What type of person can defeat a narcissist?

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  • @dumpmail-xz2qp
    @dumpmail-xz2qp 8 месяцев назад +325

    The type who knows the narcissistic game and wont fall for their bs. Awareness and education is the key

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  8 месяцев назад +14

      🙏🏾

    • @thennungitv6240
      @thennungitv6240 7 месяцев назад +8

      I wish I had this knowledge 5 years back.... I wouldn't ve wasted my precious years on my Ex. But it's never too late, I thank GOD I finally reached Here!
      Been in my learning era since 16th June 2024. I got this in Jesus' Name, AMEN 🙏🏼

    • @RoselandeBazelais-hn5rh
      @RoselandeBazelais-hn5rh 7 месяцев назад +5

      @@dumpmail-xz2qp EXACTLY!!!!
      Me personally,I won't take it.
      Your person is not more important than MY PERSON PERIOD.
      I won't love anyone more than I love myself PERIOD.

    • @Yo-yo-dt5ze
      @Yo-yo-dt5ze 6 месяцев назад

      I didn’t know what the signs of a narc was until it was too late 5 yrs in then I realized he loved bomb me to get what he wanted and he had more than one supply when I wouldn’t answer his text or calls once I called him out on his bs which he didn’t like and tried to start and argument with me he ghosted me I didn’t reach out for closure I did a no contact and deleted all of my social media it’s been 3 months and I haven’t heard from him since this was the best decision it was hard to let go but I don’t have time for the mind games I took my power and peace back and he’s no longer in control of me his next victims are gonna find out how he really is a liar and manipulator and don’t care about no one but themselves they never did love you they don’t even love themselves

    • @happy9110
      @happy9110 6 месяцев назад

      @@thennungitv6240your so lucky to have found out about it early ,
      Ur in a good place
      Live the “now “
      Good luck

  • @deniserandall4397
    @deniserandall4397 8 месяцев назад +267

    One who doesn't care. Indifference is golden.

    • @SummerSolstice621
      @SummerSolstice621 8 месяцев назад +17

      This is it!

    • @springfauna1465
      @springfauna1465 8 месяцев назад +17

      Indifference=freedom!!

    • @anka6356
      @anka6356 3 месяца назад

      Comments better than the video

    • @Jervdbur
      @Jervdbur 2 месяца назад

      but is that connection you want.

  • @Toshii240
    @Toshii240 8 месяцев назад +403

    A person with the Holy Spirit can defeat a narcissist!!!

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  8 месяцев назад +30

      ‼️

    • @lucygoose6237
      @lucygoose6237 8 месяцев назад +18

      YES!!!

    • @KathyCole333
      @KathyCole333 8 месяцев назад +50

      Yes! That’s how I did it! Thank you Jesus!!

    • @goingupyonder
      @goingupyonder 8 месяцев назад +22

      @@MentalHealness Proverbs 20:22 Say not thou, I will recompense evil; but wait on the LORD; and he shall save thee.

    • @Ruthforme
      @Ruthforme 8 месяцев назад +17

      @@KathyCole333Hallelujah!! I had to go to court, he showed up with three attorneys. Oh, but thank God I only needed one, the best one.❤

  • @faithfulone06
    @faithfulone06 8 месяцев назад +153

    Absolutely. When you educate yourself on narcissism and set those boundaries it is a real game changer. They know you are too strong for them and they start avoiding you.

  • @liljerseygirl249
    @liljerseygirl249 8 месяцев назад +171

    My advice, don't try to defeat him. Just be honest and get out. The last time he raged at me and hung up the phone on me, was the last time. I blocked him on social media and my phone. Have not spoken to him in 2 years. He has found ways to get through anyway, but I never responded.
    I fell free and I feel more assertive and confident.

    • @PantaRhei-wz5zn
      @PantaRhei-wz5zn 8 месяцев назад

      Trying to defeat them, while allowing them to remain in your life
      = You have opened a tap in your energy reservoir where the Energy will will continue to seep out, necessary to defend your boundaries.
      IF too much Energy leakeage over time, with not enough Engergy replenishing coming in, will simply means you get Drained.
      You are winning, while you are dying out from the inside. A perfect Pyrrhic Victory... Are you really winning then ???

    • @mrsmiley707
      @mrsmiley707 8 месяцев назад +5

      glad to hear it!

    • @gidgethrobowski3860
      @gidgethrobowski3860 8 месяцев назад +12

      Exactly, leaving them alone and getting on with your life is the only way to defeat them. Therefore there aren't any special tricks, etc.

    • @back2nature608
      @back2nature608 8 месяцев назад

      You are talking about him now! Instead of leaving yourself and him out of your comment. He just defeated you!

    • @Mrs.smitty
      @Mrs.smitty 8 месяцев назад +4

      If you are setting a goal just make sure you don’t tell them.🤫

  • @KhadijahsMamma
    @KhadijahsMamma 7 месяцев назад +69

    Anyone who understands that narcissism is a weakness and not a strength can defeat them. Them being narcissists doesn’t mean they have the power to do anything they want.

    • @mariposa7709
      @mariposa7709 4 месяца назад +1

      The best comment I heard in a while.

  • @sharonb519
    @sharonb519 8 месяцев назад +120

    NEVER let your guard down and never get them wet or feed them after midnight. 😂

    • @mimisha3253
      @mimisha3253 8 месяцев назад +23

      😂straight up gremlins

    • @sharonb519
      @sharonb519 8 месяцев назад +6

      @@mimisha3253 Yes maam! 😂

    • @bellalove1805
      @bellalove1805 8 месяцев назад +3

      😂😂😂😂😂

    • @TarotAF11114
      @TarotAF11114 7 месяцев назад +3

      Lol

    • @Yo-yo-dt5ze
      @Yo-yo-dt5ze 6 месяцев назад +6

      I did that and it was the worse 😂😂😂😂 but I’m out of that toxic 5 yr relationship with a narc

  • @chinadoll534
    @chinadoll534 7 месяцев назад +41

    “No, no, no” “can’t be afraid to hit that “no” button” that’s funny as hell. My ex does not like hearing the word “NO”. Every woman gave him what he wanted, except me, but I’m the one he wants. Go figure. Most men will respect and want the women who will stand up to their crazy asses.

