I hate the whole "Fake it until you make it" thing. It feels like lying. It feels disingenuous. But *practicing* confidence... rather than "faking it" ... I can get on board with that. That's not a lie. That's just working on the skill.
I think what he means more is that that practice will give u the push u will need. Because personally i have done presentation over presentation over the years and it has not worked. And i agree that maybe if i would only focus now on the other person's brain, on how what im gonna transmit will help them, instead of me, it can do the trick. It's not like one will fake it the rest of their lives, it's just the beginning facade that will portray whom u will become with this practice:) At the end of the day it depends how u wanna see it, like any other life topic, but in my opinion i think it's great advice:)
I mean, “fake it until you make it” can do wonders too; like going to sleep, “being happy” (people say that smiling can trick/lie your brain into thinking that you’re actually happy), seeing new things from a new perspective (you can only see a different point of view if you pretend to believe in it for a while I guess), etc. It depends on what you’re using it for, but overall I think it's a powerful tool to begin something wonderful
What I've taken away from the "fake it to you make it" slogan, is that just jumping in and doing the work is a far better teacher than any amount of school will ever give you. They say that as a way to get people to stop over thinking and just do the thing in order to get better at it, this, "making it".
The problem is that we underestimate our capabilities and come to feel deceived that we can't do this or that. Maybe at the beginning it feels strange to 'fake it' confidence (or whatever else), but eventually you'll achieve that goal.
The moment we shift our attention from "ME" to outside world and on external environment, this shyness and awkward feeling goes away. Worked for me instantly
I had been thinking about this quite recently too. The more self-conscious I am at a moment, the more shy/awkward I get. Once I have a stronger sense of self/purpose/direction, the awkwardness/self-consciousness dies down.
Synopsis: 1. Appearing confident - Improving posture Open Body language Good Eye contact 2. Sounding confident Strong Volume End of low pitch Pause 3. Adopting curious mindset 4. Elaborate replies 5. Have stories ready to share
Also a key was as people start seeing you as confident you can shift your own sense of confidence. By practicing being confident even when he was shy people started noticing & feeding that back to him ✅
After watching this video, I'm suddenly feeling confident that I can do it. Although I'm freaking out to apply it and getting numerous thoughts about failing. Hoping to become confident and less shy around people.
I like this quote from you towards the end of this video 'don't be so attached to who you are right now in the present that you don't give the future version of you a chance'. Thanks, Vinh
His humor, confidence, self esteem and knowledge about the subjects make it feel as tho he is THE EXPERT and it makes it less boring than other youtubers
Agree..... It's incredible how he transform a " man sitting in a table talking to camera video / only.... in a funny.... entertaining.... informative... educative....captative.... MASTERPIECE FILMAKING video........ Amazing
I've suffered from over shyness and lack of confidence,all my life. I've got through life by using my practical skills. Ive never been able to contribute within meetings or say what i really want to say. It makes me ill thinking about an upcoming meeting or a seminar. I've tried everything. My previous Employer (were i worked for 30 year) sent me on a training course many years ago to improve my communication skills, All it was back then, was me, standing on an empty stage in a theatre with no audience, and reading from a script. I've learnt more from watching a few of your videos on how to be more confident and less shy. However Its the doing it in public I cant overcome. I hope after watching more of your videos it helps me overcome my fears. Many Thanks
Vinh, you're now my most favorite content creator among all socmeds! Damn you really mastered communication to the point that I can watch your videos without being distracted and without my mind wandering.
I remember my first public speaking class in first semester in college back in 2019 i was like "Shit here we go again" even tho i was pretty sociable i had stage fright and i was so shy to talk infront of a CROWD of classmates and a teacher who is 100% confident in when it comes to speaking to a crowd. what i thought was i will pretend that i am alone in the classroom and just rehearsing my prepared speech, and oh boy i nailed that presentation and class mates started always putting me in group debates when teachers ask for a debate i was the person, cuz they said "i inspire confidence" just hearing those words made me more confident in speaking to crowds. Your thought process is perfect for ppl who are shy and want to become more confident in their speaking/communication skills
I'm always impressed with your delivery. I'm having this problem now and it's really hindering my work progress. My new life starts right now with these five tips. Thank you
I completely agree! Overcoming shyness is a journey that requires practice and self-reflection. I used to feel out of place at social events, but shifting my mindset made a huge difference. Joining the Sense of Humor Improvement Program by Habit10x taught me that humor can break the ice and foster connections. I learned that a well-timed joke can lighten the mood, but sometimes it’s the fear of crickets that holds us back. Just remember, embracing your quirks and sharing stories can make you relatable-keep practicing, and you'll shine in any social setting!
