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Yep! Paper worked better than Notion for tracking my job search. Thanks brother!

This is misleading, if you fundamentally have working memory issues like most adhd'ers do, then even if you use all these frameworks, they can only help you with structuring experience recall, they can't help you with communicating in real time with discussions because once you start changing the variables within that framework it'll more than likely collapse except you're working from some sort of external system like a note or something.

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When the whole internet tells you that ADHD’ers are better off single, this is a wonderful positive take!! Thanks for this…

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Living with ADHD is like trying to survive in a jungle blindfolded. Every step is fraught with peril.

Good stuff, Chris! Very helpful perspective. Yeah a lot of videos out there say that no contact is the way to go, but obviously that is very flawed. Not hurting anybody but oneself. Hope you’re staying nice and dry. Heckuva storm you guys have had down there.!🛟

The closed captions are out of synch significantly.

What if your girlfriend cheated on you. Is it justifiable to go no contact:; just disappear without explanation?

My ADHD ex would just feel too overwhelmed to even speak with me and suddenly cease communication altogether for days if not weeks in the worst cases. I suppose it’s a different context opposed to what you’re talking about here, where there is an agreement to not speak for X amount of time? Anyway, not showing the courage or capacity to actually have a mature conversation about the relationship is a big red flag for me. Though I know some people are generally avoidant of speaking their true thoughts and feelings…

This all sounds great on paper, but people that give you the silent treatment as a means to punish is a different type of situation

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170 views, dont quit your day job

This guy makes a few good points, admittedly, particularly pertaining to the Hierarchy of Needs, the myth of the Alpha/Beta system, and the fact that women are equal in the workplace (true in the eyes of the law, and although there is a lot that could be said about this, for the sake of time I can see why it was not addressed). I would disagree with the insinuation that men are primarily pursuing material success to increase their chances with women, but would suggest that this is largely due to an increased desire for financial independence and self sufficiency. Many of us remember the 2007-2008 financial crisis. Not a pleasant time. I would also disagree with the implication that a partnership is solely about emotional support, but my dissent comes solely from academic study rather than experience (I'm a lifelong adherent to the MGTOW ideology, from even before it had a name). While this is a factor in a partnership, it is a rather small factor. ~20-40% of divorces cite financial problems, so while it is true that women don't need men for financial assistance in the modern era, there seems to be a certain quality of life that people grow accustomed to, and if that standard is unmet, then emotional support becomes irrelevant. Emotional support doesn't pay for a Mercedes. At least, that's what those with experience say. Dude seems to be a good speaker and is quite insightful. We hold some differing opinions, but he was logical and his reasoning was consistent. Seems like an interesting guy and I may have to watch some more of his videos.

I don't think you understand what High Value Man is.

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Thank you for this wake up call! ❤ I'm sure I've had ADHD my whole life but I wasn't diagnosed until i was 27 years old. currently back in school for my bachelors and it's been a challenge when all the study motivation videos, etc. scream at you to be consistent, when they should be screaming persistence! so thanks again, really needed this today 😊

Maybe not be dogmatic. Be flexible and dont be their parent. Look for the great parts. And understand ADHD have been forced to think outside the box. And with that comes a unique way of viewing the world.

I love solo work as an introvert.

So any job really...

Great video again! I personally can relate. That being said avoiding such careers also pushes us ADHD’ers into comfort zone which is not great for our brains. We really need to get comfortable about discomfort

Man that "under-promise, over-deliver" thing is so real. I am always making promises that I definitely plan on keeping in the moment and with good intent but always struggle to follow through with and I feel like my promises don't mean anything to those around me anymore. I need to practice under-promising and over delivering.

When you have ADHD and have to play this three times through because you couldn't stay focused long enough to hear what he was saying

I get shocked when people say they miss me. It genuinely feels fake.

How about marketing?

I’ve got ADHD and I’ve struggled with cannabis addiction for about 10 years, I don’t like relationships really and I like being alone, however when I’ve quit weed I end up “in love” pretty quickly with people I talk to and then end up in relationships, I don’t understand, is this me or is weed the real me? I started smoking again and it made me realise I don’t actually know if I feel this way about the person, is this my brain? I don’t understand because I feel like without weed im not myself, can anyone explain?

