Also Find a new partner that does not have their weak character and status in life .., like prettier,stronger.richer,more compassionate ,better status .. and rub it in their face ,,, I remember when was young had English Partner one year relationship I was 25 so.. she went cold and thought she was she had the better hand and left ,2 weeks later I was in front of her at a club with my new girls,, yes younger Blonde 19 YO Very beautiful hard working and honest woman who became Bank manager also to be my wife of 36 years till god called her to his side .I can never forget the look on her eyes.., That how you get to revenge against Ghoster.. it kills them .that is how you redeem your self.First work of your self.. Blessing are in the hands of our Gods and spirits..,as long as you are truthful to yourself and honest to others .AMEN
@@makoshark3759 what a beautiful story. Really remarkable. I recently being ghosted by somebody I have known for many years. This time it feels different and is not even hurting. It's a blessing. The grand finale. All because I am enforcing boundaries. Lol
15:02 - "when someone ghosts you, what that behaviour is really communicating to you is this: I don’t have what it takes to have a healthy and mature relationship with you, much less anyone." Now that's a mic drop moment. THANK YOU.
yep. some people are dealing with severe trauma from emotional abuse - with chronic ghosters its likely an early childhood trauma. no matter how much they try their subconscious just can't get too close to people. it's so sad.
If someone is ghosted more than likely the relationship was toxic and they got tired of being emotionally abused. They regained their self respect and dumped them.
@@hallypuew3762 Or they could say 'this is toxic, I'm out' rather than doing the actual toxic thing... not saying anything and leaving the other person in limbo
I feel like a person who ghosts after a lengthy time of giving you a lot of attention is a cruel game that makes them feel better. They are sadists in a way. This is a new level of power for the losers of the world.
Maybe there are such people, but I wouldn’t think it’s every person that ghosted me. But yea in a way it could be a relieving way of taking control of the relationship if the person wanted it to end
It works both ways in my most recent relationship. Now he wouldn’t even dare to touch that dial button since learning all his dirty secrets were exposed.
when someone ghosts you, essentially what that behavior is saying is "I don't have what it takes to have a healthy mature relationship with you, much less anyone" RUN THAT BACK
@@kmillerg Can't agree. Emotionally immature people do not care to have what they caused, explained to them. In fact, they'd likely love that they got under your skin enough to make you react. ruclips.net/video/G7Dj_QY1CPo/видео.html
@@kmillerg Nope. An immature person would cause the situation to occur. A mature person would recognize this straight away and deal with it by avoiding it. Let's not get it twisted.
Let's not forget that if they do not see you as a viable source of supply, then that will also cause them to ghost you. This was the real reason behind the original respondents reply to you. You took that very badly. But the truth is, that is what immature people will do. The superiority complex that they show on the outside causes the defense mechanism (ghosting) to occur, which is also a coping mechanism, for dealing with the inferiority complex (insecurity) that they have on the inside that they don't want you to know about. I hope that clears things up for you.
Dude,U are not alone .Its actually going to happen to everyone .There are endless possibilities of people out there . 8.69 Bill people. Never feel alone .God is Love !!
Look, the person doing it is responsible for MOST of the hurt, but there is no way YOU don't have a piece of the responsibility. The only time ghosting "hurts" is when you put ANYONE on a pedestal, which was not reciprocated. So lesson learned, and move on and take that person down from that pedestal, NO MATTER WHO THAT PERSON IS, imagine that is someone you sort of want to create some distance from, and that person ghosts you, then it is not even-sinful or hurtful, it is welcomed. The problem is that YOU think something might be wrong with YOU if someone ghosts you. That is not the case MOST OF THE TIME since the person did want you around before. Concentrate on those who invite your company and like being around you. My friend ghosted me once he found a gf, and soon I realized he was using me or wasting my time if getting a gf made him leave. I had put him on a pedestal Something like that.
easier to say than done!!! it is a process...this is what it is...when real true love and emotions involved it is tough just to move on in a heartbeat! we are not metals or rocks!
jackassfat It’s definitely not easier said than done. But it’s a mindset that has to be learned and manifested. To go a bit deeper, the key is to love yourself more than anyone else. When you do, it’s easier to let someone else go. In most cases. When people “think”, they are in love, they truly aren’t. They’re just attached to a codependent form of validation, as they were trained to feel that that need someone to “complete”, them.
I was ghosted for 6 months and she reached to me through a text message on my birthday to let me know she had broken up with me. The pain I felt was so unbearable I attempted suicide twice. More than a year has passed and I'm still trying to recover and become confident again. If you want to break up with someone or even if you hate them, please don't ghost them. It is too painful
Wow what an asshole that person is, sorry just my first reaction. I’m sure she is not a horrible person and I’m sure she is not immune to her own issue but what an extreme lack of empathy. I’m grateful you posted this. I’m grateful you made it through. I’m grateful you’re here with all of us watching this and growing with us. I’m grateful for you. But it doesn’t matter what I think. You’re valuable without my gratitude for you.
Thank god your still here 😃 remember’ no one is ever that important to loose your life over😔 because’ while your dead 💀 and buried! They will still flourish and move on to god knows’ how many more people😒😒😒
I've been ghosted. It was painful, frustrating and traumatic. I didnt deserve that but I got through by moving forward slowly. Going to the gym, lift weights to ease the trauma. I prayed every night to God to give me peace and tranquility. I dont hold grudges but i dont forget. I love the man I've become today.
When someone ghosts you just simply takes it as: “garbage take itself out” or “they left bcos they’re not meant to be in your life” and it’s God’s way to protect you! Don’t overthink just move on and meet new ppl.
@@nofybn7794 some people don't get it. It's like they have this avoidance style of dealing with unpleasant things. I pity them almost. It's a big sign of emotional incompetency.
Unless you're being harrased, it's a coward's way out. Grown ups don't ghost. Nor do they feel the need to play power games in the hope of hurting another person.
Prince Andrew said it was the "chickens way out" so he flew over to America from Britain to break off his friendship with Epstein. At least he's not a ghoster, 😂🤣😃.
@@killertruth186 If misery is all that you can make of it , then i guess when life gives u lemons you just spray it on your eyes. And wonder why it stings .
@@sefankern556 Life isn't what you were taught, it is what you experienced yourself. But something tells me that you are thinking this is the hookup culture and would ghost any woman as you please, or use it to get exactly what you want. Then you wonder why no one would actually like you since you would be a manipulator.
@@iamchannelll Nah, not really. Why make plans with someone & you can't keep your word, or atleast a heads up. That's just an excuse for toxic behavior.
I was ghosted once, it really hurt my feelings, because I thought everything was going great! Then two months later, I came home to a voicemail from The Ghost, saying...Hi! Here’s a voice from the past! And I hit the delete button and said...that’s where your staying! I value myself! I did dodge a bullet! 👻👻👻
@@olleydrum9016 It’s super easy. You just make the decision. It’s harder to live clinging on to a ghost than to choose that they never mattered and never will.
@@icostaticrebound6007 I'm sorry. That is a feeling many people have. You're right about remembering your trauma. I've been doing that and this week something popped into my mind about "inadequacy". That has been plaguing me my entire life though I am considered a "social butterfly". If this helps, coming from a social person, I'd suggest for you to to watch, read, or hang out with people who have alot of self worth so you can learn it through them. Read books by people with a certain intensity and passion for their talents and their life: like Nikola Tesla, or actors like Kate Hepburn. These people are high vibrational because of luck they found their passions early. You attract people later by being into your craft, and high vibrational. You feel unworthy maybe because you haven't experienced joy yet. On the other hand, we live in a cruel, and competitive world. Most people don't have the time for self reflection, and therefore do not even acknowledge how poorly they treat other people, and the amount of neglect we cause others. Anyway, people don't just automatically like people; people have to have something to offer in any type of way. You'll have to learn confidence and find a niche to be liked. Even after you're liked, you'll still have ebbs and flows with people. Truly, your best bet is to find peace, and joy within yourself by doing things that actually make you feel unique and purposeful. I dont think you need to feel pressure to be a social butterfly, or a party guy. That comes with it's own problems because being too open can lead to trauma. Look at the world of animals. Panthers are solitary creatures and you dont see them worrying about being liked. They own themselves and their life. Read of solitary creatures, and invest in yourself.
I used to ghost in the past, but have learned to change it around. So when it happened back to me, I fully realized how tough it can be on the ghosted. Lesson learned.
Some people literally ghost others because it happens to them all the time. Instead of being the bigger person they stoop down low and ghost others as a way to get back at people. It's petty and cruel but im convinced that's one of the reasons people do it. It just turns into a cycle of Ghosting. All of this could be avoided with a simple sentence.... it's not gonna work out between us i wish you luck. 🎉
I had a really nice phone call from a couple I believed were friends. This was 4 days before my birthday when we normally send cards and phone each other. This year - nothing, and I don't know why. I have gone through my mind all possible reasons why, but came to the conclusion that whatever calamity may - God forbid - have happened to them could have happened to me, and it was my birthday that was ignored. And besides, if I am not important enough to inform then I am not important enough in their lives as said I was.
It’s also clarity, someone said, when you’ve overestimated your significance in someone else’s life. And I think it’s a blessing in disguise because someone who’s not meant to stay in your life won’t stay.
For me, that somebody was Russell Brand in his recent video on ghosting and it was most excellent. I’m not sure it’s always the case but it’s one way to look at it). His channel has great content these days.
@@SpinningYarnsCrochet you're right. In this way we will never find out. I lost a friend I knew 25 years of my life. It's kind of ok now but it was a long process. Now I feel like ok.. other people will take her place. And they already did.
Been ghosted for the second time by my girlfriend. The second time didn't hurt as much as the first. I will advise people to stay away from anyone who ghosted you once.
Ghosting is a coward's way out. They don't want to go through the trouble of a difficult and emotional conversation with you because it will make THEM feel bad. It's a horribly selfish thing to do but I've always maintained that what goes around comes around. True story - a man who ghosted me for another woman many years ago and married her 9 months later was ghosted by her many years later. She left him without a word of warning on New Year's Day after having met secretly with a lawyer and just slapped the separation papers down. We reap what we sow.
@@onewayoflooking7674 But it mostly is. It's the same reason yoy don't stand up a girl on a date; it's the same feeling of being casually discarded because someone can't be bothered to take thirty seconds to inform you.
@@Antidragon-nl7by In the example you gave, I agree that's bad. But in your original comment you said ghosting is coward. Not all kind of ghosting is coward. That is what I was trying to say. I am sorry if the things you mentioned happen to you. You seem like a nice person.
After 5 years of having little to no interest in guys, Last year I finally met someone who I liked, and I mean a lot. He ghosted me. I have never experienced anything more painful nor confusing. I have all the respect in the world for someone who needs space, but it really bothers me that people have the nerve to say that the other person doesn't deserve an answer or explanation. That is just sick. We have feelings just like you do and especially if we are open to being hurt for the sake of at least knowing then have some compassion. Nothing is worse. Nothing you say could ever be worse or more destructive to another person than the effects of ghosting itself.
I too, have dived into this topic on my other channel. The thing you missed but i noticed: people often ghost when you shine a light/ put a mirror on their bad behavior. They then associate you with the things they feel guilty/ shameful of, thus push you away to not face their own issues.
The grand irony is that those who ghost will often get ghosted themselves. The answer is to refuse to play their game altogether and treat others as you would like to be treated. Also, this is why it’s so important to be authentic and conscious of your actions in any relationship. If you KNOW you were 100% genuine and yourself then the relationship just wasn’t meant to be, and you shouldn’t be burdened by their decision to ghost you. This is a way to take your power back.
