My ex narc, after I moved away he told me he has a gf but he still loves me & still wants to keep in touch. I told him he's only going to use and abuse that girl. Then he says I'll talk to you later.
I moved away and then I started getting calls from people where I moved from. They want me to come and visit. I told one of them that keeps calling why did you wait until I moved to call me and want me to come visit you. It's not happening y'all.
My ex just found me again on social media 🤦🏻♀️after blocking him . He asked if we can meet to talk . I told him NO😎stay strong with your boundaries ❤️
All is about them .they can report even useless things they act like small kids . But they can't ask u how do u feel all is about them dishing all their problems to u asking 4 advice.
For reeaal, I was getting okay and accepted all and out of nowhere after she said : " I wil not text you, you will not text me, bye, block" she unblocked me and said why I am calling her even tho I didn't called her
and sometimes they go for someone totally the opposite to you because you caused them a narcissistic injury or mortified them, so they need to go for total opposite to try to recalibrate their hurt ego.
I got the I miss you text earlier this week. I texted him back and said you miss using me. Of course within hours he was begging me to clap cheeks. So yeah he misses using me. I didn't fall for it. 💪🏼🙏🏼
I get it. I would definitely miss someone like myself. If i met someone who was as nice,caring,sharing, respectful, smart, hard working, excellent cook, and funny... i would miss them too. And im not too ugly... so that's a bonus too!😂 I would definitely miss someone like that.
Listen, people, educate yourself! Once you've learned enough about how narcs "operate," use what you've learned as a tool to get away/keep yourself safe from the narc. I understand why Lee does these videos, but he focuses too much on the narc's feelings after their target takes steps to protect themselves FROM them. Narcs can be dangerous. So, again, it's important to know how they "operate" in order to stay safe. But at some point, you have to stop trying to understand them and just be done with them. Trying to understand them keeps the attention ON them (which is what they want) and not where it should be (creating a plan to get away from them safely). How the narc feels after you've taken steps to get away from them should be of no concern to you. Narcs don't think about how their behavior affects other people, so why think about how yours will affect them? At some point, you have to say "f" how they feel. Make yourself a priority, again.
I think he is responding to questions. He gets asked from his self-help group and a lot of people asked that so he responds to it and I think it is a service for those people who have this on their mind. It doesn't mean people can't focus and educate themselves. The very fact that they are listening to this channel shows they're educating themselves.
@@nancydrew5 "I think he is responding to questions" Questions that focuses on the narcissist's feelings. I said I understand why he does what he does. I, too, had the same questions. I STILL have questions. Targets (victims) put too much time trying to understand the narc's feelings while ignoring their own. That's not healthy. Not all narcs, but most of them just hurt people out of pure boredom. I think he should focus more on explaining the way narcs "operate" and not on how they FEEL. Once you remove the narc's "feelings" out of it, it becomes a lot easier for their "target" to leave the narc (which is the only real solution the target has).
A huge part of what freed me from mine was learning about his feelings for me. Why would I run away if I think he wants a relationship? He thinks like me, right? He wants this marriage to work, right? If only he got his alcoholism under control, he'd be able to treat me well, right? According to Lee, nope. My deepest, darkest suspicions were right afterall. He feels a lot for me, none of it good or productive. Besides which, finding out their thought patterns has a lot of potential to help me avoid them in the future. I learned he was cruel on purpose and my eyes were opened. I saw him for the empty coward he really was. Surviving Narcissism by Les Carter and Dr. Ramani are two other excellent sources of information if you want to round out your education. Watching all three channels will tweak the algorithm, expanding the database of sources.
Also, I absolutely will think about how my behaviour affects my narcissistic husband. I learned that when I was engaging with him, I was feeding his thirst for drama to make his personal soap opera more entertaining. By learning how I affect him, I stopped feeding his bad behaviour. By learning that if I talk to him and that eases his sense of guilt, I doubled my resolve to not talk to him. Knowledge is power. If you're not in the headspace for being armed with this kind of knowledge, that's fine, there's other sources. Please don't try to take away this source of knowledge from me by trying to talk him out of it. I like it. I want it.
These video are great for validating and confirming someone's experience; helping them understand what they've been through. Understanding them is a start!
My ex tried hoovering 3 times after the break up. I get why he would miss me because im a wonderful person 🤣 On a serious note I wish everyone healing on your journey a head ❤
Dang Lee, your subscribers moving fast out here. Only posted an hour ago and they're already self hoovering, gettin cheeks clapped, and planning a baby shower 😂 I love your humor. I think it's very admirable that you identified your issue, sought treatment, did the hard work and continue to do the hard work and now are even trying to help others understand the chaos and madness of narcissistic abusers. Hearing it from a self proclaimed narcissist in recovery is so much more meaningful and informative than the point of view of a clinician because you didn't just read and study it, you lived it. You tell it like it is and in a bold way not dancing around the hard issues. You've helped me tremendously and far beyond any others in recovery or clinicians putting out videos. You're greatly appreciated and I'm happy to see you thriving. Thank You for making a difference in our lives. Keep up the healing ❤
Its Always A Rinse, Repeat Cycle. You're the final discard. Stay Strong😇I like that quote...about miss my absence, since you did not appreciate or enjoy my presence. These ppl are idiots.