Vinh I am a shy person but I have this aura and presence that makes people perceive me as confident and even intimidating but instead of using this to my advantage, I have this created this fear of not loosing it that makes me hold back and I have done this for years. I hate myself for it and I am now working towards it to lift the shell off me.
Vinh, you are the best mentor in speaking that I have found. I’m really grateful for happening to have you here in RUclips. I’ve thinking myself about how shy I was and how I really wanted to get out of this shyness barrier that I created myself. This is the time. You are such a role model, Vinh! I started to see some improvement of myself in my own confidence speaking with people and I will put 200% more effort to be who I want to be in the future!
Absolute Genius... I've actually started practicing this on Microsoft Teams Calls and in presentations to our senior leaders... Skills that you can't study or practice through the traditional school system...
You're absolutely right. Facing negativity with positivity is the way to self confidence, and one cannot achieve that unless he chalenges himself to get out of his confort zone. Thanks for sharing. This is very insightfull and helpfull.
I just came across this video and I was mind-blown by the way you share your stories and give advice on being more confident. It is surprisingly interesting and helpful!!!
Yes. YES. I'm confident. Really. Today i remembered one story and shared it with my family members. Omg, they laughed out loud. I feel so confident. Thanks for you advice and course of academy. Only wanted lessons about voice
sooooo grateful for bumping into your videos(actually it was the youtube ad i saw brought me here eventually), answered soooo many questions that I've been having for such a long time. Keep it up Vinh!
I've been doing RUclips for about 3 years now and I'm at this current stage you showed in the beginning video. I just really hope that was hard work I could actually become as good as you because I believe that it would bring me more success
My problem with implementing all of this is that I am unable to handle the amount of social pressure I feel after expressing myself as an outgoing person. Like putting on makeup, I feel that I've raised the standard for myself when I behave confidently, and people expect for me to show up with a full face of makeup and a confident personality all the time. I simply can't maintain it all of the time, because it requires too much energy. I'm too introverted to implement these tips, since people expect me to act this way and it is incredibly draining to do so.
I get what you mean. I'm one of the popular kids in my class but I can't even give a speech in front of the whole class without sweating like hell. Ppl expect me to be this big confident guy coz that's the persona I've created but rlly I'm not. It's kinda sad tbh
I get what you mean. I'm one of the popular kids in my class but I can't even give a speech in front of the whole class without sweating like hell. Ppl expect me to be this big confident guy coz that's the persona I've created but rlly I'm not. It's kinda sad tbh
@@OGTennyson thank you for being honest enough to share that. I’ve wondered what it is like to be a popular person and if those people felt pressure to perform the role of a popular person or if they just existed like that naturally
@@marciavox8105 oh yeah. The pressure is real. I'm still working on gettin rid of my social anxiety though. Soon I'll be able to give a presentation in front of my whole class without getting all sweaty and my heart racing. I know I can. I've done harder things than that b4. I just don't know y my brain links giving a speech to a sabertooth tiger attack😭😂😂😂
This is amazing! I am painfully shy but I have a lot to say. This guy's style is amazing! He seems like it has everything together, I am so impressed. Great talk!
Can you do a video on how you made the switch from being a magician to public speaking? How did you feel in the early days of your public speaking coach career?
You can take up acting or comedy Vinh. Thank you so much for your tips, sir. Here's what I took away. How to look and gradually actually be confident 1. Improve posture. Use open posture. Use good eye contact. 2. Stronger level of volume 5-6 level. End the sentence on a lower pitch. Use PAUSE more. 3. Be genuinely curious. Ask the other person three follow-up questions. For example, if someone loves hiking ask them, what motivated them to take hiking as a passion? What is the hardest thing about hiking? Who do they look up to/who is their hero? 4. Elaborate on your reply. But keep it succinct, engaging, and interesting (This is my thought not Vinh's). 5. Have stories ready to share. To keep a good inventory of stories write down even smaller events that were interesting in the day.
Thanks a lot Vinh, you can't imagine how you're helping people around the world... And one thing i want to say that how much energy does it take to speak like that... To be more animated.
Well said Vinh, I love the trick ⬇⬇⬇⬇ Don't look shy and Don't sound shy this is the first thing that people recognise in a speaker and make a judgement about that person. Then the most powerful tip is - Have stories ready to share because it helps us to make a connection with the audience.