  • @nnglnd
    @nnglnd 8 месяцев назад +74

    Once you find out, there is no going back .

  • @dw51
    @dw51 8 месяцев назад +70

    A balanced person who loves themselves enough to put barriers and boundaries. A person who can do without and still feel complete. To not show any effects of their negative treatment.

  • @AnastasiaLimanto-io2kw
    @AnastasiaLimanto-io2kw 8 месяцев назад +69

    I guess I can be proud of myself 😁 because I set my boundaries (don’t cheat, don’t lie), I walked away / divorced my then narcissist husband as soon as he crossed my boundaries (he cheated, lied & much more), I exposed him to his whole family, his mistress & his friends, then I blocked him for good. I’m patting myself on the back right now 🤣

    • @willettepowell6860
      @willettepowell6860 8 месяцев назад +4

      You are brave I don’t cheat or lie but trust me he does all the time I don’t know how to start to leave if I do he makes threats to take our children or my home car everything I helped us accomplish I just stopped working full time to attend nursing school I did work 16 hours a day 6 days a week to help accomplish our goals our son is 2 and he always threatens to take our children I’m depressed if we divorce I never want another man in life I would rather be alone I’m not gay no offense to anybody I don’t want a girl either 😂❤😂🎉

    • @paulettelamontagne6992
      @paulettelamontagne6992 8 месяцев назад

      ​@@willettepowell6860Allstate for Mother's Day how can you take your kids? Unless you're drunk or a druggie not being ugly but that's a fact it would be better to lose a home and a car then have your son or daughter raised in this kind of environment. I've never understood these relationships I'm here trying to find out about my grandson's father. And there are good men out there I had a great one till he passed. But I encourage anybody in a relationship with one of these people who get the hell out. My daughter was abused. And now she's addicted to drugs thanks to him he took custody of my grandson from me. I took custody when he was a year old because she refused to be a parent. He went to prison when she was 4 months pregnant for a violent home invasion then he slickly flew her back from Vegas pretended they were going to be a couple one custody for himself after a year and a half custody battle and 30,000 the State of Florida has no grandparents rights. He won't allow me to see my grandson because after 7 months my grandson had welts bruises and cuts on his rear end from the man he'd known a whole 2 years and parenting time for the first year was just twice a week as my custody went from one day a week parenting time to 5:00 to full custody. Upon seeing the injuries I asked my grandson he said his daddy makes him drop his pants and swings a belt and his legs were cut because he missed his rear end called the cops I didn't know about DCF emergency numbers the cop didn't put the pictures in the folder for DCF they stayed on the evidence this the police department DCF didn't talk to him for 2 weeks and it was in front of his convict father that has F the police tattooed on his back . He hasn't let me see my grandson in 4 years and still says my grandson was coached drove me to the point of insanity and then made me look insane my grandson said to me my daddy tricked me he doesn't love me and I don't even like him please don't make me go back call the judge on TV my nana I haven't seen him in 4 years. And this is pain that does not leave and then I cannot pack up and leave

    • @photina262
      @photina262 4 месяца назад

      @@willettepowell6860keep on w school don’t give up honey and then save your money and get free w your babies

  • @domeatown
    @domeatown 8 месяцев назад +176

    Trick question. Love does not involve winning or defeat. The only person who can "win" is someone who doesn't care about winning.

    • @mysweetlife388
      @mysweetlife388 8 месяцев назад +14

      Actually the mindset should be to win - by no contact! That's how I am winning - out of sight!

    • @domeatown
      @domeatown 8 месяцев назад +7

      @@mysweetlife388 that's a win for yourself, I suppose. Not so much a win over a bad guy, but a win for your peace. So, I guess you could frame it that way! All that really matters is getting back to reality instead of the bubble, and whatever it takes is what should be done lol

    • @domeatown
      @domeatown 8 месяцев назад +5

      @@mysweetlife388 my main issue is that narcs introduce this competition element to everything, and normal people do not. And finally getting outside of their long, long arms means giving up the competitive mindset. Reality is not like this.
      But a win for oneself is absolutely a win

    • @beverleysilcock9135
      @beverleysilcock9135 8 месяцев назад +5

      The only way to win is not to play the game

    • @Raj-cl7he
      @Raj-cl7he 8 месяцев назад +5

      Great comment indifference is what beats them when you stop caring what people think it becomes a super power you dont care to win or lose you just care to live .i will say these people have given me a thick skin these days i dont even fight with peoples perceptions of me . At the end of the day when you think about it it never really matters . All the noise eventually fades in the back round .

  • @thetruth9652
    @thetruth9652 8 месяцев назад +42

    Knowing what you are dealing with is the way to beat a narcissist. Once you know the stove is hot, you won’t touch it anymore! If you’re in your right mind!

  • @TheCurlyBeauty
    @TheCurlyBeauty 8 месяцев назад +32

    Winning is preserving your peace. Limited to no contact has been the absolute best thing in dealing with these clowns.

