1. Low self esteem or dependent 2. Lack of impulse control 3. Narcissistic tendencies 4. Emotionally Unavailable 5. Easily bored 6. She's cheated in the past 👍👍
The low self-esteem is the most common. Specially the women that know they're not physically appealing, those women are seeking most attention to feel better about themselves.
WOW! Just wow! I just got dumped, and discovered she had cheated, when she was pretending to be going through a major tragedy. She checks all the boxes, that you mentioned.
I just broke up with my first girlfriend a month ago. I left her after only a month (I'm 24 btw) Why? After watching this I now know. No impulse control. She flaked me 3 times and wasn't taking the relationship seriously. Not to mention those flakes causing me to not see her for 2 weeks! Even though she was only 15 minutes away It's hard to find reliable people these days.
The way you have an insight on the minds of people and breaking it down logically and critically is phenomenal. I really get to learn about how everybody really feels in a relationship!!!
"Extreme selfishness, a need for flattery and attention, and an inability to consider the needs and feelings of others"......doesn't that pretty much describe virtually all women on social media platforms??
The arts has to be one of the biggest if not the biggest. I dated a highly dysfunctional game player who worked in theatre and she told me everyone she worked with was cheating with colleagues due to the long hours and touring schedule. What I know about her only reinforced the point. So I guess the takeaway is that any profession that demands long hours that is likely to foster closer bonds with colleagues than with family is likely to produce a higher quantity of cheaters than others. I could imagine that’s very much true of education professions
My mom cheated on my dad after 31 years of relationship for the reason you laid out in the video. Lack of attention, easily bored, lack of emotionnal maturity. She better sent my dad into depression and ruined 31 years of relationship than trying harder because she said "I've already done my part". But instead of leaving him, she cheated on him multiple times.
Okay, I have to take a guess. A woman that tries to get together with you who is married or has a boyfriend. If you start dating, she's most likely to cheat on you.... OK now I'm going to listen to the video and see if I'm right.
I was talking to this lady around august of last year, she said “we’re too old to be playing game” (we’re 28) so I was like okay makes sense, I talked to her for 2 months before I got fed up with the games 😂
In the late 80s, I had to have an emergency appendectomy. While I was recovering in the hospital, post surgery, the woman I was dating cheated on me. On top of that, she dumped me (which I found out second--hand) while I was still in the hospital. My revenge move? I became friends with her new boyfriend. He and I got along great. I found out that it really aggravated her that her new man and I were such good buddies.
Well, I was able to become a thorn in her side, without having any contact with her and it freed me up to get with a much better woman. As for being cucked, she told him we had already split up, which we hadn't, so he was under the impression that the path was clear, so to speak.
Most women will cheat. About 70% to 80% will cheat. A guy can be a really good guy but it doesn't matter she will find someone else . I have seen many guys that were cheated on and never seen it happen. I knew a guy that was cheated on her Answer was he was always really busy for her but if she would have been Patient with him and not cheated she would have found out why he was busy he had a ring for her. When she found out she was it was to little to late .
I haven't ever been cheated on, at least as far as I know of and I've never cheated on anyone, though I did break up with a girl once because I wanted to sleep with two others so.. idk if that counts, but I did go through a, fairly shameful in hindsight, spree of sleeping with girls who had boyfriends when I was a teenager. I didn't really know what I was doing but I could tell the type of girl who would get lost in stories I would tell or like spontaneous activities, I knew if she was that type of girl it was gonna be pretty easy to get her to cheat cause I could just kind of plant some seeds of excitement and she'd blow it WAY out of proportion in her head until it seemed like sleeping with me was going to be the best possible use of her time. My attitude at the time was like 'meh, it's her commitment not mine idgaf' - bit less serious when you're like 18 through 22ish I suppose, drew a red line around that when I was about 25 and certainly wouldn't do it now, got fat anyway so couldn't even if I wanted to ha! - but when I drop the lbs Imma go ahead and keep that red line and uphold the bro code. But I did find it interesting that you mentioned girls with impulsive personalities, cause that was one of my main green flags back then, as in green flag she's gonna cheat on her boyfriend with me. I had some problems with impulse control too, which is the main reason I ended up getting fat, I'm 5ft 8 (which btw I'm proof all is not lost if you're under 6ft) I was 19st 7 in December, down to 18st 2 now, I'm currently in Post-Grad training to become a psychotherapist and the things I have learned in this training have improved my life, my discipline and my self-development SO much. My advice would be, if your girl has poor impulse control, first of all, be spontaneous and surprise her now and again, but see if you can get her in with a counsellor or therapist to work on it. Otherwise she's gonna be liable to be running around with the guys like what I used to be who never grew up.
Do you think that young men in this society no longer have roll models? I know a lot of young men feel that way. Women will cheat on men when they do not respectt the man that they are with. I LOOOOOVE you for trying to help. Don t give up on us! We need more young ladies like yourself.
I have dated a number of cheaters. A lot of these traits came up. I call the first one "Trixie Tang Syndrome" (named for the character from The Fairly Oddparents), they constantly need reassurance and to be told how pretty, great, etc. they are. Insecurity is part of being human, an abundance of insecurity is immense unappealing. Then stuff like "I'm emotionally unavailable" or "I get bored easily" has always been a red flag to me. Saying that pretty much tells people you just shouldn't be dating. I've dated quite a few blondes... I can think of one that didn't cheat on me or just outright bail/ghost me. I'll never date another nurse or teacher again either, because holy shit those women are heartless. My longest relationship was with a blonde girl that was going to college for children's education (she now has a masters degree) and... she really fucked me over. After watching this, it definitely tracks with my own personal experiences.
There was a woman a few years older than me (by 2-3 years) at the swimming pool that was showing interest in me, she had approached me first to start a conversation. A week later I wanted to find out if she was single by asking her what she done for valentines day. She avoided mentioning her fiancé or if she was in a relationship, until I questioned if she had a partner. I'm unsure if she was just being nice and overly friendly or if it was out of boredom/loneliness, but there were certain signs that made me feel like she was flirting with me. She complimented me on how mentally mature I am and how young I looked, also seemed to really admire my goals, aspirations and character. I'm unsure if she was just being nice and overly friendly or if it was out of boredom/loneliness, but there were certain signs that made me feel like she was flirting with me.
I was in nursing (learning disabilities) for 35 years, I think the caring professions can desensitise you to pain and suffering in both yourself and others if you are not careful. Also general medical nursing can involve seeing death and bereavement on a daily basis, making many nurses toughen up and become aware of the fleeting nature of life and inevitability of death, leading to a kind of carpe diem hedonistic attitude to life. Hospitals are notorious for promiscuity and infidelity, maybe also because of men and women working long hours together in stressful and emotional situations.
Hello and Yes that is my experience. One thing I would add is all the crap on social media dumping on guys. And the mainstream media is not much better.
Courtney once again I wish you made this video before I met my ex. My ex in college had low self-esteem and always needed attention so she would invite numerous people and guys who would like her and give her the attention she needed while I was working my ass off in college
I should bookmark this and watch it monthly to remind myself of the signs. Cheated on 2 occasions in last 4 years. Ex wife (no kids thankfully) cheated in 2020. Married for just over 2 years. (Now ex) gf cheated in December 2023 after 1.5 years. In addition, I lost my closest friend (parent) in August 2023. First therapy/counselling today.🤕
I am pretty sure most onlyfans girls, strppers, barmaids, girls in the nightclub industry, girls in the entertainment industry, hairdressers, "message therapists" have these 6 traits.
Good video giving us info on the types of women most likely to cheat. I'm glad the title of the video and what you mentioned said most likely to cheat and not will cheat. The six types mentioned are pretty much the ones most likely to do this. Out of the six types of women most likely to cheat, I would say three of those types might more than likely lead the way to do this act. The ones lacking impluse control, the ones easily bored and definitely the ones who have an history doing it.
I would have added substance addicts also ... it's debatable whether this may be covered under impulse control issues because, when clean and sober, many addicts are great people ... right up to when they slip up. Addicts are responsible for maintaining their own sobriety.
Women who have become pretty/fit past relatively late in life (mid 20s)
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i went from always single and ALWAYS happy, to being cheated on by the only girl i left in, feeling like shit for 2 months now. he takes her out more. (i did live 1600km away so... lmao. back to just using women.)
Courtney..you are absolutely stunning but the best thing about you..you have a beautiful mind and using it for a good cause..helping the betrayed..keep up the great work 😊
Education is actually a fairly balanced work field between the genders. As for why more women cheat in Education, I wonder if it has to do with the attention they get from all the younger males. Its a trope and a meme at this point, but for a good reason. Young teen guys having their hormones hitting and seeing the attractive teacher who is mature, friendly, etc. That would be my guess as to why its more common within this field.
3:33 well some women do get decreased attention because they are either boring or contentious in the guy is just losing desire for her but that's no reason to cheat, that's a reason to self improve
Women=hypergamy Men=harem; 80% of women find only 20% of men attractive, while 80% of men find 20 year olds most attractive. Do you settle for what you've got, or do you keep looking for more? The definition of what cheating entails is much broader for women than men. It also varies by culture (in Japan, for instance, going to a prostitute is not considered cheating by most). In order to cheat, you have to be someone who is able to cheat, so if you're in that 20% of men, the oysters are your oyster. Men want sexual variety, women want a better man.
