"The way a person says 'no' gives a clue to how to get them to say 'yes'".... Brilliant! I wrote this on a sticky note and taped it to my computer to remind me as I make sales calls. Thank you!
What I think is that you should've expanded on how to listen to their no so you can effectively work towards a yes. You left us hanging there, but if you know asked "would you like me to go into more detail?", my answer would definitely be yes
What do I think? I think you are quickly becoming my coach in this game of life ( and of course all of the games within the game!) Thanks for opening my mind to new ways of thinking about these concepts. 💕
This remember me to my economy class (thanks Mr. Gallo and Mr. Gee). The scarcity of resources, cost benefit analysis and the exchange. Thanks doc for another great advice 🙌
This... is powerful! That's so true... that we go to people because we want something from them. Is that selfish of people? Not really. People tend to do what benefits them! I eat because I'm hungry. I talk to someone because I want a connection. I go to work for a paycheck. Etc. So, life is a game of turning nos into yeses. Want to go out with me? Will you hire me? Will you do me a favor? You mentioned a couple of categories that the pleaser's tactic could fall under. Seduction, intimidation, humor, supplication (begging), and sincerity. The bulk of the game is knowing which tactic to use at which moment that will most effectively convince the person to say yes. And, if one listens and observes closely, then one can always deduce a clue from a person's no about how to obtain a yes from then. But then, if a girl rejects me, am I supposed to leave it at that, or do I keep asking for a yes with different approaches?
Leave it at that homie. There are way too many women to be constantly hounding that one girl. Unless you absolutely don’t care for the outcome and are merely just experimenting then I suggest you carry on your merry way
Leave it at that man, your number one priority should be her comfort and safety, you don't want her to feel unsafe around you and that you won't respect the no.
Some people have so much ego that instead of hearing what the other person has to say they are busy preparing what are they going to say next. Studying human nature has opened my eyes.
Nice to know more about you Doctor. I completely agree that a persons response varies depending on our way of approach and their mood. This is a interesting topic and the way you have explained it with precise details is very helpful.
Hello, is there anywhere I can go to see the "please no" game played out? Can you complete this on your channel if there are no examples? Thank you. Great information here.
As far as I know, there are no recordings of the game being played in my alma mater. However, there are examples of the game being played in books and movies all the time. I plan to explore this idea in future episodes. So stay tuned.
I'm confused by the rules of the game. He said one person can only say yes or no. (Starting from the "no" position) Makes sense so far. But then the other can only say please. How do you ask for anything if all you can say is please?
What an authentic video! Maybe you could come up with other examples from your acting career in future episodes? (Actually, working with actors and musicians inspired me to study psychology.)
Dear PsycHacks, thank you for yet another excellent video! Is there a book you recommend we can read further on this subject? Thank you, keep up the good work!
Hm. There is no one size fits all strategy here. So it would be hard to put into words. However, a good rule of thumb is the more forceful the "no," the "colder" you are in your approach.
Cool and valuable video!! I also studied theater and is the best laboratory to experience life!! I will reach you for a consultation. I want some advise about either to study Philosophy or Social Psychology or both!
This is very interesting, but it would be very helpful with some examples. In what ways can a no contain information? I believe people obfuscate the real reason they say no, sometimes because they don’t want to offend.
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Simple create an explicit value and say no until they offer your price but try to stay away from the request position. You do this by maintaining opinions so that you don't beg for a yes. Instead they suggest a deal.
Most human interactions are an opportunity to practice, as there is usually some need that's been transacted in the exchange. Flexibility and sensitivity are both very useful -- as is the ability to understand that "no" is simply information (as opposed to a personal rejection).
Hello, I love this idea. I want to help you film a demonstration of this idea. I live near NYC. I have done improvisational experience and would like to do the please no game and film it for content for your viewers.
So if you get a no. Start begging basically. Could also qualify as harassment after a second try. Are you saying we should non verbally start asking? I don’t get it.
Notmsure if this answers your request, but Chris Voss’ book “Never Split the Difference” delves into the power of ‘No,’ with an entire chapter written on the subject. It is an amazingly practical book once you get beyond Voss’ recurring self promotion narratives.
@@WildMidwest1 Thank you for the recommendation! I've encountered this book a couple of times. It is often recommended. I checked it now since you've mentioned. I just read the author's a former FBI hostage negotiator. Very interesting. Thanks again!