I think if you were 100 percent genuine and they still decided to ghost you, you would be far more upset (hence why I suppose people are afraid to be themselves) x
@@alecogden12345 It may hurt to your sense of validation but their reaction is not under your control, if you are truly genuine regrets should disappear Is a releasing experience. I think i said it before here, being ghosted is a blessing in disguise
Love yourself first and realize that 99 percent of the time, it had nothing to do with you. Don't take it personally, you are still a good person. Thanks, Teal, for this advice!
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My boyfriend of over a year ghosted me. I was shocked and disappointed by this, I never heard from him again. I thought he was better than that, that he knew how to communicate and that he cared. It hurt to realize how wrong I was about him. It makes me doubt my ability to be able to judge people's character in the future
Exactly…I’m also doubting my ability to judge the “goodness and honesty”, when this could have happened and I didn’t see it coming. Maybe a way of the universe to teach us to REALLY look for red flags.
It's sad that ghosting has become so common in our society. Even though we have social media, people have less real social skills than they used to and don't know how to reject someone in a kind way. In the past, people would say "I don't have time for a relationship right now" or "I don't have time to devote to more friends right now." I would rather have someone say something like this to me than to just vanish like a ghost with no explanation. Once, years ago, a guy rejected me in a very nice way on a dating site. He said something like "I'm sure you are a wonderful person but I'm looking for someone closer to where I live. All the best to you." The way he rejected me actually made me feel happy because he gave me a compliment with the rejection and wished me well.
“Not everyone will like you or take the time to understand you. Some people lack the capacity. Don’t worry; it’s okay. Their acceptance or rejection doesn’t change your worth one bit. Hold your head up and live your life regardless, knowing not everyone is worthy of you.” Richelle E. Goodrich
It's so sad to think of how long people will beat themselves up after they have been ghosted. Not getting closure can absolutely drive you crazy, blaming yourself, feeling ashamed , and humiliated can go on for years after the incident. It happened to me long ago and now that I'm older, I am so grateful I was ghosted, as I can clearly see that it was never me. The person just really needed therapy. His own issues were making him emotionally unavailable, afraid of conflict, and ice cold. I hope he's a better person today and I hope that he is now able to express and receive love.
There's no point in seeking closure because more than likely you're not gonna get it. Just keep it pushing forward and find somebody who's a non-ghoster and will actually respect you and your time.
If someone ghosts you ( without any explanation), you don't need closure from them. You need to red rid of them pronto! It doesnt matter why they ghost you. Btw. Ghosters ghost other people too, it's a habit. Once they do it, they are showing you that they are incapable of any healthy friendships, relationships , families. Think of them as dead. Dive deep into the pain they cause you and connect that pain directly to that person, so that your whole body hurts when you see them or hear from them. This way you will stay away from them forever. When the person later comes back (they all do) ,you'll never see them as a lovable person again, you see them as the person that created this pain and needs to be avoided !. Its a scarry ghost from the past. It's not your fault if other people are shitty! Cultivate Self respect for yourself 💫
Not all of them back!! Mine didn’t! Thank god they didn’t! I just consider them not good decent human beings! That’s my closure there😇😉. I don’t really care why they ghosted me!
I ghosted someone that would ignore me when they pleased and expected me to be okay with it. I finally gave them a taste of their own medicine because they love to play the victim. I'm just done playing games. I would never ghost someone who respects my time and listens well.
If a person cant listen, hear or make any room for the other, & pointing this out makes them angry & hateful, the ghost may just be avoiding an abusive dynamic & its endless conflict. If you're tired of talking to a wall & hearing the ssisst of gas lights in response, stopping the dialogue is a blessed relief. It isn't being a ghost but being alive again. 🌻
@@lizafield9002 yes, thanks for your comment, that was me, after 2.5 yrs of not being able to have discussion or resolve & being ghosted time and time again, I ended r/ship, said so face to face as best as possible, made it clear in person, then decided 'no contact' was best. Not even to get back my stuff that was pinched. 2 yrs later I've considered 'making amends' I'd have to say the universe/god is directing otherwise.
My best friend for 20 years sort of ghosted me 1.5 months ago. I tried to talk, she didn't seem interested, responded very professionally. So I left it. I feel grateful for the 20 years of amazing friendship we had and I hope she lives happily
She missed the number one reason why people ghost you. It's very easy for them to find someone more fun these days. This is especially true if this person is very attractive. Basically, you have to keep giving them their high to keep them, and that gets harder to do as the relationship ages. A new boyfriend or girlfriend is more stimulating and exciting. Basically, they are facing a kind of addiction. We have created the most superficial society that has ever existed. This makes some people grow ever more desperate to find a real connection, leading to all sorts of mental issues.
My best friend since 7th grade ghosted me two years ago out of the blue. We had hung out a few weeks before without issue. At first, I thought they were overwhelmed with work or family. However, pictures they posted on social media proved otherwise. Just hanging out without me. I took them off my page and deleted their number. They never got back to me to this day. Though I can say, looking back, they were a big partier and I was never into the clubbing scene. They always seemed annoyed at how “prudish” I seemed. I’m a homebody and don’t enjoy casual relationships. So I think they probably just didn’t find me fun anymore. Sometimes, people ghost for very superficial reasons. It’s fine if it’s due to toxicity or abuse, but when it’s a friend of 10+ years, I think you owe that person, at least, a common courtesy. If they can’t accept it, then block them.
I am going through this now and it is one of the most trying experiences of my life Ghosting is pure cowardice. There is no excuse to cause another person this sort of emotional turmoil.
Agreed. I'm going through it myself now. A month of massive and great communication with someone on a daily basis and then it was just abruptly over. I feel dumb cause it's not like we were dating or anything. But honestly, I'm insanely hurt by it.
@@mattramos5822 Ghosting is a challenging feat to accomplish. I found out that my gf of almost a year, friends with her for 2 years prior to our relationship; had another boyfriend. He confronted me with proof, there was no fighting, I was just thankful. I ghosted her, ignored/deleted all her voicemails and texts without reading or listening. I’ve ghosted both relationships when I got cheated on. Not to be mean, but because I’m not asking why they cheated so I don’t care about an explanation from them. Both women I was in a relationship with possibly never discovered that I found out they were cheating. No closure, the unknown is unimaginable. Me walking away and leaving them unable to have closure… is much harder to accomplish.
Guilt is the price of a good conscience. Apologize to them and make it right for them and also you. You don't have to be friends, don't promise things you can't keep up, but you can say 'I am sorry, I don't like the person I was that day, I hope it didn't hurt you, I have grown and I hope you forgive the person I was' Be Blessed
I was intermittently ghosted by a Girl for 7 years. It destroyed my confidence with women, and weirdly when she broke contact. kept bringing up the pain of my mothers death when I was 12. I can't believe people can be that cruel.
Principally, I personally believe that communication is key to any type of relationship. With that principle ingrained in me, it is impossible for me to ghost anyone. I have been ghosted and because of my belief, It was the most confusing and horrible feeling I went though. I have had many a conversation with my friends about ghosting and most of them support it because of today's social norms. I was utterly disgusted at that knowledge. I will never support ghosting. I will never be that cowardly nor will I promote it.
The trauma isn't just from being ghosted, but being ghosted repeatedly by different people. That's when you REALLY start wondering what's wrong with you. Over the years, after being ghosted by dozens of women, I've come to realize that a lot of people want to be charmed and mesmerized from the get-go, instead of learning to peel back the layers and build a connection. I have literally been unmatched for saying 'hi, how's your day going' because it's too boring, and the other person wanted me to dazzle them with some ridiculous opening line, and they want me to keep entertaining them with joke after joke, anecdote after anecdote. Once I keep quiet because I want to hear from them, they withdraw. It a sign someone is looking for thrills and distractions. They're not seeking real connection because they don't have the capacity to be authentic. Everything is a show, and they're afraid to let you see the real person, because there's so little of it inside.
@@hofhofandaway perhaps you're right. Truth is, I'll never know, because some people literally unmatch at the first message. But if I'm the only person trying to reach out, any attempt at building a relationship is doomed either way.
I JUST GOT GHOSTED AFTER TELLING SOMEONE I WANT TO BUILD A CONNECTION BEFORE RUSHING INTO ALL THE ROMANTIC LOVEY STUFF THAT WAS BEING SHOWERED ON ME SUDDENLY AND OUT OF CONTEXT TO WHERE THE RELATIONSHIP WAS. ROMANTIC STUFF THAT WOULD MELT AN ICE QUEEN - COMING FROM AN ESTABLISHED LOVER. EMOTIONAL WHIPLASH. AS STRONG AND AS AWARE AS I AM - IT TOTALLY THREW ME OFF BALANCE. BOTH THE LOVE BOMBING ND THE GHOSTING.
To all who read this, you are loved, You are appreciated, You are Divine, Never forget you have the power within to Change and shift your life. There is a version of you right now in a different reality smashing it ⭐⚡💫 You are not your toxic relationships, addictions or flaws, raise your frequency and your life will Dramatically change for the better 🙏 I just done a video on this for those who are Ready for it 💜 If your reading this then that is a Sign that you are 🔮 The one who Ghosted you wasnt good enough for you, its a blessing in Disguise 🙏
Nice..tnx.. you are Loved and Appreciated too... although i hope Myself is smashing it it in all realities..or learning and experiencing to be ever more better :D Be Blessed )o( P.s: ...as a another witch ( male thou ).. will check out your video or two after teal ;) P.p.s: ...seeing titles to some of your videos... yuuup..been there done that.. ( tibetan Demoness .. ) xD
I knew a guy who ghosted me out of nowhere over and over again, and when I finally did the same he accused me of being cold hearted and mean, like what the hell???
What if you ghost someone but becasue of their behavior towards you being was flaky, impolite, disrespectful, inmature and cold? Just cut off that energy, no explanation needed to that type of people
This is tricky because I have been in both situation. There have been situation that people were rude and didn't want to change, no matter how I treated them. In that case ghosting them is the way to go for sure. But I also have been ghosted just because the other person was either too avoidant of conflict, or plainly because they assumed intentions I didn't had. I think one need to be honest about the reasons they ghost. Trying to come to common points NEVER worked for me with these people.
No. Ghosting is never ok. Now, in some (rather rare) situations, a genuine dialogue is impossible. And in those rate situations it can be appropriate to send a final message explaining your thoughts, and the reasons you have for exiting the interaction... And then blocking that person. But "ghosting"... That is, having a good interaction, and then suddenly failing to respond altogether... Is never ok. Mature humans, male and female, voice their issues, and give the other person a chance to 1. Respond if clarification or correction is needed and 2. Have closure, to understand why you are existing all communication. Or even greatly changing the relationship, say, from romance to friendship (aka friendzoning) Don't be cowardly or immature. Be an adult.
They did it once, they will do it again. It becomes a cycle. After they do it to you once, it is your task to break the cycle and not engage in anything with them. Ghosting is so disrespectful and yet it has become so common thanks to technology. But I agree with you that ghosting has existed from the beginning of mankind.
Being ghosted is an interesting life lesson to learn. The first time it happened it was gut wrenching, it made me rethink my self worth. My thoughts would spiral out of control and it magnified all the negative beliefs I had about myself. What helped me through it was going jogging or doing calisthenics, it helped process my emotions and made me feel more in control of my life. I never got angry when I got ghosted, but always blamed myself for not being valuable enough. I mean at least it is good fuel for working out. Now when they ghost I let it go, assume they have found someone else and mentally wish them well. And indeed later on I find out they did find someone else, but I'm happy for them. Idk I guess when you get older it's easier to let go. That or I'm just content living on my own.
