It's funny how men will have their checklist and won't deviate from it period. Us women need to start operating the exact same way. It'll save us from lot of uneccessary mess smh!
The ONE may be the ONE but lies and misperceptions can be a problem. Many are one thing on the outside and if you are lucky you may see their true colours before it is too late.
My mom always told me that. She said "never spend too much time on one man because you can't get your youthful years back " I plays no games 🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️
@@lashawnward340 I'm 25 now.. I always was such a people pleaser. I kept on fixing myself but didnt realise that they was the ones who needed fixing. Because I never grew up around alot of people that's just what I knew... most men In their 20s dont want to settle down unfortunately x
That's true when I met My boyfriend he kept saying you going to be my wife... A couple months later am his wife now...Now everyone acts me why you marry so fast So I say to them I'm a grown women not a child🙌🎯
This is so freeing! You are not his wife if he tells you he is waiting to get his finances in order! I swear my ex used this excuse for 3 years! Thank God I got wiser! Tony these messages are so helpful!
See some of you just jump into assumptions about every man you deal with just because one said something on RUclips. tony gaskin does not speak for all men.
Quincy Jackson I don’t assume anything the proof is in the actions. A person can only pretend for so long before the “real” them comes out. I’m not taking anyone’s word, I’ve actually experienced what he speaks on for myself with grown boys. Now I have an amazing man and he and I both watch Tony and discuss his teachings together! Tony is a man of God who is called to minister to us women and for men that are mature enough to receive the truth! If it ain’t for you don’t come to the channel but for me and countless other women we appreciate him and will defend him because he speaks the truth!
Quincy Jackson I agree with you sir! He should have his finances together if he’s trying to get married! If he can’t provide then he doesn’t have no business dating nor considering marriage! Period!!!! I respect a man who will tell me that! I don’t want to be married struggling!
Yes my late husband said he knew the first weekend we decided to spend time together. He asked to marry me and 3 months later after meeting his Mother family we were married for 16 years before he crossed over. 🙏
jahmila smith even at 40 some aren’t. I know some men who act like 22 trying to relive their youth they had. I tell them it’s too late grow up! I know younger guys who get married and commit, those older guys can’t even muster up that maturity.
@@t-alimichael3363...by the same token, God requires the same of men. There will be no double standard at the judgement bar. Any male who has sex outside of marriage and comes down on any woman who does the same, is a hypicrit and not much of a man.
A girlfriend of mine who is currently married, prior to her marriage to her husband, I asked them how they met. And her husband said before he even met his wife he was dating another girl. While he was at an event of a mutual friend of his and my friend, he saw her and instantly knew she was the one. After he broke up with his ex, he saw my friend another time cleaning and preparing a place for an event of their mutual friend. That's when he took the opportunity to ask his friend to introduce him to her. The rest is history
BELIEVE ME LADIES IF YOU FIND SOMETHING THAT YOU REALLY LIKE TO DO WITH YOUR TIME AND YOUR HAVING FUN DOING YOUR THING AND NOT PAYING ATTENTION TO MEN AT ALL, WATCH THE ATTENTION AND REACTIONS FROM MEN.
I know God sent you to do these videos.... because I just had to stop talking to a guy because he was Muslim and I though we could work it out we dated for 2 months I thought he was going to be my husband BUT .....Guess what? when it came to our children we could not agree on who’s belief the kids would follow that was our DEALBREAKER. Ladies ima tell yah he was everything pulling out chairs, financially stabled, worked out at the gym with ME faithfully (He was FIT 6 pack etc) but I could NOT jeopardize my Faith because God/Jesus is my foundation my beginning and end ❤️
This all sounds good. But ladies I must tell you, pray to God for your husband. Stop dating and meeting men. Draw closer to the Lord as you keep your legs close. And start building yourself. The Providence of God will lead you right to him.
Exactly. At the end of the day while a lot of what Tony shares is helpful and helps women navigate throught the crazy world of dating, relationshp, etc. Seeking the Lord and following his instructions for your life in every area of your life is the best way to go. Because no one size fits all. Every person and situation is unique. Tony is a major blessing with his guidance but seek God -let him lead you. Cultivating the discipline to do so. It's not going to be easy but it's going to be worth it.
I let this play out loud and my 33 year old daughter did not move. I’ve said the same thing several times, but I appreciate you addressing this subject. She heard you. TYJ. I think she gets it now. No settling.
@@robertjames9547 I hope that's not what you are really telling yourself the court/united state a $20 court fee cause the united state has something to do with everything you do...your liquor, cigarettes, food, clothes, car, house, medicine, education, job, birth, death everything..but God is over all of that.....in the midst of thy enemy....God bless you, Sir
As I mature I realize that I am attracted to a woman based upon her heart I do like physical appearance also but I get more of a connection with the conversation of a mature woman
Brandon Humble And the best way to connect to mans heart is to connect to your heart ladies. That’s what Adrian Evenheart teaches and it makes sense. When you’re most confident in yourself you can connect to others more
You are absolutely right! While Adam was asleep, God was creating Eve. So when God presented Eve to Adam, he instantly recognized her as his wife. Adam didnt know what God was up to, while he was sleeping. It's something God wired in men.
🤣🤣🤣DEAD!!!! Lilith was part of mythology. It is not biblical at all!!! Adam only had one wife and that was Eve... if it were not so, GOD would of told us!! NO where does it say it in the beginning when GOD created man in his own image and likeness. When He put Adam to sleep, He did not confirm Lilith to be Adams first anything. He called her women nd her name was Eve. If you used logic, and also know what the scriptures say, then you'd know that within the 6 days that would have to mean that sin already accursed in the garden. Therefore Adam wouldn't have been in the garden still DUH!!!! My Goodness. Ppl can't be this dumb. Instead of spreading false doctrine. Here an idea... GO READ what the BIBLE actually says and stop making shit up.
@Princess Christina I apologize missy. I didn't mean to be so harsh. I forget sometimes that we don't all know about something at one point. Either way I'm sorry for being an ass.
Good stuff Tony! As women we should not invest all these years into relationships that are not leading to marriage. Not many women want to be girlfriends forever.
