Surviving Forced Mariage

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  • Опубликовано: 28 окт 2024

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  • @simlamaharaj1695
    @simlamaharaj1695 Год назад +137

    Lesson : A woman does not need a man to liv a peacefull life. Being alone is better than putting up with abuse. Be strong ladies 🙏

  • @lilsbourne
    @lilsbourne Год назад +25

    There's no way this woman is also 40! What an amazing, strong and beautiful lady

  • @preetipatel5512
    @preetipatel5512 Год назад +203

    Her uncle was more of a father to her then her actual father.

  • @mary._.yamborghini
    @mary._.yamborghini Год назад +162

    imagine if her parents had cared about her and her sister more than what other Bangladeshi people had thought, how things could've turned out differently

    • @SealoftheonetrueGod
      @SealoftheonetrueGod Год назад

      I dont want to be hard ok .. i dont want none of this anymore..

    • @francikeen
      @francikeen Год назад

      All that stuff about the family's "reputation" (honor killings) is an excuse to abuse daughters. What family would send their daughter to BANGLADESH from England???!!!

    • @BidenSUCKSS
      @BidenSUCKSS Год назад +6

      Exactly! Herd mentality and culture.

    • @kinley.-.
      @kinley.-. Год назад +5

      It breaks my heart knowing there’s people in communities like this. It’s so sad that they put children through it

  • @Charlotte66666
    @Charlotte66666 Год назад +61

    Brave lady,glad she got her life back.

  • @2306lipex
    @2306lipex Год назад +50

    Heartbreaking 💔 I'm glad this beautiful woman was able to overcome those struggles. Her positive energy is beautiful!

  • @DorisTheChicken3013
    @DorisTheChicken3013 11 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you for sharing. Your story is important! It’s amazing how many are unaware of this sort of thing. The perpetrator’s want to keep this aspect of the culture concealed, so they can keep abusing & controlling women!

  • @mariecleo214
    @mariecleo214 Год назад +6

    Love this woman! What an inspiration she is 👏 thank you so much for showing her. She us a perfect example to follow 👏👏

  • @jenniferharris7625
    @jenniferharris7625 Год назад +37

    Poor baby. I’m SO Happy you made it out 😢❤ What you’ve done is so incredibly hard. So proud of your accomplishments! 🥰🤗

  • @try2bu459
    @try2bu459 Год назад +2

    Thank you for telling your story. It will help so many people.

  • @TheCerealluvr
    @TheCerealluvr Год назад +24

    What family and culture, frankly. I know not all Bangladeshi people or society is like this but WOW it's sad. Meanwhile, I'm so happy Rubie is doing so well. She looks amazing. Go girl.

  • @margaretgarana911
    @margaretgarana911 Год назад +19

    Thank you. Strong strong woman

  • @mercurymadness9005
    @mercurymadness9005 Год назад +45

    I’m so happy she happy has her kids with her. What a terrible experience in life.

  • @TheSarahlou
    @TheSarahlou Год назад +1

    Listening to this woman's story made me sit and smile at the screen. Strong beautiful and Absolutely amazing 👏 xx

  • @kathylovesmk
    @kathylovesmk Год назад +77

    It boggles my mind that in modern society this happens in free countries. It's bad enough in their countries, but in the UK?! It's a wonder all the teenage girls don't run away. I'm so sorry you suffered through this 😔

    • @DM-1111
      @DM-1111 Год назад +18

      The live in a bubble while in the UK, it’s like they’re still in their country because the customs are in their heads.

    • @SealoftheonetrueGod
      @SealoftheonetrueGod Год назад

      But why am i penning bad? Its not my fault

    • @electrokitcity
      @electrokitcity Год назад +15

      Unfortunately south Asian women are more likely to kills themselves than runaway. They have a very high suicide rate in the UK. Very tragic when you look into it. However, I did see a show about a forced marriage patrol that goes around trying to rescue women and girls and sometimes even men.