Thank you so much. I got ghosted from a “relationship” several months ago. It has truly cause the most emotional pain and confusion that I have ever been in my life. It did force me into healing and doing a lot of completion process, but still hurts. Thank you for putting into words what source has taught me intuitively over the last few months. Thank you infinitely to all the awareness you and everyone brings. It is appreciated beyond words 🙏❤️✌️🌈
Joel Kenney You didn’t deserve that. It’s happened to me a lot, and it’s so painful. I hope you’re okay and realize the person who ghosted you is a total asshole.
Sounds like you’ve made it thru the dark days, good for you. I hope in time when you think back to that person you see them clearly, as a weak character...or an asshole like tosca here said! Haha 😆
if you actually liked the person who ghosted you, then they're probably not an asshole unless you're the type of person who likes assholes. anyway, you can still hold them in some reasonable regard as a flawed human being with issues to work on, away from you, and that they couldn't express to you, because not everyone can express things in words. words aren't that efficient. and life is more complicated than any of this. anyway, good luck, you're a reasonably pleasant person, but probably a bit too bubbly, and maybe you seem like the kind of person who has enough friends not to notice one missing. (marijuana is good for healing ghosting type social pain, no one will ever tell you but is true)
Infinity Reaper Well, I have looked at the reasons and totally recognize unhealed aspects of people’s behavior. Kind of interesting that you would say that I am too bubbly or any other things about what could be me. Also very synchronic that you typed this message as I finished writing a poem about healing from the pain and it being a path to more awareness of my own wounds and what is my authentic self.
My loving heart once shattered, When I didn’t think it could break, I picked up the pieces scattered, Endured and healed from the pain, 9 times over I let you go, 13 times my heart said trust in you, 4 times I questioned all I know, 7 times I surrendered to the flow, Three thousand, two hundred seventy six, Reasons to love and simply exist, One eighty nine trips in the sky, Practicing for when we can fly, Let it all fall, Let it all fall, See the reasons for it all, Looked under the skin, Peeled back the bark, Saw what was within, Sought to understand the spark, Repeat the process, Layer after layer, Surface and process, An answer to a prayer, What was inside, Was a reflection of mind, Only you can break your trance, Your soul just wants to dance, Let your true light come though, It is something only you can do, Listen quiet to your core, Follow what your heart and soul yearn for, The authentic self transcending mind, Led and leading both ways in time, All paths do lead to the soul, No matter which way we roll, Bringing me forever closer, To integration of the whole,
It’s important to recognize the important distinction between between ghosting and no-contact. No-contact is refusing to no longer subject yourself to another’s abuse, ghosting is cowardice avoidance of honesty and transparency when someone doesn’t value or respect you.
Hello I'm so excited my broken 💔💔 relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we leaving and happily together, I got help from a great man he's real and specific 💯
The earliest sign of jealousy is usually that your friend seems withdrawn when things are going well for you. As your life becomes better or your lot increases this can become full blown ghosting 😉
When rejected don’t spend time thinking about it. Go meet someone new. Do not keep texting ,calling or contacting their friends or family. Just drive on and work on becoming a better person. Work on you...
Trying but it is so difficult when you are drawn to them. After I found out that my wife, who was verbally abusive to me during our marriage, had an affair, I tried to forgive her and work things out, but I was the only one making any effort. So I became more and more distant and I feel that I no longer love her as a wife. We are still technically together but my intention is leaning towards leaving. In the meantime, I met a girl online who was like my twin. We had so much in common and never ran out of things to talk about. She’s in the US and I’m in Canada. But she blocked me at one point when I was overtexting her. She unblocked me after a few days but ignored me. I apologized and we started chatting again. Then after a few days, she blocked me again for no reason as I don’t believe that I was being needy. All I can think of is that she is testing me because we did express a liking for each other. But it just sucks because we had an awesome connection and chatted for hours.
@@tazdrum73 If you are over texting you come off as needy. Needy people are burdensome. Watch some Corey Wayne videos on RUclips. Buy his book and read it. When you’re finished reading it ,read it again 10 to 20 more times. Also start hanging out with your guy Friends. If you don’t have any guy friends then you need to find some. Figure out a new focus in life. Do not make women your focus. When you meet a chick that you’re interested in do not make her your focus or you’ll end up over texting and over pursuing. Never bring up the subject of relationships with a woman. You will scare them away. If they bring it up don’t be excited about it. Force the woman to work in order to lock you down. When a woman calls. Keep your phone conversations short. Really really short. Hi value men don’t have time to chitchat.
@@tazdrum73 I empathize with you. I'm in the same situation. Guess being vulnerable makes us easy targets for energy vampires. I'm a humanist, I don't agree with 'how to win any girl by saying XXX'. I don't think that creates fulfilling relationships. So what I did was send her a plain old letter by post recapping how the relationship progressed, what I liked about her personality, about our relationship and what I didn't like. Then I proposed what she can do if she agrees with me, and asked her to get in touch with me in case she has a different idea. The day she received the letter, I sent her flowers. Now, I'm waiting for her response but I'm reconciled to her not replying. Learning Spanish, meditating etc so if she does get back, I'm not in a gotcha mood. Many people think of online dating as a ego boost/self service. They don't think of the person at the other end. I think that's what most likely happened to us. We fell in love with ghosts 😊 I wish us both well.
I am not gonna thank someone who is abusive, because it is "spiritual" and for "growth". You know what else is spiritual not freaking ghosting someone. #NO to new age propaganda.
I listened every sentence and stopped after each sentence, think and move on to next sentence, stop, think, next sentence. amazing speech. thanks for this video. helped a lot.
I believe a lot of ghosting happens when one partner has an avoident attachment style (fear of real intimacy) usually because of unhealed childhood trauma - and the other partner has a "need" or pulling attachment style - I was in a twin flame relationship for 2 years and I knew my partner had real intimacy (and other) issues - each time he would come around and admit feelings then bam he would run again - well I cannot live with this any more - twin or not-
I've been ghosted twice and I didn't care either time. I just figured they lacked the social ineptitude to talk about it. People who truly care about you will never ghost you. So if being ghosted hurts you, you're either taking it too personal or you need to learn to read people better. Trust their actions, not their words. A girl can say she loves me 1,000 times, but I won't believe it if she's not excited to see me when we meet up. That's one of many ways to tell
I've ghosted people because I felt either hurt by them (either felt insulted or abandoned etc) or hurt in general (depressed because things arent going well for me, getting in car accident or negative behaviors ashamed about - laziness etc.) When I've felt good about life Ive been more willing to be there for others. I have learned, however, to be there more for others whether or not I feel good and that it will lead to positives for us both.
I have ghosted a couple of people who I thought were my friends! They hurt me over and over again and I just couldn't take it anymore! I thought it was the right thing to do at the time, but in the long run I am haunted of not letting them know why and creating closure of those friendships! I thought I could just cut them out and forget about them but they show up in my dreams and it drives me insane! Most dreams feel like memories to me, so I am reminded of them constantly! I wish now that I would have explained why because I feel like it's too late to being closure to those connections. I know they didn't care anyway! But it would have helped me cope with the ending of those friendships.
Was ghosted by my buddy many times. Called him out on a text message like suggested here and said thx for the friendship but I'm gone dude. He answered, we spoke and he realized it was a habit being done to family and friends. He was super ashamed and uncomfortable during the whole conversation but he thanked me for calling him out. He teared up. For now it seems that we came to a higher level of friendship through honesty and watching out for each other. Only time will tell what will happen next.
I've ghosted many a friend, and it was most likely due to my childhood programming, like you said, Teal. My mother was chaotic, unstable at times; often I didn't know if we were friendly or not, and I'd have to feel out the room before entering. If I spoke up, saying how I didn't like what she or someone else did, I was mocked, ridiculed, shamed and even rejected. Like many, speaking up is difficult for people like me, but I'm an adult, not a child anymore --it's now my job to make this machine run right, even if my mother didn't hand any usable instructions down. I've got to ride around in this carriage, not her. I've got to work on relationships and experience life through my eyes, not hers; so fixing this machine is my purpose right now. I don't know how many people I truly left dangling, but I am sorry to them. I wasn't strong enough to tell them how I they made me feel, I didn't know it was something I was allowed to even do.
@Alexis Scarbrough - This is absolutely beautiful!!! I'm sure coming 2 this level of consciousness about ur childhood trauma & it's impact is such a breakthru 4 u!! I really commend & honor ur transparency in sharing on this platform. Much success on ur journey of discovery & healing. ❤
My boyfriend of 1.5 years ghosted me 2 weekends in a row. I haven't hear from them since Thursday and it's Saturday.. It hurts. These videos are the only thing helping Me not cry all night long.
Are you okay now? 🥺 my friend ghosted me from 6 April until now and I'm really frustrated 😭 he was text me every day and send me pictures 💔 and suddenly he disappear like ghost 😭😭
Perhaps why people ghost is probably because they don't know themselves well enough yet, or aren't comfortable within their own bodies. Perhaps shame has a lot to do with it as well. Maybe people are embarrassed about certain aspects of themselves? You also have to ask what lead to me being ghosted i.e. what made me a vibrational match to said experience? Perhaps we're constantly running away from ourselves which then leads to other people in our external realities "running away" too? Last year, I came off dating sites because I made a commitment to myself. I simply couldn't commit to someone else because I hadn't committed to myself enough. Step into your power! Love your self more and more everyday. It doesn't have to happen all at once, just begin the process of doing so and watch your world (reality) change and shift before you! Much love as always, Teal
That is very selfish. You need to take responsibility for your self and your own wants and needs and be honest with the person. You can not be "manipulated" unless you want to be.
Ghosting behavior is often reflective of deep personal attachment issues. You’ll be forever alone if you can’t grow out of that mindset. Hope this helps.
tash so much the same for myself. It’s a treacherous road fought by self-sabotage, pain and loneliness.. but it’s also the life path offered only to the beautiful ones, those of us gifted with unusually strong character. Never give in.. learning to love and treat ourselves well liberates us in this life. Blessings friend!
I would like to offer another reason for ghosting: They literally didn't know they were even ghosting you. To some people, picking up where you left off if you happen to cross paths is a normal procedure, and they can't understand why you might want them of all people to show up. And the kicker is if they understand that you do really miss them, either they'll get some revelation that they were important to someone all along and start to open up and make a concerted effort (if they even know how), or they might get terrified and ghost you again, because now they're aware they're partly responsible for your wellbeing. Then, the onus is on them to keep you, rather than you to just happen to be there at the right moment, and they may have never kept anyone around before. I think the first lesson on ghosting comes from parents. If your mum and dad both work, or if you even just go to school, you've been dumped in an unknown place at probably far too young an age and the people who tell you they love you and will always be there when you call them are rushing out the door while you're crying. If you get in trouble, they're not there to help or explain anything. And at the end of the day they come rushing back, it's all hugs, they act like the whole thing is ok and normal and you continue where you left off. There will be at least a few people who never let go of their "lessons" from that environment.
@@ultimateoptimist5217 The first couple of lines or so are also just how someone who is neurodivergent might think. Believe it or not, not everyone has an in-built social timer telling them exactly when a relationship is fading and to check on their other friends who aren't in their vicinity. (I've seen stories of this for ADHD.) As for the rest of it, you're probably right. Attachment or personality disorders or very low self-esteem and so on, it could be any number of (usually repairable) causes or illnesses. But if that's the case, what was your point in pointing that out? If some people are just this way, imo it's much better to understand where they're coming from, than assume you're being treated badly on purpose or hold grudges. I forget the exact contents of this vid, but I'm pretty sure I shared this because Teal had a focus on the person being ghosted, not whoever's ghosting. So I shared this to offer an extra perspective. Not everyone who ghosts is an abusive scumbag who hurts people intentionally, as lots of comments here profess.
