Finally a real human being with real issues and how she is slowly but surely working to overcome them. Not these perfect looking house goddesses where the house is already in perfect order. Thank you.
Omg. A woman who didn't clean her house before she video tapes her "cleaning house". Where have you been? Love this! Thank you! By the way- you're doing amazing!
Just a suggestion for those who may be couch potatoes, or older, like me. When I'm watching TV, I make sure that EVERY time a commercial comes on, I get up and do something. I'm really good at cleaning or tidying in small bursts rather than longer sessions. I find that I'm amazed at how much I can get done this way. I wish that I could do a marathon of cleaning, like you, but I'm much older, and we all have to find what works best for us. You did an AMAZING job and should be really proud of yourself!
I like that your home is actually dirty when you start to clean it. It doesn't motivate me to watch someone basically clean a home that already looks perfect. I appreciate you!
@@ahaley3292 yes 💯 agree! All these other vloggers start off with a clean room and then overreact by saying omg this is soooooo bad. These videos actually make people feel crap!
Procrastination is not really a sign of laziness. It is a person struggling with decision making and trying to do the “right” or more so “perfect” solution. You become so anxious that it turns into no decision, which affords you some relief at that moment. A job half done is better than a job done perfectly that never happens.
I agree I struggle with that and I don’t know why or how that happens then I’ll cry and just go to my room where it’s clean and say forget it then wake up overwhelmed again I write lists and I can’t remember where to start
@aut0magikul I'm the same way, it's exhausting and depressing. These videos help though, especially if I clean "with" them - like someone is here helping
Wow, this has been me the past 3 years. I also manage other people's lives for a living... by the time I come home and have to mom my amazing brilliant and Autistic little boy as well as train his new service puppy.. I'm pooped and so over whelmed.. I get an anexity and panic attacks to the point of migraines, and then I'll avoid and sleep all day. New busy work and single mom weekly routine approaches, and I then find myself remarking the same to do list I've made for the past two weeks and so on... then I get discouraged and talk smack to myself about how pathetic my time management and duty prioritizing skills are... pretty much non existence when it comes to managing and caring for myself. Then comes depression and so on and so forth... That whole lather, rinse, repeat thing... Thank you for this video!
I’m in the process of moving.. and the overwhelmed is the word! Where do I begin! I enjoyed watching you tackle your chores.. and your English accent is soothing.. as I’m American😊
As someone with ADHD and a very cruel inner critic, hearing the way you talk about being compassionate with yourself is so heartwarming. Thank you for this video, I have saved it and will watch it often! Keep being wonderfully kind, and know that you are a fantastic mum!
Thank you so much for raising awareness to ADHD. One of the terrible things about it is how invisible it is, and how hard it is for people without it to understand how it feels when that brain automation you developed to survive childhood, now highjacks your adult attention whenever you simply want to do a set of ordinary tasks. I hope I still get to see a time where the first thing any doctor asks is whether you have ADHD. It's influence on life is that massive. And until that time we need people like you who help everyone tackle the disease on their own with sheer, honest force of will. Great inspiration.
All the holistic r❤remedies are great but my father is a MD here in the USA and my entire family is ADHD. I think you should really consider taking ADHD meds. My husband went 2 years with diabetes undiagnosed and now is 49 with stage 3 heart failure. He was a AVID Pepsi drinker. Now he does drink diet drinks or Sweet Tea but with Splenda not sugar. Plus it has caffeine.
There is nothing more motivating than a friend you haven't seen for a while messaging - "I'm in your area - I can be with you in 20 minutes". Believe me - that 20 minutes can generate a LOT of cleaning and tidying! 😄 Well done you!
I can't believe you get hate for showing your messy house. As someone who struggles to keep up on housework, nothing is more demoralizing than clicking on a video like this and seeing a home that already looks clean as the "before" shot. Your house looks like mine and I find that comforting
I am a retired cleaning woman; I cleaned houses for 27 years. Now at 62, even though I'm rather OCD, it can be hard to get motivated to clean, because I've been doing it since I started washing dishes at 4 years old! 😂 So, here are some helpful tips: Your list was a great idea. It breaks it down into smaller tasks. But daily cleaning is key to keeping your home orderly. So, what I do when I'm tired and overwhelmed is choose one relatively small task, like clearing a cluttered table and cleaning it. Then I'll reward myself with maybe a ten minute RUclips video. Or I'll clean a whole room top to bottom and then allow myself a 45 minute break. I have five parrots, a rescued Cottontail rabbit, and a large garden I maintain. I also run a small online business. But this method really works! Also, I'm a serious deep cleaner, so I can get bogged down in one room and lose time. I've learned to pick a room each week and deep clean it over the course of the week--baseboards one day, ceiling fans another, etc. If you need really good cleaning tips, I'm happy to help. I can clean just about anything, lol. For starters, get yourself a good quality spray bottle and mix one part dish liquid to about 5 parts water. As soon as a meal is over, layer the dirty dishes in the sink, spraying them with the dish liquid from the bottom up. Let them set about five minutes. Then come back with either a paper towel or pre-wash cloth and do a quick wipe and rinse and stack them next to your sink. This is a great way to keep dishes from overwhelming your kitchen. Because maybe you don't have time to wash all the dishes right then--but when you can come back to it later, they won't have food hardened on them. And start teaching your children to help. Use a reward system. I started folding laundry and washing dishes at the age of four (I stood on a chair). While this is a little extreme, children actually need to feel useful and helpful. It's good for them! 😊
I cannot say how much I appreciate your video. You have spoken to so much of my life. The chronic disorganization, the guilt, the ADD, the low self esteem because of it all. The not being able to afford the helpful gadgets. Forget about any haters. People like me appreciate this so much!
You are amazing ...keep going you really normalize my life you are so honest and upfront..Another subscriber 😬 I can resonate with tones of your experience ..How you go far xx
I’m 54 and I’ve been messy my whole life. I absolutely love a clean and tidy home, it makes my brain go quiet. I’ve had high powered jobs which allowed me to employ cleaners but my husband died recently from cancer, I gave up my job to care for him and now money is tight and I’ve gone back to being as messy as I was as a teenager. Now I’ve watched your video I feel like I’ve found a kindred spirit so I thank you Remi, firstly for being so honest and secondly for inspiring me to give your method a go. Keep going with your videos, they’re great! X
Watching this whilst signed off with depression. I have ADHD and your"rambling"is like therapy for me....I'm out of bed, tackling my mess and bodydoubling ! Actually smiling because you are real and showing we can do this! Thank u so much.
Girl, nobody should judge you for HAVING a messy house, they should be impressed that you’re cleaning a messy house. We ALL have had our homes get messy, the point is to get it cleaned so it doesn’t STAY messy. ❤️
I am not judging anyone all I said was mess house happy kids and u can tidy up when their at school or nursery I lived in a house with 5sister that wasn't tidy at all time not by a long shot
Girl..I am soooo PROUD of YOU! And you're seriously speaking my story! I love lists too & thank you for all those supplements that helped you; I will try them too. Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing this amazing & helpful video. Xo
My dear, I am 74 and get sidetracked the same as you, procrastinating is my life, and I am living alone, no kids , and the grandkids come to visit on the weekends. You are a great role model for young women who have the same issues
I am 56, much older than you, and no kids left to keep up with, but I remember. I could not have felt more proud of you than if you were my own daughter. And so much of what you said made me think of my own life and others I know. You keep doing whatever it is that you're doing. You are a wonderful inspiration. And videos like this should not be shameful!! As a matter of fact, you inspire me to do something I've been talking to my husband about and that is videoing us cleaning our junk rooms! Scary thought. Because I feel more inspired watching people cleaning/clearing things that actually need it, then all the videos out there of people who are already OCD and near freaks showing me how to clean the already clean!!! Loved this video and you!!! ♥️♥️♥️
I know this is an old-ish comment but I wanted to reply because it genuinely moved me. You're around the same age as my parents, and I wish I could hear them saying things you've said as I sometimes struggle to keep my living space tidy. I wish you all the best.
Hello from an American ex-pat in Israel. You are sooo likeable! I appreciate your honesty and humility. You did a great job on your voice over, filming and editing. Your video is encouraging and helpful. But your sweet personality is what really shines through. I feel like I found a very nice new neighbor, albeit a few thousand miles away. God bless you.
Girl. I cried after the video. I thank you for your transparency and the encouragement thru your words, energy, and actions. This content was #1 for me. Thank you for sharing your content and deep rooted story.
I've dealt with depression since losing my son and felt overwhelmed with cleaning.. But your method worked like a charm for me since I'm scatter brained also... I found it easy to make a list of 2 things to clean out of each room and then moved on to next 2 and was able to tackle the whole house clean... THANK YOU SO MUCH!!
I'm 60 years old and have raised 5 kids. I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 40. It helped me to understand why I struggled so much with keeping my house organized and tidy. I wasn't lazy. I'd be working at it all day but you çouldnt tell. I read many books but couldn't consistently implement their ideas. I eventually started doing almost exactly what you did in this video. Make a simple list and tackle one thing at a time: toys, clothing, shoes, garbage, dishes. Same idea for cleaning: all the mirrors, all the hard floors, all the beds, vacuum all the carpet, etc. When my kids were home they would do it with me. It might sound silly to some people but it worked for me. I liked your video. I'm sure it will help some people.
