Simple ; if you take a narc back they will... GIVE .YOU .HELL.ON TOP OF THE HELL THEY WAS ALREADY GIVING AS A FORM OF PUNISHMENT !!!!!!!!!. RUUUUUN AND NEVER LOOK BACK 💪🏽🙏🏼
I did this for almost 13 years and next month marks one whole year of limited contact since we have a child. These videos helped me break free and say NO MORE!!! I love it here.
That's what happened to me had a complete breakdown and ended up covered in psoriasis 20 years absolutely broke me,im divorcing him now and he still thinks i want him back and he's done nothing wrong,these people are evil and sick.
@@janetjones5087so sorry to hear you suffered with psoriasis. My mom had it from head to toe and I believe hers was stress induced as well by my step father. 😢 praying 🙏 for peace for you in your mind body and soul. 🙏
They never change. You can't take them back, no matter how much you love them. They will make you hate yourself, hate your life, it will only be 10...hundreds of times worse. Sometimes you have to break your heart to save your soul.
I have been with four narcs in my life, and the only one I ever went back to was my wife. The very day I moved back in, she started the same crap like I had never left. I moved out permanently three days later and vowed to never take a narc, or anyone else back, once the relationship was broken. It's just bad business.
I left the narc once and went back after 1 month . 2 weeks later , I realized that I had made a huge mistake and my older son had told me not to go back 😂. Weeeeeeh !!! I almost went mad . . . I left permanently 6 months later ! And have been narc free for 2 years now .
They actually let themselves believe that it was you to caused them to behave the way they did, so it's your fault that they treat you the way they did.
You dont take them back because they will be better. You take them back because the withdrawal from the trauma bond is intensifying and the relief is them
This is so true. I’m going they this now. Found out my girls been cheating and when I bright to her… it’s like I never knew who she was. I ignored all the red flags. Now I’m sick and feel like the medicine is her. This shit it hard I’ve never been with a narcissist. I got played like a fiddle.
Absolutely true!! I had a realization that I was seeking comfort from the person who had caused the need. The person who hurt you can't be the person to heal you.
Time, prayer & support is the only way to heal from narc abuse. I’m truly struggling, some days are better than others. I was with a covert narc 32 yrs, I had to move away & isolate just to process it all. Not understanding how a person can be passive & aggressive, good to you but bad for you, build you up just to tear you down. You only have 2 options, 1. stay & be abused or 2. leave, hurt & heal
THAT'S IT!! ONCE THE HOUSE HAS BEEN SWEPT CLEAN, AND NOTHING IS PUT INTO IT, YES THE DEMON PLUS 7 RETURN!! IF YOU LEAVE, BUILD YOURSELF UP, STAY IN CHRIST, NEVER GO BACK, ""NEVER!!!!""
@@OverComer911 I needed to read this ...putting something into your house is KEY. Fill it with truth and the goodness of God....and love, joy, and peace. Then let no narc in... ever
They don't "forget" that you and the situationship existed. However it's important to remember that those who have legitimate narcissistic personality disorder do not view partners/people as real people with their own feelings and emotions that need to be validated. They are incapable of authentic love and empathy and imagine other people solely as a source that provides attention, admiration basically an ego boost for their self centered identity. They do nothing but use those around them to feed their swollen egos and when you no longer provide this to them when they want it they will drop you and be on to the next victim faster than you can say narcissist so it truly makes no difference how much they remember of you.
The Narcissist will assume with their truly flawed thinking and mental constructs that, all is forgiven. Hence the behavior that caused the split will come back but even worse. You have showed them that you need them and they will show you more of their toxic behavior. Love the channel and have learned a lot about those narcissistic personality types 🤙
Lee, your videos are ALL I HAVE keeping me away from the most horrible toxic human in the world. I hsve to listen to several videos every night like this every night until these feeling someday pass and I can stop caring. I’ll get there but DAMN it’s soooo hard. Addiction is exactly what this! Thank you forever!
If you want different behavior, find a different person. These people do not change (sorry Lee! Most of these people). I dumped my ex over a year and a half ago, had to get someone involved to get him to stop his nonsense and I cannot even tell you the lies I have learned about since. It is very validating and a great reminder why I should never have let him into my life in the first place. I have spent too much of my life feeling like I didn't measure up. No more.