I was ghosted a couple of times while interviewing for a new job. It shocked me that a company would not just send a quick note after an interview to say that they were going forward with another candidate. It just seems to take so little time.
Ghosting is like a huge slap to your face. They think they can come back whenever it's convenient to them. Whenever the one they choose wasn't who they thought. I am too old for games and I won't even accept them as a friend because even friends you can trust. You cannot ever trust a jerk.
Teal working her magic once again it's like she knows exactly what I need in the moment I'm forever grateful Thank You for being the messenger you are ❤
i agree with professionals who say "ghosting has more to do with them than you" because i feel like u kind of explained it towards the end of the video which is when u said they're trying to communicate "i dont have what it takes to be in a relationship with u or anyone" and that does, in fact, say much about them cause they have a fear of some kind and this is their way of avoiding cause it makes it easier for them. people are complex and so are situations lol
If someone pretends he or she is dead, let them be. I had this painful experience early this year and that is what I came to conclusion in the end. I still don't have the "proper" closure and our last conversation was still "lovely" and "full of passion"; but it happens as what it actually happened. Accept it and move on. No sudden death; no more beating myself up. Life is short. Save my energy and emotion for myself and for those who deserve them.
Oh man I was in a friendship for over a decade with a chronic ghoster and I stayed for the highs that came after days, weeks or even months of lows. This is such an unexpected video, I’m glad we explored. Thanks Teal 💗
So so true!! Finding out why they ghosted you has taught me many life lessons and ive gained self awareness. Rejection and ghosting is so so painful but can be great life lessons!!:) love u teal x
The little wink you did there when you said after a bad break up how easy is it for you to eat and sleep.. you got me there. I'm so glad you exist. Your guidance is literally pulling me out of a dark place right now. Thank you Teal 🙏🏻
It’s way better to be straight up and say “sorry im not into you anymore” because its not true that you are saving the persons feelings if you ghost them. You are making it a trillion times worse for them.
you're allowed to be too stressed and nervous to confront someone and just ghost them instead. if you're a social bubbly person who does everything right socially good for you, don't project onto introverts.
I want to personally thank you teal swan for all of your free advice. I have shared your channel with many people in my family and outside of it. Rather they choose to be open or not I still feel your channel is highly valuable. I just want to say thank you again and I hope you have a great week! Peace and love :-)
I ghost people when i feel overwhelmed, and/or a lot of people want things from me. Working on it though, now they get a small message that i can't respond right now.
What weak people in this thread. It takes no effort at all to explain that you are overwhelmed and need time to put yourself together. ...but other people's emotions aren't worth you typing 20 words to you... Are they. You don't deserve partners or friends until you get this much sorted out.
The few Men who GHOSTED me. I was THRILLED! Saved me from making up a reason why I didn't want to see them again. Be happy that they Ghosted you. You got rid of a JERK...and you didn't have lift a finger.
@@javaman5464 ; Because adults actually communicate with each other. The “failure” to do so, indicates multiple flaws. Interpersonal, moral, and character, just to name a few.
You do realise home is where the heart is, you'll never psychologically escape your family problems. You have to solve them. Its not about differences, its about loving people no matter what. When my family argue i put differences aside and show them i care. You'll care when you see people dying, you're shocked they have feelings for you. You'll be shocked when you find out you still have feelings for them. I won't say anything more, you got the message its up to you what you do with it. Live life in fear, or learn to love. When people are dying thats when ur ego is gone mate, don't leave it too late. Differences are just splinters, just pull them out and be the hero of your family instead of a fugitive.
This literally happened to me last weekend. I never even had a conversation with the woman. I think some people play games like this to try and feel good about themselves like hey I got to reject somebody.
I agree. If gives people a sense of control in 1 area of their life when things are out-of-control in other areas. And/or they've been rejected by others in the same area they're rejecting you in so they're making you pay for the others that hurt them that they were unable to get back cuz they were ghosted.
Teal, while watching the video, if I immediately had the chance to look at your eyes, and say thank you, smiling, with love, I would. For now, somebody is just thanking you in the comments for sharing wisdom the best you can from your heart.
I was ghosted by my 2 best friends, 4 years ago today without any explanation, when I was at my most vulnerable moment. This video is a bittersweet coincidence. I only found closure 2 years later when I asked what had happened. That moment of abandonment after 7 years of friendship changed me forever. It helped me become a better person and never do to others what was done to me.
@@breakingthemasks That basically we had grown apart way too much and they didn't even want to put the effort to to discuss the fact that they didn't think my behaviour was right.
I got ghosted last year by my longtime best and closet friend and till this day, I’m still hurting. It’s honestly more painful then when someone has passed away because you know the person chose life without you. I’m still going on and living my life but it hurts every time I think about it, the only thing that helps me is knowing that I deserve better and that God has a better plan for my life
Hello I'm so excited my broken 💔💔 relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we leaving and happily together, I got help from a great man he's real and specific 💯
Heard this quote the other day "if someone ghosts you, then respect the dead and never bother them again" 😂😂😂🙌
Couldn't do a thumbs up but that is brilliant.
Pure genius! Lol
Also Find a new partner that does not have their weak character and status in life .., like prettier,stronger.richer,more compassionate ,better status .. and rub it in their face ,,,
I remember when was young had English Partner one year relationship I was 25 so.. she went cold and thought she was she had the better hand and left ,2 weeks later I was in front of her at a club with my new girls,, yes younger Blonde 19 YO Very beautiful hard working and honest woman who became Bank manager also to be my wife of 36 years till god called her to his side .I can never forget the look on her eyes.., That how you get to revenge against Ghoster.. it kills them .that is how you redeem your self.First work of your self.. Blessing are in the hands of our Gods and spirits..,as long as you are truthful to yourself and honest to others .AMEN
AWESOME..thanks, I needed that.
@@makoshark3759 what a beautiful story. Really remarkable. I recently being ghosted by somebody I have known for many years. This time it feels different and is not even hurting. It's a blessing. The grand finale. All because I am enforcing boundaries. Lol
15:02 - "when someone ghosts you, what that behaviour is really communicating to you is this: I don’t have what it takes to have a healthy and mature relationship with you, much less anyone." Now that's a mic drop moment. THANK YOU.
yep. some people are dealing with severe trauma from emotional abuse - with chronic ghosters its likely an early childhood trauma. no matter how much they try their subconscious just can't get too close to people. it's so sad.
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Awesome!
“Ghosting” is indirect communication if you have empathy you can sense and understand why this is the case rather than “labeling” the other person
That was helpful. Thank you
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
Yes, I call it dodging a bullet, lol
If someone is ghosted more than likely the relationship was toxic and they got tired of being emotionally abused. They regained their self respect and dumped them.
@@hallypuew3762 Or they could say 'this is toxic, I'm out' rather than doing the actual toxic thing... not saying anything and leaving the other person in limbo
Exactly periodt 💯
I feel like a person who ghosts after a lengthy time of giving you a lot of attention is a cruel game that makes them feel better. They are sadists in a way. This is a new level of power for the losers of the world.
Maybe there are such people, but I wouldn’t think it’s every person that ghosted me. But yea in a way it could be a relieving way of taking control of the relationship if the person wanted it to end
bryan diaz varela Forgive me, that last bit was poetic, but it ended up confusing me on what your point was in the beginning 😅
Agreed. It's the same high you get when you put someone down.
That is why you just can't invest in these clowns. I was ghosted by someone I was engaged to. Yes, really.
Jen X Girl, I was ghosted by my own husband. I win! Lol you’re right tho. None of em are worth taking time from our happiness to figure out.
Ghosting IS abuse. Don't let someone ghost you twice.
Once is more than enough
It is. I've been relying on sleeping pills for 3 years now, just to get some rest 😔😔😔
@@AjengEmerald hugs
My ex did this to me repeatedly over 5 years for months at a time ... he can disappear permanently 😊😊
It works both ways in my most recent relationship. Now he wouldn’t even dare to touch that dial button since learning all his dirty secrets were exposed.
Every rejection is a protection, and every disappointment is an appointment
Being ghosted is a blessing because they’re saving you time. Why waste time with someone who can’t be honest with you.
Tobia Talking about me like you you know me. It seems you’re the insecure boy
absolutely
@@tobia5267 hmm, quite unnecessary.
Tobia I was also a needy Insecure boy. It takes a lot of inner work to finally let go off🙌🏻
I love your comment good point
"Being ghosted has nothing to do with your value."
Thank you for this!
I needed to hear this, and I need to repeat it a bit to let it sink in...
Im sure thats the case for a lot of people!
Even after knowing this, it still feel inside like I wasn't worth of their care, time /effort to explain why they disappeared...
@@intuitivevibes1818 Those are the ones that you have to remember "being valued has little to do with your actual value"
Thank you. 🤍
@@intuitivevibes1818 Yes. A bloody insult.
"Dont ghost people, and don't chase ghosts."
-Teal Swan
when someone ghosts you, essentially what that behavior is saying is "I don't have what it takes to have a healthy mature relationship with you, much less anyone" RUN THAT BACK
You're both right. There's no need to be aggro about it.
@@kmillerg Can't agree. Emotionally immature people do not care to have what they caused, explained to them. In fact, they'd likely love that they got under your skin enough to make you react.
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No Justifying. No Arguing. No Defending. No Explaining.
They know what they are doing.
@@kmillerg Nope. An immature person would cause the situation to occur. A mature person would recognize this straight away and deal with it by avoiding it.
Let's not get it twisted.
Let's not forget that if they do not see you as a viable source of supply, then that will also cause them to ghost you. This was the real reason behind the original respondents reply to you.
You took that very badly. But the truth is, that is what immature people will do. The superiority complex that they show on the outside causes the defense mechanism (ghosting) to occur, which is also a coping mechanism, for dealing with the inferiority complex (insecurity) that they have on the inside that they don't want you to know about.
I hope that clears things up for you.
"Ghosting is about Emotional Cruelty." -- so true!
I'm ghosted by someone else. I feel lost. I can't sleep and work efficiently. Ghosting is abusive, like violence.
Yeah, it feels like an actual wound. I felt as if I got stabbed in my back twice.
You look like Ben Shapiro.
@@huitzilopochtli_tenochtitl496 Thanks
Dude,U are not alone .Its actually going to happen to everyone .There are endless possibilities of people out there . 8.69 Bill people. Never feel alone .God is Love !!
Look, the person doing it is responsible for MOST of the hurt, but there is no way YOU don't have a piece of the responsibility. The only time ghosting "hurts" is when you put ANYONE on a pedestal, which was not reciprocated.
So lesson learned, and move on and take that person down from that pedestal, NO MATTER WHO THAT PERSON IS, imagine that is someone you sort of want to create some distance from, and that person ghosts you, then it is not even-sinful or hurtful, it is welcomed. The problem is that YOU think something might be wrong with YOU if someone ghosts you. That is not the case MOST OF THE TIME since the person did want you around before.
Concentrate on those who invite your company and like being around you.
My friend ghosted me once he found a gf, and soon I realized he was using me or wasting my time if getting a gf made him leave. I had put him on a pedestal Something like that.
If someone ghosts you, bury them... this is what I mean:
1.) block all of their forms of contact
2.) erase them from your memory
3.) move on
easier to say than done!!! it is a process...this is what it is...when real true love and emotions involved it is tough just to move on in a heartbeat! we are not metals or rocks!
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It’s definitely not easier said than done.