My main problems after trying out these tips: - Eye contact works fine, when I know the other person doesn't know a lot about the subject. If I know they're expert, eye contact makes me extremely nervous, because I feel like I'm talking non sense and they are judging me. - Pausing. This invites people to interrupt me and say stuff I just wanted to say or ask question about what I was about to say, making it seem like I forgot about these things.
When He said " The way we see ourselves is made up partly of how others sees us, and as we improve how others see us, we improve how we see ourselves" something strange clicked in my mind. I wish I had found Vinh way back in college hahaha....Thanks Vinh
SUPER VIDEO I'M AN ENGLISH TRAINER FOR MORE THAN 15 YEARS. ONE OF THE BIGGEST PROBLEMS I SEE IN MY STUDENTS IS THIS. BUT THE BIGGEST ISSUE IS THAT THEY WANT TO LEARN BUT THEY DON'T WANT TO CHANGE. MOST WANNA LEARN AND KEEP QUIET WHY !
My battle with shyness is quite unique, I would say, in that, I am not shy around successful, savvy, wealthy people. But my lack of confidence and shyness overcomes me when I am with "small" people. People who would be considered as far less savvy, far less worldly, far less exposed to society. I've been really trying to understand whats going on. I live in a third world country in SEAsia and when I'm in Europe I'm super confident. When I'm back here, I'm overcome with shyness. I'm analyzing myself and have come to understand that the root of my shyness and crippling social anxiety is really coming from the fear of offending or weirding-out the very simple-minded, religious, tightly-wound, judgmental members of society who still believe, for example, that divorce is a sin against God. I've been surrounded by these "small people" all my life thus far, and really, I can say that they will judge you from the top of your head to the bottom of your feet, as being, "Cocky, arrogant, sinner, slutty" etc etc etc. if you don't behave and speak like "mama Mary". And they make those judgments really just because they're (please excuse me for the term), "nobodys". Their mindsets are really backwards. But these people represent the majority of those around me and these are the people who really have kept me in social anxiety and a lack of confidence. For example, I had dinner with one of the wealthiest families in Scandinavia the other month and I just felt SO RELIEVED to be able to talk, move, think, and express myself THE WAY I AM. I felt so damn FREE. And it was that night during that dinner, that I realized, that I am not actually an inherently shy or socially anxious person! I just get so stressed feeling like I have to pull myself down to the level of other people and THATS what has me acting all shy and crippled with anxiety! It was SUCH an eye-opening moment for me!
Amazing video Vinh! The first part is really useful for introverts and teenagers (I used to be that way) when I feel my introvert come out sometimes and it makes me seem like I have two different personalities. Sometimes I do t want to have small talk sometimes I do. All depending on my emotions that day and I’m working on that. As a content creator, I would love some of the ways your thought process goes when presenting your content.
Really well-done video, Vinh! My hubby and I have been following your content for a while now and you never disappoint 😉 Keep up the great work 👏 Love from Australia 🐨🦘
I have never left a comment before for anyone! But I love you and love your energy. I can really connect with you! Wish I had your energy and confidence. LOL! Tons of practice I'm sure!
Thanks Vinh. I'm enjoying listening to your tips and encouragement. Taking a lot of notes and looking forward to becoming the new me! My leadership role starts in a few weeks so I'm definitely taking your advice on board! Thanks so much 🙏
YOU ARE GREAT sir , thanks for sharing your own journey ... it helps a lot and secondly , I appreciate you trying to make the video as engaging as possible :) .
Thanks very much, Vihn! Super guilty here but this is a very good way to start the battle between my very inferior self and my future persona. Very excited!
This is excellent. It's simple, makes sense and implementable. I was actually randomly speaking along with the video and noticed a big difference implementing each piece of advice he gave. Now I suppose it's about practicing and burning this into your automated system! Great video dude 👍
Absolute fantastic content, bro. That is exactly what I want to learn and what I were praying for. I really want to save the freeking world, I simply have to and I'm going to, and I do it by replacing concrete (most devastating for the environment) with geopolymer, the material because of which buildings like the Colosseum and Pantheon stands there since thousands of years.
Hi Vinh, I love your work as I always do. I just had a thought about your closing in this video. You finished it with your own quote, “Don’t be so attached to who you are right now in the present that you don’t give the future version of you a chance.”, which is one of my favourite quotes. I think that was brilliant. It was very relevant to the content and excellent way to close. But I think it could have been highlighted and spotlighted by Craig’s special editing, such as bold subtitle of that written quote at the bottom of the screen. In that way it can visualise your quote and make bigger impact, and differentiated from other things you talked about through the video. It will also help to leave that quote in viewers’ mind after watching the video.