Listen up ladies and gents Lee not lying my ex narc checked all those boxes when I left and came back it’s gets worse overall! They don’t respect your boundaries nor take you seriously
Abuse more Steal more Lie more Stress you more Then D I S C A R D! I almost thought: I should go back to let them do the final discard just so I KNOW it’s over! I don’t want them to come back… When I was unable to me intimate in ANY ANY ANY WAY…. I was so sickened by the thoughts of them…
When you leave the narcissist demon and go back all helm break loose because you just picking up seven demons more wicked and as the bible says the last state will be worst than the first
It took me almost a year to start feeling grateful for my narcissist. I am thankful I was with him cause now I know what kind of man I really want and deserve . Now I know what I would never accept in a man.
I don't miss my Toxic ex waking me up out of my sleep! I don't miss him being paranoid, wanting to isolating me from my friends, being controlling. Thank God my friends , family and some coworkers were concerned about me. This helped me get out of that mess!!
They lose all respect for you if they had any in the 1st place - they treat you worse than ever by amping up their degradation, cheating, lying, and emotional & physical abuse (like my ex did) and they may even start flaunting their new supply in front of you - like my ex started to
I just found Lee. Been reading and listening to Ramani, etc. I can not believe the last 14 months of my life. He just shook my world. How can people be so horrible and disconnected? We've been broken up for 5 months and I rocked no contact. We work together 1 day a week. We didn't when we first started dating. I have been in therapy the 5 months, drowning in learning about this and I feel so much stronger and worthy. And I know I sound crazy as I write this next part, and I really need your experience, strength and hope. 3 weeks ago we started going on walks on our breaks. He's so sad and sweet. He sent me flowers, all the hugs and affection. I mean we're on a walk in public so it's like backups and arm linking. I have told him We are not kissing, we are not getting back together and I am blown away at how I talk back to him, stand up for myself, etc. So, am I the only one to think; Well I have changed. If we got back together things WOULD be different, because I'M different. Now, I know I don't want him back, I've had to call the police early on in the breakup cause he tried to get into my apartment went I went no contact. I know I'm better without him. I love my life without him for 6 days...but on that 1 day a week I see him, I go right to What it should have been, what we talked about, what it could be....I'm different and stronger. Is there any chance??? I feel like if I didn't see him once a week, I'd be happily over him.
My NARC started acting up the same day i took her back, both times….. she couldn’t even behave for a week or a month ….thats crazy i must’ve been dating a SUPER NARCISSIST or something lol
I just don't understand the evil,i just don't!. Most Narcissists are psychopaths and i am not joking,i mean that literally. No empathy,Don't care of you die because of them,cold dead emotionless eyes etc...
I say one hoover was enough for me !!! Two days after that the old u came back !!! Listen n studying , one week I discarded my self !!! That bridge we always come to , I got a match n burned it down with a smile !!! Never looked back !!!
@@MentalHealness INDEED!!! Oh yeah THANK YOU!!! I was blinded; ur videos helped me to relieve the past I was stuck in !!! Jan of this year bout 8 months no contact!! I
Every one has a choice.... they sold their souls to the devil when they crey up, when they had the choice to make.... others did not.... that is simply the difference...
They take complete advantage and DO NOT CHANGE! They use you for their gain and say that you took me back and was okay with how I am so why are you putting up a boundary now? Etc etc……
Idk if he's a narcissist or something else. We did discuss getting back together, and I noticed that he's barely calling me or giving me attention, and it's frustrating. I found myself basically begging for attention. I realized this and told him. He probably shouldn't have done that. 8:57 Yes, he did say he wants us to change our numbers and I workout now and he don't want me to have a personal trainer. I think I'm just going to keep moving on with my life! I feel like he's been testing me too to see how much he can get away with. He keep telling me to not worry, everything is going to be okay, he keeps telling me to not focus on the negative, he barely calls me like I said above it's like he's trying to get me to chase him or to see how much he can get away with. He's told me, all the sweet nothings and I look at him with the side eye. I feel like I'm ignoring my gut and going with the hopeful (cognitive dissonance) I felt very strongly it was going too fast, I'm not ready to just jump back into moving together etc. I don't think I should and I'm not. I feel he's going to try to get back at me if I don't but f that, I'm not
The way they are the exact same is insane! This is literally what I just recently went through. We broke up last week and I have no intentions of going back whatsoever. They literally don’t change. They’re liars and they’re manipulators. It’ll take God Himself to change them. Don’t go back! Trust your gut. I went back and forth with mine and it didn’t end well for me. There’s a reason why you feel uneasy about it. Trust that.
