I once dated a guy who was very possessive and was always accusing me of flirting with other guys , fortunately I ended the relationship early on because I wasn’t in love with him and wanted to date other people.
I knew my abuser was going to be hard to get rid of the day I met him. Red flags. He eventually batted my house down….. holes in the drywall … windows smashed out… all appliances and furniture destroyed …. I was hiding in a motel. The police had heard a voicemail from him and they told me to get away from the house before it happened. Had I been there, I would be dead. He did 2 years in prison Still afraid of him. I’m afraid to be in a relationship now. Make a plan. Get out before you lose your self or your life
Perfectly put ❤ I’m 8 years totally single and recently met someone but will never allow myself to ignore the red flags again, give yourself time to recover and learn from the past to make a lovely future for yourself ❤
Learn the signs of abuse. Tell everyone at the first sign of abuse and leave saying nothing. Don't trust your family and friends who are mostly clueless about abuse. Get professional help. Leave no signs of where you're going. Call your job and tell them why you can't come in. Use these videos for what not to do. Be safe!
That's actually great advice. My family wasn't supportive at all, and in fact, kept asking ME what I did to upset him and push his buttons. So not only did I have to deal with the trauma of his abuse, but theirs too.
Surviving an abuser, is a feat in itself. My fear of him, my fear of losing my kids,my fear of living in a country that wasn’t my birth country, the guilt of wanting to leave him,but didn’t know how to get out safely…..I could go on,but this is not about me,it’s about this beautiful woman surviving this man! I’m so glad she’s alive! It’s horrifying to live in constant fear,knowing you most likely won’t get out alive.took me awhile,then of course it got violent,but for 7 years after getting out,he still ruled our lives,with money,with threats,with knowing I had no extra money,to force a divorce…..the threats,the violence,he hatred in me grew. I survived,my children are beautiful adults with healthy families of their own,and they thank me for getting them out,yet kids never stop loving a parent ,no matter how awful they are. But he is not a huge part of their lives,because they are adults he can’t use them as a weapon to control me,and the relationship for them,is a very superficial one. But he still tries to tell lies about me, 35 years later! It causes pain, it’s causes stress,but his power is no longer there. Once they saw,who he really was, they limited the contact,and would never leave one of their children in his care. He has no interest in his grandchildren,and I’m so happy I no longer have to look over my shoulder. His inner demons, has shown through to the outside,he looks a good 20 years older than me,and is a miserable human being,with a wife who thinks that’s all she deserves. He is not really abusive with her,because she lets him dominate her fully. Thank Gid they never had kids together,because a leopard may try to hide their spots,but they are always there, just underneath the surface. I’m proud and so supportive of any woman who gets out, gets her children out alive! There is life after,but the scars are forever.
Am very happy to see this video pop up i have been in similar situations and am glad to see U reach out to us all. I just want to say go girl U totally got this 🖤💯😘
I was in a domestic abuse relationship I keep thinking to myself I deserve this that’s why I stayed with him or I was scared to leave him cause he told me if you leave me I will kill you and he put a gun to my head. I stayed him for two years but then I met my husband we been happily married for 13 years.
You guys must interview really well or something because all these videos hit me in the feels. little key words and experiences she had reminded me of my own story. Shes brave!
I'm waiting final divorce paper from my spouse. He would fly into rage at any small thing . He hit me kicked me black and blue . I kicked him in groin to get him away from me .. I went to work with bruise over my eye .. stupidly I told people i hit my head in cupboard . I finally got fed up Bec I didn't deserve it and I left . I'm alone and will always be .
I love this channel as it does get a lot of people watching & knowing there's a way out & someone will be waiting for you patiently until You want to take that step & take control of your life again & you'll be able to see & do what You want now, I'm so pleased you did this video & hopefully you'll help Hundreds more to leave & breath again. 💜 X😎🐘
I pray you are never bothered by that monster again!! Life is difficult enough without someone (who claims to love you ) abusing you! May God guide your healing and your life path.
You are so intelligent and beautiful, I am glad you are helping others. It takes an immense amount of courage to do what you did, hope you know that you are very brave
You are so lovely, really lovely, how on earth did you end up with that waste of space? I am sooo glad you are helping others so they don't end up in the same way. Well done you, I applaud you.