  • @pameliahooks2741
    @pameliahooks2741 8 месяцев назад +55

    A strong person with strong boundaries can defeat a narcissist and doesn't let their guards down at all with a toxic or narcissist person 💪 😊 gotta stay tough for people like that

  • @anetapostek9833
    @anetapostek9833 8 месяцев назад +35

    I have been called psychopath because I didn’t react the way he used to make other people to react. I seriously think I was too logical and then I just walked away . I kinda still cannot believe anybody can lie that much 😂 I’m glad it didn’t take long for me to resolve that dating thing 😅 yet I’m still shocked I’ve never met creature like that before in my life 😅

    • @juliapu3828
      @juliapu3828 8 месяцев назад +4

      Can't agree more. Once I learnt the truth I got speechless...I didn't actually know that person despite him being so close to me. The lies are insane!!!

    • @NicholeMeletioNikki
      @NicholeMeletioNikki 7 месяцев назад +3

      If you got called a psychopath then he likely is one. My ex is. Legit anything they say like that is exactly who THEY are. I told my ex to rage all of those words in the mirror. Calmly told him it would be “much more effective.” Ha!
      They can’t even get creative with the nasty crap they rage at you. They are describing themselves. My experience anyway. 🤷🏻‍♀️ My ex has greater issues though- NPD and a psychopath/Sociopath and antisocial personality disorder. Super whacko.

    • @anka6356
      @anka6356 3 месяца назад

      I'd take it as a compliment

  • @MsFox2u
    @MsFox2u 8 месяцев назад +60

    My pastor asked me how I managed to deal with my ex-narc (his cousin) after he had finally moved out. I told him Jesus was the only way I was able to defeat him. I had to pray all day, everyday to keep my sanity in order to deal with him. Plus, I'm a very strong-willed person and once I check-out the relationship, I'm done, stick a fork in me. There was/is nothing he could do/say that would make me change my mind about staying with him or ever want to go back to him. He can be the last man on earth, and there are no more batteries being manufactured, I will not go back to him. 💯

    • @iBlindAssassin
      @iBlindAssassin 8 месяцев назад +2

      👏👏👏

    • @MsFox2u
      @MsFox2u 8 месяцев назад +3

      @momosan11 No, my ex-narc's entire family wants nothing to do with him. They are just basically tolerating him, but loving him with a long handled spoon. The pastor barely talks to him anymore because he was telling lies and half truths on him. I have screenshots of a conversation between the two where my pastor told him that if my ex-narc were to die that day, he wouldn't do his funeral nor attend. My pastor and I never even talk about my ex-narc. He basically told me that that my ex-narc is the least of his worries. I'm still friends with his entire family. His nieces and nephews still call me auntie. He and I grew up across the street from one another. So, his entire family has known me all my life. I knew he had anger issues when we got together. He just lied and told me he wasn't like that anymore. I told him time would tell and it did. He had 2 brothers pass away before him while he and I were still together and I told one of his nephews that I thought he (ex-narc) would have died before those 2. The nephew told me the entire family thought the same thing because he plays Russian roulette with his health and has been doing this for years! His entire family knows how he treated me and witnessed his treatment of me. His younger brother told him while we were still together that he couldn't come back over his house because of the way he treated/talked to me. His younger brother used to be my softball coach and he's like a bug brother to me. His daughter told me that he was a narcissist after he visited her and he showed his true colors around her. I hadn't even mentioned to her that I determined he was a narcissist. I let her find out on her own. But, she did witness him talking to me crazy when she came to visit twice while we were still together. She basically told him that she saw why her mom didn't marry him because her mom basically said the same thing about him. So, I know his family won't turn on me. They have basically turned on him.

    • @DeanTobias-mi1gn
      @DeanTobias-mi1gn 8 месяцев назад +2

      ​@@MsFox2u That's a blessing. I don't like either side of my NARC family. Just no. I wish I had support from them.

    • @MsFox2u
      @MsFox2u 8 месяцев назад +1

      @DeanTobias-mi1gn Yes, it is. But, I knew and grew up with my ex-narc's family long before he and I hooked. So, that's why they still love me because they know the kind of family I was raised by and knew he didn't/couldn't/wouldn't appreciate it. Oh, trust and believe when I say people have told him that he messed up and to just leave me alone.

    • @lakishadm6587
      @lakishadm6587 8 месяцев назад

      I needed to hear that. I have been going to bible study and God has just been rebuilding my strength. It has been 3 months we have been dating. I have giving him clothes, shoes, money, food, and allow him to feel comfortable in my home. We don't live in same household. Also he is so selfish and don't want to help anyone. He lies and never owns up to it. He feels that he can have friends but when he saw 1 church man come to my house and he said I was trying to make him jealous. This is so stressful and draining because I am nice to him. He has me feeling so tired. Then he tries to say he can have whatever woman he wants but then says sorry right after. And when he says sorry, he will turn around and try to justify it. Or if I ask him to talk to me and communicate he never wants to do that and he'll get angry. I was just so exhausted that I had just layed down all day yesterday and prayed. Well God never fails and after praying and going to church I got my strength back. So I have ignored his texts for 24 hours. He sent me a text that said he knows I may not want to deal with him but he appreciates my advice. Can they change I just really need to know

  • @RoselandeBazelais-hn5rh
    @RoselandeBazelais-hn5rh 7 месяцев назад +16

    First thing is LOVE YOURSELF MORE than you LOVE THEM.
    Don't put up witj their BS.
    And just LEAVE THEM,cause i don't have to SUBMIT AND ARGUE with no one.I LOVE MYSELF TOO MUCH.