    • @jessicarickman3319
      @jessicarickman3319 Год назад

      ​@sparkle do you remember what the show was

  • @bernadettecrawford3656
    @bernadettecrawford3656 Год назад +3

    Well said you are a strong woman now and a good mother. You will save many and educate a lot if women who have been conditioned to be subservient domestic violence is not allowed. God bless you your are very intelligent.

  • @sarahdrousseau
    @sarahdrousseau Год назад +12

    Courageous and brave. You’re amazing. Also, thank god for that uncle!

    • @outofthisworld4437
      @outofthisworld4437 Год назад

      i wish you were brave enough to disrupt the apple cart....hope you muster the courage for ya kids n their kids.

  • @zeroeffect9557
    @zeroeffect9557 4 месяца назад

    As a fellow welshie, I am so sorry to hear your story. It’s so sad to think that you may be my neighbour, and that I would never have known. I’m also so sorry that you suffered from so much racism. You are so strong, and such an inspiration ❤

  • @clare1971
    @clare1971 Год назад +4

    So incredibly sad but also brave to be so open and hones. I have so much respect for her

  • @faiezaebrahim7772
    @faiezaebrahim7772 Год назад +14

    You're one strong lady!!

  • @mariealainawalukas3048
    @mariealainawalukas3048 Год назад +13

    God Bless You and your children! And may you have many happy years with them full of joy and peace! Thank you for using your power for the good of all the girls and women that are enduring the pain of forced marriage. You are a hero! ❤

  • @lisasmith5760
    @lisasmith5760 8 месяцев назад

    You are a powerhouse! So honored you survived & shared your story. I wish you all the best!❤😊❤❤

  • @esthermoon627
    @esthermoon627 Год назад +5

    These stories absolutely break my heart. Rock on lovely lady and live the best life you can.

  • @SquirrellyMom
    @SquirrellyMom Год назад +4

    Praying for you my dear sister! Thank you for your courage! There is deep pain and evil in this world. But there is also light and life. I thank God for you, and for the light and life you bring. God bless and call you by name to His peace, comfort and Joy!! Xo

  • @beverlyjohnson5503
    @beverlyjohnson5503 Год назад +1

    Hi Marie I'm sorry to hear about all the pain and grief you went through it's not your fault thanks for sharing your story 💔💔💔😇😇😇😇🌹

  • @thomasphilips7057
    @thomasphilips7057 Год назад +15

    Incredible story!

  • @georgefrazer2231
    @georgefrazer2231 Год назад +32

    Its so sad that 'communities ' have so much influence over everything we do. We need 'greater education' of all the different 'cultures' living in society. May you know that people 'care' for you. Families and traditions need to be understood by 'all' in society. Abusive behaviour needs to be dealt with sensitivity and the victims must be listened to and abusers brought to account. The evil of people is hard to understand. Evil upon evil. May we have 'proper' justice for the victims of domestic abuse. May you be strong and know that there 'are' caring people out there. Your trauma will heal and you will grow even stronger day by day.

    • @SealoftheonetrueGod
      @SealoftheonetrueGod Год назад

      What are you saying cos theres so many stories now yous chose this story? Its true i wasnt no mac i never caused no trouble anywhere i went .. yous are trying to pin other peoples lives on me and thats not true.. get off my phone you tossers

  • @sohiniagrawaal9613
    @sohiniagrawaal9613 Год назад +1

    You are a very strong person. Keep going and don't look back. Your kids are Your world.

  • @yaseenadams5841
    @yaseenadams5841 Год назад +5

    Hi i just want to say thank you for telling your story its truly inspiring ,knowing that you survived so make abuse and came up from under it all its remarkable to see someone so resilient you realy went through a lot . You are so brave 💪wow truly inspiring and i love what you said about you learning to love your bad day's and acknowledging that they will always be there i never saw it that way .I came from a some what similar background and is still recovering from my childhood trauma and knowing that you went through far more that really gives me hope !