It's so refreshing to see someone have a messy house and put it in order just like us ordinary people do. I hate seeing someone with a glamorous updated house saying they have to clean and in 5 minutes it's all perfect again. I often get distracted from one chore so your idea of the list sounds perfect for me. I'll be starting that tomorrow...thank you so much for this wonderful dose of reality!
Omg I love this video. Sick of watching videos of people cleaning their already clean homes. And your personality is fantastic. I could see us being besties
@@tamsin1975 I'm a disabled 71 year old, never married no children. I just recently had to accept help for some housekeeping chores. I have had roommates who were lazy and or hoarded up my home. I must be " perfect " or an obsessive compulsive " clean freak", because there's nothing on the floor of my house but rugs. furniture and shoes. 🙄
I used to step in and clean up the family mess. Then I set new rules. Everyone is responsible for their own mess. It’s rude and disrespectful for anyone to create a mess that someone else has to clean. I provided bins for trash, hampers for dirty clothes and organized drawers for clean clothes. Everyone made their own bed, washed their own dishes, and tidied up what was theirs. Mutual respect.
Well done! As it should be. Plus, family members take that mindset and those skills with them the rest of their lives-- sets everyone up for success! 😊
I greatly appreciate your candor ❤ As an empty nester who's nearly 50, I've finally found a way to make laundry easier. I sort my clothes based on where they get put away. All my hanging clothes go together, my folded clothes are together, etc. It's the only way I've found that makes certain all my clothes are put away. Blessings to you and your family!
This was a really helpful video, not just because of the excellent content, but also for the honesty. It’s rare to see a content creator talk about the realities of working class life in a normal home like my own home.
One thing that really helps is having less. That means you have one crockery cutlery set and you wash as you use them. The less we have, the less we have to clean, wash, dust etc. Really works for me, and the minimalism means your space looks roomier too. Just a share. Be well 🎉
Ok straight up this is the best cleaning video I've ever seen for people with ADHD and Autism. Like...the list idea where you just start off with writing your first two most important tasks and then add others as you cross them off is so smart so that you don't get super overwhelmed just from the list. And as you cross things off, the house slowly becomes less and less overwhelming which makes it easier to keep going. Thank you so so much, I really appreciate this.
Dear Remi. What a fantastic video. I thank you. I am in my 70s and can SO RELATE to everything you said. I was a single mom for quite a few years and I felt so frustrated at times because my energy level was at a low. Working full time then working with my son. I loved helping him with his schooling, but I wish I had had a bit more money to spend on him and more energy. Please. Take it from another woman, you are absolutely perfect the way you are. You do so much for everyone else and like most women, we tend to not take as good of care of ourselves as we should. As Imaged, I too am noticing I can get sidetracked quickly. Very frustrating, but I quite beating myself up about it. I have learned to say no when I know I cannot take on a project for someone. Your candor about tackling a huge project is truly appreciated. I have one large room I absolutely must organize but I keep putting it off. Take good care of yourself.
Love your transparency. I'm 77 years old, and there are days I feel overwhelmed. It's just my husband and me with three cats. Some days are good. Some days are bad. As my grandma told me years ago when my children were little, "In a hundred years, no one will ever know you had dust bunnies under your bed." ❤
It’s true that in 100 years most people won’t remember us at all. But your quality of life can be affected by those dust bunnies, especially if they are under your bed. Why not treat yourself to a cleaner space that is going to have cleaner air to breathe? Indoor air quality is a health hazard people don’t think about. I’ve seen people get sick sleeping in rooms that have dusty books, and require asthma medicine. A friend of mine who got into essential oils started cleaning her house with an all-purpose cleaner infused with a powerful antimicrobial blend, and after one season she commented that this is the first year that her family wasn’t continually sick during the winter. Another friend has lived in two houses with mold issues, resulting in so many health problems that they ended up bankrupt. Even though I am a nurse, I’m not a clean freak: I do think we need some germs to keep our immune systems in good shape, but I can’t deny that people do get sicker In houses with cleanliness issues. Your feelings of overwhelm may not only be from being 77, they may also be from a body overwhelmed with sensitivities. Especially with pets and all the hair that they typically generate. I literally buy HVAC filters for one relative as a present because they have four dogs and one cat, talk about hair! Her husband is always sick, he’s allergic to pets and would rather suffer with allergy medicine. It is compromising their income, because he has declined promotions because of his health. Love yourself more, decluttering and cleaning are two great ways to do this. So are simple things like being outdoors to watch the sun come up and the sun go down, and it put your bare feet on the grass or the dirt, or last choice, on the concrete. Stay hydrated, take a touch of pure sea salt when you drink clean water throughout the day, maybe half a class at a time. Oh, and don’t wear glasses or sunglasses or contact lenses when you are enjoying these outdoor times. These actions help modulate the response of your immune system so that it doesn’t overreact or under react so much, and it’s perfectly free to do. Except buying the sea salt and maybe the filters needed for clean water. Your grandma gave you wise advice so that you didn’t worry about cleaning in an excessive way at the expense of things that really matter. But you can give your descendants both that same advice, and more, based on the wisdom that you have acquired throughout your life. Blessings on you and yours!
Thank you for being Vulnerable. Many of us suffer in silence with ADHD and this is a regular issue for those of us with big families. Thank you thank you thank you for making us feel less alone.
Finally a realistic cleaning video. I also get frustrated and feel paralyzed when things get too messy. It helps to see step by step how you manage the housework.
Hi 👋 Ms Mirage. Ikr! You’re not alone. “Lynn’s video was the fire 🔥 that I needed! I went to both dollar trees yesterday. I’ll keep you posted. I have until Christmas… 🎅🎄 *Update* I gave myself a couple weeks to clean up and organize using both dollar “stores and I feel like I got a whole new home for 2023 leaving 123123 and a clean 🧼 🏡 Thank you!
I absolutely love watching your clean ups,it’s so nice to see someone with a normal lived in home,and not a show house❤thank you for making us mothers feel normal x
I love your idea of only putting the most important tasks on the list and then only adding more after crossing the completed ones off! I think this could really help my ADD brain to not get so overwhelmed. Thank you for the tips and for being so open and posting. Women should SUPPORT other women, not tear them down. How dare they call themselves a “feminist” and then go after another woman for something as simple as how they clean their home, what they wear, etc., we MUST support one another and build each other up💜 Edit: grammar
Getting distracted is so easy…my solution used to be that my best friend and I would clean each other’s house once a week, dusting, floors, bathrooms, and that type of thing. It was amazing! Alas, my best friend is now waiting for me in heaven and I am caring for my Mother, which is a whole other challenge…I’m not young like you but watching your video made me think of good times in the past! You are wise beyond your years. Love from the USA!♥️
I was meant to find this today. Chronic clinical depression depletes my motivation and I often stay in bed to avoid the mess. I’m messy, my son is messy and autistic so both of us are overwhelmed. I love your method and am going to try it. Wish me luck - and motivation! I’ll keep following you to keep the mojo going. Thank you!
I suffer from depression and no motivation. Be encouraged with the little things you get done each day. My mother would ask me, "how do you eat an elephant...one bit at a time. I take pride in cleaning one corner and if that's all I can do that's okay. The next day I take another bite at that elephant. We can do it!!!☺️
Hello Remi , my names Anthony I’m 58 I live alone with my 4 cats and 3 dogs I’ve got health issues physically and mentally please don’t take this as an insult but I could relate to so much you were talking about procrastination, feeling low, overwhelmed, tired etc, your video has inspired me to clean my please tomorrow (can’t sleep it’s 1.10am) I’ve recently had a bad patch and I’ve let my place get very messy, the pets are all fine taken care of fed walked litter trays etc but need to sort my home out and I’ve been giving myself such a hard time and feeling so lazy and stupid and low, I would like to thank you for letting us into your lovely home and being so brave and so honest with complete strangers sharing how you are with us all , I watched this video start to finish I’ve even subscribed I think your videos and genuine outlook on life will hopefully help me enjoy what time I have left on this earth , and I don’t think you babble on at all ? Your a very intelligent compassionate brave kind hearted brilliant Mother and wife partner whatever and your a great human being who isn’t full of herself or attention seeking or narcissistic your just a nice person helping people like me see some light , as I normally struggle I would have loved a daughter like you I’m sure your family are very proud of you thank you so for taking all the time and energy and effort to post this video you even made me smile doing your bin liner removal dance! LoL your so don’t to earth could listen to you all day, I wish you your Hubby family friends long and happy life’s filled with love laughter and contentment thanks Remi ❤️👍Anthony
Yes, that house was pretty messy. However, there's one thing that I can 100 percent guarantee you: You're not alone. Many, many people lead such busy lives that their housework piles up on them until it's as bad as or worse than the house in the video. A lot of people ask your same question, "OMG, where do I even begin?" You've helped people to answer that question. Thank you for that.