    • @hibiscus1974
      @hibiscus1974 6 месяцев назад

      agree with you.. i have malignant parents, then married a covert, i and my daughter are super suffering, i tell my daughter to love herself more than anyone and strong boundaries, nobody told me about these before i learned about narcissism

  • @JustinJacobson-yz4zr
    @JustinJacobson-yz4zr 8 месяцев назад +34

    Hit the nail on the head. Be good or be gone. If they know you can walk away, before they can find a new supply, that will keep them in pocket. But also when you expose the narcissist that is like kryptonite to them. Nothing weakens them more than public humiliation & shame. They will claim it’s a smear campaign, yet the truth is truth.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  8 месяцев назад +3

      ‼️‼️

    • @nishar7381
      @nishar7381 8 месяцев назад +8

      Exactly! I wouldn't let him hide when he would be abusive, was worried about the neighbors and I didn't care, they can see him for who he is. You want to act like this macho-persona, everyone else is and their a calm, logical and caring person that has no clue why your acting crazy. Lol he was intentionally pressing buttons to get a reaction and only got more violent when I kept my cool and sang Christian songs. Narcissism is a deep unclean spirit. But nothing is too big for God.

    • @lakishadm6587
      @lakishadm6587 8 месяцев назад

      @@nishar7381 Can they be long-term partners...meaning do they ever change?

    • @nishar7381
      @nishar7381 8 месяцев назад

      Mind to elaborate?​@@lakishadm6587

  • @mariannebauman3410
    @mariannebauman3410 8 месяцев назад +48

    Someone who can block them n move on n not look back!

  • @maryyy_1055
    @maryyy_1055 8 месяцев назад +38

    That's so true, I had boundaries and when he crossed them over and over again the more fear I had of leaving but instead chosen to give him chance after chance and that is what I regret the most.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  8 месяцев назад +15

      protect your peace

    • @carletteallen3169
      @carletteallen3169 8 месяцев назад +6

      If you do not need the coward... they will find someone else to use.

    • @chimerejackson2118
      @chimerejackson2118 8 месяцев назад +4

      I feel this 💯. It took me over 2 decades to realize what was happening and when I did and stood on MY BUSINESS!!! In other words my boundaries, I was able to stand up to him.

    • @lakishadm6587
      @lakishadm6587 8 месяцев назад +2

      @@chimerejackson2118 Did you stay with him or did he change. This is my first time an I am so hurt and exhausted by his ungrateful selfish, ignorant personality.

    • @chimerejackson2118
      @chimerejackson2118 8 месяцев назад

      @@lakishadm6587 I put him out 5 weeks ago and am in the process of getting a divorce.

  • @jenniferburton7044
    @jenniferburton7044 8 месяцев назад +14

    If you don’t give them ANY reaction…… and walk away…. You have defeated the Narc. 🙏

  • @1love847
    @1love847 8 месяцев назад +13

    They are so exhausting. Just hearing you talk about what i need to do to defeat them is so draining and exhausting. And i just dont have to do any of that anymore. PEACE. ✌

    • @lakishadm6587
      @lakishadm6587 8 месяцев назад +3

      Yes I have been in bed tired and exhausted and I have been dating one for 3 months. Everything is about him

    • @1love847
      @1love847 6 месяцев назад

      @@lakishadm6587 I am making room for higher vibrational and genuinely generous men in my life! My new mantra

    • @kenindula7319
      @kenindula7319 2 месяца назад

      So well put

  • @tammyfitzgerald5336
    @tammyfitzgerald5336 7 месяцев назад +17

    Confident ones who are very smart ❤❤❤❤

  • @czito
    @czito 8 месяцев назад +72

    Someone who has strong faith in God that dwells inside of them and follows that above all. The I AM.

    • @Abracadabra1111
      @Abracadabra1111 8 месяцев назад +3

      💯 ❤

    • @arris.7207
      @arris.7207 8 месяцев назад +7

      @dcanes5720 Satan was the first narcissist. I'm not sure if you've ever read the Bible, but once you do, you can start spotting the behavior/spirit from a mile away. Only the Spirit of God can contest the spirit of the enemy.

  • @springfauna1465
    @springfauna1465 8 месяцев назад +7

    LMAO!!!! 🤣🤣🤣 Lee!!!! That was hilarious!!! .."No! No!" 😂👍 Kidding aside though, the best lessons I learned from the narcs was self-love, self-worth, self-respect, and solid boundaries!!! It was painful, but I got it!!

  • @Edward_Strong1982
    @Edward_Strong1982 8 месяцев назад +10

    Definitely a self aware empath can defeat narcissist. From the start i know I shouldn’t have dated him. I was very aware of what was happening. It was honestly self esteem and loneliness. The first year I kept quiet and tried to play peace maker. Once I started setting boundaries and speaking my mind he went into a tailspin. The more confidence I gained, The more I pushed back. He eventually found a new supply, a “friend”, so he started discarding me. I ended the relationship AND went no contact after a few months. He texted me from a new number and cursed me out and I blocked him again. I know I became his worse nightmare because he thought I was never going anywhere 🤷🏾‍♂️🤣

    • @Nelinelihello12
      @Nelinelihello12 7 дней назад

      I went through the same thing 😅 but I've been better 😭💞

    • @Nelinelihello12
      @Nelinelihello12 7 дней назад

      Expect for him texting me back I left him with that "friend" she took my problems away

  • @rashidarowe7882
    @rashidarowe7882 8 месяцев назад +21

    I left that narcissist and he has tried to come back several times, he seems to think I have BPD and yet won't leave me alone, but he did me dìrty, I went from hurt to angry as hell because he did not have to do me like that.

    • @shaykay2389
      @shaykay2389 8 месяцев назад +1

      Same here..give it time and in the meantime focus on you..sending hugs

    • @rashidarowe7882
      @rashidarowe7882 8 месяцев назад +2

      @@shaykay2389 Thank you 🤗

    • @lakishadm6587
      @lakishadm6587 8 месяцев назад

      @@shaykay2389 Sorry to hear that. I pray it gets better. I have a question...if you give it time does it mean that can possibly figure out what they have done wrong or do you just move on completely.

