@@Cloudforest811 u didn't respond to someone because u didn't see their msgs?..well.ofxourse if we can't see a msg we can't respond....if he wasn't msging. U weren't responding....who ghosted who?
Maha Bayoud I actually found a good way to respond after getting ghosted. After the time is up, just say, “ohhh, I just got ghosted. Oh well.” They will take this time to respond back to you, typically in a rude manor. They usually tell you off and lie, they’ll say they were busy and weren’t ghosting you or what ever. And then this is when you get back at them, by turning it around and ghosting them instead. It’s a complete 180 and I’ve had 3 women fall for this same trap in 1 month. I ghost them instead.
Rejection is Gods protection. Ive learned to keep my heart guarded by reading Gods word daily. Rejection brings me much closer to God. Ghosters will always reap what they sow!
@@aleksandrapawluczuk5985 I too was suckered into that Twinflame fantasy. I've never felt so much love and passion...ever. We had an amazing bkessed relationship of which we both agreed God brought our hearts and souks together... Then she just completely vanished without a word.. No calls..texts.... Total silence for the past 37 days. No issues..no arguments Just disgarded me like garbage. I forgive her in my heart being aware of her severe childhood abuse and I have asked God through prayer and supplication to intervene on my behalf to heal my beloved woman of her physical, .mental, emotional psychological and spiritual needs and to give her the peace that surpasses ALL understanding 🙏 ❤ ♥
@@jaiden8102 well from my perspective ghosting means anything relationships do not exist I was dead so I am ghost and so called god aka Jesus Christ from gatekeepers or demons like Jezebel or Lilith alpha and omega and alpha centauri in Hollywood imposes as Jesus and I am the food so he has to pe protected as a Jesus of mother Mary isis and I am being blamed for everything celebrity obsession is imposed and I am being abused and I was attacked by Lilith and reiki i were imposed on me so called union is being imposed that I have to be beaten and laughter at so they can rape dead courses child abuse spread terror government is in it too and police is in it too
If people were just honest, they'd prob would have just told you that they never want to see you again. The real questiin would be: Could you handle the fact that someone doesn't want to see you ever again? Not even in the future? I say you couldn't. IMO no words for their reasons of ghosting are needed, the hypothetical explanations are not rocket science. And the outcome would've been the same, a separation. P. S. : No, I'm not pro ghosting.
I don’t want closure.. because to chase would be to give him more attention.. it hurts.. man it kills 😥 but clearly he wasn’t the one for me.. his loss... chin up levar.. xxx
Levar, I know exactly how you feel. Continue praying though. Maybe you should consider fasting too. But it's ok to feel hurt. Just don't let it consume you. Forgive that person, like truly in your heart. Acknowledge the good qualities in them and the positive emotions they brought out of you. But then realize that someone who cared for you wouldn't do you that way, and get excited about God bringing the right person along who won't ever hurt you like that. Rejection is God's protection! I'm praying for you. 🙏🏽❤
Let them ghost you ladies! I was very hurt getting ghosted by my date just 2 months ago. I did my best to move on ......3 weeks later, I met this man that I am willing to spend rest of my life with. Im so happy! Without my date ghosting me, I would not have met him. So chin up, keep going forward! If he ghosting you he is not the right person on for you xo
Exactly .. the right one for you will not let you go … the universe opens and shuts doors for you if you ask it nicely it will bring the right person into your life while showing the wrong one the door .. don’t invest your emotions too early it takes time to get to know someone’s true intentions and wether they are right for you x
Maybe they were meant to walk away. Let them walk. Never feel a certain way because of their actions. Accept that and be free of your blessing. Maybe God is telling you, they were not meant to be with you in this new growth in your journey. Amen!
That's the way to go. I actually let a friend who ghosted me contact me again, and I thought we could go back to the way things were. Nope. She just pushed me away again. Take it from me - once they dump you, change the lock on your front door.
@@guestguest9395 yep they say I will stay with you thru thick and thin but once shits getting worse they leave you because they only care about themselves she left me while I was on rockbottom and laughed at my face while I was crying
Do not respond. If someone can walk away from you let them walk. Forgive and realize maybe you made a mistake with that person. Don't hate. Just move on quickly. Peace.
GN, there is an awesome video on RUclips on letting someone walk when they walked out on you! It's fabulous as it states, "let them go!" And ever so true, they are doing us a huge favor when they leave. Count your blessings and you can never beat 'garbage that walks itself to the dumpster!' 2
I agree. But "moving on" is relative, it's a process and it's not always easy or up to us, at least in the beginning. I think being ghosted in an established relationship is the worst
I love when you say: "realize that maybe you made a mistake with that person". It is always good to be honest with ourselves too 🙏🏼 forgive everyone involved -included yourself-, and then move on 💜
You dont get ghosted by people who care about you, if you did nothing wrong then yes just close that chapter in your life and move on. We only have limited time on this planet so dont waste a second longer on that ghost......atb x
I've never ghosted a friend, in my life, and never would, I respect people too much. If I didn't like someone, I would tell them straight, that I don't need anymore friends. I'm sorry but people that ghost, are low life parasites, nasty people.
I was ghosted 8 months ago, and it still really hurts me. I've tried to move on but it's hard when you can't get closure. It's one of the worst pains especially when you really trusted the person who ghosts you and now they have become a stranger.
I love how people just throw you the words, "move on" like it's THAT dang easy. Like....... do yall realize the emotional magnitude involved? It's not that easy to just, "move on"...that's such an insult to be honest. How about say time will heal you or something that makes sense. Cuz MOVE ON does not make sense to us right now.
Yeah I know right this happen last year... I currently going through this all over again 😭 I want to talk to someone about it but no over ever seem to understand friends like be just move on but my feeling hurt and are hunting me it's 3am and it's going on day four and I'm up sad... The worst part is in the back of my mind...says maybe something happened like tragically (God forbid) but ...idk how you talk to someone everyday for months and then disappear without word like we didn't have any plans...I'm trying, Ill be ok I ask myself ...what did you learn from this person & you will be ok ...be it still randomly hurts ... when I drive near him house and he would in the middle the city or a place we've been ugh emotions go away!! Lol ...it's kinda of funny because I didn't even like him at first it was his charm & goals oriented mind set that got me... RN my moving on is talking to other people but I still feel I'd rather be with or talking to the guy who ghosted me 💀🤔🧐 I'm a sad case lol It's Weird I think typing this out is for me at that point but I just realized something ...I have a type because the last guy who ghosted me was very similar to this guy goal oriented big plans and currently working on themselves day in and out ...I don't care for a lot of people so when I do its nice to find someone who seems to mesh well with you but rare which was why getting ghosted the first time so hard to deal with. I was thinking I like this guy and I never like anyone my mom has always said I'm too picky but I just have standards ...welp🤷🏾♀️ this help lol 🧘🏽♀️I'm off to Netflix ...
I think the hardest part of being ghosted is the lack of closure. With a break up you have closure. But with this ghosting thing it's extremely cruel and cowardly. I'm grateful for it actually because it's really God's protection. It just makes it hard to trust anyone again 😭😭😭🥺🥺🥺🥺
eric lavel So people are only worth something if they add value to your life? What about every human’s inherent worth given by God? Every person is valuable, whether they add anything to your life or not.
@@KevvoLightswift please let's not go there. Don't be that person. Some people are only in your life to bring you down, or to be a distraction. You know they meant that certain people are not meant to be in your life for a lifetime, and if they walk away to just let them walk. Because they are taking from you and not adding anything.
Ladenna Young I still say every human life has value, whether they give or take from you. It’s not all about you. People will take from you because they are broken. That’s why we don’t put our trust in humanity, but in God, who fills us up. I understand what he meant, but it’s still very selfish. That’s not how we’re called to live as Christians.
I LOVE NUMBER 2 " TO FORGIVE". It's so important to let go of the resentment that comes with ghosting and to understand that it's a sign of their immaturity and not your worth. Too often we women look for a reason we might have caused this when in all actuality the other person just didn't have the strength to tell us straight up that they are not interested. GREAT ADVICE!
When he disappeared without a trace, I felt like the emotional equivalent of being hit by a speeding truck. This is the effect of ghosting to me, It's the most heartless, cruel thing anyone has done to me. And the toughest part? When he ghosted me, I lost not only a potential partner but also , a friend.