The biggest issue in my opinion is most people are not suited to be with one person. The divorce statistics alone show at least 50% of marriages do not last. And a high percentage that do divorce, remarry within a few years. At least half more are miserable or are left with no option due to outside influences (religion, financial and so on…). If you study the nature of men, it is an unnatural arrangement for him to be with one woman out of his biological imperative to “spread his seed.” Women today can now support themselves and are no longer held to societal pressure to stay with one man. In my opinion maybe, and this is a stretch, maybe 10% of couples can make it work. Marriage, in my opinion is outdated and useless today with one exception…raising children. Other than that, especially with the penalties of ending a marriage, it makes no sense.
Hey so i’m a disabled man in a wheelchair i’ve only been on two dates ever. I’m 25. my condition meant i had to use steroids since i was a young child so my growth was stunted im only 5’3. I’m trying my hardest to get a girlfriend but it’s such a struggle. I overcame social anxiety, got anxiety under control, been using therapy since 13. I go to College parties twice a week and have no issues approaching women and getting their numbers. But getting dates is tricky and i don’t have a negative self doubt attitude anymore. But there’s like no help out there on youtube
@@battletested2934 I go out with people all the time to hang out with my friends and meet new people. I’m a social butterfly who has no trouble talking to anyone. I can get along with anyone. The majority of my friends are able bodied, I do have friends with disabilities too. I personally don’t think 2 disabled people in a relationship can work out unless one person is barely disabled. Sex wouldn’t work with a girl as disabled as me. My car can’t fit 2 full size wheelchairs. I can’t use my elevator myself. There would be a lack of touch and intimacy. I want an able bodied girlfriend. As it would fit me the best. Again if a girl has minor disabilities i would still be cool with it.
Yeah, I was actually used and abused by a narcissistic lady in the education industry ....... So that validates two of your points, straightaway, Courtney Ryan !! 😊👍. Overall good content and an eye opener for most of the lovesick Romeos out there ..... 😊👍.
whats interesting is something mentioned here about lack of self control as one of the traits. Modern day women dont want men to ask about a woman's body count and say its not important. But promiscuity is a sign of lack of self control. That's why guys see it as a bad sign as far as relationship/marriage material. Then they shame men for mentioning it. "he is just insecure" or "small dick energy". which, by the way, is just manipulation/narcissistic tendencies. "All women are 10s" is another example of narcissistic tendencies that men see as a red flag.
Good job Courtney!! I think it is a little sad that the guys that follow you click more on videos that say something like, 'woman finds out that (feminism, over rating herself, chasig Chad, being promiscuous) makes her sad'........🥴 oh that sweet sweet validation😂. But I was checking out the roomates and you said there that people do not click on 5 green flags a woman has as much as 5 red flags a woman has. But this video had good stats at the end or at least interesting. It's good this channel both helpful content and entertainment junk food content.
Yeah I'm on the same wavelength as you but I do have one exception. I don't think cheating is ever Justified but the exception that I've ever given is if the person is super abusive but even then it's complicated. So they could they want out of that relationship they might find somebody else and then wean themselves off of the abusive person. And it depends on the abusive person if they can really Knock You Out whether that's a good idea probably not so that's my only exception otherwise that's a big fat nope! Also I'm one of those guys who would give a lady three chances before I just dropped them because they cheated. Because there's always room for improvement and doing better in a relationship
Accordingly in some societies women can move from man to man. But then think these men have experienced many women. We don’t know what that’s like. The real issue is possessive men….I own this woman. Really? Maybe she senses that and doesn’t like it so she cheats.
In regards to male dominated fields, engineering is like 90% male yet the women aren’t likely to cheat. Could one speculate that the stress level & income aspect of perhaps the medical field makes a male suitor more desirable then other fields?
Very well put. Doctors. Tried giving people opioids to help on mental problems. 30 years is to long for this mistake. Doctors think they have a pill for everything. And they are God. The alcohol. That goes with this problem , is not good ether. I can not fix this problem only recognizes this problem. I will only pray that God gets the right help to this person to correct their mental issue.
I realize now that most of the women I’ve dated were the type that crave validation, coincidentally the all cheated on me. I’m like the male version of a woman that always dates loser guys. Lol
All points to low self esteem. Thanks for this, really good to know for those "sweet and innocent" types, frequently the narc suppliers of choice; narcissism isn't call out enough!! The right-wing type often marginalizes narcissism to mask their own. I'm not usually attracted by conservative chicks but you're pretty neat. You should make a video geared towards the more sensitive type, maybe? The, easy to manipulate? Half cheated once (heavy, almost naked making out), never again, it felt great during but horrible after, wasn't worth it, no matter how hot she is but... tell that to my 20 year old self.
Hi, Courtney. I'm an anaesthetist (anesthesiologist in American) in Australia and I can confirm that a lot of affairs happen in the hospital system. The reasons are un-surprising when you think about them. The pattern I often see is a male surgeon or anaesthetist having an affair with a female nurse. Surgeons and anesthetists work long hours and often spend more time with their co-workers than with their families. They don't have much time to meet people outside of their workplace. People with narcissist traits are more likely to pursue well-paid, highly regarded professions such as medicine and are likely to be susceptible to flattery and attention. Due to studying and working hard during their teens and early adulthood, they've often missed out on opportunities to date and might feel that they could actually attract a more desirable partner. If they married before they were fully qualified (highly paid) specialists, then this might be true. At the same time, there are plenty of young, attractive nurses who, due to the limits of their profession, have limited opportunities for career advancement / income growth. They're often in relationships with low to middle-income men who they met before they were working closely with doctors. Some see high-income doctors as an opportunity to improve their lifestyle. Sometimes these workplace romances endure but often one of the participants tires of the other person and moves on to a new affair with a different co-worker. I expect that you would find a similar dynamic in other professions where highly-paid, hard-working men spend time with attractive lower-income younger women.
On top of that high stress situation make for great afrodisiacs. It however does ruin workplace atmosphere and often the female workers get the short end of the stick, literally and figuratively
I went on a first date with a woman who threw out so many red flags it was mind boggling. "How much do you make? Is that net or gross? Are you a manager? How many square feet is your house?" These were all on the first date, mind you. Sure as hell she would have cheated. There was no second date with her.
At least 70% of women you'll meet have that same interview style dating technique. Others will tell you a bit about their lives and you can judge quite quickly if you can or can't afford her as she won't stick around if you can't. The 3rd type are the ones who could get any guy they want so you have to think smart because she would have a guy if she could hold a relationship down, which obviously she can't and probably never has. It's a lot like something you've heard of before except in reverse as there's around 1-2% quality women, the rest are trash with 2-5 kids. Each child is reckoned to cost £6k pa 🤑 Some single women haven't dated in 6-15years as they got so damaged the 1st time they now don't have a clue and she'd be so sorely inexperienced in the bedroom that a block of wood laying under you would more be more fun 😂 As always most women see their genital area as the only way they've known to gain access to funding or safety not forgetting any man or woman in a high income job is highly likely to be a ruthless operator 🙌
I remember an ex and a woman I dated who had concerning thoughts on my views on cheating. Basically they didn't like my ideas... It's simple. If you cheat, you're cut out of my life. Point, blank, period. There's no discussion. I don't care for the reason. I don't date cheaters. Take your second chance with someone else. My ex had a little of that online validation need. The girl I was dating had very poor impulse control. So what you're saying Courtney certainly checks out for me.
@@dudejoe8390 they basically thought my views were too harsh. "everyone makes mistakes" that sort of thing. My retort would be something along the lines of "their second chance can be with someone else".... Then it'd be something about my attachment style and I'd tune out and go back to whatever I was doing
100%. I am no hypocrite either. Not that I would or have any desire to, but If I was in a relationship and I cheated, and you didn't just walk out of my life; you F ed up. If I cheated, you better be damn well sure it wasn't an accident.
Female infidelity has been rising quickly for the past 30 years. Now it is at the same level as male infidelity for the first time in history. BUT, the worrying thing is: there’s no sign yet of a “limiting factor” so it is likely to keep rising for the foreseeable future. Women have every opportunity to cheat. They are constantly hit on, and they spend more time with flirty coworkers than with their spouses. (Hence the term “work husband” - such a disrespectful term to their life partner)… They get thousands of “matches” on dating apps, and guys hitting them up on social media. Meanwhile, their boyfriends/partners are forgotten, neglected, manipulated or even abused. They are made to raise other men’s children without ever realising it. The world’s a mess. But you cannot fully blame promiscuous women. Thirsty men, and simps, have given all their power to women and robbed men of quality relationships. For society to move forward, men need to stop chasing everything in a skirt and look at a woman’s character more critically. Watch-out for “red flags” and don’t be a chump (like I was).
Fact, Work became I have to look out for my guys, if my guys are there I have to be there. Husband and son at home but her guys where the #1 priority. Well at least one of them. Maybe he left his wife for her but I drought it.
Thanks for saying the latter, instead of putting all the responsibility onto women like "in the good old days". I personally think that people would do well, also, to basically care a bit less about sex for sex sake. And care more about things like: personal chemistry and passion and depth of emotional bond. Quality, basically.
It would be interesting to know from your wife how often men hit on them and what she thinks of it. They probably don’t tell their husband for fear of scaring them.
I personally consider cheating in the same category as physical violence. It is never the answer to your problems. It always makes matters worse. People who resort to these responses do so because they're not smart enough to find a better solution. There is always, always, always better solutions than cheating and violence.
I have been both shot and cheated on. I can tell you that the betrayal of cheating is 100X more painful than a bullet wound. That pistol destroyed some skin, muscle, and bone. Her cheating destroyed not just our relationship but my ability to trust, my self-esteem, and much more. It's been almost a year and I still think about some aspect of that betrayal day after day. I very rarely notice the small hole the bullet left.