    • @ohhimark742
      @ohhimark742 8 месяцев назад +4

      Sometimes they accuse ppl of BPD to make themselves look like the victim when your behavior is a completely normal reaction to everything they've been putting you through

    • @ninja_2114
      @ninja_2114 7 месяцев назад

      @@ohhimark742 exactly my experience! he accused my of being instable and having bpd while i was just having a normal reaction to him overstepping my boundaries and making me feeling guilty to have boundaries in the first place

  • @GregoryBruce-h4w
    @GregoryBruce-h4w 8 месяцев назад +18

    Narcissists hate people Who expose their lies with proof. I exposed my ex-boyfriend with pictures of you know what. He dealing with 2 women with very low self esteem. These women know about me and they don't care. Me dealing with his narcissistic personality is draining. I cut his family off, his enablers. His sister told the 2 females if I would take him back he would dump them both. It's not going to happen. He makes me evil. I have peace in my life. Thank you!

    • @candacelewis8274
      @candacelewis8274 8 месяцев назад

      They definitely bring out the evil side and I’m not letting anybody control my emotions period ! That’s too much power

    • @lakishadm6587
      @lakishadm6587 8 месяцев назад

      Yeah I have felt that I have been feeling like his angry self and that is not even me

  • @ernestinedumas7955
    @ernestinedumas7955 8 месяцев назад +41

    I met a narcissist, and he could not use me. Do not fall for the looks.

  • @AwakenedPriestess144
    @AwakenedPriestess144 8 месяцев назад +41

    A person like me. I defeated a whole narc nest.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  8 месяцев назад +6

      Oh my

    • @tminatorrrr
      @tminatorrrr 8 месяцев назад +3

      😂😂😂😂😂😂​@@MentalHealness

    • @monicalianna574
      @monicalianna574 7 месяцев назад +2

      how did you do it ??? I am very curious

    • @luke76tuy
      @luke76tuy 6 месяцев назад

      @@MentalHealness bruh hahahah

    • @PeterShort-c6u
      @PeterShort-c6u 4 месяца назад +2

      I'm in middle of a nest myself n cleaning it out...

  • @ZOELIFE23-365
    @ZOELIFE23-365 8 месяцев назад +9

    I LOVE THAT " CROSS YOUR LEGS AND START FLOATING" 🎈🎈🎈#IT-
    THAT PART

  • @lindalu7563
    @lindalu7563 8 месяцев назад +57

    I saw the first flag on first date, but didn't know what I know now!!! My gut said never again, but then I thought I was being too critical. Go figure 8 plus years later.....

    • @sandraleehurst7350
      @sandraleehurst7350 8 месяцев назад +7

      31 yrs later here. Ugh 😩 going through a divorce and healing

    • @whatnowprods
      @whatnowprods 8 месяцев назад +6

      Saaaaame thing. Except I never let him get away with shit. So he discarded me in a horribly cruel way a year later

    • @Narc_Hunter
      @Narc_Hunter 8 месяцев назад +2

      Instead of marrying one for 30 years, I went through 30 people like that, so I know exactly what it is like.

    • @NatzTalk
      @NatzTalk 8 месяцев назад +5

      Ik this feeling but I knew he was verbally abusing me and other stuff he did was weird but I just chalked it up to childhood and ex gf trauma. The more I was around him the bigger dickhead he became. Once he betrayed me and then said nothing I said to him would hurt his feelings, I realized then he was just a toxic person that created a lot of his own drama/chaos and I ghosted his ass.

    • @trasay
      @trasay 8 месяцев назад +1

      I'm at the 8 year mark too!!

  • @KelliBar
    @KelliBar 8 месяцев назад +26

    My ex narc hoovered me after I ended the relationship. The last time, I asked him one question after reminding him what an honest person he was 😊
    "If you were me, would you date you?". He answered NO. I've had no issues with him since.

  • @Durhamcricket543
    @Durhamcricket543 8 месяцев назад +37

    I kicked out my narcissist husband 10 months ago. I just can’t get past the anger. 😡

    • @misseducated2929
      @misseducated2929 8 месяцев назад +1

    • @misseducated2929
      @misseducated2929 8 месяцев назад +1

      same for years. look up loving kindness practice. it’s for you not for him.

    • @domeatown
      @domeatown 8 месяцев назад +6

      You will. It'll just be longer than you want. It's okay. It's part of the process

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  8 месяцев назад +7

      Takes time

    • @chimerejackson2118
      @chimerejackson2118 8 месяцев назад +9

      Stay encouraged and stick to your guns. I just put my narc husband out after 22 years of marriage and I am feeling better day by day. And don't give him that energy. THEY WANT THAT because it will trigger you to show it and gives them control over you. It will get better. Stay strong and prayed up.

  • @carletteallen3169
    @carletteallen3169 8 месяцев назад +406

    Only an independent person can beat a narcissist

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  8 месяцев назад +17

      🥴

    • @tranquility9325
      @tranquility9325 8 месяцев назад +108

      Many ppl are independent. They still get abused. Lack of boundaries, need no tolerance for nonsense, refusing to ignore red flags and not having fear about being alone. Those are the real weapons we need.

    • @Hazelnut3988
      @Hazelnut3988 8 месяцев назад +10

      String will empath that stick to their boundaries at all times give them a taste of their own medicine and watch them squirm but have an evaluation plan in place before hand just in case someone they really fear like the public or police

    • @Believeinyouuk
      @Believeinyouuk 8 месяцев назад +5

      That is so true and such a good answer 👏🏻

    • @Duff-p6k
      @Duff-p6k 8 месяцев назад +4

      So true!

