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Call Me Sam
Великобритания
Добавлен 19 сен 2019
Hi my name is Sam and here on this channel I share as honestly as I can as I do my best to heal my body and mind.
How I survived childhood trauma. Shame is a way of staying alive.
Healing.....expansion from the bodily contraction of shame, into presence, the body of this moment. You are here !
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Recovery- From the deepest sorrow comes the deepest compassion.
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Not healing but transformation. animacontact@protonmail.com www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=GCQ5ANQYTPRQ8
In a life of desperation and crisis, loss of hope was the beginning of surrender and transformation
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" we cannot enter any world for which we do not have the language " not the confining coping mechanism of certainty but the language of surrender, unknowing. animacontact@protonmail.com www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=GCQ5ANQYTPRQ8
After abuse and a life of coping, wipe the tears from your eyes and make peace with yourself
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This video contains some graphic content so please be aware of this. Make peace with yourself because today you did your best and today may be your last. animacontact@protonmail.com www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=GCQ5ANQYTPRQ8
After complex trauma and a life of coping, nothing is healed, no wound is repaired.
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Who is the guardian of your own vulnerability ? I'm not 100% happy that I said what I wanted to say with this video, it's pretty close but I will be revisiting this in the next video. animacontact@protonmail.com Thank you to all those lovely people who donate. www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=GCQ5ANQYTPRQ8
With tender care, healing our giant spiders
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The constellation of selves being consumed in light, loving the giant spiders of shame, fear and self disgust. Letting go of attachment to the false reality of story and healing a life of abuse, in thought and action by coming home to the tender care of our humanity. " what have you been saying with your life " The beautiful artwork I mentioned can be seen here. ruclips.net/user/IsobelleOuzman ...
Everything is abstract, only love is real.
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As usual I'm speaking without a plan and there is a lot more I could have said that has come to mind after making this video so I shall revisit the topic of love being the only thing that is real. Amongst other things I do talk about living in the certainty of our desperation. Gradually allowing the absence of resistance to self acceptance that greatly eases the war inside us and brings us into...
The path to finding peace.
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Some thoughts on radical self acceptance as a path toward inhabiting the innocence of uncontrived being and the healing of the abyss of loss within us. www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=GCQ5ANQYTPRQ8 animacontact@protonmail.com
Detransitioning after 25 years. From self centredness to surrender
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No-one survives the sincere inquiry into the nature of their own identity. Who am I, why am I, why am I in pain... am I real ? animacontact@protonmail.com www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=GCQ5ANQYTPRQ8 A video recommended by a commenter. ruclips.net/video/hqtPeMUMX4g/видео.html
We are all detransitioning from our stories, letting go of our masks and revealing the true self.
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Sorry about the background noise, I was too close to the waterfall ! www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=GCQ5ANQYTPRQ8 animacontact@protonmail.com
Why detransitioning after 25 years was the most healing thing I have ever done.
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Telling our story seems a footstep on the path of realising that we are not a story and no story really describes who and what we are. Toward the end of this video I use the word Essence , Truth would have been a better choice of words. www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=GCQ5ANQYTPRQ8
After a life of brutality, at what cost did I survive. Only now have I found self love.
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Be aware that this video may be upsetting, I touch on sexuality, violation, neglect and the consequences of abuse but I definitely end in a happy place . animacontact@protonmail.com
I grieved the loss of everything and found my innocence
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Here, I talk about the cruel entity of abuse and through the heartbreaking grief of accepting our innocence, freeing ourselves to truly inhabit our authentic self, without apology. animacontact@protonmail.com
I experienced a breakdown and will never be the same again
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Breaking the pattern of you. From 14:55 I stopped myself saying something. I think I didn't want to mention death but this process is a death..... the death of illusion and the acceptance of reality. animacontact@protonmail.com
Recovery after breakdown. learning to feel, becoming real
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In the absence of resistance truth lives in you. My blog and contact. sam-kaye.com/
Looking for a witness. Can you feel what I feel ?
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Looking for a witness. Can you feel what I feel ?
After complex trauma. Healing our bodies and minds by including all our scarred and broken parts.
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After complex trauma. Healing our bodies and minds by including all our scarred and broken parts.
After complex trauma, our healing is our initiation into deeper relationship. LOVE !
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After complex trauma, our healing is our initiation into deeper relationship. LOVE !
After the pain of a life of becoming your own abuser. Do you even know who you are ?
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After the pain of a life of becoming your own abuser. Do you even know who you are ?
Complex trauma. Turn toward the pain, eat it or be eaten by it.
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Complex trauma. Turn toward the pain, eat it or be eaten by it.
Healing complex trauma. The power of radical self acceptance. You are here !
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Healing complex trauma. The power of radical self acceptance. You are here !