Violence is absolutely the answer when it is between that and dying, or defending the people you love. Clearly you've never been in a life or death situation before. Your comment is extremely ignorant.
My ex-wife cheated on me with about half a dozen different guys after she found out she was pregnant with our second kid and cheated the entire pregnancy. I found out after she left me and about a couple months before the kid was born. She fit the description of a narcissist perfectly.
My ex cheated for the same reason you mentioned early in your video, she said she “wasn’t getting the attention she needed from me”. Funny thing is, I had expressed for years that I was not getting the effort and attention I needed in the relationship from her, but I never cheated. It was only an issue when it affected her. Selfish people will do inherently selfish things. It is their nature.
@@moleahy6880 I did because the girl was hot and I enjoyed hooking up with her. I was like 21 and too young an dumb to care or even realize what a waste of time it was and what damage it did to my view and trust in relationships now. I don’t trust relationships or even friendships anymore because of the pathetic evil shit that these girls that I dated did to me.
Thats all I ever asked for. If you feel you need to cheat youre already gone so just get gone. No need to do something specifically designed for me to eventually find out. Nope. Chics all cheat knowing its going to hurt. Thats why they do it. They most likely dont even find the other dude attractive. Its all spite because they cant control their emotions. They get upset over literally everything. Even shit they make up
Tell that to my ex. She constantly reminded how miserable, lonely and unhappy she was in the relationship. When I asked her to walk away. She refused. It's better to have "miserable"supply then to have none. Eventually we parted ways.
Courtney, I wish you made this video sooner. I proposed to my now ex when she displayed a HANDFUL of these warning signs. She also works in medicine. This video is so crazy accurate it’s scary, prophetic almost. At least we broke up before we got married and had any kids. Thank you for creating these videos - you have a lot of good and accurate information and approach topics with zero bias.
My ex an RN, yup she cheated. And being in the medical field you get to see the hypergamy , the people that know, know what I’m talking about. Thank you!
Say more, please. I'm interested because my first hypothesis about this being a more surprising result was that the medical and social care fields are so dominated by women by percentage that it's inevitable many of the cheaters would come from that field without any particular causality implied. You've observed something specific though, which peaked my curiosity.
@@lunaslide_actual Of course, you're more likely to cheat with someone in your surroundings. Since you spend as much time, if not more, with people at work, a RN is more likely to cheat with a male doctor. But what photoman mitch is saying is that, woman date up, they prefer someone with more value than themselves. A doctor is seen as higher value. That's hypergamy. Woman rarely will date down and they certainly will not cheat down with a guy that's perceived as lesser value than she is or I suppose lesser value than the man she's currently with.
@@pierrelevasseur2701 Appreciate the response. Unfortunately, I wasn't clear enough. I understand what hypergamy is, I was curious if he was saying there is some greater than average expression of hypergamy among caregivers. Rereading the comment though, it seems to be more of a personal experience than clinical knowledge.
@@lunaslide_actual I don't see why that would be, a higher percentage of hypergamy among caregivers. It's possible but I don't see an obvious cause and effect factor just based on one's job description. I think a person will cheat mainly because they are not getting what they want and need from their partner. It's why I suggested in another post to read The Five Love Languages. It would be why a woman married to a millionaire would cheat, not having to worry about finances is great but if her love language is quality time and her husband doesn't provide that, she'll find it elsewhere.
The amount of times I've witnessed girls that very subtlety cheat on their man is insane, I've had a married women feel my arms, women that flirt etc. And other women completely stare me down or take a glance at me when their man isn't looking. It's a fucking joke and it happens so much to the point that I think of that any time I think about a relationship
I had a girl I was casually seeing and I found out she cheated on her bf with me and a few others(at least 3 men). Then she thought it was a me problem that I said "no" when she asked if I wanted to date her seriously. I had told her that if she wanted to keep seeing me she needed to break up with her bf and she did but I also told her it was never going to be a thing between us. I mean, she was (as far as I know) dating me exclusivity, but I wasn't about to commit to her. I did feel kind of bad about it but it was the best choice.
You're so right Courtney! That explains why I was cheated on, the girl I was with was lonely insecure and later I found out she has BPD, she cheated very quickly because of perceived rejection or something.
Yeah I knew a girl, I loved her but she acted very hot and cold, acted like I didn’t exist via texts but in person threw herself at me but then also rolled her eyes if I didn’t do exactly as she wanted . I believe she has borderline personality . I don’t she she knows. Some white knight manipulator took over her life when I got upset and called her out for all the nasty things she did to me. She basically doubled down and made her feel she was totally right and I was totally wrong . He also project a lot. I feel so bad for her because I always sensed she could easily be manipulated due to her strong impulses and in the heat of the moment I described her and this guy saw it and basically said to himself “Easy target” . She then claimed they were soul mates a few weeks later. I showed her legit love for a year and a half at the least, she didn’t care . Strong borderline tendency , they also fall hard for narcisssists And she seemed to be drawn to guys like that and that last guy was the biggest joke of a wanna a tough/cool/righteous/romantic guy you could ever dream of. He’s almost a walking cliche, it baffled me how she could take him seriously , he’s like a cartoon
Dating as an autistic man here is downright impossible. For over 20 years, I’ve been told to hide that I’m autistic bc people will think lowly of me. I thought my parents were exaggerating, and they were. It was way worse than they let on. I quite literally have to hide the fact that I have autism for own safety. Every time people figured out that I’m autistic, there’d be someone who’d come out of the woodworks to treat me horribly and/or try to take advantage of me. Afterall, I’m autistic, so that automatically makes me less than human to most other people. I mask as best I can, but if I that drop the mask, it puts me at risk of physical assault. (Men have attacked me while calling me a “fucking freak” and I don’t even know what set them off. I never spoke to them and I remember that I was trying to unmask at the time.) Point being, my life literally depends on keeping that mask on 24/7. My mom would work at the schools I go to, but I strongly believe it was to make sure the school doesn’t do anything shady with me. Autistic people are more likely to be abused by teachers. My mom being there didn’t stop the schools from doing shady shit with me, but I shudder to imagine what they would’ve done without her there. In my teen years, I did some resumé experiments and found that people who committed vehicular manslaughter have an easier time being hired than autistic people. The one question I always asked was why? Why am I worse than someone who killed people with their car? I have had partners who treated me well, but finding them was a monumental pain. Now that I’m single again, I’ve found that I can’t let my date know I’m autistic and I can’t not her know either. If I don’t tell her, she assumes I’m weird and either leaves or cheats on me. If I do tell her, she either leaves immediately, tries to take advantage of me and/or treats me like a complete idiot. The only advice I ever get now is “you haven’t found the right one” or that I’m not confident in myself. It doesn’t matter who I ask. Even with all these people that genuinely hate me, I still work to improve myself, but it’s never enough. It genuinely seems like even though I have a well-paying job, treat my partners well (my exes will tell you that I treated them very well), my own place, have hobbies, learned a lot of social skills, learned how to be funny and improved my looks to be an 8/10, it’s still not enough. I’m debating on whether or not I should just give up on ever being able to find someone who treats me well. Basic human decency is probably too much to ask for now.
word of advice from a fellow autist - dont look at it like something that defines you. you are you, not the shit you're diagnosed with. never use autism as an excuse, just keep vibing. the second i stopped saying "its my depression/anxity/autism" is when my life started improving. take responsibility for as much as you can.
Because you genuinely are special and anyone special in the post-panddmic hyper conformist world must be extra, draining or a narc. Obviously. Was diagnosed with autism & adhd myself when younger twice (age 3 and 17), but suspect I actually have bipolar ii. Folks, mental health stigmatization doesnt make you sane it makes you evil and frankly I know why you wont hire people or befriend people who are genuinely different: because you're an egomaniac who feels special and entitled to not give a damn. You're in a state of panic and you dont like seeing reality for what it is so you need someone to blame. Ah yes, those who arent successful must be burdensome to us as a society, quick let's kill them and take them away from here! I'd be wary of the scientific authorities as well who proclaim we need to have genetically modified babies or eugenics. They want the perfect human without problems not because of its benefits, but because they're psychopaths without a shred of compassion themselves and literally believe in the law of the jungle. I mean think about it, in either warfare or hard times how does an organism survive without too much pain: they get sneaky and clever in their adaptations. And this is the true issue in our times: we are so focused on external locus of control and get upset when we're blamed but feel very comfortable and happy to have a scapegoat come in so we can rise to the top. But this is wrong because it seems to be common sense that the best way to have a better society isnt by taking peoples rights away or spending an exhausting amount of time on a hypercobformist ideological sentiment, but instead to teach people the virtue of SELF-DISCIPLINE AND SELF-RESTRAINT! Seriously folks, disciplining a child shouldn't be about punishment vs reward, but manifest destiny vs atrophy. Are you going to advance or be held back?! Because then you create power and social games which just screw up everything. But if you teach people to accept themselves for being who they are they they can accept others. If you can accept others then you can leave them alone because why?! Because they're self-discipline already and already are trustworthy. Trust, a lost art in society itself, and all because we didnt teach people to be autonomous and self-discipline humans we reinvented self-discipline and equated it with selfishness because you didnt need the system to impose its will on you and that meant the government could be smaller. So people hate all individualists (evil ones being dark triad), neurodivergents (bipolar, schizophrenia, autism, schizoid etc.) because they dont feel gravitated towards groups, they arent ooooh lookie I see shiny girl leggings, or coins. Lemme go manipulate and get some. Gimme that its mine! They raise us to be animals not human with our own souls or conscience. We can have a free society if we taught people to RESPECT their own dignity and their self-discipline. It's that simple. A society of self-discipline people is one where we dont spend our time distrusting and making people do a million little things for no reward and then risk getting cut off and burned. All my life I felt different as well and still do. The pain and alienation is so great I became a philosopher over the years seeking answers and wisdom. I'm writing books now debunking Nihilism. I think Nihilism is the worst philosophy ever created by mankind because once its embraced there is no more hope at all. Everything becomes perpetually lost, dark, meaningless etc. And we seemed to have entered it around last year.