Here's something I learned from my elderly landlady: clean up your pots and pans while you are cooking. She always amazed me by how clean her kitchen was right after she finished cooking. Best advice and example I ever had. 😊
that’s what I learned after 50 yrs if cooking. I also learned during covid to cook the food you can before too tired after work. Cut veg, marinate the meat, get whatever you can prepared before you are too tired to cook. also have heAlthy munchies while preparing bc it’s sometimes stressful to have another thing to do. Don’t come home r dry night and work done more. take 2-3 nights and plan what you’re going to do. maybe all the laundry, maybe food shop, but do t leave all work for. the weekend. it leaves us drained and not rested. never stop learning how to do better. I’m now, making lists of chores and distributing them to others in home.
Thank you for this video. Most video show a tidy home with a few things out of place and call it messy. I can relate to your rooms. Thank you for being vulnerable. You are a rock star!
I won’t lie, I personally can’t relate to the mess! I was taught very young “do it as you go”! Listening to you helped me so much. I realised that we just aren’t all the same! I respect you for what I watched you accomplish in this video, the way you explained yourself and your acceptance and understanding of yourself! The reason this helped me is because I have a daughter-in-law just like you in her housekeeping! We are close because she doesn’t have the mother influence she needed growing up! I’ve tried my best to teach her, to no avail! She wants to, she just can’t get it done! You’ve opened me to a new understanding! I want her to watch this and maybe she will relate to you in a positive way! I learned so much, not housework techniques, I learned a new way of acceptance. Allowing my daughter-in-law to be who she is and work on theses issues a little at a time! I think you are are awesome! You’re doing a lot of good by you being you! Thank you!
Sometimes it’s so clear how God works through people and even chance meetings though a RUclips video that popped up. God bless you for allowing your mind to be open and see your daughter-in-law’s struggles. And that she’s not lazy, she just needs to adapt skills in baby steps - and not beat herself up. Trust me, negativity and statements of disapproval and judgment replay through our heads All. Day. Long. I’m so glad for her sake that you are able to put judgment aside so you can meet her where she is in your support of her. I (now 50) wish all these young mommas courage, faith in themselves, and the belief that they and their kids are worth a better living environment. My house might have gotten this bad when I was struggling with severe depression a time or two - but mostly I did see my younger self in her and loved how she has explained things and her realizations and thoughts as well.
If she has children, and if you don’t already do so… offer to take them to your house so she can have some alone time to do what she wants to get done. Nice you are trying to understand we all do things differently.👍👍👍
11:45 am You are enough. You are human. You are doing what works for you at this moment- you are inspiring many others by showing a real home and how easily messes multiply! Thank you for sharing!!! ❤
This was exactly the video I’ve been looking for for months, someone with a real mess showing how to clean it. Thank you so much. This helped me more than you can imagine!!
Remi you're not going to believe this but you have even helped me! Im 72 yo! Im messy but love to have everything neat. With complications from old age i can work maybe 30 min then need to rest. My problem with that is i get involved with RUclips or games and sit way too long. I know i need to get up and get out, do things, see people while I'm able but i spend all day trying to just get everyday housework done. I like to craft, sew, garden and get upset with myself that i don't allow myself time for those things. I truly believe that your list making suggestion completing one thing at a time will help me and encourage me to go a little longer before i stop for a rest. Then writing the next thing will excite me to get back busy faster to get it done! I'm going to start now! I moved about 1 1/2 mo ago and still have boxes sitting around. If i can finish my chore list (and its not as long as yours--no toys, and such as that) and then put up a few things or even empty one box it will lift my spirits so much! Then maybe i can get outside and get my flower garden going or go see an old friend!
I couldn’t be more serious when I say I genuinely love and respect you for this. You are so honest and nearly everyone can truly relate to how our homes can get out of hand. I can’t tell you how much I admire you and appreciate your candor. This is actually a gift of encouragement for so many of us who have those times in our life where we are just absolutely exhausted and overwhelmed by the day to day demands that life can put on us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤❤❤
First, I think your doing great. People that don’t understand how the mess happens and judge you for it have never had to be in your shoes. I had to stop working for pay when my grandmother who I took care of after became completely bedridden (dementia for ten years before) I also have rescue animals including some I had to save from a feral heard of cats I try to care for they would have died by morning if I had left them. I have a husband as well who works all the time to make up for me not being able to work for pay anymore, I’m the only one taking care of the house, cooking, caring full time for grandma and the animals all the cleaning etc.. I was in an accident that almost killed me n I couldn’t move for months, I’m still trying to catch up now and it’s impossible when I’m in pain. My house went from order to chaos and has been that way for awhile. I also have never owned a dishwasher I am the dishwasher 😂 I also don’t like coffee and I’m very caffeine sensitive, when I need some caffeine once in awhile I will drink a Bai, it’s got about 55-75 mg caffeine depends on which one you get. I’m glad your phasing out the soda a little at a time it’s the best way to kick something so your body isn’t overwhelmed with detox symptoms. I lost my favorite kitten yesterday after two weeks of caring for her, she died at the vet n I’m so heartbroken I’m not motivated and tired but your video helped I’m gonna try to push through and get some things done💯❤️
God bless you THANK YOU for showing me that others have homes that get like this too. My heart is broken, I lost my son a year ago to a fentanyl overdose and I've lost my ability to fight on some days. I want my home clean during the holidays. You gave me hope. THANK YOU .
I am really sorry about your loss. That must be devastating on a daily basis. Please know that there are people that care about you, and want you to do well.
If I could, I’d buy a plane ticket to just come and give you a tearful hug. This video validated me and helped me feel understood. God bless you and all of us struggling…we’re going to be just fine. ❤️🙏🏼
Thanks! You just made my day! Not because you straightened up faster than anyone, but because your voice and story filled me with delight. Your sincerity, honesty and your ability to remain true to yourself are calming to we who are fighting the same demons. With gratitude, Sally
I am 62 years old. I have never heard of executive disfunction before, but I have had it all my life. Thank you so much for taking the time to show me an amazing way to work through it. This is so awesome!!!
Crying because you are SO comforting and encouraging. You’re like a sweet, non judgmental friend coming over to put a pot of tea on and help me tidy up my life when I’ve been in a dump of depression. I cannot thank you enough for being one of the few content creators that shared so honestly, I relate so so much with everything from adhd and executive dysfunction to the extreme low moods in certain parts of my cycle. I did a load of dishes and got a bag filled with garbage from around the house and now feel like I can do some more thanks to your video. Thankyou sweet lady😢🩵
I agree : my house has been cluttered for the past 6 years, I have tackled one room at a time but I live in an old Farm house with lots of rooms. I struggle keeping the rooms deep cleaned after I clean out the clutter. I’m starting with my own bedroom today - I always leave my bedroom to the last and I deserve a neat clean place to sleep. I’ll be back! Let you know !
As someone with ADHD, I feel so understood and welcomed with this video. I have only watched 3min of it and I already feel like it makes me feel so much better about my struggles and how to manage them. Thank you for making this and sharing yourself with us! 💗
@@remiclog I really am ☺️ Love your gentle honest mindset and the way you work around your struggles. It's making me feel good and looking forward to dealing with my mess 😄
I agree ❤ not sure how I hadn’t seen your channel before because I feel like we’re doppelgängers kinda! I am a mum, I work in a supermarket too, and I feel so overwhelmed with cleaning as well, but I’m making progress. I will try to take on your level of compassion with yourself, I have it in spades for my son who has some AuDHD challenges too, but I always kick myself and give myself grief for not just ‘getting stuff done’. It’s harder than some people believe to make LASTING changes in any routine/habit/lifestyle…. Can’t wait to watch your other vids and see how your progressing with your goals too ❤️❤️
I battle depression and I have let my small apartment get way out of control. Watching your video and listening to you tell your story makes me feel like maybe there is hope for me yet. Thank you!
This is amazing! Finally a realistic “tidy up a messy house” type of video. My place gets like this (sometimes worse) but when I see people online posting tidying / cleaning their places and they aren’t even messy it’s so disheartening because I feel like such a slob. It’s become even worse since I had my first baby a few months ago. I also find myself never knowing where to start and just getting too overwhelmed and giving up. I will definitely try your method! Thank you for this ❤
I was so overwhelmed with my house I honestly didn't know where to start .. google sent me this, and by the time it finished, I had cleared up all the visible trash, emptied the bin, collected all the dishes, and picked up all the laundry on the floor I had seen!! Thankyou, you've been wonderful!!
What I liked: your positive approach being reinforced by your background choice of motivational cleaning “partners,” your reinforcing positive actions by checking off your accomplishments in real time, and your accepting love of yourself. Making these videos and saying aloud your personal goals, sharing them with thousands of strangers is so empowering; it will bring you all the success that I, and others, wish for you. Along the way, we might start loving ourselves a little bit more and feel less alone.
It's refreshing to see a real person dealing with real life. It's amazing you figured yourself out so early in life. Took me twice as long. I'm stubborn and didn't want to admit my short comings. Thanks and God bless.
I know I am crazy late commenting on this… but today I had my kitchen to tackle… and I was struggling, so I searched and this video came up for me, and you had me crying… because someone understood!! Thank you!! I am so excited to watch more of your videos!! You not not only inspired and motivated me but talking about your struggles has helped me move more too!! Thank you!!
I think what I love about this process is that you don't do a huge long list to start with, but break it down and add on as chores are done. One less thing to be overwhelmed with.
Thank you so very much for posting a video showing what a real messy house looks like and real ways to deal with the executive dysfunction. This is so so helpful.