Healing Complex Trauma. Breaking my own rules and accepting I am " the stolen boy"
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Healing Complex Trauma. Breaking my own rules and accepting I am " the stolen boy"
Complex Trauma. Do you hate yourself. Why?
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Complex Trauma. Do you hate yourself. Why?
Healing Complex Trauma. Grieving the loss of everything, the transformation of my own heartbreak
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Healing Complex Trauma. Grieving the loss of everything, the transformation of my own heartbreak
How psychedelic plant medicine helped ease my chronic PTSD. Breaking the pattern, opening the cage
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How psychedelic plant medicine helped ease my chronic PTSD. Breaking the pattern, opening the cage
Where do we belong, how do we escape the pain of isolation.
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Where do we belong, how do we escape the pain of isolation.
What is the foundational relationship that heals my once broken life.
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What is the foundational relationship that heals my once broken life.
Complex Trauma, Shame and Desperation. A life wasted. A life begins
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Complex Trauma, Shame and Desperation. A life wasted. A life begins
Healing Complex Post Traumatic Stress Esteem Yourself
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Healing Complex Post Traumatic Stress Esteem Yourself
❤️ A million times!
this shame and dsigust towards ourselves is just a projections of our "parents-abusers" - who put the evil they had in themselves into an innocent child, so that the child accepts it and feels it as their own, and abuser doe not have to feel it and can enjoy abuse. They played our gods but they are just nothing right now - just a dust.
Thank you Sam 💜 I've started practicing being greatful. Like really feeling it not just telling myself I know I'm greatful but actually taking a moment to feel it.. I'm trying to make a ritual out of it. It feels like a shift. Hope you are doing well!
Hi Joen, thats a greta practice, it is so impossibly, improbably, mysteriously , incredible to actually be a thunking , feeling being.... a person ! I am definitely grateful for the experience . I am well, thank you. I hope you are too. 😊
Thank you Sam!! Now go sit by the fire!!!
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11:45 13:25 "Oceanic connection" to emotion 14:35 Eunuch The name she chose was Maya! Maia- Illusion!!
Wow.. thankyou, Sam. Beautiful message in a stunning winter wonderland. It's interesting to see the seasons of change, both in your surroundings & in yourself, as you grow & change. The seasons are a constant reminder that nothing stays the same & we can grow beyond hating parts of ourself that were once disgusting & shameful to us.🎯🙏🙂🩷
An important and beautiful insight. Thank you Angela.
@Call-Me-Sam My pleasure, Sam. I'm glad it resonated.🙏🩷
You’re strong and brilliant. I strive to be this mindful of self. Thank you for such deep honesty. I’m grateful that you came across my feed today.
Thank you. I'm really just working it out as I go, stumbling into awakening and more truthful being.
"See the prison of your own certainty" That line goes so hard. Applies to so many things in life. There are zome people close to me who suffer a lot due to their own certainy. I wish I could make them see the wisdom in those words.
Certainty is a coping mechanism. But oh! how much pain it causes. We have to reach our own point of exhaustion and let go.
I so love taking these "virtual" walks with you, Sam. You articulate your humanness with such clarity and transparency, and you do it in such amazing story teller fashion. Thank you for your presence in this world. 🙏💙
Thank you. I'm happy to be walking with you.
15:39 maybe they heard you ❤ and understood somehow (in a good way)
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Every time ive listened ive been touched in my spirit 💨🤍💦
Wonderful.
I had to watch you again Sam, you have said so much that is profound and life changing. Thank you. This is a poem my Dad taught me, "never leave a kind word unsaid, love while life shall last, for the mill will never turn again with water that has passed". I could never find the author. Well you made me think about it again and I just wanted to share.
It takes all of us saying what we can to shed a light on this. If we can better understand shame, we may be able to truly heal as a people and civilization. Thank you Saun. This poetry is important as the greatest physics
These are wise and compassionate words, thank you Thomas
You are a work of art, so very beautiful.
Yay! Call Me Sam!
Thank you, Sam. 🤗❤
Sam! As someone not particularly spiritual, I’ve got no other explanation for your today’s video but the one resembling what spiritual people would probably say. I mean, that we’re all interconnected and a part of the same greater collective. I’m stuck and have been for a couple of months. Shame is at the forefront, as usual. I’m very exhausted. Yesterday, when in the throes of it, I wished for something outside of me to show its face. I needed a break from myself and to connect with something that is not constant shame, anger or disappointment. You showed your face, as open and honest as ever. And with the message that is on point and targets the very heart of what I’m going through. Your short video has cracked the shell I’ve been hiding in over the weeks and brought a necessary dose of good tears to me. Thank you for that!