Same here. A friend of 5 years. We Reconnected after a 3 year hiatus due to his immaturity. It was a beautiful and redemptive moment of true reconciliation. When we were supposed to meet again he, ghosted me.
I met this girl a few weeks ago I got along with amazingly. After many phone calls and texts I asked if she would like to go on a date. She said yes. After I paid for dinner reservations, theater reservations, and planned everything out, she ghosted me and I winded up waiting in the parking lot of the restaurant for 4 1/2 hours saying to myself “She’s gonna show up, she’s gonna show up.” She didn’t...
I think I just got ghosted and I don’t really know what to do 😩 I had a moment where I couldn’t literally eat or sleep because of overthinking. Hope you guys are doing well!
Just wanted to say, a male friend who was not a Christian ghosted me. He really turned my world upside down.He ghosted me. I was really hurt because i was there for him but abandoned me. Years later i understood why God allowed him to do that. He was inteferring with my growth and destiny. He was also very toxic and plays with my emotions. My loving Father did not want me to suffer anymore in this fruitless situation. I only understood years later. Im thankful this person left. I would of gone down a slippery slop and miss out on Gods best
Getting ghosted happens to me all the time. Only advice I can give is move on and find a better someone. Still haven’t found anyone yet, don’t think I ever will, still hoping for something that seemingly will never come
Hey! So sorry to hear this happened to you:( If you want to share your story about being ghosted, you can fill in our "MTV Ghosted: Love Gone Missing" team. Our email is ghostedtvcasting@gmail.com
Ive been ghosted multiple times...Its LIFE!, at the end of the day "Is anything guaranteed or promised?" NO!...People will be people at the end of the day. We as humans are naturally selfish and self centered at time. Besides in the long run being ghosted on means blessings are on the way. Do you!!!
It’s happened to me... God had to teach me to forgive despite the hurt of the silence & no explication... over time & distance God gave me a different respect for him... though we have never spoken since; 2 yrs later I did receive an unexpected email of sincere apology for the way he treated me. We both have happily moved on with hard lessons learned.
I was ghosted not even 24hrs ago.... and it’s never a fun thing to go through. This happened to me a few years back and I can see already that this time around , I have grown and matured. I’m much more willing to accept what happened and forgive. I’m also not putting an ounce of blame on myself like I did years ago. I realize that I’m not responsible for someone else’s character flaw. The pain we all feel is normal. We were let down by someone that we cared for but being that I’ve gone through this before , I will say the hurt doesn’t last forever. My greatest advice to anyone dealing with this is to allow yourself time to feel every bit of what you’re going through and don’t rush the process. If you need to cry , let it out. If you just need time to yourself then take it. Heal and spend lots of time praying. I promise the pain won’t last forever and better days are ahead.💕 Spend this tome focusing on you and building yourself up to be all that you can be. I promise , you won’t regret it.
@TheGuileRaven is kind of….. ACCURATE! Over a year later and my initial comment was 100% correct. I knew the signs back then when I saw them but honestly it is what it is. I’m in a new relationship now with a man that loves and cherishes me. Hopefully my comment can bring hope to many people that things get better!
@@SM-ju7rj I think it's incredibly intrusive to expect someone respond within 24 hours every time, I really don't blame anyone for being turned off by that.
@TheGuileRaven when someone deletes you from Snapchat, blocks your number and social media then…. I think it’s pretty safe to assume you’ve been ghosted right.? Maybe try asking questions before assuming things next time😂 Either way, lessons are learned and I’m in a much happier space and I genuinely wish this for everyone else.❤️
What I learned from this experience is, it was not the end of my story, but the end of his part in my story. There are certain people in your life for a season, a reason and a lifetime. His season was up. I've forgiven him, and I am at peace. It's a hard lesson learned, but most of all, the Lord has a specific man designed especially for me. I am waiting on his timing, and not my own.
Ghosting is emotional and mental abuse. Don't give someone that power over you, if he/she does that to you that's causing you emotional and mental harm, they are not worth your tears ! You are awesome and amazing and the right person is out there searching for you 💜✌😊
Psalm 34:18 "The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit." Psalm 147:3 "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds."
For a real wake up call, many times people get ghosted because the other person panics because they can't commit, succumb to peer pressure, or are just mean. In 99.44% of the time, it's not the person getting ghosted that is the problem. Remember, you just dodged one big bullet later in life with them. If ghosted, move on, and forget about them. I've been ghosted once in my life, and it took me 3 of my messages to them before I realized I was ghosted. Once I "got it" I moved on.
Thanks for this video Mark! I love all your videos!!! wish I had this almost 3 years ago, but God has shown me a lot through the heartbreak of being ghosted. I can truly say that it was good for me to be afflicted in that way because I would have never gotten close to God. He is definitely near to the brokenhearted. I have finally healed from that situation and learned about forgiveness of others and self. God Bless!
There should be a comprehensive video on exactly what ghosting does to the ghosted. Especially when you’ve been seeing the person for 5-6+ months. It destroyed me and it still hurts like hell years later, and I’ve never had a successful relationship since.
I hope you feel better now and you can laugh over this comment? I have come to realize that with TIME and the right MINDSET, a person will surely get over been ghosted.
This happened to me. Two months talking, praying, doing a bible study, video chatting pretty much daily. To I woke up one evening and blocked me on every social media platform with zero explanation. I agree that it is sin to respond to disinterest or a change of heart in this way. I feel like an explanation could be doing a courtesy-- perhaps the person could learn from it and move forward in better light. And hope God leads so he doesn't do this to another woman. No one should play with someone's heart in general but especially under Jesus' name. Keep praying to forgive. I'm praying for y'all on here who experienced this.
Thanks for sharing this message. Self love is key when your ghosted in any relationship. When you learn your worth and value you can move on with ease. It's their loss not yours, especially, when you've been nothing but loving towards them.
I’ve been ghosted for a month now and at first I was just denying everything and think of other reasons why he’s not talking to me anymore because it’s not that easy for me we’ve been talking for over a year and yet we don’t have any label but we are really comfortable talking everyday. But last night I cried so hard and realized I tried my best and learn to move on and I deserve better than this
As a life long introvert with a very small group of friends, it was especially crushing to be ghosted by my best friend of 20 some years. I was going through a tough time in life, the kind when you find out who really matters and who doesnt. Turns out he didnt. Our friendship was a fair day one and purely transactional. I can see how such experiences can lead people to take drastic measures and thankfully I'm not weak minded. I accepted it and realized it just showed him for what he was and it's probably a blessing I dont waste anymore time on people who arent worth it
My name is Sammy, I asked a girl out in November 2018. She Happily said yes! It took a lot of courage for me to ask her. I've been seeing her for about a year before I asked her. Then on we would text each other. As a little time went on, I stopped hearing from her. I personally went to her again to ask if she wanted to go out, and she said yes again. It's January 29, 2019 now, and I haven't heard from her in 2 weeks. I even texted and told her if she did not want to go out it was totally ok. She did told me that she couldn't see my messages sometimes because of her phone service. I really don't know what's happening, but I just wish the best for her! Most of all I believe God is guiding me, and I'm very happy I saw this video.
Mark you're wisdom is truly amazing. Beautiful teaching that happened to me recently and I just walked away. I think it was insecurity and immaturity on his part. Thankful to God I was able to accept it and move on with no ill feelings. Thank you for this video. God continue to Bless and grow you're ministry dear friend.
I've been ghosted. It was a painful 4 months of silence. No he isn't back but I don't want him to come back. Once you learn to accept that he doesn't like you, it's easy to move on plus I found my worth in the pain and I realised he isn't that special as I thought he was. Such a good feeling
I just realized I was ghosted 2 years by the person I thought was the one for me... Thanks God I got a wake up call to stop waiting for him. It hurts but with God's help I will move on. Great video! ❤️🙏🏻
Got ghosted tons of times just when you think it's going great good convo good common interests, bam never reply again. I knew it wasn't me! These people have a mental problem that's all there is too it.