First you have to learn the rules of the game then you can play better then anyone else.Albert Einstein If you are not following the basic rules then it is not a game it is just bullshit
You always present something that leads to nothing, Your thoughts never finish themselves, and you always come up with questions and record a clip with never presents a real answer. I listen to you for a while and come to the conclusion that this may be your brain limit.
"The way a person says 'no' gives a clue to how to get them to say 'yes'".... Brilliant! I wrote this on a sticky note and taped it to my computer to remind me as I make sales calls. Thank you!
Absolutely. All successful salesmen are masters of the game of please-no. They can "read" the customer quickly and adopt their strategy appropriately.
Sticky notes taped to your desk aren't going to change who you are. Either you are, or you aren't. Either you do, or you don't.
Love your response to Dyarl Lewis: “No is just information, rather than personal rejection.” Brilliant!
What I think is that you should've expanded on how to listen to their no so you can effectively work towards a yes. You left us hanging there, but if you know asked "would you like me to go into more detail?", my answer would definitely be yes
There is something very appropriate about a trained actor having a deep understanding of human interactions.
Please make more videos unpacking these concepts. Specifically, how to turn the “no”s into “yes”
Maybe the most brilliant observation of human interaction (and reality itself) I've ever seen. This guy is something special.
What do I think? I think you are quickly becoming my coach in this game of life ( and of course all of the games within the game!) Thanks for opening my mind to new ways of thinking about these concepts. 💕
I appreciate your support, Linda. I'm glad you're finding value in the channel.
This is a key factor/game in sales. One no away from a Yes!
This remember me to my economy class (thanks Mr. Gallo and Mr. Gee). The scarcity of resources, cost benefit analysis and the exchange. Thanks doc for another great advice 🙌
This... is powerful! That's so true... that we go to people because we want something from them. Is that selfish of people? Not really. People tend to do what benefits them! I eat because I'm hungry. I talk to someone because I want a connection. I go to work for a paycheck. Etc. So, life is a game of turning nos into yeses. Want to go out with me? Will you hire me? Will you do me a favor? You mentioned a couple of categories that the pleaser's tactic could fall under. Seduction, intimidation, humor, supplication (begging), and sincerity. The bulk of the game is knowing which tactic to use at which moment that will most effectively convince the person to say yes. And, if one listens and observes closely, then one can always deduce a clue from a person's no about how to obtain a yes from then. But then, if a girl rejects me, am I supposed to leave it at that, or do I keep asking for a yes with different approaches?
Leave it at that homie. There are way too many women to be constantly hounding that one girl. Unless you absolutely don’t care for the outcome and are merely just experimenting then I suggest you carry on your merry way
Leave it at that man, your number one priority should be her comfort and safety, you don't want her to feel unsafe around you and that you won't respect the no.
Some people have so much ego that instead of hearing what the other person has to say they are busy preparing what are they going to say next. Studying human nature has opened my eyes.
Hearing is one thing. Listening is another.
Nice to know more about you Doctor. I completely agree that a persons response varies depending on our way of approach and their mood. This is a interesting topic and the way you have explained it with precise details is very helpful.
Thanks for your support, Vijay :)
@@psychacks Welcome Doctor and it's a pleasure to watch and learn from your videos. Thank You too 🙏😊
This one is a top 5 of yours. Amazing stuff Orion!
Great prespectives. You covered a lot of ground. Kept it in my watch later just in case I have to see it again.
Hello, is there anywhere I can go to see the "please no" game played out? Can you complete this on your channel if there are no examples? Thank you. Great information here.
As far as I know, there are no recordings of the game being played in my alma mater. However, there are examples of the game being played in books and movies all the time. I plan to explore this idea in future episodes. So stay tuned.
Outstanding. Your best. The basis of all human interaction condensed in five minutes.
can you teach more about this? like how we can hear the "clue" in the "No"/?? THIS IS FASCINATING!! TELL ME MORE PLEASE!!
Very interesting idea, so i want to know how you understand the clue of the other part when they say no
awesome simple explanation !! , THANKS
Very ambiguous video
okay, now this vid explains it better than the previous one. although it could just be me but this is far more engaging. thanks doc, you're the best!
Thanks!