Hey well! As much as I understood, you don't need to fake anything. Just firmly assume that the audience in front of you is eager to listen to you and, with a positive mindset (which maybe true). So, if you address them warmly, they will stay engaged and feel a connection with you. Hope it helps 😊
wow. ive had so much fun watching your videos and this is one oof the best if i had to say. thank you so much for making this video...its like youre making this solely focusing on my situation. loving it🥰
Thank you so much sir you are helping me in best way when you don't even know who I am but you do know how i feel and also what I want 😊😊🔥 I'm glad I found you
What if a person has been shy most of their life because they were told a lot of hurtful things when they were a child? Ultimately, thinking they are worthless and so, why would anyone care to know them? Therapy can help heal some of those wounds but I don’t know that they can ever truly be as confident as they could have had that not happened to them in the first place. It’s like an indelible scar.
What defies you is your present and not your past. What happened in the past cannot be changed, rather put focus on making peace with it cause that is all you can do. Let go of the things that let you down and create things that build you now
..... It's incredible how he transform a " man sitting in a table talking to camera video / only.... in a funny.... entertaining.... informative... educative....captative.... MASTERPIECE FILMAKING video........ Amazing...... Genius
Wow, thank you so much for This Video. I learned in one day so much more about talking and how to get into it to feel and be more confident. And your tip to Film how I am speaking was very helpful for me.
I love you 😊 Because I see myself in the future I took the first step into this journey and I believe just like you overcame I will too Thank you Xiexie
Fantastic work. The black triangle obscuring the camera, top right hand side, I felt sure that was part of the act, and you were going to grab it and throw it out and ask who noticed it... hmmm
3:56 "How would they react to me saying ___" or "they' judge me" or "I would look and sound idiotic" Sometimes *too much attention* and *eye contact* overwhelms me
Before clicking on the thumbnail, I was thinking I'm not gonna watch this video. However, After watching this very interesting content, that's gonna help me to improve my confidence. I really like the way you added these tips in my mind, @Vinh.
Don't be discourage and don't be so attached to who you're right now in the present that you don't give the future vision of you a chance. - Vihn Giang 😍
Listening to thiss .. i remember about a lession i learned from the book atomic habit , iif y want to adopt a habit or thing u should first think that y are already that person who follow that habit ❤❤ultimatky your habit will change
“We become the things we most consistently practice.”
Yes and I will become a great person as I practice being that
I hate the whole "Fake it until you make it" thing. It feels like lying. It feels disingenuous. But *practicing* confidence... rather than "faking it" ... I can get on board with that. That's not a lie. That's just working on the skill.
I think what he means more is that that practice will give u the push u will need. Because personally i have done presentation over presentation over the years and it has not worked. And i agree that maybe if i would only focus now on the other person's brain, on how what im gonna transmit will help them, instead of me, it can do the trick. It's not like one will fake it the rest of their lives, it's just the beginning facade that will portray whom u will become with this practice:)
At the end of the day it depends how u wanna see it, like any other life topic, but in my opinion i think it's great advice:)
I mean, “fake it until you make it” can do wonders too; like going to sleep, “being happy” (people say that smiling can trick/lie your brain into thinking that you’re actually happy), seeing new things from a new perspective (you can only see a different point of view if you pretend to believe in it for a while I guess), etc.
It depends on what you’re using it for, but overall I think it's a powerful tool to begin something wonderful
FACTS
What I've taken away from the "fake it to you make it" slogan, is that just jumping in and doing the work is a far better teacher than any amount of school will ever give you. They say that as a way to get people to stop over thinking and just do the thing in order to get better at it, this, "making it".
The problem is that we underestimate our capabilities and come to feel deceived that we can't do this or that. Maybe at the beginning it feels strange to 'fake it' confidence (or whatever else), but eventually you'll achieve that goal.
The moment we shift our attention from "ME" to outside world and on external environment, this shyness and awkward feeling goes away.
Worked for me instantly
I had been thinking about this quite recently too. The more self-conscious I am at a moment, the more shy/awkward I get. Once I have a stronger sense of self/purpose/direction, the awkwardness/self-consciousness dies down.
@@kaungkhantthein5348 yeah totally!
How exactly do you shift your focus on to the external environment? Do you ask yourself questions about the other person(s)? If so, what are they?
@@dinujawattage5151 Instead of judging yourself, judge everything else around you.
Sounds a tad bit condescending, but it works sometimes.
Doesn't have to be negative judgements...maybe think curiosity instead of judgement?