RUclips just recommended this, and it has BLOWN my mind away! You are so personable, relatable, positive, practical, sensible and an excellent teacher! I love the video and your voice overs! Thank you! You are such a gem! ❤
I am 64 years old and I have struggled with executive dysfunction my entire life! You are helping me a lot! I am ok IF I can get started, but I am paralyzed trying to begin. You hit my nail on the head! Thank you thank you, and keep on truckin’ .
I had an Epiphany when Flylady said “you can do anything for 15 minutes.” I figured if 15 minutes was good, so was five. And so was two minutes. The more distasteful the task, The shorter the time I put on my timer. Just dividing things into categories is brilliant. But if overwhelmed, it’s perfectly OK to say that you will only pick things out for two minutes if that’s all you can handle at once. Generally once we get started, we find we can do another couple of minutes and so forth. I use the 2-5 minute rule for the tasks that repel me the most and break those tasks down into the tiniest steps possible. And sometimes the first task is “Think about what the very first thing is that I have to do to do this, and write it down.”
100% support. Time to get the older boy to start folding and putting away his own clothes. The younger can do his own, too, with simpler items. Key is doing it often (which I can see may be difficult for you to do steadily, but do try). Both boys should be taught to take rubbish straight to the inside bins. Putting at least two toys away before bed won't hurt, either. 🤓 In this way they will learn to take care of themselves before it is a catch-up learning effort, not be terrible roommates, and avoid inheriting the nightmare messy room their mum grew up with. This is a totally supportive suggestion, not a criticism. Think of giving the boys a leg up in life! Loving the way you know yourself so well and where the strengths can come out of the weaknesses! ❤❤ Keep going. 👍👏👏
Do not let anyone make you feel bad about your house. I don't have kids and I am 26 years old but my house still looks like this due to the fact that I have crippling anxiety with depression so getting out of bed just to go to work is a win for me! Small wins like putting away the laundry that's been sitting in the baskets for weeks is a win! So give yourself some credit! You are an amazing mom from what I have seen and being messy happens but we have ways to fix it but at our own pace, without giving myself an awful headache about what I haven't finished but feeling proud about what I have accomplished! I am rooting for you! Look how much you got done ! You did so much! 2 hours and you knocked it out! And I appreciate you as well :)! Thank you for showing us your mess, for showing the truth about a dirty house not just surface dust and unrealistic expectations that are so hard to achieve so I appreciate you opening up and showing us the real mess!
OMG Remi! I am 55 years old and I have never had anyone explain to me why I am so overwhelmed with tidying a house. This has been a huge problem all my life because I grew up with a Mom that was a cleaning lady with OCD. It always seemed to be the barrier between us. I like the cleaning but, not the tidying. You explained it with understanding and love. I am always overwhelmed by the idea of tackling the mess. You helped me so much, I don’t have enough words to explain how grateful I am. It was also the most honest video I have ever seen on social media. Thank you so very much!💕💕💕
As a 38 yr old single woman with no kids, I’ve always felt overwhelmed with my chores and this video has made it easier for me to be a bit kinder to myself, because I always judged myself so harshly thinking I had “no excuse” for being so untidy. I was never this way and gradually found myself slipping into the hole of mess after every unpleasant situation in my life. It was actually a pleasure watching this, thank you for the helpful yet real content.🙏🏾
Sister, you are speaking my language. I, too, have gained so much weight since Covid, been ill frequently, and am overwhelmed by my clutter. Thank you for being genuine and providing some much needed motivation! This video popped up on my feed at just the right time. ❤
Your voiceovers are very well done. What's missing is the 15 minute whole family tidy up at the end of the day. It will take the pressure off, and make it fun. Everyone stays together and works together. My parents had music we put on and it was only 15 minutes and it works. I'm now an adult, my son is now on his own, and I noticed that when I forget the 15 minute tidy at the end of the day, the house goes in the toilet. Hang in there.
I love the executive dysfunction term. I am a widow living alone and so when I survey the messy big house I live in, I know no one else made the mess. your approach is so forgiving and so mentally healthy. I have enough money to hire cleaning help but I have to tidy before they get here!
I was just watching true crime videos and have no idea how I came across this but I started watching and I swear it was like you were talking directly to me!! I'm just the same! I struggle with depression pretty heavily and my house is never clean. I'm 45 and married with 2 young girls ages 12 and 9. (I have a 21yr old son but he moved out) My house gets trashed sometimes less than a day after I bust my butt and break my back cleaning it so sometimes I think why bother doing it at all. It's so overwhelming and I never know where to start. Yes, my children should be helping but getting them to do it is world war 3! And my poor husband deserves better. He is a clean freak! It didn't use to be this way. My first husband died tragically at work in 2004. He had a a son, who is now 21. I loved cleaning, all of it. After he died, of course I was never the same. I wish I could get that motivation to clean back. I am so happy that I came across this video. I'm going to subscribe and go watch the rest of your videos! I think it could help motivate me. Thank you for having the courage to post this. People's homes are usually a private thing and rightly so, so I really do appreciate your courage. Thank you all the way from Ft.Worth Texas!
58 yr old, ADHD, depression, and I can totally identify with you. "Overwhelming" is an understatement. Executive dysfunction is a new phrase to me. . . . But remember, "normal" is simply a setting on the washing machine. Thank you for this enlightening video.
Girl, I'm in Texas and i NEEDED THIS . 💙 I have been fighting for my mental health and have made such progress, but my energy isn't back yet and still have to retreat to bed when all i want is to do something else (like chores!) ...You reminded me to be brave and patient with myself. I really appreciate you. Keep doing you 🌷 and down with the online snobs and haters 💯
Tbh, this feels more helpful than the videos by upper middle class minimalists! No hate on those, their brand of cleaning and decluttering just feels hard to achieve sometimes. I grew up poor and yes, many poor people's homes are just full of clutter (I don't know if you are and I'm not making assumptions, just saying MY homes and friends' homes were usually messy, and class almost certainly played a part). Good for you for being so honest and willing to help! Anyone hating on you is probably feeling attacked because they themselves don't think they could ever be this transparent or willing to get so much done.
Not my reality. I taught my kids from an early age to clean up after themselves. I don't even allow my four year old to drop things on the floor for later. A lot of this is pure laziness.
This video saved my life tonight! You have no idea, thank you for giving me hope. I will send more specific comments later, but please know that you really helped me & I feel hopeful & motivated. I had a terrible meltdown over my apt today, complete with guilt, shame & tears. After getting very little done, I just went to bed feeling destroyed. Your video appeared- like a literal answer to my prayers. Your honesty was so relatable, you are so positive & hilarious. Tomorrow morning, trying again with your method & attitude boost. Your the best- so appreciative ❤
Finally a real human being with real issues and how she is slowly but surely working to overcome them. Not these perfect looking house goddesses where the house is already in perfect order. Thank you.
Omg. A woman who didn't clean her house before she video tapes her "cleaning house". Where have you been? Love this! Thank you! By the way- you're doing amazing!
@@esthermeabh3771 how dare she not be fake lol!?
Just a suggestion for those who may be couch potatoes, or older, like me. When I'm watching TV, I make sure that EVERY time a commercial comes on, I get up and do something. I'm really good at cleaning or tidying in small bursts rather than longer sessions. I find that I'm amazed at how much I can get done this way. I wish that I could do a marathon of cleaning, like you, but I'm much older, and we all have to find what works best for us. You did an AMAZING job and should be really proud of yourself!
@@jas8815 that's amazing well done to you in finding a way!
I like that your home is actually dirty when you start to clean it. It doesn't motivate me to watch someone basically clean a home that already looks perfect. I appreciate you!
Do you never use a tea towel to dry your dishes?
@@ahaley3292 yes 💯 agree! All these other vloggers start off with a clean room and then overreact by saying omg this is soooooo bad. These videos actually make people feel crap!
THIS!
Procrastination is not really a sign of laziness. It is a person struggling with decision making and trying to do the “right” or more so “perfect” solution. You become so anxious that it turns into no decision, which affords you some relief at that moment. A job half done is better than a job done perfectly that never happens.
Well said and so true.
I agree I struggle with that and I don’t know why or how that happens then I’ll cry and just go to my room where it’s clean and say forget it then wake up overwhelmed again I write lists and I can’t remember where to start
@aut0magikul I'm the same way, it's exhausting and depressing. These videos help though, especially if I clean "with" them - like someone is here helping
Wow, this has been me the past 3 years. I also manage other people's lives for a living... by the time I come home and have to mom my amazing brilliant and Autistic little boy as well as train his new service puppy.. I'm pooped and so over whelmed.. I get an anexity and panic attacks to the point of migraines, and then I'll avoid and sleep all day. New busy work and single mom weekly routine approaches, and I then find myself remarking the same to do list I've made for the past two weeks and so on... then I get discouraged and talk smack to myself about how pathetic my time management and duty prioritizing skills are... pretty much non existence when it comes to managing and caring for myself. Then comes depression and so on and so forth...
That whole lather, rinse, repeat thing...
Thank you for this video!
I’m in the process of moving.. and the overwhelmed is the word! Where do I begin!