I asked my narcissist a question. Show me one time you valued my opinion. He told me cooking, washing, fixing the bathroom, decorating the apartment 😅 …. I said friend that’s an act of service not a value of opinion.
I can’t make this stuff up 😅even if I tried! And on top of it he throw at me the “you told me you read the 5 languages book, but you didn’t because you don’t know how to care for me” surrrreeee
I Love your videos Lee!! I remember when my narc was trying to turn me into one of his ex’s. He was trying to get me to wear weave, wigs, color my hair and even wear extensions. Then he wanted me to wear make up and inappropriate clothing. Those requests made me feel very uncomfortable. I only made those changes if I wanted to, like changing my hair color. After having seen a picture of one of his ex’s, that explained why he was trying to change me so much. It was definitely time for me to bounce. ✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾
Lee, this is a great video! I am a narcissistic abuse survivor and it's important for individuals to realize that it's ok to miss someone themselves, and not act on that impulse. We loved our abusers and at the end of the day we have to have the strength to realize they will never be anything more than abusers regardless of what they say. Words are just words and reality actions are actions. I almost lost my life to my abuser no one should have to go through that and heal from an even greater trauma than they're already healing from. If they didn't care for your well-being in a stressful moment they never will, no matter what word vomit comes out of their mouths. There are thousands of us out here who were abused and said no more. You were right to say no more. Live that truth. You are worth it. Thank you Lee. Very important words here.❤
I just woke up this morning, with that Milli Vanilli song , "Girl I'm Gonna Miss You", stuck in my head. And I was thinking, like, DAMN, that's a good song: too bad Milli Vanilli was fake, just like narcs. 😅😅🤣🤣
Educated super empath here and did the reverse discard on mine. He is aware of your channel and I had him watch a couple videos after his diagnosis. What he didn’t realize is this isn’t my first trip to the rodeo 😂 So I gave him my “F around with an empath and find out” card. Aka… he hit me in front of my kids 2 weeks ago and I had that man-child arrested for DV. THEN… he tried to smear campaign me and I laughed my ass off. Just today his dad tried to talk to me about dropping the RO. I listened and heard the “I really miss you and love you” bs because I was his prime supply. Guess what? Sorry not sorry! You knew who you were messing with lol! I got the house, his kids, and the idiot is living in his car. A downgrade from his truck that got totaled after being detained. I said unless they’re on MDMA for the rest of their life AND in residential treatment, I’ll wave from a glass window and that’s it. You didn’t appreciate me when I was with you and you definitely won’t miss me if I fell for your bs Hoover. Lost the 20 lbs of cortisol weight and all the kids are happy. I got job offers right after I left the courthouse. I know I’m worthy of real affective love. I know what I brought to the table. ✌🏼 Level up and take the experience of ending that situationship of being a victim to survivor and thriver!!
Although this was painful to endure, I’m glad you came through shining bright like a star ✨🫶🏼 Your testimony allowed me to interpret a few dreams that God gave me about the guy I was dating. I’m glad I got out.
😂😂😂 laughing at the ending of him saying he miss us because that’s how it be with a narcissist. Smh whew! Glad I didn’t go back to my ex and kept no contact and he STILL trying to be “cool”
My narc was obsessive over me. He always talked about hating me but couldn't stay away or quit talking about me to the point the new supply got jealous and came after me! The CRAZY part is even tho he was obsessively hating and stalking I think deep down he missed me? But not in a good way. More in a I don't deserve peace or happiness without him. Only reason he stopped is cause he's in jail 😳
Please enable Persian subtitles in the videos. Since narcissistic personality disorder is significantly on the rise in Iran, we need more awareness on this issue. Thank you.
I hope Lee knows how much he is helping! I am just learning about this and I am so grateful for this! Thank you Lee! This has helped me get through some very tough and very confusing events. I hope you never give up and I am just so inspired by the kind of courage it must take to look inside so deeply and then help people to understand. This is a deep soul search and its truly inspiring and amazing to see. Thank you for being you.
The ex that brought me to channels like this - I don't want her back in my life, but I do still wonder sometimes to what extent we actually had a romantic relationship Vs her taking advantage of me. Maybe it's not important, but I feel like understanding this could help bring me some closure. So basically I'm commenting this just to thank you Lee, because this type of content has value beyond just being clickbait to people who are still in love with narcissistic partners.
Totally agree. It's helping me not go crazy wondering and over-glorifying what's happening with my ex narc externally and internally. It's healing me and helping me to stay NC.
