!) with his speech & delivery
I've had several men tell me "you wife material" but only 2 ever said they wanted to marry me and 1 that followed through that I actually wanted! We've been married for 9 yrs, together for 14. College sweethearts. I was scared to be married ( I pushed back on how soon we'd get married), cuz I knew it was going to be a great amount of work. Lol but no regrets!!! We have a dog and 2 boys that just turned 4 & 3. God is good !!!! Love him so much!!
I wish more would pay attention to these videos and let go of the 'only what they want" mentality, past hurts...etc and heal themselves,so when they do run into that special someone...they know how to receive them vs keeping a painful cycle going. We must realize that we need each other for many reasons, especially these days.
I grew up with two sets of godparents and grandparents, aunts and uncles, and my parents. Everybody was married. As my siblings and l grew up no matter our plans we were taught to get married. We girls stayed home with our parents until we married. For me, l always knew l wanted to be a wife and stay home mother. I worked until l married and a few years after. Once our first child started school l was home. My husband grew up from a similar background and we had many discussions while dating about our future marriage. It’s been 30 years and gets better every year ❤️ #blacklove
@@brendarewan7441 …and just how they raised us is how we raised our own. It used to be common for people to marry right out of high school and we talking about the late 80s. Those who went to college we married soon as we graduated. Now they damn near 40 years old still dating!!! That’s crazy to me. Lots of long term dating ends with the couple separating. Both groups are pitiful 🙄
It’s definitely wild out here. I think that it’s interesting that you said once folks graduated college, what about the folks who didn’t go. I thought it was a generation things that drastically changed relationships.
@@ayannasupreme …they’re used to be things taught in school like auto mechanics and kids finishing high school could go into the trades, like construction. Now we push for academics but doesn’t seem like many kids are succeeding when it comes to basic skills.
@Kay Kronicals …pardon me but this sounds like black Christian politics. The problems of black unwed women has become a crisis situation. Last time l checked the issue was nearly 40k black unwed women homeless. When the initial report came out it got submerged beneath the immigrant and migrant political agendas. Major cities are dealing with an influx (or infestation) of increasing homelessness. Older Black women have to step up to the plate and begin teaching younger BW in their families and communities that it’s a disgrace, dishonor and shame to lie down with a man before marriage. Older Black men have to come on board with the same message. This is the pandemic in the BC!!!
I can't wait to love, serve, learn, stretch, listen and submit to the man God has for me. I'm not saying dying to myself daily is easy and submitting to Christ definitely isn't either but every day I wake up and do my work. I don't show up at %100 all the time but some how God loves me anyhow and the covering of my future husband is just one of the many promises he has for me.
I hope this gives you encouragement. But we exist. Been married 23yrs to my wife. Not a perfect man. But I love God,my wife and my family. I'm gonna tell you the keys: 1. God(relationship) 2. Live a wives lifestyle today. Carry yourself as such. Real men notice wive material.💪🏾
And let me just add that your future man may not be a strong man of God either...so dont be automatically put off if a man isnt into God the same way you are because you can miss out on good men. I'm not really into the God thing anymore myself (I used to be but not anymore) but my future wifey is and shes really into her praying etc. and i respect her for that because she never tries to impose her beliefs on me. I also understand where she is coming from having been a former christian so i dont try to change that about her and she loves me as I am! I say this because the Bible says never be unequally yoked but you will miss out on good men who may come your way if you follow these things to the tee.
When my fiancé and I were in the talking stage he told me he didn’t believe in marriage. We became officially boyfriend and girlfriend a couple months later and now a year and some change later we’re getting married in 26 days 🎉😊
*Your a King Amongst Men* , now that's The Language of a Queen. Everytime he tells this story I just think what more could a Helpmate say to Encourage me. Many blessings @REDEFINED TV
This is why I walked away from my relationship because if I was to bring up things that he didn’t see he would dismiss me he didn’t want to hear it and then later on I realize that what I was telling him was what it was and it happened too many times so I realize that you can’t hear me and I can’t be in a relationship with someone who can’t see or hear me everybody needs something different
As always Jerry you tell the truth!!! You told me a year and a half ago that "God sends Kings not Leaches!" I meet the devil a week before and today while he was still trying to tell me lies, 18 months later and before this video, I told him "how can you build a life with me when our foundation is built on lust, lies and deceit!? Thank you Jerry for always speaking the truth!!!
Yes, it doesn’t take men long to know [if that’s what he is seeking] and it’s true also what he said “what every man needs is different” so his wife is going to be different from another man’s wife. I wish most people could get that so they stop comparing. Your wife will be a suitable helper for YOU. That looks different for every man/husband. Recognize it and move on from there.