I enjoyed watching you tackle your chores.. and your English accent is soothing.. as I’m American😊
As someone with ADHD and a very cruel inner critic, hearing the way you talk about being compassionate with yourself is so heartwarming. Thank you for this video, I have saved it and will watch it often! Keep being wonderfully kind, and know that you are a fantastic mum!
Thank you so much for raising awareness to ADHD. One of the terrible things about it is how invisible it is, and how hard it is for people without it to understand how it feels when that brain automation you developed to survive childhood, now highjacks your adult attention whenever you simply want to do a set of ordinary tasks. I hope I still get to see a time where the first thing any doctor asks is whether you have ADHD. It's influence on life is that massive. And until that time we need people like you who help everyone tackle the disease on their own with sheer, honest force of will. Great inspiration.
Every word you said, perfection! Thank you! ❤️
All the holistic r❤remedies are great but my father is a MD here in the USA and my entire family is ADHD. I think you should really consider taking ADHD meds. My husband went 2 years with diabetes undiagnosed and now is 49 with stage 3 heart failure. He was a AVID Pepsi drinker. Now he does drink diet drinks or Sweet Tea but with Splenda not sugar. Plus it has caffeine.
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There is nothing more motivating than a friend you haven't seen for a while messaging - "I'm in your area - I can be with you in 20 minutes". Believe me - that 20 minutes can generate a LOT of cleaning and tidying! 😄 Well done you!
I can't believe you get hate for showing your messy house. As someone who struggles to keep up on housework, nothing is more demoralizing than clicking on a video like this and seeing a home that already looks clean as the "before" shot. Your house looks like mine and I find that comforting
Haha. I think those people who send her hate mail really need to get a life.
I am a retired cleaning woman; I cleaned houses for 27 years. Now at 62, even though I'm rather OCD, it can be hard to get motivated to clean, because I've been doing it since I started washing dishes at 4 years old! 😂 So, here are some helpful tips: Your list was a great idea. It breaks it down into smaller tasks. But daily cleaning is key to keeping your home orderly. So, what I do when I'm tired and overwhelmed is choose one relatively small task, like clearing a cluttered table and cleaning it. Then I'll reward myself with maybe a ten minute RUclips video. Or I'll clean a whole room top to bottom and then allow myself a 45 minute break. I have five parrots, a rescued Cottontail rabbit, and a large garden I maintain. I also run a small online business. But this method really works! Also, I'm a serious deep cleaner, so I can get bogged down in one room and lose time. I've learned to pick a room each week and deep clean it over the course of the week--baseboards one day, ceiling fans another, etc. If you need really good cleaning tips, I'm happy to help. I can clean just about anything, lol. For starters, get yourself a good quality spray bottle and mix one part dish liquid to about 5 parts water. As soon as a meal is over, layer the dirty dishes in the sink, spraying them with the dish liquid from the bottom up. Let them set about five minutes. Then come back with either a paper towel or pre-wash cloth and do a quick wipe and rinse and stack them next to your sink. This is a great way to keep dishes from overwhelming your kitchen. Because maybe you don't have time to wash all the dishes right then--but when you can come back to it later, they won't have food hardened on them. And start teaching your children to help. Use a reward system. I started folding laundry and washing dishes at the age of four (I stood on a chair). While this is a little extreme, children actually need to feel useful and helpful. It's good for them! 😊
This are really good tips! Thank you very much ❤
Good wolker you are!!👏👏👏
I cannot say how much I appreciate your video. You have spoken to so much of my life. The chronic disorganization, the guilt, the ADD, the low self esteem because of it all. The not being able to afford the helpful gadgets. Forget about any haters. People like me appreciate this so much!
Thank you for being so transparent and having a voice over instead of playing annoying music.
Amen.🎉
Don't knock yourself. Pat yourself on the back. You're helping others who feel overwhelmed too! Well done!
When I am overwhelmed I always wash the dishes first, that is usually enough to get me in the right frame of mind :)
I love this. It really is such a small thing sometimes that can spur you on to get more done isn’t it! X
Dishes and laundry those are the 2 things that already make the home feel so much cleaner and soon as I hear that washer it gets me started
Sorry meant trial medication ❤
You are amazing ...keep going you really normalize my life you are so honest and upfront..Another subscriber 😬 I can resonate with tones of your experience ..How you go far xx
Me too.
I’m 54 and I’ve been messy my whole life. I absolutely love a clean and tidy home, it makes my brain go quiet. I’ve had high powered jobs which allowed me to employ cleaners but my husband died recently from cancer, I gave up my job to care for him and now money is tight and I’ve gone back to being as messy as I was as a teenager. Now I’ve watched your video I feel like I’ve found a kindred spirit so I thank you Remi, firstly for being so honest and secondly for inspiring me to give your method a go. Keep going with your videos, they’re great! X
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I’m so sorry for your loss, don’t beat yourself up for being messy your dealing with brief, be kind to yourself. X
Watching this whilst signed off with depression. I have ADHD and your"rambling"is like therapy for me....I'm out of bed, tackling my mess and bodydoubling ! Actually smiling because you are real and showing we can do this! Thank u so much.
Girl, nobody should judge you for HAVING a messy house, they should be impressed that you’re cleaning a messy house. We ALL have had our homes get messy, the point is to get it cleaned so it doesn’t STAY messy. ❤️
Indeed!
Messy house happy kids it only takes a couple of hours a day to clean up do it while the kids are at school love your videos ❤🎉
I am not judging anyone all I said was mess house happy kids and u can tidy up when their at school or nursery I lived in a house with 5sister that wasn't tidy at all time not by a long shot
Girl..I am soooo PROUD of YOU! And you're seriously speaking my story! I love lists too & thank you for all those supplements that helped you; I will try them too. Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing this amazing & helpful video. Xo
My dear, I am 74 and get sidetracked the same as you, procrastinating is my life, and I am living alone, no kids , and the grandkids come to visit on the weekends. You are a great role model for young women who have the same issues
I am 56, much older than you, and no kids left to keep up with, but I remember. I could not have felt more proud of you than if you were my own daughter. And so much of what you said made me think of my own life and others I know. You keep doing whatever it is that you're doing. You are a wonderful inspiration. And videos like this should not be shameful!! As a matter of fact, you inspire me to do something I've been talking to my husband about and that is videoing us cleaning our junk rooms! Scary thought. Because I feel more inspired watching people cleaning/clearing things that actually need it, then all the videos out there of people who are already OCD and near freaks showing me how to clean the already clean!!! Loved this video and you!!! ♥️♥️♥️
I know this is an old-ish comment but I wanted to reply because it genuinely moved me. You're around the same age as my parents, and I wish I could hear them saying things you've said as I sometimes struggle to keep my living space tidy. I wish you all the best.
@@TheAkimino thank you ❤️❤️
I love that you talk and don’t play music throughout your videos. Hearing your story is inspiring.
You absolutely have the greatest common sense attitude, so realistic. Thank you. Don't let people's comments bother you. You are wonderful.
i agree you are wonderful and realistic!!!
Hello from an American ex-pat in Israel. You are sooo likeable! I appreciate your honesty and humility. You did a great job on your voice over, filming and editing. Your video is encouraging and helpful. But your sweet personality is what really shines through. I feel like I found a very nice new neighbor, albeit a few thousand miles away. God bless you.
Girl. I cried after the video. I thank you for your transparency and the encouragement thru your words, energy, and actions. This content was #1 for me. Thank you for sharing your content and deep rooted story.
I've dealt with depression since losing my son and felt overwhelmed with cleaning.. But your method worked like a charm for me since I'm scatter brained also... I found it easy to make a list of 2 things to clean out of each room and then moved on to next 2 and was able to tackle the whole house clean... THANK YOU SO MUCH!!
I'm 60 years old and have raised 5 kids. I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 40. It helped me to understand why I struggled so much with keeping my house organized and tidy. I wasn't lazy. I'd be working at it all day but you çouldnt tell. I read many books but couldn't consistently implement their ideas. I eventually started doing almost exactly what you did in this video. Make a simple list and tackle one thing at a time: toys, clothing, shoes, garbage, dishes. Same idea for cleaning: all the mirrors, all the hard floors, all the beds, vacuum all the carpet, etc. When my kids were home they would do it with me. It might sound silly to some people but it worked for me. I liked your video. I'm sure it will help some people.
How u got to know u have adhd or its just mom's brain? I feel i have developed adhd too
It's so refreshing to see someone have a messy house and put it in order just like us ordinary people do. I hate seeing someone with a glamorous updated house saying they have to clean and in 5 minutes it's all perfect again. I often get distracted from one chore so your idea of the list sounds perfect for me. I'll be starting that tomorrow...thank you so much for this wonderful dose of reality!
Omg I love this video. Sick of watching videos of people cleaning their already clean homes. And your personality is fantastic. I could see us being besties
THIS IS MORE NORMAL THAN THOSE HOUSES THAT ARE SPOTLESS! THANK YOU FOR HELPING ME FEEL NOT ALONE GOD BLESS YOU 😉
As a young stay at home mum with anxiety, especially when I’m struggling to do the house, you’ve made me feel less alone with this so thank you 🥰
I’m so pleased to hear this 🥰
I feel bad for your kids.
@@kristykanen9315 what an awful thing to say. I imagine her children are quite well and happy.