  • @MizzzLuna
    @MizzzLuna 5 месяцев назад +2

    My ✂️ off game is too real. Make ppl stand on how they treat you💯

  • @lucemaillet630
    @lucemaillet630 8 месяцев назад +48

    They may fear a sicker narcissist, if there is such a thing

    • @kiwi1361
      @kiwi1361 8 месяцев назад +11

      A Psychopath.
      The father of my ex (a covert narcissist) was a psychopath and he was terrified of him.
      He thought I was an integrated psychopath and was scared of me, searching for psychopathic tendencies but I'm just a schizoid woman.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  8 месяцев назад +4

      😥

    • @WordOfTruthMinistries
      @WordOfTruthMinistries 8 месяцев назад +1

      Why was this funnneee...a sicker narcissist...😂😂😂 they've met their match... I'm so tickled😂😂😂😂😇

  • @mysweetlife388
    @mysweetlife388 8 месяцев назад +8

    Cracking me up - build an empath! My voice box is programmed to no contact.

  • @lolxd9396
    @lolxd9396 4 месяца назад +1

    My narcissistic player wanted to know what I was listening to because I would lecture him on his bad behaviors. Thank you Lee 🙏☺

  • @honorrasch-gush4817
    @honorrasch-gush4817 7 месяцев назад +2

    I lived that for a year. I will live this going forward and never allow my boundaries to waiver. He literally told the neighbor that i overreact. I had no idea until i became educated on narcissistic partners that my reaction was giving him power. He would give me that i have the power grin while i was overreacting. I finally empowered myself to leave! And exposed every detail making sure he knew that he was exposed. I took my power back!

  • @slavicempress
    @slavicempress 7 месяцев назад +1

    0:07 that chuckle! 😂😂😂 You know you're about to stir the pot 😂

  • @beanallene
    @beanallene 5 месяцев назад +3

    I really need to get better boundaries. I'm working on it.

  • @DaretoDream814
    @DaretoDream814 8 месяцев назад +9

    You are so correct! As much as I think I love my narc, I am as educated and spiritually enlightened. He told me earlier in our relationship that I was to militant. That meant that I am to protected spiritually, mentally, physically and emotionally. After nearly six years I think he's finally given up but something tells me that he figures we are on a break. What he doesn't probably realize is that once I am done with trying to hold a relationship with a person, I AM DONE. I love this about myself and I appreciate my divine protection, provision and guidance. Truly do. It's not that easy, but it is. Love & Light to you and your community.

    • @trasay
      @trasay 8 месяцев назад +3

      So are you done?

    • @DaretoDream814
      @DaretoDream814 8 месяцев назад +4

      @@trasay I love your question. I Am Done. The issue, until further notice is, are they done? What's up fool....

    • @amazoniablue7572
      @amazoniablue7572 8 месяцев назад +2

      @@DaretoDream814 agree!
      Thats the issue and question.
      I am currently wondering the same. Is he done?

  • @SphereMedia-yb2od
    @SphereMedia-yb2od 3 месяца назад +1

    being no contatct with a narcissist for 9months, ran a terrible smear campaign in my community, i didn't defend myself , just silence and no contact inspite of the insults and abuse , set your strong boundaries and don't waiver, control your emotions

  • @sindymendez1359
    @sindymendez1359 6 месяцев назад +1

    Boundaries, and truly staying firmly planted to not going back , having a strong sense of self worth, also seeing and accepting the person for who they truly are , never being allowed to be deceived by illusion the narcissist’s illusion.

  • @LisaHoward-fq8jw
    @LisaHoward-fq8jw 8 месяцев назад +2

    One of our last conversations, told him don’t talk to me anymore. Then, all I’m trying to do now is figure out the logistics of us going our separate ways. He started to say what he wanted and needed to do, and I interrupted. I said I don’t care what you’re doing, you don’t matter anymore and neither does what you want. Now , leave me alone. He was pissed and I couldn’t have cared less. 🎉❤ Loved it and haven’t thought twice about his “NEEDS”

  • @Cherish258
    @Cherish258 8 месяцев назад +14

    A person with a strong cut off game

    • @TheeKingdomChild
      @TheeKingdomChild 7 месяцев назад +1

      👏🏽👏🏽 Yup. And that’s me..

  • @semirainayatullah
    @semirainayatullah 8 месяцев назад +7

    The main problem that im facing is trauma bond.... I would be grateful if you could please upload a video defining all the activities, routine or exercises whatever is required to beeak the trauma bond or this sort of depression.... Thank you

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  8 месяцев назад +2

      i have some vids on it

    • @semirainayatullah
      @semirainayatullah 8 месяцев назад +1

      @@MentalHealness can you please paste here the links of those videos; it will be a great help ! Thank you

    • @happy9110
      @happy9110 6 месяцев назад

      I read literature about codependency and it helps me cope with the trauma patterns
      With time it gets better

  • @tiffanyradford9898
    @tiffanyradford9898 2 месяца назад

    I literally turned off my active status on FB then used the mute status so I can’t see his messages and so he can’t see if I’m online. Then I moved and told him I was leaving but he didn’t believe me until the morning I got off work and drove a moving truck to get my stuff. The look on his face was priceless bc he never thought I would really leave him. Took me almost 4 years to finally find the courage to leave

  • @rickylumo8666
    @rickylumo8666 6 месяцев назад +4

    It helps to understand that the narcissist is a shame dumper. They are allergic and oblivious to their own shame and will look for someone who can tolerate having it dumped onto them.

  • @tiffanyradford9898
    @tiffanyradford9898 2 месяца назад

    I literally turned off my active status on FB then used the mute status so I can’t see his messages and so he can’t see if I’m online. Then I moved and told him I was leaving but he didn’t believe me until the morning I got off work and drove a moving truck to get my stuff. The look on his face was priceless bc he never thought I would really leave him.