You are speaking to my 💜 today. My parents went on 5 dates with a chaperone and then got married. They were married 62 years before passing a few months apart. The marriage was not perfect but they raised their children TOGETHER, and was committed to a family structure and NO DIVORCE. My father was 22 when he married my mother who was 19. He HAD TO GROW into his manhood and being married. Nevertheless, I’m proud of them, and the commitment and vows they honored before God and man, And I’m proud of the people my siblings and I became. Many blessings to you and yours my young brother, and be blessed. You are really EMPOWERING US😀.
That’s beautiful. I am the oldest of three and my parents were both young when I was born. They met at 16 and 18 back in the early 90s and are still married and going strong. ❤
I remember when my son met his wife, he came running home saying ma’am ma’am !!!!I met my wife. They have been married for five years now. And I can go on and on stories about that
I was dating a man for over a year who put me through the damn ringer. He knew I wanted to be married with kids. Always said “I need a break , I need space , I don’t want to live together but be together , pick up my kids , I’m not ready to marry, we’re basically married already “ meanwhile cheating on me the ENTIRE time……I finally left him after a year long of back and fourth….. and now I’m engaged to a wonderful man 💕 he said he knew I was his wife after our first date. Proposed to me & now we’re Getting married in 4 days! He wants kids and believes in marriage. I’m so glad I listened to my intuition… God was waiting for me to see my worth and now that I have my blessing has arrived 🙏🏽💍✨💕 I share this to help any other woman struggling with anything similar. God Bless ✨🙏🏽💕
Chains of bondage are being destroyed as Tony Gaskins speaks the truth! This video is the most liberating because time is precious and valuable and it should not be wasted on someone who cannot make up their mind and who doesn't value you. Be blessed!
This is sooooo true 101 % . I see it all played out with past exes, the excuses they make to drag you along for years until they find the one or settle for you if they cant look no more..
Great topic as usual. Like he said in another video: “You can have the pain of discipline or the pain of regret”. Life is too short to keep repeating the same lessons. I appreciate TG’s transparency👍🏾
I used to think being in a long term relationship was a good thing. Boy, was I wrong. Thanks Tony for opening my eyes. Setting new standards for 2020...and they just got higher!
This is facts. My dad told me this before he died. He said a man knows what he wants within 6 months. After six months drop him cause you are not the one for him.
Hi Tony, I grew up with three older brothers who taught me about men, and I agree with you with regard to a man knows when he meets the woman he wants to marry. I tell my girlfriends all the time that they will know because he will make the necessary adjustments in his life to make them a priority and be “present.”
My father said the same thing. A man ain’t grown till 35. He also said, at 35 a man should have his own business, his own career, he should be at the top of his game.
AtlantaAngel84 They’re not wrong. You receive what you allow and accept. It’s about growth and making better choices for yourself. Don’t entertain the fckery that’s draining you. It’s that simple.
You are absolutely right. I was with my children's father for 12 years we met in college and he never married me. He actually broke up with me 2 years ago and I was heartbroken. Your videos has really helped me, thank you!
And people judging Lori because how she moving 😂 tuhhh. Y'all better get like her & stop putting life on hold 1 or more years for a bf. Anything after a year you wasting your time. Hello 2020 vision we seeing clearer now! Be blessed 💫
Tony, your videos are 10000% the truth. Many women need to hear the truth and it's sad that self-love is lacked. When I decided to love me and develop a love relationship with God my life changed!!! Great men truly exist especially when you learn to love self first!!!!
This is so true I was with a guy on an off for years even at some point he gave me an engagement ring an he still didn't marry me. When I met my now husband an we were married within three years. If I had kept trying to hold onto the first one he would have kept picking me up an dropping me an it would have been my own fault. I always wanted to be someone's choice an not someone's option when all else failed.
Honey Latte that’s my now situation just now seeing that the reason we where engaged for years and he wouldn’t move forward with even picking a venue is because he was cheating and tony just showed me that I’m not his wife ....I’m not even hurt anymore the truth is absolutely freeing I just wish I didn’t have to explain this to our 2 children
@Danielle Ross Our childrens love for us is one of the most sincerest love's we will ever know. They just want us to be happy. What helped me was when I realized I loved him more than I loved myself an he was taking advantage of that to mistreat me. Once I was free from that emotional rollercoaster my life sincerely changed for the better. Someday someone is going to love an appreciate an you will be so thankful you moved on from someone who didn't. May God bless you and your children 💕
Ladies if you want to get married, there should always be a cut off date. Just stick to it. Don't go past 2yrs. You waste to much time. And you can't get it back.i love being single. Life is so much fun kicking it with your girlfriends.
Tony Gaskins... let your spirit-filled wisdom FLOOD this channel and RUclips. You are leading a revolutionary movement in relationships and I’m glad to be a part of this movement. P.S. I WARNED all my friends during college, this fact that men know very early what they want. But these friends 2nd guessed these men and stuck around for him to change his mind. A change that never comes. In my circle of college friends all my friends fell early for “douche bags” who used them. And when my friends realized the biological clock ticking, they all settled for marriages with men they did not fall in love with. Now in 2020, either they are stuck in LOVELESS marriages or trying to exit out a broken relationship with a whole lot of baggage. I did NOT SETTLE. I’m single, and live in spirit-filled wisdom. I have my standards high and I weed out douche bags with in 1-3 months. And I’m LIVING PROOF that I’m BLESSED by GOD.
Hi Lara, We have the EXACT same story!!!! I’m 35, single with no kids, embracing and creating my life and keeping god first. What’s interesting is 3 of my friends who divorced by 30 they got remarried, continuously had babies by dead beat husbands/random men, etc. They never try to learn. Not judging but it’s sad to watch broken ppl look for validation through relationships instead of self love. I’m glad god is covering us and keeping us woke to not fall for the shennegians.
@@heart-2-heart-talks-with-tj That's awesome:) Its fabulous that we women can share good wisdom, positive thoughts, and life lessons, across different cultures. I feel God is bringing this UNITY and shaping us to be the daughters he wants us to be.
Listen to this man on this! He is on point and totally telling the truth! Never put your life on hold for an indecisive man! It doesn't take years to " decide " if someone is your wife! He'd be scared of losing that woman to another man , thereby making SURE to put a ring on it! He doesn't want to misplace that cell phone , therefore , he has a ring on it! Do not be disrespected ladies! Out there is a real man who will treat you like a woman is supposed to be treated! Do not settle for second best!