they will make everything WORSE in order to punish you ( for having left them in the first place place …)… because they have no insight into their own behavior ( nothing is ever “ their fault “…) . Then they will be SUPER loving and wonderful, so that you ADORE them … and THEN… they will drop you flat! Leave YOU so that they can feel powerful and hurt you… Don’t do it… don’t go back!
Me ex would yell & scream, "I WANT SOME 😻". I had to put it in a 👮 report. He backed off when I mentioned 🍇. But he still wanted to 🥊 all the time before, during of after and I bad to 🥊 back until I moved away.
I love this information, I'm living proof of this truth, but today I walked away because I love and respect myself. I've been married to a covert narcissist for 3yrs and have experienced everything in the playbook, I love her unconditionally yet I love myself as well and today I'm at peace, I will never take her back because she is spiritually lost forever, and she is absolutely going to be held accountable for her actions as I will be held for mine. Thank You for the support and coaching, you are 💯 to me.
I put my husband out in June 2022, we reconciled on July 5th 2022. He love bombed me to death in that month, long emails, talk about how much he missed his family, me, wanted to change, yadda yadda yadda. We’ve now separated for good and I was going back through old messages from that year and realised that on the 2nd August 2022 I sent him a message saying ‘You clearly don’t give a f**k about my feelings’ Man hadn’t even been back a whole calendar month! 😂😂😂 Once you know, you know.
Your videos have truly helped and changed my life for the better, thank you so much!! I'm eternally grateful to you, kind sir 🙏🥰😇💝💖 I've been dealing with Narcs all my life, both in my own family and romantically, but never again! Thank you!!! Take care of yourself, you're doing very important work
This is so true especially when you mention about trying to sleep with you. I broke up with her and it's been over a month and all I wanted was a camera lens that she took out of my bag when we broke up. She brought me my camera lens back when I contacted her and I hated i had broke no-contact but because the lens cost $ 3100 I called. Well the first thing she asked was I sleeping with anyone and she kept asking me if we can have "sex". I said no and she asked me was i celibate right after and I told her yes I was and then she told me she met a guy i didnt reapind then she said "so i must be gay" and I said yeah you're still being disrespectful and she tried to say " she was just joking " but I knew she wasn't. well the next morning I told her that I was not going to be intimate with her, and she can be with the guy, she denied mentionion a guy and got so upset and the abuse started all over. YES, it was a lot worse then we first started. Now she started disrespecting my dead family members and telling me how she'll destroy my life and all I can think is how the day before she seemed so sweet but like he said they can only pretend for so long and put on an act. The reason I turned her down because I was not sexually attracted to her anymore and I know that if we would have got intimate it'll be just another way to reel me back into the toxic cycle of abuse. I'm free now!!
My ex Narriccist went right back to his daughters mother and the crazy part is I was around her and there daughter. He emailed me and said today mind you I got a email from him and he said you changed your number and I replied yes I did his friend told me that he's staying with her
Superbly and brutally honest! The subtle humor made me laugh: mostly at myself for taking narcs back, including my ex-family. How could I be so very very clueless after 70 years of irrefutable evidence that they were mean on purpose. I refused to believe that Santa Claus wasn’t real in some misplaced effort to help my mother not have financial stress! But I did that, obviously, knowing that they had to buy all the Santa Claus stuff! What I tangled web I wove.
Boy you are The Truth!!! Everything you said is 💯. And Im so caring... I feel sorry when he stand in front of me looking like a 6.2 wounded baby in a full illogical tantrum meltdown. Yes he will say Im cheating and began to verbally push ALL my buttons Then when he finally make me mad... my dark side will escalate to no limit. My sweet inner voice turns demonic... so i actually start becoming aggressive ... then I start playing church music or youtube prayer warriors to keep me from going to jail. So in conclusion ... Can you do a lesson on how I can consistently resist the temporary fake charm of a man who might make me catch a case.