This has happened to me. We all work together (I KNOW I KNOW). He was talking to her and she knew him and I was talking to him. I ended it after he denied it. The they tried to triangulate me by being together in my presence but received no energy from me. A while later she started wearing the clothes I was wearing and her hair the same. She ended up transferring her job out of town. The whole time he was talking to her he kept trying to talk to me. After they ended their situationship, he tells me it’s my fault that him and I are not together because I went against the grain. NO CONTACT 3 YRS STRONG and I see him every day at work and walk pass him like he is air. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Lmfaooo I’m only watching this, because I have an Internet Crush on you, and I adore ur Family- And YOU ARE FUNNY 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I LOVE YOUUUU LEEEEEE! I HAVE YOUR BOOK! ❤😂🎉
Thank you for your videos. They have helped me understand what narcissism is. My ex is a convert narcissist.... I am convinced. However he won't leave me alone. He didn't treat me right when we were together. Now on no contact he calls all the time all hours. Having him blocked filling my voicemail. 96 calls in 6 hours from loving, nasty or even songs on my messages. Driving around the area trying to run into me. I now realize I was just a supply and understanding this has helped my healing journey. Thank you for helping people bc I know I am not alone
Narcissist man only love you as much as they can use you and there loyalty ends where their benefits ends. i have experience the same situation where by sex was the topic of the relationship and they don't care whether you're emotionally or physically unstable but as long as u fulfill their wants.
Please do. The narcissist effects children in the long run so much more than we realize at the time. They internalize everything and end up with excessive self criticism and feeling like they don't measure up when in reality they're surpassing your expectations. They're left trying to cope with so much pain and resentment and lack of self worth even if you think you were sheltering them from the abusive narcissist. They see and hear everything that's happening. Lee's book would be great for them. One of the biggest things I have realized in hindsight that I wish I would've paid more attention to back then is the awareness that this is the "norm" for our children.. Where as the adults we could see that our spouse's behavior was over the top, out of control, and not normal or okay, that's all children know, it's what they have for their point of reference. To them, this is normal. This is how a husband acts to his wife or how a wife acts to her husband depending on who has the NPD. This is how they think everyone's household is until they're much older and realize that's not the case. You don't want them growing up thinking this is normal. The emotional damage runs deep. The more you can do to prevent it at a young age the better. Best of Luck to You. You're doing good Mom. You got this ❤
Narcissist do not have the neurotypical mindset of lots of people. They lack the ability to feel emotional 😘 connection and empathy. They can simulate it, but it's not genuine. Genuine people can see straight through a narcissist. That scares them.
I wasn't looking for a sign but my ex sent me a friend request on Facebook just moments ago and I decided go on RUclips to see if there was anything on my timeline about narcissist missing you and her you were Lee. I have been no contact since May and blocked his number and I didn't respond to the request. Lee your stream popping up validated I'm on the right path to healing. Thank you!
Exactly they love bomb you non stop trying bribing you they pull out all the stops!!! But think about it what is there too miss?!!! The toxicity the fights the threats, she says it all the I miss you sooo much, I love you and only you!!! Really!!! The best thing I can do is just ignore it!!! Oh I don't doubt she's with someone else and she did mention a women she met that reminded her of me, really!!!! I'm so so done with all this, I love peace and my life today, ignore them and keep moving foward, always remember you deserve better!!! Oh yeah all the false promises saying they'll change, it never happens!!! I keep my sanity by ignoring the voice mails and what ever comes down the road I'll deal with it!!! I'm so so DONE
You touched the iceberg my friend. They might not hoover or replace you. They may guilt you for depriving them of yourself for even for a day not even cutting them off completely. They may try to punish you either by making you feel like you can't survive without them or defaming you in front of friends and family both yours and theirs and may even contact loved ones directly. It can be like witnessing an explosion of human behavior
My ex narc keeps trying to get me to meet his new supply. I think he wants her to compete with and copy me. I REFUSE. She's rough around the edges no offense just a different aesthetic. She needs to stay herself and he needs to embrace his choice.
how eff'd UP IS THAT? ITS EFF"D UP! not love..sorry. my ex - non stop mentioned another woman and suggested threesomes, yet was the craziest jealous person I've ever met. These guys are gay on the DL and just create chaos to everyone.
Yes, he's replacing me with someone else because he won't come back to apologize or take accountability of his action and he knows I'm his A+ supply and can't find another me
We appreciate you Lee. You're an amazing guy. You've overcome so much on your road to self love and enlightenment ❤ sending love and blessings to you and your beautiful family❤❤❤
They do miss you but they won’t be nice when you go back! It will be worst! Charmin ego! Deep! Narcissist will even call the new supply your name! It’s crazy
It's no doubt in my mind that my narcissistic wife misses me. I never hit or threatened to hit her. I never called her out of her name. I supplied her with my car for two years. She even used my car to drive over her girlfriend house to commit adultery with a dude from her past.
Hi Lee. I hope you can come to England and Scotland. We need the therapy and all the hope advice you give to all of us who have gone through and are going through narcisst abuse.Tha k you Lee Maggi.
He wants to “be friends” we talked a couple days this week and every time in his presence, I felt anxious and I cried! I had to reach out after 6 months no contact due to an issue with a car warranty. He didn’t want me because of health problems I have. Like how can we ever be friends? Lol what’s the point!? He won’t do anything to work on himself that’s outside of his physical and financial self. No inner work. So sad. It got me up in my feelings. But I’m keeping my distance. I can’t be in this again. It’s already caused me pain just dipping toes into the pond.
Mine tried to hoovered about one month ago, gifts I didn’t respond. I’m so peaceful now. I helped him with four surgeries. He is healthy now. I’m at peace
Like i told him before: if you missed me so bad you know where my house. But those months you were busy with someone else, thats why u nvr came by or hell send a pigeon with a note on its foot.