Synopsis:
1. Appearing confident -
Improving posture
Open Body language
Good Eye contact
2. Sounding confident
Strong Volume
End of low pitch
Pause
3. Adopting curious mindset
4. Elaborate replies
5. Have stories ready to share
Also a key was as people start seeing you as confident you can shift your own sense of confidence. By practicing being confident even when he was shy people started noticing & feeding that back to him ✅
Love you bro
After watching this video, I'm suddenly feeling confident that I can do it. Although I'm freaking out to apply it and getting numerous thoughts about failing. Hoping to become confident and less shy around people.
All the best
I like this quote from you towards the end of this video 'don't be so attached to who you are right now in the present that you don't give the future version of you a chance'. Thanks, Vinh
Dude, you're one of the only guys I can sit and watch deliver this type of content. You stand out from some of the other folks in my algorythm.
His humor, confidence, self esteem and knowledge about the subjects make it feel as tho he is THE EXPERT and it makes it less boring than other youtubers
Agree..... It's incredible how he transform a " man sitting in a table talking to camera video / only.... in a funny.... entertaining.... informative... educative....captative.... MASTERPIECE FILMAKING video........ Amazing
I've suffered from over shyness and lack of confidence,all my life. I've got through life by using my practical skills. Ive never been able to contribute within meetings or say what i really want to say. It makes me ill thinking about an upcoming meeting or a seminar. I've tried everything. My previous Employer (were i worked for 30 year) sent me on a training course many years ago to improve my communication skills, All it was back then, was me, standing on an empty stage in a theatre with no audience, and reading from a script.
I've learnt more from watching a few of your videos on how to be more confident and less shy. However Its the doing it in public I cant overcome. I hope after watching more of your videos it helps me overcome my fears. Many Thanks
Vinh, you're now my most favorite content creator among all socmeds! Damn you really mastered communication to the point that I can watch your videos without being distracted and without my mind wandering.
Right same here
I'll just say this Vinh, thank you for being my virtual mentor. 🙏
I remember my first public speaking class in first semester in college back in 2019 i was like "Shit here we go again" even tho i was pretty sociable i had stage fright and i was so shy to talk infront of a CROWD of classmates and a teacher who is 100% confident in when it comes to speaking to a crowd. what i thought was i will pretend that i am alone in the classroom and just rehearsing my prepared speech, and oh boy i nailed that presentation and class mates started always putting me in group debates when teachers ask for a debate i was the person, cuz they said "i inspire confidence" just hearing those words made me more confident in speaking to crowds. Your thought process is perfect for ppl who are shy and want to become more confident in their speaking/communication skills
I'm always impressed with your delivery. I'm having this problem now and it's really hindering my work progress. My new life starts right now with these five tips. Thank you
Shyness is a feeling. Not a personality trait.
Skill issue get better
I completely agree! Overcoming shyness is a journey that requires practice and self-reflection. I used to feel out of place at social events, but shifting my mindset made a huge difference.
Joining the Sense of Humor Improvement Program by Habit10x taught me that humor can break the ice and foster connections. I learned that a well-timed joke can lighten the mood, but sometimes it’s the fear of crickets that holds us back. Just remember, embracing your quirks and sharing stories can make you relatable-keep practicing, and you'll shine in any social setting!
My confidence to communicate is completely rejuvenated.
Thanks Vinh
Vinh I am a shy person but I have this aura and presence that makes people perceive me as confident and even intimidating but instead of using this to my advantage, I have this created this fear of not loosing it that makes me hold back and I have done this for years. I hate myself for it and I am now working towards it to lift the shell off me.
Vinh, you are the best mentor in speaking that I have found. I’m really grateful for happening to have you here in RUclips. I’ve thinking myself about how shy I was and how I really wanted to get out of this shyness barrier that I created myself. This is the time. You are such a role model, Vinh!
I started to see some improvement of myself in my own confidence speaking with people and I will put 200% more effort to be who I want to be in the future!
this video is a gem, i will practice this everyday until i become someone i don't recognize
Have you become someone u don’t recognize
Absolute Genius... I've actually started practicing this on Microsoft Teams Calls and in presentations to our senior leaders... Skills that you can't study or practice through the traditional school system...
You're absolutely right. Facing negativity with positivity is the way to self confidence, and one cannot achieve that unless he chalenges himself to get out of his confort zone.
Thanks for sharing. This is very insightfull and helpfull.
I absolute want to be able to express myself the way Vinh does. He's just so good!
I just came across this video and I was mind-blown by the way you share your stories and give advice on being more confident. It is surprisingly interesting and helpful!!!