@@alexislee6825 not really sure tbh 😂 it just happens out of the blue, maybe they met someone better (in their mind) who knows. But the strange thing is I recently watched a video on the behaviour of a woman if they really like you and it says if they like you they don't text as much, but surely if you like someone you'd be all over them 🤷😂😂😂😂 crazyness
@@Jman21UK thanks for input 😊 as a women myself I text a guy I like a good amount (not a crazy amount tho.) I think it depends on the women but I personally rather jus get the relationship going and not play hot and cold
@@alexislee6825 you must be one of the minority then, because most women are like that these days sadly. Also vast majority of men these days are too scared to approach a woman in person for fear of being labelled 'needy' or 'thirsty' crazy times
It is cowardly and you are right, sinful, to ghost someone that was showing all indication of interest towards you. It takes an ungenuine and selfish person to just leave without acknowledging why. I compare it to abandonment...you actually mourn the loss, and grieve deeply. It can be very traumatic for some, and cause issues in future relationships if not addressed correctly. I hurt, but I know my Father loves me and will never forsaken me. Embracing that will help you move forward in a new mindset.
Pray always. It hurts that they can do this but you can survive this. I don't like being played by people and really wish to avoid this trap. Detachment can be a wonderful thing. Praise the Lord I can move on. Keep me free, Lord.
I heard real life sad stories where people suicided because had been ghosted, it is so so terribly sad. The ghoster is wrong, yes they are doing a lot of unforseen damage. They cannot be held accountable either, they are sinning so bad & murdering someone's chances at a life & happiness simply by crushing all of their self esteem. 😏
@@ParuAp not necessarily..dont mean already suicidal .!!.one person can make you feel this hurt heck ya ..my stress is so bad loosing this man , My hair started falling out .i once had really thick hair beautiful and now ..its half thickness..and breaking off easily ,can't control it . high stress can cause a condition like this ..plus I emotionally as a diabetic am suppose to be careful not eating lots of sugar .I was wrong to use food to distract myself from incredible pain . But I did..fir awhile and I now have severe heart disease.due to a test I took and found out results ..so dont ever let any one tell you you, cant literally die of a broken heart. I believe .yes 💔 one certainly can my heart feels dead inside. ..i can't get what plaque already in my arteries out now .no way to do im told by Dr ..I can only stop from getting more by ..changing my whole way of life eating .I eat keto some more now..which is good and fine ..I did before and lost and kept off 50 pounds. But went off when super stressed out .that's when started laying plaque down fast im sure..have no choice but be on aspirin and cholesterol meds rest of life now . if want to stop progress of further heart damages..people can be so callus..become a complete stranger over night . Im 😥😔as can be..still love this severely damaged man ..but im praying fir the lord to help me get over him and move on ..I depend only in christ for my life .and to direct my steps .but still I wonder. Why this man was allowed to step into my life ....??God says man plans his course ,but God directs his steps ..and yet this man did so much damage to me .?.I also thought he would end up being future husband I called my sunshine man .. But now he is the rainstorm in my heart .
@@kimberlychilstrom6888 ~ please recall, if applicable, and ask yourself (ponder silently, no need to mention here, whichever) if you had a sexual/physical relationship with that man? If so, that could be the effect of your emotional stance of hurt, pain, broken heart, pertaining to that man. And it is Not God's Will for us to fornicate, nor commit adultery, nor any sexual immorality. GOD doesn't Will for us to put no one on a pedestal to idolize them. Proof you even called that man your "sunshine," as a term of endearment, but that also, could've been that you idolized him. Perhaps you did it too quickly, making him feel pressured, moving too fast & too soon(?). Men are to find himself a wife, pursue her, and help her feel secure that she is to be his betrothed, ultimately resulting in marriage, a GOD-Centered marriage. You mentioned some health issues that you have (and hopefully you're healed of it all),-- and you sound like you even blame him for your hair issue: But please know that Jesus Christ Is The Healer and Mighty Deliverer, and The Comforter Who Is The Holy Spirit Will Comfort you. Listen, Kimberly, put all your trust in The Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ, and cast all your cares upon Jesus Christ, for He Cares for you, and He Knows that you love deeply, and GOD Will allow the perfect mate/husband for you, at the right time. So, meanwhile, eat healthy as much possible, and seek Jesus Christ to find out who you are In CHRIST JESUS, your identity In Christ, not in someone else. Understand how valuable you are, with humility. Never again idolize anyone, nor allow anyone make you feel so bad, that you literally feel sick, and experience those symptoms (we all live and we learn). And remember, when GOD Blesses you with the mate/husband who deserves you, who will love you, but he will also put GOD, First! ...and that's a good thing! --- Remember, you, also, are to put GOD/JESUS CHRIST, First, and love GOD, More. And things will be in order. But right now, you are to focus on Jesus Christ, and know who He Created you to be, read His Word In The Holy Scriptures. You're more than a conqueror! You're more precious than rubies and pearls, Kimberly! And i pray that GOD Heals all your health issues, and heals your brokenheart. Now is the time to seek Jesus Christ with all your heart and mind and strength, because He Loves you! and He Will for you to have the best! and be Blessed! -- not being in a mess. There's nothing too hard for GOD, call on Him, "In The Name of Jesus Christ." Kimberly, Be Healed, be delivered, and be set free, for whom The Son [Jesus Christ] Sets Free, is free, indeed! --- Kimberly, Believe this! Receive it! And to GOD Be All The Glory, Honour and Praise, In Jesus Christ Name. Let it Be so.
Great perspective and tips! Whomever the Lord may have for someone, and vice-versa, will require 0% begging. As someone once told me, healthy, feasible, (and MATURE) romantic relationships are based on the "3 C's": Character (e.g. "speaking the truth in love"), (mutual) Compatibility, and Chemistry. While I do NOT contend that the "3 C's" represent a Biblical "formula," I do believe there is some practical perspective in this framework. In sum, when one of the 3 C's is missing, no amount of overanalyzing or chasing will make a "ghost-er" re-materialize in one's life. And that's a good thing.
I like your comment Melissa, but my "ghoster" came back 3-4 times. I believe the soul tie is broken now, so he's gone for good. We had chemistry, but he was horrible at communication and character. Each time he came back, he would seem interested and then be gone again, thin air! The last time broke my heart because he stood me up. I was depressed for 1 year and 6 months and started getting up in October. And then he tried to come back again after I started getting up. Nothing but the enemy! God told me to let go, release it and I have and I'm free!!! God is good!
@@nicholehamilton5844 Wow. Thanks so much for sharing your story. It sounds confusing and painful - to have to heal, over, and over again - with this repeat ghoster / experience. While I'm so sorry to hear you experienced all of this turmoil and grief (seriously, it sounds very hard!), it's great that you can identify the enemy's attempts to take you down and out - and the glory of God to set you free from this unhealthy relational cycle. As I trust you know, you are worth being pursued by the right man at the right time. On another note, a verse that comes to mind is Psalm 84:11: “For the LORD God is a sun and shield; the LORD bestows favor and honor. No good thing does he withhold from those who walk uprightly.” Anyway, the Lord IS the ultimate “good thing” and He is giving you His best gifts/blessings (James 1), whatever they look like as you keep in step with the Spirit (Galatians 5). Plus, now you’re open for whatever and whomever the Lord DOES have for you. Way to step away from the enemy’s tricks and walk in the freedom of the truth!
Thank you so much Melissa for your words and the Scriptures. While I have not given up hope that the right one will come, I am trying to focus on Jesus. You are right....as I am being led by the Spirit to do what He would like, the right man will pursue me. God Bless!
@@nicholehamilton5844 my pleasure! I'm glad my message was encouraging to you. :-) I love that you're focusing on Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith (Hebrews 12:2). This seems like a wise move on your part, and one I hope to live out, too, more and more! We are in this faith walk together. God bless you, too! :-)
I cannot really understand random ghosting, I would much rather be told something honest and truthful than not getting a response at all, it just puts more stress on you.
I'd like to add a couple things to this, talk to a trusted friend or group of friends about it. This may help air any grievances and they may empathize with you through previous experiences. Also, just pray about it, God will either give you clarity about what happened or will show you new blessings to help you forget about it.
Ghosting is done by only those who are already dead for us. So guys enjoy your life and let the spirit of this (person) who's ghosting us, Rest In Peace ..!!
My sisters have done this to me and the Holy Spirit told me this because I am saved and set aside. Still hurts but I'm thankful to God for this revelation. Proverbs 17:17 NIV A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. Amen. Stay woke my friends 💖💗💜
Exactly! Amen brother. Thank you for this video. Spot On! Being ghosted hurts plenty. But it is freeing. New year, new decade, time to reset. Cleansing, pruning. Start fresh.