Narcissists are still human and bleed blood so yes I think they’re capable of missing someone which is a uncontrollable emotion. Now my person on the other hand misses me but he refuses to simply call. We’ve been on no contact for several weeks now. I’ve gotten a few encrypted texts and phone calls from fake numbers though.
they do not miss you they need to stroke that ego and win you over so they can feel good about themselves for the moment ..with the only intentions of finishing you off🙄
You said you weren't going to give me hope, then you told me that my sister wouldn't try to hoover me. You tried to give me hope anyway. I didn't believe you. She will keep stalking. She can't stop. At this point, I don't think she will even stop when we are both dead. He ghost will haunt my ghost
В книге «Коллекционер» описано как маньяк украл и запер в своем подвале юную девушку блондинку, и когда она умерла в его доме, он похоронил её и пошел искать новую жертву, блондинку, естественно.
sadly i broke no contact after 5 months but i set a boundary.. he's still not changed, so i sent him a message to not look for me anymore, i've already learned my lesson.. he was shocked again and rejected him again lol. i confronted him and said, it's really weird that you talk to everybody but you rarely talk to me but you want my attention so bad.. reconnecting is a mistake, just focus on your life and don't look for me.. being here with you hurts me. i'm really done for real there he is again with victimizing himself because well can't take rejection well and comes the shame and anger again he thought he won lol rejected him TWICE 😎 i'm trying to heal from it of course, i'm focusing on my family and my dogs and my hobbies ❤
Ppl don't realize it it's a great a Blessing when the Narcissist is gone! It's so peaceful without those evil ppl around! It's time to Praise GOD!!!
So much peace!!!!
They're not evil they're damaged. Quite similar to you religious zealots 😉
✨Amen✨ 💖🤗🥰
So peaceful
Preach !
They don't miss you period!!! They miss what you did for them. Don't confuse the two.
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🎯 "Abusive people don't care about you. They care about what you can do for them."
They never really love you! Just how you love them & everything you do for them .
@@patriciadooley3058 This is so correct
Period
They don’t miss nobody. They miss the supply. They miss what you did for them! That lowsy “I miss you” text is simply. Feed me! Entertain me!
@@SxyGrl44 I literally just got that text. 💀🤣
"Baby me, take care of me because I'm so special!" Lol
Omg soo true, 🤢
@@Mlnarikri got this text last night😂. After midnight .
My ex narc, after I moved away he told me he has a gf but he still loves me & still wants to keep in touch. I told him he's only going to use and abuse that girl.
Then he says I'll talk to you later.
They Only miss what you did for them . Not for the love ❤️. Action speaks Louder than words . Don’t be fooled
Exactly!🤦🏻♀️
They only lie, use n abuse! 💔💔💔💔💔💔
Yes indeed ❤
My ex to a tee 💯 😮 oh yes 100%
Bless u. Ig u learned! Like me😢
I moved away and then I started getting calls from people where I moved from. They want me to come and visit. I told one of them that keeps calling why did you wait until I moved to call me and want me to come visit you. It's not happening y'all.
They're hoping you forgot the bad treatment they gave you. How can anyone forget this? Nope.
Ignoring a narcissist can indeed be an effective strategy, especially if you’re trying to detach from their toxic behaviors
Don’t miss me in my absence if you didn’t appreciate me in my presence. period ! we move 🔥🔥🔥
Right on!
My ex just found me again on social media 🤦🏻♀️after blocking him . He asked if we can meet to talk . I told him NO😎stay strong with your boundaries ❤️
stay strong
They miss freeloading and abusing someone mellow and kind
Yup😂😂😂
Absolutely
Not sure if they missed me, but a narc definitely has radar that goes off when I’m happy lol 😂
Omg yes lol 😂
Yes
All is about them .they can report even useless things they act like small kids . But they can't ask u how do u feel all is about them dishing all their problems to u asking 4 advice.
Is just about them 100% akways all the time when i look bk 😢 no they didn't even ask how i am how u feel!
For reeaal, I was getting okay and accepted all and out of nowhere after she said : " I wil not text you, you will not text me, bye, block" she unblocked me and said why I am calling her even tho I didn't called her
I look at them missing me as missing the chance to destruct me like how they wanted to before I got away… and that helps me stay away…
@@shannelshannel this!!!
and sometimes they go for someone totally the opposite to you because you caused them a narcissistic injury or mortified them, so they need to go for total opposite to try to recalibrate their hurt ego.
Please don’t miss me and stay with your new supply! LOL
Thank you....don't even miss me. They should stay and go wherever.
They can have you and all your bs too! Haha. It feels so good to be free.
@@GT-0524 no fr please and thank you
lol mine called me when he was with his new girlfriend. I was like what are you doing?! So disrespectful to me AND her.
I got the I miss you text earlier this week. I texted him back and said you miss using me. Of course within hours he was begging me to clap cheeks. So yeah he misses using me. I didn't fall for it. 💪🏼🙏🏼
My ex all the way. Then says fine ill go pay for it from someone else...okay 😂
Yup lol
@@treasurcanada5953yup
Mhmm look back uh huh clap clap look back lol jk
I get it. I would definitely miss someone like myself.