@@kristykanen9315 so you're miss perfect? Quality time with your kids and a pristine organised house hub? Not possible unless you pay for a cleaner!!
@@tamsin1975 I'm a disabled 71 year old, never married no children.
I just recently had to accept help for some housekeeping chores. I have had roommates who were lazy and or hoarded up my home. I must be
" perfect " or an obsessive compulsive " clean freak", because there's nothing on the floor of my house but rugs. furniture and shoes. 🙄
It's great to see a realistic home & tidy up. Most of the time the homes you see on RUclips don't even need cleaning 🙃 you're fab 🙂 x
To anyone giving this wonderful lady a hard time: GET STUFFED
Thank you for sharing ❤
I used to step in and clean up the family mess. Then I set new rules. Everyone is responsible for their own mess. It’s rude and disrespectful for anyone to create a mess that someone else has to clean. I provided bins for trash, hampers for dirty clothes and organized drawers for clean clothes. Everyone made their own bed, washed their own dishes, and tidied up what was theirs. Mutual respect.
Well done! As it should be. Plus, family members take that mindset and those skills with them the rest of their lives-- sets everyone up for success! 😊
I greatly appreciate your candor ❤
As an empty nester who's nearly 50, I've finally found a way to make laundry easier. I sort my clothes based on where they get put away. All my hanging clothes go together, my folded clothes are together, etc. It's the only way I've found that makes certain all my clothes are put away.
Blessings to you and your family!
This was a really helpful video, not just because of the excellent content, but also for the honesty. It’s rare to see a content creator talk about the realities of working class life in a normal home like my own home.
I have struggled with clutter all of my life. I am always grateful when someone posts REAL videos about genuine challenges!
One thing that really helps is having less. That means you have one crockery cutlery set and you wash as you use them. The less we have, the less we have to clean, wash, dust etc. Really works for me, and the minimalism means your space looks roomier too. Just a share. Be well 🎉
Ok straight up this is the best cleaning video I've ever seen for people with ADHD and Autism. Like...the list idea where you just start off with writing your first two most important tasks and then add others as you cross them off is so smart so that you don't get super overwhelmed just from the list. And as you cross things off, the house slowly becomes less and less overwhelming which makes it easier to keep going. Thank you so so much, I really appreciate this.
Dear Remi. What a fantastic video. I thank you. I am in my 70s and can SO RELATE to everything you said. I was a single mom for quite a few years and I felt so frustrated at times because my energy level was at a low. Working full time then working with my son. I loved helping him with his schooling, but I wish I had had a bit more money to spend on him and more energy. Please. Take it from another woman, you are absolutely perfect the way you are. You do so much for everyone else and like most women, we tend to not take as good of care of ourselves as we should. As Imaged, I too am noticing I can get sidetracked quickly. Very frustrating, but I quite beating myself up about it. I have learned to say no when I know I cannot take on a project for someone. Your candor about tackling a huge project is truly appreciated. I have one large room I absolutely must organize but I keep putting it off. Take good care of yourself.
Love your transparency. I'm 77 years old, and there are days I feel overwhelmed. It's just my husband and me with three cats. Some days are good. Some days are bad. As my grandma told me years ago when my children were little, "In a hundred years, no one will ever know you had dust bunnies under your bed." ❤
It’s true that in 100 years most people won’t remember us at all. But your quality of life can be affected by those dust bunnies, especially if they are under your bed. Why not treat yourself to a cleaner space that is going to have cleaner air to breathe? Indoor air quality is a health hazard people don’t think about. I’ve seen people get sick sleeping in rooms that have dusty books, and require asthma medicine. A friend of mine who got into essential oils started cleaning her house with an all-purpose cleaner infused with a powerful antimicrobial blend, and after one season she commented that this is the first year that her family wasn’t continually sick during the winter. Another friend has lived in two houses with mold issues, resulting in so many health problems that they ended up bankrupt. Even though I am a nurse, I’m not a clean freak: I do think we need some germs to keep our immune systems in good shape, but I can’t deny that people do get sicker In houses with cleanliness issues. Your feelings of overwhelm may not only be from being 77, they may also be from a body overwhelmed with sensitivities. Especially with pets and all the hair that they typically generate. I literally buy HVAC filters for one relative as a present because they have four dogs and one cat, talk about hair! Her husband is always sick, he’s allergic to pets and would rather suffer with allergy medicine. It is compromising their income, because he has declined promotions because of his health.
Love yourself more, decluttering and cleaning are two great ways to do this. So are simple things like being outdoors to watch the sun come up and the sun go down, and it put your bare feet on the grass or the dirt, or last choice, on the concrete. Stay hydrated, take a touch of pure sea salt when you drink clean water throughout the day, maybe half a class at a time. Oh, and don’t wear glasses or sunglasses or contact lenses when you are enjoying these outdoor times. These actions help modulate the response of your immune system so that it doesn’t overreact or under react so much, and it’s perfectly free to do. Except buying the sea salt and maybe the filters needed for clean water.
Your grandma gave you wise advice so that you didn’t worry about cleaning in an excessive way at the expense of things that really matter.
But you can give your descendants both that same advice, and more, based on the wisdom that you have acquired throughout your life.
Blessings on you and yours!
Thank you for being
Vulnerable. Many of us suffer in silence with ADHD and this is a regular issue for those of us with big families. Thank you thank you thank you for making us feel less alone.
Finally a realistic cleaning video. I also get frustrated and feel paralyzed when things get too messy. It helps to see step by step how you manage the housework.
its comforting to know I'm not alone in feeling this
Thank you
#truth
I cannot thank you enough for this video. The shame and guilt I’ve been carrying around. You have blessed me in knowing I’m not alone.
Right!!
Hi 👋 Ms Mirage. Ikr! You’re not alone. “Lynn’s video was the fire 🔥 that I needed! I went to both dollar trees yesterday. I’ll keep you posted. I have until Christmas… 🎅🎄
*Update* I gave myself a couple weeks to clean up and organize using both dollar “stores and I feel like I got a whole new home for 2023 leaving 123123 and a clean 🧼 🏡 Thank you!
I absolutely love watching your clean ups,it’s so nice to see someone with a normal lived in home,and not a show house❤thank you for making us mothers feel normal x
I love your idea of only putting the most important tasks on the list and then only adding more after crossing the completed ones off! I think this could really help my ADD brain to not get so overwhelmed. Thank you for the tips and for being so open and posting. Women should SUPPORT other women, not tear them down. How dare they call themselves a “feminist” and then go after another woman for something as simple as how they clean their home, what they wear, etc., we MUST support one another and build each other up💜
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Getting distracted is so easy…my solution used to be that my best friend and I would clean each other’s house once a week, dusting, floors, bathrooms, and that type of thing. It was amazing! Alas, my best friend is now waiting for me in heaven and I am caring for my Mother, which is a whole other challenge…I’m not young like you but watching your video made me think of good times in the past! You are wise beyond your years. Love from the USA!♥️
I was meant to find this today. Chronic clinical depression depletes my motivation and I often stay in bed to avoid the mess. I’m messy, my son is messy and autistic so both of us are overwhelmed. I love your method and am going to try it. Wish me luck - and motivation! I’ll keep following you to keep the mojo going. Thank you!
Wishing you all the luck and motivation! and I hope this method worlds for you! X
I love reading all these comments, look how many people are truly helped here.
I suffer from depression and no motivation. Be encouraged with the little things you get done each day. My mother would ask me, "how do you eat an elephant...one bit at a time.
I take pride in cleaning one corner and if that's all I can do that's okay. The next day I take another bite at that elephant. We can do it!!!☺️
Wishing you luck boo! You got this, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
@@CarmieDunk68 So true, and so beautiful!
Hello Remi , my names Anthony I’m 58 I live alone with my 4 cats and 3 dogs I’ve got health issues physically and mentally please don’t take this as an insult but I could relate to so much you were talking about procrastination, feeling low, overwhelmed, tired etc, your video has inspired me to clean my please tomorrow (can’t sleep it’s 1.10am) I’ve recently had a bad patch and I’ve let my place get very messy, the pets are all fine taken care of fed walked litter trays etc but need to sort my home out and I’ve been giving myself such a hard time and feeling so lazy and stupid and low, I would like to thank you for letting us into your lovely home and being so brave and so honest with complete strangers sharing how you are with us all , I watched this video start to finish I’ve even subscribed I think your videos and genuine outlook on life will hopefully help me enjoy what time I have left on this earth , and I don’t think you babble on at all ? Your a very intelligent compassionate brave kind hearted brilliant Mother and wife partner whatever and your a great human being who isn’t full of herself or attention seeking or narcissistic your just a nice person helping people like me see some light , as I normally struggle I would have loved a daughter like you I’m sure your family are very proud of you thank you so for taking all the time and energy and effort to post this video you even made me smile doing your bin liner removal dance! LoL your so don’t to earth could listen to you all day, I wish you your Hubby family friends long and happy life’s filled with love laughter and contentment thanks Remi ❤️👍Anthony
Thank you for the video!! I am 66 , and still struggle with my house!! I love your accent, and your personality!!! You did a GREAT job!!!!
Yes, that house was pretty messy. However, there's one thing that I can 100 percent guarantee you: You're not alone. Many, many people lead such busy lives that their housework piles up on them until it's as bad as or worse than the house in the video. A lot of people ask your same question, "OMG, where do I even begin?" You've helped people to answer that question. Thank you for that.