Bless your heart. . ❤Physical and Verbal Abuse has LIFE long affects. . Thank You for sharing. . It takes alot!! To share ABUSE!! MAY YOU HEAL. . AND FIND TRUE LOVE AND KINDNESS !!❤😢❤😂
I wish my family had voiced concern. It would have made a world of difference. My family was happy he had a job and one time, after a particularly bad night, he bought me a necklace.. so my family saw it as "he has money, he buys you things.. what's the problem? "
04:15 It wasn't remorse. It was fear of his behaviour being discovered. You are an incredibly strong, brave and beautiful woman. Your strength gives hope to other people in this situation. Well done. But there is one question i have to ask? What on earth were you doing with a GUN in your bedside table?
It was probably his gun. He put it there. Also, if it was her gun, people are allowed to own guns for self-defense. But, it seems to me that it was his gun.
@@elsahaas7116We’re in UK, so is she. The general public don’t have gun, only cops and criminals do, but theirs are illegal and hidden. I had to wind back to listen to her again when she said that, as it’s almost unheard of, guns are not randomly lying in drawers here, we don’t have mass shootings here like in USA. One in the 90s, and one incel dude a few years ago, that it. Both had licences, and both were very disturbed. The way she said it s casually, was like guns are commonplace in UK households, they’re really not. I bet his was illegal and he wasn’t part of any licenced hunting club, or a farmer or cop.
Perverse emphasis on "GUN" when it should be on "He smacked me". Lets responsabilize inanimate objects for human actions, surely a very clever and productive move.
May the Grace of God protect all women & children in this world. Yesterday my partner threatened to give me black eyes I grabbed a baseball bat & told him "your stronger than me I'll use this bat! & All my strength to beat you!" My children were holding my leg. He didn't Thank You God. I'm a lil shorty NO MAN! Has the right to beat his queen. All I can do is relentlessly pray for the Holy Spirit to work on Him. I love Jesus Christ & for me personally, I'm fighting the demon within him. Stand Strong ladies & pray earnestly for your Man. God bless 🦋
You need to live your situation, you need to take kids away from vilonce too. And you need to truly give your heart to Jesus Christ and repent from all of your sins, so you may be born again of the Spirit of God and become new CREATION in Christ for real. You need to meet Jesus Christ. I know you say you love JESUS CHRIST, but he said if you love me keep my commandments. You have not kept his commandments, you took baseball bat and was prepared to be vilant with your partner. There is no differance between you and him, you both prepare to be vilant against each other. You cant fight evil with evil. Your action to comit vilance shows you are not following Jesus Christ or love him. You deny God Jesus Christ with your actions. Please live this relationship. If you are not married to this man, than you live sexualy immoral life and you defenatly need to come out from that sinful relationship because its cursed, if you are married than you need to separate from him and live holy life making sure your children dont see that vialance. I experienced vilance too as a child and as an adult. I was never free from my past and was effected by it, till i truly give my life to Christ and repented from my sins. I have met the Lord Jesus Christ in the open vision he healed my broken heart and set me free from SIN and change me and my life forever. Today i am truly FREE, because Jesus Christ set me FREE from evil SIN and my past and all generational curses of my family i have his protection. Now, everything i said in this message is based on the word of God, i am not giving you my opinion or using self judgment towards you. The word of God teaches us how to conduct ourselfs in every situation that is pleasing to God not what we think is right. I understand that you were frighten and wonted to protect yourself, but what you dont realise that could ended up with you being hurt or your partner or your children, which will resulted you not loving your neighbour as yourself and braking comandmants of God .You cant have true relationship with God if you are sinning, because your sin seperate you from him, he cant hear you and he cant hear your prayers. True repentance is required from you for Jesus to remove your sins, so you have access to God for real and have positive change in your life.To follow Jesus Christ is not easy, that is why you must count the cost Jesus said. If you truly want to know God Jesus Christ you need to rethink your faith in the Lord, and this time find true faith that has power of God to protect you and lead you and teach you in all the TRUTH. At the moment you are not living in the TRUTH of Christ, but your own " truth". I pray in Jesus name for you, your kids and your partner that you all will be set free from evil sins and recieve the love of God in to your hearts to be able to love people and God properly. May Lord God Jesus Christ be glorified forever. AMEN ❤
Please get yourself and your children away from him! I’m so glad that you stood up for yourself, but you should never have been put in that situation to begin with. You can work on helping him from a safe distance away from yourself and your children. I wish you all the best, health, and safety. 💛
Im glad she got away. Why do guys feel they have to have the control like he did? Hopefully other women see this video and realise they dont have to live with someone like him.