Exactly.. he knew what to look for. He knew what he needed. He wasn’t looking for someone to fix him he was looking for someone to compliment his life and to be a partner. You can tell that in just the few words he said. MEN you NEED the right woman and the right friends in your corner to keep pushing forward.
King amongst men. Powerful, the beautiful thing is the way you treated her and seeing your character gave you that title. Love it. Congratulations on your marriage. Thanks for dropping these Jewels. Great info
I'm that Corner Man.Your corner man tells you stuff you don't see. 🤜🏽🤛🏽Dating is like laying concrete if you allow everyone to walk on it before it dyes. All their footprints on it.❤️🙏🏼🙌🏼
I met my husband in middle school and I new I was gonna marry him and I use to feel soooo crazy being so young feeling like that and we have been together pretty much our entire lives and married for 23 years only share kids with each other and I can’t see my self ever loving another man the way I love him! I new I didn’t want multiple partners and baby daddy’s I new he was it for me !!
Yes, A man who knows who he wants & the beautiful words she speaks to you speaks volumes to your soul your spirit & help you develop as a man ❤ love the story
That’s amazing, Yet again so engaging because many times we want to settle for what we see now rather than to wait on God and let him prepare us for what he wants and who he wants to bring in our life!
@Ladenna Young Amen to everything you said! This is why the divorce rate is so high. Most people do not understand why GOD created marriage. People want to be married for reasons other than GOD'S purpose. If GOD is not a priority in your marriage then who is? ✝️🙏🏼♥️
Actually, I met a guy he’s one of the sex slave I’m like a See ya! Then they wonder why they’re in so much pain can’t find anymore, and their life is miserable only gonna get worse
YES!!!...What Every Man Needs IS Different💚💚💚💚...Does Not Take A Man Long To Determine IF What IS BEfore Him IS For Him...Allow Him To Think IT Through...That Year IS Important...The Six Months Of Flowing Together IS Meaningful 💚💚💚💚
Meanwhile... all the jerks who GET that, DO NOT APPRECIATE IT. Narcs, toxic people. Simplistic souls who have ZERO intention to EVER settle. But that's NOT what they project to the world.
I love how he said that at the end!!! Laying concrete!! Let's lay it so when it dries, they can try to walk all over it but it won't impact us!! That was it yooo!!!
The man should take as long as he needs to decide whether or not he's ready to lay his life down for whatever woman he wants to marry, because choosing the right person to be willing to die for is not an easy decision to make. Take your time MEN
Beautiful. I like that he expresses his ability to receive it and that he understood reciprocity is necessary for the union to work and have longevity. It isn't just about catching the fish, it's the seasoning that makes the catch worth it. All the love 💞
He not lying. My husband knew he wanted to marry me when he was 21, I was 19. We dated on and off over 5 yrs. Now we’re celebrating 10 yrs of marriage this July. Happy as ever.
It takes a year if they're actually looking to marry you. If it's been a year and there's no talk about next steps, they're not looking to get married they looking for something else.
My husband and I felt that we were a match on our first date. We waited to get married after saving for a home and a wedding, but totally would've married sooner. When you know you know.
Yessssss God!!!! This is an example of alignment. God is so faithful. Mr. & Mrs. Flowers please keep being Kingdom’s examples in and on this earth. Mr. Whitfield keep this ministry going🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️!!!
There is volumes of therapy in what this young man is saying. For my God knows what I need and I know who I am. Men need to steer away from empty words and fake messages .
Ladies is DOES take a man long to know whether or not he sees you as THE ONE. To any beautiful woman reading this if a man is stringing you along especially for many years, LET HIM GO NOW! You are healthy happy and you know your value do you really want to beg a man to marry you? NO YOU DONT! What he won’t do another man WILL take care of yourself mentally spiritually and emotionally and cut off all dead weight, and do it today
Amen!!!!!!!! Praise the Lord ❤️ this is BEAUTIFUL, music to my ears 👏🏽 all glory to the most high! I’m praying woman and men keep getting lifted up and United by God’s grace.
Life and death is in the power of the tongue it's something about a woman who can speak life into her man be humble and submit to what he is already doing and recognize who he already is I pray for his brother to to continue to be blessed in his Union in Jesus name amen
I knew I would marry my wife in the first month.....Any man that takes 6 years to propose didn't want to propose, they didn't want to lose their live in help
Amen! Hallelujah! Calling in a season of blessing like never before, over you, you're wife and you're life together! Father, Hold these 2 children of yours and hold them tight to you as you run through this race called life, for them, blessings blessings Everywhere ~ Amos 9:13-15! Hallelujah!
