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Im sorry but you never know what gonna happen

You are a very mature wise young man. It took me years to get to where you are…. I’m not yet retired but I’m getting close to that time…I’m totally content sitting on my porch enjoying the flowers and the seasons. Or sitting at the lake watching the boats and sunsets or getting cozy in front of a bonfire. I’m starting or should I say trying to paint…. 😊 and to do crafts which I’ve enjoyed doing my life. But never had time.. That is now where I am most content. Most of the time I’m alone.. Well almost alone… my pup is usually with me… 😊. and sometimes I’m take my older mom with me.. but I agree you need to enjoy the moment you are in..because that moment never comes back. The earlier you realize that in life the better you become. Thanks for your video.

this is my thought for the day !! Let the honesty in.

I woke up with this mix of loneliness and bad mood your words and meditation really helped thank you

This doesn’t apply to when you have children with this person and you basically will need to have them in your in one way or another for the rest of your life. My heart breaks for my child and children around the world going through this painful separation.

6:11 I feel the hardest part about this is that I start to notice all of the bad things that I did, I was loved so much and because I couldn’t just man up and hold myself accountable for my actions as well as how I conducted my feelings I lost someone who not only loved me but was also my best friend.

I’m so content being single. Love it! I’ve had relationships that wore me out with disagreements and arguments. Those years wore me out. I love the peace and happiness I have in my space now. The only problem I seem to have is when I start hanging out with someone or people, it never fails that someone wants more than I want to give. Someone wants a relationship once they get to know me. That’s frustrating. Why can’t people just be friends without wanting more. I’ll be 50 and I am 100% ok being single. Now things could change on down the line but I ain’t looking and I’m not wanting a relationship. I would be satisfied being single the rest of my life I feel. Just having friends who share my same interests is good enough for me. Besides, I like my bed to myself. I never could sleep comfortably with someone 🤣 the activities in bed verses sleeping is too different things. I don’t want to be touched before I have my coffee in the mornings. The worse thing ever is someone waking me up. The worst thing ever is being with someone and feeling alone, too. The worst!

I can’t do it bro

Thank you for this video! I recently had to deal with this.

This is great.

i think i have learned enough to explain a bit why anxiety is not a logical thing. so this anxiety that cannot be countered with logic is the hyperactivity of the amygdala, which is where the fight/flight/freeze/fawn reactions are decided from. and these reactions take over the brain, preventing you from making different or more creative problem solving choices that you would if you have access to your prefrontal cortex during this period. by calming down your amygdala (this is achieved through somatic experiencing, vagus nerve stimulation or another method of grounding like bilateral taps) you regain access to your prefrontal cortex, and this enables you to make novel decisions once more. the more you make a decision that isn't fight/flight/freeze/fawn, the more you teach your brain and body that this situation is safe and you already know what to do, which is the new action that was decided by the prefrontal cortex. this is also neuroplasticity and how new habits are formed. from new habits, you build a new character. hope this helps :)

Its such a simple thing, but not necessarily easy. For instance, I , after deciding to be mindful, might start this commentary, " how can I perfect this, how can become a better person through this to get more out of life, and so the more more, more, more starts up again. That needs to be watched.

…and like I’ve been watching all kinds of spiritual stuff, prayers, readings, for months xx but you really were sent for me to find , thanks again x I can finally move on now

Thanks man I really appreciate coming across your video x. I’ve grown old quick over the last few years because of hope. But I always being used and so I gotta take your advice ❤

Great video brother and I agree 100% on all points made, thank you

Many people have said that, in reality, I'm not okay. No one actively wants to talk to me, no one actively wants to be with me. Even my friends who say they love me, and are there for me don't. I often find myself going to people with my problems, yet no one comes to me on their own. So I question, does anyone actually trust me?

I need to know myself better and heal then I’ll be ready to have one

Yesterday, i had the hardest day. It's falling into one month of the breakup and three weeks since i moved out. Time is flying but the grieving processes hasn't. I have so much vision of them reaching out and saying they messed up but the truth is by the time he comes around i know will be too late. You can not undo certain behaviors one month after a break up especially poor unhealthy selfish habits. I have visions of getting into bed and cuddling in his arms, its so real that i can feel the feeling of the warmth of his arms. I cried so much yesterday. Then last night, i had a conversation with the Universe. I came to term that i can not wait for this to happen. I have to let it go completely. I pray hard for him to find his way into peace and repair his own damage. This relationship is dead and gone. Especially for me, i have to completely let it go. In my heart, i still feel like we are meant to be together. I feel it in my soul. But even if i wanted too, it can not be the current relationship we've had. He needs to be completely let go of in my mind. I have faith he can and will find his way back and be renewed. But as of now, he is completely done in my mind. This relationship can no long exist in my timeline. I know it contradicts what i am saying, but when you know things, you know. I might come back in 3 months and laugh at myself for believing that. But what i am trying to say is, thank you for this message. Because i literally did that LAST NIGHT, i said this is done and completely let go of the idea they MAY come back. And today, i feel reborn again. The grieve isn't terrible today. So thank you for the reassurance.

The root cause is fear of rejection from the group. So you act the way you see others act that has been deemed acceptable.

some non duality vibes, i loved it!

Will I get to sit under a tree and look like I lost my cat??? Cause you be rocking the sad depressed single look today ….

What if I am limerant over an ex that I was with for many years and have a lot of history with. And I feel like I messed up. Is that the same thing?

Very true

Me too ! A very good choice.

I went 90 days no contact with anyone, I let everyone go.

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I don’t want to let it go. Nobody will ever love me the way she did, and I abandoned her. If I suffer the rest of my life, I deserve worse.

Great video bro.

I just did this technique... I layed my hands over my heart and said "I feel pain"... Felt the pain (breakup) burning in my chest and tears were flowing and after a while it began to feel calmer and almost softer and now I feel much more like myself again, like something got purged or something... Thank you Evan, this really works..... ❤

Yes it is the betrayal at the heart of it. 37 years, as faithful as a swan for all those years. Committed all to my family to my detriment. Abuse grew and grew and I hoped it could get better. But I know now she never felt about our marriage as I did. The marriage was a vessel to be abused and levered rather than protected at all cost. So I now accept that she is unable of valuing interdependence and can only see life through her own selfish tunnel. I am imperfect but I think I am an ok guy. People trust me and see me as an honest straight chap. My children love me and they know I would step in front of a bus for them. They are my epicentre now and they will get everything my souls has left.

It hurts so bad. I think if he did die, I'd handle that better than being dumped. Rejection hurts. Unrequited love hurts.

It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.

Super honest advice