Thank you SO much for this video. I got ghosted this week from another believer which was a hard pill for me to swallow. Using these tips moving forward!
yEs ...I agree! an excellent video on what to do about ghosting. And, "take comfort that God is in your life. Seek the LORD and He will definitely help you move on." Amen.
I would never ghost someone , but I now see this way when it’s done to me-- thank you for ghosting me! I’m grateful because they have shown the fruits of their character. It’s sour and bitter-sweet way of sitting down so I can SEE the real MAN behind them.
Came here due to the title, I'm seperated, single and celibate by choice dedicated to God. To clarify 'Ghosting' is different from 'no contact'. Ghosting is a cruel tactic that indicates someone is using you e.g. now you see me, now you don't, now you see me etc. They are around you either to see if you are real as something may have offended them OR to use you until they find another supply. Although some people leave long periods of ignoring you as a way to hurt you, so you are elated when they suck you back in. No contact is different, it's completely exiting a relationship, this is usually the last resort for people who realise they are being manipulated or abused. Cut your losses and run, otherwise you can drain years of your life in tears and pain hoping that the leopard can change its spots. See narcissistic abuse. Jesus loves you.
I was ghosted a year ago and I just am having the hardest time with it still. Probably because I specifically told him I was worried he'd do just that. And then he did.
I think if someone gives a reason for wanting to disconnect with you whether it's location based or they thought the compatibility was off, these are acceptable reasons for them to move on. A successful marriage requires more than just emotional or physical connection. It has to be in Gods will for you life and so much more. I think the key is to date or relate with a guarded heart and a secure mind in Gods word. I believe God often lets us go through these things because he wants us to see the idols in heart or heal us from past wounds and wrong beliefs we have about ourselves. And when you end up married to the person God has for you, your gonna be thankful for all the people who ghosted you and didn't work out with, God was protecting you for the best.
Your channel is such a blessing. So many times I click on your videos and God just reminds me of all these promises He has for me that's so easy to lose focus of in my hurt and often times confusion, and it's such a comfort. Thank you for being a vessel! God bless you and your family! May the Lord use you even more!
I've saw a lot of videos, and this is one is the best one, really, these are a simple way to letting go of a person who's doesn't care about us in the same way, making us not to hate a person who's done this awful behavior, but to accept that things changes, and there's no one to blame, I always blame myself for the people that gets away from my life, and this is different kind of suicide, that kills me everyday. I recently have the knowledge that God have a unique plan for my life, so I'll keep my faith, there's someone out there for everyone.
Great informative video. I hope people who choose to use 'ghosting' as a way of walking away would see this video. Thankfully, you have taught viewers how to heal after being ghosted ! Bless you !!! I know a ghost !!!👻🙄👻
Im not religious but damn you guys have a good outlook on things. Thanks for helping me not feel like there's something wrong with me. I went on 5 or 6 dates over a month with this young woman and out of no where got completely ghosted. Its a real mind fuck. Angry, sad, ashamed as if I'm not good enough to warrant a response telling me why. It's just been eating me up for the past few days and this video helped. Thanks man.
Totally agree and I’d add to do the same thing when asked for a hiatus : If a gal needs time , she gets eternity If she needs space , she get all of outer space . God didn’t make junk , have some self respect .
“The biggest coward is a man who awakens a woman's love without the intention of loving her” -Bob Marley.
Simps.
That's a good quote, never heard it before.
So true
And vice versa. Women do the same thing to men. All the time.
dont agree, I am ghosting these bitches because I like this. in the past i cried many many times because of girls, now it is mine time. regards
Thank God for Ghosting!! It just shows that person's true character and confirms they are not the one for you. Yes, forgive them and keep it moving!
Indeed!
💯
Indeed!
so basicaly all ppl i meet are trash,thank you.
@@Cloudforest811 u didn't respond to someone because u didn't see their msgs?..well.ofxourse if we can't see a msg we can't respond....if he wasn't msging. U weren't responding....who ghosted who?
=Don't blame your self.
=Forgive them for their immaturity.
=stop chasing...accept...stop mourning.
Maha Bayoud I actually found a good way to respond after getting ghosted. After the time is up, just say, “ohhh, I just got ghosted. Oh well.” They will take this time to respond back to you, typically in a rude manor. They usually tell you off and lie, they’ll say they were busy and weren’t ghosting you or what ever. And then this is when you get back at them, by turning it around and ghosting them instead. It’s a complete 180 and I’ve had 3 women fall for this same trap in 1 month. I ghost them instead.
sdaftermath123 nah, don wait till they respond just say that “ohhh so I got ghosted” than block them.
Forgiveness is the only way to set your heart and soul free. Even if they don't ask for.
Just forgive and move on.
*mourning
@@pladimir_vutin thx
Rejection is Gods protection. Ive learned to keep my heart guarded by reading Gods word daily. Rejection brings me much closer to God. Ghosters will always reap what they sow!
Omg girl....I love what you said because I'm doing the exact same thing now.
I guess there is purpose in pain 😔 .
Not really?
Exactly
Shit, well gods a fucking dick
Ghosting is a blessing in disguise to one that got ghosted. God is trying to save and protect you from an evil being.
I was dead so what that means I am not interested in that nonsense so called twin flame fake love story to get you pregnant and make you duffer
@@aleksandrapawluczuk5985 I too was suckered into that Twinflame fantasy.
I've never felt so much love and passion...ever.
We had an amazing bkessed relationship of which we both agreed God brought our hearts and souks together...
Then she just completely vanished without a word..
No calls..texts....
Total silence for the past 37 days.
No issues..no arguments
Just disgarded me like garbage.
I forgive her in my heart being aware of her severe childhood abuse and I have asked God through prayer and supplication to intervene on my behalf to heal my beloved woman of her physical, .mental, emotional psychological and spiritual needs and to give her the peace that surpasses ALL understanding 🙏 ❤ ♥
I don't know why but I totally agree with you
@@jaiden8102 well from my perspective ghosting means anything relationships do not exist I was dead so I am ghost and so called god aka Jesus Christ from gatekeepers or demons like Jezebel or Lilith alpha and omega and alpha centauri in Hollywood imposes as Jesus and I am the food so he has to pe protected as a Jesus of mother Mary isis and I am being blamed for everything celebrity obsession is imposed and I am being abused and I was attacked by Lilith and reiki i were imposed on me so called union is being imposed that I have to be beaten and laughter at so they can rape dead courses child abuse spread terror government is in it too and police is in it too
@@jaiden8102 wel this is scapegoating contest of abuse aka Holt trinity means syrius a dog's not b
Being ghosted is awful 😞. I wish people could just be honest
Lauren L 😔true
Yeah letrally it's just such sneaky act and has pissed me off 😂😂
True. Why can't they be honest? Really cannot understand them.
If people were just honest, they'd prob would have just told you that they never want to see you again.
The real questiin would be: Could you handle the fact that someone doesn't want to see you ever again? Not even in the future? I say you couldn't.
IMO no words for their reasons of ghosting are needed, the hypothetical explanations are not rocket science.
And the outcome would've been the same, a separation.
P. S. : No, I'm not pro ghosting.
Me too 😞
I only need one line he said, STOP WASTING EMOTIONAL ENERGY TOWARDS THIS PERSON
YESSS ME TOO
Sameeeee
SAME HERE
Amen!
It hurts. It's so brutal. I've prayed and prayed to move on. It just hasn't helped.
Forgive and realize they are cowards
I don’t want closure.. because to chase would be to give him more attention.. it hurts.. man it kills 😥 but clearly he wasn’t the one for me.. his loss... chin up levar.. xxx
Levar, I know exactly how you feel. Continue praying though. Maybe you should consider fasting too. But it's ok to feel hurt. Just don't let it consume you. Forgive that person, like truly in your heart. Acknowledge the good qualities in them and the positive emotions they brought out of you. But then realize that someone who cared for you wouldn't do you that way, and get excited about God bringing the right person along who won't ever hurt you like that. Rejection is God's protection! I'm praying for you. 🙏🏽❤
Time will help don't worry
So sorry. I hope everything is better for you now
Let them ghost you ladies! I was very hurt getting ghosted by my date just 2 months ago. I did my best to move on ......3 weeks later, I met this man that I am willing to spend rest of my life with. Im so happy! Without my date ghosting me, I would not have met him. So chin up, keep going forward! If he ghosting you he is not the right person on for you xo
lehua16 Thank you!🙌🏼
Wow! That’s literally my story too 🙌👏👏
Exactly .. the right one for you will not let you go … the universe opens and shuts doors for you if you ask it nicely it will bring the right person into your life while showing the wrong one the door .. don’t invest your emotions too early it takes time to get to know someone’s true intentions and wether they are right for you x
You’re still w your man?