It’s hilarious how women are knocking other women saying that we lack self confidence because we are in agreement with Tony. Just because you don’t find what he’s saying helpful or another person is enlightened by his knowledge, DOES NOT MEAN A PERSON LACKS SELF CONFIDENCE. That’s what’s wrong with the world today Bitter women who think they know everything. I normally never comment but today everyone seems like they’re in a bad mood. Please get over it. Point of the matter is IF YOU DISAGREE THEN PLEEEEASE GO AND START YOUR OWN CHANNEL!! This is not the debate club.
Zactly! It is too easy to stop listening and move on, but to actually take time to formulate and type out a comment is useless. Hit dogs holler, you know.
🗣🗣🗣 This video!!!!!!!!!!! Point Blank Peri-ooddddd When he drops facts on you and you have no choice but to get out that gallon of water and swallow that huge pill cause you need to take it in order to get to the healthy mindset you’re looking for. Lawd... thank you Tony!🙏🏽
I feel like I'm being coached correctly after years of flailing around the field and not having any wins. I'm so glad that this man is willing to tell the truth for our benefit.
This is true Tony a man knows..i dated a guy who was on & off..the third time he came back he told me he found a virgin..God loving me he left his phone by mistake & i dont even know how i unlocked it..he was already calling that lady his Mrs..& even got her preginant within a month already staying with her..its sad how i was about to be dribbled..its the painful truth that i had to swallow .tho the guy is a serial cheater ..still healing
Bertha Elias, I'm praying for your strength.....Take time to heal......I mean TRULY heal......you spoke of him, steal cheating.....for your sanity, don't be a part of it....don't look back at him....Be patient....trust God to send you two you needs....hv faith.... God Bless you, love...
Big take away in manglish lol: Faith, Family, & Finances. Also « He sees you as good enough to be a egg donor but doesn’t see you as good enough to be his life partner. » God Bless you Tony for the straight TRUTH.
Wow! Man Tony I could literally see what you are saying by looking at my past mistakes. I honestly would rather hear the truth and be saved than to hold on to a lie in my own mind. Thank you for enlightening us.🙏🏽
Thank you. Be blessed. It hurts more to waste 5 years with someone who doesn't want you, than to listen to this truth. TIME is the ONE THING we CAN'T replace, stop wasting time.
Smh 🤦..its sad that we put ourselves thru all this waiting and waiting..close the door ladies hes lying like Mr T say..Be blessed yall❤❤#2020 vision..🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
It's not about looks...it's about character. After all beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Being quiet and shy doesn't mean lacking confidence or stupid. I agree that men are self aware and know themselves well enough to identify their wives early.
Big facts... I'm 35 and I got married at 20... I've been married 15yrs and it took 8 months for my husband to ask me to marry him... He was 23... My husband and me had to literally grow up together but we both agree on why we got married and we're finally where God intended us to be. I can't speak for everyone but our foundation was built on love, ethics, morals and values so regardless of our young age God kept us together...
That's the whole point he is making, women don't know men and men don't know women. I don't listen to women who talk about men cause they don't know men. Tony always speaks the truth!
I like listening to Tony speak. He confirms what I already knew and understood about men. When I watch his videos I find myself saying "Yes, that is so true" and "I wasn't crazy or tripping" I was right in everything I was saying about men(and women)and why they do what they do...Trust I was here way before Tony and been on both sides of the fence so I understand both sexes and knew why they did what they do...just wish I had the inspiration 20 years ago to do what Tony is doing now. I was before my time and didn't even realize it until I saw the way things developed and came about throughout the years...So many things I had knowledge of but didn't share it or do anything with it because of the lack of support and encouragement to pursue alot of my gifts. Now all I do is rejoice in knowing that Tony is putting that much needed information out to people who need it. I thank God for him having the courage to share his gifts with the world. I enjoy listening to him speak as well...He is funny and pleasant.
I am down to one true friend. Family members only speak to me at family gatherings if that much. I am too real with what I know so most don't want to spend too much time with me because I don't beat around the bush when I speak on something I see in a person or people. If what I say keeps the(wrong/negative)people at a distance from my children and I then I thank the Lord for this gift...I just pray that when my children start to venture out on their own that they recall all I was trying to teach them and possess the knowledge of how people work that I tried to instill in them. When they come of age I will have to put them in God's hands. I will be here if they need me(momma bear) but I also know I will have to get out of God's way of what He will be trying to do with them.
Please don’t apologize for being too real. This is the realness that we need to hear. I truly believe that things between men and women will improve all the way around when we as women raise our standards for ourselves and the men that we surround ourselves with. Not to mention, who better to listen to than a man when talking about men? Your realness is greatly appreciated!!!
Wow! Thanks for the knowledge Tony..🙏🏽🙏🏽 I agree that when a man meets the "one" he will do what is necessary and required ASAP and he will face and conquer his greatest fears because he doesn't want to risk losing that woman
That was my dilemma: I dont drink, I dont smoke but the guy I was dealing with did drink (sloppy drunk) and did smoke on occasions. Knowing that wasnt me and who I was, I compromised my standards to be with him...however, it didnt work. He's 37 and still like to party party party (drink/smoke)... I'm 40 and feel like I have outgrown the club/ party scene.... hes now w/ 26 y/o who LOVES to do all the things he loves to do
I am 30 and he is 32. I had the biggest crush on him when we were in high school . Later we became official in our mid twenties . I found out he likes to drink and it was getting in the way of things so I broke up with him . Fast forward to last month I gave him another chance . Same thing . Only he has crashed two trucks and made the excuse that because he didn’t have a car he couldn’t get to work . So he quit . ( he could have got on the bus ). I couldn’t do it anymore I want a man with ambition I can’t do struggle love.
Whew!! Had to comment on this GEM!! Come on, talk to the people Tony! If you’re not REALLY listening then you’re just playing yourself. Point blank period! Loved this video! Had to share!! Be blessed tribe!!
It’s so true .....if you are with a man for more than 3 years and he is over 25 Ladies you are not the ONE period ... move on! Thanks for sharing this message, someone needed to hear THIS.
Deadass this is the REALEST advice I’ve seen out here. We need to face the truth & face ourselves, the truth is the truth. Thank you for sharing this Tony, it truly is a life changer.
It's funny how men will have their checklist and won't deviate from it period. Us women need to start operating the exact same way. It'll save us from lot of uneccessary mess smh!