Yes! I love the analogy used. 💪🏾 👏🏾 It gives context, will, and purpose. The Holy Spirit is our spiritual cornerman and the wife or husband is the cornerman in the flesh! God is so good and the wisdom he bestows on his people is so profound. 💃🏾🙌🏾
That Part 💯⚓💎🏆 I absolutely love Pastor Jerry such a real down to earth educated caring eloquent and wise Dude for sure! I see why God called him to ministry!
THANK YOU FOR REACHING & TEACHING MEN WHAT THEY SHOULD REALLY KNOW ABOUT ANOINTED & APPOINTED WOMEN!!! IT'S HARD BUILDING WITH PPL WHO GET THEIR "CHEAT-CODE" FROM PPL PAYOFF TO DECIEVE THE MASSES.... INSTEAD OF "THE MOST HIGH GOD"! Only real men talk about "Wives" like them. Thx yall
I knew my ex was a king. I also know im a queen. He didnt walk in this world as one, neither did he see my royalty. As s result we stopped meshing mentally emotionally spiritually and physically. We could have been awesome individually and collectively. Had to let it go. It was hard but as they say, one word from God can change your life and that word came thru my pastors wife during a Sunday service "yes the breakup was hard but im not upset anymore. God hid my value from you because you are not part of my destiny". I wish him well and i hope he wears his crown one day as he should. I am never taking mine off. ❤
Wow! That was so powerful! "Everyone is not graced for me"‼️ You're not called for me‼️'Nough said❣️❣️God gives every man what he needs! I wonder what my husband needs? Maybe I am needed after all??? That would be Awesome ❣️ I noticed something about me that other women don't do! I used to wondered why I did it?🤔 I used to think I was always odd! 🤭 I guess I am in a way! 🤣🤣 My Mom used to tell me not to compare myself to others, all the time!! She would tell me to just be myself! Wait a minute!!! Wait a minute!! Oh my Goodness! 🤭🤭🤭 Is that why I had to listen to those f kids? I was wondering why it felt like I was being forced to listen to what they had to say? I kept wondering what does these PKs have to do with me? I was like I 'm not interested which is why I didn't tune to them on the first time they were scheduled to speak. Oh my Lord Jesus, my husband is a preacher! Oh dear! Lord help me Jesus!! Maybe the problem was me trying to cheer on the wrong man??? Maybe I was trying to encourage the wrong man? He was clearly not trying to do anything! It was a waste really! He didn't give me anything to work with! He staunched me! I can't really explain it! It was like coming to a dead end street! He didn't give me like anything to work with! It was crazy! He didn't like have any goals or dreams or anything! It was like he didn't want to do anything or accomplish anything! He clearly did not need me! That's for sure! I don't know how come he didn't have any?? You can't lose your dreams! You can't give up on your dreams! Wait a minute! Why do I feel like I am talking to myself? 🤣🤣 🤦🤦🤦
That last part! He thought I was a convenience store… I shut it down. He didn’t want to do anything with his life. He wanted me to take care of him. I put him out. He had no goals and if there was something he did want to do, he wanted me to sacrifice all my time, attention and resources to make sure he had it. When I dumped him he wanted to be a better man but slowly changed back to a boy months later. I found out he had a family behind my back. He wanted to have me in ways I never had him. Couldn’t come to him for nothing. Not even decision making. He was. It marriage material, found out he was just using women to get things. So glad I got out before my 30th but this guy wasted my time but I had lessons to learn but I was so mad at myself because I grew up in an abusive household where my father didn’t work and used us for government money and a meal ticket. And I lost my mother because of it. I wasn’t being abused but just the manipulative stuff because he refused to grow up he would start arguments just to stay out but he was living a double life. He thought he had time to figure out what he wanted to do but I cut that off. He was working and had his own of everything but quit and gave it up to try and live off me. He wanted me to wait until he figured it out and he was 42 with nothing to offer then he wanted to be in the music industry.
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My husband told me a month in that he wanted to marry me. We’d had an argument about something, and once things calmed down, I apologized for my tone and language, but not for my stance. I remember saying, “I don’t think that I’m wrong for my position on this, but I am wrong for the way I expressed my position and I apologize. I don’t want you speaking to me a certain way, and so I have no business speaking to you a certain way.” His response was, “I’m marrying you.” We’ve been together for 18 years 😂
Amen 😊 you were portraying a mild spirit ❤ women need this compromising and forgiving type of action nowadays
@@goopat7009 This. So many times it's not what you say, it's how you say it.
Strong communication
Reflection
Correction
Humility
Boundaries
Accountability with love and self respect.
😆 Amen🩵
My husband told me he was gonna marry me the first night he met me! 20 years later and stronger now in Christ Jesus!!!