Why doesn't that apply to men ? Because I'm telling you that has zero correlation. Also, this girl I went to HS with was a complete whore unabashedly. GB college dudes at 17 and on and on. Her father was always in the picture. So. I kinda think this is a case of correlation without causation.
Got cheated twice now (I've been thinking for a while that maybe somehow has been my fault) but after watching this video, along with reading multiple opinions from a lot of people watching these kind of videos too I've found that the traits that you just explain pinpoints exactly the behavior that I've dealing with in my partners, and also why I'm attracted to those .. I'm a person who wants to help all the time, who wants to cheer people up, etc .. I love this video, thanks for it!
I wouldn't always blame one side or the other. You could have been stale, boring, playing it "safe" & "nice" in the way you treat her. A woman doesn't want to marry someone who treat her like his sister. Spice up your life and the relationship, push & pull is the best tactic. Or it might be her fault as well, having narcissistic tendencies and never ending attention seeking behavior that no one man can fulfill. But again, you don't solve that by cheating, that's disrespectful, rude & disgraceful. She can always breakup and hookup with whoever she finds better fit for her.
You probably know this already but stop going for broken people who need you to cater to them and cheer them up. It is not your job to fix broken women.
> and also why I'm attracted to those .. I'm a person who wants to help all the time, who wants to cheer people up, etc .. I feel you. Thankfully, in my case, I had two 1+ year-long relationships at a relatively young age (19 and 21) that simply did beaten up this side of me to a bloody pulp until it was completely gone. At some point you'll understand that support and cheering are things that are earned, and women are not excused from that just for being women, or pretty, or having a difficult past. You save these impulses for those who are actually making an effort in the here and now. Note that this is true even for friendships, regardless of gender. Romantic relationships just make this mindset even more necessary for both people involved.
I am a teacher and my wife too. But she cheated on me with her ex because she said she didn't get enough attention from me. There's no words that can describe the pain and hurts that I have been through. Thank you for the video Courtney, it's totally accurate.
This is why it would be better if you be in a relationship with someone who is an introvert rather than an extrovert, because introverts are less likely to cheat on their partners than extroverts. Most girls and boys these days end up in relationships with extroverts, this is the reason why cheating is very common among couples. But if you're in a relationship with an introvert then it'll be very unlikely that he/she will cheat on you
"Easily bored" is a red flag for me for another reason: I tend to wonder if an easily bored person does not have a rich inner environment or is lower in self-awareness or ability to self-entertain than I might prefer to be close to.
Same, I usually asks girl on date on what's her hobbies, those easily bored type usually can't even commit to hobbies, their hobbies usually short-lived. This video just confirms my tendency to those who can't even commit to hobbies.
Maybe I am wrong, but most western women don't seem to have any real hobbies, especially things that involve using their minds, creativity, talents, etc. Most women seem to only watch tv/movies, listen to music, go clubbing/dancing with friends for fun. These types seem to be easily bored. They often don't seem interested in learning or trying something new and if they do, it's usually very casual. Even though there's plenty of female artists, writers, gamers, photographers, etc. there still doesn't seem to be enough of them.
My ex broke up with me and told her i was "boring". The actual reason was because i was focusing more on myself and giving her less attention. She was a very selfish person and lacks and accountability for her wrongs.
@@Dj.D25 > Maybe I am wrong, but most western women don't seem to have any real hobbies I've noticed that too, specially in the last 10+ years or so. There was a time up to the beginning of the 2000's where I'd meet and be friends (or more) with a LOT of women who were genuinely into music, or cinema, or books, to the point I could have 1-2 hour-long conversations with them about a single author, director, a genre and so on. Now it's as rare as diamonds. I blame the rise of social media, subscription services, and the hard shift to digital delivery. People in general - men and women - are more easily distracted and have so many easy options that they can't really cherish what they do find to like. > Even though there's plenty of female artists, writers, gamers, photographers, etc. there still doesn't seem to be enough of them. Oh no, there sure are. The problem here is not quantity, it's quality. You just need to take a hard look at the state of mainstream writing, art and entertainment in general these days (regardless of gender, by the way). Most of the younger people on those fields right now aren't there because they really love it. It's because of multiple external reasons: they couldn't do anything else remotely properly, they entered these fields to avoid 9-to-5 jobs with more responsibilities, they can't deal with any real pressure, or they feel they can use art/entertainment to 'educate' other people or 'save the world'. That's why these people can't produce meaningful art or content, and their work often feels stiff, like the author is looking down on you all the time. And of course, such people will never be capable - and sometimes not even willing - to properly discuss or have any real passion for a piece of art or entertainment (unless it's through an activism lens, of course). That's why you don't meet genuinely interesting creatives around in the real world even if there are more content creators than ever, thanks to all these subscription services, new avenues to self-publishing, social media and other ways of selling your work easier than ever. Deep down, to most of them, the music, books, movies, games they create or help create are just another job that allows them to avoid putting on a suit or dealing with 'traditional' working hours. Nothing more.
1. Low self esteem or dependent
2. Lack of impulse control
3. Narcissistic tendencies
4. Emotionally Unavailable
5. Easily bored
6. She's cheated in the past
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Thank you!
The low self-esteem is the most common. Specially the women that know they're not physically appealing, those women are seeking most attention to feel better about themselves.
Dependent... So if they feel like they're the center of the universe... Even when you have children!
I agree with all except low self esteem cause most women have low self esteem that’s why makeup industry and plastic surgery makes soo much money 💰
Cheating is such a horrible, hurtful betrayal, regardless who does it.
Women cheat
@@necromancer7712and nobody is disputing that.
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@@SurvivorBri no one is disputing that
Only to overly sensitive people. If you don’t get an std then it doesn’t affect your whatsoever unless you chose to let it.
If he/she cheats, he/she belongs to the streets!
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That's Corey Wayne's line.
I like what you said!
Metallica: “Sad but true!🎶”
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Always remember, it’s not the first time they cheated, it’s the first time you caught them.
To be fair, sometimes they ARE caught the first time they do it.
But yeah I generally agree with your comment.
Being single and being alone lonely is less painful than heart break 😮
WOW! Just wow! I just got dumped, and discovered she had cheated, when she was pretending to be going through a major tragedy. She checks all the boxes, that you mentioned.
Women who say they are bored all the time 🚩🚩🚩🚩
The right place, the right time, and it can happen to anybody!
And don't lie and say you never thought about it.
I just broke up with my first girlfriend a month ago. I left her after only a month (I'm 24 btw)
Why? After watching this I now know. No impulse control. She flaked me 3 times and wasn't taking the relationship seriously. Not to mention those flakes causing me to not see her for 2 weeks! Even though she was only 15 minutes away
It's hard to find reliable people these days.
You did the right thing
@@battletested2934 thanks
The way you have an insight on the minds of people and breaking it down logically and critically is phenomenal. I really get to learn about how everybody really feels in a relationship!!!
She read an article and she's relaying common sense. That was hardly a deep psychological analysis.
Only you can ever truly know how you feel.
My ex girlfriend met every single criteria and surprise surprise, she cheated on me
I honestly think a lot of women would cheat if they had the opportunity. I think they're constantly looking for the next best thing.
According to the internet scads of women would cheat if they’re knew they would not get caught. Is that true? Maybe…maybe not!
"Extreme selfishness, a need for flattery and attention, and an inability to consider the needs and feelings of others"......doesn't that pretty much describe virtually all women on social media platforms??
100% agree with this. I have been married to a teacher and a nurse, and both cheated.
The arts has to be one of the biggest if not the biggest. I dated a highly dysfunctional game player who worked in theatre and she told me everyone she worked with was cheating with colleagues due to the long hours and touring schedule. What I know about her only reinforced the point.
So I guess the takeaway is that any profession that demands long hours that is likely to foster closer bonds with colleagues than with family is likely to produce a higher quantity of cheaters than others. I could imagine that’s very much true of education professions
lol.
Nothing said about cheating while away. Might be a fling with a good looking man while in summer college!
My mom cheated on my dad after 31 years of relationship for the reason you laid out in the video.
Lack of attention, easily bored, lack of emotionnal maturity.
She better sent my dad into depression and ruined 31 years of relationship than trying harder because she said "I've already done my part".
But instead of leaving him, she cheated on him multiple times.
Okay, I have to take a guess. A woman that tries to get together with you who is married or has a boyfriend. If you start dating, she's most likely to cheat on you.... OK now I'm going to listen to the video and see if I'm right.
I was talking to this lady around august of last year, she said “we’re too old to be playing game” (we’re 28) so I was like okay makes sense, I talked to her for 2 months before I got fed up with the games 😂
In the late 80s, I had to have an emergency appendectomy. While I was recovering in the hospital, post surgery, the woman I was dating cheated on me. On top of that, she dumped me (which I found out second--hand) while I was still in the hospital. My revenge move? I became friends with her new boyfriend. He and I got along great. I found out that it really aggravated her that her new man and I were such good buddies.