One narc told me that many times he went back to second chance just to be the one to break up, as a revenge. He told me that with a laugh and very proud of himself. Of course i didn't give him the chance to do it with me later 😁😁 they are a bit stupid sometimes😂
Simple ; if you take a narc back they will... GIVE .YOU .HELL.ON TOP OF THE HELL THEY WAS ALREADY GIVING AS A FORM OF PUNISHMENT !!!!!!!!!. RUUUUUN AND NEVER LOOK BACK 💪🏽🙏🏼
Yes... Your so right
@@Seemydimples absolutely. They will make you pay for having the audacity to leave in the first place
Been there! 10000% They actually become worse as incredible as that is. The pain becomes excruciating.
Yes ma'am!
You are absolutely right my second time around,different person. I am so done
They only come back to finish you off.
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POW pow this one ☝🏽
I discarded mine 4 months ago and he just texted me today
@@Stayingsareene Don't fall for it.
@@silentnight3235 I won’t
I know his been watching me for time on social media..
And now bcoz i side I’m seeing someone else his popped back up,
They pretend nothing ever happened , and don't want to talk about the issues that caused the break up. And stay the same way.
Yah they just want the old supply to decide to leave so they can play the victim. The perfect set up cause they have someone else already.
Facts
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Once I forced a conversation he broke up with me for a day
@livinganddyingabroad yep I've been there...multiple times🙄 they are incredibly immature to say the least...
They will take revenge because you had the audacity to walk away.
Exactly
Thats what mine did.
@@publiozinj4882mine too
You’re right! I will NEVER do that again.
Its true guys💯
They don't want to BREAK you. They want you, BROKEN!
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Both!!😂
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Wow
He literally said I’ll break you and I said no you won’t and laughed at him
I did this for almost 13 years and next month marks one whole year of limited contact since we have a child. These videos helped me break free and say NO MORE!!! I love it here.
You got it.
Same. Just made 2 years in feb and he and I were together for 13 too
Yeeesss me too Lee gave me so much strength I’ve been locked in for the last year and a half and I’m so much stronger and my ex narc hates it
You will get a nervous breakdown if you take back a narc. Beware empaths!!! 😮
Stay safe
And I’m a empath
That's what happened to me had a complete breakdown and ended up covered in psoriasis 20 years absolutely broke me,im divorcing him now and he still thinks i want him back and he's done nothing wrong,these people are evil and sick.
@@janetjones5087so sorry to hear you suffered with psoriasis. My mom had it from head to toe and I believe hers was stress induced as well by my step father.
😢 praying 🙏 for peace for you in your mind body and soul.
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@@tanjadxoxo1994 Thank you for such kindness .
If you want to keep your mental state at peace, never return to a narcissist
Facts
I get it now!!!!😢❤
Just like that Amen 🙌🏼💯❤️🫶🏼🥰
Amen to that! 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Preach 🙏... Thank GOD... Don't go back... Keep on running with Jesus.
In my experience they will act right for a good 2-3 weeks then bam!!!
Sounds about right
Spot on in my experience 😔
Facts!!!!!!!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Yes I agree with you 💯 Lee, no matter how many chances you give them they go back to their same old toxic behaviours. They are evil creatures lol.
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They never change. You can't take them back, no matter how much you love them. They will make you hate yourself, hate your life, it will only be 10...hundreds of times worse. Sometimes you have to break your heart to save your soul.
I have been with four narcs in my life, and the only one I ever went back to was my wife. The very day I moved back in, she started the same crap like I had never left. I moved out permanently three days later and vowed to never take a narc, or anyone else back, once the relationship was broken. It's just bad business.
@@kenrussell1093 wow I did the same 💔🫡
I am sorry, i totally understand. Been down that road with my ex. I fled while he went away on a weekend date.
I left the narc once and went back after 1 month . 2 weeks later , I realized that I had made a huge mistake and my older son had told me not to go back 😂. Weeeeeeh !!! I almost went mad . . . I left permanently 6 months later ! And have been narc free for 2 years now .