But it’s a mindset that has to be learned and manifested.
To go a bit deeper, the key is to love yourself more than anyone else. When you do, it’s easier to let someone else go.
In most cases. When people “think”, they are in love, they truly aren’t. They’re just attached to a codependent form of validation, as they were trained to feel that that need someone to “complete”, them.
Ah yeah erase them from your memory. Easy. Which folder is is that kept in so I can delete it.
That only works for robots
It’s easy to do.
I was ghosted for 6 months and she reached to me through a text message on my birthday to let me know she had broken up with me. The pain I felt was so unbearable I attempted suicide twice. More than a year has passed and I'm still trying to recover and become confident again.
If you want to break up with someone or even if you hate them, please don't ghost them. It is too painful
Wow what an asshole that person is, sorry just my first reaction. I’m sure she is not a horrible person and I’m sure she is not immune to her own issue but what an extreme lack of empathy.
I’m grateful you posted this. I’m grateful you made it through. I’m grateful you’re here with all of us watching this and growing with us. I’m grateful for you. But it doesn’t matter what I think. You’re valuable without my gratitude for you.
You deserve better than that person. That alone would turn me the hell off!
Thank god your still here 😃 remember’ no one is ever that important to loose your life over😔 because’ while your dead 💀 and buried! They will still flourish and move on to god knows’ how many more people😒😒😒
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I've been ghosted. It was painful, frustrating and traumatic. I didnt deserve that but I got through by moving forward slowly. Going to the gym, lift weights to ease the trauma. I prayed every night to God to give me peace and tranquility. I dont hold grudges but i dont forget. I love the man I've become today.
When someone ghosts you just simply takes it as: “garbage take itself out” or “they left bcos they’re not meant to be in your life” and it’s God’s way to protect you! Don’t overthink just move on and meet new ppl.
Thank you so much. What a soothing thought
Garbage took itself out. Love it, good one. Bahaha
It's not over think. There is NO CLOSURE. You can't just MOVE ON. EASIER SAID THEN DONE. NOT A ROBOT, CAN'T JUST SWITCH OFF LIKE THAT.
@GamingNinja Sexist and WRONG.
@@nofybn7794 some people don't get it. It's like they have this avoidance style of dealing with unpleasant things. I pity them almost. It's a big sign of emotional incompetency.
Unless you're being harrased, it's a coward's way out. Grown ups don't ghost. Nor do they feel the need to play power games in the hope of hurting another person.
Prince Andrew said it was the "chickens way out" so he flew over to America from Britain to break off his friendship with Epstein. At least he's not a ghoster, 😂🤣😃.
Or you just are really bad at dealing with this type of REJECTION
@@sefankern556 Sounds like you had rationalized ghosting when it only promotes nothing but misery.
@@killertruth186 If misery is all that you can make of it , then i guess when life gives u lemons you just spray it on your eyes. And wonder why it stings .
@@sefankern556 Life isn't what you were taught, it is what you experienced yourself.
But something tells me that you are thinking this is the hookup culture and would ghost any woman as you please, or use it to get exactly what you want.
Then you wonder why no one would actually like you since you would be a manipulator.
I think ghosting is the epitome selfishness and cowardice.
Depends on the situation tbh
@@iamchannelll Nah, not really. Why make plans with someone & you can't keep your word, or atleast a heads up. That's just an excuse for toxic behavior.
Absolutely
@@AlmaMartinez- you sound like you are terrible at rejection
@@sefankern556 No baby, I've never been rejected, but stop justifying toxic traits 🤷🏻♀️
I was ghosted once, it really hurt my feelings, because I thought everything was going great! Then two months later, I came home to a voicemail from The Ghost, saying...Hi! Here’s a voice from the past! And I hit the delete button and said...that’s where your staying! I value myself! I did dodge a bullet! 👻👻👻
what a freak !! thank god you got rid of that person
Good job 💓
Great way of handling that!👍
Good for you!
Just once? and you know what it's like to have a returner? Wow dude!
Just live as if they never existed. You'll thank me later.
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True though somewhat easier said than done initially 😕
@@olleydrum9016 It’s super easy. You just make the decision. It’s harder to live clinging on to a ghost than to choose that they never mattered and never will.
Then I can't place why I feel like I'm not worth anyone's time. It's important to remember one's trauma and how it affects oneself.
@@icostaticrebound6007 I'm sorry. That is a feeling many people have. You're right about remembering your trauma. I've been doing that and this week something popped into my mind about "inadequacy". That has been plaguing me my entire life though I am considered a "social butterfly".
If this helps, coming from a social person, I'd suggest for you to to watch, read, or hang out with people who have alot of self worth so you can learn it through them. Read books by people with a certain intensity and passion for their talents and their life: like Nikola Tesla, or actors like Kate Hepburn. These people are high vibrational because of luck they found their passions early. You attract people later by being into your craft, and high vibrational. You feel unworthy maybe because you haven't experienced joy yet. On the other hand, we live in a cruel, and competitive world. Most people don't have the time for self reflection, and therefore do not even acknowledge how poorly they treat other people, and the amount of neglect we cause others. Anyway, people don't just automatically like people; people have to have something to offer in any type of way. You'll have to learn confidence and find a niche to be liked. Even after you're liked, you'll still have ebbs and flows with people.
Truly, your best bet is to find peace, and joy within yourself by doing things that actually make you feel unique and purposeful. I dont think you need to feel pressure to be a social butterfly, or a party guy. That comes with it's own problems because being too open can lead to trauma. Look at the world of animals. Panthers are solitary creatures and you dont see them worrying about being liked. They own themselves and their life. Read of solitary creatures, and invest in yourself.
I used to ghost in the past, but have learned to change it around. So when it happened back to me, I fully realized how tough it can be on the ghosted. Lesson learned.
What was your reason to for ghosting?
What was your reason for ghosting?
Some people literally ghost others because it happens to them all the time. Instead of being the bigger person they stoop down low and ghost others as a way to get back at people. It's petty and cruel but im convinced that's one of the reasons people do it. It just turns into a cycle of Ghosting. All of this could be avoided with a simple sentence.... it's not gonna work out between us i wish you luck. 🎉
Don’t chase ghosts. The message I needed to hear, loud and clear.
I had a really nice phone call from a couple I believed were friends. This was 4 days before my birthday when we normally send cards and phone each other. This year - nothing, and I don't know why. I have gone through my mind all possible reasons why, but came to the conclusion that whatever calamity may - God forbid - have happened to them could have happened to me, and it was my birthday that was ignored. And besides, if I am not important enough to inform then I am not important enough in their lives as said I was.
Perfect!
But I spent a lot of money on ghost hunting equipment
@@JohnPickup-CDHS-ze6qd😂😂
It’s also clarity, someone said, when you’ve overestimated your significance in someone else’s life. And I think it’s a blessing in disguise because someone who’s not meant to stay in your life won’t stay.
For me, that somebody was Russell Brand in his recent video on ghosting and it was most excellent. I’m not sure it’s always the case but it’s one way to look at it). His channel has great content these days.
Yes. Then later on looking back, your like I am in a WAY better place now than then
Yeah. I think that when someone doesn't stay in your life there is some sort of mismatch going on, and we don't always recognize what it is.
@@SpinningYarnsCrochet you're right. In this way we will never find out. I lost a friend I knew 25 years of my life. It's kind of ok now but it was a long process. Now I feel like ok.. other people will take her place. And they already did.
I had remembered the movie of Spiderman far from home, when Peter Parker ghosting Nick Fury.
Been ghosted for the second time by my girlfriend. The second time didn't hurt as much as the first. I will advise people to stay away from anyone who ghosted you once.
Ghosting is a coward's way out. They don't want to go through the trouble of a difficult and emotional conversation with you because it will make THEM feel bad. It's a horribly selfish thing to do but I've always maintained that what goes around comes around. True story - a man who ghosted me for another woman many years ago and married her 9 months later was ghosted by her many years later. She left him without a word of warning on New Year's Day after having met secretly with a lawyer and just slapped the separation papers down. We reap what we sow.
Not all the ghosting is coward's way out.
@@onewayoflooking7674
But it mostly is.
It's the same reason yoy don't stand up a girl on a date; it's the same feeling of being casually discarded because someone can't be bothered to take thirty seconds to inform you.
@@Antidragon-nl7by In the example you gave, I agree that's bad. But in your original comment you said ghosting is coward. Not all kind of ghosting is coward. That is what I was trying to say.
I am sorry if the things you mentioned happen to you. You seem like a nice person.
@tubehows4life agree some people can never be reached or understand it, they will attack you, so run for the hills and dont look back
It’s way out if you’re dealing with impossible people too. Admittedly, it was the ghosters fault that they got involved anyway
After 5 years of having little to no interest in guys, Last year I finally met someone who I liked, and I mean a lot. He ghosted me. I have never experienced anything more painful nor confusing. I have all the respect in the world for someone who needs space, but it really bothers me that people have the nerve to say that the other person doesn't deserve an answer or explanation. That is just sick. We have feelings just like you do and especially if we are open to being hurt for the sake of at least knowing then have some compassion. Nothing is worse. Nothing you say could ever be worse or more destructive to another person than the effects of ghosting itself.
I understand, ghosting is truly the most disrespectful thing
I get you man... Ive been ghosted for more than 3 months now and counting... I give her all the respect and this is what we get. We better move on
Mm is impotent and his mommy hates him. Jacob is a bot and has no junk.
@Jacob Strom wow...not nice at all. You dont evn know her
Sorry too hear that. :(
Silent is the highest form of contempt, when they disrespect you, they don't deserve an explanation.
I too, have dived into this topic on my other channel. The thing you missed but i noticed: people often ghost when you shine a light/ put a mirror on their bad behavior. They then associate you with the things they feel guilty/ shameful of, thus push you away to not face their own issues.
Nick this is exactly how I have experienced ghosting but didn’t hear the term until today
ooof. Yes. 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Omg yes
Exactly! Brilliantly stated! Ty💗
Yeah, no one likes that one "friend" who "means well" that won't stop harping on them about their "issues".
The grand irony is that those who ghost will often get ghosted themselves. The answer is to refuse to play their game altogether and treat others as you would like to be treated.
Also, this is why it’s so important to be authentic and conscious of your actions in any relationship. If you KNOW you were 100% genuine and yourself then the relationship just wasn’t meant to be, and you shouldn’t be burdened by their decision to ghost you. This is a way to take your power back.
I think if you were 100 percent genuine and they still decided to ghost you, you would be far more upset (hence why I suppose people are afraid to be themselves) x
@@alecogden12345 It may hurt to your sense of validation but their reaction is not under your control, if you are truly genuine regrets should disappear
Is a releasing experience. I think i said it before here, being ghosted is a blessing in disguise
To some extent
It could easily be argued that those who ghost others are doing exactly that, refusing to play games.
@Jordan Smith
Agreed.
Love yourself first and realize that 99 percent of the time, it had nothing to do with you. Don't take it personally, you are still a good person. Thanks, Teal, for this advice!
Hello I'm so excited my broken 💔💔 relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we leaving and happily together, I got help from a great man he's real and specific 💯
Great advice!
My boyfriend of over a year ghosted me. I was shocked and disappointed by this, I never heard from him again. I thought he was better than that, that he knew how to communicate and that he cared. It hurt to realize how wrong I was about him. It makes me doubt my ability to be able to judge people's character in the future
I can relate. Don't let these people with no character deter you from finding love and happiness.
Did he ever reach back out now it's been 2 years since you left this comment?