Congratulations many God grace you with many more years ❤️🙏🏾
Awwwwwww i pray for a story like this one day
Amen
20 years? You look 20 years old lol congratulations 🥰
I agree I think you know it’s a persons for you or not in the beginning and their words and actions tell you everything you need to know they say they’re gonna do something I gotta do it
“Dating is like laying concrete. If you allow everyone to walk on it when it’s drying all the footprints are on it.” Powerful. Asking God to block any unnecessary footprints that could cause damage, stagnate or extend the foundation poured out for me. Intentionality is what God has spoken to me.
I don't get the analogy. Dating, not sleeping around, is helpful for your lasting relationship in the long wrong. You need the different experiences to grow and learn and be the best partner for your husband or wife.
@@lhut5622 Not everybody is meant to be in your life. I seek God in everything, even those trying to date me. Some people have evil and unintentional interest in being with people. If it is not of God to have that individual in my life, then I don’t want it. Why put myself through unnecessary things when God s already saying no. Yes, I believe that some relationships will teach us some things but we must be intentional in asking God first, if that person is supposed to be there for a reason then allow it and if not then block it.
Amen🙏🙌
Amen🙌 I receive this wisdom in the name of Jesus🙏💕
So deep
And he saw her value...didn't drop the gold he found. So many men fumble and let the good thing slip through their fingers.
How can u speak for Men? If men really feel u are worth something, they won't fuck it up.
@@KidFromQueens he said so many men not all men
She is what HE needed. If a man doesn't see YOUR value, it's not because you are not valuable, it's because you aren't what HE needs!
@@keynat9755
You said that perfectly I I think a lot of women don’t really understand that particular statement.
@@KidFromQueens Not true a lot of men today don’t have a real clue about what a healthy relationship looks like and is then when they lose a good woman because they were looking for perfection they try to get her back and she no longer wants to be in a toxic situation.
When he said “I need that in my ear for the rest of my life”, I hit like 👍🏾 then paused to comment that I did so.
💯
His love language is words of affirmation. Not many women give men compliments
I have one who's LL is the same. He loves to hear them positives but refuses to deal with the upsets. And as far as meeting my needs... Not outside of how they fit into his.
Exactly
That’s likely a problem with how the man is treating his wife. Women are reciprocal; Whatever you sow, you reap. Women will become cheerleaders for a man who uses his energy, time and strength to lovingly and wisely lead the home. Anomalies are accounted for.
This is honestly highly valued for most men. Some call it stroking his ego but it's truly speaking to the king in him..
Women don't often understand how far this goes with a man. It shows you see us for more than what we can do, but who we are and are willing to support the vision God has given us..
@@BlessedOne686it's incredible how literally everything wrong that women do is never just them being wrong but somehow someone else's fault. 😂
I love how he talks about his Wife! I grew up with her in Nebraska. She has alway been anointed. She walked with God her WHOLE life. Thank you for sharing this.
My husband knew he would marry me the moment we met. He proposed after our 3rd date and we married a month later. Today is our 15th anniversary 🤴👸🏿💞🎉
It doesn't take all of that, well then you're not my wife!!!! You're not grace for me nor called to me!!!! Just WOW!!! Preach bro!!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
The way he talks about his wife is so beautiful, very precious 🥺🥺
Another reason GOD created Women. I refer to my Wife as a Queen 👸🏾. The reason GOD created Queens is to remind Men that they are Kings. Queens Also Tell Kings When They're Wrong. A Wise King Always Listens To His Queen. 🧐🙏🏽
Thank you! I can't wait to call the right person my King. Remember, as in the game of chess. The King is most protected but the Queen is most powerful.
I want to keep my King in his position of power. He earned it. He deserves it!
@@s.g.6180 I see alot of wisdom hidden in Chess marriage is definitely one of them.
@@GypsyDove you've given me something to study out for some of my quiet times. Thank you.
Bruh you saying that but you made your comment all about you
What about building your wife up dude
@@kingalphaman9735 thank you. Talkin bout how women were made to tend to men. Rubs me the wrong way without mentioning how men were created to tend to women.
What a lot of men fail to realize….. You can’t expect her to address you as a King while you treat her like she’s any other woman on the streets VS. a queen
It's not about men or women, it's about HUMAN, PEOPLE respecting each other but somehow doing the simplest thing like being kind to each other is so hard for anyone to do or grasp..
@@vlad-igor Wow, awesome comment. Thanks for acknowledging this!
@@vlad-igor everybody already knows that
@@scorpiocara6798 good
Men treat you accordingly. If You think you are giving men advice about something they don't know you are mistaken. Every man know this but if you are aren't that the man isnot going to treat you like that.