Omg sister yes I left and tried last month. Worst decision. Now I'm 16 days no contact. I'm never going back
They are so exhausting
Can be
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Pay back, revenge, more silent treatment and resentment. A vicious cycle, intensified...smh
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Its like looking for love that they never gave you
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Well said
they will punish you for kicking them out, then do the same crap they did to make you break up with them
It gets worse each time.
They are going to think the way they treated you was ok.
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They come to k**l, steal and destroy you for good.
They actually let themselves believe that it was you to caused them to behave the way they did, so it's your fault that they treat you the way they did.
You dont take them back because they will be better. You take them back because the withdrawal from the trauma bond is intensifying and the relief is them
This is so true. I’m going they this now. Found out my girls been cheating and when I bright to her… it’s like I never knew who she was. I ignored all the red flags. Now I’m sick and feel like the medicine is her. This shit it hard I’ve never been with a narcissist. I got played like a fiddle.
Well said.
100%
Absolutely true!! I had a realization that I was seeking comfort from the person who had caused the need. The person who hurt you can't be the person to heal you.
YES 🥺😖
Treat you worse punish you for leaving & don’t trust you because you left in the first place
That's what's happening to me RIGHT NOW. 😵💫
It happens just like this
@@TinaWard13_113 I will say a prayer that you get away 🙏🏾♥️
Time, prayer & support is the only way to heal from narc abuse. I’m truly struggling, some days are better than others. I was with a covert narc 32 yrs, I had to move away & isolate just to process it all. Not understanding how a person can be passive & aggressive, good to you but bad for you, build you up just to tear you down. You only have 2 options, 1. stay & be abused or 2. leave, hurt & heal
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It's like the demons in the bible. When one leaves, they return with 7 demons much worse....or however that scripture goes
Facts
THAT'S IT!! ONCE THE HOUSE HAS BEEN SWEPT CLEAN, AND NOTHING IS PUT INTO IT, YES THE DEMON PLUS 7 RETURN!! IF YOU LEAVE, BUILD YOURSELF UP, STAY IN CHRIST, NEVER GO BACK, ""NEVER!!!!""
Facts They are ppl who have multiple demonic spirits attached to them smh
@@OverComer911 I needed to read this ...putting something into your house is KEY. Fill it with truth and the goodness of God....and love, joy, and peace. Then let no narc in... ever
They don't "forget" that you and the situationship existed. However it's important to remember that those who have legitimate narcissistic personality disorder do not view partners/people as real people with their own feelings and emotions that need to be validated. They are incapable of authentic love and empathy and imagine other people solely as a source that provides attention, admiration basically an ego boost for their self centered identity. They do nothing but use those around them to feed their swollen egos and when you no longer provide this to them when they want it they will drop you and be on to the next victim faster than you can say narcissist so it truly makes no difference how much they remember of you.
ABSOLUTELY THE TRUTH 💯 LEAVE & NEVER LOOK BACK!!
The Narcissist will assume with their truly flawed thinking and mental constructs that, all is forgiven. Hence the behavior that caused the split will come back but even worse. You have showed them that you need them and they will show you more of their toxic behavior.
Love the channel and have learned a lot about those narcissistic personality types 🤙
The 3rd thing is to have someone's on the side cuz now they cant trust u because u can break up with them at any time for (NO REASON).🙄
Lee, your videos are ALL I HAVE keeping me away from the most horrible toxic human in the world. I hsve to listen to several videos every night like this every night until these feeling someday pass and I can stop caring. I’ll get there but DAMN it’s soooo hard. Addiction is exactly what this! Thank you forever!
They most definitely don’t change like they promised
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If you want different behavior, find a different person. These people do not change (sorry Lee! Most of these people). I dumped my ex over a year and a half ago, had to get someone involved to get him to stop his nonsense and I cannot even tell you the lies I have learned about since. It is very validating and a great reminder why I should never have let him into my life in the first place. I have spent too much of my life feeling like I didn't measure up. No more.
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I'm in it and I feel like I don't measure up as well.
“If u have no discipline, they will 💯 keep treating u badly “ that spoke to me Lee!!!! 😳🙏🏽
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Listen up ladies and gents Lee not lying my ex narc checked all those boxes when I left and came back it’s gets worse overall! They don’t respect your boundaries nor take you seriously
😢 stay safe
Heavy on they don’t trust you.. mann😂😂I heard this so many times.. y’all Lee is not lying😊
They never trusted you from the beginning of the rollercoaster ride🙅🏽♀️ Run!