You befriended the man who cucked you? Sounds like an L my man.
Well, I was able to become a thorn in her side, without having any contact with her and it freed me up to get with a much better woman. As for being cucked, she told him we had already split up, which we hadn't, so he was under the impression that the path was clear, so to speak.
Cuck behavior
What red flags did you noticed, if I may ask
Did you take him out scamming for chicks?
Most women will cheat. About 70% to 80% will cheat. A guy can be a really good guy but it doesn't matter she will find someone else . I have seen many guys that were cheated on and never seen it happen. I knew a guy that was cheated on her Answer was he was always really busy for her but if she would have been Patient with him and not cheated she would have found out why he was busy he had a ring for her. When she found out she was it was to little to late .
I haven't ever been cheated on, at least as far as I know of and I've never cheated on anyone, though I did break up with a girl once because I wanted to sleep with two others so.. idk if that counts, but I did go through a, fairly shameful in hindsight, spree of sleeping with girls who had boyfriends when I was a teenager. I didn't really know what I was doing but I could tell the type of girl who would get lost in stories I would tell or like spontaneous activities, I knew if she was that type of girl it was gonna be pretty easy to get her to cheat cause I could just kind of plant some seeds of excitement and she'd blow it WAY out of proportion in her head until it seemed like sleeping with me was going to be the best possible use of her time.
My attitude at the time was like 'meh, it's her commitment not mine idgaf' - bit less serious when you're like 18 through 22ish I suppose, drew a red line around that when I was about 25 and certainly wouldn't do it now, got fat anyway so couldn't even if I wanted to ha! - but when I drop the lbs Imma go ahead and keep that red line and uphold the bro code. But I did find it interesting that you mentioned girls with impulsive personalities, cause that was one of my main green flags back then, as in green flag she's gonna cheat on her boyfriend with me.
I had some problems with impulse control too, which is the main reason I ended up getting fat, I'm 5ft 8 (which btw I'm proof all is not lost if you're under 6ft) I was 19st 7 in December, down to 18st 2 now, I'm currently in Post-Grad training to become a psychotherapist and the things I have learned in this training have improved my life, my discipline and my self-development SO much. My advice would be, if your girl has poor impulse control, first of all, be spontaneous and surprise her now and again, but see if you can get her in with a counsellor or therapist to work on it. Otherwise she's gonna be liable to be running around with the guys like what I used to be who never grew up.
lol, your voice is so easy to listen to. I can actually listen to it while studying. Never change and have a good one!
Do you think that young men in this society no longer have roll models? I know a lot of young men feel that way. Women will cheat on men when they do not respectt the man that they are with. I LOOOOOVE you for trying to help. Don t give up on us! We need more young ladies like yourself.
I have dated a number of cheaters. A lot of these traits came up.
I call the first one "Trixie Tang Syndrome" (named for the character from The Fairly Oddparents), they constantly need reassurance and to be told how pretty, great, etc. they are. Insecurity is part of being human, an abundance of insecurity is immense unappealing.
Then stuff like "I'm emotionally unavailable" or "I get bored easily" has always been a red flag to me. Saying that pretty much tells people you just shouldn't be dating.
I've dated quite a few blondes... I can think of one that didn't cheat on me or just outright bail/ghost me. I'll never date another nurse or teacher again either, because holy shit those women are heartless. My longest relationship was with a blonde girl that was going to college for children's education (she now has a masters degree) and... she really fucked me over.
After watching this, it definitely tracks with my own personal experiences.
I work with nurses and they're generally horrible people.
She's not yours, it's just your turn.
Reality
There was a woman a few years older than me (by 2-3 years) at the swimming pool that was showing interest in me, she had approached me first to start a conversation.
A week later I wanted to find out if she was single by asking her what she done for valentines day. She avoided mentioning her fiancé or if she was in a relationship, until I questioned if she had a partner.
I'm unsure if she was just being nice and overly friendly or if it was out of boredom/loneliness, but there were certain signs that made me feel like she was flirting with me. She complimented me on how mentally mature I am and how young I looked, also seemed to really admire my goals, aspirations and character.
I'm unsure if she was just being nice and overly friendly or if it was out of boredom/loneliness, but there were certain signs that made me feel like she was flirting with me.
i dated a nurse one time and she was all the points you have outlined in the video
I was in nursing (learning disabilities) for 35 years, I think the caring professions can desensitise you to pain and suffering in both yourself and others if you are not careful. Also general medical nursing can involve seeing death and bereavement on a daily basis, making many nurses toughen up and become aware of the fleeting nature of life and inevitability of death, leading to a kind of carpe diem hedonistic attitude to life. Hospitals are notorious for promiscuity and infidelity, maybe also because of men and women working long hours together in stressful and emotional situations.
Damn it. It hurts even more when you realize that your crush is taken, as has happened with me today.
Hello and Yes that is my experience.
One thing I would add is all the crap on social media dumping on guys. And the mainstream media is not much better.
Courtney once again I wish you made this video before I met my ex. My ex in college had low self-esteem and always needed attention so she would invite numerous people and guys who would like her and give her the attention she needed while I was working my ass off in college
Women never have remorse when cheating, they have remorse when they get caught.
i would never allow or be with a girl who has an instagram account where she is clearly seeking attention from guys.
I should bookmark this and watch it monthly to remind myself of the signs. Cheated on 2 occasions in last 4 years.
Ex wife (no kids thankfully) cheated in 2020. Married for just over 2 years.
(Now ex) gf cheated in December 2023 after 1.5 years.
In addition, I lost my closest friend (parent) in August 2023.
First therapy/counselling today.🤕
Welp...I'm screwed. I wonder how much time I've got? Joking aside, this just affirms that I need to be more vigilant rather than naive.
Answer-all of them.
The Narcissistic tendencies
Could you make a video about recovering from being cheated on
Courtney, you're so pretty deep down inside.
Thank you! ❤️
If she is bored or unhappy and won't address it and makes your life miserable, she is wating for the next 🐓to fall on. She won't just leave.
I am pretty sure most onlyfans girls, strppers, barmaids, girls in the nightclub industry, girls in the entertainment industry, hairdressers, "message therapists" have these 6 traits.
You can add flight attendants and women who work in warehouses to that list
Good video giving us info on the types of women most likely to cheat. I'm glad the title of the video and what you mentioned said most likely to cheat and not will cheat. The six types mentioned are pretty much the ones most likely to do this. Out of the six types of women most likely to cheat, I would say three of those types might more than likely lead the way to do this act. The ones lacking impluse control, the ones easily bored and definitely the ones who have an history doing it.
I would have added substance addicts also ... it's debatable whether this may be covered under impulse control issues because, when clean and sober, many addicts are great people ... right up to when they slip up. Addicts are responsible for maintaining their own sobriety.
Women who have become pretty/fit past relatively late in life (mid 20s)
i went from always single and ALWAYS happy, to being cheated on by the only girl i left in, feeling like shit for 2 months now. he takes her out more. (i did live 1600km away so... lmao. back to just using women.)
Courtney..you are absolutely stunning but the best thing about you..you have a beautiful mind and using it for a good cause..helping the betrayed..keep up the great work 😊
Communicate and set boundaries. Also, women need love and men need respect. Of course that is if the person is stable.
A girl who is bored will leave you.
Education is actually a fairly balanced work field between the genders. As for why more women cheat in Education, I wonder if it has to do with the attention they get from all the younger males. Its a trope and a meme at this point, but for a good reason. Young teen guys having their hormones hitting and seeing the attractive teacher who is mature, friendly, etc. That would be my guess as to why its more common within this field.
Your presentation is so perfect. Great info but definitely doesn’t come across arrogant.
3:33 well some women do get decreased attention because they are either boring or contentious in the guy is just losing desire for her but that's no reason to cheat, that's a reason to self improve
Women=hypergamy Men=harem; 80% of women find only 20% of men attractive, while 80% of men find 20 year olds most attractive. Do you settle for what you've got, or do you keep looking for more? The definition of what cheating entails is much broader for women than men. It also varies by culture (in Japan, for instance, going to a prostitute is not considered cheating by most). In order to cheat, you have to be someone who is able to cheat, so if you're in that 20% of men, the oysters are your oyster. Men want sexual variety, women want a better man.
The biggest issue in my opinion is most people are not suited to be with one person. The divorce statistics alone show at least 50% of marriages do not last. And a high percentage that do divorce, remarry within a few years. At least half more are miserable or are left with no option due to outside influences (religion, financial and so on…). If you study the nature of men, it is an unnatural arrangement for him to be with one woman out of his biological imperative to “spread his seed.” Women today can now support themselves and are no longer held to societal pressure to stay with one man. In my opinion maybe, and this is a stretch, maybe 10% of couples can make it work. Marriage, in my opinion is outdated and useless today with one exception…raising children. Other than that, especially with the penalties of ending a marriage, it makes no sense.
Hey so i’m a disabled man in a wheelchair i’ve only been on two dates ever. I’m 25. my condition meant i had to use steroids since i was a young child so my growth was stunted im only 5’3. I’m trying my hardest to get a girlfriend but it’s such a struggle. I overcame social anxiety, got anxiety under control, been using therapy since 13. I go to College parties twice a week and have no issues approaching women and getting their numbers. But getting dates is tricky and i don’t have a negative self doubt attitude anymore. But there’s like no help out there on youtube
Can you go to gatherings and socials with other disabled people? Maybe you could meet someone there
@@battletested2934 I go out with people all the time to hang out with my friends and meet new people. I’m a social butterfly who has no trouble talking to anyone. I can get along with anyone. The majority of my friends are able bodied, I do have friends with disabilities too. I personally don’t think 2 disabled people in a relationship can work out unless one person is barely disabled. Sex wouldn’t work with a girl as disabled as me. My car can’t fit 2 full size wheelchairs. I can’t use my elevator myself. There would be a lack of touch and intimacy. I want an able bodied girlfriend. As it would fit me the best. Again if a girl has minor disabilities i would still be cool with it.