This is a beautiful compliment to his wife. & Also, he just dropped golden dating advice.
Every single clip i see this man, he has the most elite analogies
Exactly
Totally agree!
Yes!
I think it’s partly because he used to be a rapper so he has had a lot of practice lol
He’s very “creative” (for lack of a better word!) with his speech & delivery
That's my Lead Pastor, Jerry Flowers Jr, at Time of Celebration Ministries in Houston TX
I've had several men tell me "you wife material" but only 2 ever said they wanted to marry me and 1 that followed through that I actually wanted! We've been married for 9 yrs, together for 14. College sweethearts. I was scared to be married ( I pushed back on how soon we'd get married), cuz I knew it was going to be a great amount of work. Lol but no regrets!!! We have a dog and 2 boys that just turned 4 & 3. God is good
!!!! Love him so much!!
I wish more would pay attention to these videos and let go of the 'only what they want" mentality, past hurts...etc and heal themselves,so when they do run into that special someone...they know how to receive them vs keeping a painful cycle going. We must realize that we need each other for many reasons, especially these days.
Renée C....Amen... this is awesome...!!!🙏
AMENN ❤
Out of karmic 3dimensional cycles that is low vibrational. You want be thriving . Not just surviving.
Hard to find those rare souls in a world in pain.
He’s right. Took my hubby only 4 months. We’ve been married for almost 10 years
He's not lying! Met my husband in April, we were married in Dec of the same year. A man knows when he meets you whether he will marry you or not.
I grew up with two sets of godparents and grandparents, aunts and uncles, and my parents. Everybody was married. As my siblings and l grew up no matter our plans we were taught to get married. We girls stayed home with our parents until we married. For me, l always knew l wanted to be a wife and stay home mother. I worked until l married and a few years after. Once our first child started school l was home. My husband grew up from a similar background and we had many discussions while dating about our future marriage. It’s been 30 years and gets better every year ❤️ #blacklove
This is a wonderful story. Liked this.
@@brendarewan7441 …and just how they raised us is how we raised our own. It used to be common for people to marry right out of high school and we talking about the late 80s. Those who went to college we married soon as we graduated. Now they damn near 40 years old still dating!!! That’s crazy to me. Lots of long term dating ends with the couple separating. Both groups are pitiful 🙄
It’s definitely wild out here. I think that it’s interesting that you said once folks graduated college, what about the folks who didn’t go. I thought it was a generation things that drastically changed relationships.
@@ayannasupreme …they’re used to be things taught in school like auto mechanics and kids finishing high school could go into the trades, like construction. Now we push for academics but doesn’t seem like many kids are succeeding when it comes to basic skills.
@Kay Kronicals …pardon me but this sounds like black Christian politics. The problems of black unwed women has become a crisis situation. Last time l checked the issue was nearly 40k black unwed women homeless. When the initial report came out it got submerged beneath the immigrant and migrant political agendas. Major cities are dealing with an influx (or infestation) of increasing homelessness. Older Black women have to step up to the plate and begin teaching younger BW in their families and communities that it’s a disgrace, dishonor and shame to lie down with a man before marriage. Older Black men have to come on board with the same message. This is the pandemic in the BC!!!
It doesn't take a man years to know if you are the right one for him. 1 year or less.
Only when they using us!
I can't wait to love, serve, learn, stretch, listen and submit to the man God has for me. I'm not saying dying to myself daily is easy and submitting to Christ definitely isn't either but every day I wake up and do my work. I don't show up at %100 all the time but some how God loves me anyhow and the covering of my future husband is just one of the many promises he has for me.
I hope this gives you encouragement. But we exist. Been married 23yrs to my wife. Not a perfect man. But I love God,my wife and my family. I'm gonna tell you the keys: 1. God(relationship) 2. Live a wives lifestyle today. Carry yourself as such. Real men notice wive material.💪🏾
@@footballguy6418 thank you for the encouragement. God is definitely refining, purifying and sanctifying me .🤍
And let me just add that your future man may not be a strong man of God either...so dont be automatically put off if a man isnt into God the same way you are because you can miss out on good men. I'm not really into the God thing anymore myself (I used to be but not anymore) but my future wifey is and shes really into her praying etc. and i respect her for that because she never tries to impose her beliefs on me. I also understand where she is coming from having been a former christian so i dont try to change that about her and she loves me as I am!
I say this because the Bible says never be unequally yoked but you will miss out on good men who may come your way if you follow these things to the tee.
Sis, I'm sending you love and encouragement. You'll find your king and have the home you desire. Amen
@@alphie10 if she's looking for a "Godly" man, just a "good" man isn't good enough. Scripture isn't suggestive, it's authoritative.