This is good to hear. I am very happy that this video helped. Be kind to yourself Margett, gentleness and tolerance for our wounded self, be the space in which the inner unfoldment allows the falling away of the protective outer self . Then the light within that has always been there can really be seen.
Thanks Sam! Take good care! 💜
Sending you a big ole hug, Sam! ❤
Thank s Rita
shame and guilt and I think shame is deeper but I always liked what you said in another video that, what if we don't strive for the never ending heal it and everything will be ok. You are a gift to everyone here and I'm so thankful.
Putting out a video each week is not and should not be the goal here. I come to the channel for the thoughtful wisdom you express. If these lessons in humanity come in daily, weekly, monthly, or annual doses, that is ok. The lesson is the draw, not the frequency.
I hear you. Thanks
I was SA by my mother , tortured by the siblings and gang r#ped throughout my childhood by them. I have DID , its horrible. I am completely alone nobody for years no therapy as can't get any. I applied to Dignitas but they said no. I am trying another euthanasia place now. Too late for me.
I'm so sorry for what you have experienced. Finding a counsellor or therapist who truly understands the darkness and isolation of what you have been through is essential. Keep trying to find someone to speak with . Don't give up just yet. You've made it this far and cannot know what will happen tomorrow. It's never too late .
Thank you Sam.
I have been learning that for the past year. Our brains are continually reminding us and telling us to stay alert in case someone is about to hurt us or something is about to happen. It can also immobilize us.
I’m starting to realize for me the aging process is giving me more clarity on my reaction to neglect and abuse that existed in my childhood. I’ve been enjoying getting older and wanted to be a happy old lady like my lovely grama. Instead, I’m starting to feel even more angry and bitter, hopeless, constantly humbled and humiliated in life at this point. My job search, my RUclips channel, even constant awful moments and interactions in the day to day, and I’m left feeling, not relevant, not good enough, even worthless. Then I’ll see myself as I am: surrounded in light, rising above, unstoppable, surviving, truth telling. Unfortunately, those moments are becoming few and far between. Despite my best efforts, my future looks like everything I’ve dreaded and taken steps to avoid: poverty, regrets, rage and despair. Now when I watch these videos, I think “I’ll never get to do that”. “I’ll never be able to afford that”. I’m in good health physically, and I take care of myself, meditate daily, try to practice kindness, forgiveness and love. I just feel I get so little in return. I thought I knew God’s plan for me, but now it all feels so random, and only the ones who get a pass are people who are awful, greedy liars, feeding off people who were raised to be kind and good because it was the right thing to do. I remember once doing a favor for a neighbor and when he thanked me, I said, “you would do the same for me”. He looked at me with the most awful expression on his face, I could tell he was thinking, “no I woudn’t”. Neither of us said anything, but I felt I saw a truth in that moment. An ugly one that I’ve tried to escape my entire life. This is my life in a nutshell. Thank you Sam. I really appreciate you putting yourself out there because it really is the right thing to do. It makes such a difference to so many of us!❤Much love.❤
When I look at the path I have walked, I see how much I wanted and how much pain I was in because it all seemed so far away or others had what I wanted and couldn't seem to acquire for myself. Plans within plans, longing , desire and pain, resentment and rejection, over and again..... all self torture. Let go of what you think you want or need and do what needs to be done for no other reason than it is right and moral . Require nothing in return. My attachment to what I wanted was completely in the way of me seeing what was wanted from me. The only true freedom is to give ourselves away and take pleasure, joy and fulfilment in the smallest detail of whatever task or relationship we give ourselves to. In this giving away, reality finds us in a different way, more open to be placed where we are of most use . The essence of our journey is loss. In the end we lose everything. Becoming comfortable with the loss of our dreams and hopes and desires reveals the present moment for what it is ....... already enough . As are you... already enough . Much love to you. I wish you peace, you are closer than you think !
You just amaze me. This was needed. So much love to you kind gentle one.
Came for #detransition awareness Stayed for the philosophy
This almost brought me to tears.. I needed to hear this! Thank you beautiful 💙
Scotland has received snow before Ontario, Canada. :)
Brave brave man. U looked beyond that void. U looked into it, fearing there would be nothing there left worth seeing. But u found a man where a boy once stood. So hold urself, smile, and sleep the sleep of the proven warrior u truly are. Respect Sam.
How beautifully poetic, thank you Mark
So beautiful in bravery Sam, thanks. Peace.
Thank you too Sam
Always appreciate your thoughtful videos.