If i met someone who was as nice,caring,sharing, respectful, smart, hard working, excellent cook, and funny... i would miss them too. And im not too ugly... so that's a bonus too!😂
I would definitely miss someone like that.
I think I just found me a sister. ❤😘👍🏻 Isn't it sad though it had to go like this? If only... 😔
Listen, people, educate yourself! Once you've learned enough about how narcs "operate," use what you've learned as a tool to get away/keep yourself safe from the narc. I understand why Lee does these videos, but he focuses too much on the narc's feelings after their target takes steps to protect themselves FROM them. Narcs can be dangerous. So, again, it's important to know how they "operate" in order to stay safe. But at some point, you have to stop trying to understand them and just be done with them. Trying to understand them keeps the attention ON them (which is what they want) and not where it should be (creating a plan to get away from them safely). How the narc feels after you've taken steps to get away from them should be of no concern to you. Narcs don't think about how their behavior affects other people, so why think about how yours will affect them? At some point, you have to say "f" how they feel. Make yourself a priority, again.
I think he is responding to questions. He gets asked from his self-help group and a lot of people asked that so he responds to it and I think it is a service for those people who have this on their mind.
It doesn't mean people can't focus and educate themselves. The very fact that they are listening to this channel shows they're educating themselves.
@@nancydrew5 "I think he is responding to questions" Questions that focuses on the narcissist's feelings. I said I understand why he does what he does. I, too, had the same questions. I STILL have questions. Targets (victims) put too much time trying to understand the narc's feelings while ignoring their own. That's not healthy. Not all narcs, but most of them just hurt people out of pure boredom. I think he should focus more on explaining the way narcs "operate" and not on how they FEEL. Once you remove the narc's "feelings" out of it, it becomes a lot easier for their "target" to leave the narc (which is the only real solution the target has).
A huge part of what freed me from mine was learning about his feelings for me. Why would I run away if I think he wants a relationship? He thinks like me, right? He wants this marriage to work, right? If only he got his alcoholism under control, he'd be able to treat me well, right?
According to Lee, nope.
My deepest, darkest suspicions were right afterall. He feels a lot for me, none of it good or productive. Besides which, finding out their thought patterns has a lot of potential to help me avoid them in the future.
I learned he was cruel on purpose and my eyes were opened. I saw him for the empty coward he really was.
Surviving Narcissism by Les Carter and Dr. Ramani are two other excellent sources of information if you want to round out your education. Watching all three channels will tweak the algorithm, expanding the database of sources.
Also, I absolutely will think about how my behaviour affects my narcissistic husband. I learned that when I was engaging with him, I was feeding his thirst for drama to make his personal soap opera more entertaining. By learning how I affect him, I stopped feeding his bad behaviour. By learning that if I talk to him and that eases his sense of guilt, I doubled my resolve to not talk to him.
Knowledge is power. If you're not in the headspace for being armed with this kind of knowledge, that's fine, there's other sources. Please don't try to take away this source of knowledge from me by trying to talk him out of it. I like it. I want it.
These video are great for validating and confirming someone's experience; helping them understand what they've been through. Understanding them is a start!
My ex tried hoovering 3 times after the break up.
I get why he would miss me because im a wonderful person 🤣
On a serious note I wish everyone healing on your journey a head ❤
Dang Lee, your subscribers moving fast out here. Only posted an hour ago and they're already self hoovering, gettin cheeks clapped, and planning a baby shower 😂 I love your humor.
I think it's very admirable that you identified your issue, sought treatment, did the hard work and continue to do the hard work and now are even trying to help others understand the chaos and madness of narcissistic abusers.
Hearing it from a self proclaimed narcissist in recovery is so much more meaningful and informative than the point of view of a clinician because you didn't just read and study it, you lived it. You tell it like it is and in a bold way not dancing around the hard issues. You've helped me tremendously and far beyond any others in recovery or clinicians putting out videos.
You're greatly appreciated and I'm happy to see you thriving. Thank You for making a difference in our lives. Keep up the healing ❤
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Moment of transparency: I hope he misses me just so he can suffer and pay for what he did 🤷🏾♀️
This the comment I was looking for! 🎯
"just because they miss you does not mean you should allow them back into your life" I needed this so much
Never going back
Thanks Lee! Got you! Because 14:01 they may miss you that doesn't mean their mistreatment Ioward you will stop
Stay strong
I freaking love you bro. "I hope I didn't say the wrong thing." "DO. NOT. DO. IT."
Its Always A Rinse, Repeat Cycle. You're the final discard. Stay Strong😇I like that quote...about miss my absence, since you did not appreciate or enjoy my presence. These ppl are idiots.
If they miss they never tell you. No sense in looking for that
Thank you for your videos I appreciate it them a lot. Opening my eyes to a lot of things I was blind to
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You are so welcome
I love when you get this sassy
Making their supply like me has happened twice and it’s SCARY!
2:12 😂😂😂😂 the humor on this channel helps so much.
I asked my narcissist a question. Show me one time you valued my opinion. He told me cooking, washing, fixing the bathroom, decorating the apartment 😅 …. I said friend that’s an act of service not a value of opinion.