A narcassist is hard work you will never make them happy even if you tried until your blue in the face....i also have had a dv relationship in my life too and i learnt never to ever again be with anybody capable of that....and it hasn't happened since....you deserve more and far better....just leave at the first red flags but i know its easier said than done....but yeah i wouldn't tolerate it ever again personally
Good thing someone gave you a lift at the time. I am more than just a little bit familiar with being hunted too. Like when more than one German Shepherd showed up in the front yard to sniff around in front of the 2 family building house I was living in at the time with a basement suite in that house around the year 1990 while having to go through my first divorce once after leaving a woman's shelter with my two eldest now children that time too.
I am so sorry to what happened to you i am a TI_CHI player brought up in uk but i wished i was somewhere near you so that i would teach him a very good lesson not to raise his hands on women. I think that those men who do such things like that they are very coward and thats why they take things on women. Hope you have a lovely life in future.
I'm glad she got help. Unfortunately, the trauma never goes away, and the justice system does not work adequately.
I grew up in this and people have no idea how hard it is to get away. It is more terrifying to leave fear of what they will do if you leave.
It’s just hard to leave sometimes, don’t know why it’s just hard… You try so hard not for it to fail…
She is such a brave girl. No person deserves to be treated this way. xx
True. A domestic abuser does not start off a first date with a punch in the face. Slowly & steadily it creeps along. Sadly.
So proud of her abilities to think things out. So well spoken.
Best wishes from Nashville!
I once dated a guy who was very possessive and was always accusing me of flirting with other guys , fortunately I ended the relationship early on because I wasn’t in love with him and wanted to date other people.
I knew my abuser was going to be hard to get rid of the day I met him. Red flags. He eventually batted my house down….. holes in the drywall … windows smashed out… all appliances and furniture destroyed …. I was hiding in a motel. The police had heard a voicemail from him and they told me to get away from the house before it happened. Had I been there, I would be dead. He did 2 years in prison Still afraid of him. I’m afraid to be in a relationship now. Make a plan. Get out before you lose your self or your life
😔 How long were you together?
Good job!
Perfectly put ❤ I’m 8 years totally single and recently met someone but will never allow myself to ignore the red flags again, give yourself time to recover and learn from the past to make a lovely future for yourself ❤
Church website are a helpful resource
Learn the signs of abuse. Tell everyone at the first sign of abuse and leave saying nothing. Don't trust your family and friends who are mostly clueless about abuse. Get professional help. Leave no signs of where you're going. Call your job and tell them why you can't come in. Use these videos for what not to do. Be safe!
That's actually great advice. My family wasn't supportive at all, and in fact, kept asking ME what I did to upset him and push his buttons. So not only did I have to deal with the trauma of his abuse, but theirs too.
Bethesda church domestic violence shelters are an idea
Surviving an abuser, is a feat in itself. My fear of him, my fear of losing my kids,my fear of living in a country that wasn’t my birth country, the guilt of wanting to leave him,but didn’t know how to get out safely…..I could go on,but this is not about me,it’s about this beautiful woman surviving this man! I’m so glad she’s alive! It’s horrifying to live in constant fear,knowing you most likely won’t get out alive.took me awhile,then of course it got violent,but for 7 years after getting out,he still ruled our lives,with money,with threats,with knowing I had no extra money,to force a divorce…..the threats,the violence,he hatred in me grew.
I survived,my children are beautiful adults with healthy families of their own,and they thank me for getting them out,yet kids never stop loving a parent ,no matter how awful they are. But he is not a huge part of their lives,because they are adults he can’t use them as a weapon to control me,and the relationship for them,is a very superficial one. But he still tries to tell lies about me, 35 years later! It causes pain, it’s causes stress,but his power is no longer there. Once they saw,who he really was, they limited the contact,and would never leave one of their children in his care. He has no interest in his grandchildren,and I’m so happy I no longer have to look over my shoulder. His inner demons, has shown through to the outside,he looks a good 20 years older than me,and is a miserable human being,with a wife who thinks that’s all she deserves. He is not really abusive with her,because she lets him dominate her fully. Thank Gid they never had kids together,because a leopard may try to hide their spots,but they are always there, just underneath the surface.
I’m proud and so supportive of any woman who gets out, gets her children out alive! There is life after,but the scars are forever.
I’m sorry that this is happening. You didn’t do anything to deserve this.