Preach!!!!
Amen!
Exactly
Amen
very good point!
My husband said he KNEW the first time we met. And he tells our sons, when you meet the ONE.....you will just KNOW.
Wow!!! You’re so blessed!! I hope the guy that will be my husband/boyfriend will know too
@@wshelby83 he will
The ONE may be the ONE but lies and misperceptions can be a problem. Many are one thing on the outside and if you are lucky you may see their true colours before it is too late.
@kenyagirly true. My hubby and I have only been married 35 years. It could still fall apart.
I wonder did your wife know too
My mom always told me that. She said "never spend too much time on one man because you can't get your youthful years back " I plays no games 🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️
Wise advice. My mom told me the same thing when I was younger.
She's right
Yep... I wish I knew this earlier
@@amz7014 me too.. but there is always alittle time left..
@@lashawnward340 I'm 25 now.. I always was such a people pleaser. I kept on fixing myself but didnt realise that they was the ones who needed fixing. Because I never grew up around alot of people that's just what I knew... most men In their 20s dont want to settle down unfortunately x
That's true when I met My boyfriend he kept saying you going to be my wife... A couple months later am his wife now...Now everyone acts me why you marry so fast So I say to them I'm a grown women not a child🙌🎯
You’re so blessed!!
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I totally agree! Let go if he's not giving you 💯!
All day what's for you is for you how blessings happen at any giving time
I Don’t want a man who drink or smoke because I don’t do neither. I believe in being on the same page spiritually and etc.,
I totally agree. I was told I'm too picky because I said I don't want a man who smokes. I don't and I don't want to be kissing an ashtray.
@@shiquettawilliams2955
Lmbo..@kissing a ashtray
Facts
Facts
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I just ended it with a guy after 4 days because he does hooka 24/7 and smokes blacks and said an x got him smoking 🤢 it’s such a turn off
I love it Mr. Gaskin. I rather be HURT by the TRUTH than to be COMFORTED with a LIE. Everyone Be Blessed. 💕💕
JAMAICAN EMPRESS the truth is all Love ❤️ sis no hurt.
This is so freeing! You are not his wife if he tells you he is waiting to get his finances in order! I swear my ex used this excuse for 3 years! Thank God I got wiser! Tony these messages are so helpful!
Mines too Bosslady Pebbles
See some of you just jump into assumptions about every man you deal with just because one said something on RUclips. tony gaskin does not speak for all men.
Quincy Jackson I don’t assume anything the proof is in the actions. A person can only pretend for so long before the “real” them comes out. I’m not taking anyone’s word, I’ve actually experienced what he speaks on for myself with grown boys. Now I have an amazing man and he and I both watch Tony and discuss his teachings together! Tony is a man of God who is called to minister to us women and for men that are mature enough to receive the truth! If it ain’t for you don’t come to the channel but for me and countless other women we appreciate him and will defend him because he speaks the truth!
Quincy Jackson I agree with you sir! He should have his finances together if he’s trying to get married! If he can’t provide then he doesn’t have no business dating nor considering marriage! Period!!!! I respect a man who will tell me that! I don’t want to be married struggling!
Mines too
Yes my late husband said he knew the first weekend we decided to spend time together. He asked to marry me and 3 months later after meeting his Mother family we were married for 16 years before he crossed over. 🙏
Aw 💗🙏🏾
Stop wasting time with the wrong person. Period.
“A man isn’t a man until he’s about 35” 😭 that depresses me lmao
jahmila smith even at 40 some aren’t. I know some men who act like 22 trying to relive their youth they had. I tell them it’s too late grow up!
I know younger guys who get married and commit, those older guys can’t even muster up that maturity.
Some at 46 still ain't men😔
@@babyphat406 Facts!!!!!
I know 35 year old man childs, it depends on the mans background.
Suzie Marie so do I.. and I was extremely baffled.
Anybody else watch these just to hear Tony say “point blank periOD?”. 😂😂😂 In all seriousness though. Take the lesson ladies. 🤷🏽♀️
Lol me and my friend have started saying that to stress a point in conversation. Hahaha. Cracks me up.
Lol
He really cracks me up! 😂
And Hear me??!! Lol
And "on yo baiyck"...🤣🤣🤣 Love it!!
Tony G, know he be preaching to us Ladies!!! I need these words!!!!
If only men would leave women, who are not their wives, alone ....
Young, unmarried women should stop accepting married men's proposition.
They should say no, and help save another woman's marriage.
In same token women should stop conforming. Close thy legs for marriage.
@@adaofcharles1217 ...also, married men need to stay in a married man's place! Smh at your typical cultural thinking blaming everything on the woman.
@@t-alimichael3363...by the same token, God requires the same of men. There will be no double standard at the judgement bar. Any male who has sex outside of marriage and comes down on any woman who does the same, is a hypicrit and not much of a man.
Most men are not really looking for the wife, they are looking for everything else but the wife
I know 50 yr old men that are still grown boys.
Linda Geiling I just left a 61 Y.O. ‘grown boy’🙄
Throw the whole man away👊....lol the right one will be on point. Promise you good luck sis
Yeah 57 year old that job hops and would rather beg and struggle than keep a job cause he doesnt know how to be humble. Just arrogant and narcissist.
@@nikluv21 You dating my ex Narc. ? 😂
@@sandraotero5951 lolol
A girlfriend of mine who is currently married, prior to her marriage to her husband, I asked them how they met. And her husband said before he even met his wife he was dating another girl. While he was at an event of a mutual friend of his and my friend, he saw her and instantly knew she was the one. After he broke up with his ex, he saw my friend another time cleaning and preparing a place for an event of their mutual friend. That's when he took the opportunity to ask his friend to introduce him to her. The rest is history
Yesss
beautiful
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That’s amazing!!!!
Yes great story..
He was using the other woman and then dumped her
YOUNG WOMEN PLEASE STOP
GIVING AWAY YOUR COOKIES.
They give it away so easy and post naked pics online for free where porn lovers don’t have to buy porn anymore to watch.
Some think they have to give a man the cookie for him to stay. I say if he can't wait, let him go on about his business, he's not the one.
BELIEVE ME LADIES IF YOU FIND
SOMETHING THAT YOU REALLY
LIKE TO DO WITH YOUR TIME AND YOUR HAVING FUN DOING
YOUR THING AND NOT PAYING
ATTENTION TO MEN AT ALL,
WATCH THE ATTENTION AND
REACTIONS FROM MEN.