When my fiancé and I were in the talking stage he told me he didn’t believe in marriage. We became officially boyfriend and girlfriend a couple months later and now a year and some change later we’re getting married in 26 days 🎉😊
You changed that mans heart. Congrats.
Congratulations! God bless your union.🎁💕🎉
Congratulations
🥰🎉🎁 many blessings for you two!
Congratulations! He would of have lost my interest at that point but you held on and made good.
*Your a King Amongst Men* , now that's The Language of a Queen. Everytime he tells this story I just think what more could a Helpmate say to Encourage me. Many blessings @REDEFINED TV
Yes she was indeed speaking life.
@@reginawheeler966 Indeed
That was strong.
Well, You can't put King on every man. Only the ones that walks 🚶♂️ in a order as a King 🤴 Amen👈✍️🤝👀🕌🎤
QueenCode 👑
This is why I walked away from my relationship because if I was to bring up things that he didn’t see he would dismiss me he didn’t want to hear it and then later on I realize that what I was telling him was what it was and it happened too many times so I realize that you can’t hear me and I can’t be in a relationship with someone who can’t see or hear me everybody needs something different
Nothing but the best for him and his wife!
I love how you break things down to let the message really get in where it needs to be, keep doing God's work my brother, much love
This is the type of language that builds healthy relationships, homes and families. THIS!!!!!
This brother always drops some powerful gems! Anointed. 🙏
When I speak life into my husband it's a gift to me to see him blush...I'm honored to be his corner man
As always Jerry you tell the truth!!! You told me a year and a half ago that "God sends Kings not Leaches!" I meet the devil a week before and today while he was still trying to tell me lies, 18 months later and before this video, I told him "how can you build a life with me when our foundation is built on lust, lies and deceit!? Thank you Jerry for always speaking the truth!!!
Ooh sis thats a gem thanks i gotta borrow that!
Yes, it doesn’t take men long to know [if that’s what he is seeking] and it’s true also what he said “what every man needs is different” so his wife is going to be different from another man’s wife. I wish most people could get that so they stop comparing.
Your wife will be a suitable helper for YOU. That looks different for every man/husband. Recognize it and move on from there.
Exactly.. he knew what to look for. He knew what he needed.
He wasn’t looking for someone to fix him he was looking for someone to compliment his life and to be a partner. You can tell that in just the few words he said. MEN you NEED the right woman and the right friends in your corner to keep pushing forward.
King amongst men. Powerful, the beautiful thing is the way you treated her and seeing your character gave you that title. Love it. Congratulations on your marriage. Thanks for dropping these Jewels. Great info
I'm that Corner Man.Your corner man tells you stuff you don't see. 🤜🏽🤛🏽Dating is like laying concrete if you allow everyone to walk on it before it dyes. All their footprints on it.❤️🙏🏼🙌🏼
Please don’t go trying this on the guy you dating if it’s not genuine lol 😂
She is designed as a help meet. A good woman can turn a decent man into a king.
I've been engaged for 3 years in June and I just ended the relationship.
This man speaking nothing but facts, validation is huge coming from your queen
I met my husband in middle school and I new I was gonna marry him and I use to feel soooo crazy being so young feeling like that and we have been together pretty much our entire lives and married for 23 years only share kids with each other and I can’t see my self ever loving another man the way I love him! I new I didn’t want multiple partners and baby daddy’s I new he was it for me !!
Love hearing this brother. This dude has a way with words.
Yes, A man who knows who he wants & the beautiful words she speaks to you speaks volumes to your soul your spirit & help you develop as a man ❤ love the story
Tell wifey, that was smoooooth aka anointed! lol 😆 yasss girl
Damn, that CORNER MAN scenario is 💪🏿💪🏿..💪🏿🙌🏿
That’s amazing, Yet again so engaging because many times we want to settle for what we see now rather than to wait on God and let him prepare us for what he wants and who he wants to bring in our life!
“That’s why you not my wife” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@Ladenna Young
Amen to everything you said! This is why the divorce rate is so high. Most people do not understand why GOD created marriage. People want to be married for reasons other than GOD'S purpose. If GOD is not a priority in your marriage then who is? ✝️🙏🏼♥️
Actually, I met a guy he’s one of the sex slave I’m like a See ya! Then they wonder why they’re in so much pain can’t find anymore, and their life is miserable only gonna get worse
She called you a king because you’ve earned it, love. Whatever you’ve been doing to make her look up to you in this way, don’t stop!
If I allowed my husband to marry me the first day he met me he probably would’ve 😂but a year later we married
*He is a king amongst men because that's what he SHOWED her.*
Keyword: SHOWED her!