Hopefully the new guy don’t ghost! You just don’t know with anybody these days!
Maybe they were meant to walk away. Let them walk. Never feel a certain way because of their actions. Accept that and be free of your blessing. Maybe God is telling you, they were not meant to be with you in this new growth in your journey. Amen!
Amen!
Bless you. ❤
Amen🙌🏽
Totally true
AMEN!🙏
If a man ghosts me he better make sure he made the right decision because he can never come back. I don't go backward. I only go forward.
thanks now im gonna go drink bleach
@@user-rc2ev6cl7u Uhhhh why would you do that?
Same. I have never taken someone back who left me.
That's the way to go. I actually let a friend who ghosted me contact me again, and I thought we could go back to the way things were. Nope. She just pushed me away again. Take it from me - once they dump you, change the lock on your front door.
“I was so busy” is never an excuse.
This is what happen to me and then she ghosted me for no reason .
@@guestguest9395 give up on these hoes there is no right one bro
@@gug8231 Yep hoes are temporary
@@guestguest9395 yep they say I will stay with you thru thick and thin but once shits getting worse they leave you because they only care about themselves she left me while I was on rockbottom and laughed at my face while I was crying
@@gug8231 holy hell bro, many saddistic whores in this world, may she rot in hell, peace to you bro
Getting ghosted is a good time for self reflection. Then move on.
true
Do not respond. If someone can walk away from you let them walk. Forgive and realize maybe you made a mistake with that person. Don't hate. Just move on quickly. Peace.
GN, there is an awesome video on RUclips on letting someone walk when they walked out on you! It's fabulous as it states, "let them go!" And ever so true, they are doing us a huge favor when they leave. Count your blessings and you can never beat 'garbage that walks itself to the dumpster!' 2
I agree. But "moving on" is relative, it's a process and it's not always easy or up to us, at least in the beginning. I think being ghosted in an established relationship is the worst
I love when you say: "realize that maybe you made a mistake with that person". It is always good to be honest with ourselves too 🙏🏼 forgive everyone involved -included yourself-, and then move on 💜
You dont get ghosted by people who care about you, if you did nothing wrong then yes just close that chapter in your life and move on. We only have limited time on this planet so dont waste a second longer on that ghost......atb x
Especially a so called holy ghost 😆
Thank you
I've never ghosted a friend, in my life, and never would, I respect people too much. If I didn't like someone, I would tell them straight, that I don't need anymore friends. I'm sorry but people that ghost, are low life parasites, nasty people.
I was ghosted 8 months ago, and it still really hurts me. I've tried to move on but it's hard when you can't get closure. It's one of the worst pains especially when you really trusted the person who ghosts you and now they have become a stranger.
It’s gonna keep hurting if u keep thinking about it try to forget and distract urseld
Sad
@Lazarus II You right
What's so important about closure?
Ask God to remove him from your heart.
the moment you realize the comment section has even more great tips
I stopped the video in between and start reading only comments
I love how people just throw you the words, "move on" like it's THAT dang easy. Like....... do yall realize the emotional magnitude involved? It's not that easy to just, "move on"...that's such an insult to be honest. How about say time will heal you or something that makes sense. Cuz MOVE ON does not make sense to us right now.
God!!!!! Thank you so much!.. it's been a month now. He ghosted me after a fight.. we were planning on an engagement date.. he broke me
Yeah I know right this happen last year... I currently going through this all over again 😭 I want to talk to someone about it but no over ever seem to understand friends like be just move on but my feeling hurt and are hunting me it's 3am and it's going on day four and I'm up sad... The worst part is in the back of my mind...says maybe something happened like tragically (God forbid) but ...idk how you talk to someone everyday for months and then disappear without word like we didn't have any plans...I'm trying, Ill be ok I ask myself ...what did you learn from this person & you will be ok ...be it still randomly hurts ... when I drive near him house and he would in the middle the city or a place we've been ugh emotions go away!! Lol ...it's kinda of funny because I didn't even like him at first it was his charm & goals oriented mind set that got me... RN my moving on is talking to other people but I still feel I'd rather be with or talking to the guy who ghosted me 💀🤔🧐 I'm a sad case lol
It's Weird I think typing this out is for me at that point but I just realized something ...I have a type because the last guy who ghosted me was very similar to this guy goal oriented big plans and currently working on themselves day in and out ...I don't care for a lot of people so when I do its nice to find someone who seems to mesh well with you but rare which was why getting ghosted the first time so hard to deal with. I was thinking I like this guy and I never like anyone my mom has always said I'm too picky but I just have standards ...welp🤷🏾♀️ this help lol 🧘🏽♀️I'm off to Netflix ...
Right
I think the hardest part of being ghosted is the lack of closure. With a break up you have closure. But with this ghosting thing it's extremely cruel and cowardly. I'm grateful for it actually because it's really God's protection. It just makes it hard to trust anyone again 😭😭😭🥺🥺🥺🥺
It's very painful, it's easier said than done
This person no longer has any value for you. Ghost them and move on, making new friendships
with people who bring something positive to your life.
eric lavel So people are only worth something if they add value to your life? What about every human’s inherent worth given by God? Every person is valuable, whether they add anything to your life or not.
@@KevvoLightswift please let's not go there. Don't be that person. Some people are only in your life to bring you down, or to be a distraction. You know they meant that certain people are not meant to be in your life for a lifetime, and if they walk away to just let them walk. Because they are taking from you and not adding anything.
Ladenna Young I still say every human life has value, whether they give or take from you. It’s not all about you. People will take from you because they are broken. That’s why we don’t put our trust in humanity, but in God, who fills us up.
I understand what he meant, but it’s still very selfish. That’s not how we’re called to live as Christians.
Forgive them and move on ,Ghosters are cowards...
Amen brother they are!
Don’t stress too long. It’s horrible for your heart. Plenty of great people out there
I LOVE NUMBER 2 " TO FORGIVE". It's so important to let go of the resentment that comes with ghosting and to understand that it's a sign of their immaturity and not your worth. Too often we women look for a reason we might have caused this when in all actuality the other person just didn't have the strength to tell us straight up that they are not interested. GREAT ADVICE!
Forgive and then forget. Move on to more respectful and genuine people/relationships.
There's no response necessary. It's about them. Now you know. They aren't worth your time.
Are you the Michael Jackson? Lol!
Thanks....MJ? hee hee
When he disappeared without a trace, I felt like the emotional equivalent of being hit by a speeding truck. This is the effect of ghosting to me, It's the most heartless, cruel thing anyone has done to me. And the toughest part? When he ghosted me, I lost not only a potential partner but also , a friend.
Same here. A friend of 5 years. We Reconnected after a 3 year hiatus due to his immaturity. It was a beautiful and redemptive moment of true reconciliation. When we were supposed to meet again he, ghosted me.
I met this girl a few weeks ago I got along with amazingly. After many phone calls and texts I asked if she would like to go on a date. She said yes. After I paid for dinner reservations, theater reservations, and planned everything out, she ghosted me and I winded up waiting in the parking lot of the restaurant for 4 1/2 hours saying to myself “She’s gonna show up, she’s gonna show up.” She didn’t...
Damn that’s cold.. sorry dude.
That’s trash behavior on her part!
That is a terrible way to treat you. I would suggest meeting someone new for a short meeting on the first in person experience. Best of luck
😔 just wrong on all levels...
She was a catfish
I think I just got ghosted and I don’t really know what to do 😩 I had a moment where I couldn’t literally eat or sleep because of overthinking. Hope you guys are doing well!
"i ain't 'fraid of no ghost". The only ghost worth anything is the holy ghost.