@@northernroots6807 and they learn the hard way that the cookie don't keep a man
@@shiquettawilliams2955 so true
I know God sent you to do these videos.... because I just had to stop talking to a guy because he was Muslim and I though we could work it out we dated for 2 months I thought he was going to be my husband BUT .....Guess what? when it came to our children we could not agree on who’s belief the kids would follow that was our DEALBREAKER. Ladies ima tell yah he was everything pulling out chairs, financially stabled, worked out at the gym with ME faithfully (He was FIT 6 pack etc) but I could NOT jeopardize my Faith because God/Jesus is my foundation my beginning and end ❤️
Absolutely. The beginning and the end!
Amen
Amen
Prestigious Wisdom Wow. Thank you for sharing. It speaks volumes that you didn’t settle Lady. Like you, my faith is non-negotiable.
Amen
This all sounds good. But ladies I must tell you, pray to God for your husband. Stop dating and meeting men. Draw closer to the Lord as you keep your legs close. And start building yourself. The Providence of God will lead you right to him.
Exactly. At the end of the day while a lot of what Tony shares is helpful and helps women navigate throught the crazy world of dating, relationshp, etc. Seeking the Lord and following his instructions for your life in every area of your life is the best way to go. Because no one size fits all. Every person and situation is unique. Tony is a major blessing with his guidance but seek God -let him lead you. Cultivating the discipline to do so. It's not going to be easy but it's going to be worth it.
Amen
Guashuana Reed Amen
You better preach its the truth anyhow. Because when wait in lord its no regrets
Facts!! Praise God!!
I let this play out loud and my 33 year old daughter did not move. I’ve said the same thing several times, but I appreciate you addressing this subject. She heard you. TYJ. I think she gets it now. No settling.
Amen!!!
Your daughter is blessed!!
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You sound like a good mom 😊🙌🏾
By the end of the video I'm in tears! This man has been nothing but a blessing for my well being since last year!
Bless you Sis! And thank you for being a blessing to me as well! I appreciate you being a part of the #BlessedTribe
Girl... me too... me too
@@TonyGaskins more men wouldn't mind getting married if the court system was not tied to it in the United States that's FACTS .
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@@robertjames9547 I hope that's not what you are really telling yourself the court/united state a $20 court fee cause the united state has something to do with everything you do...your liquor, cigarettes, food, clothes, car, house, medicine, education, job, birth, death everything..but God is over all of that.....in the midst of thy enemy....God bless you, Sir
As I mature I realize that I am attracted to a woman based upon her heart I do like physical appearance also but I get more of a connection with the conversation of a mature woman
Brandon Humble And the best way to connect to mans heart is to connect to your heart ladies. That’s what Adrian Evenheart teaches and it makes sense. When you’re most confident in yourself you can connect to others more
Careful, the heart is deceitful😉
And the heart is what you should be attracted to. It is the essence of who we truly are!
Nice to hear this.
musiclover865 this is true that’s why you have to fill people out
You are absolutely right! While Adam was asleep, God was creating Eve. So when God presented Eve to Adam, he instantly recognized her as his wife. Adam didnt know what God was up to, while he was sleeping. It's something God wired in men.
But Adam had a whole wife before Eve🤷🏾♀️🤣
Yes.. but also God didn’t present Adam with four women or five to choose from he gave him one woman. God chose the woman.
🤣🤣🤣DEAD!!!! Lilith was part of mythology. It is not biblical at all!!! Adam only had one wife and that was Eve... if it were not so, GOD would of told us!! NO where does it say it in the beginning when GOD created man in his own image and likeness. When He put Adam to sleep, He did not confirm Lilith to be Adams first anything. He called her women nd her name was Eve. If you used logic, and also know what the scriptures say, then you'd know that within the 6 days that would have to mean that sin already accursed in the garden. Therefore Adam wouldn't have been in the garden still DUH!!!! My Goodness. Ppl can't be this dumb. Instead of spreading false doctrine. Here an idea... GO READ what the BIBLE actually says and stop making shit up.
@Princess Christina I apologize missy. I didn't mean to be so harsh. I forget sometimes that we don't all know about something at one point. Either way I'm sorry for being an ass.
Why does everything have to be a debate. IN THE BEGINNING GOD CREATED THE HEAVENS AND THE EARTH.
Manglish- “when I get my money right ima leave you” 🤣 PERIOOOOOD
Good stuff Tony! As women we should not invest all these years into relationships that are not leading to marriage. Not many women want to be girlfriends forever.
nathalia504 this so true
I said the same thing. I don't want to be a girlfriend all my life. Smh walking around here 60 years old saying that's my boyfriend lol
@@nysiahdavis9765🤣😂😂💀💀 In his obituary you will be his “special friend”.
Sometimes it is hard to accept but it’s best to know now rather than wait years down the line.
Blessed Brown Beautiful I agree! I would rather know now than later.
You are speaking to my 💜 today. My parents went on 5 dates with a chaperone and then got married. They were married 62 years before passing a few months apart. The marriage was not perfect but they raised their children TOGETHER, and was committed to a family structure and NO DIVORCE. My father was 22 when he married my mother who was 19. He HAD TO GROW into his manhood and being married. Nevertheless, I’m proud of them, and the commitment and vows they honored before God and man, And I’m proud of the people my siblings and I became. Many blessings to you and yours my young brother, and be blessed. You are really EMPOWERING US😀.
Beautiful 😍
Likewise my parents were married 50 years and dated for 10 years. Different generations of men and women for sure!!!!
That’s beautiful. I am the oldest of three and my parents were both young when I was born. They met at 16 and 18 back in the early 90s and are still married and going strong. ❤
Tony you are so right ...my husband said he knew I was his wife within the 1st (week) ...im a blessed woman 😀all PRAISES to GOD...
What did you guys talk about that made him realise it,was it your energy or .......
I remember when my son met his wife, he came running home saying ma’am ma’am !!!!I met my wife. They have been married for five years now. And I can go on and on stories about that
🙌🏽🥹🥹 Amazing. I pray a man feels this way about me one day soon.
No bad news at all. 🗣️Set the captives Free!