  • @suzyq8021
    @suzyq8021 Год назад

    God Bless & Protect You and your family forever.

  • @agent4you2
    @agent4you2 Год назад +11

    I never understood why people would leave their country and traditions and move their family some place Western and still want to keep their old traditions - stay in your own country if you want to keep tradition. It's not fair to the children who want to conform to what you brought them to.

    • @UnknownUser-by4le
      @UnknownUser-by4le Год назад

      That opposes liberal values

    • @ari_jean
      @ari_jean Год назад +1

      Exactly. And then they'd complain how Westerners are bad and spoiled and will go to "hell".
      I mean wait a second?
      If I were a religios person, I think I'd ask myself at some point: "why are these sinful westerners were blessed with such comfortable countries, and we, following all these painfull traditions, live in absolute sh*t?"

  • @Fatemaomi24
    @Fatemaomi24 Год назад +5

    I am from Bangladesh. I feel really sorry for her.now a days things has changed a lot in our country.force marriage and child marriage happens in rural areas more often.but honnor killing is very rare in Bangladesh.it is getting better.

  • @NurullAhmine
    @NurullAhmine Год назад

    I very strong sister, may she blessed with the best and only happiness

  • @naomidoss1837
    @naomidoss1837 Год назад

    Aww darling well done for helping and protecting yourself when the people that should have didn't. ❤

  • @bbb2798
    @bbb2798 Год назад +19

    This woman lived through hell 😢

  • @ensabahnur3104
    @ensabahnur3104 Год назад +14

    Wow, she Overcame a Lot!

  • @SammieManka
    @SammieManka Год назад +4

    This use to happen a lot in the Bangladeshi community but we are changing I have a sister she fell in love and we got her married to that man and many of my female cousins have been in similarly situations over the past 5-6 years and all got married to a person of their choice with minimal resistance from the family I’m so glad things are changing

  • @ottiliahndlovu8161
    @ottiliahndlovu8161 Год назад +1

    Well done gal , keep up the good work. You will save a lot of lives in this world.🙏🙏❤️

  • @piaauman9020
    @piaauman9020 Год назад +1

    amazing woman.. all glories to you 💓

  • @heidimedel
    @heidimedel 10 месяцев назад

    Damn. I know you love your family. But family is supposed to protect and nurture.
    You're a very strong woman Ruby. Hugs!

  • @lxrxinbow5413
    @lxrxinbow5413 Год назад +10

    There are small towns in Mexico where this still happens, I remember going to my aunt's house on the country every summer, one year I couldn't find a friend I did over the years on the field my aunt worked at. Later she told me her mom had her hidden (with my aunt's help) bc his father was trying to sell her since she turned 13 and according to their culture if someone saw a girl they liked the deal could be done right there. This family wasn't from my state, they traveled to work on different parts of the country depending on the season and it's a common practice were they are from. Luckily they found my aunt and she was able to help the family escape from that man.
    And that's what happens on the Mexican fields while your pecan nuts are growing

  • @63rambler66
    @63rambler66 Год назад +2

    Thank you Rubie, and thanks to her family for doing better after their initial mistakes.

  • @TheRafatalam
    @TheRafatalam Год назад +8

    This is the biggest problem with some Asian parents. They take their families to Western countries and want them to behave like the people of the countries they come from.

  • @laurafrazier7492
    @laurafrazier7492 Год назад +7

    So brave👏👏👏

  • @goabaridreamer6659
    @goabaridreamer6659 Год назад +8

    You are amazing. May Allah guide you and bless you and your children. Live your life and be happy.

  • @kristinaj7335
    @kristinaj7335 Год назад

    My learning from listening to Rubie story and others like that, is that we should be paying attention to sharing of others and look for signs. Just be simply caring and curious.
    We all, every individual have to become the social support for all humanity.
    Especially teachers, people who get to interact with kids, but also encourage our own kinds to make friends with other children, especially the ones who act differently than others. Invite them as parents for visits, dinner and just be present.
    Maybe we could be able to help those children earlier.