You just described my current gf. thanks 🙏
I would guess that the same 6 reasons apply to promiscuity.
I most definitely would like to see that study in Ashley Madison to see how much test subjects they used for the study like how many people
Love hurts.
It can happen when a female social worker is trained to only interact with male clients.
7:19 hmmm yes yes I do recall a woman that went viral at police station for such thing
I’m all these things, I’ve never cheated.
Yeah, I was actually used and abused by a narcissistic lady in the education industry ....... So that validates two of your points, straightaway, Courtney Ryan !! 😊👍. Overall good content and an eye opener for most of the lovesick Romeos out there ..... 😊👍.
whats interesting is something mentioned here about lack of self control as one of the traits. Modern day women dont want men to ask about a woman's body count and say its not important. But promiscuity is a sign of lack of self control. That's why guys see it as a bad sign as far as relationship/marriage material. Then they shame men for mentioning it. "he is just insecure" or "small dick energy". which, by the way, is just manipulation/narcissistic tendencies. "All women are 10s" is another example of narcissistic tendencies that men see as a red flag.
I know all of this. Thanks for the video, though!
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@@CourtneyRyan sorry if my response came off as mean I didn't mean it that way truth is I think you give awesome advice!
Good job Courtney!! I think it is a little sad that the guys that follow you click more on videos that say something like, 'woman finds out that (feminism, over rating herself, chasig Chad, being promiscuous) makes her sad'........🥴 oh that sweet sweet validation😂.
But I was checking out the roomates and you said there that people do not click on 5 green flags a woman has as much as 5 red flags a woman has.
But this video had good stats at the end or at least interesting. It's good this channel both helpful content and entertainment junk food content.
All of them. They all do. Dont take the bait fellas.
What’s crazy is statistically a lot of these commentators are going to cheat while saying they don’t agree with it lol
Hahah, I am a woman, and the first guy I dated checks all of these (except for being blond and in the medical field 😂😂)... And he cheated quite a lot.
People will cheat when their needs are not being met. Communicate.
Thanks,its nice to see a lady who thinks men are worth something, thank you!😎😎
Yeah I'm on the same wavelength as you but I do have one exception. I don't think cheating is ever Justified but the exception that I've ever given is if the person is super abusive but even then it's complicated. So they could they want out of that relationship they might find somebody else and then wean themselves off of the abusive person. And it depends on the abusive person if they can really Knock You Out whether that's a good idea probably not so that's my only exception otherwise that's a big fat nope! Also I'm one of those guys who would give a lady three chances before I just dropped them because they cheated. Because there's always room for improvement and doing better in a relationship
Cheating is natural to human beings, marriage is unnatural and it's an obligation that one has to abide by its requirements.
Accordingly in some societies women can move from man to man. But then think these men have experienced many women. We don’t know what that’s like. The real issue is possessive men….I own this woman. Really? Maybe she senses that and doesn’t like it so she cheats.
Lol you have just described every woman I've ever known.
In regards to male dominated fields, engineering is like 90% male yet the women aren’t likely to cheat. Could one speculate that the stress level & income aspect of perhaps the medical field makes a male suitor more desirable then other fields?
Cheating is neglect by man or woman. Some women have a habit of taking the husband needs are not met.
So my ex exhibited every single one. Lol!!!
Very well put. Doctors. Tried giving people opioids to help on mental problems. 30 years is to long for this mistake. Doctors think they have a pill for everything. And they are God. The alcohol. That goes with this problem , is not good ether. I can not fix this problem only recognizes this problem. I will only pray that God gets the right help to this person to correct their mental issue.
True. Although men like this type of personality I like myself more 😂 to turn into one.
I realize now that most of the women I’ve dated were the type that crave validation, coincidentally the all cheated on me.
I’m like the male version of a woman that always dates loser guys. Lol
Maybe never got affirmation from home.
All points to low self esteem. Thanks for this, really good to know for those "sweet and innocent" types, frequently the narc suppliers of choice; narcissism isn't call out enough!! The right-wing type often marginalizes narcissism to mask their own. I'm not usually attracted by conservative chicks but you're pretty neat. You should make a video geared towards the more sensitive type, maybe? The, easy to manipulate?
Half cheated once (heavy, almost naked making out), never again, it felt great during but horrible after, wasn't worth it, no matter how hot she is but... tell that to my 20 year old self.
Hi, Courtney. I'm an anaesthetist (anesthesiologist in American) in Australia and I can confirm that a lot of affairs happen in the hospital system. The reasons are un-surprising when you think about them. The pattern I often see is a male surgeon or anaesthetist having an affair with a female nurse. Surgeons and anesthetists work long hours and often spend more time with their co-workers than with their families. They don't have much time to meet people outside of their workplace. People with narcissist traits are more likely to pursue well-paid, highly regarded professions such as medicine and are likely to be susceptible to flattery and attention. Due to studying and working hard during their teens and early adulthood, they've often missed out on opportunities to date and might feel that they could actually attract a more desirable partner. If they married before they were fully qualified (highly paid) specialists, then this might be true. At the same time, there are plenty of young, attractive nurses who, due to the limits of their profession, have limited opportunities for career advancement / income growth. They're often in relationships with low to middle-income men who they met before they were working closely with doctors. Some see high-income doctors as an opportunity to improve their lifestyle. Sometimes these workplace romances endure but often one of the participants tires of the other person and moves on to a new affair with a different co-worker. I expect that you would find a similar dynamic in other professions where highly-paid, hard-working men spend time with attractive lower-income younger women.
On top of that high stress situation make for great afrodisiacs.
It however does ruin workplace atmosphere and often the female workers get the short end of the stick, literally and figuratively
@@onnol917 😂
Hopefully they can get chance to experience the long end of the stick occasionally, if I've understood you correctly lol
This is one of the best explanation I've seen. You've covered pretty much all angles.
@@LongHoang-gh6qs Thank you, Long!
I went on a first date with a woman who threw out so many red flags it was mind boggling. "How much do you make? Is that net or gross? Are you a manager? How many square feet is your house?" These were all on the first date, mind you. Sure as hell she would have cheated. There was no second date with her.
She was on a business trip and not a date.
At least 70% of women you'll meet have that same interview style dating technique. Others will tell you a bit about their lives and you can judge quite quickly if you can or can't afford her as she won't stick around if you can't. The 3rd type are the ones who could get any guy they want so you have to think smart because she would have a guy if she could hold a relationship down, which obviously she can't and probably never has.
It's a lot like something you've heard of before except in reverse as there's around 1-2% quality women, the rest are trash with 2-5 kids. Each child is reckoned to cost £6k pa 🤑 Some single women haven't dated in 6-15years as they got so damaged the 1st time they now don't have a clue and she'd be so sorely inexperienced in the bedroom that a block of wood laying under you would more be more fun 😂
As always most women see their genital area as the only way they've known to gain access to funding or safety not forgetting any man or woman in a high income job is highly likely to be a ruthless operator 🙌
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Asking how much you make? That is just rude!
Smart man! 👍
I remember an ex and a woman I dated who had concerning thoughts on my views on cheating. Basically they didn't like my ideas... It's simple. If you cheat, you're cut out of my life. Point, blank, period. There's no discussion. I don't care for the reason. I don't date cheaters. Take your second chance with someone else. My ex had a little of that online validation need. The girl I was dating had very poor impulse control. So what you're saying Courtney certainly checks out for me.
Do you mind sharing their concerning thoughts? Curious to see why they disagree with you. What you said seems reasonable.
@@dudejoe8390 they basically thought my views were too harsh. "everyone makes mistakes" that sort of thing. My retort would be something along the lines of "their second chance can be with someone else".... Then it'd be something about my attachment style and I'd tune out and go back to whatever I was doing
100%.
I am no hypocrite either.
Not that I would or have any desire to, but If I was in a relationship and I cheated, and you didn't just walk out of my life; you F ed up.
If I cheated, you better be damn well sure it wasn't an accident.
@@MR-nl8xr cheating is never an accident.....it's a choice!
Nothing wrong with that 😂❤
Though I will say, JUST cuz someone cheated DONT make em a bad person….there ARE reasons 😂❤
Female infidelity has been rising quickly for the past 30 years. Now it is at the same level as male infidelity for the first time in history. BUT, the worrying thing is: there’s no sign yet of a “limiting factor” so it is likely to keep rising for the foreseeable future.
Women have every opportunity to cheat. They are constantly hit on, and they spend more time with flirty coworkers than with their spouses. (Hence the term “work husband” - such a disrespectful term to their life partner)… They get thousands of “matches” on dating apps, and guys hitting them up on social media.
Meanwhile, their boyfriends/partners are forgotten, neglected, manipulated or even abused. They are made to raise other men’s children without ever realising it.
The world’s a mess. But you cannot fully blame promiscuous women. Thirsty men, and simps, have given all their power to women and robbed men of quality relationships.
For society to move forward, men need to stop chasing everything in a skirt and look at a woman’s character more critically. Watch-out for “red flags” and don’t be a chump (like I was).
Amen
Fact, Work became I have to look out for my guys, if my guys are there I have to be there. Husband and son at home but her guys where the #1 priority. Well at least one of them.