YES!!!...What Every Man Needs IS Different💚💚💚💚...Does Not Take A Man Long To Determine IF What IS BEfore Him IS For Him...Allow Him To Think IT Through...That Year IS Important...The Six Months Of Flowing Together IS Meaningful 💚💚💚💚
Meanwhile... all the jerks who GET that, DO NOT APPRECIATE IT. Narcs, toxic people. Simplistic souls who have ZERO intention to EVER settle. But that's NOT what they project to the world.
I love how he said that at the end!!! Laying concrete!! Let's lay it so when it dries, they can try to walk all over it but it won't impact us!! That was it yooo!!!
You NOT my wife you not grace for …that part 😂💯💯
I like the way he laid this WHOLE thing down!!!✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾
The man should take as long as he needs to decide whether or not he's ready to lay his life down for whatever woman he wants to marry, because choosing the right person to be willing to die for is not an easy decision to make. Take your time MEN
Right
Cool, but no woman is obligated to wait around for years for you to figure it out.
@@misspriss2482 your right but as long as you know it's not an easy decision for a real man to make
His gift for analogies is astonishing
This the one. I married my wife after 8 months. Been happily married for 14 years. She is my best friend. Love that woman to death.
Beautiful. I like that he expresses his ability to receive it and that he understood reciprocity is necessary for the union to work and have longevity. It isn't just about catching the fish, it's the seasoning that makes the catch worth it. All the love 💞
Now you said a mouthful right there 😅 My fish loving self an here for it. Gotta season it right.❤️
He not lying. My husband knew he wanted to marry me when he was 21, I was 19. We dated on and off over 5 yrs. Now we’re celebrating 10 yrs of marriage this July. Happy as ever.
It takes a year if they're actually looking to marry you. If it's been a year and there's no talk about next steps, they're not looking to get married they looking for something else.
Gotta hear the full epi!!!! Many Continued Blessings!!!
The significance of a corner man!!! When concrete dries all their footprints on it!!! This is everything...so many gems!!!
I FELT ALL OF THAT!!
Me too.
My husband and I felt that we were a match on our first date. We waited to get married after saving for a home and a wedding, but totally would've married sooner. When you know you know.
That's what's up. Some don't realize how valuable that corner man is until she gone.
THANK YOU BROTHER FOR THIS
WORDS ENCOURAGEMENT. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. AMEN
You are a King and her a Queen. Everyone should watch your video as an example how to treat each other.
That episode was heat!!!
Title please?
What episode is this ???
Yessssss God!!!! This is an example of alignment. God is so faithful. Mr. & Mrs. Flowers please keep being Kingdom’s examples in and on this earth. Mr. Whitfield keep this ministry going🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️!!!
What I told My future husband, J, You built differently from other men!
You have to speak life into your man. They like to be spoiled and loved on too.
There is volumes of therapy in what this young man is saying. For my God knows what I need and I know who I am. Men need to steer away from empty words and fake messages .
HEAVENLY CREATOR CONTINUE TO COVER THEM AND ALL THE LOVE YOU HAVE FOR ALL OF US
I love Pastor Flowers!!! His wisdom is excellent!!! 💜🙏🏽💜
Ladies is DOES take a man long to know whether or not he sees you as THE ONE.
To any beautiful woman reading this if a man is stringing you along especially for many years, LET HIM GO NOW!
You are healthy happy and you know your value do you really want to beg a man to marry you? NO YOU DONT!
What he won’t do another man WILL take care of yourself mentally spiritually and emotionally and cut off all dead weight, and do it today
I know this episode was dope 🔥
Deep....truth....love that concrete analogy
I have so much joy and happiness for him. I can’t stop smiling ❤
The concrete apology 🥂 chefs kiss🥰😇
Amen!!!!!!!! Praise the Lord ❤️ this is BEAUTIFUL, music to my ears 👏🏽 all glory to the most high! I’m praying woman and men keep getting lifted up and United by God’s grace.
I guarantee He was acting like a KING !!! That is key!!!!
I'm so proud of 🖤 black men talking positively about women 🚺
The concrete analogy 👏🏽
Life and death is in the power of the tongue it's something about a woman who can speak life into her man be humble and submit to what he is already doing and recognize who he already is I pray for his brother to to continue to be blessed in his Union in Jesus name amen
Love everything about this. He needs to write a book and have his own podcast.
She told me, ‘I’m a King amongst men!”
I knew I would marry my wife in the first month.....Any man that takes 6 years to propose didn't want to propose, they didn't want to lose their live in help
I need this whole episode. I love Redefined TV.