Holy Ghost*
🤣🤣🤣🤣 I like that!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
BOOOOOM! 😂
Just wanted to say, a male friend who was not a Christian ghosted me. He really turned my world upside down.He ghosted me. I was really hurt because i was there for him but abandoned me. Years later i understood why God allowed him to do that. He was inteferring with my growth and destiny. He was also very toxic and plays with my emotions. My loving Father did not want me to suffer anymore in this fruitless situation. I only understood years later. Im thankful this person left. I would of gone down a slippery slop and miss out on Gods best
Sorta me too
The first ghost always hurts the most
Brother, you upload right on time. It's like God is telling you what I'm going through. Praise God.
Amen, I'm so glad the Lord used this right on time for you!
Stay strong
This happens in friendship as well. Felt really disrespected and un-appreciated. It was time to move on.
same here bro, this video really helped me!!❤
When Someone Shows You Who They Truly Are, Believe Them The First Time, and Concentrate on Yourself for a Change.
‘ I accept your ghosting as a sin towards me and I forgive u. ‘
I like it
Don’t take it personal! It’s a reflection of THEM not YOU!
Meaningless platitude.
I've been ghosted not long ago. Thank you Lord for leading me to this wonderful mans video.
Amen! It's a really good video!
Getting ghosted happens to me all the time. Only advice I can give is move on and find a better someone. Still haven’t found anyone yet, don’t think I ever will, still hoping for something that seemingly will never come
Seems it’s more common these days especially
Your person will come, just give it time and patience.
it will come ..
When u gave her love and affection and all she gave u sadness and depression
All Woman wants drama and attention..
Bro i know. ITS hard. I began to Work out and Focus on myself. Sometimes i Go Back and feel Bad, but Go on.
I can relate. The genders were opposite in my case but the heartbreak and hurt was real.
@@emerphillicuanan1545 incel
He got me pregnant and ghosted me. I have never felt so much shame and desperate.
Hey! So sorry to hear this happened to you:( If you want to share your story about being ghosted, you can fill in our "MTV Ghosted: Love Gone Missing" team. Our email is ghostedtvcasting@gmail.com
I am really sorry that happened to you. Take care of yourself. I'll pray for you
He is a piece of crap not a real man he is a boy.
Shit human being!
Very difficult situation !
It's actually good that these people "ghost" as it shows their true character. Avoid these kind of people.
Thank you for this lesson. I was wrapped up in my hurt and forgetting that forgiveness is important and leading with love. 🥰
Ive been ghosted multiple times...Its LIFE!, at the end of the day "Is anything guaranteed or promised?" NO!...People will be people at the end of the day. We as humans are naturally selfish and self centered at time. Besides in the long run being ghosted on means blessings are on the way. Do you!!!
It’s happened to me... God had to teach me to forgive despite the hurt of the silence & no explication... over time & distance God gave me a different respect for him... though we have never spoken since; 2 yrs later I did receive an unexpected email of sincere apology for the way he treated me. We both have happily moved on with hard lessons learned.
JAYLON NEELY ... it’s Never to late to find New Happiness now!!! It’s God’s Grace helps us through the healing process.
That's a great testimony. You were able to put closure to it and move on with no ill feelings what a Blessing. :-)
I was ghosted not even 24hrs ago.... and it’s never a fun thing to go through.
This happened to me a few years back and I can see already that this time around , I have grown and matured. I’m much more willing to accept what happened and forgive. I’m also not putting an ounce of blame on myself like I did years ago. I realize that I’m not responsible for someone else’s character flaw. The pain we all feel is normal. We were let down by someone that we cared for but being that I’ve gone through this before , I will say the hurt doesn’t last forever.
My greatest advice to anyone dealing with this is to allow yourself time to feel every bit of what you’re going through and don’t rush the process. If you need to cry , let it out. If you just need time to yourself then take it. Heal and spend lots of time praying. I promise the pain won’t last forever and better days are ahead.💕 Spend this tome focusing on you and building yourself up to be all that you can be. I promise , you won’t regret it.
I know this is a year late, but... deciding you’ve been ghosted within 24 hours is kind of....
@TheGuileRaven is kind of….. ACCURATE! Over a year later and my initial comment was 100% correct. I knew the signs back then when I saw them but honestly it is what it is. I’m in a new relationship now with a man that loves and cherishes me. Hopefully my comment can bring hope to many people that things get better!
@@SM-ju7rj I think it's incredibly intrusive to expect someone respond within 24 hours every time, I really don't blame anyone for being turned off by that.
@TheGuileRaven when someone deletes you from Snapchat, blocks your number and social media then…. I think it’s pretty safe to assume you’ve been ghosted right.? Maybe try asking questions before assuming things next time😂 Either way, lessons are learned and I’m in a much happier space and I genuinely wish this for everyone else.❤️
@@SM-ju7rj Some people have severe depression or bipolar issues that cause them to react in ways they don’t have full control over.
Thank you for this great advice. I will stop wasting emotional energy.
"Do not blame yourself "
Very true !
What I learned from this experience is, it was not the end of my story, but the end of his part in my story. There are certain people in your life for a season, a reason and a lifetime. His season was up. I've forgiven him, and I am at peace. It's a hard lesson learned, but most of all, the Lord has a specific man designed especially for me. I am waiting on his timing, and not my own.
Ghosting is emotional and mental abuse. Don't give someone that power over you, if he/she does that to you that's causing you emotional and mental harm, they are not worth your tears ! You are awesome and amazing and the right person is out there searching for you 💜✌😊
Happened to me today. I was ready to build something great with her, and she just blocked like I meant nothing. Really need prayer and healing.
I’m so single, that sometimes I ghost myself just to feel any type of emotions.
How can you be so single, with that kind of type,of humor? Greetings from Greece
Hello, single or loneliness?
🤣😂
I ghost myself so I stop feeling any emotion. Then when I"m strong enough and ready I go back to my body/soul.
Psalm 34:18 "The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit."
Psalm 147:3 "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds."
Amen!
Ghosting is important for safety purpose, some times.
If people are narcissistic, toxic ,rude or goshipers, just walk away
If u had some sort of relationship u have to tell em regardless
No, If You treat people badly You are not entitled to an explanation. Unless You have a medical condition.
I had aspergers which literally i can't take the hint i literally said to be straightforward and they still lied so yeah
@@rafidi1692 I met a guy who treat me like shit and when I treat them badly he ghost me lol
Either that or they just passed up on the best thing that could have ever happened to him like a complete idiot. Oh well...their loss. 🤷🏾♂️
For a real wake up call, many times people get ghosted because the other person panics because they can't commit, succumb to peer pressure, or are just mean. In 99.44% of the time, it's not the person getting ghosted that is the problem. Remember, you just dodged one big bullet later in life with them. If ghosted, move on, and forget about them. I've been ghosted once in my life, and it took me 3 of my messages to them before I realized I was ghosted. Once I "got it" I moved on.
Totally agree.
I feel so ashamed and painful. I was with him for 7 years and always be there to support him. I couldn't believe he left me by this way.
Thanks for this video Mark! I love all your videos!!! wish I had this almost 3 years ago, but God has shown me a lot through the heartbreak of being ghosted. I can truly say that it was good for me to be afflicted in that way because I would have never gotten close to God. He is definitely near to the brokenhearted. I have finally healed from that situation and learned about forgiveness of others and self. God Bless!
“Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally… Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves.”
- Don Miguel Ruiz
"The biggest coward is a woman who awakens a man's love without the intention of loving him” - Bob Marley (reversed)
Facts they do it to us too.
-Bob Marley
Vice Versa 😬
Just because you changed it from man to woman doesn’t mean this is your quote. That’s Bob Marley.
@@SummeRain783 You are right. I changed it.
There should be a comprehensive video on exactly what ghosting does to the ghosted. Especially when you’ve been seeing the person for 5-6+ months. It destroyed me and it still hurts like hell years later, and I’ve never had a successful relationship since.
How are you doing?
I hope you feel better now and you can laugh over this comment? I have come to realize that with TIME and the right MINDSET, a person will surely get over been ghosted.
This happened to me. Two months talking, praying, doing a bible study, video chatting pretty much daily. To I woke up one evening and blocked me on every social media platform with zero explanation. I agree that it is sin to respond to disinterest or a change of heart in this way. I feel like an explanation could be doing a courtesy-- perhaps the person could learn from it and move forward in better light. And hope God leads so he doesn't do this to another woman. No one should play with someone's heart in general but especially under Jesus' name. Keep praying to forgive. I'm praying for y'all on here who experienced this.