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I can’t make this stuff up 😅even if I tried! And on top of it he throw at me the “you told me you read the 5 languages book, but you didn’t because you don’t know how to care for me” surrrreeee
@@PowerGurhl crazy
@@PowerGurhl in his opinion that was your value.
I Love your videos Lee!! I remember when my narc was trying to turn me into one of his ex’s. He was trying to get me to wear weave, wigs, color my hair and even wear extensions. Then he wanted me to wear make up and inappropriate clothing. Those requests made me feel very uncomfortable. I only made those changes if I wanted to, like changing my hair color. After having seen a picture of one of his ex’s, that explained why he was trying to change me so much. It was definitely time for me to bounce. ✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾
Yikes!!!! 🤦🏾♀️
Yup it happened here too!😮
They miss your energy and attention NOT you 😂
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Ego like Charmin and not even Charmin Ultra. HAHAHAHA Thank you for all you do, Lee.
I didn't understand this. what is Charmin? and Charmin Ultra?
Lee, this is a great video! I am a narcissistic abuse survivor and it's important for individuals to realize that it's ok to miss someone themselves, and not act on that impulse. We loved our abusers and at the end of the day we have to have the strength to realize they will never be anything more than abusers regardless of what they say. Words are just words and reality actions are actions. I almost lost my life to my abuser no one should have to go through that and heal from an even greater trauma than they're already healing from. If they didn't care for your well-being in a stressful moment they never will, no matter what word vomit comes out of their mouths. There are thousands of us out here who were abused and said no more. You were right to say no more. Live that truth. You are worth it. Thank you Lee. Very important words here.❤
I just woke up this morning, with that Milli Vanilli song , "Girl I'm Gonna Miss You", stuck in my head. And I was thinking, like, DAMN, that's a good song: too bad Milli Vanilli was fake, just like narcs. 😅😅🤣🤣
Educated super empath here and did the reverse discard on mine. He is aware of your channel and I had him watch a couple videos after his diagnosis.
What he didn’t realize is this isn’t my first trip to the rodeo 😂 So I gave him my “F around with an empath and find out” card. Aka… he hit me in front of my kids 2 weeks ago and I had that man-child arrested for DV. THEN… he tried to smear campaign me and I laughed my ass off.
Just today his dad tried to talk to me about dropping the RO. I listened and heard the “I really miss you and love you” bs because I was his prime supply.
Guess what? Sorry not sorry! You knew who you were messing with lol! I got the house, his kids, and the idiot is living in his car. A downgrade from his truck that got totaled after being detained.
I said unless they’re on MDMA for the rest of their life AND in residential treatment, I’ll wave from a glass window and that’s it.
You didn’t appreciate me when I was with you and you definitely won’t miss me if I fell for your bs Hoover.
Lost the 20 lbs of cortisol weight and all the kids are happy. I got job offers right after I left the courthouse.
I know I’m worthy of real affective love. I know what I brought to the table. ✌🏼
Level up and take the experience of ending that situationship of being a victim to survivor and thriver!!
Although this was painful to endure, I’m glad you came through shining bright like a star ✨🫶🏼 Your testimony allowed me to interpret a few dreams that God gave me about the guy I was dating. I’m glad I got out.
Calling yourself and empath is cringe
@ Lee no worries I will not go back. This video has me closure good to know the narcissist can miss.
😂😂😂 laughing at the ending of him saying he miss us because that’s how it be with a narcissist. Smh whew! Glad I didn’t go back to my ex and kept no contact and he STILL trying to be “cool”
My narc was obsessive over me. He always talked about hating me but couldn't stay away or quit talking about me to the point the new supply got jealous and came after me! The CRAZY part is even tho he was obsessively hating and stalking I think deep down he missed me? But not in a good way. More in a I don't deserve peace or happiness without him. Only reason he stopped is cause he's in jail 😳
Please enable Persian subtitles in the videos. Since narcissistic personality disorder is significantly on the rise in Iran, we need more awareness on this issue. Thank you.
@@nafiser4761 it is actually on the rise everywhere because the lack of love and the love of self.
@@monirichardson4102 Yes!
Thank you Lee! Your vids help me so much!!!!!
I hope Lee knows how much he is helping! I am just learning about this and I am so grateful for this! Thank you Lee! This has helped me get through some very tough and very confusing events. I hope you never give up and I am just so inspired by the kind of courage it must take to look inside so deeply and then help people to understand. This is a deep soul search and its truly inspiring and amazing to see. Thank you for being you.
The ex that brought me to channels like this - I don't want her back in my life, but I do still wonder sometimes to what extent we actually had a romantic relationship Vs her taking advantage of me.
Maybe it's not important, but I feel like understanding this could help bring me some closure.
So basically I'm commenting this just to thank you Lee, because this type of content has value beyond just being clickbait to people who are still in love with narcissistic partners.
Totally agree. It's helping me not go crazy wondering and over-glorifying what's happening with my ex narc externally and internally. It's healing me and helping me to stay NC.