  • @pix309
    @pix309 Год назад +3

    I'm no one to say this to a person who's been through so much their entire life but to any other person going through it, please please try to be self independent first before getting into relationships again. The world is too cruel, you can't trust no one. The only way out is the self independence, to see the world around before sticking to a person. And get to know them before committing. It's so much harder in the third world countries but I hope that woman get access to education more. Knowledge is the only way to strive in today's world.

  • @crystalcastillo7575
    @crystalcastillo7575 Год назад

    I’m so sorry you went through this

  • @sharongibson1161
    @sharongibson1161 Год назад +1

    I can't even finish this video right now, it makes me so angry😢

  • @ruby4751
    @ruby4751 Год назад +1

    Funny my name is Ruby too and I went through something very similar

  • @SM-bp8rh
    @SM-bp8rh Год назад +1

    God bless u my child

  • @jojodancehallvibes
    @jojodancehallvibes Год назад +1

    So sad ❤ beautiful woman ❤

  • @kungfu4003
    @kungfu4003 Месяц назад

    I am a dirty prostitute according to my family. I remember that everyday. I am away and set myself up from scratch, from nothing to some great things today.The struggle never goes away. I applaud you for speaking up.

  • @naticongored
    @naticongored Год назад +3

    תודה🙏❤️

  • @norcal0076
    @norcal0076 Год назад +7

    Brave🙏

  • @sharonbrazier3001
    @sharonbrazier3001 Год назад +1

    Please can I say you are a very brave and lovey lady ,I when was a kid I had a friend she's was a year older than me very careing and funny , I remember the last time we were together it was in my garden and we were eating ice cream that was the last time she had an oider bother and twin sisters I'm not sure what happened to her but the family had gone I often think about her ,how she is doing and hope that if she is married that she's safe and happy, we both lived in a town call redditch, her sisters were only baby's at the time her mom was also young but very nice, sharfa was my friends name I'm not sure if I split it right, but if anyone picks this up and knows her tell her I never forgot her over 30years go ❤️

  • @sebastianblackandwhitewatc2722
    @sebastianblackandwhitewatc2722 6 месяцев назад

    I so sad this, glad to see that you are now safe of that, you not need a man to live a hood life, remember that, you and the other women, and the same for the men with the women or with the persons of other sexualities, y'all are fine! But even with that i hope y'all to experiment abtrue love if you want to!

  • @jasonsandifer3250
    @jasonsandifer3250 Год назад +5

    NO Adult...No Matter What their Profession...
    NO matter what title they hold...
    NO Matter What economic Status,...
    NO Matter What their Culture...
    NO Matter what race, Creed, or Color...
    NO ADULT wheather, they are a Adult Caretaker of children, teacher, parents, aunts, uncles, or anyone else, should have any sexual attraction to children, this is very disturbing to me, Very Strange, Odd, Demented, Sick, Weird, and Outrageous to me.
    *THERE IS NOTHING about a child, male, or female is attractive sexually, Nothing
    *Children are children as should be treated as such.
    *They are NOT mature
    *They have NO COMPREHENSION of Sex.
    They have NO COMPREHENSION of Romance
    *Sex and intimacy is in nature biologically is designed for Adults,
    NOT CHILDREN.
    I Cannot Comprehend any Adult thinking of a child a such a inappropriate manner.
    *This is a previous response I wrote to an article on Child Marriage;
    I don't understand why anyone would attempt to marry a child, this is unthinkable, children are not capable of Romantic Relationships, they cannot process adult Relationship lifestyles.
    *They are children and function as children, they are being placed, and forced in adult Relationship situations, and they cannot process nor understand it until they are Adults.
    *Nothing about a child is capable of handling a Romantic Relationships, Physical Relationships, Mentality handling Adult Relationships, and Lifestyles and financial matters.
    *A Child cannot understand the Deeper Matters of the Hearts, or
    Deep involved Love connections etc.
    *So, it baffles me to think any man would be interested in a relationship with a child.
    *Why not choose an Adult Woman who is matured in Mind, Body, and Spirit, intelligence...?
    *I could NEVER be attracted to s child.
    *(I have NEVER, NEVER BEEN attracted to a child nor teenager male or female)
    *Children need to be focused on getting their early childhood education, and growing up around other children and playing with other children.
    *I cannot fathom why a man would be interested in a Child as a Bride,( or any intimate sexual manner whatsoever)
    Sexual attraction towards a child is Madness, and Unnatural, and Demented thinking
    *A Child could NEVER appreciate Romance, Poems, Dinning, or a Dinner date etc.
    Really! marry a child...this makes No sense to me!
    (I have NEVER, NEVER IN MY LIFE BEEN attracted to a child nor teenager male or female)
    This is beyond my comprehension.......
    Author, Advocate, Activist for Humanity,
    Jason Sandifer,
    Michigan,
    11/10/2018, 8/26/2021,
    7/10/2022, 10/25/2022
    11/16/2022, 11/26/2022
    11/30/2022, 12/03/2022
    12/11/2022, 2/28/2023
    3/22/2023