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Hi Lee whenever you get back with a NP it means just what it says let's get back "TOGETHER" really means TO /GET/ HER!
Haha, I love this
Damn. That's good.😮
Do not take a narc back.
I would agree
Abuse more
Steal more
Lie more
Stress you more
Then D I S C A R D!
I almost thought: I should go back to let them do the final discard just so I KNOW it’s over! I don’t want them to come back…
When I was unable to me intimate in ANY ANY ANY WAY…. I was so sickened by the thoughts of them…
Exactly like the devil
I took him back, it lasted two year, then he lost interest in me. Only this time I see it. I’m isolated now, he’s made sure of that.
When you leave the narcissist demon and go back all helm break loose because you just picking up seven demons more wicked and as the bible says the last state will be worst than the first
Thats the truth,ive been there
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A child's game...GIMME GIMME GIMME and then take it away. They will walk away with your self-respect and so much more. 💔
You just don't give them your self-respect. Don't allow them that. Period.
So true 😢.
It took me almost a year to start feeling grateful for my narcissist. I am thankful I was with him cause now I know what kind of man I really want and deserve . Now I know what I would never accept in a man.
I don't miss my Toxic ex waking me up out of my sleep! I don't miss him being paranoid, wanting to isolating me from my friends, being controlling. Thank God my friends , family and some coworkers were concerned about me. This helped me get out of that mess!!
All Text Book Narc Moves.
I agree Lee. And while narc is playing these games with you....narc has a few more other supplys he is playing same game.
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They punish you for leaving in the first place
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This!
They lose all respect for you if they had any in the 1st place - they treat you worse than ever by amping up their degradation, cheating, lying, and emotional & physical abuse (like my ex did) and they may even start flaunting their new supply in front of you - like my ex started to
I just found Lee. Been reading and listening to Ramani, etc. I can not believe the last 14 months of my life. He just shook my world. How can people be so horrible and disconnected?
We've been broken up for 5 months and I rocked no contact. We work together 1 day a week. We didn't when we first started dating. I have been in therapy the 5 months, drowning in learning about this and I feel so much stronger and worthy.
And I know I sound crazy as I write this next part, and I really need your experience, strength and hope.
3 weeks ago we started going on walks on our breaks. He's so sad and sweet. He sent me flowers, all the hugs and affection. I mean we're on a walk in public so it's like backups and arm linking. I have told him We are not kissing, we are not getting back together and I am blown away at how I talk back to him, stand up for myself, etc. So, am I the only one to think; Well I have changed. If we got back together things WOULD be different, because I'M different.
Now, I know I don't want him back, I've had to call the police early on in the breakup cause he tried to get into my apartment went I went no contact. I know I'm better without him. I love my life without him for 6 days...but on that 1 day a week I see him, I go right to What it should have been, what we talked about, what it could be....I'm different and stronger. Is there any chance??? I feel like if I didn't see him once a week, I'd be happily over him.
My NARC started acting up the same day i took her back, both times….. she couldn’t even behave for a week or a month ….thats crazy i must’ve been dating a SUPER NARCISSIST or something lol
@@100logic8 mine would too..wituh hours
They get more cruel. Trauma bond galore.
I regret giving that bastard a second chance….smh The disrespect was the last straw!!
I just don't understand the evil,i just don't!. Most Narcissists are psychopaths and i am not joking,i mean that literally. No empathy,Don't care of you die because of them,cold dead emotionless eyes etc...
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Great advice thank you. 4 yrs away and i still need these reminders.
you’re welcome
I say one hoover was enough for me !!! Two days after that the old u came back !!! Listen n studying , one week I discarded my self !!! That bridge we always come to , I got a match n burned it down with a smile !!! Never looked back !!!
Keep it up
@@MentalHealness INDEED!!! Oh yeah THANK YOU!!! I was blinded; ur videos helped me to relieve the past I was stuck in !!! Jan of this year bout 8 months no contact!! I
I took mine back 3 times. When I found out he was on a dating site and confronted him he put his hands around my neck. That was the last time...