Thank you
i randomly came across your video and I'm grateful i came across it. I'm a survivor of CSA and i could relate to this video on so many levels. I'm a 22 y o guy and I feel ashamed to want to feel loved, to be taken care of, to be seen(everything that i lacked in my childhood) and all the adult things about being the MAN just kind of confuses me and there's this war in my head where I end up feeling like it all ended and I don't have to deal with this bs anymore but there is hope and i live every day for that. I do forgive myself and I'm trying to show everyone who i really am, not hiding myself anymore. I'm trying. thank you
I hated myself because I needed to be loved, I was so ashamed and felt so weak but intimacy is foundational to our wellbeing. We want to love and be loved, to give ourselves to others in respectful, nourishing , truthful relationship.... this is where we really discover who we are. Don't ever doubt that change is possible, you are here now and now is where change begins . Acceptance is essential....... be kind and tolerant and compassionate to yourself. The healing path is a journey, not an event. Small , gentle change , each day is a victory. I wish you well.
@Call-Me-Sam i can so relate to you but I've never been intimate probably because I pushed the ones that I felt didn't deserve me or because of how needy I've been for love and care that probably drifted away people and I learnt that i must not be needy and stuff which is confusing but I just know that I deserve love. I'm being compassionate and I'm hopeful. Thank you for everything that you're doing! I subscribed and I'm now checking your old videos.
Thank you for making this.
Thank you Sam, "they come when they come".
Who the hell do we think we are? lol! 😔😕😁😂🤣😀
Spot on beautiful! Thank you for this transmission from Wisdom
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Thank you!
Your a beautiful person
That was amazing. What a powerful and brutally honest testimony. Thank you.
Gosh, I am so terrified. This video went straight to the heart. A remedy for the errors that sneak about my being and fool me into hiding. Thank-you for finding ever new ways to urge us to stop surviving and to stop healing when healing means self-rejection.
" stop healing when healing means self-rejection." Yes, you put it very clearly here, thank you Michelle. I feel it too, that terror but less so now. I'm more scared of not living, we have so little time , lets not not waste it hiding away.
Love others as you love yourself.
Your new videos often seem to pop up at the right time for me 🙏
I'm glad
Sam, you are a rare voice out there. I find most voices out there more or less intolerable. But you are real to the bone and beyond. Even if you would never record any more videos, know that you have really reached people's hearts.
Thank you so much . I know how bad isolation can be, trapped with our trauma. No matter the nature of the trauma, we share a language. I just want to speak in a voice that the wounded understand, to know that they are not alone and change is possible. I am one of them. Over the last few years I've just let go of the outer self. Revealing something else.
I'm incredibly aware that I isolate and that I'm in freeze mode, but I can't stand being around most other people either these days (it's gotten worse since I started learning about all this.)
@@charlottetaylor4471 I think that as we do become aware, we begin to become aware of our mask, we also see it in others. We need truthful presence, not just for us to heal but in relationships too. People wear masks, sometimes we just have to be tolerant of this. This is why truthful , honest relationships are just so important for us to heal. In those relationships we can meaningfully connect. Over the last few years my tolerance for superficiality was extremely low but as I've become much more stable I'm able to be around others. It can be draining though. " find the others " as the saying goes., others that are real !
@@Call-Me-Sam Yes, may this language we share serve us well on our pilgrimage to the Unnameable One.
@@charlottetaylor4471 Hi friend, yes, things can be intensified and seemingly "worse" on this path. It is easy to judge these periods as being actually worse. But seldom do we know. We can establish certain trustable contacts over time who can give us valuable reality checks here and there. I've heard one of the more serious trauma teachers out there recommending us to 'connect' with safe and inspiring people in literature and movies if real life encounters is too much for the moment. I recommend you find the long video Sam did reading poetry. Just amazing. Best regards to you.
Hating ourselves and withdrawaling from the abuse that happened in our childhood only causes more rukus in our lives. Because since we're withdrawn from all the pain that will then suck us into toxic relationships, toxic work environments, and even toxic lifestyle habits. It's better to process the pain acknowledging it happened. Grieve, of course. And allow/pray for our timelines to shift into something new and abundant. Btw Sam I love the snow in the background looks so beautiful! 😍
Today is my 67th birthday, and this was the first video that came up in my feed, today. It was a gift from God. Praying for healing, and peace, for you, Sam. Thank you.
Happy Birthday Ann! I hope your day is lovely. 😊
Happy Birthday😊
Happy birthday Ann !
@@brigitte9999 Thank you, so much. I'm grateful for each one, and for a nice person like you, to wish me a HB!
My heart goes out to the children of Ukraine, if there are any left. Stolen and used for whatever. Sex, organs, adrenochrome. We live in a terrible world. I love you Sam. Thank you for your videos.
Thank you. Yes, we do, the horror of this world and those fallen to evil, is quite staggering.
The stark scene of the snow is the perfect imagery for this subject matter today. We can place controls and brakes on our lives, thinking this is settling us free from the pain of the original abuse. We can end up bound, in even further emotional austerity. If it's not setting you free, then it's not the truth! Thank you this video.
Wise words dear S