Exactly…I’m also doubting my ability to judge the “goodness and honesty”, when this could have happened and I didn’t see it coming. Maybe a way of the universe to teach us to REALLY look for red flags.
wow a year is such a long time
Thats a long time to see someone that then ghosts you. Methinks there were others and he made some sort of choice
It's sad that ghosting has become so common in our society. Even though we have social media, people have less real social skills than they used to and don't know how to reject someone in a kind way. In the past, people would say "I don't have time for a relationship right now" or "I don't have time to devote to more friends right now." I would rather have someone say something like this to me than to just vanish like a ghost with no explanation. Once, years ago, a guy rejected me in a very nice way on a dating site. He said something like "I'm sure you are a wonderful person but I'm looking for someone closer to where I live. All the best to you." The way he rejected me actually made me feel happy because he gave me a compliment with the rejection and wished me well.
“Not everyone will like you or take the time to understand you. Some people lack the capacity. Don’t worry; it’s okay. Their acceptance or rejection doesn’t change your worth one bit. Hold your head up and live your life regardless, knowing not everyone is worthy of you.”
Richelle E. Goodrich
It's so sad to think of how long people will beat themselves up after they have been ghosted. Not getting closure can absolutely drive you crazy, blaming yourself, feeling ashamed , and humiliated can go on for years after the incident. It happened to me long ago and now that I'm older, I am so grateful I was ghosted, as I can clearly see that it was never me. The person just really needed therapy. His own issues were making him emotionally unavailable, afraid of conflict, and ice cold. I hope he's a better person today and I hope that he is now able to express and receive love.
I m 17. Its been 3 years. He was older than me. I dont think it was my fault.
There's no point in seeking closure because more than likely you're not gonna get it. Just keep it pushing forward and find somebody who's a non-ghoster and will actually respect you and your time.
@IreneCocoQueen thank you for understanding a ghoster
@@CindyWarren2004 It wasn't your fault. ❤❤❤❤
@@patrickbatemen797 ❤
‘Partial ghosts are even worse then full blown ghosts’ YESSS THANK YOU TEAL
If someone ghosts you ( without any explanation), you don't need closure from them. You need to red rid of them pronto! It doesnt matter why they ghost you. Btw. Ghosters ghost other people too, it's a habit. Once they do it, they are showing you that they are incapable of any healthy friendships, relationships , families. Think of them as dead. Dive deep into the pain they cause you and connect that pain directly to that person, so that your whole body hurts when you see them or hear from them. This way you will stay away from them forever. When the person later comes back (they all do) ,you'll never see them as a lovable person again, you see them as the person that created this pain and needs to be avoided !. Its a scarry ghost from the past. It's not your fault if other people are shitty! Cultivate Self respect for yourself 💫
They all do?
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Not all of them back!! Mine didn’t! Thank god they didn’t! I just consider them not good decent human beings! That’s my closure there😇😉. I don’t really care why they ghosted me!
I ghosted someone that would ignore me when they pleased and expected me to be okay with it. I finally gave them a taste of their own medicine because they love to play the victim. I'm just done playing games. I would never ghost someone who respects my time and listens well.
@Tyler Durden Karma isn't revenge
@Tyler Durden To find delight in someone's downfall isn't exactly good karma either.
Me Too
If a person cant listen, hear or make any room for the other, & pointing this out makes them angry & hateful, the ghost may just be avoiding an abusive dynamic & its endless conflict. If you're tired of talking to a wall & hearing the ssisst of gas lights in response, stopping the dialogue is a blessed relief. It isn't being a ghost but being alive again. 🌻
@@lizafield9002 yes, thanks for your comment, that was me, after 2.5 yrs of not being able to have discussion or resolve & being ghosted time and time again, I ended r/ship, said so face to face as best as possible, made it clear in person, then decided 'no contact' was best. Not even to get back my stuff that was pinched. 2 yrs later I've considered 'making amends' I'd have to say the universe/god is directing otherwise.
My best friend for 20 years sort of ghosted me 1.5 months ago. I tried to talk, she didn't seem interested, responded very professionally. So I left it. I feel grateful for the 20 years of amazing friendship we had and I hope she lives happily
I think friendships can its course at a certain period
@@dontbelongherefromanother Yeah, just like romantic relationships, a lot of friendships don't last for your whole life.
@Krazy WhiteBoy So sorry to hear that.
you are so mature and its her loss honestly.
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She missed the number one reason why people ghost you. It's very easy for them to find someone more fun these days. This is especially true if this person is very attractive. Basically, you have to keep giving them their high to keep them, and that gets harder to do as the relationship ages. A new boyfriend or girlfriend is more stimulating and exciting. Basically, they are facing a kind of addiction. We have created the most superficial society that has ever existed. This makes some people grow ever more desperate to find a real connection, leading to all sorts of mental issues.
My best friend since 7th grade ghosted me two years ago out of the blue. We had hung out a few weeks before without issue. At first, I thought they were overwhelmed with work or family. However, pictures they posted on social media proved otherwise. Just hanging out without me. I took them off my page and deleted their number. They never got back to me to this day.
Though I can say, looking back, they were a big partier and I was never into the clubbing scene. They always seemed annoyed at how “prudish” I seemed. I’m a homebody and don’t enjoy casual relationships. So I think they probably just didn’t find me fun anymore.
Sometimes, people ghost for very superficial reasons. It’s fine if it’s due to toxicity or abuse, but when it’s a friend of 10+ years, I think you owe that person, at least, a common courtesy. If they can’t accept it, then block them.
Sometimes people ghost because they just dont care how the other person feels.... and we may want answers but that’s enough for me to carry on
Well said! He does not care at all and never did.
Sometimes no response is the response
Very true!!!!
I read something along the lines of....."The Universe is doing you a favour by taking out the trash"!!!
I am going through this now and it is one of the most trying experiences of my life
Ghosting is pure cowardice. There is no excuse to cause another person this sort of emotional turmoil.
Agreed. I'm going through it myself now. A month of massive and great communication with someone on a daily basis and then it was just abruptly over. I feel dumb cause it's not like we were dating or anything. But honestly, I'm insanely hurt by it.
@@mattramos5822 Ghosting is a challenging feat to accomplish. I found out that my gf of almost a year, friends with her for 2 years prior to our relationship; had another boyfriend. He confronted me with proof, there was no fighting, I was just thankful. I ghosted her, ignored/deleted all her voicemails and texts without reading or listening. I’ve ghosted both relationships when I got cheated on. Not to be mean, but because I’m not asking why they cheated so I don’t care about an explanation from them. Both women I was in a relationship with possibly never discovered that I found out they were cheating. No closure, the unknown is unimaginable. Me walking away and leaving them unable to have closure… is much harder to accomplish.
I'm sorry that you went through that
I ghosted someone once, I have never been more ashamed in my life,
Your a human to feel like that, not many of us left
well at least you admit your wrong and know not to harm again.
Guilt is the price of a good conscience.
Apologize to them and make it right for them and also you. You don't have to be friends, don't promise things you can't keep up, but you can say 'I am sorry, I don't like the person I was that day, I hope it didn't hurt you, I have grown and I hope you forgive the person I was' Be Blessed
unghost this person
I got ghosted today. It's painful.
I was intermittently ghosted by a Girl for 7 years. It destroyed my confidence with women, and weirdly when she broke contact. kept bringing up the pain of my mothers death when I was 12. I can't believe people can be that cruel.
I'm sorry that happened to you, i hope you found someone better :)
Its her she's sick. Its not you pal the fault isn’t yours
Sorry about that, some people suck.
Yeah she’s a terrible person, I’m so sorry! Prob bringing up ur mom to distract from their actions. Shameless. Gross.
Principally, I personally believe that communication is key to any type of relationship. With that principle ingrained in me, it is impossible for me to ghost anyone. I have been ghosted and because of my belief, It was the most confusing and horrible feeling I went though. I have had many a conversation with my friends about ghosting and most of them support it because of today's social norms. I was utterly disgusted at that knowledge. I will never support ghosting. I will never be that cowardly nor will I promote it.
Same unless I am straight up being abused even then I would give them some closure
I’m with you
The trauma isn't just from being ghosted, but being ghosted repeatedly by different people. That's when you REALLY start wondering what's wrong with you. Over the years, after being ghosted by dozens of women, I've come to realize that a lot of people want to be charmed and mesmerized from the get-go, instead of learning to peel back the layers and build a connection. I have literally been unmatched for saying 'hi, how's your day going' because it's too boring, and the other person wanted me to dazzle them with some ridiculous opening line, and they want me to keep entertaining them with joke after joke, anecdote after anecdote. Once I keep quiet because I want to hear from them, they withdraw. It a sign someone is looking for thrills and distractions. They're not seeking real connection because they don't have the capacity to be authentic. Everything is a show, and they're afraid to let you see the real person, because there's so little of it inside.
Or maybe they don’t let you in because you’re judgmental.
@@hofhofandaway perhaps you're right. Truth is, I'll never know, because some people literally unmatch at the first message. But if I'm the only person trying to reach out, any attempt at building a relationship is doomed either way.
It could be that you are looking in the wrong place for the right person.
@@SuzannaKiraly you're most probably right. I wouldn't know where the right places are unfortunately.
I JUST GOT GHOSTED AFTER TELLING SOMEONE I WANT TO BUILD A CONNECTION BEFORE RUSHING INTO ALL THE ROMANTIC LOVEY STUFF THAT WAS BEING SHOWERED ON ME SUDDENLY AND OUT OF CONTEXT TO WHERE THE RELATIONSHIP WAS. ROMANTIC STUFF THAT WOULD MELT AN ICE QUEEN - COMING FROM AN ESTABLISHED LOVER. EMOTIONAL WHIPLASH. AS STRONG AND AS AWARE AS I AM - IT TOTALLY THREW ME OFF BALANCE. BOTH THE LOVE BOMBING ND THE GHOSTING.
To all who read this, you are loved,
You are appreciated,
You are Divine,
Never forget you have the power within to Change and shift your life. There is a version of you right now in a different reality smashing it ⭐⚡💫
You are not your toxic relationships, addictions or flaws, raise your frequency and your life will Dramatically change for the better 🙏
I just done a video on this for those who are Ready for it 💜
If your reading this then that is a Sign that you are 🔮
The one who Ghosted you wasnt good enough for you, its a blessing in Disguise 🙏
Nice..tnx.. you are Loved and Appreciated too... although i hope Myself is smashing it it in all realities..or learning and experiencing to be ever more better :D
Be Blessed )o(
P.s: ...as a another witch ( male thou ).. will check out your video or two after teal ;)
P.p.s: ...seeing titles to some of your videos... yuuup..been there done that.. ( tibetan Demoness .. ) xD
@@DreamskyDance Awesome. Thank you 🙏💜 Ah wow, well I'm sure you will definitely relate then!
Thank you darling ... this is just what i needed to hear at this moment ... much love 2 you ...
Thank you 🙏🏾
I knew a guy who ghosted me out of nowhere over and over again, and when I finally did the same he accused me of being cold hearted and mean, like what the hell???
If someone ghosts you, ghost them.
Yes, that is what I'm doing now.
Yes , match their energies!
It means u gave them wat they need
@@ok-sv3iu no it doesn't.
What if you ghost someone but becasue of their behavior towards you being was flaky, impolite, disrespectful, inmature and cold?
Just cut off that energy, no explanation needed to that type of people
also some people just don't deserve an explanation
This is tricky because I have been in both situation.
There have been situation that people were rude and didn't want to change, no matter how I treated them. In that case ghosting them is the way to go for sure.
But I also have been ghosted just because the other person was either too avoidant of conflict, or plainly because they assumed intentions I didn't had.