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Treat you worse than before especially if you have been ignoring them making them work extra hard to get you back 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Make them earn it!!! That hit! Thanks Lee
Lull you into a false sense of security then escalate
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Every one has a choice....
they sold their souls to the devil when they crey up, when they had the choice to make....
others did not....
that is simply the difference...
The same they do or did before you left them but to the 10th power. MANIPULATE.
They take complete advantage and DO NOT CHANGE! They use you for their gain and say that you took me back and was okay with how I am so why are you putting up a boundary now? Etc etc……
Lee....ive talked to therapists...its only your videos that stopped me from going back
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Their "representative" always show up first. Boy, GTF on🤼♀️😂
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I got the: I guess I’ll die alone…?
YES YES YOU WILL! NEXT!
He would mess you up even worse 🤦🏼♀️
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Idk if he's a narcissist or something else. We did discuss getting back together, and I noticed that he's barely calling me or giving me attention, and it's frustrating. I found myself basically begging for attention. I realized this and told him. He probably shouldn't have done that. 8:57 Yes, he did say he wants us to change our numbers and I workout now and he don't want me to have a personal trainer. I think I'm just going to keep moving on with my life! I feel like he's been testing me too to see how much he can get away with. He keep telling me to not worry, everything is going to be okay, he keeps telling me to not focus on the negative, he barely calls me like I said above it's like he's trying to get me to chase him or to see how much he can get away with. He's told me, all the sweet nothings and I look at him with the side eye. I feel like I'm ignoring my gut and going with the hopeful (cognitive dissonance) I felt very strongly it was going too fast, I'm not ready to just jump back into moving together etc. I don't think I should and I'm not. I feel he's going to try to get back at me if I don't but f that, I'm not
The way they are the exact same is insane! This is literally what I just recently went through. We broke up last week and I have no intentions of going back whatsoever. They literally don’t change. They’re liars and they’re manipulators. It’ll take God Himself to change them. Don’t go back! Trust your gut. I went back and forth with mine and it didn’t end well for me. There’s a reason why you feel uneasy about it. Trust that.
they will make everything WORSE in order to punish you ( for having left them in the first place place …)… because they have no insight into their own behavior ( nothing is ever “ their fault “…) . Then they will be SUPER loving and wonderful, so that you ADORE them … and THEN… they will drop you flat! Leave YOU so that they can feel powerful and hurt you… Don’t do it… don’t go back!
I will never do it. It is one and done for me, I am too grown to be treated this way by an immature jackass💯🎯
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Before watching, I say they do more of the foolishness they were already doing to a greater extent
I took my ex back... she almost pushed me un-alive myself with how bad she would gaslight me. I never understood Darvo & she was a master at that.
I've seen how a narc treated a person they went back to nd it was tragic. I have to keep that in mind when I want to go back to my ex
They come back and tear you do😢wn more
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They do something worse
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Me ex would yell & scream, "I WANT SOME 😻". I had to put it in a 👮 report. He backed off when I mentioned 🍇. But he still wanted to 🥊 all the time before, during of after and I bad to 🥊 back until I moved away.
Yes i did this mistake. She was an amazing wofe for a couple of months...but here we go again!
I feel like I aged 20 years in the 5 I was with her. My body is exhausted
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I’m going through the same thing, but not for long. I am emotionally and mentally drained, but God!!!
Feed their ego because they think you can live without them. They manipulate you even more. Their behavior will become even worse then before
I love this information, I'm living proof of this truth, but today I walked away because I love and respect myself. I've been married to a covert narcissist for 3yrs and have experienced everything in the playbook, I love her unconditionally yet I love myself as well and today I'm at peace, I will never take her back because she is spiritually lost forever, and she is absolutely going to be held accountable for her actions as I will be held for mine. Thank You for the support and coaching, you are 💯 to me.
These Narcissists do not like what they do to be done to them or worse
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It's like the hobby horse at the fair. Up and down, round and round. The ride never ends. 😢
They will finish off their assignment towards you!
Some will
"WE" Weren't Sleeping together....after the 2nd "discard! For me...especially "every" time I had a life altering situation, he bounced!!
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Damn I always felt like I was playing a game of who gets the last word.
I remember calling an ex after I left him and his exact words were, "Is this a Trap"? LoL
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Exactly! It happened to me too, he said the same words😂😂
Same lol
Thanks Lee. This video was right on time
you’re welcome
This is exactly how it went.