Maybe he left his wife for her but I drought it.
Thanks for saying the latter, instead of putting all the responsibility onto women like "in the good old days". I personally think that people would do well, also, to basically care a bit less about sex for sex sake. And care more about things like: personal chemistry and passion and depth of emotional bond. Quality, basically.
It would be interesting to know from your wife how often men hit on them and what she thinks of it. They probably don’t tell their husband for fear of scaring them.
All you said is right but also girls need to stop being fat cuz there’s only a small percentage of girls we’d even want in USA
I personally consider cheating in the same category as physical violence. It is never the answer to your problems. It always makes matters worse. People who resort to these responses do so because they're not smart enough to find a better solution. There is always, always, always better solutions than cheating and violence.
I have been both shot and cheated on.
I can tell you that the betrayal of cheating is 100X more painful than a bullet wound. That pistol destroyed some skin, muscle, and bone. Her cheating destroyed not just our relationship but my ability to trust, my self-esteem, and much more. It's been almost a year and I still think about some aspect of that betrayal day after day. I very rarely notice the small hole the bullet left.
cheating should be a crime punishable by jail time
@@DashSVK completely agree. Not to mention loss of all alimony and shared marital assets.
@@felixthecat4584 exactly, I was cheated on five years ago and it still bothers me.
Violence is absolutely the answer when it is between that and dying, or defending the people you love. Clearly you've never been in a life or death situation before. Your comment is extremely ignorant.
My ex-wife cheated on me with about half a dozen different guys after she found out she was pregnant with our second kid and cheated the entire pregnancy. I found out after she left me and about a couple months before the kid was born. She fit the description of a narcissist perfectly.
Seesh, sorry to hear that… how was her relationship with her father?
I'm very sorry brother, that's so painful I feel for you
That’s disgusting. Atleast you know it wasn’t you at all that was the problem .
Wow what a sickening woman
Glad she’s no longer your wife bro. She never deserved you or your children
Sorry. that's one of the most dangerous personalities to be around
If she has a dating app, even if it's to meet "friends", let her go. Trust!!!!! That shiz is like poison to the soul.
Whenever a lady says she’s just looking for “friends” it means she’s a h o e , same with “fun sized”
Fucking 💯 dating app are a blight on humanity, all by design too...
My ex cheated for the same reason you mentioned early in your video, she said she “wasn’t getting the attention she needed from me”.
Funny thing is, I had expressed for years that I was not getting the effort and attention I needed in the relationship from her, but I never cheated.
It was only an issue when it affected her. Selfish people will do inherently selfish things. It is their nature.
Exactly they want to get men jealous to leave the man and a reason to leave the man sad
Narcissists can justify almost anything they do.
So why in the hell did you waste all of those years staying in a relationship with her?
@@moleahy6880 I did because the girl was hot and I enjoyed hooking up with her. I was like 21 and too young an dumb to care or even realize what a waste of time it was and what damage it did to my view and trust in relationships now. I don’t trust relationships or even friendships anymore because of the pathetic evil shit that these girls that I dated did to me.
Key word, Selfish. Facts
I'll add a seventh one from personal experience:
If she's constantly worried about you cheating, that's a huge, crimson flag.
This is so accurate man
Unless you gave her reasons, yeah
That's definitely true. But think carefully and wonder if that big red flag is actually just a mirror.
@@theycallmedoorway9913it’s a mirror that she’s looking into. Because she’s projecting her own bad behaviors.
Just end the relationship if you are unhappy with the guy or yourself.
Women generally can't do that. Remember that women almost always have your replacement already lined up while they're in a relationship with you.
Thats all I ever asked for. If you feel you need to cheat youre already gone so just get gone. No need to do something specifically designed for me to eventually find out. Nope. Chics all cheat knowing its going to hurt. Thats why they do it. They most likely dont even find the other dude attractive. Its all spite because they cant control their emotions. They get upset over literally everything. Even shit they make up
Tell that to my ex. She constantly reminded how miserable, lonely and unhappy she was in the relationship. When I asked her to walk away. She refused. It's better to have "miserable"supply then to have none.
Eventually we parted ways.
@@mediocreman2absolutely
And don’t jump into another relationship quickly. Wait at least a few years.
Courtney, I wish you made this video sooner. I proposed to my now ex when she displayed a HANDFUL of these warning signs. She also works in medicine. This video is so crazy accurate it’s scary, prophetic almost. At least we broke up before we got married and had any kids. Thank you for creating these videos - you have a lot of good and accurate information and approach topics with zero bias.
My ex an RN, yup she cheated. And being in the medical field you get to see the hypergamy , the people that know, know what I’m talking about. Thank you!
Say more, please. I'm interested because my first hypothesis about this being a more surprising result was that the medical and social care fields are so dominated by women by percentage that it's inevitable many of the cheaters would come from that field without any particular causality implied. You've observed something specific though, which peaked my curiosity.
@@lunaslide_actual Of course, you're more likely to cheat with someone in your surroundings. Since you spend as much time, if not more, with people at work, a RN is more likely to cheat with a male doctor.
But what photoman mitch is saying is that, woman date up, they prefer someone with more value than themselves. A doctor is seen as higher value. That's hypergamy. Woman rarely will date down and they certainly will not cheat down with a guy that's perceived as lesser value than she is or I suppose lesser value than the man she's currently with.
I'm sayin. Everywhere I've lived, I've seen and heard about one of two things. It's either a drinking problem or cheating.
@@pierrelevasseur2701 Appreciate the response. Unfortunately, I wasn't clear enough. I understand what hypergamy is, I was curious if he was saying there is some greater than average expression of hypergamy among caregivers. Rereading the comment though, it seems to be more of a personal experience than clinical knowledge.
@@lunaslide_actual I don't see why that would be, a higher percentage of hypergamy among caregivers. It's possible but I don't see an obvious cause and effect factor just based on one's job description. I think a person will cheat mainly because they are not getting what they want and need from their partner. It's why I suggested in another post to read The Five Love Languages. It would be why a woman married to a millionaire would cheat, not having to worry about finances is great but if her love language is quality time and her husband doesn't provide that, she'll find it elsewhere.
The amount of times I've witnessed girls that very subtlety cheat on their man is insane, I've had a married women feel my arms, women that flirt etc. And other women completely stare me down or take a glance at me when their man isn't looking. It's a fucking joke and it happens so much to the point that I think of that any time I think about a relationship
I've slept with quite a few women with partners.. it damages u, u lose trust for women
Hypergamy
I had a girl I was casually seeing and I found out she cheated on her bf with me and a few others(at least 3 men). Then she thought it was a me problem that I said "no" when she asked if I wanted to date her seriously. I had told her that if she wanted to keep seeing me she needed to break up with her bf and she did but I also told her it was never going to be a thing between us. I mean, she was (as far as I know) dating me exclusivity, but I wasn't about to commit to her. I did feel kind of bad about it but it was the best choice.
Don't ever feel bad for putting your own needs first. With the possible exception of your mother, no one else ever will.
bro, u did right. If she can leave someone for u, remember she can leave u for someone else as well!!
Your pee pee touched another man's skeet. Think about that.
My wife ruined my life and my son life and the nightmare stared like yours but I chose to betray my instic and marry her
You're so right Courtney! That explains why I was cheated on, the girl I was with was lonely insecure and later I found out she has BPD, she cheated very quickly because of perceived rejection or something.
"iT GoEs BoTh WaYs"
Yeah I knew a girl, I loved her but she acted very hot and cold, acted like I didn’t exist via texts but in person threw herself at me but then also rolled her eyes if I didn’t do exactly as she wanted .
I believe she has borderline personality . I don’t she she knows. Some white knight manipulator took over her life when I got upset and called her out for all the nasty things she did to me. She basically doubled down and made her feel she was totally right and I was totally wrong . He also project a lot.
I feel so bad for her because I always sensed she could easily be manipulated due to her strong impulses and in the heat of the moment I described her and this guy saw it and basically said to himself “Easy target” .
She then claimed they were soul mates a few weeks later. I showed her legit love for a year and a half at the least, she didn’t care . Strong borderline tendency , they also fall hard for narcisssists And she seemed to be drawn to guys like that and that last guy was the biggest joke of a wanna a tough/cool/righteous/romantic guy you could ever dream of. He’s almost a walking cliche, it baffled me how she could take him seriously , he’s like a cartoon
she cheated because of her choice. no other reason
Sh!tty excuse.
Dating as an autistic man here is downright impossible. For over 20 years, I’ve been told to hide that I’m autistic bc people will think lowly of me. I thought my parents were exaggerating, and they were. It was way worse than they let on. I quite literally have to hide the fact that I have autism for own safety.
Every time people figured out that I’m autistic, there’d be someone who’d come out of the woodworks to treat me horribly and/or try to take advantage of me. Afterall, I’m autistic, so that automatically makes me less than human to most other people. I mask as best I can, but if I that drop the mask, it puts me at risk of physical assault. (Men have attacked me while calling me a “fucking freak” and I don’t even know what set them off. I never spoke to them and I remember that I was trying to unmask at the time.) Point being, my life literally depends on keeping that mask on 24/7.
My mom would work at the schools I go to, but I strongly believe it was to make sure the school doesn’t do anything shady with me. Autistic people are more likely to be abused by teachers. My mom being there didn’t stop the schools from doing shady shit with me, but I shudder to imagine what they would’ve done without her there.
In my teen years, I did some resumé experiments and found that people who committed vehicular manslaughter have an easier time being hired than autistic people. The one question I always asked was why? Why am I worse than someone who killed people with their car?