I think one need to be honest about the reasons they ghost. Trying to come to common points NEVER worked for me with these people.
No.
Ghosting is never ok.
Now, in some (rather rare) situations, a genuine dialogue is impossible. And in those rate situations it can be appropriate to send a final message explaining your thoughts, and the reasons you have for exiting the interaction... And then blocking that person.
But "ghosting"... That is, having a good interaction, and then suddenly failing to respond altogether... Is never ok.
Mature humans, male and female, voice their issues, and give the other person a chance to 1. Respond if clarification or correction is needed and 2. Have closure, to understand why you are existing all communication. Or even greatly changing the relationship, say, from romance to friendship (aka friendzoning)
Don't be cowardly or immature.
Be an adult.
I mean Id they have been really close for a while it is better to tell them
And who knows what theg say about you thats negative, or what you do, if you ghost maybe they are nervous to see u often in fear
They did it once, they will do it again. It becomes a cycle. After they do it to you once, it is your task to break the cycle and not engage in anything with them. Ghosting is so disrespectful and yet it has become so common thanks to technology. But I agree with you that ghosting has existed from the beginning of mankind.
100%
Being ghosted is an interesting life lesson to learn. The first time it happened it was gut wrenching, it made me rethink my self worth. My thoughts would spiral out of control and it magnified all the negative beliefs I had about myself. What helped me through it was going jogging or doing calisthenics, it helped process my emotions and made me feel more in control of my life. I never got angry when I got ghosted, but always blamed myself for not being valuable enough. I mean at least it is good fuel for working out. Now when they ghost I let it go, assume they have found someone else and mentally wish them well. And indeed later on I find out they did find someone else, but I'm happy for them. Idk I guess when you get older it's easier to let go. That or I'm just content living on my own.
Thank you so much. I got ghosted from a “relationship” several months ago. It has truly cause the most emotional pain and confusion that I have ever been in my life. It did force me into healing and doing a lot of completion process, but still hurts. Thank you for putting into words what source has taught me intuitively over the last few months. Thank you infinitely to all the awareness you and everyone brings. It is appreciated beyond words 🙏❤️✌️🌈
Joel Kenney You didn’t deserve that. It’s happened to me a lot, and it’s so painful. I hope you’re okay and realize the person who ghosted you is a total asshole.
Sounds like you’ve made it thru the dark days, good for you. I hope in time when you think back to that person you see them clearly, as a weak character...or an asshole like tosca here said! Haha 😆
if you actually liked the person who ghosted you, then they're probably not an asshole unless you're the type of person who likes assholes. anyway, you can still hold them in some reasonable regard as a flawed human being with issues to work on, away from you, and that they couldn't express to you, because not everyone can express things in words. words aren't that efficient. and life is more complicated than any of this. anyway, good luck, you're a reasonably pleasant person, but probably a bit too bubbly, and maybe you seem like the kind of person who has enough friends not to notice one missing. (marijuana is good for healing ghosting type social pain, no one will ever tell you but is true)
Infinity Reaper Well, I have looked at the reasons and totally recognize unhealed aspects of people’s behavior. Kind of interesting that you would say that I am too bubbly or any other things about what could be me. Also very synchronic that you typed this message as I finished writing a poem about healing from the pain and it being a path to more awareness of my own wounds and what is my authentic self.
My loving heart once shattered,
When I didn’t think it could break,
I picked up the pieces scattered,
Endured and healed from the pain,
9 times over I let you go,
13 times my heart said trust in you,
4 times I questioned all I know,
7 times I surrendered to the flow,
Three thousand, two hundred seventy six,
Reasons to love and simply exist,
One eighty nine trips in the sky,
Practicing for when we can fly,
Let it all fall,
Let it all fall,
See the reasons for it all,
Looked under the skin,
Peeled back the bark,
Saw what was within,
Sought to understand the spark,
Repeat the process,
Layer after layer,
Surface and process,
An answer to a prayer,
What was inside,
Was a reflection of mind,
Only you can break your trance,
Your soul just wants to dance,
Let your true light come though,
It is something only you can do,
Listen quiet to your core,
Follow what your heart and soul yearn for,
The authentic self transcending mind,
Led and leading both ways in time,
All paths do lead to the soul,
No matter which way we roll,
Bringing me forever closer,
To integration of the whole,
Thank you for addressing an abusive relationship
It’s important to recognize the important distinction between between ghosting and no-contact.
No-contact is refusing to no longer subject yourself to another’s abuse,
ghosting is cowardice avoidance of honesty and transparency when someone doesn’t value or respect you.
So very true
Hello I'm so excited my broken 💔💔 relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we leaving and happily together, I got help from a great man he's real and specific 💯
The earliest sign of jealousy is usually that your friend seems withdrawn when things are going well for you. As your life becomes better or your lot increases this can become full blown ghosting 😉
My director did and does this. Luckily for that person I haven't pressed 🤪 the issue. I gave it God. He watches over us all. Give!
Nobody else on youtube helps me heal better than teal. Thank you once again
When rejected don’t spend time thinking about it. Go meet someone new. Do not keep texting ,calling or contacting their friends or family. Just drive on and work on becoming a better person. Work on you...
Trying but it is so difficult when you are drawn to them. After I found out that my wife, who was verbally abusive to me during our marriage, had an affair, I tried to forgive her and work things out, but I was the only one making any effort. So I became more and more distant and I feel that I no longer love her as a wife. We are still technically together but my intention is leaning towards leaving. In the meantime, I met a girl online who was like my twin. We had so much in common and never ran out of things to talk about. She’s in the US and I’m in Canada. But she blocked me at one point when I was overtexting her. She unblocked me after a few days but ignored me. I apologized and we started chatting again. Then after a few days, she blocked me again for no reason as I don’t believe that I was being needy. All I can think of is that she is testing me because we did express a liking for each other. But it just sucks because we had an awesome connection and chatted for hours.
@@tazdrum73 If you are over texting you come off as needy. Needy people are burdensome. Watch some Corey Wayne videos on RUclips. Buy his book and read it. When you’re finished reading it ,read it again 10 to 20 more times. Also start hanging out with your guy Friends. If you don’t have any guy friends then you need to find some. Figure out a new focus in life. Do not make women your focus. When you meet a chick that you’re interested in do not make her your focus or you’ll end up over texting and over pursuing. Never bring up the subject of relationships with a woman. You will scare them away. If they bring it up don’t be excited about it. Force the woman to work in order to lock you down. When a woman calls. Keep your phone conversations short. Really really short. Hi value men don’t have time to chitchat.
@@jeffstone7912 Is there any way that I can redeem myself with the lady who blocked me? I figure that time heals all wounds.
@@tazdrum73 I empathize with you. I'm in the same situation. Guess being vulnerable makes us easy targets for energy vampires. I'm a humanist, I don't agree with 'how to win any girl by saying XXX'. I don't think that creates fulfilling relationships. So what I did was send her a plain old letter by post recapping how the relationship progressed, what I liked about her personality, about our relationship and what I didn't like. Then I proposed what she can do if she agrees with me, and asked her to get in touch with me in case she has a different idea. The day she received the letter, I sent her flowers. Now, I'm waiting for her response but I'm reconciled to her not replying. Learning Spanish, meditating etc so if she does get back, I'm not in a gotcha mood. Many people think of online dating as a ego boost/self service. They don't think of the person at the other end. I think that's what most likely happened to us. We fell in love with ghosts 😊 I wish us both well.
I can’t thank you enough for helping understand this difficult behaviour of “ghosting”
Don't hate the person that ghosted you..instead thank them for helping you grow in your spiritual journey..
Yes that's true 👍
No I’m not going to thank them for being immature.
I am not gonna thank someone who is abusive, because it is "spiritual" and for "growth". You know what else is spiritual not freaking ghosting someone. #NO to new age propaganda.
@@xnellyxs1 what they mean if you can use everything as fuel for personal growth which is valuable
I listened every sentence and stopped after each sentence, think and move on to next sentence, stop, think, next sentence. amazing speech. thanks for this video. helped a lot.
I believe a lot of ghosting happens when one partner has an avoident attachment style (fear of real intimacy) usually because of unhealed childhood trauma - and the other partner has a "need" or pulling attachment style - I was in a twin flame relationship for 2 years and I knew my partner had real intimacy (and other) issues - each time he would come around and admit feelings then bam he would run again - well I cannot live with this any more - twin or not-
I was just ghosted by mine.
There really is no such thing as a twin flame. It was just a trauma bond.
They aren't your twin if they abandoned you
What is a twin flame relationship
Weird then how come ghosting only started when online dating became a thing.
I've been ghosted twice and I didn't care either time. I just figured they lacked the social ineptitude to talk about it.
People who truly care about you will never ghost you. So if being ghosted hurts you, you're either taking it too personal or you need to learn to read people better. Trust their actions, not their words.
A girl can say she loves me 1,000 times, but I won't believe it if she's not excited to see me when we meet up. That's one of many ways to tell
You’re so right! It’s always signs! ALWAYS!
I've ghosted people because I felt either hurt by them (either felt insulted or abandoned etc) or hurt in general (depressed because things arent going well for me, getting in car accident or negative behaviors ashamed about - laziness etc.) When I've felt good about life Ive been more willing to be there for others. I have learned, however, to be there more for others whether or not I feel good and that it will lead to positives for us both.
My sister is ghosting me right now and it's the shittiest behaviour. Why do you guys think this is cool? Why do t you just say something?
I have ghosted a couple of people who I thought were my friends! They hurt me over and over again and I just couldn't take it anymore! I thought it was the right thing to do at the time, but in the long run I am haunted of not letting them know why and creating closure of those friendships! I thought I could just cut them out and forget about them but they show up in my dreams and it drives me insane! Most dreams feel like memories to me, so I am reminded of them constantly! I wish now that I would have explained why because I feel like it's too late to being closure to those connections. I know they didn't care anyway! But it would have helped me cope with the ending of those friendships.
It's not too late. Maybe you should text them and see what happens. Worst case scenario they ghost you back, but you get your closure :)
Sometimes you gotta ghost.
They propbably did care. Also its never to late.
Was ghosted by my buddy many times. Called him out on a text message like suggested here and said thx for the friendship but I'm gone dude. He answered, we spoke and he realized it was a habit being done to family and friends. He was super ashamed and uncomfortable during the whole conversation but he thanked me for calling him out. He teared up. For now it seems that we came to a higher level of friendship through honesty and watching out for each other. Only time will tell what will happen next.
I've ghosted many a friend, and it was most likely due to my childhood programming, like you said, Teal. My mother was chaotic, unstable at times; often I didn't know if we were friendly or not, and I'd have to feel out the room before entering. If I spoke up, saying how I didn't like what she or someone else did, I was mocked, ridiculed, shamed and even rejected.
Like many, speaking up is difficult for people like me, but I'm an adult, not a child anymore --it's now my job to make this machine run right, even if my mother didn't hand any usable instructions down. I've got to ride around in this carriage, not her. I've got to work on relationships and experience life through my eyes, not hers; so fixing this machine is my purpose right now. I don't know how many people I truly left dangling, but I am sorry to them. I wasn't strong enough to tell them how I they made me feel, I didn't know it was something I was allowed to even do.
Don't tell us... Go find those people you hurt and explain yourself to them.
They deserve it.
I feel you. It’s very painful not to be able to say what you want to say.
@@breakingthemasks you assume I am unaware of how to live my life.
Should I root out all my childhood failures for you so you can judge more?