Was doing same like you as Well as fasting and went exactly in same issue
Thanks for sharing this message. Self love is key when your ghosted in any relationship. When you learn your worth and value you can move on with ease. It's their loss not yours, especially, when you've been nothing but loving towards them.
I’ve been ghosted for a month now and at first I was just denying everything and think of other reasons why he’s not talking to me anymore because it’s not that easy for me we’ve been talking for over a year and yet we don’t have any label but we are really comfortable talking everyday. But last night I cried so hard and realized I tried my best and learn to move on and I deserve better than this
As a life long introvert with a very small group of friends, it was especially crushing to be ghosted by my best friend of 20 some years. I was going through a tough time in life, the kind when you find out who really matters and who doesnt. Turns out he didnt. Our friendship was a fair day one and purely transactional. I can see how such experiences can lead people to take drastic measures and thankfully I'm not weak minded. I accepted it and realized it just showed him for what he was and it's probably a blessing I dont waste anymore time on people who arent worth it
Thank you gor sharing what happened to o you has actually helped me.
My name is Sammy, I asked a girl out in November 2018. She Happily said yes! It took a lot of courage for me to ask her. I've been seeing her for about a year before I asked her. Then on we would text each other. As a little time went on, I stopped hearing from her. I personally went to her again to ask if she wanted to go out, and she said yes again. It's January 29, 2019 now, and I haven't heard from her in 2 weeks. I even texted and told her if she did not want to go out it was totally ok. She did told me that she couldn't see my messages sometimes because of her phone service. I really don't know what's happening, but I just wish the best for her! Most of all I believe God is guiding me, and I'm very happy I saw this video.
Mark you're wisdom is truly amazing. Beautiful teaching that happened to me recently and I just walked away. I think it was insecurity and immaturity on his part. Thankful to God I was able to accept it and move on with no ill feelings. Thank you for this video. God continue to Bless and grow you're ministry dear friend.
I've been ghosted. It was a painful 4 months of silence. No he isn't back but I don't want him to come back. Once you learn to accept that he doesn't like you, it's easy to move on plus I found my worth in the pain and I realised he isn't that special as I thought he was. Such a good feeling
I just realized I was ghosted 2 years by the person I thought was the one for me... Thanks God I got a wake up call to stop waiting for him. It hurts but with God's help I will move on. Great video! ❤️🙏🏻
Got ghosted tons of times just when you think it's going great good convo good common interests, bam never reply again. I knew it wasn't me! These people have a mental problem that's all there is too it.
That 1st sentence hits hard. Do u think there's any warning signs?
@@alexislee6825 not really sure tbh 😂 it just happens out of the blue, maybe they met someone better (in their mind) who knows. But the strange thing is I recently watched a video on the behaviour of a woman if they really like you and it says if they like you they don't text as much, but surely if you like someone you'd be all over them 🤷😂😂😂😂 crazyness
@@Jman21UK thanks for input 😊 as a women myself I text a guy I like a good amount (not a crazy amount tho.) I think it depends on the women but I personally rather jus get the relationship going and not play hot and cold
@@alexislee6825 you must be one of the minority then, because most women are like that these days sadly. Also vast majority of men these days are too scared to approach a woman in person for fear of being labelled 'needy' or 'thirsty' crazy times
@@Jman21UK hopefully im not but knowing some of my friends it seems that. If u haven't found ur special girl yet I wish u the best in finding urs :)
This happened to me after 3 years..I'm so broken
It is cowardly and you are right, sinful, to ghost someone that was showing all indication of interest towards you. It takes an ungenuine and selfish person to just leave without acknowledging why. I compare it to abandonment...you actually mourn the loss, and grieve deeply. It can be very traumatic for some, and cause issues in future relationships if not addressed correctly. I hurt, but I know my Father loves me and will never forsaken me. Embracing that will help you move forward in a new mindset.
Pray always. It hurts that they can do this but you can survive this. I don't like being played by people and really wish to avoid this trap. Detachment can be a wonderful thing. Praise the Lord I can move on. Keep me free, Lord.
Just send them a ghost emoji and then nothing more. Best way every time.
Good idea ! ☺
Can You send me one ?
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Thank you !
Good idea !
Imma do that! lol
Thanks bro needed the laugh
I heard real life sad stories where people suicided because had been ghosted, it is so so terribly sad. The ghoster is wrong, yes they are doing a lot of unforseen damage. They cannot be held accountable either, they are sinning so bad & murdering someone's chances at a life & happiness simply by crushing all of their self esteem. 😏
Come on. Ghosting leads to suicide? Then that person was already suicidal.
@@ParuAp not necessarily..dont mean already suicidal .!!.one person can make you feel this hurt heck ya ..my stress is so bad loosing this man , My hair started falling out .i once had really thick hair beautiful and now ..its half thickness..and breaking off easily ,can't control it . high stress can cause a condition like this ..plus I emotionally as a diabetic am suppose to be careful not eating lots of sugar .I was wrong to use food to distract myself from incredible pain . But I did..fir awhile and I now have severe heart disease.due to a test I took and found out results ..so dont ever let any one tell you you, cant literally die of a broken heart. I believe .yes 💔 one certainly can my heart feels dead inside. ..i can't get what plaque already in my arteries out now .no way to do im told by Dr ..I can only stop from getting more by ..changing my whole way of life eating .I eat keto some more now..which is good and fine ..I did before and lost and kept off 50 pounds. But went off when super stressed out .that's when started laying plaque down fast im sure..have no choice but be on aspirin and cholesterol meds rest of life now . if want to stop progress of further heart damages..people can be so callus..become a complete stranger over night . Im 😥😔as can be..still love this severely damaged man ..but im praying fir the lord to help me get over him and move on ..I depend only in christ for my life .and to direct my steps .but still I wonder. Why this man was allowed to step into my life ....??God says man plans his course ,but God directs his steps ..and yet this man did so much damage to me .?.I also thought he would end up being future husband I called my sunshine man .. But now he is the rainstorm in my heart .
@@kimberlychilstrom6888 ~ please recall, if applicable, and ask yourself (ponder silently, no need to mention here, whichever) if you had a sexual/physical relationship with that man? If so, that could be the effect of your emotional stance of hurt, pain, broken heart, pertaining to that man. And it is Not God's Will for us to fornicate, nor commit adultery, nor any sexual immorality.
GOD doesn't Will for us to put no one on a pedestal to idolize them. Proof you even called that man your "sunshine," as a term of endearment, but that also, could've been that you idolized him. Perhaps you did it too quickly, making him feel pressured, moving too fast & too soon(?). Men are to find himself a wife, pursue her, and help her feel secure that she is to be his betrothed, ultimately resulting in marriage, a GOD-Centered marriage.
You mentioned some health issues that you have (and hopefully you're healed of it all),-- and you sound like you even blame him for your hair issue: But please know that Jesus Christ Is The Healer and Mighty Deliverer, and The Comforter Who Is The Holy Spirit Will Comfort you. Listen, Kimberly, put all your trust in The Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ, and cast all your cares upon Jesus Christ, for He Cares for you, and He Knows that you love deeply, and GOD Will allow the perfect mate/husband for you, at the right time. So, meanwhile, eat healthy as much possible, and seek Jesus Christ to find out who you are In CHRIST JESUS, your identity In Christ, not in someone else. Understand how valuable you are, with humility. Never again idolize anyone, nor allow anyone make you feel so bad, that you literally feel sick, and experience those symptoms (we all live and we learn). And remember, when GOD Blesses you with the mate/husband who deserves you, who will love you, but he will also put GOD, First! ...and that's a good thing! --- Remember, you, also, are to put GOD/JESUS CHRIST, First, and love GOD, More. And things will be in order. But right now, you are to focus on Jesus Christ, and know who He Created you to be, read His Word In The Holy Scriptures. You're more than a conqueror! You're more precious than rubies and pearls, Kimberly! And i pray that GOD Heals all your health issues, and heals your brokenheart. Now is the time to seek Jesus Christ with all your heart and mind and strength, because He Loves you! and He Will for you to have the best! and be Blessed! -- not being in a mess. There's nothing too hard for GOD, call on Him, "In The Name of Jesus Christ." Kimberly, Be Healed, be delivered, and be set free, for whom The Son [Jesus Christ] Sets Free, is free, indeed! --- Kimberly, Believe this! Receive it! And to GOD Be All The Glory, Honour and Praise, In Jesus Christ Name. Let it Be so.