    • @ithaka3835
      @ithaka3835 Год назад +2

      Your outstanding clarion call MUST to be heard world wide.

  • @AmuslimwithAopinion
    @AmuslimwithAopinion Год назад +2

    Your perents completely destroyed you, THIS IS ALL THEIR FAULT

  • @heathermcdougall8023
    @heathermcdougall8023 Год назад +1

    Arranged Marriage needs to become more flexible, especially in the Pakistani community , where 1st cousin marriages, have been practised for generations. I'm white Scots/Irish and my husband is actually my 3rd cousin, who was introduced to me , by his elder brother. Funnily enough, we absolutely fell in love quickly, under his persistent watchful eye!! Uk Asians should consider this option - grandparents related and even Great Grandparents related, even if it's another sibling's line. It would also maybe help with domestic violence (a hidden scourge)

    • @h.s.l6875
      @h.s.l6875 Год назад +1

      Right. But i think it's important to distinguish between arranged marriages and forced marriages, in the former the girl can say 'no', in the latter she can't, and had to follow her parents (father/male relatives) wishes.

  • @Heregoesnothing-n2h
    @Heregoesnothing-n2h Год назад +1

    Girls, know your rights. Forced marriage isnt prohibited in islam, for the damage we saw it causes. If your parents are forcing you, tell them islam doesn't allow it.

  • @springrain180
    @springrain180 Год назад +1

    You are very strong and beautiful

  • @marias6583
    @marias6583 Год назад +5

    ❤️❤️❤️

  • @sallymueller2024
    @sallymueller2024 Год назад +1

    Poor girl but I am not happy that here in the uk we are having to deal with such an alien culture

    • @nurtenkocaman1699
      @nurtenkocaman1699 Год назад +1

      Why disprespect a culture you might disagree with it fine its also down to the person themselves

  • @Htcmobikes
    @Htcmobikes 4 месяца назад

    She's from wales, but sounds like manchester

  • @rubimalik4878
    @rubimalik4878 Год назад

    Relatable

  • @davidhookway514
    @davidhookway514 Год назад +2

    Sympathy for the young females. The Parents shouldn't have come to the UK. Return to their Sh . Pit.

  • @Vicky_1
    @Vicky_1 Год назад +1

    What a life 😓. I just dont understand parents who claim to love their children but harm them in this unspeakable manner. They will always use religion to control women, they- at the same - time even have the audicity to say that women should be treated special and with honour and that they should respect their rights- which islam does demand- but these are only words that do not come in practise, they ruin her instead. Ive seen it happen many many times. Even the mothers who might have gone through the same exact thing will not hesitate to put their daughters through hell.