Yes. YES. I'm confident. Really. Today i remembered one story and shared it with my family members. Omg, they laughed out loud. I feel so confident. Thanks for you advice and course of academy. Only wanted lessons about voice
You don't know how much you helped me through this video. I needed this. thank you so much
sooooo grateful for bumping into your videos(actually it was the youtube ad i saw brought me here eventually), answered soooo many questions that I've been having for such a long time.
Keep it up Vinh!
I've been doing RUclips for about 3 years now and I'm at this current stage you showed in the beginning video. I just really hope that was hard work I could actually become as good as you because I believe that it would bring me more success
My problem with implementing all of this is that I am unable to handle the amount of social pressure I feel after expressing myself as an outgoing person. Like putting on makeup, I feel that I've raised the standard for myself when I behave confidently, and people expect for me to show up with a full face of makeup and a confident personality all the time. I simply can't maintain it all of the time, because it requires too much energy. I'm too introverted to implement these tips, since people expect me to act this way and it is incredibly draining to do so.
I get what you mean. I'm one of the popular kids in my class but I can't even give a speech in front of the whole class without sweating like hell. Ppl expect me to be this big confident guy coz that's the persona I've created but rlly I'm not. It's kinda sad tbh
I get what you mean. I'm one of the popular kids in my class but I can't even give a speech in front of the whole class without sweating like hell. Ppl expect me to be this big confident guy coz that's the persona I've created but rlly I'm not. It's kinda sad tbh
@@OGTennyson thank you for being honest enough to share that. I’ve wondered what it is like to be a popular person and if those people felt pressure to perform the role of a popular person or if they just existed like that naturally
@@marciavox8105 oh yeah. The pressure is real. I'm still working on gettin rid of my social anxiety though. Soon I'll be able to give a presentation in front of my whole class without getting all sweaty and my heart racing. I know I can. I've done harder things than that b4. I just don't know y my brain links giving a speech to a sabertooth tiger attack😭😂😂😂
@@OGTennyson practice will definitely make you better! Good luck! I still haven’t gotten confident presenting, but I believe in us both!
This is amazing! I am painfully shy but I have a lot to say. This guy's style is amazing! He seems like it has everything together, I am so impressed. Great talk!
Can you do a video on how you made the switch from being a magician to public speaking? How did you feel in the early days of your public speaking coach career?
Love your personality and your authenticity. You are my favorite communication expert on RUclips, Vinh 😊
I just love listening to you. You're The definition of "practicing what you preach" I wish I could physically be in that class.
You can take up acting or comedy Vinh. Thank you so much for your tips, sir. Here's what I took away.
How to look and gradually actually be confident
1. Improve posture. Use open posture. Use good eye contact.
2. Stronger level of volume 5-6 level. End the sentence on a lower pitch. Use PAUSE more.
3. Be genuinely curious. Ask the other person three follow-up questions. For example, if someone loves hiking ask them, what motivated them to take hiking as a passion? What is the hardest thing about hiking? Who do they look up to/who is their hero?
4. Elaborate on your reply. But keep it succinct, engaging, and interesting (This is my thought not Vinh's).
5. Have stories ready to share. To keep a good inventory of stories write down even smaller events that were interesting in the day.
Thanks a lot Vinh, you can't imagine how you're helping people around the world... And one thing i want to say that how much energy does it take to speak like that... To be more animated.
Thanks for making the message so clear both from your personal experiences and great video editing.
Well said Vinh, I love the trick ⬇⬇⬇⬇
Don't look shy and Don't sound shy this is the first thing that people recognise in a speaker and make a judgement about that person.
Then the most powerful tip is - Have stories ready to share because it helps us to make a connection with the audience.
My main problems after trying out these tips:
- Eye contact works fine, when I know the other person doesn't know a lot about the subject. If I know they're expert, eye contact makes me extremely nervous, because I feel like I'm talking non sense and they are judging me.
- Pausing. This invites people to interrupt me and say stuff I just wanted to say or ask question about what I was about to say, making it seem like I forgot about these things.
When He said " The way we see ourselves is made up partly of how others sees us, and as we improve how others see us, we improve how we see ourselves" something strange clicked in my mind. I wish I had found Vinh way back in college hahaha....Thanks Vinh
SUPER VIDEO
I'M AN ENGLISH TRAINER FOR MORE THAN 15 YEARS.
ONE OF THE BIGGEST PROBLEMS I SEE IN MY STUDENTS IS THIS.
BUT THE BIGGEST ISSUE IS THAT THEY WANT TO LEARN
BUT THEY DON'T WANT TO CHANGE.
MOST WANNA LEARN AND KEEP QUIET
WHY !