This video is criminally under-rated at the time of writing. Hope your content blows up!

ADHD made me waste years. I could have literally gotten a PhD with the years that not being focused, having time blindness, having pressure from mentally abusive and narcissistic parents, and then being rejected due to lack of employment history and the unstructured path of my early career that made me only have temporary and seasonal jobs. I fell behind in life and the sense of falling behind causes me more pain and intrusive thoughts. I changed my career from teaching, though I could not land a full time teacher but then transitioned to IT. My ADHD causes me always waste a year from studying from my certification exams and then I can only study two weeks before the test for the past three years. Each year I only study in the last minute. I do not know how I fast forwarded three years.

I don't think some of the commenters realize how infuriating your ADHD is for others in your circle of influence to put up with.... ADHD people are annoying. All yall want to do is what YOU want to be doing. Period.

a little off topic, but am i the only one having the weirdest subtitles?

I don’t know why I didn’t realize I was doing this. Ive recognized it in so many other parts of my life for a long time. I wish id known this 2 months ago😢😢 We had been together for 10 years until he left me 2 months ago. We had broken up and gotten back together so many times in those 10 years but this one is final. He complained about a lack of affection but I think it was because i was always resentful for something irresponsible he had done or said. I thought he was the porcupine but maybe it was me. Ive been in severe pain since he left but im starting to learn to love myself and that helps a lot. I didn’t understand why he left angry.

Conversation with my partner and mother, is almost ALWAYS impossible!

This was very helpful.. Thank you, watching from Brisbane, Australia. Newly diagnosed after years of misdiagnosis. I work stupid long hours so this resinated with me BIG TIME

It's a daily nightmare and also the feeling of wasting years of life is overwhelming. I experience time dilation and time warping. I have 4 years studying for an IT certification for my work and it does not feel like four years, have unread books and , and I always study in the last two weeks and end up failing and then repeating the same process next year. When I saw that I purchased my study material and took the course 4 years ago, I wanted to break stuff and my windows. I had a whole year of study and I always told myself that I was going to study for a year at least three times a week but I could only begin studying 3 weeks before the exam. Time blindness is the reason why I have fallen behind in my career. I was never diagnosed and I fear that doctors would not believe me and I am unhealthy now so they will blame it on something else. But ADHD is the reason why I am ill today.

So - out of curiosity, have you stuck with it? Or did it fall victim to your ADHD? I ask as a fellow ADHDer who has tried and failed to keep past systems but have hope for this one!

Thank you Chris! Came across your content today and this is exactly what I needed for my "mixed" relationship. Question - I watched your video about how ADHDers aren't consistent right before this one, so I'm interested in how you reconcile that with the importance you place on consistency in this video.

Brother! You are doing gods work. Don’t worry about the views. Keep doing what you’re doing!!!

Oof. I am in a very good place in my marriage. But I can relate to all this. The strangest thing about being diagnosed with ADHD in my mid-30's is the constant realization that I am a type-cast. A cliche. It always just blows my mind how predictable I am and have been.

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this is why its important to get a diagnosis. at least in my opinion. it would have helped me understand Exes behaviour in the relationship. no diagnosis - no real solutions...

Today I already knew where this was going, and I was about to discuss a "code"word to stop this for a while... I didn't :( I got mad myself by the belittling words and curses

Thanks for this! It's very clear and understandable! Cheers from a confused ADHD late 30's diagnosed

Any information that says “this is you”, is misleading, including this one that says that all the other videos are wrong! Once this video gets to discussing ADHD and relationships it’s pretty good. Dislike the sales pitch, but the info is good. That aside, object permanence is real. Not everyone has it and those that do, can have different degrees of this challenge. I experience this myself and witness it in my 8 yr old son. Just do the research and don’t get sold in either direction. If you are just learning about this and wondering if you have ADHD, talk to your doctor or a mental health professional (including this one).

Really needed this right now, broke my wife's trust by lying about something (wasn't a big lie, but she's very triggered by lies, and I lied to survive in childhood, horrible combo), so I'm looking to rebuild it.