Here's something I learned from my elderly landlady: clean up your pots and pans while you are cooking. She always amazed me by how clean her kitchen was right after she finished cooking. Best advice and example I ever had. 😊
That’s what I was taught, do it as you go!
that’s what I learned after 50 yrs if cooking. I also learned during covid to cook the food you can before too tired after work. Cut veg, marinate the meat, get whatever you can prepared before you are too tired to cook. also have heAlthy munchies while preparing bc it’s sometimes stressful to have another thing to do. Don’t come home r dry night and work done more. take 2-3 nights and plan what you’re going to do. maybe all the laundry, maybe food shop, but do t leave all work for. the weekend. it leaves us drained and not rested. never stop learning how to do better. I’m now, making lists of chores and distributing them to others in home.
Thank you for this video. Most video show a tidy home with a few things out of place and call it messy. I can relate to your rooms. Thank you for being vulnerable. You are a rock star!
I won’t lie, I personally can’t relate to the mess! I was taught very young “do it as you go”! Listening to you helped me so much. I realised that we just aren’t all the same! I respect you for what I watched you accomplish in this video, the way you explained yourself and your acceptance and understanding of yourself! The reason this helped me is because I have a daughter-in-law just like you in her housekeeping! We are close because she doesn’t have the mother influence she needed growing up! I’ve tried my best to teach her, to no avail! She wants to, she just can’t get it done! You’ve opened me to a new understanding! I want her to watch this and maybe she will relate to you in a positive way!
I learned so much, not housework techniques, I learned a new way of acceptance. Allowing my daughter-in-law to be who she is and work on theses issues a little at a time! I think you are are awesome! You’re doing a lot of good by you being you! Thank you!
Sometimes it’s so clear how God works through people and even chance meetings though a RUclips video that popped up. God bless you for allowing your mind to be open and see your daughter-in-law’s struggles. And that she’s not lazy, she just needs to adapt skills in baby steps - and not beat herself up. Trust me, negativity and statements of disapproval and judgment replay through our heads All. Day. Long. I’m so glad for her sake that you are able to put judgment aside so you can meet her where she is in your support of her. I (now 50) wish all these young mommas courage, faith in themselves, and the belief that they and their kids are worth a better living environment. My house might have gotten this bad when I was struggling with severe depression a time or two - but mostly I did see my younger self in her and loved how she has explained things and her realizations and thoughts as well.
If she has children, and if you don’t already do so… offer to take them to your house so she can have some alone time to do what she wants to get done. Nice you are trying to understand we all do things differently.👍👍👍
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You are enough. You are human. You are doing what works for you at this moment- you are inspiring many others by showing a real home and how easily messes multiply! Thank you for sharing!!! ❤
I'm so glad I'm not the only one watching this right now! It just sucks you right in!
In a world of “fake”, thank you for your honesty and transparency. Makes me feel like I can do it too!
This was exactly the video I’ve been looking for for months, someone with a real mess showing how to clean it. Thank you so much. This helped me more than you can imagine!!
Remi you're not going to believe this but you have even helped me! Im 72 yo! Im messy but love to have everything neat. With complications from old age i can work maybe 30 min then need to rest. My problem with that is i get involved with RUclips or games and sit way too long. I know i need to get up and get out, do things, see people while I'm able but i spend all day trying to just get everyday housework done. I like to craft, sew, garden and get upset with myself that i don't allow myself time for those things. I truly believe that your list making suggestion completing one thing at a time will help me and encourage me to go a little longer before i stop for a rest. Then writing the next thing will excite me to get back busy faster to get it done! I'm going to start now! I moved about 1 1/2 mo ago and still have boxes sitting around. If i can finish my chore list (and its not as long as yours--no toys, and such as that) and then put up a few things or even empty one box it will lift my spirits so much! Then maybe i can get outside and get my flower garden going or go see an old friend!
I’m 75 and I am inspired.
Using a kitchen timer set in the next room helped me move.
You sound like me. I hope we both get back to doing things we enjoy!
I couldn’t be more serious when I say I genuinely love and respect you for this. You are so honest and nearly everyone can truly relate to how our homes can get out of hand. I can’t tell you how much I admire you and appreciate your candor. This is actually a gift of encouragement for so many of us who have those times in our life where we are just absolutely exhausted and overwhelmed by the day to day demands that life can put on us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤❤❤
First, I think your doing great. People that don’t understand how the mess happens and judge you for it have never had to be in your shoes. I had to stop working for pay when my grandmother who I took care of after became completely bedridden (dementia for ten years before) I also have rescue animals including some I had to save from a feral heard of cats I try to care for they would have died by morning if I had left them. I have a husband as well who works all the time to make up for me not being able to work for pay anymore, I’m the only one taking care of the house, cooking, caring full time for grandma and the animals all the cleaning etc.. I was in an accident that almost killed me n I couldn’t move for months, I’m still trying to catch up now and it’s impossible when I’m in pain. My house went from order to chaos and has been that way for awhile. I also have never owned a dishwasher I am the dishwasher 😂 I also don’t like coffee and I’m very caffeine sensitive, when I need some caffeine once in awhile I will drink a Bai, it’s got about 55-75 mg caffeine depends on which one you get. I’m glad your phasing out the soda a little at a time it’s the best way to kick something so your body isn’t overwhelmed with detox symptoms. I lost my favorite kitten yesterday after two weeks of caring for her, she died at the vet n I’m so heartbroken I’m not motivated and tired but your video helped I’m gonna try to push through and get some things done💯❤️
I live in the USA, and I have to say I absolutely love the accent and the narration!
God bless you THANK YOU for showing me that others have homes that get like this too. My heart is broken, I lost my son a year ago to a fentanyl overdose and I've lost my ability to fight on some days. I want my home clean during the holidays. You gave me hope. THANK YOU .
I am really sorry about your loss. That must be devastating on a daily basis. Please know that there are people that care about you, and want you to do well.
If I could, I’d buy a plane ticket to just come and give you a tearful hug. This video validated me and helped me feel understood.
God bless you and all of us struggling…we’re going to be just fine. ❤️🙏🏼
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Thanks! You just made my day! Not because you straightened up faster than anyone, but because your voice and story filled me with delight. Your sincerity, honesty and your ability to remain true to yourself are calming to we who are fighting the same demons. With gratitude, Sally
What a cheerful mom. Well done. I enjoyed this video so much.
I am 62 years old. I have never heard of executive disfunction before, but I have had it all my life. Thank you so much for taking the time to show me an amazing way to work through it. This is so awesome!!!
Crying because you are SO comforting and encouraging. You’re like a sweet, non judgmental friend coming over to put a pot of tea on and help me tidy up my life when I’ve been in a dump of depression. I cannot thank you enough for being one of the few content creators that shared so honestly, I relate so so much with everything from adhd and executive dysfunction to the extreme low moods in certain parts of my cycle. I did a load of dishes and got a bag filled with garbage from around the house and now feel like I can do some more thanks to your video. Thankyou sweet lady😢🩵
Oh this has absolutely made my evening, you are so very welcome. Well done on getting stuff done! 👏🏼❤️
I agree : my house has been cluttered for the past 6 years, I have tackled one room at a time but I live in an old Farm house with lots of rooms. I struggle keeping the rooms deep cleaned after I clean out the clutter. I’m starting with my own bedroom today - I always leave my bedroom to the last and I deserve a neat clean place to sleep. I’ll be back! Let you know !
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As someone with ADHD, I feel so understood and welcomed with this video. I have only watched 3min of it and I already feel like it makes me feel so much better about my struggles and how to manage them. Thank you for making this and sharing yourself with us! 💗
You are more than welcome!!! So pleased to hear it’s made you feel understood ☺️ I hope you enjoy the rest of the video xx
@@remiclog I really am ☺️ Love your gentle honest mindset and the way you work around your struggles. It's making me feel good and looking forward to dealing with my mess 😄
I agree ❤ not sure how I hadn’t seen your channel before because I feel like we’re doppelgängers kinda! I am a mum, I work in a supermarket too, and I feel so overwhelmed with cleaning as well, but I’m making progress. I will try to take on your level of compassion with yourself, I have it in spades for my son who has some AuDHD challenges too, but I always kick myself and give myself grief for not just ‘getting stuff done’. It’s harder than some people believe to make LASTING changes in any routine/habit/lifestyle…. Can’t wait to watch your other vids and see how your progressing with your goals too ❤️❤️
Being a young mom is very tough. Your positive attitude is so important & encouraging. Thanks for sharing with everyone 💕
I battle depression and I have let my small apartment get way out of control. Watching your video and listening to you tell your story makes me feel like maybe there is hope for me yet. Thank you!
Me too.
Same here! Enough is enough! Time to kick my depression right in the butt and put my mind on the right track again!
This is amazing! Finally a realistic “tidy up a messy house” type of video. My place gets like this (sometimes worse) but when I see people online posting tidying / cleaning their places and they aren’t even messy it’s so disheartening because I feel like such a slob. It’s become even worse since I had my first baby a few months ago. I also find myself never knowing where to start and just getting too overwhelmed and giving up. I will definitely try your method! Thank you for this ❤
Your tips are great but your candor and transparency is refreshing, relatable, and very much appreciated.