Am very happy to see this video pop up i have been in similar situations and am glad to see U reach out to us all. I just want to say go girl U totally got this 🖤💯😘
I was in a domestic abuse relationship I keep thinking to myself I deserve this that’s why I stayed with him or I was scared to leave him cause he told me if you leave me I will kill you and he put a gun to my head. I stayed him for two years but then I met my husband we been happily married for 13 years.
You guys must interview really well or something because all these videos hit me in the feels. little key words and experiences she had reminded me of my own story. Shes brave!
I'm waiting final divorce paper from my spouse. He would fly into rage at any small thing . He hit me kicked me black and blue . I kicked him in groin to get him away from me .. I went to work with bruise over my eye .. stupidly I told people i hit my head in cupboard .
I finally got fed up Bec I didn't deserve it and I left .
I'm alone and will always be .
Being your own LOVE 💕
I’m so happy you put yourself first. I’m glad you’re safe.
Jodi I am so proud of you. Take care of yourself sweetie. X 🕊💗
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I love this channel as it does get a lot of people watching & knowing there's a way out & someone will be waiting for you patiently until You want to take that step & take control of your life again & you'll be able to see & do what You want now, I'm so pleased you did this video & hopefully you'll help Hundreds more to leave & breath again. 💜 X😎🐘
Oh my goodness sake, this made me want to cry.
I pray you are never bothered by that monster again!! Life is difficult enough without someone (who claims to love you ) abusing you! May God guide your healing and your life path.
Youre very brave, well done for standing up❤
So sorry to hear about your plight. He is a despicable character, and everyone should abandon him.
Why didn't the friend call the police once he had beaten him and left the apartment?
You are so intelligent and beautiful, I am glad you are helping others. It takes an immense amount of courage to do what you did, hope you know that you are very brave
So sorry…I’m hoping that you are living your life now and staying strong….God’s blessings. x
I'm glad you made it out safe. Your story brought tears to my eyes. I'm a survivor too
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You are so lovely, really lovely, how on earth did you end up with that waste of space? I am sooo glad you are helping others so they don't end up in the same way. Well done you, I applaud you.
What a monster🤮. Hope he’s under the jail
Bless your heart. . ❤Physical and Verbal Abuse has LIFE long affects. . Thank You for sharing. . It takes alot!! To share ABUSE!!
MAY YOU HEAL. . AND FIND TRUE LOVE AND KINDNESS !!❤😢❤😂
I’m actually surprised I’m still alive. I do have lasting damage physically and mentally
There are sometimes no signs of abuse. When they want something the mask goes on. Anything sets them off.
I wish my family had voiced concern. It would have made a world of difference. My family was happy he had a job and one time, after a particularly bad night, he bought me a necklace.. so my family saw it as "he has money, he buys you things.. what's the problem? "
Omg, on the topic of friends... mine left. Because they were sick of the "drama."
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Did you get away from him? I hope you are okay. You deserve better than him sweetie. 🕊💗
04:15 It wasn't remorse. It was fear of his behaviour being discovered. You are an incredibly strong, brave and beautiful woman. Your strength gives hope to other people in this situation. Well done. But there is one question i have to ask? What on earth were you doing with a GUN in your bedside table?
It was probably his gun. He put it there. Also, if it was her gun, people are allowed to own guns for self-defense. But, it seems to me that it was his gun.
@@elsahaas7116We’re in UK, so is she. The general public don’t have gun, only cops and criminals do, but theirs are illegal and hidden. I had to wind back to listen to her again when she said that, as it’s almost unheard of, guns are not randomly lying in drawers here, we don’t have mass shootings here like in USA. One in the 90s, and one incel dude a few years ago, that it. Both had licences, and both were very disturbed.
The way she said it s casually, was like guns are commonplace in UK households, they’re really not.
I bet his was illegal and he wasn’t part of any licenced hunting club, or a farmer or cop.
Yes, be a warrior ! Thank you for sharing your story.
Perverse emphasis on "GUN" when it should be on "He smacked me".
Lets responsabilize inanimate objects for human actions, surely a very clever and productive move.
May the Grace of God protect all women & children in this world. Yesterday my partner threatened to give me black eyes I grabbed a baseball bat & told him "your stronger than me I'll use this bat! & All my strength to beat you!" My children were holding my leg. He didn't Thank You God. I'm a lil shorty NO MAN! Has the right to beat his queen. All I can do is relentlessly pray for the Holy Spirit to work on Him. I love Jesus Christ & for me personally, I'm fighting the demon within him. Stand Strong ladies & pray earnestly for your Man. God bless 🦋
You need to live your situation, you need to take kids away from vilonce too. And you need to truly give your heart to Jesus Christ and repent from all of your sins, so you may be born again of the Spirit of God and become new CREATION in Christ for real. You need to meet Jesus Christ.