This has happened to me. We all work together (I KNOW I KNOW). He was talking to her and she knew him and I was talking to him. I ended it after he denied it. The they tried to triangulate me by being together in my presence but received no energy from me. A while later she started wearing the clothes I was wearing and her hair the same. She ended up transferring her job out of town. The whole time he was talking to her he kept trying to talk to me. After they ended their situationship, he tells me it’s my fault that him and I are not together because I went against the grain. NO CONTACT 3 YRS STRONG and I see him every day at work and walk pass him like he is air. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
😂lol @ walk pass him like he’s air 😂
Sometimes they may even try to twist history to get mutual friends to talk to you and try to persuade you to take them back.
Your insights and humor are beyond valuable Lee!
Lmfaooo I’m only watching this, because I have an Internet Crush on you, and I adore ur Family- And YOU ARE FUNNY 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I LOVE YOUUUU LEEEEEE! I HAVE YOUR BOOK! ❤😂🎉
Thank you for your videos. They have helped me understand what narcissism is. My ex is a convert narcissist.... I am convinced. However he won't leave me alone. He didn't treat me right when we were together. Now on no contact he calls all the time all hours. Having him blocked filling my voicemail. 96 calls in 6 hours from loving, nasty or even songs on my messages. Driving around the area trying to run into me. I now realize I was just a supply and understanding this has helped my healing journey. Thank you for helping people bc I know I am not alone
Narcissist man only love you as much as they can use you and there loyalty ends where their benefits ends. i have experience the same situation where by sex was the topic of the relationship and they don't care whether you're emotionally or physically unstable but as long as u fulfill their wants.
Thank you for the children's book. I'm gonna buy it. I don't know where to start when talking to my kids about their Dad.
Please do. The narcissist effects children in the long run so much more than we realize at the time. They internalize everything and end up with excessive self criticism and feeling like they don't measure up when in reality they're surpassing your expectations. They're left trying to cope with so much pain and resentment and lack of self worth even if you think you were sheltering them from the abusive narcissist. They see and hear everything that's happening. Lee's book would be great for them.
One of the biggest things I have realized in hindsight that I wish I would've paid more attention to back then is the awareness that this is the "norm" for our children.. Where as the adults we could see that our spouse's behavior was over the top, out of control, and not normal or okay, that's all children know, it's what they have for their point of reference. To them, this is normal. This is how a husband acts to his wife or how a wife acts to her husband depending on who has the NPD. This is how they think everyone's household is until they're much older and realize that's not the case. You don't want them growing up thinking this is normal. The emotional damage runs deep. The more you can do to prevent it at a young age the better.
Best of Luck to You. You're doing good Mom. You got this ❤
God bless you Lee, keep working I appreciate you
This man said, “If you don’t appreciate me in my presence, then don’t miss me in my absence!” Put that on a tshirt or a notebook! That is straight 🔥🔥🔥
@@regiwroteit4987 That saying has been around for a long time and it still rings 🔥🔥🔥to this day.
That line was 🔥...Point Conveyed!
I don’t think of narcissistic people as evil, I think of them as predatory. They may or may not do evil like any other person.
Narcissist do not have the neurotypical mindset of lots of people. They lack the ability to feel emotional 😘 connection and empathy. They can simulate it, but it's not genuine. Genuine people can see straight through a narcissist. That scares them.
I wasn't looking for a sign but my ex sent me a friend request on Facebook just moments ago and I decided go on RUclips to see if there was anything on my timeline about narcissist missing you and her you were Lee. I have been no contact since May and blocked his number and I didn't respond to the request. Lee your stream popping up validated I'm on the right path to healing. Thank you!
I had laugh at this before I go to work tonight 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Focus on walking tall for you, in a healthy way. Break the cycle, if you got sucked in. Don't crawl.👍
Exactly they love bomb you non stop trying bribing you they pull out all the stops!!! But think about it what is there too miss?!!! The toxicity the fights the threats, she says it all the I miss you sooo much, I love you and only you!!! Really!!! The best thing I can do is just ignore it!!! Oh I don't doubt she's with someone else and she did mention a women she met that reminded her of me, really!!!! I'm so so done with all this, I love peace and my life today, ignore them and keep moving foward, always remember you deserve better!!! Oh yeah all the false promises saying they'll change, it never happens!!! I keep my sanity by ignoring the voice mails and what ever comes down the road I'll deal with it!!! I'm so so DONE
You touched the iceberg my friend.
They might not hoover or replace you. They may guilt you for depriving them of yourself for even for a day not even cutting them off completely. They may try to punish you either by making you feel like you can't survive without them or defaming you in front of friends and family both yours and theirs and may even contact loved ones directly. It can be like witnessing an explosion of human behavior
My ex narc keeps trying to get me to meet his new supply. I think he wants her to compete with and copy me. I REFUSE. She's rough around the edges no offense just a different aesthetic. She needs to stay herself and he needs to embrace his choice.
how eff'd UP IS THAT? ITS EFF"D UP! not love..sorry. my ex - non stop mentioned another woman and suggested threesomes, yet was the craziest jealous person I've ever met. These guys are gay on the DL and just create chaos to everyone.
Greetings Lee Thanks for moving closer and closer to the screen for us to get the message 3:39😂
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They’ll go lay up with someone else.