My battle with shyness is quite unique, I would say, in that, I am not shy around successful, savvy, wealthy people. But my lack of confidence and shyness overcomes me when I am with "small" people. People who would be considered as far less savvy, far less worldly, far less exposed to society. I've been really trying to understand whats going on. I live in a third world country in SEAsia and when I'm in Europe I'm super confident. When I'm back here, I'm overcome with shyness. I'm analyzing myself and have come to understand that the root of my shyness and crippling social anxiety is really coming from the fear of offending or weirding-out the very simple-minded, religious, tightly-wound, judgmental members of society who still believe, for example, that divorce is a sin against God. I've been surrounded by these "small people" all my life thus far, and really, I can say that they will judge you from the top of your head to the bottom of your feet, as being, "Cocky, arrogant, sinner, slutty" etc etc etc. if you don't behave and speak like "mama Mary". And they make those judgments really just because they're (please excuse me for the term), "nobodys". Their mindsets are really backwards. But these people represent the majority of those around me and these are the people who really have kept me in social anxiety and a lack of confidence. For example, I had dinner with one of the wealthiest families in Scandinavia the other month and I just felt SO RELIEVED to be able to talk, move, think, and express myself THE WAY I AM. I felt so damn FREE. And it was that night during that dinner, that I realized, that I am not actually an inherently shy or socially anxious person! I just get so stressed feeling like I have to pull myself down to the level of other people and THATS what has me acting all shy and crippled with anxiety! It was SUCH an eye-opening moment for me!
you content is practical what i mean is that, what ever u teach can be applied with ease and is relevant unlike other university professors
You look more confortable with yourself , and that is nice❤
Amazing video Vinh! The first part is really useful for introverts and teenagers (I used to be that way) when I feel my introvert come out sometimes and it makes me seem like I have two different personalities. Sometimes I do t want to have small talk sometimes I do. All depending on my emotions that day and I’m working on that.
As a content creator, I would love some of the ways your thought process goes when presenting your content.
How are you so engaging, interesting, funny, sweet, positive….person? Howwwww that’s what i look for whenever i wanna learn!😂❤ just subscribed:)
I'm truly inspired by your student example and I am so glad I watched this video
Really well-done video, Vinh! My hubby and I have been following your content for a while now and you never disappoint 😉 Keep up the great work 👏 Love from Australia 🐨🦘
1. Appearing Confident :-
• improving posture
• Good Eye contact
• Open body language
2. Sounding confident:-
• Strong volume
• End of low pitch
• Pause
3. Adopting Curious Mindset
4. Elaborate replies
5. Have stories ready to share.
I have never left a comment before for anyone! But I love you and love your energy. I can really connect with you! Wish I had your energy and confidence. LOL! Tons of practice I'm sure!
You're absolutely inspiring Vinh!!! I've save this one as one of my favorite videos about confidence in communication !!!
Thanks Vinh. I'm enjoying listening to your tips and encouragement. Taking a lot of notes and looking forward to becoming the new me! My leadership role starts in a few weeks so I'm definitely taking your advice on board! Thanks so much 🙏
YOU ARE GREAT sir , thanks for sharing your own journey ... it helps a lot and secondly , I appreciate you trying to make the video as engaging as possible :) .
Thanks very much, Vihn! Super guilty here but this is a very good way to start the battle between my very inferior self and my future persona. Very excited!
Thanks so much for this video. I agree with your points being a shy person myself.
May God help me in this journey as I practice being more confident.
Hehe, as an editor, I relly love this interesting style of editing! It gives so much more interactivity in the video!
This is excellent. It's simple, makes sense and implementable. I was actually randomly speaking along with the video and noticed a big difference implementing each piece of advice he gave. Now I suppose it's about practicing and burning this into your automated system! Great video dude 👍
Absolute fantastic content, bro. That is exactly what I want to learn and what I were praying for. I really want to save the freeking world, I simply have to and I'm going to, and I do it by replacing concrete (most devastating for the environment) with geopolymer, the material because of which buildings like the Colosseum and Pantheon stands there since thousands of years.
Hi Vinh! I´ve just discovered you, and instantaneously you´ve become one of my references.
We become the things we most consistently practice❤❤❤
Top notch advice, and very genuine. Thank you for sharing, Vinh.
It’s okay to talk about the weekend if you actually did stuff on the weekend.
This is the content I am yearning for!!! Honestly, my confidence needs more confidence. Thank you for this Vinh.