Amen 🤣 that's if they are ready to be set free
Amen
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I was dating a man for over a year who put me through the damn ringer. He knew I wanted to be married with kids. Always said “I need a break , I need space , I don’t want to live together but be together , pick up my kids , I’m not ready to marry, we’re basically married already “ meanwhile cheating on me the ENTIRE time……I finally left him after a year long of back and fourth…..
and now I’m engaged to a wonderful man 💕 he said he knew I was his wife after our first date. Proposed to me & now we’re Getting married in 4 days! He wants kids and believes in marriage. I’m so glad I listened to my intuition… God was waiting for me to see my worth and now that I have my blessing has arrived 🙏🏽💍✨💕 I share this to help any other woman struggling with anything similar. God Bless ✨🙏🏽💕
Chains of bondage are being destroyed as Tony Gaskins speaks the truth! This video is the most liberating because time is precious and valuable and it should not be wasted on someone who cannot make up their mind and who doesn't value you. Be blessed!
thanks for watching! #BlessedTribe
All facts!!! That's why Satan is attacking these videos TRYING to stop the videos
Amen I agree
This is sooooo true 101 % . I see it all played out with past exes, the excuses they make to drag you along for years until they find the one or settle for you if they cant look no more..
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Great topic as usual. Like he said in another video: “You can have the pain of discipline or the pain of regret”. Life is too short to keep repeating the same lessons. I appreciate TG’s transparency👍🏾
Amen
I used to think being in a long term relationship was a good thing. Boy, was I wrong. Thanks Tony for opening my eyes. Setting new standards for 2020...and they just got higher!
This is facts. My dad told me this before he died. He said a man knows what he wants within 6 months. After six months drop him cause you are not the one for him.
Off/On with a Man=NOT HIS WIFE!!!#BE BLESSED
Hi Tony, I grew up with three older brothers who taught me about men, and I agree with you with regard to a man knows when he meets the woman he wants to marry. I tell my girlfriends all the time that they will know because he will make the necessary adjustments in his life to make them a priority and be “present.”
Also, do you believe that fundamental values bind a relationship and fundamental differences fracture a relationship?
My father said the same thing. A man ain’t grown till 35. He also said, at 35 a man should have his own business, his own career, he should be at the top of his game.
My husband told me he knew the first day he met me .he gave me his brand new Jeep because my car was raggedy.
Y’all men are draining.
Stop allowing it.
Ricky T blah blah blah
AtlantaAngel84 They’re not wrong. You receive what you allow and accept. It’s about growth and making better choices for yourself. Don’t entertain the fckery that’s draining you. It’s that simple.
Yes but simple! Dont waste your time.❤✝️
You right child they are; i am so drained
LET THE YOUNG WOMEN KNOW
HOW THE GAME IS PLAYED.
It's being played on the young AND old!
@@tiffanydiggs7625 Had to let them know, them old folk not exempt from these games 🤣
I literally cried watching this. I’m 24 and single but I appreciate your realness Tony but I’m just a little discouraged. Be blessed!
baby p you’re beautiful young lady...
baby p don’t be discouraged lady. The man for you, will come at the perfect time. Also, change your mindset to be more positive.
We ALL have been there doll! It HURTS BUT its needed in order for God to send us our soul mate! It's time for God to CHOOSE rather than us. *Hugs*
RealTalkWithKizzyRock lol hugs! And thank you I agree I will keep that in mind!
Tiffany Lewis thank you!
I LOVE TO HEAR THE TRUTH NO SUGAR COATED MESSAGES. I'M TAKING EVERYTHING ALL IN BEFORE I GET MARRIED. THANKS FOR SHARING THIS VIDEO.
You are absolutely right. I was with my children's father for 12 years we met in college and he never married me. He actually broke up with me 2 years ago and I was heartbroken. Your videos has really helped me, thank you!
Proverbs 31:30 charm is deceitful and beauty is vain but a woman who fears the lord is to be praised
And people judging Lori because how she moving 😂 tuhhh. Y'all better get like her & stop putting life on hold 1 or more years for a bf. Anything after a year you wasting your time. Hello 2020 vision we seeing clearer now! Be blessed 💫
Preach. And begging for you to come back but still no mention of marriage? It's a no from me, dawg!
@@briana14333 😄 facts! 💯
PREACH TONY -> It all boils down to being "equally yoked "
Point Blank PERIODDD!!!
Be BLESSED 🤗
I can not agree with you more.
Tony, your videos are 10000% the truth. Many women need to hear the truth and it's sad that self-love is lacked. When I decided to love me and develop a love relationship with God my life changed!!! Great men truly exist especially when you learn to love self first!!!!
🗣🗣🗣teach me “Manglish” Brother Tony 🤣🤣
"FAITH, FAMILY, FINANCES..are a MANS FOUNDATION" thank u Lord for TRUTH!!🙏☝️
💯 my thoughts exactly. And I'm a woman. An indecisive man is unstable in all his ways (James 1:8) Pay close attention to his/her ways.
True
Interesting
The scripture says "a double-minded man is unstable in all his ways". Double-mindedness not the same as indecisiveness.
Confirmation is everything..
And they say Men r Dumb🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤦🏽♀️😩Lord help us. This Knowledge is Priceless... Come on through Tony....🙋🏽♀️🤗
They’re very calculating 😂😂😂😂👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
He said “musty man.” I am doooone lmbo. 😂😂😂
This is so true I was with a guy on an off for years even at some point he gave me an engagement ring an he still didn't marry me. When I met my now husband an we were married within three years. If I had kept trying to hold onto the first one he would have kept picking me up an dropping me an it would have been my own fault. I always wanted to be someone's choice an not someone's option when all else failed.
Honey Latte that’s my now situation just now seeing that the reason we where engaged for years and he wouldn’t move forward with even picking a venue is because he was cheating and tony just showed me that I’m not his wife ....I’m not even hurt anymore the truth is absolutely freeing I just wish I didn’t have to explain this to our 2 children
@Danielle Ross Our childrens love for us is one of the most sincerest love's we will ever know. They just want us to be happy. What helped me was when I realized I loved him more than I loved myself an he was taking advantage of that to mistreat me. Once I was free from that emotional rollercoaster my life sincerely changed for the better. Someday someone is going to love an appreciate an you will be so thankful you moved on from someone who didn't.