@Alexis Scarbrough - This is absolutely beautiful!!! I'm sure coming 2 this level of consciousness about ur childhood trauma & it's impact is such a breakthru 4 u!! I really commend & honor ur transparency in sharing on this platform. Much success on ur journey of discovery & healing. ❤
💗💗 I'm trying to heal the same patterns rn. Good luck x
Yeah being ghosted hurt so bad it lead me into my spiritual journey 🤕🤘🏾
Same
I’m sorry to hear. I hope your spiritual journey helps you to deal with people who ghosted you
That's great though
My boyfriend of 1.5 years ghosted me 2 weekends in a row. I haven't hear from them since Thursday and it's Saturday.. It hurts. These videos are the only thing helping Me not cry all night long.
Are you okay now? 🥺 my friend ghosted me from 6 April until now and I'm really frustrated 😭 he was text me every day and send me pictures 💔 and suddenly he disappear like ghost 😭😭
Are u ok? 😮
Perhaps why people ghost is probably because they don't know themselves well enough yet, or aren't comfortable within their own bodies. Perhaps shame has a lot to do with it as well. Maybe people are embarrassed about certain aspects of themselves?
You also have to ask what lead to me being ghosted i.e. what made me a vibrational match to said experience? Perhaps we're constantly running away from ourselves which then leads to other people in our external realities "running away" too?
Last year, I came off dating sites because I made a commitment to myself. I simply couldn't commit to someone else because I hadn't committed to myself enough.
Step into your power! Love your self more and more everyday. It doesn't have to happen all at once, just begin the process of doing so and watch your world (reality) change and shift before you!
Much love as always, Teal
Very well said !!
Yes very well said
This is interresting... because we are leaving ourselves. Self-love is key to being loved.
i ghost because i don't want to be emotionally manipulated into staying. i'm a people pleaser and i would just end up going against what i really want
That is very selfish. You need to take responsibility for your self and your own wants and needs and be honest with the person. You can not be "manipulated" unless you want to be.
@@MultiStephanieMarie i'm working on it but it's a long process.
Ghosting behavior is often reflective of deep personal attachment issues. You’ll be forever alone if you can’t grow out of that mindset. Hope this helps.
@@pantsenfuego9986 i had a disorganized attachment style and i have a lot of relationships problems
tash so much the same for myself.
It’s a treacherous road fought by self-sabotage, pain and loneliness.. but it’s also the life path offered only to the beautiful ones, those of us gifted with unusually strong character. Never give in.. learning to love and treat ourselves well liberates us in this life. Blessings friend!
Lol Ghosting is running from responsibility.
No
Yes it is in most situations.
Sometimes, but sometimes is safer.
I agree! 💯
I would like to offer another reason for ghosting: They literally didn't know they were even ghosting you. To some people, picking up where you left off if you happen to cross paths is a normal procedure, and they can't understand why you might want them of all people to show up. And the kicker is if they understand that you do really miss them, either they'll get some revelation that they were important to someone all along and start to open up and make a concerted effort (if they even know how), or they might get terrified and ghost you again, because now they're aware they're partly responsible for your wellbeing. Then, the onus is on them to keep you, rather than you to just happen to be there at the right moment, and they may have never kept anyone around before.
I think the first lesson on ghosting comes from parents. If your mum and dad both work, or if you even just go to school, you've been dumped in an unknown place at probably far too young an age and the people who tell you they love you and will always be there when you call them are rushing out the door while you're crying. If you get in trouble, they're not there to help or explain anything. And at the end of the day they come rushing back, it's all hugs, they act like the whole thing is ok and normal and you continue where you left off. There will be at least a few people who never let go of their "lessons" from that environment.
That's mental illness. Normal and sane people would never behave that way.
@@ultimateoptimist5217 The first couple of lines or so are also just how someone who is neurodivergent might think. Believe it or not, not everyone has an in-built social timer telling them exactly when a relationship is fading and to check on their other friends who aren't in their vicinity. (I've seen stories of this for ADHD.)
As for the rest of it, you're probably right. Attachment or personality disorders or very low self-esteem and so on, it could be any number of (usually repairable) causes or illnesses.
But if that's the case, what was your point in pointing that out? If some people are just this way, imo it's much better to understand where they're coming from, than assume you're being treated badly on purpose or hold grudges. I forget the exact contents of this vid, but I'm pretty sure I shared this because Teal had a focus on the person being ghosted, not whoever's ghosting. So I shared this to offer an extra perspective. Not everyone who ghosts is an abusive scumbag who hurts people intentionally, as lots of comments here profess.
Very good point!
So how are you supposed to drop your kids off at kindergarten on their first day?
"Ghosting " can be a survival strategy for those who hate conflict & narcissists. Shalom
I was ghosted a couple of times while interviewing for a new job. It shocked me that a company would not just send a quick note after an interview to say that they were going forward with another candidate. It just seems to take so little time.
In slovenia companies are ghosting candidates all the time. It is normal
When in doubt, communicate.
MY MOTTO! IF THERE IS NO COMMUNICATION THERE IS NOTHING.
Ghosting is like a huge slap to your face. They think they can come back whenever it's convenient to them. Whenever the one they choose wasn't who they thought. I am too old for games and I won't even accept them as a friend because even friends you can trust. You cannot ever trust a jerk.
Teal working her magic once again it's like she knows exactly what I need in the moment I'm forever grateful Thank You for being the messenger you are ❤
i agree with professionals who say "ghosting has more to do with them than you" because i feel like u kind of explained it towards the end of the video which is when u said they're trying to communicate "i dont have what it takes to be in a relationship with u or anyone" and that does, in fact, say much about them cause they have a fear of some kind and this is their way of avoiding cause it makes it easier for them. people are complex and so are situations lol
If someone pretends he or she is dead, let them be. I had this painful experience early this year and that is what I came to conclusion in the end.
I still don't have the "proper" closure and our last conversation was still "lovely" and "full of passion"; but it happens as what it actually happened. Accept it and move on. No sudden death; no more beating myself up. Life is short. Save my energy and emotion for myself and for those who deserve them.
Oh man I was in a friendship for over a decade with a chronic ghoster and I stayed for the highs that came after days, weeks or even months of lows. This is such an unexpected video, I’m glad we explored. Thanks Teal 💗
So so true!! Finding out why they ghosted you has taught me many life lessons and ive gained self awareness. Rejection and ghosting is so so painful but can be great life lessons!!:) love u teal x
The little wink you did there when you said after a bad break up how easy is it for you to eat and sleep.. you got me there. I'm so glad you exist. Your guidance is literally pulling me out of a dark place right now. Thank you Teal 🙏🏻
It’s way better to be straight up and say “sorry im not into you anymore” because its not true that you are saving the persons feelings if you ghost them. You are making it a trillion times worse for them.
Some ppl can’t handle the truth
@@KBonilla Yes, like Teal said some people will try to murder if you want to abandon them.
you're allowed to be too stressed and nervous to confront someone and just ghost them instead. if you're a social bubbly person who does everything right socially good for you, don't project onto introverts.
I knew IT! I dodge a bullet!! Thank you universal protection!!!
THIS IS MEDICINE FOR MY SOUL. I was almost loosing it
I want to personally thank you teal swan for all of your free advice. I have shared your channel with many people in my family and outside of it. Rather they choose to be open or not I still feel your channel is highly valuable. I just want to say thank you again and I hope you have a great week! Peace and love :-)
I ghost people when i feel overwhelmed, and/or a lot of people want things from me. Working on it though, now they get a small message that i can't respond right now.
Just say to them what you said here.
I feel you! And i think thats a great step thats awesome
@Richard Watson Yea no, my messages won't be more than "feel bad, can't talk". My friends know anyway.
Good for you I’m doing the same on my end and it gets easier trust me is Worth it in the long run
What weak people in this thread.
It takes no effort at all to explain that you are overwhelmed and need time to put yourself together.
...but other people's emotions aren't worth you typing 20 words to you... Are they.
You don't deserve partners or friends until you get this much sorted out.
The few Men who GHOSTED me. I was THRILLED! Saved me from making up a reason why I didn't want to see them again. Be happy that they Ghosted you. You got rid of a JERK...and you didn't have lift a finger.
True and nice.
Hahah nice way of looking at it
@@javaman5464 ;
Because adults actually communicate with each other. The “failure” to do so, indicates multiple flaws. Interpersonal, moral, and character, just to name a few.
The Universe loves you Girl
I ghosted an abusive family member... The crazy thing is that they were hurt and devastated and the rest of my family was outraged...
i literally just posted a vlog about this. It's crazy how your own family can hurt you the most!
@@PLVSHR3ACTS way to go!
@@PLVSHR3ACTS Yes. Family can be horrible and abusive and expect loyalty in return..
Did you explain your case to the rest of your family? If they know why you did it they will be more understanding
You do realise home is where the heart is, you'll never psychologically escape your family problems. You have to solve them. Its not about differences, its about loving people no matter what. When my family argue i put differences aside and show them i care. You'll care when you see people dying, you're shocked they have feelings for you. You'll be shocked when you find out you still have feelings for them. I won't say anything more, you got the message its up to you what you do with it. Live life in fear, or learn to love. When people are dying thats when ur ego is gone mate, don't leave it too late. Differences are just splinters, just pull them out and be the hero of your family instead of a fugitive.
Ironically, talking about this brings so many loving people together ❤️
Once they ghosting you.. Leave em for after life.. Coz we don't wanna mess with spirits 🎤😇
What are u talking about no one is getting punished just relax bro
This literally happened to me last weekend. I never even had a conversation with the woman. I think some people play games like this to try and feel good about themselves like hey I got to reject somebody.
It's not hard to figure out. There was something about you she didn't like and didn't want to explain herself. Period. Move on.
I agree. If gives people a sense of control in 1 area of their life when things are out-of-control in other areas. And/or they've been rejected by others in the same area they're rejecting you in so they're making you pay for the others that hurt them that they were unable to get back cuz they were ghosted.
@@Nepthu that is still shitty though. I guess since you have it figured out no need for you to be here watching this video.
Childish.
@@Nepthu No need to be cocky ! Have you ever felt this pain?
The silence saved my life. God bless everyone. Be happy. Its our Devine Birthright. Thank you Teal!! 💜🕊️
Maintain your self-respect.
Couldn’t have said it better. Thank you Teal once again.
I've been ghosted so many times its become my own private joke.
Can't get ghosted if one never dates.
🤔
im really sorry dude
Sorry to hear that ☹🙏
Hell I cut out the middlewoman and ghost myself.
@@stobbinsboy We are proud of you, that is what I call a real Ghostbuster, You are hired
Teal, while watching the video, if I immediately had the chance to look at your eyes, and say thank you, smiling, with love, I would. For now, somebody is just thanking you in the comments for sharing wisdom the best you can from your heart.
I was ghosted by my 2 best friends, 4 years ago today without any explanation, when I was at my most vulnerable moment. This video is a bittersweet coincidence.
I only found closure 2 years later when I asked what had happened.
That moment of abandonment after 7 years of friendship changed me forever. It helped me become a better person and never do to others what was done to me.
What reason did they give?
@@breakingthemasks That basically we had grown apart way too much and they didn't even want to put the effort to to discuss the fact that they didn't think my behaviour was right.
@@GeorgiaVros ... Ouch.
Well... I guess it must have been nice to finally get closure on that.
4 year is a long time though.
I got ghosted last year by my longtime best and closet friend and till this day, I’m still hurting. It’s honestly more painful then when someone has passed away because you know the person chose life without you. I’m still going on and living my life but it hurts every time I think about it, the only thing that helps me is knowing that I deserve better and that God has a better plan for my life
Hello I'm so excited my broken 💔💔 relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we leaving and happily together, I got help from a great man he's real and specific 💯