I have had partners who treated me well, but finding them was a monumental pain. Now that I’m single again, I’ve found that I can’t let my date know I’m autistic and I can’t not her know either. If I don’t tell her, she assumes I’m weird and either leaves or cheats on me. If I do tell her, she either leaves immediately, tries to take advantage of me and/or treats me like a complete idiot.
The only advice I ever get now is “you haven’t found the right one” or that I’m not confident in myself. It doesn’t matter who I ask. Even with all these people that genuinely hate me, I still work to improve myself, but it’s never enough. It genuinely seems like even though I have a well-paying job, treat my partners well (my exes will tell you that I treated them very well), my own place, have hobbies, learned a lot of social skills, learned how to be funny and improved my looks to be an 8/10, it’s still not enough. I’m debating on whether or not I should just give up on ever being able to find someone who treats me well. Basic human decency is probably too much to ask for now.
word of advice from a fellow autist - dont look at it like something that defines you. you are you, not the shit you're diagnosed with. never use autism as an excuse, just keep vibing. the second i stopped saying "its my depression/anxity/autism" is when my life started improving. take responsibility for as much as you can.
Because you genuinely are special and anyone special in the post-panddmic hyper conformist world must be extra, draining or a narc. Obviously. Was diagnosed with autism & adhd myself when younger twice (age 3 and 17), but suspect I actually have bipolar ii.
Folks, mental health stigmatization doesnt make you sane it makes you evil and frankly I know why you wont hire people or befriend people who are genuinely different: because you're an egomaniac who feels special and entitled to not give a damn. You're in a state of panic and you dont like seeing reality for what it is so you need someone to blame. Ah yes, those who arent successful must be burdensome to us as a society, quick let's kill them and take them away from here!
I'd be wary of the scientific authorities as well who proclaim we need to have genetically modified babies or eugenics. They want the perfect human without problems not because of its benefits, but because they're psychopaths without a shred of compassion themselves and literally believe in the law of the jungle. I mean think about it, in either warfare or hard times how does an organism survive without too much pain: they get sneaky and clever in their adaptations.
And this is the true issue in our times: we are so focused on external locus of control and get upset when we're blamed but feel very comfortable and happy to have a scapegoat come in so we can rise to the top. But this is wrong because it seems to be common sense that the best way to have a better society isnt by taking peoples rights away or spending an exhausting amount of time on a hypercobformist ideological sentiment, but instead to teach people the virtue of SELF-DISCIPLINE AND SELF-RESTRAINT!
Seriously folks, disciplining a child shouldn't be about punishment vs reward, but manifest destiny vs atrophy. Are you going to advance or be held back?! Because then you create power and social games which just screw up everything. But if you teach people to accept themselves for being who they are they they can accept others. If you can accept others then you can leave them alone because why?! Because they're self-discipline already and already are trustworthy.
Trust, a lost art in society itself, and all because we didnt teach people to be autonomous and self-discipline humans we reinvented self-discipline and equated it with selfishness because you didnt need the system to impose its will on you and that meant the government could be smaller.
So people hate all individualists (evil ones being dark triad), neurodivergents (bipolar, schizophrenia, autism, schizoid etc.) because they dont feel gravitated towards groups, they arent ooooh lookie I see shiny girl leggings, or coins. Lemme go manipulate and get some. Gimme that its mine! They raise us to be animals not human with our own souls or conscience.
We can have a free society if we taught people to RESPECT their own dignity and their self-discipline. It's that simple.
A society of self-discipline people is one where we dont spend our time distrusting and making people do a million little things for no reward and then risk getting cut off and burned.
All my life I felt different as well and still do. The pain and alienation is so great I became a philosopher over the years seeking answers and wisdom. I'm writing books now debunking Nihilism. I think Nihilism is the worst philosophy ever created by mankind because once its embraced there is no more hope at all. Everything becomes perpetually lost, dark, meaningless etc. And we seemed to have entered it around last year.
I'm honestly very surprised that a father wasn't brought up. Women that grew up without a father are very high risk.
Why is that?
100% this
10000%
Why doesn't that apply to men ? Because I'm telling you that has zero correlation. Also, this girl I went to HS with was a complete whore unabashedly. GB college dudes at 17 and on and on. Her father was always in the picture. So. I kinda think this is a case of correlation without causation.
Anybody who posts "gaming" as a handle or interest has no value in life or value of opinion. Gamers are worse than OF models.
Got cheated twice now (I've been thinking for a while that maybe somehow has been my fault) but after watching this video, along with reading multiple opinions from a lot of people watching these kind of videos too I've found that the traits that you just explain pinpoints exactly the behavior that I've dealing with in my partners, and also why I'm attracted to those .. I'm a person who wants to help all the time, who wants to cheer people up, etc .. I love this video, thanks for it!
I wouldn't always blame one side or the other. You could have been stale, boring, playing it "safe" & "nice" in the way you treat her. A woman doesn't want to marry someone who treat her like his sister. Spice up your life and the relationship, push & pull is the best tactic. Or it might be her fault as well, having narcissistic tendencies and never ending attention seeking behavior that no one man can fulfill. But again, you don't solve that by cheating, that's disrespectful, rude
& disgraceful. She can always breakup and hookup with whoever she finds better fit for her.
@@BolusTube I understand that but that’s still not/never ever a reason to cheat
Especially if the one by your side cares about you
You probably know this already but stop going for broken people who need you to cater to them and cheer them up. It is not your job to fix broken women.
Dan, why on Earth would it be your fault? I don't get it.
> and also why I'm attracted to those .. I'm a person who wants to help all the time, who wants to cheer people up, etc ..
I feel you. Thankfully, in my case, I had two 1+ year-long relationships at a relatively young age (19 and 21) that simply did beaten up this side of me to a bloody pulp until it was completely gone.
At some point you'll understand that support and cheering are things that are earned, and women are not excused from that just for being women, or pretty, or having a difficult past. You save these impulses for those who are actually making an effort in the here and now. Note that this is true even for friendships, regardless of gender. Romantic relationships just make this mindset even more necessary for both people involved.
I am a teacher and my wife too. But she cheated on me with her ex because she said she didn't get enough attention from me. There's no words that can describe the pain and hurts that I have been through. Thank you for the video Courtney, it's totally accurate.
Women will always find a way to make it not their fault
This is why it would be better if you be in a relationship with someone who is an introvert rather than an extrovert, because introverts are less likely to cheat on their partners than extroverts. Most girls and boys these days end up in relationships with extroverts, this is the reason why cheating is very common among couples. But if you're in a relationship with an introvert then it'll be very unlikely that he/she will cheat on you
@@auberninja5090extrovert or introvert don’t mean shit, women will cheat regardless of what they are.
"Easily bored" is a red flag for me for another reason: I tend to wonder if an easily bored person does not have a rich inner environment or is lower in self-awareness or ability to self-entertain than I might prefer to be close to.
Same, I usually asks girl on date on what's her hobbies, those easily bored type usually can't even commit to hobbies, their hobbies usually short-lived.
This video just confirms my tendency to those who can't even commit to hobbies.
Maybe I am wrong, but most western women don't seem to have any real hobbies, especially things that involve using their minds, creativity, talents, etc. Most women seem to only watch tv/movies, listen to music, go clubbing/dancing with friends for fun. These types seem to be easily bored. They often don't seem interested in learning or trying something new and if they do, it's usually very casual.
Even though there's plenty of female artists, writers, gamers, photographers, etc. there still doesn't seem to be enough of them.
@@Dj.D25 bingo..u beat me to it..I agree 💯 percent.
My ex broke up with me and told her i was "boring". The actual reason was because i was focusing more on myself and giving her less attention. She was a very selfish person and lacks and accountability for her wrongs.
@@Dj.D25 > Maybe I am wrong, but most western women don't seem to have any real hobbies
I've noticed that too, specially in the last 10+ years or so. There was a time up to the beginning of the 2000's where I'd meet and be friends (or more) with a LOT of women who were genuinely into music, or cinema, or books, to the point I could have 1-2 hour-long conversations with them about a single author, director, a genre and so on.
Now it's as rare as diamonds. I blame the rise of social media, subscription services, and the hard shift to digital delivery. People in general - men and women - are more easily distracted and have so many easy options that they can't really cherish what they do find to like.
> Even though there's plenty of female artists, writers, gamers, photographers, etc. there still doesn't seem to be enough of them.
Oh no, there sure are. The problem here is not quantity, it's quality. You just need to take a hard look at the state of mainstream writing, art and entertainment in general these days (regardless of gender, by the way).
Most of the younger people on those fields right now aren't there because they really love it. It's because of multiple external reasons: they couldn't do anything else remotely properly, they entered these fields to avoid 9-to-5 jobs with more responsibilities, they can't deal with any real pressure, or they feel they can use art/entertainment to 'educate' other people or 'save the world'. That's why these people can't produce meaningful art or content, and their work often feels stiff, like the author is looking down on you all the time.
And of course, such people will never be capable - and sometimes not even willing - to properly discuss or have any real passion for a piece of art or entertainment (unless it's through an activism lens, of course). That's why you don't meet genuinely interesting creatives around in the real world even if there are more content creators than ever, thanks to all these subscription services, new avenues to self-publishing, social media and other ways of selling your work easier than ever. Deep down, to most of them, the music, books, movies, games they create or help create are just another job that allows them to avoid putting on a suit or dealing with 'traditional' working hours. Nothing more.
* any woman who uses phrases like “Living my best life.” Or “My truth.”