  • @tewheke4186
    @tewheke4186 8 месяцев назад +3

    Lee you crack me up, this was very funny. Yeh this is on point, a narcissist will always test your boundaries. I also feel like a narcissist is the catalyst for the growth of the empath. You can become a sigma empath. My ex the narcissist was the catalyst for my incomprehensible growth, that threw me in to my divine mission. Yeh he made me dig fkn deep man, I'm independent, I don't give a shit anymore, I don't allow people to overstep my boundaries! Thwy make you more intelligent, which is quite fkd up. An Educated Empath, Exactly. Weve got this, take your power back beautiful people👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾💯💫💜

  • @sk8taway
    @sk8taway 8 месяцев назад +9

    9:21 “you cannot be afraid to walk away” 🎯 me: new supply
    10:24 “not being afraid to expose them” her: the old supply

  • @adonaiel-rohi2460
    @adonaiel-rohi2460 Месяц назад +1

    Ultimately greater power defeats a narcissist. Power that either dominates a narcissist or makes one beyond the narcissist’s ability to dominate.

  • @susansimon4255
    @susansimon4255 8 месяцев назад +4

    Very true! I survived because of my self control

  • @justaperson8385
    @justaperson8385 7 месяцев назад +4

    So i have ADHD and as someone with ADHD I hate when people don’t take accountability for their own actions.
    As we have always been held responsible for ours
    I also have no patients for disrespect
    If I can control what I say when I get mad and not say things that I know will hurt you than what are we doing here

    • @happy9110
      @happy9110 6 месяцев назад

      Has nothing to do with adhd

  • @vanessapehl7581
    @vanessapehl7581 8 месяцев назад +6

    Thanks Lee the TRUTHS will set you free God Bless

  • @WitchNamedShay
    @WitchNamedShay 8 месяцев назад +1

    I have an avoidant attachment style. It has fortunately saved me from narc abuse. I’m too “cold “ for most and they get exhausted when I give them nothing to “feed” from. I also have a loner personality and don’t do anything that “attaches” me to another human being . Thanks for the video Lee!

  • @BriannaRochelleCreative
    @BriannaRochelleCreative 8 месяцев назад +6

    I have a doctorate degree in narcissism 😂 I had a parent, uncle, several friends and partners who were narcassistic.

  • @Lailat854
    @Lailat854 8 месяцев назад +2

    You defeat them when u genuinely detach psychologically and emotionally (and financially). I there now - still married but no contact at all! No reaction, and ready to go whenever I want.
    I live as I want, I travel, work, take care of and support my adult kids, have life long friends.
    As for him, I made him the stranger he once was before i started a relationship with him.
    I didn’t know of narcissism - understood he was a covert narcissist after 30 years of marriage. Two years of therapy and I am totally free.
    I don’t care about defeating him. i wish no good or bad - I am focused on me and my loved ones

  • @mercykamonjo3634
    @mercykamonjo3634 4 месяца назад +1

    OMG!!! This is the most important piece of information I have ever come across!! Thank you ❤❤

  • @s-wes4107
    @s-wes4107 8 месяцев назад +7

    Yep! Was planning to move across the country, but cut it off after the red flags got crazy.

  • @MIDNIGHTSUNALASKA
    @MIDNIGHTSUNALASKA 8 месяцев назад +1

    Lee, I appreciate what you have chosen to do with your life. I realize that it didn’t “just happen” and that it was a lot of hard work and reprogramming on your part.

  • @sparklingloveandlight
    @sparklingloveandlight 8 месяцев назад +11

    Watching replay, Lee. Control your reaction, exactly. Boundaries too. ❤ #AwakenedEmpath lmao 🤣 Hiiiii!

  • @harmonyvanscott3634
    @harmonyvanscott3634 8 месяцев назад +1

    U are FAF! 😂😂 “No, I dnt want to, I dnt feel comfortable” 💥 Preach! U so on pt like ALWAYS! ❤

  • @deynwill123
    @deynwill123 4 месяца назад +1

    Sometime it's one sentence that's a game changer - the point is you can walk away from people who DONOT VIBE WITH YOU

  • @lenaco4900
    @lenaco4900 3 месяца назад

    And I did! Thank you 🙏🏼

  • @istj66360
    @istj66360 6 месяцев назад

    Lee, this my favorite video you've made. I watch this one over and over. You talk about the little guy with the no button and setting boundries. The last narcissist I dealt with came into my home and demanded something from me. It didn't matter how many times I told this person no. They didn't change my no into a yes. They turned my "No" into a "Get the fuck out!!" You wanna talk about making your boundries unshakable, he didn't wanna leave willingly and I had to use physical force to get him out and things got violent. My roommate was wanting to call the cops. I didn't lose that fight though. He did and I sent him flying out my front door and told him to never come back again. This leads me to a question for you. What makes a narcissist wanna fuck with someone that's had more than 20 years of combat training and 4 years of education in dark psychology? I could've sent this person to the hospital on a stretcher or the morgue in a body bag and I didn't like it when they tried to turn my no into a yes. Each time they tried, it pissed me off even more. So why would a narcissist wanna fuck with someone that they know can hurt them severely? That's my question.

  • @therollingstone9701
    @therollingstone9701 8 месяцев назад +1

    You're doing a great job in your videos, Lee. Your channel is very useful to a lot of people.
    You can be proud of yourself for all the work you did on yourself during those years in therapy n the time spent self-reflecting.
    i wish you all the best,
    Ben.

  • @tdubblz
    @tdubblz 8 месяцев назад +1

    I love your channel because you teach us as lot. At the same time…. Are we your healthy supply? Your narcissism shines in every episode, but because you help us with so much, I give passes every time. 😆 But seriously, at least you use it to help others while you help yourself. The narcissists in my life only take and never give… until they are losing supply and love bombs to get it all back. Bitter sweet compliment but honest review

  • @mssarah38
    @mssarah38 8 месяцев назад +3

    Thank you for sharing Lee....