Very interesting concept!!! Thanks for sharing it and explain it
I'm confused by the rules of the game. He said one person can only say yes or no. (Starting from the "no" position) Makes sense so far. But then the other can only say please. How do you ask for anything if all you can say is please?
Brilliant!!!
Excellent ❤
Very helpful!
What an authentic video! Maybe you could come up with other examples from your acting career in future episodes?
(Actually, working with actors and musicians inspired me to study psychology.)
My background in acting has helped me as a therapist in more ways than I can count.
Dear PsycHacks, thank you for yet another excellent video! Is there a book you recommend we can read further on this subject? Thank you, keep up the good work!
Can you make a video on how it is played
Another great video ! Learned so much !!
Thanks for the love, Dana :)
This is awesome
*When in doubt - getting a dictionary is invaluable. ( Password, The Game Show... With Former Host, Actress Bette White - from Golden Girls )
Where can I find more info on game please-no
But any mention on the sides of masculine and feminine? I don't think you can play the 'please' if you are the feminine..
Thanks. Wld u pls explain how to get them. To say yes by understanding different kind of "no"
Hm. There is no one size fits all strategy here. So it would be hard to put into words. However, a good rule of thumb is the more forceful the "no," the "colder" you are in your approach.
@@psychackscolder instead? I was thinking being warm softens.
Cool and valuable video!! I also studied theater and is the best laboratory to experience life!! I will reach you for a consultation. I want some advise about either to study Philosophy or Social Psychology or both!
Dude, you're at the top of the list for fellas I'd like to have a shot and a beer!
This is very interesting, but it would be very helpful with some examples. In what ways can a no contain information? I believe people obfuscate the real reason they say no, sometimes because they don’t want to offend.
Great content!
Neighbor, across the street - lacks energy to do maintenance with front yard. ( COVID Virus ) *assisted in doing that...yet pitched in a pair of chairs for outside seating.)
Nice Icebreaker
Hmmm. I haven't thought of life that way.... I'm going to pay more attention.
I am interested in how one goes about practicing, so as to become adept at playing this game. Any suggestions?
Simple create an explicit value and say no until they offer your price but try to stay away from the request position. You do this by maintaining opinions so that you don't beg for a yes. Instead they suggest a deal.
Most human interactions are an opportunity to practice, as there is usually some need that's been transacted in the exchange. Flexibility and sensitivity are both very useful -- as is the ability to understand that "no" is simply information (as opposed to a personal rejection).
Cool
Hello, I love this idea. I want to help you film a demonstration of this idea. I live near NYC. I have done improvisational experience and would like to do the please no game and film it for content for your viewers.
Pretty interesting game! I shall set out tomorrow and try my hand at it! 😊 loving your videos doc!
Thanks for watching, Donna. Keep coming back.
Person: Can you please stay away from me?
World: NO!!
You are so cool, thank you! I subed :)
Welcome, Angel. I hope you enjoy the channel.
So if you get a no. Start begging basically. Could also qualify as harassment after a second try. Are you saying we should non verbally start asking? I don’t get it.
So every married couple is ready for Oscar reward by the 10th year.
I wish I could believe this but I'm skeptical, to me a no is just a no from women. They've never changed their minds with me, not once
Can you recommend a book that discusses a similar idea? You've discussed this "please-no" in a very interesting way.
Notmsure if this answers your request, but Chris Voss’ book “Never Split the Difference” delves into the power of ‘No,’ with an entire chapter written on the subject. It is an amazingly practical book once you get beyond Voss’ recurring self promotion narratives.
@@WildMidwest1 Thank you for the recommendation! I've encountered this book a couple of times. It is often recommended. I checked it now since you've mentioned. I just read the author's a former FBI hostage negotiator. Very interesting. Thanks again!
Haha kind of voodoo "for listen those know how to"
"Please no" is the worst possible name for a game about trying to get a sexual partner 😅
This might work, but it's a hack. Real Games do not use hacks, unless they are Ethical.
First you have to learn the rules of the game then you can play better then anyone else.Albert Einstein
If you are not following the basic rules then it is not a game it is just bullshit
Actor…? More like a salesman
manipulation for predators..
You always present something that leads to nothing, Your thoughts never finish themselves, and you always come up with questions and record a clip with never presents a real answer. I listen to you for a while and come to the conclusion that this may be your brain limit.
I’m over 4 minutes in and I haven’t understood a single word he’s said. I have no clue what on earth he’s talking about.