Not to mention, wasting their precious time--days, weeks, months, and more--that they can never get back!!! 😒
Thank you for the advice. It really helped in a recent “ghosted” incident.
God bless!!
Great perspective and tips! Whomever the Lord may have for someone, and vice-versa, will require 0% begging. As someone once told me, healthy, feasible, (and MATURE) romantic relationships are based on the "3 C's": Character (e.g. "speaking the truth in love"), (mutual) Compatibility, and Chemistry. While I do NOT contend that the "3 C's" represent a Biblical "formula," I do believe there is some practical perspective in this framework. In sum, when one of the 3 C's is missing, no amount of overanalyzing or chasing will make a "ghost-er" re-materialize in one's life. And that's a good thing.
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I like your comment Melissa, but my "ghoster" came back 3-4 times. I believe the soul tie is broken now, so he's gone for good. We had chemistry, but he was horrible at communication and character. Each time he came back, he would seem interested and then be gone again, thin air! The last time broke my heart because he stood me up. I was depressed for 1 year and 6 months and started getting up in October. And then he tried to come back again after I started getting up. Nothing but the enemy! God told me to let go, release it and I have and I'm free!!! God is good!
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Wow. Thanks so much for sharing your story. It sounds confusing and painful - to have to heal, over, and over again - with this repeat ghoster / experience. While I'm so sorry to hear you experienced all of this turmoil and grief (seriously, it sounds very hard!), it's great that you can identify the enemy's attempts to take you down and out - and the glory of God to set you free from this unhealthy relational cycle. As I trust you know, you are worth being pursued by the right man at the right time.
On another note, a verse that comes to mind is Psalm 84:11: “For the LORD God is a sun and shield; the LORD bestows favor and honor. No good thing does he withhold from those who walk uprightly.” Anyway, the Lord IS the ultimate “good thing” and He is giving you His best gifts/blessings (James 1), whatever they look like as you keep in step with the Spirit (Galatians 5). Plus, now you’re open for whatever and whomever the Lord DOES have for you. Way to step away from the enemy’s tricks and walk in the freedom of the truth!
Thank you so much Melissa for your words and the Scriptures. While I have not given up hope that the right one will come, I am trying to focus on Jesus. You are right....as I am being led by the Spirit to do what He would like, the right man will pursue me. God Bless!
@@nicholehamilton5844 my pleasure! I'm glad my message was encouraging to you. :-) I love that you're focusing on Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith (Hebrews 12:2). This seems like a wise move on your part, and one I hope to live out, too, more and more! We are in this faith walk together. God bless you, too! :-)
Rejection could be God's protection.
Ghosting is a good lesson.This prevents further hurts if we had continue in the relationship.thank God for the eye opener
I cannot really understand random ghosting, I would much rather be told something honest and truthful than not getting a response at all, it just puts more stress on you.
I'd like to add a couple things to this, talk to a trusted friend or group of friends about it. This may help air any grievances and they may empathize with you through previous experiences. Also, just pray about it, God will either give you clarity about what happened or will show you new blessings to help you forget about it.
Ghosting is done by only those who are already dead for us. So guys enjoy your life and let the spirit of this (person) who's ghosting us, Rest In Peace ..!!
DO NOT RESPOND. Have self respect. When someone shows you who they are believe them the first time.
My sisters have done this to me and the Holy Spirit told me this because I am saved and set aside. Still hurts but I'm thankful to God for this revelation. Proverbs 17:17 NIV A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. Amen. Stay woke my friends 💖💗💜
Can you explain that?- Saved and set aside. I've been really feeling misunderstood for sometime and I think it's something I need to understand.
Exactly! Amen brother. Thank you for this video. Spot On!
Being ghosted hurts plenty. But it is freeing. New year, new decade, time to reset. Cleansing, pruning. Start fresh.
Thank you so much for this! How I wish I heard this message five years ago. It was so painful to be ghosted. And it's still painful until now.
Thank you SO much for this video. I got ghosted this week from another believer which was a hard pill for me to swallow. Using these tips moving forward!
yEs ...I agree! an excellent video on what to do about ghosting. And, "take comfort that God is in your life. Seek the LORD and He will definitely help you move on."
Amen.
Amen, all glory to God, He is good!
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger amen! Praise God!
I would never ghost someone , but I now see this way when it’s done to me-- thank you for ghosting me! I’m grateful because they have shown the fruits of their character. It’s sour and bitter-sweet way of sitting down so I can SEE the real MAN behind them.
dawn gallegos,hope you are not with a narc 🙄!
Came here due to the title, I'm seperated, single and celibate by choice dedicated to God. To clarify 'Ghosting' is different from 'no contact'. Ghosting is a cruel tactic that indicates someone is using you e.g. now you see me, now you don't, now you see me etc. They are around you either to see if you are real as something may have offended them OR to use you until they find another supply. Although some people leave long periods of ignoring you as a way to hurt you, so you are elated when they suck you back in. No contact is different, it's completely exiting a relationship, this is usually the last resort for people who realise they are being manipulated or abused. Cut your losses and run, otherwise you can drain years of your life in tears and pain hoping that the leopard can change its spots. See narcissistic abuse. Jesus loves you.
I was ghosted a year ago and I just am having the hardest time with it still. Probably because I specifically told him I was worried he'd do just that. And then he did.
Then that guy was a big time JERK! Be thnkful he' not in your life.
Same here…
Me too! I said "I hope you're not ghosting." He replied that he's not! Yup last words and that was 10 months ago.
Happened to me too
I think if someone gives a reason for wanting to disconnect with you whether it's location based or they thought the compatibility was off, these are acceptable reasons for them to move on. A successful marriage requires more than just emotional or physical connection. It has to be in Gods will for you life and so much more. I think the key is to date or relate with a guarded heart and a secure mind in Gods word. I believe God often lets us go through these things because he wants us to see the idols in heart or heal us from past wounds and wrong beliefs we have about ourselves. And when you end up married to the person God has for you, your gonna be thankful for all the people who ghosted you and didn't work out with, God was protecting you for the best.
Good advice, your channel is doing so well God bless brother.
Well, said, Mark ! Praise God ! God is glorified in that advice !! Amen.
Amen !!! So happy and blessed to be apart of this channel
I've accepted the facts and have moved on. What I'm struggling with is wanting to message him to call him out and tell him he has no integrity.
Not a Christian, but here you've suggested a great way to deal with ghosting...thank you🙏
God bless, glad you found ti helpful :) The book of Romans is really helpful to read
Wow this message really helped. It was as God answering my prayers. Thanks for sharing. I learned so much.
My pleasure Cindy!
Your channel is such a blessing. So many times I click on your videos and God just reminds me of all these promises He has for me that's so easy to lose focus of in my hurt and often times confusion, and it's such a comfort. Thank you for being a vessel! God bless you and your family! May the Lord use you even more!
When you ghosted move on with your life he/she ain’t worth wasting your time and energy
I've saw a lot of videos, and this is one is the best one, really, these are a simple way to letting go of a person who's doesn't care about us in the same way, making us not to hate a person who's done this awful behavior, but to accept that things changes, and there's no one to blame, I always blame myself for the people that gets away from my life, and this is different kind of suicide, that kills me everyday.
I recently have the knowledge that God have a unique plan for my life, so I'll keep my faith, there's someone out there for everyone.
Great informative video. I hope people who choose to use 'ghosting' as a way of walking away would see this video. Thankfully, you have taught viewers how to heal after being ghosted ! Bless you !!! I know a ghost !!!👻🙄👻
I really like that you didn’t mention closure. Forgiveness, and acceptance are the best ways. It takes time and God is there to help. ❤️
Im not religious but damn you guys have a good outlook on things. Thanks for helping me not feel like there's something wrong with me. I went on 5 or 6 dates over a month with this young woman and out of no where got completely ghosted. Its a real mind fuck. Angry, sad, ashamed as if I'm not good enough to warrant a response telling me why. It's just been eating me up for the past few days and this video helped. Thanks man.
Totally agree and I’d add to do the same thing when asked for a hiatus :
If a gal needs time , she gets eternity
If she needs space , she get all of outer space . God didn’t make junk , have some self respect .
Dude, your comment had me cracking up. Definitely came at a needed time. You have an awesome day cuz you just made mine. 😁