May God bless you and your children 💕
Gosh I feel you .....it hurts but I feel you
Ladies if you want to get married, there should always be a cut off date. Just stick to it. Don't go past 2yrs. You waste to much time. And you can't get it back.i love being single. Life is so much fun kicking it with your girlfriends.
Consigning this 100%👍🏽
Whew no one else is being this REAL, salute to you Tony. Be blessed 🙏🏽
Thank you! #BlessedTribe
The truth hurts sometimes but it will set you free! God bless you :)
True
I married right at 2.1 years. 26 years and still counting. Thank you Tony Gaskins for confirming everything my husband and I discussed. 💜💙
Tony Gaskins... let your spirit-filled wisdom FLOOD this channel and RUclips. You are leading a revolutionary movement in relationships and I’m glad to be a part of this movement.
P.S. I WARNED all my friends during college, this fact that men know very early what they want. But these friends 2nd guessed these men and stuck around for him to change his mind. A change that never comes. In my circle of college friends all my friends fell early for “douche bags” who used them. And when my friends realized the biological clock ticking, they all settled for marriages with men they did not fall in love with. Now in 2020, either they are stuck in LOVELESS marriages or trying to exit out a broken relationship with a whole lot of baggage.
I did NOT SETTLE. I’m single, and live in spirit-filled wisdom. I have my standards high and I weed out douche bags with in 1-3 months.
And I’m LIVING PROOF that I’m BLESSED by GOD.
Thank you for your support!! #BlessedTribe
Hi Lara, We have the EXACT same story!!!! I’m 35, single with no kids, embracing and creating my life and keeping god first.
What’s interesting is 3 of my friends who divorced by 30 they got remarried, continuously had babies by dead beat husbands/random men, etc. They never try to learn. Not judging but it’s sad to watch broken ppl look for validation through relationships instead of self love.
I’m glad god is covering us and keeping us woke to not fall for the shennegians.
@@heart-2-heart-talks-with-tj That's awesome:) Its fabulous that we women can share good wisdom, positive thoughts, and life lessons, across different cultures. I feel God is bringing this UNITY and shaping us to be the daughters he wants us to be.
Listen to this man on this! He is on point and totally telling the truth! Never put your life on hold for an indecisive man! It doesn't take years to " decide " if someone is your wife! He'd be scared of losing that woman to another man , thereby making SURE to put a ring on it! He doesn't want to misplace that cell phone , therefore , he has a ring on it! Do not be disrespected ladies! Out there is a real man who will treat you like a woman is supposed to be treated! Do not settle for second best!
It’s hilarious how women are knocking other women saying that we lack self confidence because we are in agreement with Tony. Just because you don’t find what he’s saying helpful or another person is enlightened by his knowledge, DOES NOT MEAN A PERSON LACKS SELF CONFIDENCE. That’s what’s wrong with the world today Bitter women who think they know everything. I normally never comment but today everyone seems like they’re in a bad mood. Please get over it. Point of the matter is IF YOU DISAGREE THEN PLEEEEASE GO AND START YOUR OWN CHANNEL!! This is not the debate club.
Thank you Miss Mack! I appreciate your support and for hearing what I'm trying to say instead of nitpicking my message to argue. You are appreciated.
Absolutely Tony! And Thank you for taking time to share the knowledge and perspective that God has given you!! It’s well appreciated!
Zactly! It is too easy to stop listening and move on, but to actually take time to formulate and type out a comment is useless. Hit dogs holler, you know.
🗣🗣🗣 This video!!!!!!!!!!!
Point Blank Peri-ooddddd
When he drops facts on you and you have no choice but to get out that gallon of water and swallow that huge pill cause you need to take it in order to get to the healthy mindset you’re looking for. Lawd... thank you Tony!🙏🏽
Men know Men...ladies get your pink slips ready.
I feel like I'm being coached correctly after years of flailing around the field and not having any wins. I'm so glad that this man is willing to tell the truth for our benefit.
This is true Tony a man knows..i dated a guy who was on & off..the third time he came back he told me he found a virgin..God loving me he left his phone by mistake & i dont even know how i unlocked it..he was already calling that lady his Mrs..& even got her preginant within a month already staying with her..its sad how i was about to be dribbled..its the painful truth that i had to swallow .tho the guy is a serial cheater ..still healing
Bertha Elias, I'm praying for your strength.....Take time to heal......I mean TRULY heal......you spoke of him, steal cheating.....for your sanity, don't be a part of it....don't look back at him....Be patient....trust God to send you two you needs....hv faith....
God Bless you, love...
Excuse my error....I meant trust God to send you, who you need in your life...
Shame on him. Smh Ask God to remove him from your heart! You’ll be healed quickly!
The guy will probably cheat on her if he never changed his ways... or did any growing, grass isn’t always greener.
@@pjSoCal23 Yeap
Big take away in manglish lol: Faith, Family, & Finances. Also « He sees you as good enough to be a egg donor but doesn’t see you as good enough to be his life partner. » God Bless you Tony for the straight TRUTH.
Wow! Man Tony I could literally see what you are saying by looking at my past mistakes. I honestly would rather hear the truth and be saved than to hold on to a lie in my own mind. Thank you for enlightening us.🙏🏽
Same here!!! Im not affected now because it's in my past but hunny now I'm like what heck was I thinking smh but it's all good. We know now!!!
Your video’s are saving so many people. Time is to precious to be wasting it on someone who doesn’t want you. Thank you again and BE BLESSED!
I agree that a man isn’t shy and quiet when it comes to a woman he wants.
amen to that, Tony! "if you are on and off with a man, he's not your husband"
Thank you Tony, this is truly gem dropping. A woman is never suppose to wait on a man, it suppose to be the other way around.
Hello
Thank you. Be blessed. It hurts more to waste 5 years with someone who doesn't want you, than to listen to this truth.
TIME is the ONE THING we CAN'T replace, stop wasting time.
I rock with you because you give us the real deal straight, no chaser.
Thank you! #BlessedTribe
@@TonyGaskins You're welcome. I really appreciate your candidness!
Smh 🤦..its sad that we put ourselves thru all this waiting and waiting..close the door ladies hes lying like Mr T say..Be blessed yall❤❤#2020 vision..🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
When u realize u are not his wife... 😔
Chillllle we all done been there BUT GOD!!