  • @AD-cx2mw
    @AD-cx2mw 4 месяца назад

    ❤ Thank you brother for all your videos. I'm sure many of us sincerely appreciate it. I know I do and I learned so much it's believable. I also want to thank you for making me genuinely laugh when you make a joke and laugh your laugh is contagious so I thank you for you being so pure honest and sharing ❤

  • @lolxd9396
    @lolxd9396 4 месяца назад +1

    LOL, Lee teach us to build a empath bear, that says, " No, can't touch this!". I love your humor and thank you Lee 🙏☺

    • @anka6356
      @anka6356 3 месяца назад

      Lee is still a narc, he knows what keeps those moneys flowing

    • @lolxd9396
      @lolxd9396 3 месяца назад

      @@anka6356 I beg to differ. I can agree to disagree. Thank you

  • @DaughterOfGod247
    @DaughterOfGod247 8 месяцев назад +4

    We are like Neo stopping them Narcissistic bullets before they lit us up😂😂😂

  • @stupensardi2783
    @stupensardi2783 8 месяцев назад +1

    You have a great giggle. Makes me smile. Thank you for being so honest.😊

  • @debraburrell7020
    @debraburrell7020 6 месяцев назад

    You are so right, Lee.

  • @THEIDLESHOW
    @THEIDLESHOW 8 месяцев назад +11

    This is great advice and I love the channel. However all the ways to defeat the narcissist are exhausting to me. I rather leave them as soon as I identify them as narcissistic. I’m just done.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  8 месяцев назад +1

      I understand

    • @tranquility9325
      @tranquility9325 8 месяцев назад +4

      Yes. Dumping them in the beginning even after the first date or early period. Ppl say we'll I love them and we have kids together. No! You dump em EARLY ON.

  • @tminatorrrr
    @tminatorrrr 8 месяцев назад +2

    😂😂😂 my soul felt the educated empath dodging bullets like the matrix 😂😂😂😂

  • @LauraGuerra-y9j
    @LauraGuerra-y9j 8 месяцев назад +1

    I really wasn't afraid to my own way. I would rather go my own way. Then have someone else by my side like a faker or a hater!. So I'd rather adjust my mind an setup my own healthy boundaries and I was on my own way, simple as that. I just want serenity and accept to know the difference between right and wrong that's all 🧘🏻‍♀️✌🏻⚡.

  • @KorysArtCafe
    @KorysArtCafe 8 месяцев назад

    You crack me up!
    You have helped me so much to understand a riddle I just couldn’t solve.
    Thank you.

  • @loriewallace8922
    @loriewallace8922 8 месяцев назад

    Yes, it got to the point where I knew what he would do 2-3 steps ahead. I got out and educated myself. Now my son is divorcing his very toxic wife. Everything I learned has been so helpful for him.

  • @Robloxplayer242
    @Robloxplayer242 3 месяца назад

    This information helps me because I am going through the same thing and I am educating myself so that I know how to protect myself

  • @madeleinetepa4455
    @madeleinetepa4455 8 месяцев назад +1

    In the end of the day you can make mistake but love you and put you first alone self love savety

  • @tealblue4987
    @tealblue4987 8 месяцев назад +1

    Omg I didn't see this one before. Beautiful !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! . . .!!

  • @debraburrell7020
    @debraburrell7020 6 месяцев назад

    Thanks so much, Lee!

  • @MsAmazonAmazing
    @MsAmazonAmazing 8 месяцев назад +3

    I defeated my ex narcissist BF by cutting all ties and changing my number…Truly, got to stand on business.

  • @debraburrell7020
    @debraburrell7020 6 месяцев назад

    Keep growing Lee ❤

  • @chinadoll534
    @chinadoll534 5 месяцев назад +2

    I had a narc ghost me over the weekend, so I ghost him (sexually) for two weeks. So he tells me he’s giving me my space because I’m a STRONG WILLED WOMAN. See I match energy with energy. Period

    • @anka6356
      @anka6356 3 месяца назад

      He's full of ish

  • @GreeneChakra
    @GreeneChakra 8 месяцев назад +1

    I Love this Video! I’m hitting the “No” Button, but with the Deep Voice Lee! 😂😂😂

  • @Diamond-zp5wp
    @Diamond-zp5wp 6 месяцев назад +2

    Coldness always does the trick

  • @GreeneChakra
    @GreeneChakra 6 месяцев назад +1

    I Love ❤️ your Commercial Interruptions 😂 and your Narcissistic Laugh 🤣 I friggin LOVE IT MUAHAHAHA! MUAHHAHAA! 😂🤣

  • @ikeepwinning1629
    @ikeepwinning1629 8 месяцев назад +4

    I love your channel.

  • @AugenaufbeimAktienkauf
    @AugenaufbeimAktienkauf 7 месяцев назад +1

    love your videos

  • @barnkieth3857
    @barnkieth3857 8 месяцев назад +1

    Getting a reaction out of you😮 That part 👏

  • @melodycrigler4033
    @melodycrigler4033 8 месяцев назад +1

    Man I love watching these videos! You are hilarious 😂

  • @ivonkwAn6443
    @ivonkwAn6443 7 часов назад

    Only someone who recognize narcissistic behavior 😊,
    Education is our protection 🙏

  • @kenindula7319
    @kenindula7319 2 месяца назад

    The one who can detect them from a distance even without getting close to them for any intimate relationship

  • @balthssil
    @balthssil 8 месяцев назад

    Yes!! We Do Enjoy your videos and you humor 💯

  • @tinye3916
    @tinye3916 8 месяцев назад

    Setting a boundary with my ex was and still is a problem. We have kids together and he constantly says to them he doesn't have to respect me nor does he. So whatever he says goes and how I feel about anything that is expressed, is quickly drowned out by him talking over me. He drains my energy and has our kids thinking that he does so much for them even though he is barely around them.