  • @noeleen743
    @noeleen743 Год назад

  • @beanovofilgueira1584
    @beanovofilgueira1584 Год назад +2

    Al primer síntoma de corte de libertad, denuncia a la policía y estás situaciones dejan de producirse

  • @rr12766
    @rr12766 Год назад +4

    What disease causes that?

  • @davesbainrps6909
    @davesbainrps6909 11 месяцев назад

    Millions need help

  • @karriew.6467
    @karriew.6467 Год назад +3

    it happens to little boys too
    arranged marriage for land

    • @emilybarclay8831
      @emilybarclay8831 Год назад +2

      It does. But something like 6 times more girls are married, and the consequences of child marriage (ie underage childbirth) have more serious impacts on girls since a significant portion of underage mothers die in childbirth or suffer permanent damage

  • @nenala7684
    @nenala7684 Год назад

    OMG

  • @stephiefox6704
    @stephiefox6704 Год назад

    Girlllll. My Twin’s are “rape children” and it’s so worth it. They are a part of you and sooo precious

  • @ensabahnur3104
    @ensabahnur3104 Год назад +8

    I've heard that sentiment before, but I always wonder...but your children have a different dialect than you...the influence is already there.

    • @saism4570
      @saism4570 Год назад +4

      a different dialect? What does that mean?

    • @ensabahnur3104
      @ensabahnur3104 Год назад

      @@saism4570 she has a British Dialect, she doesn't sound like her parents. Thus the influence has already happened.

  • @japhethmoret1272
    @japhethmoret1272 Год назад +1

    Wow thank you so much for
    Sharing your story
    It was really the Lord Jesus him's performd His meracel in your life
    Call apon Jesus and He will always be there for you wan you need Him

  • @randylester8274
    @randylester8274 3 месяца назад

    No matter how you slice it or dice it or justify it but Daci arrange marriages are forced marriages

  • @adelia988
    @adelia988 Год назад +4

    So why move to uk if you don’t want to be with us and learn from each other?

  • @nabeeha3936
    @nabeeha3936 Год назад

    HE R DAUGHTER'S 23????$&?#) SHE LOOKS 23 💀💀💀

  • @geekemedia
    @geekemedia Год назад

    Attempting to overdose could be a possibility as to ehy the baby was handicapped but I'm not too sure

    • @judyperri9496
      @judyperri9496 Год назад +8

      Okay just take the blame off of daddy dearest Virus more likely the cause

  • @nancysmith9487
    @nancysmith9487 Год назад +1

    It's culture thing not a UK thing? Saying two different things... Coming from another cultures ways, then to US is two different things... It's acceptable practice probably for centuries and centuries so who are we to judge

  • @keiroty7187
    @keiroty7187 Год назад

    😱

  • @wanh3703
    @wanh3703 Год назад

    You scared the kids to following western life. They should see how south east asia Muslim especially in Indonesia and Malaysia. They have a lot a lot of freedom.

    • @tanisha22331
      @tanisha22331 Год назад +4

      She didn't force her kids to do anything

  • @azgal663
    @azgal663 Год назад +16

    Islam.

    • @alicegauteng2358
      @alicegauteng2358 Год назад +21

      Actually I juat found out that Islam does not approve of forced marriages. Its a cultural thing not religion

    • @nickelleraffaelle3529
      @nickelleraffaelle3529 Год назад +9

      Nah mate culture

    • @faristasairuv5143
      @faristasairuv5143 Год назад +10

      Yo I’m Muslim the Quran says a marriage is only valid if both the people getting married WILLINGLY AGREE to it.

    • @4kushh
      @4kushh Год назад +3

      @@faristasairuv5143 but a man can have multiple wives even if she disagrees, as long as he can provide the same for all of them, its only up to his consent on this...

    • @fxzzyplayzz
      @fxzzyplayzz Год назад +4

      It’s not though. It’s a massive sin to be forced to marry someone. Your whole marriage wouldn’t count if it was false