You hit everything to a T. As you talk I recount it all
😂 I laughed so hard when he talked about the accident and the flat tire
Yes LOL the games! 😂
I put my husband out in June 2022, we reconciled on July 5th 2022. He love bombed me to death in that month, long emails, talk about how much he missed his family, me, wanted to change, yadda yadda yadda.
We’ve now separated for good and I was going back through old messages from that year and realised that on the 2nd August 2022 I sent him a message saying ‘You clearly don’t give a f**k about my feelings’
Man hadn’t even been back a whole calendar month! 😂😂😂
Once you know, you know.
Your videos have truly helped and changed my life for the better, thank you so much!! I'm eternally grateful to you, kind sir 🙏🥰😇💝💖 I've been dealing with Narcs all my life, both in my own family and romantically, but never again! Thank you!!! Take care of yourself, you're doing very important work
Make your life more hellish then befor all Bad.
Lee please do a full video on them becoming paranoid and controlling and accusing you of cheating. I’ve just left hopefully for last time
This is so true especially when you mention about trying to sleep with you. I broke up with her and it's been over a month and all I wanted was a camera lens that she took out of my bag when we broke up. She brought me my camera lens back when I contacted her and I hated i had broke no-contact but because the lens cost $ 3100 I called.
Well the first thing she asked was I sleeping with anyone and she kept asking me if we can have "sex". I said no and she asked me was i celibate right after and I told her yes I was and then she told me she met a guy i didnt reapind then she said "so i must be gay" and I said yeah you're still being disrespectful and she tried to say " she was just joking " but I knew she wasn't.
well the next morning I told her that I was not going to be intimate with her, and she can be with the guy, she denied mentionion a guy and got so upset and the abuse started all over. YES, it was a lot worse then we first started. Now she started disrespecting my dead family members and telling me how she'll destroy my life and all I can think is how the day before she seemed so sweet but like he said they can only pretend for so long and put on an act. The reason I turned her down because I was not sexually attracted to her anymore and I know that if we would have got intimate it'll be just another way to reel me back into the toxic cycle of abuse. I'm free now!!
I needed to hear this right now. Thank you.
They get you FROM THE TOP ROPE
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My ex Narriccist went right back to his daughters mother and the crazy part is I was around her and there daughter. He emailed me and said today mind you I got a email from him and he said you changed your number and I replied yes I did his friend told me that he's staying with her
Till he finds somebody better , she was just convenient
Thank you for your Message. Great Show❤
Thank you for this i needed to hear this today!
Treat you worst than ever!😂❤
Superbly and brutally honest! The subtle humor made me laugh: mostly at myself for taking narcs back, including my ex-family. How could I be so very very clueless after 70 years of irrefutable evidence that they were mean on purpose. I refused to believe that Santa Claus wasn’t real in some misplaced effort to help my mother not have financial stress! But I did that, obviously, knowing that they had to buy all the Santa Claus stuff! What I tangled web I wove.
You’re 100 accurate! The evil narc got even more evil ti me after time I went back to him. Now beating me even worst!
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I won't go back. I told him in the Bible that God says to forgive that I found my peace. 😊
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She gave this charm for 29 years then she went left... won't give me nothing Back.
What will the narcissist do if you take them back? Is EXACTLY THE SAME .Rinse repeat ..😂😂 they had a flat tyre ..LMAO.So true.
Boy you are The Truth!!! Everything you said is 💯. And Im
so caring... I feel sorry when he stand in front of me looking like a 6.2 wounded baby in a full illogical tantrum meltdown. Yes he will say Im cheating and began to verbally push ALL my buttons
Then when he finally make me mad... my dark side will escalate to no limit.
My sweet inner voice turns demonic... so i actually start becoming aggressive ... then I start playing church music or youtube prayer warriors to keep me from going to jail.
So in conclusion ... Can you do a lesson on how I can consistently resist the temporary fake charm of a man who might make me catch a case.
One narc told me that many times he went back to second chance just to be the one to break up, as a revenge. He told me that with a laugh and very proud of himself.
Of course i didn't give him the chance to do it with me later 😁😁 they are a bit stupid sometimes😂