The problem with pausing in a conversation is that most likely the person you are talking to will interrupt you because they thought you were done talking.
While this is true, once you’re able to speak without filler words and taking you time talking, you’re able to slow your rate of speed down with your words so that you’re not bombarding the other people in the conversation with over information. And when you speaking at a better pace, you able to gather your thoughts and points much quicker. If you’re speaking at a face pace, 2 seconds of silence can feel like 20 and then the need to fill it is felt that much more. If you speak at (just throwing random numbers out) 300 words per minute, it’s so rapid every second of silence is magnified. But if you speak at 150 wpm, that same second feels more at pace. Hope that can help a bit.
The word of "umm" or "ahh" means the "ahh" is its scary or creeping you out and the umm is that you are thinking what to say when your hiding something
I GO BLANK AND FREEZE WHEN I DONT KNOW THE WORDS TO SAY IS IT A PROBLEM IM NOT A NATIVE SPEAKER I UNDERSTAND ENGLISH SO MUCH BUT I CANT EXPRESS MYSELF FREELY
Finally someone thinking the same way when they umm and and ahh they either sound like they're dumb all the lying thinking up a possible load of BS to say I totally agree with the pause hopefully more people will start to do that eventually
“LOL, it’s not a confidence issue, my friend. It is literally more of a stuttering issue that’s induced by the brain moving in conversation faster than your mouth is able to speak. Obviously, it’s one of the easiest things to get rid of because it’s not an actual problem. It mostly persists in freestyle dialogue rather than a pre-written script or casual conversation. If you try to take a lot of pauses, you’ll just open up more opportunities of losing control of the conversation before getting your point across. The other person will be thinking about things that interest them or alludes them to gain a better understanding if it’s information-based. If it’s not an information-based conversation and it’s completely platonic, you’ll probably come off as being on a spectrum since it doesn’t take a large output to engage in platonic conversation.”
No, I agree. In vocal diction courses it is explained as an actual kind of stuttering, but socially acceptable and even part of the culture. I was also thinking how would you prevent the listener from jumping in when you hadn't completed your thought as well. But there is indeed a marvelous side to what he is saying, especially when public speaking. I do appreciate his words, they are tremendously helpful. But I had actually been wondering about the points just mentioned as well!
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The problem with pausing in a conversation is that most likely the person you are talking to will interrupt you because they thought you were done talking.
I think he’s mostly referring to speaking to groups, and making videos.
Then you have to wait for them to be finished and then finish your idea
Ummm....
While this is true, once you’re able to speak without filler words and taking you time talking, you’re able to slow your rate of speed down with your words so that you’re not bombarding the other people in the conversation with over information. And when you speaking at a better pace, you able to gather your thoughts and points much quicker. If you’re speaking at a face pace, 2 seconds of silence can feel like 20 and then the need to fill it is felt that much more. If you speak at (just throwing random numbers out) 300 words per minute, it’s so rapid every second of silence is magnified. But if you speak at 150 wpm, that same second feels more at pace. Hope that can help a bit.
You can just request them that you're not finished yet.
This is fantastic! Esp the analogy of music. ❤
Listening to interviews and hearing people say um is so annoying I can't even listen when they say that
Great editing...., Love this! Lol
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Wow, incredible!!
What a guy!!!
"Notice how you're thinking about what i'm saying?" I just had a whole reevaluation of my life 😭
Loved it
Love this❤️
love it
Lol I sound twice as dumb not, just now people hear it beautifully 🎵🎶
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The problem is when I stay silent they say I'm being rude or ignoring 🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
Then that person lacks communication skills
Your problem “when I stay silent”. Pause for a few seconds but don’t stay silent.
The word of "umm" or "ahh" means the "ahh" is its scary or creeping you out and the umm is that you are thinking what to say when your hiding something
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I GO BLANK AND FREEZE WHEN I DONT KNOW THE WORDS TO SAY IS IT A PROBLEM IM NOT A NATIVE SPEAKER I UNDERSTAND ENGLISH SO MUCH BUT I CANT EXPRESS MYSELF FREELY
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Ah yes... I C to men
Nope I rather say ahhhh
the guys love that
@0:10 he answers how to stop using filler woods by saying “you know”. Great advice.
Finally someone thinking the same way when they umm and and ahh they either sound like they're dumb all the lying thinking up a possible load of BS to say I totally agree with the pause hopefully more people will start to do that eventually
“LOL, it’s not a confidence issue, my friend. It is literally more of a stuttering issue that’s induced by the brain moving in conversation faster than your mouth is able to speak. Obviously, it’s one of the easiest things to get rid of because it’s not an actual problem. It mostly persists in freestyle dialogue rather than a pre-written script or casual conversation. If you try to take a lot of pauses, you’ll just open up more opportunities of losing control of the conversation before getting your point across. The other person will be thinking about things that interest them or alludes them to gain a better understanding if it’s information-based. If it’s not an information-based conversation and it’s completely platonic, you’ll probably come off as being on a spectrum since it doesn’t take a large output to engage in platonic conversation.”
w-why is this in quotes?
Don’t agree at all
No, I agree. In vocal diction courses it is explained as an actual kind of stuttering, but socially acceptable and even part of the culture. I was also thinking how would you prevent the listener from jumping in when you hadn't completed your thought as well. But there is indeed a marvelous side to what he is saying, especially when public speaking. I do appreciate his words, they are tremendously helpful. But I had actually been wondering about the points just mentioned as well!
@@joelmillaG you don't have to agree it's the way people process words
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