👋🏻Hiya everyone! Hope you enjoyed this one! Have you dealt with an affair, or infidelity? 🚨Come join my NEW Relationship Bootcamp! be.ultranormal.co/relationship-bootcamp?YTE087& - Chris
Hi Coach I need one advice if can help me out.i caught my girlfriend sit into another man car.i did not want to see her 4month she blow up my phone I left her UnRead.Last Saturday she came to my doorstep with a gift. I told her I don't want a cheating girlfriend.she say she No Sex No Cheat.i say ok No Males Friends and want to see her Sunday Church.she said I Stressed her out but agreed reluctantly to my Demand bf gf rules.she flakes and ghosting me now ....day 08 since Last Saturday. Is it she disrespect me after I took her back so easily she can get away with cheating ?
Hey! Thanks for the question. Think about it this way: if someone gave you an ultimatum, would you feel comfortable with it? If you demand something from someone, then even if they agree, they aren't going to respect you (intellectual intimacy). Let's say for example, I offered you a job, but I said to you "if you even think about working at another company, then you're fired" then even if you accept the job, you'll feel like shit while you work there. It's the same with relationships. If you become the *best option* and can provide the higher level needs, then why would she want to go anywhere else. Give her all the freedom to leave, treat her so well she'll never want to. This is why cultivating a relationship requires changing the way you *think* as well as the way you communicate. I dive deeper into these elements in the Relationship Bootcamp.
@@BeUltranormal hi Coach I really appreciate your time to write to me.i am confuse why KAKA the Brazilian football star is a good Husband but his wife left him.And Tom Brady NFL billionaire why treating woman good they will go for A lower status jutsiju Trainer..my girlfriend make me a card thanks me for taking care of her all these years and bought me a gift after I caught her sit into another man car I did 4 month no contact thinking I have the upper hand now to demand her stop the lie and cheating...now I know I can't Put her in Place .I saw other videos say Checked her , Put her in Place , Do not Tolerate Disrespect..any advice ?
@@user-dw2gh3bj7o my main advice would be stop following low value RUclips advice that gives you advice designed to make you fake power (ie. 'put her in her place' etc...). I touch on this in this video: ruclips.net/video/AlhQF-uFiJg/видео.htmlsi=skIkjEEjOoiGRo3I A lot of the advice on RUclips is designed to make you feel good for watching, but actually makes you weaker and lower value.
@@BeUltranormal thank you Coach That could be the Reason why that night I told her since she say I am her boyfriend I don't want her to have Male Friends in fact she told me to join her to her gym ..I was very happy ... But because The Cuck feeling that I let Free pass tolerating that sit into the other man car she said is Nothing expect me to brush it off...should I have brush it off ..I was told if I change my behaviour..perhaps Masculine..she would be have follow through with the intention of coming to my house to comply some of my Terms ..like she had texted me before that she will Never upset me again and never leave me again and would tell me where she go ..I didnt even told her to ... It is when I set the boundaries she freak out in stress....so my mistake i should let her talk into herself the promise she set for us ... Strangely I told her what I want ..stress her out ...and ghost me when she was the one who blown up my phone telling me she willing to accommodate...is she manipulating me only ...trust her actions Not her words ...but she needs to ghost me when she had tried so much to reach out to me...I am confuse
I thought that way for a long long time too. "Once a cheater, always a cheater" was my motto. However, once I actually researched, looked at studies and actually *spoke* to the people who have cheated, then the story is very very different. When we feel hurt by someone who has cheated, it can feel easier to process by labelling it a character flaw and convincing ourselves they'll 'never change' but the reality isn't as clean cut as that, unfortunately. I'll have many more videos on cheating in the future, so I hope you'll stick around for them and watch with an open mind.
👋🏻Hiya everyone! Hope you enjoyed this one! Have you dealt with an affair, or infidelity?
🚨Come join my NEW Relationship Bootcamp! be.ultranormal.co/relationship-bootcamp?YTE087&
- Chris
Hi Coach I need one advice if can help me out.i caught my girlfriend sit into another man car.i did not want to see her 4month she blow up my phone I left her UnRead.Last Saturday she came to my doorstep with a gift. I told her I don't want a cheating girlfriend.she say she No Sex No Cheat.i say ok No Males Friends and want to see her Sunday Church.she said I Stressed her out but agreed reluctantly to my Demand bf gf rules.she flakes and ghosting me now ....day 08 since Last Saturday. Is it she disrespect me after I took her back so easily she can get away with cheating ?
Hey! Thanks for the question.
Think about it this way: if someone gave you an ultimatum, would you feel comfortable with it? If you demand something from someone, then even if they agree, they aren't going to respect you (intellectual intimacy). Let's say for example, I offered you a job, but I said to you "if you even think about working at another company, then you're fired" then even if you accept the job, you'll feel like shit while you work there. It's the same with relationships.
If you become the *best option* and can provide the higher level needs, then why would she want to go anywhere else. Give her all the freedom to leave, treat her so well she'll never want to.
This is why cultivating a relationship requires changing the way you *think* as well as the way you communicate. I dive deeper into these elements in the Relationship Bootcamp.
@@BeUltranormal hi Coach I really appreciate your time to write to me.i am confuse why KAKA the Brazilian football star is a good Husband but his wife left him.And Tom Brady NFL billionaire why treating woman good they will go for A lower status jutsiju Trainer..my girlfriend make me a card thanks me for taking care of her all these years and bought me a gift after I caught her sit into another man car I did 4 month no contact thinking I have the upper hand now to demand her stop the lie and cheating...now I know I can't Put her in Place .I saw other videos say Checked her , Put her in Place , Do not Tolerate Disrespect..any advice ?
@@user-dw2gh3bj7o my main advice would be stop following low value RUclips advice that gives you advice designed to make you fake power (ie. 'put her in her place' etc...). I touch on this in this video: ruclips.net/video/AlhQF-uFiJg/видео.htmlsi=skIkjEEjOoiGRo3I
A lot of the advice on RUclips is designed to make you feel good for watching, but actually makes you weaker and lower value.
@@BeUltranormal thank you Coach
That could be the Reason why that night I told her since she say I am her boyfriend I don't want her to have Male Friends in fact she told me to join her to her gym ..I was very happy ...
But because The Cuck feeling that I let Free pass tolerating that sit into the other man car she said is Nothing expect me to brush it off...should I have brush it off ..I was told if I change my behaviour..perhaps Masculine..she would be have follow through with the intention of coming to my house to comply some of my Terms ..like she had texted me before that she will Never upset me again and never leave me again and would tell me where she go ..I didnt even told her to ...
It is when I set the boundaries she freak out in stress....so my mistake i should let her talk into herself the promise she set for us ...
Strangely I told her what I want ..stress her out ...and ghost me when she was the one who blown up my phone telling me she willing to accommodate...is she manipulating me only ...trust her actions Not her words ...but she needs to ghost me when she had tried so much to reach out to me...I am confuse
Cheating is a character flaw. Character is who you are when you think no one is watching.
I thought that way for a long long time too. "Once a cheater, always a cheater" was my motto. However, once I actually researched, looked at studies and actually *spoke* to the people who have cheated, then the story is very very different. When we feel hurt by someone who has cheated, it can feel easier to process by labelling it a character flaw and convincing ourselves they'll 'never change' but the reality isn't as clean cut as that, unfortunately.
I'll have many more videos on cheating in the future, so I hope you'll stick around for them and watch with an open mind.