WOW....
Your Subscribers numbers have SOAREd in just a few years!!!🎉❤😊
I just ordered your book. I saw all the great reviews on it and it looks perfect for someone else in my family. Thank you for your videos.
you’re welcome
Thank YOU for your Bluntness & Awesomeness!!!!❤
Love your words man this just resonates so much
Hello beautiful Lee! Thank you for all your videos, you have really helped me.
Get out there and vote ❗❗👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👂🏾
Yes, he's replacing me with someone else because he won't come back to apologize or take accountability of his action and he knows I'm his A+ supply and can't find another me
We appreciate you Lee. You're an amazing guy. You've overcome so much on your road to self love and enlightenment ❤ sending love and blessings to you and your beautiful family❤❤❤
Lee said, "DON'T DO IT!!"
Thank you for your honesty ...
Hell I would miss me I'm a helluva chick the best😂😂😂😂😂
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@MentalHealiness I am one of a kind it's only one me u can try but it never happen. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@MentalHealness I don't play 😂😂😂😂😂
yaasss🎉😂😂😂
They do miss you but they won’t be nice when you go back! It will be worst! Charmin ego! Deep! Narcissist will even call the new supply your name! It’s crazy
they crazy 😂
It’s Lee getting all in the video for me 😂😂😂😂😂
You have given me hope. If he thinks he'll be rejected, he'll leave me the eff alone? That's the dream!
It's no doubt in my mind that my narcissistic wife misses me. I never hit or threatened to hit her. I never called her out of her name. I supplied her with my car for two years. She even used my car to drive over her girlfriend house to commit adultery with a dude from her past.
He asked me to watch his outdoor cat. Then 2 weeks later told me the cat died and he needed a hug... Went around my block with another number.
Hi Lee. I hope you can come to England and Scotland. We need the therapy and all the hope advice you give to all of us who have gone through and are going through narcisst abuse.Tha k you Lee Maggi.
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“NO I DIDNT!!” 😂❤️❤️❤️
"He bald headed!" I SPIT OUT MY WATER!!!!! 😅😅😅
He wants to “be friends” we talked a couple days this week and every time in his presence, I felt anxious and I cried! I had to reach out after 6 months no contact due to an issue with a car warranty. He didn’t want me because of health problems I have. Like how can we ever be friends? Lol what’s the point!? He won’t do anything to work on himself that’s outside of his physical and financial self. No inner work. So sad. It got me up in my feelings. But I’m keeping my distance. I can’t be in this again. It’s already caused me pain just dipping toes into the pond.
😆 ego isn’t even quilted. I LOL’d..
Mine said to me after 3 months… “I gave her (the new supply) all the love you poured into me… but it didn’t work.”
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Gracías, I appreciate your teachings ☮️
Hi good to be bk. Many blessings lee! ❤
Mine tried to hoovered about one month ago, gifts
I didn’t respond. I’m so peaceful now. I helped him with four surgeries. He is healthy now. I’m at peace
It’s already fire. Don’t change a thing about it! Xx
I've knew Lee was gone say just because the Narc said they miss u that going back is not good😓
That’s right! Go back for what? More if the same and worse bc you have to pay for leaving and not allowing the abuse continue.
Hahahahahahaha man you’re awesome! You’re a true artist man
Like i told him before: if you missed me so bad you know where my house. But those months you were busy with someone else, thats why u nvr came by or hell send a pigeon with a note on its foot.
Narcissists are still human and bleed blood so yes I think they’re capable of missing someone which is a uncontrollable emotion. Now my person on the other hand misses me but he refuses to simply call. We’ve been on no contact for several weeks now. I’ve gotten a few encrypted texts and phone calls from fake numbers though.
Ignore ignore ignore 😊
they do not miss you they need to stroke that ego and win you over so they can feel good about themselves for the moment ..with the only intentions of finishing you off🙄
My God ❗I ❤ God 🙏🏾
You said you weren't going to give me hope, then you told me that my sister wouldn't try to hoover me. You tried to give me hope anyway.
I didn't believe you. She will keep stalking. She can't stop. At this point, I don't think she will even stop when we are both dead. He ghost will haunt my ghost
😂😂❤ I love your humor 😂. God bless
God bless you as well
В книге «Коллекционер» описано как маньяк украл и запер в своем подвале юную девушку блондинку, и когда она умерла в его доме, он похоронил её и пошел искать новую жертву, блондинку, естественно.
1000% Facts.
Cheeks clapped and a baby on the way 😂😂😂😂😂 surely 😂😂😂😂😂😂
sadly i broke no contact after 5 months but i set a boundary.. he's still not changed, so i sent him a message to not look for me anymore, i've already learned my lesson.. he was shocked again and rejected him again lol. i confronted him and said, it's really weird that you talk to everybody but you rarely talk to me but you want my attention so bad.. reconnecting is a mistake, just focus on your life and don't look for me.. being here with you hurts me.
i'm really done for real
there he is again with victimizing himself because well can't take rejection well and comes the shame and anger again
he thought he won lol rejected him TWICE 😎
i'm trying to heal from it of course, i'm focusing on my family and my dogs and my hobbies ❤