Thank you so much for this video. Implementing the tips you gave has helped me beat shyness and i'm now very confident
This video was highly entertaining😂 Thank you for the tips. I'll try my best to incorporate all of these into my daily life
You’re amazing thank you so much! I’m going to practice it now 😄
Lot of value here… Will practice my confident being
I saw you on Tiktok before and from then on you're one of the people I look up to! I love your videos and I want to become just like you! 💓
You use editing to re engage mind into your next line of speech thats great tactic
Having stories to share definitely feels the hardest to me. I don't have a clue. What kind of stories? I don't think I have many.
the transition was amazing
真的非常感谢， 学到好多东西！谢谢 Vinh Giang！
Good points Vhin...since i have attended your workshop it really help me alot...keep up the good work!!
Hi Vinh,
I love your work as I always do. I just had a thought about your closing in this video. You finished it with your own quote, “Don’t be so attached to who you are right now in the present that you don’t give the future version of you a chance.”, which is one of my favourite quotes. I think that was brilliant. It was very relevant to the content and excellent way to close. But I think it could have been highlighted and spotlighted by Craig’s special editing, such as bold subtitle of that written quote at the bottom of the screen. In that way it can visualise your quote and make bigger impact, and differentiated from other things you talked about through the video. It will also help to leave that quote in viewers’ mind after watching the video.
Noted thanks for the feedback Yeon!
It’s amazing how not once you’ve said “umm”
Your humility is inspiring
Hey well! As much as I understood, you don't need to fake anything. Just firmly assume that the audience in front of you is eager to listen to you and, with a positive mindset (which maybe true).
So, if you address them warmly, they will stay engaged and feel a connection with you.
Hope it helps 😊
I totally get that. When my friend told me that I'm not a shy person,I actually thought that I wasnt although I knew I was
Laughing my ass out!! 😂😂
I love you man
wow. ive had so much fun watching your videos and this is one oof the best if i had to say. thank you so much for making this video...its like youre making this solely focusing on my situation. loving it🥰
Thank you so much sir you are helping me in best way when you don't even know who I am but you do know how i feel and also what I want 😊😊🔥 I'm glad I found you
What if a person has been shy most of their life because they were told a lot of hurtful things when they were a child? Ultimately, thinking they are worthless and so, why would anyone care to know them? Therapy can help heal some of those wounds but I don’t know that they can ever truly be as confident as they could have had that not happened to them in the first place. It’s like an indelible scar.
What defies you is your present and not your past. What happened in the past cannot be changed, rather put focus on making peace with it cause that is all you can do. Let go of the things that let you down and create things that build you now
I just want thank you for this inspirational and educative video, i got some good take away that I will apply in my life from now on.
..... It's incredible how he transform a " man sitting in a table talking to camera video / only.... in a funny.... entertaining.... informative... educative....captative.... MASTERPIECE FILMAKING video........ Amazing...... Genius
All the advice are practically actionable without any second thought.... 👌
love seeing the student examples Vinh! excellent video!
such a wonderful video! Thanks Vhin 💯
Wow, thank you so much for This Video. I learned in one day so much more about talking and how to get into it to feel and be more confident. And your tip to Film how I am speaking was very helpful for me.
I love you 😊
Because I see myself in the future
I took the first step into this journey and I believe just like you overcame I will too
Thank you
Xiexie
🫶🏾🫶🏾 thank you Mr. Giang!
Fantastic work. The black triangle obscuring the camera, top right hand side, I felt sure that was part of the act, and you were going to grab it and throw it out and ask who noticed it... hmmm
3:56 "How would they react to me saying ___" or "they' judge me" or "I would look and sound idiotic"
Sometimes *too much attention* and *eye contact* overwhelms me
Yeah, more videos like this, keep it up bro ❤️🔥
Amazing tips, Thank you!!!
Thank you so much for your help.
I was struggling about fake confidence until i saw your video.
Before clicking on the thumbnail, I was thinking I'm not gonna watch this video. However, After watching this very interesting content, that's gonna help me to improve my confidence. I really like the way you added these tips in my mind, @Vinh.
This video is so perfect. You saved me Vinh!
Oh Man! I just love your content. It's all sooooooooooo inspiring... THUMBS UP!!!
It would be so fun and interesting to practice what you have told and I will be watching every twice a week as well
Thank you for teaching and it really helps me to build my confidence. Hope to see you again.
best example of "Fake it, Until you make it" 😅
Don't be discourage and don't be so attached to who you're right now in the present that you don't give the future vision of you a chance. - Vihn Giang 😍
Listening to thiss .. i remember about a lession i learned from the book atomic habit , iif y want to adopt a habit or thing u should first think that y are already that person who follow that habit ❤❤ultimatky your habit will change