I agree!
I was so overwhelmed with my house I honestly didn't know where to start .. google sent me this, and by the time it finished, I had cleared up all the visible trash, emptied the bin, collected all the dishes, and picked up all the laundry on the floor I had seen!!
Thankyou, you've been wonderful!!
I love the idea of the list being short and then adding on another item as one is finished. This is SO clever.
What I liked: your positive approach being reinforced by your background choice of motivational cleaning “partners,” your reinforcing positive actions by checking off your accomplishments in real time, and your accepting love of yourself. Making these videos and saying aloud your personal goals, sharing them with thousands of strangers is so empowering; it will bring you all the success that I, and others, wish for you. Along the way, we might start loving ourselves a little bit more and feel less alone.
This comment has made my day!! Thank you! ❤️
It's refreshing to see a real person dealing with real life. It's amazing you figured yourself out so early in life. Took me twice as long. I'm stubborn and didn't want to admit my short comings.
Thanks and God bless.
I know I am crazy late commenting on this… but today I had my kitchen to tackle… and I was struggling, so I searched and this video came up for me, and you had me crying… because someone understood!! Thank you!! I am so excited to watch more of your videos!! You not not only inspired and motivated me but talking about your struggles has helped me move more too!! Thank you!!
I think what I love about this process is that you don't do a huge long list to start with, but break it down and add on as chores are done. One less thing to be overwhelmed with.
I never send funds but you have made me feel that there is finally someone who understands what I go through trying to clean. Thanks!
Thank you so very much for posting a video showing what a real messy house looks like and real ways to deal with the executive dysfunction. This is so so helpful.
So pleased you found the video helpful! X
Don't worry about the world's thoughts of you bcuz YOU ARE A STRONG, BRAVE, PRECIOUS young lady 💝 A gift to all of us.
RUclips just recommended this, and it has BLOWN my mind away! You are so personable, relatable, positive, practical, sensible and an excellent teacher! I love the video and your voice overs! Thank you! You are such a gem! ❤
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I am 64 years old and I have struggled with executive dysfunction my entire life! You are helping me a lot! I am ok IF I can get started, but I am paralyzed trying to begin. You hit my nail on the head! Thank you thank you, and keep on truckin’ .
I had an Epiphany when Flylady said “you can do anything for 15 minutes.” I figured if 15 minutes was good, so was five. And so was two minutes. The more distasteful the task, The shorter the time I put on my timer. Just dividing things into categories is brilliant. But if overwhelmed, it’s perfectly OK to say that you will only pick things out for two minutes if that’s all you can handle at once. Generally once we get started, we find we can do another couple of minutes and so forth. I use the 2-5 minute rule for the tasks that repel me the most and break those tasks down into the tiniest steps possible. And sometimes the first task is “Think about what the very first thing is that I have to do to do this, and write it down.”
Don't worry about the haters. Cause u are helping me. I don't feel alone and that's because of u
100% support. Time to get the older boy to start folding and putting away his own clothes. The younger can do his own, too, with simpler items. Key is doing it often (which I can see may be difficult for you to do steadily, but do try). Both boys should be taught to take rubbish straight to the inside bins. Putting at least two toys away before bed won't hurt, either. 🤓
In this way they will learn to take care of themselves before it is a catch-up learning effort, not be terrible roommates, and avoid inheriting the nightmare messy room their mum grew up with.
This is a totally supportive suggestion, not a criticism. Think of giving the boys a leg up in life!
Loving the way you know yourself so well and where the strengths can come out of the weaknesses! ❤❤
Keep going. 👍👏👏
Do not let anyone make you feel bad about your house. I don't have kids and I am 26 years old but my house still looks like this due to the fact that I have crippling anxiety with depression so getting out of bed just to go to work is a win for me! Small wins like putting away the laundry that's been sitting in the baskets for weeks is a win! So give yourself some credit! You are an amazing mom from what I have seen and being messy happens but we have ways to fix it but at our own pace, without giving myself an awful headache about what I haven't finished but feeling proud about what I have accomplished! I am rooting for you! Look how much you got done ! You did so much! 2 hours and you knocked it out! And I appreciate you as well :)! Thank you for showing us your mess, for showing the truth about a dirty house not just surface dust and unrealistic expectations that are so hard to achieve so I appreciate you opening up and showing us the real mess!
OMG Remi! I am 55 years old and I have never had anyone explain to me why I am so overwhelmed with tidying a house. This has been a huge problem all my life because I grew up with a Mom that was a cleaning lady with OCD. It always seemed to be the barrier between us. I like the cleaning but, not the tidying. You explained it with understanding and love. I am always overwhelmed by the idea of tackling the mess. You helped me so much, I don’t have enough words to explain how grateful I am. It was also the most honest video I have ever seen on social media. Thank you so very much!💕💕💕
I totally agree 👍! This woman is a true hero ❤
As a 38 yr old single woman with no kids, I’ve always felt overwhelmed with my chores and this video has made it easier for me to be a bit kinder to myself, because I always judged myself so harshly thinking I had “no excuse” for being so untidy. I was never this way and gradually found myself slipping into the hole of mess after every unpleasant situation in my life. It was actually a pleasure watching this, thank you for the helpful yet real content.🙏🏾
So nice to watch a real down to earth and honest video about an everyone kinda situation. Thank you 🙏🏻
Sister, you are speaking my language. I, too, have gained so much weight since Covid, been ill frequently, and am overwhelmed by my clutter. Thank you for being genuine and providing some much needed motivation! This video popped up on my feed at just the right time. ❤
Your voiceovers are very well done. What's missing is the 15 minute whole family tidy up at the end of the day. It will take the pressure off, and make it fun. Everyone stays together and works together. My parents had music we put on and it was only 15 minutes and it works. I'm now an adult, my son is now on his own, and I noticed that when I forget the 15 minute tidy at the end of the day, the house goes in the toilet. Hang in there.
Have to say to expose yourself and home like this is really commendable. Thanks for this .
I love the executive dysfunction term. I am a widow living alone and so when I survey the messy big house I live in, I know no one else made the mess.
your approach is so forgiving and so mentally healthy. I have enough money to hire cleaning help but I have to tidy before they get here!
I was just watching true crime videos and have no idea how I came across this but I started watching and I swear it was like you were talking directly to me!! I'm just the same! I struggle with depression pretty heavily and my house is never clean. I'm 45 and married with 2 young girls ages 12 and 9. (I have a 21yr old son but he moved out)
My house gets trashed sometimes less than a day after I bust my butt and break my back cleaning it so sometimes I think why bother doing it at all. It's so overwhelming and I never know where to start. Yes, my children should be helping but getting them to do it is world war 3! And my poor husband deserves better. He is a clean freak! It didn't use to be this way. My first husband died tragically at work in 2004. He had a a son, who is now 21. I loved cleaning, all of it. After he died, of course I was never the same. I wish I could get that motivation to clean back. I am so happy that I came across this video. I'm going to subscribe and go watch the rest of your videos! I think it could help motivate me. Thank you for having the courage to post this. People's homes are usually a private thing and rightly so, so I really do appreciate your courage. Thank you all the way from Ft.Worth Texas!
58 yr old, ADHD, depression, and I can totally identify with you. "Overwhelming" is an understatement. Executive dysfunction is a new phrase to me. . . . But remember, "normal" is simply a setting on the washing machine. Thank you for this enlightening video.
I love that! “Normal is just a setting on the washing machine” 😻🙏🏻
To hell with haters ! You did a great job. You're very courageous ! ❤
Congratulating yourself is not boasting. It's boosting your positivity hormones !
Ignore thr trolls! Well done !!
Girl, I'm in Texas and i NEEDED THIS . 💙 I have been fighting for my mental health and have made such progress, but my energy isn't back yet and still have to retreat to bed when all i want is to do something else (like chores!) ...You reminded me to be brave and patient with myself. I really appreciate you. Keep doing you 🌷 and down with the online snobs and haters 💯
Tbh, this feels more helpful than the videos by upper middle class minimalists! No hate on those, their brand of cleaning and decluttering just feels hard to achieve sometimes. I grew up poor and yes, many poor people's homes are just full of clutter (I don't know if you are and I'm not making assumptions, just saying MY homes and friends' homes were usually messy, and class almost certainly played a part).
Good for you for being so honest and willing to help! Anyone hating on you is probably feeling attacked because they themselves don't think they could ever be this transparent or willing to get so much done.
My appreciation for showing reality of homes with kids
Not my reality. I taught my kids from an early age to clean up after themselves. I don't even allow my four year old to drop things on the floor for later. A lot of this is pure laziness.
This video saved my life tonight! You have no idea, thank you for giving me hope. I will send more specific comments later, but please know that you really helped me & I feel hopeful & motivated. I had a terrible meltdown over my apt today, complete with guilt, shame & tears. After getting very little done, I just went to bed feeling destroyed. Your video appeared- like a literal answer to my prayers. Your honesty was so relatable, you are so positive & hilarious. Tomorrow morning, trying again with your method & attitude boost. Your the best- so appreciative ❤
I love this lady. She is true and tells it like is . Guilt and shame can shut you down. And her go for it attitude.