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@ kady Thompson... when you realize you are not his wife✌🏾but then realize you are somebody’s wife... so position yourself accordingly 👰🏾
Great outlook!!!!
naturallyme Aye!!!!! Nice way to turn it around 😄🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Love your positivity
It's not about looks...it's about character. After all beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Being quiet and shy doesn't mean lacking confidence or stupid. I agree that men are self aware and know themselves well enough to identify their wives early.
There’s great strength in modesty and meekness . It takes grace to hold your tongue .
Big facts... I'm 35 and I got married at 20... I've been married 15yrs and it took 8 months for my husband to ask me to marry him... He was 23... My husband and me had to literally grow up together but we both agree on why we got married and we're finally where God intended us to be. I can't speak for everyone but our foundation was built on love, ethics, morals and values so regardless of our young age God kept us together...
My boyfriend told me the first time we met that he wanted to marry me...been dating 5 months and told me to pick out a ring...
36 year old man thru 41 year old man play games too🤷🏽♀️ I cant tell who’s worst the younger ones or the older ones🤦🏽♀️
Ashley Goodrich you so right... I’m living witness of this *sigh* 🤦🏽♀️
The older the worst because they carry too much emotional bagages !!
Young Grandfather's play stupid games!!!
"Manglish".... My new favorite word for life...
If women understood a man why are they on here listening to the videos if they have all the answers
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That's the whole point he is making, women don't know men and men don't know women. I don't listen to women who talk about men cause they don't know men. Tony always speaks the truth!
I like listening to Tony speak. He confirms what I already knew and understood about men. When I watch his videos I find myself saying "Yes, that is so true" and "I wasn't crazy or tripping" I was right in everything I was saying about men(and women)and why they do what they do...Trust I was here way before Tony and been on both sides of the fence so I understand both sexes and knew why they did what they do...just wish I had the inspiration 20 years ago to do what Tony is doing now. I was before my time and didn't even realize it until I saw the way things developed and came about throughout the years...So many things I had knowledge of but didn't share it or do anything with it because of the lack of support and encouragement to pursue alot of my gifts. Now all I do is rejoice in knowing that Tony is putting that much needed information out to people who need it. I thank God for him having the courage to share his gifts with the world. I enjoy listening to him speak as well...He is funny and pleasant.
I am down to one true friend. Family members only speak to me at family gatherings if that much. I am too real with what I know so most don't want to spend too much time with me because I don't beat around the bush when I speak on something I see in a person or people. If what I say keeps the(wrong/negative)people at a distance from my children and I then I thank the Lord for this gift...I just pray that when my children start to venture out on their own that they recall all I was trying to teach them and possess the knowledge of how people work that I tried to instill in them. When they come of age I will have to put them in God's hands. I will be here if they need me(momma bear) but I also know I will have to get out of God's way of what He will be trying to do with them.
Yes, the truth hurts but the truth saves lives! Be blessed.
Thank you for the wisdom Tony. This didn't hurt me at all. I'm here for self reflection, accountability and understanding. God Bless
Please don’t apologize for being too real. This is the realness that we need to hear. I truly believe that things between men and women will improve all the way around when we as women raise our standards for ourselves and the men that we surround ourselves with. Not to mention, who better to listen to than a man when talking about men? Your realness is greatly appreciated!!!
Whew Lorddddd!!!!!! What a video lol. Very very on point advice. Praying for us single ladies out here 😂...point, blank, periahhhhd😭🙏🏾
Amen🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤❤❤❤
Thank you girl because we definitely need and I will pray for you too!
Periahhhd ✅ Tony and his lingo 🤣
You hear meeeeeh??? Lol
Wow! Thanks for the knowledge Tony..🙏🏽🙏🏽 I agree that when a man meets the "one" he will do what is necessary and required ASAP and he will face and conquer his greatest fears because he doesn't want to risk losing that woman
"Lost broken hurt and confused" - Yes Lord! I hope the ladies truly hear you Tony Gaskins. And we need to seriously PRAY for our brothers.
You sir are out here Blessing my life❣️🙏🏾🙌🏾
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Right on time! ✍🏽Thank you! Be blessed 💙
We appreciate this content Tony !! You have confirmed and enlightened me on today. May God continue to use you & bless your family !!
That was my dilemma: I dont drink, I dont smoke but the guy I was dealing with did drink (sloppy drunk) and did smoke on occasions. Knowing that wasnt me and who I was, I compromised my standards to be with him...however, it didnt work. He's 37 and still like to party party party (drink/smoke)... I'm 40 and feel like I have outgrown the club/ party scene.... hes now w/ 26 y/o who LOVES to do all the things he loves to do
Say 👋 and good riddance...
I’ve been there with a 51 year old man and I’m 38 I left
I am 30 and he is 32. I had the biggest crush on him when we were in high school . Later we became official in our mid twenties . I found out he likes to drink and it was getting in the way of things so I broke up with him . Fast forward to last month I gave him another chance . Same thing . Only he has crashed two trucks and made the excuse that because he didn’t have a car he couldn’t get to work . So he quit . ( he could have got on the bus ). I couldn’t do it anymore I want a man with ambition I can’t do struggle love.
Grown BOY!
KB504. This sound and look like "a train" backin' up, goin' forward, and backin' up" So frustratin'!
Ouch, this hurts but I appreciate you, Tony. God is truly using you. Thank you. Be blessed.
Thank you ..Tony !!! Don't sugar coat anything.. Learning soooo much !!! Be Blessed y'all !!! 💙💔💙💔
Whew!! Had to comment on this GEM!! Come on, talk to the people Tony! If you’re not REALLY listening then you’re just playing yourself. Point blank period! Loved this video! Had to share!! Be blessed tribe!!
This information is GOLD! 🙏
Keep telling the truth my Brother Tony🤞🏽🙏
Video gets really real at 19:50. Great video. I've seen this play out in real life. Every word he said is true.
Yet again I want to thank you for giving me both clarity and the courage to move on and eventually meet my intended. Stay Blessed
It’s so true .....if you are with a man for more than 3 years and he is over 25 Ladies you are not the ONE period ...
move on!
Thanks for sharing this message, someone needed to hear THIS.
I think this is one of my favourite videos. Thank you for this message!
Deadass this is the REALEST advice I’ve seen out here. We need to face the truth & face ourselves, the truth is the truth. Thank you for sharing this Tony, it truly is a life changer.