I know you say you love JESUS CHRIST, but he said if you love me keep my commandments. You have not kept his commandments, you took baseball bat and was prepared to be vilant with your partner. There is no differance between you and him, you both prepare to be vilant against each other. You cant fight evil with evil. Your action to comit vilance shows you are not following Jesus Christ or love him. You deny God Jesus Christ with your actions.
Please live this relationship. If you are not married to this man, than you live sexualy immoral life and you defenatly need to come out from that sinful relationship because its cursed, if you are married than you need to separate from him and live holy life making sure your children dont see that vialance. I experienced vilance too as a child and as an adult. I was never free from my past and was effected by it, till i truly give my life to Christ and repented from my sins.
I have met the Lord Jesus Christ in the open vision he healed my broken heart and set me free from SIN and change me and my life forever. Today i am truly FREE, because Jesus Christ set me FREE from evil SIN and my past and all generational curses of my family i have his protection. Now, everything i said in this message is based on the word of God, i am not giving you my opinion or using self judgment towards you. The word of God teaches us how to conduct ourselfs in every situation that is pleasing to God not what we think is right. I understand that you were frighten and wonted to protect yourself, but what you dont realise that could ended up with you being hurt or your partner or your children, which will resulted you not loving your neighbour as yourself and braking comandmants of God .You cant have true relationship with God if you are sinning, because your sin seperate you from him, he cant hear you and he cant hear your prayers. True repentance is required from you for Jesus to remove your sins, so you have access to God for real and have positive change in your life.To follow Jesus Christ is not easy, that is why you must count the cost Jesus said. If you truly want to know God Jesus Christ you need to rethink your faith in the Lord, and this time find true faith that has power of God to protect you and lead you and teach you in all the TRUTH. At the moment you are not living in the TRUTH of Christ, but your own " truth". I pray in Jesus name for you, your kids and your partner that you all will be set free from evil sins and recieve the love of God in to your hearts to be able to love people and God properly. May Lord God Jesus Christ be glorified forever. AMEN ❤
This is not smart please leave him
Please get yourself and your children away from him! I’m so glad that you stood up for yourself, but you should never have been put in that situation to begin with.
You can work on helping him from a safe distance away from yourself and your children. I wish you all the best, health, and safety. 💛
@@Jesus_isLord_andGodwow! And amen!!
Im glad she got away. Why do guys feel they have to have the control like he did? Hopefully other women see this video and realise they dont have to live with someone like him.
A narcassist is hard work you will never make them happy even if you tried until your blue in the face....i also have had a dv relationship in my life too and i learnt never to ever again be with anybody capable of that....and it hasn't happened since....you deserve more and far better....just leave at the first red flags but i know its easier said than done....but yeah i wouldn't tolerate it ever again personally
It's unbelievable how many of these animals are out there. It's disgusting that so many get away with this shit
I'm in a similar relationship right now. Does it sound sick that I wish something big happens so I can get out too? Cuz my friends & family gave up
You don't have to give up. Leave before the big thing happens.
just wow, thank you!
Praise God-- get Away from him!
Good thing someone gave you a lift at the time. I am more than just a little bit familiar with being hunted too. Like when more than one German Shepherd showed up in the front yard to sniff around in front of the 2 family building house I was living in at the time with a basement suite in that house around the year 1990 while having to go through my first divorce once after leaving a woman's shelter with my two eldest now children that time too.
Where is she from sound similar from someone I once met did that to me
Sounds like a narc
Yr really lucky, some people get murdered. Sorry it happened to you.
Me too, the red flaggs were always there. I feel stupid i didnt see it x
This is happening way to much
Yo e sido víctima!!! X eso busco otra Salida!!💙🤗 💋💋💋Para todas las Mujeres Victimizadas!! La música sana!!
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Kaydens law is good research
Abusive men
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This abuse wasn't triggered from some Portugal?
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Pray to Saint Rita for help if you're in an abusive relationship. Present all of your problems to her 🌼💙
I am so sorry to what happened to you i am a TI_CHI player brought up in uk but i wished i was somewhere near you so that i would teach him a very good lesson not to raise his hands on women.
I think that those men who do such things like that they are very coward and thats why they take things on women.
Hope you have a lovely life in future.