Amen! Hallelujah! Calling in a season of blessing like never before, over you, you're wife and you're life together! Father, Hold these 2 children of yours and hold them tight to you as you run through this race called life, for them, blessings blessings Everywhere ~ Amos 9:13-15! Hallelujah!
Yes! I love the analogy used. 💪🏾 👏🏾 It gives context, will, and purpose. The Holy Spirit is our spiritual cornerman and the wife or husband is the cornerman in the flesh! God is so good and the wisdom he bestows on his people is so profound. 💃🏾🙌🏾
That Part 💯⚓💎🏆 I absolutely love Pastor Jerry such a real down to earth educated caring eloquent and wise Dude for sure!
I see why God called him to ministry!
Amen..spoken gracefully and true..Preach..✝️🛐🗝️❤️🧬💯
All of my married male coworkers/managers have said the same thing regarding their wives. They said they knew in less than a year.
THANK YOU FOR REACHING & TEACHING MEN WHAT THEY SHOULD REALLY KNOW ABOUT ANOINTED & APPOINTED WOMEN!!! IT'S HARD BUILDING WITH PPL WHO GET THEIR "CHEAT-CODE" FROM PPL PAYOFF TO DECIEVE THE MASSES.... INSTEAD OF "THE MOST HIGH GOD"! Only real men talk about "Wives" like them. Thx yall
I knew my ex was a king. I also know im a queen. He didnt walk in this world as one, neither did he see my royalty. As s result we stopped meshing mentally emotionally spiritually and physically. We could have been awesome individually and collectively. Had to let it go. It was hard but as they say, one word from God can change your life and that word came thru my pastors wife during a Sunday service "yes the breakup was hard but im not upset anymore. God hid my value from you because you are not part of my destiny". I wish him well and i hope he wears his crown one day as he should. I am never taking mine off. ❤
That part : " You not my wife " 😂
You are speaking right ...
You and everyone knows what they need
Wow! That was so powerful! "Everyone is not graced for me"‼️ You're not called for me‼️'Nough said❣️❣️God gives every man what he needs! I wonder what my husband needs? Maybe I am needed after all??? That would be Awesome ❣️
I noticed something about me that other women don't do! I used to wondered why I did it?🤔 I used to think I was always odd! 🤭 I guess I am in a way! 🤣🤣 My Mom used to tell me not to compare myself to others, all the time!! She would tell me to just be myself! Wait a minute!!! Wait a minute!! Oh my Goodness! 🤭🤭🤭 Is that why I had to listen to those f kids? I was wondering why it felt like I was being forced to listen to what they had to say? I kept wondering what does these PKs have to do with me? I was like I 'm not interested which is why I didn't tune to them on the first time they were scheduled to speak. Oh my Lord Jesus, my husband is a preacher! Oh dear! Lord help me Jesus!!
Maybe the problem was me trying to cheer on the wrong man??? Maybe I was trying to encourage the wrong man? He was clearly not trying to do anything! It was a waste really! He didn't give me anything to work with! He staunched me! I can't really explain it! It was like coming to a dead end street! He didn't give me like anything to work with! It was crazy! He didn't like have any goals or dreams or anything! It was like he didn't want to do anything or accomplish anything! He clearly did not need me! That's for sure! I don't know how come he didn't have any?? You can't lose your dreams! You can't give up on your dreams! Wait a minute! Why do I feel like I am talking to myself? 🤣🤣 🤦🤦🤦
Lol, you were talking to me too I guess 😊
That last part! He thought I was a convenience store… I shut it down. He didn’t want to do anything with his life. He wanted me to take care of him. I put him out. He had no goals and if there was something he did want to do, he wanted me to sacrifice all my time, attention and resources to make sure he had it.
When I dumped him he wanted to be a better man but slowly changed back to a boy months later. I found out he had a family behind my back. He wanted to have me in ways I never had him. Couldn’t come to him for nothing. Not even decision making. He was. It marriage material, found out he was just using women to get things. So glad I got out before my 30th but this guy wasted my time but I had lessons to learn but I was so mad at myself because I grew up in an abusive household where my father didn’t work and used us for government money and a meal ticket.
And I lost my mother because of it. I wasn’t being abused but just the manipulative stuff because he refused to grow up he would start arguments just to stay out but he was living a double life. He thought he had time to figure out what he wanted to do but I cut that off. He was working and had his own of everything but quit and gave it up to try and live off me. He wanted me to wait until he figured it out and he was 42 with nothing to offer then he wanted to be in the music industry.
FACTS. And every woman needs that to.
Jerry Flowers ministry is POWERFUL, IMPACTFUL, and oh so RELEVANT! Keep up with his demons and Therapy Thursdays!
That man SPITTIN fr!!
Listen I absolutely love Jerry Flowers and how he responds so real. I love this