My narc tried a fourth hoovering cycle. (in three years) I refused to meet, she wrote the worst insults and blocked. I'm SURE she'll hoover again before 2028. This time her excuse was step 12. Now I wonder whether I should retaliate and text "You're a violent man in the body of a female model. I will never find you attractive." Or just absorb the insult. Which also have it's toll on our nervous system.
I been married for 16 years to a narcissist. It wasn't until last year I started finally seeing what he does to me. I lost all self confidence and was depressed. It's so hard to get out because he does everything he possibly can to make sure I can't leave. I'm trying to stay strong and stay on task with my escape plan.
Thank you for your comment! I wouldn't be able to speak directly to your situation, but in general it is often about control. When you made the decision to go no contact that likely removed their sense of control and hoovering is how they can feel in control, regardless of the outcome.
They are psychopaths who won't kill anyone because they don't want to put their freedom at risk. I really think one day the DSM wheel align to that. Wright on your fridge IT'S NOT YOUR JOB THE FIGURE THEN OUT. 🫂
My narc tried a fourth hoovering cycle. (in three years) I refused to meet, she wrote the worst insults and blocked.
I'm SURE she'll hoover again before 2028. This time her excuse was step 12. Now I wonder whether I should retaliate and text "You're a violent man in the body of a female model. I will never find you attractive." Or just absorb the insult. Which also have it's toll on our nervous system.
I been married for 16 years to a narcissist. It wasn't until last year I started finally seeing what he does to me. I lost all self confidence and was depressed. It's so hard to get out because he does everything he possibly can to make sure I can't leave. I'm trying to stay strong and stay on task with my escape plan.
I believe in you! It is hard but it sounds like you are doing the best you can! Continue to stay strong for yourself.
i had a degrading narcissist dump me 10 years ago i went no contact after and they have been hoovering ever since on social media, why wont they stop?
Thank you for your comment! I wouldn't be able to speak directly to your situation, but in general it is often about control. When you made the decision to go no contact that likely removed their sense of control and hoovering is how they can feel in control, regardless of the outcome.
Narcs Hoover because they’re not done torturing you and they want to finish the job of destroying you.
They are psychopaths who won't kill anyone because they don't want to put their freedom at risk. I really think one day the DSM wheel align to that.
Wright on your fridge
IT'S NOT YOUR JOB THE FIGURE THEN OUT.
🫂